Sex With Emily - Sex And Bacon

Episode Date: May 17, 2014

This week Emily sits down with Caleb Bacon, Host of the Man School Podcast and an LA-based writer, to talk relationship tips, Kegels for men and how getting comfortable in his own skin led him to proposing to his love just last week!Emily also answers emails from you including how to give a better BJ even with that pesty cotton mouth, how guys can go after the woman they want, even if she seems out of his league. How complimenting and appreciating your partner is one of the main tips to a successful relationship. Plus, what to do if your boyfriend comes home from a “Work trip” and his penis smells like cheese (We can’t make this stuff up.)Also, wonder what sex toy Emily wishes she could give to everybody? Emily answers these questions and more on this weeks podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I appreciate it. Feedback at sexwithemily.com. And tonight we will be answering some of your emails. And the topics include a guy who thinks, you know, all his girlfriends are introducing him to his the less attractive friends of the nightclub. He wants to know why. Another guy wants to know why he can't ejaculate. This happens a lot. Okay, we're going to explain to why men, you miss and has been comfort, you quickly, why can't they come at all and also a woman has a size issue and it's not the size issue thing things are a little big down there and she doesn't know how to handle it and also we are talking about kaggle exercises and how much they help you my guest is Kayla bacon he is the host of the man school podcast hi right hey thanks so much for having me I'm so glad you're here. Good to see you on this very very hot day

I know it's like 95 degrees and crazy, right? And it's down. It was like a hundred before. What is it? I'm in the office all day and I don't get to experience it everyone's like oh my god It's so hot and like my sister. Yeah, I know whether talk super boring But it was super great. I know no, it's like it was hot. Well, that's why I was glad It was my air conditioning office all day Anderson. How are you doing? You would have an office Emily. You're in the sex office. I was in the sex office all day. Do you fan yourself with Dildos? No, but that's a great idea. I'll do that if it comes down to it. You have any of those worldly ones that's been around like a fan maybe? No, but that's not a bad idea. I don't have that no. We fan ourselves with

Condoms that we blow up like balloons and that's Good to see you. You look lovely as always. Thank you. It's great to see you too. It's actually been, it's been a really good week. I have to say tonight right now, actually, or in 25 minutes and after you all hear this, it'll be late. But I'm on an eat special tonight on the eat channel. I thought you said eat special. Like are we going to hear about some new diet you're on? Eat, no, I don't diet. I don't diet. Eat channel, it's called like inside Hollywood. Oh my god, I got to tell you why am I here? I'm I'm missing your special. I know you didn't tape it. I put it on Facebook. It's going to be repeating because it's on e. You don't read my

Facebook every day. I didn't know like my agent's calling it that they're airing it. I recorded it a while ago and it's called inside because they will be repeating it. But each channel that's all they do is they just continue to re-gurge, taking cannibalize their own stuff over, and over a great channel. I know, but that's good for me because my mom already watched it in Michigan,

and she said that she goes, you looked very good and you sounded very smart. It's not Hollywood inside Emily, because that'd be a different show. That would be a very long show, and it's called Secret Societies of Hollywood Deals and Dealers. And so I think they'll be repeating on you if you want to see it.

And I'm on the sex part. They interviewed me about, I know. But they interviewed me about like inside stories of like sex and Hollywood and their people really hiring hookers and porn stars and do that really happen. And how does it happen? First of all, no. They are. No, no, no.

Okay. Celebrities are, oh you're kidding. Oh, everybody does. Everybody does, yeah. Right, not you do, you don't. No, no, I do. But you mean like celebrities. And it was surprising though, because a lot of the questions they asked me actually, you know,

they are like a lot of times models, they go through their modeling agents, like real models, they'll see like not real, but like not just porn stars. But models will also sometimes, you know, have someone like an Abu Dhabi fam, like, you know, $100,000 for the weekend and fly them there and have sex and so. Does that actually happen or does that mean? It really does, no it really does because I thought it did but I had to do a lot of research before because I knew what they wanted to talk about and so I talked to like escorts and I found out I did a lot of work for this.

Is there a record number like is there a couple dozen that do this a year and then they come back and live amongst us? Or the models? So the women that actually go over yeah, I would do it figure deals I would have to sleep sleep with them now. No, I probably wouldn't do well six figures. I mean Jesus It's so hard. It's so hard. It's so hard. I thought I wouldn't do any of that much. They're flying you over there You're going to do it. It's $100,000 and apparently they don't really fly one woman over They fly over like a lot like 10 so you're not like you're on call the whole time So you can like go shopping they give you a per diem, which is probably like $10,000 a day

It's really done. It's really like a plane and just fly out one you got to pack that plane You got to pack the plane and so they fly them out and they've got a whole thing So that's what it's about. It's about like I would fly them each in their own plane That's because I'm a gentleman right you with that sweet. You give sweet. Yeah, you give them each their own private jet. Old school. You are old school. You're a good man, right? That's what your show's about. Telling guys how to be a good man.

A little bit. Yeah, well, that's like at the center of it. I want to have awesome interviews with men who've had some really cool, interesting, difficult life experiences and kind of by sharing those stories pass on things that are usable to other guys or at least just entertaining. Okay. So, who is your last guest in your show? I kind of want to say this in front of Anderson, but Brian Bishop.

Who in the world is that? Why not for the Anderson? There are. There are bitter rivals who host a film vault together. Oh, oh, oh, oh. New York Best Times seller of Brian Bishop. I know, right? Don't I meet him every week? Yes, yeah, you do he's the bald one I never know anyone's name He's the bald guy who they call Brian who's also called bald Brian got it

Okay, he's on your I've met him. Okay cool. So what you guys talk about would you learn from him? Well, he's a guy who just celebrated five years of census cancer diagnosis. Okay. And he's doing fantastic. And not all my shows are like as heavy as cancer. Right. And things like that. Cancer's pretty heavy, right? Yeah, cancer's pretty heavy, but at least if I'm going to do a topic like that on my show,

I want it to be with someone who's kind of light and fun. So it's not just like... They can laugh about their cancer. Yeah, and talk about in a way that's not just like an hour of things that are just morose. Right. That's that's not what I want to do with my show. And so so Brian there's there's a lot you can learn from that guy because I think he I think he started off in a better place than a lot of people like born optimistic. That's really hard. Oh God really he's one of those like he's truly happy. Yeah I think that's right. Anderson is that's what and i think that really happy though no i know that he does wonder around uh... optimistic with thumbs in the air and

uh... a lot of people by it and i i do most and i think that i'm trying to book himself on your show through me and i have to do it because it's a fun section of the city around talking about brine's cancer for a well can we talk about how it affected sex life is you married yet yeah okay talking about Brian's cancer for a while. Well, can we talk about how it affected his sex life? Is he married? Yeah, yeah. Okay.

