Sex With Emily - Sex Toys & "Sext" Offenders

Episode Date: November 22, 2014

This podcast is about sex toys and “sext” offenders. Emily's first guest is Alicia Relles, designer and head “vagina” of the sex-positive retailer Je Joue, here to give us an exclusive sneak peak at the latest tech trends in vibrators and buzz-worthy goodies coming soon to Je Joue.Then Emily welcomes her second guest, Alexandra Tweten, creator of “Bye Felipe”, an Instagram account chronicling angry responses from rejected men over dating sites, which after a month has managed to attract almost 260,000 followers.Emily gives tips to help you succeed in online dating (and hopefully stay off Bye Felipe!). And if all else fails, Alicia has a ton of toys to keep your warm while you wait for Mr. Right.  From Kegel weights to Tinder dates, this Podcast is full of advice to help you get what you need, on and offline. Check it out! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, welcome to this episode of Sex with Emily. This show is all about sex toys and sex offenders. I mean, that's sex defenders, S-E-X-D. You know what I'm talking about. Sex offenders is not as interesting as sex thing offenders, you might have done it, you'll find out tonight. Tonight is also doubly exciting because we have two awesome guests. The first is a celebrity in my mind. She's the creator of my favorite sex story on the planet. And her name's Alicia from J.J.U. and the second is a hero to women everywhere because she's a brilliant mind behind Bifilepe, a popular Instagram account, and site on Facebook,

calling out men, behaving badly on online sites. It's hilarious and you're in a love tonight's show. But first, I have to tell you about the most amazing thing that you didn't know that you needed until now. And that is massage candles. Okay, so you can know candles are great for atmosphere, the lights, the overhead lights are so annoying. Well, I made these massage candles.

That, because first of all, they look great, they're a Roman therapy. But who doesn't need to spice up things in the bedroom? And a massage candle is a perfect thing for that, because you can give your partner a central massage if you want to connect again with your partner who like who is a lot of times just not in mood for sex. So you like to candle, you pour a little massage oil on your partner, it turns into the most luxurious coconut oil soybean oil, you will love it, it's a great gift, they smell amazing. One of my listeners just emailed me and said he thinks that this candle is

the reason why he and his girlfriend are back together and having amazing sex. That's all I gotta say. So go to Emily and Tony.com, use code Emily for 20% off. That's Emily and Tony.com. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mock our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them in a fight on me. Hey, Evelyn You got a boyfriend because my man he here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my the women know about shrinkage isn't it common? No, what do you mean like laundry? It's drinks and we not talk about sex so much. Are you kidding me? Oh It's your own drink. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so dumb.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithelie.com. Check out our website, which is actually going to be a new website really soon, which you're all going to be super excited about. And as I know, you're all really excited about is my email, because like I say, I give really good email.

I send you an email blast once a week, and it's pretty damn good. People are like, you know, I do a lot of things. I do things like that. I really turn you on. But my email blast gives you useful tips and and tricks and things going on. Things we've covered things we talked about. But this week coming up, you got to sign up for it because you'll receive your go-to holiday guide for shopping for Black Friday, Cyber Monday. Like all the shopping is like starting. Why are you looking at me? Why are you laughing at me? I was picturing like Dildos's with antlers. It exists Anderson. Do you know what you're saying you'd like for the holidays? Sounds painful. Speaking

that you've seen of you saying Dildo with antlers, one of our guests tonight who makes my favorite sex toy ever. And I like the first time I met her like I bowed to her feet. And it was total accident that she whatever that I met her and that I got this toy. The Fifi, one of them looks actually like antlers, but it's like a rabbit, but it's antlers. It's actually, Oh, so one for the butt, one for the, No, no, no, it's a literal, no, it's a,

it's a um, literal vi- You know the rabbit vi- Yeah, yeah. Well, that's not for the butt. I've been using it wrong all these years. Oh, no, no, no, but she's gonna give you one that is for your butt tonight that's remote controlled,

but we'll talk about that after. So anyway, so, so, so, so the Fifi, anyway, it's called the Fifi, but it's like the rabbit and it's like antlers. We should get some Christmas, but it's kinda, it's kinda mixing religion and sex toys, but I do oh no no Santa's do have some holy water loob someone gave No, that's not I don't know it was I mean I'm

Was it blessed by me? I don't know I was afraid to use it sexual priest We're losing listeners left and I'm sorry guys. I love everyone every religion and everyone should just you know Remember that one what the porn guy hustler guy. He was trying to mix religion and sexual Capades. Yeah, like in Larry Flint. Yeah, I get naked girls on like crosses. Yeah, that's not a good No, it's never good to mess with like crosses the American flag just you know play it safe I mean, I understand how it would be convenient to be able to like you don't get the religious part of your day out of the way with the beating off Part, but I don't think it's really appropriate. I know, I think it's our people already mixed messages and the reason why I allowed

people to our channel just actually is because of the messages they got through their upbringing, their culture, their religion, and that would just be confusing. I would love to be able to mix masturbating or orgasm and comedy. That'd be great to be laughing while, but it doesn't really work. Don't you laugh? No. Do you make noises when you jackulate? We don't talk about things like that, Em.

OK, I'm just wondering because I just personally think that guys should let us know. And sometimes I really cry. No, sometimes I really cry it. And sometimes it's just annoying. You're like, did you come? Did you not? I don't want to gas say.

I should know, but I can't always know. Just like women. I'll tell you, if you did, because I've been with the guys, I've talked about the guy who was like, if he came, it was like this. It's like, did, if he came, it was like this. Did you even just say anything? But then there was another guy who was more recently and it was the same fucking thing. So just let us know.

Okay. This is a fake. Maybe he was fake. No, he maybe was. Faking it. I have so much, okay. So first of all, on the way here, I just have to tell you really quickly, I almost got my ass kicked at 7-11.

And I'm not kidding you. So I have this thing, they don't have seven elevens in San Francisco, they have like two, right? And they're the part to get to when you never go. But in LA, they're everywhere. And I love seven elevens. And not even, they never, they never have what I want. And I'm always a little disappointed, but just the idea of a seven eleven holds amazing possibilities for me. The idea of you almost getting your ass kicked is mind boggling. But when you say seven-11, like shit goes down at 7-11, it's about one at a time times.

I'm in the one right down here because I really, I'm at a 7-11, shit's going down. Okay, so I love Slurpee's, okay? So everyone's, well, it's tonight, I'm so thirsty, I always thirsty during the show, I'm like, I should get a Slurpee, it just occurred to me. So I go in and I get this red Slurpee, a red one. And I first put it in the cup,

and then I try to put the lid on and it spilled all over place, and I'm wearing all white. And it's a joke. I'm in office. I spilled three times. It was a red smoothie. So I put it down and I started another one and this time I decided you're supposed to put the cap on first. Right then you put that in a little bit. I didn't know. I forgot. It's been a long time. I've watched mentally challenged people make it. So I'm like, oh, I didn't put the cap on first. So then I did and then it

Exploded once I put it left in there and I was in a rush to get the show sides and I'm gonna cook in a water Which is healthier choice? She's like next time you come in here. You got to clean up your mess I mean I did clean up I threw it away, but it might have dripped a little bit and I got in trouble Will she a patron or did she work there? And they were giving me dirt left. She had no work in it, 7 or 11. There was two of them and they were really angered me. And I did not mean to be rude.

I'm sorry, but it exploded. It was not my fault. And it was a mess. Was she a white girl with Midwestern ask? No, she was not white. Shocked. Girl. Anyway, it was funny because I did make a mess and I've been

spilling on myself. And I might have a wardrobe. OK, so we can watch the show now as everyone knows. Oh, you might not know. Every Thursday night from 8.39, 30 Pacific, standard time, we have a date. And if you know about this, but you gotta put in your calendar,

we actually have a date because you can watch the section that Emily showed for the first time ever at sexwithme.com through you stream. So it's really cool you can watch. And then afterwards it becomes, you know, we store it at our site. And you can actually watch the Ustream video then on our site and listen to podcasts.

So it's a multi-medic event. It's a big deal. Got the whole thing going on. Big freaking deal. And then tonight, like if you're watching, if you're like, if you're listening to podcasts, you're like, oh, I want to see what that toy looks like. I want to see what everything looks like.

You can, it's freaking see it. Okay, you can see Anderson's pretty face. So I'm excited though, also for tonight's show. Okay, you can see Anderson's pretty face. So I'm excited though also for tonight's show. Oh, so this is made back up. We got our vibrators. I'm sending our newsletter at your holiday guide and you're gonna have the best deals because let's face it, nobody gets what they want. You never get your partner what they want and I think that you cannot go wrong with something sexy, despise of your relationship or even for yourself, get yourself something pretty, get yourself something sexy,

and that's what my news that is gonna be about. Also, so my guest tonight, Anderson. Yes. So I, as you know, I have a lot of, why are you laughing? Now I'm picturing the stalking vibrating violently on Christmas morning when you come down to Christmas because the vibrator's going off in the stalking. That's funny to me.

