Sex With Emily - Sex Klass With Pornstar Kayden Kross

Episode Date: May 31, 2014

This week, I’m talking to Kayden Kross, the award winning porn star, writer, and model for the best-selling Fleshlight.  This bombshell bookworm and I get into everything from how the brain can be a powerful turn on to some exciting hands on (literally) oral sex tips. Kayden has tricks for both guys and girls and she’s also talking about how a douchebag pony got her into the adult entertainment industry, so you don’t want to miss out!Ever wonder what the number 1 thing is that you need to know about the vagina? What about whether or not a guy can last too long in bed? All your questions answered and more on the latest episode of Sex With Emily. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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All of our podcasts, our videos, our blogs, our traffic is going crazy. Our website crash like three Who's website still crashes but my website is crashing? But I appreciate everyone and thanks everyone for following me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram Which is all sex with Emily. We've been getting crazy questions crazy good questions on Facebook as well And then every Wednesday from 12.31 Pacific Standard Time I will be answering your questions on Twitter. So just hashtag AskEmily,

any sex and relationship question you have, I will answer for you. So tonight's show, I'm excited about our guests. We have Cading Cross. She's a well-known porn star actress, and she's very articulate, clever writer. Her flashlight is the best seller of the has top reviews, and she is sexy and hot.

She just came in. His no make up on beautiful. And she writes short fiction and reviews about the adult industry. So we're going to be talking to her in a little bit. But first, there's something I need to talk to you about because it's been my mind lately and I'm just going to get into it. Let's talk about the vagina. I think there's some things you need to know because

I believe it's gravely understood by legions of men. And when I clear up some of these issues, you will all be having better sex. So here's the number one thing you need to know about the vagina. You cannot stick foreign objects into her vagina. No matter how fun it might seem to you to stick your Xbox remote into her, it is a bad idea. Only your penis, fingers, and toys are acceptable. Not a cucumber, someone asked me today because it could be dirty. You don't want to put anything dirty inside of her. So I say this because my new 23 year old intern came in today and said her boyfriend wanted to put a lally pop into her vagina. No, no, this is a very bad idea. Anything sugary into the vagina can cause a yeast infection and other problems.

Ants. Ants, exactly. Anderson could cause ants. And, right, you never know what the hell could happen down there. And it upsets your natural pH balance so that whole night and have weeks thing or whatever you want to stick like whipped cream, not a good idea. And she get a yeast infection. Guess what? That means she's closed for business. So how fun does that sound to you?

Not very. I'm sure. So number two, just because you walked in her door and you might have a raging boner, does not mean she's ready for intercourse. In fact, she's not even thinking about it. She's probably still finishing like a text to her friend

or doing her laundry or something, but I repeat, she is not ready for six for sex because women cannot go from zero to 60. Just because you walk in and you're all turned on, we're not even ready yet. We need prolonged stimulation in order to reach the state of complete arousal, which is why we always talk about foreplay. It's not just because we think it's fun and it feels good. We actually need it and require it. So you can even send her a sexy text before you get there,

telling her what you want to do, because we're more mental, the brain is what turns us on. So a text can be great and that will get her thinking. Then when you see her, even though you're turned on and you're excited and you haven't seen her all week, you can grab her, you can start kissing her, touch her slowly, perform oral sacs on her, I promise she'll like it.

And then she'll be more turned on because we're not just a whole, you see, to stick your penis in. You have to pre-eat the oven before you stick in the turkey. My next point number three, Loub. Loub is your friend. Loub has been horribly stigmatized so much. Oh, we've been out with about the Lube because there's a problem or she's dry or there's some discomfort. But the truth is women who reach for Lube during the deed reported significantly higher levels of satisfaction

and pleasure during intercourse compared with women who didn't use it according to a recent study by Indiana University. So it's not just recent study by Indiana University. So it's not just me. The Indiana University people are very smart. Loop does help. It's like the extra slip-in slide makes it more satisfying for women and then they're able to have more orgasms.

And that's fine. So don't hide your loop away when you got to whip it out when there's some kind of problem. Take away the loop stigma. Help me do that. And as a side note, if you'd like to go to the anal route, you must use loop. And if you want to know why she wanted anal sex with you, it's probably because maybe the first time you didn't use

loop, and it was painful. So, loop is a number one agreement, number one agreement for successful backdoor sex. And then finally, number four, about the vagina. During a rousal, her lady parts act like your man parts. You know the clitoris, I'm sure, because you've been listening to the show 2,000 episodes or even just a few. I talk about the clitoris often, but it's that joy button.

It becomes more engorged when she's turned on. So you can tell when she's getting turned on. And the labia manure contains erectile tissue that gets a little bit stiffer when things are heating up so watch for those signs and you'll know that she's ready so that's what I gotta say about vagina anderson anything you'd like to add tonight about the vagina no I like those tips good tips did you learn anything new well I work on love line for 20 years now so no I know all that stuff there's nothing new okay anderson what's going on? Have you been?

Good, I had a good weekend. I shot my third short, which is extremely stressful up in Lancaster, did a lot of illegal things. And then the following day, I was still not sure if I should be admitting this, but when I bought a new couch about a year and a half ago, I sprung extra for the pullout. And the wife and I just went like two days

on the pullout couch in front of the TV. Oh, I loved that. Is that fair? Is that fair? No, with staycation. Oh, of course. I just, we just wrote a whole blog about staycations. For the pull out in the living room,

we just like bunk hunkered down the grid up hotel. We used to call me pizza box, but I don't know. Oh yeah, we ordered pizza and we caught up on all the game of mones. I love that. I call it Game of Thrones, game of mones. That's really romantic. I like that.

I like that you just hung around and hung out with your wife It was really fun and the dogs the dogs kind of put a napronics they trying to get in between It's like all right, and then they want to leave the house and then that means you got to get out of the bed Yeah, it's not about you. It's about us right exactly honey. I think that's sweet. I didn't do anything I'm not gonna be embarrassed to admit that anymore but speaking of your film I did meet your friend and the elevator today. Oh, that's funny. He said hey are you Emily? I said yeah And he's like oh, yeah, Anderson do sound for him, we're friends. Such a small world, really?

I gotta come over. He met one of your interns a couple weeks ago, and he couldn't wait to call me up. He's like, so what's going on on the 11th floor with that sex shop out there? What's happening? You can't even believe it goes on if they're everybody, because they're touring people

in the office, and every time he goes by, people are like in that sex with Emily, and they do like a double take. Do they just assume that it's like a porn shot? Yeah, they do. you're making porn. Well, okay, here's a funny story about that. So the other night we have a party in our office and it was like some guy from the doors,

Rob Krieger, says anything. I'm not a fan. I mean, their buddy was like playing, there was like a big, there was music and a big party. Sounds fancy. He's fancy. But now my office, they just have these parties sometimes because there's a guy in the office who does,

you know, posted from. You need to hire need a higher a an armed guard with maybe like a rotwiler to just stand out in front of your door I know even add some more guys come in and they're like hey because we just fix it out you know it's like we got like dildos everywhere and it's very pretty office so like when you go to the doctor's office and they have like all the plaques on the walls like is it like that but you got like dildos and stuff like that Iildos and stuff. I got a call. Why don't you come? It's really great. But remind me to get back to your friend in a moment

because I just tell you what people thinking of a porn star. So the sky is like office is like kitty corn in a mine. And it was the night of the party. So we're all drinking and talking. And he said to me, do you know Nina Hartley? And I said, yeah, I've known her for a while. She's a porn star.

