Sex With Emily - Penises and Porn Star Sex with Joanna Angel

Episode Date: May 10, 2017

What’s better than a podcast with a sex expert? A podcast with a sex expert AND a porn expert! On today’s show, Emily is joined by porn star and director Joanna Angel, and the two are talking masturbation, anal and so much more! Would a masturbation break make you more productive at work? How do you keep that gosh darn penis from slipping out? What are the first steps for anal play? Emily and Joanna give their sexiest solutions to these coital conundrums and more, plus they discuss masturbation and why it’s so important—even if you’re married! Listen in for a rock star show full of the hottest advice you could ask for. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep this podcast FREE: Sportsheet, System Jo, Casper and Intensity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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We're getting naked and stuff. So I'm sorry you missed that. But I'm with Joanna Angel. Hi Joanna. Hi how are you? It's gonna be back. Good to see you. Joanna Angel is amazing. Hi, how are you? It's gonna be back. It's good to see you. Joanna Angel is amazing. She's an award-winning performer, writer, director, in the adult industry. She's well-known.

This is your official bio. It's my official bio. For any creator of burningangel.com, pornography site, Kate, this one, one of your lashes. Kate, her angel alternative and punk rock tastes. How would you introduce yourself to Joanna Angel? If you had to do it on your own. If I had to do it on my own, I'm Joanna Angel.

I'm a director and a porn star. I call myself a porn trooper newer. Porn trooper newer. Yeah. I love it. You are a porn trooper newer. Yeah, you kind of do a little of everything in the adult industry.

And I don't know, just that's me. I love it. I'm happy you're here and sometimes you've co-hosted the show. What's kind of what we're doing today? We're going to be, we're talking about, I've got a lot of questions from the emails, listeners I want you to help me with. Yeah. We're talking about.

I'm happy to help. You know, may masturbation month? Yeah, I heard that. I heard that. Yeah. Every month is masturbation month to me. Exactly. Well, that's right.

So for a lot of us, it is. It's a big part of my life, your life. We are doing this month, though, in particular, we are kind of enforcing, enforcing, we're making for a straight. We're enforcing you all to masturbates because it's so good for you. It's very important, actually. I think a lot of people forget to masturbate. Women forget to masturbate.

Exactly, right? Let's particularly. Okay, but you have a lot of people forget to master it women forget to master it exactly right particularly yeah do you okay but you have a lot of sex your day job and then do you boyfriend you live with it not as much well husband now husband you got married well did I got married I got married on Halloween oh my god yeah at the right young age of 35 yeah right you guys congratulations thank you guys went together. Wow. And on Halloween and Vegas, I planned it. Of course, in a day.

I'm sure. But that's married by the Grim Reaper. You did? And like, zombie makeup and stuff. Oh my God. How else would you do it, though? Yeah. Congratulations.

Thank you. So you're a husband. Do you still, do you find time to masturbate? Yeah. And I actually, you know, I, I want everyone to know, I probably don't have as much sex as people think I do, you know, because I actually do get very busy And I you know, I do I only shoot a lot of people think okay, you're a porn star that means you're in a porn 24-7 and unless you take like a small break to go to the bathroom and eat that means you're literally an important you know like I own a company

I direct I produce I direct a lot more than I shoot these days But so I'm probably only actually on film, you know, like two or three days out of the month. And sometimes, some months go by where I'm not on film at all, I just, I just film other people. And sometimes I get really busy. And I forget to masturbate a lot. Sometimes I'll be like, really cranky, I'll be in a really bad mood, you know, and then I'm just like, what's wrong with me? Why am I being such a bitch? And then I'm like, I'll masturbate and I'm like, that's why I'm not as a masturbate.

And there's something very special about being able to get yourself off and not, I think a lot of women, they forget that they can get themselves off. They think that they have to find somebody else to please them, whether it's a man or a woman, however you identify yourself and whatever gender you're attracted to,

I feel like a lot of women, they get in the habit of being very co-dependent. I'm horny, I need to find someone to give me attention and get me off, and it's like, you can do it yourself. And it's important, whether you're married, whether you're in a relationship, whether you're having a good day, or about it, I think it's very important

for women to mess with. I wish I started earlier, I think it would have fixed a lot of my crazy childhood. I wouldn't say childhood. I think I would have been a much more confident person. A lot of my issues when I was young are based out of just feeling weird in my own skin, and I think it could really help. So I know it's a strange thing. I don't have kids or anything about how to parents say, like, masturbate. Like, it's exactly what they say to your kids.

This is the problem. I didn't either masturbate until I was like 20. I don't even think of it as like a sexual dirty thing. It's just about plomping and understanding your body. Knowing your body, exactly. I really, I did not know my body at all until I was like, probably 23 years old, you know. Right, and then you, basically a blob connected to my head.

That's how most women, a lot of women walk around the planet feeling like, well I'm dressing sexy or I want a tanger from it. I feel sexy but there's a total disconnect from their body. And then when they have sex with someone they don't know what to say or what to do because they don't even know what's getting themselves off. They're just kind of flopping around waiting for the other person to see that. Exactly. Like at control or they're trying to mimic what they see in pornos or like this and that, you know, and they're just not, they just don't, the masturbation really does build confidence.

I strongly believe that. Yeah. And it's a release. And it's so, I feel like the same thing, like even though it's like literally my job to masturbate, whereas I people studying me toys and products that I want to try to see if I like them And if I like them, I want to tell my listeners that I like them and they're like lined up sometimes. I'm like I've got six toys to try more toys Yeah, you do you want to try for I'll give you a tiny any of me some toys of course, dude I yes, you would never don't leave her empty handed

I know we both like the magic one. We've talked about that right? Everybody likes the magic Yeah, magic on second I gave it but I've got some new goodies for you. Yeah. I'm so excited. Don't try to talk to me. I'm gonna use them. And I'll just plug it now, even though I'll plug everything later. I do, you know, all the pornos, all the movies I direct,

it's done, burningagels.com, but I started an OnlyFans page, which I'm kind of relentlessly promoting, which I know is annoying everyone, but OnlyFans.com slash join Angel. I do. It's actually- It's not on City and you're talking faster than I am, which is kind of awesome. Because I get what you're saying. Yeah, you get it.

