Sex With Emily - Sensual Rubdown

Episode Date: October 13, 2011

Emily's interns are listening and learning from the show, having phone sex before the first date, toy reviews, wearing sex toys on the Bart, Sex in the City vs Sex With Emily, why Emily & Menace would both like to sleep with Justin Timberlake, the winner of the 20 questions contest is announced, how to attract women despite his average looks, Menace gives advice for helping guys build confidence, Kegel Camp app is for guys too, Menace has a stalker, foot jobs, why women need to warm up before sex, the best way to ask a girl to dance, how sensual massages can spice up your sex life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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And you want everyone to sign up and become a Friends with Benefits member. It is 4.95 a month, or you can do it yearly. And we're asking, it's 15 cents a day. And I think 15 cents a day is worth better sucks. If you've ever learned a tip from the show, or your life has ever changed because of this or something's happened in your life and you feel like you need to improve your sex life,

you will do that here. So we hope that everyone joins and supports the show and just go to sexlame.com to learn more about that. So hi, Menace. What's up? What's going on? You know, a lot is going on. Oh, I liked because yesterday we talked about, I don't know if anybody emailed about

it, so I don't want to jump too far ahead But the thing where you attached you attached the USB and you have a simulator the simulator Somebody on the other end is having sex with the other part of the right Over the internet right, so you know who I suggested it to who all my buddies that are in bands That are always on the road long this in their relationships. Their girlfriends. That was the topic of the show yesterday. And so they thought it was awesome. You really?

They loved it. Yeah. They got to buy like the toy and stuff and do the whole thing. Yeah. That was a good show yesterday. As you know, as you know, we're doing daily shows Monday through Friday, one to two Pacific standard time. You can watch it live every day on the website.

You can watch it. You can listen to it if you're sitting at your desk at work. And then afterwards the archive and everyone can watch it then too. Yeah. Yeah. How's your day going? My day's good I'm having an amazing amazing day. It started at Best Buy Which I love our camera that we bought broke a little bit But then I had to get a new hard drive and hang out at Best Buy and then with my intern to our hilarious I love and we are having fun and it's prepping for the show today today show Let me tell you what it is.

Now you wanna know why I'm so happy. Okay, so topics include today's show is, well we're reading your emails, and it's so much easier. You can always email me at feedback at sectionelty.com but you can also, we have a Q&A section on the site and ask Emily button. You can just go there and ask Emily tab

and you can just submit your question easily that way. Topics on today's show include how to woo women the keggle app, my cap, my keggle camp app, hand jobs, getting her warmed up, flirting techniques, how to ask someone to dance and sex videos with an ex. Today's show will be talking about how to give an amazing sensual massage

and how it can enhance your sex life. Massage is a very crucial part of sex and important and we're gonna get into that. It is important. Massage is awesome, it's like a lost art. I wish every guy a day like listen to the show. Speaking of listening to the show, so my interns, you know, I said they're awesome.

So one of my interviews, we talked about phone sex, we talked about long distance relationships and then we gave tips for having good phone sex because obviously you need that and we gave tips of how to actually have because obviously you need that and we gave tips I've had to actually have sex with your partner using a USB cord, but that's that's my favorite that's your favorite part But she actually went home and she's got a date with a guy that she's never met on okay cute bit and she had phone sex For the first they were talking for the first time before she even yeah before she even met him she had phone sex

Isn't that awesome? She learned all the tips on the show yesterday and had awesome phone sex with the sky she's never met i don't think it's weird yeah but why not it happens i hear that happens a lot people started relationships talking by now oh stop by talking by talking to somebody you want to date does have sex i don't know why i think it's already hot and she's a new vibrator to Tomorrow is not necessarily

Tomorrow, well if you have phone sex doesn't mean that you can just with the chick before I even matter to go on a date Then I pretty much expect to be no with not the first date I'm having phone sex with so what that's totally separate. There's no penetration After you talking there's no peck. There's no it. How what the f- f- are you talking about? There's no pe- there's- no. It just means that like they broke down a lot of walls and they know each other likes. You're just- you're just prude.

I've done that. I've had phone sex with someone that I've never- that I wasn't with yet. That you've never even gone on a date before. That I've talked to on the phone? Yes, that's happened to move before in my history. That's a lie. It's not a lie. Like I'm gonna lie.

Why would I lie about that? You're drunk right now. I wish. That's a lie. It's not a lie. Like I'm gonna lie. Why would I lie about that? You're drunk right now. I wish. It's Friday, I'm lost. It's not Friday yet. There's no way. That's not how it was drunk. So yeah, I love them people.

So I just love that, you know, she learned from the show and she's going on a date. And so tomorrow's show isn't really fun too, because you're not gonna be here. It's gonna suck, because we'll miss you. But my interns have sex toys that they've been reviewing. So we're gonna get some intern reviews, and we're also going to be talking about role playing.

It's not going to break when I'm gone, right? It's going to be a little crazy in here. Well, we might, we're doing some sex toy reviews. We're going to have some women in here talking about sex, a friend of mine's coming in, I believe. And then we're all school might be talking about role playing either tomorrow or Friday. But if we do role playing, we'll be, I mean, tomorrow or Monday,

but we will be bringing in costumes. Role playing costumes, like nurse outfits and schoolgirl uniforms. That'd be fun. How are you? I'm good. I actually, right before I got here, one of my gay buddies that does, he also does radio. He was stopping by the studio because he was leaving in Vegas for EDC, which is a huge music festival. People know what it is. Anyways, he was telling me, oh, I was out the dinner with my man last night and my cousin who was also gay. And they all start talking about Grindr.

Always talking about Grindr. Oh, he's got it. Grindr is that location-based app for gay people, for the iPhone, so you can chat with people near you. But you don't know. That you don't know. And you can meet up with them. You can meet up with them where we're at. So they said they're at dinner, they turned on Grindr, and there's, there's some guy that

says within 15 feet of what you're at. Okay, hot, love it. Yeah, so they're like all chatting with them and all this stuff. And so they start looking around and they notice and they see the guy that they're chatting with And they look over and the guys there with his wife and his daughter at dinner and how they know it was him How did they know it was him because you can see the person's photo? Oh When he click on so he's like one of these guys who's married the one step and he's like in the DL. Yeah, so

Then they started staring at him and then he notices that they're looking at him and they said that the guy just like split Like picked up his family and is left before they even got dinner. Oh my god Because he probably freaked out. What was he thinking? Of course there 15 feet away They were found out who the guy is if there's your pictures there. Oh My god, the dumb dumb dumb. So yeah anyway, that's fun. Other news that I just saw before I walked in here is starting to filter out in the internet. Supposedly, talk about relationships gone bad, that OJ has confessed while he's in jail to Oprah's staff because he's doing an interview with them. Oh, I heard this a few weeks ago.

Yeah, but they can't like confirm it or anything. Anything. Whatever. But apparently that was. That's huge. Yeah. If he admitted it to Oprah of all people from some other people that I know that are kind of close to the family. They've been telling me for years that it was actually never OJ. It was OJ's older son that did it. Oh my god. Yeah. Are you serious? This is what I hear all speculation on that story. That's true, but this is rumors that I hear. Do you remember the whole J-Thing, like where you were when you was doing the drive? Yeah, that's like one of those like when JFK was shot,

like our parents' generation or whatever, like now it's like, or whoever's generation of their parents. What the chase was going on? Yeah, when the chase was going on, I remember watching it. It was huge, I remember like coming home from work, I was working in politics and like sitting in a friends living room and just like watching OJ's truck drive the L.A.

