Sex With Emily - SWE: Better Sex & Relationships in 2014

Episode Date: December 31, 2013

2014 is all about having better relationships, and of course having better sex. Here's what I cover on the show: tips for having a successful threesome, how to communicate proactively with your partner/lover, how to bring up issues with your partner, how to plan fun and romantic dates, and how to kiss… it's new years after all. Use coupon code EMILY for 15% off at Good Vibrations: http://bit.ly/19rLghs. Use coupon code EMILY25 for 25% off at crazygirlproducts.com and coupon code EMILY for 20% off your first purchase at Emilyandtony.com. Check out my new vibrator store: www.sexwithemilyovo.com/.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You get four shows a week and lots of perks and benefits and you're our friends and we appreciate that. We need a way to support the show and thanks everyone for supporting us. It is free Friday and I'm sorry we're starting a few minutes late, we had some technical issues. But here we are and I'm very excited for today's show. We're gonna be talking to Dr. Yvonne Fulbright.

She is a sex expert. She's an international sexologist, sex educator, author, relationship expert. She's going to be giving us some great tips. How to improve your relationship in the new year. These are some amazing tips. And I was like, you gotta be on our show. So we are going to be calling her a little bit.

And we are going to be reading your emails and some other fun things. We might get to breasts. We've got some stuff on breasts. We're going to talk about today. If not, we'll do it on Monday. Hey, Matt, it's what's up. Happy free Friday.

I know. Hi. How you doing? I'm great. How are you? I'm just looking at over. I'm looking over like three different computers at the same time right now, because I'm sorry.

You're getting a little frustrated over technical issues. I know, because I'm annoyed. We started at one o'clock. It's a free Friday show. I wanted to start on time and We just have a new computer in here. I have a new computer in here and we're trying to get two Computers on the internet using the same network and they just don't want to work together It's gonna work so I'm really sorry if you guys have been waiting and yeah, because you have a guest

That's why and we have to call the guests. We need the internet for the guest and Because you have a guest. That's why and we have to call the guest. We need the internet for the guest and Anyway, it doesn't matter. It's a big hassle. But anyways, hi. Hi happy Friday. So you're gonna sex this weekend? Why not why the hell not? I'm trying new things in You said your new years resolution was to have more sex this year. So I'm just saying I'm just saying that's all random people Oh random acts of sex. Yeah, yeah. I think you should do it. I'll be going to different places this weekend, so maybe it might happen. We should be in Vegas this weekend.

I know, but isn't it next weekend where it's supposed to be in Vegas or is it? I think it's next weekend. I'm still working out at PS. I'm gonna try to get a set. Yeah, because we're, yeah. Don't, don't, don't, don't think I'm not trying and don't write me off yet,

because I still might make stuff happen that'll blow your mind That'd be amazing. I know I would love it. I mean I have so many friends. I'll be there too I know just be a good time. I know you and I'm big is to be crazy. I don't even I don't even I'm afraid for us I know we would we would promote the hell out of whatever. I don't care if you have like dog kaka mustache out of whatever. I don't care if you have like a dog, caca, mustache product. I will, I will, somebody flies to Vegas next weekend. We will be so much fun. I promise. So that's the way we offered the stay. I'm not down to staying a random person. I know. Someone did offer. But thank you. Thank you for offering. Thank you for offering. Listener who emailed us

so we could stay in your room. Don't. You don't want medicine in your room. He throws up over balcony. Yeah. And I don't even stay in my parents' room. So don't'm a doctor. I'm a doctor. I'm a doctor. I'm a doctor. I'm a doctor. I'm a doctor. I'm a doctor. I'm a doctor. I'm a doctor. I'm a doctor. I'm a doctor.

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We like talking phone. I talk to my mom for hours, I'm not hours, but like half hours sometimes. There's so much talk about we talk about we process our emotions, how we're feeling, what we're doing. I get that men are not down with the phones. That's why they event to text messaging. Yeah, but my mom for the man. I know email.

I was kind of getting over a technical thing getting on my mom because she has all these animals. She has like llamas, she has sheep. She has all these dogs, chickens, all that stuff. And I want her to send me photos of them, right? Right. I get like one photo every six months and the photos like all cropped like all messed up like through email.

And I'm like, mom, come on. Right, you just gotta go there to the farm and take the pictures yourself or whatever it is. Yeah, but you just don't wanna see your mom. My stepdad is also like, because my stepdad, he like works on electronics. Like he builds like, like motherboards and crazy stuff like that, right?

He's super technical, but he's like me with you. Like I don't want to waste my time and teach you on some technical stuff because I'm just gonna be wasting my time. I know a lot more than you think. I really do. I do. I know. I can understand it. So I know I'm not going to get frustrated with me. It's scary. I can understand why I would just get a one photo every six months because my stepdad does not want to teach me. I understand. I don't even know why my dad and my mom are still not together because my dad is like the least tech savvy person on my life.

Most parents are not the tech savvy. My mom was like, God, our iPhone didn't understand. It does, doesn't understand Facebook. She's like, I keep getting all these things on Facebook requests. I don't know what to do. And I'm like, oh my God, I gotta come home and help you. And my stepmom, well, my former stepmom,

I don't even know what she is anymore now. Right. But she was super technical too. Like, but she just, yeah, well parents, I don't know, I don't want to like write off all parents. Some are really good at it. Some are not. But we've got a big announcement to make. We've got a show tonight on Sirius XM. I know. You just reminding me. We've got a Friday night slot now. So if you have Syriks at XM, it's it's extreme talk 165. It's at 6 p.m. Pacific Standard Time, 9 o'clock Eastern Standard Time and we're right for the already-lang show. It's already in someone else. Already in Nictipolo. Right exactly. So we've got a show there. So everyone should listen. We're very excited about that. That is I mean before alreadyty Lang is a big deal.

Yeah, he's Howard Stern's right hand guy for how many years? Oh, forever. I mean, I don't know how he's turned without Arty Lang. Right. Like, Arty Lang is a legend. I know. So how fun.

He's hilarious. He's the real deal. He is the real deal. Wasn't he like an addict or he is an addict? Ah, yeah. He's had a rehab. like an addict or he is an addict or oh? Yeah, he he's had had been out of rehab in our rehab, but he yeah, he's had an extremely Hard life too with early childhood where his I believe his dad What's the construction worker and fell off a roof? Oh my god back and paralyze himself and all this kind of that so sad didn't know that yeah So everyone's got messed up child. Yeah, people.

