Sex With Emily - SWE: Embarrassing Sex Question

Episode Date: August 3, 2012

Emily talks about the ten most embarrassing sex questions she gets and how to be, well, less embarassed about them. While there are solutions to many sexual issues, people need to have a sense of humor about sex and expect some hiccups, and possibly queefs. Let go of body insecurity, fears of premature ejaculation, embrace your fetish, and take a little pride in your 'walk of shame.' Emily also talks about why you don't necessarily need to bring a date to a wedding, and having sex at a wedding (or in the parking lot outside the wedding). Also, Emily describes her experience as a guest on Watch What Happens with Andy Cohen.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Eyes that mock our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them a lie-gone-day Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand, it's a lie The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm off here. I'm so gone. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily.

We're talking about sex. Relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can listen to all of our podcasts. You can also subscribe. They're free. They're on iTunes. You can listen through the Stitcher app, which we love. The Stitcher app just downloads it to your smartphone and listen to our podcast immediately. Happy Friday everyone. Hi. Hi. It's good to be here, Menace. I know you've been gone. I was in New York. It was awesome. I love New York. I love New York. It was so fun

We were promoting misadvised The television show that I'm on the finale is this Monday and it's on Bravo TV at 10 o'clock on Monday nights It's about three single dating experts. Tell me everything you did in New York. I did a gazillion press interviews My favorite I was on the today show with Kathy Lee and Hota. We did not get drunk with them. Have you seen their show? They get drunk. Yeah, I didn't want to get wasted. Nothing. No cocktails. I didn't even give me a bottle of water. What? But it was really fun to be on their show. I did about 15 press interviews with the big one was the Andy Cohn show. Watch what happens live. I didn't know they taped that in New York. I thought that was in LA. No, it's in New York, the clubhouse. Yeah. The audience is only like 20 people.

It's a small little room. If you had anyone watch as Andy Cohn,, it's in New York, the clubhouse. Yeah. The audience is only like 20 people. It's a small little room. If you had anyone watch as Andy Coney's on every night on Bravo at 11 p.m. And that was really fun. And I gave him a little present. Yes, you did. I gave him a Jimmy Jane iconic ring,

Jimmy Jane first of the vibrating cock ring, which I thought was apropos because on the first episode of Miss Advise, I talked to my brother about cock rings and I do believe I was the first person to ever talk about cock rings on national television. So I brought him the Jimmy Jane cock ring which I love. If you guys want to check out your own Jimmy Jane cock ring, you just go to Jimmy Jane.com Use coupon code spring for $25 off purchases of $100 or more and Jimmy Jane just makes amazing toys and it's a vibrating stretchy ring and I'm like, don't worry and it's one use coupon code spring for $25 off purchases $100 or more.

And Jimi Dean just makes amazing toys and it's a vibrating stretchy ring. And I'm like, don't worry, and it's one size fits all. And he said, this isn't for my finger isn't. It was funny. You saw that right? Yeah, I saw that. It's up on bravoTV.com. Why don't you get a comment?

Did you post the clips on sexelm.com? I did post the clips on sexelm.com. I'm my website's blown up. We're posting like a bunch of stuff every single day. I'm amazed because we're doing the show're posting like bunch of stuff every single day. I'm amazed because We've been doing the show forever and your website has always been terrible, but now it's like it's taken I know we are a content machine at Texas Emily We just want you to better sacs. That's my purpose on the planet is so everybody can have better sex and relationships

And I think if you go to my website, I know if you go there you'll improve your sex life Yeah, we're doing something really cool too. We're doing one video show a week where it's five cameras. You can call in, it's live. That's up at sexsextilelemmy.com if you want to check it out. But if you want to call in live, it's Tuesdays at 2 p.m. West Coast. And this go to tradiov.com or get more info at sexsextilelemmy.com. Yeah, I'll post something more about that on the site.

Remind me. Uh, yeah, so we're doing a bunch of shows and lots of exciting stuff happening. And I, what else I do. I was on, I was on serious satellite radio and a few networks and nice. I was with Amy and Julia, my co,

my co stars on the show. And the problem is it was beautiful in New York as hot, but I love hot because we don't get hot in Sam. We were in San Francisco right now and it's usually freezing, although today's kind of nice, but our, you know, summers are freezing, but we were in a car driving around doing interviews all day.

I didn't even get to shop. I didn't buy one goddamn thing. What? But I feel like that's probably good. I didn't spend a lot of money because I could go insane in New York. All those shoes. Yeah. The shoes stores in every corner.

