Sex With Emily - Orgasms & Oral (No Penetration Required)

Episode Date: July 12, 2022

It’s a good time to expand our definition of sex. At the end of the day, sex is play for adults: it’s where we collaborate with another person, creating a momentary world of pleasure and eroticism with them. But so often, we assume that sex equals penetration, and here’s the problem with that: not everyone orgasms during penetration. Not everyone feels erotic during penetration! So let’s make sex more interesting and exploratory, shall we?On today’s show, I’m talking up all the different types of non-penetrative sex – like mutual masturbation, sensual massage, toys, hand stuff – to help you break out of a conventional sex script, and have sex that’s more tailored to your personality and desires. Because you never have to take penetration off the table entirely…but what would happen if you took it off the table for a little while? (Hint: probably more orgasms.) Show Notes:Prostate Play 101Want to Try a Sex Cleanse? Penis Problems, Solved Shop with Emily4 Ways to Close The Orgasm GapFirst Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I guarantee that the majority of couples are sort of in a holding pattern, or you're doing the same things that you've always been doing. We don't often even think to change our sex life to have these conversations. Just let them know that it's a team effort here, and that you both, to learn together, to grow, to understand your bodies. And the jackhammer thing, like let's work on that. You could even say I'd love to go slower with you and find ways to have penetration that feels really great for both of us.

Not sure what it is yet, but let's do some exploring. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. It's a good time to expand our definition of sex. At the end of the day, sex is play for adults. It's where we collaborate with another person, creating a momentary world of pleasure and eroticism with them.

But so often we assume that sex equals penetration. And here's the problem with that. Not everyone orgasms during penetration. Not everyone feels erotic during penetration. So let's make sex more interesting and exploratory, shall we? And today's show I'm talking of all the different types of non-parantrative sex, like mutual masturbation, central massage, toys, hand stuff, to help you break out of a conventional sex script and have sex that's more tailored to your personality and desires. Because you never have to take penetration off the table entirely, not at all.

But what would happen if you took it off the table for a little while? Well, here's a hint, probably more orgasms. All right, intentions with Emily for each episode join me in setting an intention for the show. So when you're listening, what do you want to get out of this episode? Think about it. Well, my intention is to show you all the possible ways to connect sexually so you can continue to explore new sensations and possibilities without having to rely solely on penetration. Please rate and review Sex with Emily wherever you listen to the show.

My new article, ProstatePlay101, is up at sexwithemily.com. Also, check out my YouTube channel, Social Media, and TikTok at Sex with Emily for more sex tips and advice. Want to ask me questions? Leave me your questions or message me at sexwithemily.com slash Ask Emily or call my hotline 559 Talk Sex or 559 825 5739. Always include your name, your age, where you live and how you listen to the show and totally cool to change your name to remain anonymous. Today's episode is an ode to all the different forms of non-penetrative sex we can have, and how we can open ourselves up to more pleasure, more intimacy, and more connection when we

ditch old scripts around sex, and actually reflect on the types of touch and vibe we want when we connect sexually with another person. Now I'll be honest, I love penetration. Don't get me wrong. I mean, I'm a big fan like I'm sure lots of you are. But for a long time here, I've been encouraging all of you to expand your definition of sex. Why? Because it's so limiting to think of sex as only one act, penetration,

you know, penis goes into vagina sex. And let me remind you that the majority of vulva owners aren't going to have an orgasm through penetration. In fact, only 20% of vulva owners do have orgasms through penetration. And of those vul 20% of Volvo owners do have orgasms through penetration. And of those volvas, it's not every single time. And in fact, this might make a lot of penis owners feel a little bit better here, that a lot of the pleasure that Volvo owners

are going to receive really have nothing to do with your penis. It has to do with your mouth. It has to do with your hands. It has to do with other things that you bring to the table, maybe even dirty talk, maybe even some other things could really get your partner going. But the penis is just less important when it comes to a lot of things that have to do with pleasure.

So that's another reason to not necessarily focus all of your sex on this act of penetration. When someone's pleasure can happen in other ways. And there's also the orgasm gap, whereas penises are going to orgasm way more frequently than people with vulvas. They're just true. That's how it goes. And so finding other ways to have pleasure and have orgasm is really a crucial part of being an excellent lover. And as if we need another reason for today's show, since Roe v. Wade has been overturned, well, this seems like the perfect opportunity to embrace and introduce different forms of intimacy into your sex life. I want to do the show in a way to reclaim the word sex and define it away from penetration alone and towards a more expansive

set of behaviors. And we have role models. I mean, we have lots of examples of people defining sex on their terms, rather than following a set of steps. For example, when queer partners hook up, they often ask, hey, you know, what are you into? And let their favorite behaviors lead the way, rather than following some script that was handed to them.

