Sex With Emily - Sex Positions Made Easy

Episode Date: November 3, 2021

Sex is play, but certain sex positions feel more like work, right? Whether it’s reverse cowgirl or 69, you might feel a bit awkward...you don’t exactly know what you’re doing...you’re trying not to throw your back out. But that doesn’t mean you have to keep doing the same, safe positions over and over again!That’s why today’s show is all about helping you experiment, and making the most challenging positions feel smooth and easy -- no physics degree required. Learn how to make reverse cowgirl less confusing and more sexy, how to execute the Kivin Method on a vulva owner, how to 69 without feeling like you’re multitasking, and how to have steamy, sexy shower sex without breaking anything. Plus: we reveal the most-searched sex positions by U.S. state! Pennsylvanians love their oral, and those Texans are pretty dexterous, y’all.Show Notes:Episode: The “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr. Evan GoldsteinTry our free Pleasure PlannerEpisode: Sex Goals For The WinArticle: How to Master These Awkward Sex PositionsArticle: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin MethodJe Joue Mimi Ditto Anal Plug Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

But it is important though, you're the partner on top. The receiving partners are not controlling the rhythm. Like that's why reverse cowgirl can feel so do. So fresh. You're in charge if you're on top. That's the fun part is that you are free here to move about the cabin. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around

sex. Sex is play, but certain sex positions feel more like work, right? Whether it's reverse cowgirl or 69, you might feel a bit awkward. You know, you don't know exactly what you're doing. You don't want to throw your back out, but that doesn't mean you have to keep doing the same safe positions over and over and over again. Well, that's why today's show is all about helping you

experiment and making the most challenging positions feel smooth and easy, no physics degree required. Learn how to make reverse cowgirl less confusing and more sexy, how to execute the Kivin method on a vulva owner. How to 69 without feeling like you're multitasking. And how to have sweaty sexy shower sex without breaking anything. Plus, we reveal the most searched sex positions by US state.

Pennsylvania's love their oral, and those Texans are pretty dexterious y'all. Intentions with Emily. For each episode, join me in setting an intention for the show. So when you're listening, what do you wanna get out of this episode? Well, my intention is to simply simplify these sect physicians and your common questions about them,

so you can try it next time with your partner and find that variety that so many of us crave in our relationships. Please rate, interview, sex with Emily wherever you listen. My new article Ask Emily, how do I deal with anxiety during sex? Is up at sexwithemily.com and also check out my YouTube channel for more sex tips and advice. If you want to ask me a question, call my hatline 559 Talk Sex

or 559 825 5739 or message me at sexwithemily.com. slash Ask Emily. Alright everyone, enjoy this episode. I have a great show for you today because a lot of you emails about sex positions. You want to know how to do them, how to troubleshoot positions, how to mix up the positions that you've been doing over and over and over again. So I'm here to help. I'm just going to give you some advice on how you can master even the most challenging

and fun positions. Because let's be honest, no one wants to be too challenging. We're always going to make it fun for you. We're going to make it sexy and I make it pleasurable. And even if there's some positions that are intimidating to try, you've just been nervous to try a new one. I'm going to give you some confidence so you can rock all of them. So I started by looking at the most frequently searched sex position trends. What do you think is the most popular searched position? It's reverse cowgirl.

A lot of you searching reverse cowgirl and asking me about reverse cowgirl. So when you look at it by state, because we can also see who's searching by state, we all know what you're all googling here, by state. California's are most interested in cliff diver, which we'll get into. And in Texas, they prefer the pretzel position. I asked you guys on social how I could help you. Like, what do you want to know in this episode? We asked on Instagram. This is my favorite responses. Reverse cow girl. Another part, one of you said, I feel like my rhythm is off when I ride. It's so hard to know if I'm pleasing him. Let me just take a beat

