Sex With Emily - SWE: 7 Deadly Daters

Episode Date: June 8, 2013

Forget gluttony, sloth, and lust, if there’s seven things to avoid, it’s the seven deadly dating personalities. Emily shows you how to avoid cringeworthy dates. Also, why Emily goes stag to weddings, how women set the price of sex, sperm facts, and if sexting can make you a sex offender. Emily discusses why it’s riskier to send your man to a wedding than a bachelor party, fun tips for sex during pregnancy, the basics of tantric sex, and why we date people like our parents. Finally, as a big gift to the listeners, Emily demonstrates her best phone sex. If you want to change your love life, check out my sponsors: Crazy Girl, Masque, and Good Vibrations. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Thanks for listening and promise your sex life will improve. Hi everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Family. I no longer have the Friends of Benefits program. My podcast is completely free so that you can always enjoy Sex with Family. Thanks for listening. Who is I? They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that block our sacred institutions. Betrull eyes, they call them in a fight on me. Hey, Avaline, you got a boyfriend? Because my man, he here, he just got his heart broken.

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And hopefully you'll really enjoy it because I'm so excited. I love that it's Fridays. I love that it's Friday and then we get to the show and I'm very excited about it. Today we'll be talking about why we always date the wrong type and the type of personality as you should watch out for. We will also be reading your emails

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How you doing? Happy free Friday. I know. I enjoyed the free Friday. So I'm just tweeting about it right now. So it's fine. I'm not looking at you. That's OK.

I know that you like the attention. I like the attention. What from you? For me. I hate when you pay attention to me. It's like my, it's your pet peeve. It's my biggest pet peeve. Well, I can talk about the 30 minutes free of fire TV

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we love fire TV, FYRETV.com. Man, I say you don't not paying attention to me. Yeah, I'm done. I'm just going for you to do your spill. What's going on with you on this? Lots of stuff is going on for me. I'm a little on the weather, sorry. So what's going on?

So something with you. Yeah. Weather, weather, you're tired, you're busy. What's going on? Things are good. It's the weekend. I'm really excited. I'm actually getting out of the city.

I've talked about this before on the show and I don't want to like be like Debbie down with the weather sucks in San Francisco Because I hate those people who talk about it like if you've ever heard the quote from Mark Twain We've all heard the quote from Mark Twain that the coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco I'm gonna say it is freezing cold here. It's like 54 degrees in cold all the time So I for the last two months and it's miserable. I'm personally not miserable. I'm okay with it But I am leaving town. We're gonna go up I'm gonna go up to Sonoma for a friend's birth first of going to St. Vincent Beach, which is about an hour outside the city. My friend has a house there. We're gonna stay there with a bunch of friends. It might not be so warm, not sure yet, but then I'm gonna go

up to Sonoma, which I hope for another friend's birthday, and I hope that it's very warm there. At least we get summer, because we don't get summer here. There's no sun. Are you gonna be making out to anybody? The keep you warm? I hope so. I would if I'm not, yeah. Are you bringing, are you bringing some beef? No, okay, so I had, okay. I can, I could bring one of these dudes, but I'm not going to.

I like to fly so low. Get a leader, get a leader option's open. Exactly. I like to fly so low to things like weddings, never bring a date. Never bring a date. Hate it. Weddings are a great place to meet new people and I don't mean like but everybody else is bringing Yeah, but then I get to talk to all the fun couples. I swear to God my favorite thing is going somewhere without a date Not that I don't like bringing dates sometimes, but I'd prefer I default on the side of like when they say do want to bring a date

I say no, I bet all the women hate you. Why? Because you're talking to their, no, I'm talking to them too. I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, and there might be some of new and it's not just because I'm like looking for the bigger, better deal or is there a different option? Just easier for me to fly solo on the weekends. I've got parties to go to things to do. Stuff going on.

Cool. Well, I'm happy for you. Thanks. What are you doing? Are you going to make out this weekend? Probably not. I'm trying to. It's been like way too long. You should get your a section only car person didn't I

I might go to a shelf I can make it tonight just like you seem tired and under the weather Why don't you do that to yourself? Because it's this new artist I'm really excited about Okay, so I might go to that and then just kind of rest them and then the next weekend will be all parties and why? Because I'm going to the VMAs. Oh, in LA also, yeah, we got to get you all dressed up. Yeah, so I'll be there for four days and just I'm sure it'll just be just nonstop parties

and drinking. You hate that. I'm so sorry. I hate it. So sorry, you can do that. That sounds awful. But see, the thing with me is like some people they they don't know when to rest. Like, it's the weekend, I need to go out, I need to go do something, I can't stand those people

that like, it's Friday, I can't stay home. I got over that years ago. You can stay home, it's fun. I used to feel the way, but I love staying home on the weekends. Yeah, we do. But lately, I mean, I've got stuff, I gotta go away, I gotta do things, and the next weekend

is my big, homeing weekend, my orgasmic meditation. Uh-huh. And I have to say, like, I'm sort of big oaming weekend, my orgasmic meditation. Uh-huh. And I have to say, like, I'm sort of blocked it because it's so overwhelming to me. But I am going to be owned. My clitoris will be massaged by strangers for a weekend. Oh. That's all I gotta say. That's cool.

So, um, yeah, it'll be funny. I'm gonna be sequestered in some room and be massaged. We had a guest on the show. This is so true. The whole day don't. I hope so. From one taste San Francisco and I'm going to come back and report on that for that next weekend. So we got to wait a whole week for that. What if I'm a change person? Apparently you walk around and say to

wear gas and bliss all the time. Like I'm always orgasming. Which I feel like I always am anyway. I'm always happy and smiling. I'm going to be really interested on the outcome of this. I know. I know you are. Maybe you'll take a course. I hope you video blog it. I hope I don't. I hope I don't get to that point of video blog. I really, really, really hope that I don't.

So, yeah. What, anything else? I don't know. That's it. I'll wait for sex in the news because there's something I want to share. That's why. I don't like it. Oh, you've sex in the news to share? Yeah. I don't know. Before I leave my sex in the news. I can do I want to share that's why why do you oh you've sex in the news to share? Yeah, I can do either or okay What do you want to say I was gonna talk about I heard this morning that Kim Kardashian's wedding is gonna cost $20 million

Crazy okay, so what I did I she could self-cancer. I did some I did some mathematical breakdowns and I posted on my blog today You did? Yeah, whitemenace.com of what? $20 million. What you can do with $20 million. A lot. And I have like 10 different breakdowns. If you want to hear something, I think they're kind of funny.

