Sex With Emily - Sextorini: All Greece'd Up

Episode Date: August 11, 2018

On today’s show, Emily is live from Greece with comedian and boyfriend Ben Morrison to talk about traveling with a partner – which also means vacation sex. They give some insight to their first trip away as a couple, ways to amp up vacation sex – including what toys are best for travel and their favorite new position. Plus, how you can navigate some of those difficult couple conversations – because everybody has them – even the experts. Thanks for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Foria, Aneros, Magic Wand Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. On today's show, I'm live from Santorini, Greece, with comedian and my boyfriend, Ben Morrison. We'll be talking about what you learn on the first trip you take with a new partner, my two favorite words of vacation sex and why it matters. Tips for difficult couple conversations and how to get through them.

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all those good things. So I took a two week vacation. I've never done this before. Maybe 15 years ago, 20 years ago, I went there for two weeks, but since I started sex with Emily 13 years ago There was no time to travel. I've been building a business. I've been working my ass off and I decided this was the year to get out of town and I am right now with Ben Morrison. Hi Ben. We are recording from the most beautiful place in the world.

Probably most romantic place. We're in Santorini. It's an island in the Greek islands. The Sikletes. The Sikletes. We've never been here. Never. We never even planned it. We've only been away for like a long weekend. And then we're like, Hey, let's go to Greece for two weeks. Exactly. So do you know anything about Greece? We do nothing about Greece. Anyway, so I... You cook with it, I knew that. Cooking with Greece. But anyway, so I've never...

Let me just go back to this part that I've never taken a trip and I was like, you know what? My listeners are cool if I go away. I've got a lot of shows. We actually did a bunch of shows before I left. And this has been just really interesting. I always talk about how it's so important for couples to get away together, you know, people forget to travel Even if you have kids, you're like we can't leave or people tell me they have kids and the kids are eight or ten or even three years old

And they're like yeah, we don't have sex We don't connect it's because you need to get out of your house You need to see a different bedroom a different bed and just change a pre-location and connect again and so and there's also Hotel room sex. You can get a don't have to have much dirtier when you know someone's gonna wash them, linens in the morning. So anyway, Ben and I decided to go to Greece. I've always wanted to come here.

I believe Ben has to. And since I'm not super busy up until the day we left and yeah, we booked a ticket a month ago. I was like, Greek Island sounds great. I want to go to Linnabitch. I want to relax. I don't want to stress. And, you know, it's been relax, I don't want to stress.

And you know, it's been a long time to travel internationally for pleasure. I've definitely like went to, went to where I go. Germany, for work, a few years ago. But it's like, this is like a trip. You got to plan it. We did not plan. We didn't plan. And so that's also very taxing on a relationship when you don't plan things.

Even at home, if you're like, where do you want to go dinner? Why don't we plan anything? There's nowhere to eat. Well, movie we were gonna watch. That can be stressful. But when you land in a foreign country and you don't know where you're staying, how to get there, I don't know what I thought.

I mean, I really didn't have time to look at it. You think, you think what? To land it, but I was like, oh, great island, it's easy, that's fairies. It's beautiful, there's water. And it's high season. No problem, but it can be more challenging. So we've learned a lot about each other. We're in Santorini. It's probably the most romantic place on Earth.

We just saw a proposal at sunset and we're staying in a cave. In Santorini. Just so they know, because we're staying in the most beautiful part of the most beautiful part. I think the old city, it's at the Santorini, it's a half moon and then we're at the very tip and it's called Ia. It's everything you, it's at the center, and he's like a half moon, and then we're at the very tip, and it's called Ia. And it's everything you think about when you think of Greek, Santorini, kind of beautiful whitewashed cave dwellings or on a cliff overlooking the ocean.

And so we're recording bananas. It's bananas beautiful, and we are staying in it. We found this cave, we have a two-story cave to ourself, and it's amazing because the view here at Sunset, which it's actually Sunset right now, and we have this view that people are actually coming from all over. There's like mobbs people behind us,

like taking pictures behind us. Behind us. It's like the today show for podcasts recording right now. What are those people doing? The good news is not good news at Love America, but there haven't been time Americans. A lot of people speaking French, like all over, we haven't met a lot of Americans. Yeah, no, we haven't met a lot of Americans. So that's the setup. Like, 20, you know, I'm having some

amazing white wine, Santa Rites known for its white wine. So I had to get a bottle of that. And we just went on a catamaran boat thing today. We live that yacht life. We know the outlaw. NBD, but I mean, I we live the the yacht life. We go away for a yacht. Centro in the sun. Nice. So so touristy. So that's where we are. And you can check out these pictures. I think we've got a lot of Ben not only to the comedian. He's also for Tadfer. And he takes amazing photos. So I've been very lucky because he's taken like how many photos have he taken? We won't post him. Oh man. He's editing them. I mean, like my gallery he's taken like, how many photos have he taken? We won't post him. He's editing them. I mean, like my gallery of ones that like, I love, or it's like, it's 220 at this point.

And just wait podcast listeners, you have some of the most, the hottest, most beautiful photos of your own, Emily Morris are gonna be hitting the airway soon because like, I like doing travel photography, I love it, but I really love being able to shoot someone and have a subject when I travel and Emily is incredible. She really knows how to get her picture taken. I do. Yeah, like a mofo. You think you don't, but I'm like move and then

it's like, boom, damn. And then I'm like, move and you're like, boom, damn. Well, every pose. I know you're doing you know you're doing. Oh, she's a, I'm not even. I took a model to okay. I was born Instagram. It's you, let me tell you what's been amazing. A lot of things is that I've not been on my phone at all. I've checked Instagram. I haven't, I mean, I really have not checked email very much.

Obviously everyone in the office can get hold of me. They can text, but just there's something about unplugging. And so the other reason why I took two weeks though, just getting back to this for a moment is because everyone's like, I've heard this over the years. Oh, you go away for two weeks, you have to. Like I'm thinking, yeah, right, I could ever do that, but they're like, you have to do it

because the first, you need a week just to get into vacation mode. I'm like, that's ridiculous. And I have to say it was a little challenging. I mean, I don't expect you guys, like it's like the smallest violent in the world is playing for us right now because it was stressful the first five days. So I was working up until we left. I suck it packing. I was up literally did not sleep the

night before because I was like, oh, I should put things in a suitcase and then we traveled overnight. And then to that was tonight. From the west coast when you come to anywhere Europe, you fly to the East Coast, JFK, and then you typically take an overnight flight and land in Europe like four days later. I have no idea how the time works. I know that we're flying into the future while it's becoming the past. Like you take off in July and you land in August,

I have no idea. And it really, it really, it really taxes you. So we landed in Athens and I, we hadn't slept. So that was going on two days and we're like, okay, where should we go? Superduper new, uh, new rolling suitcase was really.

