Sex With Emily - Sexploring a New You

Episode Date: November 20, 2015

The only thing constant in life is change, which is why you should constantly be taking steps to expand your sex life. In this week’s show, Emily provides guidance to help you evolve your bedroom routine, whether it’s with a new toy, some new moves or new ways to get intimate with your partner. Mike, a loyal fan from Cleveland, calls in to share his and his wife’s experience with the Intensity by Pour Moi. He explains how the sexual health device has helped boost his wife’s bedroom confidence and improved their sex life for the better! Emily also answers your emails on long distance sexual relationships, venturing into the world of play parties and painful sex after weightloss.  If you’re at a point of transition and want your sex life to follow suit, this podcast is not one to miss! From kinky fantasies to sex positions to women who get turned on by other women, this show is sure to aid in your sexual growth in more ways than one. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and tonight's show we're talking about painful sex sex parties long distance relationships and Amazing sex they can come through pelvic floor health and strength. Thanks for listening to sex with Emily Okay, everybody you know what time it is it's time for my weekly Sibian update We're getting to know each other a lot better. It's kind of like my mascot. I come home like, oh, there's my orchid. There's my, well, I don't have Anderson's dog anymore, which is very sad. But I have my Cibian and I have to say, it really is the kind of thing that you, if you think that you know everything about the Cibian because people you might have seen it, like on different shows and stuff like that, you're like, oh, yeah, it's this big thing.

And I seem so unrealistic. It's really the kind of thing that will improve your sex life by a lot of the partner. One of the top questions I get asked is, how do I have an orgasm drink? And of course, in fact, I was getting my teeth cleaned the other day. New Dennis, the dental hygienist was talking to me. And I always try to hold back on what I do. And she, I got my finger, my mouth. and she's like, so what do you do? And I told her and she said, oh, I have a question for you.

She stops and she says, I can't have an orgasm during intercourse, 35 year old woman. I said, listen, that is the most common question. She was shocked that it's so common that women can't. So here's the thing with the Sibia. Not only is it just feel amazing. I mean, you actually ride it like you're riding Calgaryl position. And it's a very unique, multiple design. There's nothing else like it, but you could actually train your body to have orgasms that you can't actually, actually, you probably have never had these kind of orgasms

before. But if you want to have a G-Spot orgasm or a literal orgasm, the way it's designed is, once you learn how to orgasm with it, you transfer that experience to sector of your partner, the way you move. It's just this amazing contraption. It's not even a sex or it's beyond that. Plus, it comes with all these attachments. So if you want like an insurgable attachment, or you want a literal attachment, a finger,

there's only a finger, whatever you're into, anal. You know, hey, you can pick your color. I got this cute little ottoman that it fits into. Oh, you have to check out my Instagram, sex, family, because we did a great little video about it. But you can check it out. And the Sibian website says it all. There's actually a testimonial.

My first orgasm ever. I've been married for 17 years. I always thought our sex life was okay, but I didn't get excited about it. My first time on the Sibian, I can hardly describe the feeling I had. My body exploded. It was unreal what happened.

I soon realized at the age of 38, with the Sivian, I had my first orgasm ever. I've now started having orgasms while making love to my husband, I have Sivian to thank. Thanks, Sherry from Texas. So check it out. And if you wanna learn more about the Sivian, it's totally a reasonable purchase.

It's something that will change your sex life. Check it out. You get $75 off your first order that if you use code Emily75 at Sibian.com. That's Emily75 at Sibian.com. Thanks for listening. The two is eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a fight on day.

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I love you all. Thank you for listening. Hello. Hello, hello, hello. Happy day. Hi, Anderson. What up, Sacks? So good to see you.

Good to see you. Yeah. Things are good. Big show. Big show tonight. It is a big show tonight. We're actually gonna call somebody. We gotta call somebody because.

Somebody has to report. My name is Mike. Yeah, Mike has to report. He's got to report because here's the thing. When I get hundreds of emails a day from listeners and I read them also, thank you all for emailing me. Feedback at sextheummy.com. If you want to talk about his girlfriend or his wife.

His wife. Her vagina is becoming dangerous, right? Her vagina is becoming a dangerous tool where you can rip office penis because her keg almost is so strong. So I'm going to hear from somebody other than you today, tonight, about these kegels. Yeah, exactly.

The pelvic floor. Yes, we're going to hear all about that. I'm going to change the name of my show to pelvic floor. No, please don't do that. Let's not do that. Well, it's been 10 years. to pelvic floor. No, please don't do that. Let's not do that. Well, it's been 10 years. So pelvic floor. No, because people don't realize the importance of it until I started using the intensity,

which I've talked about. It's a toy, it's a rabbit vibrator that actually does your kegels for you. It's changed my life. And I've been trying so hard to start new routines and like meditate every day. This is the one thing I do every day. So this guy emailed me and talked about it anyway. We're gonna call him because I just want to be like, I'm gonna take it every day. This is the one thing I do every day. So this guy emailed me and talked about it anyway. We're gonna call him because I just wanna be like, I gotta hear this experience because I couldn't believe it

when I read his testimonial. So that's a big show. We have another big 10 year anniversary show coming out. 10 year or 10 year. 10 year? Yeah. It's a Los Angeles. And you better all get your ass there.

What? I think you only need three years to be 10 year it is a teacher I think. So it was different. You've been 10 year on this program for quite some time. I have been. Yeah, thousands of shows I'm going through. Two, three thousand podcasts. There's not even all on iTunes. One day I'll just release them all to the world. But yeah, that's going to be December 6th at the Hollywood improv at 7.30 and if you go to my website, you can now check out the information. Take it to like 15 bucks. 15 bucks, 20 dollars

walk up, right? Yeah, totally. We're going we're gonna food. We're gonna have all that for you And it's going to be awesome. So it's gonna be a retrospective Anderson will be their menace live show Oh my god, she's so calming. We I'll bring Stan. Why didn't you bring him tonight? Stanley is Anderson's dog. You've seen my Instagram. I got another show after love line I don't want to be I don't want to subject him to like six hours of radio. Is he ever like, oh, that was really fun. Sometimes he gives me a look like where is she? Yeah.

I saw some of his food left in my fridge. I was crying. Oh, that hurts. Yeah, I'm sorry. I love your dog. Thank you for that. I've actually really considered you dog. You got one for yourself.

It's on the list. It's on the list. I'm thinking about getting a dog, but I'm just not sure who's going to take care of him yet. So I'm getting to that point. Have you named your CBian yet? Oh, thank you for asking so. Have you put a leash on your CBN and pretend he was Stanley and walked your CBN around the I'm so glad you asked that do you want to hear the funniest thing? Okay, so you know we had a contest Yes, which was partially inspired by you

Because you said to me the first time I talked about it. You're like, what'd you name it? I'm like, I don't know and then I got an email about it But like what are you gonna name it and people get saying it so I was like, I don't know. And then I got an email about it, people were like, what are you gonna name it? And people were like saying, so I was like, oh, so we had a naming contest. We picked the top 10 names. We just put the video on YouTube, check out my sex family channel. And then those 10 people now moved to, because we're giving away a Sibian.

