Sex With Emily - Sexy & Trending

Episode Date: October 11, 2014

Emily explains how to have better sex by going back to basics, and this round she is talking kissing, hand jobs, oral and more! Joined by Shira Lazar, host of the interactive daily show “What’s Trending”, and all-around cool girl, Emily discusses some of the key cornerstones of great sex.  The ladies start off with a discussion on what it’s like to be single and trending in Los Angeles. They dish on a couple celeb-fan scandals, get into a little sex toy talk, and share their mutual gratitude for their lady parts! Then it’s on to the hookup basics: The ladies discuss how to deal with a bad kisser, the art of giving a hell of a handjob, how to impress a man in the bedroom, and some of their personal secrets to really great sex. From kissing to manual to oral and beyond, this Podcast teaches you how brushing up on those basic skills can take you from a deal breaker to a better lover. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Thank you. I had an entire conversation with you on the way over here And I wasn't a part of it though I know but it was it was a really it was a really really good one And I I had a lot of like philosophical thoughts on the way over here that I wanted to share because was I polite to you in this conversation? No, well that's the thing. No, okay, I just got in your, I was reading email and texting, I'm sorry, I texted traffic lights. Do you receive good email as well?

I receive it. No, I hate email, don't ever even know I'm kidding. Everyone email me your questions, I love reading your emails, feedback at sexanami.com. No, I actually hate email. I love my listeners emails, but Anderson, tonight, so everyone knows I host Love Line radio show, a Thursday night, which you should all check out

their podcast as well. I'll listen to it. The point is Anderson works there. And tonight, we have, so many of us we have guests on the show, and it was Taylor Momsen. A lovely lady. Very pretty girl.

She started bokeh, a, a. The pretty reckless. She's lead singer for the pretty reckless long blonde hair, pretty girl. She's right lead singer for the pretty reckless long blonde hair pretty girl No, she's right and she was on a gossip girl The point is a she's already been on the she's already been on the show before right like when I like six months ago Or guest line a lot to come back you No, there's no one's funny, but just whatever so we had a whole thing

But now she can't come because she's sick or something so it's really sad But Anderson had gotten your early to set up the mics and he sent a funny email about just like setting them up because we were trying to whatever and they're not coming and it takes time because Anderson works really hard. What's funny is I never do that and I did it. I know. Murfys Law. It happens to me all the time. It does happen to you. I have not set up this early and been this prepared and made everything so great. I've never seen it. I thought you were like on speed or something. I'm like why does this room look so nice and together? And then I came back in here to

get the email saying hey they're not coming because she has, I'm doing air quotes, the flu. The flu. And it's not like I was trying to impress Taylor Momsen. I was just in the mood to do things right for our change. So never again. You've been here for so long, right? And you were angry.

But the email was funny because I was like, God, we're all things, you know, it's technology. So right now, the case will last week when I came in for love line, I was sitting there. I walked in and I was like, I don't know, probably digging in my bag, stressed about something and I was like, oh, do you think Mercury's in retrograde, retrograde, which I'm not like

one of these people who even, like what's your sign? But do you know about Mercury being in retrograde? What? I did live in San Francisco for a long time. So, okay, I don't even, like Mercury in retrograde is like when things are really messed up and I don't know why because all my friends in San Francisco It was like it was a totally ironic joke because it's something that it's like a Sanford whatever like everyone's talking

What does that mean? This is what I'm telling you so mercury actually is in retrograde So do you know what that means? It means that it can't ejaculate for a while Okay, no, it's actually has nothing to do with sex. It means communication breakdown It means that you shouldn't be making any big decisions right now that everything's gonna go wrong that your technology is gonna break down That if you're gonna get in fights with people you're gonna be annoyed and it really means that you need to slow everything down During this time because it goes crazy and it's like every it's not like every year It's you know, I'm not even fucking doing this right because you know what? I was gonna look it's up before but the point is because there was it was in the half of it's too, and I was like oh, I was right, and I don't know why I said it the point is

We have to forget. I'll just chill out because everyone's all stressed out and worried about things all the time and And it's just it's not healthy and and we were joking in the office today because yeah things are fricking crazy But like look like you've a job. I have a job I gotta talk about sex, you know, like you get to work on like a famous radio show and that's all just chill out because Mercury's your retrograde. I'm talking to yourself, for me.

You're talking to you. I was actually, I heard just, I think it was just today and somebody was talking about how life doesn't give a shit if you live out your dreams or you're a happy person. As far as life is concerned, if you have a roof over your head and you're drinking fresh water,

you're doing pretty good. Everything else is left up to you. You know what I mean? Yeah, exactly So I won't just kill the f out. I know, but I don't even know why because I thought you guys looked at me like I was crazy when I said that And it's actually true, but I don't think about these things. I don't fucking know what the retro grade is true No, that's not true. No, it is true Okay, whatever the hell is if you're all stressed out and here's the point everyone's always stressed out It's like this is we are just chill because I am I'm projecting it's funny because they did a study not too long ago About how people who live in India and when people think of India especially us Westerners We know that the people in India don't have a whole lot of money

It's one of the most poverty-stricken places in the world total third world bordering on fourth world right and they have far less stress than us westerners. Exactly. And far less. Far less and far less stress. Stop. And far less stress. It's true.

No, it's absolutely true. And we all just have to remember to be very grateful every day for everything that we have. And I know it sounds really silly, but no matter what religion, no matter what kind of like, I've been doing my meditation lately, it's like you should have been doing that. Have you been doing that? Yeah. Is that code for putting things inside your body? That vibrates?

No, I haven't even been doing that because Mercury's in retrograde. I'm afraid that something's going to go wrong. Just kidding. I do meditate. Let go of the retrograde. I'm grateful for my listeners, and I'm grateful for you. Okay, dude, I'm out of it.

