Sex With Emily - Stronger Orgasms Start Here: Pelvic Floor Tips for Men & Women

Episode Date: May 22, 2026

In this livestream recorded on May 14, 2026, I’m breaking down everything you need to know about pelvic floor health, orgasms, bladder leaks, Kegels, pelvic pain, and why this part of your body affects way more than most people realize. I answer live listener questions about sneezing and peeing, period pain, pelvic floor tension, stronger orgasms, and the biggest mistakes people make when trying Kegel exercises. We also talk about relationships, communication, dating patterns, spooning as an underrated sex position, and why creating a safe space to talk openly about sex can completely change your relationship and confidence. Learn more about BTL's EMSELLA Chair at https://bodybybtl.com/solutions/btl-emsella ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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You can always send me your questions ahead of time. I know some people don't want to necessarily call in or even message here because like, but you should feel safe. This is a safe place. But if you want to call, it's 559 Talk Sex or 559-8259. 55739. So what is up everybody? Today we're talking about something that can literally improve your orgasms, your bladder health, your confidence, your pleasure, basically your sex life overall. And that is your pelvic floor. And I know people hear pelvic floor and for some reason they assume that it's women who have the pelvic floor like challenges like moms after childbirth.

Nope, everyone has a pelvic floor. Men, women, everybody. So, if anybody's ever been, had any pelvic floor challenges, have you ever heard of your pelvic floor? Do you think that, did you hear about doing kegill exercises that those were the only answer? So just let me, are the only ways to help your pelvic floors by doing kegels?

I've just been thinking about it a lot lately because most importantly, you know, it's like, it's it's basically the the pelvic floor is basically your foundation of your sexual function and people do not know there's a problem until something goes wrong with it so if you do focus on your pelvic floor health you could have better orgasms your erections will be stronger you can last longer might not have painful sex might not have bladder leaks or back tension they're saying that so much of our back pain is actually lead it like from our bladder. Maybe we're someone who tenses a lot. In fact, for a lot of women, they have pain. We call it vaginismis or vulva dinia

where they've always been clenching. Like maybe they were using it as a response because they had a lot of stress in their household or they're distressed people. We don't even know we clench. Men do this too and it can cause a whole host of issues. So it's funny and it does help you with erection. and the pelvic floor is basically the hammock of muscles that supports the bladder, the bowel, and the sexual functions, and these muscles contract and relax during arousal and orgasm. So wouldn't it make sense that these are muscles that we want to strengthen, right? Like we go to the gym and work our biceps, who are their legs, we have back day, but what about our sex exercises?

I am telling you that doing these exercises, working your kegled muscles, actually help you in so many ways, but there's other. ways you can work on your pelvic floor if you have if you have anything around it if you have any challenges around it or any bladder issues or pain um and whether your your pelvic floor is too weak or too strong it can also cause some challenges and a lot of times if we are a stress person or we have trauma it can live in our pelvic floor because we unconsciously clench there so it's it's more important that we realize, especially, especially if we are sitting all the time, right? Like, I was just seeing a study that they said that we shake it up every hour on the hour

and do 10 air squats. Like, if you do 10 air squats, it's going to increase your overall health by like a crazy percentage. I don't remember exactly what it said, but it was crazy. I'm like, shit, I'm going to start doing squats. I'm just going to start doing 10 every hour in the hour. There's little things we can do because we don't even realize that we are like sitting all day. Hi, Ben. Ben says hi. Hello, hello. So yeah, that's what's been top of mind for me. So I feel like, but I want you to know there's some myths around it too. Kegles are not the only answer.

