Sex With Emily - Oral Sex Hangups & Office Obsessions

Episode Date: June 29, 2016

On this show, Emily troubleshoots tricky topics that could either make you hot OR hold you back in the bedroom. Are you crushing on your married boss? Having trouble getting a guy to go down? Maybe your partner has a fantasy that makes you a little uncomfortable. These issues are just the tip of the iceberg of advice that Emily is dishing out on this show. With Menace’s help, she tackles a plethora of sex and relationship problems and even shares some healthy break-up tips in the process. From sex drives to penis size, real-estate porn and beyond, this podcast fires on all cylinders with love and sex advice for everyone! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and today's show we're getting into those things that gets you hot or hold you back in the bedroom. Are you struggling with your partner's rate fantasy? Can't stop thinking about your married boss? Does your lover refuse to reciprocate oral? Plus, what to do if your longtime partner just isn't getting turned on anymore? All this and more, thanks for listening. Okay, if you've listened to the show for the last couple months, you probably heard we

talk about a very unique product called the Womanizer. So here's a little refresher. The owners of the company asked if they could send me one test, which of course I agreed to, because you know, I own and review a lot of toys, and I was fairly confident I tried every product in every category around. But I was fairly confident I tried every product in every category around. But I was wrong. The womanizer was at Germany and unlike anything else on the market, it indirectly stimulates the clitoris using suction.

It looks like a sexy erythromometer. It has a silicone cylinder on the face that you place over your clitoris, kind of like how a partner might use their mouth. And while it's on, you can vary the suction and move it around to create an amazingly intense experience. In fact, most women in their focus group achieve orgasm in about one minute. That's right, a 60 second orgasm. Okay, so I tried the womanizer, and yeah, they weren't kidding.

It's amazing. The suction is adjustable, and you can position it to create so many different sensations. The womanizer is really in its own category. I suggest you check it out for yourself. The suction is adjustable and you can position it to create so many different sensations. The womanizer is really in its own category. I suggest you check it out for yourself. Go to sexwithemily.com, click on the womanizer banner for more information, and you can also buy it at our store.

So click on the shop with Emily button, and you'll love it. Thanks for listening. Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a bag on me. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand.

Oh my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sexage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here so dumb.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemely.com where you can easily subscribe to our podcast. And I'm so happy to announce that we are now on not only an iTunes, but Google

Play, SoundCloud, and Spotify. So you can listen anywhere anytime. It's so easy. And I know you're on social media all the time. And we love you. Follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat. It's all sex with Emily. And then Facebook.com slash sex with Emily, which our page is almost up to a million views, a million likes. We love it when you like us. Like me, baby. I know, it's a lot. So that's why we're gonna get your ass on Facebook Live.

Yeah. I want you to start doing some Facebook Live shows because I think people really enjoy them. So I wouldn't really work too well for when we record the podcast, but if you do like some maybe 15 minute shows where you're answering emails, I'd love to do that.

So I just planned ahead of time. Yeah. And then who cares how many people are actually watching live, but definitely because Facebook live, their Facebook is all about supporting Facebook live right now. So so many of those million people, they'll see it. Oh my god It's really cool. So we'll do that. I um, I Actually just did one for exaholics and it was really cool because they are an organization that that

Was that helps people going through breakups like X like you think about it You think like alcoholics anonymous and all of a sudden for the 12 step program because so people going through breakups Don't really have any more to turn to. You know, you kind of tie out your friends and you're talking about what a jerk he was and like, enough already, move on. We get it. But it's like a 12-step program.

So you can like learn to, you have a community of people that kind of help you move on. And we talked about sex after your ex. And should you have ex-sex, which I've been guilty of in the past. And it does hold you back. It's one of those things that's like a quick fix.

You're like, I would feel really good. It's a great connection. He's the only one who knows my body. But if you broke up with someone, there's a reason you broke up with them. This just keeps you on track. It's a cool organization. You guys should check it out.

If you're going through break up and you want some support, because it's never easy. But it was funny because he said, how do you get over break ups? One of the main things about a breakup is that you really should take time after break up to really evaluate yourself, your life, the relationship, what did you learn from it because relationships are great learning tools. You learn so much about yourself and what you want and what you like and what you don't

like in a partner. So it's important to take that time to kind of heal and then start dating again. I mean, a lot of people just want to go out and start banging people to kind of forget their ex and that doesn't always work. Did she use support it though? I used to do that. Well, yeah, you know, it was when I used to bring out people and I really went from one relationship to the next and even though I was like, I'm not going to do it, I would be, you know, a nice person and then I would start and then then I really, like, I never really yield from the last one. So this is like the one of the times that I've actually broke up with

someone and I the last year. And I've really just kind of taken it easy, kind of just think I'm spending a lot of time. I mean, I like being alone. But not really that interested. Like, you know, met some people here and there and nothing that exciting. And I feel like I'm ready now. I mean, I still, if I met someone great, but it's been great just not having that, not having a relationship and some time to focus on friends and getting my house together, my new office together. Yeah.

That's the right thing to do. You have the whole team, the office is getting better and better every time I come here. Isn't it pretty? Yeah, I love it. It's two blocks from my house, which is amazing. Awesome. I know, I could walk here, but I don't.

It's like 95 degrees, and I carry 5,000 bags with good work every day. And speaking of your house, that's where we record the infamous drunk podcast. I know. Now you're pressureing me into doing it, yeah. So. I want to do another one. That was so fun.

It was no pressure. We were a little buzzed. You guys should check that out. I think it's called the drunk podcast. Yeah. We can do it again in August. Okay, well, pick a date, because you're leaving town.

Leaving town. Which is bad. I'm going to, I believe you're not, going to Vegas three times in the next month and then I'm going to Mexico. So, It's like fun for you.

Like you need to be vaguish, like, yeah, no, no, no, no, I don't go there like go crazy and party. I mean, I'm going there and doing, I'm going to shows and stuff like that. Do they have your face in the airport like when you land or like menace

while it comes you to Las Vegas? It's back, no. In the description of my bio on my Twitter and my Instagram page, it says always in Vegas or at Disneyland. It's true. That's about it. But those are like two happy places. It's great. This is about it. But those are like two happy places.

It's great for many people. It's super fun. And they can find you at Menace. At Menace on Instagram and Twitter, easy stuff. But it's so great. Like, when I do go out to these random places, I run into sex with Emily listeners. Everybody go.

