Sex With Emily - Slump Buster

Episode Date: October 27, 2011

Why women love the bad boy, why Menace isn't having sex, serial monogamy, how to talk dirty, making noise during sex, losing your virginity at 30, why you might need a "slump-buster," how to be a better kisser, what being on break really means to your relationship, how long foreplay should last, how to undress your partner, and how important is an emotional connection during foreplay? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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It's raining and I ran here. So I'm sweating and I have water all over me. Yeah. So if you have the video podcast, if you have the video podcast, you can see me so wet, baby. Yeah, so go to sexwithemily.com. Check that out. I am sweating hot. Yeah.

How are you menace? I'm good. How are you doing today? I'm good. I'm good. I'm really good. Yeah. Really busy but really freaking good.

All right. Yeah. I'm so happy. I'm so good. We still have a lot of work because I'm going to Michigan to see my family. I know. And you sprung the saw me this year. I know. I'm so sorry, I didn't tell you. I'm so sorry, but we're doing more shows

because so everyone has a show every day and not that stuff. So we're just busy, but we're good. And so today's, I just want to tell everyone a little bit about what they're going to hear today on the show because we've got an exciting show as usual. We've got your emails, and a lot of people, as awesome, you're just going to ask Emily on my website,

really easy way to email me. And you are are or feedback at sexcelmy.com. Topics include male arousal, dirty talk, breakups and how to get better oral sex from your partner. Today we'll be talking about how to give how to have great sex without actually having intercourse. Oh yeah, we were talking about that last year. I know because it's like people just assume that sex they like that you have sex and they mean in and out penetration. There is so much more that people can do that doesn't involve. No right but we're saying that this is we have some specific tips for you to connect with your partner in other ways that don't include

intercourse. All right some special things that people can do. I want to know. And then we got some good stuff. We got some really good stuff. And I'm so sweating. And then I just dripping. I'm wet. I'm so wet. I'm so wet. Oh my god. Baby, yeah.

And we did have a question about phones like today. So maybe I can get into my I'm so wet. That's good. How are you doing? I'm good. We had a phone conversation yesterday. Yeah. Do you want me to do it now?

Yeah. Talk to me about it because I'm at the edge of my seat. Are you? Totally. I have no idea. So, Emily and I had this phone conversation the other day. So, we are doing other shows. And then, later on this week, is it Thursday? The interns will be on, right? Again, yeah, Thursday. Thursday.

So, you know, when I do a radio show, I want to do the best show that I can possibly do. And especially, you know, with this show, I believe it's like, you know, you gotta share a lot of your life. Right. And that's what I've done on other shows and they've done really well.

And I think for the past couple of months, I haven't really shared too much, you know? It's like, we're having a sex show. Like, we should be like talking about about sex and having sex with people. Right. And so I kind of want to explain why I haven't been sharing too much. Okay. Okay.

So I have to go back and let people know because I want to be out there banging chicks and sharing it on the air. Like I don't care. Right. So I want to explain why I've been so reserved. Okay. Not sharing. Okay. I'm done. So this is the reason why I've been so reserved. Okay. Not sharing. Okay.

I'm done. So this is the reason why I haven't really been having too much of a sex life. Okay. And I'll explain why I'm not having a sex life. Why? So we have to go back to when I was engaged when I lost my mind. Okay. So I got engaged, right?

Like about a year and a half ago. A year and a half ago. So before that half, you knew her for five minutes. For five minutes and then I got engaged if people don't know. And that lasted about, I don't know, six months, right? So that's all over with. I'm fine. Everything's cool.

But before that, I was hanging out with a girl. And this girl worked with me on one of my radio shows. Okay. All right. You're like nervous right now. No, no, no, I just wanna make sure I explain it right and I don't drag it on and it just kinda goes. So this girl worked with me on one of my radio shows. I lost my mind, I got engaged and the girl

that I got engaged to New about this other girl. Okay, so she's like Because you were sleeping with a lot of people in your office at that time because you know I always do that right so She's all yeah, I don't I don't want this girl hanging around you you know So I had to tell her like yeah, I can't have you work with me on my stuff anymore Okay, and I had to like end it at that point So and your friendship or end the working together?

Like kind of just okay got it both together, you know, so When it started getting like really bad in my Relationship in my engagement. Uh-huh I started feeling more and more bad about what happened with the girl before. The girl and I before had a you know an understanding is like you know we're not going to be boyfriend girlfriend and stuff like that. So it's not like I broke up with this girl to be this with this girl. The part I felt bad about is that I said, oh, you can't work with me anymore

because that's what she wanted to do. So I made some calls and I got her a gig like a part-time job in the industry and stuff like that. To make myself feel better. Right. So that happened. So then my, you know, sorry, I'm trying to get to the point. So then my engagement ends and then you know I go ahead and I live the single life and

then me and this other girl were cool again and all that stuff. You're cool again, did you start sleeping with other again? We sleep, yeah, here and there. But it's not like, you know, this is my girlfriend. I'm hanging out with other people. Right. So so We're also friends and we talked a lot and Just recently, you know, because she only had a part-time gig. Right. She wasn't making a ton of money in radio You know this. Yeah, don't make a lot of money. Don't make any money barely any

So she's having problems with the place that she lived and So she was having problems with the place that she lived. And when I was first starting out in radio, I was having the same issues, I wasn't making any money. I was having problems somewhere. You were sleeping at the radio station. I was like at the radio station. And the phones were allowed.

So my buddy took me in. He let me live that in my place until I can get on my feet. And then so basically that's kind of what I did with this girl because she needed a place to stay. So I've been letting her live at my house for like three months. Wow. But she just got a full time. So what does that mean?

So that means that I can't bring over girls to my house. Oh, because she's been saying it in your studio. Like in your bed? Yeah, but we're not like, you know, you're not such a mom. Well, once in a while, we're gonna drug. But I'm just saying like, I, you know, I can't, I don't want to make her like comfortable living there, like it's all good, it's like, you know.

So you're saying that's, but can't you, okay, what I understand is can't turn up at the chicken, go home with her to her house? To the chicken, I could, I could do that if I wanted to. But the other thing is, I also have to go home because I, I go. Are you gonna have to form the morning thing is I also have to go home because I you get up before in the morning. Well, yeah I get up in four in the morning and also I don't give her a key to my house because I don't want her to get like too comfortable like So you have to keep constantly meeting her when she needs to get back in is Three months. What a nightmare. Yeah, so that's what's been going on with me. Okay. Do you really like this girl?

You know, we're like we're really cool, you know, and, you know, I would feel even worse that somebody helped me out in the same position. Right. You got to pay it forward. Like someone helps you. What comes around goes around. I do that all the time. I help people. That's good. Okay. So you're not having sex because you're giving back to this woman that you sometimes have sex, but so you are having sex. Yeah, but not like constant. Right.