Okay, so I went to Ross. Life easy for me. So the night before I left at 12.30 at night, I was leaving it sick. You were coming out at 6.30 morning. I left you at like 11 and you had started packing and our flight was like eight in the

morning. I know Ross was even open until 1 a.m. That must be depressing because my teacher asked at 1 a.m. It was very depressing if you go to Ross already, she didn't go into good. So I had a big suitcase. It was it was stress stress for less. It was stressful though. So I was packing. I was up and then we get to Athens and we land and it's just hot and I'm I've I've way too much stuff with me turns out I've nothing that I need and all the things I don't and this suitcase is a shitty so we get to Athens and we landed it's the morning I guess it's like noon or something and we're like we want to go to I figured that since

I'm really don't I really need a vacation right I want to have I figured that since I'm really joned to, I'm really needification, right? I want to, have I mentioned that? I want to, I pictured me sitting on like the most beautiful beaches with blue water and just lying out and like lying there and reading and sleeping and I was like, let's just go to Athens on the way back and let's leave Athens right now and go to the island. And we knew that we wanted to go to Santorini and we'd both heard of Seafnose and Ben's parents

went there, they've been together 41 years. No, they went to Greece. Actually, kind of a similar trip to us. They probably plan more though. Oh, yeah. Oh, Mary and Morrison is not at least a house, unless itineraries are printed, e-ticated, and we are not them. So part of the fun of this whole thing,

when you don't plan, it can go one of two ways, and it often goes both in the course of a vacation. When you don't plan, the advantage is discovery. You meet someone, they say, oh my God, you have to see this one place in BAM before you know what you're on a ferry going there. That's the best case scenario. Worst case scenario is that you're like, you land and you're like, we don't know where we're going to live. No one speaks English. Exactly. And the other thing is everyone's like, what people's like mouth, egg, egg. What's a suvlocke?

When I told them a week ago, I was like, I was at my best friend's birthday in St. Beach in San Francisco. And everyone was like, you have a plan yet. Like he was faces. They're like, it's high season. It's travel tourist season. And I always knew that I find a place because I used to, in my 20s, I went backpacking through Southeast Asia for nine months. And I had a one-way ticket to Bangkok and I find a place because I used to in my 20s, I went backpacking through Southeast Asia for nine months

And I had a one-way ticket to Bangkok and I was a traveler and I remember just kind of figuring out as I went along And I figured this I knew that I wasn't worried about its finding places. It was just that I literally didn't know I realized I'm a bit of a princess too like I want a nice place I want to be quiet. I want to be on the beach. So anyway, we get there and princess What we're looking at like baller hotel rooms and she's like, no, the linens are not up to my quality. I bought nice linens. I want to be able to sleep.

So anyway. So anyway. So I'd be like, what are you doing plants? I actually wasn't worried about finding a place because if you look online at Stephen Holmes, there are still a few hotels left. So we end up taking, we decided to get a ferry. We get to this beautiful island

and we have to drag our suitcase up the hill. I ended up throwing my back out with my suitcase filled with nothing that I need. And we get to this place called Seafnose House, which is in the port and it's a beautiful hotel. Lovely couple owns it and we, those are 10, 30 and nine. They loved us right into the hotel.

They loved us until we told her that. You told us. You told her. You went up to the, I was so sweet and they were like fawning over us for like three days And then on the on the last day she's like hello And you're like, where are you going to go to go to an Airbnb? Consent told me to say that he goes tell you to say that you said to me. Why would I tell her to tell I don't know why because it was

You just came back and you were like oh my god babe. I just told her No, baby. I think you told me to you're like just tell her that and I was like I've learned a lot. Is it Ben and I have learned who's like, what each person to when you travel with a new partner. Well, I thought either I'm going to love him or we're going to break up. It's what I figured it's going to be one of the other.

Because you learn a lot in the two weeks. I thought it was going to be like, super in love on our final island. Or you're on like, and I'm on MikaN can also no one can find me exactly good riddance Ben who send me the pictures hey I'm right here no but

I'm saying if that's what happened that didn't happen but it didn't happen well I'm not a planner provocation I also very high standards meaning I we very limited time and I wanted to do the research about another word there I'm like where

is the beach how do we get around like I want to do the research about, say, now that we're there, I'm like, where's the beach? How do we get around? Like, I want to know the restaurants, the best restaurants, the best beaches. Yeah, Emily, I was like, I refuse to stay in anything but the best. You're like, okay, where? I can't deal with this right now. Our hotel was beautiful. So we had a little bit of struggle and a lot of it, I remember, like, it was, it's jet lag, it's struggling, it's, but we kind of settled into it. And then we ended up, it was beautiful. We ended up running a car and going to like, see a little piano.

A little fiat panda, little beach. I had, it's a manual as basically all color and cars are here. And Sifnos is just like straight hairpin, like, ancient city, like, winding roads. And I hadn't driven a manual in, I don't know, eight years. Like I moved out to LA from New York, I drove out in a manual., I don't know, eight years. Like I moved out to LA from New York, I drove out in a manual, but I haven't really touched one since. And then you get in the car,

and it's like, you kind of have to learn by doing. And in Greece, like the streets are thin, there are no, there are no stoplights. I've not seen a single stoplight, this entire trip. And in Sipnas, there's no, there's no fucking addresses. Like there's just, they don't have street, they don't have street numbers or heads.

But that is how tiny and remote and greation, it's absolutely beautiful. And they're about eight small to medium beaches peppered all over the island, and literally, from the top of the island to the bottom of the island is maybe a half an hour drive, just beautiful, small winding roads. So we got a car, and we're just like,

let's see this whole fucking island. And I feel like we needed the jury in our heads that here we were in this beautiful place and the things we realized that we both, and I think a lot of us do this, but I would get in my head about things. It's like stupid, like I'm literally the most one of those beautiful places we're driving around.

I'm not working, people aren't calling me, things aren't happening, and I'm like, worried, and I'm very much like, I like to be comfortable, and I was like, in my head going, that's why do you do this? You've done this before, and I kept getting pulled off about what I don't have, and worried about doing things wrong, and did I mess up the trip, and do I even like this guy? And so, I'm kidding, I know I like to.