That white van. Well, this is something that Oprah really needs to help her network. So people help her launch her. Oh, the own network. The own network, which I hear is really... I hear it's doing well. It's really good. Yeah, I want to check it out.

When I get my TV working. This will really put the network on the map. I know. She's got OJ of all these years and all these people to admit it, but if anyone, Oprah, that's awesome. Yeah, but I don't know if he's in for life right now. I think he's only in for like nine years. This is for burglary that he's in, right? He's for kidnapping and burglary. I wouldn't need it. Like, you're not gonna be there for murder. We're gonna get you for kidnapping and burglary. Like, he never did any work on himself. He just kept

messing up. That's an idiot. He never did any emotional work. He just has to live with all the stuff that he's had to deal with. So, um, yeah, and the last time I went to a show in Oakland. Really? Yeah. Why are you looking at me? I remember if you told me or not. I don't think I told you. I think I forgot, but I went to see Titus and Droneckus. They're in Indiana. They're really good, do you know? No. And then, um, Okraville River, Austin, Indiana. They're good at the Fox Theater in Oakland, which is like a beautiful old theater, and I went with a bunch of friends. The Fox Theater, if anybody ever travels to the Bay Area

here in California, and you're able to catch a show at the Fox Theater, it's one of the nicest theaters in the United States. I know, it was really, really nice. So super fun. So it was fun when bunch of friends dancing, music, on good times. What did you do? Um, I just make out with anybody. No, I didn't. I didn't make out with anybody. I just said, if I didn't make out with anybody,

why do you assume that I'm always making out with someone? I mean, I, I, I'm not assuming. I'm just saying. No, no, no, like, but you always say, oh, I was hanging out with friends and then no details. Right. No dates. Well, because I don't have, like, I don't have, like, major dates for you about that, just that I had a really super fun night. So you just went from Flogging the night before to going to some boring indie show and not doing anything. Yeah, Exactly, and then my yeah, I did get flogged by my my my sex school friends. I'm sorry, but the weekends coming up Maybe I'll have some more vlogging fun stories. That we can I'm trying to think when I'm doing this weekend Like I'm going to I've got two birthday parties

Friends birthday parties. It's lots of birthday parties lately. That's what I'm doing. That's cool. Yeah, that's all cool. That's all good, man. Anything else you need to tell me before we get into sex in the news?

No, that's all the juicy details that I've had. Really? And I apologize I won't be here tomorrow. It's gonna be sad. It'll be very sad. We'll be okay because we've got sex toy reviews. So one, just a little preview for tomorrow, that we'll be reviewing toys at a beneath set.

All my interns got to pick out the toys they wanted. And then one of my interns actually wore hers on the bar. And she's going to talk about her experience of wearing it on the bar and what happened. Isn't that the like remote control? Yeah, it's the remote control one that you wear underneath your clothes. Okay. Okay, I think it'll be awesome.

Sorry, I'm sorry. Did she give it to the remote to like some fun stuff? No, no, she's the remote control one that you wear underneath your clothes. Okay. Okay, I think it'll be awesome. Sorry. I'm sorry. Give it to the remote. Like some help. No, no, she control the remote. She control the remote. I don't know yet. Maybe she did. We'll find out tomorrow.

You got to tune in tomorrow. Because I think, you know, we always talk about sex toys, but I think it's like to get a real person. I don't know if she liked it. It didn't like it. We're going to get into it. We're going to get real about sex toys. It'd been cool.

She gave it to like the driver of the train and said the remote. It says it looks like you can handle some. It looks like you can handle some big machinery. Yeah, can handle this. Can you drive me? Yeah. I love it. Okay. Ready? Some news. 75% of women would not marry someone who was unemployed. Would you marry someone who's unemployed? What if you yourself were unemployed? If you answered no to those questions, you're not alone. 75% of. Would you marry someone who's unemployed? What if you yourself were unemployed? If you answered no to those questions, you're not alone. 75% of women wouldn't marry someone who was unemployed and 65% when Ty the Nod if they were jobless, according to a recent survey by Forbes women.

With a recent unemployment, to 9.1% jobless, this is an increasingly pervasive issue, especially for women as they consider the fiscal and emotional stability of their romantic figure. It's ironic that women place more weight on love than money, yet won't marry if their potential suitor is unemployed. Because it's not important. A job can make or break the longevity regime. So yeah, they're not, but you know what?

This is what I was saying. I said this last week, we were talking about men who are unemployed. And I was saying that men who don't, I think we were talking about on the show, or was a terrible number of others saying that I can't remember what's on the show and what's not, but that men, it wasn't the show. Who feel who are unemployed or are struggling with their job or they're emotionally strained anyway

about their value as a man? Because men are the hunters and gathers. Men are supposed to be the suppliers. Even if they're not in relationship, that's in their mind I should have a job, I should be successful. And when men are suffering about their work or they're not feeling good or they lost their job. They're not confident and I think that this should look at that That the reason why it's not just because they don't have money

It's like this dude's probably kind of lame and insecure right now because he doesn't have a job I Believe that women are horrors that women are horrors and they just see dollar signs No, I'm just kidding, but the thing is that that in our horrors and they just see dollar signs. No, I'm just kidding. But the thing is that maybe women will marry him, but they will still date a loser that doesn't have a job. Yeah, I've done that, but they sleep with them. Yeah, they'll still do that.

Yeah, but if you're not on marriage, it's like, yeah, oh my God, I have a job. I have a job, why aren't you have a job? Like, how long has he had, you know, is he home playing video games? But the thing is- The kids will run through like 15 losers before they get some nice guy with the job.

Yeah, I know. That's just how it goes. Sorry, fellas. But you can't, it's just 15 losers before they get to my sky with the job. Yeah, I know. That's just how it goes. Sorry, fellas. But you can't. It's just the thing is, I think again, I think if you take this and you look at the components of what women say over and over again, the most attractive thing they find in a male is confidence. And a man who is not working and unemployed is does not as peak confidence.

And I'm going to say this that a woman who is unemployed doesn't affect her. She's still having issues. It's hard being unemployed, but not to the level that it blows men's world. Like when they do not have a job, they feel like they're falling and they're not confident. Yeah, that's true. I know this, I've seen it.

Professor Arrested for creating safe user-friendly website for prostitutes. What are all these teachers doing in the sex world? Every day there's a story about a teacher who was a former prostitute, was a pinup girl, not even to mention all the teachers, the professors who, and the one who simulated the sex class at Northwestern. But this professor, he created a user-friendly site for

web prostitutes, just trying to help prostitutes. No worries. He's at Dickson University. He's been arrested for running a cyber-pimping website, but it's not nearly as easy as it sounds. His website was called Southwest Companions and provided a social networking site for 1400 prostitutes and customers. Think Facebook plus eBay plus adult friendfinder. However, he allegedly told authorities that profit was not as motivation. He wanted to create a safe place for prostitutes and customers to get together. He called it a hobby.

A hobby? Yeah. Dude, he's, he's the man. He is the man, but in running the site, he posts a tips on not to get caught and remove profiles, but he was caught because he uses, because the idiot, the idiot professor used his university email address to start the site, which is either shockingly stupid or marginally bold. Stom!

Don't use your work email for anything. Don't email your mother on your work email. Like just don't do it. Just everyone listening, just don't use your work email for something like that. I use Gmail for everything. Me too. Gmail, fast. Love Gmail.

Love it, mean it. I, it still baffles me that people that will surf porn in a major corporation building. So dumb. IT can pop up what you're looking at on your screen in five seconds. Exactly. So that's why actually if you're listening in your office you can go to EmilyMorse.com instead of sex, if you want to listen during the day. Yeah. Because I know that you went to sex. And it's not porn anyway. So you're not. We are educational. We are educational and informative and change in the world. Okay. I'm sure they want to mind if you're on the sex with the city fan website. Exactly. It's for just like sex in the city. When it comes to sex, are you a single sex in the city?

