Sex With Emily - Quarantine Vibes with Stephanie Keating

Episode Date: May 5, 2020

On today’s show, Dr. Emily is joined by Stephanie Keating from We-Vibe to talk about how you can add a little variety to your bedroom. Plus, she’s answering your sex & relationship questions.The two talk about the ins and outs of app controlled sex toys – and why they’re a great pleasure investment. Plus, advice on what to do when you like a coworker, they like you back, but they’ve never had a same-sex relationship, how to be more romantic in the bedroom, and ways to find a partner that also wants to have a stay-at-home partner.Follow Emily on all social @sexwithemily For more on Stephanie Keating, visit https://www.we-vibe.comFor even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit http://www.sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and on today's show, I'm joined by Stephanie Keating from Wevibe to talk about how you can add a little variety to your bedroom. Plus, I'm answering your sex and relationship questions. Topics include the ins and outs of app-controlled sex toys and why they're a great pleasure investment. What to do when you like a coworker, they like you back,

but they've never had a same sex relationship. So you're not exactly a romantic in the bedroom, so how can you get your partner more in the mood? And you know that you want to be a state-of-home spouse. So how do you find partners who are looking for the same thing? All this and more, thanks for listening. Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

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Steph Keating, Stephanie Keating, she's from WoTEC. She's the head of marketing for the Americas. She's a dear friend. I've known Steph. We've known each other for years now. Yeah, feels like it. I know how long it's been. I think we might, on our trip to Germany.

Is that one the first time? I think we might be a little before that. Okay. Four or five years, four years. Yeah. And Steph, when I say WoTEC, they might not be familiar with WoTEC., that, that, that, that, that, it is the we vibe, we talk about the we vibe products

and the womanizer. I don't think I've got to ask about that, those two things more than anything I've ever been asked about. And stuff is the go-to person here. And we've been hearing a lot about sex toy sales going through the roof right now. In fact, I can't get people to keep asking me, is it true?

Is it true? Steph, tell me what's going on in the sex toy industry right now, now that we're off-orrenting at home. Yeah, so it's interesting. I guess there's been more of a shift in buying. A lot of people are choosing to or not choosing are being forced to buy online because stores aren't open. So there's a big shift to online sales.

And then I think the types of products that people are buying are changing. Well, definitely we know, I'm sure that all your listeners know because you talk about it all the time the we connect app that goes with the We vibe. I've talked about it, but I feel like they're sick of hearing me talk about it,

but you are the source. So let's talk about the WeConnect app. Yeah. So who WeConnect app, it works with all of our Bluetooth app enabled products. So I think right now, there's about 10 products in our line, all for different things that work with the app. But really, what the app does is allows,

you can control the device, the vibrator, and it allows couples to connect in long distance, and you can actually control two devices at the same time. So your partner can have a product and you can have one, and you can control each other's. And there's lots of cool modes that you can't get when you're just controlling it with the remote or on the device.

Like, there's a mode that works with music. So basically, you play music, and the vibrators sort of vibes to the rhythm of the music. And I have awesome music about that, because that's features now available across all of our products. So it used to be exclusive to only one, but now we've just released it to all products. Yeah, so we connect app,

we've noticed recently over the last month that we've had a surge in sessions. So there's been 150% more sessions. Oh my God, that's amazing. In partner connected sessions. And then we've had a 32% increase in people downloading that app. So the app to me is, yeah, it's a game changer, really. Yeah.

And the best thing about the app is that we have like, I mean, the app itself is amazing. But the fact that we have now so many products in the line network with the app that does something something for everyone like we have a dual simulator, we have a G-spot simulator, we have our couples toy, we have anal toys, we have prostate massagers, we have like this like range of products now that the app can connect with. It's amazing. Yeah, it's pretty cool.

The thing that I really love about the app is that we have, you can actually do video and voice chat inside the app. And then it's all as soon as you close the app, it's totally private and then everything's deleted. So you can really have a really, so you can have a really intimate connection with your partner if you're not together using the device and you can actually see them and talk to them all in.

