Sex With Emily - SWE: 50 Shades Christian Grey Valentine's Day

Episode Date: February 6, 2014

Emily and Australian Sexologist Dr. Nikki G talk about the pressure of Valentines Day and how you don't have to embody 50 Shades' Christian Grey in the bedroom... at least at first. Emily shares how to take baby steps towards 50 Shades of Grey sex. By the end of the episode you'll have your leather chaps strapped on and whips ready. Emily and sexologist Dr. Nikki G talk about Valentine's Day-- what you should do and what you should buy. Hint: the best things to do don't have to cost money and the best things to buy vibrate (Go to sexwithemily.com/goodvibes for the best V-day gifts). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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if you love me and you care about me. Okay everyone, thanks for listening to the show. I'm really excited because one of my favorite people is here sitting next to me. Dr. Nikki G. Hi. Hi Nikki G. It sounds like a rapper kind of. I know. I could

double that as a rapper. I want to be a celebrity DJ one day. You want to be a celebrity DJ? Yeah. Just because I think you get sick of talking about sex and you need a side project. You need something that has nothing to do with sex and I was a nightclub the other night and I thought I'm gonna be a DJ, like a DJ Havana Brav of sex. You should do that. You should play sexy songs. Yeah, let's get it on What's your favorite song to have sex till? Oh I like it. It's kind of like romantic and it's spiritual like I like the stuff that relaxes me like Oh like the Buddha bar or anything like that. I don't like the techno stuff Right, I like the the the bootrock kind of music

You know put a lamp on turn some music on. It's just a little bit like you have a bath to read a book Otherwise I get too much in my head and if it's something that I really like like if it's a catchy song I find I'm singing to it and I'm not having sex and I'm I'm just eating on the way so you don't want to be distracting you want to be calming and you want it to be It kind of like what they play when you go into the yoga studio Yeah, or like when you're getting a facial or a massage and a beautiful music, I find that a ton Do you need music during sex? No, no I'm very vocal and I like actually someone asked me this question the other day about men and women making noises in the bedroom

And is it a bad thing, you know, if a guy isn't making noises? And I think that like I like the whole vocal atmosphere. I think that you, you know, you're released and you let it go and, you know, being able to scream and grow in a moment just adds to the experience. So I think that's probably better sometimes than draining that with music. But if you have a partner that isn't very vocal and you think it's a bit awkward because there's this moment of silence, their music might be good to kind of feel in those moments. Right, okay, that's a good point.

I think a lot, well first let me tell you who you are in the morning, go back to that. Daphne, Nikki Gigi, she is a leading sexologist, sex expert in Australia. Yep. And where do you live exactly? In Sydney. In Sydney, that's my thought.

Nikki and I met in sex school, getting our graduate degrees, which I have not done yet But I'm almost done Nikki already did it. I already did it. I'll be done in March she worked hard I'll be done March 1st took me another year or two But we met and we just fell in love right away and Nikki and I know everything about sex that you want to know And we're gonna tell you some of our favorite Sex tips and tricks today, but we're also we we would be remiss if we did not talk about Valentine's Day. Valentine's Day is you know that's a big one

there's lots of pressure. It's a sex expert Christmas. It's a sex expert's Christmas. Our Christmas is coming up so you guys have got to bear with me because we're gonna be talking a lot about Valentine's Day in the upcoming weeks because we are doing a big giveaway but we also want you to have the best Valentine's Day you can. We're gonna be recommending some of our favorite toys today for couples and for individuals, but even if you're alone, masturbation tips. Sex with yourself.

Sex with yourself is sex with someone you love. Exactly. So sex, masturbation, remember, is sex with someone you love. And so that's what we're going to be talking about today. We are also, today's show is brought to you by Good Vibrations. I love Good Vibrations. Tell me how much you love them. That's how I survived in San Francisco.

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I wore it as a costume to fried first of all once and I had a little stuff in it and I thought it was hilarious. And then I hosted a, I always host Hensnites, like the sexologist is the one responsible for it. So I hosted a Hensnite and it was very Hensnite. Um, Stagnite. Oh Stagnite? See, it's Australian. It's a very elegant group of ladies so we decided for a dinner party. And then at about 11 o'clock one of the ladies was like, you know, get the mass strippers and I'll pay for everything.

