Sex With Emily - Sex & Relationship Interruptions

Episode Date: October 17, 2015

Have you been harboring a handful of pertinent sex and relationship questions? Today’s show might just have the answers you’re looking for. Emily is doling out advice on a wide range of hot topics including guidelines for fostering friends with benefits, curiosity about extramarital sex, interruptions during intercourse and so much more!What are the rules for keeping it casual? How can you avoid coming off as desperate with a new date? Whether it’s a new tinder hook-up or a friend you’re getting freaky with, learn how to navigate the waters of non-committal sex. And speaking of commitment, Emily’s addresses the complicated issue of sexual curiosities outside your otherwise healthy marriage. Is there a way to get everything you want without cheating on your spouse?Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, help is at your fingertips with today’s Sex With Emily podcast. From Emily’s month long Costa Rican vacation stories to the benefits and drawbacks of “free-balling”, today’s show has answers to satisfy everyone’s sex and love needs. Tune in! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so, so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships

and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithelmy.com. We, we, you know, sex with army.com. We we Upload things every single day. We got blog posts. We got videos We've got just about everything on our website that you need to have a more fulfilling and happy sex life and relationship Right Anderson is correct. How you doing? I'm well. How are you? It's so good to see you. It's good to see you even though I'm not looking at you right now. Sorry. I know It's okay, but I'm looking at you babe.. I have to say Anderson, I did a really good show this week without you. I'm sorry, but I need to talk about it. I'm sorry, but I did. It was,

okay, so you know, it's called the show. It's called Sex with Emily. It was the first time. It's called Sex with On Anderson. I'm sorry. It was the first time ever that I had a got, so it's called Sex with Emily. It was the first time I had a guest on the show that's actually having sex with Emily. Well, oh, you had the guy that you're dating. Yeah, I had him on the show. And it was an amazing show. And it's coming out October 20th. And it was just, it was an amazing show.

I have to say, it was really funny. Madness was there and he was asking questions about having sex with me, what that was like. But it sounds really awkward and weird, but it was super, honestly, my whole my assistant's, Madison, Alyssa Laurie, they're like, oh my God, that was the best show ever. It was just fun.

And we talked about a lot of other things, but it was just interesting because we'd gone to a swing party as I told you about. Right. So we talked about that. We talked about a lot of other things. It was a fun show. And also, I'm going to take your calls in the studio now. We just tried it on this recent show.

So you can call in with your number one sex question on October 21st from one thirty to a clock Pacific standard. And we're going to promote closer to the date the exact phone number. Then we'll post the actual number the day up. So just follow me on Twitter on Instagram. It's at sex family or Facebook or just sign up by news that are so you can call in. We got lots of callers. We answered questions. It was super fun. Love talking to the people. When is this show that we're listening to now? This October 16th. Okay, cool.

Happy 16th, happy Friday everybody. Happy Friday, baby, what's going on? I'm on a plane. I'm on a plane right now. Yeah, we're going. Paris. I love that. Yeah.

I know, I'm gonna miss you though. I'm gonna come back with stories about Europe for you. Promise? Yes. You're gonna have like amazing, I don't know. I will look for sexual, I will look for sexual stories in all for you. Promise? Yes. You're gonna have like a meet, I will look for sexual stories. And there's a lot of them. And Paris and Prague and Switzerland,

I'm going all over the place. That's amazing. I'll come back with some stuff. That'd be good for your relationship to get away for two weeks. Yeah, it's a good relationship. It'd be good for me. I know.

We all need vacation. I'm trying to get away in November for a while. Where are you gonna go? Detroit. Oh, God, yes. To do this, I have to go to Detroit in early November for a while. Where you get to go? Detroit. Yes. To this. I have to go to Detroit in early November for family events. Lots of people love vacation in beautiful Detroit. That's the problem with my family being so close to my family and the fact they live

in Michigan that all my vacations drop a lot of our Michigan and I don't want to say their vacations because love by family. It's not my vacation. But everything's giving I'm going to try to go somewhere warm hot and sexy. Probably by myself. Puerto Rico Rico. No Costa Rica. I heard great things. Yeah, I may a highlight Costa Rica You don't like it. I went there once for a month. I was at the all-way person. I ever talked to that doesn't like Costa Rica I went like 10 years ago and I've been every a lot of places and it just wasn't my favorite place Why not? It's a lot of bros. It seemed like kind of a frat party. Oh really? Yeah, like surfing do I don't want to say that there's a minute. You that. There's a thing. I shouldn't say that. It was, I mean, I probably went 15 years ago.