It's not just about penetration, it's not just about this one kind of sex. And in my opinion, this is a protocol that would benefit all of us, causing us to reflect individually and how we want to experience another person's body and how we want a partner to experience ours. First though, I thought it might be interesting to illuminate why penetrative P and V sex get this revered standing in straight sex. I'm actually writing a book right now on sex and pleasure and included this historical factoid that may intrigue some of you.

From the 6th to 16th centuries, some Christian Church authorities taught that intercourse should be face to face, penis owner on top, primarily because they believe that seamen flows with gravity, leading to conception, having babies, nation-building. So again, penetration is great, I love it. But early Christianity had a solid PR machine and got the word out for hundreds of years. That penetrative sex and missionary specifically was these sex to have period. And it's my belief though that the definition of sex is open for interpretation and we get to decide. It's not one specific

act and to have sex means you are mindfully engaging in pleasure. Just because you're experiencing penetration doesn't mean you're experiencing penetration doesn't mean you're having sex. I mean, if you asked me about two people in the active penetration, but completely disconnected from one another, and even disassociating what's happening, I would not say they're having sex. I would say penetration is happening, but not sex. There's a clear distinction. So So let's walk through what a night of sex might look like if you took penetration off the table. I spoke with you all recently on my Instagram about a sex cleanse and you all had amazing things to say about it and one common theme that kept coming up

in comments though was this idea of intentionality around sex to make this whole experience less automatic, less row, less going through the motions, and more aligned with your legit desires. And that's what this show is about here, trying to get you to think about what are my desires, what doesn't mean to not have penetrative sex. So let's talk about specifically what those desires might be. So for all the same page, and we think about sex as exploration and how we explore each other and ourselves, well, I can see a night of non-pentative sex involving a few things. So the first would be touch. And this would include these long-ha'at make-out sessions. When you're really kissing again, you know,

kissing is often the first thing that goes in a long-term relationship. Do you ever notice that? Maybe I don't need to tell you that. But when you bring back, like a intentional make-out sash, using your hands as well and kissing different parts of the face, the shoulders, the neck, that's really hot. Touch could also include a sensual massage. Get some massage candles. Get some massage oil and get some massage oil,

and take turns really touching each other, and exploring each other's bodies, and getting each other turned on for whatever comes next. I love sensual massage. I've been really into it. I have a massage table, and some nights I partner out, I'll just bring that out, and there's nights where it's all about my pleasure. Love those nights. But also nights out about his pleasure. And I actually love these nights because I know

One person's getting the attention, but you know you're gonna get it back. That's the thing And I think if we can start thinking about sex as less transactional though And it's really this night of giving why this is so great is because for example Let's say there's a night the massage table is out, it's all about my pleasure. Well, I'm not thinking like, oh God, this massage feels great, I love what he's doing, but I know I'm gonna have to get up

and I'm gonna do the same thing to him. Now, I love my partner, don't get me wrong, but isn't there something really wonderful about the nights where you don't have to worry about giving back? You don't have to worry about what comes next. I mean, sometimes I just want to get this massage and just fall asleep on the table and get into bed.

And not have to worry that I somehow fell short in my sexual agreement. And because of this understanding that we're all going to get our pleasure at some point, it makes it a lot more satisfying. Now, the other thing I love about touches is where you get to explore erogenous zones, like other erogenous zones.

Not just the primary erogenous zones, we know about the bud and the penis and the vagina, but with your hands and fingers and toys, you can discover, like, secondary erogenous zones in an elbow, back of thigh, inner thighs, because you get to go slow and really explore. Have you tried this lately? This is really fun stuff I'm telling you. I hope you're taking notes or re-listen to this episode. Or even better yet, share this with a partner. I'm telling you, it's going to make your life a lot easier.