Oh, you are. Those 10 people moved to round two, where they have to answer questions, and there's round three. So it's been great, the contest, and you gotta check out that video. There are some good names. What is the guy who inspired the entire contest to get?

What does he get? You? Do you want to sit down? I'm cool. I always, you know, I was leaving the house. I'm like, I wonder if I have an interesting really that you say you don't want toys, but do you like secretly?

Yeah, I'm good. I'm good. I don't like to ask for anything. Hey, my dad offered to like pay off all my student loans before he died. I'm like, no, I'm good, dad. I'll do it. I'll continue to suffer.

Did you get money now from my dad? No, nothing. I got to pay off his credit cards. You are such an idiot. No, you're right. I don't need anything. I only suffer two hours less than everyone, so excuse me. But you're such a martyr.

No, no, no, no. I don't go around talking about it. I don't come on the show and say, hey, Emily offers me the world and sex toys every day. And I say, no. But that leads me to believe that you really want them. No, I'm good. I don't need anything.

I will ask you about them on the air. It's cool. Whatever. So, um, so check out Facebook Instagram though. If you want to know who the Sibian contest winners are and what are some of the names? You got any of the names, Mr. President, Pony boy, Pony boy. Like a two pony. Yes, they golden. We actually did a really a really you got we're doing a lot more

amazing videos now. So I do a YouTube channel, sex family, and it's we did a really funny one where I read all the names, the finalists and it was very funny. You just see it. You can check out the city in there. And Mr. President, what else was there was a, um, um, um, um, Denzel Washington, um, um, um, Denzel Washington. Denzel. Um, Lucius Lyon would be a good one. Lucius. Dude, you could have entered. You could have entered.

No, it's your right birthday coming up. I know, but that'd be awkward. Like, here's my replacement. Um, yeah, it's not a replacement. I know it's not. I've heard you talk about it. I know. I'm just messing around with you.

I'm good. Oh, geez. God. No, they're beautiful. They're beautiful piece of a shiner. It is beautiful. And I got a little come to this little ottoman. Right. So you can hide all your stuff in there. I see your videos. I've seen it. Don't you like my videos? Laurie does them in my office. She rocks. And so, yeah, today's show we'll be doing that. We'll be talking to the guy. We got some good sex in the news. And I just, yeah. Okay. Hey, wait, before we go any further, I hate to jump in here, but I thought about it when I came up with a topic for the film vault that we did this week. Like this is something I got to let Emily's audience know about because it's kind of right

up there. You talked about sex. Top five nude scenes is what we do on the film vault this week. No way. Yeah. I don't know. You like Mr. Skin. It's a little Mr. Skinny.

Yeah. We've done top five topless scenes in the past But never nude scenes and I don't know what this is about me, but my top five nude scenes ever single one of them is a dude All guys, it's penises on my list. Yeah, Brian my co-host Paul is there are woman in that he's got a few few ladies on there But I I went with like scenes that were jarring or hilarious or impactful. Okay, they're all involved. Pean. Give me one crying game. Okay, but that's not a sex scene.

It is. There are sex scenes. I never said sex scenes. We did we did top five sex scenes a number of years ago. We did top five nude scenes. John Davidson. Is that his name? I don't have time to analyze all the scenes or about that.

Yeah, he whips out his penis and he's completely nude. That was a good. I listen to that one. Film ball podcast. Check it out. Well, nine, nine weeks. No, I didn't do that or while or kidnuck. That's too sexual to see. What do you like PG? No, I know. I just don't like that kind of. I like to be punched in the face. I don't like I talk about that too. I talk about how I like my porn on my movies to be separate. You know what I mean? I don't want to go see a movie where like a bunch of strangers sitting around and all of a sudden I start to get a little

aroused, it's uncomfortable. Is that going to a strip joint with your buddies? It's like, hey, I have a boner, you have a boner? We all boner, sweet. I buy. But you go see movies by yourself anyway. I know, but I don't wanna have boners. Wanna watch these movies.

No one's gonna see with the boner. Put your popcorn over it. It's all good. There was a porn that I saw when I was a kid. Emily, from the 70s, where a guy had popcorn and he was trying to get fresh with this girl that he took the movies and he actually put a little hole and he put his penis. Oh dude that's terrible. I know. When I was 18 my mom took me to New York for my birthday.

Is that an animal house? It might have been in the animals. All right. I don't know what movie we were seeing but I was 18 and we were in New York and there was a guy sitting like it was kind of an empty theater like probably seven seats down for me at the end of the movie I look over and he's looking at me he's jacking off and then I'm like mom she's like oh my god and it was so disgusting and then I didn't really know so innocent I was like mom and then we run out we start to run out and then the guy in the front row stands up turns around faces the audience towards the back of the theater and he zips up his pants a different guy. Yeah You two guys fucking movie where you

Yes, how many times does that happen to you never since then never have seen a man You got to change that to you got to change that tune one Not in New York. I want to have you have you had other people like you know expose themselves to you. No In life no life outside of movie theaters. Never. Well, you gotta lie and say more because, I'm totally open to it. I think that five separate people have.

Yeah. What do you choose like, like, walking in a park and she looks over and there's some dude in the bush. Yeah. Two of it is, I'm always in my head that it might have happened all the time. I just don't see it happening

because I'm so like caught up in my head. I'm just like, I can't imagine. There might be somebody beating off right in front of you that you're texting. I'm always in my have happened all the time. I just don't see it happening because I'm so like caught up in my hat. I'm just like, pay attention. There might be somebody beating off right in front of you that you're texting. I'm always not fucking following texting. I don't know, I miss life. I'm like, pay attention. That's what she always says to me.

Pay attention and stop talking. That's what she does. Two more questions, because this is funny, because what I was thinking about, so we were talking about the 10 year anniversary, which is a milestone. I was thinking about, and we're gonna get into this, well, when you come to the show, I hope you all be there, is that my mom did use to say to me, like, it kind of seems like there's,

I wasn't always, I worked in politics before, but when I was little, I asked so many questions that by the end of the day, she'd be like, two more. Like, if I dinner, she'd be like, no, like, because I just was always very inquisitive, so I started the show. And then also, one more thing I wanted to say about the show, for all my listeners, what has been your favorite sex with Emily Moment? Even over the last 10 years or since you've been listening, it could be a guest. It could be a funny moment, something Anderson said, if he was funny ever. Feedback at sexe-ummy.com. Just kidding, you're awesome.

