Sex With Emily - Real Women Talk Sex

Episode Date: July 29, 2015

Today, Emily welcomes three lovely ladies to the podcast to dish, discuss, and dissect all things sex and dating. From early sexperiences to porn picks to Pubic Grooming 101, Harriet, Atara, Chloe hold nothing back as they share sex stories and personal preferences revolving around everyone’s favorite topic.  From different walks of life and different stages of love, these ladies have an expansive collection of experiences to pull from and they’re laying it all out for your listening pleasure. Even Menace has some questions for this gaggle of gals! How can you tell if a girl is really into you? How often do women ask men out on dates? What universal turn-off should all men avoid? Their answers might pleasantly surprise you!Different masturbation tactics, orgasm styles, sexual fantasies and toys are just the tip of the iceberg on today’s Sex With Emily podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show is definitely not safe for work, but in the best possible way. I've got three women in the studio of all different ages, relationships statuses who are not holding back one single detail about their sex lives. So get ready for graphic details about their sexual turn-ons, turn-offs, their fancies, masturbation techniques,

their best sex stories, their worst sex stories sex stories I mean we are getting into it so enjoy the show okay but before I get into that I got to tell you about something that has changed my life and it is not a sex toy minus I'm here with men's it's not a sex toy but sex toy has changed my life okay so I'm obsessed with magazines and I just got back from traveling, I went to New York and what I realized was, when I first started talking about this, next issue is what I'm telling you about.

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So I go, usually take a trip and I bring like 25 magazines on the airplane. I literally need another bag and I end up like, I always have like my shoulder hurts whenever I land and I realized it's because I'm always carrying these magazines. So I know in my family on a trip a few months ago, I brought them all like to Israel and I'm like, what are you doing? I'm like, well,. So I know, and my family on the trip a few months ago, I brought them all to Israel. I'm like, what are you doing?

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Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god! I want to feel so proud. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can check out all of our podcasts,

Center for our Goddamn mailing lists if you're done yet because we give really good emails. And also our website is constantly changing and we are updating it every single day So if you love the podcast and you want to better sex and relationships Then you should definitely check out our blogs and our videos which will just be a nice little akutra mock little accessories Little addition to the podcast. So check that out. I would appreciate that and I'm here with my ass. Hello, Emily. How are you? Good. Good. We've we talked about all your New York adventures New York adventures last time. I've not gotten my ass kicked since. Yeah, so you have if people missed that podcast They definitely have to go back and listen to at least the first 10 minutes because it was an epic fight that Emily got in your You're very first fight. So ever if I'm a lover. I'm a lover and not a fighter. So that's how I have to go to the movies. I have to go to the movies. I'm a fighter in high school. Right.

But you are, you know. I know, I'm like, I'm a full grown adult. I'm a full grown adult. But it was funny because half the girls I was with that saying it was from New Jersey. They're like, I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you. It's about time.

They all look on their ass kicked. It was very tough and straightforward in the East Coast, you know. Exactly. So. Here everyone is so passive and in California. Yeah, and it was my fault anyway. You shouldn't film drunk girls fighting.

So. Well, it was good content for your work. That's why they're like, what are you doing? I'm like, it's content. I'm all about content. OK, today's show, I'm really excited to welcome my guests to this studio because you hear me. I give a lot of advice on the show.

We answer a lot of your emails, your questions. But I want you to hear it from the people. I want you to hear it specifically from women who have had various sexual experiences. I've never met, I've met one of them before, I know Harriet, the other two lovely women here, Atara and Chloe have not met, which is even better because it's like we just can get into it. And we're going to be asking questions about their their sex lives and and what turns on men is too. Because I'm sure you have questions. Yeah, definitely. I'm happy that you allowed me to be on this podcast with you guys because I want to give a male perspective and have a ton of questions.

I know. I'm sure you do. On his conversation. Exactly. Exactly. One more thing, speaking of New York, I will be in New York again for the sexual health expo September 18th to the 20th. So if you live in New York, I won't kick your ass, I promise, or if you live outside of New York, anywhere, tell your friends come come to the conference, it's going to be it's open to the public for educating you to have better sex and see the latest and greatest stories. It'll be awesome. Sweet. Okay. Hi. Okay, let's start with Harriet. Hi, I'm. Yeah. Hi Harriet. Talk to them Mike. Oh, you can just like lane to me. You guys are gonna be sharing. Okay. Yeah. Don't be afraid. Okay. Hi. I'm Harriet. I work in entertainment PR and I'm 28 28. Okay. And okay, let's just look at the names all the way at Tara. Sorry. Yes. Hi. Tara. Okay. And you are right. We won't say your age, but like, right, it diminishes by your ageless.

Ageless and fabulous. And what do you do? Well, I do two things. I work in movies and television as a costume assistant, a costumeer, personal stylist, and then by night, I am the lead singer of the band Plastic Rhino.

Oh, sweet. Okay, great, that's awesome. Okay, and Chloe. Hello, I'm Chloe, I am the lead singer of the band Plastic Rhino. Oh, cool. Oh, okay, great. That's awesome. Okay. And Chloe. Hello, I'm Chloe, I'm 25. And I am a, I work in reality TV. I'm a producer, slash casting director.

Okay. And then by night, I'm actually a comedian. Oh, what? Got it. So this is going to be funny. Maybe you'll see. Got no, it's fine. Okay.

Well, and Menace is here. Yes. You can find him across the board to his radio show. The Witty Show. He's on the Witty Show. Do you guys on the Witty Show? Oh, yeah, very cool. See, he's on Billboard all over. We had a list there on the last show.

It was like Menace never talks about the fact that he's on the Witty, which we do every friggin week. Yeah, the Witty Show, it's a morning show in Los Angeles, all 98 seven, Monday Friday six to ten. Woody started with me. But what? Not talking. I did radio before YouTube.

I know. But yeah, it's also podcast the Woody show on iTunes. Right. So we got that down. Mm-hmm. Let's just freaking get insects. All right. It looks like it looks like we're having a summer party here because there's also like women

like spread about which is awesome. Okay. I'm the only guy in here.'s dream. It's kind of good, right? Okay, so I'm just gonna show this out there Um at which point did you become start becoming sexually active who would like to start the question At the end of the question Go go go I was a late bloomer. I grew up Mormon So we weren't allowed to have sex for a marriage still not but I lost my virginity when I was 22 Okay only a few years more were you in Utah?

Actually, I was living in Tennessee at the time I'm not Harry Mormon lives in Utah. I'm just that From Utah. Oh, I mean they at least have they at least have links in Utah No, it's a double. It's so you grew up, so your family was like, like you just believed you were the church. Did you do a mission and all that stuff? I did not, my sister's on a mission right now, so my family is still very active in the church,

but I found my own way in life. Okay, and did you ever masturbate growing up or were you told that was wrong too? Well, we were told it was wrong. I'm sure you were. Yeah, we were told it was wrong. And I think the first time I attempted, I was maybe like 17, very late in life.

And then I did it and I was like, that's great. Right. You're like, how did I do this before? Yeah. So, yeah, but we're taught not to. So I was like, yeah, but Emily, you didn't start mass abating until 20. 20? I never even occurred.

I see, I, in the one moment, I never encouraged me. Didn't even know there was an option to masturbate. Like, I don't even know why I know I was like, hey, get some help. I got a super stressed out. there was an option to masturbate. Like, I don't even know why I know I was like, hey, guess what? By the way, I think I was super stressed out. Nothing's changed. Okay, so, Aetara, how about you? I was also a late bloomer, 19. 19.

I was saving myself to marriage, and then I gave that up when I turned that down. We did you have a background upbringing that was like a religious background? I mean, I thought it was the right thing to do. I was raised Jewish, but oh, yeah, we're not No, no I think that's the one religion where they're kind of like go for it. Right. That's why I was like pissed to my mom like

Why didn't you tell me to mask me? Okay, but you thought you thought you were gonna wait and then yeah, I was saying myself and then I gave up on that dream Right got it the head dream when you're 19, okay, and they were got masturbation. Oh, well, that's a, that's a whole other time. What time when did you start? Like three, were you one of those like in the shower? I was a very high-persexual child. Like, from since I can remember. Okay. And I figured it out pretty young. I think younger than most people figure it out. Like how old? Just like no. Um, it's, I've heard, I've heard five, I've heard, you know, everything. I think I was maybe six or seven. Okay. And you were like, what?

