Sex With Emily - Opening Up the (Back) Door to Anal Pleasure

Episode Date: August 8, 2015

August is Anal Sex Month and in this show, Emily is ushering in the season with special guest author, sexologist and anal sex expert Dr. Charlie Glickman!  Dr. Charlie offers expert insight on everything from anal anatomy to buttplug tips to how to locate and effectively stimulating the prostate. He and Emily clear up common misconceptions and straighten out negative stigma surrounding back-door play, and even get into the hot new topic of pegging! How do you bring it up to your partner? What are the ideal positions to make pegging work? Plus, Dr. Charlie walks you through the necessary steps to take to execute the perfect prostate massage! Whether you’re just starting out or are looking to take your rear-end game to the next level, tune in to this Sex With Emily podcast to get the skinny on everything anal.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Hey, happy anal sex month. In honor of this very sexy time of year, I have Dr. Charlie Glickman in the studio. Charlie is a renowned sexologist and sex coach, plus he's pretty much the expert on all things prostate play. So hold on to your seats. It's going to be a good one.

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again because you want to miss it, right? Dr. Charlie? Hi Dr. Charlie. Such a pleasure to be here. It is so glad you're here. Thank you. It's been like you've been on the show in the past, probably three years ago, in San Francisco, and we're both in San Francisco. I've known you for a while. It's true. And you're just your your anal career is just taken off. It's really impressive. I see you out of the conference. Speaking of which, I got to talk about she, sexual health ex-boyfriend, we're both going to be there. It's going to be September 18th of 20th in New York City and we are giving away free tickets. So email me feedback at sexwithmme.com and tell me why you want to go. Each, we're giving away two tickets per winner.

So do that. And don't you think you were the last, I mean, they're fun, right? I've been in both of them. I've been in both of them. Like, what does people come in? It's like, they learn, like, what are you teaching? Oh, it's the last. I'll be talking about prostate play.

But there's workshops, there's vendors, there's folks to talk to, community groups are there. It's a fun, fun time. It is a good time. And I'll be giving the keynote. And so yeah, come see us there. I get to see you at all the conferences. But we never get to sit here and really get into everything.

And you're in LA now, which I love, because you're teaching two workshops, which sound pretty friggin amazing. They are gonna be fun. August 20th, people can find out more of the details on your website. charlakelyckman.com and also makesexeasy.com. I like makes, that's your new URL, right?

Make sex easy? Yeah, that's my coaching page. I love it, where you coach, you do everything. So there's one in August 25th, I would house our Hollywood. No, that's not me. No, why does it house our, oh that's mine. That's yours.

Sorry. What's going on here? I'm teaching an anal sex workshop. Sorry, I don't want to trump your thing. Oh, you are. I'm August 25th from 8 to 10. Mine is called Bacter Basics. And if you want to go to this workshop, check it out. All of our workshops have been great. I wasn't even getting to my workshop right now, but since I messed up, I will RSVP to hhrsvp at lvlfp.com, Larry Flan Productions.com. And that's great, because people show up and it's like intimate people are like, I'm not going to go to anal sex workshop, but you get people to go to your workshops. And I mean, yours are hands-on craziness, love that. And there's the two you're teaching here, August 8th. 7th. August 7th.

Okay, August 7th. There's two. August 7th at 7 to 10 p.m. in Santa Monica, awesome anal sex, and that one includes a live demo of anal massage, which is everything you need to know to get your partner warmed up before doing other fun stuff. And then on the 8th to 30 to 530, also in Santa Monica, embodied consent, which is all about how you can feel into your, yes, your know and your maybe so that you can have the best sex you possibly can. And information is all on my website. Okay. Cool. And we're going to get more into embodied consent later. But I want to get into your hands on workshops. So tell me what you're teaching people to this workshop how to warm their part, or men and women,

how to wear them in sex. Absolutely. So, to break down this workshop for me. So 90% of great anal sex is in your hands. And that doesn't mean that that's 90% of the time you spend having anal sex. But if you can get your partner warmed up with your hands, then everything else is golden. So that's the most important part.

And one of the things that I hear from men, from women, people who have tried anal sex and have said that it just didn't work, they say, oh, my partner went too fast. It was painful. Or I didn't know what I was doing. And my partner started saying that it hurt. You got to warm your partner up. It's just like stretching before you work out at the gym.

Exactly. I know. And I feel like there's so many who are like, oh, I had a bad experience once. I was drunk. There's someone stuck in me and I know Lou, but it hurt. And then they sent, you know, forever, they write off anal sex. Oh, that's terrible. Right. Exactly. So that's you're kind of rewiring their brains and telling them that can actually be a really pleasant experience. Exactly. And the reason why I do the live demo workshops is I can tell you to slow down, and maybe you'll slow down from a 10 to a 7. But I want you at a 3.

Okay. And so by demonstrating it, people can actually, I'm just gonna demonstrate. What are you going to do to have a model? So I've got a model on the massage table. Naked? Naked, and I've got gloves on my hands.

I've got some lube on my hands and I'm demonstrating External massage techniques and then internal how to get your fingers inside in a way that feels good Okay, I'm for men and what is your model a woman? This time, but it changes. It just depends on who's available So it's the same then it's the same the anal anatomy is the same for people of any gender It's the same then. It's the same. The anal anatomy is the same for people of any gender. So the basics are the same. It's just the question of what you do with all the parts.

I have to come to one of your workshops. You really should. It'll be fine. I know. I can't believe I have it. I think it's great all the work that you're doing, Charlie. I mean, your book. Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure.