here. Are you pleasing yourself? I promise you the more that you learn to please yourself, that's going to feel really good to your partner. And if it doesn't, they'll let you know. Okay. It's not so much about pleasing them as it is about pleasing yourself. Doggy style. Doggy style. Everyone's always got questions about doggy style because it's not so much about pleasing them as it is about pleasing yourself Doggy style Doggy style everyone's always got questions about doggy style because it's not just one thing We think we got to like get on all fours like bark like a dog, but there are some variations to it 69 Yeah, I get it 69 is one of those two there's some good variations on 69 that we're gonna get into standing in the shower standing shower sex a lot of shower sex questions. We're going to get into that in this episode. And some of you find against the wall quite challenging.

I can see that. You have to hold your power to rock and maybe thrust or whatever you're doing in those positions that can be challenging. Cuddling. Cuddling is a challenge too. If you're not in the touch, I get it. Cuddling can be hard. Now, we had Dr. Evan Goldstein on the show a few months ago from Be spoke surgical and

check out our podcast with him. It's called The Bottom Line on Anon, which you'll love this podcast with Dr. Evan Goldstein because we talked about the state by state, how which states are searching for which positions. All right, so let's get into reverse. How, girl, I bought in my content manager, Amanda. I think Amanda, last time you were while we were talking about our pleasure planner. So I'd love you to join me here

and let's talk about some of these positions. We can share experiences. You can help me explain some of them because I get that positions can be tricky sometimes. In hearing them, you're thinking, wait, what am I doing with my left flag, my right leg? So I just want you to know that we will have a guide that you can check out with our link here,

the show notes, and on our website, a blog that's gonna follow along so you can actually look up what we're talking about. Hi. Yes. So the first one on this list is Reverse Cowgirl. And I know that this is one that causes people a lot of difficulty, despite how popular it is. It's a twist on cowgirl where the penetrating partner lies down,

and the receiving partner climbs on top. But in this case, the receiving partner is turned backwards, and it makes it very fun. It provides a great view of the booty. The penetrating partner can place their hands on their partner's hips. It works for vulva or anal play. And the receiving partner can set the rhythm. So that's, I think, what the person who wrote in mentioned, they didn't know how to control the rhythm, which I, from personal experience, I think is definitely a problem with Rivers Cowgirl.

Yeah. It can be confusing. So just picture this. You are, think about, we all know Cowgirl, cowgirls. Yeah. It can be confusing. So just picture this. You are, think about, we all know cowgirl. You're facing your partner. But this way you just twist around. So you're facing their feet. It can be hard though, because you have to be able to prop yourself up a little bit to

move if your head's back on their chest, right? Like it's hard to do this one when you're sitting up. You're not bouncing up and down. You're leaning back. That's, I just want everyone to get a picture of it. But it can be hard to get the rhythm. There's a lot, a lot to think about. So, how do we rock this, Amanda? What do we do? I love what you said earlier about focus on pleasing you because I think if you're on top,

I, I do in personal experience. No, I constantly thought about my partner because they were always the one who wanted to do reverse cowgirl. But thinking about how you can make it better for you, whether that's maybe bringing in a toy. Now I really want to try that. I also like doing it in front of a mirror would be really fun because then the person on top gets to participate in the visual fun of it all. Yes, I love this. I like that adding a toy, paying attention to what it actually feels good to you is important. I love the idea of the mirror because the mirror is hot. We don't talk about that enough that there have been studies around this that have shown that when you look at yourself in

the mirror, particularly vulva owners, it's a really big turn on. For us, I've done this, I do this often and I can concur. That's my experience, but you can also see what you're doing in this position too, and perhaps help you position yourself better by, you know, like in yoga class, you're like, I'm my legs out, or my hands down in the right position. It can be twofold. Definitely. The other nice thing I think about doing reverse cowgirl and doggy style, which I think we'll talk about too in front of a mirror, is you can make eye contact with your partner through the mirror or see how they're enjoying it. Because with with these we're not facing each other positions. You don't get the intimacy of something like missionary, but if you have a mirror,