Jimmy Chuse. Jimmy Chuse. I want some so bad. Who's going to buy me shoes? I wear a size 7. Okay. Email me. Feedback at sexwithemity.com, which we are using that email again. Oh nice. Yeah, so you can always email your questions. Today's show. We're going to be talking about the most embarrassing sex questions we've ever gotten asked, the most

embarrassing sex situations that are going on. There's some common questions we get asked and we're going to answer your embarrassing sex questions. If we have time, we've got some cunnolinguist tips for you. We had a contest that was sponsored by Masks. That's yourmasks.com, M-A-S-Q-E. Masks is kind of like a list-during strip that masks the taste of semen. No one has done this before. They come in strawberry mango watermelon chocolate. Anyway, we did a contest asking people on Twitter and Facebook and everywhere.

You can find me on Twitter and Facebook, section, and we ask people for their own tips. So I'm going to read some of those tips as well. We've got the news. We're answering your questions that you sent me to feedback at sexbony.com. Big Show. Nice. Nice. So yeah, I got back from New York and I went right to a wedding. I landed you were at a wedding too

Yeah, I went to a wedding last weekend and You look tired in your suit. Thank you. You should wear a suit more often. I didn't even believe that was you I know people are freaking out that I was wearing a suit But I used to dress nice all the time when you're in shape you dress Really? When you're gonna get in shape. I thought you've been going to the gym. Yeah, I have been going to gym I take it to the long process I can't just have it overnight. Well, you look cute. Thank you. You're welcome

And I went to a wedding and but I was late because I just flew in and it was in Marin of course And it was really beautiful and but I didn't know the people because I was someone's date Yeah To the wedding and then we left the wedding kind of early and hit sex in the car in the parking lot Wow, do you think that's bad at a wedding? Do you think that's bad? No people get all horny out wedding We were a horny and drunk and we had to see each other and we had sex in the car It was actually hot sex in the car. I don't know the wedding nice

But I realized now a lot of people could have come out and fun the parking lot because it was I'm treating care. It was on a ranch On a ranch. I was on a cow patch. Cow patch ranch or something. So now they're going to know if they listen to this that I had sex with their wedding. Classy lady. That is not the first time I've had sex with a wedding. Classy lady. I once had sex with a wedding in the Hamptons as long as we're talking about it.

In a room that was boarded off, I went in and had sex. Look at you. What's your my thing. Have you read a sex at a wedding? Everyone has sex at weddings. Not a wedding, but you know, you meet a lot of people at a wedding. Oh, I didn't. Because everyone's more like open to talk because they're all like, oh, I want to get married one day, you know, so all the chicks are like talking to everybody and stuff like that. God, I never thought that.

Yeah, if you go stagged, you're going to clean house. That's true. I think you should always, here's my tip for you people today. God, I never thought that. Yeah, if you go stag, you're gonna clean house man. That's true. I think you should always, here's my tip for you people today. Well, I'm gonna give you lots of tips. But I believe if you are single and you can invite a tool wedding, you should not have that desperate,

like I have to find someone to go with me to the wedding. Oh, don't do that. You should go alone. Stag, you'll have to go in more fun. Stag, you will find someone new and people are always asking me, how do I meet someone? And you're so worried that you're gonna look

like a fool to be alone at a wedding, but I just think that there's, it's right with opportunity. So much more fun. I mean, how many weddings have you gotten laid out? Have I gotten laid out? Or have you met chicks at it? Made out.

Every single one. I go stag every single time. It's the best time to meet someone. That's why like wedding crashers, I think is a great movie. Like it makes me want to go crash wedding to meet people. It's a great place to meet. Everyone's happy. I told is a great movie like it makes me want to go crash wedding some people it's a great place to me everyone's happy I Told you a little about the wedding that I want to I saved the wedding while I saved the wedding video

So my buddy he was having some people like video tape is wedding. He calls me up a couple hours before he's like They're not gonna be able to handle it, you know, because he was gonna have like friends of friends because he because I'm his close friend He just wanted me to have fun right and so he was depending on other people to take care of it And then he realized oh that's gonna be a disaster and that you're the master yeah, and then so it got down to the Wire because I was depending on these people to bring me these Equipment so I can tape it right right these people got The ceremony started at five. These people called me at five fifty three lost with the cameras. Oh my God. You've four fifty three. Four fifty three

lost. Wow. And I seriously like was sweating. Did they postpone the wet? I mean, did they did they? No, no, no, they got there just like a couple minutes before I said the cameras on Tripods I ran across the the church and I Turned on another camera that I ran and hid behind the band and shot with I had like three cameras that I handled myself Are you serious? Yeah amazing minutes. You should be doing more stuff like hell no, I don't want to show you're super man skills Thank you, but I would never want to videotape weddings Okay, only because it's my friend because I know this stuff never happens again Yeah, do you got a you got to be there for everything? I know I miss anything you can't miss a moment

Did you get so you were filming so just and then you didn't get to know No, I got to meet some yeah, but it was so funny because like towards the end You know you're already done and everybody's just like plastered because you know It's okay. You couldn't be drinking either then oh yeah Getting shaky No, no, I'm still pro and yeah, I just ended up getting hammered in this funny because I'm there with my buddies and And their wives and stuff like that so I started like saying all this crap to the wives I'm like, oh man your wife is looking kind of hot.