Because I feel like this is really like the time for some reason. I feel like everyone's, actually you you're gonna help me answer some questions You have some let's have fun listeners at the end everyone wants to know about Pagging and prostate playing You know, so I just feel like it's it's in the ether. Yeah, it's a lot. This is your time. Well, and you're the king of it That's lovely. Can I put that on my resume? Yes, fantastic. Yeah, I just found you king. I excellent Now, but there there's so many nerve endings. And if you know what you're doing, you can make anal play feel awesome. But if you don't know what you're doing,

it can be painful, it can be uncomfortable. I've talked to couples that nearly broke up because of the pain that they were having around it. Well, one of the problems is people copy what they see in porn. And in porn, they do all of their warm-up before they turn the cameras on. They use lube, they just put it in before they get on set. So learning to have sex from watching porn

is like learning to drive from watching a car chase movie. Someone's gonna get hurt. That is great. That's a great way to put it. No, I always say the same thing. It's like you really shit me. It's okay, no problem with porn, but just don't technically learn how to do it, which is why so people are writing off anal sex and not having a good time.

But do you really think, even if they go to your workshop and teach them everything, do you think anal sex is for everyone? No. No, there's nothing that works for everybody, not when it comes to sex, not when it comes to food, but a lot more people would enjoy it if they knew what they were doing. And it's funny, I've talked with a lot of my coaching clients who have said, oh, I don't like it, I try to once it wasn't any good,

and then they learned how to do it right, and all of a sudden they're a fan. Right, they become a fan after because they're like, so, so, I wanna know, like, what, walk me through, like I just said, like, walk me through the workshop, but like, yeah, how do you do it? How do you teach you how to warm up? Can you explain it without like,

I know we can't unless Madison wants to get to the table and be a model right now, but you're not prepared. Okay, cool. We've got some massage candles. We do have the massage candles. They're not for interleases, but yeah. But what are the misconceptions

and what do you kind of do about? Okay, well, I always start off with the anatomy because if you don't know the landscape, you're not going to know how to get there. And there's some useful things to know. Like a lot of people don't realize that the anus, it tightens up when you get stressed out. Like think about when a cat or a dog gets scared and they tuck their tail under to protect

themselves. This is why people who are stressed out all the time, we call them tight asses. It's literally true. But it doesn't matter where the stress is coming from. If you've had a bad day at work, you've been stuck in traffic, you are worried about it hurting, you're going to tighten up, and that's going to make it uncomfortable, and then it tightens up more, and then it becomes painful. So I always start off talking about the anatomy so that people can understand how to do the relaxation. The second thing is when I talk about anal play, I'm not talking about anal intercourse. That's fun stuff, but there's all kinds of things you can do with your hands,

you can do with toys. So if you are giving your partner a blowjob and you're tickling around the outside with your finger, in my book, that that is still anal sex because it's sex that includes the anus. Right, okay. So one of the things that will make it easier is take anal intercourse off the table for the first couple times, no pressure. The more pressure you have on a goal, the harder it is to get there. It's true. It's absolutely true. The more you release, the more the pressure, I mean, there are so many, I mean, I'm just going to say heterosexual. I mean, I do hear it from a lot of women.

They're like, there's so much pressure. My partner, he's pressuring me. I don't want to do, you know, and it becomes like this whole thing in the relationship. It's the last thing they want to do. The way men are, or anyone's asking for it, if you don't want to do it, because someone's had a bit of experience, or it's a bit of people are afraid of it.

Yeah. And that happens with... So much fear. And that happens with any kind of sex, but like I said, when you're stressed or when you're scared, you tighten up. And that leads you to. So did you feel like relaxing, like breathing exercises? Yeah, I teach some breath work exercises

to help them relax. I teach them some external massage techniques. There's all kinds of things you can do externally. Your fingers and your hands are some of your most sensitive sex order. So where do you see, because I always say, just don't, I start with your fingers, just in the shadowing around, they need to use lube. But on I know. I can teach you about a dozen different massage techniques.

Wow. This is going to be quite a lot here. And I can't really explain it. I can't really explain it. I know, you've got to see it. So they can check out your they should they get your book Come to your one your workshops and it's all on your website. Okay, so my question. Well, let's go we're gonna get more Into anal play, but I want to go back to first of all

How did you even get into this field? How did this become your specialty because I know we met in San Francisco and you're working a good Vibrations as a sex educator and and then this has become your passion, your work, life work. Well, I have to give credit where credit is due. My book partner, Aisla and Merzian, she was one of my co-workers at Good Vibrations, and it was her idea to write the book on prostate play, because she noticed that we had all kinds of books

and videos about the G-Spot, and there wasn't anything about the prostate. So she started writing it, and then I got on board a couple of months later, maybe about four or five months. And the more I talked with people about it, whether it was clients, whether it was just folks at workshops, the more I realized that here's this untapped pleasure potential that folks just don't know about. So when I became a somatic sex educator,

a sexological body worker is another word for it. I do hands-on sex skating. Yeah, I wanna talk about, I was gonna talk about the somatic sex work. Can you explain that to people? I know they, I mean, explain what it is, somatic sex educator, a lot of people don't know what that is. So what I do is I teach people how to be present

in their bodies when they're turned on. A lot of people, when we get aroused, we tune out, we check out, we're not really present, you know, we fantasize. I don't think there's anything wrong with fantasy, but when you are so focused on the movie in your head that you're not paying any attention to your partner, that can be a problem. Right. Other voices are the negativity, negative thoughts, criticisms, all of that. All of that. So I use a lot of different techniques to teach people how to stay present in their bodies, how to identify their desires, how to tell their partner what they want, how to ask for what they need.