Because I don't want to get in like, oh, you know, we're having sex all the time. You're letting my house, everything's all good. Right, right, right. Are you getting sick of that? Are you getting sick of this woman living that you look kind of like it? No, no, no.

I'm not. You've only been living there for three months. Jesus, you had a girl move there. Yeah, I was barely, yeah. I was very little in my life. Three months kind of pushing it. I think she should tell you. So it's kind of hurt me.

No, no, yeah, but she just recently got a full time gig. So it is all, it's all good. So it is just transitioning to re-enactment. Okay, got it. So, so then you're gonna be like a man let out a jail and you're just gonna be begging everyone. I'll try. Okay.

Then I'll be sharing a lot more. Okay. So I know I don't wanna make this like an everyday topic because, I get it. I'll forget. I'll forget. All right, good. So, I wanna do a better radio show and you know we do a radio show about sex and I want to share more sexual experiences I'm having but talk about the sex here having with this girl what's the deal what do you mean well like you have sex when you're drunk

but does she want more from you do you want more for her it's like totally not it's just like yeah she doesn't like try to come after me. I don't try to come after her. It's just when you're drunk, you grow up and leave. Yeah, you know, whatever. Right, what else? Whatever.

I'm not getting anywhere else. OK, that's true. No, right, right. And she's there. You're having your bed. So it's awesome. OK, cool. Yeah, but no, it's just like.

I got it. I got it. You've been going through it just having a roommate is a lot of work. Yeah, I never and you've a studio Small, right? It's like I never go and like kiss this chick like every day like a boyfriend girlfriend. You know like welcome home I mean, like that's a turkey pot pie. Okay, that never happens

Got it. Okay, well good to know because I'm glad to know that you're gonna be getting out there soon to To fill the content of the show. I'm trying and I have a date tonight with this guy that I met on Friday night. I'm gonna move in with him. I'm gonna move in with him next week. Um, he's my boyfriend. Um, he doesn't know yet. No, he's cute. He's really, uh, he's really hot. Like, I, whoa, not that, you know, it's not about that. But he was. I met on a party. It was like, like, we, we had met before and he said that he said a crush on me and he became a, he's a friend of a. Oh, you love that because you like the attention part. No, I like, you know, you know what I like about him that he, it's whatever. I'm, it's been three, four days, five days is that he's just like cool.

Like he's like, I'm into you. I like you. Like, let's go out. He's not playing games. He's not, he's like, let's go out tonight. Let's, I want to see you. I, he's just cool. And he's, all right.

So what are you going to do? We're going to go to dinner and drink somewhere. I don't know where yet. And he wants me, my dog, and my dog's the beach already. My dog's at Stinson Beach today with a friend. What? My dog, what? It's raining.

It's pouring rain. Oh, that's why I'm so wet if anyone's watching. I'm really, really wet. You're going to get your dog at your house and try to bring a guy over probably. The dog isn't going to be around. He's like, I really want to meet your dog. But my dog is at the beach for two days.

Oh my god. I'm trying to get points by saying, oh, I want to meet your dog, but my dog is at the beach for two days. Oh my God. I know. He's trying to get points by saying, oh, I want to meet your dog. Oh, he doesn't give a shit about a dog. Yeah, no. What? That's what he said. I want to meet your dog.

But he's cute. And he's like, the night, and he's like, a first guy I've met, wow, that I've been like attractive. And like, oh, wow. Like, not just he's a nice guy, and I can kind of get my head around it, but like, oh, I'm actually like, I'm attracted to him in these cool. That story, I'll tell you all about it tomorrow. Yeah, I can't wait. I can attracted to them in these cool. That story, I'll tell y'all about it tomorrow.

Yeah, I can't wait. I can't wait either. So it'll be fun. And dinner then drinks. You know what that leads to? I love dinner than drinks. Drinks than dinner or just drinks the whole thing. Yeah.

And he's, in the reason why I really like him, okay, I think that we did this poll a few weeks ago, like most people meet online dating, but another way that people meet is through friends. And one of my favorite, favorite people in the city, like an old friend of mine, he is really good friends with this guy and he's been talking about him and talking about him, he's like,

you gotta meet him, you gotta meet him. And so I met him and I was like, oh yeah, I get it. And in fact, this friend of mine that I love, he's one of my favorite people in the San Francisco for real, I always say, I'm like, he's my favorite person in San Francisco, it's the fact that he likes this guy, knows this guy, it's like. I always say I'm like he's my favorite person San Francisco It's the fact that he likes this guy knows the sky. It's like all good. I feel like he's already vetted I got to ask this this guy do yoga and no he's like a dude

What he's like a dude dude? No point no polyamory. Nope. Nope. Nope crazy. No, no nothing crazy He's actually like to go meditate for like nine months, somewhere. He's totally dude. He's like, actually a dude, no. No. He's a total dude. I mean, I don't know, I don't know him that well,

but we'll see what happens tonight. So it'll be interesting. So that'll be fun. And then I leave. And then I had a date with the guy, the blind date that took, brought his mother along that I talked about a few years ago, that guy was in for my life.

I planted them tomorrow night. He has, he has to be here on Thursday for business, for my LA. So he's like, what do I count points? And we go out. But I've got this crazy thing that I do. And I, and I, no, I told him, and this was two weeks ago, and he's like, can I, can I see you Wednesday night

before you go? And I was like, I have this crazy thing before I travel that I love traveling. I love being in an airplane like, I have this crazy thing before I travel that I love traveling. I love being on an airplane, like I love the whole thing, but I get everything done that night. Like soon as I'm up to like five in the morning or four in the morning before a flight

because I know I can sleep the whole day. And I get this, it's like I'm total ADD but I can totally focus the last minute. And I love to be up all night. Like not all night, like packing and working. And I just clean up my house and just, I get it because I hate coming home when it's messy not seen so I have this ritual that before I go on vacation I just get a bunch of shit. I make a lot of you get a bunch of stuff done

So I try to explain it to them and he's like you don't want to see me again I was like no no no no It's not that I don't want to see you have to understand that I have this thing that I have to do is that sound weird He's like well you have to I'm asking you two weeks in advance. Can't you plan ahead? to I'm asking you two weeks in advance. Can't you plan ahead to get a stop-dance? You just say you wanna bang somebody else. He doesn't even think about that. He doesn't think you're telling the truth.

I never really did that. I'm telling you the truth. I've got this thing. I wish I wasn't like this. I wish I wasn't like the last minute, but I can get more done. I know it sounds silly, but I'm just a work obsessed and I can get more done.