Back up one. But you, but then I'd look at Ben, and he's worried about stuff too. To think about Emily, and I were born on the same fucking day. Like we're June 2nd Gemini's man and she, it's a blessing and a curse in the sense that if I see her detach, it's like that. I can see her. She's present and then she's not. But I can help her out of that because I'm the exact same way and kind of need similar coddling when I go from present to internal, which

is literally just, it's like black and white. And I was the same way too, you know, like I think when you're, you're just in so, you're so far away from home. So tired jet lag. You don't really, you can't rely on the fact that you, you, you, you packed, you have everything you need necessarily like that like that brings you comfort in stressful situations is the stuff that you brought you plan for. And I think that was the security blanket you didn't have. I didn't have that security blanket. And then I also was like,

why do you plan like we're at this beach? Like the first day, we asked the guy at the rental agency where what beach you go to. And I didn't like that. I didn't like the beach. It was the remote beach, but it wasn't even, it looked like- Well, the first beach we're at, it's the port.

And it's where a lot of families go because the beach is really shallow for far out. So it's great for kids and Emily and it's, it's fucking beautiful. It's like it's a beach. Not that beach. I know that for the northern beach. Oh, the remote beach. Yeah. Yeah. It's beautiful. I'm like, this is not a very tip of the island. We took kids to end. I'm going, we're at the wrong beach. This is the beach. I just want to lay out like, I kept thinking like, I was this beautiful beach of the, this We took his to NJ, I'm going, we're at the wrong beach. This is the beach, I just want to lay out, like I kept thinking like, I was this beautiful beach of the, this is the wrong place to be, which is my, that's my conditioning,

like sometimes even at home, I'm like, I'm doing laundry, but I should be like working, I'm working, and I'm like, I really should leave now. And I have this thing in my head that's like this unsettled voice and these voices. And I realize that a lot of us have these struggles, and then I've done so much work around being present and I've done a lot of meditation I've done a lot of therapy and self-help work where you know if you take a look at those voices you realize

They're yours. You're programming it. You're programming that channel and we realize we actually had a name What's like that? It's the it's the the jurors in our head It's the bad news network. It's a bad news network. It's a bad news network It's just in everything's wrong. Exactly. Details to come. Keep pondering and you could keep creating a story like Why am I here? Why do I only have you know two weeks? I'm gonna get back on to be tired I'm gonna regret and like literally it doesn't stop and then I finally jumped Yeah, it's a bad it would like but you realize that that is being programmed by you So if your internal voices in your head or the message you tell yourself or the negative

thoughts is a station that you program, right? So it's called the bad news. And we're like, why can't be like the good news network? Like why can't I be like, just as beautiful. And then what I did you guys will appreciate this is that finally I jumped in the water. And I'm not at the remote beach because I still don't know that beach. But it was at the other, some other beach the next day. I was like, the voices were going in my head, they were so loud because you understand

you guys when you have these, it's, it's almost like a coping mechanism to take you out of the present moment. So I did want to tell you a lot of you guys do like during sex when you can't focus and you're like worried about your, you know, if you're going to, if you're going to ejaculate or if you're not going to have to orgasm or how you look naked, I thought, okay, you're in this most beautiful beach and you're thinking about, I don't remember what it was. It's, you know, it doesn't even matter you guys. I thought, okay, go into your senses and I looked at the sky and I was like, oh my god, this is the most

beautiful sky, the most beautiful water. What do I feel? I feel this warm, delicious, um, gree-shin beach water running over my body. I feel the sand underneath my feet. What do I hear? I hear the wind blowing. I hear the waves. I, I, I smelled like ocean, oh, sea, water. I smelled water. It didn't matter. But what I'm saying, it didn't matter what the details were, is it by tracing my senses, what I felt touched what I hear, what you taste. I immediately was like, and I was able to breathe.

I felt all this tension, because I think also the fact that I had this notion and this belief in my head that I should be on vacation and day one, I should just be relaxed and totally different than the Emily, sex with Emily who runs a business and has a cut in Sanford, in Sanford scale. I don't know, in Los Angeles, in Sanford, it's also not true. So believing in my head, this expectation. So I just let it go and I was like, ah, and I heard the birds chirping

and then I swam over to you and you picked me up and you put your arms around me and I was like, it all fell away. But that was like day four. Yeah, it took a little while to get. It took a while. I was dealing with my own stuff too. So what were you dealing with then?

Just how the hell we wound up here. And it's the fact that we hadn't done any planning. And I was worried that that would too negatively affect you. So I was worried on behalf of you for you. And just dealing with my own internal stuff. I think wherever you go, there you are, right? That's the phrase. So my life in Los Angeles, like it's still there, it doesn't, it doesn't end once you go away, and I

think you bring those things with you. And you know, I was dealing with coping with them in the ways that I do, you know. I always say that wherever you go there you are is one of my favorite phrases, it's true, because you bring it everywhere. And it's funny because the branding, if you will, for the island of Steve Noes is you are here. So we learned a lot. So I feel like we've kind of taken on different roles, too, in the sense of like, I booked the places. I make the plan for the day. Yeah. What we've essentially figured out is that Emily decides basically where we're going to stay and what we're're gonna do, right? And then I keep her from losing her shit while we rock out all of those things. And then what I've learned about you and I is that

we might put up a lot of a lot of BS on the way to an adventure and like try to convince us that we don't want to do it because of stupid reasons. But the second we get there, dude, it's like Robotron. We just nail it. So we've gotten the hike. I had my adventure pack and the old backpack I have that she thinks I need to get a newer version. Yeah. It's old. I've had adventures in the back back. It's my adventure pack. I got it. We've talked about a lot of your things and updating your plans. I'm curious. I'm into grown man and I love this about Ben. He really doesn't give a shit.

He has clothes and backpacks. You have high school. I give up. I give up. And you've got teachers. And I just have stuff that I sent to mental. It's very comfortable to me. As stains on it's ripped.

The stains have the stains or stories. I remember that stain. Yeah, but that doesn't the meaning of to wear them. You have to wear them out. So it's been interesting. Why, what if he, maybe just ask me about my stain? Like, hey, fella, that stain looks worldly. I'm like, well, as a matter of fact, I was an Amsterdam.