I have no idea. I know. They say, hey, Menace. Yeah, it's still crazy. Like, you know, I was in the middle of New Orleans and I just ran into sex with a me listener I know I'll be at a I'll be at a Some convention like a way event to or something. Yeah, and so many people. Yeah, the Woody show which I'm a part of

It's a podcast you can download and listen about pop culture and things like that in the news, but the The thing is like I still trip out that people actually listen. I know, I can just ask to think you're a thank you everyone. I mean, really, this is like the dream. I have to attend going to our love and fear. I love it. I never think, oh God, I gotta do a show today. I've never once thought that.

Maybe when I was sick one time, I was like, oh, do I have to do it? But I really, I still love my job and I love helping everyone. So thank you for supporting the show. And for listening, all these goddamn year have been together my longest relationships. And then the ultimate prize,

what you're gonna do, you're gonna have sex with the listener one day, right? I mean, have I ever done that? No, yeah, I will. Should we give it away or something? Like auction. Online contest. Online contest.

You can like use the way they're virginity. Yeah, sex with them. You can actually, and we'll give them a t-shirt. Yeah. Oh, the t-shirts are gonna be available. Yeah, I suffer sex with them, and all I got was this t-shirt. Yeah, I had sex with Emily and all I got We do have those t-shirts now which I've been also talking about for 10 years

Cool did I already say that it was snapchat Instagram? I said that right. It's all acts sex with Emily across the board I just want to get all that stuff out of the way. Oh, what? Tell me I'm gonna blow up your Instagram numbers right now how You've asked for it and it's finally happened. There is a bikini photo of Emily on her Instagram, Instagram.com slash sex with Emily. Boom, you just got a bunch of followers on Instagram. Thank you everyone. It was a bikini photo.

Look at you. And you're like, what the another chick, it looks like you guys are gonna make out. We did make out after that. That's the next one I'm gonna post today. So you should check that out, but my friend Anna It's funny because yeah, but it's like 800 likes on the one the next one next to it is like 300 no But yeah, I'll just do some sexy photoshoots for people all right

I'm working out look okay, wait, so wait okay? Okay, you guys at right now so you're the Beverly Hills or tell my brother was in town. He was staying at the Beverly Hills or tell DJ Khalid whatever oh, yeah, DJ Khalid Khalid, whatever. Yeah, he's from my American. Cuban. Cuban. That's why it was such a like celebrity thing at the Beverly Hills Hotel. Did you guys hobnobbin? Hobnobbin. We had a little bit of a banna there. Yeah. I mean, I didn't go check out the photo. Check out the photo. I'd say you heard about it on the podcast. Yeah do that That's awesome and we've been posting a lot of stuff there and we're also doing some giveaways if you guys want some toys because I know you do

Check it out. I like that. Thanks, man Okay, so recently we did a show called dry spells and deep throats Which was a lot about like you know expanding your sexual health knowledge, what you know about STDs and STIs, stuff like that. And then the deep throating which disturbed me. But I know a lot of people are into it. They're so into it, but we got into the deep though why we would like it, but I have a correction. I gotta make on that show.

So I got your email, your tweet, your comments, and I realize sometimes I talk a little fast, I run through information quickly, so I have a correction. In this podcast, I was describing some of the different birth control methods and mixed up the different implant birth control devices. There's the IUD, which is the intrauterine device, and the Implanon. And they're both implanted into the female body. And I'd said the IUD went into the arm, but it's not. To clear it up, IUDs like the Mrenna and the Paragard are small T-shaped devices.

They're implanted in the cervix to prevent Prandency and the implant on is a small rod about the size of a matchstick that isn't certain to a woman's arm below the skin So those are the differences between those and I'm sorry We were rushing through stuff. I'm sorry. I'm so I love you all I'm mostly 99.9% I know but it's funny because you know everyone my office takes office things which I love and so do I like people were upset You said it went into the wrong place. So I'm just telling you that was a little error on my part You can post a picture of your shoes and people will say that your shoes are tied wrong who gives a shit as long as that birth control works I don't give a fuck I always

Wasn't it was rushing through stuff and I talk fast but luckily Madison's here producer Madison will have a sign everyone's in a while that says Slow down which one do you want you want the implant or the the uterus implant? I Personally, I personally don't want either but People get you I know somebody in the that did the arm thing and yeah people really Experienced but here's a thing that I they didn't exactly it works I know somebody in the, that did the arm thing. And? Yeah. People really could experience it. They didn't have a kid. But here's a thing that I, they didn't exactly, it works.

And but the thing about it, you just got, no matter what kind of birth control you're on, this is the one thing that I want to just impart to women is that something that I didn't learn, I just did the pill, is that, and these are trickier because they stay in you longer. But if you're taking any kind of medication and you find you have some side effects,

you can always go back to your doctor and say, you know what? This isn't working for you because just because a certain pill or implant work for one of your friends, does it mean it's necessarily going to work for you because all of our bodies are different. And I feel like I wish that I had known that when I was going up, I just took the whatever pill they gave me. So, you know, hey, you're allowed to choose.

Another question is, When are you gonna get back on the pill? Because then, remember, that's when your boobs are, your boobs are gonna be- I know my boobs are, do you remember this? No, wait, you talk about all the time. But dude, you need there. And you always say that you need to get back on it.

I know, I'm not gonna go on the pill. I'm done, it's fine. I don't need to be on the pill, but my boobs were so big, I should get a pick. Okay, I'm gonna pose that picture on Instagram. I'm gonna be the next one. I'm gonna be the next one. I'm gonna be the next one.

I'm gonna be the next one. I'm gonna be the next one. Cause the guy I was dating at the time was like, I'm trying to help you get some web traffic here. Okay, I'm posting pictures on the site of my boobs. They were, I looked like my friends were like, oh my god, you got a boob job. It looks great.

I'm like, no, I didn't. I took the pill. I lost, I looked like Jessica Rabbit. I swore to God. They were like, grew to like a D or something. What? I was very lucky. I was very lucky, but I'm not. I'm just like a Jessica Rabbit. I swear to God. They were like grew to like a D or something. What I was very lucky I was very lucky but I was like a hundred pounds. Yeah, I am like yeah

Like a hundred pounds and then I'm short five foot one But they were just and they were hard and like perky and like I'm like holding my brass right now I mean they're fine now a bunch of people is seeing this one on the pill They did no, I mean and, a lot of people are like, I just got the gain weight everywhere. I didn't like it. I cried every day, but for some reason, I had the side effect of very large breasts.

Madison, what is your form of birth control? Producer Madison. Yeah. I actually, a big fan of the IUD. I've had it for three years. Which one is that again? That's the one they put in your cervix. It was, I mean, very unpleasant,

the actual process of it. So don't act like you're just gonna go in there and then go to lunch and go get your nails done, have a great rest of your day. Cause you're not, but about three to five months after, you, like, it's great, cause I've never been able to take a pill on time for my entire life.