She's been on the show a long time. I said, I'm actually shooting a porn with her next week in San Francisco. And then he walks back in his office. And he says, a Lauren, my assistant, I didn't know you know, porn star. She's been on the show a long time. I said, I'm actually shooting a porn with her next week in San Francisco. And then he walks back into the office and he says, a Lauren, my assistant, I didn't know she was a porn star. I thought she was a porn star, but then I wasn't sure. But I'm actually shooting a porn this weekend,

but I'm not having sex. I'm not naked in it. What does that sound like to everybody else? I know I have to, but I wasn't thinking. I'm like, oh, I'm shooting a porn. You're a doctor for God, so I know what I didn't think to explain that I'm not getting naked, which I could understand why he would think

that I'd be getting naked. But no, understand why he would think that I would be getting naked, but no, I'm doing a dinner scene with other sex educators. No cucumbers in the vagina. No cucumbers, no nudity, but it was really funny. So back to your guy in the elevator, and then he got my number and he texted me.

And he said, hey, nice to meet you. He does that, he's a networker. He's a networker. So he's not like, because the girls in my office was like, oh, I think he likes you. I'm sure he likes you as well. He's a tender guy, he's always on Tinder. Oh. He's a network. Okay, so he's not like, because the girls in my office was like, oh, I think he likes you. I'm sure he likes you as well. He's a tender guy.

He's always on Tinder. He's single. I wonder if I swiped left or right on him. I'm not sure. So anyway. Be careful with him. He's a really nice guy. I'm not interested, but he was interesting.

What I'm saying is he's a networker. He's in the system. What does he want from me? He's in the system. Flashlight or something, but okay. That was interesting. So I also have to tell you that I had a date last night. You did?

Yes, it was a blind date that my friend fixed me up on. Real quick. What? Four or five weeks ago, you had a blind date in here on the show. Oh, yeah, my Tinder date. How many dates have you had in between? I'd say one or two. Oh, with him.

I went out with them one more time. Yeah, with different people. How many different people have you had dates with? Probably three. That's not bad. But this guy, so I was fixed up with him by a friend, mutual friend, and I said to her, I said, did you tell him about me?

And she said, no, I just told him your name, and that you're a really cool girl, and you should meet him. And he also works in the industry, right? Not talent, but other side. So anyway, I'm thinking, okay, great, like every day he's up straight I'm like, did you give my last name? She's like, I think so.

I'm like, okay, so he's Googled me and this is going to be all things. So I walk in and being in for dinner, it's a nice restaurant, my salon, and we're sitting and talking and I kind of find out that he actually doesn't know anything about me, nothing, like nothing at all, which I always say, I hate when people like that they can Google me and make all these assumptions. So it was interesting because I said, oh, I didn't move here for San Francisco and he said, what did you do there? I said, I worked in politics first, so why did you move there? I made a documentary. He's like, oh, so you're a documentary filmmaker. And then I was like, oh my god, he really doesn't know. And then I started thinking this is kind of awkward to get

into the sex. So then I said, well, yeah, I did that a while ago, but now I, um, you know, I started this podcast in my living room and he just kept, he's like, I'm like, so you didn't Google me. He's like, no, I didn't know your last name. And then I told him all about that. I think he was shocked a little bit and a little, I think he was interested, but I can't decide now, which is better if they know I had a time or if I'm springing it on them. That sounds like less work for you if they know it had a time. Yeah. Cause then we spent our time, that, that's in questions and why'd you get into it and like, I'm springing it on. Sounds like less work for you if they know ahead of time. Yeah, because then we spend our time asking questions and why you get into it and like I'm interested in releasing.

And then you know what, if they know before and then you can talk them out of the gutter. Right. You know, because that's where they're going to be when they show up. Exactly. Right in the gutter because they're like, they're going to, hey, yeah. But it was a good date. I liked them. Oh, good for you.

Yeah, and but he texted me today and he's like, let's hang out again. And he's not like a 24 year old Like but I think that sound like that was fun Let's hang out and like watch movies go to the bee. I don't know just you know It doesn't sound like a good hook there at all Yeah, but what is like let's be friends and hang out because hang out is sort of a friend thing No, no, he wants to he wants to have sex with Emily. Okay. Just check it Just want to get a guy's opinion because I wasn't sure about the whole hangout

Yeah, if he hung out with you and he you just enjoy them self he want to see you again less you want to bang okay but we're not looking for girlfriends so i was not funny how sometimes and that's not so funny i got interviewed by the cause of a magazine in the morning about first dates like for an hour i'm the phone with them what the three things you should wear the three things you should ever

and then i'm leaving for a date and i turned like my interns and i'm like what are we we, I have nothing to wear. Cause I'm the expert, but then I don't know what to wear. Wait, but Cosmo has never, has anything relevant or that makes any sense. Ever, as far as I can tell. I know, it was actually, yeah, no, it was actually shape. I'm sorry, I just messed up.

Okay, then that's all the total. It was shape, but I talked to Cosmo yesterday as well, but it was funny that I think to myself, why am I right now asking them when I'm the expert? What you take on Cosmo, like when you're in expert in the market? What's your take on Cosmo? Like when you're in line at the market and stuff and you see all those like 10 tips, sex tips, isn't it most of it just total BS?

Yeah, a recycle, but I'm in it every month, so I can't say anything. Okay, well we've then stopped there, but we have so many girls who call love line and they're constantly sticking their fingers up their boyfriend's butts because Cosmo tells them to and that's like not every guy wants that. Cosmo tell, yeah they guess they do.

I don't even read it. I know that I'm in it, but I don't read it. But I think that Cosmo can be helpful for some women starting out, but no, I think a lot of it is just kind of, and I think it's not even really all about female sexual pleasure. It's without pleasing him, which only perpetuates the problems that a lot of women have with their sexuality because they're socialized to believe that it's all about the man's pleasure.

So all those tips about pleasing men in Cosmo and other magazines are like that and she'd talk more about. That's what you're for. That's what you're for. So that's what I got. And I think we should bring in our lovely guest, Caden Cross. She is fascinating because way to you hear how she got started in the porn industry, actually started stripping. Kind of a lot of women started stripping and they go into porn, but it's a very, it's like the best story I've ever heard.

I'm excited about her coming in because she was actually in here for the last 10 minutes and I heard her talking about a douchebag pony. Which I've never heard anyone say douchebag pony before. Well, that is interesting. She is fun. Hi, Kaden. Hello.

Thanks so much for joining me tonight. These are large headphones. I know. That's what she said. Okay. No. Kaden, hi. So Kaden, Kaden, it's Club Kaden K-A-Y-D-N. Welcome to the show. And it's at Kaden Cross. On Twitter. Kaden underscore cross. Kaden underscore cross. And you are an adult film star, you've won a bunch of awards, you're a great writer, your website, all those things. But the thing that I find that I'd like to start out with is how you actually got started in the business because I find this story to be amazing. Yeah, we're actually talking about that before the show. Okay.