Yeah, that's what I love about it. It launches. So let me, this is what you guys have to understand. It's like so ingenious. I, you know what I love? So every time I'm talking to someone about it, like I think I was talking to like a journalist the other day or friends or I'm going to party.

Like I'm always bringing it up because I'm like, what's the latest in sex? This is the four quarantine, right? People cannot believe that somebody can just the concept that you could launch an app, see your partner and they could be controlling the toy across the room, across the world. You're literally like, yes, okay, so the toy is on your clitoris and your partner is looking at you and they are controlling it. They're like mind blown that exists. But now, since we're all like since COVID-19 and we're like, it just makes so much sense that these are the, that if check out the, the we vibe or the, the womanizer, I mean,

it is, first off, you don't have to use them with the Apple. What a bonus in a lot of people are meeting online right now and they're like, how do I video sex? And so to me, this is just like a game changer. And what I love is there's been so many apps, so many new toys that you've added. It's like for men, for women. So now, like, you know, everyone can have a toy and control it. So and I just like using the app anyway, like I just love the app because you don't have to look for the buttons.

Sometimes you just can log your sessions and use the music. It's so innovative. So I love that you guys are doing that. We often receive feedback from our customers. They'll just send us emails telling us. Sometimes lots of interesting stories. But one of the things that I really love to hear about is when they app has like really connected people together a lot of times a lot of people use it that work in the military. And so they're separate different like really long periods'm so happy, this is her email was like,

I'm so happy. My husband was able to give me an orgasm for the first time in a year using the week connect app. And she was just, she was happy about her orgasm. But she was more excited that her husband who is away from their family, and away from everything that he knows, that he was able to have this really positive experience

and be able to give his wife pleasure. And so I think that was an awesome story. And so yeah, because if I can't be with you, I still wanna be participating in your pleasure. Exactly, and it works for both sides, right? Just as sex does the person receiving the pleasure and the person not also giving it as well. So yeah, oh my God, I was gonna ask you.

I wanna hear some of the stories of people connecting with love across quarantine, you know, I think it's amazing because it does say that, that we've seen a rise in insect toy use. It's amazing to hear that we connect app has actually gone up. And so, I also, so, okay, we got an email. I want to answer an Instagram question,

which directly relates to you. Oh, of course. From Maddie Pickett, he's 21, and he said, to your high doctor, Emily, would my wife like vibrating panties as a surprise gift? And this just came in. I was like, oh my God, I got to talk to Steph, because here's what I want to say to you guys is that I've been a fan of of we ride since they came out

15, I guess 15, almost 15 years ago. 10, 12, no, I don't know. Oh, 11, 11 actually. So, so what's so amazing about this is the this frigging moxie is the most amazing thing. It is a panty vibe that you don't need just the panic. It can go in any panties. And it is the coolest toy because it's really powerful. It's rechargeable. It has a battery. You put it in your underwear and it stays. Those batteries are amazing. So it doesn't the little the magnet. The magnet doesn't have none. And then it's such a fun thing because you can use it like you could be out to a party when we all go out again Or you could be in the next room or maybe she goes to work that day wearing the toy and you can control it

And it's she's wearing it and it's really I love what I love also is that you can use it for other things too Like it doesn't have to be just the panty vibe because it's a really powerful vibration and it just is is is a really fun Products so congratulations. Yeah, the box is amazing One of the things that I love about the boxy and comparison to lots of other different panty vibes that are out there is that we didn't so much testing on the fit. I was part of the testing group. So I've tried tons of different.

Oh, you did. And the thing that's awesome is a lot of products, you kind of have to hold them in place, which is not necessarily what really what you want, right? Because you're going to kind of so in a lot of times you're trying to be discreet about it. If you're out in a social setting or something post-COVID, right? But it'll happen, post-COVID. It will happen. We'll get there. But with Moxie, we spent a lot of time on the design and fitting kind of perfectly for different body types. So ours has, like moxie has kind of like a little

bump in it. That fits right kind of between the labia comfortably. So you can walk around with it. It's very small and discrete. You can walk around with it. But when the vibrations start, you feel them and you don't have to like push it up. Right. Exactly. Yeah. Well said, because you can just wear it for yourself.