You can buy 1,300 Honda Civics. Wow. That's a lot of Honda Civics for people. You can buy sorry I'm loading the page it goes one by one you can buy 6,666,666 Big Macs okay, right? So depressing why is it depressing that she's spending 20 million that anyone spends 20 million dollars on wedding watch one day

I'll do that but here's the thing if you can that's true and she's got like million, anyone spends 20 million dollars on wedding. Watch one day I'll do that. But here's the thing, if you can, that's true. And she's got like millions and millions and millions of dollars, right? Like she's this empire. Yeah, I mean, just for me for one day, yes, so she's worth 30 million, 20 million, or 20 million or wedding, but I guess I'll have that. Yeah, that's a good one.

And then she's probably being sponsored by the event network and stuff. Yeah. You can buy, you can buy 100,000 iPhones. Wow, and I just think I won't mind You can fly to San Francisco and back 50,000 times Right, but it's gonna be quite a party. I'm sure it better be that's all I'm saying There's a thousand guests that are gonna be that are invited just to be the who's who's but they said that they have to cut 50 guests this

Why and the next couple days because they overbooked over a thousand. You think once you get past like 500, you're cool. You're like, let's just invite everyone. We'll invite the mailman. We'll invite that nice person to dry cleaner on the street. Yeah. Yeah. I have some other ones that are not too interesting, but there's one that I want to find.

Okay. You can buy one million pairs of van shoes. How many vibrators can you buy? That's what I want. I don't know. But this is this one I like. You can rent a studio apartment in San Francisco for 1,666 years. Wow. That is crazy. What's $20 million? Oh my God. That's just yeah. That is amazing. That's a lot of money is spent on a wedding. I mean, what's her wedding going to? Where's all the money going? Flowers. I'm sure she's going to pay to have some artists perform. That costs a couple million.

You know, they paid JLo just did a wedding right after she got divorced for like a million to do two songs. Right. They get paid to do that stuff. It's amazing. I just think that the wedding thing and granted, I'm not as like celebrity without this money. I get, I just think the money that you spend in a wedding

is just like, you don't have it. It's like about lay people, like, no commoners. Just put all that attention, all that energy into a wedding. It's like, there's so many other things you could do with that money. Like, put a down payment on a house. Like, have a little party with your friends. Why people go crazy on their wedding day? Like, it has to be this whole thing.

I've never had that drive. Yeah. As we know. Oh, here's another one that I wrote down. I love your own vlog. Look how cute you are. No, no, because I did all the math. I did the math. It's hard math is hard So you could take a limousine from Los Angeles to the state of Maine and back 2,403 times. Oh my god. Just for this one night that no one's gonna remember because they're gonna blitz or whatever That's amazing menace. It's crazy.

Crazy crazy crazy. But yeah, you can check out the rest. I want to check out the rest. White menace.com. Yeah. We love white menace.com. There's so much happening there. Okay.

Okay. So, sex and the news on free Friday, how women set the price of sex? You'll like this menace. A new study argues that gender inequality causes women to withhold sex from men until they get what they want. Which is probably what you already think. Okay, there's a study showing that people in countries with greater gender equality have more sex as defined by a number of lifetime partners, frequency of casual and premarital sex and attitudes towards abstinence. They theorize that inequality forced women to use sex in order to get various resources, meaning they'd have to restrain it until men provided these resources.

By this logic, sexual activity was essentially governed by women's economic decisions. To recap, guys really want women to have sex with them, and if they don't, it's because women are enforcing a system where nobody gives it up unless you get something in return. Do you think this is true? You think that's just how it is here also, but the only thing is that they- Did you just get any quality everywhere? I think that they actually do give it up also, but the only thing is that they, I think that they actually do give it up more, but they're still getting something out of it. Yeah.

Okay. So, wait, here's this thing in salon. It says, women should engage in the artificial restriction of sex until later in the relationship for a greater future goal. So, women just shouldn't jump into bed right away anyway. But I don't think it's nice to like withhold sex from your partner because you want something, but I guess people do that all the time. Oh my God.

Have you been with the woman who's like, not tonight, Honey until you take out the trash? No. No? No. No, okay. I've never thought to do that. I always want sex.

I always want sex. So I'm not gonna do that because that hurts me. I'm never like, oh no. I'm like, oh, we can leave the door behind to you. This is commonplace that women think that to do this because a lot of women, that's their only commodity that they have, right? So since the beginning of time. Is there for China?

Is there only commodity? If women like in third world countries, women are doing a lot, it is their sexuality that they, yeah, they don't have a lot. Like the women's sexuality is very, very powerful thing then. It is. It is. It is. It is. Much needed commodity, much desired commodity. Yeah, they don't have a lot like the women sexuality is very over very powerful thing that it is very Much needed commodity much want much desired commodity made Adam eat the apple Exactly Okay, now girls and boys are starting puberty earlier. I've heard this in the news lately So I've shown that girls are reaching puberty younger and younger to the point that co-tex now is a line of maxi pads for eight year olds

How do you need out of having the sex talk with them and when they're eight? And I only know that because my eight-year-old niece by mistake, I do prematurely have the sex talk after staying at my house and seeing all my sex books. And that apparently was too early. Your terrible aunt. There hasn't been as much discussion of when

boys start puberty, perhaps because it doesn't require an awkward tip to buy new undergarments and is less noticeable to adults. However, new study says that like girls, they're maturing earlier than ever before. So, as you can tell, the spike in death are okay. He believes that the or causes of early maturity in both boys and girls are improvements in nutrition and our ability to fight diseases. So we're, I guess, we're healthier. But there's no cause for concern, I guess everything changes. They say it's diet all the fast food and everything.

Well, no, it says it's nutrition. Well, adolescents become drugs, but it's not saying that it's unhealthy. But I think that it is. Well, the early cause of maturity both of the girls are improvements in nutrition. So they're saying it's not a bad thing. Important decisions in life are being made with an increasing distance from the recklessness of youth. So they read to adulthood later. I think it kind of messes you up. I

really think that it is really early to have to be having that talk with someone. To have the sex talk. Yeah, you've appeared in this what it means. That it messes them up. So world's falling apart. I mean, they're going to find out eventually. I know, but that's I found out that age is very young. Yeah, but I'm just saying I mean does it I Know me doesn't make you go through like metapause earlier It says there's some benefits well, adolescents become adults earlier in a biological sense They reach adulthood later reaching their social and economic roles. Okay. Yeah, so why are you knocking it then? I'm not knocking it on fact. I'm I was expecting it to be knocking it, but it's not. Okay.

Media representations of women have become more pornified. Guess we know this. A new study from University of Buffalo, tends to confirm that over the last decade, the popular media portrayal of women has become increasingly sexualized, which seems to be self-evident. So they looked at this rolling stone covers from 60, 70, 2009 as fodder with which to measure change in media representations of men and women. So there was a scale of sexualization to measure degrees of sexualization and how graphic the sexual image was.

