Sex With Emily - Snug Plugs, Butt Hugs, & b-Vibes with Alicia Sinclair

Episode Date: August 17, 2019

On today’s show, Emily is joined by sex educator & creator of b-Vibe, Alicia Sinclair, and they’re talking about the beautiful butt and all it beholds!  They discuss why anal play is so misunderstood even though it can provide pleasure for everyone, b-Vibe’s Anal Training Kit that’s perfect for warming up your bum, and proper ass worship — because butt’s are more than just what’s on the inside. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Zumio, SiriusXM, pjur, Same Day STD Testing Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily For even more sex talk, tips, & tricks visit sexwithemily.com For more information on Alicia Sinclair & b-Vibe, click HERE.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

treat your backside like your front side, maybe play on the outside a little bit. Be, if you will, like, ready for sex, or stimulate the area of your body, you're clitoris, right? Your powerhouse. And be turned on and like, be doing dual stimulation, use your finger in the shower. Like, give yourself some time to experiment. To experiment even on your own. Before you go back to the observation. Yeah, exactly. Zero to penis is a no-no, and Lou is your best friend. So hear me loud and clear. The only thing that makes you gay is if you're gay.

Exactly. These are really two different things, and I think the more and more we understand that our bodies have sensitive areas that present pleasure opportunities, and just see the best things to touch and feel instead of buying into a social stigma about what touching those areas actually means.

The more you'll give yourself permission to experience pleasure, and it might not be for you, and that's okay too. But I think it's also like take that off the table, like that social stigma, and like just throw it away. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. On today's show, I'm joined by Sex Educator and Creator of Beevibe, Alicia Sinclair, to talk about the beautiful butt and all it beholds. Topics include, so anal is all inclusive and can provide pleasure for everyone, but why is it so misunderstood? Butt stuff bundles and anal training kits, products that will please you behind no matter what level of experience you have. Different ways to warm up your bum, including the lube shooter.

Yep, I think you know what I mean, but don't worry, we're gonna explain it and ask worship. What's that all about? Well, it's more than just what's on the inside. All this and more, thanks for listening. Our sacred institutions, bed-roof eyes, they call them in a fight on me. Hey, Aveline, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. Hey, girls, gotta have a stand. Oh, my! The women know about shrinkage.

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It's Monday through Friday, five to seven PM Pacific. It's on Series XM Star's 109 for even more fun sex talk. You can even call in with your questions. And you can get a free trial at sexwith only.com slash SXM or just call in, triplet 947 8277. And as always, you can find me in all social media. It's at Sex with Emily across the board. And look for our podcast. We released three a week wherever you listen. We love to see you there. I hope you guys really enjoyed this interview with Alicia Sinclair and everything we talk about you can find at sexwithamily.com slash bevive. I'm so excited you guys. There's no better way to kick off anal sex month. Alicia Sinclair is here from bevive Sinclair. You guys,

her company is based on just all things anal, butt plugs, like it needed to happen. And it's really smart. So thank you for being here today. Thank you for having me. Alicia, I'm so excited. All right, we just had to start rolling because we were already talking about the excitement

where, well, let me just tell you about Alicia first. Alicia Sinclair is the creator of Bevive. She's a sex educator. She makes excellent sex toys for curious people who like sex and want to enjoy it even more. A bishop's daughter. It always starts off that way, doesn't it? Old a good one. Happily sexually liberated woman with heaps of experience in the sex toy space. You've

been doing this a long time as long as it's my 17th year. Yeah. Yeah. Freaking like, we've been in this. We're 15 years, 17 years. Old school. We're doing it. Freaking like we've been in this we're 15 years 17 or do it And she just essentially is using you know this platform. She making probably the only one company I know that is just focused on butt plugs anal play and sex and each education around it so And your toys are beautiful and people I'm talking about it We've been waiting because we do get like 20 pounds of toys delivered here.

People always try things. But we hadn't gotten the butt plugs yet and we got them and we just had to, we were thrilled. We are thrilled. So thank you for sending everything to us and for coming on the show because this is my 14th, anal August and I'm just like, I feel like your ears, my partner in crime and a leader in the space and I'm excited

you're here. Welcome to the show. Thank you for having me. Yeah, very exciting. So okay. Now here's the thing. You make a few sex toys, right? I mean, you make other products, but your main focus or where you started, right, is

with our first product, the company that I founded, our first brand is BVib. Okay. And BVib is 100% anal-play products. It's, we, as I like to say, filled a hole in the marketplace. Never done what they did. Right, because up into that point, there really wasn't a company that 100% focused on anal-play. And really looked at the category from what I like to say is beginning to end. So like beginner to somebody who's what I would say is an enthusiast who has lots of experience and creates products that meet each need, if you will, or like satisfies each experience

for more fun. But yeah, so be right. That's what we literally from A to Z all we do is education, create products, training programs, and events, everything around destigmatizing, creating sex-positive, comprehensive education around that space, and toys that are extremely thoughtful and really focus on the consumer experience. Yeah, well, you've done a really great job of that. We're going to get into all the toys in a second, but first I'm going to ask you a question that I get asked all the time, and I'm just loving able to toss it at you. How did you get into this space? How did you decide that this was the company that you wanted to do?

You're like this is gonna work So it's a long story, but I mean my first position in the adult industry if you will was actually as a receptionist and I answered a Craigslist ad Remember Craig's yes back in the day and I started as a receptionist. And I just worked my way sort of through different iterations of administrative roles. And then I answered an ad on Craigslist for a salesperson for a six-toate company. I had previously been working in the content end of things. And that's really where I started. And then, you know, it became a sales director. And then, you and then worked for a company

that I really loved as Vice President of Sales. Then that was acquired by a private equity company. They let everybody go after a couple of years and I was sort of at a space where I said, what am I going to do? Do I want to continue in this field? I really looked in and I had seen that there seemed a huge opportunity for premium anal products. There was nothing like that.

There was no high quality, rechargeable with a warranty that provided education, that had cool marketing. So I saw that as an opportunity and we created our first product, which was the Rimming Plug. We drew it on a pattern on. It's a pretty simple idea, but is super unique because essentially we made it.

There is not been a Rimming Plug. Do we have a Rimming Plug? I have the petite. Let's show the ribbing plug. Yeah. I feel like we're gonna break this down because I believe that anal is having a moment. I mean, I think in the last 10 years,

you used to say when I started anal's a new blowjob, and now anal's already like, yeah, but people were still learning. So tell me, yes. So essentially, what the ribbing plug is, is like a rabbit for your butt. So what we really did was educate, because sex toy manufacturers up into this point had pretty much ignored the anal sphincter.

