Sex With Emily - Step Up Your Sex Life in 2015

Episode Date: December 31, 2014

It’s a new year, meaning a new chance to change your life for the better! Sure you can promise to hit the gym or floss your teeth everyday but why not commit to something that will bring you pleasure all year long? This show is all about making a commitment to have better sex and better relationships in 2015! This year, take responsibility for your own sexual pleasure, say goodbye to sexual ruts and leave those post-sex regrets in 2014.  Emily explains why you should move on from relationships that are holding you back and try at least one (or two) new thing in the bedroom this year.This episode will inspire you to make some important changes and take your sex and dating life to the next level. Check it out! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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more about sex and relationships, and they're having workshops taught by the leading sex experts in the field. On many different topics, you can go with your girlfriends, boyfriends, with a partner, whatever you want, and it's for two days, and they're also going to have booths with all the, you know, I used to talk about all the great products, like sex products and things for your relationship. They're going to have them all lined up there and you can check them out. There's parties at night. It's only $20.

It's in Los Angeles. It's at the Sophie Tell Hotel, and I hope you all join me. I'm also giving the keynote. So come check that out as well. January 17, 18th, and it's at sexualhealthexpo.com. And also like us on Facebook. It's a Facebook.com slash sex Emily, and please follow me on Twitter and Instagram,

which is also sex with Emily. And again, I'm here with Menace. Hello Emily. Hi Menace. And Menace made a great point a few months ago. He said, you know what? If you like the show, or you just want to, you know, you're on iTunes, review us.

Yes. We hate it. Review. Tell us what you like. Write review. Also, when you email the show, what's the email again? Feedback at sexwithemily.com. Feedback, I just wanted to make sure.

Feedback at sexwithemily.com, please. I mean, you don't have to use your real name if you don't want to, but at least tell us where you're emailing from. Always love to hear that, like what part of the world you're from and how you listen to the show. Because the show is available in so many different ways. It's available on sexathamely.com. It's available on iTunes. It's available on Stitcher. The Stitcher app, which I love. They've always been a huge abort of the show.

Huge. We're here at the Podcast One Studios. Podcast One. Podcast One is a great app. Yeah. People don't get it. It's interesting because a lot of people like me are like, how do I listen to podcasts still? And I get that because you know, and it's really easy. And no matter what kind of phone you have,

you download like podcast one app or you download Stitcher or whatever works. And then every podcast they're free. You might want to listen to NPR or whatever. You can click on it, but hopefully it's sex friendly. And you listen on your phone. It's so easy. So do that. We appreciate it. All those places you can rate and review the show. And that would be

really great. I mean, iTunes is also, I mean, to help the show grow, that's a great place that if you can rate and review the show, that would be awesome for us. But if you're on mobile, there's so many different apps that you can check out and listen to the... Yeah, exactly. Why listen to, you know, so long listen stuff you don't want to listen to and you can actually choose what you want to listen to. And hopefully that would be us. But also another thing is, I just want to hear from you if you've been listening for a while

or maybe it's your first show, feedback at sexoftheelmy.com. Is there any feedback you have, truly, like things topics you've done here about? Or again, I answer all your emails, I read them all. And so if you have questions about your sex life or relationship you can also email me so just anything feedback what you like what you want to hear guests that you'd like to

hear on the show because we do a lot of different shows we do guests we do you know advice we answer emails so we have the whole popery of sexual explosion here so anyway it's the new year come up on, just a few days. So happy new year, Manny. Happy new year. And I'm very glad to be here with you. So do you have any resolutions? This show, oh, is all about your resolution. So sexual resolutions, or relationship resolutions, how is your relationship going right now?

Are there things about it that you might want to change? Or maybe if you're single, you're thinking, gosh, in 2015, I just love to start dating again. So we're going to talk about some ways to get yourself out there and to make some resolutions that will really improve your life So Venice, what's your resolutions this year anything? Resolution I mean the relationship is going well. So I don't really think we have any more in that I think Life wise you'll give your butt plug that she's on you it's gonna fucking go crazy. You're gonna go crazy on it. Oh yeah, I don't know about the butt plug. You've been like really a connoisseur of the butt plug

for many years now. And I'm afraid to dig in deeper on why and how, you know, so much about the butt plug. But. It's my job. Yeah, but I think life-wise, we've just been, I mean, you've been here for a few years in Los Angeles. I'm still getting settled