Touching yourself or in the shower? Shower. Water. It's always a freaking water. It's the water. I took a million, I shot, I was a clean child, but like I don't know why the house, it never hit me in that way. It just pisses me out. The stream, there's, didn't hate you. Okay, got it and hair it.

So I'm gonna pull the early card here and I was about 15 and a half, but it was with my boyfriend. We took each other's virginity as it was all cute. Okay. We both had no idea what we were doing, so it was pretty funny. Yeah, no one does, right? I'm sorry, do you guys have been saying where you grow up too? I grew up in Scotland and then I moved to Texas when I was about 14. Okay. Basically the same thing. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. Absolutely. And I'm just wondering like, coastly, where are you from, Tara? Uh, born here, Los Angeles lived all over. Okay. Okay. Well, born here in Anaheim moved to Utah when I was like eight. Okay.

So it's pretty much raised there. And then I moved here like two years ago. Okay. Got it, got it, got it. Okay. So, um, let's just just go, so relationship status. Definitely single. Single.

Okay, so how are you, are you dating though? Yeah, I mean, these girls know me pretty well. I go on a lot of dates. Are you sure it? Yeah, I use the apps a lot, like Tinder, new app happen. I'm kind of getting off of Tinder, but I didn't. Tinder gets, it's disgusting. Yeah, let's become like the Walmart or the apps.

It is, yeah, exactly. Right, we're moving on to a new app, dating, I think, in Los Angeles, it's a whole interesting ball game. It is, dude, do you ever hook up with guys that have one-eighthsands on these apps? Because that's what I hear from my guy friends. Well, I mean, I, well, being honest, I mean, I've gone out for drinks and then, you know,

you get carried away and like, whatever. But I've gone on a few dates and I've actually gone on dates to where guys, I was like, being honest, I mean, I've gone out for drinks and then, you know, you get carried away and like, whatever. But I've gone on a few dates and I've actually gone on dates to where guys, I was like, this isn't working out. Let's be friends. And I am still friends with some of those guys three years later. That's great. But you might have subbed them.

Like, you don't, on the first, or, I think I like one of them. Two of them. Okay. My friend actually calls it a Tinder blowjob dispenser. You can have a girl that gives them a blowjob. Right away. I'm like, I wouldn't stop Tinder then.

Wow. Yeah, I would live on it. I'm currently, I've been in a relationship for way too long. The entire time that Tinder's been available. Yeah, so I know nothing about it. But I encourage my buddies to get on it. And then we'll be sitting at a table and I'm like,

dude, you're not on Tinder yet. Let's get you on. And then I'll sit through the account and get them on and then swear within like five minutes. He's getting a blowjob in the car. He's talking to somebody and getting a blowjob in the car. It's awesome. I mean, it sounds crazy.

He's protection. Okay, Tara, what about you? I am currently in a relationship, so I'm also missing the Tinder bandwagon. I've been a really short for a while. Three years now. Okay. What sucks is they made it so easy before you're you know, you're on my space or like,

friends or Facebook, whatever. Or you would do like, pay for it. Like, do you have a match? Yeah, match, I can't hold something. No, that's up. But it wasn't, also what made it hard was you didn't know how far you were away from each other. You know, with these apps, you're like,

oh, I'm like five feet from something I can hook up with. Right, your penis is practically in my mouth. So, yeah, that's the part that you know, your penis is point two miles from my mouth. Yeah, that's a good opening line. No, don't do that. I growl, I listen to next city, and I don't even drive, I'm too young, I get it.

But now, like, oh, there's a girl at the same bar, she's willing to hook up. Right. You know, it kind of cuts out the whole weird conversation part and gets straight to the point. That's true. Okay, so you guys have been together How long your boyfriend you said three years? Three years. Do you live together?

We do. And how is your sex life? Do you self-sex? Oh, yes. Good. Often. All the time. Oh, yeah. Good sex? You have to.

You have to, right? It's sleep sex. Sex. Sex. Right. And how, you know, so tell me like how, how is the sex? I'm sure he's not your first. No.

No. You've had sex with the people. But so tell me about your sex life. What would you say, is there anything you guys are into that was, you know, been interesting? Well, I can say that you really got to keep it interesting. And how do you do that? Give me example.

Can't be lazy. You just give a blowjob on that, right? It's a flowers for guys. Yeah, you got to still like, flowers for women. Keep putting in the effort, like, you know, get dressed up from time to time Get into a role play

How do you get into people make the like my boyfriend would laugh if I came home and said hey is that a pizza, you know Right, so how do you do that really? I mean, um, it's not for everybody But I like it. It was so funny. I was watching. I don't know some It was the Jenny McCarthy reality show with one of the guys from New Kids on the Box. Yes, yes. And one of the scenes where she was, had all these candles laid out and she was dressed in, you know, in lingerie and all this stuff and he opens the door and there's rose petals

everywhere. And my girlfriend and I were watching it together. She goes, you would totally laugh at me if you walked home to that. You would, and you would. I would, I would, all of that. I know, but that's so you, like menace. I know, but I'm just saying it's not for anybody.

So maybe you'd laugh and then, it's not for everybody. Yeah, yeah, I mean laugh, but then get it. But then get into a menace. So she's like, but you're like, you think that it's not for everybody. Yeah, because couples are like, we're together too long. Like people make so many excuses about why they can't spice it up because they've been together a long time I'm a partner so what if somebody laughs then you move past it and then you start being supportive I think it's awesome. I'm calling a girlfriend. I want to hear I want to hear like some of the setups. Yeah, like give me an example

Well, like his favorite is like nurse patient Right, so what do you do like a nurse have the nurse outfit, you know, so do I okay tell me I need some Leg dialogue though. Oh actually I'm sleeping with a doctor one of the guys, but that's so lame because he fucks nurses anyway It's not committed, but whatever. So still dress up for him. See what I was a nurse though. That'd be so lame You know, I'm a nurse the sexy nurse outfit. Yeah, but yeah, okay, okay, I'm not kidding. I can't even tell me what you do Put it on the outfit you set the the scene, right? I mean, usually obviously happened in the bedroom, but you know, make it come up and work for you. Hold on. I mean, I really want you to like, Oh, oh, I mean, yeah, you know, obviously sharing the apartment, you know, it's like, hold on,

give me 15 minutes. I'm gonna run in there and do something and then come in in 15 minutes and you're not gonna know what it is, ha ha, you know. Right, and then you're like, doctor. Or like, what do you do? Like, I'm so used to, he's usually the patient. So it's like, oh, how are you feeling? What hurts? How can I, how can I make you feel better?

Right. Right. Okay, and then that's hot, right? And you've like, do like the high boots, the short skirt and stuff. I do do the stockings and the garter, but. It's hot. I love the garter and the stockings.

That's a win-win. Absolutely. Okay, so you guys do that kind of thing, and so. You've got to put on the heels too. Heels are very important. He'll leave them on. Do you leave them on during sex? Absolutely.

I know, I hate when guys take them. Like, leave those on. Take everything else off. Not take the money for those. I'm going to be some really expensive here. Don't come in my shoes. Okay. Look guys should always take socks off.

Always. Yeah. It's the biggest turn off. It's awkward if they say that. I got to lose my bone, I'm like why? If I had one. I always use my tip on you. Some guys don't want to take off their socks.

Get a pedicure. I do the guy with bad feet once. Okay, but also like if your socks are off, I'm not looking at your feet. True. So for on, I'm looking at your feet. That's such a good point. That's such a good point. I know I had this radio DJ friend and his girlfriend brought it up to one of us off the air.

So then we brought it up on air and we're like, dude, we hear you never take your socks off. What's going on with that? And he had, we finally like convince him, like just show us your feet, what's going on? And he had, we finally like convince him, like, just show us your feet. What's going on? And he had like the craziest like in grown toenail. It does happen. You can get it. You take pills for that guys. If you have those crazy feet, I don't mean to be like, it is solvable problem. Go to your pitotus.