And he was like, I think you want to say. He should call him on it and say, hey, if you really wanna see me, I'll be out of Michigan. So what's up? It's nothing but a flight. I haven't found Michigan. out of Michigan so what's up it's nothing but a flight. I haven't found Michigan that's what I always say. No way. It's nothing but a flight.

Nothing but a flight baby my family would come. I'm not a lot of bring men home anymore. Because you get all attacked. No my family so okay so I've lived I lived far away from Michigan. You get the freaks that you know. No no no I don't bring over your freeaks they've liked the men that they've met I've lived far away from Michigan for like a long time. And my family, they're all men, they're all monogamous, married, my brother's,

married with three kids, my mom's married, you know, she's, I don't know, their husband, but they've been here 30 years and they're all like happy family. So Emily has brought home in the, you know, decade plus that I've lived here. I've brought home three to four men to Michigan, but to them, that seemed like so many guys.

I'm like, because they're with the same person. And I'm like, it's not so many guys, it's like the guys I'm doing. So they're like, we don't want to meet anyone unless you're getting married. We don't want to meet anyone else. And I was like, I'm not getting married. So how are you going to meet someone?

And then they're like, well, we're done. We don't want to. You can fly out for lunch. Yeah, that's true. I'll talk to them about that. But anyway, I think it's funny that my family put that rule, but now they're like, now I think they're getting worried. And they said that that they're like that I haven't for anyone home in years

They haven't met anybody that dated so either they think I'm a lesbian. Yeah, or I'm just yeah, not successfully They should bring me out there come to Michigan. You love my family. Yeah, I'm an aunt. Sorry your cousin I was awesome. Yeah, we all think you're awesome. They love you. I miss you. It's like my brother as a house on a lake It's beautiful and we fourth of July we go on a boat and we do all this fun stuff. It's awesome. I know it's really good Okay, should we get some sex in the news? Sex in news. Okay. Okay. Good. That's what I got for you porn star says I was Hillary Clinton's intern. Oh, yeah this chick's busted. Adult film star Sammy Spades tells TMZ men's favorite website she was going to community college in Buffalo,

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Quattabra. That's what kids do today. They got to get through school. They make a sex tape. She's not attractive Hmm, I didn't see the picture. Yeah. But she was in big book number eight. Big book number eight. Like number eight. Like first of all, she must be back in the house. Number three is probably. Number two isn't usually good in movies. Like number the second of the movie. And you know maybe they're perfecting it.

No, they're never perfecting it. It's boring. They can knock those things out like it's nothing. Okay. Please don't do that ever again. Sorry, okay Big butts like it okay bachelor up a lot. Okay. Oh I have to talk to you about the bachelor at I actually watched the bachelor at last night. What have you ever seen it? The bachelor yeah, well, there's been all this drama like the thing that the chick is stupid. She's not bright and she's Dare I say not I don't I personally don't find it attractive. Not that matters. I can't remember what she looks like Okay, so here's deal I'm watching it I'm getting my hair done cuz I go to my hair person's house and she cuts my hair and stuff so we were watching

TV which is awesome cuz I don't go salon. I can it's like I can watch TV for an hour But she's like you have to the best let you have to do the best shot. I'm like, okay, cuz you know I don't watch TV much Yeah, and This woman is obsessed you'll love this man. It's you've got to watch it So she's there's like you know 20 guys that she's dating and meanwhile she's like making out with all of them and she's but but there's a one guy Who was playing or this guy Bentley? Oh? Yeah, yeah, he's putting on an act. He was putting on an act, but she doesn't know So he's like talking to Camry's like yeah, she's over the crime. I'm gonna go comfort her right now. Whatever. She's not even that cute

Yeah, it goes over there and comfort her. She falls in love with him Yeah, of course, of course. She falls in love with him He's the biggest jerk. She goes to give him the rose. You know what the bad shirt they give a rose and he's like This is a few weeks ago. He's like I'm out of here. Sorry. So he's like didn't take the rose Yeah, but she's in love with him. She says she says out of all the men, she's fallen in love with him. The bad boy. Yeah, of course. Just that we talked about yesterday.

So she's like crying, she cries in every episode like six times, and she's just like annoying, and she was like, but now that I got over the Bentley situation, like anything they ever fooled around, I don't think anything ever really happened, but she thought she was the one,

and then he was like, sorry, I don't want your rose, like he broke up with our national television. They weren't even really together. But why do women like the bad guy? The woman, the guy who's not available, the don't want your rose. Like, you broke up with our national television. They weren't even really together. But why do women like the bad guy? The woman, the guy who's not available. The woman guy who's left. And you're gonna say, no, no, no, no, no, no.

I'm like, Emily, I'm telling you. I think men and women, we all like the chase. We all like a little bit of the chase. Hill not, I don't want the chase. Yeah, you do. A little bit with women. If a woman was just like, man, I said, love you. I just, I'm gonna come up if you do radio

and just sit there and you're so awesome. Very sweet. You wouldn't be in touch. Oh. No, you wouldn't. I can't. Well, I just don't have too much time to put in. We know, but soon you will. Soon. Soon you will. Okay. So anyway, so she says she says here we got some quotes. She said I was burned by a boy who saw my feelings for him as a conquest, but I still believe in my instinct. And most importantly, I still believe myself, hopeful of finding a man who would never make me question myself, would treat another person with such a lack of regard.

So she like, and then she confronts all the guys that she's like, oh, then she flew him back bently after she dumped, after he dumped her, she wanted him to come back on the shut. Like, it was so stupid. And all the guys were like, you're crazy. So anywhere, they're so warm. I hope all of them left then. They were, they did.

One dude was like, I'm out. I've been sitting here going flying around the world and you're still love with some loser who trashed you on television, like whatever, you're losing. I don't know if that's the same guy that they did a roast of her. And like, it wasn't the same guy that just he destroyed her.

No, he was the one that Comforted her for the rose. My interns gave me all the update. So apparently there was some guy skewered Yeah, he did he roasted a rose a rose a rose a rose and then this guy went up to her and say Comfort it Or Bentley he's like oh, it's okay, but he was one trashinger more than anyone like yeah in the scenes Saying she was ugly and mean. I love it. It's awesome I really and you can watch it on Hulu, right? Yeah. So I'm gonna do that.

Good. I have Hulu all hooked up in my television set. And Fire TV. And Fire TV? Fire TV? Yeah, Fire TV. If you haven't been listening, I've got a new porn box. It's called Fire TV, FYRETV.

