Sex With Emily - Steak, Blowjobs & Anal Explorations

Episode Date: March 14, 2017

On today’s podcast, Emily tackles some of those love and sex questions that are hard to ask and don’t always come with an easy answer. Should you pursue Round 2 with an ex-one night stand? Are you sick and tired of pulling out? What’s the best way to bring up backdoor play with a hesitant partner? Emily and Anderson offer good news for some, reality checks for others and plenty of sage advice to help listeners in their sexual time of need. Also discussed: the best sex positions for expectant mothers, Cloris Leachman’s top anal sex tip and the #1 worst vacation spot for new couples—but only if you were hoping to stay together. Don’t miss another rousing round of uncensored sex talk in this podcast…   Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep this podcast FREE: ZOLA, Intensity by Pour Moi, Promescent and System JO Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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And it's a good time. And I'm here with Anderson, happy steak and blowdub day. How's it going for you so far? It's going fantastic. It's my favorite day of the year. here with Anderson, happy steak and blowdub day. How's it going for you so far? It's going fantastic. It's my favorite day of the year. Any steaks, any blowdubs? You know, it'd be awful if you get those mixed up

or like you're just eating the steak while trying to give the blowjob. That's a bad stuff. First of all, she's not that bright, so you should probably leave her. It's not gonna go all right. It's steak and blowjob. Especially if it's raw or like, you know, rare.

I've never had the opportunity to actually enjoy that. I don't think that my wife, too many of her clients, is it bad to say current wife? That's probably not a good idea. Yeah, well, you're a wife, the only wife. The only wife. How about the wife?

The wife, yeah, the wife, I don't think she has any idea where it is on the calendar. If she did know, she would probably hate that day. A lot of women might hate this day, but I think it's a day to embrace it. Come on, it's an easy one. It's like a slam dunk. Meet and blow jobs, like what? I'm not saying that like every guy, I want to say my day to embrace it. Come on, it's an easy one. It's like a slam dunk. Meet and blow jobs. Like, I'm not saying that like every guy,

I want to come up with it. But do we know the history of, probably dude? Probably the constitution. Probably a Friday. Right. Mail response to mail. I had to put up valentines days, so why don't we do this? And we all know if you want valentines days, well.

I appreciate it. I'm glad that it's out there floating around. I was like a pro yo and cunnelingist day. I don't think how hall Mark has gotten involved yet? No, not yet. They wouldn't probably, cause like Disney, Hal Mark, all that stuff. But hey, blowjabs are, you know, for lovers.

Who doesn't like blowjabs? Who doesn't like girl sex? Right? Correct. Some people don't. But I'm shocked by those people. Yeah. But I know a lot of women,

just I feel like for a lot of women, it's too sensitive. It's too sensitive. I know it's a jewelry set on the line. Like, I feel like for a lot of women, I feel like for a lot of women, it's just two sensitive, I don't know if I know that Drew, we said on the line, they're too sensitive about their scent down there. Yeah, their scent, or they think they look funny because this girl in porn had a different vagina and all the dynas are different and they're like snowflakes. Okay, speaking of your current wife, I'm curious. Where did you always go on your first vacation? Do you remember? No. No? I'm sorry, that's a terrible answer. No, it's a good living.

I started going on a day trip that was like five hours away from where we lived, but we didn't spend the night. Okay. Okay. I can't remember. That's a great question. And I'm kind of ashamed that I don't remember. Because it leads into this.

We've been on so many. We've been out of town so many times. To like, well, it's kind of embarrassing to admit that I was somewhat homeless when we first started dating. Like I was kind of like living on friends' couches. So the first time that we were like, and she's still with you. Yeah, like I would get like really like,

motel sixes and stuff and we'd stay there. Right, okay, well it worked. But that was kind of like a vacation, I guess. So I guess Newberry Park. That's right, it worked. Hey dude, it worked. I'm just asking because a lot of couples we always say it's a good time to go to know someone,

go out of town, and- Road trips are great to like to get to know Make sure it's not too far though if you don't know the other person that well because you'll you'll realize that if you guys Should be together on the way there or not and then you got to come back and if it's not working out the drive-back is brutal Exactly. I remember going to this before yeah So couples I'm going right into sex in New Zealand because I like the story. Couples who choose Mexico for first vacation are more likely to break up. Couples go to Mexico for their first holiday together or more likely to break up a survey says.

So it was a number one destination for couples who subsequently went from just two to one. So the survey said that it pulled 2100 adults. And those who had broken up soon after their first holiday, 21% they've been to Mexico. A visa was a second worst break up. Yeah, 17%. Follow my Portugal, 12%. Yeah, a visa is just a big party.

