Sex With Emily - SWE: Dr. Sadie Allison: Tickle His Pickle

Episode Date: December 14, 2013

Dr. Sadie Allison, Pleasure Coach and author of best sellers Tickle His Pickle, Ride 'em Cowgirl, and Tickle my Tush, gives hands-on sex tips. Her books are extremely straight-forward and are filled with illustrations on how to pleasure your partner with proven techniques. Get her books at Good Vibrations: www.sexwithemily.com/goodvibes and use coupon code EMILY for 15% off (some exclusions apply). Expect detailed instructions on how to give a blow job, how to find her "other" erogenous, how to give a prostate massage, how to pleasure his taint, how to have good anal sex, how to handle his balls, how to talk dirty, and how to give women orgasms. Lots of them. Plus, the best positions for her orgasmic pleasure. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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So I'm really excited for today's show because my guess is the America's Pleasure Coase. America's Pleasure Coase. Coat. What's my problem? Oh, I wrote pouch, actually. But it's America's Pleasure Coat. Dr. Sadie Allison. Applause.

Hello there. Hi Sadie. It's so good to see you. It is. Sadie was on my show, so I just moved to LA from San Francisco, but Sadie's in San Francisco. And she was on my show. So I just moved to LA from San Francisco, but Sadie's in San Francisco and she was on my live radio show in 2007, I think. 2000.

2001 or two was the first time. No, I would. I haven't been doing it that long. 2007. It was tickle your fancy when that book came out. I did your show. I know 2007. I was on free of M and San Francisco CBS radio. I didn't. I wasn't. I was actually working in politics in 2001. Two. Well, two wasn't been right if I talked about sex during that time. Okay. But it was 2007 and we loved and we always everyone's like,

do you know Sadie Allison? Because we kind of were moving in the same circle. Right. And we became friends. We even went to a sex party once. We don't have to get into that. You know that? Oh, sorry.

We were just observing. Oh, her boyfriend. Her hot boy. She just came in with like a her boyfriend. Her hot boyfriend. She just came in with a hot boyfriend too. I wish we could leave here if I wasn't doing love line after we'd have drinks and catch up, but we have to do anyway. But Sadie, if you don't know Sadie, which you should, you can check out our website, which

is ticklekitty.com. And she's written some groundbreaking books. They're all bestsellers. Not just because the names are awesome, but it also has incredible information. So tickleickle is Pickle. That was your first one, right? Or no, that was my third kid. That was my third child. Your third child, exactly. It is like giving birth totally. These are my five kids and then I have another real kid. Exactly. And now another kid. Now that kid, oh, the boyfriend's like a kid. Do you want to talk about that? No. Right now. Okay, Tickle is Pickle. Right now, right now. T tickle your fancy, tickle my tush and toy gasms.

So if there's anything sexually, you want to know Read-em and they're great because the illustrations are great, they're easy to pick them up, you don't have to read them for 10 years, you can read them in a day and improve your sex life. That's right, and I put a lot of illustrations because it's really helpful to have visuals when you're learning techniques because all the books are focused on how to techniques. Exactly. So I don't get into the psychology of things so much in other areas. This is like, if you're ready to have good sex and you're with someone that you want to please or be pleased and you want to know how to do new things, these are the books for you. Exactly. And so they're great and I remember I always give my new interns tickles pickle.

Oh, do you? Yeah. I was like, you're welcome to being sex-alongers tickles pickle. Yeah, I love it. Great introductory. It is. I'm like, you know, I know y'all because they're all like 22, 23. They're like, oh, I give a plug up. But lately a lot of them have an orgasm which is interesting. My new interns. So that's been interesting. But if you want to buy these books, you can go to sexoelmy.com slash good vibes and use coupon code Emily for 20% off.

To buy any of your books, which they sell in there. Also, you did a very interesting TED Talk recently, which is a passive, I love TED Talks, obsessed with them, fearless giving, turning sexual passion into action. That's right. Yeah, so talk to me a little about that. Well, gosh, it was one of the most amazing experiences

I've had in my life and in my professional career. And mostly because it really pushed me outside my comfort zone. Because while I've done a lot of speaking, I haven't memorized a speech the way I did this one and it took a lot of guts to go into some of the things I spoke of where I went deep and I shared some personal things about my life and my upbringing. So I really wanted to make the best of it and give the best information and speech that I could that would actually help others and could hopefully change lives.

And that's why I shared such personal things. And so, I think it helps because we all have such personal things and it makes me realize that we don't have to, that's the shape us into we are, we all go through this. Exactly. It's okay to talk about it and that helps you and we all have fear. And when I started out as a sex educator, I didn't even, I wasn't even trying to be, I was in high school, and I used to tell all my girlfriends how to have orgasms, and I became the little Dr. Ruth

of my friends. And I had done that all through college after that, and into the corporate world, I always had a knack for helping people. And it was so as my passion. And I decided one day I wanted to write a pamphlet on how to masturbate, and I was gonna go and give it away for fun and help more women. And so that idea to wanna give away a a pamphlet on how to masturbate and I was going to go and give it away for fun and help more women.

And so that idea to want to give away a free pamphlet and the little project I made of it, it evolved into an actual book. Right. And that was which book. This was to take your fancy, which is another, oh, that also we gave to our interns who are trying to have orgasms right now. It's a great book for helping women have orgasms. Especially those who are just kind of discovering their bodies or maybe that they're inhibited,

a little shy, they don't know how. Because you know, it's very different for a man. His tools are on the outside, the wind blows. He's ready to go. It's easy and it's intuitive to masturbate. For women, we're very complex. I mean, our organs go inward. The vulva has all these different parts and components and you have to warm up. And it's very different. So, this book not only tells you how to do it and gives you the tips and techniques, but it lets you know that it's okay to touch yourself. So it's an empowerment guide to let women know that it's okay to do this and here's how and do it at your own pace and your private home.

Right. And I love to, in your TED talk, you were saying that you had some funny life about your friends who said, you know, your best friend, after all these years said, you know what, say, I've been married for seven years. I've never had an orgasm. Shocked the hell out of me. You know, that was like apoplectic. You're like, how is my best friend?