Why don't you come over here? And then their wives would mess around with me and pretending that they're leaving their husband. Oh, that's cute. Do you get all in video? I don't have to go look at. See, that's fun. Both went to weddings.

I love weddings. I love that. I'm always so grateful they're not mine though. Like, people cry at weddings and they're upset. They want to get married. I just have never wanted a wedding. Yeah as well. I couldn't think of a topic The next day to talk on the radio, you know, I do a music show, but I throw topics in between right so I was like I was just out of wedding and

You know you're always bashing Monogamy, so I was like Well the girl that I the other girl I do the show with she doesn't want to have a wedding either Okay, so I put it out there. I said hey is weddings done? Do people not want to get married anymore all this stuff? And I'm you know talking in thousands of people 90% of the text messages saying What weddings are done like people don't want to get married? Yeah, it's a trend. I mean that's I want to get married. I'm not supporting that.

But it's just I thought it'd be okay. I thought it'd be like, it was 90%. Yeah, I thought it'd be okay. At least 30% will say F that, you know, no one's going to get married anymore. And then six, you know, the other 60 70 would say, oh, yeah. You know, they would be for it. I'll think email me feedback at sexelmy.com. What do you think of marriage? I think in like, it's 20 years, 30 years, no one's really married.

Because everyone's getting divorced. Just why do you have to get married? I think they're gonna change the laws. I think people are easy to get married. No, I think they're gonna get married and easier to get divorced. Yeah, I think that's what's gonna be. Me too.

I actually have a sex in the news article about that. That, that in wedding should just, it's got so easy. You can just fly to Vegas and marry someone. Oops, you know, and then you get divorced and go to paperwork. They take half your money. Yeah, it's more expensive to get divorced and get married. I know. It should be the other way around. I agree. Let's try to implement some change. That is a good idea. Finally, you have a good idea. Finally, I have a good idea. When it comes to marriages, make it super hard to get married. It should be hard. And it should be hard to have children, not everyone should be reproducing. I know. You never watch the show. 16 and pregnant. I do have watch that show. I watch it. I love team mom. Yeah, I do you do still watch it?

Yeah, all the time. I love Gary. There's this guy named Gary. He dresses up in a bunny suit He's hilarious and he plays a guitar. I'm waiting for his album to drop and then there's all these other girls And then some of the girls are just like that shit crazy because they had a baby super young and they don't know what to do I mean your baby having a baby. Yeah, and there's this one girl. I think her name's Kara is a Kara Yeah, Kara. Oh my God, this chick is insane. Why? She's yelling at her mom like 24 seven in her attitude to sucks. Really? Is it new people? Obviously, every season there's new 16 year old pregnant girls. No, well, they follow. Team mom is the ones that they follow. Okay.

16 pregnant is when they first start out. Oh, they're 16. Please don't have children to your 30 everyone. But it's crazy because they follow all different types. They follow a girl that her baby daddy died in a car accident. They follow the said there a couple where they don't even have the baby, but they gave it up for adoption. I saw them following their lives on how that's going and how they deal with it. And then there's just the other one where they're trying to stay together, but they're always fighting. Right. What else do you watch? I're trying to stay together, but they're always fighting.

Right. What else do you watch? I'm trying to think I haven't obviously watched anything. So for my own, Kardashians, you know, Kim is, you know, trying to be more lovable. The mother, uh, keeps on hanging out with this guy that she broke up with her husband with. Oh, really? 20 years ago.

And she's like, Oh, I got to talk to them. I just got to have some closure. Like 20 years later. And then so the dad, Bruce Jenner is getting pissed off. He's like, what are you doing hanging out with? She's like, I just need some closure. I need to know. She's in a fair with this guy or she's. Yeah, she had in a fair on her husband before. Oh, kind of. She broke up with him, Rob Kardashian, to hang out with this guy. And now this guy keeps on popping up in the episodes like, oh, I ran into him. And now she just had a dinner with him, the talk and all this stuff. And they're like totally flirting on camera.