Yeah, that is funny, but a lot of them, you don't put the batteries in first, and they have to be charged. You got a test of's funny to me. Yeah, that is funny, but a lot of them, you don't put the batteries in first, and they have to be charged. You got to test them when you get them. No, oh, well, no, when you open the box, they might be shaking. Yeah, like whenever I've bought stuff in stores,

they always test it right there in front of me, which is nice. Not vibrators, that would not be clean or safe. No, you get them first in the box, you got to charge them. Okay, so here's a deal, Anderson. You know, I talk a lot about text ways on the show, and it's only because one of the

perks I'd say, probably the top perk of my job is 10 years ago and I started, I started getting a lot of sex toys and people said them because they want me to test them and try them and whatever. So I've probably had thousands passed through my hands, hundreds and hundreds. And I got this one, right, from Good Vibes. It's been one of our sponsors and they sent me the the J.J. Mimi. You've heard we talk about it a lot.

You could probably explain it right now. I can pronounce it, which is a shock. But you could probably explain it like right. It's like a yeah, it's like a little heart shaped thing. Yeah, it's like it's like a pebble like a bug or skipping something. Weas it in there. Yeah, whatever. It's a literal vibrates amazing.

So I got it. It's beautiful. It's well made and I fell in love with it. And I just started talking about the J.J. Mimi, J.J. Mimi and then yeah, I met Alicia who's here tonight and she's actually the mastermind because I've also talked about their other stuff. She's not a sponsor of the show. I'm just saying like we met. I love her. She's great. And she's going to come in because she's going to we're going to talk a little bit about these because she makes some of those beautiful. I mean, they just want awards for. Oh, so you know how many you love something so L.A. too. Like what if no one else likes it? Well, the Mimi that I love. So anyway, I started talking about the Mimi and they sold so many more movies because I

actually really love it. But a hundred women were just given a bunch of vibrators to try. It's for good. How's the magazine? No, like it was like a study. A hundred women got a bunch of different vibrators or several types and 77 of them picked the Mimi. So I am not alone. And I've been saying it for three years. And I feel like they're way behind the time. Yeah, you're not the first person. I've heard plenty of people them picked the Mimi. So I am not alone and I've been saying it for three years and I feel like they're way behind the times. Yeah, you're not the first person.

I've heard plenty of people talking about the issue. Yes, I have. And I think I've heard them before but I didn't really register but now that I work with you, I know what they're talking about. It was really cool. We're also gonna give you tips and tricks

for how to know what kind to buy and at least you actually develop them. So I wanna know how she tested them. Does she watch 10 women masturbating? All of our giants are different. How do you know how to make a good vibrator like how did she know how to make my most perfect vibrator? Did anyone get hurt in the process? That's I want to find out. I want to find out if it gets hurt I wanted to why I'm not a tester the next my guest is is another genius pioneer Her name is Alexander Tweedon and she recently blew up the internet

Even more so than Kim Kardashian and much more profound way blew up the internet, even more so than Kim Kardashian, in a much more profound way. With her new Instagram account, it's really only less, probably month, even, it's called by Felipe. She's chronicling angry responses that, from angry Matt, like people men on online dating sites that they send to women. So it's like people, but it's an entertaining site,

but not so shows. It sounds comical, yeah. No, it is comical. So she's gonna be on two talking about that, and we're be talking about my dating and what are the proper ways to respond and not She's gonna learn so much damn stuff on the night show. It's a show chock full of knowledge exactly Okay, and then the other thing well, I don't even know you know what I'm just going right to Alicia Yeah, we should do that she's there have that Hi, Alicia

I'm so glad to see you. I'm welcome to LA Um oh my god. Oh my god. Let me see. Hi, Alicia. I'm so glad to see you. Welcome to L.A. Thank you. Oh, we got let me see. Okay, so this we're just saying is that Alicia from Jeju, we met, well, we met after the Mimi. Did I bow down at your feet? I'm not sure. But she is so she, um, you've also, you're the designer of the toys. Tell me about yourself because the bios are so like boring. Well, I've been in the adult toy industry for about 16 years. Yeah. OK, 16 years. 16 years. Maybe a little bit longer.

Yeah. Hey, Alicia. Don't be afraid of the big black phallic thing. You're right on the line. Or should she put the heads up those heads as well? Yeah, yeah, sure. OK. There you go.

Yeah, OK. And we need it. We need it like you need it So she put those heads at some. Yeah, yeah, sure. OK, there you go. Yeah, OK, thank you. We did, we did, like, you're doing like this, like a broad job or something. Yeah. Now it's going to give people watching on you stream. I'm giving, it's like I'm giving a blowjob for an hour. OK. We're doing, we're doing just a real sex ed.

Exactly. Yeah, we actually will do sex ed tonight. OK, so tell me about yourself. OK, for everyone, for my listeners watching in at home. I started out in the industry in my early 20s and kind of a fluke, you know, as an interior designer, but it studied a lot of female physiology, it was really big on sex education, helped a brand called Bayblan established themselves. Oh, yeah, Bayblan's in New York and was with them for about 10 years.

And I met through that, I met this awesome industrial designer named Duncan Turner. And he showed me something that I hadn't seen before. And that was the technology behind the J.J. Toys. Okay. So you've seen everything because Baybland is a big story. It's like a, um, how you look independently on independently own, when you work in the vet. It's in the village, right? Or the East Side. There's a couple of locations and stuff. So kind of had come up through that.

But I was really fascinated by product design. I was a buyer there. I done, I done like every job. You know, it's like, was a small company growing. I've done everything. And met this industrial designer and we partnered up. And it was, you know, I got to like make the, the, what I think are like

the most interesting toys out there. Right. I got to kind of redefine the classic vibrator and add on, you know, a spin with like quality materials and amazing charge and the best materials out there. So I felt so fortunate to like be able to leap and start this company called Juju with my partners. And now we're six years down the road and we've had a lot of incarnations. Right. Yeah, okay, it's six years only because I guess I might have, when did I first,

I'm like, when did I first meet the Mimi three years ago? She's right here, okay, if anybody was watching, this is the soft, right? Yes. Okay, so this Anderson, this is the J.J. Mimi. It's a little river rock. Yeah, it's like a massage pillow. Could you vagina palm that if you tried, you think?

What does it mean? Like a basketball player palms a basketball. Like I mean, could you make your vagina grip it? Walk around with it. Think of it between the like labia lips. Like that's between the lips kind of holding it. So it's like, I met a contour here. Tap, okay.

So this is it. It's like no way to recharge it. Okay. Sounds off. So this is like the highest. This. So this is it. It's like, no, it's rechargeable. OK, sounds off. So this is like the highest. This is why I love it, because I like a lot of vibration. And this is the highest setting, but you can't. It's discrete. You can't hear it. It's very nice to hear it.

What are you kidding me? No, but it's not like you should hear some other riders. Oh, no, I see what you're saying. Yeah, it's rechargeable. It's rechargeable. That's unfair. OK, so talk to me about why I love it,

because I don't even like why. What do you mean? I know why I love it, because it's just, I love the way you mean goes beat me? I know why I love it because it's it just I love the way it feels I love that you can use it during intercourse and in everywhere But what were you gonna say about the levy lips because that was Well, okay, so if we're talking about the levy lips, yeah, right? We're talking about the clip and the and the vaginal lips the toy Consider him kind of just like right here Anderson you see this. This is where the toy can sit

So that's how it's a concert or you can just kind of like like right here. Anderson, you see this? This is where the toy can sit. So it's just concert. Or you can just kind of like lay it. Which feels really good by the way that's a very highly erogenous part of the Volvo Flash vagina. It's like we have legs, so it's going to like, you know, all over the place. Yeah, I wear it all the time on my clit legs.

I'm wearing it now. You just say, go back and say that slowly. I wear the Mimi on my clit legs when I go out at night That's what I was asking like you grip it when you go out right Legs she said Because we call it because the clitoris is like it has legs. Yeah, you know it touches everything in Let's talk about that for a minute I always say the clitoris is 8,000 urbanings and it's not just a little button That you see it extends deep into the vagina it has legs

They get to go harder as well. It has a hat, it has gloves, no it has legs, it has arms I think it's like a wishbone, Emma, so it's like you know the tip of the wishbone and then it has legs kind of that run down the The body is very sensitive and a lot of people don't realize that like god it a lot of men or when they just focus on that God you guys can't move those lips because that'd be really creepy. You get like just move them around Yeah true like a vagina focus on that. God, you guys can't move those lips because that'd be really creepy. You get like just move them around. Yeah. Oh, I'm a giant. Dintata. Okay. Well, okay. So, so that yeah, so I love the me. Okay, so that is, but okay, back up for a second, when you said that when you met the designer, the designer, Duncan, Duncan, you said you saw something in the, because you designed the actual

vibrators, but you said you saw something in the technology that had never been done before. Right. And by that, do you mean the materials in the material? The materials, the motor. He came from a background of industrial design, mostly kitchen materials. So like the best imagined silicone's out there. So like your silicone baking mitt, you know, kind of thing. So he had this like insane knowledge of materials.

