Sex With Emily - Sexy Playtime with Skin Diamond

Episode Date: November 7, 2015

Today’s podcast comes to you straight from the 2014 Sex With Emily archives. Emily and Anderson welcome guest Skin Diamond, a nude model and decorated adult film star, to the show to trade tips and tricks in all areas of our favorite topic: sex!Have you ever wanted a porn star’s advice on how to be better in bed? You’re in luck! Whether you’re interested in improving at cunnilingus, fellatio, anal or even DP, Skin Diamond has plenty of advice to share. She gives instructions on how to utilize variation, tease your partner into pleasure-town, and maintain a sense of humor about sex — It is playtime for grown-ups after all! She and Emily also offer guidance for a caller on how to help his wife unleash her wildest fantasies.This erotic and educational podcast covers all essential areas of sexual activity that we could all probably stand to learn more about! From kitty play to blow bangs, this classic episode is sure to teach you at least one sexy tidbit that you didn’t know, not to mention help you get to know the amazing Skin Diamond on a more intimate level! Don’t miss it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You thought I could handle the blizzards. I'm just not you're a very waifi little lady. I'm a waifi check Yeah, hey, who's this sexy waifi chick you got in front of you? Oh, we've got skin diamond here Hello, I skin diamond. She is so sexy and beautiful and skin diamond. I actually, I first met you at the X-Biz Awards. Yes. But I've known about you because you were also at AVN awards and you won like, what didn't you win? So she's a porn star and nude model born in the United States, Raisin Scotland. And you won this year. Okay, so you've nominated for 12 AVN awards. Six X-Biz Awards, five urban X-Awards, X-Biz's best supporting actress,

best surprised female performer of the year. So, okay, skin diamond, beautiful woman, tell me everything. Okay, so you were raised in Scotland but your parents were missionaries? Yes, I moved to Scotland when I was three and I lived there for 20 years. 20 years, wow. Okay. It was pretty amazing. I actually really love Scotland, even though I got bullied a lot when I was in school because I was so different. Right. How are you different? Well, because I mean, there's

not a lot of people in color there so I was usually like the only black girl in my school and you know like being in American that's also something that's different. So I used to get bullied for that and just I was a total Jesus freak too. You see because your parents, okay, so yeah. So what, when did you, are you still Jesus freak? I'm not religious. I'm very spiritual, but I don't believe in organized religion. I think it's too corrupt. Okay. So how did it affect you? Excuse me, growing up. You were into it and then what was the turning, you know, the time?

I remember very vividly. I had just finished horse riding with a friend and her step-sister was in my class and they were like part of the bad kids. You know, like the kids that would listen to metal and smoke and we would go behind the garages and smoke cigarettes at school or whatever. And I remember thinking, I'm going to not be a Christian just for a little while and see what it's like. And then I ended up never looking back after that. Not that there's anything wrong with Christianity. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, that there's anything wrong with No, no judgement exactly, but I it's not for me.

But you like it chooses you were raised with it and then you choose I think that's what we all do were raised with certain Yeah, parameters, you know, whatever goals or parents have, Reservance religion or whatever and then you grow up and you decide what works for me and what doesn't But my parents are really like a lot of people ask the question like, oh, what do you parents think about what you do? And you know what my parents are so cool about it? Like my mom's always been like my best friend, and I told her when I first started stripping and whatever. But they are so cool about it.

They even came to the AVN Awards and met my agent. And because they put, they had me on a billboard outside the hard rock. So my dad was there taking photos. I love that. I love that. So cool. Are they still very religious though? Um, I mean they're religious, but they they're not they they're like me They're spiritual and they believe in it and everything, but they just don't like the corruption of the church Right. I ain't right. So I allow people to feel so that I love that they support you

Yeah, they're really awesome. It's So it makes a difference in the world. My parents form me. Everyone's like, what do your parents think of what you do? I'm like, they're fine. I'm making a living, talking about sex, and helping people, right? Yeah, I feel really lucky because a lot of girls that do this, I've heard horror stories of girls being disowned

and cut off from their families entirely. And I'm really blessed to have such an amazing family that have stood by my decisions, even if they don't, it's not the path that they would have chosen for me, of course, but they can see that I'm happy and levelheaded. You know what's strange though, is they actually blindly support you

because it's not like they can watch your work and say you did a really good job there. Do they watch? I wonder. No, they watch. They don't watch an anger hard-gore scene. I mean, my mom, like, like, if she sees, like, naked photos of me, or something online, she's like, oh, well, I just won't look at that one. But she's really cute about it. Totally, that's good. I love it.