There's a lot to it. So this is your coaching that you do most. So you work with couples and individuals, or is it mostly like couples that come in? Both. Both. I do a lot of work with individual and couples. And sometimes one person in a couple will come to see me and then the partner decides, oh, wait a minute,

this is actually doing some good here. I want to come to. So what, okay, so tell me about, can you give me an example of a couple that comes in and walk me through the process? Sure. Well, let's see. So lately I've been getting a few different clients who are,

you know, women in their 40s or 50s or 60s, you know, their kids are out of the house. You know, maybe they've never been happy with their sex life or maybe it used to be great, but they've just gotten tired doing the same thing over and over and over again. And they want to explore something new. And it's, it can be safer to do that with someone who's not your partner because it's not about me. I can totally focus on them and we can figure out, you know. Give me an example.

So you're doing hands-on like with them? Well, so there's a whole progress. I know there's so much. But before we even get to the hands-on work, you know, there's communication, there's boundaries, but like one of the techniques, one of the modalities I do is called pleasure mapping, which is literally trying lots of different hand massage. I stay fully closed on wearing gloves, but I am doing different kinds of erotic massage, and they're telling me as they experience it, on a scale of one to ten, how good does

this feel? And then I can say to them, oh, you know, you really like very firm pressure on your clitoris, or you like massage on your outer labia, or on the head of your cock, or whatever it is. And then they can go home and tell their partner, oh, what I want you to do is ABC. Wow. You know, imagine what it would be like if more women could say to their partners, I really like firm circles on my G spot and light tickles on my clitoris at the same time. Or whatever it is. And it's so funny, good morning because we always talk about communication on the show, but you're really taking it to the next level really because I just say, you know, spend

time masturbating. And even if they do that, they know how they orgasm. It's not so easy with a partner because it's a whole different thing. They're not alone in the room and doing with their toys or their faces or whatever they do. And it's much more challenging for them because it actually feels different too

when you're with a partner. It's very different with another person. Right. And part of what I teach in that language, and I teach them how to put into words so that they can talk about it with a partner. Do they tell their partners that this guy is like, probably my labia, this massage, and partners are down with it.

Okay. Well, you know, not all of them are. I'm sure. I'm sure they're like, who is this guy? Yeah, but, you know, I'm also happy to talk with partners if they need reassurance. You know, we can have a phone call, we can meet in person or over Skype, and I can talk to them about what I do if they want to sit and watch a session and check it out. They're welcome to do that. Right. You know, I, I don't want anybody to keep secrets, but I also respect people's privacy. Yeah, because this is like a major one. But I get it. So so when it comes in and you're doing all this

stuff and then you bring her to orgasm sometimes, right. But that so with, with what I do, the orgasm isn't the goal. It's the learning is the goal. So sometimes there's an orgasm, sometimes there isn't. But what makes it a successful session is if someone can walk out of the room and they've learned something new. And so I've had clients who I have a client

who had never had never had an orgasm. I was just going to ask that. And she And, you know, she was able to learn how to have an orgasm through our work together. And once she did, we stopped working because that was her goal. If she had come up with another goal, then we could have continued working together. But the orgasm is not the, she had never had one in her life. She had had not with a partner. She'd been able been able to buy herself see this is the things that you have in her course of their actually no no no no I've been so many I mean even yesterday I was like I don't want to say it is like working with someone she was like oh like hey I've never had that's my con I've never had it with her I've never

had it with partner what do I do you know and so so you actually but by not having in her course with her I mean I guess, you were showing her, you were using your hands, you were using, and then she could take that back to her partner. Exactly. All of my work, I stay fully clothed, touches one way from me to them, and I'm wearing gloves. So there's a lot of safety built in.

Right. No, I know, of course, of course. I think you're totally about born person. I know, I know you are. I'm just saying, but that's so interesting. She never in her life. And then she figured it out. I mean, there's so many women like that. I can't like with their partner. And what do you think that is that somebody women can't do?

Think it's just because they haven't taken the time to learn. And you think it's just, they're in their heads too much. And what do you find the problem to be? There's a lot of there's not a one size fits my answer. Sometimes it's because, you know, some people's sexual desire is really idiosyncratic. Like it has to be this one thing. Sometimes it's that they don't know how to feel safe and relaxed with a partner. You know, if you're always dating jerks, then you're not going to feel safe enough to feel comfortable enough to have an orgasm.

Sometimes it's body image issues and they're worried about looking silly and, you know, their o-face and what's he gonna think. And sometimes it's religious shame. There's a lot. There's so much going on there. So you have them teased it out. And I'm sure the first sessions are kind of talking through their history and their background.

And this is such important work. Okay, so when the couples come in, how does that work? You've already, like, you're like, well, what do you desire? And then do ever you help them connect? Yeah, so they, so they're not having intercourse either. But like, for example, I might demonstrate a Rodic massage techniques and then coach the other partner through how to do it.

Because you actually have to learn how to touch. You do have to learn how to touch and talk and communicate. Oh, that's up. So, so think of me as sort of a GPS. It's like, okay, you've been doing this move for the last minute or two. Now try this other thing.

Okay, now use this other hand and explore that. So I'm guiding them through it and helping them stay connected to each other. It's fun. No, that is fun because you really have learned, so you're with someone and it's like, because everyone is different, it has different desires and needs. And so you really are present with these people and you're realizing like

what comes next because you're seeing how they're reacting and you're asking them this very like scientific way like saying one through ten how you feeling and you know where yeah it is like a GPS. And this is a really fun game you can do with a lover too is you go into it like a science lab right not the goal is just to learn and try different things out, kiss different parts of their body, tickle different places, use your different oral sex techniques. And each time you do something, ask your partner on a scale of one to 10.

10 is, oh wow, that's amazing, don't ever stop. And one is, let's put on Netflix. Where on that scale- It depends what's on Netflix, but yeah. It's true. But where is this one thing? And it doesn't mean that three is bad because the best sex happens when you ramp up and down.