It's crazy. That is crazy. So Bruce Jenner's all pissed. And then she ended up taking a light of Dr. Tess. She's like, I just wanted to have some closure. I don't want to get back with them. And they go, all right, we'll have a lie to decter test then. And then so all the daughters came up

with all the questions. Some of the questions were hilarious. Like, is Kim your favorite daughter? And then, Chris Jenner said, yes, Kim is my favorite daughter. No way, was she kidding? Huh? No, she's taking a real lie. She didn't lie. She said Kim's or my mom was so

So adamant about never saying Who's the favorite? Yeah, but we all know it's Michael your brother is not the favorite child I'm the fit my mother uses my name for all of her passwords Now you could break into my mom's account. It's something else too But so I think that's a sign my brother and I was always fighting about that that. I'm like, mom says I'm her favorite. Oh, mom uses my password. So anyway, but I think it's parents should try to keep that equilibrium. Make every kid think they're the favorite. Yeah. Yeah. But it's it's very interesting. But you know, your your love life on television. We didn't really talk about the last episode. Let's talk about what happened.

What happened in the last episode? I can't remember. The last episode of misadvised on Monday night. You and I went out, right? We went out for drinks because my boyfriend, my boyfriend, my guy from Michigan came to town and we go to drinks and you forget and interrogate him. You ask him if he's masturbated to me yet. We've gone out twice. He flies out from Michigan to have a day with me. And he's like, um, um, I'm not really comfortable with this conversation. You make him so uncomfortable. And then you also talk to him, oh, you know what else you do, asshole during the show. What do you do? You say to him, yeah, I'm just want to remind you, you say to him, so Emily, have you told him about all the crazy sex stuff you do, like the, that workshop you did. I'm like, I haven't told them yet because I did this workshop where they

massage my clitoris for every day. Two different guys. I know it sounds crazy, but this is a guy that I just started dating and menace is bringing up like all my skeletons in the closet. Not that I'm embarrassed and I've talked about it publicly, but I'm like, oh, yeah, I went to this workshop and they massage my clitoris. Menace is like, why, yeah, I went to this workshop and the massage my Menace is like why would I bring menace out of date like really do not bring menace on a day Oh, I forgot about that. It is hilarious and then next week is the finale

So you have to see happens everyone wants know if I'm gonna have sex with this guy So you're gonna have to watch it on bravo tv.com town Yep, that was the episode before people don't know misadvised every watch it on bravotv.com. You're gonna go to town town. Yep. That was the episode before. People don't know, misadvised every Monday night, on Bravo, 10 o'clock. Check it out.

Emily is one of the stars, it is hilarious. It is funny. And then when we had drinks and then you told me that I was, that I was dying or I thought I was dying. Do I tell you that, okay, so if people don't know that hashtag for misadvised is misadvised, one word, you know, pound sign. And so I read them when the show's going on because people are commenting and all this

stuff. And in that episode, you asked me, what's the number one thing people ask about me, ask about me when they talk to you? I go, do you really want to know what they want to know? And I go yeah I go they want to know if you take it in the butt And then somebody tweeted thanks a lot misvised I have to tell my grandma now what taking the butt means Yeah, man. That was inappropriate too. That's what you asked me what people ask friends ask you if I take it in the butt That's what they want to know that's the number one question for anybody

If you think it's nice to work with do you enjoy the show what have you learned about sex? Don't care about that. I'm taking it in the butt. Does Emily take it in the butt friends. So anyway, that's what I told you on the show Okay, so that's not enough about misadvised, but we love it. It's only one episode left. I want the DVD What DVD hook it up. Give me one. I want a DVD. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. I'll give it to. Okay. So let's move into sex in the news. Okay. You want the DVD last week. Yeah. Yeah. I don't have that on me. So I can copy it. Oh, right now. Yeah. It's in my bag. Okay. I wanted it. Right now. Yeah, because you're going to take off because. Okay. Listen, ladies and gentlemen, Emily is like out of her mind right now, like you cannot have a two minute conversation with her because your brain is like all over the place, correct? Are you like stressing, are you stressing right now? Are you enjoying it?

I'm not saying it's stressful being on reality TV on a national. Are you enjoying it right now? I'm enjoying it, I love it, but my life is like being on a speed train right now that's just going so fast and I don't know when it's stopping and when I can get off. It's like you're freaking out over every little thing.

I thought freaking out, I'm gonna go place. I love doing this show. We have so many new listeners, so thank you. And thanks to all of our serious XM, Extreme Talk 165 listeners, we love them. Oh, I was at serious XM in New York and I met Bob Abooe. Oh, you did? Yeah, he was walking in the hallway and he was like, hi, I was at serious XM in New York and I met Bob a buoy. Oh, you did. Yeah, he's walking in the hallway and he was like, hi, I was like, hi, I was like, I really want

to be on the show. He's like, what do you do? And I'm like, sexual, then, like, you gave my card and you gave me his card. Gary, right? Yeah. Yeah. I met him. What? Right. Gary, legendary. I know. He was awesome. I'm like, you look great. You lost weight. All that stuff. So that was really fun. That was another highlight of New York. So okay, here is our sex in the news stories Divorce hotel allows you to legally end your marriage in comfort and style So there is a hotel that a Dutch entrepreneur set up. It's in it's um It's a Dutch hotel. They arrive on Friday We give them everything they need to leave Sunday with their divorce papers.