No, but I'll like putting about it. We shave our legs. We get patches and manicures. We do all these things for you. If you ugly feet, you can do that one thing. Yeah. Exactly. Imagine all the money like we would be spending. You don't do any of that. You'll thank us for the pedicure too. It's not forget about the waxing.

Yes. Okay, let's talk about the waxing we do. Exactly. Okay, can we get into grooming is a great topping. What do you guys do? Do you shh? I wax shave nothing. I usually wax and I have just like a landing strip.

Okay. But at the same time, I wanna do like what they want. You know what I mean? Like if I'm dating someone and they have a preference, then like obviously. And you're in a relationship that you're dating, you're single for days. Single for days.

So you have a strip, but you were like, how do you like the strip? And then he's just like, I would prefer nothing. You're like, hold on. I can take care of that. Right, okay. hold on. I wish I could take care of that. Right, okay. I need to stop. I could take care of that.

Right, exactly. As long as your sex are off, okay, got it. So what do you prefer in men though? Do you prefer the beige trim? I don't like nothing. Like I don't like anything. How much time do you spend doing that, right? Exactly, exactly.

I prefer just like, manscape. Definitely manscape. Trim. Yes. Absolutely. I agree with the manscape. Tara agrees. And what about shaving? Oh wax. Absolutely. Not bare. All of it. It's kind of just easier than having a

landscape. It's so much easier. Because I guess I'm like, oh, I got a trim thing. Yeah, right. I'm just shaving it all off. I'm there. I'm doing the pain. Just take it all. Please. It's easier. Okay. Harriet. Absolutely. Same with the tarot. Take it all off. Wax it off. Don't don't you ever like look in the mirror? Maybe this is weird. You look in the mirror and you're like, I look like a same with the tarot. Take it all off, wax it off. Don't you ever look in the mirror, maybe this is weird. You look in the mirror and you're like, I look like a seven year old. Never.

I think the first time I got it done, I was like, oh, this is weird, but after a while, I just got used to it. Apparently I got hooked if you used to. No, I get it. And then you're part of you can be like, you're the feminist and you can be like, I don't man.

Right, right. But yeah. All right, I have two questions. Not about hair. Go on. Number one, because you guys seem very adamant that I'm single Like is there something going on there like you do not want to be in a relationship at all No

Chloe and Harriet that's a good question. Yeah, I'm focusing a lot on my career right now Which is good for me because I'm not gonna just bang people and be like I'm like focusing on work. No, thank you. In fact that did just happen. I ironically had sex with a man in an alleyway Just a few weeks ago and He I'm not kidding. He like became attached every day like like became attached. Every day, like, we're contacting each other. I mean, the sex in the alley, like, who wouldn't fall in love with that? Very bad.

No, but right at the time I was starting a new show, and I told them I was like, hey, I'm actually moving, you know, 30 minutes away, but I'm moving for two months, and he was like, what? What am I supposed to do without you? And I was like, whoa, boo-thing. That's why, like, just right now, I'm like, not in a place for relationship.

I'm like, I've just been writing. And you left, you left. But you left the, and you're meeting guys through apps and stuff, and I'm straight. I'm so a place for relationship. I'm like, I've just been running. And you left, you left. And you're meeting guys through apps and stuff. I'm so sick of apps. I'll delete them and then I reate the app. Right, everyone who leads them, it's like, they're all going to be so rough. They're like, wait, can you go buy another pack?

Yeah, I'm now having another question. Go. Now, is it a turn off now that a guy is super into you and he expresses that? Is that, you're like, oh, why is he so obsessed with me? For me, no. It's not a turn off, but it's also like, I am very blunt about it.

Like if we're gonna sleep together, if we go on a date, I am like, okay, I'm not looking for a relationship, we can have sex, we can do that, but I'm not looking for relationships. So then if he becomes like, oh, but are you sure? Like, you really don't want one? I'm like, I told you from the beginning.

You know what I mean? Could be People because you hear about those games like oh guys don't you know, they can't tell a girl that they really like them because then A girl knows that she's in control and blah blah, and then they become disinterested Yeah, no, I see I see that but I'm personally not that way I'm in fact, I'm sometimes more of the man in the relationship Where I don't call them. They call me. I totally got it. It's kind of like the thing and it's you want what you can't have. Yeah, and I've always been like that. It wasn't

a game. I you know, I've never really wanted the relationships that I've been in. I've spent half of them trying to get out of them. But then you find that the guys always want more. Right. Yeah, because I focused on my career. All right. What's going on with you? Me, um, I really. Why are you guys? Well, I'm just kidding.

I definitely, you know, I'm open to the relationship. I date around. Usually the second date and I just, I'm so bored. The conversation's dull and then they big, you know, they've come needy. They call you and text you and it's like, well, and I just, I can't handle it. I'm very independent. It's because you use apps and you pretty much know everything about them already,

and you already have the pre-conc�. Google them and stuff. Probably. No, I don't Google. You don't Google before the date? No. Do you guys Google? It depends. But here's the thing with a conversation

where you feel like it's dull. That's the bummer of dating apps. Is you're just chatting, you're chatting, you're chatting, you know everything about them before you've even met. That's why I really love it when a guy, like you're chatting maybe a day, and then the next day he's like Friday 7B there.

Like, let's make a plan. Right, let's make a plan. I agree, I don't think that you should chat for more than like a day or two without me. I hate the chat, two weeks of text. That's just too much work. That just sucks the life right out of me. I know, I was once talking to a guy from Tinder,

I'm not kidding like three weeks. I have to be out of town when we met. So when I was coming back, we were gonna hang out. I didn't want to when I got back. I knew everything about him. It's like, what is the point? So we still have never met. I just, I didn't see the point.

Hey, that's kind of the fun. The newness when you meet someone, did you want to ask the question? You're like, I didn't know how much did you have. I saw your chip to Hawaii and your Facebook page. Like, it doesn't matter. So, you know, the question? Okay, the other question is,

and I think this would really help a lot of guys because this is like the Holy Grail question for every guy. Offline, when you actually see a guy in a bar or maybe you work side by side with them, what is the indicator that you like them? Because guys are totally stupid and they don't pick up on any signs. Like what are the signs that you're giving that you're into me? Hmm. Well, I think it's different. We'll be really overly talkative, obviously. Girls aren't like shy like guys are.

Yeah. Girls will be forward. If a girl likes a guy and she's into a guy You're gonna know. Yeah, but how are you telling me without saying that you want to go out with like what it like What is her body language? So yeah, they'll be some like you know like shalant Touching of shoulder guys are so dumb. They're like oh, she's just really nice to me. She doesn't This is Sorry, we know a lot of guys we I mean, sorry. You know what? A lot of guys, we talk about the show. They're not great at reading singles for women.

Oh, and then I would say also, it's like, all right, then if you're a guy and you go for it, and they happen not to be into you, and they are just really nice. You know what? You're not going to die. Nothing's bad is going to happen to you. So you should go ahead and take the shot.

Right. That's true. Because guys look maybe together. But I would like you know some clear signs and if you have clear signs that you can share with us that would be awesome. Well what for you would be a clear sign? Get underneath and put your hands together. Are you going to need me to just bend over?

No. Right in front of you. I don't know like how maybe I mean do you ever say like hey we should go out sometime like way. Do you guys ever ask guys out? all of you? all of us? I never have so tough offline though without an app because it's much easier to do it online instead of face-to-face

actually Chloe and I have a funny story from the other night we were having a glass of wine at the bar and I was like oh Chloe that guy's really cute I was like I think he's really cute might Might have too many glasses in one, but. So Chloe. So Chloe. Wine godmills. Yeah, exactly. So Chloe wrote me and Chloe wrote him

this little cheesy little poem. And just like, our friend who's a bartender who like passed it over to that guy, he read it, looked at us, and just did not know what to do. I know he walked and smoked a cigarette, and he was just so awesome. So that was intimidating. But he just did not know what to do.

And so later on, it was like, hey, did you not get that note that we saw you? And he was like, oh my god, I thought you were just kidding. Oh, I'm not seeing with me. No, I do it all the time. I think there's something to be said about a girl stepping forward. And like, if I like you, and I'm giving you the signs and you're not getting it, like, okay, I'll hear I come. Okay.