Well, a little, a little. Only fans.com slash join Angel. But it's on topic because I have been masturbating on there almost every day. And it's been great because now I don't forget to masturbate. And my husband is actually happy. He's like, this is really great. You're so much more relaxed now

You know true. I've been like just every day. I've just been like turning it on and masturbating on there And so how are you mass? Tell me about your masturbation routine. Oh wait that cuts me to why I was saying Oh before you answer that question I'm doing a special contest this month for masturbation month Lest you need more motivation to masturbate if you email me your favorite masturbation routine more motivation to masturbate. If you email me your favorite masturbation routine, like if you've a special ritual, a toy, music, like you have a whole thing that you do, or even if it's a little thing you do, I want to hear how you masturbate. I want to hear you. Email me feedback at sextoelmy.com. If you're over 18 and you submit your email before midnight at May 31st, you'll be eligible to win

a sex with Emily. Masturation month prize will be selecting four winners based on your emails. I'll be judging it along with my trusty team and getting you very pleasing pleasurable, delicious packages. Okay, so what is your masturbation routine? Maybe we can inspire some people for anyone. It's nothing. It's nothing crazy. It's not like, right.

For me, I'm like, is it charged? I'm ready to go. Yeah. I usually, I just use my fingers, you know, I'm like, is it charged? I'm ready to go. Yeah, usually I just use my fingers. I rub my clit really hard. Really hard? Do you warm it? Do you use lube?

No, and just stick my fingers in my mouth. Maybe I should use lube. You should. I should use lube. OK, you're leaving here with some lube. With some lube. OK, yeah. Because the life of sometimes, you don't know where it's at.

It's true. It's true. You're right. Right, yeah. No, lube. And also, your clitoris doesn't self lubricate so I know we the loop that for a mouth yeah no I have used Lou before and it always feels really good and I'm like I should do this next I love that I'm getting you tips yeah no this

is amazing so we're gonna give you some Lou but when you give you I'm trying to think what I could give you like have you tried the woman eyes or yet no okay you know I try to tell people it's up I'm really I'm not like a sex I'm an expert I not like a sex I'm expert I'm a porn expert. I'm pretty good at doing porn. I'm not the best, but I'm pretty damn pretty damn doing porn I can't build an empire. I'm not like I don't know, you know like I I'm not a sex girl's walk into a bar. I know it sounds like it should be the same thing It's actually not I get it. No, dude, but you in any ways you know a lot about it. Yeah expert. Yeah, it sounds like it should be the same thing. It's actually not. No, I get it. No, dude But you in any ways you know a lot about it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm joking. You want the loop thing? I mean, of course

No, it's I'm always taking care of people. Yeah, so give me some loop. Yeah, the point is yeah, so for me It's like I did the talk going back to the stress relief. I call it procrastination because typically I'm procrastinating about something on the house I'm like I'm just gonna masturbate first. Yeah, yeah, I should work out. I should write this quote I want to masturbate. Oh, I do feel so great. And then time goes by sometimes and I was happening recently, I think a stressful few months, not the whole few months, but certain pockets of time where I've been like dealing with stuff and I just feel like masturbation. Just fix off the table. And then I did and I was like, oh my god, I think it's been a month since I masturbate. For me, that's, you know, I was

like, wow, it was like a huge release. And I felt like the birds were chirping. Like it was a cartoon. Like there'd be all these animals following me and singing kind of like, you know, Snow White, or whatever one of those. I felt like so happy. And so yeah, we got to release it.

And we got to do it. I felt like there was like, oh, the birds were singing. Sometimes even when my husband's like asleep, I like just masturbate. And he hears me sometimes and he likes it. And he thinks it's hot. He's like, oh, that's a coolate. And he hears me sometimes and he likes it. He thinks it's hot. He's like, oh, that's cool.

Does he wake up and he's like, oh, sometimes almost to the time he doesn't, he's a very deep sleeper. But he'll tell me the next day, like, oh, you were masturbating. I'm like, I should say it had to be done. And let's talk about, I get a lot of questions from people all the time who are very confused

by their partner's masturbation. We've already said how healthy that's here, but just to reinforce the fact that totally normal, your husband was like, why are you masturbating without me? Because we all need that release on our own. For many reasons, it's good for your health, it's good for your mind, it's good for,

you know, understanding your body. I guess I'm not as, I think, I don't know. I masturbate a lot, but if I do see my husband masturbating, I'm like, what the fuck? You do? What's wrong with me? Huh? Do you do that? I do. I masturbate a lot. But if I do see my husband masturbating, I'm like, what the fuck? You do? What's wrong with me? Huh?

Do you do that? I do. I do. Dude, this is what we're telling women not to do. Oh, okay, well, I do it. You do it. You get mad at him? I do.

Because what, you're like, because, okay, because you're every, you're like, I have to say my husband actually doesn't masturbate that much because he does porn. So between doing porn and satisfying me. But you really feel like that sperm could have been mine. I do.

Are you trying to get pregnant? No. Okay, just like in general, you feel like. Yeah, I just want it because I'm a bitch. Right. So you're like, how dare you master it? That would mean because I would have had sex with you right now. But you understand then for men that they need that release.

No, I understand. And my husband, he does porn. So it's totally different now. His sperm schedule, people don't understand how difficult it is to date. Tell me about that. Tell me about that. You know, like it's a whole thing, you know, because if he's... But you were the performer first.

I was. And then you pushed him in the industry. And then I was annoying. And now him in, and now it's annoying. Yeah, and now it's, the sex isn't annoying, and I love our life, you know, like it's fun, but sometimes, like I mean the sex he has on camera is not what I, you know, but it's just, it's the scheduling that I kind of forgot about,

because I guess this is my second time, you know, I dated another male performer for a really long time, and I kind of forgot about this part. But it's pretty common. And you know, when a man, I don't know how many, most people don't know this. When a man has to come on camera, you know, like he can't have wild sex the night before.

It just can't, some of them can, it's rare. Right, maybe if they're 20. Well, yeah, exactly. Maybe if they're 20, or they're just, I don't know, I find that Europeans are born with a different sexual chemical makeup and they're capable of doing anything. I don't know, it's just different.

