Sex With Emily - Sticky Sex Situations

Episode Date: December 26, 2014

Just in time for the new year, Emily answers the top questions that have been asked in 2014.Maybe your boyfriend has an uncut member and you don’t know how to ‘handle it.’ Or you want to increase your sexual stamina, but don’t know where to start. From preparation to penetration, Emily gives you the “How To”s of anal sex and gives advice for a listener in a tricky dating situation.. When does a porn obsession become a deal breaker? She and Anderson discuss both sides of the matter.With the new year right around the corner, it’s time to tackle those important sex questions. Whether you’re a man or a woman, single or in a relationship, this podcast has the answers you need for better sex and relationships in 2015. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Tonight's show, we are answering the top questions that have been asked to me this year, including how to deal with foreskin, anal sex, porn obsession, and how to last longer in bed. This show is for you. Thanks for listening. Okay, and thank you also for supporting my sponsors.

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They're just beautiful and people keep emailing me and telling me it changed their sex life Which makes me feel good because that was why I made them and if you like me me and you like the show, I know you're going to love the candles and it would be such a great support and it's a great gift. So check them out. And also you can get them at Emily and Tony.com, but here's the thing. If you use Code Bogey by December 30th, you buy one, get one free. How about that? So do that now.

I love you all. Thanks for listening. Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a fight on day. Hey, Aveline. You got a boyfriend? Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. The world's got a standard, oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, though? What do you mean, like, laundry? It shrinks?

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Hey, Anderson. What are some of your favorite? Actually don't do that. After disaster and film vault. Smart, smart lady. Those are Anderson's podcasts. Oh one more thing I got to say I was just talking about my massage candles and I gave you the wrong code It's actually code massage that you use until December 30th by one get one free of the candles

Would you not bogo? Well bogo is by is it is short for by one get one free and it's a long day. Oh I get that B.O. Do you get it? Bogey?y? Hey, you ever think about hitting up like massage parlors? Like fancy ones, like burglars? Yes, we have. We've talked about it and we will. It's on the list of things to do. I like the idea of walking in a really fancy massage parlour. Like, you know, they're not going to be going for your,

your weiner if they got like fancy stuff. We are talking to them and they all want them, it's just a matter of getting more candles in stock, which we have enough now for our website, but we're trying to get more so we can try to get... How many bees you got to kill to get those candles gone? Beeswax none, we don't kill bees. We'll put it in the most environmentally friendly way, so no bees were harmed in the making

of these candles, I swear. So here's a deal, Thursday nights, 839-30 Pacific Standard, you can always watch the show now at sexwithanley.com. And you can also... Oh, here's the thing, sexual health expo January 17th and 18th, 2014, in Los Angeles, I am hosting the sex expo. And it's gonna be one of a kind event. This is a great time to come to Los Angeles,

because if you're living in anywhere else in the world, it's probably freezing or at least in America, not in the West Coast. My mom said it was 21 degrees in Michigan today. So it's a good time to come to California because this sex expo is for people like you who want to get better sex and relationship information and the top educators that I've even studied underneath and in the world are going to be teaching workshops. There's going to be the latest and greatest products out. I'm giving a keynote. There's going to be a party. You're going to be like-minded, cool people and learn a lot.

So sexualhealthexpo.com. Check it. Go. It'll be fun. And yeah, also send it for my newsletter when you're on our website because I have a lot of great things I send to you. I send you discounts for things. I send you information.

People just like like my emails. You get my emails and you probably get really excited about them. I got one yesterday, I think. Yeah. Exactly. And then also just a few things is um really it really helps us to build the community. If you check out our Facebook page and you like it, we just love hearing from you. We do a lot on there. And it's a really popular page on Facebook because it's lightens up your day. We give you fun information and also Twitter and Instagram is also at sex with Emily and it just helps support the show.

So if you're already on Instagram, I know you're going to enjoy it and Twitter and all that just follow us. How many, how many likes you got over there? 180,000? That's very impressive. Thank you very much. People, I don't know, it's gone crazy the last year because I just, I don't know, I think the information, we just kind of got it right and people really, really enjoy our Facebook

page. Some people are on and they're like, oh, you have a podcast. I mean, we post the podcasts on there too, but they just found me through Facebook. And then they're like, oh, you have a podcast? I mean, we post the podcasts on there too, but they just found me through Facebook. And then they're like, oh, what were they searching for? God knows what you're searching, but I think it comes out pretty early on in your Facebook thing. And then one more request I have is that again,

all helps the show. If you have any band iTunes, like when she subscribed and you like the show and you want to review it, we would love to hear from you. And you can always email me at feedback at sexwithelme.com with any of your comments about the show and your questions because this show tonight, I get a lot of emails from you and I love, I answer a lot of them on the show and every year, you know, by the end of the year, I think, you know, I go through them, I think these are the top questions that have been asked and they do change from

year to year. And so I picked out some of the top questions and I'm going to answer them tonight for you. I'm sure there are questions that you had. And so I picked out some of the top questions, and I'm going to answer them tonight for you. I'm sure there are questions that you had. And in fact, today, actually this podcast is going to be, is up by time you're listening. This is that I was on the Lynette Corolla's podcast, called For Crying Out Loud. And it was funny because her podcast,

like four out of five of these questions came up today, questions from her and her co-host. And so I knew that we were on track, that these are the questions that men and women have about sex. So I think you're really going to enjoy the show. And again, always send them away. Feedback at sex at mle.com. How are you doing, Anderson? I'm doing just fine. I'm doing well, Emily. That's all you have. How are you? Yeah. Nothing new? Are you happy? I took me like an hour and a half to get here tonight. Oh my god. 15 miles. Is it just like the holidays traffic is crazy? I don't know. Is that what it is? I'm just like stopping, like shopping on their phones or something.