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Yeah. Facials are awesome to get done on your face. Right. Okay. Facials sex. All right. Can we learn from animals' sex lives? It's tempting to look to critters for insight on human sexuality, monogamy, especially, but

beware. They flam the offer of the score, how the quest for sex has shaped the modern man, explores sexual evolution across the species. Studying other animals shows how complex and interesting mating behavior can be. Their animals are made for life and co-parent while other species practices agree upon misguidity. There's also a lot of variance with species. And do you people manage lifetime monogamy, but serum monogamy is very common in animals. More than anything, our furry feathered and scale friends reveal where humans as a species

fall on a broad spectrum of sexual behavior. So they're just saying that animals, most of them, are not monogamous, I guess, what they're saying, but we are. And I'm not penguins. I'm not we are and I'm not paying penguins. I'm not paying penguins, and not something else we talked about a few weeks ago. I love evolutionary biology and sex. Like I love combining all those, like looking at the animals, like are we really meant to be monogamous? Because you keep on trying to prove that you're not. I don't think that we really are. I know that you think that we are.

No, I'm just saying there's no problem with I don't know Naturally are we supposed to be with somebody buddy forever? I don't know that Feel me never felt right to me. Yeah, I'm saying I know is me itch. It doesn't The thought of it just makes me give me text and stuff. Oh my god one person forever Really that always maybe feel tense, but I hope I meet someone and I'm like, oh yeah! Me and you, for done forever! Like... What? When did you start getting the itch? Always? Always what? The itch to what?

No. When did it make me itch when they talk about being together forever? I said get uncomfortable. When did that happen? Since I was like 19. Since you're 19? I bet. Before that you were in love. Who did you happen? Since I was like 19. Since your 19? But before that, you were in love. Who did you dirty? No one did me dirty. No, I did get my heart broken out of 16. See, that's the last thing.

And I loved him. If I could find a DeLorean and go back in time, I would have fixed you. You'd fixed me to Laurean. No, I don't think he was because of Lance at 16, but I do think it was family stuff. Yeah. But I've worked it all through.

I just think I'm a different kind of woman. We're going to put it in. We're going to leave it at that, because I think that it was family stuff. But I've worked it all through. I just think I'm a different kind of woman. We're gonna put it in. We're gonna leave it at that, because I think that's what I am. But when you be psyched, if I came in here one day, I was like, oh my God, man, it's madly in love, and I'm getting married. Wouldn't that be great?

I would love that. Wouldn't that be cool? I would be like, oh. I would support it. So it could zap it. Yes. Or you better have a good reception. Dude, my wedding would be so awesome,

but planning wedding seems like a nightmare. And I just want to tell everyone that we're having this best, if you send me, email me your best sex tip and you might want to prize. Next week we're giving out a prize. So email me, you think is your best sex tip or the best sex tip you've ever gotten or the best thing anyone's ever done to you. You can email that feedback at sexesatemely.com or on my Facebook page, you can post it if you feel like it, with sexism, or talking.

We've been, we were talking on the phone last night about trying to come up with more giveaways. Yeah, hopefully. We'll be doing a lot more giveaways. Don't name anything, but we're gonna be. We are working. We're working. We want to bring all of our friends with you to be a friend's benefit member, though. And we'll give you a message.

We want to hook you up. We want to hook you up. We're talking to people. Every week we're going to give away awesome toys and eventually we'll be in way more, we're not just toys, products and we'll be giving away a lot more every week. So then you have more of a chance of winning because it's all awesome. Should we get into some emails? Yeah.

Oh my god. I want to get in from the people with the people have to say. Here's what the peeps have to say. All right. Emily, we have our own version of the exotic erotic into here in Portland, the exotic erotic ball, which is this crazy ball they do in San Francisco. But I've always wanted to come to yours in the Bay Area. I have either of you attended in the past and would have you worth a trip down.

Thanks, Frank. Yes, Frank, I have attended in the past. I don't know what you're into and if it's worth a trip down, but I do know that it was canceled last year the day before because they had no money. So I would check a calendar. It's this crazy ball they do in San Francisco, right before Halloween where everyone's just up and everyone's just being crazy and naked

and running around and it's huge at the Cal Palace. And it's definitely the last day. It's been around for like 30 years or something. It was like the 25th year last year. It's like, it's something like that. The last time I heard it was It was like the 25th year last year. It's like, uh, uh, something went, okay. The last time I heard it was cool was maybe the late 80s. Yeah, exactly.

But now... Frank, I wouldn't make a trip here. I'd come here to San Francisco because it's awesome, but don't come for the exotic, or exotic erotic ball. It's sort of the power exchange. It's sort of the power exchange. It's the same thing. Or, um, yeah, they're gay pride that just happened.

There's lots of fun things happening, but I't say exotic Roderite Ball is my favorite. You'll be honest. I didn't know it will be right. I went, I met like a... Remember I went a few years ago and did a video and what do you mean? I remember. Okay, dear Emily, I've been relieved to hear that I'm not the only bloke that has more than an on-dead button in regard to a razzle.

On-dead? Why does he talk about that? Like he's either turned on or turned on. Well, he's from Australia, so he says on-, dead, on, off button is what he means. Okay. I'm not the only book with an on, off button in regards to a riddle. So there he's really turned on or he's really turned off.

The way I perceive the situation is a volume knob. It doesn't take much to turn on, but there is a whole world more flirtation techniques than just lying in bed naked. Yes, this is my wife's practice. She just lies there naked. Love this show. Hope I'll be courageous to use a lubrication of communication with your encouragement and technique and advice.

Also, I want to know how to talk dirty. I go very conservative and really have no idea embarrassingly so. Regardless, Ben from Yeppoon, Queensland, Australia. What up, Ben? Okay, so I know what you mean about the on-off bun arousal. Women have that, men have that. But let's talk about talking dirty. Okay. I tell you how what I was today. Give me your sore examples. I just did.

That's it? Ben, I'm so wet. No, I wet because I got hot. How wet are you? I'm so wet, Menace. How wet did you get? I got so wet that I was dripping down my chest and there was like droplets of sweat between my breasts. All right. No, Ben really a good way to talk dirty is to describe a situation

because if you're not gonna say you jump in and be like you know you're my bitch or my horror whatever things you want to use. I would start slow. I would start slow. And I would say that you should start describing scenarios of things that feel good or say, how do you like when I touch your breasts? Or it feels really good when you put your hand on my penis or you might want to call it something out. My hot dog. My hot dog. You might want to, it helps to describe situations like this is just a way to start saying like, you know, last week when we, like, think, I would imagine in your mind a time when you guys had sex and it was awesome and it rocked your world. And then I would describe that situation and I would say, remember that time when we were in the car making out and you got naked and came over and climbed over on my seat, whatever

scenario you remember and start describing that scenario and that could be another way to get going. And also just talking about very specific things like, do you like it when I touch this and just shoot, did you tell him her what you like? And, because that's very easy way to start. Yeah. What are you laughing at? You know I always have flashbacks when you're talking.

