Sex With Emily - Office Affairs and Oral Sex Sidekicks

Episode Date: February 8, 2017

On this show, Emily is tackling your emails and voicemails, providing you with the advice you need to step up your sex and dating game—just in the nick of time for V-day. It it wise to take your office flirtation to the next level? Are you worried about the aftermath of your new anal fixation? And what’s the “right” way to date casually? Emily and Menace take you through a range of love and sex topics, and also answer the much pondered question: What does she REALLY want from you on February 14th? Get the answers to all this and more in today’s podcast! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and today's show we're tackling your emails and voicemails Should you steer clear of an office romance? Is there any reason to fear anal sex having trouble organizing with a new partner? Plus the best sex toys to recreate oral sex because who wouldn't want that? All that's more thanks for listening Into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mock our sacred institutions Betruise they call them in a fight on me. Hey, Evelyn You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my the women know about shrinkage isn't it common?

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Years ago. But I want to do it again. And I think you can do it again. I have a studio. You have a studio. I love doing show. You have the right setup. Yeah. I think you can do it again. I think you have a studio. You have a studio. I love doing show. You have the right setup. Yeah. I see you every day.

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there's like a couple of post-down where so Madison is in a blue dress and you're like on your back legs are up in the air. Yeah That video. Oh my god. That video is 10,000 views now. Okay, so Madison. Hi Who's now the first time I've done this? We were trying out the G-Spot link from sports sheets And so which actually you're like getting your feet tied together and you're on your back with your legs up I know. I know she was kind of mounting me sort of no. She's mounted me before and for your other videos But top of my sports sheets was there and he was showing us this G-Spot link for women who can't have a G-Spot, it's literally like the short thing.

You put it around your mat, it's like, what's showing me how to do it? We didn't actually have sex on the video. But no, yeah, he was, you put it your legs in the air, you try, tie it around, it's like you, and then your partner or yourself, your legs are up and away and positioned in a way that you can move to the left, move to the right,

and a position so you can like, bam, I had the G-Spot whatever you sex. All right. People like that video. Well, if you can move to the left, move to the right and position so you can like bam, I had to just spot whatever you sex. All right. People like that video. Well, if you ever want to see Emily on our back with their legs up in the air, do it right now on sex with Emily. Instagram and make sure you follow her.

Do that. So that's what's going on with you. Yeah. Just your legs up in the air. Exactly. And then with the sextoemle.com, what I like is, when you go to ask Emily, it's really easy to like just shoot over and air. Exactly. And then, well, the sextoly.com, what I like is when you go to ask Emily, it's really easy to like just shoot over and out. Yeah. You don't even have to, yeah, you just

ask says a note, says an email, says anything. Tell us now you feel about things. And when you send over a message, always tell us where you're at, how older you, you don't have to give your real name and you know, what's going on in your life. Exactly. And how you listen to the podcast. How you listen. Yeah. Right. Minus me up all those rules. And I love it because then people will follow up like, oh, sorry, I forgot my age. I know minus is going to be upset.

Yeah. I forgot where I live. I remember our lesson. So we appreciate that. And also you guys Valentine's Day, week away. But today is the very last day that we are going to give away. What's the best Valentine's Day you've ever had? What made it memorable?

Was it the perfect date? Was it a great gift? Did you like special occasion sex? We want to know feedback at sexwithemily.com. Do that now. Oh, I've shared this on the show before, but for all our new listeners, I think my worst one was in high school,

when dumbass got in relationship like two weeks before Valentine's Day. And I'm like, I don't really have to do two weeks before Valentine's Day and I'm like Don't really have to do that much on Valentine's Day, you know, we only been together like two weeks. Dude Like my girlfriend at the time got me all this stuff it went like Above beyond and what did I didn't get anything? Dude your mom's I got worse. How did you miss that? I know like what else do you mean mom? But she stayed with me for like a couple of years. She did?

Yeah, until she went off to college in San Diego. I'm like, oh my God. She was super hard and she's like, wait a minute, why am I in the room? Dude, that happened. That's what's to happen to your high school girlfriend. And your college, yeah, yeah, that's hilarious. And then she wanted me back when I said, no. Why do?

Because I moved on. Yeah, I'm already, I'm convinced. See, people, they must, they can't get over the relationship. You will get over your relationship that you are pining over right now. You got to go through it, but you will move through it. So, minus I need to tell you, so you know, I move into my dream house.

Yeah. It's literally like it's taking me so long like I really wanted to find my dream house. So it's perfect neighborhood, perfect size house. It's totally private. I love everything about it. And you know I had a little you know I wanted to find a perfect place. So by mistake I moved into a place that wasn't great. It was too loud. I need quiet. Like my thing is like I want quiet. So I found a house and I've been telling everyone like how quiet it is right. I

haven't heard like a single truck or a siren or anything. And like the first night I was there. First week I was like, oh my God, and then there's crickets. I lie down at bed and I can't hear crickets. You're a nature. And I'm like, oh my God, I love the crickets. It's so peaceful. It's so peaceful.

The other night I'm lying in bed. I've had this cold, you guys, so you can hear my voice. But I feel like crap. I'm listening to the crickets. And then I realized it was louder than I can remember. I'm super sensitive. It was like, crickets, but I feel like crap. I'm listening to the crickets. And then I realized it was like louder than I can remember. Like I'm super sensitive. It was like cricket, cricket, it was loud. And then I realized it's only one cricket.

