Sex With Emily - No Strings Attached & Vagina Facts

Episode Date: April 8, 2015

In this show, Emily and Menace are here to answer of all your sex and relationship questions! Can a Friends With Benefits situation succeed if one person catches the feels? What do you do when you’re both grossed out and turned on by your partner’s porn collection? Can you judge a partner’s sexual performance by the first BJ? And why are women so freaked out about masturbation? Plus, Emily shares some free swingin’ sex in the news and provides a very important PSA on vagina shaming.. Basically, just stop it. We’ve all got things we need but aren’t getting, both in the bedroom and in our love life. This podcast teaches you the right way to get the sex and relationships you really want - By asking for it! Don’t miss it.. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mock our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them in a bike on me. Hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my the The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry?

It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. So, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You know, we are having heat wave in hell over it now. I'm sorry everyone, I'm still choosing a new house off

and Michigan with my phone phone. But you know what I mean? Your balls, sometimes they sweat you. But Talcom powda are, it's carcinogenic. I made this product down in a convert minus. Whereas it every day. So I think I haven't been near your balls. But it's a they smell like. They smell delicious.

They smell delicious. You don't sweat. It's a cream to it. It's a light citrusy scent. You don't chaff at the gym. You don't chaff in your pants. Yeah, it's great because you probably don't know this because you don't have a set of balls.

But guys that, like let's say you take a nap, right? A nap because of my worst schedule. Your balls sweat for some reason. They do. Yeah. They get really sweaty. And then you get up from a nap, you maybe gotta go somewhere,

you don't have time to take a shower. You throw some of this on and it feels great. It feels like. It's refreshing, yeah. You took a shower. Exactly, I like it. Sweaty balls. And if you put it on in the morning,

as part of your after shower routine, your balls will not sweat during your nap, because it's actually balls. And if you put it on in the morning, like as part of your after shower routine, your balls will not sweat during your nap because it's actually a witch hazel and it which is a natural end of person. So check it out. And from now until April 12th, you get 30% off of Emily and Tony products. Go to emelinetony.com with code March 30th.

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No, it's good to see you. You just got back from VK. Yeah, I've been, it's been crazy. Like week I, I went to WrestleMania, which I'm sure you love. I love wrestling. It's like the Super Bowl of wrestling. I'm so, so glad.

My friends are super into it. I was into it when I was a kid, but. Where was it? It was in Santa Clara with the 49ers play in the San Francisco Bay area. And I was there visiting and they're like, oh, you gotta go, you gotta go. So I went and they had awesome seats, but the really like VIP seats were right in front of me.

And I just walked down and I sat down and no one ever moved me. And it was amazing. There was so many guests that came out. And it was a lot of fun. I get to hang out with a lot of my friends. So I really love Santa. I love Santa.

I love Santa. You can end up there, man. It's of all the places you've gone. You just love that guy, damn Santa. They know me. I know me. Yeah, I love Santa. I love it a lot.

The game is like pizza and stuff or some ways. I do miss it a lot, but I do love it here in LA. Yeah, we love it. It is so, it was funny. I was at another establishment that you love, Popeye's chicken. Oh, okay. And it was like 54 degrees outside.

Oh, it's different to some other way. One of the workers kept on like, propping the door open while I was sitting there. And I'm like, dude, it's 54 degrees. I know like people are like, oh screw you menace because you know I live in you know places like St. Louis, Missouri where it's like 10 degrees. Right. But when you're living in Los Angeles and it's like a nice 80 degrees constantly, 54 degrees

is freaking crazy. It's cool. Exactly. So I was having this battle because the guy kept on propping it open and I would walk and I close it. And what we did this three times and I was like, dude, it is finally before I told him, like, it is cold. Right. I understand you're backed by the grill and it may be warmer. Yeah, but what about us?

Yeah. Yeah. And then let me close it. But it was a great time. But I don't know if I, I don't think I've told you this, but. Tell me. My girlfriend's dad has lymphoma. Oh. And so there was like an emergency

and we had to go to the hospital. So the last couple of days, I've been in the hospital, like non-stop. And so I'm exhausted, but I'm happy to be here with you. Okay, I'm sorry. I had a work and so I've had no time to rest so I'm gonna be here with you and try to be focused and not be boring. Okay.

You're not for boring. You're fine, men. I'm glad that you made it. Yeah. My best wishes, my best wishes. I'm thinking about you and your girlfriend. Yeah, they're gonna be cool. That's hard, that's hard.

But I'm gonna go through the treatment and all that stuff. Okay, good. We're gonna get through it, but didn't you take a trip? Yeah, it was Israel. Oh, no big deal, Israel. Not only took you a billion hours to get there. What happened? Tell me everything.

It took me like 25 hours to get there. It was my family. It was my nieces about Mitzvah. We had to have a a Mitzvah, which is this magical landmark in Israel, where the Jews were free or got killed. A lot of them, but they could be killed everywhere. In Israel, the historic you speaking.

But we climbed Mitzvah and she had her about Mitzvah there and then we, I was a subordinate desert with Bedwin tents and I had ordered camel and I was in Jerusalem and Tel Aviv. What did I tell you? I'm so upset with you I have a million pictures they're not on my Instagram. What I couldn't get in America. It's like a third world country. So yeah, what yeah, this one saying I want pictures with you I know I know I got them my brother. You know my brother. He just sent me the link. We've like

All right, I was in photos. It's a family Instagram. I will be posting them. Please do I've been busy since I got back It was very this is my thing that I was gone for a week in New York And then I got back I got a step layout that flew and then I left Brazil So it's just been I never take off this much work ever. I can't believe I'm still standing But it was good to make me realize that like I can actually take take a break yeah and it was it was great to be my family like my knee off three my nieces my mom my stepdad my brother who you are yeah it was spiritual to you like we pick beats in the field we helped kids who don't have a lot of money don't have family food pick Shabbat dinner for them went to school taught English it was amazing it's

amazing I loved it I came home, to a really large, large, large package sitting in my yard. All right. Now, every day, in my yard. Okay. Well, you know, my landlord put it back by my house, so it's like, I live in a house, in a house, in a house, whatever. So in my yard, big box, I keep, I can't move anymore. And now we often get boxes of stuff.

