Sex With Emily - SWE: A Sticky Situation

Episode Date: August 15, 2012

The sticky subject of ejaculation is covered in painstaking detail today by Emily, Menace, and their loyal, very opinionated listeners. From the where’s and why’s to the do’s and don’t, the coming and going of male climaxes are dissected and discussed. Emily’s friend asks her for a vacation sex starter kit. Emily shares a few threesome stories and Menace shares his travel plans and outlines his enthusiasm for Asian women. In technological news, future phones will be able to detect STD’s, and men’s scrotums are being roasted by their beloved laptops. A listener with a ponytailed husband shares her first (and according to Menace, inevitable) swinging experience, another takes on Emily’s diction, and “Female Viagra” is discussed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You can email me feedback at sexathemlee.com. Today's show, we will be reading the emails that you sent to feedback at sexwithemlee.com. Or some of you sent to my Facebook page, which is my Sex with Emily page, my fan page, or you can find me on Twitter, Emily Morse, MRSE. The letters, the emails, it's so funny, I always say letters, like I'm like from the 70s, but I like that. It doesn't matter. It's a matter. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you know what I mean, I think of them as like, like, love letters. So letters that include topics, swingers and safe sex, where to ejaculate and body image. Those are a few of the topics, plus we'll have sex in the news,

and then finally, five secrets about women's breasts. All right. All right. How's that? And then it's good to see you. Good to see you too. What's going on? Oh my God. I've just been working a lot. Yeah. And I've been, I'm going to Florida in the morning for Thanksgiving with my family. My mom has a place there. So we're gonna go to Florida. And it's gonna be warm and sunny, and I'm gonna be in the beach, and I hope maybe there'll be some cute guys there. Cause I'll be in a bikini,

and it's gonna be 85 degrees. I'm very excited. I got a spray tan first. I didn't spray tan, maybe tonight I'll spray tan. That's a great idea. I'll spray tan after this. So you got a stick out. But you know, I wear a few dates.

I'm really, I'm just not that into anyone. I've tried. I've gone on two dates, I've been dating these guys. And you know what? I'm just not feeling it. And I'm wondering it's like, I have these nights where, for example, this one guy I've been dating, I actually like him. I do, but my best friends in town, she's leaving town tomorrow for months. I'm not gonna see her and I told him that I, he's in town, but I can't see him, because I'm seeing my friend. Like I'm choosing my friends. Like what does that say? I think it's just that that's my priorities right now. Why see my friends and if I was madly in love.

How was before bros? How is this is the thing? We've talked about this, but that's what that's where I'm at. And I just think that sex is gonna happen. It's gonna be good eventually. And uh, You gotta keep on practicing. You gotta keep on practicing, keep on practicing. just think that sex is gonna happen, it's gonna be good eventually. And- Eventually, you gotta keep on practicing. You gotta keep on practicing,

keep on practicing. But here's something funny that happened today. So there's a family friend that I have, she's 50 and her husband's probably 52. And they are going way on a romantic vacation. They're going to Hawaii and she was like, you know Emily, I, and she's, they're very, a little bit like uptight,

a little conservative. Let's just say they were conservative a couple not uptight. But she was like, you know, Emily, I, and she's, they're very, a little bit like uptight, a little conservative. Let's just say they were conservative couple, not uptight. But she was like, I really want to do something romantic and bring something like, do you have any ideas? And we've, she and I've never talked about sex. We've never talked anything. I'm like, well, she's like, because it's this birthday.

And I said, well, you could get a bunch of like sex toys and stuff. So she's like, I don't know, I don't know. So I took her shopping. And we, so here's, here's in the 50s, they've been married five years, they've never had sex. I mean, they've never had sex. They've never, they've never used sex toys.

They've never watched porn together. So I was like, okay, we're gonna get you a starter kit. Wow. So I took her to a store and, because I would have ordered from Adam and Eve, but I didn't have time because it just came up today and she's leaving in a few days. This is what I got. I got female friendly porn, which is porn with plots basically.

Yeah. And not a lot of like, humping and more men going down on women than women giving oral sex to men. I got her that. I got her, of course, a vibrating ring, which I love. And I'm like, he'll like it and you're like, it was so funny talking to you. You know, people that you don't talk to sex about and then you do, like people that you, like I didn't even think of her having sex.

Anyway, so I was like, you'll get a vibrating ring. We got that. We got a beginner's bondage kit. And it's like in this little thing and it gives you little cards and tells you what to do. And it has like an eye, something for your eye, and little like Velcro cufflinks, cuff, Velcro crafts.

And then this really cool game, which I think is great for couples. So I'm telling you all this because these are like little tiny things you can do. If you don't wanna jump in, that you can spice up your relationship to this game, I think it's made by Cosmo magazine, but it sounds which might be whatever,

but the game was really cool because we had all these little deck of cards and they all had different topics like fantasy, sex, truth or dare, whatever, and you, and it says like, okay, read this fantasy to your partner and have them finish it, or tell your partner two things that you want touched on your body. It's a way to kind of open up

if you haven't been exploring as a couple. And here they're in their 50s and she, and I got her first vibrator. And I got one that would suggest it very, I didn't get to go into the rabbit or anything. I was gonna get the rabbit and the woman who worked at the store was like, no, rabbits for the first time vibrator, which I don't think that's true. But I got it, little life vibrator, it was anything. I was gonna get the rabbit and the woman who worked at the store was like, no rabbits for the first time vibrator,

which I don't think that's true. But I got a little life vibrator. It was good. It was good little package. It was really fun. Nice. Right before they beef up all the security at the airport. I could be, I know, she was freaking out.

And I'm like, you'll be fine, you'll be fine. But I feel like I could be a sex, a personal sex shopper. Really? I could redo people's sex. I could do an overhaul of people's sex lives. I could just call me, a personal sex shopper. Really? I could redo people's sex. I could do an overhaul of people's sex lives. Just calm me, like, what do you need? I'll figure it out, what are your legs? What do you not like?

