Sex With Emily - Smokin' Hot Sex

Episode Date: February 4, 2015

On today's show Emily is joined by Menace and together they are answering your emails. Topics include lingering ex-girlfriends, long-distance sex, and how to sex up a sexless marriages. Emily's friend Josh from CraftVapery.com stops by the studio to reveal the link between vaping and sexual stamina.. After all, the only smoke that should be in the bedroom is that of you and your partner after super hot sex. Emily and Menace tackle some scintillating sex in the news, and Emily wraps it up with some very exciting news of her own. Whether you’re craving more sex, better sex, or sex with someone across the country, this show has the advice you need to make it happen. All of this and so much more on the latest episode of Sex With Emily! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's show I'm answering your emails on ex-girlfriends, long distance sex and sexless marriages. Plus, we'll tell you the best kind of sex you're not having, but should be. Thanks for for listening. But first, oh my god, guess what? Valentine's Day right around the corner. I know, I know, you might love you, you might hate it, but if you're seeing someone or you just have friends with benefits, I don't care what your client relationship. People would like to be recognized on the stay of love or this day of sex or whatever you want.

I actually think it should be about something a little sexy. So, good vibes. You've heard me talk about good vibrations for years. Goodvibes.com. It's your one stop shop around thine's day. If you go to their website, you're gonna see they have special packages, best toys for her, him, couples.

You know, you could get, you know, they carry all the best sex-fied brands. So there's these little vibratox girls, they're called, they're really cute, they come in little leather pouches for your partner, she can use her makeup bag, and she can have a vibrator. There's also the most orgasmic vibrator of all time, you've heard me talk about the magic wand,

well now it's coming out soon on Plugged. They're making an unplugged version, which I can't believe, which is amazing. You can get little games, you might not want to get into sex toys, but they have to have fun games. Because you know what, Valentine's Day, yeah, you can go to dinner and get roses and all that, but don't you just want to have a really good sex?

So go to goodvibes.com, use coupon code EmilyGVEmily20 and get 20% off. That's goodvibes.com, use GVM, GVEmily20 for 20% off. Thanks for listening. I think she kinda cute. The girls gotta have her stand. Oh my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh my god. What for? I'm grown. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. you're listening to sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can check out all of our podcasts and ever mailing lists. And subscribe to our newsletter, which kicks ass. Oh, and you should subscribe to it now because we'll be giving you great, like, our gift guides,

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because you'll never miss one, that we do two shows a week, and you can also review us on iTunes if you happen to be down. Speaking of reviews, this is my last thing. I'm here with Menace. Hello. He's on the phone anyway, I didn't want to disturb you. And how do I just let you do your thing?

No, but here's the thing, I have a survey right now. All right. Because I just posted a survey and I, if you listen to the show, it'll take you like literally two minutes, three minutes to fill out. And it'll help us so much because after 10 years of doing the show, which I can't believe, I just want to hear from you like,

what are your comments, suggestions, what do you like, what don't you like, all that, and if you fill it out, you are entered to win a bunch of stuff we're giving away. Do I get right every news? Is there any questions about? Should we have them on or not?

It's like thumbs up, thumbs down, menace. Oh no. So many thumbs up. You never do that. You're the family, dude. I know, my friends. So just take out my survey, I'm gonna be tweeting it Facebook, it'll be on my website, all that stuff. And comes out. Somebody comes out. You're the family, dude. I know, I'm like, so. So just take out my survey. I'm gonna be tweeting it Facebook.

It'll be on my website, all that stuff. And I'm at sex with Emily across the board. If you don't follow me, menace is at menace. What up, yo menace? What's going on? Dude, it's a friggin insane. What is new in your life? It's a friggin insane.

I wanna know, what's going on? Well, I've been, I just found out that I'm co-hosting the People's Podcast Awards with Dennis Miller and Vegas in April. Isn't that cool? I know, I think I mentioned to you briefly last week, but I'm so excited. Like Dennis Miller, like I... Yeah, that's huge. You're hilarious.

Yeah. He's great. He's such a talent. Yeah. So I'm very excited about that. I just came off of like three weeks of a lot of sex shows and all that stuff. Traveling? Yeah. I'm just traveling and stuff. And so it's been good.

And then I went with Norm, who runs podcast one to the Lakers game. Yeah. And we sat on the floor. You know, like the court side seats between like the Lakers bench and the Supreme. Yeah. Like there are only eight seats. It was amazing. Like we're like touching the play.

They're like sweating on me. Wow. It was so fun. I don't think I could ever go to another sporting event again. Oh, yeah, once you have like that experience It'll be kind of hard to be like I know and I'm not really damn damn updating. There's like been a few rotational men Shock, but that's kind of where I'm at right now like I actually have had a really good. Yeah I feel like I'm finally getting into LA rig. I feel like this is home. Uh-huh. It truly is So I'm good about it.

How about you? I'm awesome. I love it here. Decide my lease again for another year. You did? You're going to be here for another year? Shut up. Good.

So that's great. Going back to the Bay Area. No, no, no. And then the radio show, I do a radio show called the Woody Show. I'm not Woody. Everyone knows that. Every morning on, yeah, on Alta 98.7, you can search it everywhere if you want to find

to search the Woody show. If you want to see it. And if you want to look at menace, he's got billboards all over the city. Yeah, but they're like cartoon figures of me. So. Well, what else, dude? There's no cartoon figures of me, yeah. Billboards, so.

But yeah, it's just like you with a bag or your head. I know. So, it's super fun doing a radio here in Los Angeles. And I get to be here and person with you and do podcasts once in a while. That's great. I love that we still do this. And then you're all over the place. You're recording podcasts all the time. I know. I'm doing it. Remember when it was just like once a month or two. Yeah. It's now it's just like you're all over the place you're with Anderson recording podcast. You're on Loveline recording. There's so many different things that you're doing.

It's insane. It's a little bit insane. Well, but the thing is, don't you think for it's always been insane, but this year has been like a skyrocket. It's the last 12 months. There's so much more at sex with Emily content. It's crazy.

I know. So everyone needs to go to sexathamely.com. Again, go to iTunes, fun. It's so fun. It's so fun. It's so fun. It's so fun. It's so fun. It's so fun. It's so fun. It's so fun.