So of course at 11 o'clock at night I couldn't do it. So I ran up to my office, got my straff on on and I had this massive dildo laying around and decided that I would pretend to be the mouth stripper. So it's only ever come out in gag experience. Got it. It's never come out in a sexual spirit. But have you found men that want to be annually penetrated? Straight men. Paging is a new thing that's coming along and it depends on the guy. There's always that struggle between you if a guy is into anal play is he gay? If he enjoys it does that mean he's going to experiment with men? So there's a real mental battle with men around getting away with that. I think some people are wanting to

experiment and they're still kind of sitting on that line. I mean mean this is probably just generalizing in them and I think that a lot of men are missing out straight men who don't realize the pleasure that you can get from being in a least stimulated. Some people say they don't. Some people say that's controversial but a lot of men have said that they feel amazing because they've got the G-Spot, which is like their male G-Spot, but it's a piece-spot. So yeah, so there's anal penetration, you could try that on Valentine's Day this year,

but we're gonna give you some ideas that are more mainstream, okay? I promise, and we're gonna give you, you're probably listening to this, you're like, where do I take her? What do I do? We're gonna talk about some good Valentine's Day tips for that. But everything that we talk about,

say you can buy at Good Vibes, just go to my website, click on the Good Vibes banner and now they have a special promotion $20 off your $100 purchase to use coupon code GVMLE20. Just go to sexzelmy.com. That's where you get it all and you can hear about Dr. Nikki and go to her website and ask her questions. So okay so Valentine's Day, what do you think is the the pressure around Valentine's Day? You're talking about some sex pressure. Well, there's sex pressure, but there's romance pressure as well. Right. It's the one day of the year where you are supposed to, and I do the little inverted

commas, being romantic and being sexual. And often that's a bit of a it's a false romance. So I'm one of these believers that if you love me and you want to be romantic with me send me a bunch of flowers or let's go do something nice. When you get to that one day where they put in this effort they buy a bunch of red roses often it's mechanical and that's the thing that upsets me is that you know you should be treating your lover or partner on Valentine's Day like you do the rest of the year. We get to this one day and it's all there at our fingertips. You know you'll see these ads saying you know call

this number for your red roses restaurants are putting on things so I think the biggest thing when it comes to Valentine's Day is doing something that's thoughtful. So whether that's you know something that's really meaningful to your partner or something that between the two of you What did I give an example cooking dinner at home my partner did that for me once We used to go out to dinner a lot and he was not the cooking person I was the person that you know did the housework and the cooking and the cleaning So he said to me, I'm got a surprise for you got all dressed up

I thought I was going out to a restaurant He kind of loved me in the bedroom and then when I came out he had all the tables all so that's so sweet. He's cool. So he'd gone to a lot of effort and that's me meant more because more than flowers and some nice diamond bracelet, although diamond bracelet would have been nice. Yeah, no, so happy with the diamond bracelet. So you've got that issue that you know make sure that you don't slide into the whole gimmick side of things If your partner is really into the gimmick side of things though know that there a lot of girls They want the red flowers and the chocolates and I can't find this out. Well, you've got to ask them You know, that's the thing you've got to be able to talk to your partner and say you know, okay

Well tell me what you really want for valentine stay maybe fantasy look like not like babe What do you want for valentines day this year? What's your fantasy look like? Not like, babe, what do you have for Valentine's Day this year? It's in the delivery as well. You might be laying snub-off in bed, like, you know Valentine's Day is coming up. This is our first Valentine's Day. Like, you know, what do you like to do? You know, what's the best Valentine's Day you've ever had?

Try to do a little bit of investigation to work out where her head space is at. That's great. That's a great suggestion. Because I think a lot of times men are left guessing because they don't want to ask. And I don't know why the people don't want to ask. I think you people in a relationship or not in a relationship should talk about everything. Why take the guessing out of Valentine's Day?

Or keep your ears open. The month's leading up to it. Does she love the pair of shoes that ask her best friend? Ask the mom. That's happened to me before. Bring up a mom if you know her parents. If you know that's a great idea. What's her favorite chocolate?

What's her favorite restaurant? Or, you know, what kind of person she when it comes to Valentine's Day? Should I go over top? Or should I do something that's a little bit more subtle and, you know, a little bit more intimate? Right. You've got to do the investigation.