The poor thing. And that that we only talk about sex, but we mostly talk about sex. Have you done a show about boners and chemo? Um, knowing that, yeah, boners and chemo, that would get a lot of downloads. No, I'm kidding. I mean, totally it is interesting. And boners and anything, like people have the hard time getting boners across the board, but boners and chemo, I'm sure, is a whole another, uh other ball of wax. Yeah, he and I did talk about sex a little bit on

and Kibo. You got boners chemo radiation. And sure, yeah, he's okay now and he had cancer recently now that we're going on the cancer road. Well, it's been five years. Okay. He's doing fantastic. Okay, good. These days. Got it. Okay, so what have you learned about sex and dating from doing your podcast? Oh jeez, well my adventures in podcasting did not start out with my current show. Man school, I used to do a show before and I would occasionally have porn stars on. Oh, and that's like. You do, so you know about how often they're late. Oh, and they don't just show up.

Or show up at all. Or they may be, you know, after because you didn't get them enough, you didn't get them a drink or something after, I don't know what, yeah, I've had that happen. Yeah, and they don't show up. Show up. After because you didn't get them enough. You didn't get them a drink or something after. I don't know. Yeah. I've had that happen. Yeah. Yeah. And so I was at a place where I'm like, Oh, I can have porn stars over to my apartment to like talk about sex. This seems like a fun, weird thing that like teenage me back in upstate New York, which is I was a great thing ever. And so I did that. And that kind of got, it wasn't just porn stars, but that kind of got boring right and I'm not actually going to bang like we just part of you secretly hoping like maybe it'll

turn into sex something basically just by having my neighbors see me in the elevator with porn stars oh that's okay yeah that was enough that's how guys are really like they just they really want to be seen with with hot woman on the arm or hot women near them. Like I have a lot of guys. They're like an accessory. It is like an accessory. And girl, I don't, I've never felt that way. I don't take, I don't take you guys at all.

Um, well, maybe they would take away. I'm sure all the guys, uh, past and present who listen to this, your program really appreciate you saying that. No, I do. But they're not like hot. Like you'd be like, oh, no, except for that one that I dumped out of the birthday of a stake in San Francisco. That was bad one. He certainly doesn't listen.

We were talking about this today because Lauren, my assistant, was my intern at the time. It was a mistake. Well, he was so cute. I mean, I seriously think the cutest I ever, and I, but I, I decided to move to Los Angeles. I've been like thinking about it for 10 years, but, but really for the last six months in San Francisco, I was like, I was flying down every week. I got to be in LA, I got to do it. And I was just feeling it's a nurse, like you know when you want to start a new project

or do something, you're like, okay, like enough talk, do something. So I just like sitting on my computer, I went to Facebook and I just posted, hey, anyone want to swap my San Francisco for your LA. And within two minutes, he texted me, like, so you're moving to Los Angeles. And then I said, I was just thinking about it. I was just putting it down. And then we did date for another month. And then I happened to break up with him on his birthday.

Because I moved. Oh, I got a message four minutes later on Facebook from a woman in LA who I barely knew. I met a party 10 years ago. Facebook friends, that's how Facebook is. And she's like, I've got a place. I got to be in LA, at San Francisco in 10 days, so I'm moving to her place,

and I left in 10 days, so I'm just going to go. That's a very romantic story. And thank you. But then we stayed together for a month, and then when I broke up with them, it was actually his birthday. But that wasn't on purpose, it wasn't like, oh, it was like happy birthday to you, you are dumped.

You're like, I'm sorry, I meant to wait till Valentine's Day, but it was too far away. I've done that too, and that's always by mistake. I think it just brings up a lot of emotions, those holidays, and then you just write up with people sometimes. As long as it wasn't on the Super Bowl, that's okay. Yeah, he wasn't a philove, but right, right, right, right.

No, people kill people on the Super Bowl. That's a good dangerous day for people. That's true. Like abuse and stuff, really. Like if you heard those stats, dark, not to go down that road. Not a good time. Okay, so-

Answer a spousal abuse here on the sexual death. How really? Like, really, let's get, yeah. So we're talking about my other podcast I used to do. Okay, so a spousal of views here on the sexual balance. How really? Like, really, let's get... Well, so we're talking about my other podcast I used to do. Oh, yeah. One chart. And I used to be drunk, used to do a lot of drugs, used to just kind of act like a jerk. A lot, not all the time, but enough of the time to where as it's finally seemed like

a good idea to clean up my act. And so at some point in the past couple of years, I kind of got sick of just doing like a fun comedy podcast. And I wanted to do something that had some actual meaning and that people would find entertaining but also kind of helpful. And so I came up with the idea for for man school just talking to another guy one on one and sharing those experiences and like you know setting where my guests can be honest and just basically get real and not talk about stuff and a kind of like a posturing macho way. And so because those conversations have been super helpful to me in every area of my

life and especially relationships. So from man's school I haven't, and necessarily learn sex tips or anything, but. How about relationships? What do you think, yeah, what have you learned about by talking to them about having successful relationships or anything? I'll give you a perfect example. So I got engaged last week.

I know, congratulations. Thank you very much. I'm very happy for you. I was waiting for the sound effect, because I don't know what Anderson thinks about the institution of marriage. Oh, he's married. He's full on married.

No. Anderson is so married and a happily married that he won't even talk to me about his sex life at all. Like, mums the word, which is annoying. Out of respect, where do you think? I'm going to break you one day. So that's a good relationship if he's not willing to say it. I know, but it's annoying when he sits there

and he doesn't talk with him. If I was on show with you like 10 years ago, oh, we would have had a show. Dude, that would have been better. No when he sits there. If I was on show with you like 10 years ago, oh, we would have had a show Dude that would have been better. No, he doesn't interview like Anderson from 1997 Crossed with the wife I've asked her and she just gave me a look so I think that's off the table as well Nope past Anderson crazy party guy. I got a friend named Andy who I can talk about freely. Oh good, is it like Andy? Yeah, Andy. Oh, Andy, where do you end it?

Oh my god. OK. OK, so you were going to say that in recent show. I did a podcast with this actor singer, Drew Seely, and the topic was on proposing. And so it was his story about how he got to the place with his girlfriend where he wanted to propose. All the steps he went through all the different considerations of what he wanted to do, didn't want to do.

And it wasn't so much a how-to guide, but it was what he had done from that experience. And I literally listened to that episode last week as I was preparing for my own engagement to get psyched up a little bit. How did, yeah, and how did you do yours? How did it psych you up? Did you get any ideas from him or you already know what you're going to do? He hit on a lot of topics like definitely make sure to make it about her. Right. And I think as guys like we know that, but we may not necessarily get that. As you could see from like the guys who do the flash mob

videos, like it's kind of not so much about the woman as it is, like both of them are the guy. And I know that my lovely fiance, whose name is also Emily. Right. So sexual Emily has many good meanings. Yes. But the, so she wanted something more intimate. And so I'm a good.