I mean, you could be, can you control it yourself and wear it all day? But you're right, it doesn't move around. And it's in the perfect place. I didn't realize that you were part of that fitting it. Because it really is. It's like, when I got it, I think I screamed. I was like, you guys, this is so genius.

So yes, Maddie Pickett, I think she'd love it because she could use it on her own. And I think you said something there about to scream. I also read somewhere that people, that the sales of discrete toys are up, the same people want because they maybe have kids at home, they want the quiet toys. And speaking of quiet toys, I know that womanizer,

which is probably on the top-selling toys in the world, I would say, it feels like it is, because literally, you know what's funny? I feel like people have started calling toys now, like womanizers, like Kleenex. People are like, tell me which. Awesome. I kind of feel that.

I heard someone say something like, well, a woman, they think a womanizer means vibrator. It's just a kind of vibrator, but I heard you guys did a stay-home billboard and online that you're donating $10 for every toy to the wife. So, the womanizer, for people that don't know what the womanizer is. So it's not a vibrator. It's actually, the simulation is what we call pleasure air, and it's like air that circulates, oscillates around the clitoris.

And a lot of women that have used a womanizer have been able to orgasm in a minute and have had multiple orgasms. And people that haven't been able to orgasm before using the user womanizer and they were able to orgasm. So I think that's one of the reasons why it's become such a popular product. One of the things discretion wise that it has that is unique to wow tech products is a feature that we for like discretion so that you can automatically turns off when you're not using it. So basically when you put the, when you put the vibrate, or not vibrate, you

when put the womanizer close to you, it turns on. And then when you take it away, it turns off. And so that feature is like a touch-sense feature. That we have. The smart silent, right? That's smart. That's a silent. Yeah. I love that in the womanizer. If they have any, if they want to check out what we're talking about, where do you would like to send them to look at some of the toys

right now that can go to sexfamily.com. They can sexathemelief.com, womanizer.com, for womanizer toys, wevevab.com, for wevevab.com. Yeah, just check them out and you will love. And then we've got another question. This is from Leah on Instagram and she says, hi, doctor Emily, apologize if you receive questions like this all the time, but I was wondering

if I could get your voice on your advice on a first sex toy purchase. I do get asked this a lot and it is fine, you guys. I love answering your questions because how would you know? And how would you know where to go with all the toys out there? I typically recommend for women to start with a external toy because that is where all the magic happens. If you know, is that that's our clitoris, our labia, that's where the nerve writings are, that's where the majority of women are going to have pleasure. And so something that

is external rather than, I think people still picture a lot of toys have to go internal if they're new. And so something like discrete, something smaller that you can fit in your hand. I love the touch by WeVib. I think that's always a great one. That's kind of a go to. What do you think, Steph? First time. Yeah, so definitely I like to make sure that people are purchasing something that will make sure that people are purchasing something that will have some longevity that they can use it as their first toy, but then this can be used in like lots of different ways and they can keep it for a long time. So always look for products that are one like rechargeable and like made of good quality. And then in the WeVib line, I definitely think touch is one that I recommend.

I also recommend tango. It's a bullet, it's powerful, but the thing that is, like, if you're deciding between touch and tango, one of the things that I like to recommend, if you already know that you like a lot of clitorial stimulation, like, or you need sort of a lot of clitorial stimulation to orgasm, you might prefer the tango over the touch because it touches a little bit softer. But if you're more, if you feel like you're more sensitive, then I would stick with the touch. Yeah, kind of how it differs. That's a good distinction

because I actually, it's funny when I travel, I always have both of what I love about the tango. I mean, I love that it's just, it's water proof. I mean, I have it in my shower actually. I love the tango. I think this is a great call because it is, like a lot of people's first choice are bullets and the tango I think is the strongest one out there. I've never seen anything like it.