In fact, we're gonna do a segment when we started doing more videos on our YouTube channel, which you can check out. I do the YouTube channel now, a section family, but we are gonna be adding more, but we're gonna do like, oh, what's in the box segment? Cause you know that we get every day, like you don't know, you know,

like you can be 18 flush slides, a million condoms, like some weird contraption that no one can figure out. What is, so I look at this box and I'm like, wow, okay, and I, I drag it in my house, it I'm like, wow, okay. I'm dragging in my house. Open up. I got the Sibian. What? No way.

Are you serious? Yes. I got the Sibian. I'm one of three people they've ever given a free Sibian to. So I almost feel like that's like the biggest honor I've ever been bestowed. You have to loan it out.

I can't let the, I mean, first of all, you know what place, you've not been to my place in LA. Which hurts me. I know't let this, first of all, you know what place, you've not been to my place in LA, which hurts me. I know, but you haven't been to Miami. It's cool, what apps, but listen, it's small. I don't know, they gave me 26 attachments to it. So we have to explain what the sybbing is because a lot of people might have heard of it

through Howard Stern. Yes. He made a famous, he used to have one in his office in his studio and he'd have like porn stars riding the the simian. And it looks kind of like a horse mount, and then you know, all these little charitans, and all these little attachments to it. But mine's really cool. It's like blue leather, you know, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's drawers to put on the attachments, but it's very powerful vibrator. but machine actually with, I mean, with all these things, like every orifice that you'd ever want to be penetrated or you'd want to be please will happen and if you've never had an organ, you can use it with a partner

pleasure. It's pretty, it's like my new furniture. But I'm gonna have like dinner party and be like, oh you have to sit on the CBN, it's the last time. Yes, that is huge. But it's famous. It's infamous. And so I'm really, really excited. I need to try it. I need to lock on my clothes and make sure that nobody yes, it sees me using it.

But here's some testimonies on it. It says, on their site, we've been married for 17 years. I always thought our sex life was OK, but I didn't get too excited about it. So I decided to humor my husband when he eagerly presents me with a Sibian for our anniversary I can hardly describe the feeling I had on my body just explode it. It was unreal. What happened to me? Wow I soon realized at the age of 38 with Sibian I had my first orgasm ever I mean you guys they're not after not a sponsor mind. They just I know that I met them

They just sent me I have now started having orgasms while making love to my husband and I have the sibling to think. So it can like train your body to have these crazy orgasms. I have to see this thing in person. I know we should do like videos and stuff. I feel like pardoning is like when I was like, I bring into the office, but they think how, okay, you know Madison, I'll be like,

I'm leaving, you guys, Madison's turn will be on in an hour. But anyway, I'm honored. They have the sibling. Wow. So and I actually met what I was in sex school getting my doctorate, the owner of the creator of the Sibian came in and talked to us.

That was a big deal. Now I own one. People will need a Google Sibian right now to support you about it. Yeah, because you don't understand that it's S-Y-B-I-A-N. So just check it out. If you're a big, how research fan, you definitely know what this thing is.

Right, but otherwise people don't. So. So, and then what else was I going to talk about? What, a real quick, about your trip. Did you hook up in Israel? No, I did. You know was born here saying funny. Yeah So I went backpacking through Southeast Asia Five about 15 years ago and I was you know, are your friends that were on Facebook and I have is really hook up

But this is really good and we're friends on Facebook Haven't seen them in 15 years and so I posted a picture of picture of my personal Facebook page of my brother and I by the, you know, in Jerusalem and he messaged me. And he said, hey, here it is. It was gone. I'm in Tel Aviv, come see me. And so it was awesome, because I hadn't seen him 15 years. He's like, I just got married to him from LA.

And I think you're really like a woman from LA, a band-a. So I went to meet him and we had the best time. But so fun to see them. And we talked a lot about like the difference between like dating, the two of them met on Tinder and they they're getting married Tinder in Israel Do it. Yes, why? Tenders taking over the world. No, it is but you know, it's so interesting is it so many of the great startups

I why not dude. Yeah ways I met the people started with Israel. I mean there are a lot of really How big companies that got started there. So that was interesting. So we got reunited and we hit it off but there was no hooking up. And there was no time. I was in a blush like that. But you know, maybe next time. That's great though. I loved it. I loved every moment of it. And I was, again, you know, in life you just think about, they would say like, on your deathbed, you wish that you worked more, you wish to use spend more time with your family and your friends?

And it was hard to take off and to leave the, you know, country, all that stuff. It's, I just have a hard time at work, hall of, and for me, I just think it was very therapeutic and healing, it's hard to get it still. I still don't have all the, I know things have shifted in my brain in a good way. That's great.

Yeah, I'm happy you got to spend time with your family. That's cool. I got to see my family too when I was up in Serum's Cisco. You did? Chris, you saw them? Yeah, I'm happy you got to spend time with your family. That's cool. I got to see my family too when I was up in Serum Sisco. You did? I'm happy that you saw them. Yeah, I saw well my dad in my sister and it's so funny. It felt good because my dad is not tech savvy at all. He barely even knows how to use computer. He's been working the same job that he's had since he was 16 and a lumber yard. He like the same job that he's had since he was 16 and a lumber yard. He builds fences, cuts two by fours for people. Your dad? He's the Andy, okay.