Divorce can cost a lot of money and a lot of time and it's done in three days. So the packages between $2,500 and $10,000 and they say the price is worth it because the marriage failed and you want to get the hell out. Which we were just saying at the beginning of the show that marriages, it is a really hard to get out of a marriage and it should be harder to get married

and easier to get out of it. Yeah, that totally makes sense. A divorce hotel just go relax, you know, order room service and get divorced. Sounds fun to me. I think every marriage now should just have a prenup. It should just be required by law. Right. To make everything easier on everyone. I think so too.

Although if I marry Rich Gaiowon's money, when we get divorced. I'm sure, yeah, you will get divorced after five years. But I would have a guy send a free bag because I'm gonna have a lot of money soon. So, okay, which city has the best sex? We know that where we live may play a hand in determining our income, work opportunities, educational achievements, and healthcare,

but the number of orgasms we have, or how often we think about sex? Here are the top 10 cities to have the best sex in. Okay, what do you think is number one? San Francisco. No, I pissed, New York. York. And I did not have sex in New York last week.

Oh, dammit. The second is Los Angeles. Really? The third is Chicago. You love Chicago women. You should go there and get laid the fourth is Philadelphia. Phil the Delphia. Phil the Delphia. The fifth is Boston. Bostonia. The sixth is San Francisco. We are on the list. What? Hallelujah.

I understand Boston because from what I hear Boston is just beautiful but Phil the Delphia not to talk crap about you guys. I have never heard anything good about it Maybe because it's cold and it's snow and then people to stay inside and have sex. Maybe that's what's going on, right? I don't know. I'm surprised Philadelphia like why not New Jersey? Well, if you look at it all those places. Yeah, except San Francisco snow Yeah, Dallas for Worth is number seven. No snow there.

Oh, no, thank you. Eight o'clock, eight o'clock. Eight, eight, eight, eight. I think because the snow, I'm like, what else are you doing? You're staying inside having sex. Maybe, but these are the questions that were at, wait, let me just finish. Let's seven is Dallas Fort Worth.

All right. Eight is Washington, DC. Nine Atlanta and 10 Houston. Those are the places they have been the best participants were asked a series of questions about their sexual habits, partners, preferences, and desires. The questions included how many sexual partners have you had? Are you in a committed relationship? How often do you think about sex and how satisfied are you with your sex life? And that is what determined the best city's tough sex in. And I was in New York last week and I'm going to LA next week and I expect

to have some good sex if that's really what the truth of the matter is. Okay, unemployed men undesirable to women, a survey finds, that's on a shock. I think it's not hard if a guy doesn't have a job, not because I'm a gold digger, but because it just, it just, I don't think that men feel that same way about women. The study came out and says- Oh, we don't. We don't care if women have jobs or not. I mean, at least with me though, I need a chick that has something going on.

I like, you can be- Right. You can be like some crazy artist or something like that. You can still be- You don't care if you're crazy or- Right, exactly. Being a band not making any money, that's totally fine with me.

It just leaves you have to have something going on. You can't sit at the house all day. You want, I always say that I want a guy who is passionate about something. I don't care if it's your kite collection, like kite flying. What are you doing? Seriously, if you are passionate and obsessed with it, I think that's great. So the study says that

um of the 925 single women serving 75% said they'd have a problem with dating someone without a job, only 4% of respondents as whether they would go out with an unemployed man and the answer, of course. But Jezebel, you know, there's site Jezebel.com. It's like part of the Gauker family. Yeah. They argued that the survey numbers could be misleading because 42% of the women counted in that 75% saying no to unemployment actually said they'd go on a date with a guy that doesn't have a job, but they will not have a relationship with the guy that doesn't have a job. They'll take it into pound town. I think it says a lot about though our cultures that we expect men to be the caretakers,

the breadwinners, even though it's not like that anymore, there's something in our brains that's like he won't be able to like hunt, kill, gather and be like the caretakers the breadwinners even though it's not like that anymore. There's something in our brains That's like he won't be able to like hunt kill gather and be like the bright You know even if I don't need that from him. I still want him to have a job What's he doing sitting home and watching the Simpsons? Why is he a job? I don't know That's what you would probably do right if you didn't have a job. I love that. Yeah, you can sit and watch TV all day long Okay, love television. I'm trying to get into TV But how do you not get into TV?

The only show I watch is my own and it's not because I'm a narcissist. It's because I don't have time to watch TV. And I, um, but you taught me how to turn my television on and I do it the same, I wrote it down and I do it the same way every time now and I can turn it on every day. What? Yeah, you go, TV power, cable power. Yeah. Yeah, thank you very much. Amazing. I had issues with my television set.