So you would, you stimulate this area through anal massage or Rimmie, hence the name of the plug, right, with your tongue or with your fingers. But there wasn't a sex toy that stimulated the anal sphincter. So if you think about a vagina slash, you know, the entry is really sensitive. So in a typical rabbit toy, you would have vibrating beads in the neck, and that would stimulate at the entry. And then inside, you have another vibrating motor. So you're stimulating the interior and the exterior. So you're actually getting dual stimulation, if you will.

And so this was just taking that same concept and putting it into a butt plug. So it goes in, but you're showing me that the things that go around are the part that are teased or they're on the, because there's so many nerve endings. So many nerve endings. So this is like specifically stimulating the exterior. Exactly. So you're getting the entry of the bum, the anal sphincter, super sensitive double ringed muscle. So you get rotating wings, double ringed muscle. Okay. And then inside is a vibrating motor. So you actually have dual stimulation and then we paired it with remote control. So a couple of different reasons. You don't have to click your butt to change a settings. Right. No, you can work up to that. Although, if that's your jam.

Yeah, no judgments. But also, the remote control makes it really fun for couples play. So you can trade with a partner and let them be the co-pilot, if you will. So in any case, that was our first product. It was hugely popular. We now make it in three different sizes. Everything from it. I'm so proud of you.

Thank you. I'm really proud of you. Thank you. I'm really proud. This is amazing. Of course it was popular because it's like, this is, I've never seen anything like this. This is one of the products that, you know, you read the reviews and it's like, wow, I had an orgasm literally just from this product inside my body.

Like it's that powerful and provides that much stimulation. And let's talk about it. You said you get that from a woman or a man, and your clothes are non-gender, your toys are non-frivolent. Let's say that. Everybody has a butt. Everybody has a butt. Let's just talk everybody has a butt.

So your toys are literally for everybody. Yeah, it's one of the cool things. One of the favorite favorite toys, correct? We don't have toys that are specifically marketed towards the prostate, but a lot of our products do stimulate the prostate. Right. So they're not like for examples designed with that curved feature that's like really

angled specifically for the prostate. But our products do, they're our specific ones. Just great though, boy, I'm saying, yeah, I mean, it's, yeah, I was going to say there are specific products that you will feel prostate stimulation, pretty much all of them to some, to some degree. But nothing that's made specifically for that. Right.

We know what I love. So anyone could you share them? Couples get them in the same way. Totally. 100%. Yeah. 100%. Yeah.

100%. All of these products are literally what I love about it, totally non-gendered, doesn't matter what your orientation is. What we've always tried to illustrate is that this is about what size works best for your body, not necessarily like any of these products are gender specific. Which I think is great, because it's really open for everyone.

Yeah, easy entry. Let's just back up for a minute, because I feel the reason why I'm so, well, there are many reasons why I'm excited for you to be here, because I want to get into all the products, but first is like, I feel like anal gets such a bad rap. Like it's had bad press. Meaning, meaning like everyone has a really bad first time

experience. Are you here oftentimes? Who is really bad? Am I partnered with it wrong? Or oops, wrong hole? And then they're like, no, I am never doing it anal again. Or they're just terrified of it. They really, there is zero instructions.

So you're talking about butt plugs of your with like bad instructions. They didn't look so butt plugs of your with like bad instructions. They didn't look so great. They weren't body safe materials. But now like to make anal pleasure, we really do need a little bit. Just don't think it's a sensitive area. We don't want it just, so I,

it's time. It's very misunderstood. So I feel like it's a great time to be here in this space. And I love that you are providing this, this kind of education. But why do you think it's so misunderstood? A couple things. So kind of my go-to because I would imagine you're referring to sort of the common narrative specifically around cis heterosexual women, which is they did this for their partner and maybe had a glass or two of wine and like no lube, no experience, put a penis in their bite, it hurt and

they never want to do it again. And that's a really common scenario, and also pretty much all the wrong way to experience anal play. And I think what happens in my mind is we treat our backside in a completely different way than we've treated our front side. If you think about most people's experience with, you know, say playing with their vagina or their vulva, it was a really long lead time. You know, maybe you humped a pillow, you played around with your fingers, you, you know, pressed your vagina, or excuse me, your vulva, like, you know, up against something, you rubbed, you sort of had a really, then maybe your first experience was fingers, then fingers with the part.

So you had this really long lead time that could have actually taken a decade before you ever actually thought about putting a penis inside your vagina. The butt on the other hand gets like a 10 minute prep time if that. If that. With no education, no playing around, and also you're probably experimenting the first time with a partner. So if you actually do it, like what I say is treat your backside like your front side, right, maybe play on the outside a little bit. Maybe like also be, you know, if you will, like, ready for sex, like, or stimulate the area of your body, your clitoris, right, your powerhouse, and be turned on and like be doing dual stimulation, you know, like, I think there's, use your finger in the shower, like give yourself some time to experiment.

Experiment even on your own. Before you go about masturbation. Yeah, exactly. Zero to penis is a no-no. Like, that's the, my biggest rule. Zero to penis is a no-no and Loub is your best friend. Loub is your best friend. Right. Loub is always your best friend. Let's just be honest, you, oh, and even in the shower,

using your finger, it helps to use Loub. Yeah, absolutely. Always. The anal canal does not self-looper cakes, like the vagina. And I absolutely. Oh, wait. The anal canal does not sell flubricakes like the vagina. And I always say silicone lube. Silicone lube? I have a little bit of a choice though. Yeah, silicone lube.

So this is like where we get into. Yeah. It's a lot of detail. And I don't like to make it complicated for people. So my one easy answer is a water-based slubricant that is called something like gel. Um, that has those words because that's thick viscosity. Gel makes one of those, they make a joe jelly. A lot of them even sometimes say like anal lube,

but you want to make sure water based works with everything. So that's kind of my go-to easy recommendation. But if we want to start getting into particulars, and especially because water based is compatible with silicone toys, silicone lubricant is great if you're having anal sex with a penis because it doesn't absorb into the body and it lasts longer. And really what you want is you don't want friction, right?

So that's what happens when it's skin to skin, you think about a rug burn, that's why anal sex tends to hurt a lot. Aside from that super strong muscle that you have to like relax before you get into it. You need to be turned on already. Right. So that's the easy answer. Just right, exactly. That's a great answer.