Well, how do you know she wanted something more intimate? Because she knew you were going to propose. Well, we've talked about it a bunch. OK. And like she didn't know when it was happening, but we've talked about like that we want to get. Yeah. OK.

Yeah. We've talked about that we wanted to get married and have a family and that sort of thing. Right. So she knew it was going to happen at some point. At some point, yeah. But didn't know specifically. So then I had a chance to like take some of his information, some info from like other guys who I talked to and

stuff I run along. Right. And I want to come up with something special, but that was special. Like that would show that I put a lot effort into it, but it was special, like that would show that I put a lot of effort into it, but it was for her and it was all about her. And I have a lot of people currently thinking that I spent $2 million to run out the Hollywood Bowl, because I proposed to run an empty Hollywood Bowl. You just stuck in? No, it's actually open. No, it's technically a county park, so it's open, sunrise to sunset on days when there's

no shows. And there was no one there. There was one guy running the stairs, which by the way, it's open sunrise to sunset on days where there's no shows and there was no In there there was one guy running the stairs which by the way, it's a steep you tell him to leave it's a steep place We like hey buddy. Here's some water go leave there. I paid two million dollars, right? No, I worked out great because he saw us We like I didn't try to get on one day right next to the sweaty guy right in the 18,000 person Maybe that was empty, but he saw us and he said congratulations and he asked if we wanted any pictures taken. So that worked out for her. That's great.

And she said yes, obviously. Yeah. Right. That's great. Congratulations. It does have to be all about the word. And that reminds me of something that I was actually going to start talking about the show if I had taken a few deep breaths before I got here.

But I know it's just been a crazy friggin life. Yeah, I'm glad you said life. Because I know that you, because I knew already. Every week she comes in here says, it was the craziest week. It's been the craziest day, every single week. Oh my God, but here's the thing, but let me tell you the difference.

I'm actually making time now for my life and my friends. And I'm, you know, since I moved here, it's been great. I mean, LA has been a great for business and for work, and I work a lot. And I'm starting to like, you know, see my friends again, which I have in a while. So last night, I dinner with two girlfriends,

two of my closest friends here. And we went out for Margarita. I felt like a sex and city movie. We have like Margarita's at this Mexican restaurant and talking about sex and relationships, which is so cliche. But that's what we were doing. And they're both in like serious relationships right now.

One's been with her guy for three years, he proposed to her, but he doesn't really want to get married. And the other one just met the guy after eight months, they moved in together, right? That's the story with them. But they're both like in these relationships, and then they started talking about how the men that they're with, because they're both really beautiful.

And I wanted to, my caveat here is that most guys, when a girl says that a woman's beautiful They're like yeah, whatever right is that true? You're like on the inside Right, right. You're like she's not hot like you know what I mean? You think sure she is Emily you just love her as a friend But they like like like like objectively empirically these women are are beautiful smart interesting women and They were saying that the guys with the way like never because one of them was a complaining like I got to get in my face I got a facial I got to lose weight,

and like, you're so beat, doesn't, don't your boyfriend tell you how beautiful and they're like, never, no. And like, he never tells you that you're beautiful and makes you feel special and proud of it. And I've said this on the show a lot, and probably as recently as last week, but that it's so important for women, and not because we need our ego stroked and not because, you know, otherwise, we'll, you know, but it just we want to feel cherished and adored and that it is about us. And I just like guys want to feel appreciated.

Women really want to feel like we want to feel beautiful. We want to feel that you recognize us and that we just are supported in. So I, so my one friend was saying like, yeah, like he used to tell me all the time. And she said the other night we're lying about naked and falling asleep and not having sex. And the news is on. And they're half asleep. And all of a sudden, where if it goes, jump, jump, oh shit. Who's that? And she looks up and there's like a new hot weather girl on. He must have been watching Fox, right? Something. Is that what it is? I don't know. But she's like, I'm a hot girl next to you. And you're noticing. And I'm like, he never tells you that. And then my other friend said the same thing and that he doesn't make it about them enough. And so I was just going to say it.

And also my mother, the other thing is she divorced my dad many years ago. But what she always said to me, I was a little girl, she's like, you know, he never made me feel special. He never told me I was beautiful the whole time we were together. And I don't want to say that I'm not underplaying this to guys because I used to joke on my show like compilant or 20 times a day and like menace who's like my co sometimes like that's ridiculous you can't they're going to know that they love me. And that's a little too much 20 but really like even if it's just a few and you're like you look great babe and just to recognize the person that you've been with because you might think I've told her she knows I think her ha I'm busy

but we put time into things and we make ourselves, you know, we want to be appreciated for that and for other things. It doesn't have to just be like that, we're beautiful, but it can be like, you know, just do special things, like bring home flowers on a random day, or you know, just make her feel cherished and special, you know, that she's indispensable to you. And you can also like emphasize things you like.

Like your hair looks really good to you, like little things that's in your hat. As a guy, why would you not say this to like little things that's your hot as a guy. Why would you not say this to your fee? You got a fiance now. So why would what would make you not say your hot on a regular basis to your fiance? Well, I do tell her that to see he's one of those guys. Yeah.

Okay. So let's say it wasn't your fiance with somebody else. Maybe you've been in a relationship when you haven't said that on a regular basis. I think I think with a lot of us guys, when we start dating someone, we don't necessarily want to show all of our cards. Play a little bit, Coy, don't want to fully open up and be vulnerable. Right, because then she's going to think, oh, I've got them or something. Or that she won't like me for coming on too strong.

Right. There's a friend of mine who went out with a guy on one date, like two weeks ago. He's been texting her every morning like, hey, hope you have a good day and like they didn't even kiss. Right. And I think as guys, like we're afraid we're going to come off like that as, oh, I'm just going to be lame. Right. Right. Right. That's the opposite. Like I don't want to think, but that is kind of every day would be annoying too. There's a balance. Oh, you say that was a good thing. No, it's totally inappropriate. It's weird. Right. It is weird. And I think so we want to look cool and we don't want

to get kicked to the curb. We want to kind of preserve our ego a little bit. But if you're in an established relationship with someone and you've been together a while, it doesn't, women, is it, the hurt desire to feel desired and cherished and, and appreciated and beautiful? Doesn't wane. No, because you've been together so long and you see every time. It is. I'm just addressing it because the fact that it came up last night with both of them and I always say in here it just shows that I'm right. Do you understand? Did you tell your wife? Yeah, I tell my wife, I mean probably, you know, about two, three times an hour, honestly. But it's, it comes from a real place. I've got a look at her and I'll see her dimples or something. I'm like, oh my god, you're so cute.