It's like when you eat spicy food and then you've got some yogurt sauce, some bright sauce, some chutney. If you only add more spicy, your taste buds numb out. And the same thing, you know, do the thing that's a nine and then do the three and then If you only add more spicy, your taste buds numb out. Right. And the same thing, you know, do the thing that's a nine and then do the three and then do the seven and then do the four. You do the up and down and your partner will actually have a better orgasm. So, because you're building and building and so we are so, I mean, I always say that

two people have just go so much slower than you think, but it's even, that's interesting the up and the down and up and the down. Because that is what is the hottest thing. But I think that we're so wired that we're going to lose it, that it's going to go away. I'm so hurt out and so close, I'm so close, and then teaching people that you can keystay in that equilibrium and that balance and go up and down. It's like a roller coaster. It's like everybody's taking on these courses.

I'm coming. I want to come take one. It is like a roller coaster. Yeah, up and down. It's much more fun. So yeah, I do a lot of work with that and I love working couples. It's really fun. I'm sure you are like You probably mean can you give me example of a couple who came in with like a and left with like

Be like they came in like we haven't been down I'm sure you have couples who have been together for a while sex. I've got a little stale or they don't connect anymore or she's never had orgas orgasm. Or they're just doing the same old... Right, same old in and out. And actually I had a couple recently come in. They were really interested in trying prostate massage. They'd never done it before. They'd read about it, and she was super, super nervous.

She was just worried about hurting him. And so the same thing, he was on the table and I talked her through step-by-step, okay, now you're going to do this, now you're going to do that. And they emailed me about a week later saying, oh wow, we tried this at home for the first time last night and it was awesome. And they wouldn't have known what to do before. Is that the kind of thing that you have to, like it's hands on because you have to kind of see it to teach it, like you can? For some people, you know, if you're someone who, if you can read a cookbook and then make the recipe, I can't.

Yeah, I'm in trouble with that. But some people really need the hands-on work. Other people can read a book or read a website. So it's nice to have different options. So prostate massage for men. I mean, there is such a stigma where a lot of men, you know, I'm always saying like, try it. Like, what if it's the best thing you've ever experienced in your life and you're going

to die and you never experience, you know, what if you have the most amazing or I always say, what if you're on your deathbed and you find them like, who's going to be on their deathbed and you're a prostate massage, you never know. And it feels amazing. But, you know, there is the stigma and think it's because they're gay or they think it'll make them gay. It'll make them whatever. They have no idea about these sensations they can feel. And now I'm wondering, I know that again, it's not the same for everybody.

Would you say that most men, though, that you have had pleasure from this, or is there any men who are like, nope, you did it Charlie, because you're the guy. Like, if I wanted to part, if I was a guy and I wanted to, I'd go to you. But I'm sure, I mean, are there any men who are like, nope, doesn't feel like I didn't work? You know, there's definitely guys who it doesn't work for. But the thing that I always want to tell men is that where your nerve endings are, that's what kind of sex feels good to you.

Who you want to have sex with, that's your sexual orientation, and those two things are not the same thing. Exactly. Just like who you like to eat dinner with is different from what foods you like. It's always about sex and food for me. Right. It has no totally make sense though. I get it. Yeah. And the thing is thing is too is that when we wrote the book,

the ultimate guide to prostate pleasure, we surveyed over 200 people, men and partners asking them about their experiences. And we found that, you know, the fear of, is this, does this mean something about my sexual orientation, was one of the big worries that kept guys from trying it? And the interesting thing is that men who experience anal massage, who receive it, become better givers because you know what it feels like. You know, I mean, why would you, if you went to a spa?

Could you become better givers, sexually? Yeah. Well, because, you know, men who have never received penetration, sex happens outside your body. And it's only when you receive penetration that you realize, oh, I can be super turned on really into my partner and still need lots of foreplay. And so you become a much more patient giver. And so the partners of men, especially women, say that, wow, now that we've done this,

he's much more aware of my needs before we have intercourse. And it's just made his sex life much better. So. And so it's explained to me the pros, I mean, the pros to me, which I was with men, is it the kind of thing where it's just, just be people who look, let's say, pretend people

just heard about it, but they don't even get it. Like, is the kind of thing where it's just, just be people who look, let's write pretend people just heard about it, but they don't even get it. Like it's the kind of thing where, you know, if you're starting out, you would just recommend that, you know, a partner does it to their partner, you know, that two partners are together or they kind of work it into their, their love making or it's a standalone act or, you know, they're using toys and how would you suggest people start?

Well, let me stay out or start off by saying, how I don't want anyone to start. Perfect. I don't want anyone to surprise their partner with any penetration. Never. It goes both ways. Man, women across the board. Never.

We don't want anyone to be surprised, right? Because that's just no fun. I think prostate massager is easier when it's partnered because it's kind of hard to reach on yourself. If you're going to do it solo, use a toy. Use like which toy, like the narrows? The narrows is a really good one. It's a hands-free prostate massageer. I'm a big fan. You can also use a dildo. As long as it's more than about four or five inches long, it'll reach the prostate. Okay, so you're saying recommend with the partner though. Yeah,

it's a little bit easier with the partner. Yeah, okay. And you know, there's all the external stuff. I talk about it in the book and in my workshops and all of that. But once you have a finger inside, the prostate, it's actually a lot like the G spot for women. So that's what you always say. It's a male G spot. Yeah, you insert a finger curl it towards the belly button and you're looking for something about an inch across. It feels like a ripe plum. So soft and firm at the same time. The tricky thing about finding the prostate is that it gets bigger when you get turned on because it fills up with fluid and that's actually where semen comes from, part of semen, the fluid. So if your partner isn't turned on enough yet, you might be in exactly the right spot, but you might not

feel it because it hasn't gotten bigger. Right. That's less true for older men because prostates just get bigger as men get older. 50% of men by age 50 have an enlarged prostate. Okay, right for that. So, yeah, so if you're with a guy who's 25, you might need to get him super turned on. Like him and blowjob.

