Sex With Emily - SWE: Bondage

Episode Date: April 12, 2013

Forget the whips and assless leather chaps, Emily is breaking down the basics of bondage. Make them beg for it. Tie them up, tease them, and then give them incredible oral sex with Emily's ice cube trick. If you're interested in trying out bondage or improving your sex life, check out my sponsors: Max4Men, Masque, and Good Vibrations.Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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with Emily Page. Manus, where can we find you? Whitemenace.com. Perfect. Okay. So as you know, we're doing three shows a week, three to four shows a week. and this show is, we're talking about bondage today. Bondage. Bondage. Now. Just take me a look. How? Yeah. Much have you delved into this realm of bones? Personally. Yeah. I personally, not enough. Let me tell you, when I've been tied up by a guy, like, I think it's the hottest, I think it's's really hot and I'm not talking to you to go out and get some serious like whips and chains and the big buckles and all that stuff that's like crazy there's like beginner

bondage kids you can get like if you go to Adam and Eve.com they have you know when you put an Emily at checkout you get discount or pleasure galaxy is another one and you also put an Emily at checkout they have these Beginner that are like bell-cross straps that you can very easily just like find your arms or do. Yeah. It's simple. Have you ever done it? I, when I get a little intoxicated, I like Thai chicks up.

Do you really? Yeah. And they like it. Oh my god, it's so hot. I like it and I'm telling you not men do not do this enough. Yeah. In my life, in my history, I'd say maybe once or twice, but it's just there's something so hot about being like,

first of all, I think everyone should try being both dominated and the dominator like being dominant and submissive because I know you're probably thinking I don't wanna ever be tied up. Are you thinking that you don't wanna ever be tied up? Me? Yeah, or now would you like it? Yeah, no, I don't want to be tied up.

Okay. Because the place can catch on fire. You're chicken stealing my money. You know? It depends what kind of chicks you're bringing out. Yeah. But the beauty of bondage is that, okay, I've got some stuff here that I want to read to you.

So the submissive can't move or fight off the sexual feelings that she or he will be having. It's a very powerful and erotic position for the dominant to be in. It's also exciting for the submissive I think everyone to try both of those. So once your partner is tied up This is a unique opportunity to experiment with a wide range of sensual touches So you tie your partner up and again, I recommend one of these like Beginner bondage kits that have like Velcro. It's so easy. You need to like deal with snaps or and you could probably get out of it

If there's a fire. Yeah, so Feathers or silky fabrics are very central tools and bondage. They tickle, they excite, they make the skin's neurotransmitters go crazy when they're passed along the skin. It's an amazing sensation to be tied down and have a feather scarf or silk run up your right up your thighs and around your breasts. So that is the thing, like just when you have tied your partner up, put, you know, feathers or something like You're talking about something so sorry to sit the microphone

You're talking in a way that it's so tame But when people think bondage they think like full on leather suits right whips and bats and And chains and all this stuff. This is not that. This is like bondage 101 This is bondage 101 beginner bondage. You might chip towing into the full leather suit in the zipped up. You might menace, you might soon. But for now, I'm talking like you put your your your boyfriend's neck tie around his eyes and his arrow around his ankles and his hands and I mean, it's like easy bondage. There's no ballgags involved. No ballgags. We're not getting there.

We could go there another time, maybe, in our bondage 102 course. But right now, this is just like a basics of bondage. Like, it doesn't have to be a whole production. You don't need to go to the store and buy all the leather's whips and chains. I mean, you could use a silk scarf. You could use a regular scarf. You could use a necktie. I mean, you don't even have to buy anything to do bondage. So that's what I'm going to cover on here. Just like little things that you can do like just buy in the wrist or and use a blindfold or something.

So no, I'm not talking crazy bondage. So you should turn it turn this off right now and you know, no, this is stuff that everyone can do and should try. Because I think you'll think it's really hot. Okay, so let's let's talk about oral sex and bondage. So the tongue is a wonderful thing. You can bring such wonderful sensations to the neck ears face mouth chest and of course the clitoris are the penis During bondage kissing licking and sucking on your submissive is an absolute must So oral sex bondage is extremely powerful experience the power involved with oral sex is one that many women Still don't realize they have So when the dominant has oral sex with the submiss with oral sex is one that many women still don't realize they have. So when the dominant has oral sex with the submissive, the experience is completely different.