you can still get that intimacy. Yes, that's a great, such a great point. Because sometimes you can feel a little lonely in those positions, even though someone's pounding you from behind and you're like, am I alone? There's no eye contact, there's no intimacy, are they just looking at my ass? If you have those thoughts, do the mere trick. I love it. And at a toy because you might not be getting the clitorial stimulation no matter what kind of rhythm you get, but it is important though,

that if you're the partner on top, that the receiving partners are not controlling the rhythm. Like that's why reverse cowgirl can feel so, so do, so fresh. Because it's a position that works best if one person is setting the pace. You're in charge if you're on top. And if you're both feeling comfortable,

then you can kind of, your partner on the bottom and you can kind of start to join, but that's the fun part is that you are free here to move about the cabin, and move about the bed. And you know what I just maybe think of too, that a lot of people that email us DM us with questions are like, I'm nervous, I don't get it. And what I thought about is we don't actually give ourselves

enough time to get comfortable in positions. It's like, again, going back to yoga class, you just go right into like pigeon pose, for example, when you put your knee down or stretch your head, you take a moment, you adjust, you look behind you, make sure your legs straight, there's all these little things that you do. But with sex, we figure it has to be like this perfect glide into the perfect position that's to be worked into our sex routine that I'm going to take some time to make sure that I'm comfortable. Give yourself a beat.

Exactly. And the more you practice it, the more you can discover how it works for you. Like I recently learned that instead of sitting in reverse cowgirl, you can get on your knees. And I've better shrank that that way. I haven't been to the gym in like two years. So I have to get on my knees if I'm doing reverse cowgirl. Otherwise it's too difficult. So instead of sitting down basically on their lap, you're kneeling and kneeling on their lap

and then you can put your hands forward, maybe around their ankles or between their legs and then use that sort of brace yourself and give a little bit more movement if that makes sense. Yeah, it does. I like that. Yeah, yeah. Not only trying it on the bed, but doing it on a chair

or the edge of the bed, right? This could be interesting. Oh, I love that. If you're sitting on the edge of the bed, you're sort of have more leverage. Yes. The penetrating partner can sit down with their feet touching the floor while

then the receiving partner sits on their lap and faces forward. That's nice. I'm going to try that. Try that one. All right, all right. All right, all right. This is our weekend plans. Okay, we got an email here.

This is from Alicia, 26 in Scotland. Hey, Dr. Emily, me and my fiance have been together for five years. Our sex life is great. We've started experimenting more and it's helped our sexual relationship a lot. But recently we tried the cow girl position. I find it difficult to do and it makes me feel like I'm bad at sex as I'm very inexperienced in this position.

He's very reassuring and I wanna keep trying it because I wanna pleasure him this way but I can't help but feel bad about myself when he slips out. Am I doing something wrong? Is there any advice that you can give that might help with maneuvers? All right, slippage is real.

Slippage does happen during cow girl. And just like cow girl is sort of the same as like woman on top as we call, but we should call it person on top. What are some of the new, what are we calling this now? Amanda, that we call on top. Person on top. I think the person is on top. Okay, so let's talk about slippage for a minute.

Believe it or not, it has nothing to do with size, necessarily. It's not a new and false. Sometimes size is not even the reason. So it can just be the position we're in. Maybe we think we have to be going up and down or we are leaning too far back. And sometimes maybe we're going too fast. And I feel with this position again, it's a great one to get in, get comfortable,

and figure out what actually feels good when you can feel your partner the most, and when you can get the most leverage and angle rubbing on your partner's chest with your vulva. So meaning, if your partner's inside of you, sometimes it could help to lean forward and try to create like a 90 degree angle. And then if you can move back and forth slowly and making sure that he's still inside of you. And again, this is not like an up and down motion. It's more of a back and forth or grinding slow. I think I used to make them say,

