Sex With Emily - Orgasms, Squirting and The Year of Anal Licking

Episode Date: January 18, 2017

On today’s show Emily is joined by sex educators and toy aficionados April Lampert and Amy Baldwin to talk all things sex. Together, the ladies cover a range of topics, from sexual awakenings to oral sex abroad to the curious rise in anal licking. The three trade hot stories, insights and candid experiences to shed some light on the lives of sexperts. Amy and April also assist in answering your emails: Should you disclose past infidelities to a new date? And when it comes to condoms and casual sex, is there any room for negotiation? This podcast is packed with sex tips, toys picks and plenty of that good old fashioned girl talk we can’t get enough of. Grab your headphones and listen close—you won’t want to miss a thing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Thank you for listening to this show. I'm really excited for my guest. I'm jumping right into it. You should sort of, if this show is as hot as the mic checks that we're not in pre-show, I'm pretty psyched. Okay, I'm sitting with two awesome smart, amazing sexy and powered women.

We have Amy Baldwin and April Lampert. And you guys have both been in our sex toy industry for a while now, right? Yes, both of us since 2008. Okay, and I met you guys. So this show, like I said, we're gonna get in some good old-fashioned sex dating sex toys and I know Amy because we, well I've known you both from the shows. You guys were like the hot girls, the shows, like I wanted to be fun. But then we're gonna do guys with best friends. I'm like, I love you both, you can all hang out. But Amy, I did so mad at her together.

We went through our intensive training. So we've gotten closer. So I can't wait to talk about that. I know April's got a lot of relationships stuff going on, divorced, but now like, friends, having so much fun, having so much fun all over the world. Last night, okay, so this is a big sex month for sex industry people. Not actual, I've had fewer sex partners this year than I did.

Two last year. You mean in starting 2017? Well, 2017 is zero. Because it's only 12 days in. I'm not going to be my subordinate. No, it was fine now. I'm saying I didn't have a lot of sex in 2006. It was fine.

It was like by choice. The point is, we've got industry parties and didn't have a lot of sex in 2006. It was fine. It was like by choice. The point is, we've got industry parties, and there's just a lot of fun stuff happening. So I'm glad you guys both could be in town and be here. And I'm gonna get more into all your dirty details soon, but first, I'd love you to join me with a little sex in the news. Oh, yes.

Just kind of wet our appetite here. Yes. Okay. Erotic books can help women with low sex drives. It was a study. A recent study reveals erotic books like 50 Shades of Grey could help women combat low sexual desire, which we probably know that, right?

We know that, right? Totally. But the interesting thing is approximately 24% to 36% of women between the ages of 30 and 59 suffer from low sexual desire at some point in their life. 34% to 59%. Yeah, between the ages of 30 and 59, we'll suffer from low sexual desire. Haven't you guys ever suffered from that one?

I used to, but now my appetite is just so wet. I'm ravin' literally. Not 34. Right. You were married for a while, so that's why. Maybe that's why. That's it, is well. Totally, it's like I'm awake.

I'm not gonna stay, but that happens. Now you're awakened. Totally. And now I can't get enough. I love that. Okay, we're gonna get into that in a while. So that's why that's it is well totally. I'm not going to say but that happens and now you're awakened now totally and I can't get enough. Okay, we're going to get into that second. I got to get through this news. The thing is that they say bibliotherapy is slowly emerging as an effective and cheaper way to solve sexual desires. And so what they're doing is they did like a control group where they study where they had, they gave women a self-help book and an erotic fiction book to read. And it showed that both of them actually helped increase their desire, right? So it says that 20 women from age 30, 55, in reportedly happy marriages, read the self-help book. Well, 27 women from the same age, read the erotic fiction. Both groups received the same instructions and were given reminders, three weeks into

the experiment to complete the end survey and they found that they made statistically significant gains on around desire, arousal, lubrication, whatever. So I just think this is great because I know in some matter we talked a lot about, and in life, fantasy is important. And getting, sometimes your brain just is not on board with wanting sex. And so what as women, like what can we do to kind of get ourselves on the mood? So I was just, I think this is, I'm always talking

about that in the show. And also myself, I should probably stand to read some fiction watch more porn. I mean, I do. But not always room for more. But what about you guys? Do you ever read a radical? Yeah.

And I always recommend that to clients, do when they're trying to get a little turned on. But I like the idea of the combination of kind of little self-help going in, we're looking deeper into what's going on with the desire as opposed to just throwing in something spicy. I think they go hand in hand, usually like we learn in somatic, usually it's something deeper, it's not just like put a bandit on it and everything will be okay. Exactly. Go in there.

By a sex tour. I would be able to have pictures. Oh, right. That would be my thing. I'm a visual. Wait, it's a poor, so do you guys, that was my next question? Do you guys do watch porn? Of course. Oh, yeah. Okay, I want to know what kind of porn you guys watch. Oh, three of them. Two girls, one guy. And you just go to the, do you go to like a certain porn.com? You porn categories. Go down to their nut and roast. That's the same thing. It's not one attempt to do it. There's not one of our sponsors.

But do you just, and every time you masturbate? Yeah, usually I can use my imagination, but I do better with porn. Right. And no shame around it either. Because I try to get women, a lot of women who have not maybe thought about it, they're thinking, oh, I don't want to sex my partner, but try to watch some porn some erotica. Like sometimes you got to do a little bit extra work and this is not like hard work, right? I'm not asking you know, there's a lot of trouble to know We know that's not sex They're watching

Shubbles know and yeah, what about you Amy? What do you I really like dominance and submission? Specifically women being dominated by men, right? I think that's It is hot right that's one of the top female fanatics. So I just, so, and what about, so Amy owns a store called Pure Pleasure. Yes. Purepleasure.com. Purepleasure.com.

Purepleasure.com. Purepleasure.com. Shop.com. What is some of the best sellers, you think, books that you have there? Books. Well, it's what we recommend because we're definitely an education-based store so when people come in and we just figure out exactly what they're looking for I always recommend

books like She Comes First is kind of a classic. I love it we just talked about the Hadin on the show. Yeah that's a classic. I really love the book Urban Tonsha for people trying to get into the Tonsha realm because it really speaks to all people. A lot of Tonsha's very much like the man and the woman and this one really speaks to all genders and orientations. It's really beautiful. Yeah, I've been such a phenomenal job of it. Thought you'd know, quick to store thing

and everyone can check out your store. We'll give more for me, but it's in Santa Cruz, correct? Yep, little and with mother daughter, own, mom and me. Mom too. Mom too. Yeah, me and mommy. I'm so cute, I love that. Yeah, she works there, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, up here pleasure, initially. Oh, you did? Is that how you guys can be FF? Yes, well. Well, we met before that. In a restaurant, we were both working

the restaurant industry maybe 10 years ago, and April got hired. I was already working there. And she was telling the story on her first day about going to a party and getting spanked. And I turned bright red because I was like, oh my God. Well, I proceeded to actually spank myself in the back kitchen area. And I was like, oh my god, I love this one. I actually spank myself in the back kitchen area. And I was like, oh my god, she's my soul mate.