It's terrible. It's not real life. It is real life. It does a lot about women. It's not your life, but I have to tell you what apps We should watch it together one day because let me tell you not that you ever would I'd have to like to date you But don't let that chick wear braces ever again either what check the red head chick. Oh, she wore braces one season Well, she yeah, okay, and then when Carrie cut her hair that wasn't good either, but yeah I know it was a mistake But I have to say that I never watched the show. I haven't seen every episode.

I'm not a sex and a city obsessed person. As you know, I've not had a TV for a long time. I missed it all, but I've seen a few episodes. And every time I see it, I'm like, that happened to me, that happened to me, that, and the sounds cheesy, but it's true. We have very parallel lives. She was teaching a class at, and it would happen where I just

taught a class at learning addicts, and then she taught a class at learning addicts and then she was dating some guy who she thought was gay and then I was eating guy And then she had a ball is she and I had a ball is she so I feel like we're kind of kind of in her spirits even though she's not real Okay, when it comes to sex that's my sex in the city rant. Are you a switch or an iron when it comes to sex? When comparing male and female sexuality, there's no shortage of atages. Men are like light switches, just flip them on and they're ready to go. Women are like irons, plug them in and let them warm up. Regardless of the metaphor,

the over-simplications of male sexuality bound as do the explanations. Evolutionarily, men are wired to spread their seed in discriminally, as we know. While women are wired to cultivate, psychologically, inside every man is an insecure little boy who needs constant sexual approval. That's like menace.

Behaviorally, men respond to simple cues like visual stimulation while women respond to complex emotional cues. Whatever the myth, we tend to view male sexuality as simple and female sexuality as complex. However, in the book, a billion wicked thoughts, they analyze a billion web searches, a million erotic videos, a million erotic stories to better understand the sexual differences between men and women. And here's what they found. They concluded that a single queue triggers around in the male's brain, but women's brains

require multiple queues to become aroused. But are men really that simple or women really that different? Okay, there are plenty of women who don't like to cartel after sex and plenty of men who do. So is your sexuality like a light switch that goes on and off or like a dimmer or volume that operates on a spectrum? Most likely whether you're a man or woman it's both, you can be both a switch or a knob depending on the context.

So it's just that there's talking about the different ways that men and women get turned on, which I think is always fascinating. Evolutionary speaking, like that, like I always say women can't go from zero to 60 like a man. We need time to warm up. We are an iron and you are a switch. Of course, anything can turn on a man. Right. Like, right. Like a phone that you're talking into. Well, because it looks like a penis. Like a penis. Is that why are you thinking? Are you thinking of me giving me more sex right now? No, I'm not, but I'm sure a lot of people watching on the camera. Right, now they are. That's why you should watch it live, everybody.

Everyone watch it live. I'm gonna be the old podcast. Download the video podcast, watch it live, listen to it like a podcast and iTunes, like you always it. And yes, you can listen to it iTunes. I've gotten a ton of emails from listeners who are wondering and you can go right to iTunes. It's cool.

That's what people are. And Stitcher, that are individual effects. They could probably add a penis into that. It's a video. They should send you one. That would be nice, or not. But let's talk about sister for a second. We are recording at the sister studios in San Francisco.

And when you become a friend's benefits member, it is awesome. Stitcher is an amazing app that you can download to any smartphone and you can listen to the show, just on demand. You just got to plug in your password that you're going to get once you become a friend's benefits member. And then every day you just get the new shows. And you can listen to

them on the go. Yeah, and my favorite thing to do and I repeat it all the time is I plug it into my car and I can just listen to the speakers when I'm driving. Me too. I love it. I usually turn down the volume when Emily talks and then really high when I talk. You probably do. That's how I, you know, you don't even want to hear me.

You don't even want to hear me, you hate me. No, I'm just kidding. You're like, I don't hate you. Why do you always see that hear me. You hate me. You're like, I don't hate you. Why you always say that? I'm sorry. I know you love me. I hate you. You're just saying, you're just saying the ass.

See, I know you. I shouldn't say hate. How does it mean that I hate you? But I know you for no good reason. No good reason. I'm the least annoying chick on the planet. No. Moving on.

Justin Timberlake and Cameron Diaz uncomfortable sex scene. Once a couple in real life, once a couple in real life, Justin Timberlake and Cameron Diaz are now co-stars and bad teacher, which contains what the comedy director's Jake Kazenthal's people is the most uncomfortable sex scene in history. It's from People Magazine. She did Dia doesn't disagree telling people up making love to Timberlake both with their clothes on. Yes, yes, it was an absurdity, a form of hilarity for all of us involved. We went to work that day and said, what time do we start being ridiculous? Eight o'clock? Perfect. When a Canterbury sweating Timberlake in DS to reunite for the movie, it opens

Friday. He said that arm twisting was necessary. I can't imagine that. I can't imagine getting together and doing a sex scene with my ex. It was they were together for four years. It was obviously a painful breakup. They probably broke up now four years ago. But to have to do a simile to sex scene with them, I don't know. I mean, they both have boyfriends and girlfriends and stuff. So it's probably not that I give you a deal. But they were together that long. They were together like four years, I think. Two, three, four, four. Yeah, a long time they were together. I remember this. I could be wrong. I might have been two, but I think it was four. Anyway, that would be weird on camera, but I'm sure you're an actor. You could do it. It's been years. You know, you heal after a relationship. I could probably assimilate a sex scene with the next boyfriend.

Yeah. And JT, I think JT is a god. I love that guy. I love him too. I think he's awesome. He is so awesome. Like, you've seen one Saturday night live and everything. Super talented, funny. I mean, if I was a chick, I would totally do them. Yeah, I would too. But I mean, I am a check and I would do him. But yeah, he's single now. He broke up with Jessica Beale.

Yeah, and then she started dating. I don't know, it's in Sastore. She's dating somebody else. So she date. I don't, I can't remember. Okay. Yeah, but he is, I can't find, I can't think of more people that are talented than him. I wish he would do more music.

I know. But he doesn't want to. He's got a great sense of humor too, like I'm starting to live and everything. He's so funny. I love him. And he says he likes Smoky marijuana. He just did a Playboy interview. Really?

He still smokes it. I feel like a lot of actors are like, I used to smoke. I don't smoke. No, he says he loves smoking marijuana. I think he got that from Cameron Diaz because I think she said that. Because she's a stoner. Yeah. I love it. Which ad want to know what actors are stoners? I always want to know. What actors are stoners? Yeah, who's a stoner? Like publicly. Publicly? I mean, a lot of actors like Seth Rogan and... Right, oh right. Of course. Those are the most popular right now. Okay, so we can get into some email.

But first, we have to announce the winner of our 20 questions game. Do we have any more questions? No more questions. We went through them all. And this is going to be an ongoing thing that we're going to do the 20 questions. So we had some great questions. So if anybody, you have a question for just when you send me an email either to feedback at sex.sexy.mo.com or you go to the Ask Emily

button on the website, just say it's for the 20 questions game because a lot of times you have questions, sex questions, but just ask us anything. Anything you want to know about our sex lives, about sex, about anything you can ask us. That was fun, wasn't it, Mennus? I liked it a lot. I picked our favorite question that wins a sex toy. Okay, what is it? The winner was, what would be more bearable life without your sex toys or life without Mennus?