I think that'd be number one, but maybe not as many who go to a visa. And then I started thinking about Mexico, and I've literally been to Mexico probably with seven guys in my life, and none of them worked out. But that's not why. I don't think that Mexico was- Anywhere you've been with a guy, you can say it of them worked out, but that's not why. I don't think that Mexico is-

Anywhere you've been with a guy, you can say it's an orc out, right? Exactly, exactly. But yeah, I just thought that was interesting. It's sort of a laughter relationship. Mexico just says, let's go have blackout sacks and blackouts of Mexico. Especially like our Mexico,

speaking from Southern California, that's a lot of college relationships, right? And they're going down there for the weekend, going on a TJ, they're not gonna- a lot of like College relationships, right? They're going down there for the weekend going on a TJ You know, they're not gonna be for everyone right because the year because this study says that people who went to Spain and Italy and Cyprus as their first Hemingead way it's a long relationship Right. Yes, part of long relationship. Well, that's because they're both from money and they're probably almost like a range I know like parents sophisticated something and we're probably in Europe anyway, and we don't go to Mexico But I just thought it was interesting,

and it is important for couples to take time away. And here's the thing, even going to Motel 6, which I used to do that as well. Just great change of scenery. Just go to change it up. I always say like, one of my number one tips, you're like, how do I spice it up? I'm like, get outside your bedroom,

do something different. But don't go to Mexico, apparently. Although, let's not forget that my best sex of the year. Yes. In Mexico, I was gonna bring that up if you didn best sex of the year. Yes. In Mexico. I was going to bring that up if you didn't. Or you. I went to get a massage and she got the full body.

I did. Not that moment. It wasn't like in the amount. You're like, it's good that the strength is right. Just more inside. Could you do it more inside? There was a highlight of my sexual ex cupades in 2016, although there weren't many. But I have to say that that's okay, because I'm happy that you're in with Bang with that one.

I love that. So anything else, how are you? Are you good? I'm good. I'm well. How you been? I'm going down over here. I'm really good.

Yeah. Well, I lied last time I was on it. I said, I'm not going to come back until after the movies. I was able to squeeze one more in. You know how much I love coming here and seeing you. I appreciate it. So yeah, now this is probably the last time I'm going to see you for a few weeks, because I'm going to be shooting

the movie. Which saddens me. Yeah. But I'm glad you're doing the movie. Yeah, you know what, I and I owe a great gratitude to you as well for helping make this movie become reality. We had a really great time at our brunch with Marvin. Marvin. Yeah, I'm sorry, Marvin.

I did that all the entire time. Marvin, yeah, no, I love you, my listeners. It's fun, we should maybe do auctions a lot. We should do that, just that, yeah. And then coming, I have my date with the guy who came. The UV guy. Yeah. I got a question about the UV stuff.

Does it kill AIDS? Does it kill AIDS? Like let's say you have like AIDS on like one of your sexual... Not gonna have AIDS. What do you mean? Like like you never know. It's right in the UV thing. Does it kill?

It kills 90.9% of it when we're at T-Rex. We said 99.9. Is that one 10? Oh, that's a cryptid and a little bit right in there. Yeah, no, and also can you know what others the important thing that UV does is that it also sanitizes your phone. Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes.

Sometimes everything like how bring and dirty is your phone? Do you do you clean your phone every day? They say that the phone is a feel fear than toilets. I believe it. I put my phone every day. I'm lucky if I clean it once every six months.

You clean yourself every day. But it's important. I now I'm doing it. I take like wipes to my bed and I clean it. I put my phone every day. I'm lucky if I clean it once every six months. You clean yourself every day. But it's important. I know I'm doing it. I take like wipes to my bed and I clean it. What? The new phones, right? The iPhone 7s aren't they waterproof? Yeah.

You drop mine in sweat all the time. What? Well, I always drop mine in sweat least one. I don't have a toilet. We would? Or somewhere. It's filthy. It's water, something's built on it.

I have a purpose. What I'm saying though. I'm not like, this will be fun. I don't have one yet, but when I get, you know, we're all gonna have most of our lives We're probably gonna have waterproof phones right cuz technology doesn't leave I'm going to get in the habit of just taking it in the shower with me Every day it's like a part of my person. I don't think you can get that wet. Yeah, well the new ones will Yeah, so I got you know wash my hair then you wash your armpits

You know down regions and then the phone. I'd be like the fifth thing Yeah, I think you just use those wipey things That's what I do now, because it's woman told me that every night she gets in bed, she washes her face and then she takes these little wipes and she wipes her phone. She embosses her in to her man or a wife? Probably not. She's got so much time on her hands.

It just is kind of gross. But yeah, the UV can do that, which is really fun. This is just for me that I'm looking at right now. It's sitting next to you. So dirty. That's been in the toilet? No, I'm not. Don't talk about it, because now it's in the phone toilet.

No, but now I feel like it's going to drop in the toilet because we're talking about dropping toilet. Just like, I got a new laptop because- That's been in the toilet too? No, I was saying I don't need a new laptop, and then we were talking the office that we need to have a laptop and then I dropped it. Right.

But it didn't break, it's right there, but I got a new one, isn't it pretty? It is, that's very pretty. But just like phones, everything, the charger is changing and the thing and things. I know, man. Like all that shit that you had, you paid extra for. It's useless.

But I'm not complaining because I feel good. Engineer to opt for lessons is what they call that, what? Engineer to opt for lessons. Making an obsolete, so you spend more money. Yeah, I do it on purpose. That's all, absolutely. What the fuckers.

Why would they, yeah, it's like, don't upgrade your phone to get to all your new information. It's dark, but it's great. When they do a sex toys, oh, it makes sense because they're advancing. They're always making newer ones that are better. They can reach people. That's true.

Sex toys are just, oh my God, there's amazing toys out there right now. We get amazing products here. I have to say, boy, say, only they could cook or go to the farmer's market with you. Life would be good. But no, and I also listen to my new home, like I've talked about, it's really has changed my life in so many ways.