I'm only eight months. Oh wow, okay in LA and I'm finally like okay I know my way around I know you know with my daily work how to get things done quicker and stuff like that I just want to do more because there's so much opportunity here So that's what you do. You do so much. When would you do more like it for you? Oh, no, you're up at for you. I mean, you're a warning show. Yeah, but I think now I can do things without being

exhausted. I can take on another task. Dude, if Ryan's he-crest can have 23 jobs. I know he gets a lot of help and he has a huge team, but it hasn't been like that His his whole career, you know, right? I can I can take on the what do you want to take on? What's the dream? I think slowly maybe I want to be on a couple more stations I I work for a great company called Ihar Media that's my my daily job and they own a ton of radio stations across the country And they have a system where I can pull up any radio station across the country and I can

be on that radio station. Really? Yeah. That's really cool. Yeah, it's pretty cool. I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you. I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you. I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you.

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Scrupiers are particularly sexual, they say. Yeah, undercover sexual freaks. Dude, I really, one day we're gonna break it down. What, you always wanna dig indeed. I keep it real with you, I keep it 100. I think you want me to do so much more than... I don't want you to do anything I just want you to make sure you're having good sex taking care of your wife. Yeah, just don't like you know push things on to me

I'm not doing what I'm not gonna push the black club blood blood onto you that vibe blood pushers what you are So my resolutions are I will tell you that I as far as we're man-sickly dating I feel like same thing I've been here for almost two years and it's a big move to move to a new city You know after so many years in San Francisco and've been here for almost two years. And it's a big move to move to a new city. After so many years in San Francisco, and I moved here for work, I host Love Line, Thursday nights, which is a National Syndicate radio show. You can also send to that podcast.

I feel like everyone knows Love Line, but they might not, with Dr. Drew. You've been up for so long. Dr. Drew is, I mean, the man. He's the man, so that's really fun. And so I do that. It's amazing that you're on that show That's such a legendary show and it's it's so cool that you're there

Yeah, I wish you were on more days a week. Have you heard me on I have heard you on I've been there I sat in so much better on that show Then I would say then here because I know probably because I just I distract you and then you have you have like Like straight-up experts that you can like just bounce off of and And they got people that will kicking ass if you don't stay on point in time. Oh, because you're saying I'm all over the place here Yeah, but it's it's a free form. It's a podcast, you know And in a radio show it's very structured and you have to stay in time limits and all that kind of stuff. Like what you said to do at free FM?

Yeah, all that kind of stuff, and that's where you would like, try, make me want to have a hard time. So, menistend, I met you just wanted a little history. No, people, I don't know if they know this, but like, it was nine years ago. I started, I started this podcast 10 years ago, in my living room, just as an idea,

I'll interview people about sex, because I wanted to learn more. And I got a call from the program manager at free FM, and they said, hey, do you want to do a live show? I'd never been in a radio station. I'd never, I'd, nothing. So I was like, cool. I go in, Menis was assigned to the board,

was a job board operator, and we met. And I didn't know what I was doing being in the radio. I didn't know how to like, I might have swore a few times and done some things wrong. Menis was pulling his hair out. Yeah, because he wanted to kill me. You know, this is like right after, you know, the whole chain of jacks and stuff, where like the FCC was really

hammering down on any like sexual content, any kind of stuff like that. And here comes Emily, who like does not read any of the FCC guidelines. No, I had to take a test. Yeah, but I'm sure you didn't really pay attention to the test. That's kind of.

And here I'm the person that handles the button that like cuts out all your- The dump button. All the stuff. And this is how Emily would go. She would want to say like, blow job on the radio. And I would go, and I would hit the button because you can't say that.

And it would cut out her saying blow job. And what would she do? On the air, she would say, what? I can't say that, you know, we'll cut out her saying blowjob. And what would she do on the air? She would say, what, I can't say blowjob. I don't have to hit the button again, like, what the F-lay? You know, it's so funny, but I thought, like, I remember I did a show on masturbation, and they said you can't say masturbation

more than one seven, 15 minutes. So I had to come about these euphemisms for masturbation. But the funny thing is being on love line, we say like blowjob, come on your face. I mean, we say everything that we couldn't say that, we thing is being on love line, we say like, blow job, come on your face. I mean, we say everything that we couldn't say that, we can totally say on love line. Yeah, and I mean, it's a lot more relaxed. You're in a better time slot for doing that.

And also, you have the power of Dr. Drew. Dr. Drew is a trusted guy in this field. And people are not gonna go after them if you guys are talking about you know dropping kids. Yeah and we say jizz we say it's come a long way baby. So anyway that's a little background. Well yeah that's the background but yeah and so happy to be here with you again and we're here and you're doing you're doing shows without me you're doing it in so many different ways. Yeah with Anderson I do, he's also the board, the sound engineer at Love Line.