going really fast in this position, thinking it was a really fast position, but for me personally, I realized that I really had to make that connection of rubbing on my partners like chest, and it's a back and forth. That also would have been that would prevent some slippage. I also don't think it means the moment's ruined because you could put it back in. Yeah, you're definitely not alone. Alicia, because I think slippage happens all the time. And the best advice Emily, I remember you gave about slippage

is just to embrace the awkward moments of sex. Because they'll happen and you and your partner have been together for five years. So it might happen again. And I think once this is what helps me, once you realize that it happens and that it's nothing to be embarrassed about, you feel better about it. You're not doing anything wrong.

Exactly. Yes, you guys. Remember, it doesn't mean sex is not perfect. That's why we people we posted on Instagram last week, sex is messy. And you guys all love that, because you get it. It's messy. Sex is messy.

You're asking really good questions. So thank you, Alicia. We're going to take a quick break, but we come back. Amanda and I dive into positions to help you spice up oral sex. Don't go anywhere. Alright, let's move into position number two and this is an oral sex. Okay, so this is about positions that can help spice up your oral sex, how you're already doing it.

Because we do hear from a lot of you that are uncomfortable with the positions you're doing with oral or you want to try something different. I really want to give you guys a detailed explanation of the Kiven method. I know I talked about this recently and I was just sort of blowing past it in an episode. But I want to give you specific instructions here so you can also now refer to it in the show notes and on our blog. The Kiven method, if you don't know, I can't talk about this enough that I probably first mentioned it on the show about five, six years ago, and we have never received so much interest, so many emails, so many follow up questions.

It was like, it was crazy. I've never seen anything like it in all these years because it works. It's a method that is differs from traditional oral sex and it's about going down in a vulva and it just allows you to access more nerve endings. It's just a different take on it and it's genius. So many questions, so many comments saying, oh my god, my partner finally had great orgasms to swear and multiple orgasms. It was just crazy. Oh my god, thank you, thank you.

So I'm going to right now, I, got to check out the video of this because I am going to use my vulva puppet because I think I can make this a little bit more understanding to all of you if I actually show you how it's done. Okay, so what happens is the giver, who's giving oral sex, is lying perpendicular to their partner, meaning that you're at a 90 degree angle. So you're sort of making a capital T with their bodies, so your partner's lying flat on their back and you are coming in perpendicular, okay? So instead of looking upward like between your partner's

legs and looking up at their clitoris, you're looking at its sideways. You can experiment with which side you approach from because a lot of clitoris are sensitive on different sides. Think about the whole vulva, think about the labia, think about the clitoris, you're gonna be moving like thigh to thigh instead of up and down from like knee to head, right? That's the movement, okay?

That back and forth perpendicular, you can choose what works best for you in this position, but if you're vulva owner that you're performing on likes to have their legs more widely spread for, you know, stimulation, they could pull their legs further apart, some people want their legs closer together because the sensation of the labia and massaging the sides of the clitoris

can be a lot more sensitive that way. So just figure out what position feels good to you. You have to play with this position a little bit. The key thing that I feel like you said is to lie perpendicular, that really helps me visualize it when you first taught it. So like you said, it can depend on the person's personal comfort. There might be some experimenting, getting into position and you can use your hands, but

the key is one person's lying down and the other person's lying for a particular. So if you were to look at a bird's eye view, it's a T. And then you hold on. I'm going to get a dot. I'm going to get a, what are my dogs toys? So it becomes a lobster, but it's going to be like a person. So hold on one second. Love it. This is amazing. So this is what you have to know. You're covering more surface area, right?

So normally you'd be like this, right? The lamb would be like, oh, like that feels so good. And she's like, oh, that's my little hood. Look at going back here. So what happened is you're covering more surface area here because you're going labia, clitoris, labia, inner outer labia, back and forth and back, and you're hitting all these nerve endings. And it's just this incredible sensation that you just don't, you kind of miss it in another when you're doing a different kind of angle. So with your hand also, here's some other ham positions that are important to talk about here too.

