Sex With Emily - Sex, Love & Gwyneth Paltrow

Episode Date: October 23, 2021

You know Gwyneth Paltrow: actor, CEO of goop, bestselling cookbook author, and cultural conversation starter. But now, Gwyneth’s got a new show on Netflix called “Sex, Love & Goop,” where she hopes to spark another conversation: how couples can save their sex lives, through touch, communication, and giving themselves permission to talk about sex in the first place.Click Here to Subscribe.In this show, I talk to Gwyneth about the healing modalities you see in the series, like sexological bodywork and vulva mapping, as well as the women who crave a different dynamic with their husbands. Gwyneth also tells me how she prioritizes her pleasure, why goop created a beautiful, “sculpture-like” vibrator, why she believes menopause needs to be rebranded, and how nutrition healed her hormones after Covid quarantine. Gwyneth’s accomplished a lot in this life - now, she wants to conquer a taboo, by making sex talks more mainstream. And on my show, that’s exactly what I like to hear.For more information about Gwyneth Paltrow, click below:goop.comFacebookInstagramTwitterFor more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below:WomanessWe-Vibe BondGood Vibrations: Your Trusted Source For Quality Toys And AccessoriesMagic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The ways that I nourish my well-being, I'm very sensual. I love to take a bath. I love beautiful bath oils and salts. I love massage. And as far as the sexual aspect, I'm like, have this interesting thing where I'm basically a newlywed in my late 40s. So I've been given this amazing new lease on life in that way, which has been incredible and I'm really grateful for that.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. You know Gweneth Peltro, famous actress, CEO of Goop, bestselling cookbook author, and cultural conversation starter. But now Gwyneth's got a new show in Netflix called Sex, Love and Goop, where she hopes to spark another conversation, how couples can save their sex lives through touch, communication, and giving themselves permission to talk about sex in the first place.

And today's show I talked to Gwyneth about the healing modalities you see in the series like, sexological bodywork, and vulva mapping, as well as the women who crave a different dynamic with their husbands. Gwyneth also tells me how she prioritizes her pleasure, why a group created a beautiful sculpture-like vibrator, why she believes menopause needs to be rebranded and how nutrition healed her hormones after COVID quarantine. Quenna's accomplished a lot in this life

and now she wants to conquer a taboo, making sex more mainstream. And in my show, that's exactly what I like to hear. All right, intentions with Emily for each episode join me in setting in intention, I do it and I encourage you all to do the same. Well, my intention was to have you just really know about some resources

where you could see and learn more about alternative healing modalities and hear about a new show that's going to open your eyes to a lot of these practices. Please rate and review sex with Emily wherever you listen to this show. I have a new article asked Emily, how do we have good sex after the honeymoon period?

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Academy Award-winning actress, you know her as author for bestselling cookbooks and of course, you know her as a founder and CEO of Global Lifestyle Company Goop. But what you may not know is that she's a new television series focused on real couples each navigating sex and relationship challenges. As we follow along and their authentic honest journeys, it's called Sex Love and Goop and it's out now on Netflix. Fine Guinephite also social media at Guineph Peltro where you can find her also at Goop. Hi! Hi! How are you? I'm good, how are you? I'm good, how are you?

I'm good. It's nice to meet you. Nice to meet you too. I think about you, I think of you as this translator, and you're digging through all these unconventional healing modalities, and trying to find what works, and recommending it to everybody. And one of the ways you do that is through your new show on Netflix, Sex, Love, and Goop, which I like binge in the last two days. And this time, you took on

sexual healing. Like, tell me about that decision to go into that realm and really show it on. So our first Netflix series, we had a show, it was more of an anthology. And it was, we had one episode called The Pleasure is Hours. It was about female sexual pleasure, essentially. And the reason that I wanted to do that was because being Gen X girl and growing up in the culture, the way that I did, I felt like there was so much shame that was still permeating culture around women having pleasure and that pleasure for women was somehow unacceptable or retening or people draw bad conclusions about a woman. And I thought the way that female pleasure is portrayed in the culture is so fake.

And you see women who are so far away from their own essence and what they really want and what really feels good and it's all performative. Or like even growing up, we were supposed to be the cool girl who was cool with whatever. We never said, hey, that actually doesn't feel good. Or, right? Like, we were having that permission. Mm-hmm. Never gave ourselves that permission. And then we got such a reaction to that first show that I thought, wow, this is like a real lightning rod. Like, people, this means that people are really unexplored here in this way, because it's triggering in both positive reactions and negative reactions.