A lot of women, I have this experience, we're right. It went wrong. And then there's also the experience of men also, let's say penis holders, having penis holes be like, oh, it doesn't make me gay. Like, I'm straight, I'm a straight male, but if I... Yeah, so hear me loud and clear.

The only thing that makes you gay is if you're gay. Right. Right. Also, to give a really easy analogy, the restaurant that you wanna go to has nothing to do with a person that you wanna go there with. Exactly. These are really two different things.

And I think the more and more we understand that our bodies have sensitive areas that present pleasure opportunities and just see them as things to touch and feel instead of buying into a social stigma about what touching those areas actually means. The more you'll give yourself permission to experience pleasure and it might not be for you and that's okay too. But I think it's also like take that off the table,

like that social stigma and like just throw it away because it's really irrelevant. The sex act does not make you gay, right? Correct. The only you know, you know that and we're not judging. What about women who ask? I get a lot of women who are like, well, I tried it, it wasn't great.

They're like, I'll try it again Emily, but I, you know, will I have an orgasm? Will it feel good? I mean, have you found that using some of your products or the feedback you get from people, from women in particular that they were able to do exploring? Because again, it is a journey. It's not a first time thing,

but they were like, I didn't think I had pleasure and now I do, because I feel like, I just think that people often haven't given themselves enough time, like I can only have one orgasm. I'm like, have you ever tried? I have two orgasms? You know what I'm saying? People are living with me. So it just felt bad or, you know, well,

I mean, to use another quote, like, I mean, if you put, you know, any limitation you assigned to yourself, you therefore create. Right, right. It's a limitation. Correct. Yeah, argue for your limitations and sure enough they're yours. But the reality is, yes, if you've had a negative experience

and you go back and try things, what I would say is, I don't want to say like the reality is, yes, if you've had a negative experience and you go back and try things, what I would say is, I don't want to say the correct way, but the way that I would recommend, or that I think many educators or great retailers would recommend, which is really starting slow, starting with something small, your favorite sex toy, your finger, the hat, it's to be free, and attached to you, and then maybe working up to wherever the size is that feels comfortable, being aroused beforehand, having lubricant. These are all the things that you need to create the perfect recipe for pleasurable anal play.

So if that is something that you want to go on a pleasure adventure with, yeah, definitely try again. And I would say, I always like to recommend Solo before partner unless that's your jam and then cool. Like, be sure that you've negotiated and that there's a lot of consent around like what is the perfect dynamic and where you're gonna start and end.

And don't make it like, you know, it could take a week, it could take a month. Like don't set, like, you know, don't create goals around it. Like, go with it. My partner wants me to do anal, like it's gonna be the event. We're doing anal tonight. So can you, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it beginner kit. Yeah, this is really everything. This is beautiful. This is Z, right?

Okay. So what I've really tried to do here is provide a total anal journey. And what I mean by that is, if you're looking at it from the basics, right, like plugs. So when we talk about anal training, that sounds like what the heck does that mean? Anal training is to boil it down, giving yourself the time and the resources, the correct products, if you will, to experiment with what works really well for you and take your time to get to the right size that will prepare your body for anal penetration. So the way you do that is through starting with smaller products and working your way towards larger

ones. But what we've also tried to do, I think was my goal was to give you also different experiences. So most training sets are like three plugs, one graduated sizes. In this particular set you get three plugs, but you also get three different sensations. And why? Because you know, it's amazing. Right, it's a journey, right? And you also want to experiment and see what really feels great for your body. So like plug number one is about the size of a finger, and that's a simple silicone super flexible plug. So you want something that bends in your body, especially if you're new. And it's going to be, your body's going to get used to this really quickly. Like, newsflash, you know, what goes in, or what goes out can go in.

If you will. And so, this is about the size of a finger. You start with this one. Get used to the sensation. Try it for 15 minutes. And you can even let's just talk about it. So it goes in. You don't have to put the whole thing. People don't even. What I love about all of your products

is that you even have the basic guide that comes in every single toy, the little instruction guide to anal play. The guide to anal play. Because it's like, you really put it all, it goes, this could just be how much you put it in the front. Absolutely. I mean, this is all training, just the tip.

Yeah. Just the tip. Right. So if you start with the first one, right, about the size of a finger. And like you said, you can experiment with just the tip in there first. Just the tip in there first. And then when you feel comfortable, kind of like, you know,

if you will bear down a little bit, right, let it go inside the body, and just see how it feels. Like, that can be like destination number one, nothing else, period. Just see how that feels. So people like off of one, no, but okay, now I got the plug. You're telling me I use it. How should I be in my back? Should I be in my knee? And I know everyone gets to decide, but let's talk about some options for people. I mean, I guess it totally depends on, again, like there's so many, this is a really choose your own adventure, right? But people don't even know where to start on the adventure. Okay, so if you're really

starting with this one, it's your first time. I would say do this alone, put it in before you're getting in the shower. You know, like just to see how it feels in your body. So put it in while you're in the shower. Just put it in before you can, like go in the shower, take your shower, you'll be in a nice relaxed environment.

You know, see how it feels. At the end of your shower, pull it out, wash it off. See how that went. I love see this is what I'm talking totally non-sexual experience By toys and they don't even know the journeys to do to do where to turn it on or what to do or where to start That's really the most honest. I have to say it's the most exciting part. You only get to do this once Yeah, so go on this cool road trip with your body and give it give yourself some time to like experiment with each of the stops, you know? It's fun. Anyway, so I love butt stuff.

So anyway, like that's the product one. And then product two is medium size. So if you look at like fingers, right, like so you're like, okay, you know, one finger, this is about like two and a half fingers depends on your size, two to two and a half fingers. But what's cool about this second plug is that it vibrates. I like vibration for two different reasons. First thing is, it relaxes the body. So if you start with plug number one,

you get used to that sensation. You're like, OK, I can do this. I actually like that. It was kind of fun. And side note, put this plug in where you're masturbating solo. You know, it really feels pretty amazing to have that added pressure. Your anal canal and your vaginal canal, their next door neighbors, put something in your

butt, actually shortens your vaginal canal, so it puts more pressure. And so it feels really amazing. So just, you know, a lot, and that means that there's a lot of women that can actually have internal orgasms from that, because it's absolutely bumping up against their G spot or would absolutely internal spot. Especially if you're taking something like a wand vibrator and you're putting that on your clitoris at the same time. Or your partners playing with your nipples or kissing you

or like anal play can be a lot more things than a penis than a foot. This is why I love that we can talk about that today is that people just think it's penis and vagina but no, it's a whole world that you've all seen. Oh no, yeah, yeah. You're really like missing out if you think that that's the only way.