Do you want to get into sex in the news? Let's get sex in the news. Let's get some sexy sex in the news. Why do you have to look at the back of your computer? I was just thinking if we should call our friend. No, Mike and White, we're going to do sex in the news. Let's get some sexy sex in the news. Why do you gotta look at the back of your computer? Where is that? I was just thinking if we should call our friend. No, Mike and White, we gotta do sex in the news. Okay, you love sex in the news.

Men who perform oral sex on women are healthier. Now last time we did a show, it was about women, the more sex. See men are more sexy for you. But this is about men who perform oral sex on women are healthier. This is like a response. It's not a study.

No, I think they came out at the same time. This is the kind of study that I would fund. Research carried out by the State University of New York suggested that BJs... No. Oh, no, no. This is what we talked about. Stop. The one we talked about was that BJs could have a whole host of health benefits.

The news had been everywhere celebrating, but it seems women also have caused for joy now that at some parallel research conducted, suggests that Conalingus has plenty of his own advantages for both men and women, you're benefiting as well. They monitored 150 straight and lesbian couples. They were told to concentrate heavily and oral in their sex lives. 75 were told not to. And the results showed a notable difference in stress and anxiety levels as well as sleep quality and intimacy levels Maybe that's why I couldn't sleep last night. No one went down on me. Mm-hmm

Just to I don't buy this because if this was the case black dudes all across the country and around the world would not be sleeping They'd be anxiety ridden. They'd be all nervous and twitchy Black men you think black men don't like pro and oral. Dude, are you making racist jokes on myself? I'm making racist, but I mean, that's what I've heard. I know for a fact that's not true, PS. And I've worked on a sex show for the last 15 years and I've heard it from numerous scholars.

I'm love line, that's true. Okay, the health benefits are real. Going down and encourage her to produce hormones like oxytocin and DHA, which have been proven to have protective effects against diseases such as cancer and heart disease. What? Yep. What?

Did I just stumble or you couldn't understand? It's bizarre, they're like... All sex, you will not have cancer. The research also points to the sedative effect of the release of oxytocin and other endorphins, meaning it's the perfect way to encourage sleep for those that suffer from insomnia or restless nights. It also claims these hormones can even relieve migraine headaches. I heard that.

It's true orgasms do do that, from PMS. Of course, there's other benefits as well for many women orgasms that are not achievable through penetration and sustained literal stimulation is required. Hence, all my talk about masturbation and literal sex choice. There's no easier way to achieve it than orally. So that's what I want to tell you about that. And if you needed another reason to perform oral sex on your partner or to ask your partner for it tonight, go for it. Do it. I had't got a good excuse.

I had a friend. I swear this is one of those like, like classic, I had a friend, but I swear to God, I was a friend of mine. His name, I'll even say his name, Mickey. Mickey. I'm gonna say his last name, but it's my buddy Mickey was telling me, I don't even know

those too much information. You actually did one to me at this moment to go out in the parking lot. You told me way too much information about you and the Sivian. Anyways, all that aside, to the way I was one of those classic moments where he told me, like he was telling me the story,

I'm like, dude, I don't need to hear this, but he was talking about how we had a really bad headache from being hung over, and then he decided to pop up with his computer and start, you know, talking to him. And his headache immediately went away because the blood rushed from his throbbing head down to his...

Well, no, hangover. So many men I know, just like when they're hungover, they just line bed and jack off. And beat off, really? That's what they do. You didn't know this? It's like a cure for guys who say this all the time. I heard greasy food, maybe a little bit.

I hear the dog. And porn. You're watching porn and you're having like a big Mac or something. But I do think that oral sex is important. It's my favorite thing. No, I think we should call Mike before we get into the next one. All right, let's do it. Okay, because let me just tell you a little about Mike, you guys.

So the intensity, if you haven't heard me talk about it, I've actually in 10 years of talking about any product, I've never had such an overwhelming response from anybody. It's by Pornwaw and it's that rabbit vibrator. It's also a chaglactarizer. It's a dual invention. It has health benefits and gives you orgasms. And I've been using it. And speaking of orgasms,

I've had, this is what I was embarrassing in my time at the Sydney, and this, and I've had like different kinds of orgasms with my pelvic floor being stronger, G-spot orgasms during and of course, more easily, more readily than I ever have before. And then my audience, you guys have all been going crazy about emailing me, we giveaways, questions.

So Mike emailed me and told me amazing stories. I was like, can I call you, because I want to hear more about the how this is affected your and your wife, because it's kind of astounding. So let's call Mike, Kazzy's awesome. I love talking to the people, the listeners. Let's do more call.

Let's call everybody. For 10 years, let's call everyone who's ever listened to the show. That could be super fun. Really long show. Really, really long. So Mike, okay. She just start ringing any moment now when you just say, hey Mike. So real time.

Yeah. I think it's funny, you guys, if you send me a good enough email, you're going to be in the show. How's that? No, you all send me great emails. I'm kidding. I love you. I'm even more emails.

I love emails. You get a more emails. I love emails. You get a serotonin rush from me. Hey, Mike. Hi, how are you? Hi, it's Emily from Sex with Emily. Hi. Hi. Good evening.

Nice talking to you too. Thanks for listening. You're out with Anderson as well. It's up, Mike. Hi. How are you doing? Good buddy. Mike, you're awesome.

Thanks for listening to the show. How long have you been listening? Oh Two years. Oh really? That's so good. How'd you hear about it? I Think I was just giving the podcast People go into I do you know what's up? Given the podcast Well, Mike, see what's out there. I'm thank you actually for being available because I was just saying that I first thought it's very brave Thank you actually for being available because I was just saying that I first of all it's very brave And I appreciate your sharing your story because you know I talk as you know for two years a lot about Sat you know different toys and for some reason this product the intensity by probably people email me

What crazy about it and then I and then I heard about your story got your email and I wanted to talk about it So Mike tell me who for so where do you live? Clip in a high oh my god, thanks for staying up. Yeah, no problem. Your wife's in her room with the intensity right now, right? So that's cool. She's sleeping. She's been sleeping for a month today. Oh, thank you, though. And how long have you been married? Next year, it's 14 to 15. Okay. That's good. Wow. Clive in Ohio too. He's one of my peeps. Okay, so tell me, I want to hear, so how did you first hear about the intensity?

It was on the floor. I think you were talking to your interns and I think that was one of the devices that you're referring to them about. Right, right. And I heard it, I was outside, and I heard it, and I emailed my wife right away about it because she always had interest in doing kegile exercises, but was never really successful with the traditional methods. all my wife right away about it because she always had interest in doing kegile exercises but was never really successful with the traditional methods. What did she try? She just like it's hard because it's hard to stick with it. Oh she tried the kegoballs. Yeah. Yeah. And she's always worried that there'd be uncomfortable situations if you know because you had to do it for

longer than 10 minutes. So, right. But the Kagobals. Like the UPS guy shows up or? Yeah, exactly. And it rolls on the ground out the door. No, we had someone call him to love one. You know, do you remember this? Someone called Love One a few weeks ago and it was called,

it was called, what's your crazy like embarrassing sex moment and someone said you put a Kagobal in and she was walking into the grocery store with her boyfriend and it fell off. Yeah. So she doesn't into the grocery store with her boyfriend and it fell out. Yeah. So she doesn't have anything to do with it. So she's just walking away. Exactly. I don't know what the hell that is bouncing.