But even if you sound that, but for the most part, you can't have a wild night of sex the night before. And like, you usually don't know your schedule till the day before. It's pretty common for a director to be like, oh, your call time tomorrow is this. It's rare for a porn director to actually give you your info a week before. So it's kind of like as soon as we know his info the next day, we have to like schedule our sex. Which is funny sometimes, you know, so if he's going

to be on set at eight o'clock in the morning, like, we're not going to be able to bone the day before. But and we'll know that like, if he has to be on it, it's on set at eight o'clock in the morning, we're not going to be able to bone the roof before. And we'll know that if he has to be on set at eight o'clock in the morning the next day after that, we'll know that we have to have sex as soon as he gets home from work that day or it's probably not going to happen. Because he's doing like, he kind of needs a good 12 hours to refill the tank. Or we'll have sex, I mean we've gotten kind of creative. A lot of it's just like he can't come, he's a little dime, so it'll go down to me for a while.

A perfect. And I know you can't do on bot. Yeah, but I can Right, so like we'll have sex for like you know For like until he's like almost there and then we'll kind of stop You know, then he'll go down on me and then we kind of switch around people don't realize how much we sacrifice just so he can give the world Beautiful performance Give the world A beautiful performance. Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, I mean we perform together any Oh my god, that's hot. It's a thing. It's really it's like being an athlete, you know It's different for women. We just we can keep coming come and I'm never like I do whatever One time yeah exactly like 16 times do whatever. Yeah, here's like what dirt especially during masturbation

Sorry, sorry, no, I can dedicate a whole show But a quick question for you is that I want to know since he's, so you've been in porn for 12 years, 15 years. So he's new to porn. Yeah, it's been two years. But you've been together for a while. So I wonder how he's changed sexually or how your sex life has changed since he's gotten into porn at all.

Yeah. Well, that, I mean, that is a way of sex. Yeah, besides that. But I mean, scheduling is a way besides that. Besides the scheduling, I mean, I'm not going to be like, like, he knows that he would. I made him more aggressive and bad, you know, I mean, I basically taught him out of fuck like a porn star before he even became a porn star just for my own personal benefit. Because example, just what I need. Right, right, right, keep an example.

Really, wouldn't be- It's not like a porn star, like how you, well, yeah, like a lot of- Like, just a lot of like, the porn stars that I really like and then I connect to it in scenes, you know, we give each other a lot of eye contact, we like talk dirty to each other a lot,

you know, just a lot of like, just a lot of, just, very, a lot of it just comes from confidence. I'm just like, you know, when you're with someone in bed and they don't really know what to do, and it's like just pick something and do it. And commit to it. Okay, so Joanna, I can't tell you how many men

you're going to be helping in this moment or something. You're so... No, listen to me, what I'm saying is, I wanna go back to this, you're saying that, just pick it. So I think guys, when, do I take off for a shirt now, do I do this? You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do?

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You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do? You're not here, what you do? You're tits, just grab her tits, just kind of like your body guides you and just do it. You know, and it's not about the word about women saying,

you can use that word. Yeah, it could be touch. It could be touch your boobs. It could be just focus on our boobs. Right, I love it. Yeah, I mean, I think once, two people, I mean, that's a difficult thing, because you don't want to violate any kind of consent,

but you also don't want to be like overthinking the entire time you're having sex. Right. But you remember Joanna's a porn shoot, those kind of sex she likes. But what you're saying is to guys, get out of your head and get into your body. Yeah. And just be like, if you want it, like tell her, even just tell her like, God, you're so hot, and I want to grab you in the end. Yeah.

Do it. She doesn't know. And she's like, obviously, when she says, no, you stop, you know. Right, but if she's like, wow, because I know for me, like, I feel like the other person's energy. A lot of people think fucking like a porn star just means really long and really hard and really fast,

but that's not necessarily, it's the intensity. Okay, tell me. I think it's the intensity. Like, I think for me personally, there's different types of porn scenes. The ones that I'm always like, yes, that was amazing. Whether I'm directing it and performing it, it's when you just feel this really intense energy, this really intense physical connection. And if that means two people are having really slow, passionate sex where they just can't

stop kissing each other and the girls like coming again and again and I don't know and they're just very kind of close and like on top of each other the whole time, then that would be what I mean. Or if the energy just kind of feels right for something more rough and, you know, and it's hot. Yeah, just like just connect to the person, look in their eyes, you know, and just like your body. I love the eye contact is so important. It is, it's fun. Yeah, just like, just connect to the person, look in their eyes, you know? I love that eye contact is so important. It is, it's really important. You know, we're afraid of intimacy

and then like that eye contact goes out the window. Yeah, and you know what? I also, I even say this when I'm directing porn scenes when not everybody's like me, a lot of porn directors, they wanna get like as many different positions as possible. Like I'm like, if you guys are having fun in a position, just stay there.

Like the whole point is to have fun, you know?. If you're having fun, it's going to be entertaining. When you're having fun, you're going to make different noises. You're probably going to move around a little bit in that one position. You're going to say different things as opposed to three minutes here, three minutes here, three minutes here. You're kind of letting them go with what's ever happening in the moment. If the flow is awkward, then I'll be like, I'll try to force it to be more exciting by changing positions or giving them ideas of what to say and stuff like that.

I mean, it happens sometimes. You can be directing porn and two people or just, they're just not clicking or something. Exactly. Then you're gonna have to like go into faking it mode, which is fine. But if two people are really into it

and they're having so much fun, like, you don't have to tell them to like, to move around. No, that's good. You like the energy and the chemistry. Yeah, it's just, even if you just cry about that. But it's a physical chemistry, which is different

than a mental, you know, you could connect with a strong physical chemistry with someone you don't know as a porn star. I don't know. I mean, everybody's got their, their own different like erogenous zones, you different, like the raw genus zones. You know, every time I'm with a partner in a scene, even if it's somebody I've worked with a hundred times,

even if it's with my own husband, you know, like I kind of just like spend the first couple minutes like making out with them and just sort of like figuring out like what to do, like when I'm giving them a blowjob, I'm like, okay, like does the top feel better, does the bottom feel better, do hands feel better, just different for every guy? Yeah, it's different, and it could be the same guy, it's different on every day, but we know it could be.

