Sex With Emily - Sex, Sleep & Fun with Facials

Episode Date: July 18, 2015

Today’s show is filled with advice to help you spice up your sex life! Emily answers your emails on blowjob complications, sleep orgasms and the fascination with facials, and shares tips to help you sex up your next vacation. Plus, from revenge porn to horny sleepers to words that make everyone uncomfortable, this week’s Sex in the News has something for everyone. Having you been itching to give your girl an ejaculate face mask? Does your sex initiation game need improvement? How do you develop a taste for oral sex? Emily has the answers you’ve been looking for. Find out how to bring up your desires with your partner and ensure a sexually satisfying situation for both of you in this fun and frisky podcast! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Tonight's show we're talking about how to spice up your vacation sex. How to learn to love oral sex. Some people just don't love it. Why women need to initiate sex more and are women really into facials? You know what I mean? Facials. And so much more.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Question for you all. Anyone starving right now? I mean seriously, I'm so hungry. I don't know about you, but my days are so busy. I'm constantly running around from the meetings, to the office, to the studio, and I never have time to shop or get food, which is a problem, especially when I'm hungry. You know, hungry, angry. Doesn't go over very well in my office, but I don't know like I don't cook how am I supposed to stock up on a healthy affordable snacks and I love love to snack

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Isn't it common, little? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so, so, so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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And that will change your life. Your relationship to sex life. I'm here with Andersen. Hey. Hi, sweetie. What's up, M? It's so good to see you. It's always a fantastic day when I get to work with M.

Oh, I love that because Anderson doesn't like everybody really. I hate most of them. Yeah, I'm actually in honor. I feel like I've been Anderson badge of honor. Do I get like a jacket or something? I don't know who would not like you. You're one of these people that I would introduce to people and like if that person didn't like you, I'm like, that is a problem with this person. Kind of like ET. Like if anyone doesn't like the movie ET, that problem, that person's got a problem. No, that you're right. Problems with them.

Right, exactly. You like ET? I love ET, the Reese's Pieces, the whole thing. You're right, that makes me feel good. I mean, I like to, you know, I think I get along with most people. I've had a good week. I have you, what are you doing?

Yeah, I mean, I, Last I saw you, you were banging your dude with the maid. Dude, that was so funny. Now, last I saw you as well, you had your dude with the dude that was so funny now you last I saw you as well you had to for those of you might not remember she was banging her a guy like a friendship I guess it was a relationship dating a friend's he's got benefits yeah he does and her her housekeeper was out in the kitchen doing dishes and while she's quietly banging

this thing. Quietly banging him, not loudly. It occurs to Emily, oh wait, my poor housekeeper, my sex toys are on the kitchen counter because I was washing them in the sink, so she just thinks she was some kind of... I forgot she was coming. But let me tell you what happened after that. There's a part two to the story. Yeah, because then maid was coming the next day last time I saw you and that guy was coming

over. Right. So I texted him and I said, no, that's our joke. And I texted him. I said, so my housekeeper's coming tomorrow. Too bad you won't be here for something. Like, you know, it would be that was funny. And he's like, what makes you think I won't be there?

I was like, I'm working, now I'm doing love line, because I do love line off the show. And he ended up coming over again. What's your housekeeper look like? To younger lady or a lady? A little, I mean, she's probably maybe mid 40s and she doesn't speak English very well. She's, you know, Spanish only. She looks like sex is in a room in here.

No, but let me tell you something. If you recall, you guys check out this episode, I guess it came out last week. It was really funny because I didn't, I just revealed a lot and then it seemed really twisted. But I did, it wasn't like I was like, oh, she's here, let's bang, it just sort of happened. But we were like, does she know what I do?

Because there are toys everywhere. What if she's really religious? Like I have no idea because we don't speak, but here's the funny thing. So she ended up, he ended up sleeping over. We did not have sex and, and we did not have sex and she was there. But she said to me, and it was really sweet. I came out and she said, Miss Emily, I saw your magazine. I had this magazine. You know the sexual health expo? No, no, it wasn't a porn magazine. But remember the sexual actually, there's another one coming up,

the she, she. And my cover, my face was on the cover. And she said, she was last time so beautiful. I saw it. Can I have it? Oh, look at that. Right. She's got a son who's going to beat off? Oh, maybe she's got a son who's gonna beat off to it I don't think she was like gathering procuring information for her son I just thought she thought oh, I'll show my life. That's cute You you're on a magazine and I'm thinking could she read the magazine to sexual hot back so I'm like Okay, well now she thinks I was just funny because she's never talked to me or really asked me for anything So I'm like okay, we're good. We're good. She knows that I'm doing something sexual, and so I'm not that weird that having sex in the back of her.

There's toys all over the house. You're not just like some kind of Hussie who's a good guy. Right, it's my profession. It's a libido. My profession is to be a Hussie. So it was all good. So yeah, that was really funny. I'm kind of, yeah, I think I have any more good sex stories,

but I don't, but they're really more coming. Well, we're talking about coming on faces today, right? Yeah, we are the facial Which is really funny because It actually just came up during a sexual encounter I was having what yeah, what's the made there? He's like hey, honey she can clean it right off. He's like I'm I was about coming to face now make it all messy She's got the windex out and everything. Well, I'm glad you brought that up because it's funny because this guy said to me He said god, I just glad you brought that up because it's funny because this guy said to me, he said, God, I just kind of, and I know this, well, we're going to get to this email in a second because

there was a guy saying he's really wants to do it. He's afraid a woman's going to freak out. And well, first of all, I know you're married because that's going to be your answer. But do you have experiences with that? Like, do you think it's because of porn that every guy's obsessing about or like when you were a young kid? I have been arguing with Dr. Drew about the facial for a number of years now, because he has it in his book,

as strictly demeaning and degrading the women. And I'm not one to degrade women at all. And never have been, I actually think you guys are superior to men. I'm one of these guys. I'm one of those pussy guys. I love my mom, got two little sisters that I would kill for. You know what I mean? But my whole thing is, like, the face is my favorite thing,

and I like to finish on my favorite thing. If a guy like booms the most, he'd want to finish on the boobs, you know? Right. I tell Drew like, I really like, my car when I first got it, and I kind of wanted to climax on, you know? It's not like, grating, I'm not like, spinning on it.

I'm like putting my essence on it. I totally get it. Okay, so that's what I have to do. It's not grating. It's the way I see it. Right, and it can be if you like, if you're like, I'm gonna do it, she's not get it. Okay, so that's what I'm going to do. It's a way I see it. Right, and it can be if you're like, if you're like, I'm going to do it, and she's not into it, and she's not degrading,

but it can be offensive. There's like anything can be offensive. I can't imagine how a woman wouldn't enjoy it, unless you really knew that her guy liked it a lot. Right, well, that's the thing about sex, is that I think that, hopefully, in a healthy sexual relationship, you get off and what your partner gets off on.

Like, if I see that you guys turned on by something I'm doing like that, gets me turned on and I'm making them happy and vice versa. So hopefully. That's good chemistry. That's what good chemistry is. Exactly.

And like you wanted to do that. So anyway, this new guy with said, God, you know, and he always talks on my face. Like I think your face is so beautiful. And then he's like, kind of want to come on your face. He's like, I know, I don't know what you think of it. He's like, but it's just so beautiful.