You want the long version or the shorter version? Yeah, we've got time. Okay, basically. The interesting version. Long story short, I have a horse now. I've always had horses. My mom had horses. We grew up on horses. I started riding when I was like five. So fast forward, I'm 17.

I was living on my own. I had a full-time job at PetSmart. I was going school full-time and I wanted to work with animals and that's why I took the job at PetSmart. I take the job and then there's not actually like animals there. They're like fish and a tank and they won't even let me feed the fish. There's no interaction. I didn't qualify for the specialty department. So I get this bright idea because it was in Sacramento and there's a fair ground there called CalExpo. And so they have the harness races and I'm like I'm gonna go work with horses I'm gonna walk down there and get a job and I'm gonna do something

Right, so I go down to CaliExpo and This guy you know kind of sleazy, you know He he hires me on the spot. He's like yeah, you know come back tomorrow 7 a.m And we're walking and talking and we turn the corner and there's this really beautiful gray horse and he's sticking his head out of the stall and And he's like, hey, do you want that horse? I'm like, yeah, I do. Can I have that horse? And he's like, you can have that horse. And that's sort of a common thing on the racetrack when a horse stops performing. They just cost money and they'll just unload them to whoever I'll take on that. And so it gives me this horse and I'm literally, I'm 17. I'm standing there with the horse in a halter and lead rope

Just holding the lead rope and like you walk outside and you're on a main bull right? I think there's nowhere to take the horse. Yeah, like 30. You're crying, right? So I like I call all these people and I call in some favors and I get the horse moon I never come back to the job because I'm afraid he's gonna take the horse back. I didn't know any better I was like oh my god He was just doing that to hit on me is gonna take the horse back. I can't come back and so I move the horse So now I'm 17 paying rent paying, paying horse board, paying for school full time, whatever. And I never come back to the animal job. I still want to work with animals. And so I get this idea to go be a trail guide at this other place where you

lead people around on horses. And so I get that job over the summer. And there was this pony that they bought because they thought that he would be sort of a non-intimidating thing for children Super cute and he was just Like I was telling him it was a douchebag, right? They get him there. He's super cute and then he bucks and he kicks me, rears me bites and he's an asshole And he and I got along really well and so they always had me riding him because I was small I was like 80 pounds at the time and I rode this pony every day over the summer and then summer ends school starting again I have to quit the job because I can only hold one job and the other one paid more and and so then you know a month goes by at turn 18 and

that same week my friend calls me and she's like they put the big guy on the pony they tried to train him he's be fractured something the vet bills cost more than pony's worth they're sending him to slaughter and like I'm crying and she's crying it's this big thing I already have one horse I'm in school full time I've got one job the pace like minimum wage Anyway, and so I'm freaking out and of course I'm my roommate's a fucking guy and he's like he's like just go be a stripper And you know I'm 18 I'm like yeah go be a stripper just one night, I'll go make all the money I need. Right, right, and it seems like this great idea and so I go in and I literally in one night made all the money I needed to buy this pony to pay for shipping to get them to the border everything in one night. Oh my God.

And so I pick up the pony and I spend the money in one night. And I didn't even take my top off for the first four hours because I was so shy I've ever had you ever stripped before had no I was so I'd never been into one and I also I wasn't allowed to go to like proms or anything So I did not a dance Your parents won that year? No super shelter. I did not have much money I never I wouldn't take my top off in front of my boyfriend. Like, we were having sex every day, but I wouldn't take my top off.

It's like so shy. And, but I really, I didn't want the pony to die. I was like, this is a noble cause, right? Okay. And I, yeah, I made all the money. And it was super scary. And then at the end of the day, I'm walking home and I have like almost $1,000 in cash.

Wow. I've never seen that much money at once. Okay. And I'm like, this is great. I picked the pony up, I'd take him home and my plan was to go back to the waitressing job the next day and my shift was coming up and I'm like, God, I don't want to smell like grease today. And I'm like, oh, but the struggle. That's like what I made in a month. I made that in the night until I went back the next day and the next day. And how do they hire you if you've, I mean, you're beautiful and you're self-care if you can dance? They really don't do that.

They look at your... I don't think they even made me get into... I came in in sweats. I hired... I was wearing a tight shirt, but I came in in sweats. And then did you get into... How long did you strip for? Two years. I strip for two years. So then did you get into the dancing and oh yeah within a few weeks? I was very

It looked like I knew what I was doing But the first the first day it was three stages before even take my top off Oh my god, and he finally like put me in a corner. It's dripping Yeah, it's like you have to do this and he's like on the loudspeaker and the people are like take it off take it off I'm like I'm like shaking. Oh, so scared. Oh my god That's that's that's a really good story about mostly we're like oh, you know Just make money for school or clothes, but it was a noble cause. Well the first day was a noble cause I'm like

Little more. Did you enjoy it? Did you get into it kind of? I got into it after the first like I was into it immediately It in terms I loved the attention I loved doing the stages I didn't feel confident that people loved me doing the stages for a few weeks because I was really just rigid and robotic and did your boyfriend come watch you or did you have problems I lied to my boyfriend do you like think I feel like I'm going to do what I told him I was a cocktail waitress there okay yeah because I had to explain why I was there and find these weird bikinis. I'm just waitressing. Right.

So that was my story until he came into the club or something. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, one. So you did that for two years and then did that when you got to porn? Yeah, the porn thing, it was sort of gradual for porn. There is an agent who he brought like Sonny Leonin and a number of penthouse pets and all of that. His whole thing is he goes around to strip clubs and approaches girls he thinks he could probably do some work with just solo modeling. And that was back when you could actually survive on solo modeling. And so he'd just approach me one day. He's like, hey, I think you could do penthouse or whatever. And I was like, really?

That's cool. And then you were, did you feel like, did this experience, you said you were rigid, did you really open up? Sexually, do you feel like you started to become more comfortable with your body? It's weird. I was not comfortable with my body, but it was extremely sexual. So it was one of those things where I'm like, yeah, don't look at me, but please, let's go have a lot of sex.

Right. That's it. I was really, really kind of like, yeah, there was a dichotomy there. Do you always end up in sex since you were young? Oh, super, super sexual. And it's funny because I would be into things. I didn't know where sexual, because it was very sheltered. Like, I had these, I hate saying this

because there's this other sort of assumption that's just not true, but it was almost a rape fantasy, almost. No, that's a cop. That's actually, I don't like people saying we all have rape fantasies. So I was on some show the other day, like that I can't say that but it is true that the the top fantasy for women is to be it's like a force thing yeah and and yeah

I remember I used to always like I didn't want to say get turned on because that's also not the right word but I used to be really in like in the fairy tales when like the princess is taken and whatever I was like really into that and and I remember my friends and I would like play this game where we'd you know tie each other up and we're evil and you know And we're writing a black horse of course because black horses are evil or we're being just that stupid stupid crap But you don't realize at the time that you're so excited about it because that sort of like Filled a very immature fantasy, but it's still a fantasy for women because I think it's like the ultimate fantasy that you're being taken and that someone just

So yeah, they choose you and they want you so many, right? You know, the other thing. So then when you were like, do you remember the first time you had orgasm, are you masturbated or are you one of these like, that's the other thing is I, again, it's such a weird subject to try it on because it can be taken wrong quickly.