I don't know how it's like, but you never told me and I could have helped you. So tell me from that book, because so, I mean, I would say that is one of the top questions I get asked is, you know, how do I have an orgasm? I can't have it during intercourse. Men are curious about how their partner can. So the takeaway, because we've so much to cover today,

but what would you say is like the main thing, themes of that book that could really help people right now? Well, the first thing to know is that when you have intercourse with a man, most of the time, 80% of the women don't have orgasms. And it's because our clitoris is where all the nerve endings are, and that's what needs to be touched and stimulated to have an orgasm. And when you're having intercourse with a man, it's usually not being touched. Certain positions can assist that.

But that's the bottom line. So you have to know that you can't wait around for a man to figure it out either. You need to learn how to do it yourself because how is some guy supposed to figure it out if you haven't even figured it out? And he can't even feel what you're feeling when he's touching you. So once you know not only where you feel empowered and have a newfound confidence and you'll know how to do it, you can then help him and guide him. Exactly.

That's the big thing. And I think a lot of us were raised, I was that, oh, if I have sex, then I'll start having orgasms because he'll know. I remember Carol Queen said to me, she was on my show and I've used this quote many times, but she thinks so many women say, someday my prince will come and so will I. He's going to ride in a white horse and then I want to have, you know, wild screaming orgasms. It doesn't work that way. No. Know your own body and take time.

And so like in your speech, you said, my friend went home at night and had one, but that doesn't always happen. I mean, sometimes it could take weeks, months. You've got to figure out what it is for you. Well, you have to understand how the body works and understand that usually you'll need a little bit of lubricant. You can use saliva, but lubricants always good, especially if you're just starting. understand how the body works and understand that usually you'll need a little bit of lubricant. You can use saliva, but lubricant's always good, especially if you're just starting. You may as well make it as easy as possible and understand the clitoris and different ways

to touch yourself. Because a lot of women really don't know, they think that it's all about penetration or using your fingers inside. Right. It's the clitoris. So when you read an easy guide, and that's why tickle your fancy is really straightforward and accessible. I don't use a lot of.

Oh, you're lubricant, you're new lubricant here. Well, now tick your fancy book. Okay. It's easy to follow and go, oh, I get it. And then once you have the right tools and the right knowledge, then you can actually achieve it. It's understanding, you know, the ABCs of it before you get started. Right.

And I think lubricant is so key. I think a lot of, there's so much stigma, which is why I created a lubricant. Also, Emily and Tony line is that I think that there's just stigma attached to Loub that it's because she's dry or she's a cuck just there's just comfort, but it actually so many women report that sex is actually better with Loub, even if you're wet. Yep. You need to add a little Loub and so these are beautiful new lubricants. Thank you. beautiful new lubricants that you find. Thank you. This is my new slippery kitty, lubricants. They're water-based.

They come in own natural, just plain, and then strawberry flavored, which is lickable. Oh, lickable. Really nice, and it's not too overbearing or too too strong. All right, I mean, they can get that's all at ticklekitty.com. And what I did with these this time is, I've had these for about 11 years.

They've done really well. There's a great following, because they're smooth. The texture's like a woman's natural fluid. See if you can see inside, it's not too thick. Right. So for people who prefer something that feels like the real thing, that's what they mimic. And what I did was I took out parabins and glycerin so that their body's safe for women. Right. Because so many lives are not. They aren't. And that's why it's really good to read the labels and know. And women today are much more body conscious. Like we're savvy.

We know we want to know what's in it. We want to know what's in our food. So I took those out. So it would be safer for women's bodies and women who have her prone to yeast infections and things like that. And this is safe for that. That's good to know. And also I just need to mention as a little teaser

of coming that we're kind of building up here, sort of like the sex act. We're talking about masturbation, but her latest book is called Take Oh My Tush. And it's about anal sex, which is another one of the top questions that we get asked, trying to hear, I get asked about, you know, anal sex has become. And I think it's probably been for about, maybe it's since I started eight to ten years, it seems like that's been the, you know, I don't know if it's a porn or whatever, we're going to get into that because she's a whole book about it and we're gonna get a

anal sex in the back of the thought you were gonna leave right now go go make a sandwich you're gonna want to get into tension so uh... ok so in and tickle his pickle uh... we just start there for a second because i love it you say there's a fine line between erotic and psychotic when you're playing with his balls so what is this line i feel like women are afraid they're gonna hurt them i have like post traumatic ball disorder like it i used to like about

experience years ago i'm over it but i touched guys balls wrong too hard and like for years i say away from the balls but i understand that i've come back around i was like oh yeah he missed you i know and they're important you know so so what are what do you mean by that like so well how do you play with them erotically and not psychotically well don't do what you did whatever that was and I don't know what I did touch my touch my hand like it's a ball show me what you did okay what I did then yeah I don't know what I don't remember but this is what I know you do now

but then I'm not trying to fall know what I'm going to do. Try holding it to your balls off. I've never got a call again. Well, the trick is with men's balls is that you want to be gentle and start really on the gentle side because some men do like it hard or rough or tugging or gentle biting. They're all different. They're all different. So you don't know and they are the family jewels and they're very, very delicate. So you want to play it safe, start slow and really soft and communicate.

Do you want me to do that harder? Should I pull a little bit more? Do you like it when I roll them in my hands like two hard boiled eggs? That's kind of how I learned. I asked a guy once and I like the tip that you gave. You said, have them squeeze your brush with the same pressure he'd like to apply. Yeah, apply those balls. So I like that.

That's easy. Exactly. Just communicating. Exactly. Ask him what he likes, and then like that. You know, they, not only do they want a confident woman that knows what she likes, but if you show interest and say, honey, how do you want it or show me, then we watch you do it. Exactly.