Just to be in a space like your favorite four years. And I've never had a, I've always been kind of in between. I've like, oh, I'm gonna move out of this place in a year or six months, and I was there for three and a half and I'm gonna stay. I'm not staying a little bit. Yeah, I got roots. I got plates, I'm gonna cook, get blue apron,

the whole thing is happening. My sex toys are organized, my color, the green one. So I lived in that neighborhood for a couple years. I really like your... I love my neighborhood. I like the people, the whole thing. So that's awesome. So I am going to give a shout-out to our sponsors right now. And then we're going to do some emails. And thank you everyone also for following me on all my social media. Because I love doing

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In the podcast world, we get to say no. And sometimes it, you know, it does hurt your wallet a little bit, but we don't feel comfortable because the show is you. It's not a station. There's no station above you. And so you know that this is truth. Yeah, I'm not like desperate to like, oh, support something that I don't know. Right.

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That's what I love doing can we just do more? Problem, my not so talk about that. Okay everyone. So love doing. Can't we just do more? Three-way? What's a problem? Milano toilet. How about that? Okay everyone, so thank you for that. And we'll be right back with your emails. Okay, if you have a question you want me to answer in the show, I will do that. Just check out my website, start with Emily, go to the Ask Emily tab and fill out the form, hit send, then it's there. And you can also choose to be called

because we'd like to call you and get into your questions and help you. And you can also leave me a voice about 818-ask-swe1 or 818-275-7931. As always, include your age, where you live, and how you listen to the show. 818, that's the Erickode for the Valley, which is the, I'm giving the listener a good way to memorize it.

818 is the, Erickode for the Valley, which is where all the porn used to be shot back when the porn industry was huge. 818 and then it's S-W-E, I don't even know the lyrics. Oh, why? Yes, sorry, ask S-W-E. Ask S-W-E-1, so it's simple. People know, but somebody on Snapchat,

so I had to just snap and I was like, hey, everyone, like, send me a question, a voicemail. And some kid message me and said, hey, what does that mean? Like, he might not have even known eight that the phone number is coming numbers. Is that like an older? So I think for a while,

some of the newer cell phones for a little bit, they didn't have the number. I remember we had that problem at Loveland, but no longer, I now pretty much every phone, I know my iPhone does, and they have the have the numbers like if you look at the keyboard But SWE is sex with Emily too if you're not making that connection So it's ask SWE one So like really if you look at it, it's like seven nine

Three one I set up and now I'm looking at my phone to make sure I had numbers and I did those were dark times When you couldn't match up the number? Yeah, it was a really really brief time I I can't remember exactly what was going on, but I think it was maybe the trios and the blackberries and people having issues with that. Dark. Dark time. Okay, hey Emily, I just started listening your podcast this year and I love it. I'm having troubles with my own sex life. So I lost my virginity somewhere going into college and I was very drunk. So I only remember small portions

of the night. I recently just had a one-eighth stand, and I've been trying to slightly get back it with the guy at the same time, but I think he's fucking another girl now. Jesus. We never talked about our night, and I would say I'm inexperienced about anything in the bedroom. My main issue is this,

I want more sex, but I'm not comfortable going around with different guys. So I guess my question is, what do I do from here? Thank you, Megan, age 19. I don't know why Siri is talking about me. Siri just turned on and it's dictating what she's saying and it distracted both of us.

And it's doing a really good job. I'm actually really impressed with that. I know, inexperienced, I don't know what it means. If you, and she says, if you like, I can search inexperienced about anything that I want more than sex. Everything you just said though to Megan, as you were reading her email. I'll probably be in the next.

Seriously looking right now too. Should we see what Siri finds? Let's just do that. What if Siri contacts Megan with an answer of her own? Oh, sent you a beans. I want to see what Siri did here. Okay, let's talk to Megan. Okay, sorry.

Megan, Megan, my sweet, you're 19. This is the reality check of the day, okay? Here's your reality check. I don't love the idea of you just finding guys out that I've sex with to get more experience. That is not the solution. It doesn't work this way. A bunch of one nightstands is not gonna help you

on your mission to feel confident and to enjoy sex. Counter and two of you have sex, right? It does seem like it would, but it doesn't. It actually kind of, I think, makes you even even more confused the doctor drew in me is saying 19 years old already having blackout sex yeah right crystal balls not looking fondly no that's a future point let's let's look at drinking make some friends like go out and they're like Miller light for a while yeah yeah that's what we drink college yeah that's what I've drink golf and perhaps we're even perhaps that's big with the with the hips. But the Midwest. I know,

but we were Midwest. Okay, here's the thing. The more the issue is someone that you know, Megan, the more comfortable you feel. So going after this one night stand guy who's having sex with someone else, good, let him go. He's a one night stand for a reason. But just like, here's the thing about about sex is that the more sexual confidence comes from sexual competence and how you're gonna get sexual competence is when you, first of all, understand your own body, it will make you feel good. And also, the more listening to this show,

I hope you have confidence, but you'll start to understand and educate yourself around sex. And then also experience, I hope you have confidence. But really, just experience, it's like the right kind of experience, not having black out sucks, not just having this or Jane, I have to have as much under my belt. Right. That's not how you could at it.

I think I have a good analogy. Let's see. Go ahead, be an analogy. You want to be a storyteller. You want to be a writer and you're going to go about doing that and getting experienced by reading the first page of a bunch of different books. You're not going to be a good writer. That's a good one.