And that's the name of the guests. So he's been there for 20 years. Yeah, I've been here in Anderson forever. So that's great that you're hooking up with him. And then you guys do a video thing. I know a lot of them. So now we're on you stream, finally, we've been talking about this for years. So I realize that every Thursday night from 839.30 Pacific St.

Air time, you can now watch live the sex Family show and afterwards it becomes it's a video you can watch on our website It's really cool though, so it's live you can watch it and listen if you want and it's pretty cool You can call in right they can call in the phones have been kind of wonky lately So I think in the next few weeks you will be able to call in again, but the phones have been kind of funky there Yeah, that's cool. Yeah, it's awesome. So, yeah, and that's why I wanted to know, like which shows are you drawn to? Is it the guests? You know, which topics, all that stuff.

So anyway, so my resolutions is that, you know, I have been here for two years. I've been working my ass off. I moved here because for my career and it's been amazing, but then I realized, you know, I haven't I've dated God knows, I'm not, you know, I'm not sitting on celibate, but I just thought, you know, I should really, you know, I haven't, I've dated God knows. I'm not, you know, I'm not sitting on celibate, but I just thought, you know, I should really, you know, start putting myself out there more, just like I tell all of you, practicing what you preach. It's not that I'm holding back. It's just, if I'm working a lot, when I'm out,

I'm just starting to talk to people, hey, how's your day? Not even that I'm attracted to them, or I don't even know what it is. I just, I'm talking to people wherever I go. And I'm letting people know that I'm single. Friends of mine are like, are you dating? I'm like, no, fix me up.

And I've been open to going out dating people. I've been, you know, just like saying yes more to people. Instead of just like, I'm busy, I'm working because, you know, it works. Always going to be there. And I just want to make more time for, you know, for dating and stuff. I'm also meditating twice a day. I've been doing that for the last month and a half. Nice. Do I seem calmer to you? Yeah, a little more, not'm also meditating twice a day. I've been doing that for the last month and a half. Nice.

Do I seem calmer to you? Uh, yeah, a little more not all over the place. I mean, like when the microphones aren't on, it's just like, all over the place. That's why I would need a nap if I hung out with you more than two hours. I know, that's why we don't hang out. But you know I'm a good time. Yeah, no, you're always fun.

I'm always fun to be around. Well, um, okay, so. It's exhausting for me. So, New Year's, yeah. I'm a good time. Yeah, no, you're always fun. Always fun to be around. Well, okay, so. It's exhausting for me. So New Year's, yeah, I'm sorry honey. I know that's why we do this little limited things, but this is our best, we chant our best. So New Year's plans also, sometimes they can seem like a lead to like I think like New Year's don't trip on it,

even if you're single, it doesn't matter whatever you're at now. But you know, resolutions for the New Year, for whatever. So New Year's go out and have fun, but don't make a big deal of it, it's gotta be this huge thing. I think when you're just now. But, you know, resolutions for the New Year, for whatever. So, New Year's go out and have fun, but don't make a big deal of it. It's gotta be this huge thing. I think when you're just hanging with good friends, or if you've got a partner,

just do something that you both like doing together. I think it's great to have a party at your house and have friends over other than paying three times the amount for a dinner somewhere. I hate when they're gonna be off into years. So, I hope everyone has a great New Year, but moving into the New Year, what are some, you are some sexual resolutions?

So you can promise to hit the gym or like, flush your teeth and all that, which one year I do flush your teeth every day. Every day now. It's hard to, right? One year I made it my resolution and I actually now, years ago, I do it every day. That's all important, the gym.

But you should also commit to something that will bring you pleasure all year long. So I'm gonna talk about some sexy resolutions that you might inspire you. I hope we'll inspire you to have better sex this year. So, I think that you can think of anything that you wanna try sexually in your relationship before I get going and you can also pipe in.