Cause I was like, cause I asked her, like does he like porn? How do you, how do you orgasm? Clotorally, so I had to ask all these questions to figure out what would be the white, bright range of toys. So I think that's gonna be my next job. I think you would do very well at it.

And it wants to hire me. You can email me. Yeah. One thing that you were missing was you didn't suggest to bring another woman into the situation. Well, no, they're in Hawaii. I don't know, but maybe they will. I didn't want to go that far.

You're right. Was it with that, with that, with your fantasy? What? No, you don't like three sums to you. What are you talking about? I feel like you said you didn't like them before. Yeah, well, not with another guy, but two girls. okay, yeah, but have you ever? No never had a threesome I've had two

Two or three and they were good is it two or three? It's I think it's Two or three I can't remember maybe like a half Can you give a half a threesome? Oh, I hadn't aborted threesome. It was almost happened. It was like my friend, it was years ago. My friend and I were in Mexico. And there was this guy in the hotel that we were staying at and we all became buddies

and we were hanging all day and then we're drinking dequila and the next thing we know were like in bed. And we just looked up at each other and it was like that was a total threesome but then we totally aborted it. We're like, oh, like neither one of us were attracted to him and we realized we like come to and we're like, oh God, no, this is aborted threesome, but then we totally aborted it. We're like, ew, like neither one of us were attracted to him. And we realized we like come to and we're like, oh god, no,

this is aborted threesome. So that doesn't count. And then there was another crazy threesome I had. And that was really fun. And then I haven't had one in years though. I think it's, I would do it. I think it'd be interesting to have a threesome with all different kinds.

Tumon, two women. I think I've, I've gone close a couple times. Right. But it's just... But what happened? It's harder for the... It's harder for a guy to make it happen. The guy has to make it happen. Yeah. I'm just saying.

Or the girls do sometimes, sometimes the women do. Sometimes the women do. You have to find a girl that's down. Then you have to find a girl that... Well, you have to find two girls that are down. And then two girls that like each other. And then those girls have to like you.

Or just have enough to keel around, which is the female Viagra that my friend Megan always says, female Viagra. Yeah, you're right. And you have to, and before, if you're in a couple, there's like certain, we've done shows in this before, maybe it's time to do a show on it again, the threesome show. Let's do that. Let's do a threesome quickie show. Because as you know, we're doing longer shorter shows, this is

actually our 45 minute show. But anyway, the threesome rule, if you're in a relationship, it's because usually you are, it's, there's a couple and they bring someone else in. But then there is no usually, you can be hanging out to your best girlfriends and then one night y'all get messed up in sex. But you should always talk to your partner about the rules, like maybe you're having a threesome, but you don't want your partner to, let's say a woman, you know, let's say your girlfriend, men, that says, well, men, I'll have a threesome with you, but I don't want you to have penetration with the other woman.

There was a point. You said down rule, exe. You can do it. Maybe she'll perform oral sex on you or something or play with your balls. Oh, no, that's right. You don't like that. Yeah. But even, I don't know, or else, I don't think if they are not down with penetration,

that they would even be down with oral sex. Yeah, but there's some women that are just like, or known kissing, or they're just, every couple has to have their rules, because three sims can blow up a relationship too. You never get the images out of your head. You think that your husband or boyfriend was more into the other woman.

I mean, it's tricky, three sims. I'm gonna do another show. Will you remind me, write that down? I don't got it. We'll do a three sims cookie you got in your head. You got to thank God. Thank God. Okay. So how are you? What's new? Anything? Nothing. I've been just planning a lot of trips. Today, they just broke some news that they're going to have a Lala Paloza in Chile in April. Are you going to go? I don't know yet. They haven't announced the line up.

Is it like a for your company? Well yeah, go down there and cover for my work. That would be amazing if you were been. I never been out of the country. So I had to get a passport. Never in your life you've been out of the country. Never. No, I took a cruise to...

Don't say Canada, it doesn't count. I took a cruise to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. Okay, well, I didn't get off the boat. It stayed on the boat. You didn't get off the boat. It stayed on the boat. You didn't get off the boat, yeah, that doesn't count. Man, we're gonna get you out of the, we're gonna get you out of the Bay Area. Well, I've gone Hawaii, I've gone New York,

I've gone all over America. Okay, honey, you're gonna eat you, have we gonna eat you, have we gonna live a little world? I love America. I would love, my dream place to go is Tokyo. Yep, Tokyo. You'd love Tokyo, Tokyo. Tokyo'd be amazing.

Because I love sushi. Sushi? Sushi, I love. Do you love sushi? Let's do that on our date. Yep. Tokyo. You'd love Tokyo. Tokyo'd be amazing. Because I love Susi. Susi. Susi. I love Susi. Let's do that on our date. Okay. Menace and I are gonna make a plan. Susi. I can't even talk right now. I've been up. So it's been it works since 7 a.m. Yes, and it's what? And he has a month of it. He has not left the building all day. Yes. I don't even know what it looks like outside, but it's rainy and cold. I love it. And I'm going to Florida. It's 85 degrees. Go ahead. And I love electronics and I love I'm a big fan of Asian women who's not and I think it'll be a perfect way to go to the fan. I don't know too much about Chile though. I just know that some miners got trapped down there.

That's about it. Exactly. And they all they're all. They all flew here to America for a welcome for CNN thing. So I don't know. But I might I might be there. I want to go back to something you just said. Yes. That all men love Asian women. Do you think that's true? No, I'm saying I said who doesn't? Oh, who doesn't love Asian women? Yeah. Okay. I thought you were. I just put words in your mouth. Yeah. Fun. I love. I love. I'm not that guy where I only date Asian women, but I'm the same. Yeah. Right. Right. Yeah, whatever. We all are. We all women have other things, right? Yeah.

Yeah. Okay. So that's pretty much, uh, kind of. What do you mean? Well, I know. I just, I have sex. Nothing crazy. Would you have sex with?

This girl, I know. Did you do anything different that you hadn't done before at this time? Even if you like, I don't mean like you, you know, brought in the dog or anything, but you know. Nothing that I've done and different now. Do you feel like this show has changed your sex life at all? Has it changed my sex life? Like if you learned things actually, have you been paying attention for five years? I've been paying attention.

