Sex With Emily - Squirtsville or Splitsville: Population YOU

Episode Date: October 29, 2016

On today’s show, we’re on the Sex with Emily hotline, taking your calls and answering your sex questions live! Want to step up your squirting game? Curious about exploring the swinger lifestyle? Wondering if it’s time to end a lackluster marriage? Maybe you’re just dying to know what Anderson’s favorite part of his newfound fatherhood is! Find the answers to these questions and more on today’s live call-in show. So listen close, you won’t want to miss a beat. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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That's what's happening. Dude. What's up, Emma? Hi. How are you? Can I tell you? Congratulations. For what?

Anderson is a father. Oh, that, yeah. You looked like a mature adult when you walked in. Stop it. It was so weird. Stop it. I don't want to change. You are a time A for the first time in a while.

Oh, maybe that's because I was trying to get away. I know, dude. Now he's going to be here early. You know what? Did I work out in here? I got this baby at home. I got a baby. He's like eight, nine days old now, maybe ten days old.

And we got lucky. So far so good, knocking on wood. He's one of the good babies. He doesn't have a colleague. When he cries, it's because he's either got a dirty diaper or he's hungry or he just wants to be held. So far so good. A bit of a kiss.

Ate kiss is pretty sweet. Yeah, for a different angle. That's a really cute name. How'd you come up with that? Jillian and I, she's my wife. We were just, when we found out she was pregnant, we were throwing names back and forth. Those people do.

I hated every single name she came up with.. I hated every single name she came up with and she hated every single name I came up with. And then after around probably two weeks of that, she said Atticus and I said, well, you know what I mean? I kind of like it. I wasn't a big fan of that book, but I do like that now.

No, it's a great name, Adi. Adi, but you know, every time I'd come up with a name, or she'd come up with a name, I'd be like, you know, make a rhyme with it, like she'd say Larry. And I'd be like, that's, make a rhyme with it, like, she'd say Larry. And I'd be like, that's like Larry Ferry, it's not gonna work. He's gonna be made fun of, but we didn't have anything for Atticus, but now that he's alive, I'm already making fun of him.

I'm calling him Fadi-Addy, every time that he's a hundred. Oh, that's nice. You're just gonna get out of the way. Every time he cries, I call him Bradi-Addy. I'm like, oh, that's right there. I didn't see it, though. That's okay. I didn't think anything would run.

You think kids are what that mean? Oh, what? They are mean. Hell yeah, you'll be like um You'll be like what's the what's his name? The comedian There's a lot of comedians little our little friend Fred Williams whose dad was like dude This is gonna be your starlier entire life because he's a little person

He's a little he calls himself a midget so we can say yeah, and so he's like he when he was like seven is kids Yeah, I was like try to get these fruit loops. He put them on like that Right and make him struggle for it. Yeah, and so he's like, when he was like seven, it's kids day, I was like, try to get these fruit loops. He put them on like the, you know, like, you can struggle for it. He's like, yeah, this is what's gonna happen. So you're, or Johnny Cash call with that song, boy name Sue. Name his kids Sue, so we have to like learn to fight. That's it.

That work. So I like it. My parenting skills are kind of going like, well, they're awesome. It's already, I burping him is like one of the most satisfying things I've ever done in my life. I love it. What does it feel like?

So how does it feel when you like, like how you were in the hospital? Yeah. Were you there for the delivery? I was there for the delivery. The wife gave me a very, very specific instructions that was do not peak, do not go down there, do not see anything that's happening, stay up here over my shoulder. So, and then like in between pushing, she'd look at me and she'd go,

are you peaking? And I'm like, no, honey, I'm not looking at her. And her reasoning was. She didn't want me to see that part of her body being torn apart. I don't know, yeah. Because she knows me too. I want to see everything and do everything.

So I would have definitely been right down there. And you would have obsessed about it and probably would have got stuck in your brain because she knows how you think, because you remember everything, and go with a hug. She's so right. I think she had the right call.

But you know, at that point, if she asked me to stay in the corner on my head and like sing, I would have done anything that she wanted. So you didn't say anything to the till Atticus's head popped out. Didn't see it till they actually pulled his head. Like, I saw a little body at first, like his little face at first. And then they put him on her and it was very emotional and I even welled up. I wasn't sure. I didn't know if I was going to like really, I didn't know if I was going to like, you know, lose it or, but I stayed composed and I, welled up. I wasn't sure. I didn't know if I was going to like really... I didn't even welled up. I didn't know if I was going to like, you know, lose it or... But I stayed composed and I, you know, a little tears.

But I was just happy to see that he was healthy and because it's terrific. Right. It's, I mean, it's horrific. It's in terrific as well. But I keep him out and the chords around his neck his face is like a deep blue color, which I learned later is normal.

And his body's all gray. I've never played that before, so you don't worry. He even listened to this and said, I had heard some things. I had heard some like the body being gray and whatnot. But what I do is I was watching the nurses faces to see if they were panicking and they looked like they were determined to get the cord out, but they weren't like pulling out switch blades to cut it.

Right. They weren't like paging the doctors themselves. And then they had me cut the envelope of cord all that stuff and you know within 30 minutes I was like I felt like I knew the kid. It's really it is very odd. Wow. It's very strange. Well, I'm, wow. That's great.

I'm really happy for you. So can't wait to come meet you. Hey, it was created by, he was created by sex. True. Yeah. So you've had sex. Is it weird to, like, look at the world. It's kind of when you start talking about your sex,

that's like, look at giants, like just crowds of people and think every single one of them is the product of sex. Yes, exactly. Well, that's why we do what we do because it's amazing. It's important sex is so important fundamentally because that's how we come onto this art, but yet we and it's a main source of pleasure that's essentially free. It's pretty free. Yeah, and we can all experience it.

For most of it. But yet, we make it so difficult to. It's sort of like everything. Well, that's where you come in. Like this in the darkness and everything that sex can be so challenging and so beautiful. They give life and it can give you a premature ejaculation, which can be a struggle for some. It can be the worst part of your day,

the best part, right? Exactly. So I'm glad you had sex efficiently. Thank you. And hopefully you enjoyed it too. Yeah, because we were told, and then we'll get off baby addicts and we'll move on with the more important thing,

which is the pulse. I can't wait to talk about Loub and the pulse. They're so excited that we've got it. I, because we were told and then we'll get off baby Atticus and we'll move on with the more important thing, which is the call. I can't wait to talk about Louvre and the call. They're so excited that we've actually way more important. You want to talk about groupers, the movie.com, if we may, and especially your perk, because there is a way that people can come hang out and have brunch with you. I know. And this is probably the last time that we can talk about it on your show. So I wanted to say that real quick, groupers, the movie.com because it's they've limited time because the things get an November 4th away from today. It's over my campaign to make my my my my movie is done. So second child Yes, kind of my first child because I was working on

Groupers before Atticus. Yeah, Addy. You feel in Addy See there's another one. There's so many. You're so an Addy Addy I'm gonna call that but go over to groopers thedy. Exactly. I was going to call him that. But go over to groopersimovie.com. I have a bunch of fun little perks. I'm making a very important movie to me anyways. It's going to be funny. It's going to be tragic.

It's going to be all about the times. And if you watch Black Mirror or South Park, it occurred to me the other day that this movie that I wrote is very, it's a cross between South Park and Black Mirror. Interesting combination there. Yes, it is. But we have a really fun perk, Emily and her team, we're nice enough to make it available, and it's brunch with Emily.

Brunched with Emily's. With Emily's. If you're gonna be out now, the whole team, yep. The whole, the idea is we're gonna go have a brunch, bottomless mimosas, I'm gonna find a really chic, nice place, and we're gonna shoot the shit with them and her team, and you're gonna bring some toys.

