Sex With Emily - SWE: Digital Dating

Episode Date: September 7, 2012

mily discusses how to navigate your online relationship, from the first online dating message to the unfortunate “it’s not you, it’s me” email message. Emily explores the brave new digital world of dating, and questions whether it’s possible to “Liketerbate,” E-snoop, E-hump, and digital dump with at least some human decency. After all, emoticons cannot replace real human emotion. In other news, a man semen scientist actually thinks swallowing semen makes women smarter and happier, and people are actively trying not to orgasm during sex. Sounds like reverse psychology at it’s best. Emily answer listeners emails about what to do if they don’t call, having sex with your roommate, and giving yourself oral sex. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mark our secret institutions Betrubized they call them in a bike on me. Hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. It's a lie. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry?

It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. Hello.

Hello, hello, you're listening. Check, check. You're listening to sex with Emily. How are you doing, everyone? I was weird, I couldn't hear you talking. Really? Now you come. There was like a check check. For a moment, it was probably like a blessing in a car.

You were like, I can't hear her. That's good. Yeah. And then you were like, oh wait, I need to hear her. I need to hear for the show. We're live on XM. You're listening, we're live on XM. Thanks everyone for listening to us on Serious XM.

It's Friday and thanks to all of our listeners. You know, you can listen to all of our podcasts easily on my website or iTunes or on XM. If you're listening to us here, you can find them all and download them for free. On demand, on Stitcher Radio. On Stitcher Radio. On Stitcher Radio. Stitcher is the most awesome app. You can get via your smartphone, iPad, anything,

and you can listen to any podcast you want. You don't actually have to download the file. You don't have to download the file into your like whatever, so you can just like stream it and then be done with it. And it's a free app. It's a free app. What else do I do? What else do I do?

I'll say about a free app that's not free. My app, KagleCamp, K-E-G-E-L, helps you remind you to do your kegel exercises, which men and women both need to do. You go see your doctor, he will tell you to do them. All I'm going to tell you now is that doing those exercises will improve your sex life, so you should download that app for your iPhone. Kaggle Camp. Today's show is brought to you by Mask.

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inside the bedroom and out. So what's up, Metis? How you doing? I'm good. You had a party. Yeah, thanks for nothing. Why didn't you come? What do you mean thanks for nothing?

I put you on prime time radio for an hour and put the hell out of it. It's just, you know me, we go through this all the time. It's just exhausting. It's exhausting. You didn't come. I think it's exhausting fighting with you about it. I had a big party last night. He didn't come. It takes me a couple days of recovery. I just can't afford it. But I'm sure it was amazing. I saw people tweeting about it. Yes. I told I tweet in the back and tell them to say that you know me. And you probably don't remember anybody talking to you. No one said they knew me you last night the party Amy Lauren was in town. She and I were on a show on a show called misadvised which you can download on Bravo

You can stream it on demand You can download an iTunes anyway It is a show and she wrote a book called eight weeks to ever lasting Finding your love in eight weeks and my book is hot sex and we had a dual book party and menace didn't show up Enough about that whatever and they expect that of me, but but yeah, tell me but I I think that Your your two books are a perfect marriage. I know we should sell them together Totally find the guy and now have the Zahe Bono when you get them. You know how they have like a CD Gift boxes or the yeah, the DVD, but right. Yeah, you should just marry those together, man

Right, I think you're right. My book is a hot hot sex over 200 things you can try a night You can find it on Amazon around my website, sexfamily.com. So it's like, how to find the guy, and she's all these rules that women should follow to finding guy, and then what you have them, how are you gonna bang them? You totally need a digital version of it. I know I do.

But it's such a beautiful book that I want people to own. So what? That's so old school, right? No one cares. She talked to my publisher. Everyone got to Kindle. I don't think they'll allow that on the iPad. They won't, right? No one cares. She talked to my publisher. Everyone got to Kindle. I don't think they'll allow that on the iPad. They won't.

It's a little dirty. I mean, the book isn't dirty, but the photographs are sort of explicit. Yeah, explicit. Yeah, I understand. I will be available. But yeah, check out my book, hot sex. If you're like one, like most people in the world

who've been having sex with someone for longer than nine months and you're bored, you might want to spice it up. By reading my book over 200 things. You can try two nights. But how was the party in general? It was fun. We had delicious cocktails. I got a little buzzed.

I thought a huge drinker. And they had special like passion martinis by ultimate vodka. Thank you to ultimate vodka for providing the drinks. And they kept providing with lots of drinks and I got drunk I know that I know one of the guys that runs the bar So I know he said hello to you and mentioned being But you must have been buzz and not remember. Yeah, I must have been buzz and I remember exactly So it was a fun party. There was lots of people there lots of fans came by who saw the show and

Came by because they wanted to meet us and then just now it's walking in the Stitcher building where we record and this one was like I love your show I just want to tell you when I'm sure everyone tells you that I'm like no not everyone in San Francisco has a television So actually no one tells me that Nice you can recognize all the time you said yeah because I go outside the city San Jose San Jose rock star Really ridiculous we'll come buying with all the things that we do San Jose. San Jose rock star. Really? Ridiculous.

We'll come by and with all the things that we do. Why can't we go? We should go to church and say, it's good for the ego. We're talking about this Bravo show. When you're in television, people act, they recognize you. Yeah. If you want another season, you should tweet Bravo

and hashtag misadvised. Exactly. And if you have no idea what the F we're talking about, you can go to your iTunes right now, type in misadvised and you can download the whole season for $7.99. It's well worth it because you can see Emily who's talking on the radio to you right now, who's an attractive woman, make out with a lot of guys. And once you want to see that. And one of the guys is menace, but that was a mistake. Yeah. No, that's me making her dreams come true. but that's fine.

We'll let that go. I felt like all my fantasies came through that day, too, that day, man. I know. Came through that day, and I just gave you a little tingle down there, didn't I? Yeah, it feels like I really, if I die tomorrow, I'd be happy. Because I kissed you. So, today's show, we're going to be talking about digital dating from the first online dating message to the digital dumping, everything in between.

Everyone's doing everything digitally. It is dumb for a less person in an email, how'd you meet them, the right things to say if you're gonna contact someone in line and what you shouldn't say if you contact them online. We're also gonna be reading your emails that you sent to feedback at sectionMV.com. You might have also emailed me right through my website,

and that's fine. You can also find me in Twitter my website, and that's fine. You can also find me in Twitter and Facebook, sex with Emily. That's what you gotta do to get my attention. What are you doing? What's new? What are you up to this weekend?