I don't know. I get why people like have road rage here. I never understood road rage until I moved to La Cante. I can't stand people that slow down to look at a bent bumper. I don't care. I was in a car with a really good friend of mine. He was driving a couple days ago and there was a bent bumper coming up on the right. He slowed down. I almost punched him right the face Well, look someone got an accident. Let's check out their bumper. Look at the bumper. It's all bented Who cares? Who cares? Keep driving keep your eyes on the road and don't I just saw a great billboard the other day Oh god, I'm not gonna run ahead

Yes, I've given her head in my day. Have you had a Receive yeah, yeah, yeah, road had is great for road trips It's true. Actually, I got pulled over while giving road hand once. Really? Yeah. Because you were swerving. Uh, because I was speeding. Of course you were. It was a female cop and she had no idea. Well, it's funny. I was just listening to a cop the other day on a show, some show, but that was listened to. And the cop called in and they were asking, like, what do you, the host was saying, like, so what do you look for when you pull someone over? How do you know asking like, what do you, the host was saying like, so what do

you look for when you pull someone over? How do you know, like, what could we do to not get a ticket? You know, and he was saying, you know, with the second we pull you over, we're watching you. You're scrambling and you're putting stuff in the glove compartment. This is all obvious, but the calmer cooler and collected you are, you know, the better you're going to be. But it's like, you think about it. Who isn't nervous when you get pulled over? So we all seem a little freaky. He's like, it's okay if you're hands shaking when you're handing me your ID that I get,

but if you're looking like sweating and, you know, and you're just looking really nervous, we're gonna play your S over and take you to jail or whatever, they're gonna start searching your car. And he's like, we don't wanna search your car. So don't be a freak. Were you a freak when you're gonna hand job? No, I was cool, I'm like, get the dog,

we had dogs in the back. I'm like, get the dog, it's a girl. Maybe it's gonna be cool because we have a dog. Yeah, zip the pants up. I used to get pulled over so much when I was a teenager. Actually, I was not nervous at all and they pulled me over and I would just like grab a book and read and wait and they'd still be the ticket. No, it doesn't work. I know. And every time I get pulled over, I get a ticket.

I never really check. I would think you get out of it. I've tried everything. Oh, no, you flashed. I got out. I Take it off at once. You'll appreciate the story. I was driving when I moved here from San Francisco to LA I had a huge Truck filled with all of my stuff that I was driving which is not a good idea if you've ever you haven't driven with me But I'm not I'm a fast guy. I can see that being very scary. I'm a speedy speedy driver You go through your purse when you're on the road. Probably. Yeah, I'm always digging through my purse

I broke a nail here digging through my purse. There's so much in it. So were you on the 101 going through King City? Yeah, I don't remember where I was. Yeah, I was somewhere. I was probably two, three hours in and they pulled me over and they said, I was late. It was like, of course, I didn't pack out. It was two in the morning and they pulled me over and they said, well, your car is what do you get? They made me get out of the car and they said, what are you doing? I said, well, I'm moving to LA right now. I've been packing all day. I'm really sorry. I'm totally sober.

And they said, well, what do you do? And I said, oh, I host radio shows, that's the Emily, and I'm on love. I just heard a love line. They go, oh, we just heard you on love line the other night. And they let me off the ticket. That was the only time. Because I dropped love line.

Wow. Yeah, I dropped Drew's name once. They didn't care. They took me to jail and I went, they did? Yeah. Drinking and driving? Well going 88 and 35.

Oh, I got to take going 105 once, 120 once, driving to LA. All right, we'll move past the cops. Got it. So I hate, I hate when they used to let Adam Corolla off all the time. Really? Yeah, I mean, the famous people. And yeah, oh, you're famous, you have a lot of money

and you can afford this ticket that I'm about to write. Yeah. It's true. The more money you make, the more famous you are. You get free stuff. It's unfair. I'm waiting to get to that point, though, in life. Okay, here's a little sex in the news first to get it going, making up a cops and stuff

like that. Sex toy prompts bomb scare at San Diego Courthouse. Okay, so a courtyard next to the downtown San Diego Federal Courthouse was briefly cordoned off Thursday following the discovery of a device that quickly went from suspicious to salacious. Someone spotted the object, an egg-shaped piece of aluminum attached to an electrical cord. In the patio, just west of Edward Schwartz Courthouse at 1015 AM, according to San Diego Fire Rescue Department, federal officers closed off the area with a bomb squad, while bomb squad investigated,

the personnel soon realized that the device was a sex toy. The area was open to the public again within an hour and no one stepped forward to claim the device, the cop noted. Who's going to say, oh, that was my toy, sorry, let me just grab that, because you know, a little egg, whatever. So no one's gonna say, that's mine, I want it back. But I'm surprised it hasn't happened to me more, not a courthouse, but you know,

and they airport, I bring them everywhere. I probably have one of my purse right now. How they were, during the search line, have they ever like, dumped out your purse? Yeah. Well, when I go to Vegas, I go to this, that show every year, the sex trade conference, one year, my first year I went, the search line, have they ever like, dumped out your place? Yeah. Well, when I go to Vegas, I go to this, that show every year, the sex toy conference, one year, my first year I went, I was flew.

Now I drive, because it's just so much easier from Los Angeles, but in San Francisco, I must have come back with like 50 seconds. It was my first year there, and I just, everyone was so nice and gifting me so much stuff that I had like 50 sex toys going through security, like in boxes, and they were like, what the hell? But they were cool, they laughed.

They got a good chuckle. But I've never had them pull out just randomly my sex toy but I know that's happened to a lot of friends of mine and it's really embarrassing so you know you should do when you travel with toys if they happen to be battery operated take out the battery flip them around they will not vibrate but you should also buy one of the new ones that are a lot of them are most of them now the good ones are rechargeable so that will not oh though actually if they're charged they can get turned on. So you should probably wrap them up. I have no idea. I don't want to tell you people. Just be careful with your sex stories. Okay, here's another sex

of the news story that you're going to love. UK activists sit on each other's faces to protest, protest new porn laws. So British activists are playing to sit on each other's faces. One of the sex acts that is now illegal to depict an internet porn, but is not illegal to perform in real life. So outside the parliament on Friday to show their disapproval of the UK's new online porn regulations, the protests which will be led 2013 sex worker of the year, Charlotte Rose will include a variety of simulated sex acts that are now banned You can't believe are they banned everywhere?