And that's from Anna, and she's a long-time listener. Well, thank you, Anna. And I think I picked, I think it would be more... You picked your sex toys over me. No, I didn't. I picked you. I said, life without Mennus would be tragic. No, you don't. I did. said life without minus would be tragic I did

So she gets a special a special present from Adam and Eve you're just being PC and I'm not I What would I do without you would be so sad? I don't know. We've been together for so long. I know We're like an old couple but not Okay, hi Emily love and your friends with benefits. It's the best 495 a month ever spent. All you out there have not yet subscribed. You don't know what you're missing. He's our new mascot. Now for my question.

Is there a method for a shy guy with average looks to help score with the ladies? How would a guy approach you that would woo and wow you into the bedroom? What is something that would turn you off? Once again, Emily met us. Keep up the awesome job. I'm addicted to your show, Can't Get Enough.

I'm a sex with Emily Junkie. This is Danny and he's from Feeling California. He's a premium member. Thanks for being a premium member, premium friends with friends with this member. Okay, so that is a good question. What could a guy do? Okay, first of all, I typically don't date guy.

I'm not a looks girl. I'm not the kind I've mentioned this. I'm not a woman do? Okay, first of all, I typically don't date guy. I'm not a looks girl. I'm not the kind I've mentioned this. I'm not a woman who's like, he's hot, I bang him. I'm gonna go bang him like how guys are. How would a guy woo me? Like he would just be confident and he would be interesting and he would be funny and he would be just, I think

and all that is underneath the umbrella of confidence. Like he just would come up and start talking to me and entertain me and we'd have a good conversation. And then I might like him and go out with him. But I don't look at like to me, I've dated guys who were like, really? You're dating him. I'm like, yeah, I think he's not like, guys to to women men get hotter over time and to men, they see a woman they're like, I'll do or I wouldn't do or and it doesn't really change. But for women, like I've had so many guys that became good friends or they hit on, you know, or even a guy met a bar and I wasn't sure I was into them and then like eventually like if a guy

says the right things and does the right things which are just like being confident and funny and open and real and not a liar and not telling how much money you have and what you make him a car you drive because that doesn't work because I was just that with the frat. I was just telling you how to date and she's like in the first five minutes, she was like, yeah, I've got this car and I've got this job, and I really think maybe some women are turned on by that, but I think that's not where you wanna lead. I don't think you wanna start with your Rolls Royce's driveway,

because I had a guy do that once. He's like, well, my Rolls Royce, literally I just met him at a bar at the Clifto Hotel here in San Francisco, which is a lot of out of towners. And he was like, so my Rolls Royce, like it was a, I was like, I don't, you just, you walk away, like I don't care the world's rice

My favorite part about that story that you just told me was that you said you went to the cliff and You might not know this but I was working I was working for Audiovisual company while I was working in radio actually when we met I remember that right and so I would go to all the hotels one time The lighting on on the top of the hotel. It says the cliff huge the F went out So what did it say? Clint hotel And it was like that for a long time. Oh my god. I wish I took a picture

It was pretty funny. I'm like I'm so slow, I had to do the math. And like, minus F, Clip Hotel. Clip Hotel is fun. If you're in the temperature, go for my town. Or even if you live here, but the red room is awesome. So this guy was hitting on me. So I would say that, and how do you wow you into the bedroom? I mean, I just think that first you got to wow me

just by your personality and by connecting with me on an emotional level. And then I would make my decision then to sleep with you Danny I wouldn't think about yourself as the even average looks whatever. I don't think that stuff matters I don't think that stuff matters at all I think it's like going in there with like your game on like your confident, right? Manas you get chicks What what do you say? I would say and I know it sounds corny even corny to me and I know people love it and

But I believe it's an excellent confidence builder It's my other friends have tried it out is if there's and but when you're trying to be funny Just do not try too hard to be funny right it has to be really natural and You might want to try this out if there's like some improv classes somewhere. I'm telling you that's the biggest yeah icebreaker to you know don't be feel stupid to be in front of people and just you know get build some confidence exactly and believe me if you can do that and do some like improv in front of a group of people and then you're just out in the wild doing it you're gonna be a fucking rock that's a good conference pillar that's a good conference pillar.

That's a good improv class isn't every setting. Everywhere, everywhere. Yeah, that's a great, that is a great one. Don't be afraid to do it. I took one. I've taken acting, I got like a D or C because I had to do it for film school. But it's definitely, it didn't make me afraid

to talk in front of people. Right, right, right, exactly. And just think about it too. I know this is kind of like a mental game, but think like you're hanging out with your friends. Like think of you, you, Danny, and your most comfortable. Like when do you feel the most Danny? When do you feel like I'm on fire, I'm myself.

It's usually with your like best friends or your family. Try to like channel that and be on. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I had another weird experience at the Clifth Hotel. What happened? It was a- Oh, I've had some many weird experience at the cliff hotel. What happened? It was I've had some many weird experiences at the cliff hotel. I was sent to go talk to the guy

What the hell is his name? He's an actor. He did speech speed racer, but I was there to talk to him about into the wild Oh, I love that movie what the hell is that guy's name the main character? Yeah, yeah, he's been in some other films too But it was this it was so odd because he was up Drinking all night was Sean Penn the night before and so he was like Haggard and it was just like me and him and James Franco No, not James Franco and it was do you know? Yeah, you know who is no, we don't have wife We're gonna get the wire and the lawyer were have wife. We're going to get the wireless password here. Yeah, that's on the list.

But anyways, it was just me and him in this giant total room. It was so weird. I just wanted to get out of there. Really? Why? Because it was just a dream. I went out parting with Sean Penn once. It was super fun.

Yeah, I'm sure. Like 10 years ago, we were not parting and drinking. And it was super fun. Yeah. Yeah. But it was over all the time. So I've had like dates there. I've had weird, like I fooled around with some guy in the bathroom there once. The flip-to super fun. Yeah. Yeah. But it was. So I've had like dates there. I've had weird like I

Filled around with some guy in the bathroom there ones. Oh, the cliff hotel. Cool. Yeah, that awesome. But you'd like to know that. Hamley. The Clid Hotel. The Clid Hotel. Yeah. Yeah. I just started listening. I just started using your app on the iPhone today. Have to say it's intuitive to navigate the app. The tips conveniently appear on their own and your voice cues are handy. I used to do Kegel exercises a year or two ago, then got lazy and forgot about that might admit. Your app will help prevent me from doing that again. I've been single till now, so I'm not using this for a girlfriend partner yet.

It's more to do with practicing daily orgasm. So if I do find the right woman, she and I can have better and longer lasting time. If I had not done Kegel exercises, this app would make it a lot easier getting to that goal. Then if I had not done keglet exercises, this app would make it a lot easier getting to that goal. Then if I had not done keglet exercises, this app will make me a lot easier of getting to that goal, having better sex.

Thanks again, I hope the seal makes your day is your apted mind, take care, Tom. Tom, your app did make my day, I sent it, so I have an app called keglet camp. And it is for men and for women, as you can hear, Tom is a man, people think keglet exercises are just for women. And keglet are those pea stopping muscles that you like stop and start the flow of urine.