Who doesn't? Who doesn't? I'm it. But I'm all fine now. Speaking of you, Jolly Farr. I'm so normal and healthy. That's so weird about my messed up childhood. Is that I came out?

I came out so well and healthy. And so tonight, actually, so speaking of rehab, no, I'm sober January. This is sober January. A bunch of my friends are doing sober January. So no drinking, whatever. But I have a birthday party. I know.

And like my friends gluten free, so it's gonna be like a sober free, gluten free birthday party. My God, it sounds so amazing. I know, it's like my friend was like, oh, you can ask them drink herbal tea after, like what's gonna happen to this party tonight? So that's my January.

But it'll be fun, it's a birthday party. And I don't need to drink. I don't need to do that kind of stuff anyway. So I didn't even realize that That today was Friday at all really when I got up to work and I was sitting in the studio And I I realized like wait a minute today's Friday. I know. I'm so excited How did you not realize Friday's the best day ever? I know, but we've been Evering from all the you've been recovering time off and so now I know it's it was a crazy week because it always is the week you get back from holiday the week you know

everyone's like putting things off till January January and now we're all back and we're ready to talk about sex so here we are yeah I've been yeah I told you that it's been slow but it's starting to pick up with you know crazy stories this house low it is you mean news news is low. News yeah news. Not all we're not slow. No, no, no, no. We're fast. Bristol, Palin, it got like a speeding ticket for 40, no, no, a tail light out for 40 bucks

and that was news. Really? Yeah. Sarah Palin's daughter cares. Really? That's the news. Bristol Palin. Why is everyone on their best behavior right now?

I don't know. I don't know. And then like Selena Gomez's stalker was caught or something. Was that what happened? That's all we heard in the news. Oh is everyone on their best behavior right now? And then like Selena Gomez's stalker was caught or something? Was that what happened? That's all we heard in the news. We don't even have sex in the news for you today because there is no news. Do you know what I did read? Do you know Trial Owens, the football player? He's had reality shows. No. Anyways. Why do you? He's a good looking gentleman. Oh, I should know. I should know. why I should. I should. Well, I don't know. He's young. And man, I'm right right now. He's been injured and he was out of the NFL. And but he's had like a lot of.

He's had a lot of success in a lot of money. He currently right now is in four different paternity tests. Like things going on. So whenever four women are claiming that he's their baby daddy, that's crazy. Four different women at once. Oh my God, that's a lot. I'm surprised it didn't happen to like Tiger Woods

or all those guys who slept around, but like you think that would have happened more. But four at once, are you serious? That is news. I'm not gonna bone on, I'm forget it. I'm totally going on. Well, then he's already paying child support too So he had to say he had to go back to the court and say hey look I'm out of the NFL

I'm not making that much money anymore. I'm paying like 4,000 plus a month for a child support all he need okay one word for him Condoms what's the what the? Like, why are people sleeping around and not using protection? People, you can get people pregnant. It happens, you can get sexually transmen diseases. You get people pregnant. Put on a frigging condom.

Seriously, get a lifestyle's condom. We love lifestyle. They sent us a thousand condoms. Oh, nice. I know. Oh, do you want some? Yeah, hook me up. We've got them. I've used most of them.

Okay. So you have about two left. Exactly. Uh, no, not true. But also, I don't know $4,000 a month to take care of a kid. That that's a little much. No, that's that's about well. $4,000 a month. Well, it depends if you're trying to get to practical. I'm never having, I'm never having a kid of a cost $4,000 a month, that would get it. For sure cost $4,000 a month. This would be back to school and presents and health care. And doesn't it cost that? I would think it would. Oh man. Maybe not.

I don't know. I never had a kid. I have a dog and she costs me a lot of money, but that's different story. And what are you doing tonight? Anything fun? I'm playing Canasta. You're playing with me. And not drinking.

No, canasta or whatever. I'm kidding, because we're not drinking. So I don't know what I'm doing. Do you And not drinking, no, Canasta or whatever. I'm kidding because we're not drinking. So I don't know what I mean. Do you know what my big plans are? I've been feeding to go. And it's not as accessible in the city. You got a Taco Bell. Like I love Taco Bell.

I know. You talk about Taco Bell all the time. It's disgusting. Taco Bell is so good. Oh my God. I was a bartender. I was a cocktail waitress in college. And we had a Taco Bell little thing inside the bar And we got free Taco Bell is talking

No, it was a real Taco Bell in the bar and I got free Taco Bell all through college I can never leave again because you're drunk. I would work as a waitress But then we drink because we're in college and while we were working and then we would just like pound like burio Taco Bell has I believe since you've been in college has progressed in coming up with new things for you to try and it's effing delicious. So wait, you're gonna go find it, you're like at a Taco Bell hunt? Yeah, I need to go eat Taco Bell. Where does it exist in the city?

Um, there's a couple places. There's actually... Oh, there's one in the marine, I think, right? Yeah, there's one in the marine and That's the one that I go to right and See the funny thing is about Taco Bell. They always come out with new stuff, but it's always the same ingredients Exactly, that's Mexican food Mexican food is the same ingredients. It's like beans rice cheese and meat sometimes Yeah, and tortillas. That's all it is just mixed up in in different ways. Like what the hell is different to the enchilada burrito? The enchilada has the sauce on top or something? I never know.

She has so effing good. As the red sauce, the red sauce, right. But it's like, it's like a burrito. But it has like the melted cheese on top of it and then you just put the chicken in it. Oh my God. That's what you're doing tonight, sounds fun.

I had the biggest boner right now, talking about it. Really? You get a boner from Taco Bell. That's so interesting. All right, so sexy. I right now talking about it. Really? You get a boner from Taco Bell. That's so interesting. Oh my God, so sexy. I know, I love it. We are, we are pull, we have a pull result in.