But I have a question. So when you were listening to the intensity that when we talk about it, what made you think, oh, well, first of all, why did your wife want stronger kegels? Like what was going on in her life at the time that she was like? Boy, four kids. Oh, there you go. So she'd like to laugh and, you know, one day run outside and play soccer

with the kids without, you know, acting. Exactly. So that's what happens. So one of the things we call it urinary incontinence, not very sexy, but four kids will do that too. Also, if you don't have kids, just the older you get, your public floor atrophies over time.

It just does and you sneeze and you pee, you know, you also if you don't have kids just the older you get your public floor atrophys over time it just does and you sneeze and you pee you you know you jump and you pee you talk and you pee you laugh and you pee so she was having that and so clearly she wanted to do them so what so then you got out of the intensity so she was like cool I'll try it right she um she looked at the website saw that you know it get all the work for you. That's what I love. That's what I love. It had that adiponus of the vibrator. Right. The little perk for yourself. And we obviously lived by the Cleveland Clinic, so we saw the Cleveland Clinic studies

in there and she was all on board. Okay. Yeah. It's a two-fer. It's like, oh, I think I love an orgasm. Oh, I don't also do my exercises. So that's great. That's your only choice.

Exactly. Does she do it before or after? Do you know? We wake her up and ask her. I think she's straight at both. And I don't think she's straight at during. Right. No, during a tariff.

But I usually do it after. It's like, oh, I just did my kegels and now I'm all turned on. And kind of, because my muscles are getting stronger. So the first time she used it, did you guys use it together? Did she use it alone? She used it alone just to get used to it. And then we've incorporated it together, I think twice now, but a lot of times we'll just be laying in bed and she's like, oh, I've got to do my exercise. So she'll pull it out and we'll watch TV together. Right. And she was really,

okay, because I gotta expect you guys of just listening for the first time or whatever, it's shaped like a rabbit vibe. And, but it has, you know, stimulation pads and you put this gel on it, last stimulation gel and you put it inside you and you just, for 10 minutes literally, you just sit there and you're like, okay, hey, what's up, watch TV.

And it's like, I wish someone could just do my abs for me like that, like run for me. But there's like nothing else like this. So she, now did she stick with it? Is she good at sticking with it? Because she's, yeah, she's still with it, I think maybe week six. Oh, okay. I know she's almost. Oh, maybe a little longer. I don't know. But she's almost level seven of the 10. Oh, really? So, yeah, she, you know, it's a lot of positive feedback. She's, you know, sexually laughing and jumping and not having any leakage.

Wow. So, she's really, yeah, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's,

that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, this is why I the same thing I don't have kids and I was having the same thing too and so I'm having the same experience So she started she's no after six weeks of doing it regularly and how How's your sex life before the intensity? We've always had a great one. I mean, I love that fortunate in that. Yeah And four kids and they're like the perfect couple Okay, so it how about after the intensity like having sex? Do you feel difference? perfect couple. Okay, so how about after the intensity, like having a second, do you feel difference? Uh, yeah, she'll like, um, she'll clench as I'm orgasming and it feels really good.

Wow, no, so she, because her, her, her muscles are tighter. Her, her, her, her, her, her her, her, her muscles, so, and she'd never did that before in 14 years. Uh, she would try, I don't think it was as noticeable. Right. This is my experience. It didn't work before. Now, the guy I'm dating is like, what, back, what did you just do? Because it feels amazing, right? Yeah. So, what about her, does she say like she feels something different sexually?

Or guys? Maybe not, but I know she's a lot more confident. Oh. And I think that's like probably one of those things not expected, but you'll... More confident how, like. Just, you know, feeling more sexy, paying attention more to herself and, you know, that all leads to a much more aggressive desire. That's so true.

Cause I, yeah, that's true. I feel like the more, I don't know what is it, it's kind of like when you, again, going back to abs, like when I feel like I'm doing my set-ups a lot, like I want to wear my, you know, my crop top. And then when I'm not, I want to wear a big sweatshirt. So when I'm doing a more, I, no, it's true though. I'm like, I'm like, I'm hornear, like I'm more turned on.

This is really, I'm so glad. This is really cool, Mike. Anything else about your, because I just want to know that, like, because people have bought it, like listen to me and I just, I loved your story. And I love that you've been four kids and you're having amazing sex after 14 years, like I want to send you a jacket or something. I have to, I have to definitely recommend it. As a guy, it's a little intimidating when you see it.

Okay. You know, it looks like. Yeah, explain it. Yeah, well, let's have the rabbit, right? Very, yeah. It's pink. And it's very, it has the inflating tube that she sticks into,

vaguely, and then you, and as you press a button to pump it up, it'll fit your... Yeah, it's like, you can, you can, it's trying to better. Right. Every time you use it, you just make sure it's snug and it's against your pelvic floor muscles. Because it, because I make a noise when you pull it out, it's a good light. No. You deflate it before you pull it out. Oh, you do, okay.

So it was a little, at first you were like, yeah, okay, you were like, it's just kind of interesting. Yeah, that was a little intimidating when you see it, but you know, definitely very positive all the way around. That's good, this makes me happy. Well, I'm so glad that you're having better sex because of it.

Well, thank you for letting me talk about it. Yeah, and okay, I have a question for you. So thank you. That's really good. And maybe we could do a check-in. She's going to keep doing it, right? Once you get to level 10. Yeah, I'm not even at level 10 yet.

You raise it every, I'm like, I'm so. Maybe we can do this seven. You know it's so weird, I'm at like five. But you know what's interesting is that. We're meeting you, Em. I know, but you're your own game. Well, you know what, it's the only thing that I, which is why I know it's so important

that I've actually not the only thing, but I'm not great at routine. Sometimes I meditate every day for a week, but this is something I look forward to, like it's become my me time every day that I do it. So that's really cool. Mike, I'm so glad that you guys have been great sex and I wanna hear more about,

I do tell your friends about it as she told her friends or anything. I actually sold one to someone I work with. You did? Yeah, where do you work, Michael? Where do you work? What do you do? At a pharmacy.

Oh, okay. That makes sense. Yeah, I can see that. Yeah, this is almost like a medical device. Okay, Mike, I have a question. It's so work, I have a question for you. Okay, so you've been listening for, what did you say? That's kind of his coworker was hot.