I just want to. What's the thing that's during the act? Are we going to do this? This is pre-sex talk. Like just, no, we weren't at dinner you think of how he's like, but it's just so beautiful. I just want to- What's he saying? During the act where he got in the kitchen? No, this is pre-sex talk. Like, just, no, we weren't at dinner, we were at my house. And he said, does that freak you out? And I said, no, that's me.

I'm like, I believe, like, I don't judge you. I said, I, I said, it's funny because on my show, I always talk about like ejaculation etiquette. And you should, you know, ask, you know, let a woman know when you're about to come. But here's the thing, you don't want to surprise know let a woman know when you're about to come But here's a thing you don't want to surprise her with a facial. He said well, what would you he said was that bother you? I'm like no, I think it's hot and I can't remember how many mean I'm sure it's happened to me in the past It's not been like a huge thing, but I also don't get offended

I was like well, what would you want me to do whatever? I said my show I teach like you should always ask I said But it's not like I'm about hey wait on bot to come may I jackly on your face like yeah? So I said well, maybe you should and I always ask. I said, but it's not like, I'm about to come, may I jackly on your face? So I said, well, maybe you should, and I was like trying to explain, like maybe you should be like, well, now we've talked about it. So then I said, but then I said, maybe you just say, like, and I was kind of giving them a general advice, like if it's not just me, you just say,

I just want to come on your face, like in the middle of it, let them know like, and see what she says, and she's like, don't do that, or if she's like, that's hot, baby, then you know to do it. What are you doing? What do you mean? He's asking about your face, and you're talking about what you do to girls's like, don't do that. Or if she's like, that's hot, baby. Then you know to do it. What are you doing? What do you mean? He's asking about your face. And you're talking about what you do to girls.

I know, I do this a lot. Well, yeah, guys get mad when I do that. I know. I do that a lot. Well, it's for him. Well, maybe I said, and then he goes, I'm not talking about other girls. I'm talking about you.

So he did bring me back on track. Because I was in my like, sexual filming mode. Like, I don't do that. So I said, maybe if you just said, I really, I want to come in your face the night. I know, but I, yeah, that's cool right thing. So I said, maybe if you just said, I really, I want to come into face the night. I know, but I, yeah, that's cool. Like, it doesn't turn me off. I think that's hot.

You think my face is beautiful. And it's so funny because you just finished the puzzle. It's like, he's really into my face. He's always like, I missed your face. Your face is beautiful. And he's like, I want to come in face. There's feet guys, there's boob guys, there's ass guys.

Totally, there's boobs and ass. Face number one for me. And unfortunately, it's, you know, it's kind of a sensitive area for you know I would never do that to my wife because you know she's gonna be the mother of my children. Wait that's see that's messed up but you love her face. I do love it. So you're saying okay so that no you've been madonna horse. I'm just trying to get out of talking about sex. I guess so you do come on her face but it's okay.

No no no no. Never have never have. I got but he didn't come on my face I'm just saying but we did talk about maybe that's not. She gonna hear this. I'm gonna be in a lot of trouble She's not listening to sex film. I but all it takes is one Yeah, I get worried Dude people listen to my show and they always tell me they're not like guys I'm dating and then the sky is dating while it goes Like I listen to out of your podcast and I first I liked it and then I was tracking that we were dating and I He went through his book and was like oh, we work or his calendar. Oh, no like he tried to catch you like you trapped it and he's like you were talking about another dude when you don't really talk about dudes much

I've been a little bit more well because I've been dating more but I was like dude. I mean really like that was just that I don't even know what you're saying. I was like, well, how do you know I wasn't talking about you? He was a kind of a lot of stuff and like so he was like a like offended that he thought you were talking him Yeah, yeah, he's like well you didn't he he didn't think that I was really like when'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like,

I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like,

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I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I be like, I'm really sad today. Like maybe at the time I wasn't. Usually when I'm doing my show, I'm really happy. Hey, not to be with that guy, good decision. Good decision. I don't like him. Why? Because you weren't sharing about me. I know.

I'm like, what you said about me? It's a show, first of all, dude. All right, and I'm gonna turn on. I won't care when I do my show, but I said today. But something I wouldn't share. Like if I was devastated and my heart, I'd bring it up, but it wasn't like I was like, I was just for stupid.

So anyway, good time. So I prefer guys I date and not. I mean, the'd be, I'd bring it up, but it wasn't like I was like, I was just, we're stupid. So anyway, good time. So I prefer guys I date not. I mean, the thing is it's funny because I was saying it to this guy, the new one, then dating. And Madison was at my house, you know, Madison, my producer. Yeah, she was leaving to go out of town

and she had to come by and I'd let her bar by suitcase and bunch of stuff. This is recently. Yeah, and she said, it was funny because he's like, I don't really want to listen to your show. I haven't listened to it yet. This is who, the new guy. The new guy. Oh, and he said it was funny because he's like I don't really want to listen to your show I haven't listened to it yet. I said the new guy Oh, and he said the made banger and he said I don't really want to and I said that's cool Don't and I and she said well Emily's just Emily. She's no different

He said because she said hang out with Emily is the same as listen to her show. You're no different You don't have like a show persona and a regular persona, which is I think is true But it's more about the details that people hear that freak them out guys here. Like, I can't help it. I can't save them from self. And I'd rather not deal with it. And also if they get upset about things which just happened in the past, I'm like, just ask me because you might have misconstrued it. I might have been talking about something else because they trip. When trips, I'm like, don't listen. I don't think I've listened until I became like the weirdo jealous guy. Right. And then I started, because start cuz I mean I especially when I used to do drugs and whatnot stimulants

I used to become crazy jealous dude. Yeah, it was horrifying This one poor girl actually opened up her phone bill and started going through and look at the numbers and woke her up in the middle Like the night like highlighted numbers. I'm like look at you call this guy here. You did terrible So if if I was like in that kind of a state I totally listen to your show Right be excessive right like that guy and I wonder if that I try to be obsessive. Try to get like that guy. And I wonder if I- And then be shameful afterwards too. Right, because you get shameful after all of that

jealous activity. You're right, I'm not a jealous person, but yeah, I get it. And so I'm just like, let's just save it, don't listen. Just enjoy me for who I am. So speaking of sexual health ex-fo that I was talking about earlier, we are actually doing another one in New York, September 18th to the 20th.

And I'm so excited. And I really hope that all of you know my New York area people come. It will be amazing. And I'll be giving more details about how to RSVP and all that, but I'll be giving away tickets. And it's an expo that a lot of bunch of people can come and say lots of like different booths, like the best sex toys out there and then sex products, but also the leading sex educators in the country will be teaching workshops for two days on things that you really wanna learn. Like I've learned from Pete, these people, we all learn from each other, all these people

that it is be awesome. So come. The other thing is, how's their Hollywood? I'm teaching another workshop. We just decided today, it's gonna be Tuesday, July 28th, and it's seven to nine. I think it's seven 30 to be Tuesday, July 28th. And it's 7 to 9. I think it's 7.30 to, oh gosh, I don't know.