Anything that I wanna try sexually in my relationship. Currently at the moment, no, I'm sorry that I'm so... I don't I knew I don't even want to ask okay, but I'm not out there on like Tinder and like having all these crazy I'm gonna answer the Tinder people back. I wish I I wish I was Tinders more of a game. It's like a game, but I don't have time to message him I mean I don't know when once I look at it. I'm like, yeah Okay, but I just so I can get in on the game I swear I talked about this on the last podcast I was with, that I was on with you was I want to be like spider man on Tinder

or something like that and just see what they say. Okay, to me, huh? No, just like in general, see what women, it's funny, it's a good time. Let's do it. You just sign up, become a check right now. All right. Okay, so one of the first things I think is really important

is that you should sleep with people who make you feel good about yourself. All right. So if you're having Sunday morning regrets, you wake up in the morning and you're sleeping with this guy or girl and you're like, God, I don't appreciate me. I feel really bad about myself. Well, think about that. People don't change that much. So if someone's not making you feel like you're best self right now, life is too short to spend time in a relationship that is going nowhere or sleeping with someone that doesn't make you feel good. So you should move on from stare relationships that are holding you back. I think that's one resolution that you should all make. Also commit to say for

sex. I feel like people aren't using condoms these days. They just aren't. They say they were like, I feel like our generation is like, a, it's scary, whatever. People just don't. And you know what? If you know like our generation was like, AIDS, scary, whatever. People just don't. And you know what? If you know that sex is gonna happen, you should be prepared for it. You probably plan on using condoms and then you had a few too many drinks or something

and you just, you're part of it in having, or you didn't have any. And I think if you're a woman, arm yourself with condoms that you actually like and you feel good about. Lifestyles condoms set me all these condoms to try and I have to tell you, they are amazing condoms. Number of condoms used to be kind of like,

ah, they were, they fell off, they were uncomfortable, guys didn't like to wear them, maybe there's an excuse. They have these turbo condoms, they have like this excite gel in them. They also have these condoms that have pleasure, there's a pleasure pack actually. And they've got these little bumps in them for her pleasure.

I mean, they're just, and they're thin, because they use polyisoprene, which is actually not latex. And so you don't little bumps in them for her pleasure. I mean, they're just in their thin, because they use polyisoprene, which is actually not latex. And so you don't get infections from them and they feel freaking amazing. So have safe sex this year, because people are carrying on diseases, y'all. And just because they tell you they don't have something,

either they're lying or they don't know, because then you can just be a carrier. So, practice safe sex, a career of herpes or whatever else. Gunneria. Gunneria. Columbia. All the sexy stuff. Do you guys ever talk?

Do you ever guyfriends like, hey, do you guys got herpes? Not herpes, but I had a friend that said he got Columbia. Yeah, he just take a antibiotic. I mean, it's not the end of the world, but it's, you know, it's bad. It's, you know, just be careful. Condoms are not, I feel like they've got a bad rap

because they just were bad. They used to be not as good as they are now. They're like, like, everything. They have technologically advanced. So check out condoms, check out lifestyles. I love their pleasure back. Okay, do your sexer sizes. All right.

Kegel exercises. So doctors always recommend that you do them for women after if you get a child, they help you with your, like, so that they have with women after childbirth. You tend to pee and you're listening to like, you sneeze or whatever, you're looser down there. Also, it can help you have stronger orgasms. Kegal exercises, they can for men, they help you last longer in bed, they help you just control your orgasms. And so, you know, the thing about it is, is the reason why, like, doctors how you do them

is because they're miracle muscles, they're like any other muscle. And so how you do them is it's your pee stopping muscles. So when you want to stop and start the flow of urine, so like, you know, if you're, you know I'm talking about when you stop it because someone's coming in the bathroom, you hold that for five seconds and then you let it go. And you can do for five minutes a day. And I actually have an iPhone app called KiggleCamp. And people go crazy about it because it's, it reminds you to do them like five minutes

a day. You can set a reminder every day on my phone. It says 11.30 time for KiggleCamp. And there's 20 levels, so they get harder. And people like email me, they're like, oh my god, my ejaculates shooting across the room like I was 20, women are having a struggle orgasm. So just try and breathe, flow with your caggles.

They're really good to do. You can do my traffic light, whatever, do them. And your app, you always forget the selling point of your app, tell them. Oh, it's my voice. OK, so here's the deal, is that my voice walks you through it. And we're actually updating it. We have a new update coming up.

