Sex With Emily - SWE: Dealbreakers

Episode Date: March 23, 2012

Emily’s prom date didn’t bring condoms to the hotel room. They went to Burger King instead of having sex.Emily shares first date, relationship and sex dealbreakers, from forgetting condoms at prom to talking incessantly about your ex. How to be a good listener, cheating during the post-birth sex slump, and Menace thinks all women can get laid if they try hard enough. Emily thinks that complimenting women is important but Menace argues that you shouldn’t over-compliment a woman or she’ll think she is out of your league. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Music Book into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mock our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them a leviac on me Hey Evelyn, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand, it's so nice

The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. I'm so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good.

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Happy Friday. Happy Friday, my goodness. We were just talking right before the show. Okay. And we're talking about .coms, and I said I was gonna go visit an office somewhere. And somebody mentioned, oh yeah, there's a lot of billionaires everywhere.

And I go, yeah, where's all the female billionaires in the dot com world? And I was like, I wanna marry one and you're like, oh, well, I'm about to be a female billionaire. Not about to be, but I'm planning on it. You know, if all goes well with us, actually, then we're. And I go, yeah, but I can't marry you because you would drive me insane.

And she's like, nah, Emily goes, nah, I'll give you money and stuff like that. I'm like, no way. I go, you would be the one that would give me money, but tell me about it every five minutes. That's so not true. I give you things. I don't, I give you things that I don't bring him up all the time.

Honey, I feel like. All the time, all the time. I don't bring up stuff all the time. I don't think I'd be like, I just gave you $8.23 for a Turkish sandwich. Is that what you think? No, but you've been bringing up, oh my God, remember all those bags of,

kind of big cotton bag that I gave you? Like, which you got for free anyway. And you took three months to give it to me. Oh my God. And you got mad because I gave it to something that was going on a trip. Because I finally brought them to you And you gave them away. So I'm sorry. It took me a while. You should come to our office more. You could get whatever you want

We've got so many sex toys. It's not that it's just that you bring it up. Oh, man So that's why you're not gonna marry me. Yeah, because I'm like, oh my god I can just imagine if you gave me like, you know, whatever 10 grand or something like that You would bring it up all time. Oh, you probably 10 grand for all like that, you would bring it up all the time. No, I know you'd probably 10 grand for all the work you do. Oh, way more than that. I do like, 19 grand, but fine, so you won't get married, whatever.

I just thought I was, you know, being nice and entertaining. You are being nice. But that's good to know that you are repulsed by the idea of actually being with me because I'd be so annoying. But I think I'm the best person to be with. I should be repulsed. I want some female billionaires out there.

I know, when we're talking about the Bay Area, where we live, we're in San Francisco and there are so many billionaires, but not a lot of female billionaires. No, I don't know if she's a billionaire, but the only female CEO or founder that I've seen out there was a co-founder of Flickr, is a female. And if people don't know what Flickr is,

it's this photo sharing site that Yahoo built. Right. I mean Yahoo bought. So, she must have some money if she's a co-founder. She's single? I don't know, I should hit her up. I think our file is for like dateabillionaire.com. That would not be bad.

Yeah, I would see, that's just like. Then then the loan realize that you're out for the money. They're gonna know it, but you don't want it to be so explicit. Yeah, I don't want it to be like that obvious. Exactly. Well, that would be annoying. That would be a deal breaker. Speaking of deal breakers, that's our topic today.

Our topic today is sex relationship in first date deal breakers. A deal breaker would be going after someone only for their money when it's obvious. So that's what we're gonna talk about today. We're also reading your emails that you send to feedback at secrasexamelys.com.

Some topics include guys who can't get laid, women who can't get laid, having two kids and not having sex anymore in the relationship, what to do about it, and how to make a woman feel special. We also got some sex in the news, and we've got just some really fun stuff today. So I'm excited for the show. Hate that topic, all women can't get laid.

Well, that's the question that guys, well, we'll get to it in a moment. I hate that topic. Yeah, because you think women can all get laid. Every single woman on this planet can't get laid, no matter what, if they really, really wanted to, they could. Right. Well, we'll see. We're going to get to that statement.

It's them being picky, so it's's, it's their standards that are keeping them from getting laid. That's it. Because it's so easy because that any guy would say, you just go to a bar. We have different host of issues. We know that any guy's going to have sex with us, but we don't know that he's really going to be there for us and be the guy and how can we trust him and all that stuff. But I thought we're talking just about sex. We're talking about sex. All that like relationship stuff. Okay. I could easily get banged, but I might not, that's not,

that doesn't make any better, it's because it's easier for us to have sex. It doesn't mean that our lives are any easier. You know what I'm saying? Break it down for you. Break it down for me when we get there. So I am so excited for Vegas on Monday. So, Monday to Zewenzi Vegas.

We still have shows, no worries. We still got our shows playing, but that's kind of, kind of, be my weekend. I'm gonna lay low this weekend, and I'm going to prepare for my Vegas and I've been emailing your friend, just going to hook us up, I hope. Having her back from him yet. And we're going to the International Laundry Show.

So there's going to be lots of scantily clad models, you should come. And not your thing, you're not into lingerie. So many people aren't into lingerie, but it's also they're having sex toys. It's not just lingerie, so 80s. It's convention with sex toys and all that stuff, which we talk about a lot in the show of sex toys. And you know, if you want to buy any sex toys, porn DVDs, lingerie or anything, you can go to adamaniv.com and you use coupon code Emily and you get 50% off most items, plus

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Taking over. And then we're actually doing this thing at GoodVibrations. GoodVibes.com, which is another great sex toy. We're going there tomorrow, and we're shooting a video of all of us getting, we get like a bunch of toys. So if you want to come, you can come, and we're going to shoot a video of us like, it's like sweepstakes, markets, we're going be like have buckets and we can just get toys. What?

Because we gotta try them out. And we're gonna do a focus on sex toys for men. So maybe you should come. What is this? This is tomorrow. Tomorrow? All right. Saturday.

Okay, so good vibes. Also, if you've never heard of good vibes, they're also great sex toys. It's good vibes.com and you use coupon code GVMly15 for 15% off most items. They're a local establishment for the else of a great website. Yeah, that's what I got. And then Vegas, but I'm trying to figure out like my Vegas clothes.

That's gonna take me all weekend. Are you serious? No, not all weekend, but a little bit. Everyone is so wasted to Vegas, they don't pay attention to clothes. But I wanna look hot. Yeah, I guess so. Yeah, you're like, yeah,

you need a lot more than this weekend to prepare for that. That's what you're thinking. I'm gonna go and Vegas in May though. Yeah, I am. For what again? Just mean up with old radio folk. That sounds fun. Yeah. What are you gonna do this weekend? This weekend. Oh, I'm gonna go see hunger games. Oh, you are. Tonight. Yeah. Good. I'm gonna see that. Is it all sold out, right? Yeah, I'm sure it is. But you got like a fresh special press screening. Yeah, I'm going to this special. Which which bits you bring in with you? Which I don't know yet. Come on, where were the girl you had sex with last weekend? Not you probably want to be into the Hunger Games. So I got to find the Hunger Games. I know there's

a hype around it. I have no idea what you're into. I mean, maybe I can take you some weird foreign film and you would love it. I do love foreign films. I have to guess. Why? Explain why. Because they're just different

and they're more creative and artsy and it's not like the normal, like, romantic comedy that you see. Like every film's formulaic that comes out of them. Not all of them, but I like indie films. I was an independent filmmaker years ago and that's what I like, baby, don't film me down. They're so effing boring.