So I, a lot of the times, out of our cute, flirty, I'll put pen, you know, pen to an afkin, write a little poem and be like, that's a great idea. Either like, find me on Instagram or if I'm like really comfortable with it, I'll leave my number. Like multiple times, I'll just be like, save this very rainy day

and then leave my number. And they've called. And they've summoned for call. I would say 90% of the time I get a phone call because it's something different. Right. Because most girls don't. And it's blunt, you know what I mean?

Like they know. I totally support that. Obviously more women should do that. Because I get it. I agree, we encourage it. I urge it all the time. Some of it's on my bucket list. We're gonna write a poem.

There's a bunch of guys that wanna talk to you, but they're just like, Yeah, the terrified. Well, especially if we're in a group of girls, that's hard to approach, so. But there are the guys out there that prefer to do the chasing. And if a girl is too forward with them It's like you took away my hunt. Yeah, I agree. Okay. I gotta get into sex here because we promise

No, no, no, I want to know sex. I'm just trying to help some guys out Jesus. No, we talk about the day I'm gonna just get to sex. I want to know about your orgasms. I want to know who orgasms during intercourse. OK, so Chloe, hey. I have only had an orgasm through sex twice in your life. OK. In my life. So that's why I turned to masturbating. So I'm like, how on an orgasm?

You know what I mean? But I also think I'm not as experienced as a lot of people. I don't really have time to experience that kind of thing. So that's like on me I really honestly wouldn't be okay So when you masturbate do you do the vibrator or do you use your finger your hands? Some of both in fact like a couple weeks go my vibrator broke and I'm like, well shit That's so sad that's like hearing like about like an abandoned child or something

I want to save you And because I'm working so much, I don't have time to get another one. So, you, okay, last night, I was like, I just want a I-Rater. Then I did not want. So, to my trunk, yeah. Or I guess, I guess, hop on Tinder.

Yeah, check out. And here's the question. So, during your course, so that you don't have one, what about would they go down on you? Yes. I think every time they go down on you, you can, or finger.

Yeah. So, you can you do a G-spot orgasm, a clitoral orgasm. I think it's more like clit orgasm. Okay, got it. Now me. During intercourse, do you ever just take your fingers and put them on your clitters and then you could have an orgasm that way?

A couple times, but I'm not gonna lie like when I'm in the moment, I'm enjoying it and I'm okay. You're okay when you don't have one. Yeah. Do you ever fake it? Absolutely. Okay. Because it is true when you're newly with a. Yeah. Do you ever fake it? Absolutely. Okay. Because it is true when you're newly with a partner,

it's harder for women to orgasm with a partner. Yeah, it is. It just is. Like we're not gonna orgasm with you in the first night. And if I ever have, I'd probably fake it. I don't fake it anymore. But it's not a bad thing. It really is just our body like getting used to,

for me anyways, I definitely hold back in that aspect. There are a lot of people that were like, oh no, first time, every time that person, no matter what. But I sometimes do. Right, some lot of people that were it's like, oh no, first time every time that person no matter what but Right, somewhere there's more or get it's true. Okay, get used to that person That's true. That's true and guys don't trip out because would you guys I'll say that sex is still good Will you don't have an orgasm or not? Oh, absolutely. Okay, I'm still sad and what about you? It's hard. You've been in a relationship for three years and what's your or get what how do you work as them? dramatically loudly very very loudly unfortunately or how do you work at them? Um, dramatically. Loudly.

Very, very loudly, unfortunately. That's not unfortunately. Well, the neighbors don't like it. Yeah, I used to have that step. Oh, literally, I'm the walls. No, you know, what do they do? You live in Los Angeles. There's a lot of neighbors around. You walk out to the mail the next morning and they just look at you.

A little bit weirder. And do you during sex? Of course course. Yeah, yeah, both. Easily. Yeah. No, I wouldn't say. Before playing. The two spot is not an easy task. No, that's not an easy task.

That's a whole rigmarole. It's guys don't get that it takes work. Which is why it's not a bad thing that we don't work out. Right. But the clear one is easier. It's not bad. It's not a bad thing. No, but.

It is easier, but at the same time, it's can still, because girls get too heavy We get away our heads get in the way of what's going on for absolutely. So as soon as that happens It's like oh shoot. I've lost it right and it's like Do you talk to guys right away and just like give them directions? I want to do it. Well, I do because I'm in a relationship Yeah, so you like to the left to the right, like up and down. Yeah, like up and down.

And so when you're right, right, right. Oh, wait, so, so, let's have a four-by-dance. So you require, I'll require four-play, pretty much. I think four-play is the one of the most important things a woman needs to do before having sex. Uh-huh. Otherwise, it's just not, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's like, she's sticking to his dry boner.

You're like, what, I don't even, I mean, uh-huh. Where, where the head also gets in the way, it's also beneficial in that regard. I think that one of the biggest things women forget to do and is, well, you don't even need the guy. Just do it yourself and then go in and you're ready to go. And then you're gonna have such a better sexual experience. It's true, because it's hard for us to switch off our minds

at that, because our brain is the largest sex organ. Which I've said in every single show, but it is true that if he just comes, guys are ready, we're not, because I, for a place, it's not like a suggestion to a requirement. Yeah, I feel like it should be a law. So every time you're with your partner, it should be a law. Yeah. I'm going to pass that.

Let's put on the ballot. I'll see what I can do on my phone. A poor place? Who's there now? Los Angeles. Let's talk to the creator of Tinder. Seriously? Yeah.

Set down the question notification to all the apps. It will definitely be a Tinder law. Yes. Yeah. Tinder is going to rule the world. Normally. So do you find, and then do you find that you had to talk to your boyfriend about, or he always kind of knew?

Because some of you guys don't know about Forb like, they come around, or they don't know. Luckily mine was good right off the bat. But there's past, you know, where you're like, hi, I'm here. Is it a little sucks that you like, or is it? Oh, yeah, yeah, but fingers great too. Fingers great too, okay. Toys are great too.

You okay? And Harriet? Should have more than one toy by the way, Chloe. I'm sorry, yeah, Chloe. I'm working on it. I'm building up my personal toy repertoire. Emily had a get storage. I had a storage unit when I moved here.

It was all extra. I feel like I need one. It was on storage wars when I moved here. I just thought it was like, I feel like I need one. It was on storage wars, by the way. That would have been fucking funny. It was, they were pretty shocked when they opened the door. You didn't hear the story about my housekeeper, but hey, go ahead. I definitely think ForPlay is a must.

And I think, you know, guys automatically expect girls to know how to give an amazing blowjob and like totally treat them well. But it's like, sweetie, you don't even know what you're doing when you go down on me. Let's talk about that. So then what would you tell them to do? I tell them like,

hey, you can use your fingers too. Like, don't be shy. And I totally direct them. I'm probably better at throwing three. Give me an example, give me an example, because everyone is different too. So give me an example of what you would do

with your whistle for the first time. When you're with someone for the first time, he's going down to you and it's like, he's like going really fast or he's like, yeah, I will literally be like, hey, it's okay, you can use your finger as to you and they're like, what? I'm like, yeah, go for it.

Like, do it. And do you ever do ever say like, oh, two fasts, like go slower? Yeah, totally. It's kind of like coaching, but yeah. Yeah, most men, they go a little, I always say go to five times slower than you think. Yeah, because guys go really fast. Cause they, if you start trying, they're like, oh, that's what they want. Yeah, yeah men, I always say go to five times slower than you think. Yeah, because guys go really fast.

Because if you start trying, they're like, oh, that's what they want. Yeah, I don't want to. Yeah, I'm the jack rabbit. Usually they're too hard. It's a nice soft area. You know, you got to be gentle. Right. You might not.

