Sex With Emily - Sex, Swinging & Squirting

Episode Date: July 9, 2014

In the latest podcast Emily and Menace are talking all about pushing the boundaries of your relationship. Whether or not you’re wondering if your friends-with-benefits situation will ever become something more, questioning if you should introduce your true love to swinging, or concerned about how to acquaint a new partner with your favorite sex toy- this show is for you. Emily is here to give you her tried and true advice!Looking for a surefire way to escape the friendzone, want to know how to escape a dead end relationship? Curious about what kind of accessories you’ll need to handle a partner that squirts? This podcast has it all. Plus, Menace and Emily talk about their newfound love for the beach and debate a character from their past- “Captain Erotica.”Is anal the new blowjob? Is squirting the new anal? Find out on the latest episode of Sex With Emily! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can check out our podcast that are from Emily and this, which you should do because I send amazing emails that we'll have for sex life, and I don't spam you. And I'm here with menace today. Hi menace.

Hello. How are you doing? How are you doing? I am here in wonderful Los Angeles with you, and it is sunny outside. I always sunny. I need a very single day. I forget love it. I know, my girlfriend's pissed because when we lived in San Francisco, she's really into this brand

called All Saints. And now, so Jackets at All Saints are expensive. Yeah. I love all the stuff. She worked hard. She didn't make a ton of money. So she was spent her money on these jackets. They're like $700.

Right, because it matters. Jackets at San Francisco. You can never wear them now. I know spent her money on these jackets. They're like $700. Right, because it matters, jackets and semisco. You can never wear them now. I know, she can sell them in eBay. No, it's true. It's so true. I just cleaned out all my clothes, my winter. Like, I don't need it.

You don't need it. Yeah. But it took me a while living here until I'd go on dates. I'd go out there like, why do you have a jacket and a scarf? I'm like, it could get cold. You know, like, here, never get cold. Yeah. And you look at the weather, it's like 86, 83, 82,

like, every day. It's beautiful for the next week. So I'm very excited about that. I like Los Angeles. I never get to go to the beach though, because it's kind of far from where I'm at. Right. I go a lot lately.

I want to go. It's good. It's good. I'm going to go this weekend. I'm just going to walk on the beach, ride on the beach. It's healing for the soul. There's this thing in, because, you know,

I'm all about food. And somehow, it maybe somehow gives me a sexual gratification but Huntington Beach They're testing out this thing at college junior called the Biz nut Now the Biz nut is a biscuit donut and it's only available in America A Biz nut a Biz nut well in's college junior on the West Coast is actually Hardies on the East Coast. Oh, that's my

same love. That's the same I didn't know that You don't know that has the same They're the same but I grew up with hardies. Yeah, I don't know why it's Amazing I can die now. I can't like that is fascinating hardies and Carl's junior is the same thing I wondered why Carl's junior just popped up out of nowhere when I moved here. I'm like, why have I never heard of Carl's junior? They had the same logo.

You're so smart when it comes to fast food. Yeah. I know, right? It's so hot. Yeah. And they are based out of St. Louis, Missouri, just FYI. But anyways, they are testing out the BizNut, Huntington Beach.

It's a good croin. It's a good croin. It's a good croissant donut. I've heard of those. Croinuts, they're really big inton Beach might you know. It's a good croin. It's a croin. It's a croissant donut. I've heard of those. Croinouts they're really big in New York. I know and they say it's not a rip off because they're using biscuits which they've already been making for years. Yeah.

Okay. But my go check that out and check out the beach. I did go to Santa Monica. Oh. And Molly Shannon was there with her kids. Yeah. She's comedian. She was an SNL.

Right. And she was there with her kids celebrating a birthday. That was kind of cool. Celebrating. No. No, you can't do that. But I feel like my blood pressure goes down, even if it's at our right anxiety level. I just get to the beach and I can just walk bike

for hours. I love it. And you know, I live there when I first moved here on the beach. But I'm. Well, the thing is with California, even though it's sunny and it's a thousand degrees, the, you go to the beach and the beach, the water's still freezing. Yeah, I can't go in.

So I don't suggest that you travel across the United States. Go to Hawaii or Mexico or for anywhere around the world. Right. To go to California, you think, oh, it's to get to be this amazing experience. And I'm going to go surfing and we're going to go jump in the water. That's not going to happen. So let's save you a lot of money and time. And you still come to LA.