And those are the ones that you exercise. Helps women have longer, stronger, more intense orgasms. And it helps men who are premature ejaculators. It helps them last longer. And it can help men have more intense orgasms too. And basically with the app does, it is a reminder that pops up on your phone and reminds you to your exercises and you can work through the levels and Honestly, I'm surprised. I've gotten so much great feedback from it that people are like loving this app

And it's like changing their life. So I'm beyond thrilled that it's helping people. You always forget the selling point What oh, it's your voice guides everybody. My voice guides you. I say through the Exactly, I'm like tense relax. Yeah, tense relax. That's what I do in the Yeah, didn't the guy say you masturbated to it? I Believe so but you might have extrapolated that from what he said. I'm not sure if he did. No, maybe he did No, yeah, he did okay sweet It's my friend bought the app and said he masturbated to my voice okay But then another guy said is it normal to masturbate after doing kegels because it kind of get you turned on. Yeah, sure

Sure thing. Oh, can I talk about another thing? Please okay, since we're in the middle of emails. What else? I've kind of mentioned that I I believe I kind of have a stalker. No, no, so Check this out and you might be listening right now. Right. You buy a stalker? No. No. So check this out. And you might be listening right now. Right. You buy a stalker probably is. I don't care. So she's been sending letters to my other radio station

I work at, cool, whatever, like how we should go out and all this stuff. And then I didn't respond because I'm not going to go out with somebody over hand-read letters. I apologize And then I started getting lingerie sent to me. Oh, yeah, remember you got lingerie sent to you, right? I got the lingerie and then I get a call from the girl today. No way at work. Yeah. What the hell was that? No, no, it sounds like a tweeting bird. Yeah, so then I get the call That's really your phone Yeah, so then I get the call

Phone It's a phone in there, right? Oh, okay cool. Sorry about that. Okay. That's weird. Yeah, go ahead anyway, so She calls up and she goes you to answer. She has your work number. That's scary. No, no, no It's not my like office number. It's a number to the radio station. Okay, and then oh cuz you were doing your shop Yeah, yeah, and she started asking all these obscure questions, just it seemed like she was calling to call, you know? And then I go, who is this? And then she said her name.

And I knew her name because it's very different. And it's, you know, I've been seeing them on these letters. I go, okay, yeah, that's cool. I go, well, have a great day. And she's like, yeah, you too. It's a great day for kite flying.

I was like, what? Does that mean she's been listening to the show? Cause we've been talking about kite flying like four times. We've been talking about kite flying like four times. Oh, she's stalking you. Hi, stalker. I don't know. What you can see you, not me.

But we get her in a round. That really, that's like, it's a great day for kite flying. So she must be, cause we've been talking about good dates, bad dates, and we were like, some people would like it. Some people would like Kite flying. Yeah.

And some would want to talk. But she must be listening to the show. There's not like a coincidence in the universe that she said Kite flying. Maybe I'm saying stalker is bad. I'm not. Maybe she's just a fan, and I apologize if I'm calling you a stalker. Right. I'm just like, you know, right. Don't take it personally if I'm calling you a stalker. Right. I'm just like, you know, right.

Don't take it personally. It's a stalker. I'm sure you're not like a stalker. Yeah, it's just a, it's just, you just have a snub session with men. You're just putting more extra effort than other people. I'm obsessed with menace. Yeah. It's okay.

That's okay. So that's fun because it makes you feel kind of good, kid be honest. Does your ego feel good that you've a stalker? No, I just feel, I just feel weird. Okay, be careful Maybe she get a bodyguard a bodyguard. It could be my bodyguard. I'll be your bodyguard. I'll be like Thanks. Stay away No, that is funny. That's a funny story

Okay, I'm sorry if I'm calling you stalker near just a fan. I apologize. Yeah, maybe she's just a fan She wrote you letters don't be so harsh don't throw around stalker label like it's just nothing She would just be a really big fan who's a friend's benefit's member and she's joining right now. Yeah, maybe she's just a fan, she wrote you letters, don't be so harsh, don't throw around stalker label like it's just nothing. She would just be a really big fan who's a friend's benefits member and she's joining right now. Yeah, thank you. Thank you, friends of benefits member stalker. All right.

Emily, great show and I love the banter between you guys. But I disagree with men's to take on hand jobs. Hand job debate. Is that a guy or girl disagreeing? That's a guy. OK. Sorry. I hear what this is saying.

That no woman can do it as well as me shows that it's all about the orgasm I'm a dire girl disagreeing. That's a guy. Okay. Sorry. I hear what this means. Saying that no woman can do it as well as me shows it. It's all about the orgasm and not about the pleasurable experience of sex. Think of a good back scratching. Yeah, I know where my back edges and I can get it right away with my bamboo scratchy stick. But if I talk to my friends at work with the acrylic, what I've talked with my friend at work with the acrylic nails and the talent for back scratching into helping me out, I get to experience a whole new level of knee weakening sensation.

Same with a missus. That's not a good, well done. No can scratch your own back better than another person can. They can get back there as good as you could on my back. Same with a missus, why am I letting it slow? Let me finish this.

Let me finish this. You get a relax. You get a relax. Same with a massage. Pleasure is always greater when you're great. I'm waiting to get myself a massage. You get relaxed. You get relaxed. You get relaxed. Same with the massage. Pleasure is always greater when you're not waiting to get myself a massage. This is dumb. Stop.

Did you prove for this? Yes. Same with the massage. Pleasure is always greater when your brain doesn't know what's coming. And we are talking about how to give a hot sensual massage today. Now I have had back scratches,

massages, and hand jobs. But I've also had mind-blowing experiences too. And it's always has to do with the state of mind and the chemistry with the other person and their talent and enthusiasm. I challenge menace to experience sex with that orgasm a few times and explore his mind a bit more. Matt. Matt, I've already taken up your challenge and it happened before. What? I don't have any sex with that orgasm. Right. But that was just a bummer. That's good. You drink too much. Yeah. Too much. That night. We have this hand job debate that goes on na na and whatever. Minus doesn't think that women can give us good hand jobs that a man

can give to himself. Yeah. And I say women can blow you out of the water. Blow your hand job out of the water. By just giving me a solo hand job. Yeah. A really good hand job. Lots of live. Two hands, whole thing. Yeah, maybe try their feet. Maybe like a little bit. Oh, totally, like a monkey, you know how monkey can put his feet like his hands. Maybe they can just try.

Oh, they could like, loob up their feet. Yeah, and then try to give them here. That would be something different. You couldn't do that to yourself. Oh, would we call the foot job? Be a foot job. Be a foot job. Yeah, be a foot job.

Yeah, let's do it. Let's do it. Maybe you need a foot job. Maybe it's good. It could feel good. Or could wash the feet. Wash the feet. Put, let's do it. Maybe you need a foot job. Maybe it could feel good. Feet or could wash the feet wash the feet on the feet. Yeah, I like it. Okay. Hi, Emily, every so often you mentioned that women needs some kind of warming up before wanting sex. Yeah, every day from my experience with women, you've got it exactly right, but it's still kind of mystifying to me. Imagine you were going to visit a boyfriend and on

your way, you stopped by his favorite bakery and picked up a slice of cake is a surprise. It's as if when you showed up he said to you, hey, I just can't switch gears like that in e-cake. So can you explain what the need for a warm-up is like for a woman? Is it mental, physical, both? Is there an experience you could relate to us men that you could understand? Your show keeps getting better and better. Keep it up, Peter from Seattle. That is a great question. I'd have to say for me, it's both mental and physical, but if a guy just comes home and starts grabbing me

and like whatever, like, and I'm dating someone, and he comes over and just starts grabbing me right away. Usually I'm not turned on yet unless he's been like sending me weiner texts or something before hand. No, just kidding. Don't text me beforehand. But I think that it's mental and physical and I need like the build up.

I need to feel like that connected to him. I need to feel like an intimate connection. Maybe I need to even talk first for a few minutes like before the day, like talk about the day, talk about whatever and then connect. And then physically when I talk about take warming up, it's like, don't go straight for my boobs and don't go straight for my clitoris. Just like, don't do that. Like kiss me.