Because you're not following through and you're not figuring out how the whole thing works, especially if you're drinking when you're reading these first pages of all these different books. You're not gonna be a good writer. That's a good one. Cause you're not following through and you're not figuring out how the whole thing works. Especially if you're drinking when you're reading these first pages of all these different novels. So you gotta find a novel, stick with it for a while. That novel might be yourself too, right? It might just be getting to know yourself, like you say, show and show out.

That's especially the ladies that gotta figure out how their bodies work. You do masturbation is sex with someone you love and the more that you understand your body and you spend time masturbating without a goal of mind If you haven't an orgasm yet, that's totally fine But it's just like touching yourself and fantasizing you will learn that like oh this feels really good And then when you have sex with someone you'll know how to that actually will help with your sexual confidence and confidence as well

And you got to be sober enough to remember what works and what doesn't right? Do you have like I guess you probably do blackout masturbation sex? What what is that? I don't know when you sexy master. You don't remember like do you wake remember, like, I guess you probably do blackout masturbation sex? What? What is that? I don't know, when you sex, you know, masturbate, you don't remember? Do you remember, like, do you go, whoa, it's all sticky?

What? No. You never just masturbate when you're never happened. How do you know? I've had, like, blackout, like, one night stands where I remember the, like, I think we had sex. That's about how bad it's gotten,

but I've never woken up with my pants down. No, I would think that would happen. I would think that would happen. If you thought you were going to get liven, I would quit drinking, especially if it happened like at a friend's house, I'd open up my parents' house and then leave in room and I wake up and they're like getting ready

for breakfast. Oh my God, that's awful. I can't believe I'd never seen a scenario like that in a movie or something. Blackout match. I'm sure it has happened. Yeah. Now you know why it doesn't have.

I mean, I got blackout, but I'm like, oh, I got masturbated, like my toys there in the bed. And you forgot? I didn't forget, but I got blackout. Oh, maybe it did, I got masturbated, like my toys there in the bed. And you forgot? I didn't forget, but I got like, oh, maybe it did. I didn't forget. I just happened with the off end, but the females look more so than the men, because if you're that drunk, it's hard to even get it going.

Well, that's true too. Yeah. It's hard to get going, it's hard to get your mind apart. Well, your God did that on purpose, so that we want to be just found, passed out with a seamen all over our chest and our pants down everywhere. I don't think God had anything to do with it, but.

Because that would be a thing that would not be unique, I think I think it would happen a lot more. Like any guy that had a roommate in college would probably have woken up in the morning with this roommate on the couch, pants down, finished, but passed out. I would just think that guys, because they just want to release themselves.

And if you're drunk, you just lose that sense of. You get to the point where you're so drunk, you're thinking you're just thinking, like I need a hot dog. No, I get it. But like the food is never a problem. Yeah, you can always eat okay Hey, Emily, I've been listening for a little over year two now, and I love your show I just want you to know that you've helped me with your tips so much I try to use them every chance I get I'm engaged and I'm absolutely in love with my fiance

She's the only woman who I've been with and the sex is amazing We're so in sync with each other that we come to this we come at the same time However, I have to pull out I've always wanted to know what it's like to come inside of her But I don't want to run the risk of getting her pregnant as we are not in the stage of our life Of kids yet. She is on the pill and since just keep listening interesting She is on the pill and since she has been on it a while. We no longer use condoms What's the chance of her getting pregnant if I come inside her and she's been on birth control for six months?

Thanks for your advice. Key over the great work. Matt, age 21. Matt, my darling, I'm so glad you listed to the show and I'm so glad you emailed me because today is your lucky day. I've got some amazing news for you. That's. She's on the pill. Yeah.

You can come inside her. It's 99. It's 99% effective. I was going to say news for you. That's she's on the pill. Yeah, you can come inside her. It's 99 point It's 99% effective 99.9 No, it truly is It truly is 99% effective. You are so good to go However, so that means you're good like you don't need to work on it anymore She's been on the pill for six months. It's 99% effective if you use it correctly Now what does this mean? She takes it every single day. She doesn't skip a day. If she skips a day, it drops down to like 91% or 87% effective.

I did one day. Just one day. Wow. If she, you know, or she misses several pills, what? She says, you gotta leave it by your bed or wherever you think you're gonna, you know, send a alarm on your phone. It's so easy to remember, but she's gotta take it correctly. If you have sick, if you're sick, like if you've diarrhea, are you vomit? What? Yeah, no it's true, it becomes less effective. Well it's just true, we come to get everybody. Sorry, I don't like talking about poop, anything,

but I'm just trying to give some medical advice, some technical advice. So Matt, I'm glad to, this is what I'm saying. You could have, like, so Matt, you're good. And first of all, I love that you're coming together and you're pulling out. You're like the miracle couple. And you're 21 and first of all I love that you're coming together And you're pulling out you're like the miracle copper and you're 21 and you're engaged all right I'm concerned with it. It's his only partner ever that said a little bit troubling

I don't know if this is gonna be you know go a little length I know Matt you don't want to hear that but stats will tell you that that's probably a long shot. I don't know where it right Why not use the condom to try finishing at the same time unless you can't don't have as much control perhaps? No, he doesn't need to use the condom. But why you don't maybe she's got to her hand? You don't know. No, no, I'm saying she's on the pill. Yeah, but maybe it's not less effective because maybe she forgot. Just to be safe, right?