Good. Yeah, but I think I'm set in my ways and you're set in yours. No, I'm not set in my ways. How are you not? I'm the'm set in my ways and you're set in yours. No, I'm not set in my ways. How are you not? I'm the least set in my ways. I'm so open to everything now, like learning more and doing more. I'm always open. I'm not set in my ways and the least set in your ways person that you know.

Really? Yeah, so why don't you never agree with me that when we can't give hand jobs? Oh, you want to bring up a little bit of a judge of being a dad. I'm just saying. I just happen to know that I'm really good. When I've done it with men, when I've given men hand jobs, they're like, oh my god, I never have orgasms that way

with except for them, with them, with them, with them, with them. That's how I know I'm good. And I just, this begins, there's technically a detective. What do you think a guy's gonna lie to you? It's not like the first thing I do. I probably don't even do it in the first month. What do you think a guy's gonna tell you you sucked? He had an orgasm and he looked like he was an ex-same.

No. That doesn't matter. I'm just saying a guy is not gonna tell you not to do it. Yeah, yeah. He's not gonna tell you you're terrible because you're just giving him a hand job right now. He wants to sleep with you. You know, in part of the battle.

He wants to hold on. He wants to sleep with you. Is he gonna tell you that you? He's already slept with me, but it was an equitra month. I added a hand job. Was this before or tell you that you? He was already slept with me, but it was an equitra month. I added a hand job. Was this before or after you had sex? I don't remember. It was part of the whole sex experience.

Because if it was before, he is not going to say anything bad. Maybe I didn't want to have sex. You know sometimes women don't want to have sex. Those night, sometimes a month. Not that I don't. You said. I just say anything to offend you to not have sex with him anymore. Okay, but I think I know that they appreciate it.

I wish you could just like come over when I'm doing that sometime and just be like, can we get men? Can we Skype menace in or something? Yes. Yes, I would love to see you give me another guy a hand job. That would be amazing. You'd probably get sick. But yeah, well, we could probably recruit some people that you would do it.

That you wouldn't feel uncomfortable watching. Or maybe you just seeing me in a sexual act would make you uncomfortable. No, I don't care. Maybe with another woman you'd watch. Another woman. Yeah, fine. I'm just saying, you know, sex. Okay, let's get into some um, sex in the news.

We have some good sex in the news today. What do you got? Oh, sex in news. Do you have sex dot, the news. Do you have sex.com thing? No. Okay, sex.com just sold yesterday for $13 million. Wow, I heard this for sale. Yeah, there was no website attached to it.

I heard a story. Someone said that was, that's been in the paper for a while. They've been negotiating it, but I didn't know it went down to that it got sold. But I knew someone who knew knew someone, who knew someone who was like started sex.com or was gonna buy it or bought it and it turns out those guys like the people who bought it last time paid and it's an exorbitant amount and then they just like let it go down to like apparently

like they did not do the job with it at all. If I had sex.com, dude, I would take over the world. Yes. Seriously sex.com hello, do, I would take over the world. Yes, seriously sex.com. Hello Do you most search term on the web? Yeah, it sucks. They never tell you that whenever they do they do those official like Google studies They're like sucks and you know, anal sucks was the top search No, my friends that run websites they always say that a big search term is Fisting really yeah, they said like that's like one of the top things they go if you want to get your I always say that a big search term is fisting. Really? Yeah, they said that's like one of the top things.

They go, if you want to get your, like, your page. Pisting, I'm not that desperate. If you want to get your page, like some page views, they're like putting tags fisting. Fisting, yeah. Is that what you want me to do for my tag? Yes, I want every single podcast. I'm so bad at tagging.

Can I hire someone's tag for me? Or someone want to tag my website? I'll tell you. I think we go over this every week where I open up the website so I can number the podcast and then I turn my head and I yell at you. I know, I don't tag, but I did go through and tag the last 10 shows. But I use 7 in turn. Now we have a new intern, she's an antagonist, we all be fine.

Okay, but here's, we've got some good sex in the new stories today. Okay, what are you up? This is very interesting. There's an app being developed for cell phones to diagnose STDs. Oh yeah, I heard about this. Mobile phones and computers will soon be able to diagnose sexually transmitted diseases under innovative plans

to cut the UK's rising rate of herpes, chlamydia, and gonorrhea among young people. So this isn't the UK now, but doctors and tech experts are developing small devices similar to pregnancy testing kits that will tell someone quickly and privately if they've caught an infection through sexual contact. People who suspect they've been infected will be able to put urine or saliva onto a computer chip

about the size of a USB chip, plug it into their phone or computer and receive a diagnosis within minutes. That's hot. You're hooking up with someone and you're like, do you have an STD? Would you mind peeing on the stick for a minute and then you, kind of a buzzkill? But I think it's, can you imagine?

Someone can just find out right away. So they think that this is gonna help reduce the number of STIs. And did you know that two thirds of women reporting a new STI, STI were under the age of 25, is more than half of men. So, yeah, man. And then I've got some STD facts.

People always say, you don't talk about STD facts. So here's some new STD facts. I know this is really sexy, but this is important too, because everyone should use protection. You know, a study came out, we talked about this months ago, that young people are more likely in their 20s or younger or more likely use cond condoms than people like in their 30s and 40s Yeah, because then I'll know why but that everyone should use condoms. So Okay, two thirds of last year's STI Diagnosis and women were among under 25s for example 80% 88% of the

27,000 cases of climidia 73% of the cases got area Okay, and then among men, slightly more than half of them were under 25, including 69% of the community. Anyway, those are some stats, there was some more, but I don't know where they're at. All right. Well, yeah, here it is. The most common age, here's what here's the one.

The most common age at which women getting STI is 19 or 20 years old, well for men, it's 20 to 23. So you people, watch out. I was going to make your recommendation if you want to stay away from STDs. Yes. Don't ask that. If you want to protect your kids from it. What? Don't go to Santa Barbara State. Is that where you got your STD? No, that's where one out of very three people have a STD down there. That's probably an urban legend. It's not a urban legend. Come on. Google it. Google it. People you're listening Google it. You're on a computer.