If you guys just have a night where you listen to this together or you both listen to it in the way to work, and then you can discuss. Works a lot. I love hearing from a lot of you that this has really helped your sex life and your relationships. Okay, another thing in night of non-parantrative sex could involve would be just oral, oral everything. And this includes kissing, bites, licks, sucking, you know, on the mouth all over the body. Again, exploring. And this could be the torso, the inner thighs, obviously the genitals. Playing with toys and loobs and just using your mouth to explore.

There's also self stimulation. This is the mutual masturbation session that I'm huge fan of. This is the mutual masturbation session that I'm huge fan of. Just lying back and you're both sort of getting off in the ways that you know how, but it's also really hot to watch your partner get there, promise. Or this could just be masturbation that happens creatively. Make it your own. I had a listener write it recently explaining how she masturbated with a toy, well going down in her partner.

Genius. I mean, I love that. And to be honest, I've been doing that for years. Like, truly. But I guess I love this. Like, let's think differently. Let's think creatively. Guess what I'm saying is that there's just so many ways to have pleasure on your body.

And a lot of these you might have dabbled in, but I'm saying like this can become your whole night. This can become your whole week. This can be a focus. All right. Another thing is toys. It's such a good time on Bulfah's and Penises. Let me remind you. And also toys can be a great way to enhance this massage session. I'm talking about can be great to put a massage oil on your partner's body and then take a toy and sort of use that toy over the massage lotion all over their body and Exploring now I get it maybe it takes a beat to normalize the sound of a buzzing toy during sex But I'm telling you the benefit of these toys is that their vibrations reach deeper More internal nerve endings than your hands or your mouth

or your genitals ever can. It's not that toys are better or they're even required, but they're literally getting two places in your body that are just not possible otherwise. And it feels really freaking good. Think about what it would be like if you used toys on each other. And you went really, really slow. And you paused when you found like a particularly sensitive spot that you didn't even know existed. I'm telling you, this is possible. This happens. We just go into the hidden quid at mode or this is what

I've done every time with my toy. Like that's how I've discovered. I know a lot of you have discovered so many other delicious rotten zones and hot spots and things that feel good is by these toys that can help you get there. You keep having sex the same way, penetrative sex, using a penis, with the vulva, with hands and fingers, and that's all great. I'm not saying you ever need to elevate the toys, but toys just adds a little bit something, more exploration and more pleasure, and a little bit different kinds of pleasure than you could ever receive with just your body parts alone.

All right, anal. Here I specifically mean anal play, and I think a lot of what the anal sex questions that come in could really be about anal play. And this is using toys, hands, mouths, rather than just like anal sex questions that come in could really be about anal play. And this is using toys, hands, mouths rather than just like anal sex. You've got about a zillion nerve endings around and inside your anus. And well, I know, I know it's the last taboo for a lot of you listening. Please just know I used to be right there with you. I'm like, it's taboo, it's a whole thing, it takes a lot of time,

anal is going to be for special occasions and birthdays. But once you get out of the mindset of it's dirty, it's wrong, and you actually take steps to cleanse and prepare, because I know a lot of you worry like, what if poop happens, which it could happen, or you don't feel clean up, you don't feel safe enough, or actually when I say cleanse, you could cleanse all that negative conditioning you have around the anal play. It can truly be one of the most intimate, erotic sex acts and connecting sex acts you can experience. If you hear about all these, I encourage you to think about choreographing a night of ideal sex, where there's no penetration. Hey, and even this choreography takes place in your imagination, it will tell you so much

about the type of pleasure that appeals to you, and it'll help you get to know yourself as an erotic person, because it puts you in the driver's seat of your pleasure, which I want you all to be in the driver's seat of your pleasure, which I want you all to be in the driver's seat of your pleasure. That is not selfish. That is not a wrong thing to do. That is not somehow leaving your partner out. When you are in the driver's seat of your pleasure, you're much more able to give to your partner

to be that kind of lover to your partner. You know, otherwise, or just a script that was handed to you, and that's how you're all having sex. But there's now a whole menu of options that you get to choose from. So I hope you are listening to these options right now. And some of them are resonating with you

and getting you even excited. So let's take a short break and we get back. I'm answering an email from Heather who feels rushed to climax during oral with her partner. I got you Heather. This is from Heather 40 in New Jersey. Hey Dr. Emily, I want to know how I can orgasm faster during oral sex. When my fiance goes down to me, I don't use you end up having an orgasm. It takes a while, over 20 minutes.