And also on your own pleasure opportunities because you can do this outside of your partner. Relationships, you know? You don't need to. Some days if you're having that's the only way. And also on your own pleasure opportunities, because you can do this outside of your partner relationship. You know, some days if you're having a really hard time, you can't reach that orgasm, you know, put about plug in your butt, you would be surprised how much quicker you reach orgasm. Yeah, exactly. And again, it could be something really small.

Anyway, back to this one. So the medium size vibration, it's relaxing. So like you've experimented with plug number one, cool, you like that, you want to graduate to plug number two. So it, like this is great. So if your end goal, if you will, is going to be an anal penetration, this is a fantastic plug

to put in like 10, 15 minutes before, as you're playing, relax your muscles, get ready, prepare yourself for penetration, if that's your end goal. Also, what's great about vibration is it feels really good. So you're getting the added benefit of it, like feeling really great in your body and also relaxing you.

So that's plug number two. So you get to experiment with simple silicone, super flexible, something that's still flexible that vibrates, and then plug number three, which this is something that I feel like we need a lot of education about. How we do, because you're like, oh, whoa, whoa, it's big. So it's big, but it's a balcony size of an average, it's definitely not our biggest.

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of having that anal sphincter open thorough. Right? Yeah, it's like every one of those, you're playing with the different sizes, but they're also different sensations. Absolutely, and you get it. Which is, and we have all these different, we have all these products in, you know,

solo with remote control, or in different, this is not the right, the greatest thing that I saw. And I was like, you've got to come on the show and talk about this. This is the best of everything, if you will. Yeah, this is the biggest thing that I saw and I was like, you've got to come on the show and talk about this. This is the best of everything, if you will. Yeah, this is like really the best of everything in creating a destination.

And then we've also done, because everyone's going, yeah, but what if I'm not clean? Okay, so hygiene. That's a huge question. Like, you know, what about poop? So number one. You waited 20 minutes to answer my number one question. That's everything. Like, what if there's poop? Okay. Let me ask it right back to you question. That's everything. Like one if there's poop

Okay, yeah, let me ask it right back to you. It's rhetorical. What if there's poop? I don't know let's prepare for all of that like buddy poops You're putting your penis in a butt or you're putting a dildo in a butt There's a chance there's gonna be poop. So let's all just like accept that And like remember that like it's just a body like get over it But if it is really a hang up, and I totally hear that, we include an inema. And I'll be really honest.

Like, I do think enema's are, they're not requirements, but they do make you feel a little bit of peace because it is. Like, you're having sex, and it's your sexy time. And then, like, OK, poop. Like, it kind of like, you know, that's it. You're done. So what poop can be a universal buzzkill? It can, you know, that's it, you're done. So what poop can be a universal buzzkill?

It can be, yeah, and if it makes you feel more comfortable, I say, an internal cleanse or an enema, is what can really help with that. So a bowl of enema is what we include. This is a really simple reusable. And just if you put warm water in it. Warm water, nothing else. Don't put vinegar, coffee or anything like that.

I always say, well, if you go to do it, you can buy the one in the drug store or get this, but dump out the vinegar, just use warm water and warm water. Nothing else. Don't put vinegar, coffee or anything like that. I always say, well, if you go to do it, you can buy the one in the drug store or get this, but dump out the vinegar. Just use warm water. Right. If you buy the fleet inema from Walgreens or wherever, dump out, that's a laxative solution. That's actually going to make you poop. So you don't want that. You want to pour that out, rinse out the bottle, and just fill whatever, this is a reusable silicone one that we include. But like I said, if you're going to buy whichever product you use, just fill it, this is a reusable silicone one that we include, but like I said, if you're gonna buy, whichever product you use, just fill it with warm water, test it on your arm, you don't wanna burn your body.

And all you literally do is put it inside your butt, lubricate the nozzle, put it in your butt, squeeze in the water, you're gonna remove it, you'll feel the urge to go the bathroom pretty much right away, sit on the toilet, let it come out. I like to repeat it one more time, and then because the water will run clear, and that'll give you a bit of like,

okay, I'm good to go here. I'm good to go here. Just give you that piece of mine. Yeah, and also recommend doing it 45 minutes to an hour beforehand, because sometimes water can get stuck in the folds. So you wanna just have like a little bit of a grace period and like, you know, not eat any kind of foods

that might irritate your stomach beforehand. You know, kind of like basic common sense stuff, but just a reminder. But yeah, do it about 45 minutes to an hour beforehand and you'll have your internally cleansed. I can get that exactly. Like this is just busting with all people's concerns here. Yeah. Okay, so.

And then let's talk about food shooter. Oh yeah, okay. So I love a little shooter. Yeah, I love a good, a good,'s concerns here. Yeah. Okay, so, and then let's talk about who to shoot. Oh, yeah, okay. So, I love a loop shooter. Yeah, I love a good loop shooter. So, Loubert can't, right? That's, it really is your best friend. Like, I can't say it enough.

Like, Lou, Lou, Lou, Lou, Lou, Lou, Lou, Loubert, I mean, I said that. If you think you have too much Loub, you use more. Right. It's better to wipe Loub off than exactly. And, yeah, and rather, I'm more of a put a towel down, you know, like, that's kind of like an easy way to just create a sense of security, put a towel down.

That way your lube and possibility of poop is sort of alleviated in some way. But back to the simple, lubricating inside the body is something that could really facilitate a better experience because I always call this the squeegee effect. So sometimes we put lubricant on our toy or on our penis and then as it goes inside the body, that strong, double ring muscle,

kind of like a squeegee, sort of like, almost like takes all the loop off. So a way to help prevent that is by using lubricant applicator, they're also called shooters. They literally just look a little bit like, you know, like a very simple, like they look like a medical device, really. Yeah, exactly.

And they're, you make it look cute. Yeah, they're super cute. It's very easy. Yeah. Like you literally just put it in the loop, you know, pull up, right, as much loop as you want. Like I say, you go on air on the side of too much, right? Lubricate the end a little bit, right?

Put it inside your butt and then just press. Press. Yeah, and that's gonna put all the lubricant inside the body, so you have again, like a slippery experience and that friction, which is often a lot of pain. And you just wait for a settle, it's already in there. No, it's already in there. Yeah, go for it.

You're good to go. Like lubricate the outside, lubricate whatever is going in. Like more lubrication, but I would say this is gonna help like really facilitate a positive experience. And what's also wonderful is if you use lubricant vaginally, you can also use it on your front side. So, yeah, yeah, double win there. Hello, I didn't know you could just shoot all the way. It doesn't matter where. Absolutely. I guess that makes sense. Yeah, absolutely. And then to talk about a monogram, loop shooter.