Yeah, come to LA. But you might not go to, but you can also you can get rent a wet suit. Yeah. But if you do come to LA, I got to say that you do need to check out the Hustler Hollywood store, which it blew my mind. We went in there and we had a little field trip there because this legendary store, it's been there forever. It's on Sunset Boulevard.

And you know, I've been to every friggin' sex toy store on the planet, but I just think it's so, it's massive and there's parking, and there's like amazing lingerie, and the things I would actually buy in jewelry and they're every sex toy I've ever heard of and not heard of is there. They've got a little cafe. It's like a fun date night spot. You should go there. But the funny thing about Hostelers that went, oh and I'm teaching workshop there, August 16th, 8 to 8 to 10 PM. It's called How to Blow His Mind

in Bad. You can RSUP go to my sexwithemley.com page, website, click on the Hustler banner and RSUP. But this is what I want to tell you is this is the freaking funniest thing. So Hustler had a store opening, they opened the store, you know, stores in different cities and they had one in Oklahoma City that just opened a few weeks ago. So listen to this, the Racy Hustler store display blamed for eight accidents in two weeks. One man said he was involved in a fender bender near the store because he contacted local TV to complain about the distracting displays.

We both drivers agreed that it was to cause a lot of accidents. A Hussar's spokesperson denied there's anything overly provocative about the mannequins and described the display display as tasteful and decent. Eight accidents. Do they just knock in a saxophone home city? They probably really not racey. They're just like a mannequin there. She's fully clothed. Probably a bikini. Probably in Oklahoma, they don't have. They don't. They don't have billboards like that. Look at this. They're wearing jeans in a t-shirt. Oh God. People are just making stuff.

Oh my God. Well, if you go to their store, Tom, sex with Emily sent you and you get 20% off. I mean, if you don't know anything about hustler, that's true. I'm going to tell you, I'm going to tell you right now why you should support hustler. You should watch a movie called The People versus Larry Flint.

And you'll become a fan of the company. It's true. And it just because What Larry Flint has done it's just incredible in his in his life. Right. He started from nothing like no he started the But he like it's he got deep into politics and he made a lot of people mad. The reason he's in a wheelchair is because somebody tried to kill him and he got shot and paralyzed. You got to understand the story behind the company. That's amazing movie. You're like, who cares about, you know, hustle and stuff like that. Yeah, it seems to me.

What do you think? It's amazing story. Yeah, check it out. What's his face started it? Woody Harrelson. And he played. Yeah, Woody Harrelson played and that was a great movie. Yeah. And what's her name? Courtney Love. Courtney Love. Yeah. Are you impressed when I know things? I know, right? Courtney Love. Yes. So yeah, definitely check out the movie. You'll

enjoy it. Sit down. Check out the story. Yeah, and then check out the story. And then you go to the beach. Go to the Hustler store. Yeah. Bottom line. They don't see why you want to get products from Hustler. Exactly. That's a good menace. I love you. I love you now. Okay.

I always love you. But last part, Cassie, did not love you. You told me to f off. I know. It's having a heart rough day. So this show we're going to be reading the emails because people are just going crazy. You said I'm emails. Feedback at sex.elmy.com And as you know, I read them all.

I love hearing from everybody. And we just want to help people about our sex and relationships. Yeah. And today's going to be a short show because we're just going to read emails. Exactly. So this is about pushing the boundaries of your relationship. These emails all sort of had to do with that subject. So this first email is all about that.

So I'm 44 and only just discovered masturbation and had my first orgasm. I was with someone for 15 years and our sexual relationship was very one-sided. He never tried to please me and I never knew what I was missing out on. I just thought that I didn't enjoy sex and was uneducated about female orgasms.

I recently found a vibrator, the Jimmy Jane Forum II, which rocks, that makes me feel amazing within minutes every time. I'm not sure how many orgasms I have in a vibrator, the Jimmy Jane form too, which rocks, that makes me feel amazing within minutes every time. I'm not sure how many orgasms I have in a session, but I go on for 45 minutes and times and keep feeling waves of pleasure. My body twitches and pulsates, and I just feel like I never want to stop feeling so blissful. I also scored a lot through clitoral stimulation, yet I've never touched my G spot. I also discovered that it orgasms even stronger with an anal glass dildo pumping in addition

to my vibrator on my clip. I even like double-talk penetration. Am I having G-Spot orgasms or multiple orgasms? Emily, all I wanna do is be alone. I'm nervous about being with a man. How is he gonna react to it like toys? Is it okay to be so attached to my sex toys? Signed Angela.