Exactly, like blowjob. Would you even suggest having sex first? Sure. Okay, have sex and maybe then- Blowjob, watch up dirty movies, dirty talk. So have a mosaic. Have a mosaic later, just get him turned on. Get him turned on. Okay, have sex. So, you know, watch up dirty movies. So, have a trajectory. Just give them turned on. Okay. And then, and then on his back or on or face down, whatever feels easier. I like, I like on his back because you can do face to face. Oh, on his back. And you can see each other. Okay. And but if you're with a guy who's in

his 50s, his baseline size is probably bigger So you might not need to get him as turned on. Okay, so let's talk about younger men though So you're giving blowjob. He's turned on and then he stays on his back Right, and so you know you've got your glove on keep things nice and clean You've got your lube on your fingers All that all that stuff about finding the prostate so when you get your finger inside It's about three matter which finger I like the index finger because it's more flexible, because you're going to be there for a little while. So if you insert your

finger and just aim up towards the belly button, and you'll know you're on the right spot, if you can feel it on your fingertip, but if you're not sure, sometimes for guys, it feels utterly amazing, as soon as you touch it, and it's like, oh wow, that's perfect. Sometimes the sensation he'll get is like he needs to go to the bathroom. That sounds just like. Just like the G-Spaught.

If you get that sensation that means you're on the right spot, back the pressure off about 20%. Okay. Also like the G-Spaught. Right. And then once you've found the prostate, a three really good move, you can do the cum hither move,

which is like the G-Spot. You can do circles, and circles, you can do big circles across the entire gland, or little circles just on one spot. And then the third stroke that you can also try is like in and out motion, but maintaining contact. So like, so you stay in. So like, like a up, like maintaining upward pressure

while you slide in and out. You can't see this on the broadcast, but we're doing hand gestures as well. Right, exactly. We should take picture now. Okay, and so then how long would it usually, and then you get the same thing, relax breathing. Yeah.

And then they could have explosive, the organ is a different kind of, how would you explain it? So I know it's so hard. I can explain our character. So one thing I do wanna say is that his penis might not be fully heart. Sometimes with anal penetration, he may lose his erection,

and that's probably because the muscles that trap blood inside the penis relax when you also relax the anus. So even if he's soft, if he's having a good time, don't worry about it. Okay, you could tell if he's having a time., don't worry about it. Okay, and you can tell he's having a good time. Yeah, if he's like time for Netflix, you're like, okay. Yeah, but if his eyes are rolling back in his head and he's saying, oh wow, that's amazing.

Don't worry if he's not hard. Okay, and you'd recommend starting with fingers and a glove. Not toys. Okay. Got it. Okay, so that's really helpful because I always talk about it. And I think that you just gave great detail explanation of it and when we come back we're going to get more into anal sex but I have a quick

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So how did you feel after your kegels were like, kegels are great. Well, first of all, I gotta say that app, I mean, it worked great, because it reminded me every day to do it. Yeah, it pops up, time for go keg. And you've gotta do it like how many times in a week to level up, like five times within a week

before you can level up to the next woman. I admit there were some weeks I forgot. Just like everything everyone, don't be hard yourself, right? Yeah, but the thing that a lot of men don't know is that we have PC muscles too. Right. And it's the muscle in women. It's the muscle that causes the vagina to contract

during orgasm. In men, it's the muscle that pumps to cause ejaculation. So the stronger your PC muscle, the harder you ejaculate, the longer your orgasms. Because if your muscle can only squeeze five or six times before it's exhausted, that's how long your orgasm is. If your muscle can squeeze 20 or 30 times before it's exhausted, your orgasms are going to last four or five times as long.

So you really felt you, because my friend told me he did, he's like, I got to level 20. I know one other person and he's like, oh my God. And not only with my organ, he's like, my ejaculation shot across the room like I was 20 years old. Yeah, absolutely. And this is one of the things that, especially men you hit, you've 35, 40 years old, you know, just like, you know, other parts of your body,

you need to work out in order to keep them in shape. Right, people don't realize that. They're like, you're doing your muscle, doing your abs, but the pelvic floor, I mean, it can drop. I mean, you have to strengthen it because there are so many problems later in life, and you already probably, starting to have problems, you wouldn't even know where related to that. And the thing I like about Kegel Camp, the app is that it reminds you to relax, because one of the problems that can happen is if you

strengthen the muscle and strengthen it and strengthen it, and you don't relax it, you can actually cause spasms. Right. Exactly. People if they don't do it correctly. Yeah, so you have to relax the muscles. Do you still do them? Uh, I admit that I haven't. I know, I'm doing them now. Well, no, yeah, me too. Well, this, this, this, um, intensity, the permol thing, I got it.

I'm like, oh my god, okay, I gotta try this because I was really good for all of this doing the weights, the keg of balls, you could put inside it. And I did, I mean, I felt like my orgasms were so much like when you start working out every day, you're like, feel amazing for three months. But then I stopped, did. I felt like my orgasms were so much. It's like when you start working out every day, you're like, feel amazing for three months. But then I stopped. I did feel like my orgasms were stronger. I'm like, wow, this is another level.

Because you guys lie there in your bed, and it feels so good, because it's literally, you don't have to do anything. And then it has, like, an eye feel that I can orgasm much quicker, much more intensely now. It does last longer, and it just feels like it's a fuller, like, geez, blended orgasm. And it's like, Jay, I, we're always learning, right? And our business, we're never done. If we were done, like, you know, we would just be...