So what was like the defining moment in your life when you were like, I'm going to get into, you started with stripping. Or how did you, was that how you started? Well, I first started, I started nude modeling. When I was 19, I wanted to model for suicide girls, originally, and that was where the name, skin came around, because I was gonna be, I was gonna be skin suicide.

Okay. But then I ended up not modeling for them. I modeled for this other company called God's Girls, which is kind of similar, but. Okay. Cooler, anyway. And so I did that for a while, then I got into fetish modeling. for this other company called God's Girls, which is kind of similar, but cooler. Anyway, so I did that for a while, then I got into fetish modeling. I used to go to torture garden in London all the time and model in the fashion shows there

and I dated fetish fashion photographers. My shoes started getting more and more naughty. And I was like treading into girl girl territory and a company that I had posed for Burning Angel approached me wanting, asking if I wanted to shoot a hardcore sex scene. And I was like, well, I'll shoot a girl girl scene. And I was going to go to Paris. I'm like, I of course want to go to Paris.

And I ended up having so much fun on that trip. I stayed an extra week and shot my first Boy Girl scenes, my first anal scene. Oh my God, the first movie you did or the first few scenes. Yeah. I was just like a minute. Well, because when I did it, I wasn't really thinking that I was going to be a porn star.

I was just doing it because I wanted to try it and I figured if I don't like it, I never have to do it again. And I'm already getting naked all over the internet. So I mean, I'm not going to have sex, right? Take the jump and I ended up really enjoying it and I didn't do it again for like a year or something. It wasn't until I moved to LA that I started doing it full time and I got my agent. Okay. And that was when everything went crazy. Okay, so tell me when you did your first girl a girl story, are you with men and women? Uh, yes, I identify as bisexual. Okay, so had you been with women growing up or was it more for porn and then you were into it

after you did it? I've always been into girls. I think before even realized I was into girls, I remember seeing like a naked woman when I was quite young and feeling turned on and being like, oh, this is weird. And I like had the biggest crush on Jessica Rabbit growing up and I had the first one. But yeah, but I love guys too. So I got it.

So are you in a relationship right now? I mean, I'm dating, but I'm not in, so. Right. I got it. So are you in a relationship right now? I mean, I'm dating, but I'm not in anything serious. Right. Got it. So yeah, it's when. So your scenes that you do, so you've done a little bit of everything. So that first thing, so what would you say right now are the best and worst aspects of doing porn?

I think the best aspect is the freedom that I have. I can pretty much just do whatever I want now because it's, I mean, I make a lot of money. I can make a lot of money very quickly because, you know, for every scene, I'm getting like $1,000, whatever. So like if I'm shooting like nine times a month, then that's a lot of money.

That's a lot more than working nine to five. But I think the, and of course the orgasms. Do you always have orgasms? I do. I actually, I come really easily. It's like my pussy was made for porn. Oh my God, I'm so lucky. But the thing that I dislike about porn,

it's not the porn itself, it's the stigma that can come with it. You get branded as this type of person when you do porn and everyone assumes that porn or chicks are crazy, like drug addicts and sex addicts. I'm actually like, I feel like because sex is my job, I actually have sex less than my personal life. Because I'm pickier. I'm not just gonna screw anybody.

I'm like, I'm being paid. Exactly. You do really well. Yeah, that's the only, just the bias that comes with it. Exactly, no, there definitely, there definitely is a stigma to it. I understand. Same with what I do. People are like, they may be sex with Emily, you know,

they're gonna be wild and bad or whatever. And I'm not that I haven't tried a few things here and there, but I'm not what with what I do. People are like, they maybe sex with Emily, you know, they're gonna be wild and bad or whatever. And I'm not that I haven't tried a few things here and there, but I'm not what people would necessarily think about the family, the whole thing, I guess. So tell me about, so with women, you're with women, I always like to ask women, bisexual women, who've been with a lot of women, what you find, like is there anything, when you hook up with women,

any good tips that you have, like oral sex tips about going down a woman? I feel like women know best. Oral sex tips, I think, taking it slow, lots of teasing, like, not, like kissing around the pussy. Right. And because then it's, like,

biting the inside, like, just little nibbles and stuff. And just taking things really slowly, slowly like it's not a race You can take a time to explore if you know you're doing something and she makes a noise then keep doing it Keep going with the noise, right? She's learning that's a good thing. And she's hungry. Yeah, I think it's yeah, just taking your time and enjoying it. And because then you feel in when you're with men, do you feel I'm sure you're probably with men

who are more experienced and poor, but in day to day life, do you find that men a lot of times? I was trying to say to my guy friend the day, he's like, what do you mean guys aren't good? I'm like, there's a lot of men who just don't, they don't get oral sex, they try, are these other not into it, or they don't really know what they're doing.