Like six are layered of stains on your things. Anyway, we've been subtly rolling newer centaurini-appro approved clothing into my wardrobe as the stuff that I brought gets. Well, it's great. Everything. So Ben doesn't separate laundry. He does the whites and the black.

I want to ask your listeners and just your male listeners here. Just comment, comment and let me know legit. Do you separate colors and whites? Because I will fully eat that maybe I'm the only one who just doesn't care and I'm just like, it's closed, let's wash them. And I just throw them in, you know, and if there's like a bright, red shirt, everything is gray that you own, that's not a problem. Everything's gray.

It's not gray. Okay, or just I thought everything was dirty, but now I've found out that everything's just gray because you wash them all together. I keep my clothes very clean. No, they're okay. They're gray though. So I'm like, why does everything have like a gray hue? It's like, like, like, like, a gray hue? It's like like layer.

So yeah. So yeah. Long story short, every single piece of clothing I am wearing right now is new. Because. Looks great on you. That because of me. Okay. And you said to me and you loved it.

And you've been wearing it all the time. I'm good. She's helping me take it up a notch in the man department. She's coming in man. And thinking about, like thinking about, because I think you like the things too, but you don't think about it. So it's interesting also giving feedback or criticism, if you will, when you're dating someone,

and I've never really been this person not in years, where it's like, oh, I could see it ways, I could help Ben. Like you would like to have a new backpack, I think, that isn't like falling apart. I think there's more like that. Okay, fine, there's tears in it. There's a little rip in one of the side pockets. There's more like that.

Or like you love your new point is, Sif knows his beautiful, Sansa Rees beautiful. Also, there've been wonderful things about a relationship. And I think we've this vacation sex thing you guys, I know I'm always preaching to you guys that you need to get away, whether it's for a night or a week,

with your partner, just the two of you, without the kids, because you get, you change up your environment, you're not sitting at the same ceiling, you're bedroom with the laundry, and the to-do environment, you're not sitting at the same ceiling in your bedroom with the laundry and the to-do list. And it's just not the same, right? And so leaving, being on notification and them for say that I, I did pack a lot of sex toys.

I didn't forget any toys. She packed two cockroaches. I was like, were you expecting a night to get real crazy? Is that what I'm going to plan? Three. Three. Three. By pack two pivots by mistake, two wee-wipe pivots, like, just in case.

I don't know how I did that. So my packing kit was two pivots, the crave. What's that little tooth one you love? Oh, the Jimmy Jane form too. You love that one. I love that one. It's like a molar for your clip. I love the wee-wipe touch touch to but I didn't bring the touch

because I couldn't find it in my freaking house. I brought the tango. I brought two pivots. I brought the one that goes around your balls. Jesus. Keep mine. Keep mine. She brought two cock rings. A tango or pivot, a slim flame and a wing wing and forgot all of her sunglasses. If I just want your listeners to understand, that's where Emily's mind is at. The most extensive thing she packed were sex toys, Volvo pads.

I got two vibits. I bought the verge, which is also a vibrating ring that you can wear around your balls. God dammit, I bought two pivots. I could have bought another toy. But and I bought this, there's a great one. The one you're wearing your balls, by the way. It is not a big opening for your balls. God damn it. I brought two pivots. I could have brought another toy. But and I bought this. There's a way. When you're wearing your balls, by the way, it is not a big opening for your balls. I don't know how you're supposed to get balls in your head.

No, because you have to be. You probably got to put it put in one ball at a time. You do flaccid, which is hard to find you flaccid when I'm around, which is sweet. Especially Centaurini. We've also had a lot of, we've had sex a lot, two day, two times day, a couple times a day. Yeah. We've great beautiful tower rooms of, we've had sex a lot, two days, two times a day. A couple of times a day. Yeah, we've great, beautiful hotel rooms. Beautiful. And we also invented a new sex position.

We're trying to think of a name for it. Yeah. So let's talk about the new position, which is like, I thought it was, it was for me, it was a really great new find, if you will. Yeah, I mean, I think it solves a lot of problems, right? In the sense that when I am performing the act of oral love making on a woman, you know, I take it very seriously. Like, do you want rose petals on your stomach? Or should I pour more milk over your chest?

Like, you know, are the candles good? You are. Strength neck. Strength neck, strength neck because. Strength neck is a problem. You have to give it time, right? Right. You can't expect results within 10 minutes. Yeah.

With a lady. Because, as I've said before on the show, the best actually I ever going to have is right after you bring your beloved to climax orally. Because what that is doing is it's like, it's getting all the internals red to go. Right. That's what's happening on the inside when you're doing your thing.

And the biggest problem always had is strained neck, really. I didn't even know that. Yeah. Well, I think most men kind of, I think most men, because they don't really talk about it. You're like, ah, my neck hurts. You know, and she's like, keep liking. And the thing about strained neck is that it kind of puts a damp on me wanting to do it. And also, it's 20 minutes of focusing on one person.

And I like a little stimulation during that process also. Right, which is why they meant it's 69, which I'm not a fan of. You're not a fan of 69. So 69, as you guys know, is when like, why don't you like 69? Is it your butts in the air? No, dude, I can't just find my butt. No, it's because I can't focus on two things at once.

Either I'm giving or receiving. Uh-huh. So like if you're, like, because if I'm giving you, if I'm the best, I love those all these tourists. I love making. If I'm sucking, if I'm giving you a blowjob, I don't want to be like, I will fucking give 100% percent.

I can't focus on the, and the receiving as much. I don't know about that., I will fucking give 100% I can't focus on the and the receiving as much. I don't know about that. Okay, but that's true. So he was like, we invented a new position for us and it was sort of solved. Got lays on bad head on pillow. He's has a pad. He's has a pad.

Strattles head with knees around his head. Around head. So the neck problem is just like, you got, you got, you's cozy on our on our I star hotel nice for the lady flower. Actually, the linens and good pillows. Good. So he's his head getting supported, which is good. And then I can't come. I don't know. I'm not a thousand thread count. You know, I feel. That was the other thing. So then I'm leaning. So what happened was I'm doing that. I'm perfect position. He's happy. His neck's happy, I'm so happy because then I can control how far down I'm going onto his mouth.

And then I lean back and I could still stroke you. I put a loob, I use some loob and then I could still lean back and I could give you a killer or a hand job, like leaning back with my hand. And that way because of the position, my tongue can focus on the happy button while my chin can actually do some work of it I thought you were using finger it was your chin. It was my chin. It was a whole nother range of motion It came on the hair of my chinny chin chin It was like perfect because I can easily give a hand I've where I give a blowjob during oral and it was great

So we're turning name it. Yeah, we couldn't say that. Does that make sense everyone do we explain a lot? The name I like, I'm sitting. I like calling it the handy dandy, but that's it doesn't. But it's too much about the handy. Right. The clitty witty. The clitty witty. The clitty.