He's like, he's like so hot, your pelvic floor muscles. I saw you just sneezed and put it on, out a depends would you like to talk about that? My wife is drinking full jugs of water now and giggling and jumping at the same time no problem It's actually amazing. I noticed recently that I was sneezed. All right. I'm sorry. It's amazing Mike one more question for you So you've been listening to the show for two years. Where were you the first date? I'm doing Oh, I'm sorry. No, it's OK. I'm glad you found it. I'm doing a live show. You should totally come in Los Angeles to December 6. I love going to Michigan tomorrow, actually. But Mike, what is your favorite, if you

do think of your top sex-ed-ed-ly moment or show, what would it be? What comes to mind? Surprise question. It's been the last five minutes. Talking to Anderson and I. Talking to Anderson live. Talking to you. We've always liked the banter between you and Anderson and you and...

Mattis. Mia, thank you. Who's Mattis? Anderson's my best friend. You like the banter? Yes. The power. The power. The pattern.

And you feel like you're... I think you guys have a good relationship between your co-hosts. Thank you. Emily's easy to get along with. She can have good banter and good... But like, have you learned... I love that you love our banter. Have you learned as it improved your sex life at all?

I mean, like if you say no, I'm not hanging on. Oh, I just feel like it's just ideas to try and stuff like that, yeah. That's good. I mean, obviously, promoting the intensity as in the biggest factor on our life. Oh my God, I'm so glad. I don't want to put you in a spot. I don't want to put you in a spot.

But I feel like you should send Mike your book. Yeah, you know what Mike, can I be in a spot? Is that wrong? No, I was actually, I was kidding. I was like, I'll send you a jacket, but Mike, I'm going to send you a care package with my book, Hot Sex, and I'm going to send you a jacket, but Mike, I'm gonna send you a care package with my book, hot sex, and I'm gonna send you my Emily and Tony candle,

and it was something else too. So Mike, you're awesome. Thanks for staying awake. Wait, do you have my email? Will you send me your address? Sure, absolutely. Okay, we're gonna get that in the mail, and Mike, you're awesome.

Thank you so much. You can keep me posted. I have a safe trip, so much. And thank you for listening. Thank you, honey. Have a great night. Bye. Thank you. Nice guy. Nice guy. I like him. He likes our ban you for listening. Thank you, honey. Have a great night. Bye.

Thank you. Nice guy. Nice guy. I like him. He likes our banter. I was worried about that. This is my ego. I'm like, but did you learn anything?

Yeah, I know. I heard you. The banter wasn't enough for you. You were too funny. Is it I get emails from listeners because 10 years. Like, you banter too much. Get to the sex. So then I appear to be where I'm like, I'm going to go right to the sex.

Yeah. You can't please everybody. Do the show for yourself, man. I do. I really don't like. If you did the show for yourself, you'd just be off in the corner with your keg exercises.

I'm doing them now. Oh, come on. Question came up. Oh, wait, one more thing. I want to tell people, okay, go ahead. No, go ahead, tell people. No, I was gonna say, just go to my website. It's p-o-u-r-m-o-i.com. Pormo.'m yeah, you just click on the banner. Our website you can see all the information there and get one.

I we're going to get the emails here in a second. I'm but I want to I don't know if you know this about me. Go. You know that I cut off a man's penis? No one. I was in a physiology class where we had good adverts and I studied all this stuff. In college? It's been years. No, it's high school. physiology class where we had good average and I studied all this stuff. It's been years, no, it's high school. I was an advanced physiology student in my high school senior year. And yeah, I worked in good average every single day right after lunch. And I cut off a penis and I filate it and I looked at that. That's deference and that was like your job.

The like Anderson, all the penis or everyone had a cut off a penis. No, well, we had three good average two men, one woman. And I opted to cut off the penis just for the sake so that I could talk about it all. I can in my later days, such as what I'm doing right now, such as right now. And how many times have you been able to bring that up? I'm not often I used to at parties all the time. And I've, you know, like when I go to camp, I'm a counselor at that oncology camp. And we play little games like we have to tell two truths in a lie. And I'll usually do that one usually do that's a great one like I don't even know if I have anything like that yeah

and then it never actually told me that I did and they always think that's the lie that I cut off a man's penis I'm like no that's that's a truth is it but I don't remember studying the freaking pelvic floor man I haven't been hearing about the pelvic floor until just like the last six months from you and Drew pelvic floor this because he talked about a lot too yeah I hear about it yeah later, pelvic floor this. Does he talk about a lot too? Yeah, I hear about it. Yeah, later years, pelvic floor problems, the ladies. Yeah.

I do have another... Sex in the news? Yeah, a quick one. Is it good? No, it sucks. I'm gonna read it in a sucks. Ha ha ha. Almost every woman gets aroused by photos

of other naked women. That's a large, that's a big statement. Every woman. Nearly. Yeah, so most women. That's a large, that's a big statement. Every woman. Nearly. Yeah. So most women are either bisexual or gay but never straight as that study suggests, which is kind of what Kinsey said. That we're all spectrum, but you know, like a one to a ten of men or more like a one or two, but women can be like the three, four or five. So this shows us that women appear like one being straight and ten being gay. So that's the Kinsey style. So there was a study. And they were based on elements

such as whether they're people dilated in response to sexual stimuli, showed that 82% of the women tested were aroused by both sexes. So it was lesbians and straight women. Meanwhile, the women who identified as straight, 74% were strongly sexually aroused by videos of both attractive men and attractive women.

This was in contrast to the lesbian, you showed more much stronger sexual responses to women than men. The research, yeah, so that's what it talks about, and it says that, yeah. I wonder if it gets confused too, you know how your girls are a little cdy and a really in competition with one another. I mean, yeah, you are. And I wonder if there's any sexual, you know, responses that get confused in a study like that.

Like you guys see, like, like if you saw a naked woman, you look at her boobs and be like, one of mine is gonna zap. You know what I mean? Like that goes off. Well, there's that. So women do compare themselves to other women.

You guys check out ladies more than I like that. But more about checking it, like we become dilated. Like if you saw a naked, well actually, you do like naked men as we cover. No, I don't. I like films and scenes and films that I remember that are jarring that are impactful.

I don't like, I'm like most straight men where like I see a gay man, I see a naked man and I recoil and I feel horrible. I feel homophobic. But it's, I don't like, like when I see gay sex, like it's like, I recoil and I feel horrible, I feel homophobic, but it's, I don't like, like when I see gay sex, it's like, ah, like I can't help it. I feel a lot of people are going to be a lot of people.

I know. So yeah, there's a thing, I get to, I mean, when I go to, my go to port is, you know, girl and girl. Is it? Yeah, that's really common, I think, for when, as we know by the study, which, you know, there's just sex in the news.