Never felt anything like it. Yeah, definitely. So much stuff. This is all great advice. Thank you for the work you're doing, for the donation that, that womanizer is donating $10 for every toy sold to the YWCA COVID-19 emergency relief, which is amazing. Stephanie, I

love having you here from WoW Tech. And thank you for sharing all this information about Levi and womanizers and bringing pleasure to the world and being such a good friend of sex family and the whole family. We love you. Love the working family. Thank you. The good work. Thank you. Love the good work. Love it, everybody.

Through the sex. I'm doing it. I'm doing it. I want to work out in my time. I want to work out in my time. Thanks, Steph. I appreciate it. We're taking a quick break and we come back.

We're going to get into your calls. [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ Okay, let's talk to Joy 59 in California. Hey Joy, thanks for calling. How can I help? Hi. Hi so much for taking my call. I love your show. I'm so happy to be here every night and I'm driving home.

Oh, I love it Joy. Thanks for calling. Yeah, I love it. Yeah, thank you. Yeah, I love that. Thank you. You're welcome. Thank you. And so this is a situation. So I have not been in a relationship for over three years nor have I even thought about being a lesbian. So nor have I ever thought about being with a woman.

And somebody came into my life and I'm just like so excited, but I'm scared. Oh, I'm, I'm, yeah, I'm terrified. And I never used to be. Right. Okay. So, so wait, Joy, you're saying you've always been a lesbian though, because you said I'm interested in a woman. But what you mean is you haven't been interested in anybody meeting a woman in three years,

just to clarify. Right, right. Yes. Yeah, no, I get that. Okay, so listen, so first off, okay, I get it. You know what it is, Joy, I've been there too. I'm kind of there right now to be honest. If you don't date for a while,

and you put it out of your brain, and you're working on other things, and then you find someone, you're like, wait a minute, you didn't go to the gym for a few years, it's a muscle. So you were not familiar with these feelings and meeting someone new and how do I approach or wherever you're in right now.

So just know that I love that you're calling me with this because that's all it is. And I think so many of us can relate because time goes by and we're like, oh, how do we do this again? Right, she gets started. So tell me Joy, so who's this, how do we do this again? Right. She gets started. So tell me Joy, so what, who's this, how can we help you get through it?

So what's the next move or what's going on with it? Well, we're both attracted to each other. It's obvious. It's obvious. We work together. And she's just recently out of a relationship. And so she's scared of getting hurt. Okay. Okay. She's...no, that makes...okay, so how long...how long has she been out of the

relationship? I'm not sure. Okay. I'm not sure. And do you have you guys talked about like what she's looking for, what you're looking for, like what are the expectations right now? Well, me, I mean it's I'm a very sexual person and very outgoing, so I have the whole thing going through my head how I would approach this, how I would take her on a date and just smother her with you know affection and respect but I'm also too afraid of rejection. I don't know. Oh, don't, don't. Joy, joy, you're adorable. I love this because it's like I get it. It's like that giddy feeling and you're so excited to have met someone with this attraction. And so you both, let me just

let's go step by step. So it's confirmed that you both have feelings for each other or like having an attraction. Right. So I would say, and have you ever gone out before one on one? Does the two of you? No, it's always been with other people. OK.

So I think that you need to have a, I mean, maybe just, do you want to talk to her, how to time her, do you want to just plan a, are you asking, what's your, how can I help you exactly? Like the next move, where to go on a date, how to feel in your body again, like which part of it? Right, well, you know, the thing is, okay, so I did ask her out, I asked her to monoray,

but not for the whole weekend, just for one day, okay, to go down and, you know, and go to the beach or whatever. Fun, okay. Well, I'll walk, and then that way, we on the drive down there, I think we can get you to know each other, and a little bit better.