Like I think it's been the same cricket the whole time. And like two crickets is peaceful. Like one cricket is like a terrorist. It's the word of God. It's like, and then I realized it's in my fucking house. Like I swear to God, I'm like, I think it's in my house because I would like. So I don't know if you were trying to find a, if you were trying to find a cricket in your house.

No. Okay. I haven't. So it's like impossible. Like I would move and then it would stop or like I hit because that case so my bedroom has a goes on into a yard, right? Like a great deck yard and so there's a sliding glass door, and so I had to hit the window and it would stop.

Or I would like shake the curtains and it would stop. And I'd make a noise, you know, I moved for it. And then it sounded like it was coming from, and it wasn't, it was like maddening, I was using my mind. So for 30 minutes, I'm like stomping on the house, like a crazy person, and you know, I do what I do, like I turn to Google, I'm like, how do you get a crooked out of your house?

Like what do you do? And they're like, use molasses. I'm like, what do you get a cricket out of your house? Like, what do you do? And they're like, use molasses. I'm like, what's your problem? Who the hell has molasses? I'm like, is it maple syrup? Because I don't have that either. Like, what the hell is molasses? Like, in 2017, like, what the hell is molasses?

What else? I would not know where to tell you to get molasses. Dude, I'm like, oh my god, but there's like 24 hour, like, you know, Ralph's, what can I do? And then like, the second thing was like, you could try your own spring solution. They're like, put water and soap. I'm like, okay, I have soap, I have water. So I take the spray bottle and I'm spring, spring, spring.

Like my whole house is wet, like the door, my bedroom, and I'm like, where is it? And it was so freaking loud. And you know, after the whole black, what do I think? I'm like super sensitive to insects. And so I really don't like killing anything, but you know, you gotta like,

kind of draw the line somewhere. And they were like, you know, getting on my freaking, ner, these freaking crickets. So I went back to sleep and then the morning I called an exterminator and they came out and he's like, what, what am I here for? And I'm like, crickets. And he was like, okay, I'm like,

well, Am Black Widow is like, I bit by a buck, I was just like, kill, I'm not killed. This is murder. But like just do it. But that was the day of the torrential, we've been having rain here in LA. It was torrential rain and I'm like, oh no. And now sure enough, I went to bed last night.

Dude, dude. Oh. Dude, and then I started reading about crickets and they can lay eggs and they can get all of your house. That was a lie, yes. Yes, yes, yes. I have an insect problem again. This is what you do.

All right, you just go get one of those raid things where you lift, open the cap, and then you leave for the day and it like fumigates your house. No. I hire The professional's coming back you 30 days and it's only been a week so I called on like come back. They're our crickets He doesn't seem like it doesn't seem like he's taking care of the issue like you can fix it with Are they like are they like invincible or something? Are they like in that? No, but there's definitely a cricket issue because now that you

told me this is the second cricket story of her this week. There's other cricket stories in Los Angeles. What do you mean? So okay, so maybe there's a maybe that's a whole maybe there's a problem. Maybe there is so a plague. So my coworker Greg

Gory who's on the Woody show is he is afraid of bugs, like crazy. He's afraid of butterflies. I'm not joke, he's a grown-ass man. We've like tried to convince him to go into one of those butterfly enclosures that we would pay him thousands of dollars. That's how you get all the money.

He won't do it. He's so afraid of bugs. Okay. So he said that he was in his backyard and he noticed a cricket. Or it might have been like larger than a bug. So he said that he was in his backyard and he noticed a cricket or it might have been like larger than cricket. I forget what they're called. They're like the brown version and they're very large. And so it's on his grass and so he's like spraying it with the hose and the thing will not go. They don't they don't they're right. So he's like all right fine. I'm gonna go run and

like grab a bucket or something and throw it on top of it. So he goes to go do that and his dog went over there and grabbed the cricket in its mouth. And so the dog is coming up to him and the legs are hanging out, the dog's mouth. But he has to say. And it's like moving around. Oh my God, how big is he?

And he said that he was screaming and yelling. And then the dog ended up going and burying the cricket, right? A few days later, the dog decides to dig up the cricket and has it in its mouth again. Oh my God. So he's been having cricket issues as well. That's a problem, dude. That's so funny, because the article also said the blog,

the blog post said, if you've pets, they naturally eat the things, the cricket, the dog. So I think I need to get a dog. I have a dog door built into my house. Oh, you do? Well, I have two dogs. I know, know. One of them won't just eat anything. See that's the problem. I need a free and dog. Okay, so what else is going on with it? So yeah, I'm in the middle of moving to a quiet neighborhood as well. Okay, and so I'm going from one bedroom to two bedrooms because I just have so many guests and it's so weird. So many dogs. So many dogs have two little Frenchies. They're big.

They're like five dogs. Yeah. So two dogs and five. Yeah. So then, so now that I'm going to have a guest room because we have so many friends that visit from San Francisco, you know, it's an hour flight away in the company town. And then so I'm making the second, the guest room really nice. Oh, good.

This is shout out to Brooklyn bedding. Like you can get a mattress, like a guest mattress, super cheap and they're really nice. Really? Okay. Compared to like if you go to a mattress store and you're pretty much just buying like a Honda Civic for a mattress. Right, right.