Like any good gentle, take your time. Yeah. It's not a race. Right. So any good oral sex tips that you have for men? Just do it. Go down on women. I'm not kidding, like I had this... They should just do it and then a woman should really just give them direction,

so they're not wasting their time. It's true. Yeah, I agree. I mean, with women, we are expected to give blow jobs, so we obviously get pretty practice. Guys aren't expected to give oral in return. So they're not as practice. So I would say just do it anyway, even if you're like really afraid or embarrassed that you're

not going to be good. Because yes, some girls might not say anything and they'll just keep you down there for two hours. You know, and you're like, what, I don't know what's going on. But most girls are going to tell you what to do. Right. Are there going to toy your you know, and you're like, what, I don't know what's going on. But most girls are gonna tell you what to do. Right, or they're gonna toy your fingers or show them what you like, that's what I'm saying. And I think it's huge, like if you're going down on a girl

and she seems like she's not into it, you think you could do better, ask her. Yeah, because then she'll be like, oh my God, he cares. You know what I mean, it's like, I like, thank you for like taking my feelings into a pit. You know what I mean? Exactly, put it in to put it in to put it inside into a pit. And then to the root to men,

this is great point is that the vagina is the root of the cube of life. It is. And every woman is different. So how are they supposed to know? Right. So, um, to an impossible. Okay, blow, how do you guys fill up blow jobs?

I don't mind them. Oh great. You love it? You love gay at her? Oh, yeah, I'm, I'm a, well, oh geez. What, you're great at it. Why? Just opened up that door.

You're dead. Let's just say I like the penis. And you never like the beautiful thing. It is. It looks like it's not. It is. See? I think it's a beautiful orgasm.

I mean, organism. Organism. Like the way that I'm working. That's what it looks like to me. No, it's like, I think it's a great thing, but also it's a scary thing. Scary how? I don't know.

The blowjob scares you? See, sometimes it does, because I'm like, I'm kind of the same, but we're like, am I doing it wrong? I like it, but I could. I do better, and it's not quite the same for a woman to ask. Am I doing okay?

Because he's like, I could just find the next bitch to do it better. You know, we got to talk about this. Well, first I got to take a quick break here, but when we come back, we're gonna blow, blow, blow job tips. And you'll come to my next workshop. Okay. I just have a killer blow job workshop, I gotta say.

Not, we'll get back to that. Okay, so this is where I need to, oh, I'm so glad you guys are here. This is my new favorite sex toy. This is called, it's not even, okay, it is called the intensity. Check this out, okay. Do you see that?

It looks like a rabbit vibrator, right? And do you guys ever do your kick exercises? Sometimes, yeah. Yes. I have your app. You do? Yes. So I have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp,

and it reminds you to do it. Dope. I'm getting it. Do it, download it, because the things all started because Kegel exercises are so crucial to women having stronger orgasms. Like if you do them every day for a month, like you will have stronger orgasms. You'll be tighter, you'll have a G spotter, it'll blow your mind. Plus, do you guys ever have that thing when you laugh and then you pee little, your pants

or whatever? Okay. That's not called urinary and continent. So, that's your Kegel exercises, fixes all that. Well now there's little, your pants or whatever. Okay, that's not called urinary incontinence. So, that's your chagalogicis, this fixes all that. Well, now there's a toy, it's a product that a doctor invented. It used to only be in doctor's offices, but now they're selling it, it's called the intensity. And it basically does, the only side effect is orgasm.

You send your bed this part puffs up, and you lie there and it does your keglet exercises for you. But it's a vibrator, a little rabbit vibes. You also have these crazy orgasms. While it's actually, so you do it for five, you do it like 10 minutes at a time, 10, 12 minutes. And you just lie in your bed and you will feel tighter, you'll have stronger orgasms

and like Indiana University that does all like the studies of sex choices, this is the only cure, like the best caggle thing that you can do and it only cure for like incontinence and an orgasmic women. It's changed my life personally. No, I really think it's like it this so has little buttons on it and you control it and it's like puffs up and just does it while you're lying there. But then there's little rabbit, little ears of the rabbit. So has health benefits and it's sex story. So do the regularly, you can do it for, so you're supposed to do it for five weeks, like five

times a day, and then after that, it's just a little maintenance. And I'm like, you should read the testimonials on the site, and then for me, even, I can tell you that I'm just having work like getting turned on, like even just by, because it's like any other muscle that you have to exercise. Right. And I was just doing them with my app, but now this is like a whole other level. It's like if you start doing biceps every day, it's like, whoa, it's like you just have orgasms quicker, your tighter, guys can feel it, the whole friggin thing. Go to poormoa.com, p-o-r-m-o-i, dot com. And I think, well, there should be a

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because they're gonna want, like if you're having a little bit, you're gonna want to have, like it makes you want to have sex more because your muscles are stronger. Do you know what I'm saying? Like when you be going to the gym, you're like, I'm gonna wear a half shirt, I'm gonna wear it. It's the same thing. And you don't have to even just just just fucking lie there and have orgasms.

And you're like, oh, yeah. It's like, on the treadmill and you're like, I wish I could also be, you know, like, our wish that someone could work me out for me. Like, don't you ever think that? Like, I wish the gym could just work. Every day. So I'm saying. Absolutely.

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Oh, next time. Yeah. I was the better next time. Did you do better next time? I tried to take it very, next time. Yeah, I was better next time. Did you do better next time? I tried to take it very, very slow. Right. No over-excitements. So we sound like the first time you could come out,

but we're not ahead of its chronic, like it's every time. Or he just doesn't ever last long enough, because how long would you say it takes you to orgasm? All of you. Oh. I don't. Like during sex, like I haven't enough to know my body. But seriously just depends on what.

Okay. What's going on? Yeah. Okay, about 20 minutes, maybe five minutes. It can be 45 minutes. Okay. Usually it's between like 18 and 40. So, permescent is a quickly absorbing delay spray.

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Okay. Let's get back to that. Yeah. They finished before you, right? And then they don't care. And then they don't care. They're like, oh, I'm done. Yeah. No, no, no, no, no, I'm like, I might as well just take out my vibrator. I can get to town by myself.

Okay. So that, right. So that's my biggest, that's one of my biggest pet peeves. So guys who just have no concern, they're like, I came, looks like's my biggest pet peeve. That's one of my biggest pet peeves, so guys who just have no concern. They're like, I came, she looks like she was having a good time. What's for dinner? Right. So you guys do that. Yeah, I have.

And they're like, oh, and I'm like, well, you can finish me off, or I'm just gonna, you can leave. And I'll just go grab my mic. Do you do that? I love you, Harry. Do you really do? I have done that before, yes.

Because they're like, oh, I finished. And I just stared at them and I was like, well, listen buddy, I think there's two people involved in sex. So, how do you guys not know that? I mean, younger guys maybe, what did I age you guys you're with? I mean, oh, currently, I don't date anyone younger than me. So I'm 28 and probably 28, like 40.

Okay, and you feel like it just, no matter what some guys know, it's just, no matter what they don't. Yeah, and also like, let's talk't matter what some guys know. It just doesn't matter. Yeah, and also like let's talk about the maturity of males. Like come on. So they can be 28, but have the maturity of a 21 year old. Most of them do that, so I must and don't really mature until they're like 40. And I think it was especially guys not caring if girls got off. I think that was really predominant in college.

Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely. They probably even know. They didn't know. Men didn't know about oral sex. Absolutely. We fare it. They probably even know. They didn't know. Men didn't know about oral sex. They didn't know why pleasing women and women at least I was socialized that it was all about pleasing him.

Right. And you said about like making him feel good. Yeah. And how do I look? And it was had nothing to do with my pleasure, which is why I tried to tell which I do tell women all the time. And my first sex talk I had with my niece who is old enough now. I was like, listen, this is gonna be a quick talk. But it's not about the guy. It's about you feeling pleasure and maybe you master it.

Maybe you don't, I don't know, but figure out your body, figure out how much you feel good. I know what a hate it. My brother wasn't there, he killed me. How old is she? She's 15. So yeah, yeah. I mean, they've been hiding, like, I was on a fucking reality show.

My brother, my whole family was like, never talk about what I do. I'm like, you people really have three niezes. So no, you got in trouble that one time she went to your house since she found all the sex books. She did find all the sex books. She's like, Mommy, why does every book on it Emily shelf have the word sex in the title and then she started reading it's like Kanna Lingus, lesbian, whatever. And I was like, oh god, they never let her come over again. Okay, what other pet peeves do you guys have about that? Like, is there anything that guys do that you're like, oh, my God.