So researchers found that in the 60s, 11% of men were sexualized compared to 44% of women. And the 2,017% of men were sexualized compared to 44% of women, and the 2017% of men were sexualized, compared to a whopping 83% of women. So from the 60s, where it was 40%, it doubled to 83% that women are completely sexualized. In fact, I think women are only sexualized. Like very, very rarely you can see women on a magazine

cover who's not being sexualized, right? Instead of it's unless it's country living magazine or something right? So what is what message are we sending? I don't know I think people are over analyzing all this stuff. People are analyzing all this stuff then we'd have no sex in the news. Yeah but you're trying to say are you saying that is trying to is taking power away from women? I think it gives women power. Just saying that for instance parted lips exposed tongues partial or full nudity, and sexually explicit language could all justify receiving points.

Images were identified according to three categories, not sexualized hypersides. I just think that that's the way pop culture is going. Does it degrade women? Or I think it gives women... What's the whole other discussion, people, like porn? It gives women power, because it did you just say. I just said that the most powerful women, that women's power for thousands of years,

hundreds of thousands of years has been repressed. That women's power actually was like the leader of the world, the women's vaginas, or all knowing power. Once men realize that women have so much power, they've for ever since the beginning of time been trying to squash women's power. And now it's coming out again in this sense of,

because we scare men, our sexuality scares men. So it's always trying to be repressed and now women are coming. I don't think this is surprise, does that make sense too? Yeah, well, if you break down like everything that a guy does, it's just to get to a vagina. Everything is nonsense.

Everything, like why you wore those glasses today and you're hoping to get laid. Yeah, no, it is like, maybe not that t-shirt, they want to get the lead in the t-shirt. In the giant t-shirt, I know a lot of hardcore, I don't know about that. Beautiful women that are hardcore fans. Whatever. Like, men, they want to make a certain amount of money so they can buy the house, they can buy the car that impresses the woman that they want to. Right, everything. I mean, car, yeah, why the buy the car, I believe that everything you can type.

Most major social, economic, political events, great art you can tie back to sex, or the romance, desire, jealousy, great works of art have been created because of jealousy, romance, great, great nations have crumbled under that too. Okay. The power of the V, as they say. Oh, no. That's amazing. Sexting punishment is unjust, says magistrate, a senior Victorian magistrate who presided over a case in which a youth pleaded guilty to teenage sexting offenses as condemned as unjust.

So the young man was to be registered as a sex offender because he was sending a sex. They found pictures on his mobile phone and laptop. Was he sending it? Was he over the age and he was sending it to a minor? He presided over the case of the country that the youth then age 18 who was sent for uninvited texts, messed picture of girls between 15 and 17, topless or in their underwear. So yeah, they found the pictures on his phone that he was getting from younger women. Yeah, it says it's unjust though. I think when sexting kitchen. Have he's responding to it then

Then yeah, I mean I to be registered as sex fender. I don't know but You know you can get in trouble if you're replying to these naked photos of our H. Chicks Even though if you just turn 18. I don't even know where this was. Okay. I knew that right when I turn 18 You knew what not to mess with any chicks under age No Okay, we already did we did this one by every this game because I really liked it married men most likely to cheat at weddings Didn't we talk about that a few weeks ago cheat at weddings

Yeah, maybe you weren't here according to a dating site survey over 2000 men and women between the ages of 25 and 45 32% of men today cheated on the partner at a wedding This is why you never bring dates to weddings see there's the there's the guy that didn't bring the day Yeah, those are the kind of guys you want to hang out with huh? I'm just kidding only 27% being unfaithful at a bachelor party These numbers show that women are on the wrong track and they're suspicions. So while you're at home freaking out,

because you're a boyfriend or your husband is in Vegas, you should be really worrying about him going solo to the wedding. Yeah. Because he's sleeping around at the wedding. Yeah, because all those chicks all horned up because they want to get married. How am I supposed to go to a wedding?

Only 11% of women viewed wedding as a golden opportunity for their worst halves to hook up. I had men are doing on the go to a wedding. Only 11% of women viewed wedding as a golden opportunity for their worst halves to hook up. God, men are doing on the slide at the weddings. You're going to wedding alone? Do you want me to go to your date? I'm a really good date. I was super fun date.

It's in boys' eye to ho. OK, fun, how much fun, let's go. We never do stuff like that, menace. We never even leave the studio and do anything. We want to party up and boys at home. I've never been. I've been. You're not taking me. Are you?

You're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, whatever. It's like those movies we're going to see together. Which never happens. But that's cool. I'm down with that. Okay. So Mary, man, Chini, do you have any friends if you've been to wedding at that cheated?

I'm trying to think if I've ever like been hit on by a married man. My type, my friends don't. My type of friends don't do that kind of style. Why are you your friends, dude? I don't hang with those type of guys. So, hanging out with quality people. Yeah, how are your quality friends? They're good.

And there's no girls minus what the hell? What? No girls in the spectrum? You still have your roommate situation going on? No. That's what you're so, you're so lucid about that. What? I just don't even know like what's going on. In my life? Yeah. When something's good going on, I'll share it. There's been you're so, you're so lucid about that. What? I just don't even know like what's going on.

In my life? Yeah. When something's good going on, I'll share it. There's been a long time, which, let me just like, let me just do it. A long time reality check. What are you talking about? I don't know.

I just can't be the only one having sex on the show. You don't share it anyways. I do share. Okay, one's the last time you had sex. Hush. A few days ago. A few days ago. A few days ago. How was it?

It was. The problem is that people watch the shows sometimes that I have sex with. Oh, so. So I have to, it was amazing. It was the best sex I ever had. How's that? It was so good.

I like, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I'm actually I'm actually when I think about it, I just I have to I can't you be in so sarcastic right now. It must have been lame. There was birds chirping and like the scars the stars the stars the stars parted and it was amazing. I've got some fascinating sperm facts here. Okay, you share those. Okay, believe it or not, your seamen only contains about 10% sperm. The rest consists of enzymes, vitamin C, calcium, protein, sodium, zinc, citric Okay, believe it or not, your semen only contains about 10% sperm. The rest consists of enzymes, vitamin C, calcium, protein, sodium, zinc, citric acid, and fructose sugar. So it's good for you.

Yeah, totally. Subwomen complain of a taste of semen, and you can help. We did a whole show on this once about the foods that people can eat to make their ejaculate taste better, or whatever. While there are no studies to support, it generally receives a kiwi fruit celery, pineapple, watermelon, quim, all-mixed, cement-taste, lighter. Heavy beer and coffee drinkers are said to produce bitter tasting ejaculate.