You've been on the wedding. I am in Southern California. I will be at Disneyland, at the ultra-exclusive restaurant known as Club 33. Love it. And I'm very excited about that. at Disneyland, at the ultra exclusive restaurant. No one has Club 33. Love it. And I'm very excited about that. Club 33 was voted on the top 10 list of places that you'll never visit in your life.

Really? And I get to go there, yeah. Twice this year. Twice in one year, yeah. Don't get arrested. I won't get arrested. But it's crazy because people talk about amazing places which I'm sure they're awesome like here

in Northern California. We have this world we're now in restaurant known as French laundry and everyone goes crazy over it. But yeah, you can get in French laundry. But this restaurant that I go to has a 14 to 20 year waiting list. How the hell do you get in twice in a year then? Because I know people, they know people. That's good minutes. Yeah, so it's very exciting to go to has a 14 to 20 year waiting list. How the hell do you get in twice in a year then? Because I know people, I know people.

That's good, Minus. Yeah, so it's very exciting to go to this, because it's something for my childhood that I've always heard about. Oh, you always heard about it. See, I never heard about it. I didn't know about this magical restaurant in Disney. Well, you're from Michigan, so.

But you probably, when you live in California, you frequent Disneyland a lot, so you learn a lot about Disneyland. Right. And you would always hear about this secret place where, you know, the only bar there is in the Disneyland head in the Disneyland park is the secret restaurant that actually has a bar in it.

And you always hear about it, but you don't know where it is and you have to do a secret knock and say a password. Oh my God, that's so crazy. And then they let you in. And you're going alone or you're going with a wedding couple. I'm going with the, my buddy's a diehard Disney fan and he's getting married. Oh.

And so this is my gift to him. That's your gift to him. Yeah, that's a good friend. So it's another lifelong dream for him to go to this restaurant. I know it sounds stupid, and I would totally be making fun of myself by saying how it's a lifelong dream to go to a restaurant. I think that sounds a little ridiculous. But it is something part of my childhood is part of Disney. So it's

much bigger than I got it. I totally got it. It's a big deal. That's great. And you're happy about his union who he's marrying. Yeah. I mean, he's I'm happy because he's already had two children with this girl. So it's finally it's time. It's finally time to commit It's either you know, don't commit or commit, you know Don't don't keep on living together and having to keep on pushing out babies if you're not gonna marry this person You know if you believe in marriage if Okay, I mean some people might want our kids not get married. What do you just want to have a bunch of kids? Maybe live with a guy for years and just never marry him.

Is that what you want? Honey, I don't even know. I'm trying to buy a new couch right now. And that's taken up a lot of time. So we'll see. How's your set, Jenny? You're not going to the wedding with a date, right? Are you?

What? What wedding? This wedding this weekend. This is the bachelor thing. No, no, no, it's a dinner. It's a wedding dinner. And then after that, I'm going to the wedding. And no, I'll not have somebody with me on the wedding because it's small, intimate wedding in Sanle.

So, Bispo, California, and then the next day is a receptionist. It's a two-day, effing wedding. How ridiculous is that? You would hate this. I would hate this. And then the next day, I'm going to be a reception. I'll have a date then.

You will? Yeah. Oh Did you pressure you into bringing her no you wanted to I want to bring somebody. Yeah. Oh good Yeah, man. It's good for you I always think you should never bring any anyone to a wedding unless you're really serious with them because the wedding is a great place to meet people and Everyone's in a good mood. Everyone's you know having a good time You can meet someone if you usually bring someone if you're serious So men seems pretty serious about this girl that he will not tell me about, but that's cool.

We can get in some sex in the news. What are you wearing? I'm banging. I'm banging. And yeah, I've been banging this guy for a while and we all went to Santa Cruz last weekend. Oh yeah, how was that trip? It was fun.

It was fun. It was a little cold. You said it was gonna be miserable because you didn't want to stay in one place for so long. It was fine. I mean, honestly, I'd rather be alone with this guy than with like a bunch of people, but I think his friends are awesome. Really?

He seems like he's awesome, but it seems like he would hang out with a lot of, you call bros. No, he doesn't get all. No bros. He's like half gay and like half gay. Lots of gay people. No, I don't know. But no, he doesn't. Bros, what is bromine like frat guys? Kind of bros. Yeah, he's on a bro. Oh, good. Not at all. Then I read it. I read it. Yeah, he's not a bro. I'm not saying he's

a bro. I'm just saying maybe he might hang out. He has that look. He has that look that he made. That he might hang out with bros. No, he doesn't. But it was fun. It was Santa Cruz. It was like one of these Northern California beach vacations where you weren't really in Santa Cruz. You weren't in a place called Appto's, which is like. Yeah, nearby.

La Selva Beach. And it was like freezing 52 degrees. We didn't even leave the house. And then it was like everyone's in there like, you know, winter crotes, because it was freezing. Wow. It was, it was a fascinating trip. And then this weekend, I'm going to Vegas on Sunday

for the International Laundry Show. So lots for our sponsors to be there. Telling me, you told me like five minutes before the show started that you were going to Vegas for a week. Five days. Maybe I could have went. It's cool. Maybe you always say that and you never take me

when you go to Vegas. But we're going to the ILS show. And I'm excited because we're going to see a lot of our sponsors for to for to online, which is a great product. We're going to see nature, love and loob. If you need some loob, you should buy a nature, love and loob and the Sinclair Institute. I'm excited to see all of our sponsors. I'm going to be like hosting some kind of fashion show or something, lingerie show because it's the international lingerie show, because it's the international

lingerie show, but I said I'm not gonna wear lingerie. Well, I'm, well, I'm seeing, because I just thought I'm at that girl. Oh. I mean, it could be hot, but I did want to. You want to take a bunch of photos. You got to post photos. You never, every last time you went to Vegas,

you didn't post any photos. I'm not saying like, get naked and get into lingerie, but at least Instagram a pic or two that. I didn not saying like get naked and get into lingerie, but at least Instagram a pic or two that I didn't last time. No, really? Yeah. I'll do some pictures. Jump up and down on your bed in the hotel room. Everyone does that. That's a cool photo. Really? Yeah. Okay. Instagram. Instagram. Are you staying at a nice hotel? You don't have to stay down the air, but yes or no? Nice, sir, then last time. Oh, like, did you stay at like circus circus last time?