RSVP to HHRSVP at LFP.com. That's LFP, LarryFilmProductions.com. And I think it's at 7.30. And it's going to be sex toys, sex products. What are the best things out there? What do you want to do to enhance your relationship? You know, not just the buzzing vibrators, but also like, you know, BDSM stuff,

and it's gonna be super fun. The last one was amazing. And if you live in LA area, come or tell your friends who live here and it's gonna be a good friggin' time. So yeah, that's what I gotta say. I can get some sex in the news. How do you feel about that? Is there anything else you need to tell me?

Are you happy? I was just playing with my friend's drone and his house. He had a little mini drone. And I thought of you. What do you mean a mini drone? Like one of those little four propeller helicopters, it's like really small at the size of a matchbox.

Right? And he has it in his house. My chrono. He has it in his house. And it occurred to me as I was driving over here. I was thinking about the drone. And I was thinking about coming and doing a show with you and sex with Emily And you're always on my sex toys

And is there a like a drone with like a little sex something on the end of it? And you can maybe like fly it towards your partner's parts That sounds like it could be painful flying into your partner's parts, but like no If it has something like hanging off the end like vibrated and like you try like a game and you're trying to like get it like No, I don't even understand what it is. I'm gonna show you a picture. No, it's okay, but I- You don't know what a drone is?

Is that bad? Yeah. There's a lot of gaps in my knowledge. It's very cheeky of you, very cheeky. I'm a total shick. I mean, there's like, I don't know about sports. Like if you talk about sports, it's like, what are you saying to me now

in some foreign language? That's right. Yeah, no, but there is, oh, there's this really cool. So another thing that happened is, um, I had dinner with flashlight was in town. Fleshlight, the people who make the master's wish. They have like a mascot. Masked? No, but they should. They should. What would it be? Like a little masturbation scene with eyes on it for a year or something? Yeah.

It's been around like up and down like Pogo. Yeah, maybe. I know, but they don't, but I'll tell them. But they were talking about this new toy they have. It's called the Kiru. They just sent me one and I haven't figured it out yet. I need to open it and play with it. Play with it. But it is so freaking cool.

It is, I'm not going to explain this right. It's a toy that you use with your partner like if you're a long distance or you want to use it over Skype or FaceTime. There's a toy that you use with your partner like if you're long distance or you want to use it over Skype or FaceTime and so there's a vibrator so they connect right so there's a vibrator that looks like you know phallic shaped and she sticks that in her and has a sensor on it and then he's got a flashlight masturbation sleeve and so he can move the sensor on it to like level six and then he puts it over his penis and at the same time she's sticking the vibrator in her and she they're at penis and at the same time she's sticking the vibrator in her and

she they're at the going at the same speed so they're both connected these toys through through the Wi-Fi, Bluetooth, different room, different states, different countries. Okay, otherwise. So it's like you're having sex so she puts the vibrator in him, he's feeling what she's feeling, she's feeling what he's feeling, it's called the key room, just check it out in flashlight that kind of stuff. Pretty sweet. Pretty sweet. Does that make sense to you? Yeah. I'm thinking about guys being able to do this with like strangers on the side as well. Oh, they do it.

They're doing it in a webcam now. They're starting to do it soon. And it's just, I'll be talking about more, but I'm so excited to get started. I see someone who test it with. I thought it was in the same room. No, different rooms. Like, he has a long-distance relationship. It's like the Wevi, the programble.

We talk about that, but this one's like, you could be in a different country, but it's like you're having sex because you're feeling at the same time I know there are virtual hands coming out of a computer. I know. I love hand jobs. They're totally underrated. I think I gave a good hand job. Yeah I just feel like I spent a long time on the show trying to bring them back like five years ago. I was like why don't people do hand jobs anymore? I'm not saying it should replace the bow job, but just loop up a penis, use two hands. The right option. Whatever. You know, sex, like the variety, the varieties, varieties of spice of life and varieties, high spice of sex life too. So give a hand job

everywhere, and then turn into a blow job. So I'm saying, not saying it kind of replace it, just trying to bring it back. Okay, sex in the news. Yeah, you got sex in the news. Good. Former judge makes fake hooker ads for ex-girlfriends. Plural. Okay, according to the Houston Chronicle, former county courted law judge, the skies of judge people, Chris Dupree was arrested and charged with two counts of online harassment for allegedly placing fake online ads saying that two of his ex-girlfriends were available as hookers. Now while many of you might have considered seeking revenge on an ex, how many of them have gone this far, especially as a former judge of the law, a criminal complaint issued by

one of the victims stated that photos were taken from her Facebook and along with her telephone number placed in the S-C back page dot com. In addition the ad stated that her asking rate was seventy dollars for thirty minutes. Very fetish friendly and would guarantee you full satisfaction. The other ad featured a private photo sent to him from one of his exes of her breasts according to one complaint. Now it's now it's a big deal. Dude I mean he's a man of the law. You know what this is though? This is like just a much more elaborate,

official expensive version of writing for a good time. Call, 805, you know what I mean? Yeah, that's true. Scorn boyfriend used to do in high school all the time. They'd write their ex-girlfriend's phone number and the bathroom stall. Exactly. People do things out of rage and for revenge.

I've never done anything like this. Like, have you done anything for a girl? Like, I have friends who used to go crazy and like, Kee, their boyfriend, not right. I just make it all about me, because like, especially before, I was like, very narcissistic and I made it about me. I would not want revenge, I would just like,

want to figure out what was actually going on with other people in her. You know what I mean? Right, right, right. But you were like, vindictive, right? I mean, neither, but I had a friend who like, bent this guy's winter white bars, and she was like, what did I do?

I mean, but this is freaking crazy He's being held on $600,000 bail. What about the company that actually posted this because I would think that they'd have some kind of screening process So this couldn't happen to Well, he's a smart guy. He's a judge. I don't know, but this is so bad I got one judge that was like beating off like Doreen trials a few years ago God, I mean do you remember you used to think that like when I was a police mentor? I know. I'm kind of dating off underneath his robe during no one knew like a murder trial or something. He's like, boy, somebody caught him.

Maybe he was against a penis pump involved. He'll fucker. Yeah. They had a penis pump involved? Yeah, he had a penis pump involved. I believe so. Yeah. That would have been your sex in the news.

Oh my God. Let's have him do it again. No, just kidding. But I think this is bad because, you know, not only do you call her hookers, but like cheap hookers, like 70 bucks an hour. That's what he's trying to do, is demean them and make them seem like.

But it was so demean, he was so calculating, he's like, you're not only checking your cheap hooker and you like, yeah, anyway, so peace and jail. That's good. But it is so scary, and this should be another warning to all of you people to stop sending naked photos to your partner. I'm sorry, everyone's gonna get mad at me,

but like, you don't know you're gonna love. Here's my boobs, here's my naked, and guess what? Then it shows up in the air. I bet you 80% of your listeners have done something. I'm like the only one who hasn't, but yeah, just make sure you trust the person. And make sure your face isn't involved. The very least.

Keep the face out. Keep the face out. Or if you have a third nipple or something, then don't do it at all. First mark. Yeah, first mark. I mean, I don't know. I guess if you're married, I don't know. What people, tur. Yeah, I mean, I don't know if you really I guess if you're married

I don't know what people turquoise you know you've been in love the only one and then there your boobs are on the internet Okay There is a new study that reveals relations between sleep and better sex for women It seems like all these studies are coming out really about sleep sleep sleep. You got to sleep. Everything's better if you sleep I know it's just hard to freaking sleep I read all of these studies are sponsored by like' sleep. Pray it out, isn't it? Studies are sponsored by like mattress companies. No, this is actually by my alma mater.