Again, sometimes your pelvic floor is too weak. Sometimes it's too strong. Sometimes they're tight. Now, if you have been experiencing any pain during penetration, difficulty reaching orgasm, peeing when you laugh, peeing when you laugh, peeing when you jump, on a trampoline or when you go for a run, like I said, lower back brain, constipation, erectile challenges, that can all affect your pelvic floor. Your back. Your back could be related to your pelvic floor. So some things that I've been doing lately for a healthier pelvic floor is I do this, well, I go to this place. So there's a company called BTL and they make this chair called the Emcella. And it's a huge chair that you go to your doctor's

office or a medspar, gynaecologist or urologist, it's for men too. And you sit on this chair and it's the equivalent of doing 11,000 kettles in 28 minutes. And like my pelvic floor has never been stronger. And I've noticed that it just feels stronger. It's kind of like, you know, when you do a lot of sit-ups, you're like, oh, I've got abs. Like, I feel like I'm walking around and like my arousal is more available to me. And my, yeah, I just notice it's like stronger. no more seizing and peeing, all the things just feels good. So I wanted to share that with you, but if anyone has any questions here, you can send them into the chat.

What else have I been doing this week for my pelvic floor? Let's see, I do that. I do Pilates, I work out. I mean, you guys, it's not just learning sex positions, getting the right toys, the right conversation, which is all the things we talk on here. It's also important to pay attention to our sexual health. It's just like overall. There's like all these factors.

Like if 10 of you like texted me right now or DM me or called me, 559 Talk Sex or 559 825-5739, and you said, for example, like let's say you're a woman you called in, you're like, I can't have an orgasm. I don't know why I've never had one. So there would be a lot of different places we could go with that. I'd have to know. First, have you had one on your own before or is it just with a partner?

How comfortable are you with self-touch? Have you tried to give yourself an orgas? for. Are you on any medications? Medications can be a huge factor in pelvic floor, in, in, inability to orgasm. It could be what kind of messages did you grow up with around sex? When you told that it was okay to have pleasure, did you feel, when you told that it was okay to be sexual being? You know, a lot of us grow up with messages. We're like, don't be sexual. You know, don't talk about sex. Don't even have sex. Only have sex if you want to make a baby. Or only have sex, you know, yeah, basically do you want to make a baby or, you know, I guess what else do

people tell us? Only have sex if you're in love or wait until you're committed with someone to have sex or just like make sure your partner is having a good time. Like we just are never taught about like our own functioning around sex. So if you had a question about orgasm, again, these are the things that we do to, to help decode how to help every individual person with anything. anything sexual. That's why we are here talking about it because I feel like a lot of you have these questions about orgasm, sexual functioning, and it's always so great to talk to you because,

and I know you love hearing each other talk about it because it helps just know that you're not alone. So someone asked a question, what other exercises or stretches can help strengthen the pelvic floor, especially with limited mobility? That is a really great question. or something else you can do. It's called the knack technique. When you feel a sneeze or a cough coming, actively squeeze and lift your pelvic floor muscles beforehand to provide a supportive backdrop. Now when I say find your kegle muscles, these are the pee stopping muscles when you stop and start the flow of urine. So let's say somebody was knocking on the bathroom door and you're like, oh, I got to stop. It's those muscles and those are the muscles that you tense and relax.

You can count to 10 and hold, release, hold, and that's how you do it. You go in, tense, and then release. Tense and release. The other thing, so that's one thing. The next thing you could do is diaphragmic breathing. Breathing through your diaphragm, you inhale through your nose to expand the abdomen, and then you exhale we're lifting the pelvic floor. So you know our natural way of breathing is when we actually, when we breathe correctly,

like how we did as babies, our stomachs actually rise. So that's the diaphragm breathing. And then through our nose, expand the abdomen, and then exhale, we're lifting up our pelvic floor. And then really for support, you just want to do cord support exercises, like bridge poses, like lifting hips while squeezing or squat. Squats are great because they engage the glutes, the core, the pelvic floor. God, those are great. I did those this morning. Just like, the bridge poses are so good and like squeezing and relaxing. And then like rapid quick contractions at the pelvic floor to improve its ability to respond quickly to sudden pressure like sneeze. So you're just like in and out.