That's so true. You know what I mean? So you do kind of like a blowjob lit mist test. Yeah, I'm not a slow job lit mist test. A hand job lit mist test, you know, like sometimes I'll just take my fingers and rub up and down their chest, you know, sometimes I'll kiss their neck,

sometimes I'll kiss their ears, and then some people, like I'm feeling a little more like submissive, you know, and I'll just take my fingers and rub up and down their chest. Sometimes I'll kiss their neck, sometimes I'll kiss their ears. And then some people, I'm feeling a little more submissive, and I just kind of like, be kissing them, and I'll just whisper in their ear, just fucking take me and treat me like a whore, or something, and they'll just throw me down, and then there's no litmus test,

then they're just going crazy on me if I'm getting that kind of vibe. Right, you know? Right. God, it's so fun. It is fun. Yeah, it's like, part know, part of having sex is, you know, just being intuitive and paying attention to the other person.

A lot of that, you know, comes with experience and some of it just comes with age, you know. Right, that's true. Experience and age. The same thing because a lot of my listeners, well, they're all different ages, but I do get a lot from people who are like, starting out or trying to understand it. Yeah. Just pay attention. Just pay attention and follow your own body.

And it's like, you know, it's like, uh, singing a song together. But it's masturbation month. So we should focus on the masturbation. No, we're done with masturbation. Yeah, we you got it. You got it. Oh, the masturbation. Do you have a story? I actually do have a note about masturbation month. A, um, a little thing about masturbation month saying that you should, this is our sex of the new segment that we do, sex of the news. Our business can start sanctioning masturbation breaks at work. In other words, masturbation could be a recommended, totally normal thing. And businesses, can you imagine? Like, I had a regular job. I mean, even in my house, sir, I don't-

Yeah, your husband's had a lot of masturbation. If my camera guy took a break to masturb bait. I'd be really weirded out Like did you use my towels in the bathroom? I'm appropriate on a porn set that it's definitely gonna be an appropriate anywhere That's hilarious. Okay, so not there. But what they're saying is that you know You know, what are they gonna do? They're gonna be a desiccate room. I don't know how this is ever gonna work like I'm The smoking that I just say that's great.

But I'm saying that's keeping it exactly. Exactly. Pass it by the porn star. It's for the sake of legislators. Keep it. That's weird. And I know that's going to lead to all sorts of sexual harassment suits.

No, but it's true. OK, but here's, I know. I mean, here I feel like my job is like, go home and masturbate. Take a toy. That's your job. Yeah, I mean, right here, we're having a great conversation. I think you're very hot. And, but if you just started masturbating right now,

we could awkwardly go around. Right, exactly, it would be. It would be, maybe. I don't know, Michael's been doing sound for a few months now, and he's waiting for masturbation to happen. But, so here's the thing, this is why I came out of this, it says, if you're already grossed out, which some people would be hearing about this, recent surveys suggest that 30, 40% of your office mates already

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that a biological output, while it works, actually helps them be more productive and creative. They're gonna have a special masturbation bathroom. They can't do it by their desks. No, well no, you can't, but I don't know where you go. And then in the bathroom. A lot of antibacterial spray and stuff for your hands, extra tissues. But

there's no research that says masturbation is bad for you. We all know that people are not cancer, boost your mood, improve your sex life, so should your office sanction it. This is never going to fly anywhere. No. I think it's kind of, I don't know. I mean, as someone like I've done webcam shows and stuff and I've talked to guys like, oh, I'm at my office at work. This is so wrong. And like, whatever. And you know, and they want to like masturbate to me really quickly and then they go go on with their day. Like, and I get it. You're fine.

They're not on your payroll. No, exactly. And that's fine. But if it was sanctioned by it, like, this is a mass like nap time. What if I'm doing it? Right. It's like nap time in kindergarten.

Right. You can do it your lunch break, whatever you want. Yeah. But they say they should only, but they say, best of all, you should make should only be taken if they're motivated by stress relief and a genuine desire for a break and not if they're driven by intense lust. I don't know how you're going to discern between last season. It's just going to be like, I'm just saying everyone should just masturbate this month.

Yeah, mutual masturbation, huge fan of mutual masturbation. You can wake up in the morning and do it, you can do it in the shower, you can do it kind of while you drive. You want to realize exactly, I've been kind of to these two for things that I realize I've all these amazing toys and most of them now are waterproof. Right. I'm gonna give you some amazing one. I'm gonna give you, I'm gonna give you,

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Anyway, back to, that's your little goody bag when you leave. I was going to say that a lot of toys are waterproof, and I realized that since I don't often have time, I'm too tired tonight to masturbate. Most of you are too tired to have sex. I put on my shower now. I'm like, yeah, shower a masturbate. Like it's done. Exactly awesome. So I'll give you some of those. And now we're going to, we're going to answer some emails. So hang by, we're going to give a shout out to our sponsors. I went to Anna Angel. You've got to check out all of the amazing stuff she has. This is also going to be on our website, all of your ways to find you.

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I can tell. So people just check yes, and then we will call you. So do that. Oh, when you send me an email or however you do it Your age where you live and how you listen to the show I was gonna say you can also leave me a voicemail eight when I ask S W E one ready for the emails dear Emily after being with a few guys I've noticed that it doesn't matter the size of a guy's penis or we're having sex whether it be the couch the floor of the bed If I'm on top of him either front facing or reverse cowgirl his penis always slips out It's always when it's getting good and I probably get carried away But my question is am I doing something wrong and how do I stop it from slipping out Mandy H27

Australia she's having some slippage. I'm thinking she's probably doing little two up and down and she'd do some more grinding. She might be, she might actually be doing something wrong. Oh really? Okay, tell me, what she doing. And it could be like, his penis might be like a little curvy and she's not like, she's kind of like going against the curve. Oh, okay.

I've actually seen this happen a lot in porn movies. It's like sometimes the girls try leaning back. You know what I mean? Like sometimes when you lean back, it can really go all the way in. Okay. You know, it's probably, it sounds like it's almost like going halfway in

and then falling out. Right. So she should lean forward back. She should lean forward back. She should lean back up. When you're not facing the guy. Reverse cow girl. Right.

I don't know why I always get this wrong. It's probably been informed for 15 years. Yeah. Because you don't even need the name. Itversed Cal Girl. I don't know why I always get this wrong. It's only been informed for 15 years. You know, when you're... Because you don't even need a name. It's like a dance. You lean back and then the guy can kind of fuck you. Right, almost. You're laying back on him.