No, right now I'm gonna assume we're gonna give her the benefit of the doubt until she's been using it for six months and she's fine. You can take her to a pool if she gets in the pool. You'll know that she doesn't have diarrhea because you can't go there for two weeks. I'm just saying if she got sick last week and it's stomachache, but you're fine, you're totally fine And you guys I'm sure you've been tested your each other's first couple partners like there's nothing We're about here you're 21 so enjoy this and know that I don't know why you're rushing into marriage 21 Right now don't don't do that. That's that's a bad. I just think you should wait on that if you have it If she if she does get pregnant with the 99.9 percent effect that kids bad at all

Anderson right what that's gonna be if a kid can bust through with the 99.9% effect, that kid's bad at it. Paul Anderson. Right? That's gonna be a, if a kid can bust through, like the 99.9%, you're gonna have a sweet ass kid, right? Like that kid needs to be here. That is true. So just to brace it. But then she probably had some sneaky diarrhea

she didn't tell him about. I just don't believe that can happen. Whenever like, she's weird, she got pregnant. You know the signs they have by the pools, and it's like you can't go on this pool, if you've had diarrhea in the last 14 days. So I have a public pool. So you can take her to the pool. Somebody else had diarrhea in that case. If she. It's like, you can't go on this pool. If you've had diarrhea in the last 14 days, so I have a public pool. So you can take her to the pool.

So somebody else had diarrhea in that pool. If she gets in the pool, you'll know for sure that she doesn't or she hasn't. She gets it. It's a way to figure it out without asking. But it's not somewhere everywhere. But I get what you're saying. It's so confusing.

But you guys are good. I love to see these are the kind of questions that like he's been like, oh my God. And now he's already there. Right. So go have some great sex. Happy to get a good job. That's a good compliment. Get a compliment.

To be able to finish at the same time. A lot of people will never, ever master that. They never, ever do, especially with condoms on. Andy pulls out. Like they come together, Andy pulls out. It's beautiful thing. How does that work though for the girl? Wouldn't that be kind of tough for her to continue to finish?

Well, maybe she comes and then he's, so it's like right now. So he waits, he's got a Jack letharmonic troll. Why did it take time then? Right? You know what I'm saying? Like he's gonna pull out. Yeah, it's a little confusing to do like that.

Indian Jones replaced the penis immediately with a vibrator. Right, I don't know. I mean, maybe she's coming and it goes up. I hope she's really coming. I hope so too, yeah. Every time. Fake, fake, fake. I don't know if she's faking it. I hope so too, yeah. Every time. Fake, fake, fake.

I don't know if she's faking it. I don't think she is faking it. Let's just give her the benefit of that doubt, but that's pretty tricky. But hey, they got chemistry. Maybe she's still kind of finishing up because you guys go a little bit longer. No, they do, we do, we do. We can keep going sometimes when they pull out. Like it can still keep happening.

Yeah, not always. Good for you, Matt. Just be careful because I last week we took a call where a guy was wallowing because the relationship ended right and he was about 26 after a four-year relationship. I can see this guy maybe being in a similar situation in three years Just know that you know life's long It might not be the girl forever, and it's okay if it's not don't put all your eggs in one basket Be prepared. Exactly. Be prepared. When I was at age, I was on my third time that I thought this is the girl I'm going to be

with forever. I was only like 21, 22 and I thought that for the third time. I know. And that's why I feel I do. I feel like is that responsible to tell them that but the stats show it. You're 21. You don't know yourself at 21. You know, like you don't.

I remember hearing that from my my first, her parents were telling us that, and I remember like saying, well, we'll show you, you're right. And then she's such a distant memory now, who's a ridiculously popular. I just feel like in your 20s, you're doing as much experience you just can't because of the adorat and you assume it hurts.

It's like harder you fall every time, but you think it's not gonna happen again. I'll never find anyone like this. And this is amazing because you've never felt it. So you think this must be the one that I need to say with now. Some relationships do people do get together in their 20s and last for a very long time. There are from small towns. Many don't. And the 50s. Don't say that necessarily. 50 small town life. Okay. Another email. Dear Emily, I'm pregnant with my second child. as my tummy grows, missionary becomes harder. My husband and I enjoy many positions, but my only successful mode

at achieving orgasm comes from a specific rhythm and grind and grind with him on top. This is now impossible with my belly. Any suggestions on keeping pregnant sex fun for me? I'm considering toys, suggestions, thank you, jewels, age 30. You had a pregnant wife once, but you don't have sex life. So here's the thing, I feel considering toys, suggestions. Thank you, Jules, age 30. You had a pregnant wife once, but you don't have wear a sex life. So here's a thing, I feel free to jump in. Jules, I love that you are focusing on keeping the sex hot during pregnancy,

because it's not always easy. It's definitely different, but it's important for couples to stay connected, and plus sex can actually feel better for a lot of women during pregnancy, not all, but some. And also during pregnancy, your body's a little estrogen, progesterone, all those hormones, they increase your blood flow to your pelvic region.

That makes sense. Not only that, your breasts, your breasts can be more sensitive. In fact, I was just talking to a pregnant friend, she's like, oh my God, my nipples, every time I'm pregnant, I have like nipple orgasms. Amazing, bonus, right? Other things go wrong, maybe, but.