And in the sex toy world, we know that silicone is the best material to make sex toys out of because it's non-porous, which means it's totally hygienic, nothing can absorb into the surface of the toy. So imagine meeting somebody who's like can make the Cadillac of like silicone, you know, the silicone, I wish I could have you move silicone. I know I wish I could feel it too. It's soft, it's silky, there's no seams on the toy. No, right. It's the most perfect, yeah. And they're all like that. Like here's the one I was talking about earlier.

If you are marching, the fee fee. Yeah, the fee fee. So this is the rabbit, the rabbit. What were we saying, the vibrator with antlers? With antlers. Yeah, this is a good Chris's present. You could put a little like a little red cellophane on there, make it antlers.

It looks like a weiner with like dripping balls. Like the balls are dripping, right? Oh god. It's very cute. Or it's like, you know, a little thing. Oh, that's why they call it a rabbit. That's the first time ever. I see it.

Oh my God, really? That's the first time. Yeah, yeah. I'm telling you, I use that on the butt for people. It goes, dude, no, it goes internally. Say it hits the G spot, the inside. And that bite, you can operate, these are all rabbit feet. I thought the ears were for the butt.

Seriously? Dude, they go around the clits. They go around the clits. And the fingers around the clit again. This inserted, this is on either side of the rabbit. Seriously. Dude, they go around the clip. They go around the clip. And the fingers around the clip again. It's inserted. This is on either side of the camera. I had it upside down. Do you understand that you're being like moldy,

be stimulated everywhere with this thing? And you can control it. You can be like, oh, I don't want to be stimulated in my G spot now. Does it might right? You can control the different if you just want the things. So those are the ears. The rabbit ears tickle your clitoris.

So you remember that? You're like, actually angry with me because I'm using it wrong. You could flip it around and use it in your butt, I'm you know, you can you can't Absolutely, yeah, you know what interesting you could do that. Hell you want there's no there's no wrong way to use the sex toy I would say well, maybe there a couple of ways. Don't take it back. You're not gonna make that way No, do not right. I make it soon But I'm getting go to meet people because I'm trying to bring you more pleasure You're really gonna do me because I want you more orgasms F you

Okay, so the materials, the things. Yeah, so it was like we went out, we went and revisited the classics out there. So if you can imagine like, okay, we have the external vibe, which is your favorite. The meaning, right. Then we have the internal vibe. So like your classic like slimline or traditional sex toy. That's the Uma and Then the Uma is that that's a g spot just g spotter just like internal and then we have the classic rabbit Which we were talking about the feefe the take on that then we have the caulk ring Which is okay, this is amazing the meal caulk ring my Anderson and teachers. I'm else so caulk rings They make they've been very exploded

I'm interested in when teaching something else. So, cock rings, they make, they've been very exploded. In recent years, I think, they've always been around, like for men to have, you know, say, hard or longer to construct the blood flow. But then, they started making these ones that vibrate. Cock rings that vibrate, and you man put it on as penis, and then the vibrations hit, can hit the woman or your partner,

or even guys love the vibration. They do. But the thing is, a lot of them are like, you know, disposable or this is like a beautiful perfect, I mean, you can talk about it. It's that same vibration that we're talking about, this like low, thumpy vibration. And it's low and thumpy. Yeah, and it's just not this fine. You know, it's not like, I think that a lot of the disposable ones, it's like, it's done. So this has a nice big base on it too. So it can really hit the, you know, the, the glittery stuff, right? Or it can be worn underneath and it can hit the taint and like underneath the ball.

That's for your taint. And then, you know, it's like really stretchy. So it's not everyone, especially like that, right? And so you can wear it around the shaft, you can wear it around the shaft and balls. You know, it's got versatility, and you're not gonna throw it away after one use. And you get a real chargeable. It's too large to go.

Yeah, it's totally rechargeable. Even if you just use it on your own, it's really like it, they're all, and it's rechargeable, and it's a good gift. Yes, it's a great gift. It's a several people's gifts. But what I was gonna say is that, let's talk about men in vibrations,

because I've just found this through my own, and talking to men of course. But even in my own explorations, with gentlemen that I hire to help me test out sex toys, I don't actually hire them, but I just actually, I can let them sleep with me if they'll do the toy. But it's amazing because so many guys, you know, we started out years ago and it still exists today that a lot of partners are intimidated by the vibrators. It's going to replace me or mighty they need that but then rest met. But then once you get that little by their penis by

their ball, they're like, Oh, my. I've never had a guy say I don't like it really. Maybe some, but most of them have been like, wow, that feels really cool. Like you got to play around. It's going to feel different on every man's penis.

I mean, you ever yeah, explain that absolutely. I think like, you know, it's a nice gateway to use it yourself. It's like the way to, and just then like move it in, because the thing is if everything's relaxed, everything's gonna feel better.

And so, you know, even coming at it is like, oh, I'm just massaging, I'm doing a massage, you know. But, let's give that example. So, let's say it's my toy and I'm with a guy, and I'm like, oh, and he's kind of in a team, and I start massaging, even when he's back with it, it or as arms and I'm just like, feel this vibration. Exactly. It feels good.

I feel good. Yeah. So, you know, I think we say, you know, the best, the best, you know, the best sex toys just in really is like communication and is, is those like just making everything comfortable. So I can't hurt anything. And, you know, and especially I think we try to make objects too that aren't like, you know, scary-looking, art-fallic, and that's what they can do wrong with that, but it can be left out. And so a guy maybe isn't as intimidated by something that looks more

non-discript stuff. That's true. And once and once guys have experienced it, you know, they they'll come back from all day. They do. They do. They're like, oh, that felt kind of good. Should we use that vibrator again? Yeah, absolutely. And once guys have experienced it, they'll come back from all the way there. They do. They're like, oh, that felt kind of good. Should we use that vibrator again? Yeah. Absolutely. It was part of the design of the Mimi, too, was thinking that, because a lot of people

say, oh, well, guys won't come in and guys won't come in and buy toys. It's like, no, they will. Actually, they've heard of a cock ring. And then this, they can think is for her. Right. So that's permission to come in and actually buy something for the bolts of that. It's a couple of toys.

Right. But then they might, you know, have something that might learn the benefits. It's a good. Okay. It's a good gift. I think it's a gift for couples too. Okay. So what are, okay, so tell me like how you, what are some trends right now?

I know you have some two new toys out. Yes. I have three. Oh, the remote. Okay, right. The remote control. So I have the remote. I have these new remote. So this is the duet. And this is the new. We're talking about the butt. So this is the dairy air toy.

And then the duet is worn internally. So this is inserted. And then this is on, you know, worn on the outside. And they're controlled by a really fun remote. Looks like a hook. Like something you put like a hook. Yeah. On this is the wall to hang your coat.

Wait, this goes inside. Yeah, this goes in her vagina. Watch this. This goes inside. OK, for those of you that can't watch, you have to click it. OK, so this goes inside of a vagina. It's a bulbous part. And then it's like a C shape.

Yeah. And then the top lip. Like a clip. Like a clip. A clip for your clip. This goes on her clitoris. And so she, again, it's G-Spot and Clitoral, but it's like, it's like, it's like, it's amazing, but it has a road. And look at this.

It's like a freaking remote control. Sorry, I want to, I want to just have you turn this on really early. These are clearly made for wearing outside the house, right? Yes. Toss the deal. You going to a special date, your partner. I can take so long and such. I'm going to on the subway for four hours or take it by myself exactly. Yeah, on a road trip.

I actually am going on a road trip. Okay, not while driving. No kids. We're gonna get you one and I'm here because the magic of this is like we have a really different looking remote. It's actually paired with Bluetooth. So it's actually seeking the toy right now. Can feel it there.

Oh my god. So it's founded. It's paired it. And then you control it by turning the top. Oh my God. The speed scare. And then you can change pulsation patterns on it too by pressing down on the top and that's gonna rotate through the pulsation. What's the range on that thing? What is the range? You know, I'm not 100% sure. Could Anderson do it? Hockey out in the front room and they're just being, you know, doing that for my ladies. Oh yeah, for sure. Your wife do want that's her not. He wants it now. Because I'm exceptionally lazy these days. Do you have a sandwich?