No, there's in the UK which you think would be more liberal than we are But you have to hear with their first of all. I don't know how they're gonna ban I don't know if it's like UK originated porn, but how do you close off the internet from them accessing porn with on the can't the following Acts listen to that wait so face it in what else? Okay, are you ready? Spanking, caning. Well, caning should be banned. Aggressive whipping, penetration by any object

associated with violence, physical or verbal abuse, regardless of its consensual. Roe playing as non-adults. What is school teacher and child? What if you're like aliens? Not necessarily adults. Physical restraint. What if you're Benjamin Button? Seriously, I mean, what the hell?

Yeah, what if you are Benjamin Button? What if you're just not yourself? How do they decide, oh, that one's right, that one's wrong. Someone's gonna be very busy. Fairly creepy those horns over there, like eating lollipops and then got their hair in the pig tails no you're right I agree I agree that I'm okay with so that's the legal while pretty like a gun up inside of her you can't put a gun in a

ring no strangulation uh face sitting and fisting which fistings pretty popular important right yeah I think I think so what's wrong with face sitting I think you're the face anyone's a fun think so. what's wrong with face sitting? the face sitting one is a funnier one. what do they think you're like a fixated or something? why can't you sit in someone's face while it's around? oral sex is fine but like if you like flip over then it's not. yeah what about 69?

yeah what if you set up you're in trouble. you can 69 all you want. i don't understand how they're even gonna uphold this. the face sitting one really is weird. i know. but the UK they were like a cast rateating homosexuals through chemicals, just like, you know, recently as a 50s and 60s. That's true.

No, it's true. I mean, we weren't so great to them either, but this is like crazy. So it says, well, the measures won't stop you all from watching whatever genre, a porn they desire. A video shot, a broad can still be viewed. Oh, that's right. So do you know post severe restrictions on content created in the UK and appear to make no distinction between consensual and non-consensual practices between

adults. I mean, what are they that's going to do? Like, they're going to find it anyway. So they're saying everyone in the UK, if you're making a porn, you better submit a permit and we got to come check out the script. Yeah, it's like the same thing they got here in LA with the condos. condo UCL. But my thing is, uh, Lymey broads sitting on guys faces and screaming. So I'm in trouble. You are in trouble, but you're here, so you're fine. Oh, because it's British. Yeah. We're going to take it all down.

What are they going to do? How they can take it down? It's going to be a lot of very extreme sexual brits coming our way. I know exactly. Maybe it's a good thing for the business. Okay. I've got some emails. So Anderson, you know, there are so many emails that I get in questions, and I just really wanted to help people with these top, top questions that I get asked and I'm using some of your emails right now to answer them. So the first one is how to please an uncut penis.

So an uncircumcised penis. Hey Emily, I love your show. Can I request you dedicate some time to pleasing the uncut penis? Most women get a deer in the headlights look when they see it and aren't sure how to proceed. Am I completely biased opinion? They rule thanks from a big Canadian fan, Damian. And then there was another question on Facebook.

So on Facebook, this one came in through our Facebook page similar, I have an embarrassing question, is giving oral to an uncircumcised guy different than to a guy that is. Just starting a guy who's uncut, I've yet to go down under and want to be a parent. Any tips? Literally, Valerie. Okay, circumcision.

Have you seen an uncircumcised penis close up? Maybe yours is, that don't mean to be present. No, I'm not, and I haven't, other than video. But I got some friends who I know that they aren't cut, but I don't mean to be person. No, I'm not. And I haven't other than video. But I got some friends who I know that they aren't cut, but I don't make it happen. They were talking about it. They were talking about women's responses to their uncut penises. No, my two friends that I'm thinking of right now we don't really talk. I don't really talk sex with my

friends. I know. But I can tell these guys that it's never too late. Is that too loud? Yeah. Sorry. Oh my God, that was so loud. Never too late. It is never too late to get your penis cut or re circumcised on certain, whatever. Don't do it. No, but a lot of people aren't cutting their art circumcising children out and they're letting them decide like when they get older. I mean, they say that it's, you know, more sensitive. How do you know? Like an orgasm and an orgasm, like if you talked to your guy friends, like men's with stronger because I have more foreskin. They say the for skin makes it more sensitive.

Yeah, I don't know. It depends on how much feeling is in there. But to me, it seems like it's like a constant condom on, you know? No, it seems like it was more sensitive. I mean, it might never mind the shing. I want mine back. Exactly. Okay, right.

Exactly. You didn't have a choice. So circumcision is definitely on the decline though, because your parents are choosing to circumcise their sons meaning younger generations are gonna Start getting used to working with uncut penises and it definitely has come up like around my office like you know kids my Kids, the people in my girls my office are like with guys and they don't know what to do and I get it like you know Don't judge a penis though by its cover because well it seems like it's a freaky word thing because you haven't seen it It's not at all. So here's some myths

about uncut members. It's not dirty. A lot of people think it's really dirty. Many people believe that they are unhygienic and this may have been true way back when but now men are hopefully showering every day, taking care of it. If you're really concerned about it, you can take a shower beforehand, but most guys, I hope, you know, are pretty clean and they know if they have it on, it could, you know, trap some on hydrating stuff in there. From what I've heard, like, you got to like use Q tips and whatnot. You got to get in there. I was with the guy for like two years, he's from the UK.

They read, they bleed. No, I mean, I don't know. That's it. You do hear stuff like that, but I personally have not heard any stories in all my years. Do it all look like it's trying, trying to get out. No, I can just can't get out. can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it.

I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it and I don't know if I had to do this circumcision but every every most guys I've been with at least seem happy

they come back for seconds they fake it and pray fake um okay they might guys do fake orgasms a lot yeah I've heard it you fake it I've fake I just want to go see when you're wearing a condom yeah right right and it is you can't do it otherwise or anal or anal but how could you not come during anal I thought that's like the sure thing I'm just saying this is a good way to fake it right because you wouldn't know right yeah nobody should friggin fake it okay women faking orgasms is I have a huge problem because it really sends a wrong message to your lover they think they're doing everything right the rock star and they're not so you might as well figure out

what pleases yourself and get your own pleasure on and then you can tell your partner and they know to fake it. Okay. So a lot of you will also think that on circumcised penis gets in the way of his or her pleasure. And if anything, the foreskin can actually enhance the sensation for both parties. It makes the man's penis a lot more sensitive all over because the foreskin is covered in nerve endings. It is not just a blanket, like a condom over it. It actually has more nerve endings, which is why they say that men who are on circumcised have stronger orgasms or they're just more sensitive or whatever it is. So, you know, I think that it's, I've only heard positive things from these members with members.