Oh really what? I was, we're gonna have a new pull of next week, you're interested, right? Because this is what our fan said. We had a question on our website, sexthelmy.com. What do you want to accomplish in the bedroom in 2012? 39% said, this is is the winner a threesome

21% would like try new sex toy 16% would like to get tied up and maybe use a whip too 17% would like to try mutual masturbation And that's who I'm trying so 39% want to threesome that's still so coveted. Why does everyone have a threesome? They're overrated I mean, they're fun, but they're, you know, I mean, they're not overrated, but it's so, it's so like tricky to get into a good threesome scenario. You have to have people, like, I know if you're in a relationship

and we've done shows on this before, but just the tips since 39% of your Jones and Furth Reasons this year, you have to make sure if you have a partner and you want a threesome, that you need to discuss the rules before you jump into the threesome. So if you get wasted and you find a hat check at the to three some that you need to discuss the rules before you jump into the three some so if you get wasted and you find a hat check at the bar not a time to do it like talk about it beforehand is there kissing involved is a penetration

involved that you allowed to sleep with the other woman I'm assuming it's a guy with two women that's what most people are talking about yeah and you got to have the rules because it can really mess up a relationship so close so many times just despite you have and you probably just passed out. I don't know, maybe. You just gotta stay awake.

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since we were running a little late. I'd say we give you Von Fulbright a call right now. She's going to give us advice for the new year tips for your relationship, and they're awesome tips, actually. How to just keep your relationship healthy and strong and make it even stronger than it is right now, because everyone's doing their quittin' smoking, quitting drinking, going to the gym, whatever your resolution is, I think personally, if you're in a relationship or you want to be

in a relationship, you should look to make improvements there. Just use the tip. Use the tip. Only the tip. Only the tip. Okay, let's give her a call. Okay, so I'm. This is still on what's happening.

Okay, so this is what's happening. I'm using my cell phone and it works with the speaker against the microphone because we That's why the show started so late because we're having problems Getting both computers on the internet. We have to call an IT person to come down here to fix it I'm where it's such our studios. It's not their fault. We even Asked it to people to help us out and we need a person that knows how to handle IP addresses and all the things.

Exactly. But we've done this before and it actually has fine sound on my droid. Yeah, it just looks funny. It looks funny. So I'm calling her and then I'm going to put her on speaker. So you've on full bright. She's a noted international sexologist, sex educator, author, relationship expert. She's awesome.

We are calling her now. Hello, it's Emily. Hi, Yvonne. Hi, how are you? I'm good. How are you? Thanks so much for being on the show today. I'm a pleasure. Thanks for having me. Yeah, I want, I love your tips. And we were talking about, you've got some amazing suggestions for couples and people in relationships to improve their relationship in the new year. Right, right. Well, amongst them, it's sort of the whole thing of carpate, you know, when you're in the moon, I think a lot of people are very guilty.

I think that they're always going to be a proper time and place and then they'll have these, a bit bit more stirrings. It's like, wait, wait, I can't go with that right now. It's not convenient. Or I don't look a certain way. Or maybe my partner is not going to be receptive. You know, get rid of those thoughts and just use the moment.

Exactly. It's so true. We sometimes we feel that we don't. Yeah, you feel like people. So people feel like they're not in the mood or they're not ready and you're saying just do it just go for it. Have something. I never know when you're gonna have that opportunity again and then I know that people get older sometimes they look back on those times and those

stories came a lot more easily and it's like why did night just run with it when my body was much more cooperative so I know you're not getting any younger, go ahead and take advantage. Exactly, tell me about it, right? You've got to just have sex. And a lot of times with women too, if they're not in the mood, I always say this, just start doing it. And then you get there, you're not in the mood. You're not warmed up yet.

You just keep going, go through the motions, and you'll be psyched. No, no, no, no, thank you. You're a little bit of body does have sex, then it does boost testosterone production and then it's the testosterone that has both men and women desiring more sex. You know, sometimes it's just, you know, getting your toe wet and suddenly all of you wet and I get. I want to submerge yourself into more.

So it's a nice nice sensation. Awesome. Okay. And the next on your list is communicate proactively definitely this kind of goes back to the whole thing that we all assume that our mind leaders and I think Mars Venus definitely perpetuates this especially as far as the gender is trying to analyze what the other is thinking or saying

behind the others back or analyzing. It comes to sex relationships and really go ahead and ask questions, go ahead and put your needs out there. Basically have a conversation that need to be had before you've been realized. They maybe need to be had just so you're remembered in truth each other and know especially what your relationships with sexual expectations are. Exactly. Because people think, though, I'm just going to wait. It's not that bad. It doesn't bother me that much.

Maybe I'll bring it up later. And it's like, just bring it up in the moment when you're having an issue or that day because things build up. And then you're mad and angry and you have a blowout. Mm-hmm. Like a lot of times, you'll find that your partner was wondering the same thing or was totally misunderstanding you. And there's this communication breakdown. You'll find that your partner was wondering the same thing or was totally misunderstanding you and there's this communication breakdown and I think it's really important for people

to be able to clarify where they stand on saying it's into, what you're saying basically ultimately avoid a lot of issues and getting things out in the open. Exactly, exactly. Okay. And then next we've got, plan your strategy. Yes, I'm so easy to think of all these great ideas, but that you're gonna do them later, or you can put them in your planner,

I go second week in February, as well I'm gonna plan this for June's vacation. No, like do as much as you can now. Approach it almost like you would, and some people are gonna like this analogy, but almost like you would wedding planning where you have this whole checklist of stuff you really need to do for the big event and you just start shipping away at it right away and then when you get done early on the easier it's going to be to execute on

things later. So just go for it, get it off your plate, have it all there waiting for you and it's just going to be for much more flavor of more experience when it comes to the date, the romantic getaway, whatever you plan for the two of you. Right, I mean, it's so true, because people think like, this is why I said before I called you, is that the reason why these tips are so important

is that people just aren't prioritizing their relationships. They're just not. They're thinking, oh, I really should just fine, I'm going to work on everything else, but your relationship is probably the most important thing. You know, it's something you spend personally, might spend the most time with, and it's important to make these plans. You're absolutely right.

And get out of the support that you need lined up sooner versus later. And that isn't just you go booking hotel reservations or making flight reservations or whatever, but it's like making sure you got the you know, the family in place for people who are willing to take your kids for the week or setting up a regular trustworthy baby star every other Friday night so that you can make sure you're getting that date in. Is there just kind of hoping that it's going to happen that you can hit up people later? It's hard for them to say no when it's advanced planning. It's so true. I know I have so many friends who are like, oh, I couldn't find a baby sitter.