We can get some emails, but first, I need to talk to you all about something super quickly. Well, I already told you about the intensity. So that's just one thing. If you wanna know more about it, you hear me again. I can't talk about anymore. The benefits of categorical exercises, and this just doesn't for you,

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And you can also, here's the other thing what he was referring to, Mike, is we did, go to my website and Google, SexToryReviewIntense, and I'm, SexToryReviewIntense and I'm plugged. That was actually one of our most popular episodes. And could we review a bunch of toys on there and people just love it,

because my team is great. So check that out. Also, down under comfort. Oh, that out. Also, down under comfort. Oh, I gotta send Mike some down under comfort. Call her Mike, who we just have. Just because it's winter, it doesn't mean that season for sweaty balls is over. Your intimate areas are still getting sweaty

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But you can just do this for me. But down under comfort, actually it's also dry shampoo. Oh, look at that. Really? And a guy tweeted me that his balls don't stick to his thighs anymore. Oh, that's nice. So check it out. Go to Emilytony.com. Also, we have massage candles there. And they're now at a sexy discounted price. So check it out. I love a little three set you got there. Oh, the Menazza Twasette. I love it because you can try all set if all three sets. And they're really cute little containers too. They're travel.

They have the like you can light them and then they have a little funnel on the end of it. Yeah, you can pour it on your partner and give them massage. So you're not like pouring it out the side and it's going down the side. It has a little, the little spout there. So it pours right out. It was nice. Right. Thank you. I mean, did I give him two for your truck? I stole them from the back of your car when you weren't looking. I didn't steal my brownie. I brought you out there. Her trunk is always filled with. You've no idea. I'm

so embarrassed. Can I tell you an embarrassing thing? I said, you could get pulled over by a cop and you just don't say anything. You just go check the, check the trunk officer. Click. You know what I mean? Pop the trunk and then he go look and you be scot free. You know, can I just tell you something? I'm so embarrassed that I literally, I mean, I haven't freaking mini Cooper, okay? So it's always, I've got skin condoms that meet a thousand condoms for November. They're really cute, they're, you know, I love skin.

So they're like, oh, here you go. And you take you open up the condom and you use them, but then it's a little mustache is in them. You know, November for you guys go bust. You know, whatever for guys go mustache. I got flashlights because now there's these new quick shots. Because I make your wiener look like it has a mustache. Yeah, you can put it on your mind. Oh, did you see I put one on Stanley?

Yeah. So here's the point. So I went to this very, okay, do you know, you don't watch the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills? But Adrian Maloof is on the Real house what she was on the real house was Beverly Hills for house was a plastic surgeon. They got divorced but she's got this massive beautiful beautiful home. I had a really nice dinner the other night and I was invited. So I go there and it's like really you know

there's a funny thing so we go through security. I mean first of all it's up I'm a hauling drive and I barely badly held but it took me 40 minutes to get there like Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I love it, which was very funny. He's like, do me a favor if the gate's not open to her house. There's still like another mild drive just park on the street. I'm like, okay, so I get there, of course I'm late. And I just park on the street, I go inside. And it's like, check out my answer. I picked up, it's just the most beautiful home.

It was like a beautiful sit down dinner. But I get there and the guard comes out, her like personal bodyguard. And he's like, hey, can I have a, did we're depart? Like obviously there's security cameras. Right. And I said, oh, on the street, well, can I have your keys? And I was like, oh my God, so I just come from the show

where I literally, on my, just, just on the, the seat next to me, I had about 50 condoms, quick shots, such the new little flashlight things. I had a, a wee vibe tango. I had all these sex toys because I just done this, they're always in my car, but they were my front seat, spewed throughout my car's filthy. And these are like,

sexual clown exploding. I said to myself, I'm really sorry it's total mass, like I have sex talk show. I literally was whispering to him and then he moved my car already. Never saw anything because that's his job. The real problem would be if those like hot shots

were all used when you got your car back. You know what I mean? Like the little flashlight, so we of like all like lubed up and dripping doubt in problem that who cares. It's very embarrassing. Yeah, you're like the uh, oh, that's what I wanted to ask you. Oh, Dr. Ruth, you're like the young uh, sexy good looking Dr. Ruth. That's, that's, when did you first, do you remember where you were, how old you were, when you first set ears or eyes on Dr. Ruth? Because Dr. Ruth, when I was growing up, she was kind of like a stand-per-er.

She was shit, yeah. Like we used to like talk about her on the way around. Did you? I'd go like, she'd be like that, not like the butt of jokes, but I kind of like the punchline or like, go, why don't you go out and talk to Ruth or like, if somebody does. She's the only name that synonymous with sex with sex doctrine. Most people think about that. And so when I started my show, I don't remember the first time, but it was probably in college when I got very interested in sex and orgasms because I could not have them. I started listening toward researching her, but I actually had her on the show.

I could play that episode. Yeah. I did. Long time ago. So, but when I started, all I could say was, I want to be the next doctor Ruth, like that was my goal. But now it's like, yeah, I guess she's like 90 something now. Kim believes she's still ticking.

You know what, she must get a lot of oral. She must get a lot of oral sex because she's good health and plenty of sleep. Right, and it takes a lot of semen. So yeah, okay, so that's getting to me else. Well, that wasn't a great answer, but thank you. Well, the first time, dude, I don't remember the first time. I don't even remember, okay, so that's good to get into me else. That wasn't a great answer, but thank you. Well the first time dude I don't remember the first time. I don't even remember like I don't think I had lunch as because they would have lunch Um, but I I remember studying her when I started becoming interesting and sex and there wasn't a lot of information out there

And I listened to her radio show and then I met her in an event and she's four foot nine. She's shorter than I am Yeah, she's awesome I don't remember when I first her in an event and she's four foot nine. She's shorter than I am. Yeah. She's awesome. I don't remember when I first came in Marston's ex. She's kind of going off the radar. I missed that doctor. Should I release that episode with Dr. Ruth? You should.

I think that'd be good. Okay. On the list. Let's get into emails. Let's do it. I love you all. Thank you for emailing me. Feedback at sex with mme.com.

And also, I appreciate when you include your age, relive, and high-listen. Emily, I'm a 25-year-old woman. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years. Since we first started dating, he's lost 95 pounds, and I've lost 97 pounds. Congratulations, that's amazing, wow. That's a whole person, that's a big person. I mean, that's that they both did together.

It's so good to have someone when you're having, whenever you're trying to lose weight, or actually starting to retain, it's so great to have someone to you're having like whenever you're trying to like lose weight or actually I started new routine. It's so great to have someone to be accountable with and your partner congratulations. But here's the issue having sex has been rather painful lately and I'm not sure if he grew, I shrank or a little bit of both. I was hoping to get some insights as to how we can rectify this situation and how we can work around this. It was never an issue before, so I'm thinking it has to do with our new bodies. Thanks for the advance, Kristen.