She thought I actually hated her because she was like, oh, did I just scare her away? And then Amy said she's gonna open a shop and she's like, I want you to work with me. No, I think the assistant manager and I said, I have never worked in retail and I don't even own a vibrator. And she was like, I'm gonna change that right now.

Here's a vibrator and a chop. That's amazing, 10 years ago. Yeah, around there. And then it's like the beginning of a beautiful friendship. And here you are now, you guys are like, we need deep in the industry, killing it. I couldn't imagine, I was gonna be a lawyer, and now I'm selling dildos.

But I was so proud. Exactly, no, I was gonna be a lawyer too. Perfectly all of that. And here we are. It's fine. It's way more efficient. Good choice. Lawyers are not as happy as we are. I know. OK, so we worked for fun factory, director sales

for fun factory USA. And then it was a change to hot octopus, which is the best. They're amazing. So awesome. Congratulations on that. Thank you. I always like to see you guys in the show.

So we'll continue to keep each other. So, okay, so we've got your backgrounds. I need to know, okay, and you guys are how old? If I'm 31, going on 32. Amy's 31, and I am the 34, going on 12. I'm actually, I get it. Okay, so what relationship status? 50 broth.

Oh, for me, we're gonna call it single with an it's complicated attachment. Okay, it's complicated. Yeah, but single at the moment. Okay, got it. So, single ends, yeah. Yeah. Still sleeping with the X, but it's not really committed.

Yeah, I don't know. I'm just, yeah, yeah, yeah. I just, yeah, yeah. Yeah, he's, and he's not here right now. He's present, not present right now. So it's time and space to heal. Right. We all need that. It's time and space to heal. Right, we all need that. It's time and space heals all.

Okay, April. I am newly divorced. It's almost finalized. And this is the first time in my life I've ever been single. Like since I was pretty much 18. Wow, how long were you guys together? Seven years, but I had a boyfriend before that.

For six years and I was in another relationship with a girl for a little while. Wow, okay. Okay, so then how long were you married just now? Seven years. Okay. And you're coming out of it. So now you're like, what? You're just like, it's like four months. Oh my God. It's so much fun. I feel so connected to myself. I'm just like this power. I don't know. It's I found my power. Tell me okay. What so when you were going to

you didn't have to feel like you had this power before. What time? Well, it's just, I wanted to be like a good little wifey, like so sweet and, and domestic and, you know, good to my husband. Sure, I'll get on top sometimes, but, you know, just missionary me all the time, you know. Even after working in this industry, you're really not knowing, like, yes, you know, you've got tools that you're, you know, totally amazing to it. You were just like, I'll be that was just, mean and I understand it's it's an issue to have Consistently amazing sex with your partner. Yeah, it really is and I mean yeah, I but I've definitely awakened from my slumber And I'm feeling so great sexually so you just kind of sleeping around right now meeting I'm taking a good way

That's great. Yes, but I've been because I travel all over the world, selling sex toys. I've been in Chile and Brazil, Spain and Germany, Australia and Thailand. And so I've been, yeah, really experienced, spear-dramenting culturally. Right, that's a bit, right, okay. It's been fantastic. So that's, I want to hear so your partners that you've met in different countries. Is there anything you'd like to say about lovers from different parts of the world? Um, I don't my god so many things so um, I'm just curious because people are always encouraging me. They're like, oh, you should take a German lover. You should have never dealt with on circumcise class before. Talk to me about that. So and I had a Scottish man with a with a prince Albert piercing

with a Prince Albert piercing, OMG, new, interesting things. Also, let's explain what that is. We might not know. It's a head, basically they take, it sounds, this sounds very intense, I'm not a doctor, but it's like through the Yerethra, there's the barbell goes through there, and then it's like, so yeah, really interesting. Okay, and he was onumcised. He was on

circumcised. I guess only one in like 20 people in Scotland is circumcised. Right. So interesting. And then like, what I've learned about people all over the world, like, it was like the year of anal licking. I was like, what is happening? Like, I totally, I've never experienced that. Oh, campus when the year of anal licking. I think there's going to be more. Wait, so because every guy you were with just wanted to lick your anus? Yes.

I'm like, is this a new thing? I didn't get this memo. Like, I'm into it. But usually I'm like, let's do that in the shower just, you know, because, I'm like, hey, yeah. Interesting. Don't even before they lick your vagina. Yeah. Are they licking your anus first? Um, usually, no, usually it's vaginal licking first. Okay. And then it goes into the anal

licking. Also, this might be graphic. I hope you don't mind. Come on. But this guy in Thailand went down to me when I was having my period and he knew about it. And he was like into it. Really? Okay. And how did did you, the Scottish, and he was like, Freedon. He was totally fine. He was totally fine. He was into your pleasure. I know.

And he was an all-tripped up on it. So I just felt very, it was liberating. That is, right? Yeah. He's nothing's wrong with the periods of choice, guys. He'd be like, you who grows out, or he's like, I'm into this. One thing I do for every guy that I've been with in different countries, I send them a care package afterward

with fun factory products. And I'm like, here's to please your next women. Like you have to know, because most 99% of them have been terrified of products. Right. So it's been awesome. It's just a good departing gift. A departing gift.