I'm like, this town is filled with people with baby zip for you. Just think five minutes ahead, right? Yeah, definitely. Okay. And then next, we have start each start and end each day with a kiss. I love that. Yeah, it's really great when connecting and expressing love. And, you know, research has actually found that

it's these couples that start each day and each day with a kiss. The kids that are reporting that they're happier and sure enough happiness is going to contribute to longevity and staying together and makes it a lot easier and you know very much let your partner know you are a priority to me. Yes exactly. I love the kiss before by time in the morning. It's so, it's such a great way of connecting. It's important to do, you know? And so simple, so simple. I love the kiss.

OK, make a list. OK, I'm just reading these because I got them from your thing. So make a list of fun things to do together. I love that too. I love that too. Well, I don't know about you, but I can be a scatterbrains sometimes. I do.

For example, we can really list things on that, the subway to work in the morning, and it's like, oh, I'd love to see that slick. And then when it comes time to maybe be able to edit it, I draw a total blank as far as, you know, what was I thinking would make for a really nice movie date night? So, when ideas come up, whether they're in a sexual romantic or adventure, so when people don't on going, going in that way when the time, whether it's all of a sudden or

well in advance is either to do some planning, then it's right there. You've got all these great ideas. You don't even have to waste time doing more research. Exactly. It's like started duck. What do you know about that for now? Right. It's like started documenting your, in your smartphone or whatever, like on the notepad.

And just every time you think of something, write it down. Exactly. That's what you gotta do. Okay, and then treat yourselves to a regular massage. Why is massage so important? Well, you know, whether it's gonna be coming from your lover or from an actual massage therapist, it just helps to work out all the stressors,

and we know from working with a lot of people, and it goes for both men and women, but especially women, it's like, if you can't relax, you're hanging out at a day's anxieties. If you're stressed with a poignant lung, your muscles are all tense, and it's going to be really hard to transition from that state to a state to really get it on.

But a lot of people don't realize that the more worked up you are from the day's stressors, the less receptive your body is due to that sexual touch. So making sure you're working out all the kinks that you're getting yourself into a relaxed state is ultimately going to get you more revved up and responsive to sexual advances when they happen. Exactly.

The massage is so, it does release so much in you. Like you don't realize how tense you are. And it is true that stress is one of the biggest factors why people don't have sex or they can't get into it. I mean, men and women, why they're not in the mood? Just because their mind's going crazy. true that stress is one of the biggest factors why people don't have sex or they can't get into it. I mean, men and women, why they're not in the mood, just because their mind's going crazy and the massage is another way just to quiet down your mind and focus on your body and get yourself ready.

Such a wonderful transition from two very different worlds. It's a lot of pressure to put on yourself, to put on your lover. Hey, you just got home from work and I'm going to jump you. Right. He doesn't know a total, okay, you just go home from work and I'm going to jump you. Right, just hate that. There's no total sex to say. I'm like, unless there's a lot of intellectual mental foreplay going on or you've been kind of changed that are all week with the comments, that's what's been on your brain all day.

Your people need that time to transition and wind and resolve a really effective way to do that. That's great. Okay, I love the massage. Do something novel this year? Yeah, you know, this kind of goes along with our earlier point of being a little plan and your strategy for 2012 loving. I'm gonna go along with what can you guys do together?

This could be also outside the bedroom as far as bonding, connecting, having experiences together as a course of novelty, being key when it comes to raising dopamine levels in the brain, and throughout the body, and dopamine being that hormone neurotransmitter that is staying on one that spikes when we fall in love. So it's going to create a lot of those few good feelings for your partner, for your relationship, for your sex life, ultimately. And so here at Black, what can we do with our new adventure this year? And that might be for a couple of, hiking but never done a certain type of trail

or gone to a certain part of the country, or people who want to take South of Tango, split swing lessons because they never have, and they always thought it would be cool, or taking a kayaking class. And I've actually known people who met from those sort of hobbies outside of work. So you just never know what these sort of adventures can offer you. That's so true. And even if you're single in your listening,

this is like, it is true that you know, these are all things you could do yourself too. I mean, you could, yeah, take a new class, do something that you've always wanted to do, and it is a great way to meet people. Get yourself out of the bar. Yeah, so I have single friends too, who are being really good to themselves this year. I think it's sort of a couple of them are turning 40, but it's like, I'm single,

and I always wanted to go to Taiwan. Or I'm gonna plan a multi-city trip to Europe just because I'm wonderful, and I have a girlfriend wanting to go and we're going to have a blast. I love those people for, you know, part of the, not waiting around for somebody special to do that with. Right. It's true. It's true. And there are more single people than ever, you know,

than at any time before. You know, there are more single people, there are people delaying marriage, just do something that you've always wanted to do. January, so you can... I would have heard it connect. Exactly. Okay, address personal issues that affect your relationship. Sure, this one is for those couple who are doing with an issue or maybe one person in a relationship has some unresolved issues.

And, you know, whether it I say you were somebody who's been dealing with child sexual trauma, one time you sexually assaulted, and a partner has cheated on you, is not happy with your sex life, is feeling unresponsive sexually to your partner, but not to other things. I mean, there are so many issues

that people don't tackle thinking that maybe they have a deal of that one day, they'll get to that place. Let this be the year to treat yourself to individual and or couples counseling. Exactly. It's, I, a couple's counseling just, I tell this all the time, is that couples, you might just need a little tune up. Not saying you have to go for life, not saying that anything's terribly wrong, but I mean,

a few sessions, you know, or commit to a few months can make a huge difference in a relationship. If you're finding that, you know, you're not able to communicate with each other anymore. If you just hit a roadblock and there's some issue that's holding you back. So, if anything, you're going to have hopefully better communication at least better awareness of how you're not communicating so you can take the steps to try to address issues. But there is absolutely no shame in seeking any kind of outside health. And a lot of couples have been better off for it. So, okay, I like it. I'm going to improve your libido through good nutrition.

Now, we just had a long talk about Taco Bell before we called you. Delicious. Yeah, I'm honest here, my co-host. He was talking about how he's going to go eat Taco Bell this weekend. Well, why is that not a good idea? Well, you know, there's a

thing is they're bad fats and then they're good fats and you're going to find good fats and foods like salmon, nuts, or olive oil, which tend to not be in your Taco belt product. Well, it's not at all. It's no fun,

man. It's true, but yeah, that isn't fun's no fun minutes, it's true, but. Yeah, that isn't fun, but you know, it's maybe a great way to take care of a hangover the next day and recharge that way. You know, definitely, but the smile on your face, it can be some, you know, effects of that. But if you're really actually wanting to go for a well-balanced diet, then you want antioxidant rich foods, and these are the ones that are like red peppers, garlic, spinach, and berries. And you want these sorts of foods because these antioxidant rich ingredients help you keep yourself healthy.