You're leaning back. You're leaning back. And the guy can be like, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, eh, So then he can kind of get deeper in you. I think he's not going deep enough in you. Right. And so how should you do that in his bite? But she has how girl lay back on his chest. Yeah, lay back. Yeah, like put your arms back and lay back. You know, not all the way back. Not like lying down, but just lean back.

And so his penis is kind of like sliding up into you in an angle. OK. And then the other way, lean forward. You need to like 90 degree angle here but giant exactly. She might be too much like up and down. Straight. I think a lot of women get missionary or not missionary. They look at cowgirl and reverse is going up and down.

Yeah. Because I'm going to have a porn a lot up and down. Yeah, you do. But for me, even I need more, but thrusting. I need more. Yeah. The grinding. Yeah. And my clitoris like then he if you're grinding back and forth, he's not going anywhere. Yeah. So I kind of think that's good too. But try and make sure, I mean, it is,

it might be the shape of his dick, but it's like, when you first do it, go all the way up and all the way down, like really slowly to make sure you're actually getting the whole dick inside of you. Right, exactly, that's true too. It might not already be there. It might be fully hard. Right. Yeah. But it could have occurred. That's a good point too.

Yeah, I think she might have to angle herself a little bit. So she's saying for the first cow girl and it's cow girl. So yeah, I would say that's a good point. I have a feeling, just from I watched this a million times where the girl does it and she gets into the groove and it slips out and she gets into the groove and she slips out. It's because the dick's not like really fully in her right and I can see it from the outside I'm the I'm the I'm fortunate of powers. I have special powers where I'm what I direct people having sex You know, I'm like I know you think the dick's all the way and you but it's really not I can show you you know

Maybe his dick has never been in his three inches longer than time time Maybe his penis is never really been tied yet. There's a hole and it's like kind of going in and falling out because she's like she might be, you know, so she's going to like go slower, go all the way up, all the way down, all the way in, all the way out and like get yourself in an angle where he can kind of fuck you too. Right. Yeah. No, I think this is great. And I think that's great advice. It makes sense. It makes sense in porn. And I think Yeah, no, I think this is great. And I think that's great advice. If it makes sense. It absolutely does make sense.

It makes sense in porn. And I think that yeah, I think it'll be slowing down making sure that it's actually, you know, you got it. It fit right. And also, I think it's happening a lot and that can be annoying, but really, it's kind of normal. That's not how it just slips out. Yeah, I would say like, it happened.

Yeah, it happens. I mean, you could also use his penis to like stimulate your clitoris. Right. Use your hands to put it back in. Yeah. Make sure that I mean, you could also use his penis to like, stimulate your clitoris. Right. Use your hands to put it back in. Yeah. Make sure that I think when you're using your hands to guide it and you're going to know if it's in the right position.

That's very helpful. Thank you Joanna. Okay, now we've got another email for, and thank you. Thank you so much to Mandy. Let us know how that goes. You have a professional here helping you. Yeah. I'm trying to see where I want to go next.

Okay. How about some anal play for him? Emily, I've been listening for a year and a half and I love your show. While there's a lot of info in your episodes and site on anal sex, I have a few questions about anal play for men. What do I do? LOL. I'm not talking about springing it on an unsuspecting partner. The one I have in mind in his 30s as well has expressed interest in all things but related and even had me give my room job once before. But that was months ago and it's never come up again. I'm interested in exploring down there, but I guess I'm a bit afraid of one, starting something I can't finish, and two, that the approach would be

inappropriate slash insulting since he's a guy and guys are sometimes weird about their back doors. I'd love some tips on how to get started and what exactly I should be doing down there, orally and manually, and in the event, things get too uncomfortable for me. How do I dial back on the anal play without creating an awkward moment since he's so generous and attentive with the roles reversed?

Thanks for your advice and my intensity is my favorite purchase from last year. Monique H30 Nevada. Hey Monique, we'm so glad you love the intensity. It's a really cool product. Okay. So, anal play for men. Do you hear what she's saying? She's like, I never was using, but did it sound like didn't hear anything? I don't know. I don't know.

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manually? How do I get stuck? It sounds like she needs to get like a strap on. Okay. Well, what about pre-strap on? Pre-strap on? I mean most guys that I know that are until like anal play, like they like getting fucked with strap-ons more so than just like a finger and stuff, you know. I guess I know a lot of extreme people. You do. Either strap on or no anal at all.

Right, exactly. But let's go back to the beginning, maybe early on before the strap-on. I'm thinking, first of all, for guys, I think that using Loub is very important. Yeah, yeah. I'm for any anal play. Any anal play you got to use Loub. I love it. You can use your fingers and start to warm up.

You show like, if he hasn't had a lot of anal play, you haven't. Again, you can use your fingers. You could use your mouth. You could start with just like one finger going inside. You haven't even done this in a while, but you're just like, I'm just gonna strap on. But you put a finger inside, test that. I feel like I like licking, you know.

Yeah, but it depends if he wants her to do it, like does he want her to dominate him? Or does he just into, like there's two different kinds of guys. If someone guys really want to be dominators. What does it say, she says, he's expressed interest in all things but related. Yeah. Okay.

So, something like that. I mean, you could get us, he wants to strap on. What about getting a butt plug? Because he's like, yeah, right? He's the butt plug, and I'm wearing his butt plug, and I'm wearing his butt plug, and I'm like, okay. So you could use a butt plug,

you could get some silicone, not some silicone, any loop, it doesn't matter. But put it in, and then you could like, slowly put that inside of him and see how that feels. If you're, if you're, if you get, I would have an arsenal of toys by you. This is what I would do. I would get a butt plug.

I would get like, a loop of course, and I would maybe, if you wanna buy like a strap on, but that's kind of a big investment, if she's not sure she's gonna be into it. So, and I would, oh, I always say, start slow, like start with your fingers and put your fingers inside. It's kind of like the com-hether motion when you put your, like it's like looking for the G spot.