Oh, there's always something you learn about sex. Right. I know. What's the latest thing you've learned about sex? Oh, that's... I have to think about that. I know. Well, you're, you know, you're, you're, you're on the cutting edge, though. Because it's always something. It is, right? Because you're on the cutting edge, though. Because it's always something. It is, right? Because you're on the cutting edge. So if we get, let's get more into the anal sex thing here now.

Come back to anal sex. Let's go back to anal sex month. So happy anal sex month. All right. People are like, why do you need anal sex month? How did it start? Was it a good vibes thing? I think it was good vibes.

I love it. I love it for that. Well, because May is masturbation month. Exactly. We did a whole thing on that. So what's the other big sex act that is super popular? Lots of people do it, but nobody wants to admit it. Right.

No, you want to admit it or talk about it or they have fear around it. So, do you think that a lot of couples can benefit from exploring anal play and if so, how? I think people could, well, yes. I think people can. And I think one of the big reasons is that, you know, we're used to thinking only of this one part of our bodies as our sex organ. So I think it's great when you can explore the sexual sensations of your entire body, your skin, your breasts, your pecs, your nipples, whatever. And the ass, the anus in particular, is this section where like people have so much stigma, so much fear around it.

Taboo. And if you're not present in your ass, you're not fully present in your body. By definition, because here's a part of your body that you're just not tuned into. So even if you don't find it sexually fun or erotically fun, just being able to be aware of what's going on in that part of my body increases your ability to feel pleasure. Right. It's like another place that you can feel pleasure on your body.

Absolutely. And I'm like, I say sex is expansive. Like, why should you live yourself just to having a literal orgasm or a g-spot or like, what if you could have all this other pleasure? Lots of options. So many options. So yeah, I'm a big fan. I mean, obviously, but I do, but I do think that even if it's not your main focus,

just being able to be aware of the sexual sensations that you might have there can be really intimate and can be really exciting. And what about tips for women for experiencing ALSACs and like, what would you say, like, relaxing, but also not orgasms? Like, I've had a few women, like, with their porn stars on the show,

and they're like, I always have, I know other women do too. Do too. Have orgasms and during sex. So here's the thing, some people can orgasm just from anal play. Some people need g-spot or literal play at the same time. That doesn't mean that one person is better than the other.

Right. But, you know, I actually, I have a problem. There's no hierarchy, like, you're better because you can have an anal. Whatever works for you. But also, you know, I've talked to a couple of women who say that they get better g-spot stimulation through anal play Yeah, especially anal intercourse they get better g-spot play so you know if somebody says oh I easily orgasm from anal sex it might just be that you know she found the right angle to hit her g-spot it might just be that you know she found the right angle to hit her G spot.

Right. Yeah, so you can also play with that and that can also be affected by the shape and size and curvature. It's not as if we say the way we're built it, or the penis that you're with, or your body, right? Maybe the way your G spot is. I met a guy once whose penis had a really strong upward curve and his girlfriend loved it because it was perfect for her G spot. Right. She was a keeper. But then if they were in Doggy Style, it would miss her G-spot. So you really get to play with these kinds of things. And people should be playing with these things. Yeah. You know, like the couples who come to you, we're doing the same thing.

I mean, that's just what amazed me. That's why you and I exist is to help people experience different things. And some, like I said, some people can orgasm from anal play on its own. But if you need a vibrator on yourit at the same time, go for it. You know, this is what I was the same thing I was talking to when yesterday, she said, I have not had sex ate up. I have male to orgasm with a partner. I'm like, okay, you along with 70% of, you know, women, and if the 30% who can, it's not

every time, but what's wrong with, you know, God, we have a, what's wrong with using your, your vibrator on your clit cl- be like, nothing at all. God, people shouldn't forget about it. And, you know, and I've talked to women who have real specific sexual patterns. Like, it has to be exactly this kind of touch in this position, or it just doesn't work for me. And other folks who, you know, they have a lot more options.

And that just seems to be how different bodies are wired. Or, but do you think it's because they just believe they have certain, like if you work with people and you're like, let's expand this. Let's see if you can have it this way. And they go back to where they are. Yeah. And it doesn't mean they don't enjoy it.

Nothing wrong with it. It doesn't mean they don't enjoy the other stuff. But it may just be the way their bodies are wired. Right. OK. So couples who are just starting out, let's say they're like, OK, we want to try it. What would you recommend, like, toy?

What would you say they start with some butt plugs and loob before our fingers first? Or let's say we're like, okay, we want to try it. What would you recommend, like, toy? What would you say they start with some butt plugs and loob before our fingers first? Or let's say we did the fingers. So we did, so we got fingers for that. That fingers first. Yeah, I think butt plugs are lots of fun, especially. So many now. There's lots of them, they're hands free.

So you can combine them with other kinds of sex, super easy. I mean, you can wear them while you're sitting in the car. I'm wearing one right now. Are you? No. But I was doing my keg lecture at now. Yeah, while you're sitting in the car. I'm wearing one right now. Are you? No. But I was doing my keg lecture at now. Yeah, you wear my sitting in the car. But why?

Why would you tell people to wear it while they're sitting in the car? Because it's fun. It feels good. If it turns you on, although I will just give folks a warning. If you do want to wear a butt plug when you go out in public, like maybe you're going out for a romantic Valentine's Day dinner or whatever, bring a plastic baggy

so that you have somewhere to put your plug if you need to duck into a bathroom and take it out. I understand that. Okay, but let's go back to the couple of things. Your purse is not the place for that. No, no, no, you want to throw away your purse if you throw it in there. But let's just start about like using a butt plug. Different kinds of like vibrating, there's silicone, there's big, there's small.

Like what would you... So start off small. The difficulty with plugs, two things about butt plugs that folks don't know. One is that the neck of the plug, that has to rest in the anal canal, which is about an inch and a half long. So the bulb has to be, the neck has to be at least an inch long so that the bulb goes all the way inside. Otherwise it's going to fall out. And if the bulb is not big enough, it's also going to fall out. So if you want something small, check out one of the stainless steel plugs by enjoy, because they can make the stainless steel really skinny. Right, okay.