I'm a new television watcher, whatever. I know it's crazy. If you've been listening to the show, you know that I don't watch television. Let's get into some emails from people. All right. Thanks to everyone for emailing us at feedback. Get the sexual.mo.com.

Lots of you are going straight to the website and just emailing us on the Ask Emily page. That's really easy to do. You just fill out a form. We want to hear from you though. When you email us your question, we want to know how you listen to the show and where you're from. That's all we ask you.

Any other question is on limits. Make up your name. Nothing's off limits, what I'm saying. You can change your name. We are fine with that. Okay, this is a entitled 41 and single. Emily, hi, Emily. I saw this week's show and heard you say something about being an anomaly.

I think she's talking about misadvised. I'm 41 single, never married, no kids, and I don't feel any urge or rush to change it. You say things that I've said before, I.e. the first episode about your mom telling you to be independent and take care of yourself and don't rely on a man for anything. My mom said the same thing to me at a young age and it stuck in my subconscious now. And it stuck in my subconscious now. I'm independent, self-employed, and attractive, and men find it threatening. I don't think we're strange and I think there's a lot of women like us. Sure at the end of the day would it be awesome to find my one and only soulmate? Yes, realistic. Good question.

But I like you. I like you and I do enjoy the sex part, but usually want them to leave. No cuddling or holding hands if we're not dating. And I've had plenty of therapy and my dad passed away when I was 15 years old. So who knows if that really affects us later when we grow up and date.

I'd love to hear back from you. Single in Seattle. Melissa, wow, we are separated birth. I mean, she, my dad, this is all the same issues I have that my dad died when I was 19 and my mom told me never to rely on a man to take care of me. And I still stand by, I think that was good advice, because a lot of women are raised.

That was bad advice. He's wrong. A lot of just because now he has to act as my father figure and he's probably just pissed. But, but I think a lot of women are oriented, have parents, at least a lot of my friends, parents are like, when you're getting married, you got to find a guy. And I never once got that message from my family. And I think it made me the strong independent woman that I am today. Really? I've got issues, sure, but who doesn't?

But I'm glad that I am who I am. And Rachel. But how long do you stay independent? That's what everyone's tripping off. They don't mind that you stay independent? That's what everyone's tripping off. They don't mind that you're independent. That's what you're tripping off. What? Only just me.

Does it have to get married? No, I, you. Ruby, my mom. Look, I don't want a 4C to get married because I feel bad for whatever guy. Oh, thanks, man. I'm not going to wish that upon anyone. Really? I'm a good mate. You can find somebody that will deal with all your crap. So that was sweet Melissa

and now you've heard back from me. So I appreciate that and I get it and yeah okay next email. Dear Emily, love the podcast and learning a lot. I've been married 10 years with my wife for 12 years. We've three kids. Looking to spice things up with my wife, she likes to be tied up and I want to get more into bondage. Is there any books or instructional videos you can suggest? And maybe a good website that lists crout clubs or groups in my area. Thanks Tom. I listen on my iPod and I'm from New Jersey. PS, I agree with menace on hand jobs. Thank you. They do in a pinch kind of,

they do it in a pinch kind of like a light beer. You will drink it, but not really enjoy it. Yes. It's funny. Perfect. Okay, so I'm not gonna get into the hand job to be right now. No way. Menace thinks that hand jobs suck.

I think they're amazing. Done. Okay. Let's talk about spicing up your sex life and bondage. First of all, there's a great DVD from the Sinclair Institute to add some spicy variation to your life. It's called response sizzle sexual imagination eight ways to spice it up. Real couples show you how to spark your imagination for super satisfying sex. You can watch attractive loving couples rediscover each other all over again. So it's called response, sizzle, sexual imagination, eight ways spice it up.

You can discover techniques to expand your anal, oral, and sensory play in and out of the bedroom. Use coupon code Emily50 at checkout for 50% off. This is Sinclair Institute. Go to my website on the products page, text on me.com, you can check it out. I also think that have you guys read 50 shades of gray yet? 50 shades of gray is all about bondage

and it's all about that stuff. And I would say that this instructional video is the best one. I love watching videos. That's how I learn. Like if I want to learn something, there are books. My book is called Hot Sex. Over 200 things you can try at night. You can buy it on Amazon. A lot of couples have been emailing me that it's really spiced up their sex

life because you can just flip open the book to any page and it's got great illustrations and it's not tricky hard stuff to do. I would also suggest that you guys talk about what makes you feel good, but you sounds like you guys have already moved along with that. So just really get specific. If you want to tie your up just you can you can you know, another thing bondage tape bondage tape is an amazing way to spice it up. It's it's it's amazing way to tie your partner up. It's like looks like electrical tape, but it sticks to itself and you can easily tie your partner up. It's like, looks like electrical tape, but it sticks to itself, and you can easily tie your partner up

any which way you want, and it's reusable. Huge fan of Bondage Chapes. You can buy it at Adam and Eve.com. Use coupon code Emily, 50% off most items, and you get three adult DVDs with your order. Use coupon code Emily at checkout for Bondage Chapes, and my book, and that's the way to spice it up. As far as groups and clubs in your

area, I would suggest do you have any local sex toy stores, sex stores like that or any local like we've like good vibrations in San Francisco, we have a lot of things going on in San Francisco. I'm sure that in New Jersey there's like a sex store that has like flyers in it, you could talk to someone. I'm trying to think we're out. I mean, I would just Google it in your area. Maybe your local Craigslist. There's forums on Craigslist.