Just you guys help us name it. Help us name this new position. So if you got it, I'm just leaning back with my hands. So I'm facing him and my hands going back and giving him a killer hand job. As I often do and you were happy. The lick and flick. The back and giving him a killer and job. Like as I often do and you were happy. The lick and flick. The lick and click.

The lick and click. Yeah, but I like the whole. The liquor flicker. The no. I still like handy dandy, but maybe we could just, I mean, we can do whatever we want. What do you mean? I mean, if we call it the handy dandy, it's called the handy dandy. Fine.

Are we doing this? I don't think we can commit to a name right now. We're not like gonna try to get. The handy dandy worked some ancient, powerful magic on you. Yeah, it's great. And the thing about the, we're staying in a cave, like the rooms in Ea,

like it's all built in the cliff side and the rooms. They go pretty far back and they're a cave. I mean, a very bougie cave, mind you. Like there's two bathrooms. It's fucking amazing. Two bathrooms, two showers, two stories. In the cave, I don't know, man, it just does something to like my primal and sensorial.

We were like living like cave people in the cave. And the echo in there too is like, Ha, ha, ha, and you, oh, man. Yeah. And the echo in there too is like, and you, oh, man. Yeah. What why are you waving? I go my orgasm. He's just.

We have an audience. Give him what I want. It's Santorini. Anyway, today's show, Poghaz, the cave echoed with the Howles of handy dandy. Give it a shot, guys. People. It's like a proverb, an ancient proverb. What? I don't know. He who kind of cave, Alinguas.

Cave, Alinguas cave. Something else we thought of cave wave. What did you say? The cave wave wave. Oh, we knew the wave. I don't know. So I actually finally feel relaxed every four days after I could need to want to stay longer. Do? We're going to, don't know, you can go. I know, okay, that's another thing I've ever learned. Is it, here's another lesson for me,

is that I know I've helped a lot of you with your relationships and your love lives, and dating, and sex. And I'm gonna admit to the new year that I have not prioritized my own relationships, meaning I haven't really been in a relationship in a while that I really, and with work being so busy all the time, I really, or that was my excuse, I guess, for the last 13 years.

I was like, if someone, I was dating somebody and they were like, you, you worked too much or giving more time, I was like, I can't give my all to this relationship because I have a business and I'm trying to make a living and I've just part myself, pay my rent. So if you got in my way of it, if one lover, I even though I knew all the right things to do, my heart wasn't in it, my head wasn't in it.

And so being with Ben, the last time he minds, I'm like, it's timing, it's who Ben is. I'm just like ready to kind of employ all the things and keep. So cute. She's having moments of discovery that everyone else who's had relationships had years ago. She's like, oh my god, this is so cool when you are a team. Well, if you're a team, it's so cool.

Because I feel like Ben, well, I'm going to go to the beach if you don't want to do it. I'm leaving or like I'm going to be, because I'm such an independent, like I need you. And not like in a mean way, just like, and also I to the beach if you don't want to or I'm gonna do it. I'm leaving or like I'm going to be, because I'm such an independent like, I need you and not like in a mean way. Just like, and also I don't, and you don't hold me back. So if you don't want to do what I want to do,

I'm gonna do it anyway. And that's not great. Yeah, but that's, but I'm, but you say that like expecting me to be like, no, we have to, I'm like, yeah dude, go, stroll. I'm gonna read my fantasy novel. And look at photos, get out of here. Yeah, he's been curating photos a lot.

Oh my God. So many photos. So yeah, I guess it's just been, um, it's been magical. Look at where we are. It's just romantic. I get it. Some person just proposed over there. It is really all couples. It's beautiful. So the first night we get to Santorini and I don't, I don't think either of us really quite understood what this place was. Sivnost is absolutely beautiful. And it's the smallest little island ever. But Sant'Sraney is, I mean, even geologically speaking, is only anything I've ever been,

I've ever seen before, ever, ever. And we are all tired, just not knowing what to expect. A robe? We arrived. Rove? That's a robe, right? It's a robe at work. And we get on to our balcony and the blood red eclipse

is lighting up the entire bay. I mean, you know, I don't think a lot of people in the states could see it, but in Europe, there was what do they say, the longest, like the actual longest eclipse in the century. That's a lot of eclipse exactly. And it was a blood moon. It was a blood moon. So it's red and it was a new, we were eating at night. And Mars is super close to the Earth right now.

So it was like this blood red moon, lighting up the whole bay. And then Mars, like shining so bright right next to us. And what you said kind of looks like, like it looks like a zit. It did, but I'll hop that. You're like, Doc, what is this? My son.

And you at a moment, I think your tears well, I picture view. Yeah, I've been going through my own rather deep emotional process. I mean, this trip has been, yeah, I've just, I've, I have been drinking too much and I use that to deal with anxiety, which I've had my entire life.

And it's time to end that whole process. And I had decided that that needed to happen a couple days before and was processing that. And then we get here in this blood red moon, like this once in a century, eclipse is happening over the bay. And then, you know, think about vacation is once you realize that you can go to the other side of the earth to the most beautiful place you've ever seen and your problems will be right there tucked inside the same

point. I know I packed a lot, but I do not pack my issues. I left my issues in California, but they showed up, right? You think that. Oh, I've been hearing like your packing issues. But honestly, in the first four days though, I mean, I think you really have to acquiesce to the fact that your demons come with you and you can either continue to allow them to feed on your gray matter, or you can figure out a process to negotiate with them to just

shut the fuck up and allow you to overlook this like volcanic crater, because you're never gonna be able to see the, you're never, you know, you're gonna be here. And I was telling you that my, that my acupuncturist. Your acupuncturist. Said to me, Christian, far left, you guys, oh my God, there's three clips that's coming up

like in the next week, you're gonna see it'll be amazing. So I was like, oh, there's the eclipse. They said it's a great time. It's a great time for shedding things for new beginnings because you're literally clipsing your old issues, you're bringing what you want next. And so I think that was a moment for you where you were like, I was like,

I said to you, I said, Ben, if the eclipse is a time for newness, like you can just eclipse all that, you don't have to carry all that with you, all that weight. And I think letting go of realizing that drinking doesn't serve you. It's not your friend. Never really has. Never has. And so I bring a go of realizing that drinking doesn't serve you. It's not your friend. Never really has. Never has.