But I remember these sort of immature things that must have been orgasms looking back. Right. Like this sort of like wave I I Don't know like I don't remember a first one. I just remember that they happened and you play games with your friends and right and I mean it happened to me. I was I always joke him like oh god You wonder those women you were like writing a horse when you were five and you and orgasm

But you probably weren't that I think no I think if you're getting an orgasm from riding a horse, you're probably not riding that horse for anyone. Well, are riding a bike? No, because women are a bike, yeah. A bike, no. I usually say bike, but I thought in the sick. I say something like that. But people are like, yes, some women are very early or gaspick

and some women just aren't at all. Yeah, and looking back, I was. And then there was like a point where I guess I stopped playing the games before I figured I heard of a jaina. And's there's definitely time where I realized I had a vagina and there was an orgasm I was like, what the fuck was that? Right, I like that. Okay, you're like, I'm into that. Okay, that's good. So you always see you had been sexual. So then maybe opening up and doing that.

Yeah, the photography and the photography. The photography, I was again, robotic stiff, scared, didn't want to take my top off same thing And same thing like with every single step with the with the stage with the photography then it became a girl girl photography Then it became my very first scene with evident and every single step it was like starting over like a robotic I'm stiff scared and then I get past that fear right and suddenly it's really awesome like life though The things that scare us are the things that propel us forward. Right. So, okay, we're going to take some calls because we are getting some calls.

And just so you know everyone, we on this show every Thursday night, 8.39.30, Pacific Standard Time, you can call, ask your questions, 1-800. What is it, 3-9-3-9-3-1-9-1? What the hell? What is it? 1-800-L-O-V-E-1-9- nine. How old is that? Yeah, thank you. You got that one eight hundred love one I want

Okay, let's take some calls here. Um, hey max Hey, how's it going good you're on sex with Emily. Thanks for calling in and with Katie and cross Hi I'm a huge fan. I just purchased your flashlightlight. Oh, I love you. You're awesome. That is awesome. Flashlights are awesome. It's almost like you've had sex with her. Like I ever ran a question. My question was,

so was your favorite fairy tale princess in the life? I was always in love with Sleeping Beauty. And I think it's for the same, the same thing. She's, again, I hate going there. She's as helpless, I hate going there. She's in this helpless, you know, it's passed out. You know, she read the original fairy tale. And in the original fairy tale,

the prince has sex with her and then she has twins, but she's asleep the whole time and then they come out. Like, it's much, much more dark and sort of definitely illegal in the original version. But yeah, no, to this day, I can't wait to see Maleficent, just because that was my favorite I thought she was the prettiest. I thought it was the coolest story. There's of course all over

So there's a lot going on with the sleeping beauty. Exactly. Okay Max. Is that anything else we can do for you? Yeah, I'm just are you gonna make any more porn? Kaden, because I've been on the computer and I know you have that Tumblr account But you don't you don't have any more porn anymore. I actually have a scene releasing with Manuel Farara next month. It's my first anal scene in this decade. It's my first anal scene. It's a big deal. That's coming out soon, and I'm also going to be shooting on the 11th of June. Another hopefully groundbreaking piece of pornography.

I'm sure it well-balanced. Stay tuned, Max. Thanks for calling. Thank you. Bye. I yeah, he bought your flashlight. I love that. I love people who bought my flashlight. I know I love flashlight. You know, like, flashlight makes me wish I had a penis. Like just for a day just because I'm so curious. No, I just said that on my last show I was like, if I had a penis for a day, I'd get a few. No, I just said that on my last show, I was like, if I had a penis for a day, I'd get a few blow jobs, I'd have sex, and then I would just sit down with a few flashlight,

because I'd have to die in the hall. Yeah, I wonder how they compare. Right, because you're a flashlight, so just explain what a flashlight is. It's a mole. A flashlight, now. It's like this latex, it feels like flash. It's this latex flashlight-shaped thing,

and you have sex with it. And supposedly, it's like the closest thing to the real thing that's ever been put out there. My fiance, he's been in porn for 17 years now. He's won Mill Performing that year, like five times. He's got a lot of sex. And the first time he had any contact with the flush light,

he doesn't mess around with toys. Like, he's actually trying to not have it. He's like, dude, I'm done. I'm done. Yeah, right. And he was on this live sex show, and the flashlight was sponsoring something. He's sent over a few flashlights and the director right before he goes on. He's like, just play around with this for a minute.

And he had two girls in the flashlight, and he's like, oh, he's all mad because he got sprung on in last minute. And so the two girls are doing their thing. He picks up the flashlight just because it's like this obligatory thing, and he puts it on his deck. And then like two seconds later, like pushes the girls away. He's like, I want to watch you guys kiss and he's just sitting there like making them kiss

all the way. Right, he's just matigating, right? And he's like, I don't want the girls. It looks like it feels amazing. I'm dying at once. So yeah, men can use it to masturbate. They can use it for stamina training. Oh, that's amazing.

You're a flashlight cading cross by it. You can go to sexa-may.com slash flashlight. Check it out. And support her and her vagina. Support her vagina. Support her vagina that she molded just for you to have a goddamn flashlight, okay, which are awesome and we love flashlight. So that's cool.

It's so popular though. Why do you think, I mean, I heard it's like one of those bests up. Well, I mean, vaginas are popular, so I mean, especially in particular, there's other porn stars that do it. Oh, really? Is it like the cool kid my flashlight I think it won sex toy the year of the sex awards saying I've had other I'm sorry but there's other porn stars who's vagina's I've emolded in

yours is I'm glad I'm popular I know I'm a big fan of it of your vagina yeah I'm like I'm like I'm like okay so my question for you is going back to your boyfriend your fiance is also important you guys sent scenes together my first scene was with him. No way. He's the only person I work with now. First, sort of. Well, it's funny.

Like I said, robotic scared whatever my first scene. I was so bad that he actually wouldn't speak to me or work with me for three years following. No way. That's a great story. It was so bad and he hated me. And what happened was I was with with the video in contract and then I went to Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve never just their paths never crossed so I didn't see him and he I guess was refusing to work with me anyway. And then I go to digital playground and

he's known as being like he can really pull a good scene out of a girl who's maybe mediocre and so digital you know they didn't know anything really about me and so they're like oh we're gonna put her with him because he could make anyone look good. And so they try to book us together and he's like, no, I don't like her. She's terrible. And so, so then they, I guess they sweet talked him and they told him that I really wanted to work with him and I was begging for him and I'm a new person. They gave him this whole speech.

I had no clue it happened. Wow. And finally, they like, he's like he's like okay fine I will show up but if she gives me even the slightest bit of attitude I'm walking upset. And they didn't tell me any of this. Oh my God. And so he shows up and like I remember he walked in the room and I'm in makeup and I see him and I have no idea up until this point that he hates me that he's not working with me. Oh you have any of this. Okay. I have no clue. I'm like, hi, first day. I remember me, and he's like, yeah.