Really? In like a month or two. Yeah, but do you want it to be your voice? Please, we try. It's like 10. It's relaxed. 10s, relax. And it's five minutes, and it's my voice,

and I'm cheering you on. And the thing is, when we first launched it, we had 10 levels. And people were like, I already got to is when we first launched we had 10 levels and people were like, I already got to level 10. So now we have 20 and people love that. No one's asked for more. So I actually got an email about it. Emily, I've been interested in exercising my PC muscles

and in the objective, I downloaded the app and also bought some Kiko balls. I find the app amazing but was wondering if you could help me by giving me tips and how I could exercise with my Kiko balls. Thank you so much, Erica. So now they have these weights, right? These kegoballs for your,

for your, you put them inside of you and you wear them and they have a little string attached to them and they actually work out your muscles when you're not even doing the exercises. So you can put them in for an hour or two in the morning and just walk around with them. Juju makes the, the, the, Am Ami AMI and they are amazing. If you go to, they're the my favorite ones

because they're weighted. They have three different weights. They actually have a fourth one coming out so you gradually build up and you can do, the best thing to do is to wear them and do your exercises while you're wearing them. They don't hurt. A lot of people actually get pleasure by them.

They can turn you on. And so you could try that. If you go to goodvibes.com and look for the AMI, Kegaballs, you can get them and use Qupunco GVM20 for 20% off. But anyway, that's how you use America. And also, really, they say if you just wear them, I know I wear them sometimes just for a few hours. And because you don't really realize it, but your muscles are tensing and holding them in, and you're actually working them out

with I'd even have them to the exercises. So they truly work for you. Go to Good Vibes, they have plenty of different brands, and you can see that you like and try them out. And then you can get your kegels of steel. And I think you have a podcast episode somewhere where you actually had balls inside you. Did I? With you? You walked in. I don't remember when it was you actually had balls inside you. Did I?

Yeah. With you. You walked in. I don't remember when it was San Francisco. San Francisco. Was it at the radio state? No. Is it a stichar?

No. Is it a stichar? Yeah. I think you had balls inside you as a stichar. I probably did. I have balls inside me. I have balls inside me now. No, that's a good point.

But they're sitting on my counter. So I remember to point them in. And I'm telling you, I do have stronger orgasms when my PC muscles are stronger. Did you ever have problems taking it out? Because on one of the episodes of Keeping Up With The Kardashians, Chloe had them in, and she couldn't get one out. Those are the Ben Wobbles that were became famous if it was great. They need to have a string on them so you can pull them out like a tampon.

You don't want the ones without the string because you can lose them. You can lose stuff in your vagina. You don't want the ones without the string, because you can lose them. You can lose stuff in your vagina. You don't want to do that. Condoms, a cat or something. All that kind of stuff. So be careful. Oh, there was this, I don't know if you have any sex news or if you can get any of this.

Yeah, but go ahead. Or you've already talked about this. But a couple of weeks ago, there was a art show in Miami and one of the art pieces was a woman who was completely naked and she actually had a battery stuck in her vagina and like famous people were charging their phone through the battery. So like, she was charging like people like 20 bucks.

So Usher, the singer Usher, he charged. She was a model that was in the show. She was a model, yeah, and she had a battery inside of Regina. And she was like, just hooking up. People's phones and charging them. That's crazy. No, I did not, our puzzle or something. The, our puzzle, which is the big,

yeah, yeah. Our show, that's crazy. Yeah, stuff like that. So there you go. I mean, I read the news every day. There's so many crazy sexual stuff. What else? I have one story here, so many crazy sexual stuff. What else? I have one story here actually.

Yeah, anything. Which one? Do you have the one couple weeks back? I don't know if you talked about it again. But this rapper, he couldn't get over that his wife cheated on him with another, like a famous singer. And he was, he murdered her just recently

in Los Angeles. Did you hear about this? I think yeah, I did. And he was the guy that murdered the rapper was on FaceTime with the famous fighter Floyd Mayweather, the whole time, and Floyd Mayweather was like trying to get him to stop. Not to murder her?

And he did it. And she was on VH1, she was like, reality star. Yeah, no, I did hear about this. People were crazy about sex, it's horrible. So I do it, if you can't get over her cheating on no, I did hear about this. People go crazy about sex. It's horrible. So I do it. If you can't get over her cheating on you, don't be with her. Right, exactly.

People, I mean, really? I'm the act down. You will find another person. Right. I'm sorry. People, I know. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Do not ruin your mind for something.

Yeah. No, we're in just like, now he's in jail for the rest of life. Oh, no, he killed himself too. We killed himself too. Yeah, great. And then he're in just like, now he's in jail for the rest of his life. Oh no, he killed himself too. We killed himself too. Yeah, great. And then he just made everyone fairly great. Jealousy is the kind of thing that people think they cannot get over.

And they just, it's painful. Jealousy, you've sat in jealousy. Probably it's a horrible, horrible, horrible feeling. It's rejection. It really, it points to low self-esteem and the whole thing. So, you know, if she cheats on you, she's not the right person for you. He cheats on you, move on.