Wow, Angela, what a story. 44 and just discovered masturbation with someone for 15 years. Didn't give damn about her goddamn orgasm. You got to form me that email because I got to show it to people that are not gonna believe it's real. It's totally real. I mean okay. Wow. Angela, well, we're gonna give her a, I'm proud of you. Like wow, she's like squartin' and using an anal butt dildo. I mean, feel like there's a fish inside you need to make up for lost time. I am so what do you say a fish a fish So you know like back in the day like this Cool mad fish like swimming around in the in the platform

I'd like to be any an elite penetrated by a glass. I'll go with a goldfish name jaws I feel bad for the fish, but if you vigorously are using it, the fish dies. The fish won't die in the water, and then you pour the fish back out. Okay, so Angela, okay, 44, listen to me, first of all, you probably are having G-Spot and multiples if you are having it through anal penetration and you're because a lot of times you know yes there's a G-spot yes there's a clitoris but they're connected all the vaginal wall tissues are connected and so sometimes if you're putting pressure on your clitoris like above your

pubic bone that will stimulate your G-spot and that's why you're squirting so I would say you're having a mall so I want to give you another round of pause good for you and here's a thing there are so many guys that are going to be totally down with your sex toys, and if they're not, they're not the guy for you. Because even if they've never tried it, and they're still living in the, the, the dark ages and think sex toys are going to replace them, they're insane. But most guys, even if they feel that way and they try it, they're like, wow, because he can use the toys on you. And a lot of guys, you know,

find that very, very erotic and hot, and it turns them on. Plus, you can use the vibrators on his penis, on his balls, men like vibrations too, they just don't know it. So you got to show them, and I'm telling you guys that I've introduced toys, you're like, hey, so when you come over,

can you bring that toy with a, they give me a request, because also it cuts down on their time that they have to spend pleasing you plus they know that you're being pleased and they know that you're having orgasms and they're in control if they're using the toys on you. So I'd still understand guys who have a beef with toys still because it's freaking saving your life. Seriously, you know much more time you'll have in life, you spend 40 minutes going down on her and you use a vibrator for 10 minutes. Now that she's the one who is a former oral sex center, but she could still have an orgasm when you bring in the vibrator as like your backup. It's awesome. Or just as your main event. So don't worry Angela,

I think keep going through this. You and the Jimmy James 4p2 is a great vibrator. We all love that one in the office. We used to work with them years ago and they sent it and everyone's always like, I love the form too. So good for you Angela. Don't worry about it. I understand you're nervous You in a relationship for 15 years, but just go out there and be yourself now your grown woman and squirting is like the new Anel is exactly So trendy right now. I was just saying that to someone they said what's the trend? They said squirting is a new anal How do you know that you were just on the same level? We're so Squirting it so when I started this I always say anal's a new blow job. Yeah. For

years I said that, anal's a new blow job. But recently I feel there's been a switch that yes anal but everyone wants to know about squirting it's because of porn. Right? I think. And yes we've done tons of shows on it but you can learn to squirt. Don't you have the new goggle accessory on sexletemely.com or something like that? No, I should have a Goggle, right, for men. Yeah. No, but you can learn to squirt play through G-Spot, listen to the last show we did on it.

I don't know if you want to, but here's the thing about squirting. It's just because you squirt doesn't mean that you're necessarily having an orgasm, FYI. But it feels good, it can be cool. I mean, shouldn't it be only done in like polls? Anyone know that you squirted? Or I mean, do you get rubber sheets or what? You put that in the puddle. I know. He's so freaking clenliness thing. Dude, that's so anal or not anal, but you should put um to put a towel down. A few towels down. Yeah. Yeah. A towel or rubber sheets. Slip inside. Sl slip inside would be great. Yeah, do you remember slip inside?

Yeah, I love slip inside. They were so fun Okay dear Emily, I'm an inexperienced swinger and I've been for some time But recently I'm a nice girl who I vowed to myself. I would not introduce a swinging She said she wants to know all about me and that she wants to visit a swingers club She said she thinks she wants to become a swinger and share the lifestyle with me. What do you think? Should I introduce this sweet girl to swinging? Thanks, Billy. Wow, Billy, if it's your lifestyle and you're into a new girl, why don't you want to do sort of swinging? Because you know that you're a swinger and you're going to want to do that anyway.