Yeah, yeah. But he's not tech savvy at all. My dad, he has this amazing surround sound system, DVD player, CD player, record player, and all this stuff. But it wasn't hooked up right at all. Like he is like Netflix and Hulu, like sound would only go through the TV and wouldn't run through the surround sound system. Oh my God. So I spent the entire day,

I went to like best by three times, get all the cabling and I cooked it all up for him. It made it super simple where he doesn't have to press a bunch of buttons, he just like turns it on and everything works. And he was like, so. Is he dying? He couldn't even believe it.

That's like me, dude. Remember when I got my cable? You helped me. So it was just one button and even that was hard. But you, I could see that changing someone's life. Like dad's probably like, on, off, off, off, off, on, all the switches. He's watching like all these old school TV shows

and Netflix are like, Tottom how to use Hulu. Oh, that is. Oh my God, you're a good boy. It was unbelievable. He's watching like all these old school TV shows and Netflix are like taught him how to use Hulu It was unbelievable like he was stoked that the VCR worked He goes I can watch all my old tapes saying oh all right All right dad every time good to see you gave him so much entertainment I know that's over good for my mind every time I go home I teach my mom one new thing on the iPhone like that's great. She's like Do I have a flashlight on my iPhone?

Yeah, mommy, just shift that up. I know I tell my girlfriend's mom that you can do voice to text. She didn't even know. Yeah. In voice text. I forget to do that, you know. I'm so great, you just talk and that comes up.

That's great. Okay, well let's talk about sex. Let's talk about sex. So Taylor Swift, there's some sex in news. Buies domain name Taylor Swift.Porn. Yeah. This is new domains coming out. So Taylor Swift knew these domains names were trouble when they walked in.

The singers team has purchased the web address Taylor Swift.Porn. So do I have to buy Emily Moore's? That's a reference to one of her songs. Oh, I get it. Yeah. Prior to becoming a Villeville public public whatever and she bought it first But so what do you think about all these new names that are coming out like dot socks and I don't know like because all right so Back went like dot TV was a thing probably like early 2000s, right and it was gonna, you know, it was huge like dot TV like oh oh yeah, I'm gonna get a.tv.

And the problem was, like, people go, we're like, so there was this show that I worked on, it was called the Chop Shop, right? It was a mixed music show. And we couldn't get chopshop.com and like, nothing was available. So we bought chopshop.tv and then we go, all right, chopshop.tv and they go, okay.tv.com.

People didn't understand it. I think they still don't. Yeah, I don't think they'll get to have, but just like a year and a half ago, .xxx came out and I think people understand. Yeah, does that understand that? But I don't know, like .porn, you know, like .porn maybe, you know, but like,

I'm still confusing for a lot of people. Yeah, I get it. Okay. So I'm just gonna make sure you get it. You just gotta make sure you get it. You just gotta make sure you get it. You just gotta make sure you get it. You just gotta make sure you get it. Well, no, I think it'd be good.

I think a lot of people will check out Emily Dot porn. That's why I just then tried, they probably would. Yeah. I just gotta put something on there. But I think also it's in their website. They will just try to do it. Isn't it wait for like, go daddy to make more money? The internet company is to make more money,

but like, offering. Yeah, of course, you know. But a lot of those, no matter what you can think of But a lot of those domains are already taken, it sucks. Every gentleman's taken, it kills me. Okay, there's a poll. 9% of Americans have participated in a sex party. All right. Which isn't very, I don't know,

I don't even know if I believe this. You gov and the Huffington Post can- Well, how many sex parties you've been to in your life? Well, but I of course have been to sex parties because I have to for my job. Yeah. That's my office parties. So, that's my office parties.

The Havinupos connected to poll 1,000 Americans, Brooklynites actually do with that way you will. So, if they're in Brooklyn, they're probably more, maybe more likely, aren't you? All right. Ask what they think of open relationships and sex parties. For the most part, said Americans weren't into either of the thousand people nine hundred six provided answers the others declined due to the sexual nature of the questions sorry just thirteen percent of americans were currently in a relationship

urban at some point what you can say that's probably like europeans and stuff that are more into the exactly you know but uh... i don't know i don't really think it's a big big deal like some people are like ramley having sex in the don't really think it's a big deal. Like some people are like, ramly having sex in the corner. I know it's shocking.

I don't know. I don't really trip out that at all. I know. Exactly. They said Americans aren't into it. I think that Americans are into it. I think they're into it. They just don't run the writing on a piece of paper.

No, they also don't get the invites. Yeah. Like, you know, invites to these parties. I don't get to go to them, but you know, I think if someone got invited that you don't go to a sex party to have to have sex, not a prerequisite, you can just go and watch, which I think a lot of people would like to do as one of those experiences you have before you die.

But yeah, so it says sex parties defined as a party where people engage in sexual activity with multiple partners, 89% never attended, 9% said they had 9%. That means nine out of every 100 people you meet have been into a sex party. Wow. Yeah, but 13% said they try one at some point So I wonder if they did this in LA if the number would be triple or like double in it. So yeah My one of my coworkers has like this party where he said the ex girlfriend invited him and

He goes there and it was like 15 girls and he's's like that, which is like a pool party barbecue thing. And then there's like 15 girls and like two other guys. And he goes suddenly, girls take like this huge bucket of dildos. It's like throwing them in the pool and like everyone starts using them and all this stuff. And then his ex-girlfriend asked if he wanted to join in with this other girl, and he said that he'd chickened out

and ran away. He left. Yeah, he left the party. Oh my God, it's not for everyone. Yeah. But it's interesting those pop-up sex parties. You're like, I thought you were having a barbecue. Yeah, and then suddenly everyone's like,

I didn't know. I'm not weird. I'm not gonna get naked. And I got a barbecue sauce on my ass. And I was even dressed. Exactly what happened. But I've been through, you remember my first, I actually was when we were first on the year, like eight years ago, when we were on live on the radio, I was talking about my

with Captain Erotic on my very first sex party experience. We should at least have that party. What do you have? A ponytail and some, you had a ponytail and- This is where it all started. Menace thinks every singer- No, that's all real started. It is just fact that all swingers have ponytails and they wear like tight leather pants.

