Sex With Emily - Sexy Gifts & Pleasure Tips for Valentine’s Day

Episode Date: January 31, 2025

Valentine’s Day is here, and we’re making it hot. Whether you’re single, partnered, or just here for the pleasure tips, I’m joined by Dr. Scott Lyons to talk all things intimacy, gift ideas that actually turn up the heat, and how to keep things exciting beyond February 14th. We’re covering the best sexy gifts (hello, remote-control vibes), why curiosity is the key to lasting passion, and how to avoid becoming that couple scrolling at dinner. Plus, our wildest V-Day stories—think surprise proposals, foursomes, and one very awkward TSA moment. Let’s make this Valentine’s Day one to remember. 💋 In this episode, you’ll learn: How to make Valentine’s Day sexy—whether you’re single or partnered. Why curiosity keeps intimacy alive (and how to avoid stale relationships). The hottest pleasure products to upgrade your solo or partnered play. Valentines Day Gift Guide Products: LELO Couple Play Bundle (Use code EMILY20 at LELO.com for an extra 20% off!)  Magic Wand Mini (*Visit Shop With Emily for 20% to 30% off select products.)  Morgasm CBD-Infused Arousal Gel (Visit morgasm.com/sexwithemily.)  V-Health Serum (For Her) (Use code EMILY25 for 25% off sitewide on https://getvhealth.com/.) Common Confidential Intimate Blanket (*Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your first Common Confidential purchase. ) Common Confidential Massage Butter (*Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your first Common Confidential purchase.)  Je Joue Massage Candle ( Buy now with 30% off using code EMILY30 at sexwithemily.com/hera ) Hera Flex Rabbit ( Buy now with 30% off using code EMILY30 at sexwithemily.com/hera ) Find more at sexwithemily.com  Show Notes: More Dr. Scott Lyons: Instagram | Website | Podcast Buy Smart Sex New Hard Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

I feel like Valentine's is definitely one of the holidays where you make sure you give oral sex. What do you think? At least I do. Yeah. If you haven't been giving it a lot till then and you're like, it's now or never. Yeah. But I think it's good to do it when you want it. I don't, well, here's what that reminds me of. I actually appreciate that. I think you're also right that, yeah, if you never do it and you know your partner is a huge fan of receiving it, why not? Or, cause you always hear like, oh, they only give blow jobs on birthdays.

So I think it's that. But yeah, why not throw another one in for the old February 14th? You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Today is my Valentine's Day episode 2025. And really though, I gotta be honest,

it is giving you tips for all year round. And one of my favorites, Dr. Scott Lyons is my co-host on the pod today. You can check him out at Dr. Scott Lyons. And we got into a lot in this episode. We answered your Valentine's Day questions. We talked about the best gifts for whatever you're looking for, some sexy ones for sure.

And just some really cozy, playful ones, things to enhance intimate conversations. We talked about people's most inspiring dates they've had for Valentine's Day, memorable moments. So you, everyone enjoy this episode today. Can't wait to hear what you think. Happy Valentine's Day. We love you. Please rate and review Sex with Emily

wherever you listen to the podcast. It just helps get the podcast out to more people like you. You can find us on all social media. It is at Sex with Emily. My new articles, How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Sex Life, and Valentine's Day Gift Guide, The Ultimate Pleasure Journey,

all up on SexWithEmily.com. Before we get into my amazing Valentine's Day gift guide, the ultimate pleasure journey. All up on sexwithemily.com. Before we get into my amazing Valentine's Day picks, I wanna let you know that the paperback of my book, Smart Sex, is now out in bookstores in the US. And if you live in the UK, my book was just released yesterday, January 30th. More places coming soon, but check out Smart Sex. If you're a paperback person, check out the paperback.

You're gonna love it. It's been an incredible journeyback person, check out the paperback. You're gonna love it. It's been an incredible journey with book and now the paperback is so exciting. Also wanted to mention my membership community, SmartSX, that we launched in September and it's just been an incredible community of people coming together to share, to grow, to support each other, to have accountability

in our desires to have better sex. I bring in some of the leading experts in the world to teach you know a few times a month. It's just a wonderful community. We're exploring and learning so much about ourselves and you can learn about your sexual health and just join us there. Alright everyone enjoy this episode. Enjoy this episode. You all know I'm always looking for ways to enhance pleasure, relaxation, get yourself in the mood, get myself in the mood, and honestly, just make life feel good. And if you're like me, you want something that fits into your lifestyle without feeling

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Let's talk skincare because honestly, living in LA does a number on my skin. We've got the fires, the dry air, and just, you know, life. And my skin was feeling so dull and dehydrated, and that's when I came across One Skin. And let me tell you, it is a game changer. See, One Skin is not just a moisturizer. Their products are scientifically designed to work at the cellular level. Their secret is OS01, a peptide that fights aging cells causing wrinkles and thinning skin.