I say, if you've just been dating her, bring her to the party and see how she feels. You know, I say, don't do it. If you're really into her, if you're really, yeah, no, he said that he would not introduce her into. But then he's gonna, but she's gonna want to commit and just like, she might try. She might try one time and like, oh, wait a minute. I don't like you. Yeah, but then he finds out because Billy,

you're not giving up swinging. So three months from now, when you start swinging, she doesn't, she's your, she wants to be a girl, you're committed. I think this is in your blood. But if you're telling me that you don't want to be a swinger, Billy, and you want to change over and not be a swinger, well, then you don't introduce her. But if that's still your lifestyle, you should take her

party. You can go to the swinging party. She doesn't have to do anything. Single women can go. There's couples, you know, I've gone to these parties before. I've done my swinging things. And you hook up with a couple or not. Do you want? Does you have a story where you dress in all gold and went to a swingers party?

Yeah, I actually dress like a fairy. It was like a enchanted forest thing and I had like wings and I was like a fairy and how many people were there? Is it all like... Couple hundred. It was in San Francisco. It was in the Bay. It was a huge, massive house in Marin County. Three stories. Every story had like hot tubs and rooms. And it was beautiful. And people, it was like the beautiful people swingers party.

They said it was my first one. I went with Captain Eroticum, I remember him. Yeah. Years ago. And it was hot. I hooked up with the chick. I like made out with her. Tester boobs.

Do you remember the story? I probably didn't reveal this. I didn't know that. I didn't know that. Now it's been eight years, so I'm like, I don't care. Yeah, no, not the making out of the chick. You just said that you went there. I know, because then I didn't want to say it, but now I don't find it.

You're like, whatever. Yeah, I like hooked up with some chick and Tester boobs. She'd fake boobs, she was stripper. Okay. And why is it, you mentioned Captain. Former stripper. You mentioned Captain Erotica,

and I want to ask this guy who's in an email in the email Why every single swing or do like has to have a ponytail and wear it? Captain Erotica he did he did freaking like Snake skin he was different he was super here What he would fly in and a single bound and save people's relationships and sleep with men's wives to show him how to sex. Oh really? I mean, oh he's doing the Lord's work. He is doing the Lord's work. God bless, Kaz and Radica. But yes, men is believes that all swingers are pointing tails.

Oh, the least sleep with your wife to show you how to have sex. Men is believes that all swingers are pointing tails. They do. Okay. And they wear leather pants. Email me. Do you have a ponytail? Please just say don't. Or we'll get it caught and take a picture or something. And do were the leather pants email me do a ponytail. Please just say don't get it cut and take a picture

So I do wear leather pants Just because he's the only swinger that you met does not mean that every swinger is looks like Captain erotic Yeah, check out my old pot. We should post the old shows We got to figure what to do with them because that one's not online anymore. We've like two thousand online. It's crazy Oh speaking about online prolific. Sorry to interrupt but people if you're listening to this can you do me favor? Can you go to iTunes Type in sex with the Emily and just write a review? You're so right because I've been I I went there just recently because I haven't gone there forever

and there's a bunch of old reviews and I know at a time And there's a bunch of old reviews. And I know at a time, at a time where we were desperate to keep the show going, that you were charging people to listen to Jeff. We did a subscription-based show. Yeah, I, right. And at that time, there was a, there was a lot of reviews that weren't too pro.

Oh, yeah, I see that. And then it hurts Emily's heart. It does hurt me, and I have to tell you that I don't really look at it but I went there recently and I saw that too and it helps so much if you guys like the show and yeah. Yeah I mean it's just for Emily's sake just go there and write a review. Because I've know it took me a really long time to figure out how to make a living so I thought I'll charge for the show dollar a month or whatever it was and it just didn't work. Yeah and people got pissed. people got pissed

They got pissed and they wrote reviews that's why you got to put up with my ad reads. There are like a minute long You can see that yeah, you can say what every one about me. It doesn't hurt me. I just you know I'm used to it by now, but Emily it really That's nice. I never asked people to do that But I would so appreciate people to do that I never asked people to do that, but I would so appreciate people to do that I mean five stars tell me No, just whatever you want you can do that too, but then no