Makes them feel a little more girthy, so might actually feel bigger inside of you. And also, foreskin reduces friction. And it makes sex feel a lot smoother, and also reduces loss of lubrication. People say that sex feels different with it. It doesn't feel that different at all. From sex to the circumcised member, foreskin folds back as the penis becomes more wrecked. So it's not like you have this hanging, dangling

foreskin. It's sex. Feels good. The penis. Same thing. It sucks. Feels good. The penis, same thing. It does not feel different. Why are you winsing? Are you winsing?

I didn't like what you're saying right there at all. About what? I don't know, like hanging skin. Well, whatever people think that it's going to feel uncomfortable, it's going to look weird or it's going to feel different. It doesn't feel at all. You're talking about from the females point of view.

Yeah, sometimes with the females point of view, they think, oh, it's going to be weird. It's going to be, you know, like a little weiner with the blanket. Like a pig in the view. Yeah, sometimes with a female's point of view, they think, oh, it's going to be weird. It's going to be, yeah, I don't think it's like a little weiner with a blanket. Like a pig's in the blanket. Yeah. Exactly. Um, so that's, that's, that's the myths I'm busting penis myths. Plus, if you're a guy and you have uncircumcised weiner, I would think that it's fairly rare. And you might be able to bring it up to like a girl, you know, you know, you're sure about like, hey, you know, when I got an uncircum size, you want to see it? That's an excuse, you know what I mean?

I'm kind of like a kind of like a fact-funny or something. Yeah, like going to a museum check out my penis But I don't know. I mean most of the world is uncircumcised. Yeah, but I'm talking out out here And then the main the states is on his comment my my boyfriend was from abroad in not the UK But somewhere else and if you ever listen, I don't want to say where it's. It's always strange when you see those marble statues, because they're getting circumcised way back then. Yeah, I know. They always have. What does it mean the Jewish religion?

It's like, you have the breasts. You know, this, have you ever been to a breast where they cut the penis? I know. The carting. The bagels and locks. And they cut the cart. Actually was being charged with something

because he was giving herpes to these newborn babies. It's horrible. That's horrible. The actual tradition, I guess, involves a fingernail and then actual blood sucking. Yes. Oh, that's horrible. I mean, I have heard some things go wrong.

So a lot of parents choose not to do it. They suck the blood. OK, how to please the circumcised penis? Uncircumcised? One option is to grip the foreskin. And you massage the shaft of the penis through the skin for a solid hand job. Who doesn't love a hand job?

Little loob. Also, it actually moves more easily, so you might not even need that much loob. You could also gently pull the skin down with your hand and use your mouth. So what you do is you pull it down so the tip is revealed. And you use your mouth to pleasure the head of the penis which by the way is more sensitive. Always the tip of the penis. So start off slowly or slide the foreskin back and forth in cadence with your mouth. It's really not that much different. So play with the foreskin, it's your friend. And if you've any doubts and you're doing it and you're like,

I'm not sure. Don't be afraid to ask. Just like in everything insects. How does this feel? Is there something different? You know, every penis is different as well. I mean, people want blow jobs differently. So it's nothing different that don't be scared by a little foreskin. I hear guys can like keep things in it. They can put stuff in it.

Yeah, they're wallet, they're iPhone. I don't know, it's not like maybe marbles. No. Yeah, like change, spare change. Your penis, hot bottom. It's like a little pocket. It's not, it's not like that. Oh, it is my cat would actually as a friend who doesn't Keeps like little cars That is so natural that's my cat or what is him? I was speaking which a matchbox cars

And you guys check out. Yeah, what is it like a little matchbox cars? Oh, dude. Yeah, that's very unhealthy don't give people bad ideas But like oh cool. I'm gonna to put my credit card. A little skin garage. I don't think so. What were you gonna say? You were about to say something, I'm sorry. I was nothing, I was gonna say anything. Okay. You got pumped up about something.

No, I was gonna say that people should check out my show because my catheter would actually and drew where I'm a show last week. So they should check out. Oh yeah, that's right. Yeah, so it would love that. That was a good one. That was a good one.

I know Dr. Drew and Mike are the hosts of Love Line and it's an awesome show. So I think you will learn a lot and love it. Like was a good one. I know Dr. Drew and Mike are the hosts of Love Line and it's an awesome show. So I think you will learn a lot and love it like all my shows. Okay. The next question is about everyone's favorite topic, anal sex. How to. So dear Emily, I need your help. You see, my boyfriend and I have been going out for four years now.

And while our sex life is rather fantastic, I still feel like I'm letting him down in one department. Anal sex. As my boyfriend has a bit of a fetish craving for it, he always suggests it and I always decline. And while we've tried and failed sometimes, it just never ends up being a good experience for either of us and I can see it kills him. That is a little bit inside every time. Please, how can I get over my bad experiences and while fulfill his fantasy of anal sex

and serally jade? Okay, this is a very common question and it's a very hot topic. Please, how can I get over my bad experiences? And while fulfill his fantasy of anal sex, sincerely Jade. Okay, this is a very common question, and it's a very hot topic. anal sex is the thing for people to try to get their partner to do. And it is naughty and taboo. And I think that's also the fascination with it. And you know, it feels really good for men.

I'm sure I don't have a penis, but it seems to feel really good. Plus porn, I mean, you can't watch porn without seeing anal. But when it's done wrong, it can be a pain in the ass. That porn is very intended. And a nightmare on the receiving end. So a lot of women understandably have fears about it because it can't be painful if done wrong.

And the first time it might have heard a little bit, but if you do it right, how I'm going to explain to you right now, it won't be painful if done wrong and it the first time it might have heard a little bit But if you do it right how I'm gonna explain to you right now It won't be painful and you might find out that it's your favorite sex act Jade So if you want to try it and it sounds like you have tried and it's been painful I'm gonna tell you how to do it right and also there's a lot of women I think who I do know who have a really bad first time experience with it You know you're drunk. He just shoves it in, he doesn't know what he's doing, and it's painful and you swear it off for the rest of your life as I can completely understand.