You're gonna bring some toys, you're gonna have a chat, we can talk, sex, it's a good time. So we're gonna do it. Yeah. One left, he will come by. Wait, there's a few, there's a couple left. A few left, okay, good. I're gonna bring some toys, you're gonna have a chat, we can talk sacks, it's a good time. So we're gonna do it. Yeah. One left, he'll come by. Wait, there's a few, there's a couple left. A few left.

Okay, good. I want to bunch with you, do it. Yes. Support a good cause and more hang. Thank you very much for having me. Thank you very much for having me. And also, can I just tell you that you're a student? Do I have your doctor's appointment?

Your workspace is looking great. Thank you. So looking really good. It's like a girl that I started dating and she didn't look so great on the first date and on the next date like I go and I was like, hey, she put on some makeup. Look a little better. Exactly, right? Little makeup. She next date like I go and it's like hey She put on some makeup look a little better right? Little makeup. She must be got a no it's true because we

Well crossfit lately. I know I know it's really because we got a nice We got it we built a studio in the office. You've a lot more space and I'm just it was you know took a while It looks good. Why do painting want to put pretty things up? Yeah, check out our snapchat starts every time I come Let's put together a little bit nicer. Yeah, just like me right so every time, over time, you see me. I'm getting better. You look younger every time. I know it's that weird. OK. So, good times. All right.

Here's the deal. So, I have to tell you all. Oh, yes. We're getting callers now, just so you know that we love you all. And we want to thank you all. I do. I love all of you. Let's say I wanted to call.

How would I make that happen? That's a good question. When you submit a question on the website, under the Ask Emily Banner, you can, when you're writing your question, like you always do, you can just click, yes, I would like to be considered for a phone call. I'd like to call into the show. And then we will call you and set it up. Sweet. That is it. Okay. But some other things I need to talk to you about is that you know how to about Loube. Feel about loob, and I know that you might actually be needing some loob soon, just saying.

What are you trying to say? Okay. You say one of the births just dries out a woman? A little bit. Really? Things get a little messy around there. Yeah, you ain't need some more for some extra masturbation. I still haven't seen it.

I'm not allowed to look. I don't know. I think that's kind of a secret. I don't have a vagina in my life right now. It left. Oh, you say, is that your way of saying you want a flashlight? It's not what I'm saying, but I'm not going to deny a flashlight. Okay, really?

You denied it before? This is the new day. I'm a- You're a father now. Sure, man, no? You need a flashlight and a loop shooter. Okay. What?

Go ahead and shoot a loop? Well, he can shoot it up there. You know how you need a lot of loop, for example, when you're having anal sex, which may be like that if you can't get into vagina. I don't know what you're going to do. But what I'm saying is if you need more, you put it, it's a loop, you actually put it in your anus and then shoot, you can have absolutely. You do the same with the vagina.

Does it have to be for the anus? You could use it in the vagina. I guess you could, right? You should have it right in there. Exactly, but I think it was more free. Yes, you can. Probably use it for waterboarding up the nose. No, dude, you could shoot anywhere you want. Yeah, give me a little game, like, you know, spray guns,

but you can't do that. Oh, if I had this as a kid, I would be shooting my brother all the time with the, with the loop. But the point is, is that I'm creating my dream loop because I love loop. And Joe, you know, I always talk about Joe loops. They asked me, they're like, oh, Emily, what's like your dream loop? I've been talking about this for a few weeks and so I decided I really do want to create my dream loop so I asked all all of you all the listeners I said please go take this survey on the website let's take you like five

minutes and it answers questions about what would be the ideal if you've ever used loop if you have it we've got questions for you too but here's and it's been so helpful because it's helping us shape the loop. And also, we're asking questions about the show. Like, do you like Anderson? Do you not like Anderson? I'll let that happen. I'll let that happen. You got on there?

I'm trying to figure out if you should fire me. Yeah. What is like, what do you like? Or how would you find out about it? It's very quick. But the point is, I just want to thank you all because I've been so overwhelmed. Like you ask people to do things,

and sometimes they, you know, you're like, could you please be a big favorist? We feel like over 800 people fell out this service. Oh, it's the best. And I read like, the response to people. They want to return the favor, because you've helped them. Yeah, but it was like really sweet.

So I appreciate that. You still have a little bit of time, so go to sexwithelmy.com slashstreamloop, take our short survey, I'll be reading your responses, but you don't want to answer your name, so you can like be honest and stuff. I don't know who you are.

People asking for like flavored lubes, scent lube more will be revealed. Can I can I put in a request? Make it not look like come because that be weird. Okay. You know the lube like already looks like it's finished product. Yeah. And some people actually want that which is so interesting. I'm not so excited. So people like I specifically want lube that does look like come. Really? But not for you. No, I'm not into that. No, I don't like it. Right. Exactly.

So, um, you can do colors though. You could do like a hot pink. That'd be fun. Yeah, but then they could die. And then they make glow in the dark. Lou, I know they make glow in the dark condoms. They do. They do.

Probably not the best condoms that that that. Whenever there's a gimmick like that attached to something like Lou, yeah, they're trying to like divert your attention. What's more important? Like your pleasure, your health, you know, not getting pregnant, you can forego the glow of the dark condom. Speaking of condoms, I've got to really,

actually have fascinating sex in the news. Oh, good, good, good. Is it gonna be my favorite? Well, this is more of a, this is gonna impact society more okay, then I'm all about the same jail for looking at a woman Well, he is masturbating. Okay, so in Sweden. Okay, so there's a new male birth control Pell that could be taken right before sex and will last for days Why are you making a face? I don't like more things to be put on the guy shoulders more things Yeah, more things there's not one

We take care of all sorts of things. You guys just gotta take a pill. What? Don't forget about it. You do nothing. What do you like literally, like, you get things off high shelves and stuff. But what do you, like, I think it's-

Who doesn't do that? Brad Williams. Oh, poor Brad. No, here's the thing. Men have zero responsibility. And here's the thing. What makes it, in a sense of, we, you know, have to be like, aren't we give life.

And we've take care of it all and grow it in our bodies. So it's went through, but you didn't see it, see it. But you know, I saw the sacrifices my wife made. Here's the point, then we would use a pill or use a nasal spray, which will render them in fertile for a few days, according to the mail on Sunday. The fast acting contraceptive could be taking just minutes before sex, according to researchers who created the cell penetrating peptide compound with Portuguese students. But check this out.

You could take it right before. So women, we've taken a pill, we've taken like gain weight, and be moody, and cranky, and hate everybody. That's the wrong pill though. You guys got to try different pills. Well, people got a depressed. Yeah, hopefully we try to get women on the right pill, but that should happen. This you take that second second and it smuggles itself into your sperm. Smuggling. Smuggling. It's like a Trojan horse. It's like smuggling your sperm and it stops them from swimming, which makes them unable to fertilize eggs. Right. And the results were like startling and instant. You know the problem here. Your sperm just becomes a mobile dies.

Like drunk sperm, like Homer Simpson's drunk sperm. Yeah, but guys are going to be afraid of this having less than effect because they you know I don't know if you realize this but like a guy kind of feels inadequate if you feel like his sperm can swim and I can see some guys being concerned I could see that too because not everyone's confident men will be trusted to take it that's what women show unless you want to get the lady pregnant here's what I'm saying is that yeah we can't trust them. With a pal, first of all, you can watch them snooze up their, snooze it up their nose.

Mixing them with a little Coke. Yeah, yeah, I do. Yeah. No, but do that. We can watch them do it. But men, you know, if it says, it says they're not going to die forever. Here is it. If you're taking, if you need birth control, but they're still dead in the morning,

it's the instant. It's instant. The instant because you can't trust a guy to remember to take one of the morning. Yeah, I can't shut out right. That's why I like it. You know, I, guys want to be dads. And I feel like I hear, I understand it.