Their bellies were probably in the way before, right? Well, there's a lot of things. Your whole body changes, so here's the deal. Losing weight reduces your mom's pubic, which is your pubic mound, both in men and women. It's that layer of the skin that protects your pubic bone, and I always talk about like women kind of rub it sometimes because you can have indirect access to your G-spot. So it's right away, you're clitoris, but you access it like you're touching, you don't pubic bone. You can match with it. The carousel. Yeah, they do. Okay, they might. So what happens is, is that it stops the pubic bone. So wait, okay, so it's a layer of skin and fat that protects

your pubic bone and it stops your pubic bone from hitting, okay, so it's a layer of skin and fat that protects your pubic bone, and it stops your pubic bone from hitting your part during sex, which can be very uncomfortable. When you lose weight all over Kristen, you're also gonna notice a reduction in the pubic bone padding, so your pubic bone is more exposed. And that's why it might feel like

he gained an answer to his penis after weight loss, which is amazing. The penis also might like more prominent and penetrate deeper because there's less fats running the area. Also if you've been working out a lot, Chris, in which I'm assuming you have to achieve this amazing transformation, it's possible that you're feeling tighter down below as well. And also another thing is that extreme weight loss can also cause for loss in your abdomen muscles, the strength of it, it causes cervix to drop slightly so they could also explain sharp pains that you're having. So all I have to say to you is do your

chaggotal exercises in strength and mental area, but also go slow. You gotta remember that you have to adjust. I'm sure, Kristen, like this is an amazing accomplishment for both of you, that you're probably going through so many different adjustments in your life right now, you know, professionally, personally, you know, just everything, like physically how you feel.

So give yourself time just to get used to your new bodies and how they fit together. Also, you can start to pick positions that allow you to control like how deep he goes. So don't avoid positions with deep thrusting, like well, he's on top, since that's probably what hurts you the most. So the best positions would be like when you're on top,

spooning, missionary position, but if you keep your legs down or closer together, that will give you more control. So there's things you can do to avoid him, like if he puts throws, like if you put throws, like if you're in Michigan, throw his legs, your legs back, guys love doing that.

Like back your head or over his shoulders. That's gonna be painful. Little Loub never hurts. Yeah, that's what I think it is. I think she probably got a little bit. You got an add some Loub, yeah. Because the natural Loub comes from fat cells, right? So now that they're all gone.

Yeah, it comes from a lot of different things. And so there might be different times a month or more loo, so I would always say add some loo, and definitely do your chaggle exercises. So try some of those variations of the positions. Doing your chaggle floor, you know, doing your pelvic floor muscles, I'm sorry, I told you this whole show.

It was not gonna hurt. And just try to try new positions. Also my book, which Andrew's mentioned, Hot Sex, over 200 things you could try tonight. Actually gives you different variations to try new positions. Also my book which Andrews mentioned had sex over 200 things you could try tonight Actually gives you different variations to different sex names. You can buy it on Amazon So just go slow Give your time and also get checked out by your doctor because in fact if your cervix did drop or there's something going on You just everything is changed in your life and your body

So check it out because I don't want you experience more pain What do you think the chances are that these two are gonna leave each other for like upgrades? You know I I mean? Because they both got like- They both upgraded. I know, but like now they might like turn like look over the shoulder room like, hey look who's looking at me over there?

No, you know what I mean? Well, you know what is true that you do probably get more attention, but I'm hoping that since this experience probably brought them closer together that's on an issue. Happened to me. I dated a girl who was very over,

not very overweight, but she was overweight and had bad acne and then she like lost a bunch of weight with me and her skin cleared up and she came very attractive and she bailed. She bailed? She went for a career. How long did you date her? About three years.

Yeah, it was brutal. Was she like dying and you saw the... She just grew into herself, I guess, you know, we're young. But yeah, as soon as she got, I was dating her when she was like a six and she turned in like eight and a half, nine and she was out of there. You sad? Oh, the titles are broken. We were like an ice-cool.

I just had a high school. A couple of years I've ever moved from high school. Yeah, well, hopefully they're gonna stay together and keep working. I still wish bad things for her. Stop it, see? You're an angry person. No, no, no.

I'm just grateful every day. Yeah, you are. Okay, hey Emily, I love your show. It's given my fiancee and I, fiancee and I have some great ideas and the Kegel Camp app is amazing. Let's get to my question. My fiancee and I are interested in trying a sex party,

not for partner swapping. Right now we're more interested in the voyeuristic aspect of watching and being watched. However, we're having a hard time figuring out how to get into this type of scene. Do you have any advice for how to find a sex party if you're new to the scene? Let me also say we're both in our late 20s and are looking for something that's closer to our age. Thanks for your help and keep the great work on the show. Greg.

Hang on public parks. Look for guys with that pony. Oh my god. Please don't follow them home. I wish you said you were you are from but you didn't Greg because the truth is first of all, I love your adventure spirit. Good for you. And if you listen to my show recently I did with them it's called guess who's having sex with Emily which was a super popular show because the first time I I've ever had about the guy I'm sleeping with or about the show I've heard good things about that show yeah yeah did really well because I've never it was a first time or first time I had someone actually banging on the show wait um we talked about going to sex

party that sound like it was the first time you had sex someone was actually banging on the show. Wait, we talked about going to Sex Party. You just made it sound like it was the first time you'd ever had sex with anyone and he was on the show. So that's not the case. No. It's the first time that somebody had sex with someone that they actually became a guest in the show because we went to a sex party together. And I loved watching his reaction because it was the first time he'd been to one and I thought, come on the show. Okay, so I love your spirit. And if you're in a big city like New York, San Francisco, finding an event near you might be

a little bit easier. Not sure where you are. For smaller towns, you got to do a little bit more reconnaissance. So either way, do your research. Make sure that you find an event that's right for you. And these parties, as they're called, swing parties, they're more like play parties. So they're kind of perfect because there's no requirement. It's not like you have to drop your and like have sex with somebody else and swap.

You really don't. And if you are interested in the voyeuristic element, this is perfectly welcome at a lot of these parties. You know, it's for couples and single women. So here's some places you can go to look. You can go to FETLIFET.com, Cassidy, K-A-S-I-D-I-E.com. Great resource for you. It's kind of similar to Fat Life, but a little less kinky, less or into that kind of thing.