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Yeah, super cool. And then all the listeners that tweet me all the time and then it's funny because I do the Tresor Radio show whatever, but there's like, Tresor Radio is like AMF and people send me that. Yeah, yeah, it's like, you know, when you're in your car and you turn on the radio, that's like, that's right.

Tresor Radio, Tresor Radio. But when I do that, there's also like, Tresor Radio is like AMF and people send me that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's like, you know, when you're in your car and you turn on the radio, that's like fresh radio. Yeah, that is right, right. But when I do that, there's also like sex with, I mean, listeners that like make the connection that, oh, it's the same guy. You think that is, right? Yeah. You can call in and say anything. Uh, no, but they will like, they will like tweet me and stuff like that, yeah. Do your famous.

It's off topic. Because we do a show, it's more like pop culture and stuff like that, not that. Right, that's why they don't have sex. We don't do a sex show. Sex doesn't go with the morning drive time people. No, I mean we, we did show. We do cover like some sexual topics, but it's not a show like completely about sex.

I get it, some morning show. We did this thing. You guys like, give each other wedgies and stuff and laugh. Yeah, we did. I was thinking like the morning zoo. We were covering this thing lately. It was like, edible anus, which was insane. It's like a new thing, yeah,

like people give chocolates to each other. It's weird. Like it's a piece of chocolate that looks like an anus. Yeah, but it's like molded. But like it's your molded. I mean, I have that. I mean, I went to the, I have chocolate penises, chocolate vaginas.

Yeah, but no, it's like a mold of your own. Oh. I'll show you later. Do like a flashlight, but it's chocolate. It's of your anus and out of your office. I will tell you about, I don't know. I don't know. Okay, so I wanted to you later. Do like a flashlight, but it's chocolate. It's a verinous and out of your eyes. I will tell you about, but I don't even know what to say. I don't even know what to say.

I don't even know what to say. I don't even know what to say. Okay, so I wanted to talk today. We're going to answer the emails from people's I love hearing from you at feedback. It's actually mme.com. And there is a study that came up by lifestyles. Lifestyles condoms.

They make, my actually I'm sort of obsessed with their new condoms are lifestyles and also skin, SK, YN, they make these condoms that are, a lot of people learn to lay texts or thin whatever they're, they're really good condoms or lifestyles and also skin, SK, YN, they make these condoms that are, a lot of people allergic to latex or thin, whatever they're really good condoms. But the point is they have a survey. And they had some interesting findings in the survey. And I just wanted to see what you think of them.

The first thing was spontaneous or unplanned sex is the occasion with the best sex. So here's the result. Your unplanned sex is the occasion with the best sex. So here's the result. 63% of females, 57% of males agree that spontaneous or unplanned sex is the occasion with the best sex. So you're in a long term relationship. What do you think about that?

Can you even have a spontaneous sex? Yeah, you can totally. Good, do you do it though? Would you initiate it? Yeah, yeah. And just like, you know, just out of nowhere. Like, in the morning when you've a boner, and you're all over the second.

Well, not as early as I get up, but get up so early. And because it doesn't happen as often, because again, I'm like, exhausted by the time I get home. But it does happen here and there, where, you know, you just gotta go for it. Totally.

Yeah, just do it. I wish again, this always goes back to every single thing. We talked about it on the last podcast, even like text messaging or just like, like, let's just make it the year where women initiate more. You know, you want to talk about like everything is equal and everyone's in an equal playing field. Why don't we just make it? Like, why does the guy have to be the almost like the... I know, I understand. The initiator all the time. You're right.

And it doesn't have to, you know, apparently women are just as horny as guys are. That's what I hear. It's just the way it's going down. We may be intimidated by it too, and they're afraid they're going to get down or look slutty, but people, everyone should just get over it.

If you're with someone and it doesn't matter if you're in a relationship or you're just dating, if you want to have sex and you're with someone that you've had sex with before, just go for it and start some making out. Yeah. I'm supporting equal. Like equal. Yeah.

We have to give back to the initiation too. Yeah. Go for it. So, um, so yeah, that's funny because this came up on Love Island the other night, which is so funny, but I actually have a friend who just walked in, so I want to say hi to Josh. Have you met Josh? Uh, Josh, we talked briefly in the lobby. So Josh is awesome because you were saying that I'm on Lovelin, which is people always want to, I actually met some people and I'm on every Thursday night.

And so if you miss it, it's live in a bunch of cities, but it's a podcast that comes out on Monday Morning. So I'm on, that's the one that I'm on. So anyway, I met Josh and he has a vaping company, which is, hi Josh, are you on here? Okay, go. So Josh Crayon, it's called Kraft Vaporate. Nice. I do understand like this, so okay, we met at Lava, and we were like talking for two minutes.

I thought it was awesome, because I think the whole vaping craze right now was like, it's the whole new little bar. Oh, it's exploded. Yeah, they're like hanging out or they're talking and they're ever went, which is great, because people aren't using cigarettes. But he's so funny because we were talking about

sacks, of course. And it was like, we were talking about how like sacks and smoking and all that is related. And we were talking about the benefits of it. I'm like, yeah, it's like after sacks, you like have a cigarette, but now you can just like have your rape. You don't have to leave the house.

And Josh, hello, was saying that it actually gave him more stamina vaping. And I wanted him to be like that. Oh, he can imagine it does, right? Oh, it does. Talk to me about this. So I, you know, I spoke for years. He spoke so how long he spoke?

23 years. Wow. And you get winded, right? It's not great for you physically. It has a big physiological effect, you know, and you feel heavy and weighed down. And certainly don't have the lung capacity or the, you physically, has a big physiological effect, and you feel heavy and weighed down, and certainly don't have the lung capacity, or the breath capacity.

And, you know, I'm not much of an athlete, but I do love sex, probably my favorite topic after vaping. And- We should do vaping in sex with vaping in sex. Anytime you want. I'm sure there's a video out there somewhere or a tap. If not, we should tell one should create that.

Yeah. So, you know, I didn't start vaping to have better sex, but it's definitely one of the side effects of switching from cigarettes to vaping is I have much better sex. My stamina is much better. I enjoy it better. It's not a chore. You know, exhausting. Right.

I'm 40, right? Right. So sometimes, you know, a long, prolonged sometimes you know a long prolonged, you know real physical, you know interaction with my wife That kind of takes everything out of me and then I got laid down and I want to you know I want to have a snack and then curl in a ball and go to sleep. I totally got it So is it yeah, yeah, so this did my stamina went way up. That's amazing. Okay, so did you, so was this the thing that got you quit smoking after 20 years? Absolutely. So that's the only thing.