People stay in dead end. Oh, you know, if she cheats on you, she's not the right person for you. She cheats on you, move on. People saying, dead end, oh, this is another good resolution. If your relationship is going nowhere and you've had several conversations with your friends, a lot of girls didn't talk about the stuff and they don't move on, it just amazes me. Time to move on. Time to shed all that dead weight

because you could find a healthy relationship for you. This is the, I mean, I remember when I used to bring out people or things would end. I'm like, oh, you know, we all go through this and we're never gonna find someone else, is it ever gonna, yes, you will. You will find someone who is better for you and who is healthier for you and who drives with you.

And that's why we go through relationships. So we can learn what we like and don't like. So the end of a relationship is not the end of you. It's just the beginning. Find someone else. And I, a man, and then some stuff out there just off the wall. I think I talked a couple podcasts ago about these brother and sister that got caught stealing and then like they started making out through the cell bars.

Yes. Right? Yes. So then there was a new one that I just found out about where this brother and sister only have brother and sister so that makes it alright right? Oh dude no yeah. They were watching the notebook and they got horny and they ended up hooking up. Is that the one I already told? Did I tell that story? That's crazy. Yeah I'm sorry I'm confusing all the incest stories but like there's seriously there's more people out there

You do not need to be hooking up with your sister. Oh my god. I know Why do that don't do that? I don't know what it is if it's there upbringing or they drunk They were Yeah, sorry my jump in Madison. No, they were like out in like the sticks They were far off where there weren't a lot of other people around and I think they were like out in like the sticks. They were like, don't wear far off where there weren't a lot of other people around. And I think they were like kind of inexperienced and like not very like culturally a writer of a Leon and they saw the notebook

and was like, this is amazing. Yeah, and they started hooking up. And they were hooking up. They were hooking up like in a trailer like over in a parking lot somewhere. So people sort of cash, they like caught them. Having sex. So bad, right? Yeah, that's so bad.

It's hot in America. People don't, they don't, you know why? Because there's not a lot of sex information in America except porn right now and people don't know what's right and what's wrong. That's right. You know, and they're so confused by their bodies and their parents don't want to talk to them about it and they're learning from porn, which is not the best way. You shouldn't actually learn anything technically from porn.

I don't mind if you watch it and you get aroused, but what you're seeing on the screen and porn is not what you technically feels good for a lot of people, for a lot of women and men. It's choreographed, so it looks good. So don't learn that way. Learned by listening to my show. Okay.

Okay. So we on this morning radio show that I'm part of, it's called The Woody Show, again, in Los Angeles. And we do do this one thing once a week called Craigslist Freak of the Week. So I go through Craigslist, everyone on the show, and we try to find the freakyest story possible. And today we had a story, the story that won. Exists everyone on the show and we try to find the freakyest story possible and Today we had a story the story that won we read off three and then listen to vote what they think the freakyest story was and this guy got off it Looking for people to fart on him

Right, so we're like this can't be real. This is just ridiculous. This is something that they're just making up and they wanna put on Craigslist, right? No. So then we had people calling in and the cam girls where they get requests to do things. Like, there's guys asking them for this, like to do on camera. It's like this whole thing. They want the girls,

the girls are turned on by the guy doing it too. They want it as well. No, no, no, no, they're just getting paid by the guys. Oh, right, she'll be like, Hey, me, you can fart, I mean, all I want. Yeah, yeah, yeah, right? That's so much, yeah. Oh, it was a,

I'm not judging. No, no, no, but that's bad. It's like really like how do you even have a sexual arousal off that? But it always goes back to like feet like, Hey, it's just not for you. You're dating. You don't know, you know, you don't know.

But this stuff, do you comb through Craigslist and find these in this video? Yeah, but there's so many penis pics, no matter what I hate it. I hate it because it could be like the best at home, really looking for the love of my life. I really want to spend time with someone, get to know them, and then dick pics.

Like really? I know. Why? I don't know. Me and telling you right now, there was no one woman sitting around right now going gosh I wish I got a really good dick pick right now in my inbox that would just make my day are not attractive I don't want a penis that's unattached to something else but I don't want to see

your penis anyways these webcam girls are calling in and they were just talking about all the requests and this one girl said yeah I got paid a hundred and fifty dollars for twenty minutes. This guy just wanted to watch me step on apples like to smash apples with my feet as he masturbated. I don't know. Maybe he grew up on a vignette. No that's great. Maybe he grew up in the country.