Like kiss women, women love kissing, make out with me. Like kiss my ears, my neck, give me a central massage. Do something like that. Like that's what I mean by that. It's what it is everything. And I think it has to be, if I'm not in a good mental space with you, if I'm feeling like,

oh, we're going to have it connected in a few days and now you come home each one of us. Like, I could feel that way because I'm not turned on yet. I don't know if we've been doing four play throughout the day and having phone sex, like my intern had this morning before our date. If you do stuff like that that's leading up to it in the second time, then the first you see someone,

there might be more of a chemistry. But if we just like haven't seen each other in the first time you show up in my house and you're all ready to go, I might not be there yet. I might need mental and physical stimulation. It's no matter what fellas, you're not gonna get out of the work. You gotta do the work.

Yeah. There is no magic pill for turning on a woman. Not yet. You just gotta listen to the sexual family and we'll tell you everything that you ever wanna know about turning on a woman, especially tomorrow. There's magic paper, it's a hundred dollar bill, just throw them at them.

Super horny. What, women do date? Actually, a man a hundred dollar bill, just throw it, Madam. Super horny. What women do date? Actually, a man, I did this, I talked about this, I think like a man with a water cash is hot. Who just like whips out a lot of hundreds, you're like, I thought you were joking. But I don't get to that. I seen you say that on video before

and I thought you were being sarcastic. I was. I was. I was. No, you're not. I was, but I was like, because I said it was real. No, but it's not like like it didn't make my loins like heat up or anything. It didn't like make my loins explode.

I just thought it was sexy. It's like a man in a suit, but it doesn't turn me on. I just think it's cute. Yeah, and then before we go to next email, Allison is watching right now. She just tweeted me. Hi, Allison. Say hello.

What up, Allison. She frontiers. No, she just. Allison, you're on Twitter. Love it. Thank you. Thanks Allison Okay, so I hope I answered his question. Do you think I answered it? But I just think this is a very important question mental physical. Yeah, yeah It's both it's it is there an experience you could relate to that our Smenk and understand I did not give an experience So let me give an experience

an experience he wants, because I think that I lost it like to illustrate my point by rather than just saying do this or that. I'm trying to think of a time when I got really turned on with the guy like when he did something. I mean, I think a lot of times. It's not when he just pulls out his penis. No, it's not when he pulls out his penis and starts putting my hand on it to show me how hard it is. That's like a given.

You got to put it on our forehead You got to do the steamy wonder to the steamy wonder Oh, they're about to steamy wonder the steamy wonder they thought you said steamy wonder no steamy one, but I thought you said steamy wonder Yeah, steamy wonder if they probably the interns are so young they wouldn't even know who's they know who steamy wonder is Well, just to just break it down for you in turn, just in case you didn't know, Stevie Wonder is a blind guy. So they call this Stevie Wonder because a man will put his balls over the eyes of a woman and then they call it a Stevie Wonder.

But I think they were thinking steamy because it's hot like over your eyes, right? I don't even know what happened there. Okay. Did you screen these people before you made them your intern? Yes, I screened them hard. They're freaking awesome. Oh really? Yeah, but I'm trying to think of an experience like there was this guy that I was dating and we like we went out We had this great dinner and then we practice house. We took a bath together like you do He has some amazing bath and you do a bath and we had wine and like we didn't have sex right away

But we like took a bath together and then we were like really clean and then we had sex and it was like hot like Why are you laughing at me? Could you have never done that? No, this sounds corny. It does not corny, but I'm just trying to think if it was like an experience that's happened or like. Was there a lot of ooh? No, it was just like, oh my God, the bath feels awesome.

Like, let's have a glass of champagne and take a bath and like, talk and like, then have sex. And then you're clean. A lot of people have cleanliness issues and then you're clean, do whatever. It was like going on in the bath. Yeah, it was. It was like, oh my God, this feels so good. It was like a five minute bath. It cleanliness issues, then you're clean, do whatever. Who was that going on in the back? Yeah, it was. It was like, oh my god, this feels so good.

It was like a five minute bath. It wasn't like we took like an hour long bath. It was like a 10 minute bath, and then we had sex. I'll try to think of more experiences though. I think it's a great question. No, I do think that rather than just giving advice, I should give, I do give examples for my life a lot, but I think I have to think about an experience

that I can relate to, but I'll do that later. Another one. I'd like to champagne though. I'm big into champagne. Champagne is awesome. Champagne is sexy. I think champagne is the sexy strength. If you follow me on Twitter, I tweet out that I'm going on Champagne runs. I say beer was college now as champagne.

I like champagne because you know I don't like wine. Right. I drink champagne because it's manly. Yeah. How do we follow you on Twitter? White menace. Everything's white menace. White menace. Yeah. And I'm sex with them. I mean, menace. Wait, champagne. You like champagne, but you make fun of wine drinking. Like how is that even possible? The champagne tastes way better than wine. Wine is like bark off a tree. Have we ever drink? I bought you a nice bottle of champagne if

you're a birthday once. I didn't even know you like champagne. I think when I bought it for you. I'm so glad. You can buy me a bottle of spade champagne spade yeah, okay, look at it when you're birthday October. Yeah, but you can buy it for me now. I will I like that. Okay, cool. Yeah. Hey, Emily and menace, I love the show. I'm 19 years old and have never been to a nightclub before my 20th birthday is coming up and my friends and my friends want me to go this weekend. I just want to know how to ask girls. Okay, my friends are gonna go this weekend. I just want to know how to ask girls. Okay, my friends are gonna go this weekend. I just want to know how to ask girls at a night club if they want to dance. I don't want to make things awkward for myself and the girl. I'm asking any tips would greatly help me out. PS friends with benefits is awesome. Sexually

friends benefit is awesome. This is Darren from Toronto. Toronto. Toronto. Ontario. He's 19. Did you hear what I was saying? He's never been to a nightclub. His 20th. Toronto, Ontario. He's 19. Did you hear what I was saying? He's never been to a nightclub. His 20th birthday is coming up. He wants to go and he wants to know how to ask a girl to dance in a nightclub. Which I think is so sweet. Oh, don't go to a nightclub.

I mean, I'm not going to do this. No, he's going to do this. Don't judge. Don't judge the six. No, not judging. Give advice. Don't judge the six. I'm not judging.

I'm just saying, you know, do a couple things. Go to nightclub. But make sure, you know, that's not the whole thing you're doing all night. Right. Okay. Whatever he's going to nightclub, but he wants to have a girl dance. He's 19. He's never been. So he's turning 20s going to nightclub. And I would say just look for a group of girls, start talking to them, of guys, you just start talking and then you guys are having fun. You have to, even if you're not, look like you're having fun and you're confident and you're having a good time, you'll probably notice another group of girls. Your favorite song comes on and just be like, do you want to dance? And if she says no, move on to the next girl, go to the other side of the bar. So she doesn't see you moving your way around the bar. So that's one girl. That's another and eventually you'll get a yes.

And let me just prepare you, Darren, you might get a few notes and it doesn't mean that you're lame rejection men get over rejection They learn it as they get older men is gets rejected all the time and he's still standing. He's still standing and So I would just say ask just be like you know trying to you know smile make friends We're like let's go dance. This is my favorite song. Come on. We got a dance and just be confident about it Don't be like um mine as wondering do you think that maybe just be like, let's go dance, this song rocks, right? This song rocks, let's go dance. This song's awesome. Do you want to go dance? Oh, I, maybe I should say to a girl.