I tried the patch and the gum. Yeah, yeah. I like the gum. I mean, I, I, you smoke, I don't know if I just kind of like the gum. I like the gamba. I like the gamba. I was just as dictated to the gum. Exactly.

I like the vapes better. And the patch was horrible, right? It made my skin bleed and it was, it was bad. So why are they like, it's a movement right now? It is. It's a freaking movement. Like, I can't, it's a movement right now? It is. It's a freaking movement. Like, I can't believe it. It's the fastest growing industry in America.

Wow. It's two and a half billion after just a couple of years, projected to grow by another billion this year alone. So it's literally one of the fastest growing industries in the country. It's in every country. It's in every city. It's a thing. And when you go, especially here in every city, it's a thing. And when you go, especially here in LA, you go to a bar and you go outside, used to be

there be 10, 12 people smoking cigarettes, now half of them are vaping. It's true. I want to see all of them vaping. I think we should, it's so important, I mean, because really, I mean, also what we're talking about going back to the sex thing is that one of the biggest killers of your sex drive and you're thinking, yeah, I'm not into it, it's because you're unhealthy. People don't exercise. They don't do right. Yeah. And the second you start taking care of that stuff, I promise you that your sex life will get better. And apparently, if you vape too, you will have more stamina. But why are they also phallic looking? You have beautiful

machines, air-free craft, craft-favorite, like let me see that one. That one, maybe not. Yeah, this one, you know, this is a really high-end of money. Wow. But most of them are kind of phallic. I know lots of women that, you know, asked me this very same question, you know, this one here, which is the Aspire Premium Kit, which we sell. My wife looks at this, she's like, that looks like it's gonna run out of batteries

in a few minutes. I think you should make a vibrating vapor. I would love to do that. I would love to do that. I would love to do that. I think what you'd have to figure out is which end you used for the vibrator and then which end you used for the vaping.

I don't know that everyone would want to put the same end that's not right. Good points. We got to put like sanitation things and okay, let's not go with that. But you know, they do make little condoms for the end so that you could share that. Oh, that's important.

Wow. But I feel like that would also kind of lend itself more to making a vaping vibrator. I'm going to go back to my partners and I'm going to work on it. And I'm happy because I've tried every vibrator on the planet as part of my job. But I have a question for you. Because I have a friend who was just like on a diet and she's like kind of a snacker. And she started vaping and she did a help to her lose weight too.

So no one ever thought that that's where vaping was going to go. We all thought vaping was I'm a cigarette smoker This is an alternative to cigarette smoking in a lot of ways. It's a safer alternative But what we find is because the nicotine and the juices are flavored and you can get all of them without nicotine by the way Right, okay, that's cool about 30% of my customers are no nicotine never had a normal fixation for good. It's calming. We find a lot of video gamers love vaping and even at the no nicotine levels because it's something to kind of do.

It helps to kill the downtime and you name a flavor, short of turkey sandwich and I'm imploring the industry to come up with a turkey sandwich. Right. You've got every flavor there. They're all out there. And so, you know, perfect example, I'm sitting on the couch one day. I'm vaping a funnel cake flavor. My wife looks over at me and she's like, eff you, Josh. Seriously, the whole house smells like funnel cake. And I just handed her my vape. She's a

vapor. She immediately picked it up. She's like, okay, this is great. No calories. There's, there was one study that says they have, you know, a couple of calories, but the actual active vaping burns about as many calories as that, so it's a net neutral thing. Right, exactly. And I find it's a tremendous alternative to snacking. I used to be a huge snacker, and so that maybe that's another side effect. You look really fit and good, and I think that's a big deal. I'm a lot less fit now than I was a few years back.

Right, but you look good. I get it though. You don't make sure you just roll the whole thing. Yeah, and so for me, you know, sit in my desk, I can reach for Oreos, or I can reach for an Oreo flavored vape. And so for me, I'd much rather have the vape keep my girlish figure nice and trim. Exactly.

So craft vapor, you started, well, how was it different, like your company and stuff? So craft vapor is a subscription circus, right? Essentially, there's a ton of, the industry's only a couple of years old. There's a ton of brands out there, thousands. There are tens of thousands of flavors in the industry. So if you just start vaping today

and you walk into a vape shop, it's daunting. It's overwhelming. And people don't know where to start. So craft is really a service that helps you get started, helps you to focus in on what you're actually going to like. We help you find the right hardware, we help you find the right liquids, and then we deliver them to you every month.

And all you have to do is basically tell us, I like tree fruits, I like citrus, I like candy, I don't like baked goods, I don't like mints, I don't like menthol, and you can yum or yuck. Any one, any combination of those flavor categories, and then my experts look at your profile, and as you're with us over time, your history with us. And then we can send you an exact match for you. So if I send you a box, it's for Emily. It comes with a handwritten note. It's so beautiful like you're packaging it and stuff.

Yeah, so it's a good gift. Most of my industry is marketing to bros, right? Okay. Flatbrim hat, sleeve tattoos, baggy shorts. Which looks like it's well made. You've well made. I decided. I trust you.

I'm like, that looks like I would go down with that. I've had a few vapes, but like I- That's what we were shooting for. We wanted it a brand that was accessible. We wanted something that didn't feel too masculine, too feminine. No, right. That sat down in the middle.

And 51% of our customers are women. The marketing for the industry would imply otherwise. We'd say that 100% of it was men. I think if you go Valentine's, they give couple wants to quit smoking together, they buy for each other. It's an amazing. You know why you're awesome?

So we met, he was in love with the other night. We met if you go to craftvapery.com, that's C-R-A-F-T-V-A-P-E-R-Y.com. And this is so nice of you. Enter promo code Nadi Emily, and you're offering a 20% off subscriptions and 10% off all shop orders through March 31st. Yeah, I figured, you know,

if I was coming in to say hi, I might as well. There is a promo code. It's the best gift I can. Okay, so Nadi, Emily, Krav Raybury, if you've been thinking about it, you wanna try it, like you will set them up with the exact, because confusing now, if you go to a store, you're like,

I don't know what I want, but you're gonna like help people figure it all out. I love that you're doing this. Yeah, and that's for me, it, and that you have more stamina than bed. I'm happy that you're doing this. Yeah, and that's for me, it's... And that you have more stamina and bad. I'm happy for you. Yeah, you know, it's funny. My wife asked me what I was doing today.