I'm like, think it's really nice. What do you spend? You guys fun factory makes such cool, like. I usually send them the Cobra Libre, which is a male masturbator as well, and then bullet so I'm like whenever you do it doggy bus this out and put it on the girls clip and she's gonna love it and then they love you. Yeah I have a fan clip so every time I go to these countries I have you know different homes and different area codes. Oh my god I love that you said I'm part of gift that's not a bad one. That's a really

good idea. Brilliant. Yeah, no, it is brilliant. You're never going to get any bad reviews and get a little more anything if it comes to that. Have you noticed anything? Because I noticed something about analicking too. I'd like to say, I had, in my few sexual experiences in 2016, by choice, there was some more analicking

than usual. Yeah, no, I had a very interesting analicking offer when I had, I hadn't even been intimate with someone and that was something that was offered to me It was do you think it's because of because important. They're seeing it more served up on the porn menu Maybe yeah, yeah, no one was looking my ainess randomly eight years ago. Yeah, or something in the air There's the energy of anal I think there is the energy of anal I know a finger, but not just a lick Yeah, yeah, I had a guy who went right for the lick It like he was like flipped me over and wanted to look. I'm like no if there's some that's why I asked you April

I was like can't we start with like some other licking first like maybe my nipples or like I Today's but I had been warned by a friend She said to me. Oh, you're going on this guy. He's great. He loves Bob play. That's all she said to me. I was like, okay, fine. I'm like, I'm bumble. Cool. And then we had one date. Sure enough, we were like, making out. Obviously, it flipped me over. I'm like, oh, my God. And then my brain, I'm going, oh, he's really is. And then I kind of slowed him down. Right. But anyway, I didn't know. I feel like that wouldn't have happened. Yeah. The year of the, yeah, son? Yeah, what about your sexual, would you say,

I know we're sort of a new year, but in the last year, were there any sexual highlights for you? Oh, Amy. Yes. Yeah, definitely. I think I think every year I step higher into my, like, most juicy, essential self. I just get better with age like a friend.

Why? It's true. Don't you think so? Yeah. How do you feel that you stepped into it this year? Is there any like one Pivot at one moment that was like a highlight? Yeah, I mean it was just like an overall general more embodiment and like Stepping or dropping deeper into my body and it's understanding of the pleasure that it wants and more orgasms and more ejaculation more juiciness more connection more transcendent sexual experiences where I'm like leaving my body for extended periods of time.

Okay, let's do that. Let's do that. Was that, now would you think it started with our somatica training? That helped definitely. Yeah, I think that really helped bring me in my body. That was a big practice of what we were doing. And so I think it really helped to turn that up. Yeah.

To get the heat there and more connection into that part of myself. I feel like it was a great, I feel like I, I know that you're also seeing clients not too. Yeah, I'm more connected to the heat there and more connection into that part of myself. I feel like I feel like it was a great I feel like I I didn't know that you're also seeing clients Not too. Yeah, yeah, and so I'm not going to do that, but I I feel like I still want to be doing more Sematic like it's not It's a part of me because I said but I want to like still be engaged. Yeah, like doing stuff. It's a powerful practice It is a powerful practice. What was your um? I don't know. I've talked about the this. I always try to explain what it is. And how do you explain it?

Well, I like how they describe it as a relationship lab. And so when we're working with clients specifically, we're really trying to develop this intimate relationship with them to heal old attachment wounding from their parents, from their upbringing, where we become that secure attachment to show them the way of secure attachment, to show them what a healthy relationship can be.

So we step in kind of as that role for them. So I'm doing that with a lot of my clients and a lot of it, it really is, we're doing a lot of work on wounding. They come in and they're like, I can't have orgasms. It's your parents fault. So true. Let's talk about your childhood. Right. It is always, I mean, parents are doing anything purposefully.

No, well, no, you have to get the point where you're like my parents are the best they could, the knowledge they had, but something from your site, something that happened in society or in school with your parents is going to kind of hold you back sexually. Yeah. So you're like helping them. Yeah, abandonment and lack of trust and safety. You know, they have a hard time going into their bodies, being in their bodies because their bodies didn't feel safe because it maybe it wasn't respected. People didn't show up for them.

People abandoned them and left them and neglected them where there's actual physical trauma, emotional trauma. It's all just these layers and layers of pain and trauma and shame that we're undoing. We're like spending a lot of time unraveling that. That's amazing. I'm so glad you're doing this. It's really beautiful. you. I love it.

It's really beautiful. God. Everyone needs to have any amazing stories though from your training? Oh, from Sematica? Emily, I haven't really spent so much on it. We did. We had a moment. Yeah.

That was OK. So the exercise, I think it was, I was supposed to touch you and bring my eroticism to you in the touch. And you were just supposed to receive. You weren't requesting you were just kind of laying there and receiving. And I have a lot of experience with conscious touch and I teach classes on conscious touch and I'm a meditator and into mindfulness. And so I started touching you and I didn't realize it wasn't erotic. I was just like touching you with this mindful way and you're paying attention to all the senses and all these things.

And then at some point, I think it was a Danielle. She came to Danielle's sat down and she's like, that doesn't look very erotic. Emily, how is that feeling? Like, yeah, it's not very erotic for me. I was like, oh, oh, okay. And I had this kind of aha moment of that there's different levels of conscious touch. And there's a difference between conscious touch and conscious erotic touch and that we have this ability to turn on eroticism within ourselves and then to bring it

outward. So through that that like fail. That's how we learn. Yeah exactly and then and so through that I actually learn you know I I failed in that moment and then my next exercise I think it was with the beloved dragonfly, we love dragonfly. Love dragonfly, shut out. And yeah, shout out dragonfly and just learned I could essentially go within to myself and just go in there for 30 seconds. Kind of connect with my inner body.

Peace set with it, you can find. Yeah, go in there to take a moment. I talk to clients about this too, so we have the ability to just go within, fuel our bodies, you know, fuel our genitals, fuel our pussy, fuel our cock, go in there, like feel this churning, warming energy, open your eyes and then go out where it

and bring it to the person in front of you. And I learned that can do it for anyone. Like I can do it for any gender, any, is just, I can turn on any gender. And that's what, it is. And you talk me that Emily, thank you. Oh my God. Oh my God.

Well, yeah, well, we all help each other in this class, but it's interesting because people here are saying, what? But when you are a somatic or practitioner, and you're working with clients who have a problem, are struggling, have challenges around desire, arousal, erotic thought, we have to be able to like turn it on in any moment with some bring that

around, and I'd be like, well, what if you're not attracted to the partner, what if you're not attracted to the partner, you know, what if you're not attracted to your client, or what if you can't, but we're saying is like, we learned like, you actually can't like, it's a choice at any moment. Yeah, in your body. Fantasy is a big part of it too. You can look at this body and say, Hey, you're not usually my type, but I'm going to use fantasy and assign a whole different body to you. And it's

nothing against you. We all have our preferences. And you know, I could look, because I'm definitely more attracted to men than I am to women. So I could look at a woman, turn their body in my eyes into this like hot men body and just just rubbish them. And that's totally for a game, right? Yeah, totally. And you would be energy. Yeah. It is healthy. It doesn't mean anything against the person. It doesn't mean that, you know, if it's your partner and you're still using fantasy of someone else, it doesn't mean you don't love them. It doesn't mean that you're not attracted to them. It means that you have some awesome tools

in your spank bank that help you to go deeper and why not, because you're giving them a lot of high arousing energy. So it's a good thing. Right, that's really good. That's really, it's true. I had never really, that's what I was saying. I need to watch more porn.