Of course, keeping your cholesterol low is going to help your cardiovascular system, which is going to help avoid any sex issues that involve blood supplies. For example, the health of men who avoid erectile dysfunction to consume foods that are going to help them keep their cholesterol levels lower. And then you've got foods like chili peppers or juniors that are thought to improve circulation and stimulate nerve endings. So that's why they're often recommended as affidies,

yaks, a little, you know, a taste to flip into the meal. I'm just saying Taco Bell. Taco Bell is an affidies. Taco Bell is an affidies, yak for madness. He's got a lot of issues. And it doesn't. And it doesn't give me a rectile dysfunction. It's not yet.

It doesn't give you a rectile dysfunction, but eventually it will give me a reptile dysfunction, it's aggr. Not yet, it doesn't give you a reptile dysfunction, but eventually it will give you a reptile. It's like Niagara. Oh, it's so sad. Well, as long as nobody's around, when he needs to get rid of it, I suppose. Yeah. Bad gas, bad calls.

Yeah. Okay, sex or size for health and fitness? Yeah, definitely the whole thing. So many people are going to the gym, and getting on their treadmill, the more power if you want, but they're not recognizing the fact that you can actually be working off even more calories,

and sometimes much more pleasurably so, with big risk sex sessions, and psychologists tend to recommend at least three times a week, and they're going for as much know, as much as, um, 20, 30 minutes if possible, but of course it's been a very depending on people. Um, you can burn up to 150 calories in that time period. Wow.

If you want the more active partner, as in the more, you know, for example, male on top race, breastfeeding or woman on top, which she's writing, um, but yeah, the more active you are, the more calorie you're in the burn. And then you're getting your muscle more toned in general. I love it. I'm canceling my gym membership, but I'm just going to find someone

to have vigorous sex with. I love it. Yeah. Well, it definitely inspires for that kind of gusto energy that a lot of people complain about lacking in their sexual relations. Right. OK.

That sounds good. Minus students are exercising. Yeah, right away. So, okay, that sounds good. Minus humans are exercising? Yeah, right away. Right, sex resizing. Okay, feather your love nest. See, this is actually getting at the whole idea of some shoelace in a bedroom and really looking at how can I breathe new energy?

And that might be as simple as changing the color of your sheets or the types of sheets, you're actually investing in a pair of maybe satin sheets for the special weekends, where you're hopefully not going to leave bed to painting your walls at a one that's red with gold dust painted in that can have a really nice effect. To make you sure that there's no clutter in the room,

like something that's not so simple, get rid of any any technology and if you must have a TV on there, you know, have it in a closed cabinet because a lot of Eastern approaches to room decor will say, you know, energy in the bedroom technology, not good for you, not good for your sex life. Yeah, you've got to get rid of the TV in the bedroom. I always tell couples that just do not have the TV in the bedroom. You always tell couples that do not have the TV in the body Needed in the bed because you don't watch TV. That's why yeah, but if I did watch TV I wouldn't want it in the bedroom. It's a distraction. You're like oh we could have sex or we could watch David Letterman or whatever People watch what do you do when you are not having sex in the bedroom? You've talked

Hell no You give each other a central massage. That is sounds like a nightmare. I just picture men as embedding talk about watching TV. Talk about, yeah. Okay. Okay. Read a book about sex.

This sounds simple, but it's more people need to treat themselves to all the rich literature that's out there as in all the different types of textbooks. And we've named the topic, somebody's written on it. There's just so much great reading algorithm be done. And I get so many questions where I feel like almost every time I want to refer somebody to you an entire book that I've written or one of my colleagues or friend's books, because it's like, you know, you can only get somebody so much of 300 words, and they

can just learn so much, and become so much more empowered, and learning thoroughly about all the sexual positions out there. They're logistic, and the types of orgasms, you name it. So go ahead and do some really quality reading for 2012, and because there's also virtually savvy for it. So go ahead and do some really quality reading for 2012 and that's good and you have some you have some books you were subordinate your books you've nine books. It's a lot of books. I'm going to go to that right now.

Yeah and actually people go to my website sexuality source.com. They can learn more about them but amongst my favorites are Salted Resex don't distributeute Any Lover, and then the Better Sex Guide to Extraordinary Love Making. Those are two pretty good, as far as comprehensive reads on those subjects. OK, that's great. That should, why not read up? People read books and everything else.

So they should read books about sex. Absolutely. You know, they're all going also as e-guides now and digital. And there's a no-ex-use no excuse and honestly the publishing industry has gone Not so far as visual images to compliment these books to so Spokespots to Turner. I love making it packs with lots of really every see pictures and okay, great So you can check it out. I'm telling your website again, please so you can check it out. Tell me your website again please so everyone can check you out. SexualitySource.com. SexualitySource.com okay and you're the AstroGlide Ambassador. What

does that mean? Do you have a lot of what does it. How are you doing? This is an information ambassador for AstroGlide. Do I answer questions if they get through their website post occasional articles, of course, due occasional media gifts for them, but really helping them to give, you know, legitimate, qualified sex advice, because people do look to various companies, whether they're microdollume condoms, sex toys, as far as being authorities on this subject, and a lot of people behind your scenes haven't had

any training and sexuality, and they thought we'd make a great team, and it's been almost a couple of years now, I think, that we've all worked together, and it's been a really good adventure. It's cool. Check out astrobi.com for more information and tips and so forth. I used to put together the video pre-rolls

for radio stations for AstroClide. You did? Oh, yeah. That was so funny. I used to put together the video pre-rolls for radio stations for Ashville Clyde. You did? Oh, yeah. That was so funny. I love it. It was just great. I know, really great brand. Yeah.

Let's add, use more lube in 2012 for people too, because I think a lubeer can't is so important. It's not, people think it's just a view of your dry or whatever, but it really can enhance love-making for men and women. Oh, I think I almost always have one in my side table. Me too. Even if you don't need it, a couple more drops can make all the difference.