Oh, my God, there's the list of the long. Go, go, go. This is so happening. But this is the public service announcement. It is. Listen up, people. I don't know. Where would I start?

Anything. The socks thing definitely, like, take your socks off. I can't stand that. And I don't even like feet, but I like the socks to be off. Right. I think if you're, I think communication, that is the one thing that is important even in bed if you're dating someone or whatever, tell me what you like, tell me what you don't like and I'll tell you the same, like I'll tell you my likes and dislikes. I think it's just as easy as just being like, hey, I really like this or I really like, you know, whatever. Right. Tell me. Right. And so then I know. I know what to stay away from. I know I really like, you know, whatever. Tell me. And so then I know.

I know what to stay away from. I know what to like, like balls. Like if you, yeah, or like two by most guys, like the balls touch or not. Like, I have been with some that's super enjoy it. And then I've been with other dudes that are which is way too sensitive. And they were like, no, stay away from there because I'm going to like go and get like cool. I'm out.

I'm like, awesome. So I know if I'm like getting bored with sex here, I just play with your balls and then you're done. Right. Exactly. I can go back. I just think right as perennium, like in the middle, that's exactly that. I do do that. You do that, Tara, tell me.

I do, I do. And it's, well, current one loves it. So it works. Okay, I don't know if I can do that. Oh, no. No. But just the perennium, which is like the taint, like, aimed at the, not the, like,

right behind the balls, just push up a little bit. Yeah. I'll come right away. It's like, for your blow jobs, that you don't like giving, I'll be right back. I mean, you know, like, give right behind the balls. Just push up a little bit. Exactly. Push it. Yeah. I'll come right away. For your blow jobs that you don't like giving, or the other way around. Give me a row. Like give me a row. You should come up.

I have to say just because I've never taught a blow job workshop, but I did teach one recently. And I had to do a like, because I feel like this show's teaching, but when you're teaching, it's very different. I really had to like get into it. And it's really, yeah, I mean, I've talked about it a lot, but it is true that its enthusiasm is number one across the ball being into it,

making sure that it's wet and having enough pressure. So like, like you never want to be like that. You know what I should say? You always have the pressure, it's always wet, and you're mixing it up, using your mouth, your hands will talk off like that. I feel like I'm pretty good at giving blow drops. I haven't had any complaints.

Right. So I feel like I'm okay, but I could definitely get better. You know what I mean? Like I could always get better. Okay, I've got a whole thing to talk about. Okay, what is your pet peeve then? Is there anything that guys do or that don't do?

That you're like, why don't they blink? Like I feel like kissing for me. When guys stop kissing after all when you're dating for all and they just go right for the sex or even if you just started dating them. And they don't even touch their boobs anymore. I feel like they go right for your pants. I'm like, what? Yes. My nipples, they're sensitive, these feel good,

and they go certain zipping. I'm like, really like don't you want to see me naked and dressed? Yeah. That's what we like. I don't know. I like, that's what goes back into the four-ply thing. No, I think one thing for me too, like while we're having sex, like, okay,

make a kiss, get into it, yes, and then four-ply. But while we're having sex, especially if it's a long period of time, if the guy just does not kiss me at all, I'm like, I still have a face, boobs, and a play. But while we're having sex, especially if it's a long period of time, if the guy just does not kiss me at all, I'm like, I still have a face, boobs, and a vagina. Like you have options here. Right, you have a very good- They'll just go the vagina or whatever.

I agree. And I feel like that's the only focus like once they get on that track. It's like, you have so many options. Like, you know? Right, kiss. I feel like we should get a guy's opinion on this. Oh no.

No. What? I'm the kissing and the boobs and the stuff. Why do you skip all that and go straight to the jacket? Oh, because I think, well, it depends on how long you've been hanging out with each other throughout the night because guys, they have no patience. You know, we're like, okay, this is my chance. We're going to go for it now.

You know, and they feel that they might mess it up between now and then of, you know, doing four play and stuff like that. You become disinterested. Yeah, I can agree with that, especially because like, they do just, are there one track mind in its penis. And so, you know, once they like get into it, they think, okay, she's into it, let's just do it.

Like, I'm hard, let's do it. But, I mean, I think it's very sexy for a guy to like care about, again again, my boobs and kissing me and my neck and all that kind of stuff. And so it's gonna get me more turned on. So I promise you're gonna stay hard. Exactly, exactly. You could even be touching his penis at the time.

We're like, we're really grinding up against it. I was like, and that's like your penis is being like in the kitchen, making you sandwich. Like your penis is there. For guys like, dude, you guys need a pregame. You need a master babe before you go on like a first date and you think that might lead to sex because again, you're gonna be like a one minute man.

There's no way you're gonna last. That's pre-gaming. You'll be way too excited. That's true, that's a good one. And what about eye contact? It creeps me out when guys just constantly give me crazy staring eye contact throughout the entire thing. I guess so uncomfortable.

And I'm just like staring over here. I'm like, I don't know what to do. There's a thing they stare the whole time. I've had a couple of dudes like write up my eyes and do it. A lot of guys here. I'm like, you know, it can't be once in a while, but not the whole time. I would be like, what?

Yeah, but guys who are like, that's what you guys want. Yeah, but it was like solid, staring, not even looking away. And it was so distracting. I couldn't even focus on, you know, feeling pleasure. I would be like, oh! Coverings that we like, I was like having to look away. Like just, I don't know, in the night.

Yeah, but when the guys have the dead eyes, you know, we're just like, we're like the attempt of bedroom eyes where they just like awkwardly like gaze at you and you're like, okay, like, and I have that one guy I did for a little bit and he every time we had sex he would say I love you and be like give me eye contact and I was like I think I ran away. No, once the bathroom. No, it called Chloe and I was like I don't know what to do.

This is really weird. I said get rid of him. Yeah, the prematurely escalates though. Yeah, I love you and stuff. But the eye contact thing is we just don't constantly stare. Like stare for a little bit and then look away And the same thing with blowjabs got me a question because got we were like look at like one of the bojots I just like look guys want to see you and like look up at them, but not the whole time. So it's kind of like I

Want to look no no no no Geez let me I already know he's gonna say no I don't think that guys even care about that They're just happy that you're giving them a True I had a guy to spell it as fancy to me. It's that just I think guys you hang out with Kesting what the guy No, they're not you the normal day-to-day guy. They don't care. They're happy that you're happy You're good. I know guys with freaking

Tells some leather pants I've never freaking this is a lot of other I've never I've never never No, it's not the wrong It's like the weird Maybe we are sex guy Menace I've never dated you just mixed your whole men It does think that every swinger is a pointail Which is partially true

But I've never been with a swinger I know what I'm saying The type of guys are having conversation Okay, but can I just tell you something really funny? On our last show, this just popped in my head. You were saying to me, did you, when I was in New York, you're like, did you have,

cook up with any access? Did you have sex in? Think about from it. Yeah. I did not. However, I have a friend that I used to sleep with in San for just a while at the time who now lives in New York. We don't sleep together anymore.

I've known for years and I saw him. Chloe's her reminded me. Our friend was like, do you ever have sex and I'm like we did have sex in me like I kind of I knew we had sex But I remember he goes you don't remember we had sex in the alley on mission street In scum and I was like oh We did apparently it's life changing to them I'm just like it's another daily office And we're friends for like 15 like we are so good friends. I for like I know we had sex a few times He's like and in my office in the elevator. I was like, it's another daily office. And we've been friends for like 15, like we are so good friends. I know we had sex a few times. He's like, and in my office in the elevator, I was like,

whoa, I totally spaced. So yes, I had sex in alley two and it was hot. It was hot. I don't know if I forgot. Oh, it's just like punch in, punch out, you know, for her. Do you, right? Yeah, exactly, right. Do me, speak, do me.

And then it was an amazing experience. Real quick, you didn't see coming off. You didn't even let me answer your question. I think it was just like experience. Real quick, you didn't see coming off, you didn't even let me answer the question. I think it was just like with guys' blowjob, a lot of the guys that I talk to are happy that you're just giving them blowjob so they're not really tripping that you're looking up at them while you're doing it, okay, whatever.