You've got to be a little detective. You know, you can even look at what she likes on Facebook, right? I just thought about that. I'm like, oh, she liked this clothing line. Maybe she wants something from them. So you can pay attention. Pay attention to women because we're not,

we will tell you everything. We are open. We are open books, but so many times guys do not pay attention. I will tell you what we think you want to hear. That's the trick. Is it we are open books to a certain degree? Because there's still that level of, you know, should I say this or is this going to overstep them up?

I mean, I know as a female, if a guy said to me, what would you want for Valentine's Day, I wouldn't exactly give him a wish list because I would feel that I was being too greedy. Some women, they would, they would keep them and say, okay, I want this purse, I want this handbag. So I mean, that's another thing to consider, is that yes, we are being forthcoming and yes, we are being honest, but there's still that level of, you know, area where you might have to go and investigate it because we're not going to tell you.

Right. And that's the key. You know, do you know what have favored brand is without her? If you've got that kind of, that girl who's really caring and into, no, I don't want him to think, you know, I deserve presents, I'm here for the money. Do you know what is her face? Just know what it is because it can be different with every woman, no matter who you're with, it could be different every from year to year. If you're with different women, they want different things.

Like Valentine's Day, honestly, I don't care that much. Personally, because maybe it's a business idea, but I want a guy to do something, but I'm not into like over the top, but a nice gesture of like, oh, he listened that I'm dying to see this movie and he made plans for us to go to this movie that I, or he rented the movie that I've wanted to see.

I mean, could we just a little thing, but I don't know, I don't need over the top, but many women do. Yeah. And many women, and I think that also, you know, if you haven't been working on your sex life lately and your romantic part of your relationship that it is a good night, we like to say

that every day is Valentine's Day in our business and you should always be. It's a kick start. So look at Valentine's Day is like, you know what? Try to do one thing differently, like sexually maybe in the bedroom. Try to do a different move. Maybe give her a massage. There's little things you can do. But again, ask her what she likes.

So I mean, this comes back to the precious of Valentine's Day. Guys think that they have to go above and beyond. And it's going to be really interesting. I wish I could do a study about this. That after 50 Shades of Grey, what's going to happen in the bedrooms of Valentine's Day? Are people going to be going for that kinky more bondage type of thing?

Is this what men are going to be delivering to their partners? Because they think that every woman in the world has read this book, therefore she wants to be tied up on Valentine's Day. Before you go and buy some ropes and handcuffs and whatever, ask her. Again, you know, doesn't have to be Valentine's Day is coming up, what do you want me to do sexually, but start doing that investigation around what are your fantasies sexually? What is it exactly? Exactly. And then this is the night where you can explore those fantasies with her.

So true. The fitting about 50 shades of gray is so important. Is it? Actually, good vibes has a 50 shades of gray kit. And it comes with like little bondage thing, a little necktie, some lubricant, some of the balls. Like the keggle, like the keggle balls. The silver balls.

The silver balls. And they sell a kit. It's called the 50 shades kit, I believe. And if you go to good vibes you get a discount you get GV Emily 2020% off but if you're a partner read 50 shades and if she read the goddamn trilogy I promise you she wants something that has to do with 50 shades of gray she didn't just read it for it. But there might be something starting off small because this is a thing is it can be really awkward if you've never had played with Bondi or anything like that and then you come out with handcuffs and gag balls and a rubber ball.

No, that's true. How do you start small things? I mean, I think a blindfold is always the best way. I can do that too. A blindfold is not really intrusive. You're not restraining anything, but it really changes the dynamics. When you put a blindfold on someone, you really have to have that trust there. But it also heightens sensation.

So me just tickling your arm versus me tickling around with a blindfold on is going to be close in your eyes. Just so you know, closing your eyes. I'm closing my eyes and Nikki's massaging me and it feels amazing. This is not just sex with Emily. This is sex with Nikki and Emily.

Oh, it's true. It's changing just things up, but it's simple. I mean, I love, I've got so many people that have come to me with these comedy stories about trying to reenact something from 50 Shades of Grey. It's really great. And they don't get the knots right or they can't do it and they start laughing, which is still great.