A recent study conducted by researchers at the University of Michigan found that women who typically get more sleep have more sex. The researchers, researchers spent over two weeks tracking both the sleeping and sexual habits of 171 young women and found a significant correlation. To study concluded that not only are they having more sex, but that better sleep patterns

often lead to better sex. Why? Healthy and fulfilling sleeping habits lead to a better mood, energy, concentration, are connected to higher levels of sexual desire and arousal. The average sleep duration was seven hours and 22 minutes. And women reported feeling more rouse and overall longer period after a longer period of sleep. And they reported something even more impressive, even every additional hour of sleep increases the chance of sex by 14%. So let your partner sleep.

Fourteen percent. Yeah, I mean, that's good. I mean, if there's anything women and other partners can do to help promote good sleep for one another, whether it's helping out around the house to reduce workload, planning romantic getaways, or just practicing good sleep hygiene, that's good. I mean, if there's anything women and other partners can do to help promote good sleep for one another, whether it's helping out around the house to reduce workload, planning romantic anyways, or just practicing good sleep hygiene, it can help protect against having problems in the bedroom. But here's my thing.

I think that if you sleep, but like everything's better in your life, if you sleep more, you're more, you're better at work, you're a better productive, you're a better friend, you're a better everything. So I think the study was, I mean, I think it's great. It's a little note, duh. Yeah, it's kind of duh. But, I guess, you know, friend, you're a better everything. So I think the study was, I mean, I think it's great. It's a little note, duh. Yeah, it's kinda duh.

But. I guess, especially if you're young and you're thinking, like, well, people are bang all the time, they don't sleep at all, because whenever they're in bed, they go to the bed. Exactly. But I have to sleep eight hours a night, which I never do.

What, really? Do you? No, you could have been at like 10 or more. No, I get like five and a half a night if I'm lucky. But you have to sleep. No, but I don't ever. But I want, my goal is eight hours a night, even seven, but lately it's been. Everyone lucky, but you have to know but I don't ever but I want I would my goal is eight hours And I even seven but lately it's just you for six to eight. I think yeah, that's true

It's just been busy lately. Okay, this study helps you lose weight, too No, yeah, if you sleep well you lose weight a lot faster Yeah, and if you don't sleep right that's true and if you if you're safe deprived you No, it's true. Are you you take exactly. Okay, we know you hate the word moist. And now science knows why. Do you have a problem with the word moist? I don't hate it. Well, it's been called the most hated word in the country.

Worst and Kant? Yeah. I'm sorry. I don't know. Well, they didn't get into Kant. Well, put these in here. Okay, but don't you have you ever had an aversion to moist? If someone says that's a moist.

No, not really. Okay, I don't love it. I don't go out of my way to say it, but one of my favorite pans, they're called the moist boys. Really, it's a problem. I hate them. I guess Em doesn't like the word moist. No, I don't.

So I was like, oh my God. Oh, Greg, this is from Greg. Long time listener, and he just sends me sex in the new stories all the time. And I love him. And so this is it. Thank you, Greg. So it's been called just sends me sex in the new stories all the time, and I love him. And so this is it. Thank you, Greg. So it's been called the most hated word in the country. Researchers at Oberlin College and Trinity University decided to explore the logic behind the

aversion using three experiments that suggest semantic features of the word moist. Like, its associations with bodily functions are the underlying cause of our collective disgust. So they ask participants to rate a collection of words from a list categories that includes taboo disgust, positive, negative, etc. and conjunction with six dimensions like familiarity, imagine imagery, arousal, a verse of it, whatever. Okay, do you guys understand what I'm saying? I'm gonna get to the point. I would think rape murder, not see these little all words that you'd hate more with those criteria. But okay, one goal of the experiment was to determine

whether moist averse people, moist averse people, moist averse, moist averse people, demonstrate an aversion towards similar semantic or phonetic properties words like damp, sticky, hoist or rejoiced. Is it the sound, the meaning? Participants were asked to rate those words, which were designed to ensure the word moist

was presented in sexual, culinary, or culinary context. Found the experiment, they offered up whether or not they found the word moist gross, and if so, why? 21% of the study participants demonstrated an aversion to the word, and the research found that the context didn't matter much people just don't like it. It's just an ugly sound that makes what that makes it every time that sound gross at one participant.

It's never a good to me. I think I'm moist. I don't think it's sex. I think you're like cake. Well, that's the thing they said. If you say moist cake here, that was a slightly better, but also words that are associated with bodily functions like vomit music mucus. Okay. Okay. Moist mucus. I don't know. They say it's cringe worthy and moist still takes

the cake though, whether presenting the context of food or sex at all, moist still agree. Everyone agrees the words gross. I just think it's funny because I always because he said to me Greg, he's like, I know you hate the word moist because I must have said it before. And apparently everyone else does too. You know what word I think is way worse than moist. What? Sloughing. Sloughing? Yeah.

Who uses that word? Drone. And people talking about periods and PMS and... These are sloughing? Yeah, you're like interior, you're you're you're you're you're sluffs. Oh, that's not like it word. See, sloughing way worse than moist. That is worse.

No, but moist. You know, the sloughing causes it to be moist. Oh, please don't do that. I'm sorry. Okay, the sloughing causes it to be moist. Oh, please don't do that. I don't know, I'm sorry. Okay, that's what I got for you news. Let's get into some emails. I love hearing from everybody.

So thank you for emailing me at feedback at sexwithmwe.com and don't forget to include your name and where you're listening from and how you listen to the show. Good, yes. It's a little forum almost. Yeah, I just want to know, it gives me context. Can I ask you a question before we move on to your question? I love when you ask me. Is it sex question?

Talking about terrible words in words you don't like, do you have a favorite word? You have a word that you love. That's a great question. Maybe you can get back to me before the show is over. Yeah, there are a few that I like. I love the word of like, um. Maybe you can pepper them in throughout the episode. I will. I'll try too. I will I'll try to

I will try now I'm like being okay. I Okay, here we go. How do I know I'm thinking I'm I know I threw you off a little bit. I'm so insidious and I was like I love that word insidious. Yeah, yeah I haven't seen the movies obviously They're like horror films. They're awful in fact in Ohio a couple weeks ago They played in cities, which is like a really hard or a slasher film. They played in Sidious 3 by a mistake instead of Inside Out, which the new Pixar movie,

to a full house of little kids. How do you mess that up in a theater? Because Inside Out in Sidious, they were tight in the first place. Oh, that's hilarious. And they figured it out pretty quick, but it wasn't until the movie had already started, and those movies always start off with something pretty good Oh my god

I just like the word because like that's so in city is that like the way it sounds like if someone does something that sort of you know Off and you're like that so so thank you, and it's so It's so what okay? It's so in city. Yes. Okay. I'm a 20. Hi Emily. I'm a 27 year old female from Ohio Oh, that's where in city is played instead of inside out. Sorry. Really? That's female from Ohio. Oh, that's where it's serious, instead of inside out, sorry. Really? That's where it played? Oh, hell. Okay.