I rented a car for a month with my boyfriend and we drove all around. It was fun. For a month, you went there. Yeah. But I felt like, how do you do that? How did I take off for a month? Yeah.

I just finished my film and it was super cheap and we just, it was, what? Yeah, that's what. It's kind of like what I'm doing. What are you up to? I just finished all my five short stories. No, I never took occasions, but when I do, I like went all out.

And it was fun. I was the guy I was with, who knows. But now I know it's more developed, there's great resorts. I'd love to go to yoga retreat, something like that. I'm working on it. I'm working on getting away out of town. So what do we got? I was stuck in tons of traffic on the way here. I know.

We're going to get straight to some emails, yeah? We're going to get right to some emails. Cool. Yeah, everyone's been great too, because you email me, which I love, feedback at sexwithalme.com. And everyone's been great too because you email me which I love feedback at sex with the MOe.com And everyone's been great about telling me your name you can also make up your name doesn't matter But we want to know your age and where you live and also how you listen. It's awesome So okay dear Emily, I love your show. I'm a 25 year old woman living in New York City

I was hoping you could help me out on trying to navigate a new F body situation in New York City. I was hoping you could help me out on trying to navigate a new F-buddy situation. Valley made up the guy I've been talking to for a few weeks from Tinder. He was super sweet, cute, and a total gentleman. After drinking and hanging out with his friends, who embarked to his place and hooked up, it was fantastic. I was able to communicate what I wanted in bed, which I've never really done before, and he made me feel so sexy like I was the best thing he's ever had. While cuddling the next morning, he said that he wasn't looking for anything serious because he's focused on working other things, which is fair enough. My impression is that he's looking for an F buddy.

I would love to be in a relationship idly, but I'm cool with keeping things casual with him while I date other people. Now here's my question. When can I hit him up to hang out again? Every time one of these situations, I never know when it's too soon to shoot him a text. I have a really high sex drive. So I'd do it. I'd love to be having sex many times a week, but I don't want to appear desperate or annoying. I'd like hinting out with this guy so far and want to see him again, but how soon is too

soon? How do I know if he wants to see me again? Should I wait for him to text me first help? Sincerely Cooper. Anderson, what do you think about girls being? And like, I feel like she doesn't want to appear, appear desperate or annoying, but aren't the women who are desperate or annoying just the women that you aren't into? Yeah, exactly. I mean, if he's into this lady, he's going to be exact. If very excited every time she gets back to him, if it's

quick, it's late, it doesn't matter. Right. Every time he hears from her, good times. And unless he doesn't like her. Exactly. So this woman seems to have some issues with herself, the steam. Why? Because she's wearing a car. I would love relationship. But you know what? I'll take F buddy. If that's all that he's going to give me. And I don't want to text him and bother him too much. And she seems to be. Well, she's overthinking it. But my only concern with her is that Cooper, you say that you're cool with it being casual while you date others, but you do want a relationship.

So I'm just worried that you're going to get attached to this amazing sex and get into that friends with benefits cycle where it ends with someone wants more and hint hint. I feel like this could be you. So as long as you're ready to keep yourself in check and that you remember what you just told me, he doesn't want a relationship. We have to remember people tell us. Even though he cuddled and things can be amazing and you think he can change him, he doesn't want a relationship.