Maybe they're not supposed to, but I feel from a lot, I hear from so many men who are like, I was so worried about getting a girl pregnant. Like, I couldn't have sex, or I, that's when I always think about it. I just think that, you know, got responsible listeners. Way better than condoms, too, especially, you know. But you still got to wear.

You're sperm-ber-bed. You still got to wear a condom, though, if it's like a casual thing. Exactly. This is not going to stay. This is not going to stay. You can't catch an STD. Even though?

Which are on the rise, by the way. They've essentially cured the old aides over there, right? So it's like free love coming back. They've been cured aides. Kind of. coming back. They've gotten some things done. No they've gotten some pills done that like can you know help but it's not cured at all. I think it's a vaccine. You say it as a cure that's a problem. Yeah. It's not completely cured. I just for many much better than it was 15 20 years ago. Once that vaccine hits the market though it was very sad time.

That new generation is really gonna like repeat the free love. Well, this is what I'm saying. You don't really get to excited about it. I mean, you can be excited that there's been advancements. Advancements, right? In health, but really, it's just a bit of a cure. But still slap on a car. Yeah.

Still, everybody. Right. I'm sorry, you lost friends. I'm sorry. I did. Well, I worked when I'm, this is really interesting. No, but when I first moved to Stanford, it's been a long time, get over.

Yeah. One S. No, dude, I worked in, I worked for the first female congress. Yeah, no, board of super, woman on the board of supervisors, which is like city council and so I just go. That was my first job and she, so I worked a lot in the gay community for about four years. Like all my friends in Stanford to go gay, lesbian community, mobilizing people to vote.

And all that and the point is that, so Carol Mighan was her name and she still around, she saw some. And she, all her friends were like in their 40s. And they were all, like just, and like they were all, they made a per team of supporters for her campaign. This is in 1995 and like 10 of the men,

and all the team, yeah. They were like in the light. Like yeah, so it was. So you're right, right around all of that. And all of that, and all of your team was just, yeah, it was hard. That's, I just wanted to, like the the light. Yeah, so you're right. Right around all of that in all of your team. Yeah, that's hard. That's I wanted to all right, like in the moment here. So thanks for that. Yeah. So that's my start with that. So we're going to take a quick break right now. Give a shout out to our sponsors because we love them. And we love you all for supporting our

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I love it. And I realize after going to she and meeting my listeners, this is the next step I can talk to. I've told you, the thing I miss most about love line, for sure, is the amazing printer that they had, because they used to print a lot of stuff out. I told you that. Other than that, I told you to do that last day.

Other than the printer script, that was me. It's the colors. I definitely miss it. I hear it in from the people. So I feel like this is amazing because now, if you have a question That was the picture script. That was me. It's the colors. I definitely miss it. I miss the colors too. I miss the colors too. I miss the colors too. I miss the colors too.

I miss the colors too. So I feel like this is amazing because now if you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, I love that. And it's so easy because you just go to sexwithelm.com. You click on the Ask Ebony tab, fill out the form, hit submit, and that's it. Now if you want to leave a voice about there's a thing that says, or if you want to, sorry, if you want to ask a question there's a box that says, would you like us to call you? Right. And then we'll call you. Click yeah.

It's click yeah. Click of course. I would like this to be a call and talk to Emily. But if you don't, that's cool tool too and that's still how you submit your questions. You can also leave me a voice mail. If you'd rather do that, that's eight when I ask SWE1. And I love when you include your name, your age, where you live and how you listen. That's it.

Dude, let's go into some calls. I'm excited. We got some setup. Let's do it. Cool. Love it. Okay, so we've got Brooke on the phone. She's 24.

She used to be able to squirt frequently with her boyfriend, but hasn't been able to orgasm for the past three months. And she's looking just for some tips to help change her lock. Hey, Brooke. Hi. How are you? I am good. How are you?

Good. I'm so glad that you called in with this question. Yeah, thanks for having me. Yeah. I love it. You're one of our first callers. So tell me a little about what's going on. Tell me your squirting situation.

Okay, so I, even with my past relationships have been able to squirt and I love it. And with my new relationship, we've been together for about a year now. And at the beginning, I was always squirting and it was great and I had no issues at all. And then about three months in, it just kind of dwindled away. And I don't know why.

So, okay, so you, it just dwindled away. So do you know that it typically comes from G-Spot penetration? Like, do you remember what positions you were in when you were squirting? Yes, okay. And I'm still doing those, but it just isn't happening. Okay, I'm wondering and then my boyfriend now is starting to get discouraged about it because of course you want to make me come and I'm like, okay, well, I'm sorry. You're still having, are you still having orgasms without the squirting?

Yes. Okay, so that's good. So he is making you come still. Okay, okay, so that's still happening. So it's all good. It's great that you can't score it. You've been able to. And you will be able to again. So a few questions for you is, have you

started taking any medications, birth control? Not any birth control medication. Any antidepressants? Yes. OK, so that would be it. That would be the reason. Oh, right. Yes. That would be the reason that would be affecting your ability to squirt. Change up your energy. She's not sad anymore. She's not sad, but she's not crying. I can't remember. Jaina. Hey, bro. And it happens occasionally. So that's why I'm like, okay,

like it happens like every couple of months. But like, is it me? Do I just need to relax more? Like, I don't know. Well, here's the thing also about, what we're gonna say in a minute. Well, a couple of things, the answer to the person is definitely hinder any kind of sexualness.

And you kind of sex, male or female. But I also heard you say, Brooke, that it's important to your boyfriend. How important is it to you? Oh, it's very important. Okay, yeah, I got that too. I got a red flag you? Oh, it's very important. Okay. I got that too. I got a red flag that went up because I heard you say,

I heard you say like my boyfriend's getting frustrated. So what I was gonna say is, well, he's making you come anyway. I don't want the him to be pressuring you. But the fact that you go, I feel bad. I'm inadequate because we all do this. So I think you just gotta sure him that sex, first of all, forget, we'll get to the squirt and get him in it.

But sex is still amazing, you know. We'll get back to it. You know, our bodies, I'll squirt, but like don't let him beat himself up because he's not making, you know what I mean? It's an explanation. I have to know that it's not the same as like him coming and producing something.

When you produce the squirting, that's just added, that's extra. It doesn't mean that you're not coming. So make him, make sure that he understands that you're still climaxing. Yeah. Okay. So I would say that the antidepressants are definitely the cause of it if you've always been able to. So make sure the Hinder stands here still climax it. Yeah. Okay.

Okay. So I would say that the antidepressants are definitely the cause of it if you've always been able to. However, the thing with antidepressants is oftentimes how long have you been on then? Well, I've been on them for pretty much my whole sex life. Okay. But did you just change it? So I just changed it to a new one. Yeah.

What are you on SSRI? A year ago. Okay. Like an SSRI. Do you know like pros X. It's a billify. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. So okay. So we can probably is that but here's the thing. You bet is that sometimes these they subside the side effects after a few months or you know it will actually go away. So I would say yeah and a lot of it can't be anxiety like you know you know, a lot of sexual challenges we face is because we get in our head, is it gonna happen again? And then it keeps happening.

So you could just relax around it, know that you can, know that you will again. But a few things are, is that like extra stimulation to your G spot, which is, you know, locally like the interior, you know where it is. And a lot of times it can be hard to find with your fingers. So maybe you could do a little pre-work, you can use like a wand, you know, a vibrator or a dildo

that is kind of much more efficient at hitting it. So you guys could kind of play with that like prior to sex and get you already going. Like there's some great, yeah, like the rave, right? The rave is a great one. It's on our, yeah, like the rave, right? The rave is a great one, it's not our, by Wevi, a vibrator, and there's other dildos to the end joys great. I don't think we have that on our site,

but that's a great one for squirters. So anyway, use a toy to get back on it. Also, do your keggle exercises because when you have really strong PC muscles, you're able to really, it enhances your ability to squirt because you have work control and your muscles are stronger You're squeezing so that can help as well Okay, and yeah, Brooke can I ask a quick question? Yeah, Anderson's question for you. I don't know. She's there. Are you there Brooke?