Your hands, which you could think about this day, with your left hand, you can place your index finger and thumb on either side of the clitoris to kind of help it raise it up and help it get in place where you lick, but see what your partner likes. And just remember here, the clitoral hood,

for some people they have a bigger clitoral hood. And just remember here, the clitoral hood, for some people, they have a bigger clitoral hood, some people don't have a clitoral hood. But usually when you get a rouse, the clitoral hood, if you have one kind of peels back. So you just want to make sure that the clitoris is up and happy. Some people think that once the clitoris is a rouse, they can find like, feel two small bumps on either side of the clitoris hood, which kind of can feel like little grains of rice. These are called k points, actually. So, if you're able to feel them, you can sweep your tongue over the clitor hood in between

these two points, but I don't want to get too technical now, right? So, just remember that the clitorial tissue swells when it becomes a rouse, just like the penis. It's a reptile tissue. So, just get curious at first and just go slow and everyone's genitals are different. And if you can't find any of these points, it doesn't really matter. But just remember that the clitoris is going to start to swell. And when it swells, I also want to remind you that it's not just about clitoris that you

can see, but this is the clitoral legs. This goes behind the clitoris. So when you're doing that, all of these areas inside, these clitoris has legs. Those are also becoming aroused. So remember that check in with your partner, play with your hands. You might just want to be using, you know, your mouth, but you could just kind of be playing and you could be massaging the labia and just get into the right position. And then you want to start licking. So you're licking horizontally in this position

instead of the up and down. So you go across the hood and a gentle motion, kind of like you think about how you need a nice cream cone, right? Going back and forth. And you want to try different variants with your tongue and pay attention. This is always the case, no matter what position you're doing, that you want to pay attention

to what your partner is responding to and what they like. And I think that they'll pretty quickly they're going to tell you, right? They're going to know. I like what you said about tongue movements, like licking an ice cream cone, but I bet you could also try circles or flicking. And if you're the one receiving, if you have a particular thing, tell your partner, or you might discover you have a particular thing and you can tell them. This is what kind of made this such a popular position is that people discovered a lot

in this vision. They discovered, you know, I always sing on this show, discover your Roger's Sones. There's so many different nerve endings everywhere. Play with it. That's what I'm hoping this episode does for a lot of you. It's just new fun things to explore.

Listen to this, you know, episode with your partner and be like, you 'll pull up the blog and use it as a guide because remember, when couples engage in new activities together, like even trying a new sex position, a new oral position, it's going to enhance intimacy and bond you in

a way that you're both out for the same mission and this new goal here. So I think that that is such a fun thing to play with. Now you could also some other thing you could do is, well, one of your hands is maybe teasing the clitoris, you could also put some pressure on the perineum, sometimes known as the taint, is that area, in between the anus and the vaginal opening, sometimes you can just apply a finger there on that area and just see how it feels. Gently massage the outside of the perineum, playing pressure, you can move towards the anus and just move and circles outside of it, and just see what works best for your partner. All right, let's talk about face sitting.

Because I don't think face sitting is talked about nearly enough. This position, by the way, side note, popular in Washington DC, Iowa, those two states, there's a lot of face sitting going on. Okay, so on the DMs, we got an Instagram. Someone said, I really wanted to face sitting, but I'm bigger and afraid of hurting my partner, any tips. So we did a great story about this too, right Amanda? We talked about this on Instagram once, but. Yes, you're big advice I remember. That was really helpful. Was think of it as face kneeling.

I remember you told me that and it changed everything. Face kneeling. You're not actually just sitting like you're leaning back on a chair and getting comfortable on their face. Like that doesn't sound good to anybody. Yeah, think of it as face kneeling. not actually just sitting like you're leaning back on a chair and getting comfortable on their face. That doesn't sound good to anybody. Yeah, think of it as face kneeling. So you get to kneel on your knee.