But the other thing is just, it's suction, you know, like yeah, when you're just actually just having your mouth and just floating around there and You know, like, yeah, when you're, you just actually just having your mouth and just floating around there and you know. Like vacuum? Yeah, it's just like. It's like, it's the pressure part I was talking about, but that's a better way of putting suction. Yeah, it's some suction, that's it.

And then everyone, guys are happy. Floating your mouth, they want to feel it. Because you think about, you want to mimic their hand or your vagina. Right, yeah. The tightness of that. You can't mimic my vagina. It's literally perfect.

So we make a flashlight about it. And then the one last thing on a guy's point of view, the only thing that I think is pet peeve and it's not even a central thing is, at least on the coast, I think a woman or kind of rude. In one way. Compared to when I travel through them, I always say about the Midwest.

When you travel through the Midwest or the middle of the country, it seems like even if you're not trying to hook up with the girl or anything like that, they're just nice to have a conversation with. I find on the coast, when you're just being nice and cool and trying to say hello to a woman or just have a conversation because you're in the same space, they, some of them can be extremely rude and it's like blow your eyes like that. You're just saying in general, like if you're like being a role and just like walk away, thinking that immediately the guy wants to get in your pants, like no,

you're like your five feet from each other, you're trying to be, you know, nice. That's so funny because I, no, I'm the person who are like, if I'm out and I'm walking and I'm passing so many people out. And I'm not making a statement that's like all women. No, no, no, right. But no, but I feel the same way, like, for me, I smile at people as we pass by the street and I get the weirdest looks.

Okay, that's so cool. But I'm also not from here. And so I feel like my, I do. I go out of my way to be nice to people and I feel like people just look at me weird. And so I'm like, oh, okay, nevermind. Yeah, it's so, so no, I do understand what you're saying. Yeah. So girls should be nicer.

Just be nice to them. So we guys talking to whatever, I mean, if he's like being creepy and rude, then definitely like blow him off and give him the eye roll. But if they're just, you know, striking conversation with you, there's no reason just to- Go straight to socks. Yeah. Just walk away. Okay, okay away and not say anything to them. Yeah, I see.

Yeah, okay, that's good. Good advice. Everyone should be nice for everyone. Can't we all get along? Jesus, what were you going to say, Tari? You had to say that. I think it really depends on where you are. Like if you're at the coffee shop and some guys just like,

hey, and you're like, oh, hey, if you're at a bar and some guys like, hey, how are you? I'm pretty sure that the bar situation that guy has sex on his mind when he's saying, hey, how are you? Whereas a coffee shop in my just be like, oh, what's going on? Do you have the time or something like that? Okay, even if he does, are you what you just want to sort of down and immediately or what? Well, see, that's the thing.

Girls get into that mindset when they're in those kinds of situations. So yeah, you probably are going to get shut down if the girls not into it right away. And don't take it personally. It's just the situation where you are and the interaction that's going on. And obviously, you know, a dance club, a bar is a is a it's hard not to and guys are coming up to you. You sort of like girls, you know, we drink the sauce. And then we obviously get dressed up. We

look a certain way when we go out to those kinds of places. We know the kind of tension that we're trying to attract. And then when we finally get the attention, we're like, oh my god, what the hell. Yeah, girls are crazy. I know, I know, we're crazy. What do you guys think? We're good to know, right? Yeah, I was gonna say, I don't know, I'm super we're crazy. What do you guys think about, are we good to know? Yeah, I was gonna say, I don't know, I'm super chilled out, I talked to everybody, even at bars, these two girls know me,

and I'll be like talking to a guy, or a guy will talk to me, and I'm just chilling, chit-chatting, most of my friends are guys, so I'm very comfortable, and these two will be like, you know, he was hitting on you, right? I'm like, no, he was just being nice. Like, we're just having conversation. Even if there was a hearing, I'm always really nice.

I'm from the Midwest. I'm from the Midwest. I'm from the Midwest. Yeah, I talked everyone too. And then, yeah, I'm going to be like, well, yeah, I mean, we're all nice people in this room. I'm just saying, I'm just saying there's a lot of girls out there that will shut you down immediately. Just don't take your personal.

Yeah. Okay, I have a question on masturbation. Do you guys fantasize or during sex or masturbation, do you guys have fantasies that you think about? Oh, yeah. Tell me, go. I want to hear. I want to go first.

No, please, go ahead. Well, I, will either have fantasies or I'll watch porn and get in the mood. Okay, both. Let's talk about the porn you watch. Either want fantasy first. Okay, fantasy first. I'm not watching porn. I probably, I think the one is just like a guy coming in and just throwing me up against

the wall and pulling my hair, I don't like some genal sex. Right. Being submissive because it's that feeling the guy wants and has to have you so bad just like throwing on the bag. Yeah, that's what guys want to be around. They don't know that. Do it. They don't like auto-arrow. I don't think that fix it. What is it? You gotta see how she's feeling. Yeah, but I feel that guys, when they meet a very strong and dependent woman, they're like, oh, this girl wants to be in control in the bedroom. No, it's not.

A lot of times I'm like, no, I'm controlling in my life and I'm very outspoken, but in the bedroom, I want to feel like a woman. I want you to pick me up, throw me around and just do whatever. Right. Fantastic. I totally think a lot.

I think a lot. Now, when you're doing that, are you picturing the face of someone that you're into that you've been with or is it like a blank, it's just like a lot. I think a lot. I think a lot. Now, and now when you're doing that, are you picturing the face of someone that you're into that you've been with or is it like a blank screen? It is just like a mask on this. Like, it is just, you know, it's whatever I'm feeling like that day. I could have just, you know, watched a movie and I'm like, oh, that actor has put his head on this body and like whatever.

And then what about porn? What kind of porn do you watch? I usually like just like watch it on my phone because I'm too lazy to get out my computer and like, you know, do that whole thing. Right. But what do you like, what scenarios? I usually just like watch it on my phone because I'm too lazy to get out my computer and do that whole thing. But what scenarios? I think pretty much everything anywhere from like three sums to even like girl on girl, like whatever.

When I first started watching porn, I was like, oh my god, this is so weird. And I felt like really like dirty. I think the first time I watched porn, I was like 22. And I like had to like ease into it and now I'm like oh that threesome looks fun. Whatever. And I'll like just click it on and watch it and it turns me on. It might not necessarily be something that I'm into personally, but watching it and been like okay. Is it DG2 girls and a guy? Yeah, or

the other way around. Have you had a threesome? No. Okay. No. okay. No. No. I Tara. What do you fantasize about? I like so I think because I Was allowed to watch inappropriate movies from a young age so I got So I got introduced to like sex scenes and movies so I'm very turned on by sex scenes from movies So I will go back and like replay like really hot sex scenes in your mind and mind or I'll find them You know or like so actresses actors play full frontal stuff like I will go back and like replay like really hot sex scenes in your mind and mind or I'll find them, you know or like so actresses actors full frontal stuff like I will go find that and that's like can you give me a scene in the mood? Class 16 or okay Well, Eva Green

Do you know who she is that? Dunning I don't know any of the least stunning beautiful British actress. She was in a movie Absolutely stunning beautiful British actress. She was in a movie a long time ago. Oh my gosh, what was it? It's okay. It's it's set in the 60s. Anyway, she's full full nude. There's a lot of sex in it. I think it's called the dreamers or something like that. It's absolutely amazing. And it's a great movie. Have you been with women before? I PLEASE the fifth. Okay And so you think about you too. You watch like romantic women like we like the plot. So it's not porn necessarily or do you also watch porn?

So no, yeah, I'll turn into porn by I think I like the storyline that goes along with it, which is why I think I like to find the movie. The female friendly porn is like the plot, right? But there's you know guys two Michael fast bender, full frontal in his movie. I mean, I do know that I do know that. Hello. I need to watch your movie. And then are there fantasies that you have had that you want to try that you haven't yet?

I will so porn wise I'll go and I'll watch like amateur orges and I think maybe it's because I kind of want to like be in an amateur or may be one day. You could totally do that. I get invoiced like every day. I don't know if I'm ready. I can't do it. She hushed out with Orgy guys. Apparently. The ponytail.