A lot of those are sketchy. The sex forums, but a lot of them probably do list classes and things that you can do. I love a couple who wants to spice it up. It's my favorite topic, right? Yeah. OK. Next question, hey, Emily.

My question is, how would you tell someone how to explore? How would you tell someone how to explore being with a guy? I have thoughts about being with one and I'm shy and nervous about it. Also, do you still have the normal podcast and iTunes? Thank you Justin. So this is a guy who wants to experiment with a guy. So he doesn't know I guess he's trying to figure it all out. who wants to experiment with the guy. So he doesn't know, I guess he's trying to figure it all out. First of all, I'll answer the easy question. Yes, our podcast are on iTunes. They're free.

We've got hundreds up there. How would you start to explore to be with the guy if you've never done it before? Maybe we should ask our gay intern. Go for it. Come here, Omar. Come on. Let's ask our gay intern.

I want to know what he says. Use my microphone. But Justin isn't necessarily gay. He just wants to explore. So he's not really, he's so, so he's curious. He's curious about men. Okay. So I think the first thing you would do is just watch some gay porn, see if it's really

something you're interested in, and then go from there. That's a great, I suggest, and any good gay porn that you can suggest. Um, I'll have to say gayforit.com. GayForIt? Yeah, dot com. Okay, gay for it. Good. That is such a good idea.

Love you, Omar. Okay, thank you. Okay, so I would think, yeah, I would, um, how would you tell someone though? So I would start looking at gay porn. I would start figuring out what you like and what turns you on. And, you know, every city, I don't know where you live, but every city has gay lesbian groups, but gay lesbian, bisexual, whatever, you know,

if you have any gay friends, you can chat with them. Maybe they'll do it to you to someone. Don't go on the craigslist. Don't go on Craigslist and do casual encounters because you could, God knows what could happen. You could get everything stolen or get even worse. I watched a Craigslist killer. They did a lifetime movie on it.

I watched it. It was crazy. Really? Yeah. What, the one who killed all those women? Yeah, I'm Boston. Oh my God, it was insane. This guy, it's actually just like the shooter in Denver. The guy, the Craigslist killer guy,

was like a medical genius, right? Wow. Like this guy didn't even have to study, like he just knew everything. And he was, he was engaged to some hot chick, and he was doing this while he was living with her. Like he did everything. So he just had some psychosis. He had something where he liked to dominate people, but he didn't even ever have sex

with these chicks. Like, all he would do is, he was like really into shaming them. So what he would do is act like, oh yeah, I want the massage, which they're not really giving me massages, but they would, he would meet them at the hotel, open up the door, and then he would pull a gun on them,

and then he would tie them up, and then he would like steal their panties, steal their money and then leave right because he also had a gambling problem too Right, so then he would just use their money and then go gambling wow and the reason that he That he killed somebody in the first place was because she like fought back when he pulled the gun out he like She'd like try to knock the gun out of his hand and then he just ended up shooting her. That's why.

But he kept on doing this over and over again and somebody else fought back and then he like, like physically like punch her in the face and like messed up her eyesight and stuff like that. God. But the guy would like, would not admit it, you know, because he want to continue to like marry his, his girlfriend. Right. Even though they found all the underwear for all the girls,

hidden under his, hidden under his bed and the gun, right? And the gun, there's anything under your bed people. And he still wouldn't cop to it, right? And then eventually he ended up emitting to his fiance that he did it and said, Oh, you know, I just had a problem. I still want to get married. And she's like, dude, you're in here for a life. And then the guy ended up committing suicide and jail.

Wow. When was that? This is only a couple of years ago. I remember hearing that. I didn't know how it all played out. It's just insane. Okay. We'll be careful on casual encounter.

Yeah. Do people still do that all the time? People still do it all the time. People still make changes, though, to casual encounters. Yeah. Do people still do that all the time? People still do it all the time. People still do it all the time. They did make some changes. It was like, I think what happened, it wasn't casual encounters. It was actual like erotic jobs. Oh, right, right, right.