University of Santa Barbara. Yeah. Okay. Well, I know that that's a big party school, but I can't imagine it's more there. One out of three. There's all kinds of things. Where'd you get your information? I've been knowing that forever. I get on the internet every day. You're on the interweb more than I am. Yeah. Okay. Sex in the news. More here. This is interesting. You better watch out, man. That's Knowing that forever I get on the internet every day on the interweb more than I am. Yeah, okay Sex in the news more here. This is interesting. You better watch out man. That's because you're such a A tech person. You're such a gadget guy. Yes, I am a gadget men Your laptop is probably cooking your testicles. It is ever wondered just how hot your balls get under your laptop very sweaty within 10 or 15 minutes their scrottle temperature is above what we consider safe said one doctor turns out that cooking your testicles is also bad for

reproducing So researchers presented their findings of a study that hooked their mom iters up to the balls of 29 men with a laptop on their knees Who they they let the study they said even though a man's testicle started heating up just for 10 minutes, they don't feel it. So this is bad for many reasons. If you're trying to have kids, increases in testicle temperature have been showed to lower a man's sperm count. This is serious.

So put a pillow underneath you or something. I do. Do you? Yeah. I do have a my desk usually. But that's really scary. Your sperm is boiling. People are boiling their sperm with their laptops.

Like everyone's worried about their cell phones. Like you should worry about your laptop on your balls. Who ever worries about that? I don't know, I get pretty old. Aren't you glad you know that now, I'm very glad. If your balls got boiled, I'd be so sad. Yeah, it wouldn't be good.

Mm-hmm. I know you don't love your balls, but really, if they boil, that would be bummer. Okay. So strangers can rate your date on Can Do Better. It's a new website. Have you heard of this? No.

Are you going to pick the right person to date if you're not the best at figuring out who you should date? There's a dating website out there to help you. According to Lemon Drop, Can Do Better is supposedly a social networking site that fuses together traditional dating and a new age experience. The motto is let the world decide. All a consumer would have to do is upload a photo of the person you're interested in the website along with your photo and wait to see what other people think.

People have three options to choose from. He can do better. She can do better or perfect match. Who would want to do on it? Like people on first dates are not looking for meaningful conversations, but they're evaluating your data as a potential romantic partner. Although it's pretty standard for the man to pay for a first date a single woman. So I'd be picky when deciding to go out on those first dates. Anyway, they go into this whole thing about dating.

Who would it tell? The way, the way, who would want to do that? Nobody. Have you seen the internet? People are brutal on there. I don't know. I think that's brutal. It's like hot or not. That's like, oh my God, people would rip each there. I don't know. I think that's brutal. It's like hot or not.

That's like, oh my God, people are ripping each other around. I know, and that would be so hurtful. Yeah. I don't even know why I talked about that. I'm sorry. I'm going to not, that strikes that story in the record. The leak that, yeah. But I thought it was, I thought it was interesting, because it's staining web sites.

I mean, the concept is very interesting, but having the, that's about it. The public, yeah. I mean, if you want to see how brutal people are on the internet, go on Craigslist and what it's like the public forum, section of the week, go to YouTube and read all the comments. It is brutal. It's brutal. Like, you can make the most amazing short film, perfectly shot.

And you upload it to YouTube and people will somehow find negative comments to say about it. You get exactly. People love taking other people down. It's probably people who want to make videos of their own. Speaking of YouTube, I have a YouTube channel, Sex with Emily. And I don't get a ton of comments. So you guys can comment and tell me how, if they're not.

Maybe they're too busy masturbating. Do you think they are? Do you guys masturbate to make people say they do? And I'm like, really? Just me talking, but maybe I don't know. That's what, what are you wearing? This cute girl said you had a nice voice. What cute girl?

Some cute girl, I know. Who is she? Some girl? Does she want it with Risa? No, she doesn't want it with. But she likes my voice. Yeah, she's a good girl. That's want it with Riesom? No, she doesn't want it with. But she likes my voice. Yeah, she's a good one.

Oh, that's nice. You know when I was little, everyone called me Munchkin because I talk like this, and I was really high. I have a Munchkin. I have an audio cassette tape of my voice when I was seven, and I was pretending to be on the radio.

And I said, hi, this is Emily on M-O-R-S-E radio. I have to bring it in. We could play it. It's really funny. And I'm talking like talking like I have a radio show. I was like seven. I have to bring it in, we can play it. It's really funny and I'm talking like I have a radio show. And I was like seven. No way. Yeah, it's funny and I sound like a monochrome. Okay, so let's get into some mail. Why are you laughing at me? Nothing. I need to know. Huh? Are you picturing me? Because I just had a flashback to why? To why? In junior high, because I actually, I had an assignment to pretend to be

I wasn't on the radio to you so I had a cassette tape. Oh really? Let's bring in our cassette. I don't even know where it's at. I have mine and it's hilarious Yeah, and I'm like hi, and if there's any hot this is what I said because I just found it recently you're seven years old Seven years old and you're asking for hot guys. I said are there any hot swinging guy If there's any hot single guys, I'm free. I said that. I'm like eight. Is that a Ho Chi Mara? I'm like, what am I talking about? I'm eight. That is crazy. I'm gonna bring it. We're gonna do it. It'll be funny. If you're funny, that meant you guys would like it. You'd laugh. You'd get Emily at eight. Okay. Do your Emily. Per your quest, I'll keep it short. I did say that a few weeks ago that a lot of the letters are super long to the pages and it's just easier. We can just kind of

like to make it more shorter. Per your quest, I'll keep it short. Love your show. Love your show. Come to dinner when an organ. Me. I'm a chick happily married to a wonderful man who happens to have a great ponytail. Oh no. Ten years together. Jobs, kids, laundry, crazy, busy, and fabulous sex. Recommend waiting for the right guy. Husband and I recently had first swingers, swingers club experience. Watch a lot of hot bodies having great sex. We see swingers club ponytail. I'm just saying, I'm right every single time. Oh my God. you're the one you're right on. But I don't know any fingers with ponytails.