No, but like a step up circus circus because they got a free room. It was awful. And this time's a little nicer, but it's where the conference is. I'm such a princess when it comes to hotels. Me too. Like I want to say if I've star or I don't want to say anywhere,

it's not bad. I'm all about the cause of Paul. No, I that's one thing that has, oh, top of the line. I know. I love that. Now that's one thing that I'll say that I'm all about the cause of Paulton. No, that's the one thing that that's oh top of the line. I know. I love that now That's one thing that I'll say that I'm kind of like oh I I'm totally and I'll be all this nice hotels because Grungi hotels suck, I know I know I know it's just like there's a dirty like seam everywhere. Yeah, just turn off the lights

You want to use picture of people like coming all over the way. You're going to the laundry festival at Vegas. Wow. Yeah. But it's cool because they have lots of sex toys, such as lingerie, but that caught the laundry so it started that way, but then they brought in all these sex toys. So literally, like every single sex toy in the world, this is where I got pulled over when I had candies from Real Housewives of Atlanta.

She gave me one of her vibrators, which you can buy her really cool vibes at good vibrations. If you're interested in all, go to my website, go to Good Vibes, go to the product page, and candy if you watch where housewives of Atlanta,

she's got some cool ass stuff that looks like makeup and whatever, but I also a huge fan of the Wevibe 3 couples vibeater. It's a couple it's crescent shaped and it's the most popular sex toy out there now. So just go to my website, section of the family look at the products page and buy yourself some some special and if you put in GV ship you get free shipping. Good vibes do that now. And then I'm going to, yeah, then I'll be in Vegas, then I'm going to be in LA the week after.

I'm going to be gone a lot. Don't be sad. What date the week after? Monday and Tuesday. Of what? 16, 17. Not going to be there. I'll be there a week and after.

Oh, baby. Sorry. Okay. And then I'm going to Michigan. It's all gonna be good. Wow, so much traveling, let's go on. My mom's birthday going to surprise her. I've never done that before. Really?

Oh, you keep on talking about it. It's not gonna be a surprise anymore. What, she's listening to the show. Yeah, but people are gonna tell her, oh, you're, you're not gonna be visiting. No, no one to Michigan is listening to that. Yeah, they do. Oh my God, you get emails from Michigan all the time.

That's true, but they're not gonna be like, oh, hi, here, I'm gonna be telling you. Yeah, but you have so many more listeners now that you've been on TV. That's true. Everyone don't. If you run into my mother Susan, do not tell her I'm coming home in two weeks. Please. Please, please do not ruin this surprise. I've never surprised her ever. Michigan's a shlap. Okay, we've got some sex in the news. Okay. We can get into that. Okay, abstain in the bedroom in the early days of a relationship if you want it to last. Relationships that start slowly are most satisfying in the end.

That's what they say. A study of hundreds of couples found those who waited to have sex were happier in the long run. Yeah. Women particularly benefited from not leaving it to bed at the first opportunity. Marriage also seemed to make them happier than cohabiting. The researchers that delayed sex gave couples time to get to know each other and work out just how compatible they were. Without this period of courtship, judgment can be clouded, leading couples, falling into unfulfilled long-term relationships. Here's the kicker.

Those who waited at least six months scored higher in happiness and those who got intimate within the first month, even their sex lives were better. So it's, Emily, you gotta wait six months now. Six months is like a lifetime. I can't imagine waiting six months, but I always say that it's better to wait to have sex,

because you fall into this thing where you start having sex right away and then you're not looking at any of the red flags anything can be wrong because you're like sexually really who's not into someone when they first started sleeping with them. You're totally into them. But then you don't see them for who they are and all the stuff. So you should wait. That's what the study says and couples back in the day. And you disagree.

I think six months is a long time. I totally think you should wait a month before sleeping with someone. If you can, it seems like today kids don't wait. You can wait. I'll wait for somebody if I really like them. It's better to wait because tell me one good reason why you should sleep with someone sooner than like,

on the first date. No good reason, because the guy's pressuring you, big deal, that's all he wants. And then you're super, then he's not gonna call you. So don't sleep with him on the first date. No good reason because the guy is pressuring you, big deal. That's all he wants. And then you're seeping them, he's not going to call you. So don't seeping them on the first date. Don't seeping them in the first month, that's fine, or two months, but wait as long as you can. Okay.

Seaman is good for women's health and helps fight depression according to male semen scientists. Oral sex is good for women's health and makes you feel happy. According to a study which studied the effects of semen's mood, mood, altering chemicals. The study compared the sex size of 293 females in their mental health. It says that the seminal fluid contains chemicals that elevate the mood, increase affection, and do sleep and also contain at least three antidepressants. So semen cures depression, makes women smarter,

and possibly fertilizes eggs. These findings would suggest that women who were engaging in unprotected heterosexual sex are less depressed than controversial. Perhaps the research team hasn't considered that women having condomless sex might be long-term relationships on birth control blah, blah, blah. So it's an inconclusive study.

So all these guys were listening going so excited because they were told that women should swallow their semen but really it's an inconclusive study. But you have to start making like a semen energy drink or something. That just shows that you really love them. Semen? If you swallow. No, it doesn't. Yeah, it does. You can use the mask strips. Yeah, really love a guy. Listen, if you are a woman listening to this and you do not like or else you don't like swallowing, buy a mask strip, your mask, put it under your tongue and the whole thing will taste like a watermelon milkshake. You won't even know going down. I don't mind semen. I like semen. I'm friends with semen. It's fine. But I'm saying some

women don't want to go on a case of anything. Exactly. What do you mean? I've had semen. I'm friends with semen. It's fine, but I'm saying some women don't want to cross the nation. In case of anything. Exactly. What do you mean? I've had semen to cross. Semen. I've got semen. Oh, semen. Yeah. Semen. Right. I see. Man. Okay. So, um, Cariza sucks without an orgasm's couple say sex strengthens relationships. When it comes to sex reaching orgasm is usually the goal, and yet some couples are rejecting that idea. The practice of Carisa, K-A-R-E-Z-Z-A, sex that doesn't involve climax, has become increasingly popular among pairs trying to reignite the spark in their relationships.

It gets its name from the Italian word caress is a gentle affectionate form of intercourse in which orgasm is not the goal and ideally does not occur in either partner while making love. Instead, emotional connection and affection are emphasized. And despite this stereotype that all men are always looking to get off,

many of her most devoted participants of Carisa are men. Of course, everyone understands Carisa's devotee is zeal for an orgasm-free sex life. One guy said, you want to climb up 10,000 feet up Mount Aversa and not get to the top. But there has been a lot of studies about how delaying orgasm or not having orgasm can be this incredible, like tantric sex,

can bring couples closer together, I haven't done it. But I'm going to. So this guy I've been dating, we talked about, because you think that I would always be trying new things in the bedroom. Yeah. You think that I'd be crazy swinging from the raft. Yeah.

