Sex With Emily - SWE: Alpha vs. Beta Male

Episode Date: May 16, 2012

The first video promo for Missed Advised premiered last night (Emily makes out with two guys in it). Emily is also throwing a Kegel Kegger to celebrate her birthday and her iPhone app Kegel Camp. While you’re doing your Kegel exercises, win sexy prizes from Good Vibrations, drink some beer (or the beverage of your choice), and do a keg stand or two.Emily discusses the crazy places people want to have sex and professes her love for hotel room sex.Emily and Menace debate the Alpha Male vs. the Beta male-- who is better in bed and who is a better mate. Also, how to get out of the dreaded "friend zone." Nice Guys don't have to finish last, except in bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mark our secret institutions Betruma eyes they call them a lie gone. Hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got every stand. It's so nice. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, all right? What do you mean, like, laundry?

It shrinks. And we not talk about sex so much. Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm off here. So, I'm going. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex. You're listening to Sex with Emily. You're listening. No, I just maybe just in a healthy way. We're talking about to that. You're listening. No, I just maybe just in a happy we're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. I already started off a solid show. You're what? It was my fault. I just didn't think I had the volume up but it's always your fault. Oh yeah, it was my fault when it comes to time. Why you

mess it now. It's always my fault when it comes to technical issues. Oh my God. I'm so excited to be here. So we're starting starting a few minutes late today if you happen to watch us live. Today's show is going to be about the alpha versus the beta male, which is like the good boy versus the bad boy. A lot of people email us about that. That's going to be interesting. We've got sex in the news. We've got tons of stuff to talk about today.

OMG. I'm sorry, I don't like saying that out loud. Did I just say OMG? OMG. Can we strike that from the record? Can we edit that out? No, that's fine. So you can say that kind of stuff Did I just say OMG? OMG. Can we strike that from the record? Can we edit that out? No, that's fine. So you're a chick, you can say that kind of stuff.

I know, I know. So yeah, things are crazy. They actually posted the first video promo. The first video promo of Miss Advised coming out June 18th on Bravo Television and Menace Grace the promo. No, dude, it's your show, man. It's my show, I know. But it's good, it's good.

I make out with two guys. I know. I don't even want to talk about that, but you guys got to go watch the video. You got to go watch the video. You can find it on my Facebook page, Sex with Emily, or bravotv.com, and search misadvised. Yeah, it's right there on the page. It's right there on the page

I've been I like searching all day long when I have free time just to see like what new things pop out about the show So I could have you find anything you know? Yeah, I mean, there's like blogs talking about it and things like that I mean they just give the rundown of only the information that's already been out there. But I can't wait till it airs. Until it airs and then people start doing reviews. They start trashing me and saying, I know, I don't know how you're gonna take it because you're the one that takes that kind of stuff personally. Me, I don't care about that kind of stuff.

Everyone's gonna love you. I think that people are gonna, it's, I get that now though. I mean, I feel like being a public person, a public person that I learned this 10 years ago when I made my documentary. I directed a documentary years ago called See How They Run. And I realized at that point that half the people are going to like you and half the people

are going to hate you. People hate Oprah. People hate puppies. People don't like everything. And so half the people hate me. I'm gonna have to do with it. And the internet is one of the most ugliest places on the... People are gonna be out of here, like, what's she wearing? Why does she, you know?

It's so funny, because there's this radio forum for industry people, and people always hide behind their like secret usernames and all of the stuff. I put my name white menace, because what I'm gonna say, it's coming from me, you know, I'm not gonna hide and all of the stuff. I put my name white menace because what I'm gonna say, it's coming for me. I'm not gonna hide and talk crap about people. Good for you. Good for you for doing that.

Yeah, it's funny. So yeah, I think it's hard. Because I can try to. I know when you put really. Yeah, but you know what, if people are gonna attack me, they better get ready because I'm gonna come back at them. Like no other. Will you protect me if people are mean to me?

Oh yeah, yeah. I mean if we're together in the forum, but you know, I mean, this is a pretty big forum. It's at national television. So, you know, you're not gonna be able to keep up with, you know, there's gonna be a lot of people that are just gonna, who are gonna talk crap.