They love that. Right. I love mutual masturbation too. It's a great, it's a great, great test. Oh, that's your idea. And I also, I have to give you some, I've created a down under comfort with Anthony, Anthony logistics for men and it's a cream for your balls

that works to keep them fresh and dry all day. It's like a deodorant for your balls, ball area. So you're always ready for blowjob anytime. You don't have to worry about it. What about, that under comfort? M-L-N-T-O-N-E-D-O-N to be. Not to be too ad-heavy here. I hate being here this year. So, what about the hair? Okay, let's talk about it. And using your down under.

Oh yeah, absolutely. You can rub it right in. It's a cream to a powder. So, a lot of men use talcum powder down there, which is actually carcinogenic. And it's not good if you keep your fresh. So, this is all vegan. And it's a cream that says localized and that turns into a powder. And it just stays there all day.

Do you prefer that men that you're with are shaved? And green. You know, okay, that's so interesting, because honestly, I don't really care. Like, trim, that's fine, but I don't need you to shave the whole thing. And he's spending more time in the shower than I am. If he's not trimmed at all, does that bother you?

You know, I'm not really uptight about it. Are you? Not, I wouldn't say uptight, but if a man is groomed, it's definitely nicer and smells better and it's prettier and it's much more attractive to actually give oral sex to his well. Exactly. It's easier guys. I mean, you're going to have moral sex if you do trim, but I guess it doesn't mean personally, but I think a lot of women now expect that.

When you say that the grooming trends, the hygiene trends over time have been that men are all trimming and grooming. They are now. And especially women, right? Do you think the bush will ever come back? Do you think women are always going to be barren down there? I don't know. I think there are always going to be the variety of people in their preferences. And people change a lot too. Absolutely. You can let it grow out, just like your hair. But I think it's just, it's much nicer. And I think people that haven't trimmed and groomed it all as couples should actually try it because just that in itself can be erotic and make it more.

Do it together, take a shower together. Do a little trimming, little grooming. I think that's a great idea. It makes the penis look 10% bigger, which is awesome. That's why everybody knows it. Exactly, but my penis is so much bigger. It's amazing. So that's not reason enough because I know you guys are fuzz with your penis, okay,

what about the taint? The taint is slang for perineum, the flat stretch of skin between the testicles and the anus, and as you say in your book, it's rich in nerve endings. It's where you can feel the root or the bulb of the penis. So how would you advise people to pleasure the taint? That's really easy. That's freaking them out too, because you might never had his taint, tainted.

It's the same spot on the women too, by the way. Right, exactly. So a little strip of skin between both of the holes on the women. Well, it's really easy. It's just a little spot, and you just put pressure on it mostly. It's not a lot of friction rubbing like the clitoris would be.

It's more pressure. So sometimes you can have a gentle fist and just push up against it while you're giving him oral sex, for example. And that feels really good because it's pushing up on the base of the penis that's on the inside because the penis actually extends into the body the same way the clitoris does. And it also can put pressure up against the prostate because it's right underneath where the prostate is. So if you're giving oral sex and you're using one hand

on his penis and giving oral and you take either your fingertips or a gentle knuckle with the other hand and just push up gently on that spot, it just adds more sensation and stimulation to him. And now he feels like he's got a lot of stuff going on and it just takes him to new heights. Exactly. And I think it's a great gateway into,

oh no, can he talk here, John? No dot now what we might get to a minute because this is just sleeping with America's pleasure coach I need to know all about that but I it's curious because you talk about the male prostate which you will get into with with your book and a little bit tickle my touch but it's quite a gateway right if men are kind of not sure they want their touch tickled just yet see how the taint feels, it's touching the prostate, they get pleasure from that. You think that might be a way to say,

well, if that felt good, absolutely. You might like a little playing with your anus. Absolutely. Okay, and then kegels for men. I've an iPhone app called kegel camp, and it's for men and for women, and it's funny, because people always think

only women can do kegels. But a lot of men, they can learn to have more control over their ejaculation, stronger orgasms. Exactly. So do you want to talk about that? Sure, sure. And this is something that people don't realize. But when a man orgasms and his penis contracts the muscle, the pelvic muscles, the same thing

that squeezing just like it does in a woman's body. So when you see his ejaculate come out and it comes out in squirts, it's because that muscle is squeezing involuntarily and that's why it's squirting out and that muscle doing that and pushing it out, which is really neat. It's so funny, because on my app, when I first launched this app,

it was only 10 levels and I thought, who's gonna, it's like my voice walking you through it, it's five minutes a day, it pops up on your phone every day, like it's time for kind of go Camp and then you just do it because there we tell doctors always say do your Kagels and you know and remember it's like, oh, traffic life, you're not gonna remember. So my friend Jordan was over the night. He's like, Emily, I know that he's been doing this. He's, he, oh, when I first started to say that, I had 10 levels. And then I got all these emails from people, mostly men who were like, why

don't you, I need more levels. I'm like, really? You got to 10? Like, so then I have 20 levels now. And so he's been like obsessively. He is girlfriend of like a Kaggle camp race. And he got the level 20. So I said, oh my, I don't know. Anyone who's got to level 20 is like, yeah, you have to hold it for 17 minutes. It's really hard.

It was a 17 minute. But he said, well, how is it changed? Just tell me he's like, well, I can crack wall knots now. But now I said, but really, he said, well, first of all, I can last as long as I want. And he said, when he ejaculates it like shoots across the room. Yeah, you can make it go farther and stronger and longer That's cool. So I didn't even know that because I don't know anyone who got to level 20 Okay, what are dirty talk phrases that guys you think like to hear in bed?

And what about women because you talk a lot about dirty talk and how do you not get into that? Yeah It's it's not always so much about what you say, it's how you say it. Yeah. And the first thing is to talk really slowly and in a really sexy voice. Right. Got it like this. Like, talk about like what you're going to do next or what you do or how it feels. Like, why don't you lay down because I want to do something really special to you?