Like, medication, anything. Like, I have to set timers, even then I'm like, eh, so birth control was awful. And I've tried everything, basically. And IUDs were the best. And it's been good for you, no side effects. Oh my God, it's been amazing. I mean, I don't know about side effects exactly.

Everyone's different. Like I have a friend whose hair started to fall out a little bit, because she had an adverse reaction. She was the thing, and they don't tell you about that. Would you feel it? I know, you don't feel it. At first, there's like a little string, and my boyfriend was like, I can feel the string gently tapping the head of my penis,

but it, like, good way? No, not a good way. It's like a little like, wierry string almost, but after a while, it like softens, and then you literally cannot feel it. I have no idea it's there. I like, forgot it was there, and had a panic attack because I thought it was supposed to be removed at three years.

It's actually five and I like, call my gynecologist. It's like, I need you to take this out of me now and they were like, sell it down five years. You can just put that so great. Anna's cool that you can take it out. Like, you can get it removed a month later, you can have a baby. My cousin, what wanted to decide that she wanted to have kids

a month after taking it out, she can see it. Wow. That's great. So you can just go hammer on for Gina for like five years. Yeah, exactly. I mean, I was on the pill for like 10 and. She can see it. That's great. So you can just go hammer on for China for like five years. Yeah, exactly. I mean, I was on the pill for like 10 and then went off it, went back out at the boobs grew.

That would should not happen the first time I was on it. Wow. I know. Pretty amazing stuff. Crazy. Look at you. Lucky. Would have men could take a pill with their penis grew. Every guy would take it.

Oh my God. So there's actually a penis extension guy, like a legit one in Beverly Hills. Have you guys heard about that? Yeah, we have. He's contacted us. I'm not sure how I feel about that, really. Why?

I just don't know. I mean, he's like the legit one, but I just feel like your penis is fine. And I'm not sure about the side effects of that. I just kind of just like a silicone sleeve. Yeah, what is there to say? Over like under your skin, over your veins and whatever. And let me just tell you this guys of all the studies have come out and all the people

I've talked to it's it's it's men who are more worried about their penis size than women. But it's just like boobs like there's some guys who only want women with large breasts. Yeah, but it's fine. You're all you're all fine. Yeah. All right, good. We're not worried about that. And another thing I've tell you is that you know that I love trying out new things in the bedroom. So I was asked to write a forward for this new book. By sex, I'll just jump into it. It's called Sex Positions for Everybody.

Everybody. Get it? Everybody. No matter where you're at on the sexual spectrum, it offers like fun, playful, non-judgemental guide for 50 hot new sex positions. And I can tell you this, you will not want to leave the bedroom. And it's a really good book.

It's not just like pictures, but it has a lot of great information in it. That's why I agreed to write the forward for it. And I'm always saying like sex is expansive. You got to put in the work, keep things hot. So check it out. It's now available to Amazon, which is very exciting. That's sex positions for everybody by Joe McDevitt.

Check it. I'm going to do another book, too. You are? Yeah. I don't know what it is yet. It's about you. Really? I don't know.

It's about the show. It's about something. I don't know. I have a lot of ideas lately. I've been percolating. Cool. Yeah. I can't tell exactly what it is yet. It's private.

It's a good to tell you. All right. I'll tell you. But I do have some sex in the news. Tell me what's going on in the news of sex lately. The internet's weird new sexual obsession, real estate porn. Real estate porn. When it comes to porn, pretty much anything can be found somewhere on the internet. There's a porn parody of everything from Ninja Turtles to Full House.

Still, we wouldn't have expected this. A real estate theme porn series is the sixth most popular channel on porn help with over 50,000 subscribers, 400 million views. What? The series is called Property Sex, so it involves like landlords, real estate agents, perspective tenants, and it goes through great lengths to get the housing and the choice, you know what I mean? Yeah.

Hey baby, give me this, you know, do that. Oh my God, I expect that is huge though, because my, I gotta tell my coworker about this because that's all he does. He just goes to real estate sites all day. Oh yeah. Like Zillow and this, and he doesn't even want to buy anything, but he just looks at it.

Right. And he's like, almost horny, like looking at, you know, people get all of that. Look at this kitchen. Oh, look at this living room. This backyard. I'm over. He probably doesn't, he doesn't, I know, people get all of this kitchen, all of this living room, this backyard, blah blah blah. He probably doesn't, I know, guaranteed, he doesn't know about, there's a sex angle.

It's crazy. I love this. Yeah, exactly. Okay, I'll send this to you. But like, it's basically like, the porn hub description reads, become a client and take a tour with some of the finest real estate agents

who are willing to do just about anything for a sale, or become the dirty landlord dealing with hot young tenants who don't want to face a fiction. Anything can happen and you get a first-door seat to enjoy the action. And it's interesting because you always hear about the teacher's student or office secretaries with their boss, but this is like a popular all of a sudden and they're not really sure why, but you can guess that it relates to like desperation and the character searching for housing. And the truth is, like, you know, like housing is skyrocketing. This is kind of rying me Los Angeles, what's happened in San Francisco that people are paying over. It's crazy.

Christ to buy a place. So clearly, I'll never buy a place unless you guys just go buy a lot of sex toys on my site. Yeah. Would you be awesome or t-shirts? Yeah. I would like a home. At this point in my life, like, I want a parking spot. That's my own. Yeah. I would like a home. At this point in my life, I want a parking spot. That's my own. Yeah. I want a oven.

I was just talking to somebody that just bought a house. And we were looking at the listing the Zilla. I'm like, oh my god, that's amazing. You're only paying this much in your mortgage. And I'm like, oh no, I didn't really put that much down. And then so their monthly mortgage is extreme. Like I would barf. You know, like how do you, how do you do that?

You know, you just make a lot of money or you have like a wealthy family that supports you. But the thing is like, you're never guaranteed, like the radio show I do is doing F in grade. It's so part of it. Huge and Los Angeles. And thank you for anybody show listeners. You're kind of a big deal. No, but I'm just proud of you. Huge and Los Angeles. And thank you if anybody show listeners all this stuff.

You're kind of a big deal. No, but I'm just saying it's doing great, but at any moment, at any time, of any day, I could be fired and to have a mortgage that high, I would, I know. That's our business, though. I know, well, that's the thing.