Who did you say it was having a sale too? I've been living. Living spaces. Living spaces, that's the, yeah yeah my mom told me to go there I eat so much furniture for the office and for home. I want to you living spaces like last weekend I bought a bunch of stuff now they're having like a massive sale this way. I know right? Damn, I would turn like like just trying to pimp out the the new apartment. I love that Maybe you'll have me to that house. Yeah, I know your life is always crazy

So I'll have a guest room just in case, you know, you're trying to hide from me. Oh my God, I am trying to hide from people. But I have like a gate around my house, like a alarm and I have like a system that you can't get to me except for the phone records. Oh yeah, and can I just shout out another thing? You're talking about alarms and stuff like that.

They're not like a sponsor mind or anything, but ring, they're amazing. What is it? So the ring video doorbell is a doorbell that you can put on that has a camera in it. And then when people ring your doorbell, it automatically shows them on there. And a lot of my friends have them. And because they're like in bands and they travel the world and stuff, I have friends that are in Europe and they're checking on their house in LA and like talking to the person that's at their front door

They can wow, but it doesn't protect you from burglars because burglars are gonna be their bell No, they do because as actually what's funny is they said that like 80% of the time I went but rob you Yeah, no 80% of the time they go ring the doorbell see if anybody's there good point and they'll have like some fake flyer Like oh, do you want to take a survey? Oh, because they just did a Study actually in Oregon and they they interviewed all a bunch of inmates and like people that would break into houses and asked them like you know What was your process and the number one thing is like yeah, we always went to the door We would have like some story if so many happens to answer or not

But like they get all dressed up and they put on their black hat. No, no, no, no. I'm saying someone answers like, hi, and then they're like, okay, we're going to need you. Yeah, they just have some story like, oh, I'm collecting money for Boba, and then they just move onto the next house. That's so funny.

That's a good way to actually go interview what we're else they're doing. Be safe. Because social media, everyone's traveling. They're like, oh, I'm in Vegas. I'm drunk in Vegas for the weekend. Well, you're just pretty much just told everybody that you're gone from your house, you know?

Yeah, that's true. They'll protect yourself. I'm in town forever. Now you're right, that's a good point. Oh my God. Anyways, but sexually in your life, I'm using any video cameras. Well, no, but I'm not using video cameras,

but I have to tell you that it was amazing, because I'm finally, you saw my old place. I talked about this too, about this too, but I, it just wasn't that or I didn't have a lot of space. I didn't have drawers. And so now I have built-in closets and everything that are amazing. And I am fancy, I'm fancy that everything is a place so I spent, couldn't sleep at the night. And I, the last vestige, the last thing I did was organize the sex toys. And so I spent a lot of time, like carefully, like curating, like which ones I need, and

they're all, like, I, they all have a shelf, like the G-spot toys, like all my loops, like Joe, system Joe said, be so, so much, every flavor, and I have them by, like, warming, cooling, like they're a gotpig loop, so they're all, but those are by my nightstand. So I was like the little ones on my nightstand and all the ones that I want to use, because in my old house, if I want to have sex, I had to dig through things and the cords were coming out, and now it's like I've there all lined up, and then I've got my G-spot toy, my couples,

you know, my underbed restraints are on the bed. Like it's just, I know where every toy is, I know where everything in my life is, and it's in my jewelry too. My jewelry in my toys all have a place, and it's life changing, except for the fucking is in it and my jewelry too. My jewelry in my toys I'll have a place and it's life changing Except for the fucking cricket. It's perfect home But yeah, so I'm ready for sex. Yeah, I have an aspect

We have a yeah, you have a den You just want to bring some prey into the den Exactly No, because I had this weird experience a few months ago. I want to talk about it I started though, but I don't have to but I you I I thought I grabbed a few months ago. I want to talk about it. I started it though But I don't have to but I you I thought I grabbed a lube and it wasn't a lube and it's funny because so Our producer he went to the avian awards, right? And it's funny that you mentioned the loop and I'm surprised you didn't go this year

You usually go I gave the keynote three three years ago and it was fun. Yeah, it was great, but I just, I didn't want everyone. And I also got sick. I was gonna maybe go, but I was just, yeah, yeah. But yeah. But the, it's funny so our producer, he went there to go interview porn stars about, you know, what's your worst day at work, right?

And one of the, the stories were horrific. But there was one loop story that made me think about you. And so there were like, it was a male porn star. And he said, yeah, I was on the shoot. And I thought we were drinking vodka, whatever. And somebody put a lube in a cup. And I went down it and then I just down the Loub

and then I started throwing up for like a half hour straight. Did he know it was Loub? No, he thought it was Vaca. Oh, but if it was like a flavored Loub, like Joe makes like salted caramel, they make like chocolate Loub. It was just straightforward Loub. Yeah.

I mean, I would never suggest that you drink a whole cup. And that was like the mildest story out of all of them. All the other stories. That's a pretty good story. Was there other good stories? Oh, no, I will listen to it. They were pretty bad. That's amazing.

Pretty bad. That's fun. That's a fun way to take on the AVN. That's the adult video, the adult video wore a novelty. What is it? It's called adult video network. Yeah, it's like the, it's like it's like the it's like the Oscar the porn

Yeah, the Oscars and it was fun, but I've never been. Do you want to go? Oh, you didn't have a friend of mine from San Francisco. She won best anal scene once. Really? God, you know special beeps. That's actually my friends are so eclectic. I know.