After testing over 900, yes 900, their team of brilliant badass female scientists discovered the one that actually helps turn off those aging cells that causes the fine lines and wrinkles and thinning skin and it's packed with nourishing ingredients to boost collagen, reduce inflammation and protect your skin. And don't worry, there are no sulfates or fragrances. So I started using their two products, the face moisturizer and eye cream, and my skin is so hydrated and feels firmer and smoother and the eye cream, it's like it's actually working. It goes on so smooth and you feel it actually absorbing into the skin and then your skin still feels really moisturized and it's so easy to use. You just

pump it and you go. I love the code EMILY for 15% off. That's O-N-E-S-K-I-N.co and use code EMILY. And when they ask where you heard it, tell them sex with Emily sent you. So my team puts together this gift guide every year. We spend a lot of time on it. I'm not a control freak, if you will. I I love to know is this really useful for people? Is it something new? Can you afford it? Something for everybody. If you're in a

relationship or if you're single you want to buy something for yourself. Obviously there are some toys. Okay here's something. We have a lovers journal. Okay so this is what I love. I love a journal that has like prompts and challenges and helps you like pause, reflect, and connect on a deeper level. It helps to spark conversations. So I just love the card games, the journal, something that couples can do together.

Right? Like it helps elicit fun conversation. That's date night. That's just- I mean, intimacy, like the depth of intimacy really comes from being curious and getting to know each other more and more and more and more even after All these years like if you feel like you know your partner

It's stale like you should know everything you don't you don't they're keeping secrets from you No, we don't like we don't want to hear about your day at work again struggles with your Whoever your your neighbor or your kids or your work We just like this is like we go to dinner and say, so tell me about if you could have dinner next to someone that are alive, who would it be? This is why I like adventures too,

is because shared experiences give you something to talk about. Shared movies, shared TV shows, shared laser tag. It gives you something to really like, we shared it and we can unpack. Yeah, you're creating memories. Oh my God, and couples, they say too, when your couples are sharing an experience,

you get that release of dopamine, and that also helps bond you. Because you know what I don't want to be, that couple who's sitting at dinner, we've all seen that meme, where they're both on their phones and they're not talking to each other. But if you bring something like the Lover's Journal,

or Esther Prowl's Card Game. Okay, so that's a good one. We have a love struck couples magic candle. This is like set the mood stuff. It's a house of tuition, love struck candle weight. So we just have stuff like that on here. We have an intimate blanket. Okay, so this, do you know about a sex blanket?

Do you know about a waterproof blanket for your bed? You will be obsessed with this, Scott. So do you, cause you're, you like things neat. I do like things. So what happens when sex gets on the sheets? Ejaculate, sweat, crackers. Crackers. I don't know.

Whipped cream. Look at this sex blanket. It's from Common Confidential. It's a waterproof, intimate blanket. And it's, you put it on your bed, so you just, we're having sex. I use this. I throw it down for the sex, for anything.

Because then it's pretty. It's soft. Like how waterproof? Are we talking about like golden shower waterproof? Yes. Oh. That's the point. Yeah, you don't want to put down like a, you know,

hefty garbage bag or something. No, and my Gucci blanket, I don't want stuff on it. This is one of my favorite things on the gift guide. This is the Common Confidential Waterproof Blanket. Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your first common confidential purchase. That's actually really helpful. Wait, this is so cool, look at this.

A levitating moon lamp. Yeah. Look. Oh. Doesn't that look like a moon lamp? Yeah. Isn't that cool? That's really cool. Okay, so that's one of them.

Then I know you're dying to know about this, the Magic Wand Mini. I think we use a Magic Wand for different purposes. It is a great actual massager. Scott just used it 10 minutes before the broadcast, just so you know. I was rubbing my IT bands. He used it for his IT bands, the Magic Wand Mini.

The Mini is travel size and it's the same, again, sensations. I literally gift it to everybody that I asked them to send me like a, I just, you come to my house, you leave with a Magic Wand. Get the Magic Wand Mini, visit Shop With Emily for 20% off to 30% off select products. Have you ever traveled with a mini magic wand

and as it's going through like TSA, it accidentally turns on? Yes. Yes. Oh, that's totally happened to me. One time I was traveling home from, I think it was Germany. I was there for a sex conference. This one does. This one does.

And I came home and I had so many sex toys, but not only that I had all this like, speaking of lingerie, but it was like very like BDSME, sexy. I should wear that. It's got all these like bondage, like I still have it, leather strap and all the sex toys. I probably had like 14 wee vibes.