That guy had like, what do you have like, snake skin pants or something? He did. But he did take me to sex party. It was, it was a good time. Yeah, I'm sure he did. It was fun. It's like you know, a sex party or like a play party

as they called. It's kind of just like a regular party. You walk in and everyone's drinking. And then all of a sudden you know like instead of just getting drunk and like yeah you look over and she's giving a blowjob in the corner. What? What? What? That's good party. I did not give a blowjob in the corner. But what? Oh no. She just got so excited. Did you want me to give a blowjob in the corner? Yes, please do. I'll snapchat it. I just wanted to give a quick shout out before I forget. There's a big fan of your show.

And he started following me on Twitter, a menace on Twitter, by the way. His name, inventor of awesome. Okay. So I got out of Texas. He retweets everything I tweet and everything that you tweet. So he's like a big support of the show.

And he's on Twitter. Thank you so much for supporting the show. This is not his actual Twitter name, this is just what it says. What does it say? Let's give him a shout out. Brooks 23. RR Brooks 23.

Not to jump in or anything. I think we just picked him to win a social media contest. Wow. Dude, if you're listening to this, email me back. So I can send you your goodies. He's too busy retweeting everything that we send. I know, read it.'re listening to this, email me back. Oh, yeah. So I can send you your goodies. You're too busy retweeting everything that we sent. I know.

Rita, you guys people, we do a lot of, we give a lot of cool products away. So you should be definitely following us. Why aren't you following me on Twitter if you're not? And Instagram, section, Emily. And Facebook.com slash that's on there. We've like 250,000 likes right now, because our face are page rocks.

That's producer Madison by the way I just I know that yeah, but I'm saying we like we love to like show you Yeah, I love giving you guys pretty things that you like or hot sex toys pretty things. I was thinking of the craving Yeah, oh and another thing oh go sorry No, I want to shout out a bunch of people that support the show. I'm sorry we haven't been together in a while. Also, we had a call from, sorry, I don't remember what part of the country

called into the radio show that I do every morning. The Woody show? The Woody show. And I say that they listen to the podcast to the Sex and Emily podcast. And so we were like talking about how, you know, the podcast because the Woody show podcast is not about sex. It's like pop culture and people who explain like, I don't want you to get it disappointed that, oh, he does

another sex podcast. I don't do another sex podcast. But the, the Woody show on iTunes if you want to listen to that. But yeah, a lot of people are listening to both. That's great. So they call in and say, hey, I'm gonna say here you want to text the Emily and so as they hide. Yeah, it was awesome. Yeah, calling to say what's up saying that he streams the show live to every morning through I heard. That's cool, man.

I'm glad that you know there are. Cross promotion. Cross promotion. I'm digging it. So thank you. I always. I did you people like the down under comfort, the products you bought.

And the candles. The Emily and Tony candles. I love it. You're your work friends.fort, the products you bought. And the candles, the Emily and Tony candles. Gonna give it to your work friends. Yeah, the quiet girl, her name's Raevi, that's on the show. She's very quiet about who she's hooking up with stuff. But she grabbed one of those candles, super fast. The Queen, now we have, did I give you the little kids? We have the three little, it's called the Menager Toyset.

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It's on the list. Okay. So we've got another email about porn. You have to check. Um, imagine that. Emily, I'm an Australian Lister. I listen to your podcast every morning on my way to work. I love listening to you.

I recently listened to one of your podcasts about porn. A few weeks ago, I found porn on my partner's phone, which made me furious and upset. I told him how upset it made me and that I didn't want to see it on his phone. Again, that if I did, that would be the end of things between us. He understood and said he would never do it again. After watching what I saw on his phone, it's gone. It's for me on. Wait a minute.

After watching what I saw on his phone, it has kind of turned me on, and I can't stop thinking about it. What? I've said twist, twist, twist. I have no idea how to approach him to tell him that I wouldn't mind watching it with him because it turned me on. What should I do?

Please help regards Alicia. This is awesome. This is a twist I did, I'll see you coming. First of all, okay, we've talked about this in the show that a lot of women who find out that their partners watch porn are surprised. For many reasons, they're upset. I'm wanting to know why maybe, you know,

there's a lot of different reasons where they're gonna get upset. I mean, she didn't say her why she didn't send me, but I think it's because, you know, they think that the guys preferring the woman over them or they want her to look like the girls in porn or she's not pleasing enough, but I'm going to say this and I I until you guys hear this and you understand it that men they were watching porn before they met you Well, they're with you sometimes they could have the best sex with you and leave the room and go jack off

Mm-hmm is nothing to do with your relationship. So I don't know why you were so upset about it. I mean, I do know why what I'm saying is, but this is interesting twist because I also tell couples is that it can be really hot to find porn that you both like to watch together. And meanwhile, you already know you're turned on by the same thing.