That's a great thing, I love that, daytime. Yeah, highway one, driving down, that's beautiful. The waves crashing. Yeah, I love it because daytime, not the pressure to sit across from each other at an awkward dinner. So did you ask? So that or like I was going to say like lunch or coffee date or something to me seems like because if she said because all we know now is there's an attraction. There's something there and she just got out of a relationship and she's not sure.

So I think finding out some daytime is, finding out more information and I love that I did was getting to talk because I have a feeling joy that once you start talking to her, you're going to feel better. And I like that I have having a road trip and driving together. So that's, that's what it feels like. That could be, and then just, you know, ask questions, listen and you know, at our point in life, like you can explain what you want or what you think you might want and let's hear her out.

And then you'll know the next steps. Yeah. Thank you. You're welcome. Okay, Joy, let me know it goes. Okay. I love that you listen. I love that you listen the way I'll from work.

Thank you, Joy. I guess a lot of people driving home from work right now. Always. I just love it. I'm like, yeah, I love being there with you at the end of the day. I mean, it sucks. Like we're cool Not controversial. You're gonna learn something new. It's not like news channel. Yeah, whatever. I'm fire

I definitely like that Don't get stuck in traffic like that on the way to get to miss traffic because we're working during the rush hour Yeah, true. We are the rush hour for the rush hour It's up to Antoine 36 in Texas. I want to help Antoine. What's going on? I do not have a romantic owner in my body and I'm trying to figure out a way to be more romantic to instead of trying to just go down on her to get her in the mood. Oh, good question. Oh, you mean you mean more mean you mean Rome, you mean more about four play? Like as far as like you want to know how I'll

to turn her on. OK, so have you asked her? Have you said, hey, well, I want to be your greatest lover. What turned you on? Yes, but I was like, I'm not understanding the way she wants me to do this. OK, so are you saying is she not that into it when you go down her or what tell me what's going to get happening?

Okay, so like for me, so if I'm in a mood and I want to get her in the mood, I, I, I kiss her and go down instead of like, massage or rubber bag or kiss on a bag tightly. instead of like massage or rubber bag or kiss on a bag tightly. That's it. Okay. So I always recommend to not go right for an even oral. I think it's so great to really get your partner to calm, relax, wash the day off of them. We're also stressed out. Kiss her neck, slowly like undress her, give her a massage, you know, because so much

of why we're not in the mood for sex is because we're stressed out and tense and I believe if someone like wanted to give me a massage and they wanted me to relax and take care of my body and like I would be down and I would be ready for sex and that would turn me on. So, and I think a lot of women and men feel the same way. So yeah, I think that it's a great thing to do to discover, get a massage candle maybe that uses like this warm Massage oil and yeah play with some things and see what she's into

Okay, I have one more question. That's okay. Of course Antoine. Okay, so How would I get her more in the mood about giving me oil? Because as of right now is like Christmas in earth days. Okay. How long have you guys been together? We've been together about seventeen years been married in wow okay yeah i've heard about the christmas

blowjob you're like really that's it once a year now like Santa's coming and i am okay so and one i think that listen you guys have been together seventeen years for some reason my brain i was picturing this was a newer partner you're with

so do you know why she you know know, isn't giving you all? Have you guys talked about your sex life and said, I really love when you, you know, give me a blowjob? She made the comment that I don't turn her on and look that way. I love her. Oh, so she is asking for more for play and more. So this is great, Antoine. I believe if you give her more for play,

I promise you if you give her a massage and you rub her feet and you really go down on her and do all the things, you're gonna get more blow jobs. It's an energy exchange and that's how it works. All right, and she's telling you she wants it. So figure that out and once you do it, call me back if you're not getting more blow jobs. Okay, Antoine, thanks for calling.

It's Dr. Emily, everyone needs to go down more. Yes. Right, it's true though. It's like, we're always trying to get. How do I get this? And how do I get a raise? How do I get more friends? How do I get a partner?