Like tensing and relaxing, tensing and relaxing. So those are the things I recommend. It's very, very specific. Like, you know, a lot of times we do our exercises incorrectly, which is why like almost 20 years ago I launched an app called KagleCamp. it was in the iTunes store. And it was so fun because it was just my voice saying inhale, exhale. And there was like different stages. You could get up to more and more strength over time.

I think there was like 10 different programs. And it was such a popular app. And I had a friend who he, a guy, and he was like, my girlfriend and I are doing it together because I think there was 20 levels. There was 20 levels. And I think at the time he was like 35. And he came on my podcast and he was like, Emily, My girlfriend I've been doing it for a month.

And when I just orgasmed, I shot across the room like I was 18 years old. So that is showing you that working your pelvic floor, the motility, like he was able to ejaculate like he was 18. Okay? Like he was a teenager. But he was in his 30s. So he actively noticed. So we don't pay attention to these muscles. And I'm telling you, the older we get, we have to do it.

But even when we're younger, there could be challenges around it. that we don't even realize, especially orgasm. I know the more that I focused on it when I was like really into kegles and doing my app all the time, my orgasms were way more accessible. They were way stronger because those muscles, think about it. These are the muscles that are responsible for orgasm. Maybe I should have led with that. These are your orgasm muscles.

Y'all want better orgasms. You all want stronger orgasms. So shouldn't we spend five minutes a day working on them? And again, for some people, it's too, they have tightness or they have pain and they are clenching too much. And so for those people, not great to do kettles. And it's also good to see a pelvic floor physical therapist. And in fact, if you are having any pelvic pain, I always suggest you go to a pelvic

or back pain. I mean, pelvic floor physical therapy has exploded in the last 10 years, which is amazing. We really didn't have enough pelvic floor physical therapist. And like a regular PT wouldn't necessarily know what the pelvic floor physical therapist can do to help you. But so I had the kegill camp thing. And then I also on my website have kegill weights. So for women, you put them inside of you and they're weighted.

So the first ball you put inside of you and you are naturally keeping it inside of you. Like I would wear it to the gym or when I was going for a walk. And you don't realize this, but your pelvic floor muscles are kind of gripping it and holding it. It's not like a conscious thing. But while you're just the act of having that ball in you, you're keeping it inside of you. And then you notice over time that it feels tighter. and then you go up another weight and another weight. So those are kegill weights.

We have them on our website, shop sex with Emily. But then when I discovered the BTL Mcelah chair in 2018, I sort of realized if I could do 11,000 cagels in each session and I know they're done correctly because it uses electromagnetic stimulation, I'm just going to go do that because I'm all about efficiency. But that doesn't mean you can't be doing something daily to help you. I am surrounded by books. Okay, so I have about 500 sex books in my office.

I guess I could turn it around, but I don't have to, but look, you guys. Like, there are some, they're everywhere. Like, just, it's all sex books, like, from the last 20 years. So right before we started, I just pulled some that I thought would be really fun to talk to you about. I just, like, blindly pulled a few books because you're all always asking me. And this one popped up. Now this one, the Big O by Lou Paget, when I started in 2005, this was like one of the only, one of the top sex books. And everyone talked about it because you have to remember 20 years ago.

There was not a lot about sex. And so this is how to be Lou Paget, she was a sexologist. I think she's still around. How to get, have them, give them and keep them coming. I'm just going to open to a page here. This was, we're going to start with an older book and then we're going to get to a newer one. Let's see. I open two erections.

Okay, ready? The following list about the normal changes in sexual function with aging for men, ready? The sexual male. It takes longer to achieve an erection as we get older. The duration of ejaculation decreases from four to eight seconds to approximately three seconds. The volume of ejaculate is reduced from approximately one teaspoon to less than half that amount. Oh, this is good. The force with which the semen is expelled decreases.

so that it's projected from the end of the penis a distance of only 2 to 12 inches instead of 12 to 24 inches, but if you do your kegaly exercises and you strengthen your pelvic floor, it could go a lot further, okay? Okay, that's penis stuff. Let's go to another page. Let's see.