And so he walks in and I remember looking at him. And I hadn't gotten a good look at him really, because I was so terrified. That's right, sure. You were like, in your first day, I just remember, he showed up that day and I was like, you're good looking. And now I'm gonna go back into my little like, tiny world and freak out, because I don't know if I look good

and I don't know if I'm gonna make weird noises and I don't know if I'm gonna fuck up and what if I have sex wrong and I just have like maybe I've been doing it wrong my whole life. I don't know. I was so scared and so now I'm comfortable and whatever and he shows up and I'm like, God he's hot. And I remember I'm sitting in a makeup chair and I'm like, how did I not know this before? How did I miss that? Oh my God.

And I ended up having this explosive sexy, like so good. What happened? Like so good. What happened? Like so good. Just our chemistry was like just phenomenal. Oh my god. Amazing chemistry. Like the camera's cut. We kept going.

I remember the director at some point because he'd never really heard of me in the industry and I'd been in for three years. And it's like do you always have sex like that? And I was like, I guess not. But maybe now I do. Right. Wow. And then did you instantly start dating after that? No, no, no. What's funny is he was actually in a relationship at the time. And so was I. And so it was one of the things where we had this great chemistry and we ended up working together at least every other movie.

I really, because they were like, okay, this is a way out. It constantly would put us together, but we never saw each other offset because we had our individual relationships and then mine ended and shortly after they his ended and then before you know it, we're dating and I think within within like 24 hours of coming over to his house that first time we were like attached to the hip but never never separated. How long have you been together? Two years now and we have a baby girl and congratulations. How old? She's four months. Oh my god. Oh my god. You guys had a baby four months ago? Yeah's four months. Oh my god. Oh my god. Yeah. She said a baby four months ago. Yeah hurt I know but you can be and like I know but you know I'm like what wow congratulations. What's her name her name? Well, I actually don't tell on

We call it peanut peanut butter. She's probably is a little peanut. I love that. You met her in porn I mean so he gets what you do and you get what he does There's no issues there. Is there a vote like you know it's funny He had never been jealous before and either had I, because I was dating someone else who was male talent and born before him. And we really deal with jealousy. Wow. It's weird.

I stopped doing scenes with other guys because of him. And then I stopped doing scenes with other girls because of him. He got jealous of the girl scenes, too? He got, yeah. And he did. It was more of a, like, ingest thing. Like, he wasn't excited about it. What are you doing scenes with now?

Him. But can he do scenes with other girls? Yeah, it doesn't bother me in the same way. Okay. Some guys just can't, they like, you can't see it. They can't, they can't get out of their mind. I don't know for him. He doesn't have penis in there.

I don't know what to do. For him, it's such work, like I see him. I actually had to make him stop because he kept just canceling scene after scene after scene. I was like, dude, you're going to get a bad reputation. You need to show up if you take the scene. Like, he just sees the scene. Oh my God, I don't love this story. I'm going to say it.

Right, exactly. It's funny that you're cool with it, but a lot of guys do like another penis. I can't have that. So I totally got it. Okay, I've just give a little shout out now to our sponsors. I just want to say that I want to thank everyone for listening to this show, and I love being able to help you have the sex life and relationships you deserve.

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Use coupon code Emily25 for 25% off. That's crazygirlproducts.com. Check it. Hello. Okay. Back to Kaden. I love your story. I love your story about your guy. I love the event on the scene. I love it. It's okay. I love the event I've seen. I love this. Okay. Let's take some other calls here that we've got some people waiting. I'm going to take line one here. We're going to talk to Derek and Pennsylvania. Hey, Derek. No, how are you doing?

Great. Thanks for calling Sex with Emily. You're out with Emily and Caden Cross. What's going on tonight? Well, I had a question. Like, my girlfriend, like, when we have sex, she constantly complains that I last too long, and before I got with her, like, honestly, I didn't think that was, I think that was possible.

I mean, all the other girls I had sex with, they were like, you know, happy that I last as long as I was with her. It's like, how long do you last? Like, I don't know. It's something different, something I've? Like, I don't know. It's something different. Something I've never heard of in my life, though. Well, how long do you last?

Well, on a given day normally, it's an hour and a half, but recently I've been lasting like two hours before I even, you know, even come relatively close. Wow. Okay, yeah. So it sounds like you have a case of delayed ejaculation. Okay. That's what it's called instead of, you know, you've heard a premature ejaculation, this is delayed ejaculation, where it just takes you a lot longer to ejaculate. And it's common.

I mean, it's been this way ever since you started having sex in a course. But none of the other women ever didn't bother them, or they just went for you for two hours. Right? never didn't bother them or it didn't mean they just went for you for two hours. Right. Well, I mean the truth is it's not, I mean, it's not really a problem, it's like, it's common for a lot of men. How about when you masturbate? How long do you last? That's probably, it's probably a little bit shorter, that's probably like 50 minutes. Okay, so you got to like really carve out some time in your day to masturbate.

Yeah. The thing is, what about sheep reforms or all sex on you same thing all or sex i don't come at all okay like it takes days like a woman i would feel bad like right well luckily luckily that one of my girlfriend now he does it by like i'd just simply tell her after like thirty minutes that's good enough because i know it's gonna take a decade but all my other girlfriends they would be

they'd be doing all sexual me for like two hours until i'd be like yeah to the content talk and they'd like to uh... came to be a couple crosses before uh... it's important to go to think if you can't well i mean in in in porn when you when you come across that it's usually because they use in like some sort of medical right in the r actually physiologically aroused, and that's why they're not coming. Right. So, dear, are you on any medication now, or have any health problems? Health issues? No. Okay. And how old are you? I'm 20. Okay.

You know, I have to say, we get calls, I get here from this all the time from people, deleted, I say that, you know, it's people delayed i'd say that you know it's she's but me oh maybe you just have sex with her until she's done and then you can finish off later as a bum you out to stop before you have an orgasm not not really because i know it takes me a lot longer than it takes her i mean i would have like her she

like for instance like a week ago when we had sex um... i mean I work every day so I don't really get the chance to do it because either she's sleeping when I get home because I work overnight. Oh okay. I'm actually at work right now. I'm actually on break. Hope they're not listening. You're like I don't know. I mean she normally when we have sex when I normally go for like an hour until my coca that's good because by that time she comes like

six or seven times and it's like i feel bad because i i i guess i feel back as i can make it quicker right i mean don't be meaning that i can do that there's nothing you can do about the realism you could go talk to your doctor and see if there's anything but but but typically there's just some guys that this is the way it is for them. If you love your girlfriend, you like your Boomerther for a while or a new girlfriend. Yeah, I've been with her for two and a half years now.

Okay. I could see that I could honestly an hour and a half, maybe on the weekends, but all the time an hour and a half could be a long time. As long as you're cool with her having orgasm and stopping and then maybe finishing later on your own or you know you keep going and masturbate by a flashlight. That could help you. That might have become good. You know what I mean? Then you could make sure that you finish yourself off. Well she sits and watch TV and makes dinner or something. No good. No I mean I'm serious. I've heard this before and it can be frustrating for women because we also want you to have your pleasure too

You know one thing I actually have a friend who went through a phase where he just It for him was more like a depression thing and he just wasn't that into sex But one thing he did was he had a plug in his touchy that he'd use on the base Oh, and he went from and to y'all masturbate tonight. Wow Well, that's really a lot of men like the feeling of vibration. Have you ever used any toys? No. On your balls, testicle.