So that's why, I mean, I would love to buy a place but I like just too much anxiety. I'd rather just go try one of the weekend. I know, it's true, but do we ever get to a place in this entertainment careers that we're in that you really get, we really get, it's okay. Like it's okay, like, because you just don't know. Like, it's not, it's not, you guys could all stop

listening to Sex Family and I'll be living at menaces in his garage, I don't know, but there's no stability, there's no job security. But it's not just our industry. It's every industry now It's back in the day like people would have jobs for 30 plus years now that doesn't happen It doesn't happen but also media people do dumb things and get fired. That's true. Let's not do anything dumb But it's true like I'm always as easy then pick these it route Emily

Yeah, okay, then we ask you something. Let's get back to the sexual thing and be in fire dude It's fun. The thing is so I have a friend who told me that his old co-worker just got fired because he was sending dick pics to another co-worker, female, like, guys, if you're listening, can you confirm this? And we've talked to many, many guests here. Are you ever interested in the dick pic? Never, I never, I never, I never sitting there going, God, right now would be such a great time to get a dick pic.

We're not, no, no, did he get fired? You said? Yeah. To a coworker, he said the dick pic. Just like, with the coworker that he was talking to you. Just like, flirting with or whatever. It's just, no, it's such a bad idea. Like, it's just like, first of all.

It's your co-worker. It's your co-worker. You're having more on them now. But no, I don't think women. Just in general, if you're trying to court a woman. No, and maybe if I'm with the guy and he, I actually have never, well, I've received him to the feedback at sexfamily.com,

but we have a full team looking at those. But no, I've never had a guy. But even if a guy was dating, I don't know that I would want in the middle of the day see his deck I can't but I get but I get men Conversely you love to see boobs Not dick pics, but I mean unless you are in So what happens do you think she's not gonna like no one's gonna know like you know

I'm not gonna get cause your guys are so effing stupid. That's what I try to tell people all the time Why did he do this? Why did they? Why did he do that? Because guys are effing more on it. Because they think their penis and their penis said right now I would love a picture. I need the penis press center. I love this. I know. It's not a good idea. And I still to this day. I'm proud to say I've never sent a naked photo. I do a bikini thing on the Instagram. But I am. Yeah. I mean, if it happens, I'll let you all know. Because I think like it, I should.

It could be, I could do it to someone to think I, when I'm really like in love and trusting somebody, which I might be 80, but then I will definitely, you guys will be the first to know when I send my naked photo, but it's just, but this is what happens. Here's what happens when you send a naked photo. It's just a guy, if you're a woman

and you're sending it to a guy, he gets it, he goes, wow, that's hot. And then whoever is sitting next to him doesn't matter. It could be like the waiter at the restaurant or his best friend. He's going to show that photo. Yeah, but that's because you date. Do she do? No, it's my friend guy friends.

I would never do that. Ever. Did you have a girlfriend? Any lover? No, no, no. People that I've received plenty of. On solicited boob shots. On, yeah, new photos. And I would never share them with anybody.

My friends are nothing. Because you're a good man. You can, you know, you got to keep that on lock. It's so true. It's true. That's just messed up, though, too. I know. In general, like this whole like revenge porn

and stuff like that. Because like you guys broke up, you know, just move on with your life, get on with a new person. When they do their, yeah, because they're all butt hurt because somebody broke up with them and he just like do nasty things like that doesn't benefit. Anyway, that doesn't benefit you. No. That hurts the other person, their friends, their family.

And for what? You guys were in relationship. it didn't work out. Move on. Right. There is gonna be somebody else out there that's going to love you and you're gonna love and it's gonna happen and you'll regret that. Anything with revenge.

Unless you're gonna be an issue person and do like revenge for us. Right, it's so bad. I mean, the best revenge is you moving out with your life and becoming a better person and falling in love with someone who's really right for you. That's what you should be focusing on. I just don't have, I don't even have that gene envy to be like, I'm going to get her

or him. You know, whether it's a relationship or a friend or anybody who wrongs me, I would just, my brain doesn't even think like that. It's okay to be upset. It's something you cheated on you, whatever. Yes, you can be angry, but to do that kind of stuff, I know. It's just so low. It makes you look bad because you are the good person, right? If it's right, right? You want to be the better person. We all want to be the better person.

Right. And then other people are going to hear that you want to date in the future, that you're the dude or the chick you said puts up a wrench bar because women do it too, right? No guys do it more. What guys do it way more, but women do do it too. Yeah, that's true. Okay, I got to give a quick shout out here and then we're going to read some emails from the people. This is about my Kegel camp app, you know. And I want to know, I want you to know that guys, you got to listen to me. I know some of you like tune out every time you hear me talk about Kegel exercises.

Guess what? You are making a mistake because Kegel exercises are not just for women. Okay, try something for me right now, guys. Tighten up the muscles to use if you want to stop like peeing, right? Congratulations! You just did a chaggletriicide. It's where you stop and start the flow of urine. And if you do these regularly, it can make a huge impact on your sex life.

Chaggletriicide is happy of stronger erections, better stamina, more intense orgasms. You will be blown away, by the different kegels, the difference that kegels can make. And to make them easier to get into, I created kegel camp, which is an app that trains you and reminds you and tracks your progress along the path to get kegels of steel. And because I know you're competitive,

I created 20 levels of intensity you can work through. So it's really fun to do and you move through the levels and then you've kegels of steel and you're super happy. So download the kegel camp for your iPhone today and tell me about your progress. Feed back at sexwithme.com and you can get it from the iTunes store or go to sexwithme.com and click on the banner.

So I'll see you all at camp and I just love to point out that I, you can choose to have my voice walk, you know, my voice, if you turn the volume, I will walk you through it. I'll say, I'll say, okay, everyone ready? Welcome to Kagokab, tense, relax, tense, relax. That's what you do.

And you really will feel a difference in your sex life. So yeah, check it, because that's all I want for you. I want you to be able to like, Kagokas deal and shoot across the room like you were 17 years old, because that's really what happens Okay, now we're on to emails. Thank you for emailing me feedback at sex with ma.com I

Love hearing from all of you and I also love when you include your name where you're listening from how old you are Your age is very important how you listen in your email and what's been great because I kind of got a Little up some of you because you guys, you're not including your age, because it does make a difference. I told you our... What was the new request? It was a new, well, now we always said age. But then, apparently,

previous or Madison told me people were emailing and they're like, oh, here's my age to go along with it. So I love that you, people are actually listening to me. All right, good. Okay. Dear Emily, this is more of a thank you and a question. My wife and I are expecting our first child, and of course, during this time time our sex life has changed.