I know a lot of swear. I don't, but it's funny. This is hilarious because that is what you say. And that is always says it all fingers with ponytails. Okay, we watched a lot of hot bodies. I didn't even catch that. We had to watch a lot of hot bodies having great sex. We had monogamous sex with each other in an open playroom. I liked watching doing, but as a chick, not

so interested in PV sex with another two personal and penis vagina sex with someone else. Also, condoms great and stranger sex, but what about SDDs, nonetheless? Can't get around my concerns. Fluid is fluid, and if you're doing it right, not all fluid is contained in a condom. Our swingers simply willing to accept the risk. Can you interview swingers and please address the elephant in the room only want to catch a fun time. Chicken organ. I think they're just willing to take the risk. We have we have had swingers on the show. We've had charisma on the show a bunch and she's a swinger and I mean I've been to sex parties like they have condoms everywhere

but she's right. I mean if if you are really getting into it, there's fluids that just come out of everywhere that you have to be careful, but it's just like having sex with a stranger. You just have to, I'm sure that is a big risk and that would make me nervous too. Just random sex, but I would for sure use a condom and just maybe you don't do those things

that leave you open to risk. You just maybe just do oral, I don't even know. I mean, there's so many things that leave you at risk risk. You just maybe just do orals, I don't even know. I mean, there's so many things that leave you at risk now, even having oral sex, you know, use dental dam if you're performing oral sex on a woman. Do you know what dental dam is, right? Yes. Anyway, I would just be really careful,

but I don't know. I could interview some more swingers, a year swinger. You wanna come on the show? We've had a few swingers on over at the time. Good more swingers. Well, I love the swingers. Feedbackatsexafendly.com. I think, yeah, I've met had a few swingers on over the time. Get more swingers. Well, I love the swingers. Feedback at section family.com. I think, yeah, I've met a ton of swingers.

I've had swingers pick up on me, but I didn't know they were swing at the time. I was like, when I had my 20s, this couple invited me over for dinner and made me dinner. And it was just three of us and I remember thinking, God, they must really like me. But it wasn't until years later that I realized that they were trying to have sex with me. Really? But I didn't get any encouragement.

Did they go have a beard? No. He didn't have a beard or a tummy tan. Did he have a tan? Was he really tan? He was not tan. I'm just kidding. Why?

Did all the stereotypes? I know. I'm a swinger. We're going to go to Swing a Party one time and you'll see. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Better relationships equal better sex. St. Clair Institute, the leader in sex education products for adults, has been saying it for over 20 years. I've seen some of their DVDs and I highly recommend them. Find St. Clair's ad on my products page and my website, sexwithemily.com

and say 50% off any one item when you put in Emily 50 at checkout. Enjoy the show. I promise your sex life will improve. Okay, hey Emily menist what up? So here's my take on the ejaculation on the woman's face thing. Okay. Women like Emily as she had said, like receiving oral sex for the most part. For those that do, remember that men bury their faces in them. Your guests have mentioned the chin technique and the last one from Emily Sucks class mentioned the nose and just loving the guy using their whole face. I fully support this in life and do it as well.

So if I do and the woman has an orgasm, she essentially has orgasm down my face, even if she is not a female, ejaculated, her juices are there. So if the guy wants to return the favor, what is the big deal? Tit for tat. It's not always about something degrading. It's not always about some degrading thing. It's

about enjoying each other as much as you can. So if you want your man to throw his face at you and make you feel wonderful, you should do the same. That's my two cents hope is what hope all is well. Jason from Baltimore. We are from the down. He's from the down. I know. He's he writes as he's ran us before. So yeah, He's saying that a man when man like women who are giving advice to men about oral sex are like get in there with your face Your tongue your mouth like get in there like bury your face and I think that meant he's saying a lot of men do that I don't find a lot of men do that and I wish they did But anyway, and then he's saying that that essentially is is is ejaculating on the face But woman if you're in a woman she has no reasonm so you should just be able to ejaculate on to her face

Yeah, I I think it's I don't think that those I think it's Don't know. What are you talking about because there's something much more aggressive about a man about a man ejaculating on your face I'm not saying I'm not judging it. I'm not saying I'm saying I'm saying I'm not saying for against this very loving. It's just more abrupt. What? I'm just saying it's more abrupt. Because a woman is like this beautiful slow. Oh my god. She has a sore guess and it's like there's like birds chirping in the background and I'm saying oh wow. Oh my god. I don't think that they're the same but it's a very interesting analogy and I appreciate it Jason from, from what I'm saying. It's a right analogy is what it is. It sort of is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, And I love about Jason. Is that he brought up the two techniques. My charisma was on the show and she talked about her special chin technique when she goes

down on women. And then Sarah was on the show and she was talking about the nose technique. Really? I love that people are getting the techniques. So it makes me so happy. Okay. Jason's awesome. Jason, you rock my world.

Hey Emily, I'm a new listener but quickly getting through the past podcast and your show is very interesting to me. I would like to weigh in on two topics. In a recent show, you would a listener ask how he might bring up hair removal to his wife. I don't know why this guy is so afraid to bring it up with his wife, chances are she doesn't like the hair at all and would love it if he paid for the laser hair removal.

Secondly, I would like to put an opinion on the use of vagina on your show. I just heard the show with your dumb friend from Sex Class Sarah, and a topic was briefly mentioned. Volvo is the world that should be used by you and menace. To call the entire female genitalia area that vagina sounds very naive and I would expect more from someone who's being educated in sex studies and who is a career based on the topic. I have a lot's say on this. Would you refer to the entire nether region of a manace's

penis including the testicles? No, why not refer to a woman's pussy as her clit? To refer to this part of a woman by one of the parts that makes it the whole, I feel, is to give the vagina the respect that he says pussy, the respect that it deserves. Not to mention the credibility that you deserve and seem to be striving for

by using more clean language during the podcast, except for while I was just reading your letter. Words mean everything, and using the appropriate words only gets a point across butter. It's a podcast for crying a lot. Why in the topic of words, I would like to speak to menace on this. How is horny and bang the same? Horny means you really feel like banging. Bang means you are satisfying that desire spoken of when using the word horny, not the same. Get it straight. One more thing, orgasm isn't the act of spurting your gizz everywhere in the entire experience.