Oh, that's cute. But it's because it's, you know, it's real. It's from the heart. I'm not sure. 20 years from now, chances are I will never be saying that to her. Ever. Still, that's. I'm hoping it's like the puppy syndrome. Where you like, you know, you get a puppy and then even when the puppy's older, you still

see the puppy. I'll always be that way. I know it will be that way. Because no, let me tell you is that, like my mom's been with my stepdad now for 30 years. And she we were talking about this. I was with the Sierra in Florida a few weeks ago and she was saying, you know, it's been with my stepdad now for 30 years. And we were talking about this. I went to Sierra in Florida a few weeks ago and she was saying, you know, it's funny because we were talking about the same issue.

She brought up again that your dad never did that. I'm like, I know you told me that. She said, but Ed, my stepdad, she said, he'll just, she goes, you know, feel so good because I'll just come out dressed for work and I'll be like, you look adorable today. I love that skirt. You know, and it's just, and he means it because he means it. He's not just saying, like, he's like, look how cute your mom is. Like, it's not, you're not faking it ever 30, but he really feels it. And it just, I think if you feel it or you're

thinking it, you should say it. I think so too. I think something like worth noting is that Anderson and I are in unique situations in that we're with women. And I'll speak on your behalf here, Anderson, that we want to be with forever. So it's because we appreciate already so many things about us women. So it's easier to say that. It was natural. Because my friends are with guys.

One of them is engaged. One moved in together. It should be similar. What I'm saying is I think so too. I think they should both dump these losers. Another reason why I think guys might not say it is that they're insecure and they're afraid of letting this woman know how hot they are. I think that they're narcissists, these guys that they're doing both of them. I believe me and I think it's also these women who

that's along. I don't want to get into their whole history, but I think that they typically have dated men who don't treat them as well. I guess I just want women and all my friends to be in healthy, good relationship with men who do worship that. You are so sexy in the city right now. Well, it's true. Why are you talking with a guy that makes you feel bad and that you're constantly trying to, you know, like the woman who gets into a relationship, they're kind of fixers, like they, they, they fix their uppers, like he'll change one day.

He won't want to go out drunk and go see, you know, go to strip clubs with his guy friends. You know, Anderson, he's like 40. I go by myself, but really, like he's really, you really think you're going to change him because people don't change unless they want to change. You can't make someone change. You can't say like I need you, you know, so obviously he's showing you after two years

he's not changing whatever, it's a long story with them, but women and men. You should have brought, you should bring them in. So they can go there and say yeah. You should do that. Well good luck to them and good luck to them. Is there a hot winner girl? I just, well yeah, the hot one,

but that would be annoying to me. It's just like you didn't tell me I'm hot awake. Okay, I just needed to say that. Okay, a hot weather girl? I just, well, yeah, the hot one. But that would be annoying to me. It's just like, you didn't have to tell me I'm a hot one week. OK, I just needed to say that. OK, I needed to get this off my chest. OK, so what made you decide to propose? When did you know that was at the moment that you were going to do it? I think I knew a couple months into our relationship

that I wanted to do. You did? Yeah. And how long have you been together? We've known each other for a little over two years, dating for most of that time but not all of it and Yeah, it was it was a couple months, but then Then we moved in together and I'm kind of old-fashioned even though like I'm a sitcom writer I got a podcast, you know my hips-winging guy

Yeah, you're hip yeah totally working the MP3 arts much much as yourself, right? But yeah, like you know things things are a little bit different in Los Angeles than if I was back in all but in New York or you were back in Michigan and so I wanted to move in together. I'm a guy who wants to get married before I have kids and you know hopefully those things line up right. Accordantly but that's that's the plan at least so we moved in together that was really really good and then accordingly, but that's the plan. So we moved in together. That was really, really good.

And then I got to a point where it's like, OK, now I got some money in coming in so I can afford a ring. But nothing too crazy. And then she just finished grad school. And so I wanted to throw a surprise engagement party on the day of the engagement, because I knew she was going to say yes. So she knew we were going to do this graduation party. That was a lot bigger than she expected. Right. And so it took me like

four or five months of planning. Wow, you're like such a good guy. Yeah, thank you. It worked out though. I was so nervous that somebody's going to, somebody's going to blow it. Yeah. Some kind of way. God you can tell me I might have like texted about a steak like see you tonight, I'm and then I would have messed up the whole thing. So'm gonna do that well congratulations again. That's very exciting when you get married, you know You'll have to talk to Emily. Okay. She's in charge. She's in charge of that part I think so we've been engaged for about five days. Oh I already have her dress and shoes right of course. She's one of those I'd get it like the night before and be like calling my assistant like can we find a tailor that's open 24 hours?

I just find it yesterday and you guys can go back to the Hollywood Bowl for your anniversary every year. Yeah, yeah. That's great because it'll be there. I got and if you haven't proposed yet, fellas out there. Don't do it. I like my proposal, but I did it in an apartment that I no longer live at or have access to. Oh, this is a good point. That sucks. I would love it to have done it in a public place so we could go visit. Is it in Los Angeles? Yeah, but they remodeled it and now it's in a good point. That sucks. I would love it to have done it in a public place so we could go visit. Is it in Los Angeles? Yeah, but they remodeled it and now it's in an arched stone and it sucks. Can you drive by and at least feel some of that good feeling?

You can do that. You can make a little picnic outside and they're lost. They're so nice. Yeah, I crash it, climb over the fence, bringing some snacks. It occurred to me almost immediately after. I'm like like, oh, this is such a great moment. I actually cried and everything. It was awful. It was terrible. I was very embarrassed.

But afterwards, I'm like, that was such a big moment. I, we can't, once we move out of here, we can never come back to this exact spot, which I think next to Winter and Ever, I think I should do this and go back to there, the vicinity. I think this is a great idea for next year. And then I'll give you some vibrators as a present. As you're anniversary present, I just love giving out vibrators.

One of the things that I consider about the location for the proposal was that it had to be someplace special, but for my relationship with my fiance, there's a lot of places where if all of a sudden we're driving up for no real reason other than some BS story I've made up, I thought she would have sniffed it out. Right. And I really didn't want that to happen. I wanted to be a total surprise, blower away, and the Hollywood Bowl, we don't have any history there.

I've always loved the place, but it's just badass. Right, it's amazing. So my folks are in town for this graduation party, slash surprise, and getting the party. And I said my mom wanted to take a tour of the Hollywood Bowl. So we got there and she didn't see a comment. So it was perfect. But I definitely realized, as the date was coming near,

that if I pull off to this scenic overlook in Malibu for kind of no reason other than saying, hey, can we stop and take a photo? It might have tipped it a little. You really over you thought about this whole thing. You're right. It could have. Especially if she knows that you're going to do it, that it's good about to happen.