And they're gonna tweet you talking crap and it's gonna be it's gonna be ugly man But you know, you just gotta let it roll off your shoulder. Just don't even care about it. Hopefully a lot of people will like me too Yeah, I think they will they love me Yeah, no, I I feel good about it. I just have to be prepared for being a really public like like 10 o'clock Monday nights June 18th June 18th June 18th is the premiere date on Bravo TV 10 o'clock at night, following the new episode, the new season of Real Housewives of New York. And do you know what's crazy is, you know, on Bravo, they run these shows like all the

time. I know. So it won't just air like that one time. It could air the next day. Air all the time. I know. Well, sometimes they air it at a time and then they'll just run it all night. They'll just run it back to back. Really? So the season premier. Okay. So that'll be interesting.

It will be interesting. And I'm wonder what's going to be on the first episode or not. So I've seen it. You're right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But I just I just wonder what's going to happen. I mean, don't don't I will get a reveal my brothers in it and you're in it. Yes I love your brother. He's hilarious. He actually just like me. I know it's like having two Two of me and I love that you loved him and my brother and my mom I mean and my mom's coming tomorrow, but we won't get to see her because we're going to Napa Sonoma Of course we are and then another thing is oh tonight I'm going to the cast or theater to see Andy Cohn, who's also from Braddah.

Oh, yeah. She wrote a book called Most Talkative, I guess. And so I got tickets to go. That's cool. And it goes to him there. Yeah. And that'll be fun taking a friend and- Oh, taking a friend, huh? No, just my friend who's obsessed with him and I got our tickets for a birthday like

a long time ago when it first came out. Andy Cohn is amazing. You love him? Yeah, love him. He's hilarious. Not ever. A lot of people know like every time I told someone I was doing a show for Bravo, they were like, are you going to be on anycon show?

Because he does that nightly. Yeah, I mean, that's the big thing. You know, you know you're big on Bravo if you get to go on his show. I think I might, right? Yeah. If the show blows up, you know, I don't want to I just don't want to get too cocky about it I'm just gonna say oh it's gonna be the best show ever blah blah for bravo and then it tanks and then you like oh I know What if it tanks

Hey, then you know what I was like what abs I'm used to things taking being in their tape But your entertainment business is the hardest business. It's just all you have to do is deal with rejection all the time Yeah, I'm used to it. I actually think I'm very thick-skinned, believe it or not. And another thing I've announced, did you get my invite to my keggele keger? I invited you on Facebook. Oh, then it's on Facebook, I don't see it. See, I got to send out a separate email because people don't read their Facebook. No.

Okay, so I have like 5,000 friends on there. Me too, I get 100 invites a day and I can't read them. I'm going to do a separate email. But if you're in San Francisco on May 31st, it's my birthday, June 2nd, but we're having a party at Project One in Patreot Hill. You can look it up. And it's from 7 to 10. It's a Kegel Kegger.

Meaning we're celebrating my app, Kegel Camp with good vibrations. We're going to give away sexy toys, sexy prizes. And it's just a big cool bar that my friend owns. It's like a lounge, art space, music, all that stuff. It's gonna be super, super fun. And since it's your birthday, what size Christian Louis Vuitton's you were? Seven.

Seven. Okay. So if anyone wants to buy me a Christian repair, I'm not buying your repair, but you're not buying your repair. I would pair of Christian, you're not buying me a pair. I would if I could, but you know, we don't. You don't have $800 to spare. Not actually 100. I'm going to Vegas this weekend again. I know. I can't even go Vegas again.

I can't even go Vegas again. Shit, damn it. So I really want to pair Christian, new buttons. And then I would also, what else, what else? So yeah, good vibrations is a sponsor of my Kagel Kegger. They're also amazing resource, goodvibes.com to buy sex toys, to buy porn. Whatever it is that you want, I'm in love with the Jiju Mini.

Jiju, J-E-J-O-U-E Mini. It's an amazing new vibrator that I got from them, but if you use coupon code GVMly15, you get 15% off everything. So that's a deal with that. What else? Oh man, I just... Have a lot going on.