It's another kind of toy and a magic wand anyway. So they stopped me and I was like, I thought these were, these are legal. Are they not legal? I had to go to talk to the guy. And then it did turn on as they were going through it. But I've had him turn on in the plane

because I put him in my carry-on. And then you hear it above. And then, er, er, er. Have you ever seen the ones where it has a remote? Yeah. I had a lover who wore, I don't remember if it was a vibrant cock ring or a butt plug or something.

And I had full access to whenever and they had to wear, they wore it all day. They did. Just one day. Because I overextended my welcome with it. And just like randomly through the day consistently. There's this whole thing in psychology, intermittent stimulus, right?

Makes you the most like hypervigilant. If you don't know it's coming, but it's consistent enough, it will keep them like, it is edging. It is like nervous system edging because they're like constantly like, is it gonna happen now? Is it gonna happen now? And then they start to settle,

but is it gonna happen now? And then it happens. And then it happens. That's quite an explosion when you edge it and you edge it all day. I just want, that's what I wanna do for real. Did that just make your book read again? I just got so turned on by edging all day.

So yes, this is Oh My Bod. I love their company. And they make, check this out. Okay, this is for sure I'm wearing this. This is exactly what you're saying for date night. It is. So it comes with panties. One size fits all, like blue, I think comes to other colors. And then this is a remote control.

It's a little panty vibe. You can control it with an app. So now that remote control vibes are apps in your phone. And you can do it from anywhere. Like it could be at dinner, like during our Valentine's day date, or I could be in Florida and you could be in California if we were in a long distance relationship.

So that would go with my panties. Wow. Yeah, it could be, you could use any panties, but this has like a little thing that it slides in there. Do you think if I'm at the office typing that you, you as my like office neighbor, would hear the chair vibrating? It's pretty quiet.

I think it's quiet and it's between your legs. So it's like, put it on. I'm putting it in my panties. Okay. But I'm talking, I don't think you could hear it. It's imperceptible. Yeah, it's pretty soft. It is pretty soft. I can definitely, here, you try it now.

Okay. Just stick it in there. I mean, there's a slight hum, but I'm, oh, now that you've tucked it in now. No, it's tucked in now. Yeah, if it's tucked in, the hum goes away. Yeah, you can't really hear it. Can you hear that I'm wearing a panty vibe in during the show?

I don't know, I've never done that. You've never worn a panty vibe during the show? Oh my God, welcome to the new era of your show. I mean, what a good idea. It's the best idea. No, because now my nervous system is calm. I'm edging myself through the whole episode and then I just have to go to the bathroom after.

Is this how you regulate yourself? Yes. Oh my God. Do you know that orgasms are very regular? Of course. Yeah, I mean, yeah. Is your favorite nervous system regulation tool masturbation or sex?

No. Well, that's, I think, no. Okay. For me, that's more of like a stress relief. When I'm feeling really, really calm, this is like. It's still going y'all. It's good. This is powerful.

Okay, you guys get this handy vibe for your partner. Where exactly is it placed? I mean, I know the female anatomy. I didn't even place it. Do you though? I mean. Where's my vulva puff? I have done dissection labs.

There it is. This is where it is. Okay, so it's on the opposite end of the clitoris. Oh no, you're putting it near the clitoris. It's right now, it's there. Okay. Wait, wait, wait, nope. It's there.

Okay. It's there in my pants. Oh, it's under the hood of the clitoris. Yep, so that's the OMI bod. Just real quick, we also have an organic cotton teddy, because I'm gonna be honest with you. Let me just show you this. This cotton teddy is just-

What is a teddy? Oh, a teddy is what we prefer to wear as women, I think, all the time. It's just like a one piece, but it's cotton and this one's black. That's pretty. It's really pretty. So I could just wear that around the house, if you will. So then- Yes, please.

Yes, please. Oh, and then there's just massage butter. During office hours? Yes. Yeah. I got to just get out of the Uggs and wear my sexier stuff all day every day. Another thing, yeah go ahead. I think this is the new era.

It's already happening, you guys welcome to the new era. Welcome to the new era everyone where you're just wearing a teddy for office hours. That's it. That's it. Okay then we have massage butter also by the Common Confidential who make the blanket that you're gonna wear the sex blanket. They also have this massage butter that is just smooth and I have it right by my bed.

Oh, look at that very confidential box. It's a very sexy box. It already got some lube on it, I think. Okay. Oh, wow. Oh. Check this out. I love massage.

This is your Valentine's day right here. Feel this. Okay. What's in it? And it totally feels- Coconut oil. You know when you like put coconut oil on your good parts and it just feels really natural. Well you yeah this feels natural. That feels really

natural actually. You could use this as an all-over body massage oil. You could use it for massage. You could use it for a lubricant for a penis. Oh another part. Use code sexwithemily for 15% off your first common confidential purchase. Speaking of stuff that makes you feel good, we have a CBD infused arousal gel. Use code sexwithemily for 15% off your first common confidential purchase. Speaking of stuff that makes you feel good, we have a CBD infused arousal gel. This is by Morgasm. That's the name of their company.