So I get that you love the top, him being on top because you've got your grind down with him on top of you, and that means that you require literal stimulation like most women. So when he's on top, he's rocking back and forth, the base of his penis is rubbing against you, and I understand why right now that is not going to work.

So you've got to look for positions that take all the pressure off of your belly and put it on your clitoris. Wait, he's on top of her. Yeah, so she likes missionary. Like a lot of women for them. Especially that you give where the guy goes up a little bit like further on her and then rubs back and forth. The cordal alignment technique.

Yeah. That's the one. The cat. But here's the other thing. I wonder if you've tried Cowgirl Woman on top, or even reverse Cowgirl, because when you're on top, you're actually in control of the motion and the depth and the speed. And so while you're on top, you can kind of grind

in that same position that you were, that you might do when he's on top of you. And he has access to your breasts, which might be very sensitive right now. And that could be really fun. So if you want to still grind, it might take a little bit more practice, but I think this is a good time to experiment

with new positions if you know, because here's a thing, we get set in our ways where I can only come in this position, but I think you're gonna be surprised to learn through pregnancy or whatever it is that pushed you to this that you can come in other ways. So if you can get out of

your head that it's not going to happen because a lot of us think, well this just won't happen. This won't work. But you're asking me the question. So I think cowgirl is great because you are putting that pressure on your clitoris. And instead of doing the bouncing up and down thing as we see a lot important and stuff like that, rock back and forth and pay special attention to your clitoris as you're like moving against his pubic bone. And also you asked about toys. I'd say with any of these positions, I'm going to tell you a few, but you definitely use

a toy. Like for sure, for sure, for sure. It's a great time to use them and you'll definitely have an orgasm, a little simulation. I like the FT London. This is one of our new sponsors and it's only because I literally even know the guy who made these toys. It was called Fun Toys. They just changed their name. I'm obsessed with all of this toys

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and he can wear it on his hand and it becomes a vibrator or you wear it in your hand and it will show you finger like a little mini robot cop. Yes and it kind of fit anywhere your figure goes. You can just like zzzz rub it in your it's amazing. I like it. They should call it Robococ. Robococ. Yeah. The movie they should call that. No because your fingers like half bionic and half like like actual organic like Robococ was so. Roboc? Yeah. Okay, I'll tallie him out. Yeah, give him a shot. Also the Mystic Wand vibe is amazing because it's got, it's like curved and so it's ergonomic and it's easy to get around your belly.

Right. I'm not saying your fat. Get around your belly when you're pregnant. It's got a big belly. I know, I'm just kidding because you get sensitive when I think you think I say your fat. Right. The Mystic Wand is cool, it's by Vibratex and I love it. It's actually one of the best toys I think that came out last year.

I think I've talked about it on the show. It's rechargeable, waterproof, freaking strong. It's awesome. What about the suction cup one that you've talked about? That sounds like it might work for a very good. Oh, the womanizer. Oh, the womanizer. The womanizer actually is a great one, but I kind of think it was like a solo thing because

you really have to like cup it around your clitoris. It's not so great for the grinding and the moving around because it like gives your clitoris little butterfly kisses. It's heaven, pleasure or technology, brilliant. But I would say that that's I would try. And then for other positions, for pregnant sex, also you could do reverse cowgirl, same kind of thing, edge of couch missionary. So here's the other way you can kind of cheat missionary is if you lay back on the couch

with your, or your bed and your legs are coming off the bed and your partner stands in between your legs. So in this position, you can use your hands or a toy to stimulate the clitoris while he does most of the work. So if you see what I'm saying, you can even just Google like edge of couch missionary, but like you're still laying flat, you're still getting the missionary thing. You might need a little extra stem, but that could work too until week 20,

and then doctors recommend avoiding this position. Scissors position. Scissors. Scissors, you know, picture it like you're going to lie in the bed. It's picture where his leg goes with that belly. Yeah, well, it works. You can be on the bottom. Careful of mean the belly there.

Spooning lying on your side, amazing. Takes a pressure off when you wake up in the morning, whatever. It's easy. It's an intimate position. A lot of couples we've connected in spooning position. And um, did you say how far down the pregnancy road?

She didn't. No, you know, tell me about. They encourage it. I didn't know this until, you know, I had a pregnant wife, but they actually, when I say they, I mean like medical staff and your handlers encourage you to have more sex, like especially in the last part of the trimester. Yes, the third trimester.

The third trimester, because a lot of time induces labor, so there's that. Do you, and do you, because you like plunge the kid out of there? Did you feel, and that's weird because that's typically when maybe you think for the guy, it could be stranger to have sex It's a little it's a little more different. I want to say it's awful

By any stretch. No, no, no, you wouldn't say that. No, well, I mean it really isn't It's not it's it's very very different because you've never especially if it's the first go-round It's weird seeing your wife so different, but I've heard over the years too. I'm going back to the love line Andries to call call one of God's little jokes and that's towards the end of the third trimester women get a little more frisky. Right, they want sex more.

And that could be because it doesn't do labor sometimes in that way. We actually, we went to a place that has this salad dressing that's supposed to make everyone give birth. What? Real thing. If you're not pregnant. No, for pregnant ladies.

Yes. And we went. Just to birth, like, what did some roadside? And she went into labor the next morning. But, you know, I think that a lot of that has to do with women who are really tired of being pregnant because they're like three or four days past their due date and then they go there and then magically they give birth. Right.