You can have fun, but it's one of those things that I think some of the stuff done in that book is very skill-based. Right. It's stuff that needs a little bit of education around it. It needs a little bit of exploration. So if you're attempting this on Valentine's Day, the line falls some of those really simple hand restraints are good The ones that you don't have to know. My favorite thing in the whole world bondage tape. Oh, all the stuff that sticks to itself It sticks to itself. You can also get that good vibes calm. It looks like a electrical tape But it sticks to itself. You can rip it with your teeth with your hands

It's easy to rip. It's tape, but it sticks to itself. You can you can you can blindfold it doesn't rip your eyelashes out You can bond and it's you don't have to know any fancy knots or any you don't need any like keys or anything I'm just stick to his hair because that was something. Yeah, I'm doesn't stick to your hair I always had hairy boyfriends It doesn't stick to the hair your hairy boyfriends. I always had hair right like here on the back or I just had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life.

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I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. I've never had hair in my life. take sticks to itself is a lot better because I don't want to be a bitch you have to rip exactly everyone go by bondage shape because it's like seven bucks or something there comes in pink comes in pink it comes in black I always say that too you can blindfold your partner you can tie their hands together so they can't move and then you give a masexy massage you can also drip a massage candle onto them so because when this is my favorite thing this is easy one-on-one bondage whatever they're blindfolded, their senses are heightened, and then you have a massage candle which you light, then the wax pools and you pour it on your partner and it turns into the most

delicious massage oil, like the Jimmy Jane candle. So it's like, it's a hot sensation on their back and then it's a cooler sensation and they don't know what's coming because they're blindfolded. So again, every sense is heightened. So that's a good way to start. The touch is a really good thing. The touch. The touch.

The massage is we talk a lot about central massages. I find in sexology and all of that, but I think we don't talk enough about that touching sensation. And for women that really need to get started and then to get everything flowing, being able to be touched and to be able to be held like that is really intimate, but it's very stimulating as well. So I think massage is a great way to do that. And if you've got something fun to play with,

like the little candle and you're mixing it a lot. Right, why not? I think everyone should practice the massage on Valentine's Day. You should just try to have a sex that's a little different. I like fruit with all this things. I like fruit like aphrodisiacy fruit. Not even fruit, just like playing with the different sensations.

So you've got, you know, so you've got your hot warm body wax and you're rubbing that over them, you've got your eyes covered and someone did this to me once. They cut up slices of pear. Pear has a really lovely texture and I was blindfolded and tied to a bed and they fed me bits of hair. Oh, that's lovely. It was just a different session. Hair is delicious.

I think it went out. Exactly. Something that's cool in the mouth, hot on the body, taking away your visuals, it's just fun, I think, with sensations. Your sensation player is a great way to start exploring something that's different, but you know, it's still safe. We're not, you know, burning anyone or anything. Exactly. We're not doing anything too crazy. Exactly. Okay, I

like that. And then what would you say is your, what about the sex on Valentine's Day? So we've talked about doing, what about, is there any like easy new sex position that you could tell people to do that's a little twist on the missionary or twist on something? I mean, I've been talking about this a lot lately because I've been talking about penis size. So I think when it comes to sex position, the biggest thing is looking at, it's like a locking key fitting. We're all shaped very differently. So if you've got a new partner, it's important to experiment a position that was in a

vibrate. It's important to experiment with a position that works for you. So, you know, I find a lot of people enjoy doggy styles, some people are in missionary, reverse cowgirl, but the hard thing is when we generalize is each position is gonna feel different. So what you may feel it may be different to me. So that's when you've gotta work out, you know, what positions are they gonna ask?

And they're gonna ask. Exactly, but you gotta make it sexy. You know, it's gonna be like, you know, how's this one for you? You know, is that hitting the spot? Not, is this all right? Is this good? Is this bad?

Check it out. Check it out. Should I check it out? All the one I do, when people kind of treat people like me and they kind of move their arms and legs around and just kind of toss them all over the place. I'm saying, I like them tossed around. See, there you go.