Maybe it will, it's weird. Don't be like, um, do you mind maybe if you think this is what I'm saying. But I was gonna say, it's, uh, in San Francisco on the club scene, like I've been to a lot of, I go to like the booty popping hip-hop type clubs in the city, I don't go to the classy

wine drink at ones like Emily. So it's more formal where you go. Here in the ones that I go to, you actually, you just kinda gesture, do you wanna dance? You don't ask them. When you ask them, they say no. What do you gesture? You're just sort of like, do you want to dance? You don't ask them. When you ask them, they say no. What do you do gesture? You're just sort of like, you kind of like...

Do you do that? Do you guys girls dance? No, I don't do that. I stay in the D.A. booth and drink all night. But that's how it's done here. I don't know how it is in Toronto. I don't think it's gestures. I've never experienced a guy gesturing me. I wouldn't even know what that gesture looked like.

I'd be like, do something in your eye, like... No, you just look at each other and you know, you put a hand like, do something in your eye, like. No, you just thought it looked like a shudder and you put your hand out, would you like. Oh, okay. You kinda, that's a good idea. That's another option. You can just, everybody's never done it before, so he's new.

I don't know if he's the other, you're gonna get the gestures set. Yeah, you don't tap a girl on his shoulder. Just be confident. Remember, Darren, get your most confident self when you feel the most, Darren, the most you. That you are the man. Just be the man and just be like, we're dancing, babe. I like when men do laugh at me. You got to stop using the link. Oh, though. What link go babe?

The song's awesome Hey, how it's all I know that's how you talk But as a man say, oh, this is a cool song. Don't call her babe. I didn't mean that Yeah, hey, let's dance this cool song. Hey, let's go dance. Yeah, and don't make it like it's a big deal Right, you just go. Oh, you want to go? Let's go dance. Hey, let's go dance. Yeah, and don't make it like it's a big deal. Right. You just go, oh, you want to go? Let's go dance. Hey, let's go dance.

Yeah. Yeah. Done. That's what you do. It's so easy. Don't think about it too much. Okay. We should, we could move on to sensual massage right now.

Sensual massage? Yeah. Are you going to be talking about like candles burning? Yes. I know it. I know it. Because I actually have a candle here to show. I'd even notice what that box was. And I just put it out.

I just put it out there. Oh my God. Well, okay. We are gonna talk about sensual massage. Because sensual massage is a great way to warm each other up for sex. And there's different, we have great amazing tips here of what you can do, what you can't do, some good loops, some good loops,

some good massage oil to use. And the reason why it's important to do a central massage every once in a while, and how you can connect with your partner that way. Have you ever had a central massage? No, because I wanna be like being the F up. Like I really need you to like stand on my back and just like crack my back and stuff like that.

But that's a different kind of massage. Yeah, I don't want the rub down stuff because that's annoying to me. You just have issues with the body. I don't have issues with my body. It's just I, I like be a beat up my body like skateboarding for like a year. Well, then you go get a massage at a professional place,

but essential massage is a different thing. And you're not working out your kinks from your from running. But that's what I, it starts. That's what starts happening. Okay, now I'm going to pretend I love it. So yeah. So, it's like when you get you get naked and you rub down with the body

and the oil. I wish you experienced some of this stuff because it's awesome. But and it's all good. And then they love you. But here's the thing like, don't you remember when you were younger? Maybe you did this when you were younger, but I remember the first time a guy, like I just always remember guys using

like do you want a massage as the way to get you to full around with them when you're younger? Oh yeah, I can do neck massages, hell of good. I'm just saying I don't want it. You do? Yeah. Oh, so you can get, you've given a woman a central massage. Yeah, I can give women massages.

Perfect. Okay, so do you do that often? I haven't done it in a long time, but it's really good. That's how you turn. Especially if she's not turned on yet, like the massage, I feel like that's like the oldest trick in the book, like the dude who's like, can I give you a massage like when you were

younger in high school. But I remember this guy asking me that, this guy that I was best friends with in high school and then one day he was like, can I give you a massage and I'm like, uh-oh, what's he gonna try? But did you feel something poking you in the back? No, but he did start to do the massage and then like touching my breasts,

like moving to the front, which was really kind of hot in a way. Cause like, it just was hot. Cause he was like barely touching my breasts. I never being turned on, but weirded out. Cause he was my best friend and he was massaging me. We were supposed to do math homework. Cause he was really smart too.

So we having with my math. Anyway, okay, let's talk about the central massage. The art of massage and particularly central massage is taken to backseat when it comes to sex, but we are going to put it in the front seat. Moscis is going to use for play as a way to wind down post sex or before sex.

As you massage your touch brings the blood, this is why it's good for you. This is why physiologically, massage is good for you. As you massage your touch brings the blood to the surface, you need the absorption of the oils into the skin and you also bring up the level of oxytocin, which is the cuddle hormone, which is the feel good hormone. The hormone needed in high levels for the

process of sexual rousal. So you need oxytocin to be spiked in order to be aroused and sensual massage will do that. Especially good thing for men to focus on. Women often need the kind of attention it gives them to feel comfortable with proceeding to more intimate activities. So this could be your golden ticket to bone if you give a really good massage first. To help you maximize, what? Sorry, I was very early on to saying how you get to the boning. To help you maximize her enjoyment of the evening's entertainment, you might want to

have massage oil or lotion that is safe for internal use of blindfold and a towel on hand. We're going to do some blinds. Just be completely naked right? Yeah, eventually. Eventually. What? What do you mean? Yeah, I mean, it's good to be naked, but you don't have to be naked for the massage the

whole time. You can slowly take off your clothes. You could slowly take off your clothes. And then I just want to put so Adam and Eve has this amazing central massage lotion that can also, it doubles as both massage oil and lube. Too far. It's an Adam and Eve. It's called central massage.

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You're going to rub it together and make it warm because it can be cold. Start out with a light touch. Your objective is to arouse your partner not to bruise them. So this is about arousal. Here are some fun tips to make your massage session even hotter. Okay, these are solved by the senses. The combination of scent and touch is extremely effective in opening up intimacy

between two people. Massage typically aims to engage as many of the senses as possible, which explains the standard issue, scented oil flickering candlelight and soft music, because all of your senses are being engaged. Sight, town, sound, touch, smell, air. Okay, anytime you restrict one sense, the other four become intensely magnified to compensate.

Do you know this? Like if you get blindfolded, then like you're then like you can really, because you can't don't have sight, then you can really feel more, like it'll feel more intense when he's touching you if you can't see anything because you take away a sense, so your other sense has become more heightened. You know this? You're just going, yeah, what? I'm listening. And eliminate sight by wearing a blindfold. When you can't see, you don't know what will happen next, and that heightens Excitement and madness is worried that she's stealing his keys. No, that's when she handcuffs me to the bed

But you're down with blindfolds I don't know Would you ever blindfold a woman? Yes, okay of course really? Yeah, that's much safer Yes, okay of course really yeah, that's much safer She's blindfolded you can also blackout sound by mixing the music and instituting a no talking role Taking a vow of silence and communicating silly through touch lets you focus completely and how you feel So that's how it senses. I'll play when's the part when I rub her down with my weener. Can I give her like a massage with my weener? We're gonna get into that okay Give a full body massage give a full body central massage give a central massage with my leaner. We're gonna get into that. Okay, good. Give a full body massage.

Give a full body central massage. Give a central massage with your body. You're so good. You just do it. Right there. Your hands aren't only, your hands aren't your only tools. Make good use of your oiled arms, chest, and stomach.

It does not say penis. Feel free to put your mouth and tongue into the central massage mix instead. Kissing, licking, and warm breath and flesh are usually welcomed with an erotic response. Use your hands and different capacities. Guys, use one end to crest your partner's body and the other to explore her on the inside.