Yeah. That works. I know. People think it has to be a little big. They make something like a porn star. Emily and I are going to exit left here for a second. We're having a moment. Exactly. I'm going to show you exactly what I want to say. So yeah, Thursday talk I think it's just a great way to like I think that a lot of people are concerned that they're not doing it right. Just like everything in life. We worry. Everything about sex. We

have too much fear. And the thing about dirty talk or anything that you do, it's supposed to be fun. Just try and go for it. If you sound silly, then go ahead and laugh. Let your partner laugh too, because that's what it's all about is having fun. And it's just, everything it's like practice, too. You practice it, you do it, you feel more comfortable with it. Yeah, and there's so much great information available now.

You can get all the ideas you need. And the other thing I would suggest is to rehearse it yourself in the mirror. Look exactly. Look in the mirror and think about what you like to do to them and how you're going to say it, or talk about how it feels in the moment. Maybe it feels okay with you inside me right now. Like we're not saying you have to get super dirty or do anything, but just start with the topic.

Yeah, it doesn't have to be that dirty. OK, and I also have to ask you about blow jobs, because it's a very popular topic, as you can imagine. Because your book, I have a lot of times like Gone and Stigless Pickle, like when I'm writing something, or I'm like, okay, these are, you have, it's like a million, like I love,

the first time I read it, it was like a hundred ways to give a hand job. It's amazing, but they blow jobs. Thank you. So what do you think are like specific blow job tips that women and men can use to give better role sex? So not just blowjob. I guess, well, let's have with blowjob as women or men if you're giving a guy blowjob, but well, first of all, you've got to have lubrication of some sort. And when you're giving a blowjob, it's usually saliva. You can also use some flavored lubricant,

like the strawberry slippery kid. Yeah, this is great also because a lot of women who are little timid to give blow jobs, or they say they don't like the smell or the taste, put a little bit of flavored strawberry slippery kitty on it, and then now you're licking up a strawberry penis. Exactly. It really helps. Right. It's like a strawberry shortcake.

Like, you don't even have to worry about it. You're a strawberry. Oh, it's not seen in. It doesn't matter. Honey, I won't call your penis a strawberry shortcake. To a tear-face, too long. Just to me. But yeah, you need to have slippery slide, just like for a woman when you're receiving.

And that's a big reason why a lot of guys don't like blow draws from certain women because they don't know that. They're needs to be, yeah. They really, because a lot of women don't know. They don't realize you need, it needs to be slippery slidie. Right. Otherwise it hurts them because you're like dragging the skin up and down. Yes.

And then the other thing is that know that all the nerve endings on the man's penis is at the head and that's where he gets all his sensation. So you might be giving a hand job or a blow job, but not really focusing on where he finds all the pleasure. So you have to remember to focus on that and always use your hands. Your ten digits are some of the best sex toys that we have and a really great reason to use your hands. Not only does he like it because it just adds a lot more sensation.

It helps you out and your mouth and your jaw, which it gets tired. There's a reason it's called a job. Exactly, we know a blow job. Exactly. So, not a- Nothing don't like the job, it's just a job. You know, we're doing it for the good of mankind.

Absolutely. But yeah, you use your hand, and then it relieves all the pressure that you think you have to do it all with your mouth. Because our mouths cannot squeeze as hard as a as a hand or even stay as as squeezing him at like a vagina would. So you have to use your hands to give your mouth a break. Exactly. And I always say be enthusiastic, be into it. He can tell if you're like down there looking at your watch and you're not so. Totally. Yeah, guys would much rather have a woman who's into it and not that good than a woman who's good and get them finished in three minutes.

They'd rather have someone that's just enjoying herself. Exactly. And just like how women feel about a guy, like if he doesn't seem that he's into it, when he's from all sex or he's, you know, just for two minutes or like really like, I didn't even know you were down there like two minutes or so. And then the other things, you don't have to try and race to give him an orgasm. Just be in the moment and enjoy that you're pleasureing him and pay attention to his reactions, try different things, put your hand upside down

and do the upside down sausage wrap. That's integral. I love all the titles. I love all the titles. Yeah, so just enjoy yourself. And you don't have to do it till he finishes. Right, exactly. And it's true.

And you can also mix up. You can get a blood job, and you can have sex, and you can go back to the penis. That's a thing about foreplay. I'd almost love to banish the word four-play. Just have it all be under the umbrella of sex. Because you can do four-play sex and you go to intercourse, you can go back to it. Yep.

And now, also just think four-play. Interesting. Last very long time. I don't know if I'm going to put a ballot or a letter on ballot or anything to banish four-play, but it's just something I think. We're going to do Survey Monkey now. Exactly. Okay, so you also mentioned a golden technique to end below jobs with.

Can you describe this technique for the best below job finish? Well, that could mean many, many things. Some, some guys like it when women swallow. Right. And, but that again, it's, it's up to the woman and, and mentioned, pressure anyone to swallow. Right. Exactly. They should be happy. Someone's down there doing anything.

Exactly. Really, beggars can't be preserved. So there's that. But just looking up at him with that acknowledgement of knowing that you've satisfied him and smiling or if you did swallow, you can lick your lips or lick your lips anyway, I think just that human interaction and that eye contact so that you're connected. That's where you get deep and that's what makes everything better than just the act and the physicality of it all.

Yeah, I agree. Eye contact is a big part of it. So, okay. So, you can find all this in Tickle, has Pickle, and in, right? Right, and Power Girl. Did you want to talk about that as well? Right, and Power Girl is one of my best sellers as well. Oh, I love this.

Right, and Power Girl sex position secrets want to talk about that as well? Right, and Cowgirls, one of my best sellers as well. Oh, I got, I love this. Right, and Cowgirls, sex position secrets for better bucking. In fact, I think this is the book that came out when we did in 2007, when we did my, I should find our old podcast and put it off. I'm going to look some stuff up when I get home. Now I really want to know. No, so tell me about this, but it's best seller. Yeah. Um, over 100 exciting point to play positions to spice up your love.