Morgasm. Get it? Yeah. You have Morgasms. It's for play. It's just really fun because it's like a body safe. You put it on before any kind of sexy play on a penis or a vulva and it's CBD infused.

And I love CBD products that like help with, if you have any kind of pain or you want to wrap blood flow, it helps with blood flow. It helps you just. Does it make you last longer? It can make you last longer. Oh, interesting. Asking for a friend?

Asking for a couple of friends. Okay, you're gonna leave with a gift bag of that. You're going to leave with a gift bag. I've talked about CB. I love this as the infused arousal gel. I've been talking about it for years. Visit morgasm.com slash sex with Emily. People live for it. Doesn't everyone kind of want to last longer?

You mean all men? Yeah, men. Not all of them. Some men have something called delay. I need to rename everything in my new sex DSM, whatever manual I'm gonna do, because I don't love the name delayed ejaculation. No.

That's what it is. There's some men who can't ejaculate. Typically delayed ejaculation is if you can't have an orgasm up until like 45 minutes during any kind of penetration, and you just have a hard time orgasming. There's a lot of different reasons why that can happen for men.

But have you been with a guy who just can't ejaculate when he wants to? Yeah, for sure. But I don't think it's from that. I think it's, I mean, maybe it's that, but yeah. I've been with where, and sometimes you're just like, come on, get out there. Yeah, and you're like, we have dinner reservations.

We have dinner reservations. Yeah, exactly. We got stuff to do. Yeah. Or we've got to go to bed. Yeah, we've got to go to bed dinner reservations. We have dinner reservations. Yeah, exactly, we got stuff to do. Yeah. Or we've got to go to bed. Yeah, we've got to go to bed. So anyway, but yes, I think that some people would like to last longer.

Okay, the thing about lasting longer is I think that if a lot of in heterosexual relationships, I think there's this notion that men are like, it means something, the sex is better if I last longer, and for a lot of women, that's not, it's too long. It's going on too long. Oh, interesting. I feel like when I was was younger I saw these like maybe SNL skits or something in movies where it was all like women at a like gathering talking

about like oh it was like 30 seconds and done like complaining. That's premature. That's when someone comes in a minute yeah so that those people would like to last longer for sure and there's a lot you can do for that. I've done talked about that. I'm going to send it to those friends. Yeah. Those friends. You know what's good for that is promissive is delay spray that Oh yeah. Have I gave you one of those? No, no. We're going in the garage after. Okay. Here's another thing I want to talk about another remote control vibe that I'm super excited about. I actually love this. Ready? Ready. This is what we're doing on the next show. The Lalo Couple Play bundle. This is on the gift guide too.

It comes with a Tiani 3 remote control couples massager designed to be worn during sex or just when you're hanging out. And then there's also a couple's ring. So penis ring. So they both come together in this bundle. So you'll try the penis ring. The operative term is come together in this bundle. So you'll try the penis ring. I'll try the Tiana. The operative term is come together. Exactly. And it also comes with a personal moisturizer

and an oral sex balm to heighten the sensation. What do you mean balm? And a Helix, a Laylohex. The ALM balm. Yeah, and a Laylohex condom. So what I love, okay, here's what I love about bundle. This is a good Valentine's Day tip. If you're like, I just wanna get a toy or I just wanna get the massage candle,

like get this bundle, cause you get two toys, you get oral sex balm, personal moisturizer and a hex condom. That's fun. I feel like Valentine's is definitely one of the holidays where you make sure you give oral sex. What do you think? At least I do.

Yeah, I think that if you haven't been giving it a lot till then, and you're like, it's now or never, yeah. But I think it's good to do it when you want it. I don't, well, here's what that reminds me of. I actually appreciate that better. I think you're also right that, yeah, if you never do it and you know your partner's a huge fan of receiving it,

why not? Or, because you always hear like, oh, they only give blowjobs on birthdays, so I think it's that. But yeah, why not throw another one in for the old February 14th? Oh, and if people want to get that one, it's codeem But yeah, why not throw another one in for the old February 14th? Oh, and if you wanna get that one, it's code Emily20 at lalo.com.