I love Osammer. Yeah, my heart miss it. I miss it like an ex, but like, no, I don't want heart miss it miss it like an X but like I don't want to get it back together but like I have fun memories. Yeah, yeah, definitely You know I great sex there great things all different types of people totally I mean what I have great sex I'm gonna give it X to like what you remember what you don't remember yeah like the weather Okay, I have a little sucks in the news here. It's about Valentine's Day. Tell me cuz we can't get away It's coming up, you guys.

So it's in a week. Here's the headline, ready? Yeah. Women actually hate it would rather watch TV. Hate what? Valentine's Day. What? 41% of women in a relationship not only ignore Valentine's Day,

they dread it. 34% of the women's survey would rather watch TV than have sex as for gifts. 40% say don't even try serenading them and 21% please don't spread rose petals around the room thanks. Okay. I know the rose petal thing I think is super cheesy. You know how I am with that kind of stuff. But I have a bunch of women in the room. Come on. Don't try to be cool. Tell me, would you like to do something on Valentine's Day? Do you like it when a guy offers up something to do?

Madison, come on. We're going to wear a relationship. She's Matt producer. Madison's in a long-term relationship. I'm mixed. I'm not right now. I don't talk about anything over the top, but at least go into dinner and talk to us about you and your loving. Celebrating your. Okay, hold on. Let me turn

your mic. Turn on the mic. Oh, perfect. Okay, cool. So, um, yeah, I have actually been a relationship now for three years on Valentine's Day. And I will say I think it's largely overrated as far as a holiday goes, um, because it's too busy, especially in LA. You have to book stuff way in advance. And when you go out, it's just, there's like limited menus and everyone's in your way. And there's just so much competition, especially with like social media now. Everyone's posting their amazing bouquets and like, oh, look what my partner did. And it's this wonderful. I get the best.

It's like everything. Yeah, it just turns into like this great big like romantic pissing contest, whereas honestly I would rather stay home and watch like binge watch some Netflix. It doesn't have to be on Instagram, but at least some flowers or something. Something small is great, but I mean like I could do something small as great on like a Wednesday, you know, like, right? I'm just looking for something like small and like a some form of connection, that could happen anytime.

But like, are you guys, do what you feel like you kind of have to do, are you guys gonna do something? We haven't even talked about it. Like, at the past two years, we have gone out the night, before the night after Valentine's Day, so we could go somewhere we actually wanted

and have a nice time, and on Valentine's Day, actual day, we hold up last year, we had the whole having sex and the burning candle fell and covered our entire bedroom and all. Oh, that was a dream ago. I'm sorry that I had.

Yeah, I spent Valentine's Day. That's one of my candles. I spent Valentine's Day and Crotchless underwear, scraping red candle wax off of my entire bedroom. Oh my gosh. It was so crotchless panties, it was from Hustler. And I was like, I'm gonna try these out. And then they were super airy while I was picking red candle wax on it.

Oh my God, that's really nice. I mean, that's doing too much with the candle wax and stuff like that. Cratchas underwear is too little if anything. Yeah, but no, I'm just saying like, again, that's the part, you know, where I think it goes overboard with the cheesiness and the- You don't like lingerie, you're the wrong person, talk to her.

I just think of the thing, like at least a small gesture, at least, of Valentine's Day. Small gesture. So what are you going to do for your girlfriend? I'll probably send some flowers or something like that and see if we have time to go somewhere to eat. You guys and you guys do a lot of fun stuff. I mean to me, I get it. I always feel like I want to take back Valentine's Day to read it for you. I think no one really likes it. It's more stressed than it's worse. I think you're like, it's all March. It still is that whole like obligation,

but but it is a day of love. It is a day of like expressing love, either to yourself, if you're single or to a partner, or if you're in a relationship, and to me, love a lot of couples who are in a relationship, let me, you know, I'm just gonna take a gander here while I guess there's probably, probably could be having some more sex or trying something new.

Maybe the love life's gotten a little rote and you keep doing the same things. So why not like do something to enhance intimacy? Yeah, like anal licking. Anal licking. It's the year of anal licking. We just had this podcast, the year of anal licking. It's like, we've never had so many downloads

because it was actually wasn't an amazing podcast with my friends were on it. And it was pretty hilarious that she's like, I think it's zero rating looking. Everyone wants to lick my anus. Every year there is a new trend. People should go to sexelomey.com and search analicking.

I'm sure. I subscribe and iTunes, Spotify, wherever soundcloud, wherever you listen to podcasts. Everywhere. Everyone's analicking. Do you want analicking for a real time today? I do not want anal looking for Valentine's Day, but I do want perfume.

So, you know, someone tell my boyfriend. Yeah. No, I really want. She wants a. No, you guys, I'm not cheesy like that. I want more, either more Izzy Miyaki or Chloe. Chloe roses. Really nice.

Very pretty. Chloe was my first in college. Oh my, it's cool. It was not low roses. It was pretty. Yeah, people always like comment on it when I wear it Yeah, okay good to know okay, well we should have him listen to this gap has a great perfume called dream For real, that's what all my all my The girlfriends not my like my friends that were girls in high school. They would wear all they would wear a gap dream

Oh my god, I don't know I don't know. It's that were girls in high school, they would wear a gap dream. Oh my God. It's not good though. I don't get it. I don't know. It's the first thing you smell. No, it's the first thing you don't know for you. Don't not get because it's gap. I do love the gap, gap body.