We still have sex, but, understandably, it's not the most comfortable thing for her, and her drive is diminished. However, my wife recognized that I still, that I still have needs and encourage me to masturbate, and she will assist as well. She asked me if there's anything else we could do, and after listening to your show and repeated advice at Honest Communication is the key, we both revealed our kinky as fantasies, despite our initial fear of embarrassment. I revealed that I was fantasized of being forced to eat my own come. Either flipping over and coming my face or as a dominant act. And she knows I meant a submission, so actually wasn't surprised and was willing to participate

in the fantasy which turned me on intensely, and we followed through that very night. To this admission, she revealed that she's always had a rape fantasy. And as a self-proclaimed feminist, she was a chemist, she was ashamed. But I told her I would accommodate as best I could, and it was nothing to be shamed of. Now this is a middle-eat-out stomach comfort zone, which is a good thing, I suppose, and we agreed to wait until the baby was born for safety reasons. But any thoughts on how to sleep safely and sexily, sexily for Phil or fantasy? She has been so good about fulfilling my mind.

Thanks for what you do. It has improved our sex life and relationship, James. Okay, James, thank you. I'm so glad to hear how the show has helped you and your wife open up by your fantasies. You know, I'm always saying men is like, right, don't ask a bucket list. Like you guys should exchange what you're brought into and it totally worked for him. And I'm glad James that she was able to fulfill your fantasy about being submissive. And I'm glad you guys are honest.

So here's a thing about the rape fantasy. I know. Just know it's a bit. No, it's very common for women. It sounds like it's the same rape fantasy. But why? Well, first of all, it doesn't make's very common for women. It sounds like it is the same right fantasy, but why? Well, first of all, it doesn't make a term for it. I know. It's like cring. I know. I get it. I get it, but it's more, it's not like, you know, they don't want to be assaulted. She doesn't want you to hurt her super aggressively, but it's very common for women. In fact,

it's like probably one of the most common fantasies women have, but let me explain to you. Well, first of all, it doesn't make already less of a feminist, and it's not about being aggressively abused. And typically this fantasy does get misunderstood by people, which I understand why you just hear the word rape, and you're like, I don't get it, right? But it's not about that.

It's really about the fact that a lot of women just want to be dominated in the bedroom. They want, you know, guys to take control, which I've been saying since the beginning of time. And it doesn't mean she wants to be physically, like, or emotionally abused. It just means that women want this sense, like, they're partner.

I mean, obviously, it means something a little bit different for everybody, but it's more about desire. Like, we want to feel like we are so desired by our partner or by this stranger in our fantasy that he just can't help himself and he will do anything and he just like has to have me now and his lust just overtakes the desire. I mean that's really like at the root a lot of it and they also a lot of women you know we have the you know the desire to feel wanted and like surprised by it and to the point like again their partner can't control themselves. And And about being dominated James is kind of like you like you want to be submissive.

So you probably get this. So how you would pull it off is you want I'm glad you're waiting half of the baby's born. That's healthy. And you want to plan it out like layout the guidelines discuss like what's off limits. And you have her describe her fantasy in detail. Like maybe she's picturing you coming in in a dark mask and you're throwing it down in the bed and using restraints. But ask her, are you sticking through the window? Does she want you to surprise her, hiding in the closet? Does she want to be restrained?

Does she want rough sex? Do you need safe words? I mean, since you guys are already on this great talking communication thing, which I love, like, I've been to you. Um, so then when you find out what she wants, I suggest you get restraints. I love sports sheets because they're all their restraints are super cool because they're like a velcro. And you just put it, you can, there's the five piece hog tie set. You can rip her clothes off and throw on the bed or whatever. Um. And they're just cool, they're easy to use. So, also, she wants you to take control of the situation.

So, you know, tell her, you know, like you want to, like, she wants you to probably, you know, make demands, and then she will obey you. So, she might want you to, like, hey, you know, suck my penis right now, or, you know, you know what I'm saying. Maybe she might want some, like, light, you don't suck my penis right now. Or, you know what I'm saying? Maybe she went, went some like late, like spanking or something like that. And so here's some suggestions for scenarios. You could like, surprise her when she comes from work or on the way home from somewhere on the car.

You know, you could like, be driving somewhere and you could like pull over to like a secluded part and you can like have sex, whatever. And a secluded part of the road where no one can see you. And then when I felt natural and you wanted like, being submissive, so it might be kind of weird, but just remember that for you, because it's new. But just know that if it doesn't go perfectly the first time and like with a lot of these things,

you know, might be a little awkward at first, though I'd be some laughing giggling, but you'll get it down. And we really just about, you know, you could blindfold her and she really just wants you to take control and maybe be a little bit more aggressive with your words or your actions are both but again you got to find out. So just do some more talking about this but I love this. They listen to the show meds and they have them better sex. That's great. That's what I want. That's your mission in life, right? That's my only mission in life

and to buy a house now. That's my another mission. Okay, hi Emily. My name is Sandra. I'm 20 years old and I have a huge crust on my boss at my internship. He is so hot, but he's 35 and married. We like all the same things and he flirts with me all the time. Buies my coffee, arm-touching, chatting, obviously he's in a committed marriage. So how wrong is it for me to want a married man? Nothing but trouble. I understand that nothing will ever come of this But I still sort of feel bad for being so attracted to him I guess what I'm asking is how messed up is it for me to fantasize about this guy I clearly like them hard to get. Yes

He heard me listen to your show the other day and I'm pretty sure her turn them on thanks Sandra Well Sandra Yeah, she's not bad. She's not bad for fantasizing Yeah, that's a problem. Yeah, that's a problem. You know, but if you act on it I mean like what are you gonna what are you gonna get out of that nothing? Nothing. This is like a this is like a fast track to nowhere, okay? Because you're at an internship. I'm guessing it's your first 20 years old Yeah, people typically you're at an internship. I'm guessing it's your first, you're 20 years old. Yeah. And people, typically you're working for free. You're probably doing it to, you know,

when you graduate from college to like get a really good job and get good references. And um, that's not going to happen if you sleep with your problems. Yeah. If you're single, then I say go for it. Yeah. Even if you're older, you might have like a fling for him or something, but um, it's not ideal to flirt with you. Married boss. Other people in the office are going to see it. And I'm sure I, I'm going to start a break it to you, but he's not ideal to flirt with you, married boss. Other people in the office are gonna see it. And I'm sure I'm gonna start a break at you, but he's probably flirting with other chicks in the office as well. But he's not just like selecting you out of a, I'm sure you're great and hot and all that.