Exactly. People don't realize that. I have like 15 loobs in my bedside and ribators, but that's a whole lot of thing. But yeah, no, I totally... You see his vegetable oil, right? No, menists. Don't even say things like that that are wrong. Okay.

Yvonne Fulbright, thank you so much for joining this show today. I really appreciate it. I love your ideas. Happy New Year to you. Thanks, you too. Thanks for having me. Okay, it's great. They have a great day.

Bye. Thanks for having me. Awesome. Those are great tips. Yeah, I was good. Yvonne Fulbright's PhD. You can find her at wherever we sent her website was. I'm sure she'll be up on sex family.com.

She'll be up on sex family.com. You know what I like on here? I like to start at the end each day with a kiss. Yeah, I really like that. Because even if you're fighting or whatever, when you put a boyfriend or girlfriend, whatever, or your couple or your whoever you're with, just a kiss and the more. Make sure you kiss. We're so busy. We're running around.

We're doing stuff just kiss. We're kissing. It's nice. Yeah, I used to do that when I was seriously dating somebody. Now you don't kiss anyone unless they're good kisser. Man, it's just rights chicks off if they're not good kissers. They're bad kissers. It's over.

That's it. That's so bad, man. Why? Because I think that you can, you can become a better kisser. Like someone, your kissing can get better with somebody. They could get better, but sometimes there's just those people you can neck with. I do not agree with you. You haven't just had one person you just connected with with kissing.

Like, oh my God, this is just... I've had people that I really connect with through kissing. And they're amazing. And then some that aren't, but then it gets better. Don't give up hope. Let's go. Black kissers, I just don't want to hang out with anymore. I know. You just don't.

OK. But maybe they're not just back kissers. Maybe just we don't have that, you know, that rhythm together. And then it's just not meant to be. Not meant to be, man. Yeah. OK. Well, you can have more vigorous. You're going to have more vigorous sex in the New Year.

So you're going to have to maybe do some more vigorous kissing, too. I know. Well, you can have more vigorous. You're gonna have more vigorous sex in the New York, so you're gonna have to maybe do some more vigorous kissing, too. I know. Okay, let's get into some emails. I told you I kissed that lesbian like last month or so. No. I told you right. Oh, yeah, yeah, but it was like a fun, flirty fake kiss.

Yeah, I was just like, see, I got a lesbian to kiss me. How crazy is that? That's crazy, man. You're so hot. You're not even into guys. She's not even into guys, but she's into the white menace. Yeah. Who doesn't want a little white man. You're so hot. You're so hot. She's not even into guys. She's not even into guys if she's into the white menace. Who doesn't want a little white menace? I charmed. I charmed her. Charmed is the pants off her or something. The lip gloss off her. Okay, we've got some emails. All right.

Ready? Today's topics include a few things. Toys, pain during sex, understanding women. So her first question is, while understanding women, that's gonna be... Imagine that. Hard. Can women and men really be friends? This is from CG Orlando, Florida. He's a premium friend with benefits member. Yeah, men and women can really be friends.

I used to think that, you know, when I was younger, maybe they can't. It's always about sex. Men and women can be friends. For sure, I've got a ton of guy friends, and yes, some of know, when I was younger, maybe they can't, it's always about sex. Men and women can be friends. For sure, I've got a ton of guy friends, and yes, some of them, maybe I have slept within the past or it started out as a... That's not what they're talking about,

like strictly friends, never. Yes, men and women can totally, I have so many guy friends that I am not slept with as well. Men and women can totally be friends, but I think that a lot of times, I remember this, this was years ago, and I was sitting with my,

I was boyfriend at the time, and his brother, who was probably like 21 of the time, he's like, you know what, I really don't understand the benefit of being friends with women. He's like, I don't get how you do it. Like men, I think our race will be like, either I'm boning her or there's no need for women. And I think that as you get older and you mature,

you realize that you can be friends with women. Don't you have a lot of women friends? Yeah, I have a ton of women friends. Yeah So I don't wonder what this question come they really be friends. I'm not sleep with all of them. You don't sleep with all of them No, I said I would you would so do you have any women friends that you wouldn't sleep with? I mean that's that is what he's saying is that like there's that whole like The problem is the ones I want to sleep with would totally sleep with me. That's the only thing Manus what how do you know they would sleep with you? Yeah, they all would actually call some of them No, we don't have to like you would sleep with with totally sleep with me. That's the only thing. Oh, man. What? How do you know they would sleep with you? Yeah. They all would.

Should we call some of them? Um, no, we don't have to. I'm like, you would sleep with me, right? Right? That's why I would say that to them. No. No, no. But I've got tons of guy friends that I, that is nothing sexual. We're just really, really good friends. And I think it can happen for sure. Okay.

Hi, Emily. I'm sending this message. What? How is way, you said for sure I was waiting for you to say totes. Totes. I know I've gotten a few. Okay. Oh, we've a survey I would like to tell everybody about our survey that you need to fill out. It's on the section of Emily fan page on Facebook Which you should like if you haven't liked it yet and I have a survey there and I'd love everyone to fill out It's only 10 questions. They'll take you five minutes and we want to know what you like about the show Well, you don't like what you'd like to improve.

And somebody said something about less totalies and awesomes. So I guess we do that a lot. I say awesome a lot. I say awesome in total a lot. I live in California, people, I can't help it, it's in my DNA. Toads. Toads.

Okay. I say to toast and joking away, only around you. I know. Did I start saying it first on the show? I don't know. Maybe I can't remember. Toads. Okay, this one is called entitled, How Men Should Get Over His Fear of Sex Toys. Right? This is an email to you. Because it's not America. I can't do whatever I want. I have to embrace whatever you tell me. I just think that the fact that you are so against them means that you should try it and see the happens. Oh, okay.

Yeah. I'm just not into it, people. You never tried it. I'm not shoving it in your throat. I like the shoved mouth's wear. Okay, so hi, I'm Lee Menace. I'm sending this message for two reasons. Number one, my wife and I found a simple solution

to menace's dislike of both teasing and sex toys. Oh, God. That being the vibrating panties. It's a great way to tease your partner and incorporate the use of a vibrator. On our five year anniversary, we went out for dinner while my wife had a pair of these panties on.

Every once in a while during dinner, I would just be like, we read this the other day. No, we talked about the vibrating panties, but I don't think I swear we did. Did we read this one? Yeah. When they said that I have a Morse code, what else? No, I don't think we did.