The submissive feels vulnerable and helpless to stop the pleasure. But as I've mentioned, it's a good thing. So imagine this, you're tied that you're restrained, but you're getting pleasure and you can't really like stop it and maybe you're even blind. I love the blindfold. And it's just hot because you don't know what the person is going to do next. And you can't touch, you can't do anything. You're like, fine. And you have no control, but you're getting this pleasurable sensation. Yeah. With your tongue. Wouldn't that feel good? Yeah, it would feel awesome. So maybe you would be tied up, then

you'd like it. When you like, if a woman went down on you and you were, your arms were tied and you're blindfolded, how blindfolded? Blindfolded? I guess. What if you didn't know what she was going to do? Like, but she was everything she was doing was hot. Like she was sucking you, kissing you. Of course, if it's hot, then yes. No, this is all hot. I'm giving you all hot, hot suggestions here. Okay. So. What do you like? Let's go over it again. What do I like? Yes. What do I like?

In detail. Yes. If I like the teasing, okay? So here's the thing about bondage. It's all about teasing, right? It's all about you can't have me yet. So if it's a guy tied me up, for example, I love the teasing part that I can't touch him,

that he might touch me, he might make me wait, like make me beg for it. Like women, the number one thing that women, and I'm putting myself in this category and complaining about or say that is their biggest turn on, or they would like men to do more is teasing. And you've made fun of this before. But yeah, teasing is so hot for women

because it's the foreplay and it's the anticipation and it's the build up. Well, teach guys how to tease. How should they tease? Okay, so for example, let's say I'm tied up and I have a blindfold on and you, like my hands are tied or my legs are tied together, tied to the bedposts, if you have a bedpost,

they also have underbed restraints that you can use, by the way, if you want to get technical. And let's say, oh my God, how do I describe this? Let's say he oh my God, how do I describe this? Let's say he is teasing me. He's not quite going for any particular, he's not going for my breasts. He's not going down there, but he's kissing around different areas.

So he's teasing me. He's like kissing my neck. Like he's like getting close and then pulling away and like he's about to touch me or maybe he's about to put a finger inside me but he doesn't or he's about to lick me or he'll do it a little bit and then I away and like he's about to touch me or maybe he's about to put a finger inside me and put a dozen or he's about to lick me or he'll do it a little bit and then he'll pull back. Okay.

The back and the forth are like, or just like until you want to, like you want her to beg for it, or him to beg for it. I have a lot of friends who tie up their partners and men really get into it. I think there's so many things that men think they wouldn't be into and if they just try it once, they would be like, holy shit, this feels so good. Yeah. Like, and I think men

would like the teasing too, even though you have not. Not a big fan of the teasing. Right. So I think that that's what I would like. But if a woman wants it, I would give it to her. And I'd like to be tickled and and just I don't want. I want to be like, have it build and build and build. The sensations to build. Does that make sense? Yes. Okay. Did you?

I took notes. Okay. So another thing would be, okay. So you could also use a warming gel with oral sex. Like if you're blindfold, you don't know what sensations you're gonna have. So if you use like some of those like warming loops and stuff or use ice cubes, oh this would be really hot too.

So I've done this before. I had blindfolded somebody. Oh this was really hot. Okay I use bondage tape which you know that I love bondage tape which is like the sticky tape that you can use. You should have your own brand. Yeah. Yeah. It's a sex family all over it. Yeah. That's a great idea. Okay. So I tied up the sky. I put, I put, I with bodice shape around his eyes and around his hands and then I went to the kitchen and I had a bowl of ice cubes and I had just like, I think I had like feathers and I had maybe some massage oil and so like ice, I put in my ice cube in my mouth and I would like tickle it down, like drip it down his back and down his front, like flip him over and then like put the ice down his, but

it feels really good. Yeah. Do you know that when you're performing a role sex in a man that like to have like an ice cube in your mouth or something minty really feels. Yeah, like a breath mint. A breath mint. Yeah. The altoid.