Well, minus because you don't have the depth of spirit to sit through them. What? There's so many crap films out there that people think, oh my God, they're so amazing just because they're different. Yeah, I don't think I'm gonna be convinced you of the artistic integrity of independent films

in this moment. They're boring. They're terrible. It's not indie films, it's not really a second time. And there are so amazing people would be talking about them and they would be people watching them in the back. They do talk about it just like your friends, your friends try to learn hunger games.

My friends are talking about other things. Oh, what are they talking about? And they're sipping wine. They're talking about large untay. Exactly. Wherever the hell. That is that. I've never been watching a lot of independent films lately,

but I would like to. So yeah, we're gonna talk about deal breakers, and we've got a little bit of sex in the news here. We can get into that. What is happening in the sex in the news? Well, you know, we've got some just a few stories here. A man attempts to transport dildos hidden in sausage meat.

Well, how would he do that? Exactly. A German man flying to Dubai attempted to smuggle dildos into the strict Islamic society by wrapping them up in sausage meat. Oh, how would he do that? Exactly. A German man flying to Dubai attempted to smuggle dildos into the Strik Islamic Society by wrapping them up in sausage meat when he took the fake freight furtors to a butcher shop to package the shop assistance noticed a wait to script and see. He sliced open one of the sausages to reveal a large latex dildo. Now quite greasy, as you can imagine, please recall that the man believed to be about 50 was later released as no laws had been broken

That's really say yeah, you can't bring them into the Islamic society the deal those here You can you know you can throw your deal those you can have in your back pocket no one cares But if you're going to a Islamic society he's going to Dubai you got to hide that your deal does an esauce But didn't work Okay, so porn star banned from high school prom. So this guy, this is pretty smart, probably couldn't get a date from a prom, he's a Minnesota, okay? So he's trying to get a date for the prom and he's like, nah, I'll check some high school

that I wanna go to the prom, so what he does is he starts a whole campaign to get a porn star to be his date for the prom. He's an industrialized young fellow. He finally got one as a prom date. 19 year old porn star Megan Piper to the final dance of the industry is young fellow. He's he finally got one. As a prom date, 19 year old porn star Megan Piper to the final dance of the year after receiving several rejections from his classmate classmates, his classmates were rejecting the fact that he got this porn star. He took to Twitter. He has 600

porn stars to be his date. Piper agreed as long as he paid to get her a Minnesota. So this guy, this young kid, whatever, senior in high school flies, agrees to fly to Minnesota, but he was raising money, the $400 required to get her there, and school officials laid the ultimate cockblock, and since she was allowed to come on the campus. So he was like, I'm going to bring a porn star to the prom, which is kind of like so funny. Like, I don't think that would have happened when we were in high school, but now like, it happened in my high school, and they get and they put a stop to it.

They won't let it happen. Why? Because it's a porn star. I know. He probably just should have been quiet about it and showed up at the touchic Yeah, but he had to raise money. He had to get the word out. I know. I think he's gonna be a really smart businessman Watch this kids most likely to succeed So yeah, so he's not gonna get a porn star It's weak that is weak man, but did you go to prom? I went to four proms. And I was invited to seven total. Oh my God, you're just stud. I know. Right? Did you sex at all the proms? No, not at all of them. No. Oh, not at any of them, right?

Could you sex later? Or did you? I went to a prom after I graduated one. Okay. You were that guy who came back and went to prom the cool old because I was dating I was I was dating a girl that was yeah a freshman going to No, no I was dating a girl that was well Can I tell you the biggest wonder about my senior prom what I was dating this guy for about three months and we had not had sex yet I had never had sex before and we were going to my prom my senior prom and we I got a hotel room He knew all about that. I've to think I've told you this before, but we get there, we get to the hotel room after prom, it's, you know, and we're in a hot dress, whole thing,

and he doesn't bring condoms. He forgot condoms and I'm like, in my mind, I'm like, this is going to be the night, we're going to have sex, it's going to be awesome and he forgot condoms, so he didn't get banged, we didn't have sex. Wow, he's good at bummer, he totally screwed up. Then we went to Burger King Drive-Thru and went home and went to sleep. We could have gotten condoms, so I don't know why we didn't. But it was sort of a stupid thing. I should have known. I ended up dating for another year after that we eventually did have sex. But who, he just missed the whole hotel room part and did get to have sex with me, which was a bummer for him. But I've had that happen to me before also.

That you forget the condoms? Or while I wasn't really planning on having sex, and then for some reason I'm like, oh, let's get a hotel room and hang out and fall around. And then she's like, oh, let's have sex. And I was like, I don't have any condoms. She's like, oh, we can go get some. And then I was just like, yeah. Oh, you weren't that into her? Are you just working on things? No, I was.

We had, you'd rather watch movies, play video. We eventually had sex after that too, but I don't know. I was just like too afraid to go to the movies. I was 18 too. I mean, whatever, you're afraid to get fined, but he just, whatever was a kind of bummer. Cause I love that. Whatever, just because you're the devil

and want to corrupt him and be like, No, I don't want him sex too. He's like, oh, I'm like, you're an idiot. You didn't plan anything. What do you do? Nothing, we fell asleep and didn't have sex. He didn't do shit. He could have gone and gotten a condom.

Yeah, wouldn't an idiot. One idiot. Okay, and Ed Hardy Bikini model arrested for running an international drug ring. Oh, I heard about this. Australian swimsuit model Simone Farrow has been arrested for running a global drug running business out of her Hollywood apartment.

The 37 year old was ahead of a syndicate involving at least seven other people that chipped crystal meth around the world through packages of fancy ball salts. Smuggling is apparently not uncommon in the modeling world where drug sales offer quick buck when a model's career hits a dry patch. Everyone's trying to tell you what she thinks. Well, all the way to the 7. So it's all going to be How old was she? 37. So it'll be a model, right?

Yeah. So she sound drugs now, but she got a... Yeah, but good looking people don't go to jail. She's panic at go jail. I'm sure she'll get out of it. Watch. We should follow this. Should we just be the prosecutor or something?

No. I don't know. We should follow the story. Any other, did you have any other sex news or news in your life today? No, I'm trying to follow this story. I know it's Justin Bieber, but apparently Justin Bieber has a new song out and people are making fun of them

because it's called Boyfriend. Oh. So he's gonna be on TMZ later today and talking about it. Okay, it's called Boyfriend, like he's like celebrating his girlfriend. I don't know, but I mean, he has a girlfriend, so maybe,

maybe the song is talking about him being Selena Gomez's boyfriend. Oh, what is like a boyfriend? Yeah. Oh, but everyone's just like, disheeing Boyfriend and like, what's going on here? That's so wrong. Okay, well, that's what I got for you for sex and the news, for my sex and the news today.