So you still have support. And maybe your hands are on either side of you. And I think that this position can be really hot, not only for the receiver, but the giver. And some people get off of this, like the person's throne. And it can be very empowering. You know, you're kind of like the queen and this is your throne and your partner's, you don't pleasing you. There can be a bit of adjustment though to find the angles.

So just make sure, again, that setup is comfortable. Be kneeling and position yourself over your partner by, like, straddling their chest with your knees and then scoot forward to your own place. So that's the kneeling part. You're, like, squeezing in on their chest and then you're scooting forward. Another tip I remember you offered Emily was to utilize the headboard or utilize the wall as an added support. Absolutely.

You want extra support. You distribute because this way I love having a headboard because then you could use it for extra support and you could distribute your weight with your legs and your knees and your arms and then also like leaning into other parts of your body can help you distribute part of the weight. Just go slow and get in and have fun with it. And just remember this if you are on top and you are the one doing the sitting or the kneeling that you are in control, like you're in control of this position.

You have control over your pleasure and you get to like move around the way it feels good to you. This is all about your pleasure, and especially if you're someone who's used to being more of a submissive in the relationship or sexually, it's a great way to kind of unleash your inner dominant side. Because you are dominant in this position, and I think everyone's got to try this once. For sure. And this is for all genders.

Obviously, if you've penis, you can face it. Oh yeah. I'm like, right? It's like, oh no, we're talking about vulvas, but I feel like it's a little bit different, but just don't be like, you want to still go slow, and make sure you're not choking your part or anything, but this position I think is hot all around,

especially if you take turns. Yeah, it almost dips into a little bit of consensual abjectification, which I think can be really fun. If obviously both partners are down and willing to experiment. But if you're the sort of person who exerts a lot of control in your life, whether it's through work or through your family, and you get the break to have somebody else exert control over you by sitting on your face,

regardless of your gender, that can be really fun and a great release. It's a great power play, power shift, absolutely. I also love what you said about how if the person on top is worried about applying too much pressure or hurting their partner, the partner on top is worried about applying too much pressure or hurting their partner. The partner on the bottom can still be the sort of one in control. Like the person on top can stay still, their hands on the headboard, and then the person on the bottom can be the one to control it. So you can kind of play with both.

You can play with it. That's true. You can't switch in that position. You can just kind of say, okay, now my position now you move around beneath me. You won't really know until you try it. After the break, we get into everyone's favorite number, 69, and variations on it to make it easier for everyone involved. Okay, 69 position, it's popular in these states. Pennsylvania. Under why?

I don't know. Why Pennsylvania? Okay, if you live in Pennsylvania, tell us why. Is this true? It is accurate. So, from Instagram, we got the question. I hate 69. My partner loves it.

Ideas to make it more fun. Listen, I think that 69 personally is not one of my favorites because I'm ADD and I feel like I either want to be giving or receiving and I don't want to do both. I'm just going to say that's just for me. And in porn, they always make it look really effortless. They're always in these super orgasmic positions. But I know that this is not everyone agrees with me So people love it and I actually have found ways to work with this position

So I actually really do like it, but at first glance, I'm never like dying to do 69 But it's because it is a multitasking thing So essentially though to explain it It's when you and your partner are giving each other oral at the same time But there are some hacks to make 69 more pleasurable and make it more memorable for a shirt. So look at why 69 isn't working for you. I mean, maybe you're just physically

uncomfortable with the position. Maybe you're propped up on your elbows or your mouth is getting tired. Or you're just not a big multitasker. And maybe it's all three. I think that I used to think that it had to be like someone's on top and someone's on the bottom. But number one tip is to lay side by side. So I think the I used to think that it had to be like someone's on top and someone's on the bottom. But number one tip is to lay side by side.