I'm sure it is. A climb-based fish and meats make for a buttery taste or if in doubt an investment, a tasty flavored lube or flavored deep-throats spray. A healthy male produces about 70 to 150 million sperm a day. When you ejaculate you can use three times that. That's why you're so wiped out and fall asleep after sex. I'm drained out. When inside a woman's body a sperm can last five days. There's some great sperm factors. Five days? Five days your sperm

swimming around. Just hanging out. Right. But your sperm is nowhere right now because you have no sex. So you say, okay, average volume of semen per ejaculation is one teaspoon, which equates to about 200 to 500 million of those little guys in the average amount of semen produce each time you release. 200 to 500 million. Yep. The average speed of semen at the moment of ejaculation. Oh, yeah.

I asked for these breakdowns. I'm giving it to you. Why don't you prepare for it? You want to know, I don't know, because now you're excited. Yeah. The average speed of semen at the moment of ejaculation, what do you think it is? How fast you should know this being a dude who?

75 miles an hour. 31 miles an hour. Maybe you're 75. Yeah. Maybe you could go on some show. Like, you could be in the Guinness Book of World's Rock. Maybe yours is maybe we get one of those things that those timers that they have in the road when they measure the traffic radar gun the radar gun sperm gun your sperm is now going 52 miles an hour and the human male ejaculates an average distance up to seven

of seven to ten inches the world record for the farthest spoof is 18 feet. 18 feet? But on average, it's seven to 10 inches. Didn't you ask this before? Yeah, that's why I was, that's why they probably, did the interns get this? Yeah, they did, but they, they know she didn't know.

She just, she really, she just had a sense. Wait, 10 inches is average. And then the biggest one is like 18 feet. Like that's not even that is like, that's crazy. I think you should start trying to break the record. That just would be some kind of fun hobby to take on. Then you could ejaculate a lot. And you can use that a jacket that you can use that that masturbation toy that I that I want to give you. Oh, yeah. When you think I'm going to lose when you lose the contest that we're having you're gonna have to use it

and you're gonna have to suck it around your penis. That's like a NBA dunking contest like where they jump over Honda Civics 18 feet you with 18 feet you can probably shoot over a car. Ah it's impressive. What's with you? You're like hey my name's Madness. I can shoot 18 feet. Is that hot? Turn you on. You have some chick on the other side of the room. Did it like catch it or ate it with the rocket?

I think that he must have had some kind of people over a measure. I mean, I do break a world record. Yeah. That would be interesting watching this guy try to break the world record. I think personally, you're going to watch this guy masturbate to see how far I can shoot. I don't know. Yeah, I don't believe them, but I don't believe it, but it is in the world's records. So okay, we can get into some emails. Okay, what do you got?

This is what I got for you. Like I said, some of the topics on this show include G-Spot Organisms, Pregnid Sex, Tantric Sex, and Phone Sex, and you can always email us at feedback at sexualtoemlee.com. You can also go on our website, our amazing website, sexualtoemlee.com where you can, there's an ask Emily thing, form tab, and you can just send it that way, really easy to do. And when you become a friend to a friend of its member, we answer your emails right away. Hi guys, the reason for my email is to ask you

about the female G-Spot orgasm. Are there any different from normal orgasms? If so, what's the best way for me to give one to my wife? Is there a particular position that is better than another? Thanks for the show and cute, but the good work. Daniel from Florida. I've been talking a lot about the G-Spot lately. Because you're working on that ad, the G-Spot locator. I're working on that at the G-spot locator.

And I'm working on that out. OK, rear-antig positions are some of the most reliable when it comes to stimuli in the G-spot during intercourse. But first I would use your fingers. I would say, or see if your partner knows where her G-spot is. Because a lot of times women have to do that work on their own. To kind of allow them to are lucky,

and they just kind of figure it out. But sometimes they have to do some work on their own. So rear-antig positions are the most reliable when it comes to stimulating G-spot. You can also try doggy style or the spooning position with both of you lying on your sides for a more relaxed option. And the penis should rub against the front

and all over the vagina when she's on off fours. She should arch her back slightly and not put her head down on the bed. You can also try lifting her lips, her hips, her hips up a little, and thrusting in a downward motion to perfect the G-spot position. So lifting her hips up, or a doggie style.

But just so you know that women in order, most women in order to feel any kind of G-spot sensations that are good, they need to have clitoral stimulation first. I'm just saying, it's not to happen because they all work together. It's all part of the same thing. Any comments on that? I see you never seen a G-spots.

So you came up with that. Oh, yeah. I never found a G-spot before in my life. But now that book, the book was the book. The guys books name. Billy Sunday Mars. Billy Sunday Mars. We did a great show this week.

You already have links on sex with only dot com. Yeah, but but not everyone. If you're not a member, this is free Friday. They can't see it. It was an awesome show. I think it was Monday, Billy Sunday Mars. He talked men. I've never seen men as so focused before on a guest and so.

Well, he had pictures in his book. He liked it. He was a picture book about, if you like, all the pictures, not the drawings. And about how to please your woman and about exercises that you can do that actually open you up and opens up your G-spot and makes it easier for you to women to have orgasms and men's. Because a lot of times, our hips are really tight. But you have my diagrams and all that stuff.

You think diagrams, his book is called Fit for Love and it's Billy Sonny Mars, check it out on the website. And then become a member so you can watch the show because you'll really like it. Okay, also one more thing about the G-Spot. When she's on top, she's in control. So on top positions like cowgirl and its variations are great for hitting the G-Spot because the woman can angle her hips just right. That was another thing I want to say. He had like some crazy positions there.

Like what? Well, there was like some special like sex wedge that he had. Oh, the wedge. You love the wedge. But I don't know if it was the wedge. It was like, it was like kind of like a pillow box. Right. Right. Where it's just like, it shaped us a box and it's like two levels high. Right. And he was just like going crazy with some

chick on there. There weren't naked, but like he would, right. They're all crazy type of positions. It was cool. It's good to use props during sex like that for women to let lift their hips up and to have like one of those wedges are used, you could just use a pillow. Yeah. Everyday pillow, there are special sex wedges that you can buy like at AdamNive.com. Where if you did go to AdamNive.com and you use coupon code Emily, you would get 50% off

most items and three adult DVDs and a free gift. Good. Okay. Hi, Emily. Love your podcast. I've been listening for a couple months now. I also found you by accident as I was searching for fun podcasts to listen to. We always laugh at that.

Yeah, right. You're searching for fisting and anal penetration. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You were just having fun in iTunes. You're like, either this or the Disney Channel. My wife is no eight months pregnant. Prior to the pregnancy, we had sex three to four times a week, her drive increased during the pregnancy.