And we got some emails too. Emails from the people. From the peeps, we loved here e-mails too. E-mails from the people. From the peeps. We loved here from you. Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. I'll answer all your questions. If you're a friend with benefits member, we take your e-mails that go right to the top of the list

and we answer them and we help you with all your sex problems. That's what we do. This one is about escorts. Hi, Emily. I'm a physically unattractive guy. I can't really get a woman to talk to me without spitting on me figuratively and physically. Wow.

Right. I really have no choice but to turn to escorts. I haven't done it yet, but if seriously been thinking about it, just wanted to know what you think about escorts. Thanks from the 40 year old Virgin from Fort Worth, Texas. Okay, here's what I got to say. I escorts, I don't really have a problem with it,

but it's not a lifelong solution. And I think that you, 40-year-old Virgin, you just started thinking about how you wanna change your life right now. And can you work at, obviously, you're saying you're physically an attractive, I'm wondering if you're as unattractive as you think you are.

And I think this might be time to stage your own intervention. And maybe you can invite some friends and family over and ask somehow you can kind of clean up your life so you can be more attractive to women. I think this self-confidence issue, you're saying that women are spitting on you. I mean, you look around, they're someone for everyone. And I believe that you can actually find someone. And I believe you're 40.

It's been going on a long time. You've got a lot of issues probably around being a virgin, around feeling physically unattractive. And I would say to you intervention, I'd invite over your closest friends and family and ask them for advice because they're probably afraid to talk to you about it because they know what's going on with you probably. But I would say ask them what you should do.

What could you do to clean up your image? What have you been doing to exercise, do workout, do you go out and meet people? Are you a nice person? Are you happy with yourself? Do you have a job? I mean, all these things are important to finding someone. So I'm an escort. I mean, it's a, yeah, you could do it, but it's not what I would

recommend is a lifelong goal. Yeah, and you can. I just feel like you're resigning, you're turning over to like escorts because you feel like you have no way to get around what your situation is, and I believe that you can get out of wherever you are. And you can get healthier and feel better about yourself and actually find women just with it. You won't have to pay directly.

Yeah, and there's legal things that could happen. It's also legal. It's also legal. Yeah, but you should go to, if you really want to do it, you should just go to Nevada to like the bunny ranch or something like that. Yeah, that's true, but that's sort of slippery slope. I mean, I don't want Frank 40 over to have it get it out with an S. But maybe he just has to get it on with S.

Court. Yeah, I mean, I'm not saying it's a bad thing. Sometimes you gotta have a slump buster. You feel me? Yeah. You to have a slump buster you feel me Yeah, you ever had a slump buster Yes, yes, I have it get your real engines running Yeah, yeah, if you have an insects ever or for a while you could do it But I just want you to start working on your own issues and not just resort to and I'm it's tough love here

But I feel like you've got to work on yourself and I doubt that you're physically unattractive as you think you are. And I don't know, women are spinning on you. I mean, there's got to be something else going on. And I want you to have therapy and get to the bottom of it. I never been spit on by a woman. Never. That's crazy. Yeah.

It's surprising. The night is still young. Yes, it is. Have you ever, dear Emily, have you ever received a letter from a woman who could not get laid? This is from Tim, from Santa Clara, California. Santa Clara. It's a premium friend with benefits member. And I had to really think about that because the first thing I thought as men is what

he always says is, any woman can get laid at any time. Yep, it's true. So it is true that I don't think I've received a letter from a woman that couldn't get laid, but I've gotten emails from women who were weary of having sex after like being in a relationship or just their first experience wasn't so great. And finding quality men, I get a lot of those emails from women, but nothing that they couldn't have sex. But so So. I'm not gonna conclude that every movie can easily get banged in. Yes, it can.

But I think that's the question. I don't care if you're 400 pounds, you'll find a guy that'll have sex with you. Just like our first guy, he says he's unattractive, I bet you he can find someone if he puts himself out there. Yeah, I'm sure he can. But he has a work harder at it.

Now, let me break this down for you. Why is it when a guy sleeps with a bunch of chicks, he's like a pimp, right? He's the man. And why is it when a female sleeps with a bunch of dudes, she's a whore. Why is that? The reason being is it's much harder for the man

to get women to sleep with him. He actually has to work with it. A chick doesn't have to do anything. She can just sleep with a guy. So that's why people call them whores and a guy that sleeps with a bunch of chicks. He's the man because he actually had a work at it. Oh God. Man, it's the dumbest thing ever.

How's that the dumbest thing ever? That's so dumb because it's just like you should never throw around the term. Both parties are sleeping with multiple individuals and it wasn't labeled a whore. I'm not saying it. And you're saying that the man had to put an effort in that he's just a stud. Hey, I'm not saying that it's not a double standard

but that's just how it is. It's told all of a sudden that I hate when women are labeled whores and sluts for sleeping. I'm saying that's why people say that. Am I saying that right now? There's that you think that people call women or in sluts because men had to work at it and women didn't have to work at it.

That's what I'm saying that the general public says. Am I saying this is coming from me, this is the statement that I'm saying, no, this is what the general public says. That's the reason why people call. Nobody calls a woman a horror slut. All they're looking at is the numbers of people she slept with. And that's why they call her horror.

But it's not because she's not the work at it. Yes, that's what it is. No, men. I don't even understand your reason. How do you not? Again, you're saying that you're being Chinese. Again, you're saying, don't hear it. I don't know.

No, no, no, no. Again, you are saying this is what I'm saying is fact. I'm just saying what the general public is saying. Okay. Okay. It's not coming from me. All right. I'm not going to do that. Why do you know? Because I never think it's okay to call a woman a horror or a slut. And it is a total double standard that men.

It is a double standard. I'm totally agreeing with you right now. Okay. You're agreeing. Why are you getting all flustered? I'm not talking to a different language. We're talking with you right now. Okay, you're agreeing. Why are you getting all flustered? I'm not talking. I'm saying that I'm talking in different language. We're talking it out right now. We're talking it out, but I don't believe that women are called, someone decides, someone makes a decision to call a woman a slut because it was so easy for her to sleep to find a

guy. And for men, they're called, they're champions. They are studs because it was harder for them to work at it. Some guys are fucking studs and just get laid all the time and they have to work at it all. Women just fall in their laps. Celebrities, sports, sports figures, famous sporting people. What are they called?

Athletes. Athletes. And like people who play sports, athletes. I mean, how hard is it for them to figure woods? The guys say the ball was sick. The guys say the ball was sick. The guys say the hard is it for the guys? The ball was this show up somewhere right and he would get lay. I mean I'm saying that's what I'm saying. You're doing it. I'm talking holes whatever exactly. Yeah, but look look at the percentage. I'm talking about all the women all over versus like 10% of guys out there that have it like that. Okay, let's move on. Okay. Dear Emily, this is about having an affair. Okay.