Just go I mean that's what we do every day on the morning show that do like if you don't like the show Just go there's a hundred radio stations go find another one, you know, right? If you don't like my podcast don't be angry all about it because I'm trying to make my living do in this and listen to the ones. And if you enjoy it, great, we love you and we're going to do anything for you to keep it happy and to keep on. Right, and I do want to keep you happy. So if you ever want to email me like your thoughts or your questions, if you've been listening to it, like I have a lot of long-time listeners and I know you some of your questions, but

if anything that you like about the show, what you topics you'd like listening to, like, I have a lot of long-time listeners. And I know you some of your questions, but if anything that you'd like about the show, what you'd topics you'd like to hear, things you'd like to change, or things you'd like to come back from past episodes, I don't know what. I just want to hear the specifics. Break it down, break it down. Feedback at sex.com. Okay, next question. Will an FWB, also known as a Friends of Benefit, ever become a relationship?

Hi, Emily. I want to ask you about something that's going on with me and a Friends Friends Benefit, ever become a relationship. Hi Emily, I wanna ask you about something that's going out with me and a Friends Benefit situation. I'm wondering if my flirtatianship, flirtatianship will ever become a relationship. So there's this guy I met a month and a half ago. The first day we met, we had sex. We tax on a daily basis, we felt like crazy

and he really makes me smile. He's admittedly his feelings for me and I told him that I had feelings for him, but he doesn't think it will work because I'm pregnant with my ex's baby. Oh, it might not, you know, be an easy way. Okay, honey. Uh, we have met three times in Ed's ex twice. We even coddled on like long. He doesn't seem very open when I asked him questions about whether or not I was good in bed, etc. But he has mentioned he wants to sex again,

so I couldn't be that bad. How do I know how he feels about me? And if this flirtation is ever gonna become something more, thanks Tiffany. Tiffany, you've got some larger fish to fry than this guy that you slept with or whatever, blah, blah, blah. He's not calling you, you have a baby coming. So I assume you're having this baby and keeping this baby

and that's what I'd be worried about. I'd be focusing on right now is your health and making sure that you're in good shape and you can support this child. You don't say how old you are. I have a feeling that your early 20s maybe and guys in early 20s, they're going to want to sleep with you. He's going to want to keep sleeping with you. And I'm not sure this is going to turn into a relationship, because if you're having a baby and all this stuff is happening, you know, yeah, you could fall in love, but I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about this guy.

He doesn't tell you how great he is that you are in bed. I'm sure you're fine. A lot of guys don't even know how to talk about it. But I would just right now try not to get into a relationship. I try to focus on your Mental well-being and getting all your cards in order. Yeah, I mean if I totally think that you should focus on that and then I mean if the guy is going to stick around through that then Cool, if not then yeah, I mean it doesn't sound like it. Um, I don't know if you know this but you're gonna have the kid for a really long time.

Yeah, so you're gonna have to find out if this person that you want to be with can even deal with that. Exactly. So heavy, does he know you're pregnant? I mean, I'm sure you yeah. See about that. That would be something that I would find out about him. But you know, we get into God, we meet some mom, we get excited. So okay, quick read here from our sponsor. Oh my God, men, I still appreciate this. So down under comfort. When I was in New York a few weeks ago, when you know, we talk about down under comfort, you use it and when and women can use it anywhere you sweat.

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How do you feel about that? Go for it. Okay, so it's just long. So hi, Emily. First of all, I love what you're doing and I love all the companies that sponsor you. It's so awesome that you connect with interesting companies rather than just whoever will pay the most. You are right.

I am female and 19 years old. My boyfriend is 18 and we've been together for a year and a half. I've always been a very physical and sexual person where he is not. I think a lot about his hang-ups come from his family and religion. He's now in Atheus but he still has a lot of stigmas ingrained from childhood. I'm into just about everything that doesn't leave permanent damage and I'm always willing to try something before saying no to it. For instance, a little BDSM play is something nice and refreshing for you but now when I

have to constantly remind him that I like it, do you have any suggestions to help me become sexually free? He doesn't like the idea of me talking to you about sex or things I enjoy, and so I've stopped going into the city to meet up with like-minded people, or even just to talk and hang out. I know I could go and he wouldn't stop me, but he'd get more depressed than he already is. I know we're almost two different people to meet together, and everyone tells me that I just leave him, but I don't want to. Please reply with any