But the boss in turn dynamic is just a no-go zone because it's just inappropriate. It's inappropriate in his part. I, and I remember this that I was thinking about this, is that like when I used to work in politics in my 20s, I can't tell you like I would do these trade missions I'd go with politicians, and you know, yeah, politicians like this, no,

I'm telling you a lot of married guys like this. And the second I get back to my hotel room because we'd be traveling, they'd call me and I'd think, hey, what do you do? And you want to wait for drink at my room? I mean, it happens, and it really was like, like I think, because it's my job, too. It's like, not my job, it's sleep with them,

but my job, to, you know, I was in charge of these trade missions. I was like, oh, you know, no, I can't go up there now, but it happens more than you think that married men are hitting on women, and it could be when they think no one's around or, you know, where we were traveling, but it's just, it's a really awkward,

uncomfortable situation, and well, it can be super flattering. I totally get that Sandra. It's just, you don't, you't want to do this. My advice you can show your fantasy. You can go and masturbate them to them. All you want. But that's the safest route. Really just turn to a fantasy and start getting people your own age or you know not married. That's what I say. What vibrator do you recommend for this situation? Yeah. Yeah. Man I don't know how she gets off, but I mean, really,

I would try the, um, well, I love the womanizer. Jesus, that's a good, so you think what the womanizer is is that it, um, I feel like it's like the Clint Westboro. Like if my clitoris could speak, it would be, it would, it would, like, the womanizer knows exactly what to do. It's like, I want the indirect simulations, like this pleasure air technology that they invented, and how they did this, and it lightly kisses it, nipples at it, so I would recommend that.

If you're more of a G-Spot girl, the rabbit company makes so many different kinds of vibes. It's so funny, I can match people, that'd be kind of funny, semi-interprofile, not a match, you do a vibrator. But I need to know more about how she masturbates. But that's a very good question, Menace. Next email.

Hi, Emily. I'm very new to your podcast, and I hope you can help. I'm 50 going on 23, and my girlfriend is 27. She's an old soul, and I'm young at heart, mind and body. We met at a mutual friends party, we get along great, and we've been together for over two years. Sac's life was great, but it seems to have diminished the last five months, and no, it's not me. She says I need to turn her on, but I haven't done anything different. In fact, I try to liven it up.

I guess my question is, can a woman turn it on herself somehow? As a guy, I'm always ready to go. Yes, there's been for play, and she's either not ready or not into it But I also blame her for not but I also get blamed for not having sexual third the longer we go without without the colder She gets and it's my fault. I don't know what to do help Baja from Chicago. P.S. You've a great voice. I'm hooked Chicago is a great town. We love men. You love Chicago. We love girls in Chicago. They're very nice. I mean, they're just like, you love Chicago. They're just nice people. Yeah, it's a great city.

I haven't been there in the winter. So maybe my... No, it's fun. Maybe my opinion would change, but every time I go there for a lot of La Pusa, it's a great, really nice people. I love it. Okay, there's two issues here. My body, Baja, you got the age difference. That's one thing. You also have the two year mark. This is such a normal occurrence. Six month to 18 months is the honeymoon phase.

We talk about it all the time. And this isn't just like something I've made up. It's biology. Like you, after that period, the honeymoon, usually it's like six, like I said, six months, 18 months. You know, the chemicals that kept you so excited at the beginning, they tend to like kind of take a nose dive. They sort of tend to balance each other out and sex just isn't, you're having sex as frequently.

So that's totally normal. Sex is, you know, because during that period, sex is amazing. You're crazy about each other. But when you hit this mark, it starts to fade. So women do have a part to play in the arousal process So you know she still needs to make sure like is she masturbating is she thinking sexy thought he's asking if women can turn themselves on Yes, they can I mean of course we can I turn myself out all the time. I'm gonna do it right now You know is she trying as well you're saying it's all your fault and here's the thing about relationships It takes two to tango.

There's both of you in the relationship. So I wouldn't be blaming yourself. It sounds like she is blaming you. And my hunch, Baja, after reading this relationship is that there's something else going on here. There might be some built up resentments. There might be, you know, just something else going on in your relationship where she's using sex

and she's withholding from you. But consider this. Has anything else changed for her? Is she more stressed than usual? Is she taking any medication? She worried about money or finances? Changes in her body. That can affect women's self-esteem.

Because it sounds like you're guessing. He's guessing. It's what's happening with her. And I'm just thinking that it just sounds kind of fishy to me. I don't think it's just that you're not turning around. I feel like you're trying to do things and she's not giving you more information. So I would try talking to her and saying like, what what a sheep in mind for this magical foreplay. Yeah, what's happening? Exactly. I mean, have this ex talk. It's been two years. I mean, have the talk and be like,

you know, what do you like? Just like our last, you know, person who wrote in, like, you guys can't have like, what's something you've wanted to try? You can both like do your sexy lists and exchange them. Like, maybe she has some kind of fantasy she wants to live out. But like, don't beat yourself up to this. Like, you can't put all the blame on you. Um, I could suggest to you like toys and like, for playing all the things you should do.

But if she's like getting colder and colder and withholding, you know, and you're really trying, it sounds like you're trying to make her feel sexy. I just think there's a bigger issue, you know? I mean, she's an old soul, but I get it. She feels like an old soul to you, but she's still 27. She does not have the same life experience that you do, that you do.

So I think you gotta get to the bottom of it. I just always think it's part of blaming someone else and not taking responsibility. It doesn't feel good. What do you think, men? I agree with you. 1,000%. I love you, good.

That's so perfect. But you know, you've been in a long-term relationship. Sex, the wings, the ebbs and flows. It does, definitely. But then you just have to, again, have that conversation and then or, you know, again, at least you're emailing and you have some self-awareness on what's the situation is and you want to do something about it. Right.

Exactly. That is the first step. Yep. Take some time away. Maybe take a vacation together overnight. Oh, vacation, yeah, it's always something. Just something. Not everybody can afford a vacation and take off somewhere or go to a hotel or something like that.

But as long as you're having those conversations and like trying to come up with new ideas and keep it going, then that's a thing. Even if it's a night away, though, like just getting out of your home and checking things up, you're right, everyone can afford it. I always say like dogs it for a friend, just get out of your house. Yeah.

Okay. Or have sex in a car somewhere. Have sex in a car Yeah, whatever what you know, just leave that and not a moving car and like park them the woods down along you know down Like a long path or no, it finds you. That's what I recommend Dear Emily until about eight months ago. I was a 32-year-old virgin It's a woman then something clicked to me and I started dating I met a guy on a dating app and after a few weeks of texting and exchanging dirty texts and photos, we started a sexual textual relationship with some dates sprinkled in there. I broke up them for a few months because it didn't seem to be progressing. Almost immediately I'm another guy. Per is a suggestion we began a

primarily sexual relationship. He's crazy busy at work and can't offer much more right now. Oddly enough, I've been into it. I've found it to be crazy sexy and the sex itself is intense and frankly delicious. Even he has said we seem to click really well sexually. I noticed after the first two times we had sex he never attempted to go down on me. The other and only guy I had sex with went down to me and I loved it. When I asked this new guy about it, he mentioned he doesn't do it because he doesn't like it. Both the taste, smell, and doing it outside of an aggro's relationship. I'm new to all of this, but I can't say I love giving a blow job. I find it hard to be giving you this much pleasure.