I have two kids under 28 months. I'm not having sex with my wife because she is too tired, bored, hungry, has a headache, a backache, etc, etc, etc. She sounds like a joy. I found a girlfriend for benefits. Oh no. I know it's wrong, but just need physical companionship. I love my wife and kids. Just not having sex is killing me. So what do you think? I've told her that I really need it and not all the time, just one or two times a week. I don't think that's too much. Do you Tim from White Plains, New York? Okay, Tim, I'm never going to say it's okay for you to find a girlfriend for benefits. Okay, it's not okay. I get why you did it. I get that you have two kids under 28 months.

That is all tough on a relationship, but every couple who has kids has gotten to negotiate the same issue. A lot of time they say on average, women start wanting sex again for three months, but I found it to be more like six to eight months. And then you had another kid, so that was delayed again. That was another six months. You might not want to have sex. It's something that you have to work on in your marriage, and you're never gonna heal it if you have this girlfriend

that you're seeing, you're never gonna heal your marriage, and if you really love your wife, and you really love your kids, and you really want to stay together, I would really end this other girlfriend thing, and take it your wife, you guys could go to marriage counseling, you go to a sex therapist, you could talk to your wife about more about sex and ask her what does feel good to her maybe she's a back rub or her foot massage and a lot of women get turned on by housework have you

been a good father have you been helping out with the kids have you been doing your part have you been pulling your own weight around the house it's really easy to go out and find another woman to bang but the bigger issue here is that you've got this whole relationship and kids and a marriage that sounds like you want to keep and you're just doing the easy thing. It's just finding girlfriend and I don't think that that's going to bowed well in the long one. Did you ever think about this also? Maybe every time you have sex you end up having a kid. Having kids back to back, she might be afraid. There's such thing as protection. Yeah, maybe you can do some about it, but I look. You ain't gonna have another kid.

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So I'm feeling it, feeling it, just the time for Vegas. Okay, next email, making a woman feel special. Emily, friends with benefits is awesome. Keep up the great work. That's our program if you become a friends of benefits member on the show. Keep up the great work. Here's my question. I hear all the time that the key to a girl's heart is to make her laugh and make her feel

special. However, I do not know exactly what it means to make a girl feel special. What should I be doing both in a group setting and alone to accomplish this? Billy from Vancouver, Canada, he's a premium friend with benefits member. Billy. Billy. Billy. Billy. Billy. Okay. So first of all, how do you make a woman feel special when you're alone and when you're together. I would just say a few just really quick tips about how to do it is remember what she says. Listen to her. Listening is huge and then repeat back to her things that she says. So how was that big meeting you had? Or you know, oh, that's at the time when you were little and you told me that you love

to jump on the trampoline and you broke your foot. Like women like to know that you remember things that they tell you. And that makes them feel special and listened and adored. Pay attention. I would also say compliments are big. You know how I feel about compliments. You can never give a woman too many compliments. And little surprises are the little things you could do. I'm not saying you could go out and spend a lot of money, but can you do something for

her that would make a plan one night? If you guys have been together a while. Have you, you know, made a special plan or gone to a new fun restaurant or got tickets to a show or go to the new park that just opened. Yeah, this remembering things is just huge. Right. Don't you think how do you make women feel special, menace? Well, I just remember like, oh, this singer is my favorite singer.

And so when that singer comes to town, yeah, you remember. I call him up and say, hey, it's the little things right it's a little things Billy you surprise them though you don't say oh I heard such and such is coming to town no you be a man you're like I'm taking you to see this person surprises are huge I mean even when this guy I'm dating he brings over my favorite chocolate bar that I'm obsessed with from Whole Foods. They are dark chocolate and sea salt almond candy bar that you should all go get. It makes me so happy. It doesn't bring it over every time, but when you bring it over, I'm like, oh my god,

it's heavy. It was a $2 candy bar, but it made me really happy. It was like a little special thing he could do. Candy bar. Lemon Loucher. We love chocolate. And if you're a guy, you should always have a reserve of chocolate in your fridge. What is the percentage of the cocoa?

Bubba what do you mean? I was dating this Oh, like 70% I needed I needed to be 80% blah blah. I'm like what the F is that yeah dark chocolate It's like the fancy chocolate. Yeah, it's a fancy chocolate But I love it and he buys it for me all the time and it's awesome And I would just say little surprises. And you're saying, what should you be doing in a group setting and alone? I'd say when you're alone also,

I mean, if you're talking about sexually, you should perform sexual acts on her that would make her feel special. Give her massages, go down on her, do things that make her feel... Poor champagne are boobs. I wouldn't say that. Only if she wants you to.

But foreplay always makes a woman feel special. And for play is something that is necessary. It's not just a byproduct of sex. It actually is sex. And it's the most important thing that you need to do. The really into facials, given facials, that makes them feel good. That's not all women don't feel great about facials. But before you jack the Edelwoman's face, which is what matters is referring to, you should

ask her first, if that's okay. So I think I'll see if Dona does made a woman feel special. No, I'm just really into the surprises. Like I just remember. Little things. It can just be like I cleaned your car. Like my stupid engine light. I got my tires fixed six months ago now and I had a low tire. I got a flat tire. Yeah. go now. And I had a low tire, I got a flat tire. Went to the tire shop, they fixed it. But the low tire, the low air, the friggin light is still on in my car like for six months, even though you just go off after you fix the problem, the light in the car is just to

go off. It hasn't gone off. So he took my car, he took my car keys when I wasn't knowing and he went and he fixed and got the friggin light turned off. That was huge, but it sounds just stupid, but there's certain things that I just couldn't get myself back to the tire shop, and he knew because he's a dude and whatever. He's one of those car guys, and he figured it out and did it for me. That was like, I seriously wanted to give him a blowjob right there in the middle of the street. See, this is why I don't agree with the compliments every day, all day, because when you do stuff like that,

it's much more special. What? When you do surprise things like that. But like, you're like, oh, I need like 10 compliments a day. Yeah, 10. I'm more like 10 because people are gonna do one. Because the stuff happens with the car and things like that. It's not as special as when you don't do the compliments.

Yeah, but if he's like, wow, I really like your shirt. It's weird, this guy I've been dating, he was like, that's a great color on you. I was wearing this shirt, that he's like, that color looks really nice on you. It was a very specific compliment. It wasn't like you've been nice to ask in your hot. That's a great, that looks amazing. It really brings out your eyes. That to me is a great compliment. It was very specific to something that I was doing. It wasn't just like your hot babe. Women like compliments, you want to be built up,

we're insecure, we need your compliments, okay? All right. 10 times a day, that's all I'm asking. Okay, let's move into our topic. And the topic is? Dealbreakers. We've got dealbreakers first. What is your dealbreakers?

First date dealbreakers, relationship dealbreakers and sex dealbreakers. Because I don't think you have any deal breakers. You just go in anyways for it. And then you just, you know, you take people that you shouldn't date, you just keep on dating them and I don't know how you eventually break up, but you're,

I've got deal breakers. Yeah, but there's deal breakers that you see, but you always look past them. I mean, maybe I used to be like that. I used to be more like that. I used to spend half my relationships trying to get out of them and staying way too long. So I feel like my deal breakers are a guy who's cheap. These are just off the top of the head.