Oh, no. Yeah, for the first time we went to the pregnancy, while she was smaller, everything stayed normal. I was able to get off every time, like usual, just with four-play and sex. As she got bigger, it was harder for us to find a comfortable position. We slumped for a while. Of course being the wonderful wife she is, she always offered oral and manual stimulation

for me. To make a long story short, we got most of ours out of our slump by trying different positions and by going out and buying a toy. Thank you Emily for keeping the spark hot, the big O. Sign the big O. So they went out and bought a toy. Thank you Emily for keeping the spark hot, the big O. Sign the big O. So they went on by the toy. Awesome. Sex toys. Sex toys during sex can help women who are having issues, problems, challenges, giving orgasms, especially if she's pregnant. Yeah. A good position though is this for when you're pregnant is a spooning sex position, it can be very comfortable

for pregnancy sex when you're spooning. And your partner can position themselves behind you different angles to allow for penetration. So when you're lying on your side and you're spooning each other. Yeah, I don't really see any, I was thinking, if there's any other positions, but I wouldn't recommend them, the spooning position. Spooning position. No, number one. Sounds good, right? Yes.

Okay. Was that what you and the water you should turn the fan on? I need more water. Do you mind filling that up? I'm so thirsty today. It was wrong to you. Because water you should turn the fan on and you more water. Do you mind filling that? So thirsty, they was wrong to you because I drank last night. I see that's what I have you blessed a wine How many is a flute? I went to my it went to my friends restaurant and I have how many friends you have to have restaurants a lot of friends at restaurants That's why my friends No, a lot of my friends own restaurant. I don't know why they just do No, a lot of my friends own restaurant. I don't know why they just do.

It's not a lot, but a few, and they're good restaurants, and we always have lots of wine. I think that's what it is. Yeah. And salt, salty foods. Okay. Italian. Just need water.

Emily, okay. Here I am. I'm a big fan of your show. I've been looking for an interesting podcast about sex, and I think yours is one of the best, if not the best one out there. Keep up the great work. Anyway, me, my friends.

Anyway, me, my friends were having discussions about tantric sex. The girls were reading about this guy they knew who was a master at it and said he'd gone for hours and hours. Me and the rest of the guys were skeptical. None of the girls had actually been with this guy. Is having sex for so long necessarily a good thing? Chafing would necessarily a good thing. Chafing would be a problem, surely.

Wonder what your thoughts are on this work. Have you experienced tantric sex before? All the best James from Singapore. We've gone over this probably a few times. Tantric sex? Chafing the big, oh, the thing about tantric sex is, it's not about the orgasm. It's not about your typical orientation sex. She is an orgasm.

He is an orgasm. Instead you attempt to prolong our increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. So, tantric sex is really about cultivating this energetic swirl with each other and you actually use to kind of stay in an orgasmic height and state, but you don't actually have the orgasm. So if you feel like tantric sex, please, like if you focus on the grand finale, you'll miss the amazing range of feeling the rest has to offer. It's a lot about breath and breathing, and it says it's health enhancing.

Sexual energy is one of our most powerful energies for creating health. In the West, we sometimes view sex as a source of recreation rather than means of transformation. And so, tantric sex is really about like transforming yourself. It's more spiritual. I would love to try tantric sex. I've never have. Believe it or not. The most famous person.

It's on my list. The most famous person in talking about this thing. I knew that. But then he says like, he immediately just said recently, he goes, we're not like we're having sex the entire time. So now I don't get, there's not penetration in the entire time. No, no, it's more like you're creating this energy

with each other. And you are having sex, but your breath is aligned. And there's a lot of foreplay involved. And there's a lot of touching and staring into each other's eyes. Well, like touching and staring into your other eyes. Wow. And you're seriously, it is about your energy becoming... Sounds like a nightmare.

I don't know, explain it. It sounds like some hocus-pocus hippie stuff. I mean, to you, this is going to just like get exactly. Yeah. Yeah. But I have had opportunities to try to counter sex before. Of course. Take courses.

I think I should do that as part of my continued learning. Because next week and I'm going to be like, I like how you offer all these courses where people touch your vagina. Yeah, that's why I do that. I'm going to offer you a course, but I get to touch your vagina just FYI. It's all it's all for the job, honey. What have you done for your work? I'm just saying like, if there was courses to say, hey, I'm going to give you this course. And by the way way you get a you get filet shell Okay, so am I crazy for sending us to these things yeah, it gives your woman I'm a woman who is a sex show and I'm not a tantric sex. I don't think I have I would remember right It's just because the time I'm busy

I'm gonna relax like I'm meditating I do a thing. I'm thinking the type of guys that will be offering to chat ponytail ponytails I knew you were gonna say that really old Grade haired guys would like Beards great Nation they got a earring and then you know there There's not your time. Maybe they got a tie-died shirt. Maybe, how many guys at one time?

They're just touching you for China. No, I'm not that good as a Patrick. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Patrick's different when you're working with the party. Yeah, I know, but the vagina touching thing. Oh, the vagina touching me. Yeah, how many guys at one time? It's not gonna be, well, it might be dudes.

It might be a girl's toe. Women. Okay, so you have women in there. One at a time. Okay. Yes, misogyny. And they're not burnouts from the hippie days. No, no, no, no, no, no.

They're like real people who are, who I've met who are interested in enhancements. What type of people are they? I don't know who's gonna be there. Oh, why are you smiling? Because the people that I'm describing are the people that are doing it. No, the dude I met, I met two guys

who are part of the subject. Describe them. Describe them. Cute, short hair. I met I met two guys who are part of the Scribe them describe the cute So here Normal dudes normal dudes with normal jobs like in technology and in you know finance or whatever They're not like hippies Some for sure. We live in northern California for Christ sake. Yeah, unfortunately But that's gonna to be next week

and the glitter is rubbing and that's going to be really exciting. I'm going to come in just exploding, having an orgasm probably. I'm, no, I won't do it on camera here. Haven't done that yet. Emily, I recently discovered your podcast and I was looking for something interesting to listen to

to get me through the 12-hour drive from my boyfriend's house to my own. I must say, definitely worked and I've been listening to archived episodes ever since. As far as I can tell, you don't have an episode on phone sex, and I think it would make a great, this may make a great topic for your show.

I'm currently in a long distance relationship with, despite popular opinion, that long distance never worked. It's going great. My boyfriend and I have managed to find a couple things to keep the spark despite the thousand miles distance between us. One night after I had a couple drinks,

she probably got that advice from you. I called my boyfriend and we engaged in some pretty hot phone sex. Ever since then, he has been trying to initiate it again, but I keep backing off or changing the subject. Ah. For some reason, other than that one time I was able to, I can't seem to get comfortable enough,

or creative enough to rely on words. Do you have any tips for someone new to phone sex? I love your show. I'm an officially a lawyer listener. Chelsea from Ontario, Ontario, Canada. We have been- Take more shots, Chelsea. What's going on?