You brought it up again. I was done. Tonight, we have special guests on the show. We have Sheer Lazar. She is the host and executive producer of the Emmy nominated, which is huge. I was done. Tonight we have special guests on the show. We have Sheerla Zarr. She is the host and executive producer of the Emmy nominated, which is huge. She is an Emmy. Live interactive daily show and 24-7 news hub. What's trending? She's awesome. I met her through mutual friends. She's really fun to her channel's great. She knows what's trending,

which I do not at all. So I am so glad that Sheerla is here with me. You're the sweetest Emily and I am, I have to say huge fan one, I listen to Love Line all the time. Thank God for you know for the four, five and the 10 and driving away too much in LA. At 10 p.m. and 10 or so I always listen to you guys you help through my drive. We met each other through your Bravo show. Bravo show. And then it was also that I would listen to you and so I was like oh this girl this chick like I always thought you were so cool And then we bumped into each other at this random event in LA at my random office That was at the random office, which is not random

But it was a random party about something you weren't a panel. Yeah, and so and I was so glad to see you because okay So Julie I was on this reality show with this woman named Julia Alson who's a friend of mine I'm known forever. She's in tech, but the social media and she does it all and and we had met briefly and then I watch one of the episodes Where you went to Napa Valley with that douche. Oh, yeah Do you know it's so funny about that? We are still good for like we're good friends now. That's nice I know but he was a douche but the way they cut it. This is his advice. I was on a reality show a few years ago About long ago was a douche, but the way they cut it, this is easy advice. I was on a reality show a few years ago. I'm proud of that. About long ago.

Two years, 2012. It's called misadvised. You can download an iTunes for a point. I know. Not that I'll make a dime of it, but you'll really enjoy the show. I got really into it though. That in Silicon Valley because I knew the people. Right. So made it different. But you know the people. Exactly. But wait, so Julie Allison, so she was on the show and we know what we say. So then misadvised. Then we saw saw the show you saw the episode of the do show David and I was so friends

I was like we're up. We were we were really good friends out But they edited it in the end that he would seem do she but he really wasn't that do she was the unhappy about that I was like I don't know why would you do that? Okay, this is this is a great tie-in to my show right now This is this is actually a bad message and making you look like a bigger star. No. You are. This is all about you. A lot. I feel awesome.

I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome.

I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel awesome. I feel so much better now, so I was gonna say that David was on the show with me and he looked like a jerk the way they

edited it and after the show, so the show, it's like my long, long, my high school boyfriend, a guy had a crush on in fifth grade, God, this is real, like real, I'm talking about like it's a reality show, God, divorced, hadn't seen him in years and years, but I had a huge crush on him for like five, like age five age eight to 13 anyway, my friend calls me. She's like David Rubin's getting divorced I'm like, oh my god. I love him. I've always loved it. We always joke about like Emily day of room And so I go to Michigan. We have a date. We film it on camera. We have a great chemistry and then but it's real Like if we really do like it's not bullshit like we really had chemistry, which is just cool So anyway long story short short, comes back to the nap thing, he lives in Michigan, I live here, nothing was going to happen. He

looks like an asshole, right? So after the show, the finale, everyone's like, oh my God, what national would do? Shbag because we get into this fight because he's something about like chasing tail or something. I don't even remember what happened. Yeah. David Rubin. Nice to see you. We're not nice to a spoil. We're not to get like hundreds and hundreds of Facebook requests friend requests from women in the area in the Michigan area wanted him after wanted him wanted to date him and he ended up getting laid by several of these women because he was a douchebag A national television and I don't I feel like I'm so empowered him to be an ass I know but the thing is he's actually not an asshole.

He's really like, but he's a confident, he's a good look guy and I don't know what the hell. But I think that's a funny story because that's just a wrong, don't be a douchebag. I'm not saying that. I'm just saying that it's funny that social media guy I'm laid. So, and being an intelligent, but he's actually, because maybe people saw a kindness in him, who knows?

Oh, I always say when I see an asshole guy, I'm like, I know there's something better deep down there. It's weird. But see, usually there isn't. The truth is most guys, well women, that's another thing a lot of women, have you ever done this before? Because okay, tonight's show is we're talking about

the bedroom basics, you're gonna help me with this. It's to me if it sucks and you're single. And last thing, you know it's cool. Like you live like the, so people listening at everyone lives in L.A. Many of you are lucky because we probably would sit here and talk about the traffic for 20 minutes if you weren't listening. But that you're living like young, like single L.A. doing something cool. You go to like red carpets and you're like the single cool girl.

So you know like what's going on and like what's trending is your show, right? Yeah, I get so many new people trending.com and Shira Lazar. Yes, Lazy I My wife are yeah, check out my website check out our YouTube with trending.com Which I come and so you talk about like so you really are in that like you you can't even help it Like your job to be cool and go to cool things And what's my job to be cool? Well, it's like that's perfect in the trenches

I don't actually have sex lately, but you actually are cool actually do watch way too many viral videos And I know way too much about social media and random news of the online video space. It's really nerdy But I feel I'm hard to work but it's more tech based right? It's but it's not just tech. I'm not so hard to work, but it's more tech based, right? Well, it's, but it's not just tech. I look at online videos, right? Video is popular culture now. It's the new water cooler. It's what we're all sharing and social media

and this new generation of stars. Like I'm fascinated by this new talent. So I feel very fortunate because I hang out with everyone from 15 year olds to 50 year olds, which is also strange because like you see dynamics and relationships and I was talking about how we're in a weird time because in the workplace, never before, have you seen people interacting that are from 20 to 50.

And that's going to change people and who's together. And I feel like also it's hard. Why do you think like give me example of that? Well, because, well, you use the entertainment or I don't know if it's maybe, yeah, maybe it's just in these industries. Yeah, but then these industries are popping up in other cities. You don't need to be in Hollywood. That's the entertainment and new media and all that. You could be in any type of city. Right.

And there's someone for everyone. So you're saying people are stars at all. A different ages now. Well, I'm saying some of these companies are four years old or you know, all ages, but then they're working alongside these 15 year olds or 20 year olds who are literally very smart. They're marketing machines themselves. So it's not like, oh, you're in high school. Like there are people that are making careers in high school and making huge amounts of money. And then that just changes dynamics, right?

So do you, are you seeing then a lot of like people who cannot like this age gap? Well, that's what it's just awkward. Like I'll be, you know, there'll be a Vine star. That's like a vine star. I don't even know like Vine. It's an app that's exactly like one. Oh, no, no, no, but I'm just telling like a lot. We know what Vine is. Not everyone like my brother Michigan who's like really smart and successful does not know a Vine is. So Vine is an app that Twitter started six second videos. So if videos weren't short enough, they're getting shorter.