A guy who's cheap, these are my own personal, and then you have to tell me yours. A guy who's cheap, a guy who doesn't listen, someone who is not passionate about something in his life, he has no passion, hates his job, hates his mom, hates his life. Somebody who abuses alcohol or drugs too much, not attractive, slaughtering drunk. Damn it. What, that's too. And I guess somebody who doesn't like, like he's rude to people, he's like arrogant. I don't like arrogance. Yeah, I don't like bragging

Mm-hmm. I could go on and on I I'm really big into the the negative thing. Yeah, we've anymore just like downers. They bring you down Yeah, just like oh, you always got to try to keep them happy and stuff like that high-main inch chicks can't stand them Right, so that constantly needs attention, deal breaker, moth. Like if I start hanging out with some girl and then immediately she search texting me like on the regular and texting me

again before I even respond, I'm like, oh. Right, she double texts. She double texts, I'm like, all right, I'm already off. You're like, I'm out. No way. Yeah, I can see that. I can totally see that. Well, we got a lot of responses.

You can follow us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Sex with Emily, and Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and you can find us to, yeah, Sex Downey. And you can find menace, white menace, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. And we actually posted, we asked people, what are your first date deal breakers? And a lot of the people responded, so we're going to get into what our listeners said.

Great. But first, I'm going to get into just what are some common deal breakers that have come up. These are some common first date deal breakers. Here she has low self esteem. So low self esteem, they're insecure, they're not happy. She asks you if her after-sex baths and the fat in these jeans. And then even if you give them the answer,

they just don't matter. It doesn't matter. Yeah, yeah. It doesn't matter. But low self esteem is a rough one because people have low self esteem and they live on that. But I think that guy or woman who has low self esteem

is not attractive. Okay, number two, here she brings his mom on your first date. I had that happen last summer. Do you remember that I went out with a guy and he brought his mom in the first date? Now, she was visiting from out of town and I thought that he gave me the option. He's like, my mom would like to come with us to the Walt Disney Museum. Do you remember this? Yes.

And I said, I thought to myself, that's odd. And then I thought, well, you know what, bring the mom along. Let's see how we treat his mom because to me, that's a deal breaker. A guy who hates his mom or means to his mom or kind of sending to his mom, I don't want to do that guy because my mom always said, look how a guy treats his mother and that's how he's going to treat you. So I'm like, well, if I, it was a blind date too. So I was like, well, if I actually like this guy, I can see how we treat his mother.

Yeah, to me that wasn't a deal breaker. So weird though. It was a deal breaker. Weird though. It was a weird thing. I have to say it was weird, but it said that they bring the mom to the first state that is a deal breaker. Okay, this was, this is huge. We were going to read some of the listener responses in a minute, but poor hygiene, like, people were like, went off on hygiene.

So poor hygiene. And what's the deal with poor hygiene? Like, so people who have poor hygiene don't know that they have poor hygiene. Is there like, why can't we start an app where you just like, you anonymously tell all your friends poor hygiene that they should use some deodorant or something? Or they should brush their teeth more.

That's a little mean, but. It is mean, but there's all the people who are all that, they don't know that they have poor hygiene and they're going on these dates and they're not going on second dates because they have bad breath I can't I can't hang out with a woman that doesn't wash their hair like all the time There's a lot of women that don't like washing their hair all the time because they have like extensions

And it smells and it stinks really they're stinks You notice that and then what do you just can't deal? I'm just like okay, I'll have sex with them But then I'll leave I mean like I don? I'm just like, okay, I'll have sex with them, but then I'll leave. I mean, I don't want to stay at the time. Yeah, I got it. Well, that was a big one that came up. Okay, no common interests. This is the first day deal breaker.

I disagree about this one. No common interests. I don't care. I like learning it from other people. Me too. I actually want to be with a guy who brings a lot to the table that I don't know about it. So to me, it's not like, oh my god, we like the same music and we like defecation in

the same place and we like this, we both like hamburgers, like let's get married. I feel like when you have a lot of differences, sometimes that can be really attractive when they say opposites attract. Yeah, I've actually never really dated somebody. I'm like, oh, we were really into all the same thing. Yeah, because who the hell is like you? Yeah, seriously. Nobody.

I know that this version would be scary. really into all the same things. Because who the hell is like you? Yeah, seriously. They usually, the people. All medicine version would be scary. No, like usually the people that I date get into everything that I'm into. Right, and those are the women who are insecure and don't have a life of their own. Oh yeah, no. No?

No, I think it's all, it's all kinds of women. Okay, another first day deal breaker is drunk on the first date. This is a common one. And this happens all the time. It doesn't get wasted on the first date. This is a common one. And this happens all the time. It doesn't get wasted on the first date. It's fun. Because people are so angry,

they have a lot of anxiety around first dates because they think, oh, I'm going to kiss or we're going to be attracted to each other. What's going to happen or they are attracted? So they drink too. So a lot. And everyone just watch your alcohol and take. You can get drunk on the second date.

First date, though, if he's got to be caring you up your steps, that's not a good sign. No, I'm going to be like, this chicken party. Have you gone out with the girl who's gotten wasted on the first? I'm sure you have. Yeah, yeah, definitely. Was it a deal breaker? No.

Because you were that drunk too. I was that drunk too, but you know, there will be other times where we're hanging out and I don't drink as much and then they're just like plastered. Oh right, they're always drinking. That's a big turn off from being. Yeah, because I always have to go to events where I'm working, but everyone else is drinking. Right. And then so I actually get to see what they look like when they're drinking.

Right, when you don't drink for a while and everyone's wasted, they're like, they're not interesting. They're going on and I want to go home. I'm just annoyed by everybody. Right, everyone's annoying with their drink. They're not, you're not entertaining when you're really drunk. You think you are, but you're not. Liquid courage, that's annoyed by everybody. Right, everyone's annoying me, they're drunk. They're not, you're not entertaining when you're really drunk. You think you are, but you're not. Liquid courage, that's all it is.

I know, I was, I don't know how it is across the country who happened to be listening, but here, really big on the West Coast, is hot dogs wrapped in bacon. Oh yeah. So good. Those are delicious, they sell them on the street. Yeah, so good.

It's called street meat. You know? And the other night, I was's so good. It's called Street Meat. You know, and the other night I was out on St. Patrick's Day, but I wasn't drinking because I was driving and I saw one of those. I'm like, oh, I got to stop. It's so good. So I stopped and some drunk and bro is standing right there, right? And he's like, oh, can I help you? But he wasn't running the stand. It was another guy. And he was just drunk. And he thought, he was being funny. He's like, oh, can I help you? But he wasn't running the stand. It was the other guy. And he was just drunk. And he thought, he was being funny.

He's like, oh, what do you want on your bubble? I'm like, I'm good, dude. I'm good. I don't want it. Right, I don't need you to put my ketchup on my wing. I don't need any help. It's just so annoying, but this guy thought he was so hilarious.

Right, right, right. I'm really pissed. I'm really pissed. I'm really wanting to punch him in the face. I get it. That's bad. OK, the next first day deal breaker, Bad Breath. That goes along with poor hygiene. But bad breath. When I read you my responses for my listeners,

bad breath was huge. You know me. I'm always. I know you're conscious about it, but like how do you, how do you not know if you just don't know if you've bad breath? I might have bad breath. No one tells me. Will you tell me? Do I have bad breath? I'll tell you. No, I don't know. Okay. But. Okay, but I'll really spell. I'll really spell. Yeah. But like, have you been with the woman who has bad breath? Yes.