So if the onus is on you, if you can truly be F buddies and text him now, why wait? Why play games? Unless he seemed standoff for sure weird, it could be a good, you know, a good indicator. He's a type of guy who needs space. So then maybe I'd wait, you know, a few days, wait from to read out to you. But again, if you really can just keep your head on straight, then it's great sex and still date other people because you want to see him three to a few days a week, you're not going to have a lot of time to date other people. So I'm just afraid this could be one of those downward spirals. So, if you're ready for this, he's told you what he wants,

then go for it. Lots of what I think, because a lot of times people think they can change people and they cannot. So, says Emily. What? What do you think? No, I agree with you. But you know, you kind of end up trailed off there

with like, well, that's what I think. And it seems like a stamp of fun. Stamp, no, I'm right. Here's trailed off there with like, well, that's what I think. I kind of seem like a stamp of fun. A stamp. No, I'm right. I'm right. Here's the thing. I'm right, Cooper, because you just said he cuddled. He was amazing.

It was the first time you were ever able to communicate your needs. He says he has a relationship, and you haven't heard from me yet. That's what guys say. Guys, oh, usually you guys are going to say that. Well, because they don't want me to get attached. They want to make sure that they can keep it open. They're not sure.

They want, you know, there are some clinging ladies out there who are like right after the first date. So we're together now, right? We're a couple. A couple now. Do they do? Oh, yeah. A lot of guys want to like make sure that that's not the case

right after that. Right. And you know, Cooper's hot. Yeah. I can tell. Yeah, she's super hot. She asked for what she wanted to bet. And I say, you know what, here's the thing.

It was the first time you asked for what you wanted for bet. Maybe that's why it was so good. So I say, keep, get back on that Tinder, keep swiping left. Or right, where the hell it is. Left, right? So I'm right, so I'm right. We're like, I've done it.

I did it twice. So I think that keep doing it. Make yourself like, doodiedate, keep going out there because I just don't want to get attached. I know that I'm right here. First of all, you didn't ask how I know that Cooper's hot. You should have asked me. Why do you think she's hot?

Her name. Cooper is a hot name. I actually want to have a child now. It's called Cooper. Yeah. So see your little daughter can go out and get banged a lot. Now it's, oh. Yeah.

Our all girls is hot name, hot name's hot. I mean, are all hot names hot? No, but a lot of time. Like Alex. Yeah, Alex is hot. Hot name, yeah. Yeah. And then also, what else?

What else would you say? No, I don't know. Well, no, I think we have to, I'm just saying pay attention to your, this is the thing is that, you know, we've talked tons about friends and benefits, relationships, and they just, they can, well, if you both meet someone,

other than anyone else that you're really into, but it really just, the hard thing about it is that you're like, yeah, I hang out with you until I find someone like better, and then I want to be in a relationship with them, and I'm going to say that you're really into it, but the hard thing about it is that you're like, yeah, I hang out with you until I find someone like better, and then I want to be in a relationship with them, and that never feels good. And when you see someone a few days a week, you get attached, and so eventually if they talk, you know, maybe he's just saying it, like, that's another thing, you just put a little of wrench in it, because you're saying maybe he's just saying it, so you just gave Cooper a whole bunch of more hope here that she's going to change his mind, which could happen,

but I think you gotta still diversify. Still date. Listen, Cooper, if you want the guy to be your boyfriend, then make it be known, but don't be like, overbearing about it. If you think that it's too much, it sounds like she's gonna be able to look handle an F-buddy situation with this guy,

because she likes him too much. But she said she can, so I'm telling her that you can't, because she cuddled and she's the best ex ever. And I'm saying you could solve the best ex ever with someone else. Okay, we can go on to another email though now, because we are moving along. Moving along.

Dear Emily, my fiance sometimes stops me mid sex, especially if I get off first and asks me to finish him orally. It's just normal. I've never heard a menu prefer oral over vaginal intercourse. I start to wonder, am I doing something wrong? Amanda. Never heard of that. vaginal intercourse. I start to wonder, am I doing something wrong? Amanda. Never heard of that. I have. I think there's some guys that they just, they just get off that way. Like, they need more pressure, they need more, like something that her vagina can't deliver. Just the idea of it sometimes can be. Yeah, but every single time, um, but he's

your fiance. So I doubt that you're doing something wrong. Maybe he just really likes low jobs. Sometimes it's just more pressure for them. Some women, you know, just like some women, all men are different and their preference is about what turns them on. And it's possible that there is something at oral sex that makes them super hot, but my other question for you, Amanda, is, could be a birth control slash condom thing. If you're using condoms during sex, it could be as condom loophole.