I mean, obviously I do, but I feel like that was a big takeaway for me from Somatic I too, is that I really don't like a lot of times I just whip out my toys and master, but I'm not using my brain a lot. I'm not using my brain. I'm not like turning it on and having a fantasy. I didn't naturally have like I have some bondage when I have some dominant ones, like some basics like whatever, but nothing that was more elaborate and that you can actually work on your own story. What about you April? When you come out of it?

Do you have an erotic fantasy? What's in your spank bank, April? Okay, I'll just be honest with you. It's really when I'm more attracted to men than women as well, but it's when the guy is like making a lot of noise and then throwing in some dirty talk. Oh yeah, that's hot. That's hot. I love talking about how dirty my pussy is.

Like dirty, little slap. You like it, don't you? Is that why the guy went down you? Like I know it's kind of dirty with my period right now. I like to go down you name. But that's what that happened. I don't recall exactly what spawned the, yeah. Is there a name for that when the guy goes down in you?

There probably isn't we should name it we should Red It's something bad. It's something red wins red wins red wins How did I know that oh? Oh, he's got his red wings Yes, he did he lived to tell and he's and he's in the care package and he asks it's true like the Scottish people wear kilts And they don't wear underwear underneath them. They really don't know he was in the care package. And PS, it's true. Like the Scottish people wear kilts and they don't wear underwear underneath them. Thank you for coming.

He was in a kilt? Well, no. While he was red-winging in a kilp. That is my fan to see right there. Oh my god. Wait, you guys, I have a question for you, though. OK, so being in this industry, right? We work, we sell sex to people.

Do you feel like there's these assumption around who you are and what you do? Yes. And has it affected your dating life? Yeah, it depends on the environment. Yeah, I definitely have people that think that I'm a little intimidating and I also have people that think that I'm into everything that I talk about because I'm also a sex educator.

I teach workshops on sexuality. At your store. Yeah, so I'll teach things on like Tonsha and male sexual pleasure and anal 101. And I actually end to most of those things, but there are some things that I'm talking about and educating on that aren't a part of my private practice, but people just assume like you're in this ex industry, you're into everything. You're probably kinky queer, all you know, all these things. And you know, I am me and I'm a lot of those things and I'm also not a lot of those things.

I'm just kind of sitting here with women who, you know, like April, do they like think you're gonna walk out the duke like on the first? Yes, right? It's like, where's the duke? It's like the double penetrating. It might be so kinky. I'm like, well, I mean, I don't know, I guess,

but I just, it's a commodity, you know? I mean, sex toys are beautiful. They're enhancing tools to make your sex life better, but also for me, I'm in sales. So it's awesome to bring orgasms to people one vibrator at a time, but I'm not some kinky closeted You know like I have 900 vibrators. Although when I go to the airport, yeah, say things I'm gonna she does have a lot of I literally I literally like it's problem. I do have a judgment a little bit of a judgment Against I because I work for a loob company, I work for Uber Loob, so when I actually go into the man's bedroom,

and they don't have a loob, I'm so... Yeah, like, let's talk about you for a minute. Okay, you have one of my favorite topics. Everyone should have loob. I am a huge, obviously, loob. Like, if there should be no stigma around it, it's to make sex better and enhances every situation. They say, like, why would we need that? would I need I don't need I bring Uber loop to the gynecologist

Cuz I want them to use like the city K-1 yeah, I got you. I got you But it also women like don't you feel like even if I don't have that problem. I'm not wet like I I mean I already get Yeah, but even with a lot of contact like back back to back, you do end up needing, Lou, you don't always produce it. Well, and the wetness thing, there's this really great book. Can be read, come as you are. Yes. So good.

It's such a good book. I think that's one of our textbooks that we had read. Actually, we had our textbook for the Samaritan. I didn't read any one, but I think it's a rousal non-concordance. And in a rousal non-concordance, is that we have this idea that there's certain things that go hand in hand with a rouse and if you don't have that, that means you're not turned on.

And wetness is one of them, which actually so many, and wetness is based on so many things. Hormones, sometimes you're wet one day, sometimes you're wet and not wet another day, and it doesn't mean you're not a rouse. And vice versa, too. There's just this judgment on people that if you're a rouse, you should be wet

and plenty of people don't always get wet and change this day by day. I have a blocked clan. There's the Bartholens clans that produce vaginal lubrication. One side of my clan's completely blocked. And so I have less lubrication than other people. Doesn't mean I'm not turned on by you. So I use my Lou.

Right. No, I know it's so true. And I actually want to buy lower sexual experiences of the year. I was just some guy like, you know, I don't's so true. And I actually, one of my lower sexual experiences of the year, I was with some guy like, you know, I don't even remember what this was. He's like, oh, get wet for me, are you wet? And I was like, because we know so much being sex educated. Like, I might not, I'm usually wet,

but I might not be in being wet. It's not a sign that you're not safe to her. And I'm people shocked to hear that all the time. You could be on a different gender level. That's why. Exactly. You know, different times of the month. That's the other reason why.

It got me, I think that a lot of people think it's a fail if they're partners that way. We're just telling you that it doesn't always mean that. Everyone should own Loub. Right. Absolutely. And really good Loub. Right. And good condoms. And good ingredients. Yes. And good condoms. Yes. Right.

Hope to use condoms in any travels. Always. So I'm curious though about your starting out sexually. Like, would you, how did you learn about sex? When you were younger, did you? My mom's come a suture book that was hidden underneath her bed. Yeah, good. Well, I know. Awesome.

I started masturbating when I was like six years old. I realized I had this bear, this stuffed animal bear that I used to hump. I'm sorry, I'm just full disclosure. No, you're not. Why not? Yeah, but six years old. And I was like, what is that? That feels really nice. And then that was like my secret place. Right. If you never left the bedroom. No, I get it. That's, that's a lot of girls. I was just curious because I, yeah, what about you and me? I, I think I learned about sex through

probably the media for the most part. And then my mom had a couple books that I would hack into and find them. And I don't remember what they couple books that I would hack into and find them. And I don't even remember what they were, but I would look at them and get kind of turned on. About orgasm. Did you have like a ride of your bike when you were seven thing? No, you know, I was a late orgasm. I had my first orgasm from a vibrator that,

I think, 18. I was the kid that was curious about my genitals. Like, I would check them out. I was like, what's this? What's this? No, but a lot of kids too. A lot of. Like I would check them out. What's this? What's this? No, a lot of kids too. A lot of kids too.