I think because every vagina is different. So you have to learn, you have to pay attention, you have to like focus on is she moaning, is she moving? How is how's her body changing, you know, and they don't pay attention to it at all? Well, it's it's even even guys like every guy likes it a little different. Right. Same. So I think that's that's the key.

You have to take it slow because you have to read the person and figure out what they like. And then once you know, then you can just like the next time or whatever you can just go for it, but especially the first time, it's like, that's why I love sex because it's different with everyone. So it's always new, it's always fresh. Exactly. And it should constantly be, though, and that's what, you know, quite say one of the main points I make on the show over and over again is that your sex life should be expansive if you're in a relationship. It should be something that's constantly growing, that you're challenging each other,

and you're doing new things and you're raising the level. And I don't mean raising the level to craziness. I just mean you're trying new things and it's exciting, and it's like this beautiful thing and so many people have so many troubles with it. And they just kind of get stagnated. And it is a beautiful thing. And we're all like, we wouldn't be here without sex. I think.

Miracle. I think one of the easiest ways to figure out is like, just dirty talk. Now I know the guy that I'm dating, like he really wants to have a threesome because like I'll talk to him about it during, like we'll merge together and be like, oh, so you want to see me and like buried in another girl and he loves it.

So now like, well now we have to have threesome. I like to. Yeah, I'm going to find one of my porno friends. Oh my God, that's a dream. Oh, I know so many. I'm sure he's never done a whole car. He's never had a threesome. So be his first.

Yeah. Oh my God, that's so fun. Do you like having threesome. No. She'll be his first. Yeah. Oh my God, that's so fun. Do you like having threisms? I do. I think they're always a little bit trickier though because there's the danger of someone feeling left out. Exactly.

So I actually prefer orgies because then there's more people to play with. If somebody's feeling left out, you can be like, oh, well, I'm going to go over here. Exactly. No, it is true. It's so true that I always say it's always better when you have a threesome if you're not all attached. I give it a couple and then you bring someone else in. It can be so tricky because it's gonna

cuddle with at the end of the night or who's gonna finish off, or you know, I mean, there's a lot, there's a lot, I mean, that's just one of the minor things, but it is true that it can't get sticky. Like couples who think, we're gonna have a threesome and it's gonna save our relationship.

No, you have to have like a really solid ground, really great communication before you bring in a third partner. So I wanna go back to orgasm quickly, because I don't. I orgasm, but not as quickly, and I'm very envious of people like you. So have you always, like, when did you start masturbating?

I remember masturbating with, remember those little braiding divide hair braiding twisty devices. I remember masturbating with that because I would turn it on and it would vibrate a little bit. So I'd use the handle. I was young. I must have been like, I don't know, like 11. And you just knew that, because you had. I was, I saw something I may maybe shouldn't have at a very young age. So I already had the one first sex. Right, it was planned to be.

Yeah, but I just like, I remember the first time I like masturbated with just my fingers and like, I had an orgasm and I was like, and I was like, was that it? Cause I wasn't sure, you mean when you first. Yeah, you don't know. So is it clitorally or G-spot or everything you orgasm? It's a little bit of everything. I can, I don't know. I have really strong kegel muscles too.

Did you have kegel exercises? I've been doing those since before I knew what they were. Wow. So like maybe seven, I would, I was young. I used to have this weird complex about peeing and I would always hold it because I'd be playing or whatever and I didn't want to go. So I would, but by holding it, I was like strengthening my kegel muscles and then I noticed that if, if I needed to pee and I mislike worked my kegels, I could actually

have an orgasm without having to touch myself. So like I'd be on the bus or whatever, just like silently, really happy bus right home. Well, kegels, I just know important if you don't know what they are. I have an iPhone app actually called KeagleCam. Oh really? Yeah, every day it pops up on your phone. There's like a little reminder and it says time for you can

say it any time a day and it's five minutes a day and it's my voice that walks you through it and up on your phone. There's like a little reminder, and it says time for you to set it any time of day, and it's five minutes a day, and it's my voice that walks you through it, and there's 20 levels. So people get to, like, think in harder and harder levels, and people get to level 20, and like, men, women, and they have stronger organisms because of it, and I'm like, everyone needs to do it. I think you understand, but I love that you naturally did it.