Some of my friends think his refusal to go down to me is a deal breaker. You hate this guy? That he seems he gets everything out of the sex and I do not. Should I be hard on him for this? I enjoy the sex because I enjoy feeling close to someone. And I also like him as a person. But am I being too naive or too forgiving? Carry on.

I mean what? See? Okay, see? Yes. This is... Because if it was, okay, let's say it's the other way around. It's a man wanting something more. Not getting any BJs, right.

Whatever, you'd be like, if you don't wanna do it, you don't wanna do it. Bob, Bob, Bob, Bob. But when it's the other way around, when it's a... I would never tell him what I wanted. I never tell him what I wanted. I would never tell a woman not to give a blood job.

I mean, if she doesn't want to, like... That's what I'm saying. No, I wouldn't do it. I would never tell a woman not to give a blowjob I mean if she doesn't want to like that's what I'm saying no I wouldn't though but if your partner would like is like I want blow jobs And you're like I can never give a blowjob then Your partner will never be happy and he'll find blow jobs elsewhere You'd see to find a guy who does like blow jobs and yeah, but no, I'm just saying it's Sexy and I know people are gonna get but her but I don't give shit because I don't read the emails But the thing is the thing is It's much more harsh on a man not doing something than if a woman I disagree

I disagree I teach classes all the time I have when we can learn to love giving a blow jobs and there's different things that you can use and that you can do to learn to enjoy it And I think that's not true. I would never say like if your partner really wants to like just don't give a blowjob because that could be a total deal breaker. That is natural. I would say like it should be consensual. Like if he sticks his cock down your throat and like tries to choke you, that's bad.

You're not hearing what I'm saying. I hear what you're saying. I would never say to a one find don't do it. I would say like it's okay not to do it, but your partner might not be okay with that. And I would say like try to learn to like it. You know, try to- It's been the part that I'm trying to get to, the whole partner situation.

Okay. Like how the partner deals with it. Not like- Okay, you think I'm nice to the women. No, see now you're reading too much into it. I get what you're saying though. What I'm saying, let's rewind. Okay. And let's talk about the partner, the person that's upset that it's not happening to them like the

So how what do you what do we do to deal with that situation? Okay, so You mean with the with the blood with anything. Yeah, so this is a person. Yeah, let's say I really love blow jobs Think about that's the first. Yeah, let's say we're getting I really love blow jobs You don't want to give it yeah, yeah you. Yeah, it's getting you don't want to give them then Then what should I do? Okay, but I love you. You're I'm so great. I'm so great. I cook like clean I I pay for the your friends. I love blow jobs Right, but I do and I don't like what you do and you don't want to give them I you know

I just I one time like I feel like that I don't like the taste of blow jobs I don't think the taste of give them. I, you know, I just, I one time, like, I feel like that. I don't like the taste of blow dubs. I don't like the taste of semen. I feel like it just, I'm not good at it. I have some insecurities around it. And so, yeah. And so, if that was my response, I would say, you know what? I think that you may be at a bad experience with blow dubs.

And maybe you haven't tried, you know, getting out of that mindset and realizing that you're part of you. And I'm saying to you, like, okay, so the advice I would give, okay, you want me to go back into the character, I'd be like, I just don't like it, but the advice I would give to that couple is, and this is different because I got

some whole other thing here, but what I would say to that woman is that this is really important to your partner. I understand the past, like, you know, you might not have liked it. And the reason why a lot of women don't and men don't like it is because they feel like they don't, you know, maybe they don't like the taste, but they feel like they're sort of inferior.

They don't really understand. They give bad blow jobs. And they don't, you know, whatever, they just don't enjoy it. Their mouth hurts. It takes too long. But the thing about blow jobs and about oral sex is it's not just about your mouth. If you get exhausted, that's your thing. You got your hands. you got your tongue.

There's so many other things you could do. That's why you listen, go to my website. I have a million articles on below jobs and kind of like all these things that you can read is that it's not just about your mouth. It's about using all these other things. There's ways to do it. You can put something on your lips.

Use a flavored lube on your lips to go down on your partner so it tastes like pineapples and then you don't taste it. If you don't like the taste of it, use your hand to to go down on your partner. So it tastes like pineapples. And then you don't taste it. If you don't like the taste of it, use your hand to create the suction around his penis. So it's just firm enough. So it feels really good. And you can like fuck fluctuate between your hand

and your mouth. And you realize it's giving him so much pleasure that you're going to realize that you are good at it. And everything in life takes practice. So I would just encourage you to do that. If you still can't do it and it's a deal breaker, you might have to leave this relationship. But I always say we'll give it like a second chance, right? Like if you there's a lot of reason people make up excuses in their mind why they don't like do things. But going back to carry in, here's

a deal with this is that I get that she's new to sex. And I get that she's kind of like, I'm confused. Like is this okay? That is a want to go down to me? Like is oral sex a big deal? You know, and I think if it's something that you really like it is a big deal. It is a big deal to men and to women. So my problem with this dude is that it's filled with holes his argument. He's saying I don't like the taste or smell. And I only do it monagamous relationships. So that doesn't hold any water.

So you're saying that if you were a monogamous that you would put up with the taste in the smell. So and you think I'm being like sexist here. But I don't understand like I think it's really like demeaning. That's the part. But if I said this where I feel like we're harsher on guys for not wanting to do something then if a girl didn't want to do something. So if a girl wrote in said I don't like the taste and smell and I only want to do it in my nagas relationships, I would say the same exact thing. And I would say, yeah, that's the only point

that I'm making. I get what you're saying. And if you don't need to be but heard about that. Don't be all but heard. What I'm saying is he's not invested in this relationship and he's making up excuses for not providing her pleasure. And I think that it's okay if guys don't like role sucks. Like I'm telling you, there's a million ways

you could learn to like it and you could become good at it, and you could kind of like learn to do it in ways that would make you feel more confident, and everyone's different, so maybe you could use your fingers more, and maybe you could use a toy and your mouth. There's a lot of things you could do, but she really likes it,

and he's just saying, no, because we're not monogamous, oh, and PS, I don't like the taste and smell, and I think that she really likes it. You used to beamous ONPS I don't like the taste and smell and I think that she really like to say I don't like the taste and smell. This is the problem. Yeah. I mean sometimes you keep it like too honest. Right.