But like in city, when they're being like trickier, they're being conniving, that's what I want to say. Okay, you know, if you didn't know what it means, that's your word of the day. I'm 27 years old from Ohio. I love listening to your show on my podcast app in the car. There we go. Thank you.

So, I listen to my podcast. Podcasts, I tend to podcast stuff. All the podcast that I listen to is always in my, usually in my car. Me too. And when I run, now I'm listening to a bunch of more. I've never used to listen to podcasts, but now I am. It's so funny for, I'm kind of, it's kind of weird to say this, but I have never heard another podcast.

I don't even listen to my own ever. I've never listened to one show. You know what I did? Do you think that's weird? Like, do you listen to your shows? Well, I listen to the afters after. I admit that all the time, three months later though. So I don't, I don't remember it.

So it's like a brand new show. And I don't even notice myself. I don't recognize myself as myself on this show. I listen to the afters after I admit that all the time three months later though. So I don't I don't remember it. So it's like a brand new show. I don't even notice myself. I don't recognize myself as myself on the show. So see that's what happens when you're in the show. You don't really remember what happens. Right. Anyway, I've never listened to my show. Maybe the first or two episodes, but it's just happened to a thousand. Check the quality. Check the quality. Yeah, but I don't anymore. Okay. So. But no, what you're saying is working out. But now I'm listening to others podcasts. And I I know a lot of people are like, I gotta listen to music when I work out. You know what? For me, like if I'm listening to others podcasts and I I know a lot of people are like I got to listen music when I work out You know what for me like if I'm listening to like a really interesting podcast and I forget that I'm even hiking or you know Walking upstairs I forget right you get it's fascinating better than music music than you're focusing on like the muscles

You got to push through right but if you're just like listening something interesting like you forget the Exactly and there's so many great ones and I was just on okay So everyone's checked this that I was on Dave Asprey's bulletproof podcast bulletproof guy his podcast is super popular And I was I was on a show it just it just came out like two weeks ago And it was funny because I was listening to his previous shows which got me into other some other podcast But it was like Arya and a Huffington Who else on it's Tim Ferriss and then like I was on I'm like oh god how am I gonna do but then my friend tell me she Listen as good because I was like am I'm like, oh, God, how am I going to do? But then my friend told me she was and I was good because I was like, am I, you know,

I don't know. I was fine. I was fine. I was fine. I was fine. I was fine. You know, that's what we started before we turned on, he said I'm hurt on myself, which I am.

And that's what every close friend. You were talking about what we talked about before. Yeah. Which was that I'm hurt on myself. Okay, sorry. She's 27 Ohio. Yes. What's her name?

Her name is Sarah. Sarah. Sarah, Sarah. I have a question for you regarding sex with my fiance. We really only have sex on the weekends. Maybe once or twice on Saturday or Sunday morning. He says he always loves having sex, but it's often tired after work. And he has mentioned to me that he just doesn't feel like having sex when he's tired. If I bring this up, which I have a couple times after some beers, he says I just don't initiate

enough and that he wouldn't turn me down if I did initiate once in a while. I have a couple times after some beers. He says, I just don't initiate enough and that he wouldn't turn me down if I did initiate once in a while. I have to meddy is pretty much always the one to initiate. How can I initiate more sex when he stated that he doesn't feel like having sex when he's tired? I'm afraid I'll get turned down and if he didn't turn me down, I'd feel like he was having sex

that we didn't feel like it. Any thoughts on this? Thanks so much, Sarah. Sarah, you bring up a really interesting point here by initiating sex. One of the top complaints I hear from men is that women don't initiate sex enough. And so I understand why too because there is the whole game that men, we sort of are brought up in a way that they're socialized that men should start in. We don't want to be the aggressors and all that.

And I also understand that it's hard to put yourself out there. But now you understand what guys go through all the time, right? You're like, am I going to direct you? Am I not? I want sex. I'll try. So there is a pressure to initiate and there is the fear of rejection. We all have a deep, we all have a deep, deep fear of rejection.

But if you want sex and you know that even if he's exhausted, he will enjoy the sex because Sarah, if you read your email, he told you himself, there is no harmonious and he's your fiance. So stop stressing about whether he wants or not and go for it because you want it. You're telling me that you're not having enough sex. You want it more. You're having it once or twice on the weekends, it's not enough. And so let's think about yourself. I feel like it's kind of contradictory because you're saying that you want it,

but he doesn't, you're overthinking this way too much. And when you're turned on, believe me, I have a guy here who will probably agree with me. We're all friggin tired after work, but if you initiate it, I'm sure he's gonna come around and he's not gonna be rejecting you he's not going to be rejecting you. And he said to you that you don't initiate it enough. So he's kind of like leaving you no room here.

Here's what I'm hearing. What? Like, he is tired and he does know what the four play is and what the routine is and what he has to do. And it's probably him doing a lot of the work and the happy lifting and he doesn't feel like beginning and doing all that and going down that road. And he wants her to start it. And what you got to know Sarah's guys are so simple,

especially when it comes to sex, the keys are in your pocket. If you just started up a little bit, he's not gonna say I'm too tired. No way. Once you get him a little bit too much, and he's going to be in. It's like you gave him a cup of coffee.

Like literally you just need to put your hand as crotch. I mean, you need to kiss him. I mean, how easy is that? As a woman, you don't have to worry about rejection with your partner. Right. As a man, yeah. Rejection is probably the worst feeling an individual could ever experience. It's awful. It's not easy as that. As a woman, you don't have to worry about rejection with your partner. As a man, yeah. I mean, rejection is probably the worst feeling an individual could ever experience.

It's awful, it's terrible. And I get it, like I hate asking them to not get it. The sex, because you feel rejected. Even though if it's like the person you're in love with, it still feels awful, but you're not going to. Yeah, honey, he's your fiance. So it's like, I feel like this is gonna be so good

for you, Sarah, because you're gonna break through this and you're like, wow, that was easy, because I promise you that, again, I hear from more men on the show that like, my wife doesn't want it, my partner doesn't want it. And you know, you're saying like, he wants it, he's a little tired. And maybe it is because you know, he's like,

I gotta do this, I gotta go down or whatever. And you should just drop to your knees and give him a blowjob when he walks the door. I don't know, start with that. And you can also. I got it. During the blowjob. Oh yeah. And then it know, start with that. And you can also. I contact. During the blowjob. Oh yeah.

And then it'll give you a facial. If you're, but not eye contact the whole time, then it gets creepy. It's a little flickering eye contact. Yeah, look up at him when you got in your mouth and like lick the rim and all that stuff. Okay. If you're worried about him though,

not being up for the spontaneous, you can also do the all day seduction, do Leo, send them a flirty text Let them know that like you know you've something sexy plan. I can't wait to see you I've been thinking about your cock all day. Wow, wow, cocks I know I just say that yeah What I'm thinking at your penis? Your genitalia, you're dangling. I you know, I don't often use words like that on the show

But for this place I had to that one of your favorite words I Use words like that on the show, but for this place I had to that one of your favorite words I threw it up. No, I Will talk is my favorite. Shuttle talk. Shuttlecock. It's that little thing you use in that Mint. It's a shuttlecock. I don't know it, but what is your favorite? What is your Really your favorite word? Shuttlecock. Okay, you think about it. Oh, oh, Goesh. Yeah, it's an all-time world. My mommy's say that. You can also say like babe, I'm thinking about you just send him him a sexy picture of yourself. Some sexual 30-ton, be like, God, when you get home tonight, I'm just gonna...