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I'm going to put it on my genitals. I only want to feel good. It doesn't feel good. I'm going to freak out and cry. And then society gives them a whole bunch of shame, and a whole bunch of shame, a whole bunch of sheds and sheds nots of how they should be, and then they conform, and they stop seeking pleasure, and then pleasure becomes a shameful thing.

And now as liberated progressive adults, like we are, not everyone in the world, is that. Now we're undoing all those layers of bullshit that society's given us to get us back to that original pleasure seeker, Mickey Mouse's nose, on my clip. Exactly, no it's true. That's how you're doing like the somatic training and the somatic therapy. Like people, we don't even

realize what we're carrying around for us. There is comes a point in every young woman's life and a man's perhaps, but usually when we are like, your body is dirt like cover up. Cover your breath. Around it six years old without the top. And you know, there's that time we realize, oh, my body is shameful or dirty. And so and we hold on to that until we let it go. So yeah, I didn't have, I was just curious. I love knowing about orgasmic experiences.

But what about now, how important is orgasm to you? Like, would you're with a new partner? Mm-hmm. I mean, I try to be as, like, not non-goal-oriented as possible because for me me goals equal pressure and they just, you miss all the yummy stuff along the way on the journey. And as I say that, I do love orgasms

and I love an array of them because I have so many different types of orgasms that are even beyond my genitals as well. So I think that it is something, it's to me, it's a bonus. What are the other orgasms beyond your genitals? Well, energetic orgasms, things that you can do have experience like transcendent experiences

that are orgasmic without touching genitals. Have you ever had one in your sleep before? Like those kind of long time ago? Yeah, like long time ago. Like sleep gals. I have sleep gals that are like that movie inception where in my sleep, I will know that I'm dreaming and I'm having orgasm and then because I know I'm dreaming,

I can have it over and over and over and over. This doesn't happen all the time people just so you know I wish it did. You're going to change your address. Yeah, I know. No, but wait, but okay, but was that something that just always happens here? Did you work on that in your sexual studies? I mean, I had a sleep orgasm once. Worked, not necessarily enough.

I think as I've expanded more and become more orgasmic in general, it's opened up the doors for more opportunity to have different types of orgasm. And, you know, there's people who have, you know, once could feel in their genitals, right? And so they could have orgasms in their genitals. And then they get a spinal cord injury, and then they can't feel in their genitals anymore. And so they're able to eroticize another part of the body, like the pit of the arm or the ear

and have orgasms through that. So, generals actually just don't have to be a part of it. You know, the brain is to your largest sex organ. So, there's a lot of other options. And I also think too, you know when you see a live performance and it's so powerful and so beautiful and you get that shutter in your body, to me that feels really orgasmic.

That like, oh. Yeah, no, I've had that. I've totally, I know what you're saying. I wouldn't even do it again, but I've had a full body. Yeah, I'm just big on expanding the concept of it outside of just like general contractions. Right, no, you're right. And that is the right sex positive way to go.

So sex positive. Yeah, but here's my question though. When you're with a new partner, how do you know like, is there certain go-to move or way that you know how to orgasm during intercourse for example? It depends on what I'm trying to achieve. I know what can get me to the level to female ejaculate. It's not always an equation that is accurate. It takes different things and different partners but I know what when it's gonna happen. And I'm like, you're gonna jack this. And do you think you do you both a jack like you said?

Oh, yes. So why are we? Juicy. Hello. Juicy can be. So, okay. So I, but do you think that when you would jackulate, are you also having an orgasm?

Yes, I really do. It's like this build up and then this release. And then it's just like, I definitely feel it's different than a, a clitorial orgasm for me, for sure. But it is more is almost more intense. Yeah, no, I have, but I feel like sometimes I've done it and not had it orgasm. Or if sometimes they go hand in hand when that all the stars

are aligned. Yeah, it's a little bit of both. Sometimes they're in hand and sometimes it's own thing, a really nice release. Did you guys, like, teach yourselves how to do it? I ejaculated my very first time I had an orgasm and that was with a vibrator using a vibrator on my foot. It's an magic wand.

No, it was a little water dancer. Oh, a little water-by-the-by-the-same company, vibratex water dancer. And I used that and I knew what it was, I'm like, this is ejaculation, but it freaked me out. It was like, ah! And did that for a little while, and then eventually, even was I knew what it was

There's still a level of shame not not from a partner just within myself of like I don't know It wasn't it wasn't super normalized to me and so my body kind of turned it off And so I had a dry spell from age 20 to 25 or 26 where there was no more ejaculation happening And then I had a really profound sexual experience with someone where they milked that G spot and the flood started all over. That's good. So he knew what he was doing, in a way. Yes, yeah. Or he was either that or so, the enough pressure

to really work that you're really. Just to this point, the G spot, right. It is. Well, mine happened after I was wearing Kiggle balls for like, you know, really working on my pelvic floor strength. And after that, like, I was being so regular. And I mean, it's definitely, you know,

the pelvic floor is responsible for so many things. Right. So after that, then it was through with the magic wand. Right. Yeah. Same. That was the first time. But I do it during like sex too. Now I have the first time was with Scotland. Oh, Scotland. Oh, no, don't say his name. Oh, wait, the country. I'm not. Yeah, I'm not going to say it's okay. I got it. But wait. Okay. So let's talk about public focus. I do wear the kegge balls a lot.

And I do this thing, the intensity. Do you know the intensity by per watt? It's like electros stimulation that you put in. Oh, yeah. Totally. So that changed my life because I have an iPhone app called kegge camp that I launched like four years ago. It was like, it reminds you to do your keggels every day.

Great. And I love that. But I was like, just because I have, just because I'm doing my kegels, doesn't mean, the alarm comes on, I wasn't as motivated, like I'd do it, but then I started wearing the balls a lot, and did you just wear them around, right?

Right, doing my daily activities, like I'll go to the grocery store and walk your dog. And that really, like don't, okay, it's because I'm glad there's an, have you done this too, Amy? Oh yeah, my friends and I used to go for walks and this place is called Westcliff, like on the Cliffs, I'll buy the ocean, and we call them K-Ball Walking. I'm just out for a walk. Okay, I love this too, maybe... Oh, yeah. My friends and I used to go for walks, and this place is called Westcliff, like on the Cliffs, not by the ocean.