I'm not wearing anything. I like their bras. I like their body stuff. Okay, but here's the rest of the deal. Is that the survey says that 41% dread it, even in a really should be even dread it. And they surveyed the weather watch TV then sex, but here's the kicker.

Here's what they do want. Guess what they do want. They want to watch this is us. So what is this is us? Oh, one of the biggest and best TV shows out right now. I don't know. Because you never watch TV. No, dude, I'm starting to watch TV.

I was sick. I watched things. Just watch out, Delio. Like cry. Where's it on? What's on Netflix? Yeah, you can watch it on Hulu. I got I got the Okay, 72% this is what they want. They want communication more than anything on the special day. Being open and honest with each other was more important than having fun together. So save your money. cancel the restaurant reservations and order a pizza.

Just bringing communicate. And we want communication all day long, all year long, I mean, it's true. We want that connection. We want to be able to talk about something. So I think if you're in a relationship, like talk about beforehand, so you're not stressed running around.

Do you be like, babe, let's talk. No, like figure out, like do something, I think why not tie something like sexual or intimate Do like even if it's a conversation you've been wanting to have or something you've wanted explore going to like a sex toy store or trying something new Make it about that like going to these overpriced restaurants as always seem ridiculous to me And if you're single it still is a day about buy yourself something special master rate off friggin night Grab a big bottle of lube and sit down and lay down on your bed.

Do something loving for yourself. Talk to yourself, if you want communication. That's how I feel about Valentine's Day. Okay. What are you gonna do on Valentine's Day? I am. You're gonna follow somebody. You're gonna hang out with a group of friends.

I don't know, I haven't thought about it. Anti-Valentines Day. I'm not anti-Valentines Day. I don't know, I haven't thought about it. Antivalent times day. I'm not anti-vivalent times day. I'm just like, if I'm in a relationship, I always tell them, I'm like, don't do it. I'm not into like, it's been re-roads to the whole thing, like let's just do something fun in our mud, like hang out or have sex in different ways.

That's why I brought the suitcase of toys to that guy's house I was dating because I have so many to try and I never have time. So I brought a wheel really suitcase filled with every toy and product and cuffs that I've gotten in the last year because I'm really bad at packing. I think packing anxiety. It's a problem actually. I like actually need like help I think. I don't know like therapists can come over and have me back. I want everything because I'm afraid I won't have it.

Anyway, it's a whole other show. But, so I couldn't decide which toy I'm like, well, what if we do want to try this G-Spot rabbit or what if we want to try this? Anyway, it was funny. It's good. Yeah, I woke up with a dog color on and a ball gag in my mouth. It was funny.

Drink a lot. Okay, we're gonna give a shout out to our sponsors. All right. We love all of you. And thank you for supporting our sponsors. We so appreciate it. Okay, Mattis, Ron D. Mails, your faith, faith, faith, part. I love hearing from the people. I do too. I love running into random people and they whisper to me in the girl. I listen to sex, let me show. Do they do that? Because they don't want to stay alive. Yeah, that's so sweet. It's cool. Because a lot of, you know, the Woody show listeners,

the Morning Show that I'm on in Los Angeles, we have events all the time. And it never fails. I'll have someone come up and listen to the Sex of the Family podcast. I thought so. Oh my God. That's great.

So thank you. Yeah, thank you. I think we've got a lot of people have great sex. It's great. And you're going to be on in a day or two. Yeah, I'm going to be on the Woody show, you guys. So tune into the Woody show. I think we've got a lot of people have great sex. It's great. Yeah, and you're gonna be on In a day or two. Yeah, I'm gonna be on the Woody show you guys are tuned into the Woody show. I'll tweet it out Facebook it snap it snap that the Woody show podcast It's not a sex podcast so you know it sounds like it do you guys have your podcast though? Yeah every day Oh, but then it goes away or it's yeah, we only keep it up for 24 hours

Okay, we wish to just listen wherever you are, because they can also listen online during live show, right? Yeah, you can listen to it in the right-hand radio. I heart radio. Yeah. So we're on in St. Louis, Missouri, 6 to 10 AM, on all 2049 and we're here in Los Angeles on all to 98.7 from 5 AM to 10 AM. You're the man.

I do. I'm a killer. Six sound hours of radio every day. That's why you're so confident right now. I'm to 10 a.m. You're the man. I do. I'm a killer. Six so now is a radio every day. That's why he's here. I'm drinking a lot of coffee. Thank you for coming. Yes, all good.

I love being here with you. It's good to see you. I do too. You're like seriously in my long, like meaningful long relationship. I know, right? Love it. It's 12 years. Okay, so emails.

The minister already mentioned this at the beginning, but just, uh, yeah, it's easy. Ask Emily. Go to the sexthelmy.com. Click on the ask Emily banner. And then if you want to be called, we can call you, you can click a box and say, because I'm starting to do call shows where I can actually call you. And I feel like, I love it because you can really ask the questions that we always like, well, wait a minute. How long were you dating? Or have you ever had orgasm? We've had a lot of people get to the bottom of the stuff. So, um, you can also leave us a voicemail. We're actually going to place some of your voicemails on this show as well.