You know what I mean? But we went there. We got the balsamic dressing. It's like over. It's a good marketing gimmick over in cold water People like go and again, I'll show you the reviews after the show, but yeah, they made that up Maybe it's genius. What would be in it? That would be healthy at all to induce it. Why would they sell it at like safe way? Maybe they will one that's true

Safe way, we kind of would have safe ways out here in Southern California. No, I don't know It's a San Francisco like the parents company of like the smaller ones. I don't know. We're gonna have safe ways out here in Southern California. We don't? No. I don't know. It's a San Francisco. I feel like the parent company of the smaller ones. I don't know. What do we have here? Vons.

We have bonds in Rouse. I don't go ever grow. You probably got a whole food. No. Really? Whole foods, it's just such a disappointment. Is it? Yes, it's expensive.

And you leave there and you've just spent like $100 and you've got nothing to eat. And I just think it's overrated and overpriced. And I don't love it. Yeah, I truly am just going to do blue apron from now on for the rest of my goddamn life. You could. Because I always have food. You could smile on blue apron.

Here's the other thing. And something I don't need. I do eat like I people think, oh, you're small, you don't eat. It's the meals last you like two, three days. Like it's enough for what they say is for one serving can last for two. I usually post them out, so it's three servings per meal,

for a recipe. Right? So they're like, they're generous as well. So I like that. Was that just a little bonus, or are we actually doing a read here? No, okay. Yeah, go to sex with,

what is it? BlueAprer.com slash sex with Emily. Yeah. Yeah, get one of those free meals. You get like three free meals. No, I'm just talking about it because it's like my new thing. It's great to like if you're in out a new relationship and you're not really sure what to do and you know, you're Netflixing and

chillin isn't going or it's a good thing to do with somebody else. Whether it's your mom or like a new girlfriend or boyfriend. Cooking. Yeah. That's amazing. It's best to be in blue apron. Yeah. You can just follow it. And you can get three free meals if you check it. Okay, but here's the deal. What are you Netflixing on Netflixing on right now? Anything new? Like I got my TV set up and speakers and I like to watch something today. On Netflix. Have you seen the stranger thing? It's a little old, but I bet you would enjoy that. No, but that's on my list. All right, watch that. Boom. Done. Thank you. I mean, ask you and movies. We'll get to that after. Or we can listen to your podcast. Yes, FilmV cinematics, yes. Okay, how about an anal sex question?

Right on the dovetail in the ad of cinematics and film vault, sure, let's go to anal. Okay, good. Hey, that means people were paying attention too, because when you say anal, everyone's ears perk up. Hi, Emily, I'm a big fan of the show. We just name all shows. I know, anal sex with Emily.

Well, that works too well, so that doesn't, anal sex with Emily. But I like anal the film both, anal cinematics. Too awkward it is though saying to people like, what do you do? I don't have like the one word answer, but I do, but I have a solution. I do a relationship show.

I'm mom tells everybody. Yeah. Because she doesn't want to say sex. Whatever mom. They'll Google me. Okay, anal, Emily. Big fan of the show, thanks for doing what you do.

It's awesome to listen to a show so free and open about all things sex and relationships. My question is about anal sex. My partner has hinted a few times that she may be interested in trying anal. I'm really unsure how to bring it up with her in a way that won't make her feel uncomfortable. I'm also unsure how the hygiene side goes with anal

like how do you prepare for it. Also, if my partner is interested, is there anything she can do to help or not have a bad experience? I've heard it can be quite painful. I want it to be comfortable and enjoy our time together. Thanks again, all the way from Australia, Sam, age 19, he's getting on the anal train. Hoping to.

Hoping to get on the anal train. God, this is such a long, we've also, check out our website, we've got a lot of great tips and articles and blog posts about anal sex we've done full shows in anal, but let me give you some pointers here. And when you're done, Chloris Leachman famous old, older actress.

Right, I know she does. That's some great advice, which I heard once and I will give that. About anal? Yes. Okay, please, that would be the nice icing on the anal. Chloris Leachman will weigh in at the end. Okay, perfect.

I love that you know that she's on board and venturing into anal can be super overwhelming. So here's the hygiene thing. Yeah, take a shower, make sure you clean the whole area and make sure that it's stuff's cleaned out of there. I mean, you could do some kind of like enema. If you'd like to, I don't recommend like using the vinegar. Like if you buy a store by enema, take it out

and put water in it like squeeze out all the vinegar, stuff in it and fill it with water. But you really probably don't have to make sure you've passed your bowels recently. But you're not even there yet. Here's a thing, Sam, you're not there yet. She says she might be down with anal, but you've never done it.

Gotta take the slow, okay? Because you're right, Sam, you're right. It is painful. For so, a lot of women have a lot of pain the first time because it's done incorrectly. Meaning, perhaps drunk, they have it really quickly, they don't use lube. The part that doesn't lose lube, lube is so important, they just shove it in, it's, they're screaming bloody

muddy, murder, murder, murder. Murder, murder works from this because it's hard. They tens of, sounds like murder. And it hurts. And it's painful. So let's just do this right the first time. Start to like explore. Like when you're full and round there and you're painful. So let's just do this right the first time. Start to like explore. Like when you're full around there and you're going down in her, like you could start to take your finger and like rub it over her inus.