So you're just naturally born for this. It's true. Did you do them during sex? Yes, I do. That's how, when I'm working, if the director is like, It's naturally born for this. Did you do them during sex? Yes, I do. That's how when I'm working, if the director is like, okay, we need you to have an orgasm. Usually the girls have to fake it because I mean who can come on command if you're a woman. But for me, it's a lot easier because I can just work my kegels and I can kind of force myself to come.

Exactly. Which is a great tip for women. If you do have a hard time orgasming during a course, I'm if you do a hard time organizing during the course I'm telling you download my app or just do it yourself I think just the thing about my app that's unique is that just it reminds you because they say do a minute traffic light Do more than going on remember so I'm doing mine right now I can't and just five minutes and you will see like within a month That you will have these other orgasms and you can do it for me too when I want to or when I feel like it's coming

But it's you know when you feel like you're about to orgasm and you're not like, I just do my kiggles and it's like, boom, it happens. So they know what else is a really good trick. That, well, this is, I do this accidentally. I hold my breath when I'm coming. And, but it's almost like a form of breath play because when you're light-headed

because of the air deprivation, it makes the orgasms feel even cooler. Wow, that's a good one. I like it. So... Because a lot of women hold their breath the whole time they're having sex, and I often think that that prevents them from having orgasms, but you do it right before. Yeah, I do it as I'm coming, and which is why I think I'm always so out of it after sex, because I'm like,

I come so many times. Can you most orgasms? I always do. It's weird, I'm very, very, like, I realize that I'm very, like, I kinda want you to leave right now. But, so do you have a sex choice? I pretty much use a hotachi religiously.

I actually just recently broke my 90s. I didn't do one, because I use it so much But I think every woman should invest in a hotachi. They're like 40 bucks, right and there's two settings You plug it in, but it is the best vibrator. It is the best vibe ever and you can get the attachments Or the attachments are amazing. I love they've been sending me the attachments So I know like the rubber ones you do the cheeseball thing. It's like oh my god It's like a million different things like Legos you just keep building on here Yeah, you guys have all heard me talk about it's actually not called a touch anymore

It's now called the magic wand. I touch you win away Oh, it is the magic wand and you can go to sex with Emily dot com slash good vibes Use coupon code Emily and you get 40 you get 15% off your purchase and I just say I mean I have a lot of great toys on that page If you go there, but I touch you every woman. I mean I have it like permanently plugged in me too I don't even right right next to my back It's always it's always there in my last house people have listened to shows told me I have heard me say this But I had a nightstand and it was like a smaller older apartment I couldn't get and anyone know the plugs everywhere so I drilled a hole in the back of my

nightstand and plug it into the wall. It was like an old night. It wasn't like that night so it was still. So I always wanted to get ready to go. But it is true that Hattachi is like the the sure thing because you just it just happens in like three minutes and it's amazing and I can have like multiple multiple multiple. Oh, it's like oh god I'm late. I'm so I'm wondering if now that you are a porn star, do you think is experience of having sex now different from when before you were a porn star? I think it's definitely changed because I feel one I feel more experienced because I've gotten to experience a lot of things that I would have never experienced had I not done

porn like crazy BDSM things that maybe I wouldn't have felt safe doing but because I know that I'm working with professionals, I'm in safe hands so they can get crazy. But I think I just, I know good sex better, like I know that it's passion is everything whereas you know when you're young, you're just like, I want it hard and fast all the time. But now it's a little bit, it's different. It's a little bit like I actually don't mind it when it's slow and romantic too.

Slow is nice. Exactly. I always tell you, you just gotta mix it up. It is true when we're younger. It's like jackhammer. Yeah, because you want it, you're like, it's a race to have an orgasm. And now it's more like, like no I want to take it slow

and really enjoy it. I look to like make out when I'm having sex and time to the middle the whole thing. Oh the whole time. I love kissing too. It's so intimate. Yeah, it really like heightens everything that you're doing. So I think I think that's great. So down so your sex so it is it is better now and I feel like same with me like it's in the show I feel like I've learned so much more like how that's actually sometimes I do so would you say if you could direct your own porn scene if you were director do you ever want to direct maybe? maybe I mean I've thought about it I've always thought that maybe I wasn't ready myself to be in charge, but I'm actually leaning to more towards wanting to direct.

Now I have my direct stuff from my website. So that's like my little piece. Tell me your website again. It's skindiamondvip.com. Hot videos and everything. People should check this. It's pretty naughty. It's awesome.