All it all has to do is he has to have the remote control in one hand and he has to have the vibe of the what's that called the other remote control. Yeah, they're not controlling the other hand and yeah, and then she could be another room and you could just be what do you ever and just just keep vibing her. And then it also has an app. So if you're like screw the remote, you can go to itans, you'll download this as you app. And then you can control it on your phone. But then you could do it anywhere if you're in a long distance relationship. Absolutely. Absolutely. See these are, this is this new trend. So if you are a wave out of town and you're with, you're what you want to connect with them, like so excited, you can just control on your phone. She's got to put inside her

and you're controlling this friggin brilliant. Okay. Yeah. And we just control on your phone, and she's got to put inside her and you're controlling this friggin' brilliant. Okay. Yeah, and we just wanted to make ones that were like really functional because a lot of it's about- Is that even a lie though? Because it's gonna be out the first week of December. Okay.

So this is brand new. You're actually getting to do a- Do a. And then this is also another remote called the Nuo. Okay. So we have, do a, or for dual, a Nuo for him. Okay, that is awesome.

So I have a question. How do you test them though? Like here's a thing with women and but like Do you have like a study a test group and because I always say everyone's different everyone like something different So how have you managed to make like everyone so perfect? All of well, I'd like to say I'm the vagina of our company Like really, you know, I just just yeah my mom's that are so proud Um, you know, let's talk about mom and dad being proud. Yeah, you know, so it starts there,

but then we have an amazing group of testers. Like, for instance, for the G key, which is a G spot vibrator, we didn't really talk about too much. We had access to data from the European Gyneological Association. So we have metrics of over 10,000 women's bodies. So we actually, this is built on female physiology,

on female anatomy and the one that Ben's right contour to all sorts of different women's bodies. So you know we we have a wide test group and I would say some of the leading sex addicts. No punters. Sorry, that's to make vagina wide jokes on my show. I'm politely correct. Go ahead. Yeah, right along with you. And you know, so we have like these great doctors, great people interested in the products that are really available and accessible to test these. So it's a pretty rigorous process to kind of, you know, really get people's feedback. We make, we make edits to the toys and always

are improving. Yeah, as I remember, I saw you, you're so, you're so, I love you're so meticulous when I saw you in Vegas, the T-Show, you kind of show your prototype, you're like, but I think it's a little too big. Like, you know, you're still just taking it TV show, you kind of show your part type, you're like, but I think it's a little too big. Like, you know, your story's just taking it up to the last minute. Where's small company? And you know, essentially, we have a very small team

that all communicates with one another, and that's kind of the gorgeous stuff. Do you have a giant as a king since this community? No, no. You're just, you're a giant elite the meeting. My vagina leads the meeting a lot of the time. Absolutely. Absolutely.

Yeah, because I think, you know, one of the things I wanted to say is there's a lot of men out there designing vibrators, and there's not that many women. You're like the only one I know. Well, there's a couple other out there, but yeah, but it's you know, so you see all these vibrators with like these like bells and whistles that don't do anything for you. Right. There's just like a fashion. And I think you see a lot more design toys now that are gorgeous, but they might also not have the function down. So I think, you know, we're coming from a educational perspective, but also trying to give you something that's aesthetically beautiful

and gorgeous and actually works and fits with your body. Everyone I've ever recommended, but one more thing I want to say real quickly because this is really important. So, okay, you know, I always about doing keggle exercises and I have an iPhone app called keggle camp. So here's the new one. Right? It's for men and for women, men and women, if you don't know what keggle is,

if this is your first time tuning in, I have 200. She's got Christmas ornaments. She's got 400 episodes and iTunes. But anyway, keggle exercises, men and women help you have stronger orgasms. There's actually weights for your vagina. And this is no BS friggin thing. These

work. So let's talk about. I wanted to give you the new ones because this is the army plus. These are weights for your vagina to work your hair. And my app is called kegel camp. You downloaded it. It reminds you to do them every day. And then you put in these in your vagina. So how does it work? So these are done. They're we you know, the basically it's like a progressive stepping stone. So with our products, like we have one, we have basically four styles. Okay. So we have one that's large and that like has, I don't know if you can hear this, but it has like intense rumble inside. Like Ben Wobbles is the buzz word, right? But Dichades Degrees. Don't you shit. Sorry, we just don't do anything. Yeah,

but why was it Dichades Degrees freaked out about the Ben Wobbles? Everyone's like, those Ben Wobbles? Yeah, people went nuts because it's, you, it's like she put them inside of a Yeah, exactly and but these are like ones that'll actually work pleasurable and are exercising at the same time So like you know, basically we sold out of these Totally like wildly wildly popular and they're hard to keep in stock Because we sell them in a set of three, so it's a progressive like stepping down. We have one, two, and eight. And they're all different weights.

So we see stuff in later. Yeah, so this one, I mean, it depends on your goal. Whether you're looking to tighten or you're looking to kind of increase muscle, you know, the pubococcus muscles are so important. We talk about it all the time for incontinence, post-pregnancy at any stage of life. Stronger orgasms. Stronger orgasms, I mean, what could be bad about a stronger orgasm?

So what it looks like, the size of a golf ball. I mean, it's got like a string on the end of it. Yeah, exactly. So it's right, it's weight on it, and it looks like a golf ball and has string. Right, so this is inserted, I know, the golf ball. Yes, so this is inserted up in the vagina. You put the ball part up inside.

You put the ball in here, and then we have the core for easy retrieving. So it's all a silicone piece, and so ball. Yes. So this is inserted up in the vagina. You put the ball part up inside. You're ballin' here. And then we have the cord for easy retrieving. So it's all a silicone piece, and so it's easy to get in there. I'll see your squeeze in that. Like a tennis ball, your hand. Yes, squeeze, exactly. You need to. All right, and it feels really good. And it makes perfect sense now.

And this one has, so it has a ball inside that rumbles. So the kinetic energy engages the pubococcus muscles and gets everything going and tightening. Then we graduate up to the second one which has a little bit of rumble and a heavier weight again inside and you're doing like clenches, you're like doing reps with your with your pubic ocus muscle. So you do the exercises well, you have the weights in it, it makes sense. Exactly. Which I've done, but also I've heard and take, if you just wear them during the day, it works them out anyway. I was like doing this like God on the, you know, God on the stairmaster, like going, I mean, it's awesome.

Like you can put it in, you can forget about it, and your body's working, you know, it's, it makes, it's Kegel's like, Kegel's like, yeah, yeah, Kegel's like. Emily can actually pull a small Volkswagen bug down the street with her vagina. I can't show you, absolutely. So talk about the pleasure part of them because I have an experienced pleasure.

I warn them and they feel, it feels good and I like good and stuff But yeah, I mean, you know that that's a mixed bag some you know Some of us love vibrations some women are like absolutely no way am I putting vibration near me at all But those are vibrate these don't vibrate but the rumble the rumble like So like a non vibrator user the like the rumble could be could be it You know some people just love that sensation of like the rumble could be, could be it. You know, some people just love that sensation of like the movement and stuff. Personally, and then too, the stronger you get the pubic caucus muscles, if you're doing a bunch of kiggles, it starts to feel really good.

Exactly. That's what I learned. That's what I learned. That's what the heavyweight's, too, because these are like, you know, this is like, you're literally, it's literally a barbell. So it's inside and you're pushing in and out and in and out. It feels good. It feels good. It's meditative barbell. So it's inside and you're pushing in and out and out. And it's, you know, it feels good. It's meditative too. Yeah, exactly. Okay, Alicia, we are going to give tonight away people.

If you go to my Instagram account, which is at Sex of the Emily, and it's hashtag, ask the hashtag, is really important. It's, okay, that's good that's good hashtag is sex toy giveaway if there's a picture on there right now of me and Alicia holding some toys pre show and if you put hashtag sex toy giveaway we're going to give away a me me yeah let's give away some army to and I'm a the keg a ball so you're gonna we're going to give an army to one person and

a me me because you were talking about the, like I think we can give away a fee fee too. A fee fee too. Yeah, we can give away a fee fee too. Oh my God, that's Christmas! Yeah, that's Christmas! Okay, we're giving away a freaking good shit. So go to my Instagram at sex family. And for some reason you don't have Instagram,

you can email me feedback at sex. But lma.com, but that's your backup resort. Right. Okay everyone, Alicia, for Roger. I know, I know, I know. If you want to say and talk to you, I think. I know, I love you so much. And let me show. Also, if anyone wants to find any of the stuff Okay everyone, Alicia. I know, I know. I know, I know. And I should say and talk to you. I know, I love you.

And I love you too. Also, if anyone wants to find any of the stuff, it's at jju.jiu.com. And then also at jju on Twitter or anything else. At jju on Twitter and we're at jju on Facebook. Yeah. This will all be on my website too. It'll be on the website. And when you can purchase, you know, look and find out all this information on the the website. Okay. Thank you so much for having me. I love seeing producer, said, oh my God, is that you're traveling sex toy case

because she rolls up this beautiful case for these toys and that's what happened and that's when the picture happened. That's when we decided. Oh, that's the case. That's totally like a serial killer case when he had those knives in it. That's sex toys.