And the reason why that's cool is because you just turn it on and you guys are like, you're watching it together and it's something new and It's it's spontaneous. It might give you some ideas for what you want to try in your relationship Mm-hmm, and I think that's totally hot. I just watched porn with a guy the other night the guy that I'm seeing you telling me that he saw a porn with I love it like I don't do it enough Watch enough. I always am hard on. I know, but I really am

hard myself that I don't watch enough porn. And he was telling me that I always, I'm going to get back to your question, but I he saw one with the magic wand. He'd never seen the magic wand. Yeah. Breater. And he's like, I was really hot. I'm like, let's watch it. And then we watched it. And then I'm like, well, here's my magic wand. And so it was cool. Because I didn't bring it out ever. I mean, we played with all my sex and then I'm like, well, here's my magic wand. And so it was cool because I didn't bring it out ever. I mean, we played with all my sex toys.

So it was like to watch it together and discuss it now. There's great sites like Good Vibes after Dark, there's female friendly porn. You make delicious lucky because they like the same thing. But a lot of times you might be turned off by things but you can find something that you both like. Okay, so what should she do? Let them know that it did make you feel a little insecure

and uncomfortable to find out, but then you started to think about it and you might be open to experiencing it together. And I think he'd be excited about it. It's not unusual at all for women to be turned on by porn, a lot of women watch porn. So this is positive. I think this is a great twist to it.

Watch porn, you don't love porn, right? I don't really search out porn. Okay. No, I have my own memories. I don't need to watch. Really, but you never were into like playboy or anything? Ah, no, I wasn't. I don't know, it's weird.

I'm sorry. But, I mean, I support it. I want this film school. I was thinking I'm like, man, I should, because I don't know, like, it really doesn't affect me to see you, like, other people having sex in, in, like, front of me and stuff like that. So I was like, oh, I could totally, like, shoot porn and, like, make it, you know? But I want to know how to set up the whole paywall thing online.

It was too much for me. You probably figured out. know how to set up the whole paywall thing online. It was too much for you. You probably figured out. But first, let's give a shout out here to our sponsors before we get into some more emails. Okay. Flashlight. Flashlight, flashlight, flashlight. Oh, how I love you, flashlight.

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You're gonna happen. And I love Madison's story about it. Madison? No, for his market. Madison has a good story about it, producer Madison. Oh, yeah. So I personally love the flashlight. My boyfriend has two.

Just in case, you know, he wants to switch it up. But I like them because my boyfriend is a lot more sexual than I am. And he craves sex a lot more. His work is a really different. He's younger, right? Yeah, he's younger man. No, but I think he just came out of the womb jerking it to be perfectly honest. He's a, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's 22.

Oh my god. When I was 22, oh my god. It was like, it didn't matter how many people I was having sex with. I was still like, you still like, masturbating 24 cents. You were a fractured parent. Yeah. I find Loub all over our bedroom, the bathroom. Not like, but I mean like bottles of Loub.

Like he has them tucked into different places. We can masturbate in different rooms and I can go around my apartment, I'm picking them up and I'm like, all right. She's like basically ice skating through her house. Ice, if you get right. Yeah, but he loves a flashlight because it's a great substitute for if you're not having sex or if I'm not in the mood and you know he's bored with his hand, it's fun and we can

use it for mutual masturbation and that's cool and like honestly I kind of dig like using it with him. Yeah, it's pretty interesting. Do you like you give him a hand job with it? Yeah, I give him a hand job with it or sometimes I just hold it because he says that it's better when you thrust when you can thrust with it. Oh, okay. And so since obviously like I can't yeah, no, so he like I can like hold it, because he says that it's better when you thrust, when you can thrust with it. Oh, okay. So since obviously I can't, yeah, no.

So he, I can hold it and he'll kind of thrust into it and then he's holding it. You could like put it in like with the other hand. No, I mean, basically, I'm watching Empire on TV or something. And he's getting off and it's fine. Yeah, and he loves it. And if he feels amazing, the stamina training unit

is like his personal favorite. It's fantastic. And they throw in a free bottle flush loop if you're into that kind of thing. You want loop, which you should put in. Use code Emily and go to flushlite.com and use code Emily and then you get your flesh loop. To win, win, win, win.

Nice. Do you want a flush light? Fair worth it. What holiday is coming up? What month is it? It's so confusing. It's so easy to use. It's so easy to use.

Are you sure for Easter? Yes, please. Oh, it is Easter. Happy Easter, everyone. And it's Passover. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way.

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It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. It's so confusing in the way. I ask my wife, do what she tells me to f off because it makes her feel uncomfortable. Then she tells me to jack off in front of her and see how it feels. But it backfires because I do like it.

And I do. Because she's really in comfort with a lot of things except for the usual positions. But I love trying anything and everything. What should I do? Adam. I know. It's very common. A lot of women do feel shame around their body parts,

their lady parts. And she could have grown up somewhere where it was religious or seen dirty. And for many women, masturbation still is taboo. I'm wondering if she does masturbate in her own, or if she just doesn't, because sometimes... Well, she's not into it, you know how? We can't have her.

It's like you can't force people that... Right. Like, I know, this watch, like can't force people that like I know this watch like we're talking about porn, this watch people do it on the internet, you know, like if you keep on bringing up and they're not into it, you're just not going to change your mind. It sucks. I mean, the thing that happens with the sex talks if he keeps demanding it, like babe, do it, babe, do it.

Like I want to see you master. I want you, I want you, she's gonna, every time you do that, your chances of her actually masturbating from you go down. But if you talk to her in a way that you're like, you know, I really love pleasureing you, I love your body, I love turning you on, and I just want to see how you touch yourself

because I feel like I could learn a lot about you, and I think it's really hot to watch you, but maybe she does something with their fingers and the way she touches her clitoris. Because that's the thing about mutual, I mean, they're married, but I'm saying even in couples, if you watch each other masturbate,

hence mutual masturbation, it's a great way to like, oh, he touches his balls when he's, and that's like, so I'm gonna give him a blowjob, I'm gonna play with, you know what I mean? You're like, it's informative. But if you can, maybe it's the way you're asking her, because again, I find a lot of men are very, like, do I get a blowjob tonight?