This would be an ideal time to incorporate the blindfold. Blindfold, as removing one of our senses will increase the stimulation that she feels. So if she's blindfolded and then you'd like touch her and then you stick your fingers inside over, it could feel really good. What? That's a nothing to say.

I'm just saying that that obviously it's gonna feel really good. Yeah, but if it's such if you're blindfolded because then your senses are more heightened. You're gonna say hands off. Okay, this is when your hands are off. Other party parts can add a surprising... I mean, just really getting into this.

I'm taking it all. You kind of are. I feel like you're really into it or you just like, check that out. I'm no, I'm not checked out. I'm just taking getting into this. I'm taking it all in. You kinda are. I feel like you're really into it. Are you just like, checked out? I'm no, I'm not checked out. I'm just taking it all in. Other body parts can add a surprising twist to the experience and can elicit totally new responses.

Four arms, provide wider strokes, elbows, become needing tools and breasts and hair, double as soft and sensual brushes. Have you ever had a woman like Robert Breast over you or her hair? It's super hot. I was actually, it took me back to when, uh, what the hair stuff. It was really weird, but when I was in grade school,

when you used to have to sit behind each other, um, for like assemblies or something like that. Like the girls, they would, like, go, like, behind you, and then they would just, like, brush your hair. Right. It felt like really, really good. Yeah just like brush your hair right in a felt like really really good yeah like a head massage is the best it was like crazy but they never like touch the scalp they just like like touch the hair they touched your hair they touch my hair yeah wow they were just playing it

with it with you I guess but they were just like they would just like touch it in a certain way and I wasn't like getting horny, but it was just like. It felt amazing. It feels like. And they weren't touching your scalp. That's interesting, because the head massage is so amazing. But it was only in this area, this one city that I lived in, that kids would do this. Oh, that's nice.

It would just like, I guess it just caught on. But it felt like really, really good. Oh my god, we have to recreate that for you. I need to find a way to find a way to do that. The chicks that I went to grade school with and say, hey, I think a woman can get that today. So it's very great when you were touching my hair like that. That was amazing.

We went third grade. When this happened, you remember that? Was it like your first kind of sexual female? No, but it wasn't. I know it wasn't sexual, but it is sort of a woman touching your hair and it feels really good. And you're in third grade. You're not like getting a boner, but you are connected to a woman in an intimate level.

You both remember I knew about sex when I was like six years old too, so like I knew about like naked. And that's the level you're at still. Six years old? No. Sit between her legs, apply lotion to the soles of your feet and slide them up and down the backs of her thighs after you take a bath together and your feet are clean. Guys dig your elbows into her butt in small circles. That feels so good. I love that. The butt

massage and then use your muscular forms to press on either side of her spine, avoid direct pressure to the spine. So you can like, need with your elbows and a butt. It feels amazing. Women can slather their breasts. I like that word slather. Slather her breasts. That's a good line there. With body lotion and slide them up and down his back, then turn him over and straddle him, dusting your hair across his chest to elicit shivers. It's like dressing. What do you mean? I remind we're not going to get back into that. Dressing. What do you mean? Sathering. Sathering. Sathering. Sathering. Yeah. Okay. Mixed hot and cold. All alternating between warm and cool sensations can boost arousal as well. The

abrupt switch from one extreme to the other causes blood vessels in that area to expand and contract. The increases blood flow makes the skin more receptive to touch. You just steamy wet towel to avoiding the groin and trace circles with an ice cube over the legs, inner thighs and hips. Ice cubes are so cool to use. Have your part partner flip over and rub their back with warm oil, then quickly blast them with a mini fan from head to toe for goo with goose bumps. Hot and cold.

So all true, it works. Women can smear the warm oil onto their partners, tailbone pressing firmly to the palm of their hand. Finally, blow cool air where you just press to create chills. So you just are like blowing or use ice cubes and then you use heat. And then this is one of my favorite toys that I brought.

If you're watching, it's the Aftergo candle by Jimmy Jane. And it's this flavor scent is cucumber and it's amazing because it's a massage candle that you light and then you take the pool of wax and you can pour it on your partner's body. They have massage candles at Adam and Eve.com as well. And they're amazing because you have the candle already going and then the wax turns into massage oil. It's kind of hot. You poured over your partner's body.

Then what, you just chip it off afterwards? No, it just comes out. No, massage is not, it doesn't, it doesn't, it's different kind of wax. Okay. It's massage oil. So the second it pours on your body, it becomes massage lotion. And the heat feels really good. Like from the handle, it's not too hot because it's a special candle. Love it. Okay, hit all the arogenous zones. We all know parts of it.

The vagina. No, no, no. No, the other arogenous zones. We all know the parts of the woman's body that get the boobs. Hey, anal sex Friday was last week. We all know the parts of the woman's body that get the boobs. Hey, anal sex Friday was last week. We all know the parts of the body that get the most tension, but spend some time on her ready. You know, it's love's doing this.

Her wrists, fingers, ears, back of her neck and the inside of her elbows and knees. I've said this a million times about a Roger Neson's like touch her neck, touch her neck. Guys, I'm telling you, I'm never with a guy who's like, can I touch your neck? Why not? They listen to the show to see if I'm talking about them, but they where the guy who's like, can I touch your neck? Why not? They listen to the show to see if I'm talking about them, but they're not listening to the sex tips.

Touch my touch. I'm gonna say it again, elbows, knees, fingers, knees, back and neck is hot. Like that will get her turn on, and then you can touch her with a giant inner boobs. They just wanna know about their wiener size. That's all the guys are listening for. What do you mean?

They just wanna know if they're good and bad. They're not listening to what you want. I know. That's the problem. Yeah, I don't listen, but you see, you know, at least these guys, they sleep with you, so they should listen. I think they skipped through this part

and they're like, did you talk about me? I prefer they didn't listen. Some other sensitive areas, we've got just a few minutes left, starting at the bottom, at the buttocks. So sensitive. Starting at the bottom, press your thumb, thumb's firmly into bottom, at the buttocks. Yeah. So sensitive. Starting at the bottom press your thumb, thumb's firmly into the flesh of the buttocks and follow the curve up around and down the side of the hips.

Return to the first position and move your thumb slightly apart to make a second curve line that is parallel to the outside first. Just play with the butt. Thighs. Once you get your lever thighs, you may find yourself distracted and side-to-shift your focus to other kinds of touching. Or you might want to try out some massage strokes of your own design.

You can ask your partner to turn over and continue the massage with a few more strokes to the front of the body. Neck and ears, you can breathe in the ears, you can lick them, you can touch them, they're awesome. Women's breasts, remember that women's breasts are highly charged with erratic energy and create a dramatic arousal response when more the massage or crest. So don't just grab the boobs on the way down, you're like massage them and touch them and it feels awesome. Give her a central bath. If the oil has become too much for you can give your partner a bath.

Fill it up with warm water and bubbles, blindfold your partner and put them in the bath. Can I call their dirty bitch before I put her in the bath? Totally. If she's into that kind of thing, you can do whatever the hell you want. Oh, dirty bitch, because you're getting the bath. You dirty whore. You dirty whore bitch. thing you can do whatever the all you want. Oh, dirty bitch. Because you're getting the bath. Dirty whore. Dirty whore, bitch. If you want to increase the on bands, you

can light some candles and burn some incense. So romantic. I know. Isn't awesome. Okay, tomorrow. I think I became flaccid when you said that. Which part of the candle part? Yeah, the candle. That's fine. And burn the incense part. That's a part that you're went down. Okay, tomorrow's show. I'm so excited for tomorrow's show, even though you're not gonna be here,

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