It's 818-ask-SW-E1, or 818-275-793-31. And we appreciate it. Okay, for a female, do you hear Emily? I know the proverbial saying, don't crap will you eat. But is it ever-ocated date, a coworker, to give you some background? We're both professionals and an office environment over the past six months we've gotten much closer, we text pretty much every night when we get home in the morning before work and throughout and

throughout the weekend? These conversations and texts often include subtle and sometimes over-floor-ing, at least from my perspective. When we go out with coworkers, we spend quite a bit of time together, whether that's dancing, talking, or just being close proximity. The only physical contact has been hugs, walking arm and arm, and holding hands once or twice. However, most of this has occurred after several adult beverages. At first, I take this as a very casual, nothing major or, however, it's grown past that I think there's something there but I'm afraid to ruin what we have now and or make it awkward at work and if I'm wrong any help or advice would be much appreciated.

Here's the thing John I don't think people date where people were they work I mean it happens it's when you spend more time with people you work with. I'm a professional at that. What? Men is literally the only dated people who's worked with. Because I'm always at work. We're always workaholics. I've done it in the past. And it sounds like you guys really like it. I'm surprised it's been six months and nothing's happened yet.

But is it because you're causing both of them are afraid to take that next step. You know what I'm saying? I mean, you're holding hands. Yeah, you're walking arm and arm. You're texting every night. It's like, when the hearing met Sally, like it's about to happen. Yeah.

But again, I don't know where you work. That's why we get caught. Like I don't know what kind of environment. Some actually companies have like laws of getting, you know, the employee agreement that you can't actually date somebody work with. But typically, you know, you're 41 years old, you've been in relationships before, hopefully it'll work out,

you know, and you'll be together. But if not, like hopefully you guys are both adults and you can just still coexist and live and work together. What have you done, man? As all the girls you're banging, do you sell to see them every day at the company? Say pop machine. I didn't do this, I didn't do this in the Midwest,

the soda machine, you know? The soda machine. The water cooler. No, I mean, again, you have to definitely see, you don't want to rush into anything if it's somebody that you work with. You definitely have to vet them out and see if they're like really cool. Right. Right. They're not going to flip on you any second and then make the situation an awful situation, you know? Man, I would hate to say, because it sounds like she doesn't want to make the first move. Because I would always want the woman to make a first move to feel more comfortable.

So I don't feel like a creep, like a guy, because maybe I like misread the situation. Right. You know, so I think you should just continue hanging out. And eventually you will get a sign, an absolute sign that everything is okay. I think no, yeah, I think you're right, but here's the other thing, and I've reading this again, it's only been six months, and it all happens after adult beverages. Yeah. So that's menace's favorite way to get things going with a person,

but I honestly think that maybe you guys, they don't do they go to lunch. Like I think you guys should go to lunch, and if you like her and you're a famous for and see how it goes at lunch without alcohol. Yeah. You know, I've had a lot of these tips like that were just based, you know,

go out with party with DevSex, like, they're fun. But like, if I would try to test this, I would test this. That's over conversation. Exactly. Try it sober. Like, see what happens, you might not, you know, then I would do that first.

And maybe when you guys are having a sober conversation, you could, you know, see how that goes. But I wouldn't worry about the repercussions of a work unless it's not like, if you guys handle it right and your adults, you can even talk beforehand, what are we going to do if this happens? And also, if you start dating some of them work, I would also say that you should, um, I wouldn't announce it to the office. I wouldn't set on like an office email.

Like you kind of try to keep people know they will see, I think they're exactly, but just try to keep it down low because you know what's going to happen. You don't need to share the information with anybody. Totally. Okay, we've got a voicemail now. All right. We're going to play voicemail. They're excited.

Hey, Emily, my name is Jane. I'm 28 from Kentucky. I listen to peer podcasts weekly. My sex life has improved so much. Thank you. That question is about anal sex. My boyfriend and I have anal sex often. And he definitely opens a door to back door

play for me. But we both love it. But I was just curious, what are the negative side effects of the anal sex? Specifically, will I lose muscle control? Thank you. Okay, anal sex question, the year of anal licking. Have you tried anal licking Jane? That's a really good question. That's totally legit concern. We get this, a good asses a lot, because that's beyond as like important bodily functions going back there, you don't want to lose any muscle control. But the thing is your rectum cannot permanently get damaged or stretched from anal sex, but it can happen to the anal schvinkter muscle. The The muscle has at the very end of your anus. So this is the muscle that tightens

to hold your bowels in. And so until they are released, so you like decide to release them to go to the bathroom. So if you have a lot of anal sex, like yeah, that's what could happen. It could weaken it. It's not likely.

So just remember, like you could do your keg electrolysis that will totally strengthen the pelvic floor and your orgasms. And it also bonus toned your sphincter. Did you know that one? It's probably didn't. Toned it. Also use lots and lots of lube. You guys, I cannot tell you like, like, I just like get like barrels of joe lube.

Go to our website, go to sex the ummi.com and click on our store. I swear to God, it's like the top thing that we sell because it's the only loop that I use. And they've got a lot of loops and I would just say get like a vat. No, get a lot of them, you get a pump, you get a bottle leave it next to your bed, you just cannot overdo the loop when you're having anal sex. Because you can get, you know, there's a, you know, use a condom. Please use a condom. It protects bacteria from getting the anus. Also be sure to breathe because if you are too tense when you're having anal sex, your sphincter will follow. Your sphincter is tense.