So what would go down in your dream sex and your dream porn scene? Well, in Diamond's fantasy porn scene, what happens? I like their whet's happening. I'm a kitty a lot. Really? I have this thing. It's like puppy play, but it's kitty play.

And I have a kitty butt plug tail. That has a pink bow on the end and a bell. And then I have matching ears and a collar. I have so, so. Is that on your website? Can you see with the Kitty Butt Club? Actually, the scene that won A-V-N was my blow bang scene. And it was all my idea.

I was super excited that it won. Oh my God, so you kind of did your act it. Yeah. So really, so that, okay, tell me about the scene. So it was a blow bang to those that do not know what a blow bang is. It's like a gang bang, only it's all oral sex. So I think there was like nine to 12 guy who remembers this face. Nine 12 guys and you?

And I was the kitty and it was my idea to pretend to be a cat the whole time while I'm getting banged in my face. And then at the end they all came in a little kitty bowl and then I laughed it up like it was not good. Oh my god that's a hat. That's a really funny creative scene. It was super fun. Yeah.

I'm so glad at one. I mean like that's a mate that you did just directly, you literally that was your idea. Were you like hey director come here I got this idea. Yeah because I already had, because I'm into Kitty play in my personal life. So I already had all this stuff and I was like, well, it wouldn't be really cool to do this scene where I'm a cat and it's a blow bang and instead of milk, it's come. That's really sexy. So check it out. It was my elegant angel movie entitled skin. Okay, elegant angel people can find, where can they find that? Just elegant angel.com.

Okay, that's cool. So what award are you most proud of that you won in the porn? Is that one? That's definitely in the top one. I that the movie for elegant angel actually won three awards in total. I also won Best Double Penetration Sex scene and the movie is a whole one best Gonzo release at Xbiz. the movie is a whole one best Gonzo release at X-Biz. But I also won female performer of the year at Urban X Awards last year. You did? What was that for your female performer of the year? Well, that's basically just like the highest award for porn girls. It's like, you know, just for everything that you've done this year. Right. That's that's a big friggin deal. And you're an L.A. You're in this area. Okay, do you ever go to any of the sex clubs in L.A. or parties here?

Or do you just not so much anymore? I used to go to fetish clubs a lot in Europe. But see, I'm spoiled. And the fetish clubs here, I'm like, they're not as good. I know. Because you have it all that so too. I'm just curious because I'm actually doing a segment tomorrow for television.

They're talking one of the underground scenes in LA, which I just moved your exam and just go, so I have an experience in me. I would like to. I know. Yes, San Francisco has some crazy stuff. I know. And I've done some of that there, but not here, so I need to like talk and need to get into it more.

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anonymous? You there? He wants to know how do I get my wife to open up about her fantasies? Well, let's try to get this to go in. Hello. Hi, we want to talk to you. Maybe they got shy. Oh, we can just answer. How do you think? I mean, I talk about the time. What would you be your advice to God who wants his wife to open up about her fantasies? Maybe he should try telling her one of his freaky fantasies and that way she'll feel more comfortable opening up about hers. Exactly. Maybe right after sex because you know everyone's in a great mood after sex. Right. It is a good time to talk about after not during.

Well sometimes during, but it depends on if it's really freaking you don't want to spoil the mood. Then maybe wait till afterwards. Right, but a lot of women I find don't, or they they're not, they probably do a fantasies but they're not necessarily aware of them or they don't think like men, you know, a lot of men are I find, don't, or they, they're not, they probably do with fantasies, but they're not necessarily aware of them, or they don't think like men, not a lot of men are like, have a million fantasies. So, I also say sometimes, a good way to like, ask your, is to say, to start it slow and say, what's your most memorable time that we've ever had sex together? What's your favorite time that we've ever had sex together?

What's your best memory of our sex life? And maybe that's a good way of, she's like, God, that time you, you know, threw me on the bed and ripped off my clothes, well, then I'll know, okay, so she's into something a little more aggressive,, God, that time you threw me on the bed and ripped off my clothes. Well, I don't know. Okay. So she's into something a little more aggressive or she said that time you came home with flowers and tripped them on, you know, you dropped rose petals on the bed. You know, it's whatever it is. Then you kind of get, you know, you kind of can see into her mind on what she's thinking

and it can help open up the dialogue because so many couples just don't talk about it. They've been together forever and they don't talk about their sex life. Yeah. I think a lot of people are scared that someone's gonna think they're weird, but honestly like Everyone has some freaky fantasies right it's so true Do you ever you think you've lived out all your freaky fantasies? I think I've lived out at least all the ones that I've thought about Or seen in parnos that I wanted to experience myself. Like what? Like, can you name one?