And then follow through. Yeah, I'm just gonna grab your cock, I'm gonna make out with you. I say I can't keep thinking about last weekend that was so hot, wait till you get home tonight. Whatever you, whatever, I don't know what your dialogue is with him, but by the time he gets home, believe me, and you might even get home early on this night,

not so tired, he'll be wrapped up ready to go. Probably, probably. So test out these things, and I just think it's like ripping a band it off. Just grab it, grab him. Taste work. Do it. What, relationship.

Yeah, we're relationships, it totally take work. Absolutely. But it's a little, she should be a little concerned though, if they're not even married yet, in the Arabian. Well, here's what I like to say. I meant to say this too. I love that you're not married yet and that you're emailing me about this because couples wait for this to go on way too long and they never ever talk about it. So I think to me, this is completely solvable.

I feel like you do this once and you're going to be like, oh, that was nothing. I'm going to do that more often and stop overthinking it. You're going to be psyched. And so this should go out to all of you, a lot of listeners too. If you're in a relationship, it's never too late, but the sooner you start talking about the stuff, the better sex you will have in the long term. Okay, we, I need to tell you guys,

I want thing before we get to sleeping orgasms, which is the next email. We need orgasms. Yeah, do you have orgasms? Like wet dreams or women have orgasms? I'm right over my life, ever. Ever? I don't, I think God hates me.

He does. I thought like, yeah, two is a boy, like a red a passage. Okay, we'll get back to that. But you know how I'm always saying, like I just did, it's important to talk about your sex life and mix things up in the bedroom. Hustler Hollywood stores should be your main destination for this, the best toys, Radica.

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and all these shows I go to, they win every award, but also they've award-winning loop. They look like giant cocks. There's that cock word again. I just feel like I have free range to say it. I like the word litigious. But don't sue me. My brothers are lawyer, exactly. Maybe, I don't know, I just like the word litigious. But don't sue me. My brothers are lawyer, exactly.

Maybe. I don't know. I just like the word just came up my mind. Don't be lit. He's so litigiously going after all the one is company. Skull Duggery is pretty good too. Skull Duggery. Skull Duggery.

Yeah, Mike Tyson uses that. Skull Duggery. It's like an old pirate word, but it's a real word. Mike Tyson likes to throw it around. I love it. I don't know. Skull Duggery, it's like an old pirate word, but it's a real word and Mike Tyson likes to throw it around. I love it, I don't know, I guess Skulled Duggery. Okay, sleep orgasms. Hamlee, I love your show. I've been listening every day now for a few months, making my way through them all.

Wow, and I've learned so much, you're all awesome. My question is this, is it normal to orgasm when you're asleep? This has been happening for maybe two years every month or so, and it's a clitoral orgasm that just happens out of the blue and it wakes me up as it happens. I find it easy to orgasm by myself, whether it's with my hands or a vi-rater, but I find it impossible to orgasm with my partner of three years. Yet, I can do it with my sleep with no stimulation.

It's crazy. Thanks in advance. See 23 from New Zealand female. Okay. She's the Kiwi. I love all of our, hello to all of our Australian New Zealand listeners. Crazy amounts. Love you guys.

Love that you're listening. Okay. So here's what's happening. See, when you're in the dreaming stage of sleep known as REM, rapid eye movement, impulses in your body, they engorge periodically the general regimen blood. Encore is a word that you don't like. Just as if you were roused. When you're in the stage, it can happen. Sometimes that increased blood flow, peaks and releases which results in orgasm. So that's what's happening to your body. It's the female version of a wet dream, but you don't have to even be having erotic thoughts when it happened.

I think you're lucky, see? I'm like, whoa, two years. It's entire physiological, so you can't control or predict it. It just happens. It doesn't sound like it's bumming you out. In fact, I have like have had two, I think, in my life. And I wish I had more, because they're awesome. Most of them sleep through it, and it's cool that you're aware of them. And so I hope it doesn't take you away from your sleep though because as you're not safe. A possible explanation for why you can orgasm solo but not with a partner is because you know for starters you know she knows how to touch herself. You know how to make yourself feel good, your highly orgasmic but when you're with your partner this thing called our

mind, our brain, the largest sex organ is ticking and you're thinking and you're with your partner, this thing called our mind, our brain, the largest sex organ, is ticking and you're thinking and you're like, worrying and you're like, oh my god, I can't orgasm, I haven't orgasm in three years. And you're just thinking about it to, you know, a lot. And so, once your partner is added to the mix, it gets complicated, you're thinking, he doesn't the same knowledge of your body. So it's hard to do the same things you would when you're alone to get the same results. And so, and if your brain to do the same things you would when you're alone to get the same results. And so, and if your brain is preoccupied during sex thinking, like, I'm not going to calm, it hasn't happened before, is it going to happen?

It's not going to happen. You're overthinking. You're overthinking it. So, you've got to just get into the moment with your partner, which I've talked a lot about on the show, just getting fun, like having fun, letting loose, and every time you find yourself thinking these thoughts, see you're like, it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. It's gonna take a little bit of time,

but the second that triggers in your mind, go right back to what you're feeling in your body. Like, where am I? Where is this penis? What am I doing? How am I moving around? And just take your mind out of your thoughts, and you'll get there.

Also, maybe you should try, I don't know if you've explained to him or if you guys have ever done mutual masturbation, does he know how you touch yourself? Does he know what makes you feel good? Sounds like you're easily having clitoris orgasms, clitoris orgasms, that maybe you could bring a sex toy in. Like try a sex toy, the one that you use with yourself and just use it with him when you're on top or whenever you can actually use little mini vibes anywhere.

Or you can just touch yourself in front of him and show him what you do, put his hand over your hand and we'll get him excited and get you in the orgasmic mindset and then it'll teach him the right way. So maybe you just start with the sure thing which is your hands or a vibe and then you have the first one and then you'll start to think, oh, it is possible and then eventually you try it without the vibrator or your hands and see what happens. Because you can change this pattern. And you've been together three years.

So I just feel like it is time. So I'm so glad that you emailed. Because if you've never had an orgasm and you're not orgasming with them, we'd have a whole other conversation. But you're easily orgasmic. So this should be easy for you. I mean, it's like I'm easy. You got to retrain your mind.

But this can happen. See, this will happen. This can happen. I see it happening. You're all good. Follow those tips. You should continue to wake up moist. Which is nice, right? Why not? I don't know. Why not? I love when that happened to me. I was like, yes, that's so happy. I would happen tonight. It won't happen if I dream about it.

Wait, what if I put it in my mind? Do you have a kind of, like, you're having a very odd dream that's not connected, but then you associate, you know what I mean? Like, what if I put it in my mind? Do you know what if you have kind of like a you're having a very odd dream that's not connected than you associate You know what I mean like what if you're dreaming about like Pickles I mean that'd be bad. That's and the pickles wouldn't be that oh You know, I mean are like a school teacher like somebody you know somebody that you want it one associate with sex But I wonder if the brain would get all tripped up. Well, yeah, this is mostly we're talking, it's physiological. I don't think that people are often having

directly erotic thoughts. It's just a dream and then her body gets engorged. Oh, would you stop? Okay, vacation sex tips. Are you taking a vacation this summer? Yeah, to camp, I'm gonna be a counselor for weeks. Oh, right. So you won't be having vacation sex.