Because I'm a sex expert. No. But I'm not. Like I don't. I mean, I get bored, I get tired, I get whatever. I've got hundreds of sex toys. I've got access to every single sex institute, sex class, sex, anything that you can imagine. I can do this cariza thing.

And I don't. So I told him that I was going to propose three scenarios where we were in, he was going to get to pick which one we get to do. And I got to come up with something really creative Three scenarios like three different things that would be pushing the envelope of our sex life to a different level Wow, and now I'm all stressed and you're gonna be like Number one is me you and another guy. No, I'm not number two is gonna be me you On a private jet with another guy.

And then number three will be me, you, another guy, and another guy. I don't wanna be with another guy. Take your big. He's not gonna do it. He's not gonna do it. I like the private jet part, to be honest. That part jived, but I don't think I'm gonna bring in another guy. I just mean like some bondage.

Come up with two of them, and then on the third one, come up with the other guy thing. See what he says. Oh my God, he would laugh so hard, but that is not what I want. I'm not going in with the ramping, just for shits and giggles. Okay, we've got some emails from the people,

but there was something else I read about. We don't have sex in the news, what's going on? I just did sex in the news. That's it? Well, I just did it. I think I read all of them. And last there was one that I missed. Why did you want? Did you want more and he more sex in the news man? There was no sex news But did you see that Camille Grammar is getting 30 million dollars from Kelsey grammar? Yeah, and the divorce. Did you already? Yeah, I knew that. Okay. Well, I mean, that's not only a fact. That's okay.

Not bad for something that's explosive diarrhea. Who is explosive diarrhea? Grammer. The woman or the guy? Yeah. How do you know? That's a big thing. What do you mean, she's it?

She has explosive diarrhea. What? Irritable bowel syndrome. How do you know that? Is that what he divorced her? Maybe. No. He cheated on her, right? No.

But maybe it was because she had irritable bottles, irritable, bowel, little bottles. I mean, could you handle somebody that's cock-a-hanging everywhere? I mean, they can't help it. I don't think that's what it means. I don't think you're going to the bathroom all the time. Let me see. Are you looking it up? Yeah. What's your name again? Camilleille Camille. I mean, she never did. How do you know that she never did on the TV show? Well, I think hope not. I hope they wouldn't show having Irrida Ball syndrome on the television. That'd be just as bad as me kissing you on National Television.

No, that wasn't so bad. We've got some email. All right, what you got? Were you looking up this thing? The diarrhea, yeah. Thanks everyone for emailing me at feedback at sexualtheendly.com. I love answering all your sex and relationship questions. So just email me or you can email me a safe for my website. Would you find out? I'm trying to find it right now. You can keep on going. No, I swear it's true. Okay, dear Emily, I am approaching my mid-20s

and have been in an off and on relationship for four years. I've stood by his side while he left for the military and while he was trying to start a career in civilian life. I've moved to Oklahoma and then Texas to be with him over the course of our relationship. I've only been in Texas for a year with him and now he is moving to Arizona in two weeks for a new promotion. The issue is, I'm in my last year of college so I cannot continue to uproot my life

for him, especially when I'm so close to graduating. I'm starting to feel like the sacrifices that I've made for him and our relationship would not be reciprocated if the tables were turned and I am not feeling appreciated anymore. He does not discuss any of our, he does not discuss any of these moving decisions with me and never has. I am not sure what to do anymore after four years and so much effort. I can't imagine starting over. I guess I'm afraid I regret ending the relationship but there has to be something better for me out there. Isn't there?

signed Lucy Okay Lucy. Yes, I think there is something better for you out there because this guy does not sound like a communicator Sounds like someone who just puts down the law and says you're moving me to Oklahoma and then Texas and then wherever and he's not talking to you Out the decision making process Moving is a very big deal for couples, and he should be like, baby, I know you're in the last year of school, what are we gonna do about it?

But I don't like him just laying down the law and saying, this is what you gotta do, because to me, that's not great. That's first of all, it's not good communication. Doesn't sound like you great communication. And that's gonna not gonna bode well for, you know, other things, like, no, honey, you're not going to go out with your girlfriend tonight because I said, so you're not going to work like, you're not going to be working out.

You're not going to finish school or like, doesn't he know that this is a big deal to you? I just feel like a man who is more self-aware would say to you, you know why, babe? I know this is hard and you're in your fourth year and more moving. So I just, I don't like the way he's handling it and you're asking me and you're saying that you're gonna regret the ending of a relationship. Let me tell you something Lucy. Every time we end a relationship,

man or woman or whoever, we always think that it's gonna be like this huge regret and that we'll never get over it and there won't be someone else. Well, I think you're pretty young, you're a sounds you're in school. You're gonna have plenty of guys, so that regret is just unfounded.

I think that's just something that's like plugs into our brain and we break up with someone like, what if it's never gonna find a demon else like this again? And you always do, you always do, right, Mattis? Yes. Okay, so don't you think he's kind of being a jerk like moving around? Yeah, I was talking with somebody about this the other day and it's like have you ever

Done anything that make the person act this way What do you mean? I mean like do you think she had something to do with him? Yeah, and he's in the military. It's all about him Yeah, it's all about him in his life and not about her life And if she wants her life to be on the second fiddle, for the rest of the relationship, then you can keep going out with him. But it sounds like he's not prioritizing your life, Lucy, and you need to be prioritized. Okay. Hello, Emily. I never really emailed any relationship expert at all, but I guess it's time. I'm dating a person that I really like, I'm sure that he likes me or maybe he used to.

He traveled to visit family and suddenly stopped calling and the texting is getting less by day. I haven't showed him that I'm really upset about it, but I made a joke about it once or twice and it's been three days since he called texted. Should I try to contact him or just avoid the whole thing and maybe he's playing around, sign LAMMI's. Okay. This doesn't sound good to me.

He's visiting his family and something. Okay, but the thing is, a lot of guys or women, men or women, go on vacation and they don't want to be in touch via email. Like, even if you guys just, I don't know how long you've been dating, but it sounds like he might just be out of town and not really want to be connected. I don't know if it's been a week, two weeks. It doesn't say how long you've been together. Sounds like you really like him.