So a lot of guys have problems ejaculating with condoms. So many say it's like, you know, decreased sensitivity. So it's possible oral sex is the only preferred and protected way to climax. Have you ever had that with a condom? No. So I just think he's your fiance. You need to ask him about this. And that's just flat out ask him and say, babe.

And don't do it when you're having sex. Don't be like, don't put it in my mouth again. It would flow all over. It's exactly how they have sex. Exactly. It would be tough to ask. Right. You want to be over-minded, not critical,

and just be like, hey, babe, it's funny. We have sex. I know you always like to finish your mouth. I think it's so hard. I love giving you both jobs. But is that the only way? Is there something else I could do? Can we mix it up?

Don't be judgmental. God, sex was so hard. I know you like to finish the both job. What else would you like to try? See what happens? It's so manipulative. Well, you don't want to be like, what's with the only of the blow job? I know I would come out of it.

I might as my own. It's not good enough for you. Turns out the inside of my mouth doesn't feel nearly as good as my neathers, you know, what's the deal here. And this might just be his bag, which is bad times for her. That's true to well. I guess so, it's interesting.

I mean, maybe she could like give him a blowjob to his bow to and then stick it back in, but still it's kind of like every time, give him a blowjob, you puffed a conum and taste like rubber. I mean, we've all done that. A little wig, some fake eyes on every time. Yeah, I mean, I don't know what it is.

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bottle of their award winning flash. Lou, which will rock your world. So check that stuff out, people. Okay. So that's what we got. you'd like one Anderson I'll bring you a quick shot. I'm cool man. Okay, email. Okay, hey Emily, I love your podcast. So, me and my wife have been together since we were young, 17, and have each other's virginity. Our sex life is great and we love each other like crazy after seven years. One thing as a guy that's hard to deal with is hearing other men talk about having sex with all these different women. I can't help, but I can't help. I have that be a huge wonder in my relationship and I'll be curious about it forever or until it happens, sex with another woman that is. We've talked about it and it it doesn't seem to be too far fetched.

I'm just trying to go slow with the situation. I was wondering if you have any advice or could talk about it perhaps. Really appreciate you reading this question, and any advice you could give me will be very helpful. Thanks again, Tyler. How about that? He's been spithers since he was 17, seven years, and he, I mean, here's a thing, Tyler, you brought up this idea to your high school sweetheart, sweetheart, and she says the possibility.

Like he's like winning. Right. Well, a lot of women would be like, I'm out. I'm done. You're like, I'm locking the key, you know, you can't go out at anything. Yeah, I think most would. Right. So you're psyched.

But that's a huge step, Tyler. The fact that you were able to bring it up, I'm, I'm really proud of youed. But that's a huge step Tyler, the fact that you were able to bring it up, I'm really proud of you. I think that's super healthy. So you're able to communicate your feelings and she was responsive. That says you guys are mature. I'm feeling good about these guys right now. If you were a girl, you'd probably be super hot to your name's Tyler. But this is a guy. So maybe I know. I'm sure you're hot too. But Tyler, just because I'm giving you kudos, not this is a subject matter has to be approached

with caution. You don't want to be like last night I'm going to check. Thanks for saying that it was okay. No. It's normal that these feelings, but don't let them interfere with your relationship. So I wouldn't keep bringing it up. You already brought it up and she's cool with it,

which again, hats off to you. But I'm worried, I'm wondering though, here's the thing, his curiosity about like getting a little strange, little little something strange on the side, is that more important to you than your happy marriage? Married, are they married? Yeah, they're married. They took each other since 17, so the 25, 24. So but if your wife's open to the idea,

then like it sounds like she was, I don't know if she said, yeah honey, go ahead or if she was like, yeah, I want some strange too, because you were my first, which is always gonna be challenging. Super dangerous. People don't think about this before they get married, but there's options. And I'm gonna throw them out there for you, Tom.