But what I wanted to do is I wanted a sex position guide that was different than all the rest that was out there. Definitely not the old Commissue Tro, which is a little bit old. 2007 came out, sorry, not trying to prove anything here, but I do like that. I'm a little bit with each one. So what I wanted to do. Thank you, sweetie. You are too. Thank you. You're beautiful, Summer. So, okay, so this book, Ride and Cowgirl Sex, because do you think it's because women, there's

just kind of a few positions that we know about and you kind of enhance here. Like, here's some other things you can do. Well, it's also like, what do you do when you're in a position? I used to ask, you know, you talk to a guy friend and they'll say, oh, she was a dead fish. And then another girl's like, oh my gosh, she blew my mind. She was the best. I'm like, well, what makes it different? Exactly. So I wanted to get to the bottom of it

and provide a resource that wasn't just over 100 different position ideas. But what makes you a good lover when you're in the position? That makes them much better. And I speak to cowgirls and cowboys in each chapter separately. So I have a chapter on positions that hit the G spot, for example.

And I'm describing in there to a woman, here's what you should do when you're in the position to assist and where to focus and how to position your body. And I'm like, oh, wait a minute, how do I talk to guys and tell them what they're supposed to do, which is totally different instructions. Here's where you should put your leg, here's where you need to focus, here's where we have to thrust. And so each chapter is based on a position style or an orgasm style. So it's G-spot, positions for the clitoris.

I even go into positions for pregnant women. There's a whole chapter on that. That's great, that's so important. Really great reason. I get so many emails from people are like, what do we do? How do we have sex now? That she's pregnant.

You just roll over? Exactly, so one is one of the best pregnant positions. Well, spooning for sure. The first several months, you'll be fine. Because you're not that big yet. But when. The first several months, you'll be fine, because you're not that big yet. But when you roll to your side, you can stay comfortable and relaxed as the woman,

so you don't have to use any strength to be in any particular positions. And it's also great because men don't go as deep inside when you're in a spooning position. So that's, and he can do the reach around, and you lift your little knee upward. Right. And you're ready to go to receive

some literal stimulation at the same time. So that one's one of the best. That's great. So any other, any other, what's your favorite position in here? If you had a pick one. And it was popular. What's one that we can describe that people have an heard of maybe? Oh gosh, what was, I was just, I know it's so hard that,

Hey Anderson, I see some phones ringing. What, how do you feel about that? I just wanted to tell you that. I saw like, well, I saw like four lines. Oh, we are taking calls. So people, if you're, I don't know where you are, nine o'clock, Thursday night, specific standard time, you can now call in and ask questions.

It's a 1-800-LOVE-191 from 9-930, specific standard time. You can actually call up, talk to us live. I know my favorite one. OK, go. It's called the Wishboneer. The Wishboneer. Oh, my God, I love it. I want to us live. I know my favorite one. Okay, go. It's called the wish boner. The wish boner. Oh my god. I love it. I want to teach her. Yeah. Here's this picture. She arches her back to angle her hips down. He arches his back to offer his pubic region, both grind to a fantastic finish.

Oh. Says that one on the bottom right. Uh-huh. She's on her back. He's on his knees, spreading her legs. Wish boner. I want to make a wish on that boner I mean it's nice when he holds your ankles like that. It's pretty erotic. It's almost like almost like a little 50 shades of gray going on But with his hands. We think about the whole 50 shades of gray movement. The whole phenomenon. I think it's cool It's awesome that it really helped America open their eyes whether it's a erotic a literature or sex toy industry Whatever it is that's going to help just continue the path that we're on. Exactly. I've been doing this for almost 13 years now, and it's been an amazing journey to see where

the industry has gone, not just from sex toys, but sex education and all the educators that are out there now and sex therapists and people are talking about sex more and opening up and it's mainstream. I think it's great. And I've been loving to see Such big changes, you know in front of my eyes as I'm in the midst of it too. Exactly. I think so too And I tell guys too if you if your partner's reading in it Maybe that guy should take you know take a read take a peek at it because you could also learn a lot about what's getting her all on

Fathered too. Yeah, yeah, you know, and a lot of guys are a result thing They're they're coming out more. I mean in the past a lot of guys are... It's a redol thing. They're coming out more. I mean, in the past, a lot of guys, you know, that men have egos. Often it's hard to talk to them because they don't want to be wrong or be told to do something different. So, women are scared to tell men what they want. So I think it would be really important for men to kind of just humble themselves, certain men, and make it easy and accessible for their woman to talk to them

about what they want and not to make them feel like he would be insulted or he'd get upset, you know. Or he would judge her. Yeah. Or I can't do anything right and, you know, get upset. It's like just be a way to talk to a man about it too. Yeah. Because you don't want to be like, that was, it's like, I always feel like it's like the sandwich. I love when you do that and it would be great if you would do more of this so we could try this.

And it's often easier outside the bedroom. Right. John's a great communicator. Like I've never been with a man who's been so open and communicative. How did you guys meet? We met through a mutual friend in passing. Okay. Yep.

Yeah. Okay. Well, because I have a question for you, Sadie, because you're actually the only other person that probably gets asked this question as much as I do because now it's becoming like every day, probably because I'm single always. But people like, are guys intimidated to date you? Do you get asked at all the time like, how do you guys, when they hear what you do for a living?

Have you found that to be? Because when I first started out, I was like, no, I'm Emily, I worked at Paul Dig then. But now it's been eight years. Okay, yeah, I can see that they might be. So yeah, have you found that? Yeah, I got asked that a lot be. So yeah, have you found that? Yeah, I got asked that a lot. And a lot of guys are intimidating. And those are the ones you want to be with,

I feel. Not usually, especially when you're, you know, when you're a confident woman and you have a business and you're fearless, you need a guy that's going to compliment you. Exactly. And be able to support that and have his thing as well. But I think, what? You know it's funny, though, sweetie. I can't remember this. Okay, sorry, John Boyfriend, say this, but there are, it's funny, because we did both live in San Francisco for a long time,

which I missed dearly, but there was like two guys, and I don't know if I told you this, that I went out and said, I can't even remember who it was now, but they'd both dated you as well. I think it was like once or twice. Like it wasn't like they dated you, but they would not- I remember that. And who was now, but they both dated you as well. I think it was like once or twice like it wasn't like they dated you

Did you but they remember that and I was like interesting and then it's like pause. Okay. Well, how is that? I mean, I guess we kind of look alike. We were all dark hair, but we both have sex. I don't want my think we want to say his name What we can talk after? But but I but it was just funny or maybe it was even three it was like a weird I was like, oh you did a both of us interesting I don't think they like the San Francisco petite brunette sex experts. Exactly. I found this.