Getting D-Ped double penetration. Right. Is that amazing? I, oh, it's so good. I actually prefer better than anal sex because it's best of both worlds. Right. Exactly. And are you attracted to the men that we're doing it always or not always? I mean, I always try to find something about them that I like, even if maybe they're not my type, because my type of guys aren't really the kind of guys that you would find in porn.

I'm just really like down to earth like regular guys. Right. Whereas porn, no guys are usually super buff and whatever. Right. But yeah, I like, I just try to find something about them that I like, like maybe I have nice eyes or maybe they're really funny and they make me laugh. Right.

Maybe they're super strong and could just throw me around. That's always amazing. I love them guys. I know. We're small too. How tall are you? I'm five foot five. Okay.

Yeah. I'll just get your little. Yeah. I'm five foot one. So we actually, oh, he is. Okay. So we said, well, we already answered. Okay.

Hey, are you there? I'm there. Hi, okay, did you hear what I don't know if you can hear what you're saying? But you want to get your wife to open up about her fantasies. Yeah, you know, I think we just hit a little bit of a plateau. And I feel like I've tried to say a little bit of mine and then try to pull out a little bit of hers. And I feel like that she's just not.

I don't know. She's just thinking, thinking other things at this point. Oh, how long have you been together? What's that? How long have you guys been together? We've been married for five years now and together for like ten. Okay. And what did you share with her? What was your fantasy? uh... we've been married for five years now and together for like ten and what did you share with her what was your fantasy

well actually like one of my days and and something that she should be she had with me before was you know some p-action p-like you're in and i'm okay with that. I want to hear more about that.

Wait, can you back up? I don't know if I heard you correctly. What kind of action? Some DP action. DP, double penetration. We were just talking about that. So you would want another guy in the room where you'd want to use a dildo. Well, she's another guy.

You'd be okay with her with another guy. And I'm up for that. Oh, that's hot. Yeah, that's so hot. So she wants that. She mentioned it before, and I try and pull it back out of her, and I feel like she's just... Well, I mean, things like that, if somebody's never done it before, it's going to make

anyone feel a little bit nervous and maybe she just has stage fright. Right. Right. And maybe you got to ease into it. So maybe if her fantasy is double penetration, maybe you could buy like a great dildo or something like a butt plug and start like experimenting so she knows what it feels like. And then you bring it up, bring it someone into the room, maybe.

Plus, if you have sex with her while she has a butt plug in, it feels really good for the guys too. Yeah, the butt plug feels good to the guys because they can feel the butt plug rubbing against them. Exactly. With vibrators, guys don't realize that the vibrations feel good on them as well. Oh, totally. Yeah. So I think maybe you got to change tactics, how you talked to her. Like, I don't know if you heard what I was saying earlier, because we couldn't hear you,

but I was saying sometimes a great thing to ask her is to say, what's your most memorable sex experience that we've ever had? What's the favorite time in your, when you think of our sex life, which is the greatest sex memory you have? And if she explained it to you, you know, that time, you, you know, you, you ripped my clothes off in the alley or we had, you know, sex in the car or you put rose petals on the bed or whatever it is then you'll know like what in her mind really turns around and what's memorable that could be a softer way to get it going.

I'm like whisper something dirty in her ear while you're inside of her. Yeah she like dirty talk I know I I did so Does she like dirty talk? Yeah, well good luck to you just keep talking keep trying okay. Don't give up on it You just got to find the right way to communicate to her about it. It's hard. Okay. Good luck to you Thanks for the last Emily It is hard sometimes. I'm sure you don't have a heart in your relationships talking about what you want what you need Well, I mean it's when you do porn, you almost like forget that regular people aren't as open. Like I'll be talking about anal sex really like blah, blah, blah, and then this happened

and with someone that's not in the industry and there are looks of shock. Oh, yeah. I know exactly. But I don't know. I've always been really open sexually like I remember the the way that I found out that I was into breath play was because I was a teenager. There was this boy that we always used to flirt. We never did any we never went the full Shebang, but He mentioned that he really liked to choke girls during sex and I remember getting so turned on when he said that,

just from talking about it. And then after that, I really wanted to try it. And so I think it was a while before I actually did try it, but like it's funny how like just one little word will set something on. Exactly. A lot of yeah, a lot of people, women, are entitled to the chugging.