How do I get more blow jobs? It's like, you're not gonna get, but you're not gonna get it by just wishing that you're gonna get, we gotta give. We gotta give. You gotta give pleasure to somebody. Right. Like you saw a shooting star and you made a wish more blow jobs yeah exactly didn't happen in like what the fuck science right exactly you're like where are the blow jobs um where have all the blow jobs going that's on where all that it's not blow jobs yeah the flowers going

cowboys I never know what you're gonna like. What you're gonna know. Oh my cowboys going. Yeah, or no, where about the flowers going? That's what I was seeing. But that's a good one too. That's one too. There are all these things.

Where about the blow jobs going? Apparently there's an absence of cowboys and flowers. I've never heard of either with these things. We'll plan. We can talk to Carissa, 29 in Connecticut. Thanks for calling Carissa. How can I help you? Hi.

Hi. So I'm married. It's been a year. I've been with my husband. We've been dating for 12 years. And I'm on medication that makes my sex drive. So well, like I have none. And my husband like doesn't initiate, he hates initiating.

But like we just don't have sex. So. Can you turn on your radio? No doctor. The better. I'm off speaker now. Oh, perfect. Don't be on the Zia.

Go off speaker. Thanks. Okay. Okay. So he's not initiating and you know libido. So it's like, what? What are you gonna do? Right? Yeah. So Chris, are you on an antidepressant like an SSRI? Yeah. Okay. So that's really, really common. Like that's the bummer. It's like, you won't be depressed, but no, you're not gonna want to have sex. And so the first thing I have to say is that I really think it's important to

talk to your doctor about it because I believe that you can also like alter your meds or you could go down a little bit because I don't think it has to totally be gone your libido. But my question for you is once you start having sex, do you actually want to have sex? Yes. You do. We have altered it. Yeah. Okay, good. So once you've sex, you're able to like have pleasure and have orgasm. Yeah. Okay, so that's good, because that's when the meds are like, because some people don't have the desire

and they can have an orgasm. And that's when I'm like, tweak the meds. So your problem then is your partner isn't initiating. Yeah. Okay. Now this is common for a lot of people. And let me tell you this. The reason why your partner's initiating is,

because he's probably never initiated much. Maybe he's been with women who initiate. And so what you have to do, Kressa, is just explain to him, give him more information about what it looks like to you for him to initiate. Like what's your best scenario, Kressa? How does your, how does your husband initiate that it turned you on? Do you have the answer? Oh God, no.

Okay. Well, think about it because it's a new skill for me. He probably has the answer? Oh, God, no. Okay, well think about it, because it's a new skill for me. He probably has never initiated in the 12 years, right? I mean, a few times. I don't mean never, but mostly it's you. But now that you're on the meds, you're like, oh shit, now, you know, so now I have to do it.

And so it's really like learning a new skill. And so I think giving him more, like, because who knows why he doesn't. There's a lot of reasons why we don't initiate man women. Maybe he was rejected when he was younger. Maybe he's still some ways and is subconscious feels like maybe you still will reject him. He hasn't, he doesn't have a lot of experience.

So the best thing to do is to explain to him, like, does he send you a sexy text at the middle of the day and get you turned on that way? Does he come in and put rose petals on the bed? Does he, does he throw you on the bed? Let him know what that ideal scenario looks like. So you can kind of paint a picture for him. And then I believe he'll be more likely to initiate. That's what I've seen. Oh, okay. Okay.

Alright, Chris, let me know. I'll go. Sure. I'm here for you. That's what we do. Help you out with all this stuff. Let's talk to Callie 29 in California. Hey Cali, how can I help you? Hi. Hi. I was raised in New Jersey, a pretty well-off family. My mom just took care of me and my sisters, so I'm trying to find someone that I'm going to lay now.

Okay. You know, it makes enough money, so I can, you know, quit my job and do your house life, basically. And I feel like I rule a lot of people out because of that, you know, like you have to need to have money type of thing. I'm just wondering how this overcomes that and not just like, oh, like, yeah, he's cute, but like, he would never be able to like afford. Okay. Well, this is a, I love this question.