It was very funny. I'm like, oh, yeah, of course you dated Zadia. Then I'd have those guys that would say, oh, you do that. Oh, I could show you a thing or two. Yeah. So you get the cocky ones that are like, oh, yeah, I'll take you on. Exactly.

But do you feel like, I always tell guys, because when people ask me, these are guys and men and women ask me this all the time. And I'm like, well, it's not like I'm sitting there in the bedroom with a bullhorn saying to the left to the left to the right But do you feel that since you you have become weird tons of your whole life? You've been a sex expert. I was my path was very different than yours because I never had orgasms didn't know what I was doing like But as 19 I never had one. Well, how'd you tried? I had hadn't even occurred to you in a mastermate. I never thought about it. Yeah, it's really weird. Like most women eventually just are like, oh, let me.

But I think that my growing up is such a, this tumultuous childhood, I just have to think, I don't know if somehow it ties in because I don't know how else I was so blind to it, but I was just, I think I lived in a lot of, I don't know, I fear craziness, like, sin of time, I didn't do it. So I had to like learn, late, or in life,'t know, I fear craziness, I just didn't have time, I didn't do it. So I had to learn late in life, you know, then most 1920 that I should, you know, how

to do it. I actually, my mom gave me some tips, my friends were all giving me tips. And then how did you finally discover orgasm? How did I finally discover? It was actually with a vibrator. Okay. And then I realized how to do it on my own. But it was just like, I just, it wasn't happening through that.

I had sex. It was, and I was bummed that it wasn't happening through in a course, and then I realized, like, we tell everyone, I went, this whole journey that it had to be through. See, it's so common. Like, your story is so common, and it's no wonder, because when we grow up, we're not taught about sex. They don't teach it in school. They teach you about STDs and birth control and things like that.

But where do they ever learn about giving pleasure and receiving pleasure and feeling okay about it? Never. And on the flip side, you're actually put down for being curious about it because a lot of people grew up with negative messaging, whether it's religion or their parents or old school in your society. And so people grew up not only just not knowing, but feeling shame and fearful about it, like, no, I'm not even going to try, even if I am curious. Or if they're curious and they do try, they feel so guilty. It really screws people up. Exactly.

You're not, you're Jewish, right? Yeah. Jewish and Chinese. Chinese. I'm a, I'm a true. A true. I love it. Because I think, like, in the Jewish religion, you know, we, there's not a lot of hang ups

around it. Really? Otherwise, still I don't know. No, I go to other religions. I go to other ones, but I'm saying it's like all the sex experts I know I feel like they're all Jewish, it's funny in the world, but but but a lot of other religions, yes, there's a lot of like stigma and guilt and if you have that, I say to go to therapists, work it out because you don't carry around with you for the rest of your life because it could

continue to impact. Yeah, it's all a choice. It's like anything. It's like you control your own thoughts, you control your destiny and what you're going to choose to feel and think. And just because you had negative messaging in the past and you've since learned different and your friends are doing it and you're reading these great books and you're listening to sex with Emily, it's like people are curious, it's okay for you to let that baggage and

leave it behind you. Let it go. It's okay. And it's a new path for your sexuality. You can always change it around no matter how old you are, what age you're at, how much sex you've had, you can always try something a little different and try it out. I really go change your attitudes and talk about it. Don't keep it all inside.

It's okay to talk about it with your partner and be like, well, actually, it's some issues that came up. And what's so neat is when you do talk about it more with your partner, you always end up a lot of times pleasantly surprised at how the conversation opens up. Like you might just decide, okay, I'm going to talk to my lover about this and I haven't before. And then all of a sudden He shares something with you back that you never knew and then you got more comfortable to open up more and then all of a sudden It could be this whole great

Experience where it's in the lightning and your life can change your life can change your relationship can change and your sex life Can go through the start stratosphere. I mean really if you start talking communication is a lubrication It will get you guys going. So let's move into tickle my touch. All right. And I actually wrote something I forgot about this. It was four years ago, but I okay, so first off, the book is Dr. Sadie Ellsons tickle my touch, mild to wild anal play adventures for every booty. And every booty means every booty, meaning women and men, because all booties are created equal exactly all booties And I mean I almost need you to say this because I say so many times that like a lot of men have issues around

Straight man and gay men too not all gay men like they're they're a-ness penetrated But but but last straight man can get a lot of pleasure from it And they don't realize it because they think there's like a stigma they can't imagine it could feel good So your book really breaks that down and explains like how to ease into it but yeah I'm gonna make quote yeah because I had yes you're I endorsed the book because I love that you're writing anal sucks but because I'm like this is so important I just it pisses me off that people don't have more information they do it wrong they've bad anal

sucks oh we were drunk one night my boyfriend suck it in there No, there's no Lou but I'm never doing it again exactly. And it's like people have like yeah, they post traumatic anal experiences and this book will help people It is dangerous too. It is dangerous. So I said doctor say you missed it. I'm reading my quote Do you mystify as a taboo subject with humor eloquence and a playful ease that leaves no vital information behind? That was me. I loved it, I say to you. Thank you. So, it's great. Okay, so, and people can buy this, they get good vibes

on your website as well. Okay, so, what's the mild and what's the wild that you're referring to in the box? Okay, well, the mild is the whole but, isn't a rodent of stone. Let me just back it up there, no pun intended. Right? I know, it's so hard not to use pun intended.

When people think of anal sex, they think about penetration and the anus. But really, if you back it up, the whole but is an rodent of stone that too often is ignored because you're staying away because you're staying away from the anus. But really, there's massage. And there's a couple techniques I really like.

Like, not only do you want to massage the butt cheeks and the glutes, but then you can get into the butt crack and you put lube up and down the butt crack and you just butt crack. That's crap. Yeah, butt crack. That comes later. We call that color. Right. A little bit of color. Right.