I'm just curious what you asked for. I know. Christmas is coming. And then the last thing, and I really, like, I say last, but this is really the thing I'm most proud of, is the book that comes with this set. This is the complete guide to anal play. And this is really, if you visit our website, b5.com,

there's a section called anal play advice. Every other week, we have an article that supports that entire section. There's a section called anal play advice. Every other week we have an article that supports that entire section. It's filled with information. Literally A to Z, everything you could think positions, how do I talk to my partner, consent, so on and so forth. And that's just that's bvibe. B is a butt bvibe.com, which I love. I mean, I'm so into your site because I love that. Yeah, you have so much education there. Yeah, all the questions you guys have will be answered. And then in this book. Right, so this book is the guide for how to get started.

But it also addresses every single product that's included and teaches you how to use each product. All right, guys, we're going to take a quick break and we come back. We have more with Alicia from Bevive. We get questions even though, because with porn, we know, porn came out 10 years ago when people started seeing more and more, and then there's been more anal questions, but the education has not met the level of interest in anal. We have to remember that porn is, it's acting, right?

It's a fantasy. It's a fantasy. It's acting, right. And like, there's a lot of preparation that went into each of those experiences before. They showed the like butt massage beforehand and the warm up, we had a guy called the animal. The animal are the animal.

Like that's hard. They're like, let's cut the animal scene and the porn. That wasn't sexy. Viewers didn't like it. Because someone called me and he goes, well, my wife is a yeast infection or a UTI. We had sex and I went back to front. I went from our anus to her vagina because you know, that's how they do in porn. Like, he literally infection or a UTI. We had sex and I went back to front, I went from our anus to her vagina

because that's how they do and porn. Like, he literally, as a, yeah. Take a breath and like, well, that's real, that's real. So he's like, oh my god, yeah. I'm like, why don't they, why do they do that then? I'm like, I don't know what time to be. Well, that performer might have gotten a UTI also.

We don't know that. We don't know that, yeah, we don't know what happened. We haven't missed the part of all of it. So what about preparing for it, even just the four-play part of it, before like butt massaging and preparing for it? I would say like the thing that I would always recommend is to have a conversation outside the bedroom

before that experience begins. So I think like consent and negotiation, all those sound like really like boring words, actually facilitate like super positive experiences and create and build trust, which therefore enables more experiences. So I would say if you're thinking about it, have a conversation over glass of wine or dinner or something

like that, where there's not in the bedroom and there's not pressure to perform at that specific time, and then talk about what you're comfortable with. So hey, I want to get in an anal play. Oh, anal play. Oh, maybe. So let's start with a finger. How about like one finger?

Right. One finger. Right. Like, how about we just put a finger in like, start from there. And then I think go to the next step and like, talk about, and it doesn't have to be boring. You know, like consent can be really, really sexy.

Like, would you like me to put my finger in your ass? Yeah. That can be really sexy and super consensual. Doesn't have to be like, hey, I would like to get your consent on. It doesn't have to be like that. We can be creative. We've got to get more creative. And make it sound like dirty talk.

Who would say no to Alicia say that, right? I mean, who wants to change her in their own. I like to change her in their own. So it's like a thing. And really, that's it. And the more you have these conversations, the more comfortable it comes in your relationship and the more you'll realize that you'll actually look forward to them and they actually make

it hotter. I know what you're saying. You're going to be like, I could never say that. Try it. Just try it. Try it. And you're just happy. Let's talk about ass worship.

I was looking at some of your blogs. Ass worship. Yeah. That's what I'll tell you. All about ass worship. Ass worship is literally, you know, play in a warship, I guess. So ass worship is more like, it kind of exactly what it sounds like worshiping an ass. And it's, you know, involves oftentimes people's, you know, loving their, I guess, a specific

ass so much that they want someone to sit on their face, or they just want to admire it, or they want to, it's a very different thing. Like, anal play is actually the physical act of playing with your anus, if you will, or un-anus, where asworship is more like worshiping, you know, like the us-specific ass or asses in general. Okay, good to know. Thanks for that. Yeah, although it is like mixed with pornography,

quite often, as titles of production. That's why I've won ass, anal sex. Yeah, because I have some more questions. What if you have acrylic nails? Okay, I would say like my most simple go-to answer is gloves. Because gloves will protect, you know what I mean? If you have a really long acrylic nails, I would say that like a finger in a butt might be a challenge. Yeah. Let's talk about why, because you could also rip the anal canal. I mean, you could rip the tissues. It's very sensitive.

It's sensitive. Yeah, it's, and if you have acrylic nails and you also have a vagina, you could probably relate to the same thing. There's reasons why some people don't have acrylic nails on specific fingers on their hands. That's exactly why. That's exactly why, because we want to put fingers inside bodies, and we want to create sexual pleasure with them. So if that's your goal, I would say probably not the best option to have long acrylic nails.

I might want to think about using a a tool or taking off specific fingernails. That's so good. And always anyone who's venturing into any anal anus, make sure your nails are trimmed. Yeah. Clean. No hang nails. Yeah. You know, moisturize your hand.

I like specifically like getting back to like lubricant. If you're just playing with fingers and an anus, I really love something very simple, like woo. For example, yeah, I was the coconut loobs. I'm obsessed with that. I love that. That's actually for my personal, yeah, my personal loop, specifically for that.

I love them. Just for your finger, for playing on fingers. For fingers, for glass, for metal toys. Yeah, for anything that smells so good. It smells so good. It smells so good. It tastes good. It's like, feels like it moisturizes the body. It does moisturize the body.

And it's not like that. I know, we love it. I love it. So that would be my go-to answer specifically for fingers in a butt. OK. Especially if you're going to put a mouth down there too, because it's yummy, it's vanilla. Yeah, it tastes good.

We're getting a lot more questions about that too. Eating ass. Yeah. Yeah, there's a lot of questions about that. Yeah. It comes up every single day's vanilla. Yeah, it's good. We're getting a lot more questions about that too. Eating ass. Yeah, you know, yeah, there's a lot of questions about that. Yeah, comes up every single day all day. Yeah, no, so you started B-Vive about how long go? Three or four. We released our first product in 2016. 2016. January 2016. And, and so tell me what if you learned between that and now, like, did you feel like, I thought I knew some things about anal but now you must be like, yeah, we at break, because I read, you know, all of the articles that we source

and we've done a ton of events and obviously, you know, funny enough, I've now become like, you know, the person, yeah, like the anal, yeah, go figure. But I would say like the things that I've learned are, I think, you know, when we came out with our first product, it was, you know, a large size plug, and everybody said, it'll never sell, it'll never sell, it'll never sell, it'll never sell.