So I've done a lot of shows in anal sex. I've talked about it a lot. You could go to our website and look for articles in anal but the truth is breathing, relaxing is important and lib is important. and you should just always at your cap. Definitely. 21%.

Oh, speaking about Kentucky real quick, I thought we should go about in a licking, but go ahead. Just, you know, she might want to watch this. Vanderpump rules. We don't want to eat her favorite shows. Yes. So one of the guys on their jacks and his girlfriend,

well, who knows if it's still his girlfriend, they get in their own spin-off show and it's gonna be in Kentucky. Really? Yeah, so. Why did they move to Kentucky? They are excited about that. While she's from Kentucky, the girl Brittany.

Okay. So I guess she's taking that. Epic Girl's name is Brigham Brittany. So she takes them back home to meet the parents. That's what the reality show is gonna be about. The entire episode is meeting the parents? No, it's about like home to meet the parents. That's what the reality show is gonna be about. The entire episode is meeting the parents. No, it's about them, like the parents. How do you have time to still watch all these shows?

I'm telling you, Hulu, Hulu, Hulu, Hulu, it cuts out all the commercials. They show all the bravo shows and stuff. And while I'm preparing for the show next, the next day, and on the computer, I have a whole lot of background. I have a whole AV guy coming to get me a TV. Remember when you set up my TV? Yes, I did. That's some to do in the background. I have a whole like a V guy coming to get me a TV Remember when you set up my TV last time

That's something to say I'm gonna go does my first TV and like 20 years, but now I've got I'm getting to I'm getting it I've like both speakers and the whole thing I know I'm not fancy. I just like have a TV. It's gonna work I use to comment as for a month of you like how do I remote like when there's too much which ones on off and then I made a video of it To remember I turned it on. I'm tired. I would have put tape on the phone. Kentucky.

Okay, Jane, so you could watch TV and be careful. You represent Kentucky. I would be, if I was from Kentucky, not many shows out there are about Kentucky. I would be excited about something else. No, totally dude. Whenever anything goes to Michigan, you're like, oh my God, I'm so excited.

No, I get it I got it watch it. I love your information. I love your little brain big brain The guy love how you compass up bravo. I don't know what the name of the show is okay You can find it Google use the Google Google bravo Kentucky. It should pop up So helpful, okay Hey Emily my email my husband is tongue tied. And therefore, kind of, I guess, is not something he wants to do as his tongue does its stretch far and can hurt.

I'm wondering whether there are any toys that can help him with this as I would love to experience this. He gets it and doesn't, he gets it and I don't, so it can feel a little unfair. Oh, he gets blow jobs. Your help would be great. Thanks, Vanessa, age 44, I'll strap up. Okay, great question.

I've got so many answers for you here. So there are specific toys that can mimic oral sex. The womanizer is an oral sex machine. Like I've named it the Clint Whisperer. It provides gentle stimulation onto your clitoris pleasure air technology is what it's called and it literally is this, you know, you know there's a came out like a year

and a half ago, I was like the toy that I've seen in my inventory, this one is a pull. It stimulates the Rolex X, like to a tee. Wow. Yeah, womanizer. There's the Wevibe touch, it's tongue shaped. I really like that one. So he could even I don't know See if it's a little like I wonder if it's some kind of I've never heard of a super short tongue

I've been around I didn't know tongue tied was actually a thing No, like I thought like when you couldn't spit something out. You're just tongue tied. Yeah, I didn't know it really is a thing I didn't know I've heard it from an email this guy. I didn't know it was a disorder. Yeah, I know it's a song by group love No, I know but I didn't never it really is a thing. I've never heard it from an email this time. I didn't know it was a disorder. I know it's a song by group love. No, I know, but I never got in the female. But I never got tongue-tied. But I have met people in my life where I feel that their tongue didn't really extend too much where it was hard to understand what they were saying. So I believe this actually...

No, it is a thing. No, it is a thing. I've never gotten this. Yeah, no, it is a thing. So I love this a thing. I've never gotten this. Yeah, no, it is a thing. So I love this. I love that you're asking and he's cool with it. You could have him use the toy. Have him use the toy with one hand or you could throw it.

Well, he, of course, fingers. You should always use your fingers during sex. He could, yeah, that's it. He wanted to participate. And here's the other thing I want to explain about using toys with a partner, which I know I always talk. I've talked a lot about it, but like you don't understand that your partner, it's for people who are so intimidated by it.

You can hold a toy, you can participate with it. He uses fingers, he puts the lube on you, he sees how you hold it, and then he holds it. It's like he's doing it. You guys, it's like a part, it's not like the toy takes over, he takes over, like you do it together. It's a group thing. It's a party, you know, in your pants. Or did you see that Kickstarter for the people

that have the tonic tongue extender so they can lick their cat? Have you seen that? No. It was a real thing. They made like a ton of money already. You could lick your cat? Yeah.

Why would you want to lick your cat, Pat? I don't know, cat people are weird, just kidding. I literally want to lick your cat, but it't know, cat people are weird. Just kidding. I literally want to lick your cap. Yeah, it's like some piece of plastic toned thing. Can't you just pet them? Yeah, you can't, but you can also lick them now with this. It got fun, did it?