I've also talked to a lot of other guy friends about this because I'm a big fan of guys talking to other guys about like real stuff. Right. I love talking about sports too, but yeah, I definitely had some likes. I love that you're the guy that. You're the city moment. Yeah, right. You have. I'm sure. And especially on your show, it sounds like you sit down

and you talk to men about real things and not just porn. So on your show, is there any common themes you think that you've learned? You said you've learned a lot from them, but what kind of anything that could relate to dating or relationships? Is there any common themes? Or is there anything that you think that men constantly

run into that they don't know about women or that are confusing to any like common themes, or is there anything that you think that men constantly run into that they don't know about women, or that are confusing to them, or common themes? Number of things is male caggles. Is there anything? Really? Are you being serious? No, male caggles are a thing. No, male caggles are actually one of my questions.

Yes, male caggles, can I just tell you the, okay, this is about, is he going to kill me Jordan if I tell this story? Are we trying to? Are you kidding me? Jordan would totally be down with it. You don't know Jordan. Yeah, Anderson knows him well But the guy's been on your show. Yeah, that's like conqueror Yeah, oh, they talk about it. Okay, so here's the thing with me. I've an iPhone iPhone app called kegel camp Yeah, and it's for men and for women and kegel exercises actually

help you Men stay harder longer have longer lasting, you know, orgasm, women can have stronger orgasms. And it's those pee stopping muscles. So when you, like, if someone's knocking on the door and you're like, oh shit, it was there and you stop, it's like when you stop and start the flow of urine, right? So you have to find the right muscles, you have to identify your pelvic floor muscles and you go in and you stop and start them and you're supposed to do them. My my iPhone app has 20 levels, right? Which is crazy.

So you do it for like five minutes a day. Stop tense, relax. It's like my voice walking you through it. And it pops up on your phone. So every day at 11.30 AM, it's this time for a kettle camp and then I do my five minutes of exercises because doctors are always recommending them for women that also helps with urinary continents

and all the stuff. So anyway, Jordan was on my show He has a popular podcast What's the art of charm of course and he is like freaking out about he is girlfriend We're having a like a competition with Kegel Kegel off So when I first launched it only at 10 levels thinking like who the hell is gonna get to level 10 But soon after people like I'm at 10 I want 20 so I relaunch it at 21. Jordan kept sending me screen grabs. He's like, I'm on level 17, 18.

He got to friggin level 20. And he's like, I have to tell you that I had ejaculated like I was 18 years old, like shot across the room. Like that's how hard it's kettle muscles because they help you with like a ejaculation saying, so men yes do kettle and women have stronger orgasms. See I was trying to make a stupid joke.

I know you were a bit now, but no see, see, but the funny thing is that more, actually, I hear from more men than women who actually do their titles and tell them it helps them, but so they're sex life and stuff. So anyway, interesting that you ask. And look, there's less levels than Candy Crush, you know, just focus on. What the hell is it with Candy Crush?

No, people don't invite me on, I never want to play it. What, I don't want to see it. I don't want to see it. I've never one's obsessed with it. Should I be, because I feel like if I play it, maybe I'd never stop, I would't play games. Yeah, yeah. The characters are naked. You'd be in. Hey, you know what you do for the ladies' caggle camp?

Maybe get them boosted. Give them like a little squeak toy so they can actually hear every time they do it. No, there are weights though. There's keggo balls that you put in your designs. You can put it in there. Oh, yeah, there's weights for your vagina. They don't squeak, but that's a good idea. Yeah, but then you can't do them like incognito. They'll be one. No, they won't. Everyone does them in their car, right? Well, they tell you this is why I made the app because every doctor will tell you do kegels That no matter what your issue is like you should down there do your kegels

But no one forget remember just like you could do them with the truck Like you could do them when you're waiting in line at the start, but no one remembers so that's why you mind we have different doctors Your doctor doesn't tell you you had a fire in definitely not like as optimistic as dude a traffic light But with your original question before I mentioned male kegels But by the way, those those good to learn about my friend Jordan. Oh, thanks. He's gonna love that I talked about that. Yeah I'm sure in fine with it. Right. He is but with I think with like men stuff so I'm 33 and I feel like I finally feel like I'm an adult now Not just because of the proposal thing, but like I finally have like my S together and

Not just because of the proposal thing, but like I finally have like my S together and Like I have like the career I want you know, I got my gal got my got my apartment and got rid of the blackberry You know, there's things like that The iPhone so much better the blackberry. I waited way too long. Right. You just gotta do no not not just now But that it was still to me. Right. Right. No, at least you got the iPhone. It's helping you feel this complete cycle. It's not like a cable camp. Oh yeah, download it. Totally. And I think so much with male sexuality and relationships

isn't really about, like I know you have a lot of callers on Love Line, which you do a fantastic job at Cal Moston. Seriously, Emily, my fiance, not you. Great name, by the way. We listen, go into bed, most nights, but we put on the love line, yeah. Yeah, it's fantastic. It's great.

And I think a lot of callers, like Drew does a good job of breaking this down and Mike as well. Like they'll have like a little question, like they, that they think is the problem, but there's really some like big, huge issue behind it, they can't see. And so I think and I've noticed that too about like a lot of guys just you know friends or just people I've talked to over the years it'll be like I wish I could last longer and bad or something like that.

But there's really like some anxiety problem where they're on some medications. Exactly. It's different. And so the the stuff on my show while it's less about specific sex stuff I think when you can find a way to be more comfortable on your own skin, be less of a douchebag, you know, put more like good stuff out into the world. And I mean, there's so much to be said for comfort and knowing who you are. I think all of that translate. It's journey two, being in your 20s a lot of times you go through, you don't know who you are and you're trying to figure it out. A lot of men. Yeah, you do things like go to a tequila festival and try to drive back to Los Angeles. Exactly. See, you have the good stories now.

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and then some Lou because I think that Lou really enhances everyone's sexual experience. And then if I was going to send them the crazy girl products, I probably said I'm the warming heart massagers because they crack like they just look like regular hearts, but then you crack it has a little button it. And then all of a sudden it turns into this hot, warm massage. And then you could use it with a massage candle. I know you've tried my candles. Sure.

Emily and Tony. Exactly. I don't leave home without your products. I love that. And I actually mean that because down under comfort is. Tommy do love. It's a daily thing. Yeah.

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Personally for for a short while, but your partner there Tony I've used his like moisturizer. Oh, I've used products. Yeah, for like 10 years. And so seeing you guys team up, it was like, okay, number one, I know it's going to be a good product from your end, but number two, I know it's going to be like really high quality. I love that you love his products too. Yeah, his stuff is great.

Anthony.com. And I don't think it's bad to like, as a guy to like use good products. Right, and to feel fresh. And like another thing with like using good stuff, it's a lot of times like it will last so much longer than the cheap stuff. So even if it seems more expensive.