Yeah, I've had this car on loan, which I often loved forever, but I had to give it back. And one of the agreements was, if anything happened to it, I would have to pay for it. Shoot. And I didn't see that there was a neck in the windshield. A neck, big dick, big deal. So now what? I got to be what sucks is that like, oh, you had to have

your insurance pay for it. But yesterday evening, I changed my insurance because I don't have to car anymore. I changed it to non-owners insurance. So can you just calm and calm what? Jesus, that's the worst. But it's not that expensive to place a windshield. Is it? No, it's not that expensive. But if it's like you need the official windshield that goes for the car. Right. That's annoying. They lent you the car. They should just friggin pay for the windshield. But I understand. You know, so are you going to bring chicks to Vegas this week and you bring sand to the beach? No, no, no. I the reason I'm going back to a real is one for the billboard. And but the major part is my boy, my buddy, never been to Vegas before.

And he has to go for billboard. Okay. So he's begged me to go with him and I go, okay, fine, I'll go. Bag you. But I'm just like, I'm really moving moving in its Wednesday for my last, you know? I know, you're still hungover. I'm a little hungover. I had a friend over last night, a girlfriend,

and we drank like a bottle of wine, and I had little snacks, and I'm hungover this morning, because I don't drink that much. I must have had three glasses of wine. Uh-huh. And I was hungover, but it was really fun. We sat and talked about girly things.

I haven't done that in a while, because I've been so busy working and being Not having fun. Yeah, not that I don't have fun, but I wasn't having as much fun and she's one of my bestest friends So it was very it was a lovely lovely evening at my house besties besties Did you guys make out we didn't make out no, but do you like that the trailer mentions my threesome? Yeah, it matches your threesome. You're making out. Oh, I don't even. People, you just gotta go see this video. I look like a slot.

You're like the only one making out people in the trailer. I know, two people. Yeah. And I talk about a threesome. Yeah. Whatever, I'm a sex expert. I've got to experiment.

It's all for research. So we've got some sex in the news for you today. Yeah. Yeah. People like the line in you today. Yeah. Yeah. I people like the line in between you and us like talking. Which what do I what do I what do I say I said don't you think time's running out and then you go then you go what I'm you think I'm dead or something. That's kind of funny. Yeah. Yeah. Medicine and fun to me and saying I should have kids or something like that right. I Wasn't the conversation? I don't remember.

Okay, whatever. Watch it, watch it, watch it. We were drunk, panty droppers. Hell yeah, all day. Oh shit, I gotta tell you something. Okay. For again, Bethany, I was watching her show for like five minutes. Bethany has a show on Bravo.

And she was saying something about a panty dropper. She goes, I should just name my next alcohol drink a panty dropper. What? Yeah, it's where to go. She goes, I should just name my next alcohol drink a panty dropper. What's the way? It's where the God she's still from us. What? Because we talk about the panty dropper all the time.

And we were drinking panty droppers at night and I was drunk. We got that on tape. We got on tape too. So it's fine. We talked about the panty dropper, so it's all fine. Okay, we've got some sex in the news for you. A recent Derrick's condoms survey reveals the craziest locations where men and women want to have sex. In a recent survey, Derrick's aunt condoms found that while

33% of women fantasize about a sexual rendezvous underneath the Eiffel Tower, 31% of men think about doing it in the White House. Whatever. That's kind of doing it in the White House. I don't know. Who the hell even thought of that? Why would you want to doing it in the White House. I don't know who the hell even thought of that. Why would you want to do it with the secret service around? No, that's a work. Sex in the White House, look what happened to Bill Clinton. That's a bad fantasy. I've never even fantasized that or even thought about that one time in my life.

Do you have fantasies about having sex in some random places? No, like hotel rooms, somewhere. I love hotel rooms, sex. And then you can order room service and go to sleep and watch cable. It's awesome. Okay, 70-year-old British Virgin looks for a suitor. A cavalry singer, the sexational Pam, or perhaps interested suitor should call her Pam Shaw, her real name, has announced that at 70 years old, she's ready to lose her virginity,

the UK Sun reports. Shaw says she believes in waiting for marriage, but Mr. Wright never showed up. Is that kinda sad? She's been waiting for 70 years. 70 years. But at least she wants to give it up now. She's gonna have sex and be like, holy, holy, mull me.