Okay. I don't think we did it. We didn't really get it. We did talk about the other day because, remember, I brought up how they had it, it was in that movie that I talked to. Yeah, but I think I was talking about it for something else because number two he says I have the Morse code I don't think we read this out loud I could be wrong you're wrong we talked about vibrania panties they're called you can get them in Adam and Eve they're called Astrea AST R E A I

think or just look up vibrania panties so he would discreetly turn on the remote the vibrania V evermote and my wife got so turned on she told me if I didn't stop she would finish before we got Brady panties. So he would discreetly turn on the remote, the vibrator via remote. And my wife got so turned on, she told me if I didn't stop, she would finish before we got dessert. She would have orgasm before dessert. This would be a great way for men to test the waters of the sex toy realm. Do you want me to get you some vibe? You got to find a check who wear some vibrating panties. And we do talk about these a lot in the show. We did talk about it wasn't because of this, but you put the little, it has a vibrator in the crotch area. And then you hold on the vibrator

and you're like turning around or in dinner, or at a party, it's really hot. Number two, we've noticed that Emily has developed what I've come to call her Morse code. You tend to use shortened versions, versions of everyday words, which may be confusing to some listeners. We totally read this, I know it is not. That may not speak English very well.

For example, instead of saying whatever, you will say what abs, deets for details, sit for situation, etc. I think it's rather funny when you use these cohorts. After all in all, you have an awesome show and we look forward to hearing what you meant. I have to say after the world, about the world's favorite past time, keep it up. Tyler from Calgary. He's a premium friend of it. Calgary. So we did read that. I don't know. I don't know. How come I don't remember reading it? Was I here?

Because you're scatterbrain. You have too much, too many things going on. But yeah, I know nothing that you do. What do you mean? You're like, oh, I'm always busy. I got to go here. I got to go there. But there's never like in detail what you're doing. I think that you have like this secret life that you live outside. You think I'm a spy?

Maybe that you're, yeah, you're like a double agent or something. You know what I do, everyone's a best by today, right? Before the show to pick up this router that didn't work. I know what that's like before the show and then after the show, you were in. We gotta post the show, we gotta do stuff, we gotta meet in with our web team, we gotta call with our web guys at three, we gotta, what do you want to know? A lot of stuff. Talks to advertisers.

Talks with listeners. We email every listener. I wasn't going to go in some late into the night. I work late at night too sometimes. Yeah. Tonight I'm having a sober free dinner, have I mentioned that? Friday night sober dinner. Sounds like a party.

Jesus Christ. And a good and good for cake. A barf. It's going to be there. 10? 10. Something like that. Who's gonna get naked? How many guys, how many girls?

It's like half an half, I think. Really? Yeah. Who's gonna get naked? I don't know. Probably nobody when we're all sober. Everyone's sober, sober, January. I don't know.

All these people are sober. Most of them. Are you just doing it because your friends are doing it? Yeah, I just figured it would be a good. It would be good for me just not to do anything. Just to see what happens in a month, I think I'll be a lot more productive. Not that I drink that much, but I just feel like I'm being healthy going to the gym. It seemed a lot more stressed.

I do. You were stressing over this technical stuff. Well, because we started the show 20 minutes late today and people are waiting. It's free Friday. And we weren't starting on time. And that makes me tense and itch. Oh, so you have what's that, what's it called when you itch when you're stressed out. It's called But I do get it. You Kim Kim Kardashian has it she does. Yeah, it's like

I was about to say how it's not I don't know that's your breath. Yeah, that's really funny Okay, anybody watching Kardashians around here? God. I just started with my new television set, but I only watched Courtney and Kim or Kim and you. I'm in New York, yeah. That was not interesting. No, the one where she has the skin thing is.

Is the Kardashians still on though? The regular show? It's off, but now it's gonna come back. What that's off, then they do the spin-off shows, and when the spin-off shows are over, then they go back to the regular questions. That's what I'm gonna talk about. They're constantly taping all the time.

It's crazy. That is crazy. Can you imagine all the time? Okay. All the time, every day, so you can't run all the camera. Every day, camera's in your face. Yeah.

Hell of producers everywhere. That must be nuts. Must be nuts. Okay, pain during sucks. Hi, Emily, long time. Love it. Long time listening like that. I feel like I might have read this one too. Maybe you grabbed the wrong folder today. I grabbed the wrong papers. It's okay. I mean, everybody's heard every single story. Okay, I'm going to read this anywhere. And we're sorry for

anybody that's heard it before. Yeah, maybe I didn't. Maybe I read it personally to myself. Long time listener, first time emailer, I left my childhood religion and became a fan of sex toys in my 20s. Listen to your show and got tips which we used and became more comfortable with my own sexuality as a result. But both myself and my fiance still waited until our engagement for intercourse.

I don't think I read this. Oh, I saw a South Park episode about this last night. About what? About waiting till you get married. Oh, people did that. Oh, I saw a South Park episode about this last night. About what? About waiting till you get married. Oh, people did that. Oh, no, it was a family guy. Family guy, sorry. Okay.

So anyway, they waited until they're engaged in for intercourse. Mm-hmm. However, once we got engaged and attempted to intercourse for the first time, I was in a great deal of pain. It felt like he was hitting a wall. This continued for months and I went to my OBGYN, gynecologist. So you suggested an estrogen cream, more elube and relaxation.

What? OGBYN? Is a gynecologist. God damn it. You've never known that? I didn't know what that was, and I was reading commercials for it, like a while back.

Really? That's so funny. It's up, spread it up. I go to your OGBYN, and there was like reading off some hotel, like in that hotel, hospital, commercial. I didn't know that's what I was telling everybody. Go tell everyone to go to their granite college. It's a Sep Stratics, up, up, up, I don't know to say it, up Stratics and

granite college, it's OBGYN. Uh, she suggested estrogen cream, more lubrication, this failed. And I was open about my continual vaginal pain. Um, I first visited my new, dog, my new doctor, he diagnosed severe vaginal muscle issues, which meant that the muscles on either side of my vagina are spasming involuntarily. He was very pleased that I was so open and comfortable with my sexuality and took charge of my own sexual destiny. One prescription later and many dilator exercise later we are now able to have sex. Thank you for the empowerment and healthy attitude toward sex that your show fosters. I hope it helps

other women like me to take charge of their sexuality from Ashley. So what Ashley is saying is that this show helped her feel more comfortable with their sexuality and open about it that she was able to go to her doctor and talk about sex. And I think that is why we do the show. And it makes me, that's why I'm here on the planet. See, I learned something about the OGBYN. OBGYN. OBGYN. OBGYN.