God knows what. I don't know. There's something for everyone. God but that's crazy. Maybe he grew up in the country God knows what I don't know. There's something for everyone God, but that's crazy the webcam girls. I know you think that people are not into it But they're into it. I know maybe people listening to the show. They're into that kind of stuff And I'm you know what? I'm not judging you, but it's just so surprising when you people are into everything And where do they get where does that come from? Where does it originate? The God apples would be sexy applesauce Yeah, oh did you hear about the furry convention? I did.

Something bad happened, right? Yeah, so there was a furry convention. I always think of you and I think of furries because in 2006 when we started the show, you actually came into the station. Yeah. And you said, check out the, I'd never heard of furries then and you told me about them with first time. So furries are people who dress up in furry costume.

Yeah, they dress up in furries and they're just conventions and sex. Like mascot outfits or maybe like elaborate where they're trying to look like animals and they're having sex, like, you know, through like, dick doors and stuff like that. But there was this convention in Chicago, not too long ago, where somebody malicious put like a, what is it? Chlorine, like bomb in the hotel. Not a bomb we're exposed, but it's just like chlorine that goes into the air and goes into the air ducts

and then makes everyone evacuate. So they broke up the furry convention and all the people in the furry costumes had to go out on the street where it's freezing cold right now. Oh my god, and they're furry. Like just like dinosaurs and stuff. Yeah, but luckily, you know, it kept them warm, but. Thank God they were wearing furries

and it wasn't like a scantily clad. It's crazy. But I heard there's like big, free conventions and like Hawaii and stuff like that. That'd be really hot. Oh, you that were you're going to Hawaii for? No, no. The honest men.

Oh, yeah. What about your Teletubbe costume? My Teletubbe. That probably could pass maybe, but it's not. I could. Menace went through a period where he was wearing it like every day in Teletubbe. Just for fun, hilarious. But not. I could, menace went through a period where he was wearing it like every day in a teletime. Just for fun, hilarious.

But then there's like, there's another thing though, I don't think we've ever even talked about was Bronies. Have you heard about that? No. Guys, and maybe females that are in to my little pony in a sexual way. Well, there's the my little pony butt plug. What?

I know you think I talk about but plugs. Yes, it's made by Crystal Delights and it's a glass but plug and then it has a tail coming out of it. I gave one to Mike Catherinewood for Christmas last year. Did it? We had somebody on the show recently that had one of those. Did we? I can't remember who, but I-

Yeah, some girls that were- Yeah, totally. Oh, was it the guy from the ranch? The bunny ranch? No, no, no. We were there then, I don't know. But that's, yeah, they're common. And you can wear it, and you look like a little pony

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Thanks for sharing all that. Yeah, sorry. Back to our sexual resume. No, it's sexual news. No, I had some more too, but I think we're just gonna go on with the resolutions here. So another important thing is, you know, get a vibrator. And I'm not just saying because you think I'm always like pushing toys. It's because it actually, the reason why I talk about them is because it truly enhances

your sex life with or without a partner. You know, you can enhance your solo time together. You can, if you're masturbating and you're like, oh, I want to try my G-spot. I want to play with my butt. I want to play with my butt. I want to figure it out. There are so many different toys that you can try because we all get stuck in these sexual rods. So we have orgasms the same way over and over again if we're lucky.

But when you try a sex toy, you can get nipple clamps. I mean, there are so many rodents on it, like back of your knee, the nape of your neck. There's different things that you can do and buzz all over your body that will feel amazing. So you know, if you already have one, try to bring it into the bedroom. Talk to your partner about using it together because I'm telling you out of all the times I've recommended a couple of the ones that have ever said that ruined our relationship. No woman I've ever heard of left her boyfriend for her vibrator. Guys, it doesn't happen.

It just enhances your sex life. She's a gateway drug. It's a gateway to what? No, and also it helps. Moments, you know, mean to cut down your time. She makes sure things. It does, guys. I know if you're like down there for,

I don't know, three and a half hours, this will just cut it down to maybe half hour. Five minutes, really, sometimes. So try, try, try, toy out. Try something new. You can go to good vibes. You can peruse, go to a sex toy store. And that's actually a fun little four- vibes, you can peruse, go to a sex toy store, and that's actually

a fun little four-plate thing you can do together with your partner. Go into a store, look around and be like, does that interest you? Does that? And just try something. Just spice it up. This is a good resolution. Do something different. Also, ask for what you want.