There's a sexual way to do it. No, there is a sexual way. Like, don't throw me face down and like, you like you whatever like I don't want you to like hurt me But sometimes women just around a little bit of You can slap mask not up until now we've been testing lubes so prior to the show we were testing a month I'm gonna try up, my hand's done. Oh good. Luba, Kins important, that's a good gift too. Well, I think everyone needs a little bit of lube, you know, you can talk about that because I think

that people, that's a great gift. There's beautiful lubes on the market. And people think that they, you only use lube if there's a problem where she's too dry. Yeah, you're not, oh, she's not turned on. So she's using lube, my penis feels so much smaller right now because no Lube actually feels better for a lot of women I think it can go longer and harder I mean that's something it's kind of the most obvious thing that you know as a woman yes we have

natural lubrication but sometimes the natural lubrication is enough I find if I'm tired sometimes you need a little bit more so So with lubricants too, you should always have different loops. So sometimes you have like a light water-based one. Other times you'll have a silicone one. I think for every different day of the month we have a different form of lubrication that we need for our body. So sometimes I think it's good just to use a little bit of loop to get you started. But also, if you have that partner that likes to grow really long and really hard, then sometimes as a woman, you know, for sure it doesn't hurt. It does start to hurt. We appreciate that to grow really long and really hard. Then sometimes as a woman, you know, for a kid to hurt, it does start to hurt. We appreciate that you can go long and hard,

but it hurts us sometimes. We appreciate that you can use a loop. Right. But also I think on the genitals, you see from the form of not just loop as, you know, it for intercourse, but the stimulation of genitals. So a little bit of loop on the clitoris can just help the finger slide. I love that. And also for girls to give a guy a hand job with lube, it feels really amazing. It's like a central massage. You can really get into it and they will appreciate it. So you don't always have to, you know, if you're in that mood where you're thinking, I don't really want to be penetrated tonight or I can't be penetrated.

Right. Adding a little bit of lube to a hand job can be something special. Oh my gosh. I totally agree. And I have to say that you know, Men is who has been on the show, my house on the sidekick on the show. We had for years and years going this hand job debate.

Do you remember this? You were on the show a few years ago. Hi, Men is. Hi, Men is. We love you. So the hand job debate was that I thought that people don't give enough hand job. It's because men obviously give themselves hand jobs

during master's as a sense. They touch their penis, but women can do it so much, so much differently in a way that they can't touch themselves. We can use two hands, we can use lots of them. I thought it's a different size. It feels good. And I was trying to bring back the hand job. And I touch it.

So you touch your arm. Yeah. Right, you touch your arm, and then take your finger off, and then I'll touch you. It's a different sense of it. You feel better. See? So it's actually a different neuro pathway to when you touch yourself and when someone else

touches you. So even if you are the type of person that jerks off 30 times the weight, which I've had someone confess to me, it's still a different thing. Who's going to keep that? Can you hold on a job? I'm always like, you masturbate that many times a week like when do you work? It runs into the bathroom and like sets these alarm early in the morning anyway But it is one of those things that when someone else is doing that sensation to it feels different

So I do agree with you. We don't give enough hand jobs Why I feel like women could really learn I feel like a lot of guys are like, why would I want that? But I think that if women get, this is what the women listening should do for your lover if you have one on Valentine's Day. I'm not saying instead of intercourse or instead of performing oral sax, but give them a killer hand job with some living. I love slickwood organics.

Pina colada. Pina colada fl- Nikki just was crazy. I'm gonna pull over my foot. Oh my god, it's SLI, QUID Slickwood. You can buy it at Good Vibes. And it's, we love it. I think it's a great lubricant. So you guys should check that out.

And that's a good thing for the women. Give your man a bottle of lube. So let's talk about some of the other products that we want to talk about at first suggestions if you want to get gifts or you want to do whatever. This is good for single people, because we understand, here's a thing. I do not want you to feel sorry for yourself

if you're alone on Valentine's Day, because I do have a boyfriend? No, not me neither. You can be here? I'm taking applications. Yes. Okay, good. Oh my god, I'm having Valentine's Day with Nikki.

We'll call you all. We'll let you know what we're doing. We're gonna tell each other out. But what I was gonna say is that there are, so if you're single, let's recognize the singles first. Buy yourself a present on Valentine's Day and masturbate that night because it sucks with someone you love.

That's what masturbation is. I have a handbag. Is that allowed? Niki loves the handbag. You can buy yourself a Chanel handbag and a vibrate. What do you think of the stronic? As it's STR-O-N-I-X-E, and it's gotten a lot, it's just a rock your socks off.