I could feel really good. He used it right on, like, on his day. Oh, he did? He was told it, yeah, and just something about the increased stimulation. That's the way I never heard that. I know that a lot of men like vibration, like, that's why I always tell couples

to use sex toys together, because you think it's just for women, but a lot of guys like it too But that's not a bad idea Derek. You could try a Vibrator sex toy like on your rubbed up and down. Yeah, I mean the Hattachi Magic Wand is a great one It plugs into the wall has more power. It's like the Mac truck of all vibrators. It's actually called the magic wand I'm not Hattachi or There you know it or there's like the vibrating rings maybe a vibrating vibrating penis ring. If you go to goodvibes.com and you can see or just go to my page, section of the M.A.com and click on good vibes, you can see all my favorite toys and you can use coupon code

Emily I believe and you get a discount and it is Emily. But try buying some vibrating rings or something. Also anything that might play with the prostate. I mean, sometimes it's just a matter of finding that thing that relates. Right, that gets you. Have you ever had anything in your bum? No. Is it interesting at all? Probably not. Yet. But it might feel good.

But there's a lot of men who have, it's like the male g-spot. It might feel good. Derek, have you ever tried gay porn? Oh, stop. He's not gay. No, no. I definitely don't swing that way. That's not. That, that, that wouldn't even catch my interest. I get it. Don't listen to the center of the city is the prostate different it's it's just the one more different and no this might your twenty whatever but there are a lot of men who do experience like incredible orgasms from having their prostate

stimulated so your girlfriend i mean i don't know i mean i know the prostate you know does play a big role in everything but um... being that they just made it legal in my state for gay marriages that just kind of, you know, kind of makes you nervous. Okay. Please, me out a little bit. Okay, I got it, but they're not going to rest you, but I get it.

You can just go buy a toy and play around with it and explain to your girlfriend that you understand. And if you want to go to your doctor and talk to him, but I don't think there's anything wrong with you, but just try some other things. Like if you, if you do watch porn, is there anything important that gets you there? Maybe you could kind of bring some of that into your sex life, some of whatever it is that turns you on,

that really gets you there. But I would just say you have to make in sessions with her and say, okay, I'll go for half hour. Cause maybe sometimes an hour, but sometimes like you can't go for an hour and half, right? Is a woman that can hurt you? Yeah, once you basically have hit that number of orgasms,

your body's gonna have your chirozal spots. Yeah. Yeah, once you basically have hit that number of orgasms, your body's going to have your chalice keep on. Yeah. So I think you just kind of got to compromise here. And in your guy's personal opinion, does it hurt to go longer? It does. Once your body stops being aroused, it does hurt.

It does hurt. Because you dry up. Yeah. I mean, there's lots of lube. Hopefully you use lube. But I think that you should definitely, I mean, that will help her if you keep adding, even if she's wet, it helps to add loop to the situation.

But yeah, it does hurt. She's not lying to you. It can hurt after a while when we're done, we fed our orgasm, we're like, we're done. We're out. You know, it isn't your orgasm and you want to like roll over and go to sleep. So yeah, but I think you're okay, Derek. Just talk to her about it. Say you called in and it's cool, it's normal and then you just go with her sometimes. Maybe once a week, you'll go longer. So I think you'll be okay, Derek. Just talk to about it. Say you called in and it's cool It's normal and then you just go with her sometimes maybe once a week you'll go longer

So I think you'll be okay, Derek. You're totally fine. It's okay. Okay. Have a great night. Thanks for calling Some guys come too quick some guys can't because they are hard along enough the whole thing I'm sure you've seen this so do you fight like that a lot of men in porn are they do they take stuff? Some do I mean that if you think about it You're talking about a situation where you're surrounded by like 15 other dudes and you're expected to be like really turned on by the one chicken in the room. So yeah, some do.

And also just with what's expected, they have to do this, the stills, and you have to be in your weird position on like your marble staircase with like a bale of hay or then it goes down for so long. 100 degrees. Right. So you used turned off. It's really works against you. And so guys, I'll pop Seattle's or Viagra or something.

Yeah. Why not? Can you go in? So what have you learned? How long have you been in porn now? I started in 2006, the end of 2016. OK, so what do you think you've learned about your own sexual out there sex?

How's your sex life expanded in these years? Oh God. Well, first of all, you've always been sexual, you said. So I was on sex. I think I was actually crazy before porn. Yeah, it's like I got into porn. I was like, I got to be corporate now. No, that's a funny.

That's ironic. God, there were just some situations that I think I would have been absolutely against just based on the description of what they were. And then the moment when I tried them in adult either because the other person brought it in to keep himself going or because it was written in for whatever reasons, whatever reason if it came up and I tried it a lot of things actually were fun even if it was just that one time with that person. Like what?

Giving example. For example, I don't really give a flying shit about feet. Like feet. That's a feat to me. They are part of the body. Like go on the end of your legs. I don't care. But there was this one performer who had a major foot fetish.

And I remember I'm doing a scene with him once I'm wearing fishnet stockings. And he takes my whole foot in his mouth. And he's like all over my feet. And I'm like, it's good. When he's going for it, I'm like, oh, this must look good on camera. And then he gets in. I'm like, oh, OK, OK.

It feels good, right? It's another Russian zone, if they catch you. Yeah. It's a big city. Yeah. And then there was another situation where we were doing this giant big budget movie for Adam and Eve, and they come to me, and they're like, OK, we know you only do your basic boy

girl, whatever. But we really want you to do three guys in the scene all at once. And I'm like, nah, you know, I'm pretty new with this and I kind of want to like spread my career out over a few years. And if I do this now, what do I do next? And we go back and forth and I'm like, okay, listen, you can have two other guys in the room, jogging off. And I will have a standard boy girl theme. And so they're like, okay, cool, we set it up and we go to do the boy girl scene. And then I started, I'm like, watching these guys jack home, this is kind of hot. Oh, yes, you're getting to, okay. And I'm like, okay, this is actually kind of cool. And,

you know, I'm looking around and we're going and I'm like, okay, okay, this is neat. And there was something about just like this adoration for these guys to be just jacking off while you're having exactly right next to you. Right. Right, and one of the guys was a guy that I worked with typically who was jacking off, I just sort of like pulled him into the slap. I was like, you're stuck in the rhythm. Can you improvise? They're what I have in. They're not gonna be like, no, I'm not having sex with you today.

And you pulled him in and then you said, yeah. I'm sure in the back of his mind he's like, that's an extra paycheck. No, like, it's exactly when you do the actual panic. Right, so that's because you were so young more often. Now, what about girl and girl scenes you do those as well? Not anymore. Yeah, yeah. No, actually I think I've been doing a girl girl scene pretty soon. I think I think we've been showing back into that. Okay, we're comfortable with this again. Okay, good.