And I thought I would love to dig more deeply into this topic and broaden it out a little bit because our sexuality or our lives with our intimate partner, that slice of our life is such a microcosm for everything else. And if we're disconnected from ourselves, like it's gonna come out readily in a sexual dynamic, whereas in real life, you can sort of white knuckle through something or like convince yourself otherwise, but if you're with someone, it's gonna come up. And I thought, gosh, you know, sexual wellness

is a really important pillar of overall wellness and nobody talks about this. I mean, what you do, but, you know. Yeah, I would love that you do through the sexual healing and sexual body work is that it's the kind of thing where, yeah, I would talk about it because I thought, you know, I'd often said, look between your legs, take a look.

They'll go, yeah, I'll do that. Like, when I get home, I get after I been, you know, whatever, Netflix eats dinner. But to actually see the women sitting there like legs up, like here's, and to actually watch their faces and I think it's got such a great impact on people watching to think, oh, I've actually never done that. And now I can see what that does. It was powerful. Have you ever practiced any of it or did you ever have any other any sexual logical bodywork practices on yourself?

I'm not, but I would actually really like to try it, I think. When I watched the show, I thought, oh my gosh, this particular person who's having hands-on, sex, logical bodywork, I thought, oh my gosh, she's really unlocking something. You're just going to get a big reaction from this. Are you ready for it? Oh yeah, we're always ready for a big reaction. That's what it's part for the course. I think that it's going to be powerful. What I also love is that it was able to shift the relationship dynamic between couples that they were able to come in. The couples, I think it was Rama and what was it? It's a task.

So what I thought was so interesting, there's this wife, right? And she felt that he, in their dynamic, which was no longer hot, that he was like the third child. Right. And she just wanted to take charge. And you saw that moment on screen

where they shifted that energy. It was cool. But there's so many resident moments like that. Like, I think there are, for example, a lot of mothers out there who feel exhausted over burden. And I have a friend who said we were talking about this show. And she was like, sometimes I feel like sex is just another thing on my to-do list

that I have to get done. And so I was like, but we're alive. It's one time. Like, we really should be, first of all, if that's the case, like, you should be honest with yourself and not do it. Or, figure out the way that you can really like get back to that side of yourself. If you want to, what are the ways that we as women can get back into that, What are the ways that we as women can get back into that, like the softer kind of mammal of the side of our bodies as a, you know, and it's where we're really in touch with who we are and one more.

We're framing sex more as self-care these days. We should, pleasure, should be self-care, but there's so much guilt around it. And I don't deserve it. I shouldn't masturbate. I shouldn't. But we do have to prioritize it. So I'm wondering from you, how do you just nourish your own well-being? Funny. The ways that I nourish my well-being, I'm very sensual.

I love to take a bath. I love beautiful bath oils and salts. I love massage. As far as the sexual aspect, I'm like have this interesting thing where I'm basically a newlywed in my late 40s. So I have a very different experience of my sexuality right now because I've been given

this amazing new lease on life in that way, which has been incredible. And I'm really grateful for that. Yeah. This morning, I just have to show that this is a beautiful toy that came in the mail for me. And I love this. This is a warming vibe. Yeah. Warming like a spot vibrator.

So there was a time when we get, we probably still do. We get 20 pounds of toys sent to my office when I started out it was just me testing them all I'm like my vagina can't be the arbiter of what is a good vibrator. And then my whole team got to try out toys. What about you like what was the process for going about creating how do you know what to create like what do you like? Yeah how did it happen? We are very close to our customer at Goog and very close to each other as women in an office. And so it was really fascinating

to have these series of conversations. And the reason I wanted to make a vibrator in the first place, then we have, how's our second one, but we have a, the first one is like a double-sided wand that looks like an ice cream cone. I like the idea that we could make a sex toy and really challenge this idea that sex toys

are somehow dirty or should be hidden or something to be ashamed about. So we made this like beautiful vibrator. It looks like a little sculpture, it looks like a pop art ice cream cone, really. And the idea was, it's a fantastic vibrator and it has 64 different settings and all this kind of great stuff.

But you could leave it on your counter. You could, it wasn't like, sex shop, kind of how you picture a vibrator. Like one of my best friends said, thank you so much for making a vibrator that doesn't look like a penis with veins in it and stuff like that. That's like embarrassing to leave on your counter, like your kid box and something like that. And so it was really just about breaking a paradigm and trying to

with imagery introduce this idea into the culture that like it's not embarrassing to masturbate, it's not embarrassing to have a vibrator. And it's funny because there are girls who work here that are so like vibrator fanatics. And so they're like my main focus group, you know, they want full approval over what it's going to be and how it's going to work. Okay, it's important. And everyone's different too what they want. So you have a whole testing team there. And I love all the products they want. So you have a whole testing team there. And I love all the products. Be right back with more for my interview with Thwinnah Peltrow.