It's like sex toys for sex toys. Yeah, and like she was like, oh my God, we need that. Okay, so it's sex. Sexsters, somebody just said that. But I heard you guys all learn this and learn a little bit more about sex toys and you got excited. Okay, so next up first-

I'm not gonna leave you without for you to play with. Oh good. Do you know that I will play with them all night long? Well, I mean, that's, I can't stop touching them. This one is special. Like this is my baby. Okay, everyone, when we come back, I'm very excited.

Also, my indexes, like I said, we're having like so doubly, doubly the fun, double the fun tonight. We have Alexander Tweedin from Bifleepay, and hey guys, if you're listening and you, well, you know, a lot of you are online dating now, you might be sending some messages, there are a little bit inappropriate,

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And it is for mankind. And it's actually the most important thing that they could develop. And so, you know, I've given to people and there's not been one guy that I've given to, including Madison's boyfriend, thanks to Madison, I'm cool, I'm going to talk about your sex life right, because she works for you. Just throws it on his pillow when she's not in the mood. Dude, it's kind of like, it's kind of like the lazy remote control vibe, not lazy, but the new issue.

Oh, it's lazy. Is it, if you're in one room, it's the same thing with, sometimes Madison's like, I don't have sex with my boyfriend. She's like, go use the flashlight because it's just six, she's having sex, but it's not. It's fun. Okay, so everyone here's a deal. My people at flashlight love you and I love you. And so this month, you can get for limited time, you'll get the flashlight and the flash loob, which is award winning. So if you could, it would be great. If you go to sex with mme.com, click on the flashlight banner banner By yourself a flashlight and putting code Emily and you'll get the free loop That loop is kosher too. You should say that. It's kosher loop. Yeah, it's been blessed by rabbi

Really yeah, did you just make that up like the loop that was blessed by a pressure? Oh, exactly I don't want to I don't want to discriminate right. It's for everyone, but speaking of blessed I Am blessed. I'm excited to actually tell you about also down under comfort. So this is the product that I created with my partner, Tony, Emily and Tony, as it is called. If you told me this one was created by NASA, I would have believed that. It, this is amazing. That turns into a powder like that.

I know. And the thing is that it's, it's called on under. So yes, it's used for, you know, to keep fresh and dry. You're down under, you know, menus on on their balls when you use it in your lower breasts they're back anywhere you sweat and the thing about it is telecom partners actually messy it's carcinogenic it's not good for you this stuff is vegan it's a cream to powder formula you love it right you love it and men's health voted at the number one product that you didn't know you needed and then say a

woman to me she's like down under comforts not for men it's amazing people freak out about it they love it like everyone you didn't know you needed. And then today, a woman tweeted me, she's like, down under comfort's not for men, it's amazing. People freak out about it. They love it. Everyone here is that. I think when you guys created it, you're like, oh, because men are stinky. But you know what, the ladies like it just as much. No, no, no, we knew that.

But when it's called down under, we got to talk about the balls. But women, I give it to all my women friends and they're obsessed. I use it every day. So anyway, it's a kind of product that you never thought you needed until you had it. Right, Anderson? So everyone should check it out.

Go to emelinetony.com. Use code emeline and you get 20% off of down under comfort. That's emelinetony.com and check out your love it. Because if I wouldn't, yeah. Okay, hi, my next guest here, Alexander Tweedin. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you.

This is such an exciting night because I love everything that you're doing. Tell me, okay, tell me by yourself. I'm not into like the bio, but they tell me by you. Tell me about what you're doing here at your site, all that. How would you describe yourself and how you got involved in this crazy internet viral madness, which is everyone's dream right now? Well, I'm a long

time feminist. I grew up in a feminist household and I went to journalism school, moved out to LA, interned at Ms. Magazine. And I love Ms. Magazine. Is it still, I mean, I don't mean, it is, I love it. I love it. It's still being published. Right. I am a feminist.

I feel like I'm such a feminist, and I don't even talk about that in my feminist anymore, but I get it. Yeah. Okay, go ahead. And I've been online dating since, on and off since 2010. So you put in four years and when you say online dating like everywhere, all different sites?

I started off on okay, Cupid and... It's a gateway. Yeah, and that's, I mean when Tinder came out like, I don't know, two years ago. Is it been two years? Yeah, I think I've been came out, like, I don't know, two years ago. Is it been two years? Yeah. Yeah, so I think I've been on Tinder for like a year and a half. Okay. But yeah, I mean, in that time, I had like a two and a half year relationship.

Oh, okay. Then I, we met each other on OKCupid, so. Okay, so it works. It can work. People can find love. Okay, so you got very interested in that now, my dating. And then you have just how long did you create by Felipe? B-Y-E, Felipe on Instagram, F-E-L-I-P-E, yeah, by Felipe, or is there an underscoring? No, just

at, okay. So tell me about the brainchild, how you came up with that. Yeah, I came out of a conversation on Facebook. It was only about a month ago. Oh my god, I created it. I was saying I was like, yeah, that's crazy. No, you've 250,000 followers on an Instagram. Yeah. Amazing. Okay. So, um, on, there was a discussion on Facebook, um, someone posted, uh, message that they had received from someone on OkCupid and it was kind of just like, Hey, like, I want to talk to you, but I'm scared. Blah blah blah. I don't know. And then 12 hours later, he was just like, hey, I want to talk to you, but I'm scared. Blah, blah, blah, I don't know. And then 12 hours later, he was just like, asshole. And to the cushy didn't respond. Yeah, because she didn't respond.

And so I saw that and I laughed. It was a good screen grab of the conversation. Okay. And I thought it was funny. And I was like, hey, you know, I've gotten a message like that too recently. And that week I had gotten a message. This guy had copied and pasted the same like long spiel message to me three times in like a month. And he messaged you

three times? Yeah. Okay. Just the same like, Hey, this is I'm a lawyer and blah, blah, blah, blah, wanna hang out. And I think it's actually the first post on the Instagram. And finally, he was like, do you want a chat? And I said, no, after the third time. And then he comes back and says, WTF, why would you respond? If you weren't interested, like what's wrong with you? And there's like, expletives. And I was like, then you're getting to think it's so angry. That's what it's about. It's kind of Right. And I was like, Then they're getting thinking, that's what I'm about.

It's kind of about, and I have one of your tweets, or women are disproportionately targeted and harassed online in real life because they are women. That's why by Felipe was created. So that's kind of your mission, because he's done.

And you've got, I mean, I'm wondering how many submissions, because I've gotten them too. Yeah. So how many submissions do you get a day from women? It's like a constant stream. Like ever since, well, it really went big when Buzzfeed picked it up. Okay. And so that day I got like a hundred

thousand followers. Oh my god, that's a dream. Yeah. So after that, it's kind of just been a constant stream of submissions. And it happens every five minutes. Yeah. If you're on dating, like, you're going to get some angry, I've gotten some of those, I was on Tinder. I actually just restarted Tinder again, but we'll get to that in a minute. But so, so you're going to get some angry I've gotten some of the other than Tinder I actually just started Tinder again but we'll get to that minute but so so you're just getting this angry are there ever any that are too awful that you can't post yeah there are so it's all just men who it's it men that are free so really it's more like and in this general theme of them all that it's women who don't like they don't respond to the guy the guy emails them hey we matched or whatever hey you look really cute doesn't respond doesn't respond to the guy. The guy emails him, hey, we matched or whatever. Hey, you look really cute. Doesn't respond, doesn't respond.

And then he's like, you're a bitch. You're what I'm afraid. It's the angry or yeah, or sometimes they respond and they're like, hey, I don't think we're a match. Sorry, or something like that. And then the guy says, well, I don't, well, you're fat anyway. Right.

They attack the woman. Yeah. Is it because if this, if this, this, this primal fear of rejection that so many men have and they haven't ever, because previously they wouldn't ever because previously They wouldn't have a place like this would they just be home sulking maybe or they'd yeah, I mean I should be the guns at horse It's not it's not only on my It's like I've gotten I get like text message submissions or people that have met already in real life or Facebook messages

So it can be anything. It's anything. Oh, I've got so many for you. Yeah, like this is, I really think it's an extension of what happens when women are just walking down the street. Like when you're a woman and you're walking down the street in the city, you get cat called and sometimes the guys will do this and they'll be like. People will cat calling video things and you see that.

And like they'll be like, hey, smile at me. And then if you don't, they're like, oh, you're stuck up anyway. Right, that's true. That's true. So it's kind of like the construction workers move down to the online dating sites. I'll have a man who's like a construction worker yelling at you on the online dating site.

I think that's, you know, wherever. That's interesting, though, because I've got some, I actually am sort of an archivist, archivalist of, I have every single email I've got some, I actually am sort of an archivist archivalist of, I have every single email I've ever received, every card I've ever, like, I used to get cards and stuff, and people do that. And I save voicemails, and I save tweets, and I think, and text too, of like just all my relationships, because I think there's some of, this great dialogue in there, and it is sort of a way, if you look through your text, it is sort of way of like archiving alive now and what we, you know, it's our history. You can write letters anymore and you can see like a whole relationship and how it

inspires all the things. You're like, but two days ago you loved me and now you think it's a more capitalized version of cat calling. It is exactly. Okay, so what has been the response? So, so have you, as people get angry, like the guys are like, why, like, you're putting the guys names there or you're? Yeah, I mean, I don't put up like their phone numbers. No, right, right, yeah.