But I have this technique in tickle my tush and it's called the thumb roller. So you can put lube over his anus in his butt crack and just do this gently. I'm showing Emily the technique here. You know, we're going to do a little video after and we're going to show them. Roller. Okay. That's a good idea. Okay, and then there's the butt. There's the butt buffer, which is just doing this gently right on the anus. And then and women can do this to the generally. Totally. Right. And so what I say mild, what I'm saying is you don't have to go inside,

you don't have to go there or all the way. There's a lot of other things you can do that's top of cone on the surface that feels great. Exactly. And then I have a chapter all about finger play. And there's a section called finger padding where basically you take the pad of your fingertip and you use that to gently push in but you're not pushing your whole finger in.

You're just giving a little bit of pressure and sensation. And if you do that, well, you're giving him oral sex, it's going to knock it, sox, out. Exactly. And he might, but do you find though that some men who have fears around their aines could, could, could jolt them. Like, is she going in? But you're right, Stan, I think these are great, like slow down tips. Don't go right in for it. It can jolt him if you, if you, if you lay it on them pretty quickly, but it might be okay to say something. So you want to wait for the right moment. So if you're giving him oral sex or you've had sex for a little while and then you're moving things around, you can just gently move your hand down there slowly so he knows what's going

on so you don't startle him. Or you can even ask, say, honey, do you mind if I give you a little butt play? I promise I won't go in. Exactly. That's good. And then you can get to see that, oh, that feels good. And then it has them anticipating, you know, what could come next. And sometimes it's good to just kind of slip it in slowly when you're in the heat of

things. And he might just say, okay, I'll, you know, I was happening. And oh, my God, that does feel good. Right. The finger. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Just on the surface, though. I like all these little little stuff, start, you know, one time with a pattern.

And then there's finger tipping. Okay. Where you just go in up to the first knuckle. So I was like, oh, maybe half an inch and an inch. And don't go any further. And in the book, I have like six different tips and techniques on what to do when you're finger, just finger tipping. And that doesn't hurt.

I mean, that's just, that's a little compared to other big things. Exactly. Exactly. And these are same for men too. Because I think a lot of men it's like their dream. We got married now. Maybe she'll have anal sex with me or why would my girlfriend have anal sex with me? Because of these calls all the time. So I think the reason why this book is so important and so great because you are giving tips to people it's like if that's something you really want to do and she might want to but she has fears because perhaps She had about experience or which years were friends, but if you start out slow It could take you a month They could take you a few months in a relationship whatever it is and and you make it so it's she can realize the the evolving pleasure from just the touch

And then it could build into anal sex But don't just try to go right for the sex. That's what's so important about the book is I wanted to have a sex, but don't just try to go right for the sex. That's right. That's what's so important about the book is I wanted to have a resource for people that would teach them how to do it safely, comfortably and pleasurably. Because it's not like the vagina, which is very elastic, and you can just jump right in and start having an recourse if you choose. But with the anus, it's very, very different and very delicate. The skin, the tissue, the technique, how slow you need to go. And that's where people make mistakes and hurt women because they're not doing it right. Exactly.

You want to be careful. And both people need to know how to do this. It's not intuitive. You don't know. Exactly. You really don't know your tense up. So what are your tips for first time anal? Okay.

So, safe sex. Use condoms unless you're an immunoginimist relationship. Warm up is so important. It's like, and porn is not your teacher, okay? Because porn is great, but it's meant to be visually stimulating and fast. And believe me, those girls are warmed up before they jump into the scene,

it's not getting filmed. So, so guys need to do the opposite of what they see. You need to slow it down. There's a saying I like the slower you go, the faster you get there. So she really needs to be warmed up. So I always recommend having her course for a while. She should have an orgasm or two in the session. You know, be playing with these other for like a half an hour because then what happens is all the blood rushes down to her erogenous areas. So her whole area is engorged from her vulva,

her butt, her anus, the whole area. And then all of a sudden she's more ready and warmed up and heated up and stimulated. So the whole Emily's like her eyes are rolling in the back of her head. I think she's shaking up. So warm up is so important. Communication is an absolute must-have with this. I need to, it's all about safety because you're dealing with such a delicate area. You have to know. So if you're starting to go in, for example, very slowly, stop and say, honey, how does that feel? Is that okay? Can I go a little further? Do you want me to slow down? And just keep that dialogue going back and forth the whole time until you guys learn each other and how you do it, but at the first few times you got to really make sure you understand what's good and what's not.

And again, everyone's different. So that's critical. And lubrication. The lubrication is sound pork. Aenus doesn't produce lune out the way the vagina does. You've got to use lubrication. You can use silicone or water-based. But just know if you're using water-based, you might want to reapply it more frequently because it absorbs into the body.

And then women have to relax. Oh, yeah. Yeah, relax your anus. Because it's natural to tense up. To want to tense up when it's because you're scared or you're nervous. So just breathe. Just breathe. I feel like we just...

I know. I feel like we're in a lot of stones here. You look how peaceful anal sex can be, people. You're all thinking it's all rough and crazy. We're telling you here. It could be so erotic. I know. It's like that forbidden zone.

And that's why men like it so much. Exactly. But for a woman, if you can get away from your fears and approach it safely and responsibly in a way where you can have pleasure because you're doing it right, it can be really profound. And a lot of women really enjoy a little butt play when they're gonna have an orgasm too,

because it just enhances the whole thing. Exactly, and a lot of women, I had some porn stars on the show last week, we're saying that she always orgasms when she has anal sacs every time. A lot of women can do that, so you never know what's gonna happen. So what about women pleasureing the male prostate? The male Jesus thought as they call it too.

Like, what about that? So you're, you know, let's say you're with a guy women pleasureing the male prostate. The male Jesus thought as they call it too. What about that? So, you know, let's say you're with a guy and he's like, no, wait, I come near there, it's gonna make me, you know, I'm not gay. You know, they've never had any experience with that. Well, that, that, well, if he's like ex it only, you know, I mean, you can't talk someone into it.