If you want to know where to blow your load, then ask. Don't ask, where should a guy orgasm? Emily even was confused by this question. Thanks for reading my rant. I love the show, just some pet peeves coming out, I guess. Brian. Okay, Brian, here's the thing. Here's the first thing.

Laser hair removal, yeah. I mean, hopefully he would pay for it. That'd be a great Valentine's Day present. A Christmas gift, if she's interested first thing. Laser hair removal. Yeah, I mean, hopefully he would pay for it. That'd be a great Valentine's Day present. A Christmas gift if she's interested in it. Secondly, okay, this is what this came up in sex school in Sarah. And I don't know if you remember this, but we touched on this that you really the proper term for vagina is vulva because it's the vagina is the vagina is so many things. It's your reproductive organs, it's the clitoris, and that you should actually, like all of our sex school teachers said, vulva instead of a vagina.

I'm just having a hard time getting used to it. I'm not totally, I mean, I know that's true, but you all are getting vagina more, like when I say vagina, you know what I mean. But technically, he is right, Brian. I appreciate it. And, but I just, I haven't adopted that yet. But maybe one day I'll become really sexually PC and then I'll get it all right. Yes. And back to you, did

you say that banging and horny was the same thing? I don't remember that. I don't remember saying that. Okay. But maybe I take to be his notes. So maybe I referred to I want to bang somebody or you want to. I don't believe't believe but horny you know what horny means Yeah, but If you want to if you want to bang somebody that wouldn't that mean you are horny Yeah, I guess so I guess would mean you're horny if you want to bang but I want to say I'm banging You wouldn't say I'm hornying someone. Yeah, I want to say I'm banging somebody right now and then saying that I'm horny That doesn't make sense. But if I say I

Want to bang somebody that means I am horny right so I don't get maybe I I don't know menace just one of your things people love people love talking about what menace says all right, okay This is from Kalamazoo Michigan. Great hand job debate. My wife of three years gave me one and it was great. Use plenty of lube and we kissed the whole time, but I would have preferred a BJ. PS, you're way hotter than Courtney Cox. Love the show, Mark.

In Kalamazoo Michigan, he preferred a blowjob to a... And job. Wow. Yeah, and I'm more out of the corner. New scratch. Whatever, would you know that my friends are obsessed. This isn't happening for like 10, 15 years that everyone thinks I look like Courtney Cox. Like at that all the time, like your Courtney Cox.

And then apparently, cool her down. My friends, my two of my best friends called me separately saying, yeah, it is I cannot watch these are my best friends. And they're like, I cannot watch her without thinking it's you. They're like, it is so you the way she moves. And people you say this when friends was on. And I watched it and I don't see me in her. Really it's you. They're like, it is so you the way she moves and people you say this when friends was on and I watched it and I don't see me in her. Really?

Do you see it? You probably don't watch her. I don't watch Kugurg. They were like, the way she talks, the way she moves, the way her mannerisms are so you anyway. And then people think I look like her but I don't see that at all either. Anyway, that's just a little thing.

If you're watching Kugurg town apparently, that's me. Have you seen Kugurg town? No, I haven't seen that before. So I watched it. I watched it down a little bit. I don't know. No, no. She's a little tight, but sometimes sometimes.

Yeah, I have my moments. Probably not anymore since she got a divorce. Okay. Slorn. Oh, that's right. Since he admitted to Howard Stern that he had to fare. Yeah. She probably being what's his name.

They were always spotted together before they got married. George Clooney. Oh, I'd bang him. Her, her and Jennifer and Son used to go on like dates together. All of them. They would like go on private jets and go places. I don't know what that was all about. Wait, with other with George Clooney. Just just George Clooney and them too. Oh, wow. How do you know this? Cause I don't know. I keep on the pop culture. I have a TV. I mean, it was. But this was a long this? I'm getting a television, especially with the bravo show happening like I feel like I need to watch TV. And I need a set of Apple TV in there. Can you do this for me? Yeah. Because this way you can even listen to the podcast

on your TV with the Apple TV. That would be cool. Yeah. People, there's so many ways to listen to the podcast now. a lot of people are doing it Stitcher at Jeff M so many money for you together day Okay, this is a okay, here's an email. Manus is for you. Sorry Emily after hearing the last podcast I think that menace needs to get his head checked out He likes to taser his nuts, but hates don't women play with them I think he has a screw loose in his head Maybe he should have the woman tasers nuts for him and he will like it people never listen

Not like I wanted to taser my nuts. It was just Willingly he was on the radio and they made him taser to I fuck I freaking waxed menace Not personally. Yeah, you guys should go back to the what just search for the bikini wax or waxing show and and it was like probably show number 50 and we had a Premiere bikini waxer come in and we got menace waxed in the studio. Yeah, how was that men? I'm gonna do anything for a video. We should have you do something else. What do you want me to do? I don't know. I think I want you to let someone give you a hand job and then report back That how great it is. How about a prostitute or something?

A prostitute? I can't do it. Not a prostitute. A sexual surrogate who's really good at sex. I can get somebody to give me a hand job. No problem. Okay, this is um, I want one now.

No, you don't. Okay, this is from Susan, my mother. To me? No. This is a text that my, I thought you would, this is actually for menist only because I thought you would appreciate it because you think I'm technically

Yeah, challenged which I'm so not but I'm better than most people, but I have still issues Yeah, my mom wrote hi Emily This is me talking from my iPhone and it's being translated into email Which I can send you instead of texting and tapping out a message you can record a message This is like the coolest thing I've ever seen so I just wanted to let you know that your mother is the queen of cool sent from my iPhone. Nice. You know what you can do? Does she have an iPhone 4? No, I think she's got the other one. 3D? Oh, damn it. Isn't that funny that my mom sent that to me last night? My mom's the queen of cool. She's so cute. I wish she had an iPhone 4 because then her and I can

face time. You'd want to face time with my mom. Have you ever met her? Uh, I believe I have. Yeah, you did. Do you remember she was on the show like years ago? Yeah, yeah. There's also if you want to search for my mom, she did a show with me. I'm so waned for the sex tape. She's gonna let me see it.