Resolutions about being proactive and changing your life. So if you have a desire or fantasy, speak up. Take responsibility for your own pleasure. And for women, your orgasm is your responsibility. I used to think too, when I first started having sex, I was like, he's bad and bad. I didn't have an orgasm. It's his thing.

No, you have to know your own body. You have to figure out what pleases you first, and then you can tell your partner. Because for men, like Menaceau, he says, what's your famous statement about the women's vagina. Oh it's the Rubik's Cube of life. It's true. They're all different. They operate differently and he's not or she or your with they're not gonna guess. I'm not gonna be like oh this is what they like. We're all different so spend some

time figuring out what you like and then learning how to ask for it. So you know that will improve your sex life as well. It's something in your mind. I mean, I know guys married, because you know people pull me aside, like at a party or whoever it is, they don't even know me, but they're like, what do I do? I've always wanted to watch my wife have sex with someone else,

you know, I'm like, we've been together 20 years. I'm like, well, just, you've been together 20 years. There's ways to bring this up and to talk, or maybe you don't lead with that I want to have you, you know, whatever your fantasy is, if you're sitting on it, they don't't go away and they will only help you improve your sex life. So you know your partner may say no but what if she or he says yes and then it goes to the next level in 2015. Hell yeah that's what I'm talking about. That's

what I'm talking about. Okay so whether you're in a new or a long-term relationship commit to trying like one new thing this year in bed. I don't care where it is. One thing, little dirty talk, a new position, bondage, discover a new origin of zone. People go for men like they go for a breast, they go for a vagina. But like did you know, like the back of my knee, the nape of the neck is so sensitive. There are fingertips. Like with breast orgasm, second was common orgasm, like try massage, try bringing out these other parts of your body, never stop learning

How to become a better lover you should constantly be expanding your sexual repertoire. There was a there was a thing where this guy He was a quadrilplegic and I can't talk right now. I'm sorry. This is when my brain starts shutting down. I apologize, but he he got sexual rousal if a girl would suck on his finger. Like, it's anywhere, you know, it's crazy. Yeah, no, it's true. I mean, there are, and there's ways that you, you might be like finger, that's weird. How do you know?

What if you can have an orgasm through your finger being sucked on and you don't know? So what people, you know, you're rushed. You have sex the same way and I'm just saying try something new. Maybe once a month, even once this year people don't ever mix it up. So What are you gonna do? I'm not gonna ask you. Okay, and if you're single Commit to taking one step in your dating life towards meeting someone new. It could be deciding up for a dating site, telling your friends whenever you're out with them, hey, no, but you know what? I'm interested if you know any single people, fix me up. It's like when you're looking for a job and you're like, tell everyone, you know, tell

everyone that you're looking for a job. So tell everyone you want to find someone. You're married and you're not married friends are, you're married. Non-single friends are the untapped resource. They really are there always meeting single other single guys That's how I've gotten fixed up a lot in LA Or just get up the nerve to like start talking to people because it's there's so much fear That men and women have about approaching and just talking to people and the more you do it the more you just start like saying hello And talking to people in public whether or not you want to sleep with them and just chatting

It will it will make you more comfortable with that members of the obnoxious sex and getting turned on and me getting dates and getting turned on too But it's not just just put yourself out there and see what happens because like we said you're not gonna die Nothing bad's gonna happen from learning to stop to learn and start talking to people. You'll be fine You'll be fine and then finally stop faking it. And not to sorgasms. Don't fake it in the bedroom. Don't fake it in your relationship. Don't fake it in your dating profile.

Don't lie about who you are. The best way to find something real is to put your real self out there. Because no one ever gets what they want by faking it. Because eventually someone's going to find out that you're not really what you say you are. You're not into what you say you want. So, you know, if that means saying goodbye to your almost relationship, because you know that you need more,

that means speaking up, because things aren't working in the bedroom, do it. And of course, don't fake your orgasms. That is just disservice to all. Guys, you're sending the wrong message, and you're sending the wrong message to men, or whoever your partner is, because you're saying that,

hey, that felt really good, but it doesn't feel good. So don't fake it and I hope everyone, I'm wishing everyone a happy new year. I know. Good luck with the resolutions. Have a great year, Emily. It's been another great year with you, Menace. Keep doing your thing. I'm doing my thing. You keep doing your thing. All right, I love you so much. I love you too. Thanks, Menace. Happy new year, everyone, and thanks so much for listening to Sex with Emily. Was the good for you? email me. Feedback at sexwithemlee.com. Thank you so much. I love you too.

Thanks, man. Happy New Year, everyone. And thanks so much for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? email me. Feedback at sexwithemlee.com.