I kind of went through the calendar. I'm like, oh yeah, and sex with Emily around four o'clock and she was like, I'm not buying her dinner. Right, that's a very good one. They never buy me dinner. Pizzes me off. So yeah, no, but it's been a tremendous thing. And for me, it's really about touching people, right?

Smoking is, killed more people than anything else out there. It smells bad, it's unattractive, right? I certainly got laid a lot less when I was smoking. And it's in essence, if you don't find a woman who's also smoking, like everyone else is just kind of out of the selection. Like, oh yeah, that guy who stinks like cigarettes. Right, exactly.

No, it's into it. So, you know, as a lifestyle choice, this was a fantastic switch for me, and it's something I wanna share with everybody I know. So, you know. I think it's great. I think you did a good job, because I know a lot of people into it,

I think that you have got a formula that's really gonna work. And I did also bring you a set up for yourself. I did. So, there's in the boxes, a starter kit for you, and a variety of flavors. You know, I want everyone to love vaping.

It's gotten some bad press lately. I know, but why does it make it happen? I think, well, sorry, no, I think a lot of it also is, this always happens. Like lawmakers, they don't understand it, so they're like, we need to regulate it. We don't know what's going on. You know, we're like, we're old and out of touch, you know?

Were there like just banning vaping in like public areas? We don't know what's going on, you know? We're like, we're old and out of touch, you know? Right. We're like just banning vaping in like public areas. Yeah, I think it's harmful, it's like, no, you're blowing funnel cake, that sounds really good in someone. If you smell it, I never once had someone say, hey, that smells horrible. You're not doing it. I've had tons of people say, is that funnel cake?

Can I try it? It's a good thing. And that's my favorite thing ever. Well, in the office, the radio show that I do is with four people and one of the guys vapes. We have all decided that flan is our favorite flavor that he uses. Okay, flan. So it's always flan in the office.

Do flan? I have one flan. You have everything. Kind of a custom flavor. Yeah, we've got, you know, we've got about 400 different flavors. If you name a flavor, especially on the sweet side, we've got it.

Okay, I love that. So they, Josh, you're awesome. I'm so glad you're here. CraftVapery.com. And they use, I love Naughty Emily. That's so cute. Naughty Emily. Every code you do on the show should be Naughty Emily. Well, it's always Emily, but I'm like, okay, Naughty Emily. That's so cute. Nadi Emily. Every code you do on the show should be not only.

Well, it's always Emily, but I'm like, okay, Nadi Emily and they get percentage off their subscription. Let me get this. They get 20% off subscriptions and 10% off all shop orders. They march 31st with the promo code NadiEmily at craftvaporate.com. And thank you for my gifts. Sure, my pleasure. And you have like the different flavors in there. Yeah. Okay, I wish you could say I'm so sorry. And there's an assortment of some nicotine, some non nicotine. But I didn't give you anything too strong. I know you used to smoke, so I, you know. But instead of popping a piece of gum, check this out.

I haven't had a good one. I bought like bad ones. So this is like beautiful. You'll love these flavors. Okay, awesome. Thank you so much. We're more prepared. Thank you.

Good to see you. Okay, we're gonna go back to sex talk. Okay, that's awesome. Man, you were vape. You can't have one of that. You want me to? He want me to. It's a vape. I can try it.

I've never tried it before. Let's do it right now. It's so fucking so fucking fun. Let's vape together. We've never done that together. Okay, so here's the thing. So let's go back to this. Okay, so lifestyle is that was the one thing.

Is that spontaneous sex is the best sex. Which I agree because it's like in the newness of a relationship is when everything is Spontaneous and new and exciting and mysterious. You don't really know this person and so that never changes and when you're in a relationship So sometimes it can be hard to kind of get that spot maybe going again. So that's a people on the most turned on by Okay, people who are in relationships and 18 to 34 year olds tend to people in relationships who are 18 to 34 tend to be most satisfied with their sex lives. I don't know that really. Okay.

80% of people who are in relationships who are either satisfied or very satisfied with their sex lives will just 53% of single people are satisfied because they're single. Really? Yeah, but the thing about the 18 to 34 year olds are the most satisfied, do you think it's because they don't realize how much better it can get? Probably. Well, let's say you're in 30s, but 18 years old, you don't even know what sex is.

I mean, you do, but you don't even know. Maybe that's why you're so into it, because you're like, holy moly, this is so much better than watching porn. You're doing it all the time, but you don't even realize with some women, our internal, our, but you don't even realize with women, some women are internal or external. You don't even find that out as a guy

until later on in life. Exactly, exactly. So it takes some time, but I'm glad everyone's having better sex. And then younger men and women condom users are confident in their sexual performance. 25 to 34 year olds have the highest perception of their ability in bed.

Half 50% believe their good are amazing. And people who always use columns are 9% more likely to think they're amazing in bed than all other condom users, whatever. So 23% versus 14. So that's a little stats for you here at Menace. I think that people just need to use more condom. So you know we've always said that. Yeah, totally.

Did you start, did we talk about that recently with the, there was that pop singer who put a whole condom on her foot? Yes, she did to say, hey, do you think your penis is something wrong with your penis? Yeah. It's too small. This condom, cause guys use that excuse

and they're like, oh, it's too small, yeah. F those guys. And she put it on her whole leg. Super light leg and it totally fit and it didn't break. So check it out. This, that was sponsored by Lifestyle's, that survey, I love their condoms. So if you wanna, if you really think,

oh, the skin, SKYN condoms that are, the skin large condoms are awesome, because I used it with someone recently. Oh, really? Who was large and they're awesome. Not just because he was large, but it was a good sex. Okay, you're gonna love this one. What people Google about sex according to the numbers.

Okay. Okay. Let me guess. Yes. Can they get pregnant the first time? Not on there? Let me see. Nothing about that. Wow, okay, go for it.

It's all about the goddamn penis. Oh, this is my penis. It's all blah, blah. So, for example, though, no, how it starts is. I think the fatter I got, my penis has gotten smaller. I think Dr. Drew, he said that too. Like, you lose, you can lose hope to an inch by your weight. No way.