I mean, you can never get that out of your head. No. And she even hears a thing. Here's the thing, Carianne, is that even if he does start going down and you all you're going to be thinking of is that he doesn't like the taste and smell. Yeah. So and you're not. It of is that he doesn't like to taste and smell. Yeah. So, and you're not... It's all right, ruined.

It's all right. So it's up to you if you wanna stick around and deal with that. Yeah, she's got a few choices here. I think clearly he's not going down the monogamous road with you. And if you like having casual sex with that, keep on keeping on, but can start having full-on around with other people as well,

because clearly he's not taking this too seriously. What I see here is that, you know, again, she's new to sex and new to being with men. I feel like she probably thinks it's gonna change and she wants a little bit more from him. He's not gonna, you know, he's not gonna change. But if you do end up with a relationship,

this guy better be going down on you all day. Yeah, if you like, or like I couldn't be with someone who was like, not, like I understand if a guy doesn't like, he's like, you know what, I actually, I like oral, I couldn't be with someone who was like, I understand if a guy doesn't like it, he's like, you know what, I actually, I've had, I don't really like it, and I don't really know what I'm doing, but I'd be willing to like try and I'd be like, okay, here's what we could do.

You know, I would work with someone on that, but if they're like, nope, done, not doing that, not on the menu, yes, for me, I would break up with, I couldn't be with someone who never wanted to orally please me, just be like a do-breaker. However, there's legions of women out there. The milk don't with it. Yeah, they're like, I don't be with someone who never wanted to orally please me, just be like a do-breaker. However, there's legions of women out there. They'll come with it. Yeah, they're like, I don't like it.

Like there's a lot of women in there. Or they would deal with it. They'll compromise. They'll be like, exactly. They'd be like, just find me the Gucci shoes and then, man, this is a favorite thing. But I want to say, like, yeah, I think that there are plenty of men out there

that will please you this way. And if you're okay dating other people or just dumping this guy and moving on to someone else, I'm fine with that too. So I think this guy just is kind of, you know, narrow-minded anyways. See, there's the dig. But I think a woman is too. A woman who does as I mean blow-dops, it's fine, but have you like- And I totally start that. If I've definitely drops? It's fine, but have you like and I always like that if I'm definitely Dated women that say that hey, you know what? I'm just not into that

But I didn't like said you know what? I'm not gonna hang out with you But are you that into blow job? If you if I said to you menace you can be with this amazing girl But she will never give you a blow job. Would you be fine with that? I yes, I'll be fine with that But I do I absolutely love blow jobs. Yes, I do this I mean, I would have to look at everything else and be like, all right. She's do a problem con list. She does everything else great. So I'm just saying, if this is something that you require for sexual satisfaction, and

she's only a text of the one person before, I'd say go find someone who you can keep expanding your sex life and feeling these sensations. Like the fact that he's, and I hope he's at least giving you can keep expanding your your sex life and feeling these sensations like the fact that he's and I hope he's at least giving you some kind of for a play and warming things up otherwise but you know I think that some guys are just like out there like never going to go into the world sex game and some of the end so I don't like that is that he was kind of lying here. He's a dude. So

he doesn't want I mean he's coming up with excuses because he just doesn't want to do it. Right. And I think she can find someone who would like to please her does as much as she would like to please them. But again, hang out with them. I've said to them, he's clearly not committing. We're all good. So, but what she wants to know is, is she naive

or thinking it's a big deal? No, you're not naive. Everyone gets to choose what's a big deal to them. Again, there's lots of women who it's too sensitive for them. It doesn't feel good. And I think we just have a website, a dating app that's like people who don't like girl sex. And like let's match those people up.

Brilliant idea. Yeah. Go. There you go. A checklist. I like doing this and this and this and see who gets to match. I've thought about this. I can app to match you. I think it might exist somewhere,

but to match you with other sexual preferences, you know, because like, I mean, it sucks if you're with someone and you find out, you know, you really love them. And they're like, oh, I can't know Duvagina. And I'm like, you don't do Duvagina. I'm not like, why didn't I find this out on the first date? So, for me, it's a big deal. You're fine, carry on, keep your explanation.

That's what we got. That's what we got. Man, so much fun. We covered so much. We did, don't you feel so good right now? Like we just helped so many people. Thank you everyone for listening and for reviewing us. However you listen and iTunes and all of that.

iTunes SoundCloud, so it was a SoundCloud.com. It's on SoundCloud.com. I believe so, and Google Play and Spotify and iTunes and use the apps and your podcast or however Who's use that you listen? What else do you want people to do just just have good sex and listen to the show and Share the show too. Yeah, tell a friend if you like it and see right You know if they're open. I mean don't tell your coworker. But yeah, you should really check out this sex show

Like if you're comfortable with the person to have a discussion, say, Hey, you're into podcasts. I know this great podcast. If you think it's great, check out sex with them, link. That's a good point. And it's true that another great thing is we hear from a lot of couples who listen together. And I think since sex can be such a charged subject and kind of difficult for couples to talk to about it, they're like, they're like our first email today. When he was saying that he,

our lovely James was saying that it actually helped their relationship because they listened together and they were actually able to talk about their fantasies and what they desired for a lot of couples that I'm like your third party. So you don't have to say it, but I'm telling you, and then you listen together and improve. So all those different ways to listen. Thank you, menace. And thank you, everyone. Thank you, producer Madison and Laurie and Jamie for helping and for being awesome part of the listen. Thank you, menace. Love it. And thank you, everyone. Thank you, producer Madison and Lori and Jamie for helping and for being an awesome

part of the team. And thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me. Feedback at sexwithmleaf.com. Okay, so sex toys, they're kind of like potato chips. You start with one and you immediately want more. Well, if that sounds familiar to you, head over to your local Hustler Highwood store. Their Hustler Highwood stores all over, where you'll find an assortment of erratica, sexy

laundry, and of course, the best sex toys on the market. Each store is super attractive. They're really cool stores, like they're beautiful stores. They've eye-catching displays, they've the top intimate products on the market, really knowledgeable and friendly staff. They're there, they help you with any questions you might have. I've actually learned from them, they're staffed. They're great. Whether you're shopping with a partner or yourself, it's a great date night. Take your sex life to the next level. Hustler is all the toys and products you need to get you out there and to change your sex life. In the words of Hustler, sex is free, we sell the accessories. So mention sex with the

Emily when you check out, get 20% off your sexy purchases. Are you more of an online sex toy shop or well, Hustler is you covered there too? Local sex family listeners get 20% off. Their online purchase is when they shop hussarhalywood.com, use code Emily20 and check out for full 20% off your order. That's hussarhalywood.com Emily20. Thanks for listening.