And so either you hear it's bad or you experience it was bad. And so I have to say that if you do it right, it can be kind of an acquired taste like any experimental dish. It all depends on the cook the preparation your mindset doing it right So the first thing you have to do with anal sex is to talk about it You got to talk about it to partner. You don't just stick it in you don't just say oh, I'm gonna do this That is a sure far way to get her never to do it, okay? And you don't keep begging for it either

So a lot of women are like that's only one to talk about you know all the time and you know keep begging for anything Sexually you're gonna give me blowjob tonight. You're gonna be blowjob I'm telling you the more you ask for something in that way from a woman She's not gonna want to give it to you There's different ways to go about getting what you want bed and that is not it because then they just feel like What have you done for me or now that you're asking me? I don't want to do it So you got to ease into these things so you got it, you know, it's except if you want the blowjob You know, maybe you should be going down on her more or maybe you should say, God, babe, I love, you know,

foreign all sex was amazing last time you gave me a blowjob, it rocked my world. I mean, say something to say nice about not like, why don't you give me like you're the victim, you're the blowjob list of victim, you know, no one wants to do that. So talk about it first, like any new thing you try in the bedroom, anal sex is something that should be discussed. Communicate your fears, your expectations to their partner, and make sure that you're both on the same page about the speed and the depth. And this is at one area where you do not want surprises.

And if you have fear about how you are down there, you know, if you're clean or whatever, you should definitely shower first. You can be, you know be plenty of rouse beforehand, and you can take a shower real quick. And so if you're worried about what goes on back there and you shower, you'll feel a lot better. It takes where it will clear out roadblocks in your mind and your anus.

Take a steam shower. And steam showers are kind of our hot foreplay. I love showering with a lover, right? And don't skip the foreplay So you have to make sure that that that she's aroused for anal sex because you just you can't just put it in So you make sure that she has an orgasm or that you you have sex and you turn around No one wants to forget it's like starting one of us. They just like starting with dessert But a lot of people would like to do that. It's like what is it like? It's like starting you know, I'm not saying it's like starting with dessert, but a lot of people would like to do that. It's like, what is it like?

It's like starting, you know, a movie in the middle or something. You're like, I don't even know what happened. Like, I'm not even, I don't even know what happened and I'm getting the context. So you want to warm up and you want to loosen things up. And the number one most important thing is you cannot forget the lube. You absolutely 100% need to add lube into the mix. Because, you know, thank God there's lube because the anal canal does not naturally produce lubricants.

So it cannot ease the penetration. So a lot of people think that, you know, oh, well during intercourse, I get to turn on when it puts inside me and lube, but no, it's not going to happen to your anus, it's going to hurt. So, honestly, you can never have too much lube. You can never be too rich to thin, I have too much loot, I'd like to say. Up for kind of safe. Definitely be, you know, use a condom,

use water-based loot and don't be afraid to reapply it. Just have it with you, on the condom, have it with you on the bed and nightstand. That is my dream Anderson. Every, every bed. My dream is that there is a loob on every nightstand in the world because loob, not only enhances your anal experience, but for a lot of women, even if they're already wet or turned on,

adding a dash of Loub can actually increase their chances of having an orgasm. More about nuns. Should they have Loub priests? Well, they don't really do anything. I mean, they get things to do. Yeah, old people, well, okay, here's the stigma with Loub. People think that you've got to bring in the Loub, like, uh-oh, dry, she's dry, there's discomfort, it hurts.

The Loub is like a first aid kit, right? And the Loub actually, like I said, enhances it. It's not that you're not turning around, it's not that you're doing something wrong. It's like, guys think it's a crutch, and it's a sign of their weakness, but I'm telling you, just try some friggin' laur. I only do Loub, I'm a mage. I know, I hate when people say that. I'm just like, try it once, and then tell me you don't need some friggin' loot.

I like pure loob, it's spelled PJUR. If you go to my website, section of the M.A.com, click on the Good Vibes banner, you can buy it there. These coupon code M.A.L.E, it's amazing. They make the best loot. So anal sex should be approached. It's kind of like getting into a hot jacuzzi. Test the waters during foreplay,

and if you've never anal sex like Jade, you haven't had a good experience, let's, he should use his finger. Like the first time, slightly rub around there, get her turned on, see how she feels, and use a loop with this as well. So just, you know, and then you could use a finger, and then your penis can come into play,

but first just rub around that area, see how she likes it and get her turn on and for the women Don't forget to breathe because the natural tendency is to clench your muscles and to tense up and that Is a recipe for pain and disaster. So you have to breathe Just like everything Chlorous leechpin was on Love Line years ago. Okay. You know, Chlorous leech pin in the acres. Older woman.

She gave a little advice on anal sex. She's not a little blue. What's that? She said you should kind of push, which seems weird, but when I think about it, it kind of makes sense. That's the woman should push. Yeah, kind of push out a little bit. Yeah, you could push out a little bit.

You could push it. Careful, but you can push it. I, but, but don't clench. You can push back a little, but don't. Clench. You can also, sorry guys, but you can also just say no. And here's something you can say. If you're a girl and he's constantly like pestering you, you can make, yes, as soon as I peg you, you can peg me. That's true. A lot of men actually. That's not a bad idea. Men and some men straight men. I've talked about this a lot in the show actually. That's true. A lot of men actually, that's not a bad idea. Men and some men, straight men, I've talked about this a lot in the show actually, it's the male G spot.

So many men think, if said reports, again, I don't have a male ainess. Don't let Drew hear you say that. Why he thinks men should have be penetrated? He will try to strengthen. Why? If you say that the ainess is the male G spot, Drew will try to officially assault you.