And it's not for everybody. Right. And, you know, about the gay thing, if you're a heteroman and you're enjoying some butt play with your woman, you're not gay. You're not gay. There's not a penis in your mouth right now. It's not the sexual activity that makes you gay. It's the gender and who you're with. Right. Yeah. So if you're with another man, then yes. All right. Exactly. So how would you tell the story? But like a prostate massage or? Well, if he if into it, let's see, let's see, let's see. Yeah, he's okay with a finger.

Totally. The first thing to know is where it's located, which is almost exactly where the G spot is in a woman, which is really neat. And I have a diagram in tickle my tush. I don't know if you saw it. I'm gonna tell you what page it's on. But I thought it would be helpful

to have an illustration that has a picture of a G spot and a finger touching it right next to a finger touching a man's prostate. Okay. We'll find it again. And it is on page 86. Okay. And tickle my tush. Oh yeah.

So both of those bodies. This is so great. It's helpful. So it's a couple inches inside his anus. So if he's laying on his back and you're on your knees between his legs and you gently slide your finger into his anus, you go in a couple inches with with loop of absolutely and you push upward towards his belly button, just like you were looking for the G spot. So again, this is where communication comes in and he might not be as familiar with what to feel for as well. So it's going to take a lot of exploring and have fun.

And it's like the size of a P, but it can vary between men. And you want to push gently. And one of the tips I give is, as if you were going to rub your eye and push on your eyeball, not any harder than that to start. OK. OK. So men like it harder and faster. So that's where you want to communicate, but playing it safe. Start small. Okay. Got it. And what

about anal toys? Toys that toy the toy market has changed so much. Yeah. I know. It's incredible. Because there are some great anal toys. Good vibrations. Go to sexthelmy.com slash good vibes to check them out. Use coupon code Emily. You get 20% off. But there are some fun, you know, men and women might like like butt plugs or are there any like that? You guys are great. I think the prostate massagers of today are wonderful.

Okay. Yeah, they're in really, these really great materials that are very sturdy and wash well and non-porous. And they have toys now where you can put it inside. And so it's curved, kind of like a G-spot toy, but it's anatomically correct for a man's body. I love that. Yeah, and you can put it inside of him. It's non-vibrating, and you make love with it inside of him.

And while he's moving the muscles inside his body, cause the toy to gently move back and forth, and it rubs his prostate for him while he's making love to you. That's the a narrow's. Oh, yeah, the narrows. Yeah, the narrows is great. That is a great toy. I do have one of those that I should play with it out. I mean don't you get everything so I get so many toys. I have a garage filled with toys and friends like coming over. Yeah, I got all my friends. They do. They literally come over and they always leave with a bag of tricks. So do you have a favorite toy that you like? Or do you do you use toys? I do. I do. I like the erosolator. Oh, you know, I've never Jamie waxed the Dr. Roozy. Yeah, co-author. We wrote a book together. Yeah, she's awesome. And she's always talks about I've still to this day. I've got to write this down. I should get one.

It's great because it's not like your tip. It doesn't vibrate, it aerosolates, so it's similar, but it's faster little mini-circles or something versus just a ball bearing that moves back and forth. And it's electric. So you're not dealing with batteries or dying batteries and then it's weaker or anything. It's got a nice long cord, I leave it right in my nightstand. Right, exactly. Better than the touchy. You like it better than the touchy, right? Yeah, exactly. Better than my touchy. You like it better than my touchy, right?

Exactly. Better than my touchy, though. Oh, yeah, totally. Touchy's very powerful too much. Oh, wow. I wanted to tell you something else for the Tickle My Tush book, getting into an only radicism and just kind of getting into the mood.

I thought that an erotic story would be nice to get people kind of. So I contacted Rachel Kramer-Bussell, who's one of the top erotic story would be nice to get people kind of. So I contacted Rachel Kramer Bustle who's one of the top erotic writers in the country and she wrote a story for me about lovers who tried anal sex for the first time. Oh and that's in the book. It's actually on ticklekitty.com. Okay. It's free. It's right on the homepage. That's amazing. She's a great writer. She is. She is so much great writer. If you people are looking for like another love, 50 shades great, you want to check out some of Rachel Kramer Bustle.. She's a great writer. She is. She is. She is. So much great writing. People are looking for like another love 50 Shades of Grey. You want to check out some

of Rachel Cramer Brussels. And it's an awesome story. It's very titillating. It's exciting. And it's really sweet and tender. I'm like, wow, I want to, I kept reading. And I'm like, oh, I want to see when they get to the butt sex. Right. Exactly. Yeah. So, so people could read that first. It's silly. Like the one tries for the first time. Okay. So that's at ticklekitty.com. And everyone can check that out Okay, so what out and we have like a few more minutes here Is there anything else that we need to know? I could talk to you for 16 hours 16 year I might come back and you think you were talking about toys What I did with tickle my tush is I made a kit that made it easy for people to kind of get started

It's called the couples hot-tush pleasure kit Oh, and it's on ticklekitty.com, and it comes with all you need to get started. It comes with a great Christmas holiday gift. Totally. Right. Yeah. There you go. I'm just not pressing for anal sex. I'm just going to buy you this tush kit.

You know, and this, you know, it's for women and men, you know, bright boots. So it comes with the book that tells you how to do everything. It comes with a classic bullet vibrator, which I recommend for women to use on their clitoris the first time they're having anal sex, because it offsets the feelings. So you've got like the pressure and the anal sex part that can be quite overwhelming, but very invigorating, and then you use the bullet vibrator on your clitoris at the same time, and you have all that sensation of all the

nerve endings on your clitoris. So that balances it out and makes it nice for you. It also comes with the little zinger butt plug that could be used in either butt. And you're ready to go. And slippery kitty lube. Of course. So you got it all. It is.

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It's so great to see you again. I know you too. I'm so excited to see you. Okay, everyone. So check me out. Facebook, Twitter, everything. Sex with Emily. And email me feedback at sex with eme.com.

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