Yeah, with girls I had actually had I'd had one experience with girl with a girl before that was like a three something and she like kicked my boyfriend out because she decided she didn't like him and it turned out to be a thing. But I remember that particular time. I was like 18, she was someone from the club that I brought home and she was really pretty. And it was one of the things where she was just pretty, but there was nothing more for me. It was more like I just want to try this to see what happens. And I got into it because it was unique, but not because it was into her. It was more just like this is an experience for me My level. This is above my level and I never did it again because I just wasn't into girls

But one thing I learned it's because I like the boy girls. I like the butch girls, right? And you want to be dominated. I want to be dominated. I want to be the girl I want the other girl to be the boy and I want her to look like a boy Act like a boy dress like boy, talk like a boy. And that's so hot to me. So those kinds of scenes that you mostly do? No, no, no, it's not actually you. But you realize that's what turned you on.

That's what I figured out. And so, you know, like that's another thing, I never would have known that without porn. I went to know about feet without porn. If someone just in my personal life, it's like, oh, I'm going to put your foot in my mouth, I would have been like, you weirdo hot-hot. Exactly. But do you feel that so now are you with women then and your own personal life? I do.

You guys have three cell. We are monogamous on my end and monogamous offset on you right now. So no. But I've been with butch women offset more than once. In fact, the most butch women I've been offset because they're not very common in adults. At least not with the kind of shoes I was being booked for. Okay, so now when you're with these butch women are they are they just performing on you or you also performing on that? I know it's both ways. Okay, yeah. But they're just dominating you and

well not even so much the domination just more like they're very male. They're men without the physical. Yeah, yeah, exactly. So do you think it tips for performing oral sex on a woman that you think people treat it like a tiny penis and vice versa for performing oral treat it like a giant clit? One thing I'm proud of is I remember the first like gold stars. Is she doing anything to you? No, the first like gold star lesbian I got to hook up with off camera.

I remember I was like super into this one. And it finally gets to that. And I think she like she knew that I'd never really been with a full on lesbian ever. Right. And I think she assumed that I was just a performer. I did it for the camera. I didn't actually know what I was doing.

And I finally talked, I'm like, no, no, let me go down on you now. And I remember I got her in like 30 seconds. No way. What did you do? So, okay. Yes, what I'm asking for now is a bit. now. And I remember I got her in like 30 seconds. No way. And I, what did you do? So, okay. Just what I'm asking for. No, these are the tips.

I wish this was like a visual thing. Okay, so imagine, take your index finger and point it at yourself, okay? Okay, you put, it curl your tongue. Oh, I hate. So the tongue is under your index finger just a little bit. And then you, okay, a a circle so your upper lip is on it and then you suck into a fluttering motion with your tongue on the clitoris.

Oh wow. Yeah as you create a suction. You gotta do a video. You gotta do a video about it every time. We're doing a video. And I learned that actually from male talent who knew how to do it. So wait me. So your clitoris is in your mouth and you're fluttering at the bottom.

Okay everyone check out my website for the video this. Okay. Give me your finger. do it who do it. So wait me. So your clitoris is in your and your fluttering at the butterfly. Okay everyone check out my website for the video this okay. Here give me your finger. Oh she's gonna do it. Oh yeah that feels good. I'm the only man in the world that gets to enjoy this. Yeah I want you to get the session going. It works. That's really cool but you can't start with that right. You can. You can just start with that. Yeah you can like you can like. Obviously you want to be like already pretty aroused to start with but i have a second she like damn bro i've got to meet when i haven't been a rouse i get very quickly like the feelings immediate the sensations there

so i don't think a butterfly it's like a fluttery okay we're gonna show video because i can't even explain that felt good on my finger so i can only imagine it's amazing yeah i need to i. I need to learn this from mail talent. I know what they're doing. Everyone's coming to the window now to look at what's happening. That is great. Then you must have a great deal. And the other thing, we'll hear you say the thing you are.

We'll also hear. Oh, a little teeth. Yeah, you kind of like sprays the teeth back and forth too. Yeah, I like that. Could you do it again for camera? Can you be getting this? Yeah, camera is here. That feels good. That feels good. That feels good. That feels good. That feels good. That feels good. That feels good. That feels good. That feels good. That feels good.

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That feels good. That feels good. That feels good. That feels good. OK, wow. So what about your blowjob tips? Because you must have those two. Blowjob tips. God, the biggest thing, and men do this, it's both ways. People start doing oral, and they'll maybe hit the right cord, and then they'll change their tempo. So blowjob, you're building and building, but just slowly increase your rhythm without changing the tempo or changing the technique. Because once the technique hits the cord, you're just riding rhythm without changing the tempo or changing the technique

because once the technique hits the chord, you're just riding the wave to the end. Okay. And your rhythm stays the same. Your rhythm for the most part, don't change what you're doing just very, ever so slowly increase it. And you can feel for most, every guy's different, but in my experience, a lot of guys they'll swell the slightest bit when they're close to coming or you'll feel them flexing, you'll hear the breathing change, you slightest bit when they're close to coming or you'll feel them flexing You'll hear the breathing change you can tell when they're gonna come right and and when they start doing that That's when you increase it just a little bit. Um, another thing I've found is You want to have something going over the head whether it's your tongue your upper lid at all times

We'll just in the motion something needs to come up over the head. That's where the sensitivity is. And it needs to somehow be, the head needs to touch something. The problem with a lot of blow jobs is you create this balloon where there's the lip, there's the mouth that's wrapped around it, but then there's like this hole that's covered inside your mouth and the head's not touching anything. So you could use your tongue now so it's in the head's the sense of spot. That's what you need to hit. And that's a big one.

I mean, obviously, I wanted to be as wet as possible. Right, always as wet. Sometimes I'm like, I'm out there. And I get to take water, like, yeah. I'm out like a good, like I see porn, so there was like safe, so much saliva. Well, they push it way down. You get back.

They do that deep-roating. Yeah. All the saliva's in the back. So that's where you get it from. You got a deep throat to get this saliva. But the thing with deep throat. Do you use fake blood, do you use fake blood? Do you use fake saliva, I'm pornivers in the back. So that's where you get a deep throat to get this this live But the thing with deep throats fake with these fake blood do you use fake saliva important? No I'm just like how the hell do you get that much saliva? Yeah, no thing with deep throating that I think a lot of people do

They see these porn movies like oh, that's how you do it shark attack But it is a shark attack. There's teeth, you know It's a lot of dicks just don't smoothly fits right down this road and girls are like just like plumb They'll just like fall down on the dick and it hits all these other things in the way in and I think that's really painful for a lot of guys But because of the visual of it. They're like, oh put up or they don't want to lose the blowjob by complaining Right, I got it. Those are good tips. What about the balls the balls? If you're gonna do something with the balls? The balls. If you're going to do something with the balls, it's like the lightest touch. I like to spread my five fingers, like if you're going to dribble a basketball, and you bring

them in the lightest touch. Yeah. And you just like repeatedly, if you do this underneath. But really what I do is I like to go for like just the out-whole, the butt hole, the other side. Right. Because don't you find that a lot of our sort of to go You know like you go in going around they like that I in my experience better than the balls. Wow. Yeah, cuz not every guy like I have like a

Post-traumatic balls disorder syndrome once not the sort of I think I like touch you guys balls too hard Or I can't and then I never touch them for years and I think that's the place where the most variety I bought in my space down like like yeah like most guys are like I like this harder and then I never touched them for years. I think that's the place where the most variety happens. I bought it and I spaced out in the question. Yeah, like most guys are like, I like this, I don't like this. When it comes to balls, you get every piece of the spectrum. I met guys who want you to like stab them with high heels. And I met guys who are like, if you so much as like touch a feather to them, I'll hit you.