And what do you, you just didn't, Kester? No, I tell her. You tell her? I don't care, just tell her. Just tell them, so that's a good thing. Like, you know, you need to get a mint girl. Check yourself. You awful of a mint, but as soon as you offer people gum

and they're like, oh, do I bad breath? They go, yes. It's a good, right. Just do it, who cares, help them out, man. It's a good, right? Just do it. Who cares? Help them out, man. Okay. This is another first day do breaker is answering the questions. How it toasts?

I'm going to dentist next week. I need to do that too. I'm very excited to go to the dentist. Me too. I love it. That'll help prevent bad breath. Yes. Everyone should go twice a year.

Answering the phone during the date. Now you don't answer your phone during a day. You just tweet the whole time. A tweet, a text. But if I'm really into them, I don't use the phone. You don't? No. You leave it in your pocket. Yeah.

The whole time. I'd like to see you leave your phone in your pocket for longer than 20 minutes. I can do it. I've never seen it. I can totally do it. I'd like to follow you on the video camera. I don't have my phone on me right now, do I? Because you can't end it off for some reason, and I don't know why.

Because it needs to be charged. Okay, I'm like, why are you so proud? I need it for when I leave the studio to go back. I was like, oh my God, he just handed off his phone. I was like, really? I'm like, that's crazy. But whatever you're addicted to your phone too, what about you?

Do you have your phone? I do not answer no. If I'm, in fact, I actually notice, I know that I like someone if I haven't checked my phone the entire day. Otherwise I go to the bathroom and check it in the middle or in the middle of the day. Or like 20 minutes and I go to the bathroom. Yeah, I'm attached to the phone, but that is rude to answer your phone during the day

or to be texting the whole time. Okay, tardiness is another first day deal breaker. If someone's really late, but sometimes traffic, you live in a big city. What do you think is the minimum, maximum, or time someone can be late, 20 minutes? That's about standard, but if someone's like, 30 minutes late, 45 minutes late, I'd be pissed on a first date.

Yeah. I rush to get ready, and you're not having a problem. Yeah, but I understand things happen. It depends what happened. He better have been like had an elephant in the middle of the rough. If there's like a work issue and stuff like that, I've waited like two hours. Like from the time that we were supposed to meet up, but you know, this person had a

work thing on it. Right. Something major comes up. But if you're just late because you're doing your hair as a dude, our girl, I don't know that guy. I don't know that guy either. I don't want to know that guy who takes longer to get ready than I do. Axe body spray. Need some extra.

Root to the waiter. That's another first day deal breaker. That's just like the mom thing. My mom says if the root to the waiter hate their mother or they're not a good guy for you. They're like waiter. We didn't order this. I'd never be rude to the waiter. I mean either. I was a waitress. where you were probably were you over waiter? No. But you still should never be rude. Yeah, never. It's actually you should be kind.

Don't be rude to anybody. The host is the waiter, anybody. The guy parks your car. Don't be rude to anybody. But if you're a rude person, you don't know that you're rude. But again, I think everybody needs to stage their own interventions.

Like literally invite all your friends and family over and tell them why they hate you. Tell them the things about you that you don't that you could improve upon. It's a really hard thing to do, but I think it's a good thing to do. I always share this. There's just one weird thing about me that I'm not a jealous person. If somebody's gonna cheat on you, they're gonna cheat on you, but there's just one issue. Like I don't care if I'm at a bar and somebody starts talking to the girl that I'm with

or whatever, they can go ahead and do that. I'll talk to other people fine. But when I'm at a restaurant and the girl's overly talkative to the waiter. I don't care. I just like, do you just wanna go and like hang out? Because I feel like a douche is sitting here, not part of the conversation, you know?

What are the hell are they talking to the waiter? Can you please read this down? I don't know, but some leaders are like, you know, some, they're suave, you know, and they like, they try to talk to your chick. So you made it this threatened by the waiter, Kanna? No, I'm just like, I'm like, you're here with me. Like, if you wanna go talk to the guy, go talk to him.

Okay, so women should be mindful of their chatter with the waiter. Yeah, but I don't want you ever to be a bitch the waiter, never. But just don't talk to him too much. Yeah, confusing about this. Why? How long am I allowed to talk to the waiter for?

You're like, oh, hello, Tom, what you want and stuff like that. But don't start talking about, you know, I don't know, oh, where you from and all this kind of stuff. Right, yeah, I've never done that. But don't start talking about, you know, I don't know, all where you from and all this kind of stuff. Right, yeah, I've never done that. But you're right, I'm sure you've done that. I don't think I've ever chatted. And that's the way it was super friendly. I'm usually just like super hungry

and I just want to order my meal and get it over with. Okay, another first day dear breaker, because we're gonna move on to relationship and sex deal breakers is talking about other women or men they find attractive. She's got a nice ass that woman over there, look at her legs. Who the hell is gonna do that on a first date,

but if you do that on a first date, it's not good. I never do that when I'm dating somebody. I think this is just a different thing. No, that's really disrespectful. I hate that. And women are so into care about how they look, a lot of women are, and it just compounds that entire issue. I don't even care if it's a celebrity.

I don't be like, oh my god. issue. So, I don't even care if it's a celebrity. I don't even be like, oh my God. Oh my God, I'd bang, yeah. Whoever. Yeah, don't talk about that stuff. Asking inappropriate questions such as, have you ever had anal sex? Have you ever hooked up with a woman?

Don't ask sex questions on the first date. Wow. And don't talk about your acts. Who the hell is doing that stuff? This happens all the time. Well, it happens. I go out of people all the time and they ask talk about your ox. Who the hell is doing that stuff? This happens all the time. Well, it happens to, I go out people all the time and they ask me about sex, but that's because I talk show. You're probably hanging out with like perverts.

No, I'm not hanging out perverts really, but I talked about, and then talking about their ox. That's not a good thing to do in the first day and asking inappropriate sex questions. I have people ask, okay, sex with Emily, I do, but I get people asking me inappropriate sex questions all the forgettors. Perves. Perves? Okay, here's someally, I do, but I get people asking me inappropriate sex questions all the forgettors. Perves.

Perves. Okay, here's some relationship deal breakers. If you're in a relationship, these are going to end the relationship. No money in the bank account. It's not a slimming. Nope, cheating. He or she cheats on you. Of course, I'm done.

Done. Doesn't want to spend weekend nights with you. Done. Lies constantly. Okay. Okay. These are nights with you. Done. Lies constantly. Okay. Okay. These are all, yeah. Right. Neglects you in public in front of friends.

Have you ever dated someone? Does that? And you probably haven't. But I haven't either, but I know that there's a lot of people like, I'm with my buddies. I'm not going to talk to you. Neglects?

Neglects you in public or in front of their friends. They should take you to party. I want to. You want a girl who can go off on her own. You don't have to pay attention. Yeah, I want to be able to do whatever the hell I want to do. I don't want to be having to hang around. No one wants to babysit.