No sex, no smokes, no drinking, no causing. No sex with the kids around. Or with anyone else around. Okay, so I've been doing a lot of talk about vacation sex. I actually wrote a column for Harper's Bazaar recently. Harper's Bazaar online about all about vacation sex. Because a lot of couples, I always say get away. You need to get away, get out of the bedroom and just spice things up

because life is too short and a lot of times you're always having sex in the same place. So here's a deal, this will email. Dear Emily, my girlfriend and I are busy people and can go stretches where we don't have time to see each other. We've decided to have a sex getaway where we plan on getting hotel room and not leaving.

This may be an odd question, but what ways should we prepare for this sex getaway? Outside of being in the best shape possible and saying hydrator that is. Signed Jack. Good for you Jack. I love the idea of a sex getaway, especially the summer. It's perfect way for couples to take a break from the daily grind, from the bedroom, from every world's you've sex, the bills, the dog, whatever's going on in your life, and just reignite the fire in the relationship. And it's a good question for you guys to discuss. So let me give you some tips.

I've got them here for you. So make a sexy bucket. Here's just some ideas. Take one or two. It'll change it all, but I'm going to give you a bunch because you never know what's going to make it happier. Make a sexy bucket list. So are there, is it checked?

Let me let me ask you this. Is there anything that you've been wanting to try? Like it could be tying her up, it could be a facial, it could be, I don't know what. But why don't you guys eat right down three things and then exchange a list before your trip. Maxime, you're out having a drink, so it doesn't just be like,

hey, I think that'd be so hot and then we can make one of them happen on the trip. Just think about what fantasies you want to explore. You can also, and here's what you should pack, okay? Be mindful, and this is for your partner too, like for her that makes her feel sexy. Maybe you can buy her some new lingerie. Is there anything that you've been wanting to see her in?

Like maybe you like the thigh highs, or you like something sexy? So, or is there things that she's worn that makes her feel sexy? Whatever it is, you guys should both pack what makes you feel the sexy. So mostly it's the way I'm addressing it, right? Anderson, like you don't have sexy underwear, do you?

I have that holster that I put on. Guns in it. That's kind of hot. both pack what makes you feel the sexy. So mostly it's the women dressing up, right? Anderson, you don't have sexy underwear, do you? I have that holster that I put on. Guns in it. That's kind of hot. I have to chaps. I have to chaps. I have to chaps. Guys, don't, you guys can't, like,

What are we gonna do? I know. I know. So, what are we gonna do? Do the sexy bucket list, gear up, because that was, that was a mic. This is from my column that I wrote. So gear up, okay, so here's the gear that you need.

Create a sensual vacation kit get massage oil candles like my Emily and Tony candles And I make them now the minasha toa set there you can get all three cents and they're perfect for travel and so Because massage is huge and vacation you have time to massage each other. So bring your favorite music what? I'm thinking like you get and then you can say to her like, Hey, honey, you want to have a threesome? I'm gonna. I'm gonna. I just try. Right. And then she'll be like, what? How dare you? And then you break out the candles. And you're like, no, talking about this. Yeah. And you could do this. To like really happy, really quick. I love this.

You like to prank your your lady. Oh my god. Yeah, you could pack all this without her. She'd probably she's super stressed out too. too, bring your favorite music, sex toys. Brand new, sex toys. If you don't get like new, sex toys, you can go to AdamNive.com, use code Emily, and have a bunch of stuff like, ship to your house. That would be fun to do together, go to your local store,

go to Haasar Hollywood, whatever you want. Bring lubricant, bath salts, and your favorite treats, like if there's like special, what? Bath salts. What, there's bath salts? I know, but now bath salts are thought of as that horrible, crazy drug that people eat each of those faces with. Oh, man.

Bubbles? Bubbles, yeah. Okay. Minerals for the bath. You want to make sure that the room is calming and relaxing. You can like get flowers when you get there, because I can help you get you in the mood, you know? So you'll be siren by all the things that you really like. Because I can help you get to the mood. So you'll be surrounded by all the things that you really like.

And also you want to explore. So maybe you've been wanting to tie each other up. You could bring some different blindfolding things. You could use a scarf. You could bring a necktie. And the massage candles are not only great for scent and obvious. Because they totally do set the mood. Even if you don't use a mistake give her a massage

But search for new a Roger in his zone like spend a whole day like massaging each other Like if you don't want to leave the room you said that you don't care where you are You can be like in the middle of nowhere like you should have a day where it's like you start off with her And you in your goal is to hold out and sex as long as you can and you just massage her body and you wait as long as can and you just massage her body and you wait as long as possible. Okay? Before you get to her clitoris and down there, like kiss her neck, kiss her breast, kiss her stomach, like her thighs expend a lot of time doing things and finding out different erogenous zones. It's like a little treasure hunt. It'll be really fun. Um, so, you know, and she'll do the same for you. Why not? Right? Also, what? Hopefully. Well, you hope she'll return the favor. Um, also, yeah, I know, and she'll do the same for you. Why not, right? Also, what? Hopefully.

Oh, you hope she'll return the favor. Also, yeah, I mean, those were some good tips, right? I was also thinking that, and then they get you going, like you said, you want to stay in the room, but if you as do some adrenaline, enhancing activities like, um, jump out of an airplane, what are we will do in trips? Parasailing, parodoliding. What is he who's going? He didn't say.

He doesn't want to leave room. Well, I hope that if it's a cheap city. Right. Why would you go to like Paris and stay he say he was going? He didn't say. He doesn't want to leave the room. Well, hoping that if it's a cheap city, why would you go to Paris and stay in the room all you don't even. Right. Well, maybe you just go for a run together. Whatever it is, it's good to say healthy. You said you're in great shape. So do that because the more adrenaline you have, if you guys go for a run together, that

also connects you. You think we're going to the city of industry, honey? Exactly. Stay in the room the whole time. But like just bring all those things I just said, like sexy. It'll be awesome. And also you can buy my book. Like we said, hot sex over two and things you can try at night.

You can buy an Amazon overnight. They'll overnight it to you. And all you do is it's a picture book and you open it up to this page. Like let's try this position. You can have a delivery to the hotel. Oh, that's good. And like pack her favorite snacks, like chocolates or things that she likes that she doesn't know.

Yeah. So you guys don't have to leave the room. That's a good idea too. Room service. Oh, room service, good too. Room service is like an effort easy. Like you guys love your room service. I love room service. Gotta get room service, honey.

Right, it's the best. No, I really do. I know. You love it. I just, I'll go downstairs and save myself 15 bucks. There's something so sexy about room service. You're right, but you're no, you're right. And it's also like, it's expensive.

So I like it when I'm on a business trip. My wife, my wife, something on the Playboy Mansion. And the only thing that she was really blown away by and loved so much was have had like a bell or like a something he would just ring. And it was 24 hours a day. Any food he wanted, they'd bring it to him. When you play with the Playboy Mansion or when you eat it. Playboy Mansion.