I would say wait to see what happens when he comes back. You seem like you've called texted, you made a joke about it and you haven't heard anything in three days. And you think he's playing around? I don't know yet. I don't have enough data to say that he's playing around. I think you might have to give him the better for the doubt and find out he's playing around. I don't know yet. I don't have enough data to say that he's playing around. I think you might have to give him the benefit of the doubt and find out what's going on.

But don't you agree, medicine? As you leave town, you just don't want to contact your girlfriend, the person you're dating. No, I like taking invocations by myself too, because especially like a lot of times, if I'm just leaving, it's just because of work, and I just don't want to entertain somebody while I have to do something. Right, exactly. You're working I'm just leaving, it's just because of work. And I just don't wanna entertain somebody

while I have to do something. Right, exactly. You're working, you're busy, it's something. Or sometimes I'm going out of town because I wanna visit friends. And I don't wanna be, I don't wanna be entertaining somebody that doesn't know anybody.

And then I, you know, and then I'm trying to hang out with my friends who haven't seen it a long time. Right. I usually like to go on vacations with the person that I'm dating just on random vacations separately that doesn't have to involve work or seeing other people other friends. If she knew my friends for a while, then cool, then yeah, I'd love to take her along. Otherwise, no. But then I'm saying

when you're gone, you don't feel the need to touch touch base the whole time. Yeah, no, no, I'm busy. I got I'm enjoying my vacation. Now check this out. I looked it up on the internet. Yes. And it's it says the diarrhea. We're talking about if you're just tuning in. If you're just tuning in, we're like, what do I area up? No, Kelsey Grammer and what, Camille Grammer, they split, she got $30 million, not a bad deal. Emily, why can't you just do that? I do not know what, I didn't marry a regiment. We can just have her own sex and Emily studio somewhere in office and then you can just build your empire off those funds.

All right. I would have had to be sleeping with Kelsey Grammer for 10 years now. All right. I would have had to be see booth Kelsey grammar for 10 years now. All right. What's wrong with that? You don't find them attractive? Oh, no. Kelsey grammar? Yeah. All right. Says, as she began, it says, blah blah. They said the diarrhea of air intervals, bowel syndrome is usually a small value, but frequent and said eventually, farting breaks up a couple's marriage. You think that her farts broke up the marriage?

Would you pick up with the girl if she farted too much? If she's constantly doing no time, I don't know. I mean, this is like, this is really, this is a medical thing. I mean, if a girl is like farting 24, so what about if you, I mean, I know guys fart all the time, but what about if they're just like, you're out in public and,

guy can't help it, he's just farting out loud all the time. Not attractive, not attractive. But what if a girl does it? Have you ever really think girl does that? With one girl that would do it as a joke, but I don't think, but not 24-7. No, not hot.

So that's why he broke up with our work, so we're rising. That's what we think. We're setting rumors now, but she got $30 million so she can go fart her way to the bank. Do you know what I did today? You think it was disgusting. Probably, tell me.

My assistant, she had a big zit on her forehead and I popped it. Yeah, really? It was just for fun. Do you think that's gross? Did you wash your hands first? Yeah, we sanitized and cleaned it. We did right in the office in front of everybody.

That sounds like a good day. It is a dare. Wow, you know, it sounds like a different day. You guys got any work done over there? Yeah, we are. That's how time to pop z dare. Wow, you sounds like a different day. You don't think that's hot? You guys not getting any work done over there? Yeah, we are. That's how time pops it. I hate that. Would you pop your significant others did?

Have you done that before? I've done that, yeah. I think not often. I'm not sure that stuff. I'm not like a good zit-papper, but take skill. I usually just go to my dermatologist and have them do it. Yeah.

Okay, dear Emily. Perfect. I'm a 28 year old man with a 26 year old female roommate. Things are platonic for the first month we moved in together, and then one thing led to another, and our relationship turned very sexual. We agreed to stop it a couple of times, even marking Valentine's Day as our official final day of sex, but that failed as well. The roommate with benefits relationship has gone on for seven or eight months.

A month ago, she began seeing a guy and developing a relationship with him. This instance may be realized that I do in fact have feelings for her as I became very bitter about the situation. Since they began their relationship a month ago, she's approached me for sex a handful of times successfully. I just find out how to do the right thing and tell her, no, mainly because I'm wildly attracted to her. After each sexual encounter, she begins to feel guilty or is I get more jealous.

I started dating a coworker and noticed the jealousy in my roommate's eyes when she met her. This has to be one of the oddest scenarios I've ever been in at night. Appreciate advice. How to handle it. Thanks, Jack. Hmm. Okay, Jack, he's got a friend with benefits with his roommate,

and it was cash. It's cash. But then she started dating someone and developing a relationship. They were sleeping together for eight months, non-committed. And friends, benefits came home, crashed the other room. That's a fun, you're a new roommate, oh my God.

But then she started dating somebody and he realized that he had feelings and he's eating someone she is feeling. So I say it's time either they decide to be together or move out because it sounds like it's not a healthy relationship, friendship anymore. And that's I can get past it.

Because if she's jealous of your girl and your jealous of her guy and then you guys are still sleeping together, it just doesn't sound healthy. Are you sure that either one of you want to be in a relationship? If you were happy with the friends with benefits with your roommate situation,

maybe you guys shouldn't start dating other people. Maybe you really like each other and you like that scenario. I don't see why. I don't know. I mean, you guys have to figure it out. But if you are deciding that you are going to date other people, then you probably should end this situation.

I mean, you probably just shouldn't keep sleeping together, right? Can you see together and see other people? They're getting jealous. It just sounds unhealthy. You don't want to come home to that and be tiptoeing around. Your roommate knows you come last night. Either date your roommate or- Move out.

Cut it out. Yeah. Exactly. I don't think I've ever dated a roommate, but they've all been women. But if she's already dating somebody and is committed to that person, then I think you might be a little too late. Get out to put that on the back burner, my friend. I wonder if she said she's committed.

Huh. Yeah, she said that she, she began seeing a guy in developed a relationship. Yeah. Yeah, not good, not healthy for all of you. Okay. Dear Emily, I've married for 10 years. I'm 30 years old and I have kids two kids I love listening to your show and my iPhone

I have several questions, but we'll just ask the more unusual one at this time I have been able to perform auto-folacio since I was about 14. What is auto-folacio? He can perform folacio on himself. Oh, okay. My wife is not a very sexual person, mostly due to her antidepressants, and she does not want to add my skill to our sex life. I have asked her in the past to join me when I'm doing it, but she says she just does not like to see me like that.