I did one. I, I, it's hard. It's more, it's fun. It's very creative. Oh, anyway, it's creative. It's very successful. Anyway, it's very successful. There are stars that have, as any platform has,

there are stars that rise on that platform. There's these like 19 year old two, it's like, sheeran, he's like, you know, it's like just strange because you, you're interacting like, I find I'm interacting with really young people and they're like flirting with me, maybe, but you're not sure, you're friendly and you're're like this is really I it makes me feel like oh This is a guys feel like because guys are flirting with girls of all ages all the time exactly

But then and then right so it's confused like I'm like are you supposed to be but like you look a bit older But I know you're younger and you're like making money super career. It's a very straight Area there's been any scandals in the end? Well, there's a lot going on with the scandals. There's a lot going on with digital stars that are over 21 guys, specifically. And the wall and the gap between a celebrity and their fan is smaller and smaller.

And fans can get in touch with the top-of-the-ring at stars. And so a lot of these guys that are in the 20s and becoming the stars, you know, they have their fans get in touch with them. They don't know if they're legal. Right. And there are a lot of scandals. James Franco, was it? Who was that? I mean, yes, supposedly he got in touch with this girl on Instagram. It was like publicly common thing. But is that what you're saying? No, like, because here's the thing. There's this guy. He's just be rock stars at concerts. So afterwards they had the fans, but now it's

like you can just public though. But then, but no, but so great now because now you can get laid in all these different Wait, I'm saying you could try to get laid in and I've been waiting in the way we're getting late. I know you didn't seriously I know you don't you but I think you were kind of there's all the scandals which is I mean there's a lot of Skandles there's like a lot of Internet stuff, but then there's also the other side of it, which is saying that these 20 something guys were getting all this attention suddenly. These are guys that are maybe losers, right? No offense or like kind of loners. So here's my third loners, maybe not getting laid either.

Yeah, maybe they weren't the typical day that were out of their way. I think it's a juby, but they're now they're now getting a lot of attention. They're like, I'm hot shit. And then girls are DM, DMing them. DMing, direct messaging. That's all that the DM. All these buzzwords. You need a phone number.

Or you just are messaging or they're meeting them in person. They're like, oh, this girl's cute. Yeah, let's meet in person and they don't realize they're underage, maybe. And maybe they put on the moves and all that. And then the girl blogs about it or Tumblr's about it. Like, how I hooked up with this guy and then basically, probably. Everyone knows your face is that, right? And it's illegal and like

these people can get put in jail but it's like you're yeah because of your yeah of course obviously obviously that's fine but there's this guy Sam Pepper specifically one he did a video slapping those asses and people considered that sexual assault and then the girls are coming out of the closet that he had tried to hook up with them when they were underage. And they were fans, but like, because they're like, oh yeah, I'm getting in touch with my favorite star.

And they're like, oh yeah, you're cute. Right. Or she puts on the moves or who knows. Exactly. But it's a weird time. That is a weird time. Sorry. But you are making living doing like that's kind of like the American Dream.

Like I'm going to make a really great video. Do it yourself. Yeah, the DIY media movement. You don't need a company or a network to hire you like if you have passions and you care about something. Totally. Totally. Exactly. If you have passions and... So what was your... Like you started your podcast? Exactly. Same thing. Started a podcast in 2005. I was thinking like I should...

It's like, till almost 10 years that I should do something. I don't know what like now you're like I thought about no tonight when I was driving him like wow, it's been almost 10 years. You should all party So I was so stressed and like why I let it go though, but like work I'm talking to you so funny because it's like everyone thinks everything so glamorous I'm like I talk about sex really like my friend was bumming out about her job I'm like I have what sex for living I need to try out sex toys and I get stressed that there's like six on my table that I haven't tried out, but that's real stressed.

It's like, we're pretty good lives, you know? Maybe you should start, yeah, I think every day you should make a conscious effort to be grateful for what you have. So yes, if you're grateful for your vagina, grateful that you can touch yourself and for some of your young people. I get paid to touch my vagina.

I'm so psyched. So what about you? So do you touch your written, no? We're at this in the show. We're I get paid to touch by the giant. I'm so psyched. So what about you? So, do you touch your written out? Okay, we're at this in the show. We're going to get back to the next. When I think about you touch my stuff. Do you play your sex toys at all? Yeah, I have sex toys.

Which one do you like? Oh my god. Well, I need to get new ones. Okay, I said you're coming to my garage. Yes, I'm open. I'm open. Actually, warnsap when he was a guest on my show. He, I guess, is a friend that has a sex toy company. I'll hook you up to but you probably know them, but He just like brought it. I've always been open about

I will not open like you Sorry, I'm trying to find my brain. I'm out of time I mean, I would assume that people are open. I mean have those things or have I mean, I would assume that people are open. I mean, have those things or have you. Right. You're talking about you. No, but we shouldn't be ashamed. More than 50.

Hello. There are Walmart. They sell vibrators everywhere. And the people don't realize the water. Exactly. But it helps, you know, it helps make sex�. All the whole thing is, it's hard for women to sometimes have orgasms.

But I want to start with, kiss it. I'm getting ahead of myself. So the last thing we do is back to the basics. And when we come back from the break, which we're going to take right now, is back to the basics, we talked about like the main cornerstones of sex, what you need to know. And this show has been extremely popular

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gone out with someone like on a date, you know, the first time you thought things were great, or not the first time, whenever you've got to the point in the relationship and you're like, ah, I think we're gonna make out. And you make out, and everything's great to them. Like you already like picture, like walking down the aisle, if you do that kind of thing, and then you kiss them.

And you're like, oh, oh. I was like, oh. I was like, oh. I was like, oh. I was like, oh. I was like, oh. I was like, oh. I was like, oh. I was like, oh. I was like, oh. I was like, oh. Licking your face like stuff is telling that I have you ever had kissing be a complete deal breaker You know what that's why I tended to the past they have

Drink like my first kiss is a lot of them were drinking because I love I'm such a good drunk kisser I'm like some of you are really sloppy. I feel like I am although drunk kisser Maybe I'm drunk to the one who you're kissing. Yeah, I think you're good. No offense drunk to the one who you're kissing. Yeah, I think you're no offense. Oh, my ruins ever when I was younger, though, someone there was like a rumor that I was a bag to start because I bit someone said someone said I bit their lip, which was a lie. I was sucking on their lip and I was being your time. Mental and cool. Okay. Anyway, you're cool. But I suck on the lip in seventh grade. No one knows that. I tell them right here on the show. And then they said I bid it.