And it's interesting the part about the breath that helps you with orgasms. Oh, it's so good. Don't do it too hard guys. You don't have to do it too hard. Yeah, yeah. There is. Start slow. You have to be careful because you can't crush the windpipe.

There is a way you choke. You don't. Right. I would describe that way you choke. No, but you have to try to stop and see how she reacts, but you don't want to go too hard. Yeah. That's true. I wonder when you do start dating someone, do you think that they do treat you differently when they know that your parents are? You just date

these down to earth guys that are pretty cool with it. I think at first there's like expectations. It's funny. It's like a sex swimming, a stripper pool in your room. I mean, maybe you do. I do have a stripper pool in my house, but I mean, I'm always I'm always upfront about what I do. Usually guys like they know me as a porn star when they meet me. Guys always think that dating a porn chick is super cool. Like the idea of it's really cool. But I mean, it does get hard because guys, the jealousy, guys are like, oh, well, you're going to work and getting banged by all like, it's hard to be like,

oh, so what did you do? It worked. Oh, I got banged by five guys. Exactly. I laughed up the calm of nine. Yeah. It is hard to, I find that too. It's very hard to find a man who's not threatened

by what you do. It's not jealous that you're having. You've got to find a really confident, which is sexy anyway. Yeah. Confidence is the sexiest thing, I think. And so I'm going to just come with yourself. And he's like, I'm cool with that. It's your job.

I love you. Because it is a job at the end of the day. I mean, I don't want to like, most of the guys that I'm banging on camera, like I'm not going to like, I'm cool with that. It's your job. I love you. You know, because it is a job at the end of the day I mean, I don't I don't want to like most of the guys that I'm banging on camera like I'm not gonna like Hook up without side. I love them on set, but that's Right. That's the end of it. So you um, so I want to start with anal sex sound that we touch on that a little bit Um, it seems like like it's very common like even in the last 10-15 years Like I think it's because of porn a lot of people and young kids growing up or wherever they see it a lot of guys want to try it because of porn, a lot of people, young kids growing up, or wherever they see it. A lot of guys want to try it, and I feel like a lot of women have bad experiences, first

experiences, because guys just try to like shove it in, or they don't prepare them. And so, what would you say are the good news and don'ts about going through the back door the first time, or if you want your partner to do it, if you want a woman to do it with your weth, like, what would you suggest? Well, if you want it to be super magical, I would suggest that the girl clean herself out beforehand to avoid any go back to him or like yeah, uh,

NMA, NMA a little bit, um, just, you know, um, lots and lots of loops. Silicone based is better because it doesn't dry out and get sticky and weird. Um, it goes super slow, especially if he's girthy. Right. Uncut guys are a lot easier to handle, but yeah, just lots of lube go slow.

And like you said earlier, for guys with big, with cocks, if she's on top, then she can control it. She can exactly. And I love anal sex on top because especially like Lexington Steel who's my arm. I like to go on top with him. Right. Right. You got it's true. When you're on top women on top or April through anal sex you can you're in control. And again, you've got to leave go slow. And again, if you're with a partner who you really want to try anal sex and she's scared about it because she just thinks oh my god it's gonna hurt. And again, if you're with a partner who you really want to try anal sex and she's scared about it because she just thinks, oh my god, it's gonna hurt. And where I was saying, the beginning is a lot of women have bad experiences because guys just shove it in, no loop.

So go so it even start with your finger, even warmer up with your finger. They also have anal training kits that you can get that are it's like a set of butt plugs and they start off super, super small and then they get bigger. So you can actually stretch yourself up. I always stretch before a scene because you know, I've said your aim is before you're seen. It's stretching before a run. It's like stretching before a run. Because I mean some of the guys that I do,

I mean they're huge, that's why they're in porn. And so I have a dilator kit that I always stretch before and because there's also- How long a hand you have to do it. Um, I mean, just right before for like a few minutes and I'll usually like master bait with a vibrator at the same time because I find that if I have an orgasm while I'm playing with my butt, then that's because you want your butt to loosen up so that you don't care. That's always the danger.

If you try to stretch it too fast, then you might tear something and it's paint, and that's when it's super painful. Exactly. And you know, you can have problems. Right. So that's a great, that is a great, great tip. Okay, so what about when you are performing oral sex

on a man? What are some great tips that you, I know everyone met these different. I love, I love giving head. It's actually one of my favorite things to do. You're like the dream woman. She orgasms all the time. She loves giving head.

Okay, so Tom, I know. I like it. So many guys, that's their biggest complaint is that if a woman just seems enthusiastic about it, they're happy, but a lot of women just aren't. So what do you love about it? And what do you do? Well, I'm a big pleaser.