Why are you knocking it? Yeah, we actually have done a show on phone sex. You got to search for it on our site, which right now we are improving the search engine on our site, so you can find that show I wish I could tell you when it was will you maybe we'll have someone email it to you. But phone tax I think it's just like don't be overwhelmed by it. I mean it's easy to become overwhelmed by it because you think it has to be perfect you need to sound like a porn

star and say everything right. But really like menace I talked about this before we did our phone sex show like it's really just about describing what you could describe last time we were together. Baby, last time we were together, that was so hot the way you took my clothes off and touched my pride. Give examples last time, but I can't remember. I'm giving them again. No, but examples like how you would do it.

How I would do it? Yeah. I would start like slowly by telling what you would like to do. No, like examples pretending you were on the phone with the guy. I did? Yeah. I did not. would like. No, like examples pretending you would, you're on the phone with the guy. I did? Yeah. I did not. I swear. You're just saying that.

So you just want me to have phone sex. Okay, let me return. Let me get a phone. Okay. Who am I having phone sex with? I got a picture person. Some guy that has a lot of money in a company that he owns. And he has a boss, Roddy.

Who the fuck? That's on my type. That's not my type. Okay, some guy that you really like. Okay, so this is hard on demand. I think I would say I would be like. Okay, I'll set up the scene. Yeah, I'll set up the scene.

I'll set up the scene. I'll set up the scene. Okay, he's off on some business meeting. So he's out of the area. It's a Saturday night. You've already had one glass of wine. You're not too tipsy. You're usually bubbly self.

And then he calls you. This is giving you an update. But you're feeling kind of sexy that night, because you're wearing some lingerie. Right. And you tell him I am. Yeah. And he got that yapping dog out of the house.

And so you're having a good time. Yeah, yes. And maybe there's some porn on in the background. So you're really in the mood. So then you go and you say, okay, so we call. So, okay, this guy calls it. There's a candle lit too. And the lights are down. The lights are down. The candles lit. And I'm wearing something super sexy. Or at least you tell them you are. So that's a good way to start to say hey baby so right now I'm just lying here on my bed and I'm just like that's how you talk to the guy you're gonna give me the time. Hi hi so good talk to you. I yeah I was just lying here thinking about you and oh what am I wearing? I'm wearing that super sexy you know how you

think I look super hot in that white little tank thing that I wear? So I'm just going to slow down. So I'm just going to, because we got stuff to take. Hold on. This is more important. We have like 20 men. I can't do foam sex on demand without a real person. Should we call my, some dude that I've had foam sex

with this year? I have no clue. No, I'm skinny. OK, and then you're like, I'm just sitting here. I'm just sitting here thinking about, OK, I'm just sitting here thinking about you. I'm just sitting here thinking about you and This is how you talk to the guy. Yes, would you stop into interrupting? This is the the tone that you would be taking

Yeah, that was so hot. I just can't stop thinking about you Why are you laughing at me now? I'm trying So mad at you. I was just getting into it and you're laughing. Yeah, I got hurt. It was like last week, it was so hot when we had sex and you were, I keep thinking about being on top of you and the way I was, I'm not going to, like, of being on top of you and I just know the way that you were looking at me and the way I was looking at you was super hot. It was, and I want to feel you inside of me.

I don't talk that way on the show, how I talk. I would describe a scenario, I would describe what you want, something that you've done in the past, and then I would talk about what you would like to do to him. Why are you the hell are you laughing me so much? It's funny. It's funny, I'm glad I made you laugh. Yeah, it's hilarious.

But really, you just kind of talk about past experiences because you don't have to make anything up. You can be like, think of your favorite thing that you did, Chelsea, with your partner last time and then just scribe it to him on the phone. Just be like, last time we were together, I loved when you came up from behind, ripped off my clothes

and kissed my neck and you slowly went down on me or something. And then I can't wait until your penis is erected again in my mouth or something like that. Yeah, but just down in that tone, where you're just having a run over it. I'm not doing the tone now because I'm in my radio tone. I told you to get the example though. I did and you laughed at me the whole time. Because it's hilarious. Thanks. I've finished for the record. Yeah, I have performed for Fone text and I've never been laughed at and I've always had good results because they have it on mute

On the other side No, I'm really good at it. I'm really good at it and I'm sort of feel like you showed examples that you aren't really good at it I did no you left it me didn't let me go do that Okay, I won't say Let's go into the what I'll turn off my mic go ahead No, I can't it's the moment gone redeem yourself No, it's gone we have to go into some sex You're gonna be so pissed go ahead. Well, I'll do it another day. I'll pray. I'll do it later

What's next time? People are giving me so pissed. Go ahead. Well, I'll do it another day. I'll do it later. God, you ruined it, though, because you laughed at me. I'm being vulnerable and open, and I'm about to have phone sex with my audience, and you laughed at me. Because it was funny.

Well, that is not encouragement. I don't know. I don't know. Come to your job, not me. Next time, I won't laugh. OK. This is really important. This is our topic today. OK. So you got to pay attention

I'm paying attention. This is like okay. This is something that comes up a lot like why We fall into certain patterns that we do why we have certain types like do you have a type that you date typically date all the time? Would you say you have a type I would say either types that are like yeah, okay? so Um, would you say you a type? I would say either types that I like. Okay. So, a lot of times people have types and they're kind of like, they're kind of like, why do I keep dating the same kind of person again? What would you have to remember that it always starts out with you, right?

So, you track certain people in your life. So, it's not like these people are happening to you. You are making these scenarios happen. So, if you find yourself in a rut with like the same guy, he doesn't have a job and like, sitting as couch playing video games or whatever, like that's not, that's you. If you find yourself in a rut with the same guy, he doesn't have a job and like sitting as couch playing video games or whatever, that's not you. So it's like taking responsibility for us.

And it's also like a lot of the reasons why we date certain types has to do with our childhood. You know how we erase, has to do with our relationship with our parents. Like if someone cheated on us in the past, like that's going to mess us up. So really a lot of it is like clearing up a lot of your past stuff and getting clear on what kind of person you really want to date. Like who, who's your perfect person? Like they always tell you to make lists, like make a list of like, really? Yeah. Make a list of all the traits that you want in someone. Have you ever done that? Have you ever made a list of what the perfect one is? Because still people that always make lists, we get made fun of because they'll never find

everybody that anybody that you're not gonna get everything but you're gonna get a lot of it. So it's true. So people it's one of the first things you do is they always say we date our parents I'm on some time you know that's about your dad was just like my dad that she got divorced with my father and Then we date our parents because they're the ones that are our main role models growing up and we take off our pain and like do you Feel like you've dated anyone that felt like your mother? No, never I stayed away from that've dated anyone that felt like your mother? No, never. I stayed away from that. Right.