That's BS. Okay. They just couldn't take my edge. Anyway, but like, I feel like I hate the thing of like you're a bad kisser. I think look at it as a challenge of like let's have them. Let me like, let's move with each other. I tend

to probably be the one that has a bit more of the empathy. So I love that. We tend to go with that person. And I hate the point of like you suck or I suck. I'm like, exactly. It's the way you work together. I'm glad you said that. I tend to go with that person. And I hate the pointing of like you suck or I suck. I'm like, it's the way you work together. I'm glad you said that.

And also, I think that one, if you just don't have sexual chemistry, you know, period. I mean, you can't fake that. But if you are attracting, there's something there. I think it's just about slowing down. You're like, hey, this is nice. Like, and I think it's about you, it's just slowing down. Exactly.

And taking the steps and like, look at it as like a fun game instead of like, oh, we're not right away attacking each other properly. Like our puzzle pieces don't fit. Exactly. That is not a reason to write. So I'm gonna say, I thought you might have a fuck is a lot of people I talk to.

I have no. I press the notification. I'm so impressed that you are not judgmental and you don't have a gross out story because I actually really don't either because I'm the same way Sometimes there's too much tongue those sometimes yes, but you can what I'm saying is don't let that be a deal breaker The first time you kiss someone and usually the first time you sex with someone Not as good it gets better. It's can get better. It gets better

But the first time you've used for the first time you kiss someone It doesn't have to mean that it's like over, because you know, it didn't work. So when it comes to kissing, especially with someone new, it's I think that you gotta start slow, less is always more. Even if you're so turned on and you wanna like devour and I'm gonna make this move,

it's resist the urge, because when you slow kissing down, then you can kind of get more into the violence. So I have a story of like, well, either it's too much tongue and you're like, uh, or too little. And you're like, give me something. Because it actually is like such a turn on

when you kind of get something more, right? Because you feel like that person's opening up, you're opening up to each other. But I had something where someone that I did like, but you got to like, follow each other. But I did like this person. And I gave him a shot of like our first kiss was really kind of it.

It was a bit awkward. Like, oh, do we do because they were a bit shy and they were shy. They were shy. They were shy. The guy was shy. Like didn't put his hand like I was I'm used to guys that are like come here, babe. We're like being really overly aggressive. You don't want to be too aggressive.

Well, no, but he was like, no, he was like, let's kiss and I was like, why are you at like, it was just one of those things. Like, let's kiss. Yeah, he said, let's get, I was like, all right. And then it was one of these things. I would say don't ask for permission. Ask for permission.

Well, yeah, typically, is that what they say? Ask, yeah. It was kind of cute, but then I was almost intrigued. Like, and I think typically maybe a girl would have been like, oh my god, why aren't they more aggressive? Or I want someone to lay their hands on me. And I was kind of like- It was sweet that he didn't attack you. And then I almost like- I was intrigued because we didn't, we had more of a kiss than a make-out session. And then it became a thing of like, I wonder what it would be like if we got to know each other more.

It was like we were kids again. So what happened? And then it ended up, like we ended up getting, you know, and like you kind of get to know each other. Every time you see each other, you kiss a bit more. It was like almost like a slower burn instead of jumping right into like this hardcore makeup session. And on the other hand, I've had a hardcore makeup sessions with guys and then I end up like sleeping with them right away or like you right away hook up, do everything

except have sex. And then you're like okay that happened You shouldn't have done that right away exactly and I have to say well I'm wondering what you're what you're taking done that because I often people always email me all the time and I was I also love your emails feedback at sex at elm.com I don't know if we're gonna get to them tonight, but I love hearing from you But I do get a lot of emails from people that do say that same thing that they, oh, that I've, that they wanted to,

how long should I wait to have sex? And I'm like, there is no hard and fast rule. I'm not going to say three dates. You know, people have like those rules for a month, six months. I just think that you can't, you can't, no one ever got in trouble for going too slow. Let's just say that.

And then, because what happens is if you have sex too quickly, and yes, you've all had one exams or coved up in the first date, I have all of a minute raised my hand. But the best part about sex is that anticipation and getting to know someone and that build up and that tension and that sexual tension. And that part of self-craft funds, you just squash it the first night, you know, hey, you can touch self. But then also, when we have sex too quickly, oftentimes, especially as women, we get really attached quickly because many women, oxytocin, chemicals in our body and all that.

And then, it becomes about the hot sex. We're going to have sex, we're going to have sex. And then, when you stop having sex, as happens in relationships, at least your sex life isn't as fast paced. Then you're like, oh, God, this person's awful. This person's a serically, so our Google you learn, you wake up. And so it's like almost like when you first start having sex

someone you're under influence of a drug. I've had a bit of an opposite. So my last relationship, which I was with this person for like four years, we know each other, though. So all right, it was different, but it's not like we went on dates or anything. And we did, it was one of but we it's not like we went on dates or anything and we did It was one of those nights we got wasted and ended up having sex and then right away It was like we were in a relationship. Oh really? Okay, I know. I'm not saying that that's happened

But it was interesting but like a lot of so then you know and some women But you have to just know yourself. You've to know the person right? Nothing is hard and fast. Of course that can happen too. I'm just saying if you're dating and you're not But at the same time one one of the, I do agree that one of the people in that dynamic will feel more serious about it once you have sex. And if it's consistent, if it's not just like one-night stand, you're either like, okay, this one is stand or death for you. But there will always be like in that circumstance where it's more than just the one night stand and you know each other one of the Like out of the partner partnership one of the two people will be into it for something more

Just like friends with benefits situations. They work until someone's really into the person and the person has a girlfriend Whoever doesn't care anymore and like you know, and it's true. It sex does distract you because you start It starts yeah, but there's nothing wrong with it. I'm just saying like and could get I'm not saying so I'm just saying that's what I say is to wait No one's gonna listen I probably would see you know I'm saying but I'm saying is a rule of like if you Think about it in your brain you're like I'm not sure if you're not sure Wait, I feel like you're me taking advantage of her like so is there before too. Okay, so now I'm just thinking like it's true I'm not saying that I could be I could be having sex after the show. I can meet a bar. I'm not saying I wouldn't have done it, but I hope so too, dude. I've got some I have me to meet someone nice here in LA that I want to sex with often and who wants to play with my toys.