Remember the whole bill. Yeah. I think monoclemoncy. Um, so an altoid, a breath mint. And so you're blindfolded. So you don't really know what sensation you're gonna feel and it feels This he I think that I he lost his mind. I made him feel so good. Oh really? Yeah, he did he was like holy shit. No one's ever done this to me. Yeah So that's the kind of thing you can do. Wow. Wow do you not think a lot of men currently masturbating?

Some people do master rate to this podcast. They do. Yeah people have emailed me and said that I think I don't see those letters I read them. I don't read them to you. Maybe one or two. I don't know. Do you think they do? I don't know Yeah, I'm definitely gonna get some emails after this. Yes. I currently masturbate to your podcast Okay, so toys another fun thing to incorporate into your bondage. And again, we're talking like light bondage of the wrists and the eyes. I'm not talking about heavy duty. It's sex toys because sex toys make a noise.

So when they're turned on, the person who's like submissive, here's the noise and there's like this anticipatory thing, knowing that it's coming. My, my, my feeling is fear. It's skinny. If you were to err, yeah, you'd be fucking me be freaking afraid. I'm swearing a lot today.

You'd be afraid. Okay, so toys allow the dominant person. So that's like if you were tying me up to tease all parts of the body with the vibrations, which also again, all these ice vibrate, you know Bibrators it feels really really good and so it kind of like builds and builds the excitement So you're just teasing a lot of up on the is teasing and not quite giving in and if you're if you're review If you're reversing the roles of the dominant and the submissive so I'm submissive to you and you're dominating me There's just something a hot about it told power it's like, you, I can't escape

and you're gonna do what you want to me. And it's just, I don't know. It just feels really hot. You've never done anything like that. It seems like you're really into this. Really? But I have to tell you that I guess I am and it turns me on, but I've probably,

a few times in my life have I had like done this and had good experiences with it. And I think I should have more. And everyone should have more. a few times in my life have I had like done this and had good experiences with it. And I think I should have more. Everyone should have more. I think you should delve into it. So men though don't have to be left out. So if the men's being the men is dismissive, there's the massagers that can be used on

as nipples, tummy, as balls, shaft, penis to a comfy as much pleasure. You'd love that. No, just kidding. Of the Roger's toes, I think you might like the way a vibrator feels on you, Manus. Oh, where? On your penis. Okay. A little bit of vibration on your penis feels really good. Okay. Have you ever experienced that? I have not. God, I gotta give you some stop. Okay. I have not, because people are going to say, Oh, he hasn't tried anything. I go, because it goes back to the debate that I've had where do you get the sensation where you can't go back to just having normal sex.

But you can. I've done this a few times. It's like a drug. You know, it's a gateway. Why do you think that you think we're going to be dressing up with those furry costumes? Yeah, next thing we're going to be at furry conventions. You're not. You think all this is a gateway. You're wrong. Okay. That's just how I feel right I'm just one man. I need this same hot to you though like not knowing what comes back. Yeah, but I don't know just me Being tied up it freaks me out. I'm afraid. I'm afraid. I can admit. I am afraid You're really afraid the house is gonna work down and she's gonna steal your wallet. Yes You gotta start getting different kinds of women. Okay.

So, what else? Okay, you can step it up if you're comfortable to go beyond teasing. Because again, everything I've been talking about up to this point is teasing. There's a whole other levels of bondage to explore. Sex toys, like I said, bring an element to it. And you can also have sex if you want. You can have sex while your partner is tied up. Like you could tie your partner up and then have sex with them once you tease for really really long time and she's begging for it or he's begging for it then you finally have sex maybe you don't on time or maybe you on

tie one arm and you actually go ahead and have sex. So that's some stuff you could do with bondage and there are some safety tips I just need to mention. This is not something to try with someone you've just met, Menace. You really don't know whether they are trustworthy or not until you know them better. However charming people might seem at first. So there's definitely safety issues. Talk about it beforehand. Discuss what you plan to do at least generally. Say what you will or will not allow. And these are rules and limits that are sacred and shouldn't be broken. So just discuss this stuff if you're weary about it. You know, menace, maybe they'll give you the extra key or something or your fall, so you can call your mommy if you're scared. So that's just some bondage for you, everyone.

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