I love knowing that I'm making someone, like if someone starts shaking and like moaning really hard or whatever because of something that I'm doing then it it makes me what? Knowing that I'm doing it. Totally, yeah, turn to on. Yeah, like I mean like I don't know when I when I suck cock I just I it's like when you're looking a pussy you know you don't want to just do the same thing over and over again mix it up like see what he likes maybe just like suck on the head for a little bit. And then while you're jacking it off, or maybe like flick the tip of it with your tongue while it's in your mouth, or put it right to the back and suck really hard while it's

all the way inside. Yeah, it's deep third. Exactly. Just keep mixing it up. And then we find something. And I also say another great way when couples first start dating or people are getting is mutual masturbation. Like it's so hot. So hot.

And plus you can figure out how he likes it. Exactly. You're like, oh, this is what he does with the hand and he goes really fast at the end or whatever it is and you learn and he can see how you do it. I think it's like, I don't, I think it should be like, like a requisite for couples. It's a pretty bad idea.

To break, do it right away. So I was gonna also ask you, if if you do you have any advice for people like you've had such a successful career so early on like do you have any advice for someone who wants to start a career? I think for most men they should probably have second thoughts because being a porn star for a man is a lot harder than it looks. Tell me why. Because, think about it, you gotta get hard on commands in front of a big group of people who all just wanna go home and then you have to come on commands.

Right. And if you can't, then people are gonna be starting to look at their watches and gonna put you off more. And so it's a lot harder and plus you have to have insane amounts of stamina and you can't really think it and yeah it's with men you can't think it right exactly like if you can't come then the whole scene is ruined and everybody hates you exactly with a lot of pressure with girls I think that a lot of girls think that they can't say no to things and they get pushed past their limits and that's what gives them the bad experience. I think a lot of girls because they're young and like their agent is telling them like oh you have to do this or the director is like oh it'll be so much

better if you do this but unless you're comfortable don't force it. And always like you know do your research try to find the best agent that you can. Someone that's going to look after you. Right. It's so true to have good management, especially in this business. It's very hard. Absolutely. And so my other questions for you, God, we've covered a lot here.

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I know it's like the best thing in the world. It's free most time unless you pay for it. But you know what some people do? But I'm saying it's just, it's something that you should really just work on and enjoy. How do you feel about massage? Do you like massages? Oh, I love massages.

Who doesn't? I actually have a present for you. Ooh? I have a massage candle line that I just launched. It's called Emily and Tony. You're going to love. Have you ever used a massage candle? No. Okay. So it is cocoa. This one's coconut. It's made out of in a so-called soybean oil and coconut oil. And it burns cooler than most candles. So you burn it and it melts into luxurious massage oil. And it's warm and you pour it on your partner. And it's like, you can never burn them. It's not hot and it's not sticky or tacky.

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My website is skindiamondvip.com, and you can also find me at Twitter, at skin underscore diamond. And then what about your singing career? Can we talk about it? She was singing. Before I went on the mic, started singing like you're a really good voice Thank you. I'm actually working on music right now. It's I shot a scene as a music video for a porno

And that kind of inspired me to be like, oh, well, this was really fun I'm gonna keep going with it. So I've been writing songs and Working on all that you've so much going on You're so active and you're wonderful. You've great personality. You really seem just happy and centered and you love what you do. Thank you.

And I love people who love what they do. And you're doing well at it, probably because you love it so much. I do love it. You got to be passionate about what you do. People find your passion in life. And I so appreciate all your sex tips and answers. Skin, don't take this the wrong way,

but I just thought of a gimmicky thing that you might do be able to do to sell albums what has there ever been a musician who's recorded an entire album while having sex oh I don't know if I I mean if you just sit on top of your boyfriend and sing it on the microphone you know I mean and then it's like this entire album was recorded while coil was in process that's not a of hot. Or at least the music video. How about the Gimmu music porn video? Oh, it was, well, because you know how there's always like a tease premise to pornos, whatever.

Well, this one particular director, Brando, approached me, saying he wanted to shoot the tease as a music video. And then I said, well, I want to write the song. So I went with my friend and we wrote a song together. And then we used it and shot the whole music video and then I said, well, I want to write the song. So I went with my friend and we wrote a song together and then we used it and shot the whole music video and then you can watch the music video and then it turns into a sex scene. I love it. We're going to be able to find that. Brasers.com. Okay. Brasers. Brasers. OK. Well, you're awesome. So everyone, you're going to check this out and check out

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