So speaking of playing with yourself. Okay, so now I want to talk about that was Kissing's oh, so what I want to say about kissing is if you do kiss someone and let's say you like love everything about it, but the Kissing isn't driving or something else you can do is say okay, I want you first, okay, baby, it's so hot, wait, stop. I want you to kiss me the way that you want to be kissed. So like, let's say we were together, I'd say, sure, I'm gonna kiss you the way I want to, so then you get to see how I want to kiss, and then I'm gonna say, no, I'm gonna kiss you the way I want to

kiss you, and then you get to know the rhythm, and you let them lead, and then you kind of can learn from each other. I like that. If you'd like, it's like, I'd say everything else is great in your relationship, but the kissing, that's how you can fix it. Or sometimes start with the neck and then you just get turned on

and so you're not over thinking it. Exactly. So if you start with like nibbling and like doing little things, it'll be easier just to jump each other. Would you love the neck? The neck is like one of our most erotic zones, especially for women and men. Anderson, do you like getting your neck kissed?

It depends on who's kissing an Emily. Your wife, me. Yeah, yeah. You almost slapped my ass earlier. I should not say that. What's that now? Nothing. What happened?

What did you say? You almost slapped my ass earlier. It's true. You were bending over. It does this thing where she's constantly rifling through her purse. And I felt like maybe if I slapped her ass, she'd stop doing that in front. I always remember.

It's always time to go. And where is Emily? Your head's buried inside your back. I got so many, because my entire life out of my goddamn back. And also for you tonight, did that for my chia seeds in here, because I knew you were going to make fun of me. I just want you to know that I'm back.

Yeah, Emily comes in. You need to know this guys. Emily comes in with this water bottle It looks like LG's growing in it. It does and she sucks it down like it's okay Cheesy or it's a good a lot of cup of come Well now that's the one It looks like I'm like that porn Sargo words come and it looks like that. I'm looks like I'm like your vampire juice It's like you're drinking blood. You're like I'm a success that would be so much better such a better story If I was like oh by the way when I've got a com habit

Hey, I can put up with a lot, but if you're just coming in here drinking Bucket's a com can't be friends anymore. It gives me energy and you should totally sell that on your side I buy it on the black mark. I'm juice. Is it black? Come? No, black dude's come Jewish come by make you love our joke right until what you say Jewish come make you No Jewish come makes you neurotic and cheap okay Not all cheap just neurotic. Yeah, no, we're just talking about that I'm like everyone's around but there is a certain like my friend calls it like the jujeeing. Yeah, I hear you I'm there. I'm a dude. No judgment. I'm gonna do two, but it's like, you know, okay.

So now we're going into manual. We're talking about the basics. We got kissing, but here's the thing manual simulation. What was that same you giving a job? She'll be honest. I give hand jobs. And I'm I like giving low jobs. I'm a blow job person. Okay, do you want to skip to the blow jobs? No, I don't. No, I think it's a blow job. So if I don't. No, I think it's a blowjob. I think it's a blowjob.

No, I think it's important. I think that. Because people don't often give, I feel like they've like, I'm trying to bring it back. Listen, it's a lot of work. Your arm starts hurting. I'm going to be fine. Yeah, it does.

But usually you let a lose. No, I think you're hurting. I think you're hurting. My arm does it. Now I'm doing P90, so now I have better muscle. No, okay, you should give. I'm fine. I'm fine. Give my arm doesn't now I'm doing P90 so now I've better Okay, you should go find a guy and give me killer. He just kidding 90% that was not strong And so doing that be like oh, so I'd have to like Change will not get her and did during a hand job alternate hands Handjobs always feels like so high school. I'm okay. So here's the thing

This is what I'm saying. I want to bring the hands up. But it's important. I think it's, I think not exclusive. We're not gonna replace it with the blow job people. Don't get, don't get worried. I just want to bring it back into it. Like, here's the thing guys, like I can do it. It feels good. But if you do like two hands, Luke, you can touch a guy's penis in a different,

like yes, he touches it every day. But like the flashlight, it's like by flashlight or like have someone else touch your penis. I'll be honest, I think that for play play is always like we focus on for play for women because it's like we need this much time to get to that. We forget about actually I think the men have been forgotten about. I think I think apps in terms of that because we're like oh they'll just be happy with sex so we don't need to do all that other stuff.

Where I think if a woman goes out of her way to do those little things, I actually think a guy will you're a keeper. Yeah, exactly, exactly. And I think that, he's a keeper, where she's a keeper. No, I think the girl's a keeper. If you're willing to do the little she should. And he should, and you're right.

And so that's why I'm talking about the hand. I'm not saying again, because I've, and have fun with it. It becomes the thing of like, oh, go. Five years ago on my show, I had like the hand job debate going on, because with Menace, who has been on my show for years, we have this thing back and forth,

and he's like, no one wants a hand. I'm like, no, but I'm not saying instead of a blowjob, and the whole audience, I was trying to say no blow jobs and only hand job. It's about having fun though. You sure, okay, so this side you do it. Lots of lube, because you don't want to tug, you don't want to hurt someone a man if he's not lubricated

Yeah, down there because it hurts to rub it without you know Just go down there and you don't really you know, so you don't rub it don't you just move it instead of rubbing it? Yeah, you like okay, so perfect much you gotta get a grip the first thing making okay sign with your hands You can wrap you can you can do it around your Starbucks thing here wrap your finger us Who's big I first I have to say you wrap your fingers around your Starbucks thing here. Wrap your finger up to big. I appreciate it. So you wrap your fingers around your pins with your index finger or a middle finger meeting your thumb.

Got it? This okay grip will allow you to travel the full length of his penis. Do you know what I've learned, Reese? I just ask I go, I want to watch you touch yourself. Give me a thumbs up. Oh. And then I say, I want to watch you because every guy has a different way of liking it. Yes.

They'll be like, oh, I like it more pulled up and they're like the tip. It's called mutual masturbation. Do it on a second date. And then you're going to be like, ask him, like, am I doing it properly? Or do it in front of me? And then you would actually learn a lot.