We only have sex once a month, so I am in that position a lot, but when we do have sex, I would like to try and go down in her during. Do you think this is too close to what she doesn't want or sound like something she could enjoy for me to bring it up to her? Yes. What do you think of a guy sucking himself off? Thanks, Ben. I think it's a miracle.

I think lots of guys would love to be, to be able to suck themselves off. You think it's super hot? No. I have to say that I think that that would be not my thing if a guy was sucking himself off. Like I don't, you know what I mean? Like, you, what do you think? Commit, for girl could suck herself off? Do I think it's hot? Yeah. No.

It's just the awkward, your neck is all bent, your all contorted, like it's just my... But am I knocking it? By, look, there's a thousand things that I don't think is hot, okay? Maybe a million. Maybe a million. Anything's hot, right.

But if that's your thing and you get off on it, then go for it. Yeah, I mean, I think that you should do it, but his wife, they only have sex once a month, but okay, I gotta understand this. One part here, he said. How big is your penis? I know, exactly.

Dude, we have the number with the guy, with the guy that has the biggest penis on record and we've yet to call him. Why don't you call him? We only have sex once a month, so I'm in that position a lot, but when we do have sex, I would like to try and go down on her during. So I don't see why you can't go down on her during sex. But I don't

think you should be going down on you and her. If that's what you're asking me at the same time, it sounds strange to me. It sounds like she wants a typical thing. And it is a bummer by her and a depressants because they really do kill a woman's sex life. And I'm wondering if that has something to do with it as well, like she's not open to experimenting and all that stuff. And if she's not, then she could take, there are other pills that she could take to increase her sex drive when you have an depressants. There's some stuff that counters the antidepressants

you could look into that as well. But I don't know the sucking them off. I've never seen a guy do it. Have you seen a guy do it, Matt? Yeah, it's a part of a cover of a famous album. It's true. Right. Yeah.

A band called Tool. Yeah. It's part of it. It's a guy sucking himself off. That's the cover of the album. That's awesome. I have to see it. And I'll tell you if I think it's hot, but y'all are

okay. Happy Friday. All right. We're going to move into our topic. It's digital dating. Digital dating. Yes. Emily, what? Do you have the attention span to do digital dating? What do you mean? Would you be able to date somebody digitally? like just only like finding someone online first date? And be able to keep up with it. There's no way you wouldn't be able to do it. You don't have enough time. I'm busy, but I mean it's not just digitally dating. We're talking about from the first online dating message to e-snooping digital dumping from how to start from how to start a relationship online to how to finish up. So the first thing is if you're dating online, we've talked about online dating before, but people keep messing this up. And this is something that we need to share.

Creating a magical first message. Don't waste the first line with a night marriage overused. I can't believe I'm doing this. Do people still do that? Oh my god, I can't believe it online, but you got me. Don't do that. But you need to be fun. This will be their first impression of you. A captivating first message must peak their interest, separate yourself from your online competitors. So there are some rules to your first message.

You must be literate. If you're not literate, have your friends prove it. Net speak, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turnoffs. Sorry, Minus. I know it's not your thing. Damn it. But it is true. If a guy sends me the first message, like, I don't hear if it's like through Facebook or Matt or wherever, it's a turnoff if you can't spell. Yeah, but I get my assistant to write all that stuff. Well, okay, that's fine. Avoid physical compliments. This is a big one. Although the data shows...

Their hooters look so nice. Yeah, baby, you look hot. We know that you email me because you think I'm attractive, so you don't have to tell me that you think I'm attractive. Although the data shows this advice holds true for both sexes, it's mostly directed at the guys. I wanna lick down that crack at that age. Oh God, I've had friends who got emails from guys like that who are like, here's my

butt, would you, whatever. Okay, people like compliments, but when they're used to, when they're used as pickup lines before you've even met the person, they just don't work. General comment compliments work well, such as saying someone's particular interest is cool. Like, I think it's really cool that you like to fly kites. No, you don't think it's cool, Emily. But you should show that you read the person's profile. Don't just be like, you're hot, check out my profile.

Let's be married, let's go out and date. Like that's not ridiculous. I know how to cheat on Emily's profile. All right, everybody, here's a little tip so you don't have to read it. Okay. Email her and say that you love Wilcoe. That's not the only band I like, but. I love Wilcoe.

I like Wilcoe. Okay, you're an unusual greeting. The way you choose to start your initial message to someone at your first impression, the top three most popular ways to say hello were actually all bad beginnings. Oh, what's up? You shouldn't say hello. You should say, these are bad. Hey, hello and high. Do not rank well. Even the slingy, hala and yo. Yeah, what to do are better. Really, even though it goes against the belitter at role, it got the attention of the peeps, of

the women. In fact, it's smarter sometimes to use no greeting at all, just dive into whatever you've to say rather than starting with high. This isn't this is valuable information for people who are dating online. Because you're keep messing it up. You're wondering why she's not getting back to you. It's because you're saying, hello. No, that's the right.

Hello. Okay. I'm wondering why she's not getting back to you, it's because you're saying hello. No, that's the right thing. Hey. Hmm. Okay. Bring up specific interests. Talk about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone in a way to make a connection.

In fact, every niche word that have significant data has a positive effect on messaging. Even more effective are phrases that engage the readers own interests and it shows that you read their profile and you didn't just zoom in on her knockers to see if they were real or whatever guys do to boom and photos. What do you do? Joy to check out you check out like if her behind isn't there somewhere. No, no, don't even do that. You know, you're usually attracted to the face right?

Initially and then you check out the other body part. If possible, if available. Yeah, and then you see, you kind of get her personality through her photos. Yeah. So if there's a, if I click on it and there's a bunch of different photos of just self portraits, not into her. No. Or if it's just a bunch of pictures of her at a club, not into it. Right, hold a good drink. Yeah, terrible. I don't like it, don't like it. Okay, here's some common online dating mistakes that you have that you should not make.

Mistake number one, hoping the right person will find you, you shouldn't help your dream partner will email you out of the blue. You'll get much better results if you pay for premium memberships and write to people yourself. Got that? So write to people yourself and don't wait for them to come to you.

Mistake. The next mistake is sending one liners. It's amazing how many people send letters of the type, hi, like your profile, please see my profile. Most likely they would delete your email. So write letters. It has some substance to them Be like what I do. Yeah, I see that you're from the same city as me. Ha la at me one time You know what I'm saying? Here's my my space profile. Yeah, that's exactly what you should do menists Really figured out okay sending form letters is a no-no.