Yeah. You're not going to get a blowjob. No. So you're asked. So you've got to be like, you know, that makes me feel whatever. It's the send-in delivery. But again, you're not going to force it.

But ask what she does like. I mean, what would she be open to doing differently and expanding your sex life? Because I'm just, I'm going to get, go on a limb here, that this is probably not the only thing that you wanted to do that she's not doing. That is not, she's not doing your not participating in sexually that you want.

And this goes back to like sexual compatibility, a lot of couples are right, but maybe you could slowly hope what happens to do things that eventually she'll come around to diddling herself away. Yeah. Diddling, it just came up in my mind. Yeah, to Kila, do it.

Clear though, not the dark. Do you still love D'Killa? No, I can't even drink anymore. I'm done. Are you really done, done, done? I mean, I was in Vegas a couple of weeks ago and I drank with all my friends and, oh, man, I was hurting for like two days after. Really?

Yeah, I mean, and before that, I didn't even drink it. I just don't like you. It was like new years So I'm going really long periods of time without drinking you've been drinks. It's new years and it's like April Well, no, I did the couple weeks ago, but before that was new years. Yeah, so I wasn't drinking I don't know you anymore. I know right? Done. No, just Well, you know the first of all older you get, it's harder to, to recover. Yeah, you have to give it three in the morning to your thing and I forget

it by noon, but no, but really, it is and just affects your whole functioning. It's like your memory. I don't remember an album fan. It's fun. It's fun once in a while, but man. Okay, so now let's talk about someone's craving more than friends with benefits. Uh-oh. Dear Emily, I recently discovered your podcast and I wish I discovered you much sooner. I obviously absolutely love your show and I've been listening to it almost non-stop. Of course, I also voted for you and hope you win. Okay, so I know to hear a little segue.

I'm going to be in Vegas hosting the podcast on April 14th. And now the new, sorry, I'm going to get in Vegas hosting the podcast for the April 14th. And now the new, sorry, I'm going to get back to this email. April 14th. Yeah, right. The April 14th. And the new, it was going to be Dennis Miller's a cause, but now it's Chris Jericho. Oh, what?

Right, because his wrestler, I was going to ask if you know him. I do know him. OK, so I don't, but we're hosting the word that we're nominated, sex with Emily. So thank you for voting for us. We appreciate it. Oh, yeah. The voting is now closed, so I don't, but we're hosting new words. And we're nominated, sex with Emily. So thank you for voting for us. We appreciate it. The voting is now closed, but then we actually, I'm hosting the awards and hopefully we will win an award,

but whatever. So that's what it is. Oh, okay. What? I'm gonna be in Vegas on the 17th. Dude, I know. Come to the book and I'll be an award. Okay, so here's my dilemma he says,

that I'm divorced mom, oh, she says, I'm the divorced mom of two kids with a demanding professional career and I'm friends with benefits relationship with a hot fireman. Sounds nice. Yes, like many women, I've always fantasized about a man in uniform. We met online and we've been seeing each other for over a year. The sex is amazing. It keeps getting better each time and we have great chemistry. He's affectionate and funny, and we always cuddle after sex. Sometimes he stays over and we have not, and we have hot sex all night,

but it's just a hook up type of arrangement. So you're asking me, what's the problem? Well, I've caught the feelings and I have a major crush on him. The thing is, I don't want anything serious. I don't have the time and energy right now for commitment, and I think he's in the same place. He told me I'm his type of woman.

He's so happy, he met me, he really admires me, and he would date me if he was in that frame of mind. We're not exclusive, but I often feel like I want more than just sex, like go out together, catch a movie, and dinner. Am I trying to turn him into my boyfriend? What do I do and should I talk to him about this? I'm really bad at expressing my feelings.

I don't want to lose what we have because it's seriously the best sex in my life. I'm so confused. Love your show. D in Sydney. A lot of Australian listeners. Okay, D. So, I think that you need to talk to him because you're saying you don't have time for a relationship, but yeah, you think you might want one and it could be something, you know, I know that I've done

this, did this for many years. I would say I can't be in a relationship and I believed it. Like a lot of times the things that we tell ourselves, these beliefs and how we make our decisions, aren't actually true. They're just what the stories we tell ourselves. So sometimes you need to challenge your stories. So are you just telling yourself that you can't be there now in a relationship because you're afraid to commit and they might really want more? That could be something and he says it too and he might also be putting his defenses up because no one wants to get hurt. People kind of say they don't want things but you know me I think you've got nothing to lose here

because the thing that happens in these relationships usually fence with People kind of say they don't want things, but you know, I think you've got nothing to lose here because The thing that happens in these relationships usually friends with benefits ends is like one person wants more and I think that's normal because Relationships have to keep evolving and changing and growing and friends with benefits. It can only last so long Even if like it's just sex like after I just think that would get you get tired of even sex with your friends But you want it to go deeper emotionally or connected in some way that it's just more interesting Yeah, so I get that you'd want it to evolve and you're having hot sex So I would say you don't have to make the decision you should just open up the conversation with them say hey You know, I don't really know where this is gonna, you know I'm not saying that I know how I want this competition to end, but I'm having these feelings

of not just talk, what do you think? I think it's, yeah, it's very, very rare. Where you can just be friends with benefits. For God's sake. No feelings are involved. Where do you wanna do more? That it's so hard. I don't know.

Like, I guess you can have the talk. Yeah. But, I mean, you can. It's risky. I mean, if guess you can have the talk. Yeah. But, it's risky. I mean, if you're really into the hot sex, but what's more important to you is what you need to ask. But the thing is, eventually, it already sounds like it's gonna be on a downward spiral where every time she has sex,

then she's getting more attached. So she's gonna need to talk to him. So I think like a lot of these sex talks and relationship talks, we put so much weight on it, oh, better make sure everything's set. Now, make it casual. Like, we don't like, we need to talk. Like, those are the three need to talk.