The silicone plugs, if they make them that skinny, they tear. Okay, and you guys can all get a good, go to my website, sexamma.com, click on the Good Vibes banner, use code Emily. I think you get 20% off of any plug. So enjoy, those are good ones. Those are good ones. And would you say couple share their pup plugs?

If you want to share plugs, you can do that. You've got a couple of options. One is put a condom on it so that you've got a nice clean surface. Or the stainless steel or silicone ones, you can wash with soap and water, and then put in a top rack of a dishwasher. If you don't have a dishwasher, wash your toy,

and then put it in boiling water for five minutes. Because you do want to be careful about... Absolutely. I have like toy cleaner and stuff, but even sometimes I'm like, I don't know. Yeah, I put it into this washer, although if you... Wait, which toys is silicone or steel? I did not know that you could put this... Yeah, so we could.

But plugs, but not like... Still do. As long as there's no vibrator. Okay, got it. But one thing is if you put your toy in the dishwasher, make sure you're the one to empty the dishwasher. I had this problem with my housekeeper. I told this on the show a few weeks ago. She came over and I was they weren't in the dishwasher, but they were on the drawing rack. And it was a little embarrassing that I forgot to take them off. She didn't touch them. She put them in a bowl. Okay, I got some questions for my listeners. Would you mind helping me answer?

Thank you. Because you're the man to do so. Okay, thank you everybody for emailing me feedback at sexwithmme.com. And you guys have been so freaking awesome lately because all I ask is that you tell me how old you are and where you live and also if you want to tell me how you listen to the show. So thank you everyone for doing that. Except for Rick didn't do it our next one. But that's okay Rick, we're going to answer your question. Anyway, Emily, recently tried pegging, but if not yet tried prostate massage,

both my female partner and I really enjoyed the pegging. However, we are not sure how to do the peace spot massage or how it should feel if it's done correctly. I assume gloves should be worn for safety. Are there any toys that could help us similar to G-Spot toys? Thanks, Rick. So first we should talk about pegging

because a lot of people don't know what pegging is. So let's just explain, or I guess this is the next question. But yeah, let's talk about pegging real quick. So pegging is. So let's just explain, I guess that is the next question. But yeah, let's just talk about pegging real quick. So pegging is when women wear a strap on doldo with a man on the receiving side. The word was coined by Dan Savage about 12, 13 years ago maybe.

They know he coined it also. Yeah, he actually did a survey. He asked people, he came up with three words and asked people to vote. And pegging was what won the vote. So. It's a good one. Thank you, Dan.

Thank you, Dan. Because we needed that word. Totally. And so, all right. So if you're already doing pegging, you've the vote. So it's a good one. Thank you, Dan. Thank you, Dan. Because we needed that word. Totally. And so, all right. So if you're already doing pegging, you've got the warm up down. If you enjoy it, you've got that stuff sorted out. So a couple things you can do with prostate play with pegging. One is get a curved dildo, or a dildo

with a really prominent bulb or head. And then angle the curve so that it is angled up towards your belly button. So if it's curved up, that's good for face to face. If it's curved down, that's good for doggy style. Okay. And your partner, have her as she's thrusting, kind of aim her thrusts up towards your belly button.

So rather than going directly in and out, get a little bit of an angle on with the toy. Okay. Right. So you may need to play around with different positions. Which toys again would you recommend for the same ones? Well, any dildo with a curve. Okay.

Any that you like? I like the charm, which is made by Pleasure Works, sold through good vibrations. Okay. It's got a nice curve to it and it is smooth. You want a toy that's nice and smooth for you, I'll play. But really, any G-spot toy will work, because it's it is smooth. You want a toy that's nice and smooth for you'll play. But really any G-spot toy will work because it's got that curve.

We're out with the vibrations though, just a dildo. Men like vibrations too. Absolutely. Yeah, right. Look at all the vibrations. Absolutely. Vibrations fun. And then the one other thing I'd recommend for pegging with a prostate play is she can also put her hand on like your lower belly right above the pubic bone and kind of press down towards the bed and that'll kind of squeeze the prostate down towards the so squeezing from the outside and the inside just like these are such good tips. Yeah, try that. Let us know how that goes. Yeah,

let us know Rick. I wonder how it goes. Okay, we've got another one. Dear Emily, my fiance and I enjoy partaking and pegging, except I need major help in figuring out how the heck you pull it off correctly and I'm not talking about the strap on either. We of course star inspirations from porn and the loads of kinky stuff on the internet, but when push comes to shove literally, I feel like I need a flip chart to figure out the various insertion positions for each position we get ourselves into. Why is my buy-in body not go effortlessly into the sexy, thrusting positions I see various vixen performing on their men and movies? I feel like a floppy fish or whale trying to figure out how to move my body to get the

strap on in his hole. Is there a good resource for a girl like me to figure out body positions and how to center myself for the best possible pleasure of my man? This is not something I can talk to anyone else about, so any tips or advice is appreciated. Oh, much love, strapless in Seattle. Oh wait, she said just kidding location wise, I'm actually in the Bay Area, because I was gonna say you're now in Seattle.

I just moved from Oakland to Seattle last week. She's 28 years old, but Charlie does see clients too. So if you're just gonna talk about this after, but you can see clients everywhere, right? Cause you do skydiving. Anyway, she's funny, but she's not in Seattle. Okay, anyway, female 28. Okay, so here's a couple of things.