Then he gets tired and can't keep it up. So we end up having sex. It leaves me hanging because I want an orgasm from him going down on me. I do masturbate and explore my body, but I need a lot of stimulation, porn, or a clitoral stimulator toy. And that toy only takes a couple minutes or even less. I even want a toy that simulates oral sex and that takes minutes too.

Help. All right, Heather, here's a deal. Completely normal for the majority of vulva owners to take a wild evidence orgasm during an occurs at least 20 minutes. I mean, there's something called the orgasm cap, which means that it takes vulva owners longer on average to orgasm than penis owners. And penis owners are

also more likely than vulva owners to orgasm during sex. The actual stats for this are it takes penis owners anywhere from like eight to 10 minutes to orgasm overall. And it takes vulva owners between 20 and 40 minutes. So there is a gap and you were living in this world of the gap we all are. We've got to close the orgasm gap and if you want more info on this, you can check out our article for ways to close the orgasm gap. But listen, while your desire to orgasm faster makes total sense, just know it takes a while and you want to make sure that your partner is into it.

Now the challenge here is that your partner is getting up and saying, I'm tired, I can't keep it up, my mouth hurts, my tongue hurts, so you just have sex. And then you're left hanging, like you said, because you're not having orgasms, you're not having as much pleasure, you're not having your needs met. So I really think this is a conversation with your partner, with your fiance. You haven't been married yet. You haven't walked down the aisle yet. This is a fabulous time to talk to your fiance about your requirement and what you need to feel truly in your body or gasmic and pleased. My departers don't know this. This is that public knowledge.

They don't know that you're not able to have an orgasm that way. And they don't know that it might feel hurtful for them to get up and say, I'm exhausted and I'm tired. I mean, my top advice for penis owners going down on vulva owners or anyone going down on a vulva owner to be honest is to say, hey babe, settle in. Don't get up. I'm not going

anywhere. This is all about you. Do you know this collective sigh of relief that we can all experience when we just know that our partner truly wants to be there and wants to please us and it's going to do what it takes? Well, I want that for you and I want you to get there. So this would be a conversation with your fiance outside the bedroom about the realities of orgasms when it comes to vulvas and penises. He just might need a refresher or some knowledge on that. But that being said, if you are looking

for faster ways to orgasm with your partner, just might be helpful to expand your definition of sex, because remember, sex can include mutual masturbation, watching porn together, using toys together. Use a toy during before, after an oral sex session, or other sexual acts to help increase stimulation and speed of which you're able to orgasm. I mean, that's what our toys are friends there too. A toy is the sure thing for many of us. There should be no shame when you're toy game, especially if your partner is not putting in all the time and effort and listen, not to bash your partner. Many a penis owner, as many of all the owners are like, I don't have. It

is me. I don't have 20, 30 minutes to go down and you would hurt my neck and hurt my mouth. I got to go pay the bills and busy whatever. I understand that life gets busy. So just know that toys are your friend. And also you mentioned your partner gets tired while giving you oral. And so please remind him he doesn't need to just rely on his mouth. He can use his hands. He can use different parts of his face. Not just the tongue, he could use his lips.

He can get creative, he can make sure that he is comfortable, that he's got a pillow supporting his neck or his knees or wherever he's laying, it's okay to mix it up, try different positions. Remember, just because someone starts going down, he doesn't mean you can't take a switch, you can even break and get a snack, I don't care.

Like just mix it up so everyone's comfortable and eventually everyone gets their needs met. All right, so let's have some conversations with them, let's use some education, let's have you feel confident exploring with your hands, your fingers, with the toys in the middle of oral sex to make sure that you're getting yours and he's getting his. Alright, thanks so much for your question Heather. This is from OBA, 23 in Nigeria. Hey Dr. Emily, I had sex for the first time three months ago. Before then, I used to consume a lot of porn and masturbate a lot. The lack of sex is mostly as a result of my religious beliefs, and now I'm ready to explore

as much as I can. I noticed that when I have sex, I often lose my erections and have to wait to get hard again. This is beginning to have an effect on my self-esteem and my desire to ever participate in any sexual relationship. I feel very confused and sad. But I need to take my agra. What should I do?

Thank you for your help. Alright, Oba, I am so glad that you wrote in. Congratulations on your sexual debut, which is what I'd much rather call a virginity, which is also another societal construct. Let's just say you had your sexual debut, came out and had sex. So in terms of your recent challenges staying hard, there are several reasons why this happens. There could be some residual shame from your religious background that could be getting in the way of your ability to stay present and mindful in the moment.