Have you gotten, like, gained weight, lately? Or... Yeah, well, gained weight lately or? Yeah, well, definitely in the past couple of years. But finally, I know I've said this a billion times, but finally, I have a wager now. Ooh, well, you made a bet. I made a bet. And it's like thousands of dollars if I lose.

How much did you lose? No, I'm doing like a 10K. Okay, you're gonna run? Yeah, so I have to like get a better time than somebody else or I'm gonna lose thousands of dollars. Oh my God, so now that's, so you're gonna start. Yeah, yeah, it's in September, yeah. Okay, good, that'll be good.

So do now. So because your penis will grow again. I have my penis again. So Dr. Drew, you heard that in the online that he said the penis thing? Yeah, I believe, yeah, you can lose out to an inch because of weight. Yeah, and I'm like, dude, I'm so sorry.

I'm like, how do my penis get smaller? And it's just like all the weight gain. So you got guys. Vape, lose weight. Vape, lose weight and your penis will come back. Okay. Well, you just let me know if your penis comes back soon. Yeah.

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So Google, okay, so these are the things that people click the most. They come up, okay, so what they were starting to say is, you know when you start to type something into Google, like what do people pair the most with certain things? Yeah, yeah, once you start typing, I'll tell you. So you put in marriage, for example, sexless marriage, first thing that comes up.

Wow. 20,000 searches a month. Curiously, according to the numbers, more people search, my boyfriend won't have sex with me on Google and they do, my girlfriend won't have sex with me. How's that for a twist? Because you're always hearing that we don't have. I've been telling you that for years when you don't believe me. No, I've been saying that too.

Before I started the show, I believed that myth, that men only wanted sex, always wanted sex, and women not as much. But I I come to find out that a lot of women are being turned on sexually in the bedroom and they want more sex in the partner. So it's really just a misbatch to be those it goes both ways. I'm not saying that it's like if you had pizza a billion times, it's like you still love pizza, but you just don't need it as much, you know? Well, you always need to have sex to keep the level live in a relationship or the intimacy alive. Otherwise, you're need to have sex to keep the level live in a relationship, the intimacy alive, otherwise you're just roommates.

So, you need to keep having sex. But here's what gets interesting. When you look at what people lie about, according to this Sathari, men say they have sex about 63 times a year. They allegedly only use condoms in 23% of those acts. But women say they have sex 55 times a year with condoms being you 16% and they say the math comes out to condomsales only about 600 million a year but compared to the alleged 1.6 billion, there's some discrepancy there kind of is.

But let me get to the best part. Somebody's lying. Let me use the best part here. This is where they Google the most. How to make my penis bigger? How do you make my penis longer? So if you just point how big? How big is my penis? Why is my penis small? How can I make my penis longer? So if you just point how big? How big is my penis?

Why is my penis small? How can I make my penis bigger? How should my penis be? How does my penis smell? How to enlarge my penis? Why is my penis so small? Yeah, it's all about goddamn penis. Yeah.

And whenever I meet people who are like, what do you do? Sex shut it off. What's the top question you get asked? I'm like, usually it's about a man's penis. Yeah, what's the average size penis? Right. Am I pleasing her to shape?

I mean, we'd love your penis. Stop worrying about it. Go worried about your career or something else. Who's gonna win the big game. And there's nothing you really can do about your penis. So just live with it, man. Live with it. And you know what?

Learn how to please your partner too, because if you feel like, first of all, she's fine or he's probably fine with it and way more fine with it than you are. But also if you feel like there's a all, she's fine, or he's probably fine with it, and way more fine with it than you are. But also if you feel like there's a problem, get really good at foreplay as everyone should anyway, and this should be a better incentive for you. Especially if you're minus now, these are small penis.

I'll give you some foreplay tips offline. What? Small penis now. I'm saying, do you have a mask? Do you want to talk about it more? Losing an inch of your penis is kind of a big deal. I think you have a finger chopped off. It's like losing an nail or something.

I'll get it back. I'll get it back. Okay, we let me text you when it comes back. Yeah, I'm like, good I right now I'm gonna be upset with the rest of the month. Emily, my penis grew back. I'm just really sad.

I lost like 70 pounds my penis. My penis is back. How are you trying to lose 70? Need to, yeah. I don't. Do you? Yes, of course. Well, we're gonna come right out to eat what?

Oh wait, can I just mention something? Please. Yeah, I don't do. Yeah, of course. Well, we're gonna come right out to eat what oh wait Can I can I just mention something so I briefly mentioned it in the last podcast when we had We had guests in in studio and it was this map that came out on the you know freaky as cities in America Oh, I want to know so I have the top. So number one, I already said it was Portland. Actually, let me read it back. I'll go backwards. Number one is Portland. Sorry, I get what you want.

Freakiest city is number 10. No, number 10. Wait, 10, the least out of the... Yeah, we'll go up. Got it. 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, I'm sorry. Okay, keep going, whatever.

All right, so number 10 is Vegas. Wow, everything can be won, yeah. Number nine is Philadelphia. Ooh, ringing the bell. Yeah, number eight is Boston. Boston. Number seven is Seattle. It's rainy and dark.

Yeah, number six is Los Angeles. Can you believe it? Orally number six. Only number six. We're not freaking out. Nope. Okay. I gotta change that. I live here now. Who beats us. We're not freaking off. No. Okay. I gotta change that.

I live here now. Who beats us out? Number five is Washington, D.C. Come on. Oh. Stuffy, stuffy politicians. Yeah. They gotta be freaky.

Number four is Chicago. I can see that. Number three is New York City in our old hometown San Francisco is number two. And of course, I've already said Portland number one. Portland. Portland. Portland is the least place I would think is freaky kinky sexy. Well, they always, you know, stay weird, Portland.

I don't know. You hear all this crazy stuff out of Portland. Let's feel the church of Portland and get some new guests. And San Francisco number two, I guess I would have said that. As number two? I was freaky there, then I'm here. But I'm also busier now. Well, I don't think people have enough Well, I don't think people have enough opportunity.

I don't think people have enough opportunity to get freaky here, because there's so much cars. I know, we're so spread out, not our legs, top. No, but in San Francisco, you're walking around and you're like, there's someone's dressed up as a horse and she's naked and they're, you know. On the radio show, we troll Craigslist all the time. And there's a lot of just like car hookups.

Like meet me here and let's hook up in the car. Because I'm like, I'm not sexist. I know because they probably have a white hair. Yeah, or no, like let's meet up halfway. So you don't have to drive all the way across the country. Oh, and L.A. Yeah, yeah.