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So, what if your kids walk in and solve vibrator vibrator like how are you talking to them about sex now? You know, my generation, I had zero sex ed. Like I didn't know what masturbation was and orgasm till I was like 25. Did you have any of that sex ed or? I didn't have any sex ed. Not at all. So it's very different now. Like my kids had a really, really comprehensive sex ed in sixth grade.

There was a fantastic pediatrician mom at our school and he gave them like a hardcore sex ed talk, which was awesome. She told them everything. And no, I think that it's maybe a universal truth that kids don't wanna talk about sex with their moms or their dads. I still don't, I adore my mom. I still don't really wanna talk about sex with my mom, you know? And I can tell you, like my son freaks out if I have a broad strap showing. So I can tell you, like, he did not want me to talk about.

Okay. So what I try to do is just engage with them if they want to talk about anything. I'm there. They know, obviously, that their mom is a bit of an icon of class. And my son, he was really sweet a few months ago. He was like, he said he used to kind of embarrass me

that he sold vibrators and vagina things. And kids would say stuff at school. But he's like, now I get it. Like you're a feminist and you're helping women and it was really sweet. So I think it probably does make him a little uncomfortable on some level, but he also gets it big picture. He's an old soul for a 15 year old boy.

Mm, I love to hear that. I think it is changing right now. And so what has surprised you right now by like your sexuality at this point in life? Yeah. Well, you know, it's been, it's so interesting because it's gone through so many ebbs and flows

and it's been dependent as well on my partners and what our chemistry has been like or relationship like how non-judgmental is it, how full of trust is it. I think for me anyway, and a lot of my women friends, it's been dependent on the man, which is kind of what you touched on earlier, not so much always from a place of like,

it's about his pleasure only, but just in terms of like, I never asked for anything. Like I never said, hey, how about tonight, if you, I would love it if you did, but like, I never would say anything like that. I never, and I still frankly have a hard time with asking for what I want. Luckily, my husband, he plays me like a violin at this point, but it's been really interesting over the

years to reflect back on my sexuality and know and understand like, oh, wow, I was really far away from myself then, or I was in a relationship where I didn't feel like I could be wholly myself sexually. And the accountability that you have to have, right? Because it's also like, if I didn't say anything, then how did I, how could I expect to have a really fulfilling, sexual relationship? And I was so conditioned never to ask for,

and you know, you just weren't for a condition, right? So, and then as I said, it's still hard for me, but I think what's been amazing for me is really my husband is such a nonjudgmental person. And he's so curious. And nothing is weird to him, whether it's sexual or anything. He's just so nonjudgmental. And so I think when you have the safety of that, that you can really be free to be who

you are, then there's this incredible blooming that happens. And I feel lucky that I'm in that chapter right now. And I really credit my partner because I'm still not all the still not like all the way strong in that way, you know? No, it's hard. It's, yeah, I hear what you're saying, but that's really, you're right. A lot of it is being with a partner that you can that accepts you as you are, where you're at, and is willing to go on the journey with you. Because it is all about journey and exploration. And yeah, and that's what I want for a lot of younger women now, but I still think that they're still in that performative. I've got to do what I'm seeing and porn and all that, but I do think there is a confidence that comes and fighting those partners that are healthy

and are cool with, with, yeah, just exploring and packing, which is what I also liked about your show was that you really saw these couples that they really went on these deep journeys together where they were exploring and opening up and they were open and you can see that so much about sex isn't just about compatibility, like sexual compatibility.

It's more like we have to work if there's tweaks, like there's things that you gotta figure out with your partner. So did this for you, was there anything that you, it opened up for you or that you wanted to explore or maybe share with to explore or maybe share with your friends or your daughter or your son? Natalie Boudolet.

I think, for me, again, like I just touched on this before, but what I learned the most from it was the importance of accountability and the importance of not expecting someone to read your mind or for things to be magically perfect or symbiotic in a sexual relationship and like the importance of being who you are and speaking from that incredibly true place. And I have so many friends who cannot do that or they think it'll rock the boat of their long marriage or it will, you the boat of their long marriage. Or it will, you know, turn their boyfriend off. And I think when we sublimate ourselves like that,

I honestly believe you, we put ourselves in a position of like to create, to create like those fractures where we're, we can't, we're not fully integrated because we're not, if you're not fully integrated in your sexuality, how can you be, how else is that showing up in your life and where else is that showing up? Yeah, I think it's, I think that's true. You're so right. It's such a lifelong challenge too because people think, well, I'm working on wellness everywhere in my life, I exercise and I eat well and I my spiritual life is in check.

But then sex has always sort of been this bastard child of the, of this, of the violence industry. They're like, oh, but sex we can't talk about. But when you bring it under that umbrella, you realize that if you're not sexually well, it's going to impact all these other areas of your life. And so how do you think this could possibly, I think it will shift the public discourse around women and aging and menopause and all those things. How are you looking to get into that conversation right now? I really hope so. That's the other thing.