Three-some. Yikes. I know, peopleome. Yeah, I know. People say, here's the thing. Threesomes can rip your relationship apart or can bring you closer together. I've seen it happen. I've seen it go different ways. So you can invite someone a third into your two-some, but this takes, again, you guys being having like amazing sex, having open communication, being in great

sexual, you know, great sexual standing, and as long as your wife is into it. So remember, it's never like, hey babe, let's have a threesome. You don't want to bring it up that way. You want to be like, so have you ever thought about being with a woman? And you got to like talk about it. And like this might take a year. You got to plant the seed a few years. Who knows? She might say, yeah, let's go get some babe online right now. I don't know your wife. But you just got to talk to about it. Make sure that she's on board because when guys bring it up, they're like, hey, I won't have a threesome. All she's thinking is that you want to be your best friend, right? So she's probably the case. I don't know. I mean, you guys have got to be

the strong and happy place. So it could work for you. You could also go to a play party, slash swingers party like I share like you did. and you don't have to have sex at that party No, it's great for play. I mean, honestly like we went I talked about like actually on the show with you and the show with the guy That's coming out 20th and I'm dating coming out the show's coming out. Oh the show's okay I don't think he's definitely okay But we went to one and like there's a lot of play. I don't know where you live You didn't say but there's play parties in every area that you live in. And you can go, it's the rule is couples go

and then single women. So you guys can just go check that out and see how you feel. There's no pressure. In fact, it's the least pressure packed environment. You'd imagine everyone's like grabbing at you. But it's people are... They're not grabbing at you.

No, I don't think it's like they're grabbing at their own ponytails. Exactly, no, but there's no point in telling us at this one. But no, people are not grabbing it. No, I don't want to. It's like grabbing at their own ponytails. Exactly. No, but there's no point in telling us at this one. But no, people are really, really respectful. And they're really like, you know, I understand. There's rules. It's like, we're all here. There's a rule you got to check if you want to check in.

So that's another thing. And also, some couples give you to their hall pass. They allow partners to have sex with someone out the marriage. And they like usually have rules like it can't be. So when we know, or it has to be when you're outside the city or country. You can also just start talking about it. That's one another option.

These are just some just thrown out there. How it's going to go down. Because I don't know if this is just like a fleeting thought Tyler or if you're like obsessing. Or easy sabotage in the relationship because it's been too long. Seven years. Seven years is like young, you know, he's 25 years old and maybe he's feeling like, I'm in a mistake, and he married at this.

It's hard, especially at that age. I mean, you're not supposed to be married. I know, you're not supposed to be married. And a relationship this long. I don't recommend getting married at that age, but you did and you're happy and I'm not. Believe me, you guys, I don't wanna get 100 to me else, you were like, wait, hey, we worked, I know it.

No, people get very defensive about that. It's just, sometimes it just doesn't, it's hard. And that is one of the challenges. You didn't get to sew your oats. So your oats, I think that's what it's called. Yeah. So I totally get what you're saying. And I'll see you in planter seed.

Plant your seed. Yeah, sew your oats. Sew your oats, planter seed. So you didn't get to plant your seed. Play the field. Play the field. And I think that, that again, you can also expand your to some. So you can start to do things that really make your sex life

expansive and exciting, you know, get some sex toys, watch porn together, do what at all the things that I've talked about for a guzzling years on the show, that might be a way to make it interesting too. If I had to bet on the relationship though, I'm sorry I'm betting against it at this point. The whole relationship, I think it's gonna last. 25 and you're trying to find some strange and being up for, I appreciate the fact

that he's up front with the wife, but I mean, I'm talking about planting seeds, the seed of, of deceit is already there. Well, he talked about it, so I don't think he's deceitful. Yeah, I know, but now, what you get to say, what does she says, no, then she's always good to know that he wants to. Oh, maybe she was cool with it too.