Exactly. Like that's how different guys are with balls. No, I got it. Those are all great tips. I guess we should take Steve from Michigan who's how different guys are with us. No, I got it. Those are all great tips. I guess we should take Steve from Michigan who's been holding for a long time and he's from my home state. Hey, Steve. Hey, I'm only oh my gosh, between hearing your voice on the podcast and what you guys are talking about now, barely containing myself. Thank you so much. You answered my email last week. I felt like a rock star about the colon

fleeting with us. Yeah, it's good. I'm so glad. Do you want speaker? Can you get off speaker? You think? No, I'm not on speaker. Can you put some, can you put some furniture in your house before you call? No, you're just echoing, but I'm glad I answered your question last week. So, so what, what can we have you with tonight? I'm at work, I'm actually going outside right now. Are you in Michigan? Yes, I am. You know that I'm from Michigan. Yes, you're home town.

That's it, I love it, my home state. Okay, yes, so what's, how about tonight? How can we help you? Tonight, you got on the subject with Chanel about Douches and the chemicals that were in them. Right. I'm talking about keeping the coal in clean,... but for the girls now i like to please them uh... what other than the do you should they use for cleaning if the chemicals are no good you can't get me

and a couple of the com it is all for getting i'm gonna give the best tip i have ever discovered in history of good tips all right and it's gonna sound weird and it's actually sort of hard to deal with it first. Okay, first of all, Dush's you're washing out good bacteria, you're messing up the balance and the really vaginas don't need to be clean, they self-clean. But when they're doing a lot of things and maybe having a lot of sex, they can sometimes get tipped out of whack. Now that becomes a pH balance. The thing that fixes pH every time within four hours is mixing baking soda with water and drinking it.

That's all you have to do. I swear by it. And women mix baking soda with water. I've met one how much baking soda. Used infections, bacteria, all that stuff, you're back to normal. Really? After just drinking after how long?

Within four hours. Wow. No matter what. I can clear anything. And then you go in the bathroom and it's all out. It doesn't matter. Wow. Yeah, guys and girls.

I knew a guy who, because he was male talent, he used to always get like little yeast infections on the antivistic, he would drink baking soda and water and it would fix it like that. Wow. And it's not even just for genitalia. If you have like a pH imbalance that creates any sort of problems with your skin. Wow. Anything baking soda mixed with water, drink it, it naturally rebalances you.

Sleeve. Suffle water, a cup of water, how much baking soda, teaspoon? Um, like a half a tablespoon of baking soda in- in just like the bottom. I drink as little water as possible because I just want to get it a little- Yeah exactly. It's gross. It's like drinking salt water to discuss it. Can I ask you to get it? No, probably not. Oh, this sugar is bad.

No, but it's disgusting. But it works. But it works. It goes. It's just a shot of baking soda and water. Gotcha. Thank you. And your candles are amazing.

Just you know. You got a candle. You got an Emily and Tony candle. Oh, heck yeah, babe. Oh my gosh. They amplified my life. You wouldn't have- Okay, tell me why. Tell me how. I want to hear the story real quick about how you use the candle.

The best way I found the seduce, the girl is a massage, okay? And the candle's just heightened it. I can give a great massage, but now the candles with the scent and the way the bees wax feel. Oh my gosh, the girls are all asking, what is that? You know, they're like, now? They're like, now? They're like, now? And then when they feel they feel they go oh that's amazing it's warm it's oil it's not a waxy that's okay oh my god I love to hear that so the women do freak I just got an email from someone who's like you saved my sex life with these candles so I'm so glad to hear it you're gonna say but you actually you took it up to the next level or a level above that oh Steve you're like my

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Because I need a new car. Okay, let's talk. You know me again tomorrow. Bye. So I have one for you. I have a candle line called, that's, oh, so I have one for you. I have a candle line called that massage candles. I brought one for you. Oh, Emily and Tony dot com. You just keep on code Emily and you get 20% off. But people have heard me talk about that. I'm going to take this home and he's going to be like, you're going to have to get any massages. It's going to turn into just massage. He can give you one, but they, they, you know,

massage candles, right? It's warm oil and it's alvegan. Oh, it's awesome. Yeah, they have a room of therapy. You'll like it. I brought you a present. Okay, we have a few minutes left. And I'm trying to think, there's, okay, so do anything coming up that you, people can find you. Well, there's the scene obviously that I'm very excited about.

What is it now? Is it my first scene? It's my first scene back since having, since being off for all those months. Yeah, it's, I, so I'm sure it'll be great anyway It was you know it was for him. It was for him. He shot it. You know it was our little concept I mean it's not like super conceptual. It's in our bedroom But it's a great scene what what what we did was um He has a series called Manuel Ferrara raw and basically all he does is

Create what looks like private sex tapes and release them and whatever. And so he decided to do Evalenal Raw. So it's just private sex tapes that are anal. And so he comes to me and is like, okay, I know you want to do a scene, you want to be back in the game, I was like, I want to be back in the game. And so he brings in, he has his own sex toys, his multiple cock, and he brings in his own sex toy. And he gives it to me and he's like,

we're gonna use my sex toy and my dick on you now. Wow. I'm like, okay, let me just get ready for that. Right, right. So he used, okay, got it, so you've like double penetration. Well, yeah, I mean, there's really not like a ton of room for all of that, but we need, he's a large penis.

He's a pretty big dick. How big, how big? God, like I can't wrap my hand around it and that's already pretty big. He's got the girth and length. He's got girth and length, yeah. And he's hot and he's so hot and he's French. There's his accent. But he's half Spanish, so there's like this moodyness.

Oh my God, I love it. I love your life. He's a good package. And then a porn star, I'm really angry at every time. Okay, so people can find you club, Caden, K-A-Y-D-E-N, and then your Twitter is at Kaden underscore cross. And go buy her flashlight. Yeah, it's pretty wonderful.

And you really know what it's like because to have sex, I feel like she's stuck on my finger. I feel like we got kind of close, but that's actually what you're gonna love. So thank you so much for joining me on this show. Thanks for having me. You've been great having you.

And Anderson, what's up with you? What's up with your podcast this week? The film vault. Yeah, I can't remember what we just did one, too. I can't remember what the topic was. It's always happened. Does everyone loves it? So just check out the film vault.

It was a good show this week, too. Damn it. Well, thanks Anderson for being here as always. Top five races. Or was that last week? Top five races. Oh, we did top five streaming now. You can watch on Instant Stream on Netflix.

So you don't have to go out to the movies. You can stay at home. Oh, I love it. Thanks, Erson. Thanks everyone for listening. Thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? email me.

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