So I think the physical mobility of is what can make it really difficult. So like being backwards and on top of your partner can feel like a twister game. But again, think about lying on your sides. So then you're both accessing each other's genitals with more ease. And then you can spend more time making each other feel great. You know, your lying next to your partner of the bed and then you are flipping it around and you're doing some teasing and then you start just,

you can use your mouth, you can use toys, you know, you can use your hand. It doesn't just have to be oral. It's essentially at the same time, both of you are having your genitalia, whatever you have down there, stimulated. And it's fun when you think about it that you're both getting off. It's not like you have to give and then wait to get yours.

You're doing it the same time. So, if you are feeling overwhelmed with the oral aspects of it, I mentioned something I did with a previous partner, which really worked, because I do not want to be, I love receiving oral but I wasn't so into giving oral when I was really into receiving it. I just, it was challenged so we invented the, we call it the handy dandy,

which was essentially we giving my partner a hand job instead of using my mouth during 69. And he loved it, I had a lot of lieu with my hands and it was definitely a win-win for both partners and it felt amazing. Toys, there's also some great toys you can experiment with these positions like a bullet or vibrators or a stoker.

There's so many great toys that are actually of the penis ring, no, it gives your hands and mouth a break because they can get tired of this position. Yeah, Amanda, what about you? What do you think about the 69 situation? This was a position that I did not understand the hype for so many years. I just didn't get it at all, but I do think that once I released the idea of making it perfect, like going as all out as my partner was, it helped a lot. So I think the idea of you don't have to go all out 50-50. If you can tap each other out, take turns, just be, it's a give and take, but that doesn't mean that both of you are going 100% all at once.

Like, your partner can focus on you, and then you get to enjoy it a little bit, and then maybe you return the favor, and it becomes almost like you're edging each other like edging 69 I think that's a fun way to look at it. I love it. Explain edging. So edging is when I went this from you is when you delay you purposely delay your orgasms and you can feel it start to calm you can feel the build rising and rising but then you stop the stimulation or you have your partner stop the stimulation. So you're either teasing yourself or teasing your partner.

And it's like delaying gratification. So like the more you wait to have the cake, the better it's gonna taste. Exactly delaying gratification. Can't be hotter. To play with for sure. Okay, I remember with any of these positions I invite you to have your toys nearby.

I can't think of any of these that wouldn't be a little bit in hand since spiced up with a toy. Magic wand, you can always have that on hand or the Dame palm. I'm sorry, I'm obsessed with the palm. It's a cute little flexible vibrator that gives you like broad targeted stimulation. It's powerful, it's rumbly, you can use it in your hand. You can use it on a partner, on yourself, and also the

womanizer. The womanizer. That suction feels so good. Now, let's talk real quick about the Clip Diver and the pretzel. So think of the Clip Diver. It's like doggie style. So the bottom gets on all fours on the ground ground and then the top gets behind the bottom and with proper lubrication of course and protection, they'll enter the bottom and then the top simultaneously stands and lifts their partner up by the thighs or the waist. So their bottom can wrap their legs around the tops back. To me it sounds like a wheelbarrow race. It's a wheelbarrow, exactly. Yeah.

If you are getting in the position to do a wheelbarrow race, but instead you're naked and start getting penetrated. Exactly. Okay. The pretzel. So this one, the person being penetrated so on the bottom, they lie down on their side. And then the top person doing the penetrating holds up the partner's top leg

and then straddles the bottom leg. The top then scoots closer in order to penetrate. This sounds like scissoring. Exactly. Yeah, I feel like if there wasn't any penetration going on, it would be scissoring. Yes, it's a little bit of scissors. So again, check out the images on the site,

check out our blog, we were gonna help you all move through these positions. Shower sex is our last one. We get a lot of DMs about how do people actually have sex in the shower? I feel like it's such a struggle. I get it, shower sex is also one of those things that you can be completely overrated

because you're like, well, it's slippery. I can hit my head and you hear all these sex that me to the ER stories because it can be difficult to execute, but it can be great because if you got roommates or kids, you can get a lot done in the shower and it can be really hot. So here's some ways to master shower sex. You have to find the proper position,

which means like you got to find the right spot, which means like you gotta find the right spot, you don't wanna stand in the slipperyest area. So try like a bend over position. So this is when the receiving partner, you're standing in front of the other partner, but you bend over and you put your hands on your shins for support. So you are holding yourself and you are steady.