Oh, L.A. is all about the car hookup. Because you're like, where do you live? Okay, because it's so true and you're like, geographically undesirable. Yeah. Oh my God, it's true though. Like it kind of lives in, you know, by the beach. I'm like, hmm, off on the car hook. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because you're like, where do you live? Okay, because it's so true, and you're like geographically undesirable. Yeah. Oh my God, it's true though. Like, a guy lives in, you know, by the beach. I'm like, mm, I love the beach.

Yeah, yeah. We're starting to drive 40 minutes. Can't do it. Too much. Okay, so let's read to me, Bels. All right. Because I love hearing from you all. Feed back at sexwithemily.com.

So thank you for emailing me your questions. And also, again, I'm going to mention the survey that you can find on my site. Well, help me. Hi, Emily. I am in a relationship with an amazing guy who is still friends with his ex. This isn't just a normal ex. This is a girl he dated for over five years. We're both under 25 years old, so they dated through a lot of really important moments

in their life. It was a mutual break up. It happened about a year before we got together, so I know I'm not a rebound, but I'm still pretty jealous person. Can't help but get worried when he's with her. They don't hang out a lot, but I know it still happens, and he knows it certainly bothers me, so he has made an effort to not talk about it at all. Still, can't get over it.

I trust my boyfriend, but I don't know if I trust her. Maybe I sound crazy and it's not a big deal, but I was wondering, what's your take on when it comes to being X's Friends with X's thank you Angie Man is like I'm gonna have a field day on me right now. Go ahead. Well, okay This has been a long run thing I'm in the show many of my X's I'm very good friends with in fact some of my best friends The thing is yes, you can be friends with X's. However, there are certain rules to this. When you break up with someone, you need some time apart.

It's not like you break up, you throw dishes across the room, you hate each other, you become unfriend on Facebook, and then your best friends the next day. You need some distance and time to heal those wounds. Now, it makes sense that eventually, you would be friends if you had, you know, you loved it loved you you had a bond and they were together for five years during adolescence and formative years. However if there's you know it can get tricky if you're both one person is still attracted to the other

person and there's still some flirting. So usually when these relationships work is in one of you who have moved on, you have another partner, and or both of you ideally, or enough time has passed that you can become friends. So I believe that you can make a friend with your exes, but the fact that he's not talking, he said he wouldn't talk to you about it anymore because it makes you anxious. I'm just wondering, you know,

what is the level of their friendship? How long is he talking to, or how often is he talking to, and he should include you when they go out. If they go out, he should say, hey, my girlfriend's coming. I understand why you'd be uncomfortable with that. So when I'm also wondering, are they on the phone, are they texting? If they're simply in contact every now and then, they talk once a month or whatever, I'm kind of okay with that, but if you feel like she's infiltrating and your jealousy raiders going up for a reason, you know, kind of investigate that. What do you think, my name is?

I don't like them hanging out all the time. She didn't say that yet. Some of other details about it. They were hanging out all the time. All the time. Yeah. It's either, you know, I would say her or me type situation. But if they talk once in a while, the phone, whatever, who cares? Yeah. But yeah, it's like, oh, this Saturday, I wanna go hang out with Sush and Sush, you wanna come along?

No, I don't wanna hang out with you with your ex. Please, come on. Ideally, if they have a new boyfriend or something, and then you can come with me. That's how it's weird. It's like, well, you've never gone to a place for your friend. Like, I've known in Mexico with my ex and my new boyfriend. I'm're in. It's like. Well, you've never gone into the place for your friend. Like I've known to Mexico with my ex and my new boyfriend.

I'm cool with pretty much all my ex girlfriends, but I'm not going to be like hanging out with them. They're not your first choice. You're not going to take my girlfriend to go hang out with them, you know? Well, I just think that, you know, Angie, you wrote, it's bothering you. I think you got to delve into it more and not just simply have him not talk about it. So there's something that's triggering it in you. You got to talk to about more

and set some boundaries around it and say, you know what, I'm not comfortable with you talking all the time. And so, you gotta lay down the law. If it's all my ex-girlfriends are super jealous because they live boring ass lives now too. Really? Yeah, it's my school, it's still living in the hometown.

7-11, what are they also? Just because it's like me and my girlfriend would just go, we just like, oh, we decided, last second, we're just gonna go to Palm Springs. Like you can do that with me. Right? Well, you're giving me too much crap because I was spending too much time with it.

That was a great show. Yeah, too much time at work, but now I've finally been reached to the place that I needed to be, and then now I can have fun and work. And laugh for you, man. It's because you've the hardest working man showed up. And it's just like, you know,

so it's funny now that like, I'm sorry, you know, you're the one that wanted to give me crap all the time. Right, oh, the girls are mad. Yeah, yeah. It's true, medicine and I have had similar issues when we've data people and we are very independent of jobs that we care a lot about. And when you risk them money to try to,

it doesn't cool with your work schedule. It's hard to date on. I'm like, you can choose me your job. It's like, I'm gonna choose paying my rent. Yeah, yeah. Okay, dear Emily, my wife and I have been married for 25 years. Our libidos are not in sync.

And we go sometimes weeks or months without sex. The problem is that we are noisy according to my wife. With the moaning, the thrusting, and orgasm screams. She's self-conscious and we'll refuse to have sex in our bedroom while the kids, teenagers, are home. She's embarrassed to face them knowing that we have sex. We've gone away every now and then in the weekends, that's fine, but I can't wait months

to be intimate with my wife. Thanks, Frank. Okay, so Frank, there's two issues here. You've got mismatch libidos and allowed sex. And I agree with you that you can't go month without having sex with your wife. It's very important for couples to connect intimately and to continue to have sex.

But I'm wondering if there's some excuses here that she's making, you know, they're, first of all, they're teenagers. Yeah, that's how. You know, you had sex. They know how they were born. And also, like like how often was it will a teenager be home?

That's my fault too. But you know what? I don't know, like some, I don't know. I sound old here. This generation they like staying at home. Like my girlfriend's brother, he is 21 years old, always wants just to be at the house. Vaping and watching.

No, he doesn't. Vaping. But he just likes being at the house and I go, if I, when I was 21 years old, you cannot catch me at the house for anything, you know, but like, Kissies days, they, they think like social media and, you know, talking through the Xbox and stuff like that. They consider that hanging out.