I am okay, so you say it's important to you that you squirt it's important to your boyfriend as well as you You say it's important to you that you squirt it's important to your boyfriend as well as you and just as a guy In the room. I'm wondering what does that add for you other than mess Well, I just feel like I'm actually like feeling what's going on like yes I orgasm, but like putting just add this like extra it's like 3D. Okay. It gives you like a visceral Yeah, that's really good question Anderson. So when you're squirting, are you having an orgasm? Yeah. Okay. So what a company is that?

Yeah, but a lot of women get hurt. So it's like a roller coaster, but you get like a splash. Yeah, it's like the water right. Yeah. Right. Okay. I was going to suggest you can just pee in the meantime. No.

So, but no, Berk, I totally get it because a lot of women have squirt, but they're not having orgasms. So I think that's really, I think that's, I think you'll get it back. So again, use toys in on your own too. Like when you're masturbating, like I would play with some of these G-spot toys so you can just like target it more on even on your own when you're masturbating, get to it again. And then you'll be like, oh, I can do it.

You know, I might take a little more time right now, but you'll get there. Like you've done in the past, you'll do it again. I feel good about this. And I get why you like it. Yeah. Yeah. So that's what you got. Thank you for get what you like it. Yeah. Yeah. So that's what you got.

Thank you for thank you so much, Brooke. It's your awesome, you're like one of our first calls. So it's amazing to talk to you. Oh cool. Thank you. Yeah, thank you. Okay. Oh, where are you from?

We didn't get where you from on here. I'm from Oregon. Oregon. Okay. Thanks, Brooke. I appreciate it. Have a good bye. Bye.

Bye, sweet. I wonder if we throw a boyfriend to get a curly mustache. You know, Oregon? Yeah. I just think it's like, I was like, say wet. We just got a fight. It is a little wet. There are all the squirters up there in Oregon. There must be a lot of squirters because it rains all the time.

But yeah, squirting's the thing now. Well, it's been the thing for a while. It's always the thing that it's almost past the thing. Like, I'm waiting for the next thing. I remember when women were really ashamed of it. And some of them still are. But it used to be, to be I almost with you like every single call on love line It was somebody calling up with this problem that they scored I don't know what to do about it and it was always like hey your boyfriend or husband is going to be pumped about right or if

They don't like it their best. Yeah, and if they don't like it that and people always want to know is it he is it not They find traces of urine and it's fluids that are for the peri-rethyl Grants and the barceles gliders, but yeah, the barceles and grounds, but here's the thing glue in the skin Whatever, plans here's the point who cares it feels really good to her and it's hot Who the hell cares what it is? Thank you very much. Okay, Anderson. We have another caller Jeff he's 28 He wants to know how he can maintain erection when other people join him and his wife during sex. That's a tough one. That is a tough one. Man, how do you maintain that erection? We'll talk to him. I want

to hear his, hey, Jeff. Hi. Hi. Thank you so much for being one of our first callers. I love it. Oh, thank you for taking my call. Of course. So tell me what's going on. You're having great sex with a wife and others. Amazing. Yeah, it doesn't happen often, but when it does, when the opportunity has come up, I just seem to not be able to, I mean, I enjoy the moment. I just can't seem to get an erection down. So it's just one of those things that, you

know, my wife looks at me like, what's going on? I'm looking at her like, I don't know. And this happens when when you're having a threesome, or are you like an orgy, like, Thomas, that's at the scene for me. No, no, no, yeah, it's a threesome, not an orgy, you know, okay. But yeah, but it did that. It just, you look at me when every time we've had enough person in the room with us, and I just look at it like, I don't know.

Have you tried blocking the door? Is it another woman? It's a woman. And is it somebody that you that you know? Yes. And are you attracted to her? Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

I think I don't know. I just want to those things that they add on the pressures too much. Or I just want to think that they add enough the pressure too much or I just think I mean anxiety can make it can can have a big impact on your erection. So I mean if you and you had never had a three-some before is it like a whole new thing for you guys new well we've tried it I think three times and all two times it happened. Interesting. Jeff, you don't drink to you. Um, I don't, you know what?

With those moments, I, I not too. You should have a couple like a glass of wine or something. They don't mow me out. Hey, well, it'll help. Yeah, because at those moments, I, I, I don't know if I just, I don't drink. I, I think I just want to be conscious during the moment. Yeah, a little bit. She will.

You're trying to take notes for later, I mean. Have you, and then has this ever happened when you're with your wife? Did you say you've released your erection? No, no, no, never. No, I get, I, yeah, with my wife and I, we could go for hours. Okay. God, I mean, honestly, this is obviously just a scenario that is completely situational, which would make a person nervous, right?

First three, some, the first time's doing it, and then it happened the first time, and it's gonna keep happening. So a few things you can do is first of all, take the pressure off yourself, if you can, and which you need to, actually, because I think a lot of this is in your head, but also, what if you just go in there,

like, I'm not gonna get hard right now, and you just work on pleasing them. For the first, whatever, I mean, like if it happens, it happens, like if you could try to get to that space, where it's like it's about their pleasure. And you're not even thinking about it. You're just working. Yeah, you're just like working and all of a sudden you might not even be so into that.

It's not even about your penis at that moment. That's good. And then your penis will be like, oh, here I am. I mean, I'm like, that's great. I do know, I think about, since you choose you another women, I always think about don't pay too much attention to the other woman. That's always my, back of my mind, remember, you're here with my better half and I'm going to pay attention to the old but the job of your wife.

When you first said this to me, I was thinking that there was something about your your your wife, right? Yeah, your wife that maybe she I had this, I was going to say to you, is she giving you some kind of like guilt around this or signals or like, are you afraid? Did she ever say to you if you like this? Is she, has she expressed to you? I'm worried. Is this one of her concerns that you might like give the other woman more attention? That's that's that's a conversation we've had. We've had that make sure, you know, we've had that conversation, but she never, there's never,

she's never given me a guilt. Okay, good, good. I'm glad to hear that. So really, just like you love her way. She's so supportive of all the way. I told her, I reached out to you. She said she was excited about it. She was so supportive.

Have you let her know that maybe like you are really, that this is something that you take really seriously, that like I don't want to give the other woman too much attention. And I'm worried about what you would think. If that did happen. Yeah. Um, I haven't, I haven't told her that. Um, exact.

Right. In the exact words. Yeah, maybe I think you should. I think you say, you know what I'm thinking? You could say, talk to Emily and we had a chat. And I think that a lot of it does have to do with anxiety, because it can do it. I think you should. I think you should. You know what I'm thinking? You could say, talk to Emily, and we had a chat. And I think that a lot of it does have to do with anxiety, because it hasn't happened. All the things are pointing towards, clearly,

first of all, having a threesome anyway with your partner is a stressful, it can be anxiety-provoking, exciting, and anxiety. But yet, this whole, like, you're a good guy. You're like, I don't want to be like going down on her for two points, seconds longer. And then my wife gets upset, totally understand that too. And you could say that that's where

the anxiety is coming from. Nothing that has to do with her, but I just want you to know it. Maybe once you give that some air and some space and you say it to her, that'll take away some of the pressure. It's nothing she's doing is that I really, you know, maybe she'll say,

babe, don't worry, I get it. It's our first time. I got I'm really not that concerned. I know you love me. What if they had like a little secret like signal that could give each other? So they know that they're on the same page They're on the same team and like they still have that connection that the third girl doesn't have right the third person doesn't have

You know, I mean maybe like a little like a Third base quickly. Oh like I could touch in your nose and like a little wink to the eye I already had that yeah Back of the head. Yeah, like a good job. Good game. Good game And the other thing I mean if you have the erection, you lose it, there is permessence. It can help you last longer a bit. So it's not like if you get a rack to,

remember you're not, you want to say harder, it does, it's the only FDA-approved treatment for like, you know, it's premature ejaculation, but if you just also if you want to last longer a bit, you could try that if nothing else, but I wouldn't, you know, I love your advice of just getting in there, going to work and working on them and not thinking about it And then eventually you know, yeah, it's time to play you will be led to your penis my friend

And then I also think that Emily tell me what you think about this But like maybe working out extensively before the session like you know really going to the gym hard or running a little bit So that you're a lot of your nervous energy is out of you and you can just kind of relax and be yeah I wish I knew when it was a lot of this stuff happens for the moment. You just like, how much is your women in your bed? I hate that. I was going to ask that next, Jeff. How does this happen?