Yes. Flashbacks to what? I don't know why I had it on TV because I was making dinner. Oh. Sex in the city was on. OK. It was on the background. I don't know. Because I was making dinner. Sex in the city was on. Okay. It was on the background. I don't know.

I was watching something before. It always comes on after. You know I hate it. You're a closet of Sex in the city lover. And it was all about how the guy wanted a pee on her. Oh, I heard that. Yeah. Yeah, I've heard about that.

I've never seen it. I've never seen it. All the Sex in the city is believe it or not. Really? No, I've seen like a few of them. I think you would be all about it. I would be all about it, but I just would need to get it. Yeah, just, and then it reminded me when I was younger that there was this chick that she,

her and a boy from a really into it. A lot of people are really into it. Your nation, yeah. It's very, very common. Dude, it is, you had your friend Sarah that was in here, not to get super graphic right now, but it was on a past episode. Right.

Where, when was she in here last week sometimes? Yep, Sephardic. She was talking, when we first had her on the show, she was talking about how she was peeing and guys' mouths. Oh, she does all the time. She's Dominatrix. Men love it.

Some men who are into that, domination, submission, men who want to be submissive and want to be dominated by a strong female would like a lot of them request to be for urinated, to be urinated into their mouth, urination to go into their mouth. You can pay me enough money. I know, but a lot of guys, they get off on the submission part. They're dominant and every other part of the life, maybe there's CEO of a major company and they've got a wife and three kids and they got a lot of responsibility.

So this sex is one place where they can totally let go and be dominated. And for some men that includes like having a woman like P and their mouth, that totally turns mom. What are your thoughts on that? My thoughts on that are that it's really common and that there's nothing wrong with it. Also, if a guy said, I't would not be down with that. I'm just saying you have to receive what you would. I forgot I was like will you pee in my mouth?

Yeah. Um, God. I mean, part of me feels like I should just for the experience. Like I feel like I should try everything once. Yeah. Um, to be honest, but I can't quite try to see how hard I'll go down. How drunk am I? Um, no, that's a total minus answer.

I think that, yeah, I mean, I never say never. He's like Emily. And I might fall in love and never wedding one day too. And I might pee in some guy's mouth. I have no idea, but I don't think there's anything wrong with it. We had this contest. I've never done it. I've never had anyone preposition me.

People asked me if you would do this. We had a contest where we were given away a Cadillac Escalade. And there was five of us on the show and we had all pee in a cup. And the guy had just to get into the main contest. He had to drink all of our pee and he did it. You serious?

Just a random dude. Like a contest like you wanted to win a You wanted to win the escalation. How much how much urine like the styrofoam cups ah And he did it. Why do you any? You close out mute. Yeah, of course Automatically to win tickets to a concert. No to get the escalade Oh, yeah, the escalate sorry, but then he didn't end up even winning the escalade Why cuz he threw up he had to do that just to get into the main context. Oh, you boys in your shows, I would never, ever do that. I

would never listen to semi-sex tips. I'm not going to have them like urinate, defecate. Wow, but that is a very common. We, um, Sarah was on the show again on last Friday and talked about the same thing that like she's done that a ton and people are really into it. Yeah, I don't think I don't judge. I cannot believe that like I did it through up. Oh, yeah. Was it in your office?

Yeah, it was in the studio. That's freaking crazy. Your boys are crazy. Crazy boys. That was that when you were doing your morning stuff. Emily, a few shows ago you asked for stories if people have done or said weird things in bed or something to that effect. I have to share with you the story of one particular guy I dated briefly in separate a couple times. When he had an orgasm, he would literally yell, like, scream. And then she has it spelled

out phonetically here. How he screamed. Awww, gah. Lots of A's, lots of U's, lots of G's, lots of A's. Not like calling out sexy things or moning loudly, just... Oh yeah. A side from the fact that it was weird for me was also super awkward for his roommate, whose room was the other side of the wall. I heard she moved out shortly after he had me over that night. He hadn't dated anyone before me for over a year.

So I guess that's why she lasted as long as she did. He also lied about his age and died as Chester. Needless to say, it didn't last long with him. My friends and I still laugh about the screamer. I don't have any of a will towards him. I just hope he finds a nice woman who doesn't mind him yelling at the top of his lungs when he orgasms. And him dying as Chester. Love the show, Heather.

Oh, Heather. That is hilarious. I've had got... Well, I'd rather have a guy go... Oh, yeah. But did you... You used to complain all the time about a guy that would just go Yeah, yeah, I'm like did you do something just happen like you wouldn't even know that the orgasm you'd like Exactly he's like or like he was more like a

I guess I'm like did you how do you orgasm and not make any noise Men don't I think your guys are trained I think because you're trained to masturbate in squat in silence when you're younger that you learn not the same thing. But I think it's super hot when men you can hear them like orgasm is so freaking hot. Yeah, I mean, I would do, I would definitely make more noise if I was at like a house. Right. But when you live in apartments. Oh my god, my apartment building, as I've talked about in the past, is mostly lesbians right next door to me and right below me, they hate me

because I wear heels, five in heels all the time. I take them off now when I get home. But they have crazy, I think the couple below me is into BDSM, bondage, just plain say domestic massacism. So I've heard whips and stuff, and they like, I've heard them having like longest orgasms ever and it totally turns me on.

Like it's kind of hot, not the whole, yeah, the whole thing. But they say not the whole like whipping and whatever, but it's just hot to hear the orgasm and they go on for hours. Because you know, women can have multiple orgasms. If you've got two lesbians, you've got like six orgasms to be had. It's like a whole day. Like so as they're done there for like two hours and it's going and going.

And then the ones next story, I don't hear that often because they're probably already experiencing lesbian, bed death syndrome, maybe. But the ones below me are like so into it. And they're like, those bitches, I hate you. I know. I hate them for all your multiple orgasms. So, and then if I have a dog now, they're going to hate me even more. But the guy, yeah, he could have toned it down a little bit.

I wonder if she said anything. You're like, hey, are you all right? I know, I know. Are you okay? Exactly. I guess I would be embarrassed because my apartment is the walls are so thin that people can hear, but I'd rather have them make an ores than nothing. That's all I gotta say.

But women can be screamers too. Oh yeah, definitely. You've been with women who are like too loud, and you're like, but is it too loud because I'd rather have them make a noise than nothing. That's all I gotta say. And but women can be screamers too. Oh yeah, definitely. You've been with women who are like too loud and you're like, but is it too loud because you're afraid what your neighbors people are gonna think or too loud because it just like made you uncomfortable? Like did you think it was hot?