Right. Because what we want to do is the prostate. I guess some guy, I guess. Yeah, well that was the prostate. I mean, I was the prostate who enjoys a lot of anal sex. I don't really like fingers in my butt. No, really? What do you, you just like, penis is,

I'm like, what are you looking at butt? Penises are, or toys, you know? Smooth, like glass toys feel really good in your mouth. Right, like a deal though. Nice two-toes. Smooth toys. Right. I make these anal toys that have like all these

ridges and stuff on there. I'm like, what they do that? For the nerve endings. Because when they pull them out like anal beads and stuff, when you pull them out, and they like, go on the nerve endings in the outside. Because I like the, you know, just the glass still does the same thing.

Yeah, just a long, with the flared edge. Yeah, make sure everything that you use has a flared edge. And she's just nervous. It's gonna be uncomfortable. And how do you dial back on the end plate? You flip them over and give a blowjob. Oh yeah, yeah.

Like literally, he's not gonna be bummed. Yeah, already guys don't say that stuff and let's think no, they're into it. Right. So he might be playing with a butt plug like by on his own at home. I think so too. Waiting for you to do it.

And you could ask him, there's also the black pearl by Vibratex, There's this really cool prostate toy because you might want to, like, really, the reason why men are into it is they really can feel amazing in the piece box. Like for men, they can have amazing orgasms. And for so for some guys, you could experiment by giving a blow job and then sticking your finger

like with some lube inside of his butt and just see how it feels, like your middle finger, your first, like, I'm sure he's gonna love that or when he's about to orgasm, you could try that. And if you want to try some toys if you're not ready to invent because the strap on is kind of an investment. It is. I mean, or but I would say, well, I want I got in my website sensation if you just bought a butt plug right your finger.

Yeah, and then again if it gets awkward for you just just stop like he's gonna be happy that you even tried and then just keep going with sex, give him a blowjob. Remember, you have to clean up, like if you, if you kissed him or used your fingers, wash your hands, wash, you wrench him out that and then you can resume a regular, like, oral play or whatever, but just don't go back and forth. Yeah, so it sounds like he, he opened the door.

She's just gotta walk in. So we were looking for some stuff on the site that people, he wants it. He wants it. So I would say ask I do not say that they do not they do not so my husband has never ever said hey maybe you should go down there because it's just you know when he's not when he's not I just can't yeah right but it's like guys that want that they want that right you know

so yeah I love this and and Monique here's the thing you don't have to be figure this all out on your own if he's open to you guys, one you go to a sex toy store together or go shopping on my website, I have a shop with Emily Tab and search anal and say like, would that be fun? And then you guys can start talking about it. I also have, I know I do have a lot of stuff on my site, but when I looked at things funny enough, we've got Joanna Angel's anal sex seminar

from the first time you were on my show in 2013, that's what we called the podcast. Cause we must have talked a lot about it then. Yeah, people who do slow tests, who have... And then we have, welcome to anal sex month. We've got, called the Good, the Bad and the Butt plugs. This is all on the website.

So I think this is pretty helpful for you, Monique. Let us know how it goes. Another email, okay. Okay, hi, Emily. Thanks so much for your podcast. It's really open my eyes to how I can improve my sex life and It's beginning. Okay. I have lubed now plus the intensity. Wow everyone loves the intensity and another vibrator You'd be proud. My question for you is it takes me forever to orgasm

Even when I'm highly highly aroused Super well-lubricated on my own and in my house it usually takes me over half an hour Recently I was out about am I vagina decided it was it was go time. By the time I finished my chores and got home three hours later I was almost demented by desire. I thought I'd be able to knock a quick one out with a vibrator but nope it still took me 40 minutes to orgasm. It was amazing but sheesh I'm so jealous of people, jealous of people who have a cookie with themselves. I've tried different fantasies, different toys, touching myself in different ways, I even watched porn, which I didn't like at all. I am married

and the subject of sexual mischievousness should be another question, but it's not sex with him that is the issue. I really want to explore myself, find out what I like. It's sex with myself and I want to know about it. Help me with a cookie, please. Thank you again. You're awesome. Jenny, age 44, Australia. I think that it's because you're trying so hard. You're overthinking it. You're really inside of your head. I feel like you've tried everything but when you have this end goal and you're like okay I got the porn on I've got the Louvre, I got the toys. It's not happening. You had to just dial it back and say you know what? It's not going to happen maybe for a little bit, but I'm just going to give myself time

to explore my body and figure out even if you don't have an orgasm right away. Yeah. And sometimes it takes me a while to come. Sometimes I've actually got very annoyed like the other day because I was like doing one of my only fans. Mastervation shows and I'm like masturbating and then like my husband's in the other room and I'm just like doing my thing and then he just like comes in and master rating, and then like my husband's in the other room, and I'm just like doing my thing. And then he just like comes in and interrupts me and he sticks like his fingers inside

me and like I came in like two seconds. I'm like, how are you so much better at this thing? I don't know. That's so high. Yeah, I was. Do people go see that in your website? Yeah, I can see it on my only fans page. He's walking and did that.

He just walked in like it was almost like he was getting frustrated by the amount of time that I was taking Like he was like and you people watching I know and it was really funny So he just came in and like finished finished the job for me and I was like how can you do that faster than you say that? Yeah, I Did we started fighting about it. It was like you guys are cool. I want to go on your only fancy Okay, but Jenny here's a deal, sweetie. I feel like I look, first of all,

I love that you're all about, it's normal. It totally normal. Yeah, a lot of times it's because you're distracted. Yeah, I feel like you're distracted. You're saying you've got to get your chores done. I mean, I'm sure I sense that you've kids, go on, you know, you've got a busy life.

And I'm wondering if you're turning off your phone. If you really have a loan time, we hold on. Finish. I'll show you a minute. If you really have a loan time, we hold on, finish, I want to tell you a minute. If you really have a loan time, if you're locking your door, if you're turning your phone off, if you're really like in the mindset, and for you said you watch porn, what was it for two seconds? Because if you're just like, I'm touching, I've got the porn, I've got the toys, I'm exhausted. I couldn't, I couldn't do all those things, and I feel like breath is really important. So if you find that your mind is going in a million places,

you could kind of like take your breath down and bring it back into your body, breathe deep into your pelvic floor. You said that you're using the intensity. I gotta say, for my kegels, I now have kegels of steel because of the intensity. And when you use the intensity, 15 minutes, 10 minutes a day,

it uses gentle electrosimulation. I use it as a meditation time. I just lay back and it does it, and you have to make sure with that, that you're breathing deep into your pelvic floor, all the way down, and I feel like if you do that, Jenny, if you learn to move your breath throughout your body and focus on that, you're gonna have more orgasms.