Not that I'm interested in making this happen. It's not like we put on a calendar. There's a lot of that 31st of January. This is what's going to happen. No, it's a lot of this happens spontaneously. Um, she and I are very outgoing. Um, you know, she has a very bubbly personality. I'm very flotatious. So sometimes it just happens. And actually not just it all the time just happens.

All right, it's happened three times. Where does that happen? Like the super market. You really live. Can you tell us like what state you're in even a where you're from? If you Oh, um, I mean California. Okay, got it. All right. Okay. Oh, okay. Oh, okay. So you're at the farmer's market or you're at Whole Foods. Yeah, what are you doing? Yeah, I This happened with the Invagus Club and it was one of those Talking to grown and yeah, wow, okay

Yeah, but then also it Like you said the girl beautiful shoe by white people like I'm attracted to both the woman, but yeah, I think I over Yeah, you're over thinking it. This is it. But we got to the... Yeah, I got it. And you haven't... Here's the thing, also practice.

If you haven't had three Sims before, it's a new thing. You're requiring... So just... You've got this goal. Every guy is going, I'm a dumb and my wife and I went to Vegas and we didn't have three Sims. You're too excited, but I think that we had some good ideas here. Jeff, keep me posted.

How it goes. I want to hear about all your Sims. Okay. Thank you so much for listening and calling in there needs to be an ad for Vegas I just see him fight Jeff with Jeff like doing a testimonial I Want to Vegas my wife and I we had a three-some-one great. Yeah, I'm nice. We had a three-some That's all take they should do adult thing like testimonials for Vegas. Yeah, well, maybe they should But it happens in LA. But I get it. Here's the thing again, we're talking about sex.

It's amazing, give this life. And then we guys can't get our women, can't work as it. Here's what's going on in just that. What do you have to say? Why? Even though it's shockingly amazingly happen three times for the guy in the house. Why four boobs?

But yeah, he's like, oh my god, oh my god, I can't believe this is happening. This is actually happening. This is happening to Jeff. This is happening to you, buddy. Make this work. Do not freak out. Don't freak out. That's all going on in this. And he's just panicking. So right. That's why I think keeping busy like men like fixing things

So fix her clitoris and fix again get on it. Okay, like give her orgasms. You know play with them do things Play with all the breasts in the room. There's like double Like I know a lot of guys really good be so much work, but you know, yeah, you go to work Why is that gonna be a project that that was good. Jeff, thank you. Okay, we got another call. We got Sam, she's 37. She. And she's contemplating splitting from her husband

because her needs are not being met sexually looking for advice. I love girls named Sam. Hi, Sam. Hi, Emily. How are you? I'm good, how are you? I'm so glad you called in.

I'm fine. So, Sam, where are you calling from? Massachusetts. Massachusetts, okay. Tell me about what's going on in your marriage. How long have you been married? We've been married for five years now. He is 40 years old. I only have one son at home.

Everything was going great at the beginning. He would always stare at me and be turned on by me. And it started dwindling down. And he currently does not work. He's at home. And we have sex about once a month. Okay. And you said you have a kid at home? We do a 14 year old. A 14 year old. Okay. do a 14 year old. A 14 year old. OK, so you were 14 year old at home.

And OK, you've been together five years. Yeah. And how long have you been living together? For six years. So I have a son from the previous marriage. OK, got it. So and you said he's home mostly. Did he lose his job?

He retired early. OK, so and he's retired early so. At 40. I want that job. Yeah. Yeah. Correction officer. Oh. Okay and is he depressed? He says he's not. Right of course but a lot of guys don't want to wear a blive. When in women we don't know that we're depressed. We've never been. We don't know how to label it. But if he's been working his whole life and now he's home every day, for a lot of men when they're not working or providing him that way, even if it's by choice, he could

be going through a transition right now where he's just not feeling like he can. I'm wondering when this started. When did it start about a year after I married? So it's been like, that's four years. Okay, so it's been going on for four years and he just retired in the last year, he said. It's been two years. Two years, okay.

So did you feel like it was ever like you wanted sex more and he didn't or was there something that happened? Do you remember like a turning point when it was like, oh God, when I haven't sex anymore, was it after a fight or a particular pivotal moment? Well, I'm going to be honest with you. I had an affair.

Oh, OK, you had an affair. And he knows about it. And he knows about it. He's depressed. So he found out about your affair three years ago? Yes. OK. And that's when this is not the reason.

That's what he says. Well, OK, so then he says that's a prayer. Right, OK, so after he found out you were having an affair, how did he find out? Um, the phone. Right, so it was the phone. People, he must have, okay, he found the number, and then, and then you ended it, right?

Okay, and then was it, did you guys talk about it, did you go to therapy to rebuild trust or anything? What happened right after? No therapy, I asked him to come back and he did and we worked things out and he forgave me. It took a while, took almost a year. Okay. And we seem to be great now besides that.

Right, well I think that's something when you found out about your fear, I'm pretty sure that a couple of us have a really hard time. When you said you worked it out without therapy, it's really hard to be built trust. You know, it's really hard for them to get excited again. And there's a lot of things that are shattered. So I feel like maybe there's something that has, it's just been building and he's probably been pulling away sexually because that was a, you know, a betrayal.

And I think, if I think there probably are some emotions, how could he, you know, I don't know, you said you worked it out in a year. I'm not sure how you guys did that, but it sounds like maybe he repressed some things. That's probably what's going on here. I would think that's part of it, but have you talked to him about this?

Like does he want to be having more sex as well? Yeah, he says that he thinks about me all the time constantly, but he doesn't put it into action. Okay, and you're trying to have sex with it, you're making moves on him? Yes, I am. And he says what? He'll say that he doesn't feel good,

who's retired. He's like Mr. Roper. Right, so every time he's, so it's more, you're making efforts. You're like, Sam. I am making an effort. I've given up kind of. I've talked to him.

I've communicated so much with him. He always wants to do it in the shower too. Okay. And you don't? It's like prison shower sex. It's all right. He's a correctional officer. Maybe he's a little role-playing.

But it's not funny at the same time. Funny, not funny. I'm not sure. I mean, you're still track-at-jump, right? Or do you still kind of want... When we have sex, it's amazing. Okay. I have no problems with orgasms, but it's in the shower all the time. And he's afraid of blood. What? Okay. Right. Like, sure. So, sounds and he's afraid of blood okay has it right

like your so it sounds like he's is he OCD uh... i think so does he ever go down on you what that is he ever go down on you never right yet he's got a little bit of the beginning at the beginning but now that there's been another dick there to that's a problem i i don't know what it is so he wants to shower because it's clean is that why he's like randomly won't take a shower at three o'clock in the afternoon

Or it's like hey, I'm taking a shower in the morning. Let's shower or is it that's the only place he wants to sex There's a lot going on here Sam. I got to start taking notes. I'm here in two different calls Really, I'm hearing like everything's great and and he thinks about me nonstop and the sex is amazing when it happens And he forgave me for my horrible betrayal But then I'm hearing like I want out of this marriage and there's no sex right It's like two separate calls in one and I also picture this guy being like our man's man and you know Bottling his feelings and not wanting to get any kind of professional help Yeah, even talking to him on the phone with you right now would probably be a cute help

Is he there? He is here. Can he hear you? No, he cannot. I, I don't know. I mean, I honestly, I think the same thing. I think he's probably, you say he's fine. He's fine. No one just fought. Like you need to process emotions.