It does another kind of vibration. It's self-thrusting. It's a self-thrusting, it moves differently. It's so different, I've never seen in a vibrator because it came out when I was speaking at a conference a few months ago in Australia. And it was one of those things. I kept having it in my hand, because it feels like,

you know, there's shake things that you do for the muscles. Oh, like the shakeweights? Yeah, like the shakeweights. It kind of feels like that. It's like standing it kind of. Yeah, if you put it down on a piece of pepper and you turn it on, you can actually see it thrusting. So, well, this kind of makes sense that if you're looking for a penetration vibe, not a clitorial vibe, this one actually kind of does the thrusting motion for you and it's got that weight too,

so it's gonna be stimulating the g-spot. So this is probably one of my favorite things at the moment. Also two, because it's different. I like when things are different because again, we're all built differently, we all have different sensations. We need to keep exploring with different types of vibrators. And it's one of those things.

If you are the type of person that enjoys being penetrated or you enjoy G-spot stimulation versus clitoral, then experimenting with something like the stronic instead of something that has those little beads and like the rabbit head. Yeah, I'm not a fan of the rabbit. See, some women don't love the rabbit. And then another one that we like is the thrill by Wevibe. So they always say the Wevibe is like the number one couples vibrator, but now they have the thrill It offers internal movement along with external vibration movement caused by you rocking it in and out meow So it says so we vibasuit popular, but the thrill do you know the thrill? I saw the thrill a few weeks ago, and I thought it probably makes sense from Wevibe to have the thrill because so many people picked up

The Wevibe and thought it was just a solo sex toy and you know it can be a solo sex toy but I think having something that's a little bit more powerful and a little bit more built to just you know penetration with yourself and stimulating the clitoris in the G spot and I kind of liked the way that you hold it like I mean to ergonomic stories it's ergonomicomic. You make it easy for me. I don't want to have it. I have a little hand alone as well. That's another thing. Your thumb goes through it. Right, I get it. If you're using your peanut calada slick wood. Oh my gosh, she's so obsessed with it. I'm gonna give you something to look

in tiner to go. I know. Okay, I'm gonna need to sniffing it. If you've got your peanut calada slick wood and you've got your hands all zubbed up and you're using a type of vibe, you need to make sure that you've got something to grip off because it's gonna slide straight out. Right. So that's why I kind of liked the thrill is that it's kind of, it's easy to be able to use on yourself. Exactly.

So that's why I like that too. So moving into couple vibrate, and I also love the Mimi by J.J. It's amazing because it's a good clitoral vibrator that you could use by yourself if you like clitoral stimulation or it's a great to use during intercourse for a couple. So it's kind of a win-win for both. I got one to go shopping list for the first time.

Add that one to the shopping list and then the other singles is the Mystic Wand vibrator. Have you seen that one? It's small cordless silicone clad. Oh, that's good. And it's like the Hitachi Magic Wand but it's mini. See, I like those because I think for those who have a Hitachiachi Magic Wand you're probably not gonna leave the Hattachi Magic Wand but for someone who's never had a wand before it's quite daunting I took someone into a sex shot recently and when they said to me what's the most powerful vibrator and they picked up the Hattachi it just looks a little bit intimidating

it doesn't look intimidating but I like the little ones I like the little ones so by the Mystic Magic Wand that's a good one so couples vibrators so I'll start with the Wee V Mystic Magic one, that's a good one. So couples vibrator. So I'll start with the Wee Vib3. That is what they say is the number one couples vibrator because she can actually wear it during intercourse. She can sit inside her and then there's another part of it that is rubbing her. It's like rubbing her clitoris and her g spot. But I think the noithers who've got to be careful that yes, you can have sex.

A lot of people pick up that toy and they go, oh, how does he fit in and how does it fit in with me again, making sure that you use your nerve weekend. Usually, lubricant, you're so great. We are such loop fans. I think new loop should be at every nightstand. And then there's the master ring wireless remote vibrating couples ring. So it's the first remote controlled cock ring that they, these are good vibes and it's hot to you is remote is small and easy to operate it's perfect for teasing a male partner so you can give it to your guy you go in a dinner and you could like turn it on it's like the panties I like that because you know how many times do you hear them say oh I'll have them remebered and I'll switch a vibe on. I want to switch his vibe on. I want to switch his vibe on too. Yeah.