This is from the female orgasm. Muscles, this is how you know. A lot more is going on when a female is an orgasm. Do you want to know? Muscles tense and heart rate and blood pressure increase. The nipples can become erect. The blood engorge clitoris becomes erect and pulls under the clitoral hood. The labia majora and labia manure enlarge and lubrication increases.

That's why it's like not just about the clitoris. It's about the entire area. Right. So what we're saying is that the blood engorge clitoris becomes erect and this is the part of it that becomes like actually becomes erect here. Like this is the clitoris. And then the labia majora, the labia menorah enlarge and lubrication increases. the vagina continues to expand and lengthen.

The breasts can engorge slightly. The clitor shortens. And the orgasm or release occurs. Contractions increase to every 0.8 seconds. OG book, one of my very first sex books I ever bought. So, we got a question. Wondering if you're familiar with either of the in-control intensity or the Joy Lex V-Fit, if so,

which would you recommend for 57-year-old women dealing with typical menopause issues? Wow, I'm so glad you asked this question. I love the in control by intensity. It's no longer in business. I worked with them for about 10 years ago. I love that product because it's electromagnetic stimulation. It's much like the BTLM cell chair that I sit on and you go to a doctor's office or a Medicare med spa.

I like if the challenges are so what what that one did is that would stimulate your pelvic floor like you put it inside of you you put a little conductor gel in it this is the intensity and it would send these little like pulses electromagnetic pulses so it's actually stimulating your pelvic floor and you're getting more blood flow it's helping rebuild the cellular tissues now the joy lux is red light and here's the thing about red light if the verdict is still out. I have red light masks. People send to me. I've tried the Joy Lux. I think it's a kind of thing. Like if you do it every day, like five times a week, whatever they recommend and you stick with it, you might see some benefits also from the red light rebuilding the cells. It's like everyone,

like if you use it all the time, it might be helpful to do it. But are you having pain? So what I'm saying is I recommend the intensity if you can get your hand on it because that one really, really, that was like a very specific like you feel the shock you feel it you use i have another friend who's been using it for 10 years um that one is really immediate i think that red light is a little bit more takes a little bit longer so to really see results but i think it's a really great company and um i think that it's um it can help strengthen the pelvic floor increase natural lubrication enhanced sensation, improved bladder control. I think it can, but I actually in my belief it doesn't do it. And I think it warms too. I don't think it's as good as intensity. That's what I think.

But again, I don't think that any of these things are going to hurt us. I think red light is beneficial, right? Like there's no harm in doing it. And the other thing I love about, it's like a one device you put inside you that has red light. What I love about all these practices is that then you become intentional. You're like 10 minutes a night, I'm going to lay back, I'm going to use this wand. It's just a wonderful form of self-care. And it's a way of being intentional about your sexual health. And you're breathing and you're there, you know.

So, wow, if the intensity is no longer there, is there something else you could, you should suggest. That's such a great. I mean, honestly, the only thing I would suggest is, I just want to copy it, is, is the BTL chair, the Mcela chair. there's nothing. I don't believe there's anything else like the In Control. Maybe you could find one somewhere. The Joyla, who else has the red? There's another company I met.

I'd love to give them a shout out. I met them. Oh, yeah. I met them. Oh, it's called H-E-A-L-S, fringe heels. They also make a red light wand. I would check there's out. You could compare that one in the V-FIT.

Okay, we got another question here. Oh, okay. As a male, is it possible to do too many caggles or cause hard by doing them wrong? How would you know if they've injured themselves? You know, I think if you start having pain, like it's really, let's see. I mean, have you been doing them for a while? I feel like if you, the problem is if you feel your stomach, your glutes or your inner thighs tightening or you're holding your breath, that could create harmful downward pressure, like downward pressure. Like kegles should feel like a subtle lift, right, inside the pelvis, not a squeeze of the outer muscles.