Yeah, people, I've gotten some messages from guys that are angry. I get a lot of thank you messages from guys and girls. Guys saying, hey, I didn't know this was a thing. Like, I didn't know idea, thank you. Yeah, okay, but I wonder if any guys, they didn't know, so I wonder if any of the guys right at the do that and thought, okay, I'll start treating women like humans and then I'll lash out at it. Because really when they're lashing out,

you they never met you, it's every woman who's ever rejected that. It's not about you. It's not about you. It's about you, but it's still hate. Yeah, no, I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that.

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I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of that. message women angry messages like this and he was like I want to thank you because I realized that it's a problem with me and it's not their fault and I want to be a better

person. Right, you have a convert. I'm sure you have many. That's why we live right? That's great. That's what you're changing it. So I mean, just one guy says that. I mean, mission accomplished.

Right. And also they say radio. What do they say? And if you heard this like for every 10 letters you get about something there's like another 1000 people. Yeah, they say like for every one person that call, there's like 10,000 letters. Yeah, yeah, it's something like that. It's straight, it's true.

So whenever I get, like, an email complaint or two in a row of someone, not that I ever got them, but if I ever do, you know that it's like 10,000, the people, there's so many more people that, because who actually sits down and writes, which actually, I hope you all email me at feedback at sex with LMI.com with all your questions, concerns, and things that you love. So that's amazing. So people are paying attention to this. Now, what do you think though about online dating still?

I mean, what are some of your rules? Like, what would be the more proper response? Just if she says I don't think we're a match, she should just say, okay, thanks. Like, did the key should even respond then? Or... I mean, he can say something nice or just don't respond. Right. Okay. There's just anything not mean. Right. Exactly. So some of these things though are first messages too, right? Like a lot of them are just like, hey, you know, I think you're hot,

here's my dick or something, right? Yeah. Like inappropriate. So what would you say is like the ultimate first message if you're dating online? Definitely, just messaging something about one of their interests or commenting on, I don't know, anything. Or her rack just kidding. Don't comment or look. No, don't immediately go for looks because this is what we do. We just roll our eyes like so much. Right.

Are you think I'm cute? I had a guy like I'm tender because I just reopened my tender experience. I shut it down for a while and I did recently open up again, but some guys are like, hi, I think you're cute. I'm like, well, obviously we match. We usually do are cute.

Can you come up with something? Not like I would, I did message him back, Anderson, what, he's on set question. I did message him. I did not message that guy back because it just felt like, and I'm like,

it's a true amount forever. But it kind of is, it's like come up with something, I don't know. I mean, he's probably Just copy and paste it. Yeah, exactly. Well, that's my here too on tender. So if you guys don't know what tender is by now I mean we talk about it. Oh, I actually I had one tender date. It was a blind tender date. I had on the show Oh my god, it was a full on real date. You turn in a rape. It was really bad. No, you could check out the episode It's like called Emily's blind tender date or something creative like that. I like him a lot more than Emily did, unfortunately.

I know Anderson, I'd never met him, so literally it was blind. He came in, they met him and then they brought him in, we had wine, it was a whole date. And um, but it's funny because then I just, I started, because it's kind of like a game tender, you swipe left, you swipe right, I mean, it's all those, you're seeing pictures and then you get into it and then, you know, you get a match and then, and I don't know, then I got a lot of people responding. And then I heard that guys are just liking everybody. So you almost, is that true? They'd say like like in my performance?

I think a lot of guys just swipe right for literally everyone. And then they wait for the woman to message them. That's what I've heard too. So that's, okay, so that's Tinder. But this is what I was gonna tell you about Tinder is that I just, so I revisited it after my blind Tinder date just because I thought,

everyone I've gone out with, which I still think we actually just did a show about this but like dating in the real world is great too, world is great too. And since I moved to LA, most of you live data have been like fix up because I work all the time. I'm not out as much as I should be. And I thought, well, you know, Tinder isn't,

it's not, you know, you can meet nice people. Sometimes it's not just a hook up app and you might meet a friend or whatever. So I went back on it and I got a match just today. And this guy actually, he understood, this guy emailed me. I mean, he said, I liked what he said in the first message, it showed that he had read it, it was an in cleverer, we went back and forth. But the interesting thing is that it shows you, so on Tinder, you just really just put in the age range you're looking for and then the How many mile the geography geographic location desirability?

But they also shows you how many Facebook friends you have in common if you happen to have Facebook friends So apparently and I'm so busy like I forget to check the messages people message me like a week ago. We had like three friends in common Change numbers you calls me and then you call me they call pick phone. And he's like, oh, we have these three friends. And I say myself, God, I didn't even look. I just said, yes, this guy I'd game my number. I didn't, and he like, researched the key does the like most people would. Yeah. But I'm so guy, damn busy. And then he was talking to me of what he does. And he's like, oh, your podcast. I'm like, oh, God, he's already Googled me. And that's what I did. But that's what people do. Because I'm just, I probably should have. Like, yeah, anyway, not that I would have I would have gotten around to it

Mm-hmm, but it was interesting because it actually was a nice call and I'm gonna go out with them And so it's not like I'm gonna go out with them and have sex with him. We who knows you could know of course You know what I'm saying is everyone says it's just a hook-up thing or whatever He was actually one of the nice guys, but I did have had guys on Tinder who I don't get back to who will crazy every guys Oh, they're looking to get laid, but I would think that the guys that are on Tinder are looking for one night stands because there's so many other dating sites you can go on. No, it's not some people are.

They're looking for girls that are on Tinder who are probably going to be more down for the cause. I think there's a mix of everything. Yeah, like some people are looking for one night stands and some people aren't. And you'll know who those people people are Yeah, you don't know Dating sites. They're so like okay, keep it and people have one night stands and okay keep it all the time I know but Tinder is kind of when you're going in the pool that it's known for I think you're gonna find that I don't know I haven't found that thinking about you as like my little sister

I don't like that you're giving strangers you're fucking He's you should have the date here again. I'll make sure the guys okay. Oh my gosh. We do a second to date perhaps Yeah, I'll size them up dude This is the best idea of our we'll do it next week cuz I didn't have time to see oh so then I was showing I don't get into it. I was I was running out you know me with my bags leaving the house I was talking to him she's a bag with and I have no I have no time for the next week I'm reading in my schedule he doesn't even know me I'm not exactly what is like Tuesday No money oh that and I'm like he's like you seem really busy. I'm like I kind of am so maybe't even know me. Not exactly what it is like. Tuesday, no, I'm on that. I'm like, he's like, you seem really busy.

I'm like, I kinda am. So maybe I'll just have him come to the show. Which is why I had the other Tinder date coming because I never had time. Okay, so here's my question for you. Is there any tell-tale signs that a guy or a woman is gonna be kind of creepy? Like I wonder if you analyzed all the responses.

If there was something in their profiles that showed that they were gonna be an angry person? Um, I mean, actually, okay, so personally, the only bifle, I've had three, I've only posted three bifle bay moments personally, and they've all come from O.K.Cubid. Interesting, okay. I feel like I'm kind of pretty picky on Tinder. Like if you have like a shirtless picture, I'm like no. Let's rule, okay, let's talk about the deal breaker, right, I'm like no, let's rule. Okay. Let's talk about the deal break right

I'm under so so shirtless. No, I always think if everyone's drinking though. They're drinking mine. Yeah, I don't I don't know But I don't know when they have the two like huge okay, you're looking at me I drink wine too, but every guy's holding alcohol. That's really the thing. I'm married I've never been on Tinder, but I you know, I know about it. I work on love line I hear things but they take selfies of themselves drinking like hey, here's me. Oh, but I'll go on a date I'll drink it off and do it back to the creepy telltale sense because you were saying most of your I know Okay, Cupid, but then you were saying that are there any signs that you have seen or know you just it just could be anyone Oh, I think it could be anyone

Usually I don't know Okay, so back to the things that you see, a picture that you see. This is interesting for men and for women, but what, and it's different for everyone. Like, you might see a guy with a dog and be like, oh my God, I love him and I'd be like, I hate dogs, which I don't, but you know what I'm saying?

But is there anything you think that's a universal, like most women are gonna keep swiping, like not picking a guy, there's certain don'ts. Definitely have more than one picture. Have any across any profile. Yeah. Yeah, one picture does not. If it's one picture, I'm like, nope.

I agree. I don't know. I agree. I'm like, it's not something. Busy pictures, or like, if they don't have a profile picture, is the worst. The worst. That's just saying, like, I don't want to be seen.