And you guys need to learn how to communicate in that way. I think you can make this work. But I really do think this is a case for therapy. There's a lot of layers there. Can you guys have that? Can you get couples therapy? Do you have good health insurance? I'm sure he does.

The police department. He might not want to though. Does he not want to? Not help. What's that? He says that he won't. It won't help. See, he's one of those guys. I know. But it will help. Tell him that the marriage is not going to last because you need to have that sexual connection if he doesn't go. She's not really in a position to be given ultimatum. Yeah, but here's a thing. He says he's over all this stuff, but it's actually not true. So it's truly the like he he doesn't even know what he doesn't know. You know, you don't know what you

don't know. And he doesn't know what it's like to be a communicator and to be open and to feel emotions. And he probably has a lot of bottom needs to like crying. He's still got a lot of resentment. And he's saying he's with holding sex. Yeah. Yeah. Punishment. What he even realizes that are not exactly none of this is intentional because he doesn't have the right, he does not develop the skills get to communicate effectively as an adult, which most many of us don't. It's a learned skill. So he's got to be willing to make this commitment for the marriage to work.

Because there's lots of untangle here Sam. Have you thought about cheating again since all this is going on? I don't want to say anything. No, no. I've been trying to communicate and work things. Yeah, but see, you're doing the same thing. Oh, you're trying, trying. He's saying, yeah, I'm fine.

I'm fine. So now, you've got to mix it up. You have to go talk to somebody. You got to. That's the last thing. You're wasting years. Nothing else to do. Yeah, it's true. And you want to answer, Sam, you're 37 years old.

You know, you got a good, a son, a life. You want to have sex and a relationship. You want to really share with the healthy sex life. And so this is your let you got to do it. He's got to go. And if you want to set up another time from the call and hear for you, he's got to go or he's got to go. Yeah. It's literally you can listen to this.

It's just there's no where you guys have a lot. No one else can help. Okay. And then you'll know that you did everything. And then you can decide if you want to leave and then sleep with someone else. but don't do it before. Thank you Sam. Okay, thanks.

Thank you so much. Thank you so much for calling it. Okay, keep us posted. Bye. Oh Sam. Oh Sam. I can't believe that there's still guys, I'm one of them actually, who doesn't really do therapy.

Like, you know, it's like kicking and screaming to do something that you know is going to help you. Yeah. It's like a match, I'll say that you know is going to help you. Yeah. It's like a match. I can't believe you haven't gone. So don't take Anderson as an example, but literally every single person on the planet, I believe that if you're struggling in some way, especially in a relationship, it's the only thing that's going to help you because what you're doing is a lot of what we don't

naturally know how to even feel our emotions, let alone communicate them to a partner. And so it just teaches you how to get all the things that are in your head. Or get nothing. Talk about it. You feel better. Yes. We did. I think I would like to say that everybody needs a therapy

down on them. I think everybody does need therapy. Some people more than others, like Anderson. But no, it's everyone does. And so I'm just saying, but I, but then it was Anderson, you at you said, does your husband not want to go? And we always hear that from couples. So I just think, he's got to go. I was just picturing that guy'm just saying, but then it was Anderson, you said that your husband not want to go and we always hear that from couples. So I just think, ah, he's got to go.

I was just picturing that guy from Massachusetts. And I'll be down to the buy. I don't need any therapy. I get the struggle. Keep the dicks away from your mouth when I'm gone. You know what I mean? Yeah, exactly. Thanks for playing that out.

OK, we get another call. This is fun. OK, we're going to talk to you, Eric. He's ready to pursue a relationship after a dating break, but isn't sure how to put himself out there, and we have it doesn't come off as creepy. He's 25, hey, Eric. Hi.

How are you? I'm not, I'm not bad, I bet you. I'm good. I'm good, I want to help, we want to help you find Mrs. Wright. So, why do you feel like you're creepy? It's just one of those things that, you know, no matter when I go out or anything like that with my friends and you know we're out there and I see somebody, I just get a crippling anxiety about even going up to talk to somebody.

Right. I don't know why it's just one of those things. Because a lot of guys have to come off the wrong way. Got it, I got it. Right, okay, I just need to understand if you've ever been accused of being creepy or just anxiety and fear of being potentially being creepy. I get that though, if you're like hyper aware, Eric,

and obviously the fear of rejection is there for everybody, but I was, and I continue to be, hyper aware of things, I know what guys want, I know what I want from a girl ultimately. And when I'm thinking about that, when I'm talking to her, I just feel awful. I feel like a creepy guy because I'm thinking about what's actually happening, which is I'm talking to this woman,

hoping that one day I can be inside of her, which is weird. It's too much to think about. So you got to be able to just go with the flow a little bit and enjoy the conversation. And I think it's tough for me too because most of my friends, especially that I go out with our female. So I'm normally the one that's also there playing defense for them. Yeah. Sure things.

He's got that anti-guide thing going on. I did the same thing. I know what's going on there and then I don't want to be that same way. Right. You want to be like, guy, but you're really not that guy. So I just wanted to first understand if you've been accused, but you're not that, you're like a nice guy. You've got a lot of good girl, which actually you want to use these girls and you're helping

them. They should be helping you too. Like a wing woman. That's amazing. Like they're your friends. They obviously don't want to sleep, you know, you're not sleeping together. They probably do what? He probably wants to bang at least one.

No, do you want to bang all of them actively? Like of course you do like you want to but You're really out trying to make me someone new right? Yeah, okay, so these girls can be like oh my god like Eric Let's go talk to you know, and he's so awesome. He's my best friend You know, you got to first say could I say like who they are like they're really good friends or you know You all work together whatever and then they start talking to like Q-chicks and then they bring them over and you all help each other and then you just start talking to them like a conversation

See here's what's happening is that you're getting inside your head before it even happens and then you shut down and you get paralyzed Right and you can't think you can't talk and I don't know I'd have done that with so many things in my life You get nervous. That's what anxiety is and so if you kind of take that out of it and you think, you know what, I'm just going to a bar. I'm with my friends. And I don't even know who this person, doesn't matter who this person is going to be. It might be Mrs. Wright, Mr. Wright.

You just start talking to people. Like how you would have a conversation with anybody if you met him at a bar. We take all the pressure off yourself. Because really, this is practice. It's like just, you're saying hi, you're talking about things. And it's like in your day to day life

when you're not in a bar or it also say when you're just out, I'm gonna give you an exercise. Wherever you're at, you ever go to like get coffee or you take the bus or where do you live? I live in New Jersey, but I actually work in New York City, so I do a lot of community. Oh my God, there's so many things to make girls.

But there's so many, like, okay, so I just think that you got to do a practice of talking to people, talking to women, men, I mean, probably easier if you're talking to women, that maybe that you're not even attracted to. Probably harder for them to talk to women. Okay, yeah, but like just pratt, like, hey, how was your day? And you were someone that you're actually not attracted to, right? And you just realized, oh, it's like talking to anyone. And when I start talking to someone, when I'm on sharing a seat with them or whatever,

and you'll start to get your confidence in your, but your conversation skills. And that will help, I think, and employing your girlfriends. What are you gonna, yeah, what do you think about that? It's a muscle. So dating and approaching women and all this stuff, you're gonna have this paralyzing anxiety until you realize that you can do it. And once you start going out there

and just talking to anybody, you're like, oh, it's just a conversation. Like, that's what it is, you know, and it won't be a scary. I got a couple tricks that I used to use. Is that Eddie? Yeah, it's Eric. Eric, Eric, two things I used to use

that used to work for me a lot because I had crippling anxiety. And I was always, I felt like a perv when I was talking to these girls sometimes, and you know what, I was sometimes, when after the conversation was over, I'd be like, that person was horrible, but I continued the conversation because they were pretty, and then I'd feel like a real dirt bag.