I know, I know, I know. But hey, you know, for us was like, going to Denny's in the mill and I, with your friends, you know. I know, out we were talking, we were looking at each other, we had no cell phones, if someone showed up, we didn't know where they did or didn't, because we did texting. Yeah. Those are going to kill us.

So, so much, so different. So many negative, okay, but here's the thing. Is that, I want to tell you, Frank, is that, again, I'm wondering if your wife is using the noises and excuse, or if she's confused by the mismatch libidos, has she been checked out by her doctor? There's many things that can impact her libido. She can be menopausal, pariamental puzzle, if she's taking meds, if she's depressed. You have to find time to make it work. And even if you have turned on the TV and say, hey, mommy and daddy, you're going to go,

what? Not mommy and daddy, they're teenagers. We We're gonna go watch a movie, kids, you know, whatever, turn the TV on. They're so caught up on their phone. Do you think they're thinking your mom and dad having sex? And you know what, I don't believe that she is as loud as she thinks she is. And I think you just have to.

And even if she is loud, turn the TV on, muffled in the pillows. And so what, I really, our kids get to die. I mean, they're not listening to having sex. And don't do it when they're in the next room. But I'm sure there are times in the pillows. And so what, I really, our kids get to die. I mean, they're not listening to having sex. And don't do it when they're in the next room. But I'm sure there are times in your life. People don't like the army say this, but if you got a schedule sex

and you know that all the kids are out of practice or at a party and it's gonna be Saturday afternoon at three, well, you know what, Frank, you're in your wife, you're having sex, Saturday afternoon at three. So the two of you have to be honest and come together with a solution and compromise that work for you to make sure that you are both having sex and connecting.

Because I agree, can't just be when you go away a few times a year. Yeah, agree. It's your home. And also, you know, check out the app hotel tonight too. What's that? If you have a couple extra dollars. Oh, is it at Hotels.com? No, hotel tonight.

That's what I used just to take off to Palm Springs recently. Because there was like this great hotel, the Siguaro, I might be saying it wrong, but you can see photos on my Instagram, Menace on Instagram, it's a beautiful hotel. And it's usually like 300 plus a night, we got it for like 100 bucks. No way, the very last minute.

That's the whole thing. That's hotel tonight, you're like, okay. Oh, hotel tonight, I get it. So you can't do hotel tomorrow night. But yeah, you get like huge discounts. That's actually good for me because I don't like planning ahead. Yeah, so you were like, okay,

what's a great discount tonight on a hotel and then you just pop it up. Right, I think that's great. And I think that couples, if you're kids are teenagers, you could do this too. You could leave home. And I know not everybody can afford it, but again, just like. That's great. And I think that couples, if you're kids are teenagers, you could do this too. You could leave home. And I know not everybody can afford it, but again, just like...

That's true. Just try to find a way to make it happen, you know? Yeah. And I hate seeing that to people because I know that not everyone can afford to take away from the night, but yeah, if your friends are out of town, they're like, hey, watch our house, or if your friends have a guest house, there are ways that you can get some time. It's important. you can get some time. It's important.

Okay, moving on here. Dear Emily, basically, there's no simple way to put this background info. I'm 23 years old. I've been sexually active since I was 16. I've really been with two people, but with these people, I'm completely comfortable. Yet I find the same problem in both of my relationships

when it comes to sex that is. I have these crazy vivid, mime-bling sexual experiences going on in my head and all the things I want to do with them when I see them and super pumped out the sex and the next encounter and the bam! When I actually see them, I get what I like to call a sex block. I'm like unable to initiate sex or perform all the crazy things I want in my head. Similar to writer's block, what was sex? I just recently started listening to your show and I'm obsessed. I absolutely love it.

I'm upset now that I'm just finding out about it. Playing catch up is hard, but I'm sure with time I'll have them all listen to. Any suggestions are appreciated. Thank you. I look forward to spending all my free time catching up. Thanks Kelsey. You're sweet Kelsey. I don't think you'll ever run out. We've got two thousand. catching up. Thanks, Kelsey. Here's to be Kelsey. I don't think you'll ever run out.

Yeah. We've got 2,000 out. We have 2,000 out of them. They're not all online. Kelsey, thank you. Okay, here's a deal. First, my hat's off to you because you have a very healthy fantasy life, which is one of the cornerstones where the most important things that women can do is cultivate their fantasy

life when it comes to sex. I think men naturally have a very active fantasy life. Yeah. And not saying women don't, but there are many women who are like, I don't fantasize. I don't do that. So that's great. And a lot of our fantasies, we don't actually want them to happen in reality. That could be part of it.

But if the sex is so good, I don't, I don't, you're beating yourself up for what you're not doing, which means you're beating yourself up for what you're not doing, which means you're too inside your head and you're probably not having the best sex you could be having because you're all tripped up that you're not doing this crazy thing that you thought on the way over. And so you don't have the pounce on the fantasies

right away. And just like writer's block, what I do is you just got it right. So I just got it right, it doesn't make any sense and you write and you go back to your, you're like, oh, that's pretty good. So with sex, I'd say stuff thinking about like what it should be before you get there. Just know that you're turned on.

Know that you're excited to see your partner and get into the moment with the sex and maybe you'll be more inspired to try one of these new things. And just because you're having a fantasy, it doesn't have to be all of them. Pick a sliver of the fantasy that you wanna start. You're not failing at sex.

You're not doing anything wrong. You're just beating yourself up because you're not acting out on it. And I'm gonna say, you're gonna get there, Kelsey. You will get there. And so it's just like sex that you have to be present in the moment and don't be yourself up.

And he's not live down, I'm sure. Yeah, he's okay. He's like, why isn't she initiating that elaborate sex that she had about the- Is she breathing? Is she into it? Yes, all right, you're good. Exactly, so sex, the thing about sex is that it's expansive and constantly growing and I like that you're having the fantasies, but they're for pleasure and they're not for creating more anxiety. So, do it with the anxiety. What do you think, menace?

I totally agree. And we agree, but I love that again, love that you fantasies. I hear from women all the time, I don't have them. Okay, next email is sex alive with long distance. Emily, me and my girlfriend are going through a rough patch. I've been struggling with depression. She's been really supportive and is a big factor for me getting through this tough time.