One is you're going to have to play with different positions because your body's shape, your partner's body's shape, the dildo you're using. So I can't be super specific, but first thing, put a pillow under his hips to lift him up a little bit. That'll give you more flexibility, more options. Another really good position is for him to be on his elbows and knees, or he can stand on the bed and bend forward over the bed, and you can stand on the floor.

But you said something really important, which is that the thrusting in and out motion, that's not the natural motion for most women who are feeling sexy. And most women do more of a hip swivel figure eight kind of motion. And the thrusting in and out, you know, that's a different kind of core strength. So if you have trouble doing that for a while, to be honest, the best thing you can do is some Pilates. Oh, okay. Because it actually takes a lot of core strength. In fact, I said earlier about

how men who receive anal become better givers. A lot of women I've talked to who try pegging, discover things like, oh, now I see why my boyfriend collapses on top of her after sex because this is work. I mean, it's awesome and it's fun, but it's a lot of effort. So you're going to need to build up some core strength to be able to do that. And you know, yoga too is good. Yoga is good, but it's definitely a lot of course, string. And for the positioning, I should have mentioned this

before, I'm a big fan of the liberator pillows. Oh, I love liberator. Yeah. Because they're firm and they hold everything, you know, they hold your partner in a good position. The wedge, or do you recommend it? There's so many different. Yeah, I like the wedge actually. The ramp is also fun. It's a little big. I have the ramp. They send me the ramp. My place is so small. Like, you recommend it? There's so many different. Yeah, I like the wedge actually. The ramp is also fun. It's a little big. I have the ramp. They sent me the ramp.

My place is so small. Like, where are I going? It's like it's falling off like my. It's like hidden behind my clothes rack. But then I kept someone come over and it'll fall over. I'm like, oh, I like it. I like it. It's got the cups on it.

Anyway, okay, that's great advice. I love sex furniture. Yeah, try the wedge. Okay, we got one more question. Is there anything else with that? No. Okay, because we got to get all of our, you're the man here. I'm so glad.

Hello, I'm 21. I've been with my girlfriend for four years. I wanted to know how I could bring up Pagging to her. She will occasionally finger my back door, but she feels a little weird about it, and I don't know if she will be into it. Thanks. No name, but, you know, let's call him Mike. Okay.

Hi, let's call him Mike. Okay. Okay. So, you know, this is actually a really common question. How do I ask my partner about filling the blank? Blank. All the, right. Hi, let's call it. You're 21. Okay. Yeah, why not? So, you know, this is actually a really common question. How do I ask my partner about killing the blank? Blank. All the right.

So, one thing, a mistake I see a lot of people make is they bring it up during sex. And the reason why that's a mistake is because you're killing, if you, if your partner has any kind of negative reaction, it kills the mood and causes a big, big fight. You're better off asking the question when you're not in the middle of sex. Always. Breakfast, road trip. And actually, I like that you said road trip because when you're sitting side by side and not face to face, it can be easier to have those conversations. It's less threatening.

So while you're walking the dog together, is a good time to do it. That's a great point. Yeah. So a couple of good ways to do it. One is to say something like, oh, you know, I was listening to this podcast about Hegging and I'm really curious about it. Or I went to this website. Go to my book's website, prostitplesergye.net, and then you can say to your partner, oh,

yeah, I found this really interesting website. Have you ever thought about this? You know, what do you think about trying this thing? If they think most women, if they hadn't heard of it, they might be like, you know, because most people haven't heard of, I mean, we come from this world, but. Well, and I might say something like, you know, I was reading this website about anal play for men,

and I'm kind of curious about it. Right. And then this podcast said it would rock my world, and that had the most amazing feelings. And that can be a really good of curious about it. Right. And then this podcast that it would rock my world and I had the most amazing feelings. And that can be a really good way to do it. If she feels weird about it, then the question that, as a coach I would ask is, what about this feels weird to you? Is it that there's anal sex phobia and you're worried

about germs? Is it that you think that receiving penetration means that your gay, which is not true, we talked about that earlier, is it that you feel nervous about doing something that you don't know anything about and maybe you just need to read a book. So the question is, what is it about this that makes you uncomfortable and is there a way we can overcome that? There might not be.

Right, exactly. And that you can't convince everyone, but that's a great way to go about it. Yeah, that's my way. That's so good. You're so good, Charlie. Everyone should go see Charlie because you've got your awesome anal sex in Santa Monica. August, I, we have the date right August 7th, Friday. And then we have in the eighth is your embodied consent.

Right. Exactly. Which is all about how to feel your yes and your no. I'm going to be in San Francisco this week. I would totally go to that one. And you can find everything at makesexeasy.com or charliegliccoma.com. And you're at Charlie Glickman on Twitter, anything else? I'm on Facebook as Charlie Glickman,

so I'm easy to find there. And also on Thet Life as Charlie Glickman, so I'm very easy to try. I'm very easy to find and you should find him if you want to have better sex and communicate with the partner. And do you also, so I know you don't you don't see people over Skype or you can do Skype coaching. Yeah I do coaching talk-based coaching both in-person and over Skype so no matter where you are

in the world. Because a lot of listeners are broad right now so. In fact I had a client who was in she was an aid worker in Afghanistan. Wow. So yeah 12 and a half hours time difference. And you were helping her with whenever it's great. Good. So yeah, wherever you are. So glad you're here on the planet. Thank you so much for for being here with me. I can't wait to see you get in New York. We're going to have a blast at the Sexual Health Expo. Again, if you guys want to get ticket to it and you want to we're not flying you there. But if you get your ass to New York or even friends or family or people you know in New York, have a minute's up. It's a good time. It really is a very... There's nothing else quite like it where you can learn from leading

sex educators across the board and actually like take courses and things that you care about and learn about great products. So, okay Charlie, thank you so much. Thank you. Thank you, Madison. Thank you, Lissa. Amazing intern. Thank you everyone.

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