This way you like can't be toppled over. And then the other partner can use their penis or strap on to enter it doggy style. And so the person in front might be able to put their hands on the wall, which can't help with balance, but just make sure the floor is not too slippery or you have a mat in the shower. You know, that can absolutely help with balance. And it's also a good time to play with oral and hand play. If you're using hands, start with some masturbation, then you can stop for some oral sex. And remember that you have to use lube in the shower. I know you think that you're wet already from

the water, but the water actually can wash away your natural lubrication. So, it's important to have some lube in the shower. And silicone lube lasts a lot longer, the water-based, but if you're doing oral, you can have some flavored lube like by our friend's system Joe, you like that too. Removable shower heads? Those are always fun. Yes. Remember, a lot of vulva owners had their first orgasms that way. And if you haven't, maybe you've, well, your first time having an orgasm with the shower

head. So that's really fun. Remember, you've got a sex toy right there in your shower. If the shower is small or you find it hard to do any sort of penetrative sex in the shower, I think it can be a really good place to play with hand stuff and oral. And then if you want to have penetrative sex you can Do that outside shower. So make it a two for do some stuff in the shower and then continue the session outside in your room And that's pretty hot too

It's hot. That's a thing. It could just be about the foreplay You don't have to go right into penetration in the shower and for a lot of you who you mel in and talk about hygiene Or I just want to make sure that we're both clean and how do I get my partner to shower? Just check a shower beforehand. It's great for a play. It's a great warm up. And remember, toys in the shower,

a lot of toys are waterproof right now. So we love the Mimi by J.J. that works great in the shower as does the ditto anal plug is a great one to use in the shower as well. A lot of toys are waterproof right now, are water resistant and you can leave them in the shower, which is what I do.

I have some toys in the shower that are always charged and ready to go because I like to masturbate in the shower because I like to multitask sometimes in the morning when I don't have a lot of time. Emily, have you ever had a shower sex injury? I don't think so, have you? I haven't, but I've been with people who have hit their head on a shower head and we didn't

realize that he was bleeding until I started getting covered in blood. Oh, really? And yeah, that's scary. I was like, what happened? Why are we bleeding? Does somebody get a bloody nose, but it was because somebody had their head on the shower head. So be careful of your tall. This is what happened.

This is it. This is why we blow our free of it. I think it happens all the time. Oh my God. Well, you're like, that's, wait, was there three of you in the shower? No, there was only two. OK. I thought you said like one of us.

So it sounded like there was like a three-way situation happening. That would have been fun. Well, next time, add it to the bucket list. Just remember, you guys, stay safe in the shower. I do like silicone loop book. I said because it increases wetness and it amplifies pleasure and it lasts longer.

But just remember that if you spill the glue on the floor in the shower, that shower sex is slippery enough and it might even get more slippery. So be safe and have fun in the shower. Have fun with all of these moves. And remember to check out our blogs So, be safe and have fun in the shower. Have fun with all of these moves. And remember to check out our blogs

and check out the, we'll put this in the show notes, right? Amanda, so that everyone can check out the positions. Oh yeah, they can look through, get more details, and make it their project for the next few days. Yeah, exactly. We wanted to give you some tips for the week. If you want to spice it up, you want to try something new.

These are the positions to do with them. Let us know how it goes. Thanks Amanda. Thank you! That's it for today's episode. See you on Friday. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Be sure to like, subscribe, and give us a review wherever you listen to the podcast

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