At the same time, this is my first long term relationship as well as a real relationship, which is great, but not made easier by the fact it's long distance. We really don't get to see each other a lot as I can only forward to go see her every month or so. She's beautiful. She's amazing figure yet. She's not confident of it. No matter how much I tell her, the idea of setting me a picture too of what I'm missing seems almost far-fetched, even if I said in one first. Now saying that when we're together, our sex life is great. We can really connect, but when we're apart, we speak like we're a 30-year-old couple. Don't get me wrong, we're real conversations, we laugh, we smile, but no, none of it, neither of it, none of it has, neither of us, have any clue where to go when it comes to phone sex. Now I won't be able to see her until April, the longest I haven't seen her in a while,

I'm scared that if I can't find a way to keep up the spark, then it's just going to fall apart. So I was wondering if you have any advice, how to spice up a long-term relationship, best regards. Both. K. K. Can I jump in first? Sure. I hate to bring in alcohol. But if you are drinkers, it'll make it a lot easier.

Like, hey, honey, you know what, Friday night, I'm gonna be at my house, and you'll be at your place. And let's just have drinks together. Like a Skype date. Like a Skype date? Yeah, yeah. And it'll just like, it'll eventually lead to that. Right, I think so.

I mean, it's great, I'm sorry. I mean, I don't know. I have new cocktails called to their night, but. Yeah, but I think like. You'll lead to the dirty talk? I think it'll definitely lead to the dirty talk. And I, I to bring up another thing that doesn't have to do with the sexual stuff

and go to that, but someone that actually used to do something similar to this was Bill Gates with his wife. He had a long distance relationship. Okay. And when he wanted to talk to his now wife about things, he would set up these dates, but they would, so they would go to a movie at the same time, but like different theaters

in like different states and different parts of the area. So like the stuff can work out. So then they come home, talk about it. Yeah, and they have something to talk about. Face time, he made a face time probably. So the thing is. Yeah, but I mean, this is like way before to all that. I know. I know. I guess. But I'm just saying, like set up situations like that because yeah, a long distance relationship, you have to be innovative and, you know, to keep everything going and, you know, excited. It's true. And we,

you know, dirty talk is great. I get that you don't know where to start. And there's a lot of people who are a little intimidated by it. And the best rules of dirty talk is that, you know, Sky, or phone sucks, is that you want to be very descriptive. And so you just might want to start saying, I missed you, baby. You know, I missed your body, God. It was so hot when we were together last week and I keep thinking about that night after dinner when we went back to your room and you were so hot on the bed, something like that. And then that gets the conversation going.

You just describe a scenario. And she'd be like, yeah, I remember that. That was fun. So then you're like, now what I do? And be like, God, do you ever think about that? If I was there right now, what would you want me to do to you? And she might say, I don't know what would you want. And they could say, I'm thinking about how great

your breast feel in my air, whatever you want to breast. Your ass looks in those jeans, you know. I mean, really, it doesn't have to start all crazy while it can just start being describing his particular fantasy and staying linear. So you can also think about a night that you had sex, that was like the best sexer. You can say, or what was the most memorable night we've had sex? And then have her describe it to you. So again, it's using descriptive words, Skype sex. Huge. I mean, if you say she's not comfortable sending you naked photos, Skype sex, she might feel a little better about

because you said when you're in person, she's comfortable. So Skype sex is really fun because you can make a date, you can even go see a movie. Yeah. Some art cities, talk about the date, have a glass of wine, and then move to Skype sex, or phone sex with both of them, you have to make sure that you set the atmosphere. You don't want to be having phone sex when you go from work and you're pacing around doing laundry, which I've told you've done before. I like talking to a boyfriend and I'm getting a lot because I'm a great-grandfather in the fabric softener.

I'm like, I'm not a turn down, but I know that you are. So make sure that it's private. Guys are so easy. And you need for play. A little bit like that could be like a verbal before play or text her and say, can't wait tonight to see you, you know, if it's gonna be a Skype thing. And then you want it to progress.

You want to take it easy like getting her in dress. If you're looking at her and you say, she has some insecurities about her body, which a lot of women do, but to say, you look so hot right now, what are you wearing underneath that? And like on dresser, talk to her, make her get on dress, then you get on dress,

start it very slowly. And make sure that you are talking through it. So the sex part is where you both, you know, mutually masturbate. So you can play, you don't even have to take it there. But if you get to that point, she can watch you, you watch her, it can be really, really hot, complimentary, say that so hot. You really, if she's got insecurities about it, you can just keep saying how hot it is to watch her.

And I'm, because I'm sure it is. I'm not making this up. I'm sure you're looking at her being really turned on. Tell her that you're thinking that. Tell her what she looks like, how beautiful she is, how much you miss her, how great she looks with the light shining on her, you know, on her bed with her laptop and then you're doing the Skype. And we are on your phone. However, you do it. So there's all these different ways that you can connect sexually. You can also get one of these remote control vibes, which are great.

We've talked about these a few times, but I just came back from these sex shows, they're these remote control vibes. Jésus makes one called the dua and the nua. There's one by Omy Bada and they're great and you can control on your Bluetooth, on your phone, you can get an app where she's wearing a vibrator and you're controlling it long distance. That could be another date. You could do it either when you're together or you're watching her in Skype or apart So there's a lot of things you can do and I love that you have such a consciousness around this because you're right If you guys talk for the next three months, and it's like she's been you get it 30 years

It'll be hard to keep it's hard sometimes in long distance. So you got to do little things You have to keep it fresh all the time Yeah, and if you don't drink, that's okay. I'm sorry that you know, we're pushing the alcohol and stuff like that. Hey, liquid courage. Yeah, no one ever... Totally.

And if you, again, if you don't drink at all, it's not your thing, then, you know what? You just, you have courage inside you. And again, I say it almost every podcast, if it doesn't work out or something that you want to try and it fails, you're not going to die. Nothing bad is going to happen to you. Nothing bad is going to happen to you.

Exactly. And so the long distance thing, if she's not down with any of it, she's like, I don't want to talk to her, then you've got to talk about her. You've got to say, I'm concerned because I feel that, and it's true that intimacy couples need to be intimate in some way or their relationship dies. And so you're going to need to continue to keep that sexual connection alive or she'll come home and you'll be roommates and she'll be staying in the guest room.

So that is true. All right. That's all we have time for today. Yes. So much for all. Thank you for listening. I love you, menace. Fine menace everywhere.

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