I'm afraid I'm over it tonight. I look forward to it. A lot of men have, you know, a lot of men feel pleasure, not all men, but some men are like, oh, wow, oh my god, that feels amazing. Just on a lot of leveling last night, Katherine would actually eluded to the fact that he has been pegged by a woman. And and Drew said what? He didn't, because Drew sometimes I know, Drew shuts things down like that. Yeah. But I'm just saying that if you want to experiment, guys want to experiment, it's like she has to peg you and pegging means like she wears like a harness. You could get a butt plug. Get a little, oh, there's the, um, the black pearl by Vibrotox is a vibrating butt plug for man, which is pretty awesome. So again, you got to breathe

and so don't tighten those muscles, breathe, breathe, breathe. It may feel like you have to go to the bathroom at first, but just go with it. Assume the position. You might naturally gravitate towards his line on top of you, familiar, easy, comfortable. But that's not really the right way to go. So here's some of the best positions for rear exploration,

for optimal position, doggy style. So if you do a doggy style, it allows your guide to easy, have easy entry, what puts them in full control, which might not be best for the first time, but that is the most common way you see it. Girl on top, best position for anal, because in my opinion, it allows you to control the speed and depth of penetration. And this is so important, Jade, if you're in anyone, if you're new at anal sex, if you get on top of them, he can't be shoving it all in there. You can breathe, you can move, go down, you can move your body down and up just how you want to, and so you're not being forced into

it. And spooning. Spooning is another great tip for backdoor beginners, gives you shared control of your movements and adds an extra touch of intimacy, which might help you relax. He could put his arms around you and, and, and aimly penetrange you. Be vocal, talk about it, say, I would say it feels good, it feels bad or I would say that hurts or it's painful. You don't have to be a freaking saint here. If it hurts you, anything hurts you during sex, you should stop and you should say something. Sex isn't about putting on a, you know, putting on a, what's it called, putting on like a smart, what's got not the smart face, putting on a game face. Game face. Thank you. It's not about putting on a, you know, putting on the, what's it called, putting on like a smart, what's gotten out the smart face, putting on a, game face.

Game face. Thank you. It's not about putting on a game face and being like, I can dig it. No, there should be no pain in sex. And a lot of women do not just during anal, they experience pain during sex. So check in with your partner, Tom,

tell him how it's going, how you're feeling. And make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. If you're not 100% into it and you've tried it or whatever and it doesn't interest you you should never be forced into doing anything so I'm not saying it's for everybody in fact I don't can't think of any sex acts that's for everybody so you know you know you know low jobs yeah I guess missionary but some people it's you know something like this no I dated like that's like I said the guy dated. Oh That's exactly him It was the worst I want guys to make a goddamn noise in the orgasm and not just like uh You know I really don't know that you came you want to know that we come isn't it hot when a woman makes noise?

Yeah, not too loud Jesus keep it down. We got neighbors. I know. Do you know? Don't fake it for me, please. Don't fake it, but sometimes you can't help it. I mean, when it's not that women are faking it, it's that when it feels really good, we can't help it. So you guys should be freaking lucky. Okay, next question. Emily, I'm a new listener and completely addicted.

I've been listening to all the new and old episodes and I'm discovering so much about myself. So thank you. I'm writing because I need your advice. I met this guy in Tinder and actually, he was the one who introduced you to me. We're having a conversation one day and during one of our talks, he expressed that per your advice, he should tell me something.

He watches a lot of porn. I have no problem with porn, I watch it. And I thought it was great since almost every guy I've dated in the past was not adventurous and wouldn't watch or even talk to me about sex. But here's my problem. We haven't even met yet. So this is a Tinder.

They met on Tinder, forgot to mention that. And now every time we talk, he's always talking to me about sex or porn. He watches it like all day, even at work, sends me text messages throughout the day of videos of his favorite porn stars and of himself. At first, I'm like, hey, okay, now it's a little overwhelming. He seems like a really interesting guy, but now I'm a little apprehensive about meeting him. Can you please tell me what to do? Your new loyal listener ALX. I'm going to answer that question in a second because it is a good one. Porn is a big topic

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for himself was to embarrass to ask for it or go out and actually buy one. So I gifted him with one and it turned out to be an awesome thing. It's like giving a kid a game boy so that you can get more done around the house. Basically, it's like at night, you know, he's in the mood, he comes home from work all horny and I'm really not in the mood because I've had a long day and I'm like, oh, just you know, go take a quote and quote long shower and he does and it's perfect. Sometimes it's substitute sex. Sometimes he does it before when he knows we're gonna have sex later and then he can last longer. He's gaming. Yeah, it totally just multi-faceted and it's uses.

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single day. I love line or wherever I have my life, people want to know, what's the deal with my partner, my boyfriend, or guys and porn. And I just normally just tell them, you know, if you guys could be having the best sex of their life, the most amazing sex with you, but they still need to masturbate. It's a release. It's like a stress reliever.

And the more sex they're having, sometimes they want to masturbate more. And that's totally fine. And they watch porn. It's kind of like how women are like shopping online. And you know, zapos might relax. That's something we're buying shoes. Or you masturbate, hopefully. So, you know, zappos might relax, that's something we're buying shoes. Or you masturbate, hopefully.

So you know, women are always asking why, like why do they need to watch it? And so Alex, I'm great that you, is it Alex, Alex, Alex? I'm great that you have such an open mind about sex and pornography because porn really can be great for partners to share each other's fantasies. So these are the pros of porn. Is that when you watch it together, you find something that appeals to both of you. It can help you guys come up with new things, try the bedroom, help you open up to new sexual experiences,

and just be more open with each other. And it's also arousing, you know? Even when you watch porn with someone, it's just hot, that there aren't some porn. However, Alex, it seems like your Tinder match, I don't know, it feels like he has an unhealthy obsession with porn and the fact that you haven't even met him yet is really disconcerting because for the number one thing is if you meet someone online, I don't

like all these we've been chatting for three months, exchanging pictures for even of two weeks, meet this person because in your mind you're creating this whole story around this person, who they are and what they're saying. And you know, actions speak louder than words so they could write you the most beautiful things or send you things. And really, until you meet someone person, you don't know if there's chemistry. So, I think you should have met him already.