Right, exactly. It's not because I totally agree. I'm like a product core. And I know when I've used cheaper like shampoo's or whatever, like it sounds as good. You want like natural ingredients and good products So I'm glad you and glad that your balls are fresh, but that was it down under comfort was like You know you the occasional gold bond or something like that Yeah, I'm like how come power is bad? I'll try I'll try their product and

I've had other frames like recommend ball powder before and it it's always like stuff that smells disgusting. Like some version of ax body spray. I'm like, I know. It's six bucks at Waggling. Caleb. Yes. When are you in a situation where your friends are like, you know, Caleb, you could use this ball spray

or that ball powder. Are you going like, hey guys, I need some help with my balls here. Actually, it just means like body spray or like fresh. No, I'm talking about testicles. Really? Because I guys always use that act spray and stuff. I'm like, really? It smells like cheap.

I do a camp, a summer camp every summer. And like the 15 year old boy, he's just love it. It's like a rainbow of assets. It's horrible. Yeah, it's bad. Girls, we don't want to hear, we don't want to. Because the down under those like citrus, it's like, or not light.

But it's so mild that it's, you know, notice. I know, and you know what, I love that you love it. Okay, we've taken light one because this guy has a very important question. It's a girl. Danny Hi, Danny. You're on sex with Emily. Hello. Hi, Danny. Thanks for waiting You know how come powder and all of this so my boyfriend just got back from a Four-day vacation a golf vacation. It was all paid for by ESPN, supposedly non-stop golf, but I think it's a little weird, like I came home and you know we continue to make dinner with down on a smell like cheese.

Okay, so I think I've never smelled on him ever before. I definitely was not me. I'm just a little concerned. I did lots of gooleens. Didn't really get any answers because there's so many cheesed joke. Did you know what's up? Did you say anything to him? I didn't say anything to him.

That's tough. You know what he thinks. There's a mini-'s a minute everything so first of all we went out to get there with the guy the guy that you went with a lot of advertising through yes and so they think he was like a plus one for the trip well i think i can't even think we didn't think i'd never got the last day of the trip when creating a new golfing all day.

Well, it's also like, you know, like, this just seems a little weird. Right. And then he came home and took a shower, but he was also humid by the time he got in. Because, you know, he was a day full of golf or whatever they were doing, and then a day full of traveling.

And that's the way to keep going. Right. No, it doesn't sound good. ESPN, boom, doggle. Suggesting that he's going to go to the doctor. That sex. Well, he was supposed to go up and get it.

Yeah, he might have, honey. I mean, honestly, like, there's something wrong. Like, even like, I say this, like, when women call in or guys call in, they're like, she's something, I smell something, funny down there. Usually when there is a certain odor that you're not used to, he might have, he might have something going on down there. And I don't a certain odor that you're not used to, he might have something going on down there. I don't want to say for sure it's sexually transmitted disease, but you have to say something.

Either way, like there's... Either way, something's going on and you shouldn't be giving a blowjob and sex them. Is he circumcised? Yes. Okay, thank you. Ask him what his score was on that last day of golf. If he said 69, that's a growth. He was sorry. He was tired.

He was well. He didn't do very well. Yeah. You know whatever. And like we're very touching couple. Like we like have all of our each other's passwords, you know, like I never go through his phone. And he's a smart guy.

Like there's no way I can go through his phone and find anything. If it was going to be related to that anyway Right, right. Like there's really no how long have you guys been together? We we have been on and off to the past five years Okay, we believe in Actually, like I moved away for three years. Okay came back So has there ever been any other kind of distrust moments in this relationship? No, but he's also, you know, mainly everything is that he

likes you. Like I never had him like, I was like, prostitutes or anything before, but he's the kind of person you like to pay for something if you want to okay he has that kind of personality right he wouldn't be one of the spian okay i'm sorry but i think he's going to be one of the where was it in vegas no it was on it was in self-care landed he were island

okay and i learned whatever that's all i need to know i don't want to say that the i'm not going to i think that he just needs to get shot he could also have something else more serious I don't know but he should get checked out just telling that you know He could have just been golfing all day and traveling all But his friends said his friends said that they weren't golfing that day so that's the main problem Fuck the cheese. You got a bigger problem with him lying about his last. Yeah. Why did he say he did and he didn't and yeah Well, I don't know. I don't know that he didn't he said it Ryan's it like he said his friend good

And okay, when did this happen this this dick cheese? This is all today. This is like a couple hours ago I never called it to a radio. I love that you called in. No, this is so good This is I want to help you I mean honestly and You said he did shower right before you had sex right you said he came home when he's showered. Yeah Like he came home and shot okayered? Yeah, like he came home and showered. So he was a little invasive, maybe he didn't shower well enough, but there is like definitely a funky odor.

Yeah. I mean, you were a good sharp cheddar. He helped so like would, I mean, have you ever had a weird scent with your penis that you didn't know? Yeah, I mean, I think it happens sometimes because we're all biologically animals and go through different things.

But Danny, I'm wondering, is he a fan of condoms? She's been talking this entire time. Danny, I think that you've got to say something to him. I mean, I would say something to him, say there's this strange, you've got to be honest with you, there was like this, did you keep giving him a blowjob or did you stop? No, I keep telling. And did he ejaculate?

Yeah. Okay. And was that cheesy, too? No, it was cheesy. It was like that. The odor was already in my stomach. Like, I think there's something going on. No, I don't know what. Here's my first time seeing them. Like, we're really close.

No, I get it. I don't want to listen. I don't want to jump to any assumptions. But this is what I always tell guys, because I actually hear this more from men calling in about women. I say there's probably something going on with her. She's got to get checked out, because there's a lot of guys who were like, I've been dating her for a while, because I actually hear this more from men calling in about women. I say, there's probably something going on with her. She's got to get checked out because there's a lot of guys who are like, I've been dating her for a while and there's been this.

And a lot of times it could be something. Why are we just thinking, is there, like, I think, because when I was googling it, there was like, cheese, like, where like, what was it? Well, no, because you were saying it was like cheese. It's probably just some odor that could be emitting from his penis that could come from some kind of bacterial like a bacterial infection. So I mean, but it's never like, I got it.

He's never cheesy. Whatever it is, it's something different. So that's all we talk about. It's different. Whatever it is, you've been with him for five years. His penis has never smelled like any kind of dairy poultry condiment. So you really need to just tell him be like something, I could be honest, babe,

something different. Yeah, honest, he's the same, be honest, we need five years. Say, I don't know, say, tell him you talk to me. Say, I was a little worried, yeah, and honestly, it could mean like, he could be something else going on that is completely unrelated to any

to a sexually transmitted disease. He could have something serious. So he should get checked out. There's no reason why he should have that odor that lingered after he just showered. So I would say something sooner or later I would not have sex with him right now. And I wouldn't perform all sex at him until he goes to the doctor. Very good. Nice.