Right over it with opening with your finger, like there's a lot of sensitive nerve endings there. And just see how that feels to her. Like you don't want to stick your finger in and you definitely just want to stick your penis in. So you always want to like start off small and just see how that goes. Like try that for a few weeks.

Yeah. And then like you could stick your pinky in, but again, you always want to use a off small and just see how that goes like try that for a few weeks Yeah, and then like you could sick your pinky in but again You always want to use a loop. It's important to breathe your nails are cut. She has to breathe Four plays important you want her to be turned on you want to be turned on I'm sure you already are turned on but like even if you want to start with a no like it really helps if she already has an orgasm if she's relaxed, because the thing is, there's another reason why it's painful for women is because we tense up and we hold our breath. Everyone does.

When you get scared, you do that. People talk about it. Yeah, I just got scared, I'm tensing here. Right, not a good time. No, I didn't really. But we do that. And you don't realize it actually breathing relaxes your sphincter muscles

and truly allows you to have a more pleasant experience. Lub is your best friend. If you don't have Lub by your bed, just buy some now. Joe Premium silicone Lub is great. The condom use that during anal. And just like she's got to relax and breathe, you got to use Lub and you got to go slow. So I would say you can get some butt plugs and experiment with your fingers, your pinkies and then pinkies, pinky and build up to it.

Over time. And slowed down, because you're 19. She's just interested. It doesn't matter if you're 19, just anyone should slow down when they're trying. When they're built. Came up. I wonder how that came up. He was like, hey, I want anal to you.

And she said, maybe. You guys hammered. We're, uh, he out, uh, having fun. He's dead bear reef, uh, having a moment. And, I wonder how that came up. I will show you how it just pulls through. It comes up all the time. I know, that's why it's good to have Collar.

Sam is a call in. It's just so weird to have a casual, like, anal, he down, he down, he down, he down, he butt play, he down into that. And he wants, yeah, she's like, yeah, I might really do what it means. They listen to the butt hole surfers and he has. Dude, I don't know, but it came up and he psyched.

So I'm glad you asked the questions because you don't want to be the one who ruins her anal for life. Claire's leechment, you would never get to guess it would come from her, but she was very old actress and, uh, older actress, one of the older actresses we ever had on actors at, uh, have any, uh, male or female on love lines. She said, uh, out of the blue, she was talking to my anal and she was saying that, uh, the woman should push out.

It seems very once it can counterintuitive, but she should push out during push out a little bit That makes sense kind of bear down. Yeah, bear down a little bit almost like you're getting a burr She was really just like kind of speaking up But were you like what like Laura's that you I was shocked say you know, Clara's leechman. She's a she's like I'll answer the Sanctuary doctor drew. Yeah, that's amazing. I'd expect it from the half of the porn stars that we had on We had like the anal queen of the year on and I would expect it She was like mute. That's florist though.

I don't know if that's a good two. You should bear down and take it easy. I just, yeah. So I think those are all really good things. For play, warm or up, Loub, use Loub with whatever you do guys. Loub with everything, Loub with cooking. Use Loub on your clitoris, use Loub when you cook.

Use Loub with your blow jobs, happy steak and blow job day. Give a blow job, save a blow job. Give a blow job, save a blow job, is he trying to equate it with the whales? Kind of. Yeah, I don't know why. That's happening with the poor whales. I don't know. I appreciate that.

Yeah, save a blow job for someone you love. Yes. And make a steak. And yeah, I hope you have many blow jobs at least a steak today, Anderson. Oh, that's nice. Not at the same time. No, no, no, no, no. I think you should brush your teeth and separate them out. This was fun. Does she get steak at all? If she want letter-ed steak, that's nice. Not at the same time. Once again, full circle. I think you should brush your teeth and then separate them out.

This was fun. Does she get steak at all? If she want letter-ed steak, if she wants. She can have some. She can have steak and I don't know. Here's a thing. I'm not saying you got to force any, but any holiday that's about sex, I'm down.

You're into it. Yeah, what other sexual holidays are there? I guess Valentine's Day kind of is. Yeah, well, this is like the reaction. Like, hey, we get you flowers and candy. There's National porn day. Is there a day? Yeah, I'm sure there will be other is a national porn day. I wonder who made that one out wonder what day The poor companies I think every day is porn day for many of people for a lot of people it is yeah

Yeah, so has your porn interest changed since you've had a baby? Yeah, I mean, I don't really think about it nearly as well. I don't have time It's no time for masturbation. Yeah, I mean, I have no time for very much at all. Do you wake up then? Then you do probably wake up in your retirement. Like you said earlier, I think on this show or last like you, like it occurred to you, like, oh, it's been a while. Like that's how I woke up.

Yeah, dude. And when you do, though, it feels like, right? Yeah. Well, I haven't had time to do anything. So yeah. I'm going to do it in the car on the way to that. The whole asexual thing. I might try and knock one out over on my way to the film ball right now.

Yeah. You'd be good. It ball right now. Yeah dealing with my I feel good. It really is a lot. Yeah, it really does. I have to feel like my whole world changed my eyes cleared up I was like my cold one away. Really? Yeah, really? You're so holistic. Look at you. No, I'm not but it does help It masturbation helps everything masturbation makes the world around. Mm-hmm. Okay. Well, it's really great to see you It's good to see you and I can find you at Anderson Cowan. AndersonCowan.com. COWA. And all your podcasts and your movies and your ratchets. The film vault after disaster, cinematics, yes.

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