I have a much respect for women. I don't use language like that. You don't, using a joke like that to their face. If there are no personal references in the letter, they'll know the letter was not written specifically for them, right, individual letters for each person you context. Don't be like, so a skeleton or something? You can have a skeleton, but at least kind of insert,

like you're tripped to Africa sound fun. Like you wish she wants to know that you read it, that you care, that you're interested in something other than her face. Because we all know that's why you really contact it. Okay, the thing is, right, boring letters, mistake number five. Remember, it's not about you, it's about them.

Tell them what you liked about their profile so much that you decided to write them. Some things may be uncertain in their profiles. Ask questions and guess the answers. Write interesting letters. The type of letters you would like to receive. So be interesting, be unique. You don't have to be a great writer. You can just read it and then free flow. What came to mind? That's funny. Have a friend who's really good writer help you, it doesn't matter, but be interesting. Cause it's true, if you're a hot chick on one of these dating sites,

or even on Facebook, or wherever you're finding people, you're gonna get like so many. I've had a lot of guys ask me out since the misadvised thing. Have you had women hit you up? Since the misadvised thing? To go out on Facebook? Yeah, but I haven't replied.

I have a year. I feel missing. I'm sorry I didn't reply. But remember, my favorite conversation was the one that I saw on Twitter, where this guy was just visiting San Francisco. I saw it because I was clicking on the hashtag and this guy was like, Oh, Emily looks fun. Da, da, da, I wonder if she's down to hook up and then she then he started contacting you

trying to contact you on Twitter. I remember that because you thought you were easy. He thought you were fluszy. I'm a fluszy sex with Emily. You're listening to sex with Emily right now. Sex with Emily will change your life. If you listen to our podcast or ready to show our videos, we've got a video podcast, we do every Tuesday.

The video podcast is so much fun. So much fun. I loved it with Amy. We had one with Amy. We just posted it. Amy from Misadvise. We just posted the other day. You got to check that out at sexwithlam.com.

What? The best part of it is we were knocking the guy that she went on a date with. And the guy that she went on a date with called into the show i can't believe he called in i love that he was like able to call in did you have a zout happen no we start talking about we but did it all of the we all tweeted that we were all doing the show he must have just tuned in and then and then i i brought it up and started talking about how bad his hair was and he said he cut his hair now he said he's a new man he's a new man because that hair was awful

This is a guy that did Amy dated on misadvised. Okay another mistake is giving up You've tried this you tried that nothing works So you give up that's the biggest mistake of all look at the profiles of other people that attracted you and compare with your profile Get a new photo with a happy smile. Make sure it's make it, make it your habit to check new listings every day and write to one person, see what works and use it again. What are you doing?

Barrow ideas from other people don't give up on mind dating works. All you need to do is gain experience, practice makes perfect. A lot of people date online and they're like, oh, I don't want to do is get an experience, practice makes perfect. A lot of people date online and they're like, oh, I don't want to do it, it's hard, I didn't mean anyone, but you got to stick to it like a full-time job.

I hate to say this, but Facebook is a great way to meet people. It is a great way. Facebook shows who we have mutual friends with. So if you see somebody that you're interested in, you can get some recon. Totally. Ask a friend to, hey, what's up with this one girl?

Yeah, yeah, yeah. How well do you know someone's out? It's a great way to do it. I would like to stick my penis in her vagina. Right, something like that. I would like to sit on his penis. Right, and then your friend might say, I already stuck my penis in her vagina.

Right. And then you got to contemplate, do you want to do the same? Right. I agree. I agree that Facebook is kind of cool because you've all these. But then people are always like, who's so and so that your friends on Facebook and I never know who they're talking about?

Cause I don't know all my friends on Facebook. You do. I got like, five thousand. I know me too. Okay. Don't ask someone out right away, get to know them online and make sure they're comfortable with you before asking them out,

meet somewhere public and fun, let the date slash possible relationship begin. Okay, our next part two to this. Now you've got the date. Now you're together. E-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s- Tax messages, email, Facebook are listening to their voice mouths. I hear stories like this every single day. You got to be prepared what you're going to find. And you're always going to find something and you're probably wrong. Whichever, whatever you find is probably not as bad as you think. It's probably not what you think. However, you might find something more than a third of Americans who took part in a survey conducted by an online dating site said suspicious behavior, warrants, electronic snoopingoping. People snoop because they're suspicious behavior.

So they might find something. I don't know. But I think they want to find something. I mean, I've been like a notorious obsessive snooper back in my day. I was a snooper like I had his password to his voicemail. Wow. Yeah. And I always found. Who's voicemail anymore though? Who what? No one will leave voice. No one would leave a voice million more. And I always found. I don't use voice mail anymore though. Who what? No one will leave a voice mail anymore. But then text messages.

I was dating Guy casually a few years ago and I ran upstairs in my house to get something. And this is before all the cell phones locked and he had like a text from me and this guy saying, like last night it was really special. Oh, where? I know, I know, I know, I know. Because we weren't dating exclusively,

but for him to see that was bad. I've had a few guys check my phone, and it makes me crazy. I seriously, that's how I'm so attached to it, but you shouldn't do it. If you have a problem, ask them. A new survey indicates that women are more likely than men to be OK with doing a little bit of online and electronic stocking

if they suspect bad behavior for their partner. 30% of women are totally fine with the East snooping on their dates, only 29% of men said the same. Okay. All right, check this out. What? What do you think? This is a problem is what we do.

I'm not saying that we're popular or we're super cool or anything like that, but we have a lot of friends online. You know, quote unquote friends. Friends. And I can't control what people say on my Facebook. You know, and people that don't have as many friends on Facebook still go through this situation where somebody will just make a comment and then your significant other who whoever your dating has, they're whoever dating has. They're stalking it. They like it. They're stalking it like, Oh, who's what?

What? I'm like, dude, I have five thousand all that kind of stuff. Anybody that tries to say anything to me, I'd blow it off. I go, whatever. Whatever. Not you're right.

Exactly. I mean, that's the thing. Like I know a lot of women who are like, and then he posted a picture. And then I saw his ex girlfriend who supposedly he doesn't talk to anymore. I liked his photo, and she liked everything. Why does she like all of his posts?

I'm so upset. Like it's such, you can really stock. Like, it's crazy because you used to break up with someone, or you had a new boyfriend, and you had no way of knowing who they did. And now they're like all friends on Facebook and liking each other's posts. Yeah, I'm good.