However, this guy, it's consuming his day and it work. And that's when you know that there is a problem. I mean, he's never met you either and he's sharing all this with you right off the bat. I like, I get that, you know, it's like you said yeah I'm open to porn and it was like his floodgates open and he's like oh cool This chick's cool that I'm you know because he probably feels some shame around He's like oh, there's some woman here that I can talk to about it

But it just sounds really unhealthy. It sounds like he's having boundary issues and I just think it's inappropriate It's an appropriate way to court you. It's it's working. I mean, unless you're okay with him watching porn and sending you porn clips all day, I just don't think it's healthy. And you know, when, you know, I hate to just throw on the title of sex addiction because you have to, you know, people think everyone's addicted

and I don't wanna throw that around, but you know it is a problem when it does inhibit your ability to lead a normal life. So if it creeps into your work, it starts affecting your relationships, there could be a problem. So I'm not going to tell you that you shouldn't meet him. If you're curious, I'm just going to say you should proceed with coffin with caution with coffin with a coffin. It seems like he's got sex in the brain 24-7 and if you're looking for a relationship, he might not be the best pick. But again, you haven't met him, but it just sounds like he's just being

very, very inappropriate. But for everyone else who's doing a dating guy and he watches porn, you just need to know that it's not an healthy thing and it doesn't mean that your sex life is anything but satisfying. And watching porn, like I said, has very, very little to do with you.

Right, Anderson? Yeah, he's probably beating off while he's sending these things, too. I know well this guy's weird but now I'm just going globally Alex I think you should proceed with caution with this Tinder guy because I don't like that he's talking to you about sex so freely and that

he's sending these pictures and that he's doing it at work like what's his job? I mean it sounds like he's very motivated to do it if he's like you know in the bathroom you know Jack and off all day but the thing is that porn is so appealing because men are visual creatures they get excited by visual stimuli and it also like fulfills the need for fantasy. Guys just want to fantasize and it creates a world like they think about women as being

insatiable and hypersexual or whatever it is, but it doesn't mean that they necessarily want you to be that woman. They're not thinking, oh, I, you know, if you're thinking you want me to have fake boobs and blonde it, no, it's just his fantasy that's going on. And research also shows that men who do watch porn do not consider it to be a relationship at trail. Any more than you consider, you know, watching magic, Mike, for the 97th time to be a betrayal or something.

Like it's the same thing. It's separate, right? Anderson. How many times you've seen that once you line me. Actually, that's a lot for you because you don't see movies. Dude, I have to tell you the other night, a love line where we're talking about the, oh, with Mr. Skin, the hottest, I'm like, oh, God, I haven't seen movies

so long like the hottest sex scenes. I need to watch more movies. You're not much of a consumer. You don't consume much other than your vagina consumes a lot of toys. I consume food in toys. It's true. So it's not a substitute for you or real-life partner and he's probably a masterbating with

porn before he met you and he'll do it after. So don't forget about it. I know a lot of women feel bad and so you know have you ever had a woman come down on you for your porn watching? No. I don't I don't I didn't before I got married I didn't date people with sticks and their butt. Right. No, but I, but now I'm telling you, when I was in my early 20s, I was dating a guy and I, I really had the same feelings. I thought, well, it was the amazing sex. So connected.

And I was thinking, why does he have so much porn? He's like, all these, I'm like, why? It really confused me. And this is common. The women's got that. Actually, I lied. Yeah, I totally have. I forgot. What? I was

a horrible situation. I go staying with the girl. And she, you know, she'd go to sleep early and, you know, I'd rather look at porn a lot of time. I like hanging out with her, but we didn't, you know, you didn't have a lot of sex. So I look at porn and I wasn't thinking that it was her, her dad's laptop that he let her borrow. And when it stopped working, probably because of some of the sites that I was going to, I should take it back to him for him to diagnose it and figure it out.

Is she tell you she was doing that at the time? No, I didn't know, I got a call. She's like, hey, I'm at my dad's house right now. There's tons of very strange websites all over my computer. You have an answer for me? Oh no. What do you say to that? I had nothing to say.

Did you break up with her? I kind of just stopped going to her. Right. Like bring your life. I still think about that wins. No, that was a huge issue. I remember like, you know, just 10 years ago, people like other work computers. I mean, everyone's got the freaking phone. So are there iPad and they're doing it? They can now that's why I also think that the proliferation of porn has become so. It's been so vast because you can watch it anywhere. Everyone's got a phone. Everyone's got another device where it used to be.

You just had a computer at work, which was a problem like for you. Okay, so that's what I got to say about porn. And then another big question, top question we could ask is how can I improve my sexual stamina? Dear Emily, I'm 34-year-old guy. I've had four partners for intercourse spread over the last 16 years of my life. That being said, I found that I have little stamina when I do reach the point of intercourse and I actually

aggravated my last partner after two to three separate nights together. She chose to pretty much for go for play and went right to insertion. Now I'm greatly afraid to scare off an amazing moment because I can't last long a bit. My question is this, is there anything I can do to improve in this area prepare for my next partner or is it something I should address with her, whoever she happens to be, as they're on their current candidates so we can work on it together? Or worse, is it just the unfortunate hand I've been dealt and must accept my shortcomings? Thanks for your time, Tony G. Okay, this is a very popular

question and I was just joking it on the Lynette Corolla Show too, that men just, here's a deal. Men take about six to seven minutes to orgasm typically it sounds like you'd go a little bit quicker and women take 20 to 30 minutes or 30 to 40. There is an orgasm gap and it exists, it is true, it is real and that means that a lot of guys cannot last long enough to make sure their partner has

her needs satisfied and has an orgasm. So the first thing that you can do is just to make sure that you please her first, make sure that she has her orgasm so you're not all stressed out about it. And you know, you can spend more time in bed with a little more foreplay. But like some specific tips is just like you stretch before a marathon, you can warm up by masturbating. So pre-gaming, have an orgasm, you know, masturbate before you sear that night, because that might, you know, delay your ejaculation. It doesn't mean you have to like lock yourself

in the bathroom in the middle of a day, but, you know, if you know you're gonna have to have sex that night, you could just do a little pre-game. Kegal exercises, these are a great way for men. You gotta stick with them though. It's like going to the gym. If you go to the gym twice in a year, you know you're not gonna have rockin' abs, you're not going to have rockin' abs.

And you're not going to have rockin' PC muscles if you do not do your kegels. So they're your P-stopping muscles, how you stop and start the flow of your arm. And you just take a few minutes, you tense, and you relax these muscles every day for five minutes. And when you build up your PC muscles, it increases your stamina during sex.