ASAP. Okay, thanks for calling in Danny and thanks for waiting. And everyone, you can call in Thursday nights between 839 32 1 800 Love 1 9 1 correct. Is that the number that is correct? Sometimes I've got the number. Okay, so anyway, God dick cheese That's just that was so far. I'm gonna go to bed with that like thought of my don't go to bed with that. I don't know when I'm doing Right he was groan around do you think for sure? I think so yes, bePN boondoggle. Hello. What else are you going to do? They're like golf trip. What's the cheese thing? Really? Like the next day or

that's just like cheese? No, but if he has some, if he contracts some kind of like bacterial thing from a woman or, you know, maybe he has some kind of like cancer. I don't know. I'm not going to say, I don't know. I'm not a medical doctor. If you guys picked up on the fact that she kind of said that he's paid for hokers in the past, she kind of said that he's paid for Hookers in the past she said he'll pay for something if he wants it He doesn't sound good Point fingers what you be wearing a condom and then he doesn't smell like cheese

Hookers and she'd on their girlfriend's and don't work condoms every hooker I mean I always do but hook they always demand every ever You've ever said with her pretty woman she demands condoms No, they all don't though well Well, that was a realistic story. That pretty well. That was a real. Basically, they all look like Julia Roberts too. So, so that's good. But she said, she said it was they've been on and off for five years. That may, okay. So he's basically like a shark who's had the taste for blood. And so over the past few years, he's been able to go get it elsewhere and be able to come back to her. And like a safe situation that's comfortable.

So I mean, I exactly and I had a friend who's dating a DJ, which by the way, if I don't want to offend anyone here if you're DJ, but I just would never dated DJ because, honestly, Casey Kason. Yeah, maybe now I date Casey Kason, but honestly, my friends who did DJs, it's just the worst because they're up to 5 a.m. They're usually doing drugs. There's a million girls going, I'm just standing right on them all night long. And it was just awful. And he was always cheating on her. But we all kind of knew it but didn't know. But then he came back, they had sex ones and then she got like bacterial vaginosis. There's only a few moments. She's also what? She's also weird. Chicks are weird. You guys are also weird. Caleb, I was at a bar once down just down the street. This place called a carbon club.

And they're DJed in show up and it's a tiny little club red lights whatever and I'm like I could push play so I put on the headphones I push play I instantly became like a rock star chicks were literally throwing themselves at me like for the next two hours or a line to come up and talk to me that was pushing play exactly exactly these are the dudes they can't wait the guitar anything like I'm gonna be a DJ and this guy was just like so Dushi and we all knew and anyway DJ's I think they're bad news Not all of them Everyone wants to work till 5 a.m. Don't listen to sex with Emily suck cock

Yeah, but we're listening to sex on me. I don't I usually don't say things But I'm very I'm not a very judgmental person and so that's actually unlike me to say something like that It's not all DJ's do something like that. It's fair to evaluate. Yeah, it's typically a guy who's into that and he's always like going to a visa for a week without her like hello. But I know as a guy living in Los Angeles, it's like okay, dating actresses was not a good idea, not because I have some judgment about actresses, but because there's something legitimate going on there.

Like what? Like what? That they are self-centered, more than normal, more image conscious, more than normal, and also typically more damaged. And I don't say damaged is like a bad thing in the past judgements. Because who is in damaged a little? Yeah, I mean, I've had plenty of issues, but I've also done a lot of work on myself. Right. And so there was definitely, yeah,

at the time where I was not as awesome. Because now you're asking this, right? Yeah, and so there's sure there's plenty of actresses that have done good work on themselves, but it's harder. Yeah. So it's just, I get it. No people say that, I mean, I, you know, I don't know.

People do say that about actresses about different people, but you're right, I can, I could see that. People say that about ballerinas. Right. I've heard it like more than once. I said, and that's so random. And I think I don't know where you even meet a ballerina. Right. Anderson, carbon club, Culver City. Is that where you meet the ballerinas? Who knows. My guest is Caleb Bacon from the Man School podcast. They can find it at a manschoolshow.com. Manschool. Okay, man school. If you're on iTunes, school, okay, man's, school, okay,

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Thank you, Jeffree. So I say, Jeffreeze, that's probably his own security A, because the girls A, because the girls probably weren't deciding how going, well, here's my less attractive friends. I'm going to introduce you to them, but he's kind of going into the security situation. Don't you think? That's probably part of it, but I bet he's right. You think that the girl was going, okay, I'm hot, but here's my less hot friend.

I guess I'm not that girl, so I would never consciously be like, you're an eight and she's a six so you're a nice person though. I am. I think like at some level that maybe you don't even realize it. You think that someone's in someone's league and someone's not in someone's league and you could justify it whatever way. Maybe it's true. Maybe it's not true. But I'm gonna guess like that this is just a guy who is not as attractive Because he's probably more passive and so it's probably like nobody's talking to this Friend of mine haven't you talked or so he's got any more confident. He's got up his game I would guess I would guess that's probably the big thing. Yeah, it's always about confidence and I and I almost Hate that I say that to guys all the time like the number one thing that women love is confidence

But it's true. And I think men too, and women, I mean, they, right? I mean, I don't think that that's initially the guys can bang a hat chick for like years, and then be like, oh, wait, I want someone who's also as other things, but for women, it is a man who walks in, who owns the room, who's attractive, and knows himself. That is a very attractive to us, who has confidence.

So I hear, yeah. Yeah, right? So you, I mean, you gal say that all the time. And but it's really true. So so she's just got us up being like the nice guy and whatever and sit in there and just get and go out and talk. And I hear what he said that tipped me off. Okay. In fact, he's not very confident. Why isn't he already talking to the hotter? Exactly. Why is he waiting for this girl to fix them up? Yes. You snooze. You lose. It's because he doesn't have, he's not confident enough. Right.

He's got to approach. Don't sit and stare at the hot chicks across the room because the second we see you staring at us, looking at the double take, your time is up. The second you see it, attract everyone you have to just go approach her and talk to her. I think you got to be okay with rejection. Yeah. Exactly. And it's not that like the girls hot friends are rejecting you.

Right. They're, they don't know you They're rejecting whatever you know, you could just tell yourself that Maybe they're they have a boyfriend maybe they don't like my outfit Exactly, they don't know you right they don't know you at all and you don't you think that with rejection and also being like you know Like doing a podcast or doing something public. I always think, you know, you can't worry. I mean, it's so easy to say, but like you really can't, as long as you're being your best self, like you can't worry what people think.

Some people, I always assume like, half the people might hate my show, right? People hate Oprah, they hate puppy dogs. They might like you're sure they might, they hate my, doesn't like, you can't worry so much about that. And like reject, it's the same kind of thing with rejection. They just know, and this is gonna be entertainment. You're gonna get rejected.