We call them K-Ball Walking. And we just talk for a while. Okay, I love this. So I, okay, so I've talked a lot on the show about my experience. What was your experiences after we were in the Kaggle Balls, and how did it change your pup being... Having a strong pelvic floor? You know, first we're gonna take quick break,

and when we come back, we're gonna talk about your pelvic floors. And how strong, and how it changed your life, having strong BC muscles. Okay, so thanks everyone for supporting my sponsors. I love them and I hope you do too. We'll be right back. All right we're back. We're talking about your pelvic floor. Okay so what did you guys realize after having stronger PC muscles? How did it impact your life? For me, it just made my orgasms longer, stronger, more intense. And really,

oh, I went to the gyno and I put the, he put the speculum inside, I have male gynecologist. And he says to me, you should be a pelvic floor model. I was like, what does that mean? He said, you know, people that are training to be gynos, they need to have people to practice on. And you have such a strong pelvic floor. You can hold the speculamin for like 20 minutes. I'm like, can you take it out? No, but thank you.

I'm like, I see the kegoballs. Yes. That is the best story I've ever held in your gynecologist. My wife said, you really know who I was. And I thought that was inappropriate. It was a man. But this to me is amazing. I mean, it was. I was like, into your guided colleges. My wife said, you've really nice to have, because I thought that was inappropriate. It was a man, but this to me is amazing. I mean, it was, I was like, well, thank you.

And I'm like, should I just flex it? I'm flexing on time, flexing. But don't you feel like, and you don't see, I don't know if you guys ever have that one. You sneeze, you pee, or something, you laugh, like I had some of that, okay. Right. But also, I feel like G-Spot, like my whole,

I was having more orgasms, I was more turned on. Right. I still am, I mean, I'm doing it. So, do you want to break you in? I mean, I feel like G-spot, like my whole, I was having more orgasms. I was more turned on, right? I still am. I mean, doing it. So, do you want to put it? Yeah, I mean, I think, yeah, this is what this was as a female body individuals, you know, we don't see our rouse all, which is like, we don't get erections and all of a sudden, there's like this big thing in our pants. So I think Kegel exercise is really help us to tap into that part of our body, not only is it toning to help with stronger orgasms, but even just utilizing that part of your body, like only is it toning to help with stronger orgasms, but even just utilizing that part of your body, like actually just flexing the muscles

gives us some connection and awareness and can actually lead to a rousal too. That's why I do this, I do something every day. I do the kegoballs or I'll do the intensity because I feel like just breathing into it and having that consciousness around my body it turns me on and that's what I always tell women as well. I do trainings.

I do trainings all over for products, obviously. And one thing that I like to tell people, it's like any muscle, you know, like any muscle, if you don't work out, what's going to happen? It gets loose. And think about having a loose, you know, vagina. Right. Doesn't sound appealing. Nobody wants that.

They want it, like, you know, healthy. So that's how, and that really does, I feel like gets, gets into people sound appealing. Nobody wants that. They want it like, you know, healthy. So that's so and that really does. I feel like gets gets gets into people's heads. So right. Okay. Well, we also live in this in this society where it's not something that is like widely taught to women that the idea if you don't use it, you lose it. And there actually is some truth to that. That as we get older, the tissue changes and the muscle strength are changes. And a lot of times when women go through menopause, the desire shifts and so they're actually not using that muscle and then the desire shifts again and they want to use the

muscle again and at that point it's really weak and so then they have to go back and use dilators and when in fact if they have been exercising that muscle all along with kegilexercizers that might not be as much of an issue. Absolutely right. I love this so download my iPhone app

Kegel Camp, and buy some balls. Don't you think, do you do mine your own? You guys aren't both wearing, but maybe you're wearing balls. We should have worn the balls. Amy gave me my first pair of balls. She did.

She did. We share balls. But I do love, I go through periods where I'm like, I'm just wearing them all the time. And it's amazing. Okay, so my next up topic, just thinking, where else can we go? Blow jobs. Blow jobs.

Blow jobs. I just think that when we talk about, I always get women to ask them, like, what, how do you feel about it? What are some good tips, maybe for women who aren't into it, like, do you have any special go-to moves, things that people got to do? Whatever I just blow jobs classes, like, my oral sex classes are always, and you teach those,

too, right? So it's always like the one, the only thing that I know that works for everyone is enthusiasm, just like being happy to be there in the presence of this beautiful cock that's in front of you. And everything else, all the other tools and tricks are great. I don't think there's like one thing that applies everyone except for moisture,

like well-leaf created. I think adding vibration to a blow zone really does help and I love like cupping the balls with something. Don't forget the balls. The balls vary in love and love. Absolutely. Yeah, holding the ball like the balls. Like the stress balls, the stress balls you buy in Chinatown, like kind of move the

sergeant and then like that's balls like that. That's a fight. Oh, buy those to play with. No, no, no, just touching the balls like that. Or, that's when I say to those Benoit balls, it's how you hold them. And then also, you know, the cock extends even back into the body beyond what you see in the balls. There's more cock and more shaft down there that also could love some access too. So the cock keeps going.

Don't neglect the base of the cock. Okay, good. What about some connolingus tips? Things that you particularly like are that you think they've been helpful in your meandering through life. Connolingus tips. They're both like husband as was known as the Pussy Whisperer. Oh, that's good. And he's still the more stimulus he singles to.

I believe so. He lives in Israel, but. No, it's far too far. And I'm Jewish, but oh, yeah. Are you Jewish? Yeah. Oh, we're, oh. I mean, see.

Did we talk about this? I was Jewish by injection. I mean. The thing. I'm not going to date your ex anyway, but I want to hear about why he was known as a pussy whisper. So I think the thing that he did so well was the sensual nature, like the whole ABC thing is totally bogus. Right, like drawing the alphabet with your tongue.

No, and people get too hard with their tongue. I think the softness of the tongue and incorporating not like a lot of hand movements along with you know the action of the tongue is good. Use the you know the vagina the vagina along with the vulva. Don't just use not just external. Yeah not just external play. Could you have a lot of listeners, young male listeners, who have never done it and they're nervous and free. So I know it's like beginning to. They always want to know. I'm just thinking talking to women about what they like. I was like about praising the pussy because there's a lot of pussy shame. So like right when you

get down your face in front of the pussy, let that pussy know how beautiful it's like, oh your pussy is so gorgeous or if you don't say gorgeous but like just praise it. I agree, hell to the pussy. Hey, all the pussy. Okay, you guys, I would be I would be I would be remiss if we didn't have a conversation about sex toys Yeah, in the industry course. Yes, so I need to know what's like your favorite toy right now like you're go to for you personally If you have one, okay, I So personally it's so simple, but it's like the most versatile. I love just a simple bullet.