So yeah, you got to bring a lot of hair rubber bands and stuff like brushes. Orgy's good. Let's work on that for you. Chloe, fancies, porn. You don't really have any. And I think it's okay. I think it's because I'm not experienced as like,

I should be or that I want to be. Don't shit all over yourself. No, listen, I have shit to learn, okay. It's true. But growing up, Mormon porn is like new, like porn ruins marriages, all that stuff. I actually like had a personal experience with it ruining something.

Like what? The where he watched too much porn, I got you with? Family. Oh, family. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But what's weird about it is now that I'm discovering porn and watching porn and I like it, I don't feel bad

about watching it, but I just discovered it later in life. I think it's a very natural thing, and I don't think, I also think it can help you in relationships. You don't even mean like find out your fantasies. Watch porn and then be like, bro, boyfriend, let's try that. Exactly, I tell couples all the time,

just sit down, grab a seat, watch them porn together, like, or lay on the bed and see, like, that's hot baby, let's try that. Absolutely. Because couples have such a hard time communicating with each other about sex that I'm always like bring in a third party. Yeah, couples listen to my podcast together, the watch porn, the

Bible, whatever it is. Oh, man, it's funny because she keeps on bringing out the Mormons stuff. Oh, half my family is Mormon. I've just never been really close. Not my, it's like my standard. Right. So it's never been really close. But my, my best friend high school was Mormon, his dad was the bishop of the Mormon church. So anytime they got in trouble, I would just take the fall for it. So they,

Because you were the non-Mormon. Yeah, I was the non-Mormon. So it had to be your fault. Yeah, it was always my fault. So one time they got caught with the Pam Anderson and Tommy Lee sex tape. And of course, it was my tape, even though it wasn't. Right.

So I had to sit down with the bitch up and talk to him on how it was bad to bring that over to the house, even though it wasn't mine. And then one of them dropped a condom in the house, and then that was mine, and I had to have the toilet. And like, dude, I can't keep on taking the fall on this stuff. It's terrible.

Hopefully you don't anymore. Hopefully you don't. They were banging on some balls. They were banging left and right, and I wasn't even getting stuff. It's terrible. Hopefully you don't anymore. Hopefully you don't. They were being on some ball. They were being left and right, and I wasn't even getting laid. It sucked. Do you know what I know? We made out for it.

OK, do you guys have any, oh, I have a question for you. What do you wish guys, is there any one thing that you wish guys understood about women that they don't? Or if you could tell them one important thing about sex, what would it be? This is the public service now. That's a part. One important thing about sex. Are probably men that you get. Don't make a big deal public service now. That's a part. One important thing about sex.

I probably mean this again. Don't make a big deal out of it. It's just sex. Have some fun. It's a good one, Tara. Thank you. Especially because I think now in this day and age, I can, I really can have a sex with a guy

and have no feelings for you. And a lot of guys are like, oh, well, we just I rocked her world, she's in love. They always do that. I'm not. I'm not. I'm her world, she's in love. They always do that. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not.

I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not.

I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not.

I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I then that hurts. Oh yes. I don't think I have. Actually. But not this relationship, right? This one finally stuck around. That's good. That's really good. What do you say?

Any messages from any of you? Like, why does this keep happening? What guys should know this? First off, I think that guys should not be intimidated if a girl's friends are majority guys. That's a girl's and guys can totally have plutonic friendships. And you know what I mean? That really bothers me when I go into a date.

You may as soon as they've been in Allie, everyone's mad, but you're not that trans. But I would say, tell me what you're into. If you want to, you're like, oh, I saw this on a porn or I saw this, I really want to try it out. If we're close and we're dating for a while, like, screw it, let's try it. And if it falls apart and it doesn't work,

we can sit back and laugh and have a funny story out of it. It doesn't have to be fully serious all the time. Like, have it, let's like try it and if it like falls apart and it doesn't work We can sit back and laugh and have a funny story out of it It doesn't have to be like fully serious all the time like have fun with it. It's actually supposed to have fun That's great. That's those total and go down on me go down on me Don't be scared about it. I totally worry Emily preaches that for you ladies every single part Everything all that's all. OK. And then Andy, favorite, wait, how are we doing here? Our time. We got it.

We're good. OK. Any favorite, like, sex, toy, or product, or I know we got to get you some. I got to learn. OK. Andy, sex, we said you used toys a term. I mean, the rabbit is, you know, this standard bit around.

This is your new rabbit, I guess. The intensity. Our source is a little bit out here. I is your new rabbit, I guess, the intensity. I'm seriously sorry, I'm not serious. I'm gonna get you guys one, right? You like the positive, he has a literal stimulation in his butt. Yeah, definitely. I have this one little ball, baby.

The intensity. It's like a little... Egg or bullet. Is it a bullet? I think that's what it's called. The bullet-bullet vibes, those are awesome. Yeah, great for travel. Yep, those are awesome for travel.

Yeah. See, I do like my rabbit. I definitely, and then I have the little egg thing and it doesn't require batteries. You just charge it and it's perfect. It's like it's a little like the little um egg thing. It looks like a little egg shake. I heard those guys at the battery. I just have like a string with a thing.

No, you can just like plug it on a charger. Oh, it's probably Jimmy Jane. Thanks. So yeah. Yeah, yeah. And that's great. You can like charge it up, then if you're literal. You guys are literal girls. That way, G-spot real quickly. Do you guys, G-spot orgasms?

Yeah. You said you do. You tower, and you have. I have. Had them few, but I've had them. But you can like work on it too. The thing is, don't be afraid to bring your G-spot toys in and we can show them what you like,

and then you can move around and it's penis that way. Perhaps it'll happen. It didn't happen for me. Well, no, I think that that's a great thing. Like I think guys would like that. I remember us going into the room and being like, this is what I want. Let's do it. Yes.

You know, take control. We'll pay our filth or something. Okay. I remember the when the first time where I thought I got the G-spot orgasm, it was really confusing. Like the first time it happens, you're like, what was that?

I'm not sure, because it's like this whole other sensation inside that happens, you're like, what was that? I'm not sure because it's like this whole other sensation inside that, and you're like, wait, but it's not as intense as the literal. So you're kind of like, was that it? Or did I need to keep going? It's kind of confusing. It is, can't be confusing. You got to work at it.

It doesn't, some people come naturally, some people you got to work at, but it's worth the work. Okay, guys, thank you so much. Harriet, people can find you or we're not gonna get into that because. Yeah, I got just my Instagram. I think it's worth the work. Okay, guys, thank you so much. Harriet, people can find you or we're not gonna get into that because. Yeah, I got just my Instagram. I'm gonna go like it. At Harry Duncan 87, Harry as an HA R I.

Okay. Not as in Harry. Harry Harry. Harry, Harry. Okay, Tara. Plastic Rhino Facebook, you can like our page. They're all fine. Okay, yeah, the band page. Personal stuff is personal, but you can like our page. They're on the end. Yeah, the band page personal stuff is personal,

but you can like the band page. Like, okay, great. If you go on my Instagram, you can find her on there. Okay, perfect. So, you know, Chloe. I just have my personal Instagram, but I'm trying to get more into the comedy thing. So, that would be fun to follow and see what happens.

It's just my name, Chloe, but with no e. So, it's Chloe underscore in the dark. Okay, got it. And we'll have this on the website, section with Emma. You guys it's clow underscore in the dark. Okay, got it. And we'll have this on the website, it's actually the end. You guys, thank you so much. You're being so candid and open. Thank you.

I love it. This was so fun. It was super fun. Super fun. You more shows like this. We will. I've been trying. This is what I love.

I think this is really helpful. And from our listeners, let me know what you want to hear and what you thought to think of the show. I feel like people used to give us more, now we just get hundreds of questions a day, but also like what shows do you like? Don't you like what you have more of? We don't even have to.

I love shows like these. You and I together, I mean, I love it, but. Let's do it. We'll do more conversation. We should bring more guys next time. It's more honest too, you know? I know, it's real and over that. That does about me, you know, thanks.

You're doing one of these with men. Yes, yes. I would be in time to see how much they think this is. I think the guys that she likes, because they're f-op. I'm all for you. Or mom or whatever you have guys versus men like women on the show. Yeah, we'll have a whole freaking debate. I love it. Okay. Thank you. I'm fine. You at At Menace. Yeah, just across the board.

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