Listen, just because we realize that we no longer adhere to a set of beliefs that was forced upon us growing up doesn't mean that we immediately eradicate them, that they don't still haunt us and they don't still take over when we're trying to be sexual. You shouldn't be sexual right now. This is wrong. You know, this is still somehow deeply shameful. So only you know about these messages are still there with you. And so what I would say is try to reframe and use some positive affirmations around your

sexuality that allow you to realize that you are deserving of sexual pleasure. You are doing this pleasure is your birthright and that you're not in a harm's way. Nothing bad's going to happen to you. And as an adult, you're making a decision to put your sexual liberation freedom and pleasure on the forefront. Could also be nerves. Listen, there's a lot of penis owners who just get nervous and anxious being in a sexual moment,

especially for the first time. So yes, that would absolutely impact your ability to stay hard. And then this gets compounded and creates a cycle of fear, especially when it's happened in the past. And then this is when we get like cycles of rectal dysfunction, our premature ejaculation and the bummer about this is sometimes it just happens once.

And then we get so fearful because we have so much shame that we came too fast, we weren't hard enough and then, oh, it just happens again in the game. One thing that might help you is take the pressure off your penis and penetrate of sex all together. I encourage you to focus on other aspects of sexual intimacy. Pleasing your partner, for example, you know, you might find a world of pleasure that you wouldn't even have experienced before. Because what happens is, especially for penis owners when they're not able to stay hard or they're not able to, you know, perform

in the ways they want to. You just get in your head and you're constantly thinking about other things and you're not able to actually say, all right, well right now, my penis isn't behaving the way I want to, but let me just turn my focus towards my partner. How could I turn my focus to my energy towards my partner and please them? Maybe you go down in your partner, maybe you give them a sensual massage, maybe you put all of your intensity and focus on them, and an amazing thing could happen to you. I hear this happen all the time. You just might be surprised at how quickly your penis gets hard again, because then you aren't as obsessed

with your penis in the moment. You're actually obsessed with your partner's pleasure. Don't we all want to get there? I'm telling you, when I become more into my partner's pleasure and I'm less obsessed with about my own worries, my own concerns, my own body, and how am I doing and how am I performing? It feels really good to be a giver,

to be giving to my partner, and then recklessly all those stuff that's keeping us from our pleasure potential melts away. And you'll find yourself feeling again more, you're feeling more ready for sex, you're feeling more ready for pleasure to receive it and to give it. So this is what I recommend for you. I do not suggest you start popping Viagra right now, not a 23 years old, but I love your awareness around what's actually happening. And you could actually listen to our recent podcast.

Penis problems solved. All right, Oba, thanks so much for your question. You got this. I appreciate your email. This is from Nicole 30 in New York. Hi, Dr. Emily. I'm a huge fan of your show and I'm reaching out for advice and how to gently help my husband to be a better lover. He's 34 and still does the jackhammer. I feel responsible for being a passive lover for the last four years as I was having my children and just wanted it done with and just check it off the list. Well, now I want to take back control of my sexuality, pleasure and strength in my connection with them. I just don't know where to start. Thanks so much. All right, Nicole, thank you so much for your question. I just want to say this.

I understand that you feel responsible for being a passive lover, but can I just tell you you've had kids the last for years? You've been busy. So it's okay. We're not always at our peak sexual performance. We're not always able to show up in the way we want to show up, especially when you have other responsibilities and things going on, like having a lot of little ones in the house. So it's all good, but let's start from where you're at. My advice to you is,

have a conversation with them. You know outside the bedroom. Maybe in your date night, which I really hope you're having date nights. Side note, do you all know that couples who have side note, do you all know that couples who have date nights and stick to it once a week have deeper intimacy, healthier connection and better sex. I'm just saying, lots of studies have shown that. So I hope you're having a date night. So maybe next time you're in date night, you say to them, you know, I've been thinking about our sex life. And I realize, you know, things are changing right now. I feel like my body's feeling better. The kids are taking up less time. And I would love to find a way to come together and collaborate on our sex life. And think about and talk about what could it be? What's possible? What really turns you on? What turns me on? And also explaining to him,

what exactly it is that you might be wanting right now. And you could say, I don't know what I don't know. I know that I've been distracted the last few years and I really want to take control of my sexuality. And I want to have more intimacy with you. And maybe this is some more masturbation and you're apart and figuring out what feels good or it's some mutual masturbation.