I don't even love myself. And that's creepy. I don't know. Right seen I don't even love myself and that's creepy I don't know right and then one of the ones where it's like a picture with him and a girl he and a girl who's clearly not as a mother or sister and you're like oh so you already have a girlfriend and now you're online looking for a girlfriend yeah that's weird that's kind of weird when they do that um anything I'm trying to think of what else I don't like the um I don't know I I just started again just because I was bored. I mean, that's the thing about Tinder. It's kind of like a game. You like swipe a few times. It's such a good time, Easter. It's the best time, Waster, ever. So it's funny. But so, do you think that people are kind of hiding behind social media right now and they're kind of losing

communication skills because they don't really have to go out in the real world and meet people? A lot, not everyone, but a lot of people are behind their computers and phones. Yes. Like going out, no one pays attention to anyone else, world and meet people a lot, not everyone, but a lot of people are behind their computers and phones. Yes. Like, going out, no one pays attention to anyone else because they're always just looking at their phone. They always have their face on their phone and they don't... Absolutely.

Like, you'll like try to maybe like hit on someone in a bar and like they don't even notice you. I'm taking a selfie. Yeah. Please let me alone. No, but it's true because I was at my friend told me that he's like at this club in LA, somewhere in all these hot chicks, like they were sitting on a couch the whole night. And I wanted to like, we were kind of talking to him, but every five minutes they were

readjusting themselves and taking another selfie. And it's like, and you know, he's a little more single, but we all are obsessed with our phones and documenting what's happening. We're not, it's a definition of not being in the moment. Yeah. And yeah, my topic. No one in my generation like meets in public hardly. Like it's weird. Really?

Because you're like walking into like poles with looking at your phone. Yeah. Or do you think that it's because people don't guys aren't even talking through their sound approaching. Forget the phone. Do you think in general men aren't even like doing the approach? Like, hey, what are you doing? Like do a guy ever just say, how do you

when you're waiting in line for coffee? Hardly ever. I can maybe count on like one hand. I see. I think that people are like fearful of it. Yeah. So now all that men have always been afraid and women, I should say as feminists as we are,

of rejection, no one likes it. And I always tell guys, you know, who call into the show or, you know, email and they're like, I'm so afraid of approaching them. And it's a real fear that men have like huge, like men like shutter in the corner for years of their lives, not being able to talk to women. But eventually, hopefully, you know,

I try to help them get through it. And I'm like, it's like a, it's like a muscle that you've to exercise. And like your vagina, I'm holding it. I've been working on trying to go up to guys more. But you should. And I, if I like see someone that on Tinder or something that I like, I will try to message them

And you know what it's it's not very good odds for women either because like I'll message maybe like 10 people and maybe like To will respond really yeah, do you think it's because and these are because you made the first move? Yeah, I don't know. I think I think it's a lot of that guys Just do swipe right and see what I'm looking at the picture. They're like lot of the guys just do swipe right and see what comes up. They're not even looking at the picture. They're like staring at the TV just hoping, swiping. Hey guys, Roons in here saying he killed for the two to ten ratio. He killed for it.

Roon, Roon who is my amazing Roon who's operating the camera and does so many other things. And his podcast called Pretty Outcast. And then the other eight that don't respond, do you say horrible things about that? You go, you asshole. I bet your penis is smaller than this small thing if she did that that would be just anti-bifile but I want to talk to you about that though too because I think that this that women

should be a pro why not can't women approach men and yeah and I always thought like that initially when I said first our dating a while ago, was that men should always make the first move and I don't want to put myself out there and that if you actually take away that first move from them, it's kind of like it's almost like a, it's immense biology to want to hunt and gather and get like they're the ones who would after you and then you're taking away the chase, but that's just an antiquated thing because there's so many men who are like, I want to talk to them, but I'm so afraid. And they're so, they're so thankful

of a woman approaches them. Yeah, I hope so. Yeah, so you thought it was just talking. I'm just going with that idea. It's true though. I think it's really true. In fact, I have a lot of males who write in and friends that are so relieved that they're not always in charge.

Because men have a lot of pressure on them. They got to make the move, they got to plan the day, oftentimes, they shake sex. I definitely encourage my friends to like hit, if you like match with a hot guy on Tinder, just message him. Like what's the worst that's going to happen? He's not going to message back. What does Andy get right?

Exactly. And you know what? Rejection, it's all about, I mean, I believe, especially working in entertainment business. It's like it's all about rejection. And like you just have to say, oh, another rejection. You just, you actually like anything, like jealousy or break up, everything heals, it heals. And you can learn to kind of transcend these things.

So rejections, like, yeah. And I always tell men and women that we're going to get rejected, we're going to get hurt. It's going to feel bad, fall in the world. But if you keep going at it, you keep, you know, just how you get up, right? So you get knocked down, you keep going, and you're going to find someone.

You're going to find that person. Yeah. right? You still have how are you dating single? I'm single. It's fun. So what's I do using now? I have an okay key bit, and I have a Tinder account.

Okay, just go back and forth. What's the better you have that you have a great Tinder date or great, what's your best online date? What happened? I've met tons of great guys online. Like I've met a lot of really good guys. Me and my roommate actually, we go on a lot of Tinder dates and we've just become friends with some of them

too, even if it's not a romantic thing. No, how does that happen? Are you sitting there at dinner or whatever drinks? You're like, okay, yeah, are you instantly, like, where's gonna be buds? Do you talk about it? Just kind of obvious, there's no chemistry. It's usually kind of like after the fact, like maybe like, we'll text later and be like, I don't know how I feel about this,

but like, let's be friends. Yeah. I agree, and I actually, I think that's what I always say to people is that even if you go on like a bad day, or you go on a day that you think, is that I'm not sure if I'm into this person either A, you might be. So you shouldn't judge people by, you know, he doesn't have all these things or she doesn't.

Because you never know until you meet someone a person, you might have chemistry, but even if you don't, it could be a friend. They become friends, actually men and women can't be friends. And then you might be one of their friends. Totally. It happens all the time. I actually have had friends. I went on the state Emily, it's not for me. It's for you and I went out with the guy Totally. It happens all the time. I actually have had friends. You're like, I went on the state, Emily,

it's not for me. It's for you and I went out with the guy, you know, all the time. Totally. It's people are meeting online. That's the second most common way. But the first most common way people are meeting in general is through family and friends.

So that's still, you know, building your network. Yeah. You know, maybe they'll give you a ride to the airport if they're a good friend who knows. Yeah. Yeah, I love it. So do you know, maybe they'll give you a ride to the airport if they're good friend who knows yeah, yeah I love it So do you think that most or most people that you know on some sort of dating site?

Yeah, I feel like everyone I know has has is on Tinder like everyone's and and do you believe that it's a hookup site? More so than not. My friend guy friend calls it a blowjob to spencery He's getting lucky all the time He's literally like to dinner date blowjob to do a blowjob dispensary. He's getting lucky all the time. He's literally like, can you tinder date blowjob, tinder date blowjob? I'm like, really? So no, he's cute.

But whatever, it doesn't matter. I don't understand. Yeah. And you're giving those guys your number. No, he's a friend of mine. I think it's both. If you want to hook up, there's people that are down for that.

If you want a relationship, there are people that are down for that. I totally agree. I totally agree. I totally don't like you have to like, you know, just get it out of the way before. Like, hey, like I- The job or the way- No, like- Not hooking up with it.

Yeah, like before I meet up with them, I'm like, what are you looking for? Before we meet up. You text them before? Yeah. That's good. And if they're like just a good time, you're like, okay, don't be like, oh, I'm not looking for anything serious. Then, then you know what, what you're in, okay, I'm not looking for anything serious.

Then you know what you're in for. You're still well with the guy that says that though. Depends on what. Depends on what. We're all monitoring. Okay, well, I have a question for you because this week I was interviewed. It's interesting by two different publications by Women's Health and the Lead Daily. And they were both about the same, about the casual sex phenomenon.

And this is all on my website as well. You can check it out. Oh, and if you sent it from my newsletter, you would have gotten it, which you totally should. The woman's health piece was called, what you need to know before casual hook up. And they asked my advice, how to make sure your casual encounter is safe and satisfying. But it's interesting because on the other side,

the elite daily wanted to know five reasons women are stuck in a never-ending cycle of almost boyfriends. So it's about this whole like, so basically these two articles cover the basics of this cultural conundrum. If you're going to have casual sex, you might as well enjoy it, but if you find yourself wanting out of this relationship limbo, you know, then it's up to you to admit that you want more. So in a way, it's like, because my whole thing in the women's health piece was like, okay, you're gonna have casual sex and women typically don't, a lot of women don't orgasm with partners

unless they're like trusted partners or have the best sex of their life. I'm like, but if you're gonna do it, here's some tips and, you know, to just have fun. If you know you're not gonna have an orgasm and then try this, you know, what did I don't know what their tips are here? I'll tell you, whatever, a few things were, I'll bring it in. then try this, you know, what did I don't know what they tips are here? I'll tell you whatever, a few things were,

I'll bring it in. We're like, you know, oh, funny. Okay, like use your go-to moves. So, you know, you can't do, just like if you know that you need to be on top, then you should have no problem getting on top. Don't be afraid to try something new if you know that it's just a hook up.