And so I've got a lot of people around here. Just so people understand, like, I have like really crushing anxiety, but I'm really, I'm quiet. You know, I don't, I don't really talk much about what's going on inside me because I, I've always just, I've always been of the mindset that you can deal with your own internal problems, you know, if you're really burdened anyone else with it like why ruin their day, you know what I'm saying and That doesn't work after a while. I mean yourself with anything doesn't really work I mean, I think you know people picked their poison in many different arenas to how they shut that voice up in their head

And yeah, yeah, you're you're you're you're you're a little hummingbird like you never stop moving like ever even when you need to, you know, and then you'll go through periods of intense exhaustion related stress, but still refuse to change your patterns because you're just, you know, like you built this thing and you know, it's been you. I'm really proud of you. I support you I support you But we're really having fun It's been the gree shim trip through our very souls

Trills Hard to darkness and the most beautiful place on earth, but we came out of it man came out of it. Holy shit. Yeah, we did this. We got this Yeah We do got this And I do got to give a shout out to my boy Monos Monos at the dream If anyone is considering coming to Santorini you absolutely must stay in Ea and might we recommend the place we're staying there three little villas like cave villas Jacuzzi's outdoor private deck overlooking the bay and

They have a couple employees that are there's no real front desk, you know and We've had an amazing amount of help from our boy Monos who's arranged the Keter Mantoor. He's been awesome He's been very helpful. Then he watched my dirty laundry. He did watch your dirty laundry. Okay, so I think we could get into some emails if you'd like to help the people. I think it's time. Okay, we're going to take a quick break.

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It's why I exist on the planet. If you want to have a question answered on the show, you can text Ask Emily all one word to 7979.7979. You fill out the short form that pops up or you can go to my website, sexfamily.com, click the Ask Emily tab and please include your name, your age, where you live and how you listen to the show. This is from Ali 32 in Sacramento. I must have my ride rate during sex, so I packed a few options for my honeymoon, layover

in China. They took my rechargeable from my checked luggage, Singapore. They took my rechargeable for my checked luggage, Singapore, they took my rechargeable for my carry on. The only one that survived was a super underpowered, mini battery powered bullet. My worst nightmare, I was orgasmless on my honeymoon. Can you recommend sex toys that are good for travel, no lithium batteries, but are also super powerful?

Where have you traveled with your toys? And what have you experienced? What have you been your experience been with international regulations? Thanks. Wow. They I packed all my stuff in the well, but I didn't have lithium batteries, but we is that we have in the return and the return ones, they're right. Okay, so I didn't have that experience. I can't believe but Singapore they don't allow you to gum. I can imagine they don't allow you to bring toys in or in China. I'm in like Greece, which is like the

Earth place of love. My advice is if you just get your toys snatched, just go to the large, local pharmacy and get yourself one of those vibrating toothbrushes. No, I mean, you could do that. That's true since the beginning of time, people just rushes. It's a toss. that. That's true since the beginning of time. People use toothbrushes. That's awesome.

Go to good vibes. Since the beginning of time. I would say, yeah, women, no. A lot of them not. We did actually see some cave drawings in the cliff of ancient centrenions using toothbrushes for the population. For the population. But it is true that a lot of people have the first orgasms through, well, through the

water, through the jets, and either in a hot tub, let's get an amazing jets here. Or the shower, or riding a bike, or something, or a horse, or something like that. They're like, oh my God. My first orgasm was, it was with a penis, but I wasn't until I was like 23.

Oh no, okay. My first one was through masturbation, but that wasn't until I was 20. But my first one was a lover. I was like 23, 24. You use the old vibrating toothbrush, huh? No, I never use the toothbrush because I've always had vibrators. You don't actually, don't use the bristles by the way, just the base. First of all, go to goodfives.com and they have a bunch of vibrators.

And I believe they have a section on there for travel, vibes that are good that you can take when you travel. I love the ViperTechs Packer Rocket. The ViperTechs Packer Rocket was my very first Viperader I ever had. It is really, really, really, it's like $15, $20 and you use batteries with it. And I know you're like battery vibes because they don't have many of those. But I would say you use two, it uses like one or two AA's. As far as I get, you're saying with the lithium battery, so that means a lot of these retardables won't work.

I'm wondering how carefully you had it packed. So I think if it was like on the top of your suitcase, they might take it out, but maybe if you wrapped it in something. So I used to wrap things in presents, like as a present or at a box, the ribbon around it, and people can't tell what it is.

If you're going to like China China because it actually says in Singapore, the law states that sex toys aren't legal in Singapore because the law states anything obscene, you can't, oh, you can't take through travel or customs. So I would say that you might have to, if you are traveling to China, you're just Singapore, Southeast Asia, that maybe just bring some of these battery-operated strong ones. Or I'm not sure which toys you brought with you, but all I know is that so many of my toys do not look like sex toys.

And what I do is I put them in my toilet trick kit. Like I've got my vibrating, to actually have my vibrating toothbrush with me, I have my lactobet toothbrush, and I have my makeup jars. And literally, if you look at the We vibe like the tango. Okay you guys it is the most powerful little bullet and it looks like it's pink and it looks like it could be holding it looks like it's a lipstick or what I would tell you

actually speaking of lipsticks I would bring the womanizer which looks like lipstick. I mean there's so many different ones out the crave one that I brought. What's the name of the crave one I brought? It's not the vestber. It's just this really cool, oh, it's the Cray bullet. Or you could bring an actual lipstick and paint a target right on your clip so your man knows where he needs to go. I don't get it. Oh, with the lipstick. I hope you already know, it's about time traveling.

So that's my answer for what to bring. I actually should do a little short video of what I have in my travel toy kit, even like a six-way. I don't know why not. You got your camera. So anyway, just check it out, and I'm sorry, I'm really sorry that happened to you, Ali, and again, you guys, I would just get more creative about it and try to get the little vibrators that don't actually look like vibrators, because, and most of these days, really don't, unless you get like the big insertion ones that look like a penis. because and most of these days really don't unless you get like the big insertion ones that look like a penis. Okay. Here we go. This is from Erica 29 Alabama.