Cause you don't like your mom. But that's usually why you would actually date someone like your mother. So as soon as we see that their behavior matches are unpleasant expectations, our subconscious mind thinks they're a perfect match for us because we're so used to the behavior. So we might date someone really abusive. Like if our father or mother was abusive to us, we're used to that from the childhood growing from our childhood growing up,

so we keep dating people who are abusive. So just look at round your life and your patterns and you're attracting those kind of people into your life. What would be on your list? Well, of the, my types that I've dated. Yeah, you don't have to go on a long thing, but a couple things. A couple things.

Um, I would say that I've dated like, earlier like in my 20s, I dated a lot of like, for some reason Irish Catholic alcoholics. I don't know why. Oh, sweet. They were super creative and smart and funny and whatever, but they weren't really like, they just weren't my guy.

They were, I called, they were alcoholics, but they were romantic and sweet and kind and great. And I was kind of a type. I was dating or I keep the artist type who's like really trying to figure out his work, but doesn't really have a study job. It's like it's terrible. So no one heard. We have one to get locked down because you were in the early ages.

Your day nassholes. I wasn't eating assholes. I never ever day nassholes. We're going to get into the seven deadly dating personality types. We're going to get into that in one second. Art people. No, no, no, no, these are more like psychological emotional. So why do we stay in destructive relationships?

Because it's easier to blame people for their bad behavior than to face what is what what what we is there than to face the fact that we are looking for them seeking them out catching them and we're looking for these people. So we must say it's them. It's their fault. But meeting the wrong people is not necessarily bad things. If you're in a bad situation, now with bad wrong person, like pull yourself out of it

and be like, what can I learn from this situation? What can I learn from this person? Okay, so we got to break the cycle and we got to just learn that we need to get into more healthy, loving relationships. So just to get a lot of questions, you were like, do you think this person's right for me and they break down all these negative bad things?

Because I think people think they deserve certain type of things. And we're going to brought up believing that we do that we are supposed to like take certain kinds of abuses or date certain type people. What really you have to, I think we, it's all of our jobs to figure out what we want. And now what are parents want for us? And now we're just replaying from our childhood issues, but what we want. Okay. Let's get into the

seven deadly dating personality types. All right. What do you think? I wonder how many of these you can guess? I guess or how many I fit in you said? How many of these people you've got dating? Okay, I'll I'll tell you. Okay, ready? What We're gonna guess one. The needy. Needy person. Nope, but maybe it's something. Actually, I think I wrote something on this one. It says, I did top 10 types of women you don't want to date. That's nice. So go ahead and go for it. Okay, the pleaser.

Yeah. The unfortunate reality is that some people tell lies are over exaggerate to seem better than they are And they think they are a pain more likeable what anyway This is pretending to be more honest successful Kinder and younger be a non-smoker when you're a smoker more empathetic and more giving than you really are So the pleaser is lying to you and exaggerating about who they are because they want to just please you Yeah, that's someone to avoid. But there's parts of this in everyone.

People have multiple persons, like people have, like they'll be a pleaser and a controller. This is someone who feels that the way they think and operate is the right way to live. Anyone who doesn't understand this or can't fit around their lifestyle and opinions of how they think others should behave towards them is the raw, they think that the person's wrong needs to change. These people are overly sensitive about their own needs and think that they are incredibly kind of caring towards others. They will gently or otherwise demand that you act the way you think they should. Okay, I know these people. I've dated the controllers. In fact, I actually have dated several controlling people because my life often feels like it needs to be controlled because there's so much going on.

So I have, in the past gone towards more controlling man, I would say. That's like, yeah. It doesn't seem like that for me because I'm a very like controlling person in many ways. But when it comes to relationships, I've tend to date men because I thought I needed them to control me and really you don't need anyone to control you you have to control yourself. So I've definitely to date men because I thought I needed them to control me and really you don't need anyone to control you, you have to control yourself.

So I've definitely recognized that. The aesthetic. This is the type of data who chooses a potential date based on covertly analyzing via Google Facebook and other means their date's partner suitability status. Finding out if possible, the person's credit score, our candy score, social, business and lifestyle status, and their vulnerability, and psychological manipulation.

They're catch, cry, how can this person improve my lifestyle ambitions? So this is somebody just looking for arm candy, some hot chick, researching, how much money your dad makes or whatever. I've never dated anyone like that, I think. Have you? That's somebody is this dating for Arm Candy?

Yeah, I was like searching out people who they think will up their status. They're only in testetics and the superficial. I think I maybe dated one person like that, yeah. Okay. Because you're so handsome and devinear. No, not that. The code dependent, this is big.

A lot of people fall into code dependency in relationships. This person is constantly seeking your approval and reassurance that you like them and want to be with them. They look for ways for you to pay them compliments as for your opinion as they don't seem to have a solid one of their own or indecisive and will be interested in being totally immersed in your life and extreme cases in negating their own. They are like puppy seeking constant love and attention even before your second date. They call texts or email excessively

prior to the first date, if you've met in line. This is, these are all stereotypes, really. This is, it's sweet in the beginning, but at the end of the two-lar space invaders, we'll soon get your sick, they soon, they will soon get sick of their catch cry high. It's me again, the codependent. And I feel like codependents are more like people who are

both going through the person who's suffering with the alcohol at the typical situation is like being with an alcoholic and the wife, that's just dating a man who's alcoholics. And everything in her life, she's sort of the martyr and she's always like taking care of them and there for him. But she like, almost like his disease has become her sole purpose in life. Like she makes his disease her own and with negating all of her other responsibilities unhealthy, being a a code dependent relationship. Great book for that code dependent. No more. Yeah, I mean, I definitely been in a relationship like you have.

I was. I remember. Yeah. Or it just became more about taking care of that person then being in a relationship. Right. And it sucks. Sucks. You want to avoid these people. But everyone's got what I'm saying is no one's perfect and you're going to find some of these things, but it just a matter of like recognizing the liar. This type of data is emotionally dangerous. They tell stories and have true scents. It was really going on in our life. In general,

they won't discuss in detail their past and their life is full of huge money making opportunities. They're working on. Frequently dropping names for influential people they know to make themselves look important. Keeping you away from meeting their family and only introduce you to select group of their friends is a way to ensure you don't get the inside story on them. Their catch-crying is... Sounds like me.