I can't believe. She's like 50, she'll be like, ah. I wonder like what happened at 70. And then 60 hit, you're like, whoa. And then she waited till seventy she's a cabaret singer you think that she'd have lots of suitors it's wrong fault okay uh... next one is a great article uh... kind of better vibrator inspire an

age of great american sucks this was in the Atlantic it's a long article but here's the digest sex toys have transferred transformed into sophisticated and well-designed gadgets that take their inspiration from Apple, not hustler. So you know all the new companies. It's actually a huge profile in Jimmy Jane. One company, Jimmy Jane has a bigger hope that a better machine could be better sex for a repressed nation. Jimmy Jane wants to create a world in which there is no hesitation around sex toys. Placing its products on familiar cultural ground has a normalizing effect. Ethan and Bowden are good buddy who's been on the show.

He's the CEO of Jimmy Jane believes comparing a vibrator to a lifestyle accessory. Someone might pack into their carry-on luggage next to an iPad, shifts people's perceptions about where these objects fit into their lives. And as you know, I'm a huge fan of Jimmy Jane products. Oh my God, you would think there was a guy who would go down on that's how much you thought I know, I know. And if you use coupon code spring, you get $25 off, purchases $100 and more at Jimmy Jane. I'm proud of them.

This is a great article about how they revolutionize toys. And the reason why I always obsess about jimujan toys is because they're really cool. They're really beautiful looking toys that you can leave on your nightstand, and they're not like, you know, they don't look obscene and look like huge penises. Like, they're really pretty and they're nice, and they're fun and they're good sex toys.

So that was a good article. It was all about sex toys and how vibrators are changing the way we think about sex. And half of all Americans have admitted to having a vibrator. Really? Really? So, I mean, you know, they disguise it also with back massagers, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, oh my God.

Direct has a bunch in Walgreens now. Really? Yeah, they've got like full on vibrators. I was stunned. I was in Walgreens last night. And I actually, Direct's just set me 10 of their new vibrators. Uh huh. It's the Vi-1s they was in Walgreens last night. And I actually, Derrick's just set me 10 of their new vibrators. And it's the Vi-1s they sell at Walgreens. You know somebody that designs for Derrick's, right?

Or no, Trojan. Trojan. No, my bad. But Derrick's has these toys, or is it Trojan? Sorry, Trojan, it's Trojan. It's the guy said, yeah. Yeah, he said Derrick's. Trojan is selling vibrators

and they're called intimate massagers. Full on vibrators at Walgreens next to the condoms. I'm telling you, Walgreens is the next sex store. I know, I saw them selling the sex wedge probably four years ago. I'm like, oh, it's a new sex store. I'm gonna review these toys and get back to you because I got a bunch of them to review,

but yeah, you can buy a Walgreens. There was like 68 bucks at Walgreens. I mean, it's like, it's kind of surprising. But that means sex toys are taken over the world. Yeah. You heard it here first. Yeah. That's sex toys.

I've been talking about sex toys at Nazim for seven years. Also, can I share? Sure. Yes. Going back to the TV show real quick. Okay. If Joe MacKale talks about you On the soup. I will die. That's like that's just that's the end all be all

I love it. You don't even watch a soup. You have no reality show break. Yeah, he does reality show break Yeah, yeah, and if he breaks down so if he breaks down a clip from there, I'll die You'll die. I'll die you'll die because he'll be making fun of me. Yeah, he makes fun of everybody, but it's, yeah, it's so good. But it's good for motion. Oh yeah, dude. Dude, I see so many things on the show that you can friggin' laugh at and break down.

Okay. Okay, okay, that's his name, Joe McAll, it's text talk soup. What's it called? It's just called the soup now, but it used to be called talk soup. Thank you. I knew that. It shows that you haven't watched it in 15 years. Nope.

Oh, it was called dog soup 15 years ago. That's the last time I had a TV. OK, Ottawa hosts sex exhibit for students. The Museum of Science and Technology is hosting sex, a tell-all exhibition. It's targeted at children 12 years old and older, but due to graphic displays, the admission was raised 16. It encourages kids to have multiple partners, anal sex,

and we're to get an abortion. It includes Florida ceiling photos of new toddlers, children, teens, adults. This is weird. There is display of flavored and textured condoms rolled over windowedos. There is a climax room with a leather bed, which shows videos of around genitals and orgasms. I don't know how the hell that got

through. I guess they're more liberal in Canada. Yeah. Okay that's what I got for sex in the news. Do you have any sex in the news? No. Just, oh. The Kardashian mom, Kris Jenner, Kris Jenner, sorry, is now giving sex advice. She was like on some show giving sex advice. I don't know what's going on. Why should I take, try and take over my territory? No, no, I just, I don't know why she she's doing this, but they were like promoting it heavily because she's sponsored by this company that Zastra, which is like a what's that? It's like a Zestra, which is like a... What's that?