I would say that it's, I understand that you were raised that way. And I love that you have that consciousness around you. You're like, this is like what I was brought on by my childhood and the messages that I learned. But I believe if you're going after something else and it is, I understand why I'm to be taken care of. But I don't think that ultimately you're going to respect yourself.

And I do believe like what Vincent was saying earlier, like that's which we are seeking is within us or be the partner you want to find. So I believe, Cali, that it's important for you to, and I might think it's about money, but find your passion, you know, work in something that you really love and develop yourself more.

And then I believe that you will be able to attract that person. You know what I'm saying? Because I think ultimately maybe you wouldn't totally respect yourself or feel like you're going to find the one. If it's just about something more superficial like money. Yeah, I guess it's just being the fact that like I truly do want to be a housewife. Like I want, I love taking care of people. I'm an assistant now, but like, you know,

being at home, taking care of the kids and stuff like that. Like, really want that. Okay, so let me put my, so I feel like, you know, so what is happening here in LA, do you think? Do you think that it's just, so what is the problem then? Like if you know that money is the most important thing, so what are you coming up against? Because I respect that and you know what you want.

Yeah. Oh, no, I feel like I'm finding people that I'm just, they don't get me excited. It's like, okay, yeah, this could be a potential, but I'm not even excited to go meet them. Right. Okay, so you're, so you're meeting, but you're not excited to meet them, you said.

Yeah, okay. So once you, so the to meet them, you said. Yeah. Okay. So once you, so the ones with money, or does anyone in general? Just anyone in general kind of. Maybe it's dating fatigue. We've been talking about this. We were going to talk about like dating fatigue. Maybe you've been looking, maybe that's all you've been your focus, money, money, money. I got to find this person, got to find this person.

And you're 29 years old. Like I feel like maybe you're just exhausted. And maybe you need to take a break from dating and figure out what you actually want. Like beyond having a kid in a rich husband, there's more depth to that. Because, you know, having, I think that it's so easy to look at. Like that's just what it's going to be is I'll be a mom. But you know, life is complex. And there's a lot of other things.

So I think the more you kind of look at yourself and do the work and what is important to you and what kind of people are you attracted to to and have some therapy or self-interspection. I think that you'll be have fresh eyes. You know, like, I believe that would be really important. It's really refreshing to take dating off the table and to be like, you know what? I'm not even looking right now because then you realize you've got all this time and that time is spent on developing Callie who you really are and what you want and what makes you happy.

You know, until you find that person. So that's what I recommend to you because you just sound like no one could come into the picture right now. So that's what you have. Of course, thanks for calling Callie. Okay. Well, I like this Thanks for calling, Kelly. Huh. Okay. Well, I like this question because this is something that I think that a lot of us, we go through.

I have gone through this in the last year and I've done this several periods of my life where I have taken time off from dating. I'm like, you know what? I'm actually not interested in when I started this show a year ago, November 12th, 2018. It was busy and we were, you know, learning, you know, lots of change everything. I've been doing the podcast for a long time and I realized that I really wanted to get my foundation set. This is just me and I'm just explaining this to you is that it's like I decided that dating was just, I don't need someone to complete me right now.

I've never thought that and I thought if I could really focus on my personal life and my home and putting that together and then building a doing a great show for all of you, changing the world one orgasm and time, building a good team, which I've done, then I'll be ready. And I have to tell you for the, like, I really have fuel. Like it's just starting to happen. I'm like, now I'm ready to go back out there. And that's not a typical thing to do. I think we often just keep going and going and going until we're exhausted and then maybe you do settle, you know. So I think dating fatigue, taking and dating detox, you know, whether you're coming out of a divorce, a long-term relationship, you know,

since we just need to take a step back and really do the work on ourselves. Thanks to my incredible team for all your hard work, Ken, Kristen, Alisa, Robin, Ryan, our interns, and Michael. Was it good for you? E-Mummy, feedback at sexwithemily.com.