No. You want someone who can hang with your friends and not need all your attention. Yeah, that's why when I go to like Vegas and stuff like that, I don't invite anybody to go with me because I don't want a babysit anyway. Right. You wouldn't have to babysit me. I think that one of my major pluses as a date is that I actually can walk into a room and talk to anyone. I actually love going into a room where I don't know anybody and talking because I like talking and mellick meeting

people. Just one of my things. Okay. If someone doesn't introduce you to their friends for a while, they're like, I'm not, you're not gonna be my friends. Deal breaker. Has weird friends? What do you think about the notion that you can tell a lot about the person by their friends? Yeah, but my friends are so eclectic. I got like super weird friends.

Like, I have friends. But they're all good people, right? They're not like, they might be weird, but they're good. I have super weird, super successful friends. I just say has bad friends, has friends that you don't like. I mean, even if they're weird, I'm sure your friends are all, I've met, they're endearing and great, right? Even if they're weird, they're glad. I mean, I have a galactic friends too. People are always like, oh, you're really interesting friends. But I, if I guess the biggest problem is if you're dating someone and they have no friends, to me, that's a deal, but if I feel like, oh, you're really interesting friends. But I, if, I guess the biggest problem is if you're dating

someone and they have no friends. To me, that's a deal breaker. I feel like I have no friends. No, I actually don't have friends. Someone doesn't have friends, deal breaker. Criticize you in public. Someone's like, why are you driving like that or get to the back of the line or whatever it is?

Criticizing you in public. Deadly, I mean, they're dead serious like. Criticizing you in public. Yeah, not jokingly. Yeah, no, people do that. They're like, why are you saying that again? They do not have real housewives of Beverly Hills all the time. What do you mean? They criticize each other, the spouses and stuff.

Like, are you really gonna go there right now? They bicker, couples who bicker and public a lot. Yeah, yeah, screw that. Cheap skates splits the bill with a calculator, never willing to spend any money on it. That's Emily, she's a cheap skate. I am not. But I agree, a guy who's whipping out a calculator

is not attractive during if you're dating someone. There's no guy on the planet that's still splitting the bill on the first day. Yeah, dude, no way. I hear stuff about this every single day about guys who's, but because the woman offers, she does the, she does the reach. She has the reach.

She does the reach for the wallet. And every woman on the planet wants a guy to say, that's cool, I've got it on the first date. I'm not saying every date, but if on the first date, you're like, yeah, you owe me $12.62, that's a deal breaker. Sorry, it's true. Anger management college gets mad at strangers for a little reason at all, almost always gets in fights.

So I'm just fighting a lot, deal breaker. Abusive, physically, or emotionally, obviously, as a deal breaker, drug and alcohol addiction. Okay, living at home, living still living at home with your parents, perhaps okay for 20-somethings, but not okay in your thirties. Agree. Damn it. I was playing, I'm moving back in with your mom. You're gonna be back in with your mom. Yeah. And her llamas. Someone with underlying issues with insecurity, confidence, equal sexy.

That's so true. And not having your back. Those are all the relationship dope breakers. Yeah. I, uh. Those are pretty obvious, but I'm just telling you. I think if there was anything that wasn't covered that, so deal breakers for me. I've got sex deal breakers that, oh yeah, tell me. Trying to think if there's any, is there anything that sticks out for you?

That wasn't covered? I feel like that's all, I mean, drug and alcohol addiction, abusive physically, doesn't have any friends, doesn't do shit to their friends, they're insecure. I mean, confidence at the end of the day is the most important thing. And if you can't get that confidence from someone else, you have to give it to yourself. And if you're lacking in self-esteem right now and you don't have confidence, I would say that should be your number one priority.

If you're not in a relationship and you can't meet anyone, you can't stick with anyone, I think you've got low self-esteem and you've got to work on your confidence. And I don't, I can tell you like you need to go to therapy, you can't stick with anyone, I think you've got low self-esteem and you've got to work on your confidence. And I can tell you, you need to go out of therapy, you need to feel good about it. I mean, a lot of women and men have low self-esteem and no confidence and it comes from childhood, it comes from the way you grew up, nature and nurture, it comes from everything.

It could be in your genes, it could be from your, where your family treated you, treated you. But if you don't have that confidence, just start working on it now. Buy some books, go to a therapist, I don't know whatever you gotta do to get that confidence up because everyone will tell you on the plan at the number one most sexiest thing

in the whole world is a confident person. Yeah. Do you know what's a deal breaker for me? What, Menace? Uh, bad dressers. Oh yeah. I like a woman that stylish, a woman that dresses up and is like confident.

I've actually dated some people that are just like, weren't interested. Right. And it wasn't a track. You weren't you. No, I'm not saying that you have to wear our mes boots and all this kind of things like that. But just, you know, put some time into your appearance. Not that it's all about looks.

I definitely need to date somebody that's, you know, fun to be around and stuff like that. But I want, you know, I'm like, I want to be proud. I'm like, yeah, this is my girl. Yeah, I'm coming. She is, right. Yeah. Yeah, make an effort on what you wear, exactly. I agree. Okay, I agree with that. But as a woman, there's a lot of men who are challenged in that department. Yes. And I remember when I was dating someone when I was younger, I said to my mom,

I'm like, but I hate a shoes. And she's like, you can buy them new shoes. You can take a guy shopping, you can take a woman shopping, you can change that. Yeah, but women get offended when you get them clothes. Maybe. I remember I was dating a girl and for her birthday, I got another book clothes. I got a bunch of different clothes from different places,

awesome places. And she was offended that I got her close. She's like, well, you don't like what I wear. And wasn't sure that you didn't like what she wore. I'm like, yeah, obviously, because I'm buying all these clothes. She was offended. Yeah, she was offended, but you know what, she got over it and she wore the clothes. And she looked cute. Yeah. It's not a bad idea. That's a great way to solve it But I can I'm definitely a good stylist when it comes to women because I I my parents got divorced when I was six so I've only been around my mother my mother love shopping So I would I know more about female clothes than I do Maclose and I'm a straight man. Yes, you I'll tell you I'll tell you like

I take you shopping time. Yeah, take me shopping So I'll tell you, I'll tell you like, Oh, yeah, that looks good. Yeah, take me shopping. Would you come with me? Yeah, and I'll be like, Oh, that looks good. That's all right. Yeah, but you tell me everything looks bad.

No, I wouldn't. I'll tell you what. No way. Just to get my shirt, just to get me. Yeah, but when it comes to, uh... You'd be like, that's ugly. If I pick it out, you'd be like, that doesn't work.

But then if you pick something out, you'd be like, that's amazing. No, I wouldn't. I'm just seeing how this is going down. Oh, no, be like, that doesn't work. But then if you pick something out, you'd be like, that's amazing. No, I would see how this is going down. Oh, no, no, no. We're not shopping together. We'll go to the RMS store. Okay, love you. RMS, how do you say?

Air Mets. Air Mets. Air Mets, well, it's spelled H-E-R-M-E-S, but it's pronounced air Mets. Air Mets. Okay, we'll go on your dollar. Perfect. When I'm a billionaire.