It's like a hot rock. Yeah, it's like a libido enhancing cream or something for your vagina to have you... Oh, so you can start with our... Yeah, it's for like women who can't, you don't have low libidos and stuff like that. Even though I love the Kardashian family, you know me, I'll never talk bad about them,

but I'm not gonna take any advice from Chris. I would love to have Chris as my manager, because I bet she would be amazing, but I've never been in the situation, but she's not her husband. I can't take any advice. I'm sorry. She didn't have her husband?

Yeah, remember, that's why they were saying L-Cloey's not the real question. Oh, but they don't know if it's true. Well, they don't know about if Chloe's true, but I mean Chris admitted it in our new book that she was sleeping with some hot ladding guy. Who wouldn't, Jesus. I know, right?

Yep, okay. So that's funny, I didn't know that. So I haven't, yeah, I need to watch more TV, I guess, or not, okay. There's gonna be people talking about you. I know you're freaking me out. Why? Because.

Get ready, man. I don't know how to, I don't know how to mentally prepare for this. Do you know what the date is today? What? May what? May 16th. Okay.

Once a show air. June 18th. June 18th. You better start there. I need a volume. Okay, I've got some emails from the peeps. Thanks everyone for emailing us at feedback at sexwithemily.com. Okay. Okay, is that going to work or no, you made a face? No, I'll see if it works. Okay, dear Emily, sorry. Dear Emily, how do I get my boyfriend to be more adventurous in bed? I've tried suggesting different things like light bondage, role play, dress up, and so

on, but he just shrugs it off saying, I'm not really into that, but never suggests, suggests anything we could do instead. Can you help please and thank you, PS, Love Your Show, Jessica from the UK. She's from Essex. We're wick for Essex, which is in the UK. We appreciate our international listeners. Okay, so the first thing is a lot of guys, I think, would like to try stuff that's more adventurous, but maybe when you are saying to him, like, bondage roleplay, dress up, he might not really get how that all goes down, like, like, it might kind of scare him a little bit. So I would say that you said that he hasn't

suggests things that you could do instead, but I'm wondering if you've had the conversation with him, I would take it down a notch and I would say, hey, boyfriend, what's your fantasy? What do you fantasize about? What would you like to do? Talk to me about, you know, what turned you on? He would be like hey, boyfriend, what's your fantasy? What do you fantasize about? What would you like to do? Talk to me about, you know, what turned you on? He would be like, oh no, I just like the old in and out.

But hopefully he'll say more than that and he'll be more adventurous because maybe he's got a fantasy of doing it outdoors or maybe he's got a fantasy. He's just gonna say the butt, this face it already. He might say anal sex, are you down with that? But I think it has to be a conversation rather than you saying,

and because maybe the part of it is that you're like, I want this, I want this, I want this. And he's like, whoa, that's a lot. And I don't know, and I don't get it. A lot of men are intimidated by women being open about what they want in bed. And so I would say there's a way to bring the conversation. So it becomes a conversation more between the two of you

rather than you saying, this is what I need and this is what I want. So you could also just dress up and see, you know, dress up and whatever you want and see, you know, or however, how he likes it, you could bring some bondage and you can try to tie him up and say like, let me just, let me just tie your hands up or put a blindfold around you,

but it sounds like he's not into it. Maybe if you just bring the stuff along and you show him what you're thinking. So I just think you need to give him more information, because I think he's probably fearful and just says no, but you have to get into the conversation. That's what I would say. I wouldn't say that this is doomed yet, but if he says no to everything, then he's just, he sounds like he might be a guy who's not as sexually adventurous. Believe me, there are plenty of them out there. I've dated most of them. And so I would say that you just need to get more information.