So the problem is a lot of times we squeeze our butt and we're squeezing those muscles instead. So again, if you feel your butt, your thighs, you know, tensing, you've got to isolate those pelvic fore muscles. You don't want to be pushing. You want to lift. You don't want to hold your breath. You could also do it in front of a mirror. Like basically, it says you'll see your penis shrink inward and your scrote. lift. So the correct one feels like an inward tightening lift of the muscles behind the

scrotum around the anus. So I think if you start having shooting pain, like if you do them wrong, you could have a worse than bladder problem, you would feel pushing, you might feel pain after. When you do a keggle correctly, you could actually just feel the lifting. And over time, once you target that muscle, you'll start to know you're doing it right. you really well. But it's important for us all to do them. And men can also sit on the BTLM cell chair if you can find someone.

I'm just a fan because it's easy and you can't fuck it up. And you feel it like you sit on this chair and you feel the pulsing of the electromagnetic stimulation and you feel it with your perineum and it's like you sit like on the chair like cross like with your legs out. I don't know if I want to show it,

but your legs are out and you sit there on the chair. And then you start feel like this, this pulsing with your paronym. And yeah, that's how you know you're doing it right. So just practice. Let me know how it goes. If there's any other questions about that, I'm here for it.

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Matthew Hussey's been on YouTube for 20 plus years. He's a friend of mine. He's been on the show, the Sex With a Devlin podcast a lot. And this is about how to raise your standards, find your person, and live happily ever no matter what. He was on my show talking about this book a few years ago. But there's just a lot of great.

advice. Should we see what I highlighted? Okay, let's see. Let's see. It's hard to just though my highlight doesn't really help me there. A lot of this is about beware of avoiders. Most of us are okay it says well most of us are la la la liars and avoiders do share certain traits to start both enjoy an uncomfortable relationship with the truth but while the liar is passing out falsehoods like chocolates on Valentine's Day the avoiders definitely changing the topic or deliberately missing the point. So this is of you who are avoidant and you feel like they're pulling back.

You know, we all, I guess, avoid difficult conversations. We run the risk of conspiring in our own happiness because we can never, because there can never be only one avoider in a relationship. If we never ask uncomfortable questions when they come up, we're just playing along. You guys, this is the practice. The practice is when we're in a relationship and our partner does something, and we feel uncomfortable around it.

And we have another question. It doesn't make us feel good. A lot of us just freeze and we're like upset or we're going to go think about it. And then we let it fester. And then time goes by and we don't address it. But the more we let these problems fester, the more it's going to increase havoc and our relationship. So we got to just have a place in our relationship where we can say, I want this to be a safe relationship where we can come together and talk about all the things.

and last night when you said this thing, it made me feel a certain way, or I don't feel like you're as into this relationship, or I feel unsafe when you don't call me and you say you're going to call me, or I think we can both agree, this is an important conversation for us to have, and it feels like I've had the, it makes me feel, remember, we start with how it makes this feel, it makes me feel like you're not as into the relationship when I've noticed you've been avoiding this conversation, and then that makes me feel unsafe. So I wanted to let you know that. These conversations get so much easier over time. They really do.

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These are a lot of case studies on people. Yeah. It's all about like negative dating patterns and how to raise your standards, how to find the person. All right. We have a call coming in. Hello. Hi. Hi.

Thanks for calling in. What's going out? What's your name? McKenna. Hi, McKenna. How's it going? How can I help you today? Thanks for calling in.