Yeah. And that was the thing that she, not the grotto, not like the zoo that he has in the Eddie foodie wanted they bring it to him. When you play what mention or when you play what mention. Yeah, and that was the thing that she I'm not the grotto, not like the zoo that he has in the backyard. Not all like the grotto. Well, it's barely what. It was a bell. No, it's from like when you say, you know, 20 years ago.

I want a bell. 24 hours. She's like, I just so want a bell. I just want people to like come bring me food. And that's why I really like, no, I'm not kidding you. I get home every night. That's why I really do like the grays.com. I mean, I am not kidding you that I,

you know I don't cook, I'm hungry, I don't have my time. I just sometimes, I'm like, why isn't there like a refrigerator fairy? Like you know there's like a tooth fairy. I just wish that someone would come to my house and just put food in it, like you're cooked for me or clean. I need a wife.

I need a wife. Why, am I complaining? It's such a, yeah, it's just why, why is it so why? Hey, you can, you're a grown woman. You can go to the market. I'm gonna, you know what I do? After loveline at midnight on my home,

I stop at like Vans, cause it's open to like, it's what I do sometimes, too. Do you? It's the only time I have to go shopping. And they always look at you like a dirty look because they're stalking everything. It's the sketchiest place ever at two o'clock when I got in the morning, but I get it all done.

Okay, do we have time for one more? One more. Okay, one more. Okay, do we have time for one more? One more. Okay, one more. Okay, hello. Hello. Hello, Emily. I hope this is the right place to ask you questions, but I'm neat. I mean, need some tips and help.

Now, I love going down on my boyfriend. Sometimes about how much he loves it and really turns me on. I want to make him finish, you know, in my mouth, but I just can't get past the taste. Oh, I didn't get into the facial part. That's another email. Oh, that was all email into itself. Yeah. I.

in my mouth, but I just can't get past the taste. Oh, I didn't get into the facial part. That's another email. Oh, that was all email into itself. Yeah. Shite. Let's do both. Let's do both. Okay, ready?

Yeah, you're right. I'll move fast. Okay, I love what my boyfriend's something, but how much, you know, he loves it turns me on. I want to make him finish, you know, in my mouth, but I can't get past the taste. We've been together a year. He's been started to question me and ask me more

to do it for him, but I don't want to embarrass myself or him. I've done it with other guys and sometimes it doesn't turn out so good. By that, I mean the taste and the response my gag reflexes have. Vomit on the penis. Suck it up, literally figuratively. Next. Okay.

Please help me try and overcome this fear of mine because I really want to fully please my boyfriend. Thanks in advance. I really love your page. My boyfriend and I refer to it quite often. Exolien. Okay. Here's a thing, man. Seeming doesn't thanks in advance. I really love your page. My boyfriend, I refer to it quite often, exolian. Okay, here's a thing, man. Seaman doesn't taste like candy.

I know, I get it. And it isn't the most pleasant thing sometimes to have in your mouth. Possible though, you're psyching your stuff out just a little bit. Because when you're nervous and anxious about oral, you like tense up and you're like, it's not gonna be good.

And so, there's your throat, which makes you gag. So, there's two things here. There's the gag reflex. And so, there's certain positions that you can get in where your gag reflex like if you lean your head on the back, like if you're lying on the bed flat, on your back, and you lean your head slightly over the bed, and then he's on top of you kind of putting your his cock, I can say it up in your mouth. You can go deeper in your throat. That's one way. Also, relax the jaw and breathe. And just like you know, because if you're tense, the anal sex people

tense, relax, breathe. And it will go in deep or every time if you just relax the gag reflex and practice, it'll stretch out. I mean, it'll, it'll adjust and you'll start to realize opening. Okay, let's hear his thing. Another thing is to make it enjoyable for him, because he doesn't think, you know, that it's torching you by asking you to do it. It can heighten your experience.

If you just want to fake it till you make it. Like it sounds like you, he's getting bummed out with it, but if you get into, you already have the one thing down that you love turning them on and you know it makes feel good. So that's what you can do with the gag reflexes. Here's another thing, speaking of the hand job, you don't have to take it in as tight as you think, as deep as you think.

We think guys love it, I think that's a important thing too, but the most important thing about a blowjob is enthusiasm and pressure. So your hand, think of your hand, they want it to feel like a vagina, or they want it to feel like a vagina or your mouth, right? So you can easily use your hands, two hands, enough pressure,

and have your mouth go up and down, but while your mouth is coming back up, use your hands on it, go up and down, use a lot of lube, make sure it's wet, and he will be fine. Because if the gag, you know, you don't have to do the gag reflex all the time. And here's the one thing. If you can't stand the taste, use mask strips.

They are like the list of ingredients for breath. They put it in the mouth, but it's not, it's M-A-S-Q-E. They taste like strawberry, watermelon, cherry, and you put it in your tongue, and I'm telling you, they are made to mask the taste of semen. So it'll taste like a friggin' strawberry shortcake next time you give them a head. So good luck. That's what I gotta say. Next one, facials we gotta get to this dear Emily.

But 20 year old and I realize every time I've sex, all I fantasize about is coming on the face of whoever I'm having sex with. Even when I fantasize about sex with random people, I don't want to give them a facial. Girls hate it and I don't know if I should give up on the hottest thing in my mind or wait till I find that freaky girl that's into it. We covered this at the top of the show. Thank you Ken. This is from Ken. Pretty sure that you have porn to thanks for this fascination, but you said you were thinking about this a long time ago, or was it with porn that you started? For years, I've been arguing with you about, because

I just don't like that he says that it's totally degrading and that's a whole reason why anyone will ever want to do it and I totally disagree with that. Yeah, I mean some people say it's about domination and having a girl is willing to be degraded or who just trusts you enough to let you cover her face. If you're peeing on her that's a different thing. I mean I don't think it's in your 20 I don't think it's a freaky girl that you got to find some alternative chick that you might really be surprised. What, yeah, right? It's porn and whatnot.

More guys are probably gonna be into this because they call it the money shot. You know, it's the last thing that you look at a lot of the time in a lot of these videos. Exactly. I mean, I don't know if this, like, I mean, he's probably doesn't have a fetish about it, but I mean, I just think that it doesn't hurt

to ask your partner, like I said earlier, the worst sex, the worst sex, the worst thing your partner can say is no thanks But you never know and you could ask the right girl and finally see like that she's into it So I think that you're like totally cock blocking yourself here Because it's like 11. I said cock am I said 11 12 cocks now 12. Oh, I just feel, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I of guys do, they say, like, where should I come? Yeah. And see what you said. She might say on my ass, on my stomach.

A bit of a freak, she might be like, I don't know. And she might have watched a lot of porn and be like, come on my face. You don't know, you really, really don't know Ken that you're not gonna find somebody's into it. But there's also, there's a third possibility, which is she'll say yes, but she's like,

you know, one of those girls, it just does whatever, because she's very submissive, and she's hating it, but she's saying yes for the wrong reason. That's like probably the worst. I'd almost rather a girl say no, absolutely not. That's disgusting. Then yeah, okay. In her head. And then she hates someone.

Go to home and tell our friends. Well, Ken, I wouldn't whip out the facial on the first time you're with someone. Don't do the first time. This is the more like someone you're with for a little while. Yeah. And your age that might be a month, I don't know. But I don't think that you're not going to not find it, you might, you will, don't worry about it, don't trip on it.

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