How can you not believe me? Sounds like you? But I'm not the liar, but I do. Which part of this sounds like you? Not wanting to introduce people to. Why is is that why do you keep people separate you're not a liar you just like to compartmentalize like a lot of people do depends until like I am I don't want to give the situation I go where I go oh this is my girlfriend and blah blah and then something that I'm not too serious with then something that I'm not too serious with, but I do hang out with a lot. Right.

And then eventually, you know, that will die off. And then I have to deal with. But you're not like inconsistent in lying and like you have your job and you have your thing. Yeah. So you're just, you're just, you just don't want girls to get too much up into your stuff because you want of your independence. Yeah.

And I don't want to, unless I'm really serious about them, then I will evolve them into everything. You will? Yeah. It's been a long time since you've done that. Yeah, I've been my lessons. It's good. Yeah.

Okay, then, there is this serial data. This type of data is barely out of one relationship and looking for another. They hate being by themselves and see companionship at virtually every waking hour. They seek to get into a long-term relationship very quickly. Their relationships are usually short-lived as they haven't dealt with why the last relationship didn't work and the one before that. There was always something wrong with the last partner and nothing was ever their fault. They would look to have commitment very quickly from you.

Their catch cry. Okay, that's enough about you and let's talk more about me. Serial data. I used to be a serial data, but I don't think. Yeah, I guess I did. I actually did this part of it. I did the part where I didn't want to deal with the pain of the last relationship,

and I would constantly move into the next relationship. So that's like being a serial data. I was more of a serial moniped anodomist. I would date for two years and then break up and then date someone else like literally like, I break up with a guy and that night I got my girlfriend because I'm single again. I do that crazy big girl. That's good of me. And I mean, the next guy that I date for two years literally like that night,

like I was couldn't be stopped. And I think I as a result that hurt, that you should take time in between relationships. I think I avoided dealing any pain. That's when I was in pain avoidance phase of my life. I know this girl from, ever since I've known her since a freshman high school, has always had a boyfriend. I do not know her with going more than a week

without a boyfriend. I think everyone needs time in their life without a boyfriend. Like you just without a girlfriend or a boyfriend, you just need time, I think, alone to like get to know yourself. There's a lot of people who do that. They stay with their, you know, they stay with their high school sweetheart. I don't know.

I mean, that's, it works for a lot of people, but I just think if you are someone who's dating a lot, like try not dating, try like my mandatory on my took last year for six months where I did not have sex, and I did not date for six months. Do you remember my mandatory? Yeah, I don't know what that was all about.

Why, that was fun. That was such a good time of growth for me. I learned a lot about myself. What did you learn? I was alone. I learned that I'm so fine without a man in my life, which I always kind of knew. And I am, I just relied on myself more for entertainment. I wasn't like, because there's always, you can always have guys around. If you're a chick, like you always say,

you can always have like a guy around, you can always do something or see someone. But I, I think I, a lot of us are oriented that way that we need to have it. We need something wrong if there is not someone in our life. And I don't think I ever felt like anything was wrong. If there wasn't, there just always was. So I was like, how interesting would it be to try something different? Let me try my life without a man in it. So I did. Look how healthy I am now. I know, perfect.

See? Okay, there's a few tips to spotting a deadly dating personality. So here's what you should do. Listen to what they're saying. When you speak with them, don't interrupt or think of what you're going to say next. Really listen for the cues. Like my mom says, all the issues that you have are on the third date and they will keep repeating themselves forever so you should be paying attention to your eyes open

when you're going into a relationship. My mom says the issues are even third date you have forever. Trying to think of third dates. It's true. That's why you broke up with her. Like whatever it was in the third date, she talked to the waiter too long, which is what you hate hate that or she talked too much Hate that Now I want them to talk but There's then there's a people that don't talk which annoy the hell out of me when you try to have a conversation with them Like they want to hang out you all the time, but when you you're on one-on-one with them They don't talk at all. I don't even know people like that. I know people I can't imagine living my life like that. Oh my God. Okay, ask questions.

You take it. You do. You take quite a girl. Well, because you don't like people talking, which is ironic. No, but it's like, well, we'll talk on the internet. And then it's all good. And then when we get face to face and all that stuff, no talking at all. And then maybe there are some kind of conversation. Of course. But when I, when it's time, the things they were shy or nervous. I don't know. Be honest.

OK, ask questions. Do you think they may be one of the seven deadly dating personalities, ask them questions, then listen to the answers, then ask questions on their answers? Watch if they fidget or don't want to make eye contact. Eye contact is huge. People who like talked up to the corner, whatever, are looking at you. You want't want to make eye contact. Eye contact is huge. People who like talked up to the corner,

whatever, are looking at you. You want to go to make eye, oh man, or woman to make eye contract. Ask them to describe a couple that they know who represents the perfect couple and why they think they have a perfect relationship. These answers will give you an insight into what they expect in a relationship.

That's interesting. Like, do you look at any couple right now and you're like, they're the perfect couple. I would love to emulate their relationship. Yeah, do you look at any couple right now and you're like, they're the perfect couple, I would love to emulate their relationship? Yeah, I see a couple. A couple of couples. Good. There's this one couple that's, they're actually musicians that I really like.

Because they're always smiling, they're always happy. Every time I meet them, they're just having fun doing what they're doing. And they're married. Yeah. And they're in a band together. Yeah, they're called man Kim. Awesome. They're like the nicest people you ever meet. A couple of people can work together and play together.

Asm to describe the worst couples relationship and why this will also give you views and what's not acceptable, acceptable and a relationship. Ask them why they want to be in a relationship with some very careful agents answer. Why? Why? So these are all the questions like you should ask them. Anyway, not the first day you should ask someone anyway.

Not the first date, not the second date. Not probably the third or fourth date. You could start having these. First and second date, you should still ask questions, but you don't have to get into like, what do you think about relationships? Because that might freak someone out. Anything. Yeah. If the first date of growth was like so, so. So. Menace, which your ideal relationship such? So we, so we need to talk. Menace,, we need talk. We need to have the talk. We actually have to go. We do. We got to wrap up on this Friday. It's Margarita clock right now. Oh my god. Do we have margaritas? That's a great idea. That's a great, freaking idea. Okay, everyone, let me make sure I read all my announce. Oh,

Tuesday, okay, Monday, we'll be talking about how to seduce someone. I just want to say that. Are you going to give talking about how to seduce someone I just want to say that Are you gonna give examples on how to seduce somebody? Yeah, and you're gonna do it in your sexy voice You you put the high-bosh on my sexy voice. I was going there and you did not let me be sexy and you made me you ruined the whole mood for me But it was it was hilarious. Okay, honey And then Yeah, that's like I got for you. Cool.

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