You would learn some education. It's called mutual masturbation. And I often, no, not every see what I mean. I just, okay, so instead of just being like, yeah, rubbing it off, like, oh, it's like a chore. Exactly. And so, right, right, you're like, what am I doing? But here's the thing, if you imagine every guy touches every woman, you put a hundred

women in a room and you're like, you want that they're all masturbating, every single one of them will be touching themselves in a different way. We always think guys just want it the same way every guy also does it. Balls touch some guys lines there. Shaft off some because the tips really sensitive. You know, whatever. So there's lots of different things and mutual masturbation is a great way to start. So I always say like you can so hot because you're watching each other but you're getting

yourself off and you're actually you're learning about what your partner likes and how she or her touch your self. Have them put your hand on it and show you, yeah. Right, so but if you're going in loop free, go gentle and slow and the number one mistake that women do make during hand jobs, do you know what it is? Tug of war.

Tugging. Tugging is the number one mistake. Tug of war. Think of a hand job as a penis massage. You're trying to pleasure like the muscles underneath not like tug this guy's top. Yeah, be slower and tighter and grip and like pull up a bit. Exactly, right, good.

So you've given a hand job, right? Pull up a bit. Wow, I'm like impressed myself. I know, I'm just saying. Do you know about the the sausage wrap? Oh, like like this. Right. I was like doing it, but no one can see what I'm doing. You know, yeah, that's the double-handed, but I'll just because just because you took

a guess, I'm going to say yes. But if you wrap all your fingers on a chef and you use both hands and you're going to go to the sauce loop and you go both ways. So here I'm saying, and then you can go back and give them a blow. It's like a way to just to mix it up or sometimes because yeah, you get tired. So you need to mix it up. You gotta always get tired. You can't get tired.

Guys get tired too, we roll sex on women. So, you know, I'm saying just, you know, go down that that's another way because guys aren't always, okay, yes, usually they are turned down where having sex, but a lot of times you're not. And they might need your help a little bit and they might not, they can't start having sex and you think, well, I'm gonna go right to a blow job,

start with a little loop, try to get my hand job and then you can work into the blowjob, which I was actually going to move into. I'm going to do this next week because I'm just going to, I talk about a lot, oral going down a woman, which I do a lot of my shows. So I'm just going to stick since I have a woman here to the blowjob tips. I want to be here for it. So I'm actually going to put the oral sex and women Connolingus, as we call it. Who called it Connolingus?

Okay, so for women, so so this is the back to basic show because I feel like there's lots of stuff. Like how did you learn how to give a lot of job? How did I learn? I think being with, I've been in non-stop I think relationships, so I got to know people and then by asking, like what do you want, what do you like? And I think also think about enjoying it,

like enjoying turning someone on, being turned on by turning someone on, and not just thinking about myself, and then, I have watch porn, like, as a woman. What do you like? Why don't like specific things like, oh, I'm like, but like more just like,

I'm aware of the landscape. What women does the important, or do you watch men, like men? I've done, I've done, I've watched it all, but like, and so you're, that's like, you're evading, she won't answer. No, I will wait yo you got jumped I'm all answer what turns me on the most I think I like when I do see I think a guy involved because it makes me feel like oh I'm remind reminds me of most scenario I could

be in do you know when I'm and I actually learn this from love line oh my god I started to bring that up but when I feel like I'm like I actually learned this from love line. Oh my god, I started bringing that up But when I feel like I'm like, oh, I'm not sure about this. We're like, you know, you're stressed You're like I can't get into this for some reason you're over thinking it. You're like not way enough for into it enough I and I think you might have said this years ago Okay, he's actually here. Dr. So it's getting so she said he said imagine yourself like you're in a porn or like Imagining someone else doing that on someone else like when you be turned on, if you saw someone getting that done to them, right?

And then I think about that as if it's this like existential like I'm watching myself and I'm like, wow, that's pretty hot. So that's amazing. Dr. Duke, I mean, I know he's helped like millions of people's like, but I literally think about it as a surgery, but I probably do think it is millions. That's amazing. That is that's a so now you're imagining myself like visually and I know how as visual, but I'll be like that is so hot that they're touching me in this way. Like instead of it being like, uh, what does that feel like now? Or like I'm not into this enough. I start visualizing it.

So like when you're giving him blowjob, you're thinking, God, this is really hot because what if someone else was seeing and then you can really have a radical. They're doing something to me and I'm like, I don't but I'm like then I think about it as I'm watching it I'm like, oh, that's kind of hot though right that's just for the record guys droos in here saying that you guys got a Completely backwards and you never said anything Really tell him to come in He said he said that guys like to imagine that they are the guy that's in the point. Oh, no, but that's true

No, that is true, but we're talking about actual stuff. No, he missed it. Drew, you've probably had a different- I feel like everyone missed everything. No, what happened was we're talking about that she heard I love like a woman was calling up and saying she wasn't turned on. Yeah, she's having, or no, was that,

oh, I thought that was, maybe it was another thing. I'm sorry. Someone was a talker. I don't know, no, no, no. If this is what you're saying is right. You're not sure that said it, but it's true. It's that porn. It's that women, what would you visualize?

So if you're not turned on. If I'm not feeling turned on, it's not about not being turned on by the scenario, like stress or overthinking it, and I'm not wet enough, sometimes by thinking of myself like visualizing what's happening to me, I'm like, wow, that is hot. It's like a realization, this is a hot moment to like appreciate it

and just like enjoy like what's happening and be touching me in the things. Yeah, exactly. So I do believe that somebody would say that I'm out of line. Did a doctor do like to now he's back track and saying, yeah, I probably said that. See, do okay, right?

See, because he come jumping in that. No, and that does help. And I find it actually the hot of your, people are so in their heads, like they're so worried about and they're not and just try to fail what is it what's going on in the moment and they do like he's he's worshipping my body he's making like I was watching that maybe that's like and porn is a weird thing for me because then I like I have had you know guides in my life that I'm like really

into and really like are really into porn and then I've had some that aren't and then I'm like and then it's, you know, strange, that strange, great air, you know, like the balancing act of how much porn is healthy. That's true. That's a big issue. At the same time I've had some of the best sex or experiences I've had. So I've watched porn with my singing partner.