You get an extra 20% off. I love Lalo toys. They're like, gorge. You've shown me them before I'm into it, yeah. All right, so that's a good one. Then, as when we get older or after childbirth, when our hormones change, what happens is we start to lose estrogen

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I mean, they didn't have a lot of support for a lot of things. But like, the fact that we're at a place where there's like this beautiful serum that like regenerates like your vagina, like fuck. I know, how amazing is that? I don't know why I got so excited by that. Because women just, we used to have to suffer

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We'll be right back with Dr. Scott Lyons and all our top products on our Valentine's Day gift guide. So stick around. Let's talk about sexy skin and not just how it looks, but how it feels. You know that moment when your partner runs their hands over you and you want your skin to feel like pure silk? Yeah, we're going there.

Well this year, I'm all about self care beyond just bubble baths. It's those daily rituals that make me feel amazing inside and out. And my secret is Osea's Andaria Algae Body Butter. Because my skin has never felt this good, and I've been using Osea products for several years now, but this stuff, the body butter, this stuff is pure luxury. It's thick, rich, creamy, but it melts right into your skin. It's not greasy or sticky. It's just smooth, touchable softness.

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So another final toy that I love, so you don't know this probably, but when I started the show a long time ago, I couldn't believe that this company sent me like vibrators and stuff, like I would get them and I wouldn't have to buy them and I got to try out all these ones. And this company called Je Jus, which is I play in French, I do not, no, they made one called the Mimi, but now they make this one called the Rabbit, hair of flax.

Do you know the Rabbit guys? Oh yes, all my friends have talked about the Rabbit. This one is, well, this is a kind of a rabbit-esque, but it's a hair of flax, meaning that it is dual stimulation. Wait, you have to feel this because- I love getting greedy with stimulation. Look how pretty, do you? Yeah, you dual stimulation or bust and then bust.

Dual stimulation is greedy. It's super greedy. I'm into greedy stimulation. It bends and it fits. Beautiful. So I love, because they're products, they're really, really soft. Is it behind you? Is that it? Yes, that's it.

It comes in that beautiful burgundy color. I love that burgundy color. I love that it bends and flexes with your body. It has a deep, rumbly sensation. And it's just like, all of their products are really beautiful and a great gift. And you see how it comes wrapped really pretty in the box. All you had to say was rumbly and I want to use it.

It's deep rumbly vibration. It's a different kind of vibration. I'm gonna have to say that one more time. Deep rumbly vibrations. Hot. I know. Because some vibrations are like, eh, and this is more like.

Yeah. Rr, rr, rr, rr. Yeah, you get it. That's how I want to have sex is like, rr, rr, rr, rr. And squishy tip hits your G-spot, flexible thumb to use your external clitoris. Yes please. By now with 30% off using code EMILY30 at sexwithemily.com slash Hera. When you talk about it, it makes me want to have a clitoris.

I know. I get that. I feel a little left out. Sometimes. I mean, we have a glanus too. And so like for those who maybe, I'm sure you've talked about it a million times, like the undifferentiated, your genitals,

as one does up until eight weeks in utero, that gets the same little thing. The glanus, the head of the penis is the same thing as the clitoris. Exactly, and you can like, Lots of variations. Yeah, you can jack off the clitoris too. Totally.

And you've seen, that's why you see different sizes of the clitoris. Exactly. Okay, so that's fun Valentine's day. So I'm inspired for it now, right too. I really am. And so we're gonna do a day of love. I think that everyone's just do something,

do something for yourself, hang out with your friends, go shopping, play some games. Plan a date night out, do an adventure with your partner. There's just so many other things you can do. We asked our Instagram audience this question. We said, what Valentine's Day gift are you giving slash hope to receive? Ready?

What is it? We got a lot of these. Okay. Dirty, nasty and passionate sex. Okay. Quiet night, sex in a hotel room. Okay. My time and their time.

Meaning you're gonna go down to me, you're gonna take care of me, you're gonna do whatever I want and then we're gonna give and their time. Meaning, you're gonna go down to me, you're gonna take care of me, you're gonna do whatever I want, and then we're gonna give them their time too. Oh, I heard that as like quality time, but yes. Okay, that too. I think that's what they mean in sex language. Yeah.

Oh, I love this. No Valentine, but yet I will be my Valentine. I will gift myself a sex toy. You better. I love that. You better get that rabbit. Okay, in light of listening to your podcast, I'll be giving the gift of pleasure this year. I love that. An better get that rabbit. Okay, in light of listening to your podcast, I'll be giving the gift of pleasure this year.

I love that. An orgasm. Oh God, well, this is depressing, but I hope my wife puts effort in for the first time ever. I begged for too long. You know what? You're on the next episode. I hope she did, I know.

Let's have a run. I want help. Yes. Yeah, okay. Okay, massages you're on the next episode. You're on the next episode. A promise ring, a trip to Italy, really helping my hubby cook for me this year, really makes me feel special.