It's like we always like to go into those areas where it's still hidden or covert or embarrassing or shameful to talk about. I mean, Perry Menopause is very much one of those areas where it's still couldn't or covert or embarrassing or shameful to talk about. I mean, Carrie Menopause is very much one of those areas. Like, I think this is something we've been talking about a lot recently because I really think that, and I say this all the time, but I think Menopause needs to be totally rebranded. It has this incredible gateway to this exceptionally deep, wise chapter of your life where your sexuality becomes something else. I want to know, I want a mentor.

We need women to take our hand and help us cross over and have it be something that's... that we're looking forward to as opposed to this is the end of our lives. And I've heard women say, the best sex of their lives after menopause. And I had never heard that before. This is just recently, because I've been asking people. And then I have one woman who I'm really close to that's just like, it's not the same, it's not the same. And I wish I could talk to somebody about it to get a road map to.

And I was like, you should. You know, this is what I mean about. People can be accountable, but also we need rubrics to follow. Like, we need people to talk to. We need women to share what their experience has been, whether it's with their sexual journey, their hormonal journey, post babies, or postmenopause. And so my hope is that with this show,

and then the ensuing conversations, like the one you and I are having right now, is that it just gives people permission to have those conversations in their own lives, with their own friends, with their own partners, gay, straight, you know, married, and it's a couple for however many years, like whatever the permutation is, that people are like, oh, maybe we should have this conversation. I've never asked you this question before, you know? Yeah, no, you're so right. I love what you're saying about. We need someone to pull us along,

but yet it have to population goes through this. Paramedicos, menopause, it could last 12 years for some. And it's weird that we don't, that there is anybody, because we know our parents went through it. And so then women have to all like, we're told that our life is over and our sexual life is over.

Right. And I'll think this is what's happening. And I don't think it is, you know? I know it's not. But give me hope. After the break, I ask you in by five quicky questions that you're gonna love our answers. If you've been listening to my show, you know how important it is to invest in your sexual

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I was really went crazy with the you you know, junk food, alcohol, like that, you know, chocolate cake and, um, and I've really have taken this year to go deep into gut health and it's been amazing for my hormone balance. Like, and I've been tracking it with blood labs and stuff and tracking my progesterone estrogen and all of those things. And as I've let my gut heal and find rebalance, my hormones have been rebalancing. So that's been super interesting.

Like this idea, you know, if you're eating whole foods, clean foods, not a lot of processed foods or none, you know, and this year I've really limited like sugar, dairy, or I've totally eliminated, really limited alcohol, all grains, kind of in an effort to do this God-health experiment, and it's been incredible. Like my hormones have really, they've really evened out.

It's wild. I mean, I just had a, I was talking to my gynecologist the other day and I had a my lab done and she was like, oh my god, your hormones, like your levels are amazing. You've like levels of somebody much younger. And I hadn't before I started, um, okay. So go ahead. Yeah, I don't know. I like herbs and adaptogens and stuff for hormone support too. We have this amazing supplement packet called Madam Overy at Goop. It's so good.

It's very, that's what I take. It's really for hot flashes and stuff. It just supports mood stuff and hormonal fluctuations. Wow. Love it. That works. So Madam Overy, I love the naming, DTF. How did this, did you feel DTF after everyone took it on your, like, testing this kind of

supplement? Oh, yeah. You took it a few minutes before set? Well, you're supposed to take it daily because it works cumulatively. Right. But I also think it does help even if you just take it, you know, like an hour or so before. Like it's got this, um, venue Greek in it that's clinically shown to boost women's libido.

It has great adaptogens for mood and stress and it's really good. I really love it. Okay, good. I'm going to ask you the five questions. We have quicky questions that we ask all of our guests. They're super quick. Great.

We have an overthink. What is your biggest turn on? My husband's lips. Biggest turn off. Interrupting. Like when people interrupt, when they're talking or interrupt other people, when they're talking.

What makes good sex? Relaxation, openness, and freedom. Something you tell your younger self about sex and relationships. Know yourself first and listen to yourself first. What's a never one thing you wish everyone knew about sex? That as long as it's consensual, anything's possible, don't shame yourself

for what you like or what turns you on. I love it. Thank you so much. One more question about your show. What do you think is going to be, the result of the world seeing your show? What's your hopes for this for sex, let me get it. I don't know. I just hope that people,

I hope that people take away that there are tools to get closer to your partner, to get closer sexually to your partner, to have those harder conversations. Like, I think we use amazing couples in the show, go by example what it looks like, to be vulnerable and brave in the name of, you know, connection and your intimate relationship.

And I really hope that people watch it and start to have conversations that bring them closer to each other. I think they will. Thank you for being here. Thank you so much. That's it for today's episode, See you on Tuesday.

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