So I just feel like you've clearly have way too much going on. You show this in your email, and you're gonna be able to orgasm if you just dial it back doing of all the expectations, breathe more. And also, I'm just going to make sure you're not on any medications, birth control, antidepressants. Those could all make it really difficult. Okay. What were you going to show me?

Your boyfriend finger you? No. Husband, sorry. It was a funny little thing. Damn. Well, yeah, he was going down on me. I wish that I could masturbate, so I would just come in my house and finish it.

Oh, here's for my only fan's page. It's me drinking coffee while he goes down on me. Is that your husband? Yeah, that's my dad's. We made a little gift out of it. It's like every morning at your house. Yeah, because I was like drinking coffee, and I was like sitting there and doing my,

one of my only fans, Cam shows, and he like, he came in and he was like sitting there and doing my one of my only fans cam shows and he like He came in and he's like what are you doing? That is just like are your fans literally just watching you drink coffee? I'm like I'm drinking my coffee and then I'm gonna master He's like let me help you and he went down on me while I drink the coffee. That's amazing That's a really fun time. There you go. Oh my god. That's a bit better Twitter. Yeah. Go on my Twitter at Joanna Angel It's so funny. Oh my god. You are hilarious. My not I love your life. There's no masturbation in your house at all. No, no, no, no people work for you because there's too much sex going on.

Okay, she and look at that. That one was fun. I'm getting lifted up by a woman. I had a threesome on camera in my newest movie, which I think I should give you a copy. Yeah. It hasn't come out yet. Well, it's online. I should give you a copy because you would like it more than anybody else. It is called Choose Love Black Cock. It's all Jewish girls in the movie.

Oh, shut up. It is. It is. It is. Yeah. I see that. She looks like our sister in the middle. It's true. I know. It is. No. Is that, yeah, I see that. Yeah, she looks like our sister in the middle. Yeah, it's true, I know.

I know. It is. Oh my god. A belladanger, a very famous Jewish born son. So she, she's a, like a thick, like a very thick, you know, bigger girl and she, she lifted me up while the, I know you hand some black guy fucked me in the ass. I'm obsessed with Jews, the black cock. I want to get a special route, like I need a special review for me of Jews love black cock.

Yeah, I'll do it. Okay. Where does it come under? Somebody tried to tell me, oh, that's offensive. I'm like, what's offensive? Well, I could see getting like 8 million emails right now. I'm a little offensive, but... But whatever.

I mean, it's a parody. It's a parody. Right, we're Jewish. I can't say, I'm, I'm, I'm discriminating against cock. Like, I like black, I like, I've like like I've like I've liked you know white curvy this particular movie we found one kind is there a plot yeah it's my own kind of parody of Fiddler on the roof a rabbi hires me I call myself in the movie Joanna Angelstein and a rabbi hires me. I call myself in the movie Joanna Angelstein. And a rabbi hires me to marry off his $3. I just spit my water everywhere.

Yeah. His $3 are getting old. Like, I don't know, did you, what did you watch, Fiddler, on the rears going on? Of course. So it's the rabbi hires me. His $3 are getting old. And he really needs them to marry rich Jewish men. He's worried it's not going to happen. And I'm a matchmaker. And I'm hired to find them rich Jewish men and they keep rejecting what I find for them. And they, they're like just bringing the black cock. They find, yeah, a distraction, which is the black cock.

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So there's a little bit of it. Oh, wow, you. Yeah, yeah, temple. So there's a lot of it. Oh, wow, you grew up, I grew up really good. Okay. So they're happier parents. Yeah. Okay. They're thrilled with that. Like, at least she's getting back to her Judaism.

I know, I'm so glad. I'm so glad. She's finally practicing Judaism. Because there's so many things I literally took quotes that my mom said, and said them in the movie. There will be times when I was writing the script and I would just call my mom and listen to her talk and I would write down a couple of choosing songs.

I wish I could show it to her, but I can't show it to her. She wouldn't be in that. No, she wouldn't be in that. That's hilarious. She was there in mom. She was there in the beginning. She inspired me.

She inspired me. She inspired me. And my Joanna Angel's seat character. Joanna Angel's seat. Finally, she's going back to the steens. That's true. I'm so glad she gave up the seat. Yeah. That's amazing character. She went to Angel's seat. Finally, she's going back to the steens. That's true. I'm so glad she gave up the steens. Yeah.

That's amazing. I've got to say it. I'm so happy for you. You'll get a kick out of me. Okay. It's a DVD, like literally. It's, yeah. It's going to be on DVDs.

People do that. People are buying DVDs. Some people. They should. I don't mean that. I mean, like, I don't know. I wish I buy two. No, people are.

And then also people, you know, they watch the movie online. No, but they could buy it on your site Yeah, they could buy it on my website. Yeah, I mean we still called like a movie coming out. You call it a movie Yeah, but I'm saying they could easily yeah, they can watch it on burning angel dot com burning I think that's all we got time for I think I'm sorry. I divert it. No, it was amazing Stop talking about masturbation. I mean, should we do and let's do one more email? Okay, okay, guess what we're all over the place We're amazing. This is what we did. You guys click and then, Joanna, we've done a lot of different shows together.

Yeah, check it out. We have. Um, we have. I don't know why you didn't invite me to that. Point, now I would have done it. I should have given you a non-sex role in that movie. Yeah. I feel like mom's like,

I'm gonna get it. She actually, I kick out of it. I should have given you. Next one, you know, it's getting a pretty good response. I'm sure. I do want to make a sequel pop-up. Popular, popular subject matter that you tapped into. Okay, cock and Judaism.