No, it's awesome. I mean, I always tell couples if you're, you know, God, I mean, there's so many different things. Obviously, people can have a porn habit and it can be destructive in relationships, but it feels like it's like this dirty secret that the guys are like hiding in the basement, but your partner might be into it. Or if you do it sometimes with them, like, we, like, so I had met up.

It turns you on. Like, they're like, oh, he does it. He likes it. He likes it. I mean, no, he has to do is. I'll end do with you. And you can even do it together and we're just relaxed. I met a porn star in the next day and she tried to have a

anyway a threesome with you. You know, she tried to have a lesbian experience. Wait, did you have one? I did it and I should have done it with her because I would say if I'm going to have a lesbian experience tomorrow, and he's the real girl that's going to give me attention because I can't deal if she's giving me a guy attention. Oh, so I'll buy you.

That's how the season should be. Anywho, but the next day I ended up watching with that person at the time, porn with her, like in it. Wow. So then did you tell them the story that you could have had a threesome? Well, they knew. Yeah, he had been there the night before. Do you want to have you had one before?

I have not. And I think it's on the list. I think it would be. I mean, I'm not that I think so. It's on the list. I think it would be. I mean, I'm not opposed to it. Right. But yeah, there, there, I feel like if it's another girl that I'm like, Oh, she's hot and she's into the guy I'm with. I would start getting in my head about it. So, okay. So let's go back to the thing. Let's go back to base.

So oral sucks. So how did you say you learned you've been around the block? I think it's just. I'm a huge slut. I'm not. You think you made a great point that enthusiasm what we how we started this whole thing was being into it that that across the board, if a guy's performing oral sex on us or we're on him, if we're not into it, we're not excited, we're not enthusiastic and enjoy it. And enjoy it. And go out like into it. And so that was a great tip that Dr. Drew gave, either did or not give years ago about that even if you can get into and God, I'm giving to this person like worship the people like so many women

they say don't like performing oral sex. I find really interesting. And it's like how can I I wrote I've written lots of blogs and talk about what I'm very excited is that you you have to like you have to change your minds at about what that this is a part of the so many love like whatever you're and their penis is an extension of their body. Yeah, you're turning them on. So you're turning them on.

You're pleasing them. And then that it comes back to you. If you can get into the mode of like being I think into and just like like take it like it's it's you're like you're making out with their penis. And don't think of it as a step like oh no, I'm going to look up. Just be like I've this thing. I'm going to just be like devour it. Yeah, I'm going to be slow and tickle and then maybe go a bit faster and then just enjoy it. Right.

And then be turned art. Yeah, be turned on by the fact you're turning someone else on. Take your power. This is what I have to say is that that's the magic key there is that the ability to get turned on because you're turning someone else on. I think there are people who miss that sexual. And by the way, if you give a good blow job, you will keep that person there. You have the power.

Let me tell you. How do you know you give a good one? They tell you often they can be lying, but if they are consistently asking you to get a good blow job. Okay, so what's your top look at the top tip then. I know it's like, I think that I enjoy it. Like I'm really into it. I honestly, that is probably the best.

And they see that and they're like, oh my God. Because they do. Because there's this idea that a lot of women don't like it. Right. So I think when they find, when guys see a woman that they're with, that likes it, they're like, wow, this is amazing, this is like a miracle. Right. And so and I think it's most girls like, okay, and they lick it or they do. No, you and like actually spending time down there and like not feeling.

How do you feel about balls? I'm like, like, glicking and tickling and all that. I like post traumatic ball disorder. Why? Because I once heard balls. I heard a guy's balls and I was like, I don't remember. You've heard them? I like didn't mean to. I did something. He's like, I didn't touch balls for years. Like, I don't know, I was a long time ago. I didn't mean to, I did something. You got to run, so then I didn't touch balls for years. Like I forgot, I blocked them for my brain. Oh, no. So I must have, I thought I gave good blow jobs, but I think I just like avoid it.

But that's okay, sometimes I hurt some. But some guys don't like their balls touched. Hope so. Yes, those are the ones I was dating. Well, I know that too. Yeah, but you have to lick up and down. I mean, we could get into it. Yeah, we can get into it lick.

All right, so you want to see what you got. So typically I might even start like I'm kissing. I'm kissing the neck and then I kiss the chest. Then all the way down while sometimes playing with balls. And then you look up and down the shaft. And then you hold, you know, and then it's like a bit of a hand job with your mouth. But then the tip guys like the tip.

The tip is the most sensitive part of that. And the funulom, the right, the front of it, right? Beneath the tip. Yeah, which I've talked about. It's true. The tip is the most sensitive part of that and the fernulum, the right, the front of it, right beneath the tip. Yeah, which I've talked about. It's true. The tip is the most sensitive part. But then enjoy it. And then like it's like don't go to, it's like you'd be surprised guys while they might touch themselves really fast. Like sometimes if you do too fast, it almost feels numb and they won't really feel it. Yeah, you want to change it. Just like when you're performing or? And then just ask like, do you want me to to do it softer or harder or faster?

I think it's about asking, because every guy is different. I think that women underestimate how different guys are, because it's always assumed that women are the different ones. But guys have their preferences too, and some guys, yeah, a lot of their balls being touched sometimes don't, I mean, that's what I've realized. That's true. No, until you try, until you mix it up. I contact sometimes, make little eye contact, do you ever do that? realized. No, until you until you until you try until you until you mix it up. I contact sometimes make little eye contact.

Do you ever do that? Yeah, I do not want to look. No, I do. I mean, I like look at I once again, I feel like it's like a control. I have a bit of maybe control issues like I feel like I'm taking charge and I'm like, Oh, yeah. Oh, that's that's great. That you are taking.

And it's I think for men who are always put in charge and we always expect the man to have the right moves. The man's got to ask us out. The man's got to know exactly how our vagina works, even though every single vagina is different. We don't, we don't like get credit. Like we don't try to figure them out as well. But I've also gone with age. Like I would never, you never did the sounds.