If he says no to everything, doesn't want to talk about, doesn't want to talk about fantasies, just wants to be good old in and out missionary, then maybe he's not your guy. Yeah, the dress of stuff, I mean, me as a guy, I'm like, oh, that's kind of dumb, you know? But that's something that could be led eventually to. Yeah, you know, you need something else.

You need to get away. Yeah, yeah. You have to start, like, you gotta start with, you know, like, he's gonna say the butt. Exactly. And then you, let's just say, not every guy wants anal sacs, by the way.

Guys that don't like girls. No, many men don't like anal sacs. Okay, so let's just say he picks anal sacs, just to say say and then he can eventually lead up to the dress up stuff and Things like that, but I think the dress up stuff in the beginning It's like little too girly for guys. Yeah, you mean the role playing or the dressing up Yeah, even though I'm we're gonna get a thousand emails saying oh man. I love role playing. Yeah, but you've probably done a lot more things before You did the role. Yeah, you don't just jump right into it. So I think you guys have got to have like a slower conversation. And yeah, I'm actually developing a new iPhone app. I'd like to mention that

is going to be giving couple suggestions on things they could do to spice up their sex life. And it's coming soon and it's very exciting. I haven't even told you about that. You haven't. Hey Emily, I love the Jimmy Jane candles. Gave my wife a complete rub down with the promise that I would not try anything on her. Oops, all up and down the back and down the legs for half hour off with the shirt and now to the front.

More candle wax and up and down the front now with fermentant pressure on the vagina. I really did not mean to, but now with a slow in and out with my cock for another 20 minutes until I could not take it anymore. She loved it. Work great. Love the candles.

We're still practicing on the cock ring, Ken. So Ken got this stuff from Jimmy Jane, two of my favorite Jimmy Jane products. I don't mean to be like a whole Jimmy Jane commercial, but I love their stuff. They have these massage candles and a lot of people make massage candles. Now they burn at a lower, they're not as, they burn cooler than most candles. And then you can pour, you let it burn for a few minutes and then you can pour the wax on your partner and it turns into the most delicious massage oil

that you can like use as a moisturizer and you can use it as massage oil. And it's really erotic to pour it on your partner. I just did this with my guy the other day because I was like, I want you to experience this candle because the sense is amazing, all the sense that they make. Also, the ring is really cool too,

they're their penis rings. That's good, I'm glad to hear. He emailed me and said he bought it, and I said, okay, great, let me know how it goes. That's how it went. He said he wasn't gonna try to have sex with her, but he got so turned on that he did, and it was all dead. Happy. Yeah. Happy.

Yeah. OK. Emily, did you know the song She Bop by Cindy Lopper is about female masturbation? Listen to the lyrics, and you'll see what I'm talking about. It's masturbation month, so this seemed appropriate. Another one is the song I think I'm turning Japanese, which refers to when you orgasm. Here's the Shibop Lord lyrics, though, that's from Greg.

While I see them every night in type blue jeans and the pages of a blue boy magazine, Hey, I've been thinking of a new sensation. I'm picking up good vibrations. Oops, Shibop, Shibop. Does that sound like it? Did he actually read this or did it somewhere where Cindy Lopper said this? I don't know. Or is he breaking it down himself?

He's breaking down himself. Do I want to go out with a line's, Rohan? Yeah, I want to go south and get me some more. Hey, they say that that's a that a stitch in timesaves. Nine, they say I better stop or I'll go blind. Oh, she bought she bought. Okay, then it is. And then turning Japanese, remember that song?

Yeah. I'm turning Japanese. I think I'm turningops. Okay, then it is. And then turning Japanese, remember that song? Yeah. I'm turning Japanese. I think I'm turning Japanese. Okay, ready? No sex, no drugs, no wine, no women, no fun, no sin, no you, no wondered, stark. Everyone around me is a total stranger, blah, blah, blah. That's why I'm turning Japanese. I think I'm turning Japanese.

I really think so. I don't see how that is, orgas, make, but whatever. Okay, masturbation, but that's what we got for you. All right, that's right now. Well, my sister in Japanese, so I'll ask her. I think that song is kind of right. I was kind of racist. I don't know about that. Maybe. She doesn't take that kind of stuff to offend. That's good. You can offend her all the time and she doesn't care. No, no. When I have questions, she'll just answer them. What was I going to tell you? Oh, I wish Cindy

Lopper would do a Vegas show. I love Cindy Lopper. You think she would? Everyone else is in Vegas now. I would love, love, love to see her. I'm a big Cindy Lopper fan. Does she tour still? Yeah, once in a while. Well, next time she comes here.