I've been with my boyfriend for two years, and he's very vanilla. The sex is amazing, but it's just maybe two to three times a month. There's very minimal foreplay. He's gone down to me twice in two years. I love giving and receiving oral and making out in all those things. When I ask him to do certain things, he does, but only when I ask. The only thing that seems to stimulate him is when I do anal play, which I really enjoy. I'll wear it because lots of anal in the show. I wear a butt plug and the sex is way harder. So my question is how do I get to do things I like

as well as the things he likes? Thanks Emily, I love the show. I'm a huge fan, Alicia, 26 Orange County. So here's the question. He likes anal, she is anal, she's not, she likes anal, but she wants him to go down and he's gone down twice in two years. She wants for play, she wants the things

that a lot of women want, and he's just not coming around to it. And I've been there. I don't know if you've been there, probably not Joanna, but I've been with guys who are great and they're not into, they don't understand for a play. They don't even like performing oral, like they've actually said that. And it's hard to get a guy to change his behavior of what he's already known or what he's already been doing. And so at least if you really like this, I mean, he's vanilla. Yeah, but that was weird because she said my husband's very, or was a boyfriend,

or she's a boyfriend. He's very vanilla, but our sex life is amazing, but we never have sex. It was like a very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, times a month. So when you have it, it's amazing. But then also when you're having it, you want more oral, you want more pro play, which means that you're a completely normal, typical woman, it's not just a suggestion, it's actually your requirement. But he likes anal play. He likes, yeah, yeah, he likes to have anal sex with her.

Right. Or she likes putting about plug in, it feels good. But she wants, and you're saying you want him to do it, you basically getting your partner to get on board but you want, and you're saying you want him to do what you, basically getting your partner to get on board, but you want, like you were saying earlier in the show with your now husband, you taught him what you liked. Yeah. Now, that's, and that's, and that's, so new. But I also knew what I liked to that point, you know, a lot of times.

Right. But it sounds like that, so Alicia, let's say she just wants him to go down and her more. How would you handle that? I'm just, pushes it down. I knew you were going to say that. I'm sorry. I'm a worse person.

Sometimes me and sex educators are like, I say everything that you're not supposed to say. No, but that's one way. If it doesn't happen, maybe he wants you to tell him that he's just saying, baby, my pussy. Honey, could you please get into that? Well, right. I feel like here's a thing that...

He's just sticking it right in. I think so. And that's not okay either because you need to be turned on. She's got to be turned on, yeah. And so I think you just can tell him that I, God, when we have sex, it's amazing. I'm thinking about you all the time because she wants more than he's doing it.

It's only two to three times a month. And then you can let him know that like, I think like when you go down to me, it's the biggest turn on. And like I really, I want you to be able, I want you to do that like, I think when you go down to me, it's the biggest turn on. And like, I really, I want you to be able, I want you to do that next time I see you, or when you're doing it, but like, God, I've been thinking,

oh, here's the thing. Next time you're feeling around, cutting myself off. Next time you're fooling around, Lisa, say to him, when you guys are making up, I've been thinking about you going down to me all day, or all week, I would love that'd be so hot right now. And then see what it does, having you go down there,

maybe you need to tell him several times. We often think we have these conversations with our partners once, twice, and they're gonna change their behavior. And it takes a long time to change behavior. And maybe the way you told him that you needed more in the past did not work. I'm assuming you've talked about this before.

If you haven't, then you just gotta say it. Like I'm not gonna, like it's best to do it and like I love having sex with you, things are amazing. And be awesome to have more for play. I need it to be turned on. But, you know, I hope he likes oral sex because he's really done it twice in two years. If he says that's not my jam, I'm out into it.

You have your answer. I broke up with the guy because of that. I mean, there was other things, but that was kind of a main thing. He wasn't really concerned with my pleasure learning about it. Yeah. He, you know, doesn't sound.

No. So to me, this would be a deal breaker. But I love this guy. Yeah. He's got to get excited about getting her off, you know. And she has to be excited about getting him off to the end. Exactly. And she loved it.

She says she loves giving and receiving oral. And she asks some, she says she, okay, here's the crux of it. And then we're going to go, when I ask him to do certain things, but only when she asks. So she wants to be able to. Yeah. It's annoying. You don't want to have to ask every single time. Right. You want him to want to do certain things, but only when she asks. She wants to be able to. Yeah, it's annoying. You don't want to have to ask every single time. Right.

You want him to want to do it. Right. It makes you feel so. I would ask him every time you have sex, and then see if he brings it up on his side. You know, try to give hints. You can try to give just physical hints. You know, right? You can give hints or you could like drop things.

I have a drop note here making all the guy and he sticks his finger down there and then you just kind of lightly push. They know what they're supposed to do. They don't all know. They don't know. Some of them are, or they just don't. They're like a sign and arrow. I don't know.

Yeah, you could put an arrow. Peep, peep. You can totally like in the end light or something. You could set him a text. Everyone's on the phone anyway. Be like, babe, babe. Go down, go down. I feel like you might have to tell him every time

because that, or when you guys are out together, when you're like out to dinner, or you're doing something, you can be like, babe, this actually great. I feel like every time we're together, I'm asking you for, for like more. He might get really uncomfortable if you're bringing up like outside the bedroom. Well, I always feel like sometimes in the bedroom

can make them super anxious about it. Because you're, I don't know, we're going in circles. But I feel like now we could. If you try to ask him every single time, I get it. But maybe if you just make sure that you do that eventually, he's going to get it. If he doesn't, you can just tell him like, I need you to go down to me more. You're out next. I'm just thinking like, you're on the road trip, you're having breakfast.

You can be like, let's talk about our sex life. Is there some things you would want to try? And then he'll ask you and you could both share, like I just love when you go down to me. That's what I fantasize about when I masturbate. Just let him know how important it is. Or when he does it, tell him it's good. He's not only to do things, they're not good. Right. Right. Tell him it's great. Tell him you love it. Tell him why you loved it. Tell him you appreciate it. I didn't like giving blow jobs till I knew I was like okay at it I used to stress about it cuz I was like I don't know what to do down there. You know I didn't know I know I do

Got another show. Yeah, that's a whole other show. Yeah, but then once I got you know decent at it right I was like that's right. You like what I mean? I like doing what they're good at that's true. It's true. Once you start getting the good response like oh my god Yeah, then you're like yes. Yeah exactly's a good so maybe he's not getting that reaction that's true he's younger too I think guys in their 20s they yeah I don't know not all guys but many men they just need more for Giants to practice on they might need some more so and you might want to give them some tip yeah that's good give them a positive feedback and then let them know what you like specifically so good luck Alicia from Orange County thank you for emailing thank you

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