So what I sort of do is I would pretend that they're a guy, that they're an effeminate dude or something, and that would help me, or if that wasn't, if it was too far of a stretch, I would pretend that they're my reallyeminate dude or something, and that would help me. Or if that wasn't, if it was too far of a stretch, I would pretend that there are my really good friends, girlfriend, and while I'm talking to them, I'm just in my head thinking, I wanna be cool, I want them to like me,

because they're my really good friends, girlfriend, but I'm not ever gonna put any moves on this person, because it's my really good friends, girlfriend. And that way you're just talking to them as a person and not a sexual object. Could you do that, Eric? That I can do. Yeah. You know, it's always just been one of those things like, you know,

I dated somebody for three years in college, so I never even got really a fan. Yeah. Yeah, you're stuck in a little bit. You go to the, I'm telling you it's like learning any other skill and you'll do it a few times. And I'm telling you, like, if I, if you do this, what I'm telling you every day, you start practicing and talking to people, you can pretend that there's someone else too.

Just pretend like doing a feminine, do it. You're gonna feel so much better about it. I swear, it's just gonna come to you. I don't wanna have this conversation. It does come to you. It's not one of those things where like three years from now, you might be able to like talk to a con. I think you're in a month from now,

you're gonna feel better. Like all of a sudden, yeah, it's like getting used to a bigger phone. Like go and leave your house now and go just say, I start talking to some chicken line about that you don't care. But you know, like, you don't know that you want to day or not. I've heard people say try to talk to like tens too. Like, you'll find somebody who's way ahead of your league

and just try to talk to them. You know you're gonna get shot down anyway. So it's some good practice. Why do you know we might not? We don't know much about that. We all get shot down by tens. But Eric, just know that this is like so many guys feel this way. I just don't want you cripple it.

I don't want you to be crippled by it for another day. And don't drink yourself in a submission because that's what I did too for a year. And I would just drink myself into a place where I was comfortable to cripple it. I don't want you to be crippled by it for another day and don't drink yourself in a submission Because that's what I did too for a year And I would just drink myself into a place where I was comfortable to talk to anybody But then I was slurring so bad no one talked to me. It was terrible Yeah, don't get too drunk because that's when I think guys are creepy to be honest Okay, I don't know who's met a lot of guys in a bar first of all Luckily, I'm always the DD so

See, he looked a savior to it. He's a designated driver for all these ladies He's taken out and then he's fending off these creepy dudes that are coming up. Go, hey ladies. You're so not that guy. Like let me just tell you Eric, you are not that creepy guy. And for me, I've met guys and honestly in bars wherever I'm not thinking in my head, oh he's creepy unless he really is creepy. And that rarely happens. And I'm like, he's creepy. And that's usually when they're drunk and groovy. And you're not none of those things. So we're there to meet guys as well, right?

Got it? So we're all there for the same reason. So women know that you're talking to them maybe because you're interested, but if you're it's a good conversation and you seem interested in the Ask Questions, that's a great tool. It's being, hey, so you can even say, have you been here? It doesn't matter. There's no magic pick-up line. Just start a conversation going and you'll be comfortable. Okay, you got this, Eric.

Awesome, thank you. Okay, you're welcome, thank you, Eric. Good luck, Eric. Hey, so you're sex with Emily, I wanna do sex with you. See, this is my Get the Creeps. But they only come to me now. I'm like, hey, you have a sexual,

I wanna go back, go to the sexual. You wanna do a little homework? I'm doing a little work. I can't even go out anymore now. But truly, I don't think it's very weird that I've been like, guys could be unless he was like drawing, and doing something crazy weird at the bar. But if I start talking to you, typically,

it's if you're an interesting convert, and I'm not saying you have to be quoting anyone, in particular. It's like, be yourself. It's so funny, too. I used to, like most people, crippling fear of rejection and them knowing, in getting this on my head, too. I used to, like most people crippling fear of rejection and them knowing, you know, and getting this on my head, knowing why I wanted to talk to them. But now that, you know, I'm married, I could talk to anybody.

And it would not, I have zero fear because I know there's zero chance of me. Right. But this is really, again, at this age, it happens, he's going to get through it. Yeah. Yeah. All right. Okay. Anderson, we have another call.

We have Marcella. She's 22 and she's entering into the swinging scene. And it's looking for some pointers to help get her started. Hey, Marcella. Hi. How are you? Thanks for calling the sex level. I'm very well. Good.

We're excited. The top. Do you have Anderson here? We both want to see what's going on. What, Marcella? Marcella, where are you calling from? I'm calling from Riverside, California. Okay.

Big swing and scene out there in the Riverside. She's bringing it. So, Marcella, are you in a relationship right now? I'm actually casually dating, but I do have a primary partner that I'm kind of connecting with mostly. Okay, so you're, it's like more like an open relationship then? Kind of sort of, yeah.

Is it a girl or guy? It's a guy, we're very communicative, but yeah, I'd say it's an open relationship at this time. Okay. We haven't really put any labels on it at the moment. So I have here, you're looking to the swinging scene, is it more like, is that what you're looking for? Like a third partner, are you looking for partner separately from each other?

What do you want, Mars? Well, actually, he is a bit older than me. He's in his early 30s. And he's been part of the swimming scene for a long time. For I think he said for about a decade. OK. And it's something that he mentioned on our first date just to be kind of like get it out of the way.

It's something that would come on our first date, just to be kind of like get it out of the way, it's something that would come up eventually if we continue dating. And me being a very sexually aware person, someone who wants to learn about it, even if it's truly in a platonic academic sense, I've wanted to learn about singing. And so I can be more accepting of the culture and aware of the culture.

And I'm kind of viewing this as a learning experience because of that need to be accepting and aware of such things. And it's one of those things that I have the opportunity to be going into it headfirst. It'd be wonderful. And he's a nice guy. He's been very open about it, very talkative about it, and did something that I'd like to go. I don't think I would be playing, could have about it and something that I'd like to go. I don't think I would be playing, be participating in any like physical activity there. I would just be going to understand the atmosphere and what are the realities in this. She's like approaching this like a journalist, Emily. Yeah, okay.

So you just want to go undercover to like a swing or party and see what happens, but your boyfriend is a swinger. Yeah. Okay. So what's your question, their primary partner? So you do see a your question their primary partner? So So you do see a future with your primary partner. You're actually just kind of looking at him as an experiment as well Um, I'm looking at him as a potential like future long-term

partner And it's I really want to be accepting and open with his life. I see you're doing this more Okay, so you're looking at this intellectually like this is the guy you want to be with, you want to have children with him and spend the rest of your life with him. So you're like, I better get on this swing scene. So, he'll accept me and love me. Or is it that you're like, oh, I find this actually might want to be into it because I'm attracted to women or men

or having multiple parties. I don't have to do with your desires. It does have to do with my desires. It is, even before I met him, I was like, I really want to learn about this. I won't know if I like it if I'm into it until I see it for sale. I got it. Here's what I'm hearing from our seller for sure. M is that she's 22. She's very bright.