Yeah, of course. There are enough crazy cappy glasses. Yeah, there are. I have a lot of cappy glasses. When I get it, when I become a cat lady, I'll be the cat with them. All right. Let's find out what you like. I think cats will be perfect for you. I know, I know. Dogs, but a huge one. When I get it, when I become a cat lady, I'll be the cats with them. All right. That's fine.

I think cats would be perfect for you. I think that's not so much work for you. Cats can take care of themselves. Dude, you wonder if something messed up, you're right. And I like cats, but I don't know if I should get any part, right now, but I forget was that one of my swipe apps. And I was like bumble or something. And some guys like swipe right if you have a cat,

or swipe left, which is the one when you reject them. Swipe, keep, swipe, wait, swipe left. Keep swiping if you have a cat. Like, like, I don't want a day to cat girl. And I thought that was like offensive. I don't even have a cat. And I wouldn't like them. But I'm like, that is just, in this year, I guess if you're allergic,

but he didn't, he could have just said I'm allergic, but I, he's by his side, I don't like cats. Maybe are he had a bad experience with a girl that had a cat? I don't know. Sometimes it can be kooky, but I don't care. But like, I don't know. It just seemed like I don't want to be the cat. I go to the cat.

I had to go to the cat. So if I ever was online dating, I feel like we have a family. Oh, yeah. Yeah, no, it is a problem in relationships. Super-perfect. Like, or you take the bed of drill, I don't know if you get over it, but I hope that's right. OK, hey, Emily, I've been listening to your show for a few months

and I love the way you've been able to tell people, I'm 25 year old male Liz and Virginia and I listen to your podcast on Spotify. I've been single for the better part of six years and with the exceptions of a few months where I was dating someone. My question for you is how do you casually date someone? I've had hookups before and I don't have any issues with it

but there never really seems to be an in between where I can actually date someone. I've had hookups before and I don't have any issues with it but there never really seems to be an in-between where I can actually date someone. If I ever get interested in someone it normally moves very fast because I'm always looking at how things can turn out for the future. Anything else just seems like a waste of time for me. Thank you for taking my question. Ethan age 25 Virginia. So this is interesting, I had to read this one like twice. Like you, okay, so you're 25 years old, you're single for six years and he's, how do you casually date? Because, okay, you're saying that you've had hupts, but there isn't in between, you casually date someone because when you get interested, it moves fast because you're

looking, so it sounds like you're making it move fast because you're thinking about the future. So you're asking me like you don't know how to sit with the casualness of dating. So I think, because you're so focused on the future, when you meet someone new, and would be good potential,

you're not allowing yourself to be present and let it unfold naturally and casually. Because your future trip and your thinking is this person right, you're sizing him up, you're making all these decisions. And the truth is, when you start dating someone, you can't possibly know that much about him, you know? And so you got to just kind of chill with it. I know women do the men do this. Like, is this my Mr. Right, Mrs. Right? They plan out their whole entire life. Can't you just plan out what you're gonna order on the menu when you're having dinner with that person?

Like, what's your trip? Yeah, what's your invite for casually dating? How have you been so successful at it until you've had a relationship? Casually, again, it was just going with the flow, not getting too crazy about things, you know, let the other person live their life, you know? Yeah.

And don't get upset when they don't have time for you or you don't have time for them and just to see how things go. Exactly. But planning out your entire life, definitely you fantasize in your head once you like meet somebody after a minute like, oh, I wonder how my life would be. Or if you see somebody online, like, oh, I wonder how my life would be. Or if you see somebody online, like, oh, I can probably see myself with this person. And like, you are a planned vacation in your head.

I know, it's insane. You're writing and all that. I think that a lot of us do that. We want to like figure it all out right away. It's a way of people's mind. I don't be serious about it. Right, right. Like take it one, like if you can try it

when you're dating someone, like literally just take it one day at a time and don't have your eyes open, pay attention for red flags. Like my mom always says, issues you have in the third date, you have forever, I have not said that in so long. Do you remember, you always say that? The issues you have in your third date, you have forever. And I think that's kind of true. If your eyes are open, people show you who they are pretty quickly, but you should still

pay attention to that. But also, don't think about where it's going. If you like them enough, just one day at a time. And be honest that you're casually dating and that you're dating other people and there's nothing wrong. Like, people should be honest about this too. Like, I'm not looking for anything. It's funny that you say that, you know, we did have a topic on the show where we said,

you know, something that you could tell yourself that you know now, if you can go back and tell them, what would you tell them? And it was a listener that said, people show you who they are immediately. You just have to open your eyes, you know? Yeah, there's a, I think there's, it's my Angelou quote, the first time someone shows you who they are, believe them. Yeah, definitely. I think we often think like, oh, maybe they won't really be like, no, people pretty much show you there. So pay attention.

That's a good one. I think that's a really good question. So, okay, you think good luck with the casual dating thing. You got this. I think it's just your mind. Just let yourself be present, pay attention. It's fun. Cattle dating, you get into it.

That's all I ever do now. Cache, I'm dating. I'm casually dating. Okay, awesome to see you, minus six. You too, get better, please. I know it's sick. It does, I am better. At a hundred percent.

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