It's a social network for connecting with people similar with similar sexual interests. And yes, voyeurism is included. You can check that voyeurism box. And that's also great for swingers and uninhibited sexual adventurous couples. The site lists events and parties in your area. There's also groupdesire.net, check that out, and also local sex shops. I'm not sure we live again,

but that's a great resource. I mean, you're there going, hey, I want to have a literal orgasm or we want to be tied up. You can be like, do you want to create sex parties? Those are the people that get in now because every town's got some kind of sex shop, right? So you can talk to the employees there

and it won't be uncomfortable or odd because they talk about sex all day long. Also, I recommend Holly and Michael's podcast called Swing. It's amazing podcast, they're great, they're on Playware Radio, they talk about a lot. And if you check out their website, they might have more information for you. But I think it's great that you're exploring this

because again, you just go, it's a great adventure, it's great for play, you get turned on by watch people and then you go home. And it's not even weird or that awkward everyone check out that episode, you'll see what I mean. Thank you for emailing me. Okay, yeah, that was good. I've even just got to know.

I've been in like weird places. It's so interesting, because you go. And it's like, you go. And it really is like a normal party. You're just like hanging out, have a drink, so then all of a sudden after an hour, people are having sex, but you don't have to. Come watch.

It's a good time. Yeah, I've been in club for like a second. Different than like Netflix and chill. Yeah, it's adventurous and I think the most those, I don't know, don't give me that look. You don't want to go? No, I don't want to go to a sex party. Maybe I'm in your wife's birthday.

Yeah, she would love that. You're really fun. Okay, long distance intimacy, dear Emily, my partner is away for a few months for his career. The lack of physical intimacy has been really difficult. Do you have any suggestions for maintaining intimacy while in a temporary, long distance relationship? Thanks, Alex.

So, hailer may question for them. Why? Because you have like plenty of good advice. Oh, you already know that? To what, what am I gonna say? We're gonna talk about those remote control panties, I would think. Oh my God.

The Wee vibe, yeah. It's amazing. But the truth is, yes, first of all, there are, because you're talking about intimacy. So I can say like yes, you know, relationships definitely are very challenging on their own. And then when you add the miles in between you, things definitely get trickier for sure.

But if you can work it through and you know that you wanna be together, you've got to do everything you can to enhance intimacy. So communication, as we know, is important for our relationships, especially if you're in a long distance one. So make sure you set up dates and time to talk and you keep them like a real date, okay? You can plan visits, make sure that you're having visits.

I know that these are way for three weeks, but hopefully you can, you know, make time to see each other. And when you do, make sure you have new experiences, not just like going out to the local museum or whatever it is, but like a new sexual experience. So this is a great time. Here's the thing, when people are long distance or they're not face to face, it's a great time to like build your bucket lists

and exchange them, or to like, sometimes the reason why people love phone sex is because they can say things or renex scenes that they actually wanna happen, but they can't tell their partner. So it's a great time to kind of explore all of this. You can send erotic emails, you can talk about what you wanna do to each other,

you can have obviously sexting as great. A little Skype. Also Skype or FaceTime. Amazing, great for communication, use it for your phone dates. It's funny because I don't FaceTime nearly enough, but when I do what I do with my nieces, I feel so much closer to them because they're a Michigan. I feel like I don't do it enough, but when I do only... It's such a new technology, I guess I'm a little too old. I don't do it enough, but I do. I do. It's like, it's such a new technology. I guess I'm a little too old.

Like, I don't really, I take it, I don't, I don't think about it the way I should. And it's like, I should just do FaceTime all the time. It's like, my mom and stuff. I know. Me too with my mom. I know. It doesn't even occur to me. I just call her because I'm an old man.

I do the old rotary dialing. I know. You get a rotary dial. We got to work on that. But I actually feel like it really does help you because you're talking about intimacy. So it can be even better than sex. Skype's X because mutual masturbation is great. You guys can mutually masturbate. You can try the O My Body, which is a remote control vibrator that he can control through

his iPhone or through any phone. It's an app for any phone. And you can wear it. You can put it in panties. There's one by O My Body as well. And he can control it during the day or while you're on the phone together, that's pretty cool, you can do a strip tease,

you can warm up to fun things, like this is kind of a great time for you to, when you're doing that thing every time, you can just talk about your day, but talk about the things that you wouldn't, nor would talk about, and also, yeah, try the sex toys, try some, oh it's the Wevi 4 Plus,

that's the one that has the remote control. Okay, in the panties. And the panties, yeah, exactly. Panties, bad word, girls don't like the word panties. Not really, but so much better than underwear. Is it, I think so, right? That's underneath something in the middle panties. Underpants.

That's the one where it's bridges. I know. What about bridges? I still like the idea of this remote control vibrator doubling as a drone? I still like the idea of this remote control vibrator doubling as a drone. I still like that. I still like the idea of maybe like him being able to drone the vibrator in and like comes to her house.

You know, like then she can like fold it down and put the propellers inside it or something that it becomes like a sex toy. That'd be cool if you could fly it in. You know what I mean? And then what she's done, it just flies back to him. Like, oh, that'd be great. Well, here's the other thing.

There's also a flashlight just invented the key room. It's K-I-R-E. No, but what it is, it's a flashlight. He uses it like a flashlight. She's got the dildo and it's like they're actually having sex. So they're on Skype or FaceTime. When she inserts it inside and he's using the flashlight, he can feel what she's feeling.

She can feel what he's feeling. She can feel what he's feeling The key route check it out on the flashlight comm site. It's friggin amazing It's it's a little expensive, but if you really want to up your game. It's like you're having virtual sex What the age yeah, it's amazing. I can't even talk about it enough I really should talk about it more and the fun thing all about this is you should think about when you because you say you want to enhance intimacy Let me just finish this up. Is that what intimacy means is that you're able to communicate about things. And I'm sure you guys have great communication, but when it comes to sex, most couples are really challenged. Whether they've been together

five months, five years, 20 years, they cannot talk about sex. So this is a great time to every, you know, to set it up like this month. We're going to cover like our, our bucket list for this year. Or let's try talking dirty. Do some research going into it so every time you do feel like you're not only enhancing your intimacy in your relationship overall, but your sexual intimacy as well. So when you see each other, you'll be learning about what each other wants and it'll be that much greater.

It sounds like this three weeks could actually make their sex life better. Three months. I think it should. You said three weeks once. You're sure you did. So three months, I was thinking when you said three weeks could actually make their sex life better. It's three months. Three months. You said three weeks once. Did I? Sure you did. So three months, I was thinking when you said three weeks, I was like, get over it a few months.

A few months. Okay. Yeah. First career. That is a challenge. No, that's big, but that's why I think you can, let's look at the upside. It could actually, if you, if you take Emily's advice on this, your sex life is actually to be better by the time you guys get back together.

I think so too. Yeah. You could even like come up with fantasies and Because a lot of women don't fantasize much about saying, think about fantasies, share that with them, write them sexy notes, emails. You've got this, honey. Okay, that's what we got time for. Thank you, Anderson.

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I love you all. Thanks so much for listening. Was it good for you? Email me. Feedback at sexwithendly.com. Okay, everybody's speaking of flashlight. That's time, it's time to cut your penis. They have this new thing, Anderson called the quick shot and it's smaller than your regular flashlight.

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