Okay, so here's the thing. I would love if she would just let her husband know because now she's waiting and when he doesn't. Yeah, communication, here's the fucking thing y'all, is we all want someone to mind read and find that thing that we've been desiring and craving and to somehow manifest it into reality. And the truth is it may not feel as sexy or special,

but if we communicate it, if we say the give them at least some clear hints, it's so much more likely that it's gonna actualize in our life. Absolutely. So fucking communicate. They're not a mind reader. They're not a mind reader.

That is so true, but I communicate. And it's a way to say, say, babe, Valentine's Day is so, you know, I was thinking I had this fantasy, I had this image of you making me dinner this year. Yeah. Wouldn't that be like? Yeah. I remember telling my ex what I would like for Valentine's,

which would be to hold the door open for me. How'd that go? Yeah, not. But I communicated it and I actually felt really empowered. Emphasis on ex. Yeah, emphasis on ex. Hold the door open for folks, y'all. But I love that.

We got to communicate it. Let your partner know now. Don't wait to be disappointed. Let them know what you want. Okay, this is our person. I'm giving my partner a weekend getaway. We love exploring new places. So I booked a cozy little cabin in the mountains.

I know they'll appreciate the thought and the quality time together. Would you invite us? I know we wanna go. We'd be kind of fun if we showed up. We know how to play board games. Exactly. Oh, I've always wanted to receive something handmade,

like a scrapbook or something that you can tell took a lot of time and effort to make. Yes. Like my boyfriend did when I was 25 and he made me that gal boom. That's yeah. You know I've been making people pottery. No.

Yeah, you're on the list. I just got offended that I didn't get it. Yeah, but no, I was kidding. This is because I haven't put it in the list. I have to heat it up. Oh, I love that. That's a really beautiful, because you actually something you made with your hands.

That's literally, you sat there, you thought about this person, you molded the clay. That's a beautiful gift. Yeah, as a kid. I'll take one. Yeah, no, I'll get you one. They're not attractive. No pressure, no. You don't have to. But as a kid, I just remember, like, you know,

not having any money, but like giving my parents, like gifts that I would make. And I just, I feel like they faked it, but they still appreciated it more. I think you're right. Yeah. Even like the art of like writing a card. I think that's another thingaked it, but they still appreciated it more. I think you're right. Yeah. Even like the art of like writing a card. I think that's another thing to do.

Like write your right. Yes. I love that. And if you don't know how to like write in this way that is maybe more romantic, use AI. Yes. That's what it's here for. Totally.

You can be like, write my partner a Valentine. I really love the way they smell, ask how I feel, they're a great cook, they care about me, they love me, but make it sexy or make it funny. Make it into a lyrics or a poem that I can read them, yeah. You can jatchy-dee-pee your Valentine's Day. Yeah. Why not?

I mean, add in your own little flair, but yeah. Oh my God. Giving my partner socks with our dog on them. Like printed socks with a doggy photo. That's cute. Have you ever gotten socks with your photo on it? Nope. Okay I'm adding that to the list. That'd be kind of funny. Okay with this one of them giving my mom a nice coffee maker she's been talking about upgrading hers for a while and a single so I know this will make her mornings even better and soften the blow

being single on Valentine's Day. I love that and if your mom's single, you could also give her a vibrator. A massage quilt. Yes, Emily. Moms are Valentine's. When I first met Emily, well, not when I first met Emily, she gave us, my ex and I, a huge box of dildos

that we brought up and gave to my mother-in-law. Yeah, and she loved each and every one of them. There you go. Cheers. Cheers to that. Cheers for making her day. Listen, I think that if you're like,

oh, I could never do that, try it. That makes me feel really good. And she was pleased to receive that. She wasn't embarrassing. She was pleased when she received it and she was pleased later. She's pleased right now. She most certainly. She just got pleased five minutes ago. She was pleased when she received it and she was pleased later. She's pleased right now. She most certainly.

She just got pleased five minutes ago. She's still using the toys. She actually broke up with her long time partner. Really? I think. After I gave her the vibrate, after we gave her the vibrate. No, that's when we gave it to her because it was a run down.

Okay, okay. Aw. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm glad. I think I always give my mom, well she has a lot of vibes now, but I just think it's a beautiful thing to Give your mom a vibe. Your parents are human too. Remember they need love too So getting my partner custom chocolates from her favorite German chocolate shop chocolate shop we visited we first started dating

I love that because that has some history Yes, that's why you gotta write things down because I don't know I would remember that. Like I don't know that I'm always the most like, I put a lot of pressure on myself to give people the best gifts and then I don't often know what to give and then sometimes I don't give something, but it takes a beat to think about it. Those are some nice things that people want.

They're really sweet. I know and I hope this is just inspiring for people because I'm inspired now. What's your most memorable Valentine's day? We had a foursome. I love that. Not one, not two, not three, but foursomes. Four of them.