It's you really sinking into your pleasure and being able to articulate and show your husband what you actually want and what you desire. Now you might not know and I get that, but that could be also part of the conversation is telling him that you know there's so much pleasure to be had in your body and his body. But by discovering your own body now, you know that really needs to happen and you can't wait for him to learn along with you as you've both been in this parenting mode. And now it's time to expand. And I really think that every couple could stand from this conversation because I guarantee that the majority of couples are sort of in a holding pattern and you're doing the same things that you've always been doing.

We don't often even think to change up our sex life so to have these conversations. So just let them know that it's a team effort here. And that you both to learn together, to grow, to understand your bodies. And the jackhammer thing, like let's work on that. You could even say I'd love to go slower with you and find ways to have penetration that feels

really great for both of us. Not sure what it is yet, but let's do some exploring. And Seife's open to having conversations with you about your self-sife. I hope that he has a growth mindset around sex, you know, like you do. So I really think it's important to remember these are baby step conversations. I'm going to assume maybe you haven't had a lot of conversations about your sex life, just because the majority of couples haven't, and it sounds even busier the last few years, but to say like, let's start clean slate, let's figure out each other, let's keep talking, let's give each other incredible pleasure, it would be the most incredible lovers to each

other that we could ever imagine. And I'm also, like I said, helps to listen to this podcast together, a lot of couples do that. It helps them break the ice. It helps them to get new fodder and new material to really move their sex life forward to where they want. So all of your needs are getting met. All right, Nicole, thanks so much for your email. This is from Emily 17, Iowa.

Hey, Dr. Emily, I recently started dating a guy. And last night we did some passionate kissing that led to some touching. I told them we should probably stop and he agreed. I am a virgin but feel that if we continue dating I'll want to have sex with them. But also scares me because I know he's experienced. My friend told me I could get a sex toy that would help my vagina get ready for sex. Is this something you recommend and if so is there something you'd recommend?

Alright Emily, I'd love to hear the true to new relationship and feeling good about this partner and as you've heard throughout this episode, I want to expand the definition around sex to make it more than just penetration. So whether or not you've decided to penetrate an intercourse with this partner, definitely connect sexually. I'm all about it. And just a reminder, most women do not orgasm from penetration alone. And in fact, only 20% do, so at least 80% that do not.

So please do not feel pressure to have penetrative sex until you feel ready for it. And if and when you do decide to have penetrative sex for the first time, here are some things to help you along the way. You can use a dildo, which is essentially a vibrator that doesn't vibrate. It's made out of glass or silicone. You could use a rabbit toy, which is a dual simulation toy, meaning it stimulates internally and externally, or just a G-spot vibrator that allows you to explore

how penetration feels on your own before having penetration in the partner just get used to the feeling vibrator that allows you to explore how penetration feels on your own before having penetration in the partner just get used to the feeling what it feels like to have something inside of you. You may also want to explore first the literal vibe or literal stimulation or just masturbation in general if you have not and I do recommend a literal vibe as a starter vibe for all the owners. But again if you want to simulate what intercourse might feel like, some insertion toys are great. Also, want to recommend that you communicate with your partner,

your wishes. Let them know, like, how do you envision this sex encounter going down? So you definitely feel aligned in how you want the experience to be. You want to practice safe sex, condoms, birth control, tack your cycle, pull out whatever you're going to do. The other thing I want to recommend to you is you know, you definitely want to have sex for the first time with someone you feel safe with, someone you can trust, someone you feel that's invested in your pleasure, which is why I love that you are taking this slow. And you're listening to this podcast, which is giving you way more education around sex than most of us had.

Definitely more than I had. I didn't know anything about sex when I started having sex. You can also listen to our podcast, first date, first orgasm, first threesome, because we get into all of this. So you're gonna be prepared and ready to go. But Emily, I already feel that you got this.

You're asking such thoughtful mature questions and I can't wait to hear all about it. Thanks Emily! That's it for today's episode. See you on Friday. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Be sure to like, subscribe and give us a review wherever you listen to the podcast and share this with a friend or partner. You can find me on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter at Sex with Emily. Oh, I've been told I give really good email. So sign up at sexwithemily.com and while you're

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