It's only neighbors. But don't you think it's hot when we can be loud? Yeah. Good. Right answer. Emily, I'm a 29 year old virgin. I'm turning 30 in a couple of months and I got to thinking. Ever since that Steve Care movie, 40 year old version, I think a lot of people think that it's okay to laugh at people being a version of their virgin if they're a little older.

It makes me wonder, is a 39 year old version just as funny as a 40 year old version? I think it probably is. So my question is, how far can you roll it back? I think being a 30 year old virgin is the turning point from being somewhat normal to being a loser. Do you agree? Am I doomed if I don't get laid in the next couple of weeks or am I already five years overdue? Joshua from Calgary, Canada.

Emily would say, I don't know, 12 years overdue. Oh, then five. No, Josh is totally fine. I just want to know more. I want to know why Josh isn't having why he hasn't had sex yet, but I think 30 years old, I mean, I don't think that's bad. I don't think he's a problem. And I don't think you're a loser at all.

I just wonder what has been holding you back from having sex if you've had sexual relations with women and you just haven't taken it there or if you're just kind of shut down in other ways. I'm just wondering what, you know, if you are having an act of sex life, but you've been holding out because you want to wait to have sex, or if you just haven't had opportunity, I just would like to know more about that. You've got to do the slump buster, dude.

The what? The slump buster. What's that? That's when, if you haven't had sex in a long time, in his case, a really long time, or ever, you just have sex with a random person. A slump buster? Oh, could you do a slump?

Can you bust your slump? Yeah, and then if you're like, you're confident. And then you're getting laid out. I hope I've never been a slump buster to a guy. Ooh, I don't know. I can't tell you. I'd be a good one though.

I'd be like, they'd be like psyched. They'd be like, out of the rut. They'd be like, no more slumps. I would say, Joshua, you're not a loser. Don't put yourself up in the more you think about it. Like, oh my god, I'm a virgin. Oh my god, I'm a virgin. You're gonna be a virgin even longer.

So you have to just stop thinking about it and obsessing about it because it's where you're at right now. And if you really do wanna meet someone and you wanna start having better sex and I would start making those efforts, like do one thing a week, like sign up for an online dating site

or talk to that cute girl that you're attracted to every day that you see at the coffee shop. I mean, do something different to meet people if you're not right now. So, really. I'm really supporting that improv class idea that I had. Well, was it again? Last week, where I'd say to build your confidence

to score a hit. Take an improv class. It's amazing. And you can meet class and kick. I know it's on corny. I would take an acting class as absurd to me, but I really think it would really help to build confidence. Really, it seemed absurd.

Yeah, I think so too. I've taken it and it did give me a lot of confidence. And I remember, it's funny, because took it before I did the radio show and I'm not I'm it wasn't related but it did it does open you up because you're like I can't ever stand in front of people and do This really weird thing and you do it like weird contortions with your body or your face or you say things and it's great for you Yeah, because at least in that In that atmosphere people are gonna be doing the same thing and they're not gonna be judging you. Even if you're thinking about it,

all this person in the class is gonna think I'm weird and stuff like that. They're like, no, they're doing it together. They're all doing the same thing. And then I guarantee you, and I said this before, if once you get out of that class and you go out into the real world where people are not even on your level

because you got all this ammo of being in an improv class, you're gonna just like destroy it. You're going to. I think it's just anything that's a confidence builder. Having shakes into hand jobs all the time, happy ones, but you'll still be getting out. Menace, menace, menace in the hand job. I think, yeah, that's great.

Take a class. Do something that's going to introduce you to women. Go hiking. Whatever your interest are, Joshua, I wouldn't say like you should go out and start taking a cooking class if you're not in the cooking But start to think about the things that you like and do some activities around that. Yeah, no hiking But no hiking. Been listening to hiking. Is that you said? Yeah, I know a lot of people have met during like sear club hikes like single hikes Don't roll your eyes people like nature

Been listening to the show for over. I'm so happy. There's a video podcast because you can see all the dirty looks that you give me every single show. You can break it down. Break it down, break it down. Do I give you a letter? You look so good. Oh my God, the entire time. I roll my eyes at you too. Yeah, menace.

You give me pissed off looks all the time. You love it. I've been listening to the show for over a year. I used to love listening to the show about, used to love listening to shows about relationships and sex while in high school and found years by browsing podcasts and items. What a find. Question. Me and my girl on a break.

We still talk and are planning to work things out once I return from school. Although the point of the break wasn't to hook up with other girls, it's hooking up while on a break cheating. What do you think I should do? Like I said, I do see a future with this girl, but I want to do some things on my own, so I'm sure of her. Thanks in advance, you guys rock and roll, B from Edmington, A.B., Alberta, another Canada, I guess Edmington, isn't that probably?

Yeah. Well, anyway. Okay, I would think that you need to talk to her about what the break means. I think you just need to have the conversation with her. A lot of people have breaks, sounds like you're in school. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, is he in school? Yeah, you're young.

So I would say, yeah, you're on a break, you should be sleeping with other women. But if you feel insecure about it or you're not sure, I would have talked with her and just say, I just want to be clear that while we're on the break, we, you're going to see other people. I think that a break means that you see other people. Yeah.

It does. But if you're worried and you think she's the one and you're going to be with her in the future, which you probably won't be, but I know that you're thinking that. I'm just saying because you just got to hide, you know, whatever. Maybe you will be. Maybe she is the one, but I think that if she is, or if she isn't, either way helps to be honest and just tell her that I plan on seeing other people. So you're not playing the guessing game.

You really need to make a pact too about this means because this is let's say you take the break and Then you decide oh You want to be back together She might have slept with somebody you might have slept with somebody and That conversation should never come up and say hey, so how many people did you sleep with? Yes, don't do the replay. That's just to destroy any chance you have of getting back together. Exactly. It's very tough when you guys get back together to be like, so who'd you see with what

you do? Just decide that you're going to see other people. That's not going to benefit anything. No. It never helps us talk about your past sex life. It just never does. And I would say that just agree that I think you got to, I mean, so much about relationships are setting boundaries around this stuff.