I love that you got greedy on Valentine's Day. I love it. Hotel room with champagne and edible lube. Let's see, my most memorable Valentine's Day was when my partner surprised me with a candlelit dinner at home. We had a picnic on the floor, just the two of us, and he cooked my favorite meal.

It was simple, but so intimate and thoughtful, nothing fancy, just a night that felt really special and personal. I love that. I know. I'll never forget the Valentine's Day when I accidentally brought my best friend a romantic gift, like full on heart shaped box

of chocolates, flowers, and a cute little card. I thought it was being funny, but we were so confused and didn't know if I was secretly confessing my love or just got lost in the Valentine's Day section, we laughed about it for ages. Are they now together? No, I can say no, I bet they're in my seat. No, it sounds like they're not.

Okay, so do you know that Valentine's Day is the most popular day for people to propose? Is it? Yeah. Are you gonna propose to me? Propose to me? We are going down, right? So my most memorable Valentine's Day was when my now husband proposed to me.

He had planned a whole thing out. It started with a scavenger hunt around the city. That's what you would want. That is what I did. Leading to our favorite spots and ended with him asking me to marry him at the place where we had our first date. It was so romantic and I had no idea it was coming. Definitely might seem cheesy for some but perfect for us. Not cheesy at all. Scott did it. Did I ever tell you the story of how I proposed? No. It was in my 20s, and I couldn't afford anything,

but so I bought a Ring Pop. Oh, cute. And there was also a history, like there was a whole history around Ring Pops, but so I put a metal thing in the box because we brought a metal detector to a beach, and I was like, we're gonna do metal detector games at the beach.

So I buried a bunch of different things, like surprises, presents, and including the ring. And he found all of it, but the fucking ring. And he was like, let's just go, it's getting cold. And I was like, we really need to find all the gifts and then he I finally helped him find it yeah and you open the box and it said will you marry me yeah that yeah I mean sometimes just the proposal story is way better than the relationship yeah well that's the thing you might as well make that part good

because you better downhill from there. Hell yeah. As long as the proposal's good. Okay, now we've got all these questions too. Scott, you'll be good at this one. What's the best advice for someone who's recovering from a breakup or heartache during Valentine's Day season? Well, someone who's doing that, let me tell you, go out with friends.

Make yourself busy. Remember how fucking amazing you are and all the things you get to offer to other people in the world. And remember that you are better off, Boo-Boo. Because honestly, if they didn't fight for you and all the shit you had to put up with, this is actually a better Valentine's Day

than whatever they might have done, bread crummy half ass, and then left you disappointed the next day, going back to their old fucking patterns. Goodbye, boo boo. Yeah. So you deserve better, and you're gonna give yourself better.

Yes. How's that? What do you think? That was perfect. Lean into your friends and your community. Buy yourself something special. Do something for you. You, listen, for your ex, it ended for a reason.

It's so easy to put them on a pedestal and think what if I should have, I could have, would have. But when they end, they're ending for a reason and for a lesson. I love that. So we've got, my girlfriend wants to try anal sex for the first time on Valentine's Day. How to go about it?

Get some lube. I have a slight pause on the question, which is for the first time, okay, we wanna do a little bit of rehearsal before. She should try a little rehearsal. Is it something she would enjoy? You don't wanna get really, how we say, messy and funky on

Valentine's like will it ruin your Valentine's if it's not perfect because it's probably not gonna be perfect the first time it's you know it's sometimes this little painful there's a whole process of warming up the anus. Have you done the foreplay? Yeah. Have you already tried with your fingers? Have you already you know kind of warmed everything up? Is she used to any kind of anal play? Is this something that you guys have, have you experimented with?

Cause maybe it's a lot of pressure. It's a lot of pressure. It's like, oh God, and then she won't be able to enjoy if they go to dinner or maybe, or what she's eating, or she's like, anal's coming, anal's coming. Yeah, yeah, cause there's like a whole diet thing that you gotta do, navigate it. Yeah.

You want your psyllium husk, you know, you know, it's a whole process. There's a second person who talked to me about psyllium husk today. Today? Yeah. Do you think you should take it? Does that mean I should take it right now?

Would you think that means I should take some psyllium husk? I think you should take and get ready for some anal. Okay, yeah. We're going to dinner. We're going to dinner. Yeah. Now I'm with you, but how to go about it, but I think maybe you talk about it on this day

and maybe you plan another day, unless it's all, well, what if it's all anal Valentine's Day? Like it's like, we're not doing anything else, but it's all about anal. Great. Then make, you can. Get ready. Get clear.