Okay, sex deal breakers. These are what people find their deal breakers to be around sex. Not enthusiastic. Enthusiasm is key, especially when it comes to oral sex. Everyone says that the number one main thing is when you're performing oral sex and a man or woman is enthusiasm, show that you're into it, that you're not just walking to the motion. So enthusiasm is big, bad hygiene.

That's a big sex deal breaker. Never wants to have sex or give oral sex. I agree that is a deal breaker. Women using teeth during oral sex are using rings during a hand job. I don't know if it's a deal breaker. You just take the rings off. Yeah. I never had that issue. Most women know not to use teeth. That's like a blow job class 101. They just might be angry after using teeth. Right. No foreplay going right to the sex. I agree foreplay should be your best friend Aggressive dirty talk on the first sexual interaction. You like that bitch. Yeah, we're daddy stuff So if you like dirty talk and you want to be aggressive don't pull it all on the first first time having sex Always wanting to do the same sex positions, never changing it up, apologizing

for bad performance. Sorry, sorry, I came so quickly. Don't apologize, we all know that you blew your blood too quickly, but it's fine. When women don't care about that as much as the guy does, so just you need to apologize, it's fine when we move on next time, hopefully you'll last longer. Yeah. Napping open minded about the other person's fantasies and desires. That could be a deal-baker. But maybe the person's not right for you. So that's a good deal-baker. If I'm really into being tied up and gagged or whatever, just for example, which I'm not, it's to be gagged. I think that maybe that's where a person for you. So it's good to get all that out there. Adjaculation etiquette, a surprise facial. Who doesn't love a nice facial?

You got to ask. We did a whole show on Adjaculation etiquette last week and you got to ask. Ignoring the person after sex. So obligatory cuddling. You got a cuddle for at least three to five minutes. Hopefully, 50. Okay, three to five minutes. 15. 15, it's hot. It, I'm hot.

So go take a shower. Okay. You got to find who nobody doesn't like to cuddle. Do you find women who don't like to cuddle? Okay, we got to get into what I've been listening to. That's not possible. Okay, so these are what some of our listeners says, okay? I asked them what their deal breakers were. Kay, these are all from Facebook and we got to get into what I was just. That's impossible. Okay, so these are what some of our listeners says. Okay, I asked them what their dealbreakers were.

Okay, these are all from Facebook and we got some on Twitter. This is a section of that on my Facebook page. Too many flake outs, people who are flaky. And everyone complains about like the 20-toning generation is being super flaky. So I guess everyone's flaking out. Yeah. No penis, LOL.

Okay, trying to kiss on the first date or hold my hand when we've just met or being late Veronica says dirty fingernails because if that's dirty imagine everything else. Okay guys So get a get a get a pedicure manicure Nina says once a guy smacked my ass when I got up to the restroom I had known him all of half an hour. I never returned from the restroom. I went home instead. Wow That's awesome Sarah says all of half an hour, I never returned from the restroom. I went home instead. Wow. That's awesome.

Sarah says, clinky men are a no-no. I need my space. John says, Toe's a hang off the side of a sandal or flip flop. Who's wearing flip flops on her first date? I don't know, sandals though, women who have Toe's hanging off sandals, you ever noticed that? Oh, yeah, yeah, but I don't think that was weird.

It's not a deal breaker. Okay, Jessica says bad breath. Eddie says wearing braces, I'm 26, not looking to date someone with problems 13 and 14 year olds have. I don't see too many people out there with braces, but you know what, at least they're doing something about it. Okay. Jeremy says they're all several that I think

rank as the number one thing for me. However, if I had to choose, I'd say the inability for the person to hold a conversation is the biggest deal breaker. I'm so worried about that. What? About the conversation dying when I remember you know somebody. Right. So you know, you just got to have a list of set questions like go to things. Yeah. Because you could just be seen there, like, damn, what do I talk about next? What do I do? Yeah. You gotta just, I don't know, I guess that's what we do

for a living, we talk. I'm sure that you never have lacks in conversation, do you? No. But it's common that people do. But I am still definitely afraid of it. Read The New York Times that day, and then go in with everything you read. Oh my God.

Did you hear about Justin Bieber? Yeah. Or men. Came out of the song. He came out of the song. It's boyfriend. You'd always have stuff to talk about, right? Exactly.

Yeah. Talk. Do you know this about Emily Morris? I've got to do gossip about me. I'll tell you something. You don't know anything about me. Okay. Charles on Facebook says talking about nothing but herself and her ex boyfriend issues

That's on attractive. This is a speaker Can hold a conversation no second date Laura says an arrogant man Lori says a liar, but bad manners is a close second Bad manners. Yeah, bad manners like Like there's a lot of women around the guys who like cut their right, cut right with their fork and their knives and hold the utensils appropriately. So you mean when I pre-cut everything, I'm not supposed to do that. But I like doing that with the pancakes. You're so cute. With the pancakes, I like

cutting the whole pancake. So maybe you they'd overlook your bad manners. That's bad manners. I don't, I know some women are like, oh, you're not supposed to cut everything all at the same time. I like doing that because then I can just, I can just put the fork in there and keep on shoving it into my mouth. I don't have to cut it every single time. You can just get it done in one place.

Yeah, but you're not a three year old. But I like doing it. I know, but it's not exactly the same. But do you know what? I don't want to get with the girl that doesn't like that. So, so menace, there will be someone out there for you. She might even click your meat for you. Yeah. Would you like that? I would love that. Would you? So all those girls that don't want to do that for me can. Exactly.

Exactly. Okay. This is from Twitter, Sack of the Emily, you can find us on Twitter. Okay, short hair or tattoos. Uh, Symba. Symba? Says short hair, tattoos is a turn off. Uh, I disagree on tattoos, but short hair. Totally. You don't like short hair, right? No guy like short hair. Okay.

I'm telling you right there. Uh, there right now. Oh, it looks like some chicks look good with short hair. No, only other chicks. Only other chicks say that looks good. Guys do not like short hair. Don't give me wrong women. Guys are still gonna sleep with you.

It's not gonna affect your sex life. Or you're dating life or anything like that. But if you had longer hair, they would prefer it. Okay. Anyways, we gotta wrap it up. Yeah, we still got a little time. We still got a little time. Okay, sorry. So we got a few more here here on willing to dabble and mildly kinky things like male chassis of your strap on play

Well, that's not gonna happen, but you're gonna find someone who will want to do that. Okay, no one says if the girl fart's during dinner I am never a metaphorger Lay me on the dog. Okay, bad teeth. Yes. I agree. Black teeth is a tough one. I mean, I know it costs a lot of money, fix it, and stuff like that, but it's just distracting.

It is. It is. And then stupidity. That's what we got from our listeners. I'm losing that department. Well, you're not too bright, but you're cute. I have a point where you got it. I've got some cool things to say once in a while.

Yeah, that's true. Okay. Okay, everyone. I hope everyone has a happy Friday. Thanks for listening to worry about it. I've got some cool things to say once in a while. Yeah, it's true. Okay. Okay, everyone. I hope everyone has a happy Friday. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Find more at sexwithemlee.com. We'll improve your sex life and change your world. And I want to give a shout out to jimmyjane.com.

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