Dear Emily, my husband, I've been married for seven years and I have a good sex life, but he wants to try anal again. We have done this before and I actually had an orgasm from it. We haven't done this in years, but he does play around my butt sometimes during four play. I'm just scared. It will hurt. I want him to be pleased. What's the difference for men between vaginal sex and anal? Great question. Okay.

So first, let me say this about anal sex. Is that I'm glad you're asking this question because I think that a lot of people, a lot of women I know have reported that the first time they have anal sex, it's just painful. Something happens to your partner. Does it? you rush into it, you don't use glue, you don't warm up, and that's why anal sex can be really, really painful. But the truth is there's just a few things you need to do to make sure that actually is pleasurable, and people don't tie this. So what I would say is to try it again, well first of all, I asked you one question, is that there is a

difference for men, the difference with anal sex, I would say is the tightness, it's a little more tighter to go into the nose and it's taboo. So I think it feels different. And we all want variety, right? Variety is a spice of your sex life. So if you want to spice things up, I think it's just taboo. It's something different. It's not going into your vagina. It's going to your ass and it also feels different. What do you think Ben? About anal sex the difference. I haven't had a lot of anal experience. Yeah, they always have other things Not a lot of luck getting it in

No, Sam. Yeah, I hear you Okay, so I would in the other my main tip is for you know That's how I'm gonna say about anal is you have to go slow and you have to breathe. Because since we're nervous and we're tense around anal sex, we tend to hold our breath whenever we get nervous. You know, you got to breathe into it. It helps to have a literal orgasm first because I love that you had an orgasm the first time because you know, the walls are very thin.

So like the wall between your, your anus and your, your internal, like your G spot and all that. You can actually a lot of women do have orgasms. So, but you got to, it helps to have an orgasm first. So, to have a clitoral orgasm to be turned on, you know, already have sex or perform perform. Well, you got to prep the area too, you know, you can't, you got to, you got to stretch it out.

You can't just buy a baseball glove and go play in the majors. I'd say just get, just get a little butt plug and use that during foreplay and that will physically prepare the area. Exactly. Start to use a butt plug. That's great. Use a butt plug. You can also use fingers.

You can just use lots of loob. Go slow and start teasing. You said during foreplay, he's already doing that. So I would say make sure that he uses a lot of a loop warms you up, sticks a finger inside or use a great little butt plug that's really fun too. Pro tip for the fellows, if you're gonna give the little starfish a smooch, then you are cut off from smooching the vagina.

Right, don't go from anal to vaginal. Vaginal, don't go back. That's like, that's like, change horses in the nose. The UTI, UTI city. Yeah, good, Ben. the middle. That's like, you T.I. City. Yeah, good, Ben. Thank you. Okay, so there you go. And I say, definitely try it again.

And just remember, lots of love, go slow, breathe, warm it up. Okay. Justin, 20, New Jersey. Hey, Emily, I've been in a relationship for over a year now. And I've really gotten to know my partner and all the things she likes and bad. I was a guy that showed her she is capable of squirting and when she does it makes me feel like my expectation slash goal is made. Now for some reason she doesn't like getting to that point and it confused me because I

would have thought that's what other girls, what some girls may want to be able to go above their limits and to be satisfied. I'm just confused as to why she no longer wants to reach that limit. I mean, I can probably answer that. She's probably just in her head about the cleanup, honestly. Or she might not really think that he likes it, that he's into it. I'm wondering if... I bottle it and sell it as a fine wine.

Is that what this wine is? So he switched your knowledge. Is that what this one is? Um, so here's a thing. All I would say is that Justin, I would say to you is that, um, I think a lot of times what we don't want things like vehemently opposed to things when they happen is there might be something about that experience that she was embarrassed by. It wasn't as comfortable. Maybe she's afraid it's not going to happen again. And maybe there's a lot of pressure. You might not even be realizing that you're doing it, but there could be pressure on her to perform.

And I think that when we get into our heads and she's worried that either you don't like it or it's not going to happen, that you know, she's just like, I want to take it off the table. No, that's a no. Because if now I want to ask you this too, did she enjoy it when it happened? Also, they did she really enjoyed it or was she doing it for you? I think that's the thing with sex and times, you think, well, I'm doing it for his pleasure, her pleasure, or partner's pleasure, and not for our own.

The other thing is, I want people to understand the distinction between squirting and orgasm. Some women can squirt, and they don't orgasm. Some women obviously orgasm and squirt, and some of these women do both. So it might not, it has been as pleasurable for her. So she might be like, you know, it's true that it's, it takes a lot of G spot penetration,

it takes a lot of G stop probing, either using your tongue or your finger or toy. And I'm just wondering if she's already warmed up, has her orgasms, has her pleasure. That's all I can think of is why she doesn't want to do it. Yeah. Do it in the shower. I'm telling you, I think it's probably she's just nervous

about the fact that it can be quite explosive. You can't even see, that's true. You got to wash the sheets and she's like, like it happened the first time, but then she was able to actually see that if you're getting in discording, there's a good deal of cleanup. There is.

And because of that, I think she might be cutting herself off to the experience. So my advice would be take a shower with your lady, hold her by the butt, because her advice would be take a shower with your lady, hold her by the butt, because her knees are gonna get a little weak. Crook the old middle finger, put it inside, make sure she knows her weight is supported,

because if it's gonna work right, she's gonna, her knees are gonna get weak, and then slowly go to town. And I think all the water coming off of her from the shower is gonna get her in the mood. And I think you will be having your squirt fantasies lived out in no time. So good. This is fun. The other thing I want to say about the cleanup is that I'm sort of obsessed with the new, um, it's not new, but liberator makes all the sex

furniture. Like the wedge and different things like that. Like they make different, you know, because I think one of the big things during sex that we don't realize is that using pillows or a wedge, something to prop yourself up in different positions can really, really change up the whole game. So for women, putting a neck, putting a pillow on your butt. Yeah, the neck, putting a pillow on your butt. Right. Wedge, but they have this blanket.