And so if you're being honest and just saying, we're gonna see the people, but you can even say at this point, be like, but I don't wanna talk about it when we get back together. I don't want it to just say, when we're back together, we're back together. Don, do you never review your past? Yeah, and if you can pull that off, then you'll have a great together. Well, I went, you know, when I was, when I was 25,

I went backpacking through Southeast Asia for a year. I think I've told you this, we form anist, but you know what I mean? I didn't know it was a year. Yeah, I know you. I Southeast Asia for a year. I think I've told you this before menist but he's known as a year. Yeah, I know you I didn't know you then No, but I know you've done it. Yeah, I went back I went once for a year and I went backpacking by myself And I but I was dating a guy for six months when I left and I was like we should just kind of be open and do whatever and I Did was open and did whatever because I was gone for like it was like nine months I was gone, but then I left again and went back whatever so I came back and he was like and I kept emailing him because I was feeling back because I was hooking up with dudes yeah I was traveling

I was super fun and I'd be like you should date other people he's like no I can't I can't I'm like you really really should come back to find out that he had slept with his entire office which I couldn't be upset with he's like you but I couldn't be upset with them because I was like I was sleeping my way around that was I like, I have a little mini UN conference. Like you, you meet guys from all over the world. It was like guy from Germany, guy from Israel, whatever. But it kind of bummed me out because I knew they were all here in San Francisco and he'd be like, this one, that one, I kept finding all these remnants like cards. They wrote them. I'm like, you slept your way around office. And it just didn't, I just

wish we were more honest or we just kind of, it was too murky when I left and we took the break. Like we needed to have rules and then everything I found out I kept obsessing about and he would obsess and it wasn't healthy. Yeah. Okay, let's get into some sex tips. All right, what do you got?

This is what I got. This is like one of my, this is my favorite topic. This is the most important topic for play. But for play on a different vein. I mean for play, for play on a different vein, I mean, for play, for play in a different vein, for play when you, okay, this is the deal, that so much about sex, you think about like, did you have sex?

When you have sex, you have penetration, right? You think about in and out penetration. Yeah. Penis, vagina. Patog and bagel. Exactly. That's what you think. But there is so much more that you can do.

And sometimes if you're the reason we're talking about taking sex off, taking intercourse off the table. And all the fun things that you can do that incorporate, that are intercourse, that are for play tips and tricks without having sex. So try to delay intercourse for a night. Have one day where you don't have sex. Or maybe you have it at the very end because sometimes it's really hard to hold out. But I get that but people put so much pressure on just like we have intercourse and maybe they're having issues or a lot of women only 30% of women can have orgasms during intercourse and I just think it's important sometimes to be like let's just not have sex. Let's not have sex intercourse and do with these other things. And then also I want to bring up

it's I'm not against fore play, but it's just sometimes you don't have that great connection of kissing. Can you go back to all your past relationships and thinking and like I can have like I have like two people that just stand out like I could make out with them right from the sun up to sundown. Oh, I love that right. Like it was the best person to make out with. It was funny because those two people

that actually really had like heavy inner-course relationships with. Oh, you didn't? You just kissed them? Yeah, no, I had sex with them before. But you really liked making out with them. I really liked making out with them. Right. And only two? Only two that I can think of, like through my whole history. Wow. So you're wondering some tips for better kissing or

I'm just saying I want to ask you if there's anybody that really stood out because that's what makes it really hard if you don't have that make I mean like you might have great intercourse right. It'd be amazing. But like when you go to like this make out with them, it might not be as great as the intercourse. So that's why I want to skip that because it's like awkward. I've had bad kissers. I mean, I've definitely been a bad kisser, but I've been with guys who are amazing. Like, I just love just lying with them, fooling around, cuddling and touching and all that

stuff. Yeah, I've definitely had men who I'm more connected to in that way. And we could have like these epic long nights where we don't have sex and we're just falling around and doing everything. Yeah, I've had that for sure. Not in a long time. It's been a while.

So that's why I'm thinking like, that's why I'm always cringing when you go, oh, that's why I want to know how long the session needs to be of for play. You always want to time the for play. Because what about if I don't have that same, we're like, we have amazing sex in the course. I think you don't know much

because you haven't even tried all these tips that I'm going to give you to have better foreplay. Oh, okay, teach me. I think that you haven't tried. And you won't know that this person is in good. Just maybe you kissed him once and it wasn't great. So you're assuming this person is a great person

is kissing and get better. You get into the groove. So let me tell you some things that you could do. Let's talk about kissing first. Start slowly and let it progress. You can use your hands while kissing. It's important to like, don't look at me like that. Okay.

People simply, people simply, is it? They waste the, they waste their hands, like they waste it, like they're making out in the kissing, but like you think you use your hand to like rub the scalp and rub your ears and like neck and grab them and there's, you can make kissing like super, super hot. But it's hard if you're with the bad kisser and we've talked, we've done shows in kissing before

which we could do again, which we should do again. Talking about if you're with the bad kisser or is that a deal breaker, like there are ways to teach each other how you like to kiss. Take your time and just enjoy the act of kissing. You can make it last hours. Like do you remember those first nights when you're with someone when you're like so into someone

and you do just kiss on light before you have sex? That's kind of what I'm trying to channel here. I'm trying to channel that first, let's say there is people that you have had great foreplay with. Think about those people, those nights, before you have sex, like that amazing build up to the sex, like we're trying to get that back.

Because maybe you've just been having intercourse and you have the same way every time, you can have a night. This is a way to like spice it up for people in their relationship, or people who are just starting out. But these are just things that you can just extend the kissing longer.

And like, do different, like, you know, play with your hair, ears. Do you think you've had amazing emotional connections with the people that you had the best before play with? Or can you have really good for play without having an emotional connection? That's a great question, Menace. I think you absolutely can have four good for play.

You can just be really like have great chemistry and not be really intimately connected. But I think that mostly I get very connected people. So people like I get very emotional. I get I get connected. Yeah. I think I usually am when you have that great into because this is all about building into intimacy too. For play is more intimate, which is why I think a lot of people shy away from it shy away from I mean I know women like you're like what do women want for play like this is such an old thing. But it's like there's really reasons why women want it. I mean, I know women like you're like, what do women want? For play, like this is such an old thing, but it's like, there's really reasons why women want it. I mean, just the reasons is, and men should want it too. And I think that men can learn to enjoy it and not see it as a chore. And that women actually need it to feel

that connection and to be turned on and to get to where you sit in. Some women can't won't be able to orgasm. So this might be the only way that you can have one. So, but I think I'm, I get very, I'm very good at, not very good, I connect with people. Like I think mostly I've been with, I have some sort of intimate connection with. Like it's not just sex, although I have just had that, but it is hard to have these language long sessions

with someone that you're not at all intimate with emotionally. Yeah. Okay. So, essential touching. We talked about massages last week, misogies can be done with your hands We can also use other parts your body including your mouth generally slow and sex slow movements are key Oh my god, did this not print? Oh, no It's happened again. This didn't print out

Oh, no, yeah, Emily does cringe right now because she went to go open up for more sex tips and it's all blank. It's all blank. It's cool. Yeah, I did that. That's cool. That's cool. But so anyway, so what I'm trying to say is I know exactly what to say is that there's things like you know there are like massage and Kissing and then there's like oral sex is something that you should definitely spend your time on like 10 15 40 minutes. That's it Sarah you would have laughed during the show on Friday when Sarah was like, I need a man to be in there for 45 minutes. And I was like, men should be having a heart attack right now. Just making out for four or six.