So you can, it actually helps you control your ejaculation and it controls those muscles. So I actually have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp. You can download it. It has a reminder pops up every day for my phone 11.30am time for Kegel and it's my voice 5 minutes, walks you through it 20 levels and you will have balls of st-up, pegels of st-up. Also, there's the stop and start method. And the stop and start method basically is when you learn to have more control during sex because right now, Tony, you don't have control. You're not sure when you're going to, when you're going to ejaculate, you're not sure like what's going to happen and you have no control. It's just like meditation in a way. You know,

so many people don't meditate, they don't think they can't control their mind. They let their mind control them. You're letting your penis control you when you can learn to control your penis. So what you do is when you're masturbating, you masturbate until you're about to ejaculate. So you really have to pay attention. And when you feel like you're about to, you're getting close, let's say it's scale of one to 10, you're like at a six, you stop. And then you build it up again, and then you stop. And then you start again, and instead of the stop, start method will help you realize and strengthen your muscles and your method of realizing

your point of no return. So when you're having intercourse with a woman, you know when that point is coming, and you can still get a heightened sense of pleasure without going overboard. So when the moment point of no return comes, you'll have more control. So if you feel you're about to check it, you can slow it down. So there are ways to control it. It's not that you're you know, dealt this awful hand in life, but it also alive, it is psychological. Because it's happened before and you think it's going to happen again. And so it probably prevents you

from having sex with women. So the more you do some of happened before and you think it's going to happen again and so it probably prevents you from having sex with women. So the more you do some of these exercises and you practice, you'll be more likely to control it. But you got to stick with it. You just not the kind of thing. I think there's a lot of guys who really got to want to bother with it. It's five minutes a day. Okay.

So next time you go buy the flashlight, it's the camera training unit. That's what it's for. That makes it all fun. Stop and start. Also, you can try promessant. I've talked about in the show a lot. It's the only FDA-approved treatment. No side effects for premature ejaculation. It's a desensitizer and you will not transfer to your partner. So you spray it on your penis. You will

last twice as long. It's slightly desensitizing. Like she won't transfer to her and you'll last longer. And you can still feel everything. You wait like three minutes. You put it on your penis. You don't need a prescription and it's a quick fix. So try that. And also just again, make sure that she is pleased. If none of this works for you, Tony, if you come

and she's sitting there going, what the hell, what about me? Which I'm telling you, I had some conversations about this in the last few days with women. They're like, why don't, why do these guys come so quickly and then just roll over and fall asleep? Or like turn on ESPN? If you're a man and you're having sex with a woman,

I don't care if you come quickly or you don't come at all. You wait. Make sure that you know a lot of guys have, they have the opposite problem where they can't inject you. Make sure she's pleased for play, whatever you got to do. So, you know, become a better lover in 2015, everyone. So I gotta say, do you? and jack-a-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l-l and good job. You ever get sick, sick of sex? Madison with all the sex talk in your face all of that. Sometimes I imagine it's like being a gynecologist. At the end of the day, you go home and you're like,

if I see one more of those things. You imagine though, the report wives. Yeah, sometimes my boyfriend is like, hey, you know what, I was reading today. And I'm like, ah, give me a break. Give us a real fleshlight, Aguizad. I'm like, I just want to watch TV. Yeah, I mean, I don't, I see, but do you ever feel like, I mean, I guess you don't want to talk about it.

I'm telling you, don't want to sex. No, um, yeah, no, it's like once, I'm like any girl. It's kind of like, I don't feel like it, but once I get into it, and that's not like an excuse for Day-Rape guys out there who are like, Oh, like she just doesn't feel like it, but she will when I get started. But like with my boyfriend, when it's consensual, you know, once he starts warming me up, I get in the mood. But yeah, sometimes I'm like, I don't really want to do it this right now. Yeah, it's, so once you do it, warming me up, I get in the mood. But yeah, sometimes I'm like, I don't really wanna do it this right now. Yeah, so once you do it,

you know what I'm doing? I'm always in the mood. It's like that whole having sex to feel horny thing. It's like right in the middle, you're like, yeah, I remember why I love doing sex. I get it. That's exactly it. So a lot of couples of mismatch libidos,

they, you know, they, he wants it more, she wants it more, and it's like going to the gym. You remember say this. Hardest part is getting out the door, putting your shoes on. And once you have sex, you know, he wants it more, she wants it more, and it's like going to the gym. You remember say this. The hardest part is getting out the door, putting your shoes on. And once you have sex, you're like, oh, yeah, this feels good, and I get it. We're all stressed out. There's a lot going on in life these days. And it's hard to slow your mind down.

And our minds are our biggest killers of our sex drive. It's stress. And so if you can learn to relax your body, get into it, think about what you're feeling in the moment, and just sometimes just forget to have sex. And you're like, I don't feel like it, but I'm gonna do it, you're not gonna read it. No one ever was like, oh, why'd we have sex tonight?

Why'd I go to the gym today? No, you're not going to do it the same thing. What if you had sex, I had to gym. What if you knew you're gonna have sex if you went to the gym? I'd be there every day. You would be there every day. That's a good incentive.

I've heard that's like the life of gay guys, is that they get to go to the gym and like every locker room It's like an opportunity to hook up. I wish we had that. I don't honestly I think one more like saggy vagina in the locker room at the gym I don't say that don't say saggy vagina. Don't ever say that. What do you say? Vagina. Oh my gosh one time. I was at the Jacuzzi and this Asian woman got in next to me and her Janna fell out of her bathing suit and I was like it should not fall out of your bathing suit. At least she had one on it. It was like one of those

old dudes am I Jim. Oh yeah. The older the naked her. It was like one of those clam tongue things or just like oh Jesus don't say that either. Don't insult the giants. This is why women are getting vinaud vaginal. I bought my gym a couple weeks ago and there's just two old dudes standing right in the middle right by the urinals just chatting it up their dicks were almost touching Okay, but they still get a rations and they're happy and it's fine just effort and sex don't insult the gentalia and Thanks everyone for listening to sex with Emily was it good for you? Email me feedback at sex with Emily dot com Okay, everyone

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