And bring your own condoms. Totally. The South disease is spread. Do carry condoms. I have one in my purse, the thing. See, I love you. We've been talking about this in the show. I don't understand. Women, every woman should be armed with condoms.

So because you know that he's going to, a lot of men are like, I don't have it. They don't fit me. I'm a lot of my friends are like, I don't carry them. Because then I'll jinx myself. I think I'm a filthy, or I think I, I might judge me or think I'm a silly kind of thing. Or, uh, I, my friends don't think that they're like,

if I bring condoms, I'm definitely not getting away because I like, Oh, it'll jinx it. It'll jinx it. But that's not a reason too, because then you get to do things. I know, I know, and like you guys, that's dumb.

Okay, also I say, Felt that the two drink rule, I know people aren't gonna let me, but you really shouldn't get too drunk. But then here's the whole almost boyfriend. I was like, when the reporter was interviewing me, I was like, you mean friends of benefits. And she's like, well, yeah, but it's kind of like, it's the girl who's been stuck in this frustrating cycle. She says, um, who has almost boyfriends and she talks about like lots of dates, no dinners. And, you know, like, do you know what it is?

Like, you want, what is it? And the reason why she asked me is why it's this never-ending cycle as I was saying is that, first of all, there's so many, tell me what you think about this, that because you know what I'm saying, it's the casual relationship, you kind of want more, but then he's not asking for more, you're not asking for more, and then you never really go out,

but you just hook up. Yeah, it's so common. But what do you think it that is right now? Because it hasn't always been this way. I don't know. It's so common. But what do you think that is right now? Because it hasn't always been this way. I don't know. I have no idea if I feel like guys in my generation are like, yeah, I'm 27.

Okay. I feel like none of them want to settle down or have an actual relationship. They just want to hook up and see how long they can do that for. And then the girl wants to go along with it and just be like, I'm a cool girl, yeah, sure. Right, until she's like, who else should she be like? Right, but actually they're not.

So I said, first I said there's so many options out there. Yeah, so many. That it's kind of like everyone's looking for the bigger, better deals. So they think, well, why should I settle this? She was great, I loved her. He was great. We had a wonderful time, but I came home

and there were 16 new Tinder matches. Yeah. And then I also thought that there's no role models. That your friends don't have boyfriends either. Your girlfriend, your girlfriend, your guy friends don't have girlfriends. So if you don't see people dating, why would you say, let's commit and date?

Yeah. So you don't even see that. And then I also think that people, you know, that neither men or women are stepping up, that they're kind of, I was thinking that neither one or taking the mask and just tell me what you think of taking the mask and feminine role and the women are kind of saying guys are like, let's take a casual. Yeah. And then we're like, oh, that's cool. I'll do it. Like we said, like I said, it's so long with it. But, but I think that I don't know. How do we change? I mean, so would you do feel like you've been in that situation where you wanted more, but you didn't say it? Uh, yeah. Yeah. And then what happens? Yeah, definitely.

Yeah, I said something and then he was like, no, I don't think so. And I was just like, okay, well. But then you found your answer out and then you didn't stay in this cycle. Yeah. And then the spoil of him, almost boyfriends because I think also a lot of, and I don't want to keep saying women because men do this too, but we think that they'll change. We think we'll, we're having this gig a time together and he doesn't want a boyfriend now, but girlfriend now, but oh, I'll get him. Yeah. I'll come around. Yeah. And I know he's sleeping with other people,

but I'll be the one. Yeah. And people don't, you're not going to get him to change unless they want to change. Yeah. Right? Yes. So anyway, I thought it was interesting about this whole hook up thing and then Tinder falls right into that. Yeah So are you think bifile bay is just brilliant phenomenon? Are you thinking of expanding like what's next for you? You do another side of like sex or something. Yeah, I mean while there's I should do that. There's some straight white boys texting Which is like when guys just send sexual texts out of nowhere. Oh, yeah. I love it. Okay.

So there's that one. But that's already invested. Black dudes don't do that. Actually, now they take it from from all backgrounds, all backgrounds. Everyone sends it in appropriate. And no woman, let me just say this. There is no woman on the planet who's sitting around going out. Oh, God, I wish I get a really good dick pic right now.

Or like I can't wait to like flash out my lips to some stranger. Right. Yeah, exactly. Drew's claiming that he has one for you. I don't know what that means. Oh God, Drew is an ear-insight. Just a little insight.

A little insight to a guy's brain, especially the guys that are online a lot. I was perusing some, you know, some artwork online the other day, and a banner ad came up. I need porn, yeah. A banner ad came up, and I swear to God, it said, make a Cam Girl cry.

One dollar. Who was that marketed guys? Guys are fucked up. They wanna make a cry. Who would wanna do that? A lot of people. A lot of men. A lot of men.

A lot of men. A lot of men. Make a Cam Girl. They had a picture of a girl like in front of a camera crying. It's like who the hell was that? I'm embarrassed to be a man, so off. I know, I know, that's what we're talking about.

But we love men. I'm not saying we don't know. It's given them helpful tips. Yeah. Don't be a misogynist. If a man, so off. I know, I know. That's what we're talking about. But we love men. I'm not saying we don't know. No. No, it's giving them helpful tips. Yeah. Don't be a massage. And as if a woman doesn't get back to you, don't send an angry message because you're getting up and by Felipe.

And in 250,000 people, probably be a million followers by tomorrow. Well, they're all going to be looking at your face. And they're going to be like, oh, it's like being like the sexual predator list, so most of you are on by Felipe. Yeah. Sorry. I mean, not that extreme, but really, she puts their angry messages on. Yeah, I think it's awesome. Ask before you send a dick pick. Yeah, just be like, Hey, can I send you one? Exactly. Okay. What other some other tips for that? Have a women sending boob picks. No, guys over like, damn, she sent me her breasts.

No, I mean, if you get a boob pick be really thankful for it right like Don't just not respond because that's really more or show all your friends immediately, right guys usually guys turn I at least my get front guy friends are like look at this like they should they have a whole like there's six women in a week who are sending them You got like really hot friends But hey when you guys get dick pics are you like is it surprise? Like almost like like the snakes and a can of things? Or it's scary. I scream like like if it's unsolicited. Yeah, I've never had that phenomena.

You know, my cat is here. He sends us with the dick pics all the time. Like I got I've gotten them at like 8 30 in the morning. Like whoa. Yeah, that'll wake you up. But no one I just can't explain. We just don't want like you should. Yeah, you should ask.

It's not going to be like a woman's going to be like, I wasn't that into him. And then he sent me the most beautiful dick pic. And I am in love. They don't do anything. I mean, they're informational. They're like, oh, OK, that's what I'm saying. How do you know it's going to be there?

Exactly. Oh my god, they're totally like knocking off other decks for their own pics. OK, so it is by Felipe at BYU FELIP. Alexander Trudent, Tweetin, Alexandra, Tweetin, anything. What's your Twitter? It's BYU underscore. I know someone else had the... You'll do right, you'll buy it from them something. So the next thing is you're doing. I heard, I wanna like, you're a writer.

Yeah, I wanna do a book or something. There's so much to say on this, really. Yeah, I actually wrote a chapter for my friends book, Shira Tarant, her book is coming out this spring called 21st Century Sex. And I wrote a chapter for her textbook. Oh, okay. But I wanna come out with my own book,

do like a coffee table book or something. So I'm gonna give a text message to Larry because even like those auto corrects, the people love reading those, because it's so how we get our new information now. So it's so relatable. I think that's great. And I wish you all the luck in the world.

And you should stay in touch. We should, you know, I wanna hear more about what's going on with you. And we will continue what you're saying. I was going to say that I'm doing this, this, where, hold on, I just don't like that thing. I'm going to be part of this sexual health expo. It's January 17th and 18th. And it's going to be in Los Angeles. And giving away tickets to people, it's the first of its kind.

They're teaching sex workshops or not like actual on sex, but sex and relationship tips, workshops by sex educators, me parodies, me fun, I'll be there, I'll be giving a keynote speech, and everyone's got to check it out. So email me, feedback at sexwithmwe.com. Thank you Anderson, and everyone check out his podcast, the film vault. Thank you, Roon, thank you Madison, thank you everyone. I love you. We're gonna top five most uncomfortable scenes film vault. Thank you, Roon. Thank you, Madison. Thank you, everyone. I love you. The top five most uncomfortable scenes and films as they get together.

Sex scenes to the scene. Out of mind, we're sex, yeah. Lux, first date scenes. Oh my god, we're going to check it out. OK, thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? email me. Feedback at sexwithamlee.com. Okay, everyone.

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