No going down in our 40 minutes. Oh, damn. Yeah. So like, there's guys that will do it for like 10 hours. It don't matter. I'm just saying, I like, I really have to be into that person to be down there. I told you get it, I know, I know. But have you ever been down there for 45 minutes?

I've been down there for a while, yeah. Yeah, okay. I don't know. I don't never time it. Right. I know you're alright, I've been down there. But like the requisite like one minute thing, like we were talking the other day, that doesn't work when a guy's like, oh, I did it for a minute and then we're not warmed up.

So it's all about like the connection, the spirit like you could do role playing. You could, I mean, role playing is a whole other way. We're gonna do a whole show and role playing next week, but on, you know, dressing up in costumes, like sexy stuff. I mean, these are just all different ways that you can, I mean, like, don't you think that's hot?

If I'm, okay, I know you don't like lingerie, but if she was dressed up like a, um, I should do this to you now. Okay. I don't know what's your thing like a star like what do you mean? No, I'll say more like obscure things to see if you would still I know, but I don't know it. Okay, but you wouldn't be down with anything But what if she looked really hot and she was dressed as like some, what are you into? Star Wars characters or something? Star Wars, no. What would you be into? But I'm saying that I have seen like super hot chicks dressed in Star Wars outfit,

but I'm not saying that's what gets me off. Remember, I told you I like the girls with the high socks. High socks. I want to know what else you like. What else besides the high socks? That can't be the only thing. Sun dresses, the other skirters look good in dresses.

I like girls that are dressed really well. You like, I really respect a woman. You respect a woman who like spends a time to look good, you know? Mm-hmm. Okay, got it. So, so role-playing, slowly undressing your partner.

Like, I cannot put enough evidence on this. Like, how you have to slow down the process process, like I just think that the fact that, that I mean, especially for a woman, we like to be undressed. We like to someone take the time. I talked about this a few weeks ago, and the guy was dating at times, like a few months ago, was like, I don't undress you slowly. Why'd you say that? But it's true, like guys don't.

They're just like, take it close up. We're taking it close up. We're just 76. We're talking about the process of like removing. Leaving her bra and panties on when you're in for a play, like leaving on longer, like leaving on a toucher over the material, like sometimes when a woman, when her bra or panties that material touches her skin,

like it feels amazing, like it can feel so good for a woman to like leave those clothes on. Yeah. What? I know, I had a question, I know this is gonna be weird weird asking it's coming for me, but What kind of conversation can somebody have in this time, but without trying to be a really sexy? What do you mean what kind of conversation when they're addressing you? Yeah, kids be kissing and talking and being like you look hot

Are you look amazing or without going oh? Yeah, without that. Without that? Yeah, can you have a no mercy thing? You mean like so, what do you think of the giants? That kind of thing? No, no, to say, oh, I think, you

know, you look really good right now. Yeah, you can totally have a conversation. But the part where it just comes cheesy to me is like, oh, god, he looks so good right now. Yeah, why don't you, why watching, watching, that's hot. Is that necessary?

Do I need a seri? Do I need a seri? I think so. I think that all women need the affirmation. And men, don't you want to hear, I guess men don't as much, but I always tell guys like, how hot, like, oh my god, you're so hot, you're so sexy. Like, I always want to, because I think it, like when I'm with someone, I'm like, oh my god, you're so hot.

I don't need, just want to say it, because they're, but you and your mind think that women all want to hear compliments. No, I don't think that I don't think about that. I think I sound ridiculous. No, he doesn't. I see you over you, because you're insecure about some of these things and you over think it. I'm not insecure about it.

I think it's funny, but I think if you're feeling it in the moment, like she looks so out. I mean, there's games you can play too. Like, I love all of these. We're talking about four play and we're talking about different things you could do. Like there are these amazing games that are like icebreakers like we were talking like the dice or the games that ask you questions about what turns you on and you reach right down a fancy. I mean there's there's just You know, I mean there's so much that isn't intercourse and we just think like did you have sex we had sex we banged we did it

We was in and out and and I'm just trying to say like we should expand it so start with massage start with kissing uh... could do role playing you could play games you could just like play strip poker whatever take off close slowly there's especially for women and I'm saying maybe guy but I think a guy can get into this too like I think that you think they would take a lot of the pressure off the table to of like performing sexually like I think like just for play scary you a little bit no not a bit no. I'm just saying if I don't have that connection where I think it's awesome, I just don't really want to do it that much with a person. Right. For them why? But you still okay. So this is what I understand. But you still want to have

intercourse with them. But you just don't want to make out that. Yeah. Because intercourse can be way better than the 4 play, but if the But there is people out there that you can I believe that you can have amazing for play with You know and then have intercourse, right exactly. You know, but if you're not really What the hell is that noise? It sounds like a bird. Yeah, but I just don't Is that your phone? No, okay. sorry people. But I'm just saying that I just don't want to spend that much time on it. I don't want to sit there and go through the motions

just because I know it's going to lead to others. And you're not into it, because you're right. Because you're being of the woman that you think is a good, I'm not sure that you've pushed this woman enough to know that she's not good at it, that she wouldn't be good at inner core. I think everyone, I'm talking about opening up parts of your body, opening up parts of yourself

that don't include inter-, like that, that you wouldn't even know, because maybe she was a bad kiss for the first time you were together, but maybe you could really be into her in another way. Yeah. Yeah, okay, yeah, that's what I'm telling you. Okay, we're gonna get into this more next time

because I didn't print out, but I think I gave you a pretty good old. Yeah, you did. Yeah, I did, didn't I? Yeah, and what's today? Tuesday? Yeah, today is Tuesday. All right, tomorrow's going to be an awesome show.

Awesome show. But I'm really excited about Thursday. Let me tell you about, oh, I don't have the thing, but tomorrow's show. What's tomorrow's show again? Thursday's show is going to rock with the interns talking about their online dates. They're like the little section of the McGinnie Pigs doing amazing stuff, and they're going to talk about that. And then tomorrow show

role playing tomorrow is role playing. Yeah, I'm gonna wear a I think I think that all the interns and myself are gonna dress up in our sexiest outfit a tire a tire You'll be here then right you won't be late. Yeah, okay. I can't wait. Okay. Thanks everyone for listening to sex with Emily Was it good for you email me feedback at sexwithamlee.com Wait, okay, thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemley.com.