We can Cindy Lopper, have you ever seen her concert? No. Love Cindy Lopper. Maybe, maybe in the 80s. Are the 90s? 80s, she's definitely 80s. She did the soundtrack for Goonies, man. Oh, I don't think I ever saw her.

But I loved her. Don't tell me you've never seen the Goonies either. Um, I don't think I rap. What's it about? We can't be friends. No, I've seen it. I've heard of it. You know my memory.

Maybe I saw it. I don't know. Okay. Is one of the best films of all time? Oh, no, it's not. Spielberg produced it. Everything that is one of the best films of all time oh no it's not Spielberg produced it everything that you say is the best film of all time never is tell me what it's one of the most and don't say citizen can't do not say clockwork orange do not say I can't remember magente do not say one of those films that everyone says.

I love all Woody Allen films. Man, how? Really? Anyhow, favorite. Really? Love Woody Allen. Oh my God. You don't?

No. It's just cool to say Woody Allen. No, it's not cool. I grew up, my dad used to take me to Woody Allen movies when I was a little girl when I was like seven. I did not understand them, but he was like, we have to go see Woody Allen. Because my parents were divorced and my dad was like, well, what are we going to do? And every Sunday we get together, we go see Woody Allen

movies. All right. So I love Woody Allen. Okay. Let's get into the show topic. The alpha male versus the beta male. So a lot of people, someone emailed us recently, but we always hear about this like the nice guy is more like the beta male and then that why do girls like bad boys which is like the alpha male. So the alpha male can be identified by his dominant personality, his confidence with women, good looking and good socio-economic status, of course not all these things, but

maybe some. He can be controlling, diminuting, indesirable. He chooses everything as a temporary conquest. He's a hunter. He cares about himself and his needs first. That's sort of a rough, that's sort of the extremist version because you're like alpha in some ways, but you're also beta.

Yeah, because I think it's because I mostly grow with my mom, so that's where I get a little beta. Right, well here's the beta traits. The beta male, why he's the perfect catch. Although we may be more attracted to the alpha male, a beta male makes a better mate. Beta males know how to hasten the greater good. The beta male do more in the house, the bedroom, and has a touch of youthful idealism. The beta male challenges the social order rather than succumbing to it.

The beta male can be identified as someone who is content with non-traditional gender roles and not threatened by intelligent or powerful women. That is true. That's why I think I date more betas. The beta male may have been branded a nerd growing up but as an adult it's thoughtful and introspective. Alpha male secretly fear beta males. But why do women always choose the alpha male?

Some women feel like they need to be rescued. Power is sexy and we are attracted to testosterone to be assured to assess your sense of reality versus fantasy. Realize that sometimes an alpha male is really just an attention seeker who projects false confidence in an effort to mask his need to feel good about himself. Respect yourself enough, not to data manage it, you like dirt, consider dating the nice guys, find interest in goodness and kindness. So that's just talking about the difference between alpha and beta. I think that a lot of men are combination of both those these days.

Hopefully in this society, if you are alpha, you have some of the more, you know, calming beta traits, the more the more feminine, the more the more sensitive traits. Um, I'm just going to say this guys that are betas and they get frustrated because women are going for the alphas. Women are just gonna run through 100 alphas and then they're gonna end up with the beta. That's just life. That's just how it goes. So don't get frustrated with it.

Don't get upset by it. Right. You know, first say what's wrong with me? It's just, bitches are crazy. No, okay, well this is my next part is how beta, man. They don't know how good they got it until they've been dicked over a thousand times. Now, I just think you have to possess

a lot of these traits because I think like you do, there are some things that women like in the alpha male, like I do like a guy who has confidence, who can be identified, who has a dominant personality, but I don't like the guy who's like just a total dick, but I like a guy who's confident with men. So anyway, how can a beta male escape the friend zone? That's the next part.