It's a throw. It's a throw that's for, it's for, it's got king size or queen size throw that you put in your bed that is for sex. And it's really comfortable. It's for, it's got king size or queen size throw that you put in your bed that is for Sucks and it's really comfortable. It's really cozy, but there's no cleanup because you just throw it in the wash right after I think just have that other pretty bad doesn't look like anything it looks like a regular because she amazing soft blanket But it happened to be for sex. It's waterproof and it's amazing. So I What do you do with the actual, I mean, you know, you ever seen like a baseball team, like pull the tarp off of a wet baseball field,

like all the fluid kind of pools. But this one doesn't seep through. Is it like a smudgy? No, no, it looks like one of those super cushy, fleecy kind of blankets. Feels amazing, looks amazing. It doesn't, it's not cotton, it's not weird, like tarp, it's not tarp, it's comfortable. You could literally sleep on it every night and you could always leave it on your bed. And then when you want to have some crazy

sex, you can top it. It's great for anal, it's great for sporting, it's great for lube. I really want like 10 of them. And so that's how I feel about that. This is from Laura, 27 London. Hey Emily, my boyfriend and I've been together for about 10 years now, and we have sex generally twice a week. My issue is how to make involving sex toys feel more natural. I feel that during sex, it interrupts the flow of things to stop and get a toy and then start again.

I'd really love to use my toys more, but I never seem to get the flow of things right. How would you resolve this? Thanks for your help, love the show. Okay Laura, you know I love anything about sex toys. So the first thing is you've been together for 10 years, and the thing about sex toys is once you start involving them, I think that again, this is another thing that you're probably in your head about because I'm sure he's supportive of it. And the easiest way to do it is to leave them charged up and ready to go right next to your bed. The last thing you want to do

is be like, oh, I want a toy. Let me get up, walk across the room, get it, is it charged? So there's certain prep that comes with using toys. And I think the other thing is just to have them when you go in the room and you start having sex or you're getting back at night, pull it out. Have it in the night sense, you can just grab it. There's no opening drawers, there's no opening boxes.

And you just start to like turn on the toy, you can grab it, you can grab it, he can grab it, because I'm sure he wants you to have pleasure. The other thing is, it doesn't have to just be for you. So soon as I'll use my toy, and you can talk about this, because I don't remember how we started with toys. I just know I always use them, but I feel like you could grab it. And just I like to use it on him too.

Like I like Dragon on, long as Chast, long as Penis, like vibrations can feel great on men. But really, I think that once he sees how you use it on yourself, that he's going to be down and just it just becomes kind of part of sex, like everything else that you do. So I'm not sure what part of it is awkward or not natural to you, but I think when it's just matter of fact, you don't overthink it, it kind of becomes like so not like brushing teeth. You're like roll it into your pre-sex, you know, you have to for play, roll into it. Put on put on Apple music playlist, wash your hands, powder your junk, put the toys next

to the bed and go for it. Right. I think that's true. I don't remember how we first started using it, but now you'll be like, get your toy or like whatever, whenever we use them or they're're just there, or I grab it with confidence. I'm telling you, he's been with you, he loves you 10 years, he wants you to have pleasure, he wants you to feel good, and you're probably the one who's making it awkward, and you feel like there has to be this like seamless transition.

And when it's just there, like everything else, like at the same way I feel about Lou, my dream is a Lou, but on every nightstand, like when I die, if there's a Lou by every nightstand, I will be happy. So I feel like toys are the same thing. There should be no shame, there should be no embarrassing. I know that there is. Put the more you're comfortable with it, the more you're like, yep, here's my toy.

We're using this and you start using it on yourself. He's gonna be cool with it. He's your lover. When you say you never seem to get the flow of things right, I don't know how it could be wrong. Like there's no way to do it wrong. You just take what you want, use what you need, and he's gonna love it. I love the pivot. Obviously, I brought two of them, the cock rings. That's a really fun couple story. The reason I brought it, I didn't bring two,

is because it's great, literal toy. Like, so I use it as a glitter vibe, but you could also use it during sex. He wears it around his penis and go to town. It feels great. it as a clutter vibe, but you could also use it during sex. He wears it around his penis and go to town. It feels great. But toys are, you were so cool toys, right Ben? Was there ever any point in your life where it seemed awkward? No. I think toys are getting a lot easier to because they're getting smaller. Like my idea of toys 5, 10 years ago was just a deal, though. Right. A big deal. And now I see your like your space age bag of like NASA technology. And they're just, you know, quite small, little, little vibrators.

And they feel great too, right? You like top feels. I'm like, right? Yes, baby. I like how it makes you feel. Right. For sure. So Laura, that's what you got to do.

And I think I'm telling you this, sweetie, once you start doing it. And like the next few times you're like, I'm doing it. Just get my voice in your head. Like, how many just grab it? You're going to realize that it's just a natural part of your flow. And it won't be as awkward as you think. I'm sure he just wants you to have pleasure.

OK, we're going to go get some dinner, some lamb. I'm going to go lamb. Is this it for lick my weenie and center? God that. But we would love your title ideas for the sex division. We might have just sketch it out. I hope it made sense to people. Very literal. I love you all.

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Ben the Morrison. Can I give a shout out to the left-backery show? Oh my god, please. Yes. Anyone who lives in Los Angeles, and begins the LA area, beginning my own monthly show at the left factory, want to make the hot destination.

Emily will be there. I will be there. And the first show is August 14th, 730 Tuesday. It's called Super Funny. Super Funny at the leftugh Factory. Truth, justice in the American way of Laugh. And I'll be putting up a bunch of my friends who I think are the best young voices, some are old in comedy and kind of showcasing the people I think make me laugh harder than anyone. And it's at the world famous Hollywood Laugh

Factory. You can get info and join the comp guest list at superfoney.show Which will have all the info you need and you can get free tickets August 14th Tuesday 7 30 come on out to the Lafak Great it's gonna be a great early evening of comedy. Yeah, I can't wait. I love you Here's the thing I love about dating Ben. What's been amazing is that I always yeah I love comedy the comedy shows are fun But I never thought to get tickets or go to improv show. And when they say that laughter is the best medicine, being with Ben and going to these shows and sitting through your stand-up routines and seeing other comedies and laughing so hard

my stomach hurts really is. Just the serotonin kicks in the dopamine, you just feel better and you laugh a lot. And I always say that laughter is the socially acceptable form of the orgasm and much like an orgasm. When you make yourself laugh, it feels good, but when someone else makes your laugh, it feels really good. It's so true.

That's a good point. Anyway, I think I'll closely related the laughing and- I thought about that. It's very true. You see exact same muscles in your core, you're kind of making the same noises. I laugh so hard like- Come on out and let me tickle your laughter clip with my joke finger.

I hope to see you all there. It's going to be really fun, shall we? Super funny. Super funny. Super funny. Just like you, Ben. All right, everyone. Thanks for listening.

I love you all. Thanks to Ken, Sarah, producer Jamie, and Michael. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. email me feedback at sexwithemily.com.