Like, it's too big, it's too big, it's too big. Word to the wise, like, it's not too big. People like big anal toys, and there's like nothing wrong with that. And we actually now make even bigger toys than that. And I would say that there are a lot more beginners or people that have zero or bad experience than I really ever realized.

I mean, in my personal life, I would say that my first experience was not great. And then I had, you know, like I didn't even know to buy a butt plug to prepare for anal play. Like no one, no one knows. There was no互ah stores. There was millions of people learning it right now. Right. Yeah, like you would never think like, oh, like it just doesn no one knows. There was no blood source. There was like a million people learning it right now. Right.

Yeah, like you would never think like, oh, like it just doesn't come natural. You know, like you don't need that to have vaginal sex. And so it's not something that maybe you would have thought of if you have a vagina. Right. So in any case, yeah, I think that there's just like a lot

and there's just so much misinformation and so many people who want to do it. And also so many like really incredible stories of people that like want, have gone on that adventure and had a lot of success. And I don't know, I just think it's such a bad wrap. It's such a great story to me. We were like, I was an anal, I was like, no to anal,

and now I've graduated through my career. Yeah, I've skipped such a cool story. We do. We get from just overall sex education. Yeah. But I feel like it's such a great way that people could just gone along your journey with you the last few years. But I feel like it's such a great that people could just gone along your journey with you last few years.

And I'm like literally. Literally. They're like, you're my first butt plug. And now I want the big one. I just feel like this is the year. I mean, people, this is the time, the year of Aino. And the year of Aino. Well, I feel like two years ago

we said it was the year of Aino Rimming because we got so many questions about it. I was like, that's the year, but this is like, I feel like this is, I'm just seeing this shift from people called like even men now, straight men are calling in and asking their own, like their partner's making them do it or like they're like, I'm really curious. I feel like men are curious about the prostate.

And they have never played or they've never even gone back door. Yeah, and I think, I mean, it's shift. A big shift. I think it's becoming, I mean, it's shift. So a big shift. I think it's becoming, I don't know, if I would venture to say socially acceptable. But I would say that it's more of an open conversation than it has been in the past. And that people, I think, are recognizing

that it's just another option that you can put in your sexual portfolio, if you will. And there's a lot of, I would say mainstream, if you know, broad city, and you know, all these different, I can, you know, like, coming up now, like, all these different conversations about like, people putting things in butts and, you know, like having anal sex and pegging, and like, all these things are like, you know, there's all these conversations that are being had and like, recognized. But I love that you're doing it.

And I love that you are a, a woman-owned company that you started that, that you're passionate about it, and that I think it's so empowering because I think there's a lot of women who feel like, you know, had, you know, speaking, had, or normatively, that are in relationships with men and felt very pressured. And they always, that Aina was for them. I'm going to give it up when we get married. And so I feel like just by even hearing this conversation is what I'm thinking, that there's a lot of women who I think go.

Like there's pleasure in it for me, like for the first time they would be realizing that it's not just about learning to tolerate a penis, but this might become part of your masturbation and repertoire because I'm always saying, you know, you guys don't know how important it is to expand your sexual repertoire that we just, we're so limited by just going to our clitoris even and we forget about our nipples, we forget about the name of our neck, and we might have never even looked at our in-us. We never could have thought about it.

And I think that what you do here at B. Vibe, Alicia, is that you really give people not only permission, but you make it safe, and you actually provide like really smart education that's easy to digest, and easy to just to understand and to feel like it's not so shameful, and the way you just, and to feel like it's not so shameful and the way you just, it's fun. It's like it's a butt plug.

Like it just, it's like the Disneyland a butt plug. You're just like, so happy. So I just feel like, well done. Like I sent you an email that, because we've known each other for years. But I was just like, now that I've gotten your product, I'm just so proud of you too, because it's not that easy.

You know, industry, there's a lot of men. I mean, there are more women now, but mostly, you know, it had like everything. It's been more men, but seeing a woman and you stand by it and it just keeps getting better and better each year. It's only been two years. Like, it's going to be taken over the world. But it's not the end of the year.

Don't have a plug machine at LAX, maybe. I don't know. I have a few questions that came in from listeners that I want to ask you that are just keep coming in. Where is the prostate? Someone has asked me, once my finger is reaming him, what do I do next? Okay, so my really basic go-to answer is, do you know where your G spot is? Okay, so it's kind of in the same location inside a body with a prostate, right?

So it's literally like a hook, right? Two or three inches inside and like hook upwards towards the belly button, right? Feel around, walnut size, you know? Right, towards just like you would have. Correct. Almost like, I would say like, if you've found your G spot, and if you haven't, like no worries, like,

no pressure, we have an article for that. We have an article for that, exactly. Oh, yes, and we can certainly send like, I'll send a link, we have like a little diagram. It's very simple. Yeah, it's part of my underprostate. Promise right now, so you can certainly send all a send a link. We have a little diagram. It's very simple. Yeah, how to find your prostate. Promise right now. So you all have to hold me to it.

But I think that in your, we should, well, we'll definitely have links on our site, but there's any articles you think will be useful we could post on our site. Yeah. But that one specifically, that's one of our most read articles, is how to find the prostate and how to give a prostate massage.

Those two are like, but to simplify the question, literally two or three inches in. So if you're rimming, hey, would you like me to put my finger inside you now? Yes, great. Okay, and then we put our fingers in, and we hook up, and then we reach towards the belly button. So if you're in a joggy style position, then it's gonna be hooking down.

Right, it's not the cum, because you always come with the, but yeah, you're going down towards the belly button. Tor you're going to, or up depending on what position you're in. But I would say like, if that's your, if your end goal is prostate stimulation and you're gonna play with fingers first

or you're gonna play with your mouth first or whatever the dynamic is, you know, put a pillow under somebody's butt, put a towel over the pillow. Yeah, and then prop them up. So you have easy access, right? And then I personally like to say say like play with the penis too, or the testicles. Again, same concept is playing with the clitoris.

And then you know, like whenever you're ready, just reach in and hook up and then start like rubbing, massaging, tapping. We have actually a couple different finger movements, so I'll send you that link also. But you can try it. It's going to be different for everybody, but tapping is typically something, you can try tapping circles, but you'll feel it. It's like a little like, you know, like a little bump.