And I heard the best word. I think I announced it a few weeks ago. Like Derbait. Like Derbait. When you like your own post on Facebook. Like Derbaiting. Like Derbaiting. Like Derbaiting, but it's like Derbaiting.

Like you like your own post. I used to do that just to encourage other people to like it. Yeah. And I should like it because I wrote it. I shouldn't be posting anything online that I didn't like. That's true. Okay. So I have the right to like that post. I used to I quit. I want cold turkey on it. You stopped like debating. I like debating. I don't know whoever made that up. That's funny. Age also has a big impact on one's comfort with invading a significant others'

technical, logical privacy. 36% of 18 to 34 year olds, and 40% of 35 to 40 year olds, said they feel comfortable doing so, compared to only 26% of people over the age of 55. So it seems like that's a pretty big percentage of people who are stalking and online stalking. And I feel like I hear stories all the day,

like, oh my God, that's night, he forgot to log out. I was Facebook and he was using my page and I saw a message on the girl. All this over analyzing of every little movement. No one works anymore, does that work anything done? No, hold on. Because everyone's on Facebook. I was laughing minutes,

because I was in an office the other day. I can't remember where, and because everyone's on Facebook. I was laughing minutes because I was in an office the other day. I can't wear and everyone really was on Facebook. Like, menace, so he says that like you're on office and everyone's on Facebook. I don't know what there is to do that much on Facebook. I get bored. It's addictive. You just check it.

You just see the other things. And then you're like looking at your high school boyfriend, new girlfriend. What's going on? I just honestly just look to see if other people are reading what I'm posting. I don't know. I know most people are masturbating to their own like debating. Okay, so digital dumping, now for the break up. So here's the deal with so much of life happening on the internet about 23% of couples now meeting online. it's inevitable that breakups end up happening

through email and Facebook. When the person changes his or her status from in a relationship to single without informing you first. Have you ever heard of that? Yes. They broke up with someone and they just changed their Facebook status.

You've heard that? Without telling the person that they broke up. Yeah, that's a way to break and break and broken do it. Well, that's like if somebody's bitter or something like that. Yeah, like if they found it cheating, you know what I mean? Have you done that to someone though? No.

No, I've never done that. I've never had a relationship status. So I don't believe in, I don't believe that you should cheat, unless you're married, there's no reason you've been dating guy for a few weeks and you're really happy and now he's your boyfriend. Like, don't do it.

If you want to watch a great weeks, and you're really happy, and now he's your boyfriend, like, don't do it. If you wanna watch a great movie, it's out right now, it's called, for a good time call. And if you wanna see hot chicks doing phone sex and wearing barely anything, it's pretty hilarious, but they have a whole thing about Facebook and there too, that it's really good. So if you wanna do something something this weekend go see a movie Watch it for a good time call. I haven't heard of it. Where'd you see it? Did you go to special? Yeah? No? No? No? No?

No, no, it's it's a major motion picture right now. Okay. Yeah, you should go see it You'll love it. I guarantee you love it I really I've heard of it and I really would like to see a movie at some point in my life for a good time call Do it for good time call, do it. For a good time call. Okay, a digital rejection can be efficient and effective. The dump or kick control the message that the dumpy can't interrupt or argue. There are no tears, at least to witness and there are no awkward hugs, break ups, sacks, etc.

But people miss out on a lot with digital dumping. In exchange for efficiency and emotional distance, We often give up a chance for real closure and to show that the person do care about them. So what's the cutoff? How serious do you have to be to not warrant a digital dump? Three dates and you should call, says someone. So do you think if you date someone three times, they deserve a phone call, or they can do a digital dump?

What do you think? They they can do a digital dump. What do you think? They can just do a digital dump. They're saying after three calls that you, after three dates, you owe someone a call. After three dates. This all started because this is an article that was written by a woman who said that she can't believe that the guy broke up with her via email, but then she realized they met what they were online and that just happened. So, but-

The only one on three dates, how are you breaking up with somebody? I don't know. You should just say, you know what, this was fun and it's not gonna go anywhere. They should call you after three dates. I would rather get an email, but people would not, like,

people are up in arms about this. They think that you should really, like, call and be, like, or see that person and tell them person. Who cares if they never call you again after three days? I know, it's kind of like, you're not gonna be friends. Exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly.

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You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You're not gonna be friends, exactly. You said that she didn't mind that reduction was digital. And Manchu, you've been out with three times complimented her for being an amazing combination of fun, attractive, and smart. But he said he felt there was something missing.

He ended by apologizing for delivering the news by email, but said he wanted to express how he was feeling and he's better at doing it and writing. He also offered to discuss it more in person if she wanted. So that's a good thing to do. If you're going to dump someone digitally, you're going to dump them online. You can say, you know what? If you want to talk about this more, call me. But here's the thing. Because as soon as you can get all your thoughts out right there while you're wanting to dump

them, you know what I mean? So you can do it. So that's what I got for you, and digital snooping and dumping and dating. So yeah. It's a lot for somebody that doesn't do any of that stuff. I don't do any of that stuff, but I just thought that people do, and that it would be important to share that with all of you. How would we do it?

Because it's really the way that people are dating. I mean, I know people who are, and there's also rules where I don't think that you should be texting someone for months and never meet them. People have full-on relationships with people they've never even met. Do you know people like that? They're like, oh my god, we've been texting and skyping and whatever, but they don't really know them. It's ridiculous.

I mean, I've had people I have never dated, but I've talked, it's very weird. Talked to on the phone for like a year. Right. And message online, never met them and then. But didn't you finally meet them? And then you don't like them or something? No, no, no. Okay.

I like them, they're cool. Okay, that sounds good. But yeah, I don't think I have any relationships like that now where I've never met the person. Right, you're busy. Okay, but here's a deal. If you guys are looking this weekend to have some fun, you go to my website, sectionalme.com,

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Be safe, be happy. If you have sex, have protected sex, have awesome sex. And remember, you got to email me your sex question, your sex information is week. And if you have the most amazing sex, or even just mediocre sex, I want to hear from you, you can email me on my website, sexcelamy.com, or it's feedback at sexcelamy this weekend. If you have the most amazing sex, or even just mediocre sex, I want to hear from you, you can email me on my website, sexcelamy.com, or it's feedback at sexcelamy.com.

And that is what I got to say. So happy Friday. Thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me, feedback at sexwithemily.com. Come.