Those are the four scariest words to man on the top. Right? So just say, you know, hey, babe, this has been so fun. The call that was so hot, don't have these conversations in bed. Maybe we're in a road trip, but you know, I know we both say

we're not ready in life is so busy, but I'm feeling like I'm getting attached. What, like don't say, don't say I'm getting attached, but I really like to spend time with you or still in the same place, what? Well, no, definitely don't have the talk right after you. No, no, that's the worst. But nobody wants talk after so that's why I do.

But, no, well, you just want to talk 24-7, so it doesn't matter. But I would just say, you know, and also they never go out, I do, but. No. Well, you just want to talk 24-7, so it doesn't matter. But I would just say, you know, and also, they never go out. I get that. I get when you're having hot sex with someone, you're like, sometimes you could get a meal. So why don't you just casually ask them and say, hey, I got tickets this thing Friday night, this show,

let's go and see what happens, and then just see where he's at. So be honest with yourself and with him, be honest with him and yourself, because this is just the beginning of it. It's going to keep festering. I think. Agreed. Okay, so you've got more emails. Yeah. Should we, okay, females. Here we go. All right. Pre-sex worries. Dear Emily, I've recently started seeing a guy and not long ago we had our first sexual moment. Oh, fluszy. I gave him a BJ. There was only one problem.

It didn't last long at all with things still new between us. How can I make him last longer without making it up? Oh, he didn't last for a long time. Well, it's during a blue job. Yeah, but do you know what, check this out. Not a guy's known. Well, no, it happens a lot with guys. If you hang out for a very long time, they get super excited if it's the first time.

It it happens. It's happened to me. Yeah, you know, like if you're if there's, you know, the the courting phase, you know, and then finally it it happens and you're like the anticipation is a building. Yeah, yeah, yeah, and then the guy didn't pregame, you know, Assy should, we're in pregame. Meaning that you master baby before you hang out. And it just like, it just comes and goes, which sucks because you don't know if you're gonna have an opportunity to get in and have sex with that person, you know. Exactly, I know. But you never know, you gotta be prepared.

So I would say that, so she's worried the same thing that's gonna happen. What did I be told? When they actually have sex? Yeah, so she said, the only problem is it going to happen. When they actually have sex. Yeah, so she said the only problem is it didn't last long with things still new between us. How can I make him last longer without making it awkward? We still haven't had sex.

I'm a little worried the same thing will happen again when we do. Please help. I like this guy. He's amazing. I want him to be amazing and bad as well since early Jessica. I think that you don't even know. Don't start featuring him. She's the premature one here. She's prematurely pretty much early escalated. Yeah jumping ahead of her song

Leave calm down Even if you have things to worry about. Yeah, and even if you have sex with him the first time And he doesn't last that long. I would say by a couple of times after that if it's still repeating Then you should get worried about it. Yeah, exactly. But don't trip on this because you gave him a blowjob for the first time. I mean, who wouldn't come? He probably had an erection the entire time he was hanging out with you until you gave him the blowjob.

So of course, you know, he's going to last like five seconds. Exactly. And sometimes do come quicker during blow jobs or during, I know you're just doing sacks, I guess, but whatever. Every guy is different. Yeah. So I don't think that necessarily his, guess. But whatever, every guy's different. Yeah. So I don't think that necessarily his, whatever, in her mind, it's too quick,

it's gonna happen during sex. You don't even know, just think about how excited you are, two of sex with them and trying to make it a really special, amazing, hot experience. And don't already be judging that he's, she's already worried, it's like over, she gave him blow job. We all trip on like the negative things.

And a half of our life is spent worrying about stuff that does not even happen. So let that go Jessica and wait until it becomes a problem and then email me. And if you go second or third encounter, you still a minute, man, there's lots of ways you could help him. Yeah. But, you know, he can do his keglet, keglet, keglet, exercises. I do have my iPhone app, keglet Camp, reminds men and women to do them. Stop start by the end, there's ProMessent,

which is the Delay Spray, Men Can Last Longer and Bed, premature doculation spray. It's not going in. Yes, spray that, I feel it. But just have fun and don't trip on this, you guys are both new at it. Great.

It means you're getting the killer boot job. Yeah, you're pro. Dude, pro, pro, pro. Okay, that's all we got time for, men. Oh, man, it's better. It was great seeing you. Oh, but I don't Yeah, yeah, yeah, you don't want it. You know, we had something else. We were talking about vagina, but I don't know if we're gonna have to I had the vagina we can talk about it next time. Yeah, um, alright. Yeah, cuz I think we got a producer Madison is on our ass She is on my ass. I mean cuz the vagina thing. I think we just

Now we spend more time on the vagina. I gotta talk about it. We know it's a teaser for next time we hang out. Mm. You wanna, all right, if you wanna blow your low, go for it. I thought there was time. Okay. I think I could be wrong.

Fine. Okay, ready, man. It's actually important. All right. Men's, okay. Anonymous service. Yes. It allows you to send a vagina cleansing kit

to a stinky vagina in your life. All right. And I am so offended by it, and I think it's horrible. So this stupid company, how do you tell someone you care about that they're down there situation is actually a debilitating issue to your sexual relationship? Answer, you don't. You let an anonymous do it.