We didn't get, this is why I'm taking cars now. And maybe these new generation, they take a sex completely differently than you and I. Right, that's true. And that's why we're taking callers now because it's gonna be fun. We can't do it here, but October, what do I say? 21st.

We can call people from here. We just can't accept our calls. Oh, we'll call and collect. We'll never collect. Could we have people like, we can collect emails for, I mean, okay, let's do that. Here's a new thing. When you send your email feedback at sex with army.com, if you would like to be considered to receive a phone call on a Thursday evening from eight to nine Pacific Center time, we might just give you a goddamn call. So

now we can do it here and you can also do it on October 21st. We're just showing you that we have a phone. I'm not going to be here though. I know what you're doing when I'm going. No, October 21st from 132. Okay. You can do it. So that's that. But here and after two weeks, yeah, just start sending me now. You're going for two weeks. I'm like, you're going forever dude. It feels like I'm going to be gone. I feel so irresponsible. I really want to just leave my life and my dogs and my jobs, it feels strange. Here's the thing about that. We all have anxiety before we go on vacation and I have finally learned after all these

years that nothing frigging changes. You get back, everything's the same, you're not going to lose your job and you're going to be back in the grind and you're going to be like, I wish I was back in the grind. I'm not losing any of my dogs. Who's watching? You got people watching? My sister. Yeah.

We don't trust your sister. You come by and check on them. I want to watch Stanley. Can you? Seriously? Yeah. Can I really? I don't know. That might be a problem. Why? I could see you forgetting him in the truth. No, I had a dog. I would never. What? You had a dog. Well, it's a long story. Where's the dog now? She's in pump springs. Really happy. She's much happier. She's fields to run around. It's a long story. Don't want to get to a mix. There's no fields in Palm Springs. Well, there's like grassy, no grassy areas. There's deserts.

She loves it. I get pictures around the garden. Ones around the dunes. I don't want to talk about it. OK, but I would totally watch Stanley your dog, because I love your dog. So that's what we have time for, but I have one more thing to mention.

I have to share with you my latest obsession. So my friend works with this company called Your Life Media. And they take your favorite footage of any event, like a lifetime memory, like your wedding, honeymoon, and they turn it into, so it's like, you take the footage. So they're doing this thing for your honeymoon now. Like you go away and your honeymoon take little videos,

you take little photo pictures, and they create this, like a really cool video for you. It's like a director who's, I don't know if you know him, what's his name, Jack. Jack, Jero Pudo, Kero Pudo. Nope. Work with Adam Sandler. Anyway, he created and they look so cool.

They use your footage and your photos to create, it looks like a Hollywood movie trailer. So it's like a 500, it's a 500 dollar value, 600 dollar value and they wanna give gift one to one of my listeners, which is super cool. So all you have to do is email me feedback at sexwithelm.com. I would say it's valued at $5.95. And they want to make your honeymoon video.

All you have to do is be taking a honeymoon in October of November. October November, be willing to just take pictures and videos as you probably would, and then they'll make you this cool video. So email me feedback at sexwithelm.com and you could be a winner. If you want to check it out more about them, they are at yourlifmedia.com. So check that out. That's because I want to be nice. And follow me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. It's all sex with them. They cross the board and Anderson follow you. Yeah. I'm Anderson Cowan on Instagram and Twitter, but I don't really tweet them.

You had a really cute picture on Facebook. I've been Instagramming a lot and then I connected with my Facebook because I'm lazy. It was, it was a great picture. Watching movies was Stanley, but it wasn't Stanley. No, it wasn't Stanley. I know, I could tell. I was a white sted's dog and he was stalking me all night long. It was so cute.

Yeah, the movie would be like 45 minutes later and the dog was still in the exact same place just staring at me. And then he finally went to sleep and then I got up to go to the kitchen and he was right behind me. Oh god I love that. Maybe you can watch Stanley. Maybe this could be a thing seriously. Can we talk about flying? Let's do that Oh my god. You're not wrapping up are you we got another? Oh? Oh, I'm a stowing. Yeah, we were I thought we were. Yeah. Do you ever have this thing? We're both a little little little long in the tooth right and like sometimes you'll be thinking of something You want to say and then it's gone and

you can't retrieve it. Every friggin day. Horrible. And I have a hard time getting back on track. It bugs me. It happened earlier, earlier in the show and then it just came back to me and that is Tinder, right? You're talking about Tinder.