I know, my mom admitted, oh, this is a video on my YouTube channel. My mother admits to me, we're like having, she's on the air with me. And we're happy we're doing the show. And we're talking, someone calls in and says something about wanting to make a sex tape This is when we're doing a live-collin show We want to do a sex tape with their partner and I was like God. Yeah, I don't know. I can't imagine doing that

Can you mom and she's like? Well, maybe I did and I was so she and my stepdad made a sex tape and then they destroyed it like 20 years ago But I mean really mom you made a sex tape like where was I my mom's look that's why I am the way I am Yeah, my mother who's my mom's making now. I'm just kidding Yeah, but my mom's cool. I'm just telling you if you do get some guy that you're into You might have to switch to the iPhone because I know you like long distance relationships right for some reason So you're gonna have to get an iPhone 4. Why?

Can you do that with a droid? Uh, yeah, actually you can. You can use QIK.com. But how close are you? Can you see them very well? Yeah, it's like, it's perfect. I mean, I Skype all the time. It's perfect.

I love Skyping. I Skype with my nieces. Yeah, if you have a droid, QIK.com. And then do people have Sex that way face time sex. Well, there's even services where you can sign up and get chicks the FaceTime with no But do couples who are to long distance? Well my my buddies in a band and he said he's gonna use it a lot when When he goes on tour really? Yeah, so I have to have done that. I've never done Skype sex, but it's like, I probably could get into it, but I can't. I would not do it just because you can screenshot everything.

Right. You know, it's so easy to screenshot stuff. But it doesn't record stuff. So if we have any like hot listeners that wanna FaceTime with me, perfect, that's fine. You can do your thing, but. We should fix you up. Yeah.

I'm not going to be seen on camera. Okay. Oh, you mean they could do a screen grab? Yeah, they can grab a picture. Can you do that for your iPhone? You can, it's super easy. How much Android can you do that? From a droid.

I don't know how to do it. This isn't as I was getting the technology. I don't know how to do it on a droid, but I'm sure you can. Okay. Smartphone talk with Emily. We talk on Android, but I'm sure you can. Okay. Smart phone talk with Emily. We talk about our phones every week. It comes in.

Okay. Here's one more. Just found your podcast. Very excited about looking around. I really identified with Lauren. Totally agreed with much of what she said. Even first time was the same. Okay.

No water bed in my shirt was on inside out, not backwards. I found listening to be empowering, motivating, and I'm gonna be more like Lauren, not settling. Thanks Emily and Lauren from Melissa. So Lauren was a show that I did. Probably about a month ago, this is the shows that I do where I just interview a woman for 30 minutes about her sex life, and everyone loved the show at Lauren. So you can search for that if you wanna find it,

but it's pretty intense, like she gets into all of her sexual escapades and experiences and all that. So, okay, let's get into some sex tips. Okay, what do you got? This is what I got. Thanks for asking. Five women approved secrets about breasts. Because let me tell you what I'm doing this. And I might even do another quickie show about breasts because I feel that men, while

they like breasts in theory, they like talking about the size, they want their girlfriends or whatever to get breasts enlargements, they don't actually know anything about the breasts. They actually don't touch them enough. They're not all men. But I think that there is a dearth of men who know how to play with the breasts. So I'm giving some info. All right.

Here's five secrets. Number one, women don't think we're total pigs about this. Women don't think that men are total pigs about this. Three-quarters of the woman asks, thinks men's fascination with breasts is harmless. 70% assume most guys are boo-men. I love it when men look at my breasts. Says Rachel, 23, it makes them feel powerful.

There's really no excuse for not being courteous or maintaining eye contact with women. So mind your manners, revel and breast privately respect them publicly and revere the woman who bring them into your life for what would she be for what would life be without them. So we don't think it's bad that you stare at our breasts. That's the first one. But we don't want you to be a pig about it, but it's okay that you appreciate our breasts and tells that you like our breasts. Many women, I'm too many women love their breasts more than you do.

Most of the women survey consider their girls, their breasts, to be part of their sexual identity as opposed to fashion accessories or mere party parts. 62% think it's more exciting to pull off their tops and their bottoms. And 78% prefer the women on top of this one because it shows off their breasts better during sex. A woman should be proud of her breasts. Their miracles of evolution as versatile as a Swiss army knife, baby feeder pleasure-enhanced compliments grabber. They often use them to their advantage too. 87% of women we surveyed think women who make

an effort to show off their breasts receive preferential treatment. So we love our breasts. Yeah, they do receive. I think do. I don't, you know what? I'm not a big like show off my breast person, but I feel like I should sometimes. Like whenever I do, you do get more attention. Like men do stare at your breasts, but I'm not a big like show off my breast person, but I feel like I should sometimes. Like whenever I do, you do get more attention. Like men do stare at your breasts, but I'm more conscious about it. I mean, I don't wear low-cut shirt a lot, but I should. Why, for what?

I think I'd like men staring at my breast more. This is making me work. I don't know if this was all men, but it's like a tractor beam, even if they're not trying to look for some reason, their eyes just go there. Go there when you don't. When you first see a woman, so you know how whenever you see a woman, you picture having sex with her. So do your eyes go like, do they look in her face, then her boobs, then her behind? How do you do that? You know, men have their own formula. Like,

like I always turn around and see men checking out my ass. Like that happens to me all the time, like walking and then I'm like, you could see the guy in the mirror. You know, like if you're walking past the storefront and you could see him turn around. Yeah. Because you're already past. But if you're talking to a girl, like are you in your mind, like figuring out how can I sneak a peek here and there everywhere? No, I don't get that much into it. But I'm really, I was actually really embarrassed this one time. I was meeting this girl for the very first time and we just decided to meet up. She was like a friend of a friend

and we talked on the internet and said, hey, you know, I'm gonna go to this movie screen and you wanna come. And so she comes to the movie screening and this first time I've ever seen her, right, in person. And she's wearing like a low cut top, and I try to like, to stare at her face, but my eyes just like went down. Well, that's as she was walking to me. So she totally saw me like looking at her breasts, and I didn't like,

well, she was wearing the shirt, though, where they were hanging out. Yeah, but it's like my eyes drawn down, and I couldn't bring my eyes back up fast enough. Yeah, you know, so she probably totally thought I was a perv. I mean, we're still. Yeah, but she was wearing a shirt with her breasts. And women who wear provocative clothing know that they're wearing provocative clothing. And it's for a reason.