That's powerful because you can just use it anywhere and it's like compact so you can just throw it in your bag. I love that. Just a simple bullet with a lot of power. That was like my first one. Yeah. Yeah. A rechargeable waterproof, like one fun fact, we did another one, but I know that we've

I've does too. We've I've been saying I love the thing. Yeah, the tango is really nice. When I first had like that, there's a bullet that can do this. Oh, yeah. And go underwater. I do love adding a vibrating coquering to stuff too. Because it really does enhance and change the experience.

Because if you're riding on top, you can get vibration on your vulva. Exactly. So it's wonderful. I love a good coquering. Me too. And it's a good entree too for a lot of people. A lot of people who have not tried Toys The Partner. Right. You're like, hey, we all get the vibrators.

Because you don't need it to use it just to maintain an erection. People get caught up in that. Like you say Cochrane. They're stretchy and they're so versatile. So I think it's an enhancement tool for Cochrane. Okay. What about you, Aime?

Okay, here we go. So for vibrators, I like the I like the power and I like that deep setting power, not the light buzzy bullshit. So I would go with a mystic wand because I like smaller battery operated. So mystic wand is a vibratex toy. Or if I'm feeling like I want something a little smaller and more quiet, the crave duet because it has that deep-thirty vibration, but it also is tiny and doesn't make any sound. We're getting everywhere. This is fabulous, you can bring it everywhere.

And then I'm also, I like some anal toys, I like anal plugs, enjoy line, love that, love staying the steel. Yeah, staying the steel butt plug. Yeah, that's fun for the whole family. Yeah, staying the steel is wonderful. And then, loop, uber, loop. Every time I have insects, it's always there.

The other things, like vibrators and butt plugs, they come Lou, Uber Lou, every time I have insects, it's always there. The other things like vibrators and butt plugs, they come in on the occasion. Lou is always present. Yeah, Lou is always with us. It's always with me. I totally, I totally agree. Now, I also have a lot of questions from listeners who are always concerned about bringing toys

into the relationship with our habitoid, how do I get my partner to try it? I know what that's like. I know what those comments are my house, and they assume like, just play toys, drawing on this rack, or they just know what I do for a living. But I don't know. I mean, you teach classes,

like how do you talk about all the time? I tell people. As a heterofemail coming from me being with mostly men, incorporating the hot octopus, that it's a male masturbator that can be used as a couple. So it's like, it's the vibrator. It vibrates, right? The guy vibrator.

It's a vibrator and it oscillates, so it has this technology that kind of thumps. So incorporating, I think, a male body if you're a heteroperson that is, you know, a heterophemal is really useful. I mean, couples toys are always the best way to go. Right, I think so too. I love a good couple, like a good strong cock ring

or anything email. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm kind of talk about that. Couples toys. I think the scary thing for couples is like, what if it replaces me and it feels better than me and that dildo you want that instead of my cock. The dildo doesn't snuggle, the dildo doesn't connect.

There's a lot of things the dildo cannot replace. So check your fears and stop with the shame, please, because that is quite shaming to Shame someone I always say it's an enhancement tool. Yeah, and that's yeah, it just makes things more exciting and spicy And if you're really terrified of the dildo replacing you then use a smaller toy or something that's smaller than you And then you feel better because you're a big The care package with the bullet. That's why I send every guy Yeah, you don't send them like a huge no I can't get you with the bullet. That's why I send every guy a guy with the bullet.

Yeah, you don't send them like a huge no. That right. Dong. I was going to say don. I was trying to come up with something else, but don. Dong. He's a little one, but it's true. I'm always surprised that still the thing,

after 12 years, like really people selling through your place, but there's still that fear here. Yeah, very much. OK, I would love to invite both of you to invite answer some questions to my list of fun people. OK, so everyone, thank you for email answer some questions from my list of other people. Okay, so everyone, thank you for emailing me. I love when you email me.

It's so fun. And if you go to sexo-unmy.com right now, we make it so easy because there's a little tab. It says ask Emily when you click on that, you can write your question there, submit it boom, we get it right away. However, there's now an option where you can just click, I'd like to be called or something that says that or consider for a phone call. And now we're taking calls. So Eddie will set it up.

Eddie works with me. He'll set up the call and we'll get to like get into your stuff live. It's really fun. That's awesome. Or just send me, I'm cool with that. Just send me the written word. Also, leave me a voicemail, eight-win-a-ask-swe-e-one. That's super fun.

Also include your name, your age, where you live and how you listen to the show. All right, ready? Here we go. Hey, Emily, I'm in a friend with benefits relationship with a mid-20s lady who I see weekly. I've asked about going to the testing slash no condom road, but she wasn't okay with it. I respect that, but can't get off my mind.

When we're together, I frequently have this in my head about going without, and I end up cock-blocking myself. How do I shake this madness so I can concentrate on the sexy woman I'm with? PSI view skins and the new Lalo condoms. I love skin condoms. Phil ate a H54 Las Vegas. So, do you get what he's asking here?

He's asking, so his partner wants to go like no condom? No, he won't get tested, she won't work on it. And she won't get tested. Right, so I think she needs to get tested, it's so easy. Wonder, I wonder what the fear is in getting tested. Right, exactly. I mean, I think if they're friends with benefits, like you have to work on them,

so you can find another FWB. Right. Yeah. Like, why would you risk that? Yeah, it sounds a little on the risky side. Yeah, I mean, he's using condoms, right? He says he's kind of good. I would say continue to use condoms until I would never want to be with a partner that was like,

I'm not going to use condoms, I'd be like, okay, well, and I'm not going to get tested. Right. Right. No, dude, this doesn't sound good at all. He's before she's 20s. 20s. This is a weekly. I don't like that she'm not gonna get tested. Right, right. No, dude, this doesn't sound good at all. He's 24, she's 20, 20s, this is a weekly. I don't like that she's not okay with it. Yeah. Like I'd say, you could buy a five. It feels a little unsafe and a little questionable.