Thanks for freaking out. Of course. I can kind of mention it, but I was just wondering just like, how, like, people say do your kegles and, like, how do you know you're doing it right? Like, how often should you be doing it? That's a great. Yeah, no, that's a great question. Um, so first off, we can recap here that are kegles. So first, there, the pea stopping muscles were stopping and starting the flow of urine, right? So it's like, if you just right now, you tense it and you relax it and you hold it, like I can tell you exactly

the exercise. I used to, like I was saying, I used to have an iPhone app or we'd like walk you through it. And there's different patterns you can do it. You can, yeah, you locate your pelvic floor muscles and then you just, you inhale, you locate it, you can lie in your back with your knees bent

and your feet flat. That's a great position for beginners. And then you squeeze and lift. So you tighten your pelvic floor. Imagine you're lifting a marble or a blueberry upward into your pelvis. Then you hold and relax. You can hold the contraction for three to ten seconds

and then completely relax for five to ten seconds and then you do it again and you hold. You can start with five seconds and then build up to ten and then you relax. So just practice that. You could do it for three minutes a day. I had a friend who did like a traffic light. Every time she was a traffic light,

I was sitting on a Zoom, she would set a reminder in your phone, but it could really, really help you. What made you, is it something that you've been wanting to try, or is there anything going out with your health? Yeah, I think just, I've heard, like, pelvic floor health has been such, like, a topic lately, and I feel like, like, what I've heard is, like,

I don't even know how to know if my pelvic floor health is up to par and how to know. And you kind of mentioned, too, like, you can't even be too sure that kegles are, like, the, right option from you so like is there any way to know that or well yeah well for you okay let you ask you do you ever have any pain like during sex or when you're putting a tamp on in or do do you ever have any pain yeah I don't think that's pain but I've definitely had like I'm so glad to know like I'm not alone but definitely some leaks when you have a good laugh yes yes so that could

happen too so that could happen at any age it happens to women a lot of times if they're runners in their 20s or 30s or 40s after childbirth. So, yeah, I mean, and that's just something that just means, listen, over time, that hammock, those pelvic floor muscles are going to drop. Like every other muscle, things atrophy. And so doing cagels, if you don't have pain with them or you haven't had anything else and your orgasms are okay, just some leaking, you might want to try doing some pelvic floor exercises. Now, how you would know, like, common.

symptoms that you, like let's say you don't know if you have pelvic floor pain, you could have bladder pain, you could have like chronic constipation or like pain with really a lot of pain with your periods. You probably know like urinating, like you have to go to urgent continent, you have to go to the bathroom all the time, like you would know if there was some pelvic thing. But if you're just having like good old sneezing and peeing or jumping on a trampoline, it could be really helpful for you to have a daily pelvic floor practice. of just like doing your cagles, either buying a pelvic floor, like there's like weights you can get. Like I met on my website, there's these shops up with Emily.

And then I also mentioned this chair that changed my life by BTL and Bcelah. You sit on it. I've been doing it for seven years. It's twice a week for 28 minutes and you do 11,000 cackles. And that's amazing. It's not accessible to everybody. I'm not sure where you live, but yeah, I mean, I'm telling you that when you remember to do these keggle exercises, you will notice pretty quickly. like what I was really good with doing them and I was doing them like five days a week just for like three to five minutes I noticed right away that I no longer had the sneeze and pee and I also noticed

that my pelvic floor muscles were stronger and then my orgasms were stronger so that's what worked for me McKenna oh that's I mean and do you like when you're so if you if I were to go and sit on this chair that you're talking about like then you like don't have to like does that just it just works. Do you the kegles for you? Yes. Yes. Oh my God.

That's what's so amazing, you guys. It is the easiest sex exercise I've ever done. It does them for you. You just sit fully clothed on this chair and you could read. You can listen to music. You could talk to someone. And you don't even have to, you just to make sure you're sitting in the right position, it doesn't hurt.