And this is like a little sex in the news for you. I'm giving it to you. Australia, they had, they're the first country that do on a beta test where like you don't just swipe left or right You can actually swipe up, I think and it means that you're really really like somebody is that the new premium service I believe so and they're just trying in Australia right now and they're gonna bring it to the states I heard about this that I think it's their premium thing We pay more if you really like someone. Maybe you get

Test actually them. No, I don't know. I heard about this. That's how it works No, but in Australia Yeah,, they got like the exciting. A lot of your listeners are probably very in a tender. So maybe they are in a tender. Everyone's in a tender. I'm very jealous of them. I thought it was here too. I know.

Why? I just wish I could go back to the digital age. Do you want to look at my tender? I haven't been out in a while, but just for fun. I don't know. I've never even looked at anyone's tender. I miss that whole thing. Actually, you know what?

I probably want to be here with you if it existed. I'd probably be addicted to sex and in Thailand right now. I'm so glad you found a good one. Yeah. Thank you Strong-headed woman. I know. All right. One more email. Okay, this one's easy because I need your help. It's about balls Dear Emily some people have said Some people have said that Freeballing has benefits. I've been a free baller for two years. Can you tell me what the benefits are? Austin free ball Why is Austin asking you about the balls? I don't think you know, I don't know balls. What do you think about free baller? And do you have an hour underwear? I don't like that.

I mean, that were boxers and that's pretty free balling for you. Right? I don't know. I mean, there's a comfort factor. Yeah, it is. Is that what it means? No, but I went out wearing boxers. Like that's, I don't need, I understand I'm not wearing one of one of the tidy whiteies and having them like tucked up inside. But you know, if you put on some loose boxers, you can get on your draft going. Okay. Well, there's the comfort factor. It does a nice breezy feeling during hot summer days. Money you save on boxers, I suppose. But there aren't many health benefits because you can't try or or benefits at all. You can't try in short pants or anything when you're

shopping if you want to buy shorts. If you're Jill Dillent about your sweaty junk, you can use down it at comfort. You might not feel safe as secure, which could be awkward readjustments in public, danger of zipper interactions. No basketball basketball shirt, sweatpants in public, or everyone will know your secret. Chafing, again down under comfort, hopefully with that. I could only benefit, I could think of as comfort, and that you're closer to being naked. But how hard to take off your underwear.

If you're trying to have kids, the cooler they are, the better chance that you have, because body temperature, he kills those sperms. Oh. That's true thing. Okay, so where you're underwear? Well, no, no, no, unless, unless if you want to have a kid, free ball,

because it'll keep them nice and cool and those guys will keep swimming. Because if you're wearing like tidy whiteies and they're like warm, they die. Okay, there's a benefit. But I don't think it's not a sanitary. And you're gonna say, Iies and they're like warm, they die. There's a bunch of things, but I don't think it's not a sanitary and you're going to succeed. For sure, not a sanitary.

For sure, not a sanitary. Okay, so thank you. Oh, God. Yeah. Okay, that's cool, but uh, that's not cool. He zipped up really fast and zipped right over his winner. It's like that movie, what's it called? Something about Mary.

Something about Mary. Okay, so now that's, that was awesome. Great show. I love you, Anderson. Okay, so now that was awesome. Great show. I love you, Anderson. Thank you. Love you, Em. Love you, Em. Madison and Lori and Alyssa, my amazing team.

And thanks so much for listening. Was it good for you? Email me. Feedback at sexwithemily.com. Okay, everybody. This is the time when I tell you about your vagina. Can I talk about your penis earlier? And I talk about products all the time that improve your sex life.

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That's not bad, right? Yeah, it's true and another thing is it's become actually have it like I look forward to doing it now It's one of those things. Okay, so thanks everyone for listening. Love you of those things. Okay, so thanks everyone for listening. Love you.