no-all advice to help me save my relationship. I don't think it's possible to save it for the long run but I don't want to end it for good yet. Thanks so much for your time and advice you gave. I'm traveling now alone but you've reminded me of all the ways I want to re-energize my toy collection and we'll definitely buy some Emily and Tony candles. Thank you Phoebe. Phoebe, you are 18, you're 19 years old, your boyfriend's 18, and the writing's on the wall. This guy is not your guy for you. You are a young girl, you woman, you want to go in the city, you want to be with your friends, you're sexually open, you're adventurous, he's got hangoffs from childhood. You do not want to start cutting off your sexual pleasure at this point in your friends, you're sexually open, you're adventurous, he's got hang-ups from childhood. You do not want to start cutting off your sexual pleasure

at this point in your life, and you know what's gonna end, but you're not ready, it's because maybe he's your first love, you know, young love, it's like you think you're never gonna meet anyone again. But the fact that you're already having these sexual issues with him, and it just sounds like you've got, you can't convince him to be into BDSM, you can't convince him to be more into sex, you can't convince him to be into BDSM. You can't

convince him to be more into sex. You can't convince him to open up especially if he grew up in a very religious home where you know masturbation was wrong and sex was wrong. I mean I dated something like that for a while and it's just either and unless you get intense therapy and you get rid of all that stuff you're not going to be the one to do it. And I don't like a guy telling you what you can and cannot do. I don't like that he's the one you go in the city. I don't like that he's the one you talk about sex. I mean, all this stuff is totally like what you're into and what you're down with.

So the second, someone's trying to change you from who you are at your core, he's not your guy. But I get that you're saying you don't want to end it yet. I mean, I don't know what to tell you because I know you're probably not going to listen. People don't let girls ask for advice a lot of times and women and women will listen. Oh, never listen.

So I would say if you're going to stay with them, push the boundaries of them and women, women, women, women, listen. Never listen. So I would say if you're going to stay with them, push the boundaries of them and say, listen, dude, I, I want to try this, I want to try that, I want to try, I mean, try to push it, ask for what you want and then see what happens because if you're just placating and staying with them because he's a great cuddler or provider in some way, you're too young to stick around in a dead end relationship that's not getting, you're not getting met, your needs met, essentially. Totally. I know. You're too young to stick around in a dead end relationship. That's not getting, you're not getting met. Your needs met, essentially.

Totally. I know. It's hard though, because like you always want to, um, you know, like I love line. We get a lot of colors too. And I always want to be like, you're 19, you're 20, you can't just say the people because I get it. I've been there and I've been in love at that age. But really it's the time to figure it shouldn't get married for 30.

So go ahead. Fine. So many people ask for advice, but they just kind of, they ask for advice because they just want to vet their problems. It's not because they're actually going to do anything. That's true too. That's true too. Which is so frustrating.

Which is so frustrating. I know it is frustrating, but sometimes people, and a lot of girlfriends you tell you have the same, I'm like really, we've had this talk six times. Unless something's going to change and you're going to break up with them, I'm like, I have nothing else to do. You know, I would,

they just want to talk about it again. Okay, hey Emily, just got, just started listening to your podcast. I enjoy it. So my question has to do with the friend zone. I met this hot girl a few months back at the train station, finally got her number at our first date was on Valentine's Day. Great time, everything went well,

and I got a kiss tonight. Ever since then, she's been distant and flaky. Throughout the past four months, we text once a week. We've probably been out with each other six or seven times, but I cannot get her to kiss me again. She had contact her again to go out this time and make my intentions clear. She's a tough Polish woman, so I kind of like the challenge. Let me know if it's time to walk away, satanonymous. Uh, yeah, she's been flaky with you. I would say if you go out with her again, just grab her and kiss her and if she says no, then you don't want to, you don't want to hang out

with her unless you really just want to be friends with her. But you have to make your intentions known. I don't know how you've gone out with her six, seven times and having kissed her if you kissed her on the first date. So either you go out with her again and you're like, I think you're hot. I want to and just grab her and kiss her. Don't even ask or look for new friends

that you don't want to sleep with. Yeah, easy. Easy, done, over and out. Okay, Menace, I love you. I love you too. It's very cute. And everyone follow me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram, section of the Emily and Menace is Menace.

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