Right, and you go slow, and you'll check in with your partner and see how they feel, but I love that even, because I think that we really do need to get that specific. I mean, people often want to know like, what is the best, yeah, we talked earlier, the best positions for like even masturbation, but what about positions for anal sacs even? Yeah, so I think a really big common question, and I hate to keep going back to it,

but because a lot of the questions do really revolve heterosexual couples. So say it's first time, and the question is always like, what position, and I would like, I always say, CalGeral position is the best, because that allows, so if you is the best because that allows, so if you have the anus that is being penetrated, when you're on top, you can control the depth

and the frequency of how, like, write the movement, if you will. So when you're on top, like, that allows you to decide how far once you're, okay, tip is in, I'm glad, okay, I got this, cool, I can take a breather, this feels good. All right, I'm ready, let me go up and, I got this, cool, I can take a breather. This feels good. All right, I'm ready.

Let me go up and down. Okay, I need a breather. So that puts the rider in control. So that's my go-to position for first time anal. Great. Because there's different theories, and I always tell you, well, you gotta try. I can't tell you, but that's a great suggestion.

Well, doggy style is also something. I think people assume doggy style, I don't know that's always the easiest. It's easy for access, if you will. But you're, and you can also do the same thing and say, I'm going, you know, if you're the, the person being penetrated, if you, if you're the receiver, you can, you can, you can say, I'm going to back up,

I'm going to be in control of the movement. That can be part of your negotiation process. So that'll put you in control if you're the receiving partner. But otherwise, I would say cowgirl because again, you're in control of the movement. And then pressure and death. Yeah, the death stuff. And then also, spooning can be a good, a good fun position.

Totally. You spooning. Yeah. But I like cowgirl. I just love that you're here because I'm like, how would Alicia say this? I love butt play, but my partner does not help. Like they've sworn, are they never tried it or they don't, they say they don't want it.

Mm, that's, that's a tough one because, I mean, we're, we're, we're doing like a little bit of a balancing act, right? Like, we're, like, respecting somebody's, right? Respecting somebody's boundaries. Um, I would say, you know, maybe examine why, um, and like dig deeper. So like, don't put pressure on actually having the experience,

like dig a little deeper as to like where is there, was there some trauma experience around, anal play in the past? Is there like a negative connotation or like something that they've read? Like what's the reason why they're so reluctant to go down that adventure? And are they, and also there's so many dynamics

where they the receiver, are they the giver, are they, you know, like, so I would have to like, really dig into that a little bit, but I think trying to find the source of that is probably like, you know, and being very, very non-pressure. Like, I think it's really important, you know, to say like, hey, I hear you,

that you don't wanna experiment with that. And I'm just really like, totally no pressure. I'm just wondering why. Right, tell me what, yeah, exactly. And that you don't want to experiment with that. And I'm just really like totally no pressure. I'm just wondering why. Right. And then when you find out the reason, you can dig deeper around that reason. Like, well, I'm afraid I'm going to hurt you or I'm afraid to be hurt. And then we can say, oh, I've heard about this cool, this cool company, B-Vive, who has an anal play-by-section.

And you can read all about, you know, or find an article, do your own research and that like specifically addresses that and then say, hey, we talked about this thing. And I want to go back to that because I found more information and I'm wondering if you could explore it with me. It has to be an invitation because it's a demand. Correct. And you really just like don't want to put pressure on people because I think that just like uh, eventually that's not a good sexual experience for anyone.

Not a good sexual experience and you're not going to get what you want when you're putting pressure, but to make someone interested interested like why would they want to be curious to to read some of the articles to to do your research I mean research you know education is knowledge but also a lot of couples have to listen to this podcast together so I think this would be a great interview if you're on either end of this for your partner blogs that doesn't listen to this one yeah because I think it's it's gonna be very inspiring for many people who maybe have had their back door closed. Totally.

Alicia, let's talk about safe sex and anal play. What about condoms? Well, if you're not fluid bonded with a partner, meaning you both know each other's status and you're having sex exclusive with each other or being really open and honest about who you're having sex with. So I think obviously, it's really important just like a vagina, there's a huge chance of STIs.

So, and we wanna be careful with that. So yeah, obviously where condoms, especially if it's somebody that you're, as I said, you're not fully bonded with. Right, and also if you use those condoms, you can, you switch them if you're going from back to front. Change your condoms. Absolutely.

Anything you're using, it's totally okay to go front to back. It's just not okay to go the other way. I can't reverse. Exactly. Okay, that's... And make sure, if you're, I mean, we know all the things, but like don't use oil-based lubricant with condoms. You know, like some of the things that we talked about, like if you are a plane with fingers and you're using something that's oil-based, you probably don't want to with condoms. You know like the some of the things that we talked about like if you are a plane with fingers

And you're using something that's oil-based you probably don't want to use a condom afterwards like there's all these things that we need to I can't send an article You guys you gotta check out just get one. I mean her guide for anal comes in every toy you have Yeah, we have a guy to an array. I call it the cliff notes for all things No, it's for all yeah the cliff notes for all things but let's say I want to go back to another thing We didn't go into as much. That is female pleasure and anal.

So we're talking about women who haven't really experienced it or they've heard different mixed things from their friends. I mean, it's not that every woman is going to necessarily have pleasure with anal. Even if they do it all right, they follow every single instruction. Yeah. Yeah, that's totally true. That is true, too. I mean, everybody's not...

And some people like rabbit vibrators and some people like glass toys and some people like suction toys and some people like wands and some people... And that's just part of... But would you venture to say, though, that even if you think that a lot of it could be, definitely maybe you don't want penetration, but to maybe take a visit around even the room, the double muscle, what was it? What was it, the double ringed muscle? The double ringed muscle.

Yeah, I think with lots of durvennings. Yeah, there are a variety of ways to experience anal pleasure. There's not one. So one of them might be your jam and another one might not be. You know, you might really enjoy remain and anal fingering and never want to have penetrated sides. Yeah, you know what I'm talking about, there's like everything you guys, you might love anal bees. I am not to have penetrator. Exactly. You might love anal beads.