Because there are the vibrating panties. The um, what's the vibrating panties is that the club 2.0 is the perfect panty remote vibe that can be used as a remote or a vibe that picks up ambient sound. So it's, this is like by the oh my bod people, I believe, and it's like music and. A person on an article about vibrating panties today There was a case of a woman who passed out after wearing vibrating panties. Oh no, it's came over and that's hilarious

The panties off she kind of came to oh King too. She came in and she came to that is so funny. So what's your favorite toy now that you love? Oh, it's like I like the little Lilyly by Lilo. Oh Lilo, amazing. And that's from the Amazon Traveler. So obviously I have everything and I have a different preference when I'm home. But when I travel I like something that's small. You know, I can just chuck it in my bag and all that. And also customs aren't going to find it.

I got searched through customs this time because I'm a sexologist and because I was going to a conference. So they were actually looking for sex choice. They said to me they were looking for... Is it illegal to bring sex choice from Australia? But they were looking for sex choices that I hadn't declared. But they were also looking for sex choice that might be considered dangerous or harmful. That's what someone told me.

You know, ones that you could plug in the wall, this is the example she used and you know, give you an electric shock or something like that. So, I mean, again, for someone that travels, who's going to get get searched by customs, they're not gonna find my vibrator, although find it and they'll think it's nice. That's hilarious. I've had to go through,

I got stuck coming back from a Vegas show with like 100 vibrators, and they were like all laughing at me, and you get pulled over. I'm so used to it, though. Like, I've always got a vibrator. I just start with them touching it. Exactly.

So, those are some Valentine's Day suggestions for you. And then, I also want you. I'm trying to think what else Is there anything? What was your best Valentine's Day that you can remember? Probably the one. I mean haven't had that many good Valentine's Day to be honest. I mean my partner is a big in Australia It has been in Australia, but I can't have a say that there was one that really blew my mind I mean when he did sweet things like you know Like going to cooking me did sweet things like you know I'm like going to cooking me dinner and things like that. I think the best Valentine's Day I've had is with my girlfriends.

I know me too. What does it say about her? I love my girls. I like the because we understand what each other wants and we go out and we'll have a nice meal. Yeah, you're gonna be in the state still. Okay, I'm gonna make him a Valentine's Day. I'm single. I'm gonna tie to kid. I'm gonna be a kid. I'm gonna be a kid. I'm gonna be a kid. I'm gonna be a kid. I'm gonna be a kid. I'm gonna be a kid. I'm gonna be a kid. I'm gonna be a kid. I'm gonna be a kid. I'm gonna be a kid.

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that you put on your tong, like just for fresh breath, but they're actually listarine. These are like strips that you put on your tong that mask the taste of cinnamon. I'm going to try it with your teeth. Okay your tongue that mask the taste of cinnamon. The tongue with your teeth. Okay. So they mask the taste of cinnamon and Nicky wanted to try pours the chocolate one.

So this is what you do. So a lot of women don't love performing oral sex, not their thing. They don't like the taste of cinnamon. You put this on your tongue I'm putting on Nikki's tongue right now Can you just eat this I eat them all the time. They're the only food. I have in the office That the only food I have in my house sometimes

So you put it on your tongue and and so what happens is they have it in four flavors like strawberry mango watermelon chocolate It's like chocolate mint. Yeah It has a good minty flavor. I know and so it's If yeah, go to my website click on that's because if you if you're with a partner and she only performs oral sex on your birthday or Once a year Some guys don't really can't they're not can't oral sex and the thing is these strips will certainly work for men on women But I don't it will But women might not be psyched. Yeah women don't here's a thing women don't want to know

That you don't like the taste of going down on her like that you don't like it so you could totally buy your mask and and but don't let her see it runs in the bathroom and do it in time and then go down on her And then Minty then go down on her. And then Minty could feel good on her. So it is for everyone, but I wanted to try it because I know it's delicious. And so I feel like next time you perform oral sex, it'll taste like a milkshake.

Yeah. Why does it have your panicolata lubricant and you'll have your own chocolate strip. So it's kind of like a full meal going on here. Oh my god, that's so funny. Nikki, this has been amazing. I love having you here. I'm just sitting back here and talking to you.

I know. I'm going to take you home with me. I wanted to come home with you, does it? Can I? I've never been to Australia. I think sex with Emily needs to go down on the... Oh, I think you're right. Sex with Emily down under.

That would be my initial. I'm so sexy. I'm coming back with you in this suitcase. If you're room with all the purses and shoes in sex clothes. No, it's the sex toys. You'll just show combat costumes and you'll have a sex train and math and one stuck in your ear and a pants tied behind a head. Oh my God, that's hilarious.

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