Like have some rehearsals, try toys out before. Get one of the common sense blankets, get one of the sex blankets. Definitely get a blanket. Yep. Definitely look at, you know, have the discussion is, are we gonna douche? Are we gonna go through that process?

Are we gonna go all natural, no douching? That's a conversation to have. It's important to have communication, y'all. I would say try sex toys out, get the lube that feels good. Right, we love some silicone lube too. Yes, what's your favorite lube for anal? I would say I love some uber lube that feels good. Right, we love some silicone lube too. Yes, what's your favorite lube for anal? I would say I love some Uber lube. Uber lube.

And Pure makes a great lube. Yeah. PJUR. Yeah, they do. They do make great lube. It's German, right? Yeah, it's a German brand. That's members of the German Sex Conference

when they found all my sex toys. Yeah, I discovered that brand in Germany. Oh, you did, yeah, because they're a German brand. That's great, they're everywhere though. They're a very popular brand in Europe. Oh, you did, yeah, because they're German brand. That's great. They're everywhere though. They're very popular brand in Europe. Yeah, very popular. They have a back door specific. No point in telling it.

Yeah. I thought you were saying, well then. No, no, no. They have a lube called back door. They do. I think, babe, I gave you like, that's. Yeah, no, I have a closet of it. I gave you so many of those.

You gave it to them. Yes. And I gave it away. Okay. You had an orgy. No. Didn't gave it away. Okay. You had an orgy. No. Didn't you? No, we didn't have an orgy. Oh, didn't you bring it to the Fire Island?

Oh no, I brought it to Fire Island and handed out. And my, yes. I don't mean, maybe I was just imagining all these bottles of lube. Other people had orgies. Yeah, I was just imagining, like I gave you like gallons. You gave me gallons of lube. I gave you gallons of bottles of lube.

I figured they would be good for like a sex, funny sex thing. Maybe in my mind, that was my fantasy about your lube. Thank you for your fantasy. But I, you're welcome. Thank you. Thank you. For graciously accepting the lube.

Yeah, TSA was curious about it for sure. Yeah. Because my suitcase was way overweight. Lube is heavy. It is, it can be. Especially when you get gallon jars. Yeah, yeah. Do you know what my vision is when I go cross country

on my tour is to have an Airstream. Yeah. And in the back of it, there's just, you know, you would refillable, like you bring your water bottles or your lube bottles and just people can pump and just refill their lubes. Do you think they would come do that? Come see me with your lube bottle? What do you think? If you bring their lubes. Do you think they would come do that? Come see me fill your lube bottle?

What do you think? They could bring their own bottles. I just had this like whole foods moment where you like bring your like soap jar, only like the hippiest of fucking towns. And you like, you know, pump it, pump it, pump, your like glass mason jar full of soap. Yeah.

And I'm into it. Refill their lubes, cross-pensary. Just show, hey, come see me and get a bottle. You're a lube dispensarypensary. Just show, hey, come, come see me. And you're a lube dispensary. Wow. Yeah, it's legal, I think, for now. So the other thing we haven't talked about is massage candles.

To me, no-brainer, if you're all everything, you don't know what to get your partner, get them a massage candle. Jeju makes this incredible massage candle. Do you know what a massage candle is? Oh, hell yeah. Oh yeah, you light it like the most, like a regular candle, but then you blow it out.

It becomes delicious, warm massage while you rub over your partner's body. Jeju makes one that I love. I gave it to everybody. To me, that's just like that and a card could be your gift because that is the gift that's just like playful and sexy and also gives you ambiance.

It smells great. It's also like an invitation, right? Like you give the gift and then you're like, shall we? Yeah, let's try it. Let's try it. It's an activity. I love that all of these gifts, a lot of them are activities.

And the other thing I wanna say about that is that one of the most common things that couples wanna play with when they wanna sort of explore kinkier sex is temperature play. And so the thing about massage candles is it's like, you could put a blindfold on your partner and then you pour the warm oil on them and it feels amazing.

So it's very active and playful. They could get one now too, 30% off. Use code EMILY30 at sexwithemily.com slash Hera, H-E-R-A. Okay, everyone, happy Valentine's Day you lovers. Have the most incredible day. Remember it is a day of love. It's a day of connection. So whether you're connecting with yourself,

your friends, your lover, we're all for it. Dr. Scott Lyons, thank you for being my incredible Valentine's Day co-host today. Where can people find you? You can find me at drscottlyons.com or on any of the socials, Dr. Scott Lyons. And your podcast. And my podcast, The Gently Used Human, where we did an episode too. We did do any of the socials Dr. Scott Lyons. And your podcast? And my podcast, The Gently Used Human,

where we did an episode too. We did do an episode. It was hot. So hot. Okay everyone, we love you. That's it for today's episode. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and be sure to like, subscribe and give us a review

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