There's no pain. And it does it for you. That's the amazing thing is that you don't ever have to think about it. So that's why I stopped doing mine because I would just go do this but of course not accessible to everybody but this this mcella btl chair is next level you could just like go to body by btl that's their website and um check out if there's a provider near you it's a really great investment and also like i know someone who did it before she get at children and she said that her pelvic she did it after her first child before her second one and she said her second childbirth

was so less painful and the baby came out so easily because her pelvic floor muscles were so strong. You also mentioned, like, period pain. Is that, like, four, like, can kegles or just, like, your pelvic floor health, does that affect, like, the cramp you get during your period? It can. Or is that a separate part? It actually can.

So, the thing is, if we have period pain, it can come from so many different things. It could be from our hormones. be from foods we're eating if we have a lot of chocolate or we have a lot of caffeine. It can happen like, you know, it could be endometriosis, it could be fibroids, pelvic floor tension. Again, this is the tricky part. So early on when I started talking about cagels 20 years ago, all this like people in the sexual health community saying you can't tell everyone to do cagulls because what if some people have pelvic floor tension? They have chronic pelvic floor tightness. And that can be amplified during period pain.

So if you are somebody who's already gripping around the pelvis, cramps can feel more intense. So that's why I wouldn't recommend that you just start doing kegles. So but but also period pain could again, it could be hormones, inflammation, stress. There's just so many things that could happen. So again, I have to be careful by just prescribing cagels to everybody. But if you have ongoing pain, it's good to see your gynecologist and a pelvic floor physical therapist. If you have any other questions. Thank you. Yeah. No, thank you. I appreciate you so much, McKenna. Have a great night.

Thanks for calling. Bye, Vikenna. I love when people call in, you guys. You can call me 559-825-5739. If you have any questions, we are here for you. To answer, it could be about sex, how to get what you want, how to ask for what you want, how to, you know, ask your partner for a certain fantasy. If you want to know if you're normal, everyone wants to know if you're normal. Believe me, we're all doing things okay. we often think that the way we're living our life isn't typical. Like we get in our own way. We can't block ourselves all the time. We're like, I can't believe I want this thing or why don't I want sex at the same time

as my partner or how to ask for what I want and a lot of other our sex lives are suffering simply because we are not talking about these things. So if anyone has a question, you can bring it in here. That's you can send a question. That would be amazing. So yeah. What else do you guys want to talk about? We have some more questions that are coming in here.

I have some rapid fire questions, but we could go to... I can give you my position and toy recommendation of the day. Here is my sex position of the day. It's one of my favorite positions. That is spooning. Spooning is such a fun position where you know spooning. But it's actually a great entryway for something. sex. It's comfortable, it's intimate, there's less pressure to get up and perform. You don't have to

like get on your hands and your knees and like swing from the rafters. It's also very beginner friendly and it's great for pelvic relaxation. So like I think that spooning is completely underrated and sometimes you're like snuggling and then you're like, oh look we're going to turn this into sex and it allows for really easy clitoral stimulation. Hello from Argentina. I see you. Thank you for popping in. Love Argentina. I need to get back to Argentina. Who wants to come on my tour this summer? I'm doing a tour mostly in America,

but I will be in Argentina soon. It's going to be like this but live. We're all going to work together, sex coaching, answering your questions in real time, playing some games, doing some giveaways. It's going to be a whole fucking fun. It's the best sex ever tour. That's what I'm thinking of calling it.

That just came to me the other day. Would you come to the best sex ever tour in a state sitting near you. I know I would. All I'm going to guarantee is, well, it's going to be funny. It's in a comedy club. I can't guarantee you're going to laugh. I can't guarantee that you're going to have the best time.

But what I can guarantee is that you will leave there, feeling better in your body and knowing how to have better sex the next time you have it. You're going to learn at least one thing that's going to change your life. Okay? Just saying, when am I going to be in Argentina? I don't know. I'll keep you posted. But the shows are going to be this summer in the U.S.

can sign up just keep checking my Instagram or sign up for my mailing list people love my mailing list I get very good email yeah oh yeah I just took a follow let's go I used to have two dolls didn't you see when there was a man I have these Barbie dolls who's that new caller oh oh really yeah we got another call this is the doll that was gonna show you spooning position hello hi hi thanks for calling Thank you so much. I've been a long time listener. I'm so excited to talk to you. You too. Thanks for calling in. How can I help you? Of course, of course. First of all, thank you for talking about public health.