Yeah, because GYN has to be together at the end, so OBGYN. OBGYN. OBGYN. Yeah, good men. Menace learned something the day two. Oh my God. That's amazing. It's like, well people are crying. How did he not know that? Bob. something day two. Oh my God. That's amazing. And it's like, well, people are great.

How did he not know that? Bubba, Bubba. You're dude. How would you know? Guys wouldn't know that. I've never been to a gynecologist. Now it's good times. Let me tell you, you put your feet up in starves

and they stick inside you. It's not fun. So how? We talked about this a recently, because I was like, my gynecologist once, it's a man. A lot of people go to women and he was like, you've nice abs and I thought that was kind of awkward and weird.

I'm like, don't check out my abs. Just check out my vagina. Oh, yeah. Thanks for talking to me about that. How's my vagina? How's my badge? Okay, we've got one more email. All right.

What's wrong? No, nothing. He said all right. Like, you weren't rating Jonesing for Taco Bell right now. Okay. I know I was just looking at the times, I'm like, you sure. We've got time. Not understanding women. Emily, I have a couple questions the times when you're sure. We've got time.

Not understanding women. Emily, I have a couple questions about women that don't make any sense to me. Number one, why do women lie? When they say, I am not that kind of girl, I need to get to know you a lot better before you jump into bed with you in the first, second, or third day. Here is the evidence. If the guy that wants to have sex with her is just an average guy, she's someone attracted to you, then this is what she says.

However, you and I know that if the guy who wanted to have sex with her is just an average guy. She's someone attracted to. Then this is what she says. However, you and I know that if the guy who wanted sex with her was called bread pit and Tonya Banderas Orlando Bloom or ever her hot Hollywood crushes, then she would be having sex with them immediately without any problem. Why can't she just say to the average guy that she is not attracted to him and wish him well as there are many other women who might find him attractive? Number two, and then we'll go back to these. Number two, women always say they cannot have sex without getting to know you first

or having a commitment fine. But that's not really true. Once again, we are back to my central point of this big life. If women claim they cannot have sex freely with a good-looking stranger, why is it okay when that stranger is Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or the hot exchange student from Italy with an accent who looks like something out of a guest gene ad.

I look forward to your thoughts on this as well. Lastly, I'm a professional musician living in LA. Early next year, 2012, I will be having a performance to which we'll be hosted by a well-known celebrity and I would like to invite you. Take care and look forward to hearing from you. Cheers, Sam from Los Angeles, California. Thank you, Sam. Thanks, Sam.

Okay. So why do women lie when they say I'm not that kind of i'm not saying that all women lie there are different times in life i don't that he's got some kind of you live in l.a. first of all oh god this is a universal thing this is not just a lot of well no but he's a thing all the time what that women lie to guy so he's saying that women should be more direct with men and say no it's not that i'm not that kind of girl i'm just not that into you. I mean eventually you might sleep with that guy but she's just kind of on the fence initially

because you know yeah you might not be the CK model or something like that. Right. Because you know what all women are liars, guys are liars too. That's not true. That's just a rule. We're guys are liars too. That's not true. It's just a- We're not all liars, menace. This is how it works though. If you want that, if you really need

for that woman to sleep with you at that time, immediately when she says that, say, okay, and then be totally standoffish, and then she'll like turn around and feel like, oh my god, this guy is so understanding, and then she'll sleep with you right away. Guarantee you, it works every single time. Just don't, I don't think that's true, but I don't think

that works every time. What I'm just saying is I've tested it everywhere. For you that's tested, so you kind of pull back. I just pull back all together and go, all right, well, if you don't want to do it right now, I'm not going to put any pressure on you. And then I just go about my night and it's like continuing like everything's all good.

And then by that night, I'm already I'm hooking up with them. But you're saying is you don't pressure women to have sex, you pull back and then they want you more. That's just like a standard like law of science that if something pulls away so the other thing moves closer. Yeah, it just it just just happens that way. And I guarantee you if you do keep on trying to pressure them or talk about it, you're not going to get lazy.

There are times, I mean, but his second point is that women, women always say they can't have sex out first getting to know you're having commitment and I think that's true. I don't jump into sex with people. Yeah, but she, she, he wants to know why. Why we'll sleep with the state, the hot exchange student. Yeah, some hot construction workers outside and we're like, oh, I'm, I'm just going to bone them right now. Because we know that he's, he's a hot exchange student or a contextual worker that maybe we don't

have a relationship with or have sex with. So Sam, maybe these people really are in. See some guys don't understand that. I know. I'm trying to explain it. I'm trying to explain it. I'm trying to explain it. They're not.

So if a woman likes you, actually, if I've liked a guy in the past, I would wait to have sex. I would not want to rush into sex if I was if a lot of women feel this way that if they Like someone they actually want to delay sex so they're taking more seriously the guy doesn't like take advantage Or think she's a slut or whatever it is. I think it's good to delay sex I think it's it's important. I I delay sex most times lately. I tried. I think it's important to get to know someone first because then you get all caught up in the sex and then you forget that the person,

you just think about the sex, you're attracted to the person sexually and you're not thinking about them emotionally who they are, you don't see the red flags because you've had sex with them and all that stuff. So that's what I've said, that. Okay. This back off immediately, that night,

I'm not saying don't stop calling them like next day, because then they're going to think, oh, he just wanted to sleep with me. Like, don't act like that. But if they tell you that, just back off. Just back off and see what happens. I just don't think it's sex is something. Yeah, I think that guys get all tripped out about women not wanting to have sex. I think it's good to wait.

So anyway, we got to go this is a long show. Okay. Sorry for starting late. Love everybody. Happy Friday. Happy new year. Happy life. Happy weekend. All that stuff. Thanks everyone for checking us out on serious XM tonight XM Extreme 165 6 p.m. Pacific 9 o'clock Eastern and everyone have a great weekend. Thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. I'm Emily from sexwithemily.com. Crazy Girl products carry a unique, fair-moan-infused products that scientifically make you hotter and feel more confident. I love their new after-darkline, especially their lip-nip tingle.

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