Like I was a silent type. Oh, that's, and then recently I started being like, yeah, like almost almost just like to Yeah, like Be like it's the porn thing. I think it's like that. I do that. I'm in a porn or something Oh, okay, you think you got it from porn because I know but I'm in a porn like I'm the managing myself in my own little porn That's awesome that that's you know what? I'm telling you to hearing auditor like I love the set I mean, I think a lot of me not

I need you for a second, but's take a second. Okay women and and and no sex making noises not too much. Yeah, yeah, it's got to be authentic. It's got to be real. Yeah, you cannot be trying to perform. Yeah, how can you tell if she's before because I have a friend who's like in his 40 days, someone is 20. He's like every girl I sleep with. It's like I'm saving with a foreign star. Well, they probably are they're probably watching the For some probably trying to Anywhere they're here. They're they're faking like that. This is how it's supposed to be and this is oh this must feel good He's jackhammering me even I'm in pain. You hate the jackhammer

No, I never find ourselves in a weird place where we have to have sex. I will not jackhammer It's so sweet Anderson. That's really kind of you. I appreciate that Anderson will never jackhammerers. It's so sweet. Anderson, that's really kind of you. I appreciate that. Anderson will never jack am we. No one will. There will listen to show. He's a good person. He takes care of me. Okay. So, if you're undeserved, I mean, I think it's more like I'm comfortable with myself and

I have fun with it. It's just more of a fun with it. It's true. It is confidence. But then there's the line of like, yeah, people trying it too much because we're all being influenced by point these days, the younger generation specifically and it's everything so accessible. They think that's the way to have sex and like be accepted in the bedroom. Exactly.

That's what that's what upsets me. So you put the thing that I love that you're saying sure is that you have this very authentic sexual voice and sexual whiteness. I'm putting myself on the screen. No, no, I'm being honest with you that there's a lot of women. You wouldn't, you don't get that. They're like, oh, yeah, I mean, I can, just as many women say, you're going,

hey, give me a little job. I'll do it. I'm married. I stopped doing it. Davey walked down the aisle was the last time you got a little job. You know what I'm saying? And the fact that you get that that is like,

you're making love to him. It's part of him and it's, and then you can get yourself into it and you're turned on by it. And it was something maybe you were born with, but you, I was born with it. I was born with it. And then you, and then're turned on by it. And it was something maybe you were born with, but you I was born to do it. And then you and then you learn to love it. So even if it's something that you're not into, no, people can still learn how to get in the moment during sex. And you say that you do that as well. And people feel insecure. I think if they either weren't into in previous relationships or yeah, we're told like you like this isn't good and so right they don't touch that area anymore

Exactly, you've just stopped judging yourself and every person is a new person to like jump back in That's how I say it's like first first time you said someone's like it's a new new opportunity a new chance And sure there's certain things like we always say like go slow Pay attention to what your partner wants, but really it's a clean slate. It's a holy person Different questions like how do you ask though? I'll just be like, how does this feel? Does it feel good? What else do you do? You say, how does this feel?

How does this feel? No, I'm like, you said, hey, what's wrong? I mean, it's got this feeling. Baby, it has it. It's between me. No, I just feel like, how does this feel? It's so job-failed. It's between me.

I'll be like, is this good? Or no, I'll be like, how does it feel? How does it feel? Oh, what else do you want? Does it this good? Or know we like, how does that? I'll be like, how does it? Oh, what, what else do you want? Is this feel good? And sometimes like, yes, I've asked we got it feels good. No, but you don't want to interrupt it. I think it's sexy that to hear, I think that also sound a lot with guy. Like I have a friend and he was so afraid that his neighbor, he's been watching porn lately. He mooned to an apartment building. He always

watches porn. But the neighbor's walls is so close. So now he watches porn without sound for the last six months, and he's like, and it's so disappointing. And then he realized he could just put his headphones in, and it took him like six months to realize now the porn again is so much better. Cause the sound is part of his part.

Yeah, but then there's the balance, though. Too much sounds like, oh yeah. No, like everything in moderation. Everything went on. I like guys to make some sound too. I was with the guy I went to, this is how I knew, I didn't even know you orgasm. I had to have the music off.

I couldn't breathe. It'd be like, I was like, did you just, you like, it was so, I don't, you want to feel like there's some communication. How do I know? I think that was an orgasm. It was so annoying. Again, it doesn't have to be extreme.

You have to be screaming, yelling and moaning. But like, let me know that you're into it. Like, well, yeah, I talked dirty to me, which was what we were going to get to next, but we actually have to wrap up. It was to do this forever. I don't see. I know. I love it.

I have been doing it forever. And Sheryl Azar, what's trying to, we didn't even get it away. Like what's trending inside. I don't know. But we got to do it. This is like my other side. even get it away. What's trending? I don't know. We got it. It's like my other.

There's no point. That's my professional stuff. This is more my, let's talk about where people can find you and check out all of our awesome stuff on YouTube, your website. Give it all. Yeah. YouTube.com slash what's trending what's trending.com? You're talking about what's trending.

What's trending. I'm so hyperactive because I've had so much caffeine. I'm on this crazy exercise diet. That's all I can do. Okay. Shea Lazar. Okay. go. Anderson, you're awesome. Thank you for everything. I have to say one more thing. That's really important. Yeah, the film vault.

Thanks. The film vault podcast was about where we had the top five most best disabled characters on film. It was a good one. Fantastic one. Okay, everyone check out his podcast. One more thing I have to say. Space at this the beginning.

I am teaching a back to school hustler workshop. I'm going to go to the website. I'm going to go to the website. I'm going to go to the website. I'm going to go to the website. I'm going to go to the website. I'm going to go to the website. I'm going to go to the website. I was a good one. Fantastic one. Okay, everyone check out his podcast. One more thing I have to say, I base this at the beginning. I am teaching a back to school hustler workshop

and it's in San Diego. It's on October 25th. So RSUP Feedback at sexelmy.com. And my first hustler workshop I did in Los Angeles was like 250 people there. It was crazy, crazy, crazy. And it's for men, women, couples, I'll be in San Diego at the hustler Store. Again, it's October 25th.

It's three in the afternoon, three to five. I think it's Sunday. So check that out. Did you? Did you title it? I'm going to Facebook and Twitter. Did you title it back to school? Yeah. That's a little questionable. Oh, I didn't. I didn't write that. But just a little questionable. No, my sister. I did not write back school. No, I didn't actually write back. The question, right? I don't mean, but of thanks, Anderson, calling me out.

It's alright, it's October. It feels September, that'd be weird. Like back to school, sex shot. What, I have kids, it's in the college town, okay? There's gonna be a lot of students there. I'll teach you a lot. How to blow his in her mind. Okay, everyone, follow me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram,

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