I'm not an anal plug toy. Right. Not plugs. Exactly. You know? Let's talk about anal beads from minute two. Okay. Because that's, I always get questions, what's the best, what's the difference, what you've

never used one. That's like an anal bead. Okay, so the really simple, this is funny because I ask this question a lot and most people don't know the answer. What's the difference between butt plugs and anal beads? I was going to answer. Yeah. People don't know the answer. What's the difference between butt plugs and anal bids? I was gonna answer. Yeah, people don't know. So the kind of basic answer is that a butt plug

is, you know, it goes in and stays in, right? If it's shaped properly, right? So you wanna have a flare here, a bolt, if you will. And then that's because the muscle actually closes around this part and then the plug stays in. It's, so that's fantastic. You set it and forget it, if you will. And it actually provides pressure and it prepares your body for penetration, if that's

your end goal. The difference between a plug and beads is beads are almost the exact opposite. They are meant for movement to stimulate that anal-ringed muscle, that double-ringed muscle, excuse me. So like that's and you hear that, it's a muscle, right? So as beads move in and out, they actually create sensation like a massage and it feels really pleasurable. So you just pull it in softly. Pull it in, push it out. The really common story that you will hear is like to pull it out during orgasm, that will intensify your

orgasm, which is totally true, but like don't treat it like lawnmower. You know, it'd be nice and gentle, but yeah. That's like, yeah. I'm coming. Right, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. I get it all. That makes sense.

So, yeah. So, beads meant for movement, plugs go in staying. They just, they say in, okay, that. Now, what about wearing plugs throughout the day? Who always say, can I, what bug plug can I wear throughout the day? I want to wear it to work. So, if you want to wear a plug, if you'll pass me this one, so snug plugs.

Yeah, hence the name, right? Snug plugs. Unfortunately, this one's closed. Oh, we can open it. Yeah, I mean, we can talk about it. We can talk about it. So basically, yeah, the, so these plugs were specifically designed for long. These are your latest babies, right?

Those came out last year, but they've been hugely popular. We just added a series with vibration. We just added vibration series with vibration. You showed me the ones. Yeah, we just added vibration to them. I love it. So these have pressure, which is incredible for sensation. You're going to, as you move, you'll experience sensation.

I could go into a whole story about this. This is probably one of the most thoughtful, well-designed plugs we've ever made. They're all great, but like this one really specifically becomes it comes in so many sizes, and it's weighted and it has a really long thin neck that's one centimeter in diameter. You make that plug sound so sexy. Well they are.

And they are. You've made that plastic. Well, honestly, like, shouldn't they be, I mean, when I'm a consumer. So like, I think I always look at products like, if I was buying this, would this appeal to me, you know, like that? And in a way that you don't want always look at products like if I was buying this would this appeal to me, you know, like that and that. And that's the way that you don't want to look at. Right. And not to say there's anything wrong with small glary pink butt plugs, but like I'd like

more options than that. Thank you. Yeah, like that and like a big black one, like can we have some in between? Exactly. So this was, you know, so in any case, stud plugs. Yeah, they're really, they have a soft gummy base. They're shaped a little bit like a torpedo in the bulb. And as you move, so as you sit, as you move your body,

if you have penetrative sex, if you're exercising, they move, and the larger the size, the more weight they have, and you feel more sensation. So it feels actually pretty incredible. If you think about like a kegel, for example, the weighted kegagle balls I wear. So it's the same concept, but in a properly designed product. That's just amazing to me.

So what about the question about like getting stretched out? If you wear it too long or get it or having too much of a play. And your butt? Yeah. Well, it's a muscle, right? Like this is kind of the same question about the vagina, right? It is. And I think that's unfortunate because that's

a really like negative connotation about bodies and sexuality. But the reality is it's a muscle. So for example, if you anal train, you go through these three different steps of size plugs and you don't play with your butt for a month, you'll have to start all over again. Because the muscle will condition itself back to its original state. If you are really specifically concerned about the strength of your kegel muscles and being quote unquote stretched out, you can do kegels in your anal canal. That is an entire, that's like a hammock shaped muscle.

So actually by, you can literally put one of these snug plugs in, the larger size, larger weight. And you can just squeeze and actually it will plugs in, the larger size, larger weight, and you can just squeeze, and actually it will tap if you have a prostate, it will tap right on your prostate as you squeeze, so you get like double-win exercise and pleasure. And then, you know, essentially your strengthening, your muscles also really fabulous to do kegul exercises while you have a remain plug-in,

because you are essentially like, you're like grasping the muscles around that rotating motor. So you're like amplifying the sensation over and over again. That makes so much sense. Oh my God, it feels so good. See, it's just a wealth of activity. I've never, I've never been so excited to try. I really, I mean, I think it's a,

we just got them all here. So yeah, wow, really good job. So that's, that's stunk plug. I feel like I've so many great answers for people now because I've just really, I know these are all like well-made. These are perfect for long. They're really designed for comfortable long-term wear. Okay.

And pressure and sensation. Happy anal sex month. Hey, Rebecca. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you. So thrilled for you. I'm excited for all this information for people to have now. They give you to see go to your website, bvibe.com

and just kind of peruse you guys. I'll send you your questions answered, and check out bvibe. Okay, I have questions for you, at least you're before you leave, so we ask all of our guests. What's your biggest turn on? I think I really enjoy being tied up.

Okay. Ooh, good. I thought you'd do. Right? Thank you. I love loss of good. I thought you'd do. Right? Yeah. I love loss of control. I feel like there's in a really safe, consensual environment.

Of course. So we're business owners too. We're women. We're talking about making decisions all day long. I don't think it's all the best. I don't think it's all the best. Yeah. Okay, biggest turn off.

I mean, I guess it would be sexism. You know, I just really hate being lumped into a category or like being told that I should like something or having to identify a certain way that I think is so ridiculous. Like there's no reason why women can't like butt toys and like, anyway, that's my biggest turn off. What's your biggest dating deal breaker?

Someone who's not interested in my intelligence. Yeah. Like if you need me to be done more than you, I'm over it. Right, exactly, it's not. Exactly. Not going to happen. What personality trait is the most important in a partner? Trust. All right. Alicia Sinclair. Thank you so much for being here.

Great interview. Everyone check it out. Everything be vibe.com and you could also at be vibe underscore social and Instagram. And the rest are all, you know, Facebook. This will all be in the show notes too. Oh, and at Alicia Sinclair underscore C C-O-T-R. Okay, thank you for being here, I appreciate it. Thank you.

Of last. Total blast. Alright, guys, I hope you enjoyed the show and thank you so much to Alicia Sinclair for being on the podcast and to get any of the products you mentioned, you can visit sexwithendly.com slash a B-vib and just thank you everyone for supporting the show, for telling your friends, for subscribing. We so appreciate it. And thanks to my amazing team, Ken, Kristen, Michelle, producer, Jamie, and Michael, was it good for you?

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