Yep, I agree. And he's also having trouble, what is he saying? He's having trouble, what? Getting this cock-blocking himself, he gets hard, keeping his... Oh yeah, I get it. A lot of guys get nervous, because they're afraid they're gonna get a pregnant,

he's gonna get STD, that makes sense. So, you know, continue on the condom route and if she doesn't accept that then maybe it's time to find a new, yeah, friends with benefits. Yeah, exactly. Okay, so we've got another email here. This one. Okay, dear Emily, as a result of my infidelity, I'm in the process of getting divorced. When I began dating, when I began dating,

at what point do I discuss my past behavior? Do I reference my past in online dating, bio or even in initial conversations? I feel I'm damned if I do bring it up. No one wants to be the cheater and damned if I don't. When you want to know before considering to date someone who's cheated, thank you, Steve. Oh, no, Steve. What if he put his like, hi, have two dogs, I live in the country and I'm a cheater.

No, you're not going to put this in your dating program. No, definitely. It's fine. No, he's still beating himself up. I feel like this is a conversation. I don't even think needs to come up on the first day, either. I think this is something that like gradually over time is you get to know someone comes in organically. It's not just something that's sitting in the back of your head like I must disclose every bit. When it feels right and if you want to get to the next level with that person, then it's

like okay, this full disclosure, we obviously like each other, this is going to go to the next level. I'm going to tell you this is what happened and these are the circumstances. Yeah, this is why I cheated. Right. Sometimes you cheat because maybe you're not supposed to be with that partner anymore. That was, I mean, like, yeah. And also just to kind of normalize it a little bit, a lot of people cheat.

It's really common. So you're not this like outcast in society. You'll probably say that they're like, I cheated, too. So, exactly. And there's so many different ways to cheat. You don't have to be physical. There's emotional cheating. Once a cheater always a cheater thing, though, I don't believe in that.

I think that's like something that people that were cheated on kind of say to make themselves. I don't know. I don't think that yeah, you can't make any generalizations like that. That's true. And I just think that he's still, Steve, you're still being yourself up for this. Yeah.

It'd be nicer to yourself. I feel like this is like this scarlet letter or something like he can't get past that he's always going to be a cheater. It's a shame. They're going to shame, but yeah, it is true. It's not the first date. So I cheated on my wife and that's how he broke up.

I mean, that's not where you're gonna bring it up, but I think eventually there come to time and relationships where you talk about it. I really don't think this is like a deal breaker. I'm sure there's a reason you did it. I'm assuming you don't always wanna be a cheater. Yeah, did you learn from it? I'm sure I did learn how to grow up.

I used to be a cheater. I've talked about it. I'm a reformed cheater. I cheated on everybody. Reformed, I like that. Yeah, I just didn't commit. I don't commit, typically. So I don't change anymore. Yeah. It really works well. typically, so I don't change more, it's really works well.

No, but I don't want to do it, but I did in the past, I never got caught, it was a whole thing, and I'm over it, but it's fine, you can move on, and it's okay to talk about it. Yeah, okay, so I've got questions for you guys now. Five questions. And they're rapid fire, so don't think about it too much, okay? Okay, first I'm gonna ask Amy that I'm gonna say, much, okay? Okay. Okay. First, I'm going to ask Amy that I'm going to ask April.

Okay. Biggest turn on. Oh, dominance. Um, clitoral stimulation. Biggest turn off. Um, oh my god. What would be my biggest turn? Anyone that sticks a finger in my belly button.

Okay. I think you see, but don't touch my belly button. Biggest turn off. Um, not being vocal enough while you're in the midst of the orgasmic experience. Okay, I think you see, but don't touch my belly, but it gets rid of Not being vocal enough while you're in the midst of the orgasmic experience Okay, right I want to come Crazy place you've gotten busy oh wow with the pilot while he was flying the plane I'm playing with other people on it.

No, it's like a two-seater plane. Okay, got it. And he was flying his own private plane. To do that, you're so dangerous. Yes, I love it. I like to live life days. I mean, I could never have that crazy place. You got busy.

On a long tail in Thailand. Scotland, Scotland! You've been Scotland, you love it. Why is it the Scotland? Was he wearing his coat? No. I loved him. Okay, sexiest word to you, Amy. Oh

pussy slot pussy slot you slutty girl. I love your pussy. Nice. Okay What sexiest word to you April? Queen boss queen That's right. What's the one thing you wish you could tell Men about female pleasure, that they don't know? To go slower and then slower and then slower than that. Use a lot of your hand motions on the vulva.

It feels really good. Use the vulva more. Not just the vagina, but the vulva. People don't know. It's a lot of people don't know. It's external and atomized. It's external, yes. Right. Pay attention. People don't know that a lot of people don't know. No, they're external and adamant. External, yes. Right.

Pay attention. Pay attention. That's a really good one. You guys, thank you so much. You guys, this was delightful. It was so much work. This was so much work. I really, I love you guys both.

So let me tell you, we put the sauce go up in our website, but Amy, the best way to find you teach courses, you're seeing clients, how it's the best way for people to find you. Best place to find me, you can email me at Amy at purepleasureshop.com or my website www.purepleasureshop.com and we have a little newsletter box there And I know that's for a retail store, but that's also actually how I email out my clients too for my sematico practice as well And there's sex education classes and online classes and all kinds of fun things

So that's great. You're picking us. Okay, me. Good, okay. April, are you just? I am. Well, I would love for people to check out HotOctopus.com. It's from London, amazing products. We're going to have some really fabulous new things that no one's ever seen before coming out this year, at least six new products. Oh cool. So check out HotOctopus and yeah, just keep following you around and I'm, yeah, I'm on Instagram.

And she's a woman. I'm private. Are you our private? I mean yeah, but if if you look like at the private sound very I know well, you know She's gotta be present. I mean you gotta keep something you want to talk to April good I hold a meal screen Yeah, they're best friends. Yeah, we're better than that. Well, thank you guys. This is wonderful. Thank you Emily Yeah, my well-dustrains. Okay, so thank you guys thank you guys. This is wonderful. Thank you, Emily. Yeah, my well-distrained. Okay, so thank you guys, and thank you to my amazing team. Thank you, Madison.

Thank you, Eddie. Thank you, Jamie and Ken and Lori. And who else do I want to thank? Thank you, Michelle, who's here as taking pictures of my buddy, Michelle. Thank you. And thank you everyone for listening. Was, oh, here's the other thing I did not mention.

You should follow me on social media. It's so fun. I love doing it all Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook. It's all Twitter. It's all on social media. It's so fun. I love doing it all. Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, it's all Twitter, it's all sex with Emily. That's so easy. Okay, I love you all. Thanks so much for listening. Was it good for you?

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