It's not about you, like it's about whatever they were looking for the person and you just have to keep going. And it gets easier the more you get rejected. Which is strong. Yeah, I write on the sitcom Sullivan Insan on TBS. Oh wow. Which is season three is coming out. Amazing.

Congratulations to that as well. Sullivan's on. Okay. And like literally millions of people watch. But I see some like of the the meanest stuff on Twitter about the show. And so I know a lot of people like the show, but I think it's like almost helpful to read bad stuff because like that helps kind of condition me to the world. Does it help you do listen to it?

Not really. I mean a lot of times it's funny. And then, and that'll collect favorite on it. And then they'll like click back to my profile and see that I'm a writer. Sometimes like apologize. What's your Twitter? And if you haven't, at Caleb eats bacon. C-A-L-E-B eats bacon like food.

Got it. So I know it's hard. I do that two sometimes, and I want it. As soon as you want to get angry, or you want to say something, or eat some of them, you just, you know, I don't know people, I get criticism too, and sometimes people are, you know, I think they have a point too. I'll be like, okay, but a lot of times I'm just like, you know, I read it, but I don't, you can't take it in, because not everyone's going to have an opinion. Rejections hard, like, look, if someone listens to 25 episodes of Sex with Emily and they tell you you do a terrible job. Right. Obviously,

that's not true. But that's going to hit you harder than if you meet someone at a club. Right. And who doesn't want to talk to you. Right. Exactly. Exactly. That's a whole different thing. Exactly. Just keep going and keep asking people out. Um, you got to just, yeah, I think that was a great point, Jeffrey, that you should just be talking about chicks and don't even let your friends don't let anyone introduce you to someone you don't want to talk to. Okay, next email, hi Emily, I am a new listener and I'm in love with your show. Your attitude is amazing and I always seem to have a better day. If I listen to nothing but sex talk on my way to

school, that's nice. And yes, my sex life has improved since I started listening so you're definitely serving a wonderful purpose on this planet. I'm one of those girls that loves giving oral to my man. However, sometimes I notice myself getting cottonmouth, cottonmouth, as I had cottonmouth. You just got cottonmouth. I know, that's the city. Oh my god, I didn't just get it. Cottonmouth.

Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. Cottonmouth. I know, I'm like- Because I'm sure off the cheese dick. Yeah, we are. So this is the cotton mouth, which is much better than cheese dick. Do you have any solutions?

Thank you so much, Brianna. Smoke less weed. I was just going to say that. Do you smoke pot? Do you take any medication? A lot of times that can give you cotton mouth. You just took a sip of water. I did.

I saw it. You know the answer. I was about to give you more job. No, but my answer is stop and take a drink of water. Nope, I don't keep your hand on it and whatever you got to do. I always get thirsty during sex. I always have, I'm a obsessed with the fact I don't have water by me all the time. So take water, take a few sips and another great trick what you can do.

Brianna is take a few sips to your hydrate and then take some in your mouth and then go back to giving a little job. And while you're doing it, have them in your mouth, let the water come out of your mouth and drip over his penis and it'll feel amazing. I think. I don't have a penis, but how does that sound to you? I would be like, did you just get sick? No, but like a little water.

Just a little bit water, okay. I'm not on time, but like a little bit because it gets a lubricant. That's interesting. Not like all of it, psh, but like a little in your mouth and then you can give it more lubricant so you keep going. That does sound like a little in your mouth and then you can give it more lubricant so you keep going. That does sound like a good time. Okay. Or you can put it away.

You know the thing you can do Brianna is since if that doesn't work because I've done I never had any complaints. But ice cubes, perfect. Have a glass of water with ice and I'm ice, I have ice cube in your mouth while you're going, giving a little job that can feel great too. I've heard. I think she should also just drink more water ahead of time. True. Yeah, get the hydration going. Yeah, you should hydrate or die. That's it, camelback. Do

you know camelback? Does the backpack thing? Yes. That's their thing is hydrate or die. Do they recommend their products for oral sex? But that's how bad, you know what? You can wear a backpack and she could have a little straw coming out. A little hose, yeah. Yeah, and then she never has to come up. She could just suck the water out. We're the backpack, though, not as sexy. Maybe if they made like a lacy one. I smell an Emily and Tony crossover. What? Anderson, you don't think that's a good idea. I'm not seeing that. Very unhot. Her wearing that in a Walnake. It looks like she's about to go hiking. Well, she's going down. I'm totally kidding about that, but it's not. I not. I think this might be all that

we have time for, but I have so many things that I that I that's it. You just ran out of time. No, shows over Caleb, but so many things that I want to talk to. I'm so glad you came on the show. This is a lot of fun. I mean, so fun. Really enjoy it. So, um, okay, I want everyone to listen to your podcast and go to your website. So tell them where they can find you again. And this will be on my website as well. Man School, easily found on iTunes. And after you've listened to all the back episodes of Sex with Emily, come check out Man School. Yeah, people love your podcast, very popular podcast.

Yeah, thank you. KidsLikeIt, manschoolshow.com. And congratulations on your engagement. Thank you. Emily's a good peeps. Yeah, thank you. So I so appreciate that. Thank you. Everyone's Check out Anderson's podcast every week, which'm Lisa good peeps. Yeah, thank you. So I so appreciate that Everyone's check out Anderson's podcasts you never every week which one film ball the film ball

The after disaster the why do you always like you treat the after death like your bastard child? And I don't know to ask all the film ball fans think that I Vice versa all the after the after the famous like a treated the film ball We're all podcasters. I think we should see what's good for everyone this week We did top five bars on the film ball was ball ball Brian and I Top five bars in movies. Oh, yeah, cuz I'd be weird. It's a movie show if we Know like what are you like bar scenes bars in movies actually the actual bars to go if we could have a drink and a bar That we've seen in a movie I did a star wars one you know that came up a lot I

Came up a lot not by you cuz that's so cliche. I hate that it came up a lot. Not by you, because that's so cliche. I hate that it came up a lot. That means I suck. And then the swingers won, came up, right? No, actually swingers did not look that good. Look at that. Dude, I'm movies. I used to be a filmmaker, PS. I know. Everyone, thanks so much for listening to Sex with Emily.

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So basically if you cheat you can be like and predisposed to it genetically Yeah, I guess so see how that goes over with your partner But the same gene has already been linked to alcoholism and gambling addiction So so basically if you have a loser you you're just gonna get the trifecta and it's all genetic. Exactly. You can't really do anything about it, but it's the real seeking gene. So, you know, when they say one's a cheater, always a cheater, there could be some scientific proof to it. Yeah, and if all else fails, just look for the herpes. I do that as well. Always get tested. Share your records.

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