For $15, you can send the most passive, aggressive, probably emotionally debilitating gift to manageable. If you never want to sex, I'm not giving the name to company. Never want to sex to give that person again. So there's a new company that allows you to send a dooshing kit, which meanwhile dooshing is not good for women. It has a moisturizing cream soap, personal message from you if you choose so So in my opinion you guys here's the thing do she madison can you send me a link to that? No, I will but we're not gonna stand on the air You guys here's the thing here's the thing

If you're with a woman, yeah, the vagina naturally cleans out itself It bit you know There's certain things if you she uses a douche, it can disrupt her pH balance and it can, in every vagina, which naturally cleans itself, and she might start getting some infections from there. You have to, I have to address this whole vaginal hygiene situation because last year I had an email from a listener who's boyfriend told her that her vagina smelled and it made her so insecure she didn't want to have sex anymore. So, seriously guys, if you want your partner to keep having sex

that you should probably skip the rude, passive, aggressive gestures, suggest taking a shower together. A lot of times women just don't, you know, whatever the day and men's balls stink, they use down under comfort, a woman just might need to shower. They don't know this, but here's the other thing. If you're with a woman for a while, I mean, I get if you're with someone,

it's always bad every single time. So maybe you, you know, it's always too you offensive or it doesn't smell bad. You know, try taking a shower and see if that works. However, if you're with someone and it changes, this usually means that she has some kind of sexually transmitted disease, it's disease. There could be something going on. She could have, so you could say to her, babe, you know what? It kind of smells all different down there.

You might want to get checked out by your doctor. And I know it's hard to say that, but that's much better than that. She gets checked out and she's fine. So don't trip on this and don't be sending your anonymous vagina cleansing packages. Oh my God. We're all the started.

It's important. That's why I pushed for it. Yeah. I need to know. Guys need to know and don't insult the vagina. Never get hurt. It's self-conversation.

I like talking to a woman about her lower back hair is tough talking about. Can you done that? Oh my gosh. Get what you say. Oh, you're comfortable with them. You're like, hey, you got a hair? Hey, by the way, just send them an anonymous shaving kit, right?

I'll be like, yeah, here's a razor. Here's a grow where you don't want to. They don't grow where you want to. Like look, the eyebrows, you need a little, you know, touch on the back. You say that? Yeah. I don't want to hear that.

I hope I take care of stuff. Jesus, but don't insult them. And so, oh, oh, and I had this one more thing. When I was in Israel with my Israeli friends, we had the same conversation because there's actually another company they mentioned, which is so funny, which is what I thought Madison was talking about when she found this article.

There's a new company, of course, from the Bay Area. I'm not going to say their name either. I don't know it, but it's a pill that women can take every day to make her apparently. It makes her vagina smell like roses. Are we? Which is also, oh wow, every guy wants it. That is FDA proof.

And again, it's so offensive to a woman. And we got in this huge fight with all these. They're like, what do you mean? It's like Viagra. I'm like, no, no, that's different. This is a woman, like, women have so many insecurities anyway. And like, we can't, like, what do you mean? It's like, Viagra, I'm like, no, no, that's different. This is a woman, like, we may have so many insecurities anyway. And like, we can't, like, it's our vagina. Like, it's if you either love it or you don't love it,

but it's something that we, you know, it's our, it's the center of our goddesses, of our human, of our human sexuality. And, and we have already a lot of self-conscious about it. We already think you don't necessarily find it beautiful or want to be down there. And then if you're telling me to take a pill, which actually is really harmful because again,

your vagina cleans itself out. It's the natural, it keeps its pH balance unless it doesn't and you catch something. So I don't know, this is just a bad movement. Save the vagina. All right. Okay, so everyone, thank you, menace. Thank you.

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I know it's a lot of effort to go and you got to sign in and write all this stuff If you really don't want you can be anonymous, I think yeah, and right really good things about me to say all the things They hate about Emily. It's fine, but I can take it I was reading with Madison I don't really love no, I'm pretty legal. I'm like I know I talked too fast I know that I cut my guess off so like I know. I've heard this and working on it. Yeah. Oh really? They said all that?

Yeah. I mean, people, you love me apart. You know, are you perfect? I'm doing the best I can people. No. But I appreciate feedback. Yeah, I remember what I read. I remember what I read.

I'm like, oh, men is bags on like crazy sexual stuff. And I go, do you know what? It's just like everyone has their own opinion. I know. I'm not giving. If you disagree with me, I'm not going to be upset, you know, but some people get upset when you don't have the same opinion as them, which is crazy. It's just like judgment. I'll open your eyes. That's what we're trying to do. We're trying to open your eyes to have better sex and relationships. So check out our newsletter. We love it. If you like it, when you get the news

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FeedbackItSex with Emily. Thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithamlee.com. Okay, so my last word, parting word for all you people here is, well, you know, I love my sex choice, and I also love jewelry, because I'm a woman. And I got, I've been obsessed, as you know, with my vibrator necklace, the Vesper by Crave. And it's so funny because I have given them to my girlfriends who are freaking out because every time, because it looks like a pen, it's gold, beautiful piece of jewelry, it's slim,

it's like the most high-tech thing it plugs in your USB. I wear it every day just because I like how it layers, but it's a really powerful vibrator. And it's quiet, and it's just cool, but it's a really powerful vibrator. And it's quiet, and it's just cool. And it's a great conversation piece too. Like, I love your neck, it's really thanks. Look, it's a vibrator, but it's discreet,

no one can tell. And it's just a really great gift too. It's a great gift for, you know, your lover, your friend, your best friend. I gave one to my friend's wife in Israel. How you did? Well, I brought one for my sister-in-law, and I realized she would never wear this.

So I gave it to my Israeli friend and she definitely would wear it. So it's a perfect gift. Julie Press orgasms. Find me one woman on the plant that would turn that down. You can't. And they're really reasonably priced to their silver. So you check it all out and go to lovecrave.com and buy yourself one. It's a great gift. Do it. elegance style orgasms perfection. Thanks everyone for listening.