And she's an idealist. And she's approaching this the way that she thinks she should. But I don't believe that she's being honest with herself with this at all. I think that she's trying to ask her with this at all. I think that she tried to ask her that. Normally I got paper tons of red flags. There's not as many red flags with the Marcelic. We're here in her speak and she's really smart. But you're Marcel up mark my word. This guy is going to break your heart and you're not going to be able to have him the way you want to have him. Just you got to know that. That's that thing. I didn't want that to happen again.

I mean, it sounds like she's picking these unavailable guys and then what's the deal with that? Well, that's why I asked, are you looking at him as an experiment as well? Because I would rather give you advice about like, okay, if you really can look at him as someone you're probably not gonna end up with, but you want to check out the swing scene, we're down.

But if you think that you're just doing this to like, because he'll come, I'll be the guy for you if you learn to swing. Oh, no, I'm not trying to do this to form myself into something that he will like. This is truly just, oh, he happens to be in it well that I can two birds one alone, but I don't have, I'm not worried if I'm not worthy for him, according to his eyes, I'm out because I know I'm worth it. Okay. She does have a lot of self-confidence. Yeah. She does. That's why I was like trying to pick out if you want more in situations like this. It's a meek little younger girl who like, oh, well, that's what he wants. He wants to try it. She's 22. I think it's

a great time to explore your sexuality and to have tried some things as long as you're cool that we think that you might add up and be your trust. But so what are your questions about swinging? Tell me what do you know, what are you looking for, how can I help? Well as far as what I've read to the dental bit of internet type of research, I've heard that there's a place definitely doesn't get placed based at some times, sometimes they run out in tire hotels that you can meet people and then like engulf stairs and do place doesn't really play space at some time. Sometimes they run out in entire hotels, that you can meet people in the like,

engulf stairs and do stuff. And there's also like normal play area. And normal party areas, where there's no play. It's just talking. Yeah, there's everything. It's there's play parties. There's you're in Riverside. Is that what you said?

I don't know what that is, because my California Jack Flee. Yeah, Riverside. Okay, I don't know where Rivers is. Cause like California Jack, California Jack, yeah, Riverside. Okay, I don't know where Riverside is. Halfway to Palm Springs. I talk about geography. Yeah. Okay, so I mean,

well, the first thing is there's a lot of meetups, like meetup, you know, there's like meetup site, like meetup.com. There's literally like meetups for swingers. Like in your area, you can find like a meetup group. Yeah. There's also apps you can use like,

okay, Cupid has a, has a, you know, part of it for like finding a third person or for swinging and bumble does too I think and pet life also is more if you're into more like alternative kinky bds I'm they've got all that online so there are typically now if you get into like a scene like there Are swinger parties and play parties that like if you if there's like a local like sex toys or sex toys store around there that's like Riverside I'm sure there's a sex story There's a lot of sex toy stores in Riverside but a lot of them are really Seedy okay I was worried there's like a lot of them

It's a good taste to where you get to see That's your romance yeah I mean I wouldn't obviously if you don't know anyone in this field I would say go to the meetups and go online. If you don't have any friends in this area, like, you know, at all that you've ever heard, like, if you've even ever friend from college that you heard was a swing, you call her, like literally take us one person. Like, I've a couple that swings a friend's mind here when I moved here, Holly Michael. They happen to have a TV show called Swing, but the point is, but even if it, like, I had this in San Francisco too, whatever I wanted to know what was happening, you just need like one friend, one partner.

So if you have that person in your life or a friend of a friend, she's got the guy. She's got the guy. Oh, yeah, you're a guy. Do it. Yeah, she's getting in. She's getting in with him. But I'm afraid that she's going to be like riding him in, hoping that it's going to be her and him like for years to come. And that's the main thing that she has to know is not going to be the reality. I don't want to say he's either. I know. Maybe she'll go in and meet someone else. We don't know that. And then when you go to the party, there's probably been a bunch of Marcelo's before you.

So wait, I'm sorry, I forgot that he already knows this stuff too. I didn't know if you were going off to Spangler on, but even when you walk into these parties, so it could be a play party. And the rule is typically that couples can come and single women, the unicorns. No single dudes. So those are the private play parties. There's also clubs that I know there's clubs you can go to yelp There's like clubs in LA that you could seriously. There's like sex clubs. You go play parties and stuff You could find it like I would just go literally like wherever you live There's probably one nearby and you can go and there's you can just observe you don't have to do anything You just have to be a single single woman or with you could be with your partner and see what happens

What is your question? I don't know she wants to to get into it. Do you have any other more questions? Yeah, also I didn't see any references on like the safety and such that are that's seen in the play parties because that's really important to me. Oh god condoms. Yeah, it's vital. But she's not going to have sex. Most like a gubbi condoms, but I do have to like have But she's not gonna have sex. Most likely gonna be condoms, but I do have to like have, this is how my mind works. Do you have to have your doctor sign off sheet that says, hey, you're asking for all the like you walk in the door?

What have no, no one's gonna ask you that. You see your papers? Let me see your papers. No, they won't. And you have to use condoms. If you're having a three-some scenario change, if he's penetrating you and then he changes to another vagina whatever you change condoms all the time. Typically these parties I've been to there's like bulls of condoms everywhere.

So you'll be fine with that. And I think what I've I've gone to these parties before and typically it starts out and it's just like a regular party like you don't walk in unless you're late. Like three hours late and everyone's having sex. It's kind of like you go in, people are drinking high and everyone knows that you're there to meet other people. But then eventually people start talking and they'll dance and you look over, you know, like, oh, there's two people in the corner and she's going down on him and he's, I mean, like, and then sex will start to happen. But it's not like you walk in. I mean, I don't want to say these things don't exist. But the ones

I've been doing good, you'll just sort of, you get there early. You get there early. I don't get the first party. Yeah, but truly, it's, I don't know where say these things don't exist, but the ones I've been doing, you'll just sort of, you get there early. You get there early, I don't get there first. I don't get there first. Yeah, but truly, I don't know where you're gonna, I can't say that they're all the same, but I think it's just gonna kinda, you're gonna know what to do.

No one can force you in doing anything you don't want to do. And, I'm prepared to say no to, and watch your alcohol and drug intake, because you want to make good decisions. Have your faculties back here. Don't need your drink. And watch Eyes Wide Shut before you go.

It'll give you a nice little warm up. Nothing will be as freak as that. Yeah. Scratch stuff. Yeah. And just keep checking it with yourself and making sure it feels comfortable to me. Be careful, Marcel.

I know you're super smart and you're sharp and you feel like you know what's happening, but you're still only 22. And there's a chance that you could wake up at 25 and be Just all you know spent right? Yeah, I don't I don't want that to happen You pragmatic and take notes and she said she might not even be involved physically so

Exactly checking with yourself. Okay, good luck myself. I love it. Keep it posted. Thank you so much. Okay. Yeah, good. Okay. Thanks. Bye Next time she calls you like it's me and moresella been in the scene for a while now. Right. Exactly. Yeah, somebody's in me right now I don't know. I mean, I can understand she's speed your right. She's very smart. She knows that she sounds like she's in a situation where she understands On paper though you and I would be like she also also has a rest like 32 year old dude, Swinger wants to bring her into the game. She's going to do what she wants to do. We gave her all the tips she needs. Okay, this was fun. I love the calls. You guys, don't you want to talk? I want to talk to you. I'm so happy right now. That was like energizing. It was fun. I miss the call so much.

A run. Hey, I'm can I just say thank you very much? I just had great sex with five listeners, but not in that way. Thank you very much for giving me an opportunity to talk to these people again. Yeah, it feels good, right? It really does. I do, I do shows in one now, but we don't have the capability of bringing to the calls on this regular like this. Right. And Eddie, thank you for setting them up. And Eddie will just check that box and you go to sexelme.com, click on Ask Emily. and you can let us know if you want to be called if not don't worry we will still be doing email shows don't get upset and answering your voice mails and that was great that was a blast okay thank you

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