This is coincidentally, I have done the live. I've been watching the past couple of Thursday. Thank you for doing this. Yeah, we're welcome. But I have, I'm a guy, of course. I've been sneezing and peeing a little bit. Not a lot, but just like a little bit. And I've asked my friends guys to and they, all of them said that this is not. happen to them. I mean, I've heard like my mom maybe you had that, but is it normal? Like that me as a guy is this is happening? Well, it's, you know, everything. How old are you? I'm 28. Okay. I mean, listen, it's usually, it's more common in older adults, but it can help. It can happen if your pelvic floor muscles or your urinary sphincter muscles are weakened. And so I'm wondering if

you've had any like have you been doing any like high impact exercises or like you know have you been under a lot of stress has there been anything else that's happened do you an athlete yeah i mean i do work out every day i guess hit high intensity yeah that could be it that could be it i mean and how long has it been going on a couple months not too long that's why i just ask my friends right away about it Because I just, usually I hear that like women have this problem. And then when I asked all my friends, like my guy friends and none of them had this problem either, then I got concerned. Yeah. I mean, honestly, it happens to everybody, but usually, I mean, many people, not everybody.

But does it happen every single time? No, and it's only like a little bit. Okay. Okay. Well, in the moment, you could try to, in the moment piece, is something called the knack and it's a muscle technique you can start doing and here's the cool thing about these exercises you start doing them and it doesn't take that many times to help like just remember a few times a week to do these

exercises for just a few minutes and you'll start to feel more relief and you probably won't have the leakage that involves contracting squeezing your pelvic floor muscles just before a sneeze a cough or a jump and and normally your pelvic floor muscles are going to squeeze on the own when they sense pressure but if you have if you get ahead of it like you pull your pelvic floor muscles in like you're doing a strong caggle exercise then you cross one leg in front of the other and then you turn your body at the waist i know that's a little bit but that is one way to get ahead of it you're like oh no i'm about to sneeze and even if you just do caggles i'd say for a few times a week for a few minutes at time that would help but that's the knack that would be that would be

be, you know, but you could also, if it's really bothersome, you could go see a pelvic floor physical therapist, but I think you're probably okay. I think it just can happen at different times in our life, but it's not as typical. So if it gets worse or you start to have pain, I would definitely check out a physical therapist if you can. Okay, okay, yeah, thank you so much. I'll try the exercise. Okay, try the exercise. Thank you so much for calling. I appreciate you. Have a great night. Bye. I waved, but he's on there. Okay. Yeah, you guys, we need to talk about all these things. Like, think about it. We wanted to get healthy in any other way. We talk about all these things, right? Like our muscle health and our nutrition and our exercise, but like this is a huge, huge part of it is our pelvic floor. So, yeah, I was talking about, yeah, the spooning position, but I don't have the other dog. It's okay. See that? Oh, Mickey Mouse.

I have Mickey Mouse. Okay, so Mickey Mouse and this doll are spooning, okay? Spooning position, super fun position because you're just like lying here. And then you're like, oh, wow, I think I am kind of turned on. But then you get, I'll put her in the front. Because then there's easy access to the pelvic floor.

So that's why I also like the spooning position, because if this is a guy, Mickey's a guy, right? it's easier access and then a toy like the magic wand which looks oh here's the mini magic one this is like the one that's like a keychain and you can just apply your pelvic floor like you can apply this to your clitoris to your pubic mound and this is a really fun toy to do that with so spooning position don't sleep on it it's a fun one okay guys i think that's all we got time for today i feel that i feel that's what I have time for today. You've all been fabulous.

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