We always talk about the friend zone, and a lot of guys email us, they're like, every girl wants to be my friend. How the hell do I get out of the friend zone? Yeah. So first, there's actually an article that Amy Laurent, who's the other woman on my misadvised show on Bravo,

was quoted in an article about the friend's own. And she says, test the waters. Amy Lauren, relationship expert and star of Bravo's upcoming series, Miss Advice says, tell your friend something like, gee, if I were dating you, I would do X, Y, and Z and see her reaction to it. So this is your friend that you're dating and you're in the friend zone and you want to date her. I say to her, I would do this, this and that, if we were dating.

If it makes her uncomfortable or she laughs and says, oh, stop with an awkward smile, you may be crossing the boundary and need to respect that she may simply want to be friends with you. But if she seems genuinely interested in how you would treat her, for instance, she asks follow-up questions to your hypothetical scenario, she may already be thinking your boyfriend material. Oh, hey. Hey, so you got to, if you feel like you're in the friends and you've got to get out of it,

you've got to, I don't know if you just need to plant the kiss on her, you need to let her know you like her, or do what Aby says, say that if I were dating you, I would do the X, Y and Z. I'd go down on you for 45 minutes. Something like that. You say, what's up with me, Nio? Dundeele.

Say why are we together, bitch? Yeah. Okay, you listen here, trick. Okay. I'm fin to take you back to the house and do some bad things to you. Have you ever fallen into the front zone? Yes, I have.

Does it bump me out? It does bump me out. Because I could have had opportunities. Right, and you blew it. Yeah, totally blew it. Honestly, we've talked about this in the show before. And I think that guys are afraid of making the move. And I think that if you feel it. Because it all goes back to the thing where we can't read if you actually like us or not. So then we don't take the opportunity. Just assume,

try to kiss her. Just if you think you should, if you're like, should I kiss her, should I not, I always say go for the kiss. Or saying that that happens is she rejects you and she says no. But she still wants to be your friend because she likes you. And I would do it at the movies. You're at a party and you tried to kiss her. I've said no to a million guys, not a big deal. I don't get mad at them. Not a million.

Maybe one. How many cried after? Several. Okay, make a pact. You have to know going in that there's a risk of ruining your friendship, of a relationship ultimately doesn't work out, but if you're so in love with this person, then you gotta try.

If you're gonna risk a great friendship, make sure two elements, respect and communication are always there, because hopefully they'll still be there and you can go back to being friends. And I have dated friends and our head sex with friends a lot, not a lot, but I have several good guy friends that like eventually we slept together one night and it didn't ruin anything, like at least because we talked about it, we were communicating.

Because you weren't interested in them, that's why. Now, when they weren't really interested in me, we were just friends and now. I got a winger, you got a vagina. Let's use it. That's exactly what happened. That's exactly how it went down. And the final thing is the right moment is key. Avoid telling your friend that you have a feeling for her while you're both drunk. Oh, Jamie, that's the best time.

Here's your gaze plan. Easy as way. I know, that's the problem. Confess your feelings when you're two of your alone. I have a best guy friend who lives in LA and every time I used to stay with him all the time, we've never hooked up, we never will. He's engaged now anyway, but I never would have hooked up with him. Problem is, he'd get wasted.

And every single, which was a lot, and every time he got wasted, he's like, one, we together, we should be together, we should be, what can we just go out? I'm like, okay, you know what? How about we have this conversation tomorrow at lunch? And if you really feel this way about me, at lunch, when we're not drinking, we can discuss it, never brought it up. You knew he was a pus, you wanna bring it up?

No, we never remembered. I think it's because he was drunk or he was, whatever, but just bring it up when you guys are alone and you're not drunk. Make sure you're in a fun romantic contact, contacts like out of dinner or walk in the park, put your arm around her or hold her hand, depending on the right moment, lean for a little kiss and give her time to reciprocate. It's never too late to get out of the friend zone is what I'm saying.

I'm saying you don't have to relegated there because women are fickle, women sometimes take a while to like someone like they become friends with you and then they fall in love. That happens all the time. So, I just want to say that nice guys don't have to finish last except in bed. They should finish last. So, that's what we got for you today. Anything else you'd like to add to your situation in life? Not my situation, but we are here at the Citrus Studios in San Francisco, California. Download the Stitcher app.

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