And I'm not saying it's for men only, but I'm saying a lot of times women feel empowered by showing off their breasts. They're like, I feel soup. Like, you know how every woman has their thing that makes them feel sexy? Like, some women feel sexy when they're wearing a low cut shirt. So she knew she's like, I don't know what my thing is.

But I feel sexy when I wear heels. I wear heels every single day. I mean, you've never not seen me wear like boots with heels. No. I guess I think boots are sexy because I wear them every day. Yeah. And I always have five in heels on. And so to me that feels sexy.

If I'm not in heels, I'm not sexy. So some women like when they're not showing their cleavage, they don't feel sexy. Or someone when they're not showing their butts. So we they don't feel sexy or someone when they're not showing their butt. So we all have the things that it's not just for men's attention, but it like empowers us. Okay, number three, women can be deeply conflicted about their breasts. As women grow up emotions related to their breasts set in, some women love their breasts.

The fact that breasts are ever changing only complicates, only complicates matters. The average woman changes cup sizes six times during her life. Monthly cycles, birth control pills, weight changes, pregnancy, breastfeeding, all after the size-shape and feel-abrests. The sexiest thing a woman can wear is her self-confidence. If she's least bit insecure, then work to help her feel good about her body. So, number four, embed you know nothing about them. This is to men. Men tend to have two touching defaults. They tend to either touch her the way they enjoy being touched, which usually means firmer or rougher, or the way a previous partner liked it.

I say that all the time men always do what the last girl liked. In either case, you may not like it that way at all. Every woman will feel differently about her breasts. Here's how to deal. Every time a woman takes out for a brine, your presence wipe boy, all memory of previous breasts. You've never seen a breast before.

This works even if she or partner, even if she's a partner of many years, start over by pretending you've never seen them before. You learn and relearn how someone monesize and squeals when you touch them. I think that is so true. I feel like men, like they kind of touch them and they move them around and then they go and they're like, I know, when we have exacts, like I just think that I have several friends who can actually have orgasms when their breasts are touched. And I know that it feels really good. And I feel I hate those women.

And I know that it feels good for me. And I feel like that they don't get touched enough during my sexual excavations. And I'm just saying that's, oh, I'm like, why did I get my breasts? Why did I go right from my vulva? Okay, number five. Okay, number five. What apps? Okay, number five.

Breasts can intensify a couple of emotional bonds. Breasts aren't just about sex. When you recognize that, we are very appreciative. Learning to de-sexualize moments of great intimacy. For example, while you're sitting on the couch watching TV, the simple act of laying with your head and your chest can give a woman a powerful maternal feelings towards you in a good way. Another type of a woman complains about her breast being sore or offered to massage them. Again, in a non-sexual way, if you can, that is breast massage can feel incredible

and it's not something we can ask for at the spa. That's all really true. And I've got like 15 more pages of breast stuff, which I'm not going to get into now because we have to go, but I'm going to do a special, quicky show on breasts. So thanks everyone for listening to the show and anything else from you. No, email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. Sex toys aren't just for women. Go to sexwithemily.com slash flesh light to discover the best sex toys for men. The flesh light, a lot of guys say it feels even better than sex and it helps build stamina, meaning it will last longer in bed.

Go to sexwithemily.com slash flesh light to see my flesh light recommendations and get one tonight. Perhaps play a little game called just a tip. Just for a second, just as you have to. Hey, this is Jordan Harbinger, host of the Art of Charm Podcast, the number one dating and relationship advice podcast in iTunes. I'm Emily Morris, host of the Sex with Emily podcast, the number one sex and relationship podcast on iTunes and it's sexwithemily.com. And this is just the tip. All right, Emily, boobs.

What's the deal? A lot of girls want one thing. A lot of girls want something totally different. Are there guidelines? I feel like sometimes I'm lost when I get a new pair. Me a new pair of breasts, you don't know what to do about them. Well, here's the thing, every woman is different. Some women love their breasts touch.

They want them to be lavish with attention. In fact, a nipple orgasm, most pop popular orgasm is on the planet however some women they don't want to touch it off for women okay okay so the deal that yeah exactly is for women but i think with every new sexual act every new pair of boobs you run into you gotta start slowly because you don't know what kind of pressure she likes so you can start like rubbing her nipples very tenderly gently start gentle and see how she reacts

cut her breasts you don't want to like we don't rip them out you don't want to like really you don't want to rip the boobs out no you want to lightly graze your finger tip around the breast and then you might decide if she's cool with that then you might as some light tugging and other nipple manipulations you might have nipple clamps by the end of the night. They're just thinking like jack the ripper mode. Like you don't want to rip the breast set. Oh, that's what I've been doing wrong. Exactly, dude. That's why you didn't get a second date.

No, but it's all about paying attention to how she is reacting. So she's moaning when you're ripping her boobs at the end of the right track. She's leaving the house running out the door. Not so much. That's right, got it. Excellent. So look for a verbal cues, size, faster, sharper, and take a breath, look at her body language, and you don't have to be a mind reader,

but a body reader could score you major points. Excellent. If you guys want to learn more from the art of charm about dating, relationships, and even networking for business, visit us at theartofcharmpodcast.com or check us out on iTunes and follow me on Twitter at theartofcharm. And check out the sector of the M.A. Podcasts, it's sexwithm.A.com and on iTunes, if you want to have the best sexier life that is, also follow me on Twitter at sexwithm.A.