They got rid of that. People be careful. They got rid of that. That's what it was. Don't do that. My buddy and I, I told you that, I don't know, my buddy, he, he just liked meeting up with these chicks for kicks. Like he want to have sex with them. Like, I don't know my buddy he he just liked meeting up with these chicks for kicks like he want to have sex with them like I don't know what was wrong with my friends with him. He just met with erotic he just he would go meet up with these chicks just to talk to them the F round them

and then he would leave he would never like have sex with them or anything. They were probably just frustrated because they probably thought they were gonna have sex. They thought they were gonna get they thought they were gonna get money and stuff like that. But I don't know what he, like, his whole kicks of it was. What's he doing now? Just talk to him. He's a very successful person.

Okay, guys, I'm gonna have to have some sexual capabilities. But be careful when you're dating online always, right? Okay, dear Emily, I've been married for eight years to my third husband. In the beginning, sex was nonstop and mind-blowing, far from, quote, normal. With in months, he had us visiting nudist resorts and indicated his desire to add another person or couple, which lasted off and on for about a year.

It wasn't really my thing at first, but I'm all for trying things out. Once that ended, so did the sex. We haven't had sex aside for a handful of times since 2005. Wow. He refuses to talk about it. He now says there would be sex immediately if someone else was involved. My feeling is until we can have a normal sex life with each other, no one else should be involved.

His reply is that we are a standoff then we are at a stand-off. I'm 44. He is 50. We love each other. We are partners and friends. He has embraced my son without hesitation. So majority of the package is there. Nothing is perfect, but this bothers me deeply. I've always been a sexual person. This is freaking me out. Signed anonymous. Wow. Okay, anonymous. This is not a healthy situation. I think you know that. I understand that this is your third marriage and you might not want to, you know,

pie scares you to have trouble arising in a third marriage. But 2005, I mean, that is seven years ago that you have not had sex or been having regular sex. And I'm wondering if there's other stuff going on here because if he's not getting it from you, I'm not saying he's having a fair, but is he certain porn a lot? Does he have any strange behaviors that are demonstrated? And I think that you, I think the fact that he only wants another person in the equation

is, I think it's great you guys were into it for a while, but if that's fact that he only wants another person in the equation is, I think it's great you guys were into it for a while, but if that's all that he needs and that's the only way it's going to be with you, I would be really hurt that hurts yourself to steam. It feels like you're not desirable enough. I'm sure it's wreaking havoc on your emotions and your self-esteem and all that stuff. And so I would say that you guys need therapy around this issue or you might have to end the relationship because I do not believe in sexless marriages. Unless both partners don't want sex, I'm all four sexless marriages, but you want it.

He doesn't. You're at a standoff. This seems pretty easy to me to fix. I would say go see a couple's therapist, couples counselors, lots of insurance policies covered therapists. You might need to only go a few times to get to the bottom of this. Like, why does he need another person in the room? Like, what happened to the, like, is he on any medications?

I mean, this is something that you should not take lightly. And I get that he's a really good father to your son. And it sounds like you are best friends. But when the sex isn't there, I believe that it wreaks havoc on the marriage. And it's going to rear its head soon enough if you don't take care of it now. Like, like yesterday, you guys need to talk about it. If you're out of standoff, that is my cue to tell you to go right to therapy. Because what I mean, it's not going to hurt. It doesn't hurt. You it'll help you. And the thing about couples therapy

is that it truly does like fast track your relationship. Either you're going to figure out yes, we're going to stay together or know we're going to separate. But it sounds to me like you guys are not getting anywhere on your own with this issue. And it just just that can't feel really good. That can't feel good too that he wants someone else in the picture. And who that's exhausting too. Can you imagine every time he had sex, he had a bite third personal I mean, some people would say that the dream having a

threesome, but every friggin time had sex, you had a bite, third person, I mean, some people would say that's a dream, I'm going to three some, but every friggin time, you need some variety and spice. What do you think's going on with them? Something's going on here, he's 50. Maybe he's low the beato. Yeah, he might just have a little bit of that. I just have a hit on this that there is something else going on with this dude with your husband.

There's something else going on. Is he out of shape? Medical, physical, psychological. But you should talk it out. Talk it out in therapy. I love therapy. I've seen it amazing. Things for couples. Can't save space. Get a mediator. She needs a mediator. They're at a standoff. He says, bring a third person in her. I'm not having sex with you. They're married. They should have sex together. That is that is the end. You are an anonymous, you are not crazy. And I get that in your mind, you're justifying the relationship. Well, he's this, he's that, he's this, he's that.

I don't care if he meets 100 things on your list. But if he doesn't want to have sex with you and you want to have sex, problem. Big, big problem. Huge problem. Huge problem. Okay, let's get into our topic for the day. Embarrassing sex situations. These are some top questions that get out there that people like have embarrassing sex questions

and they want to know what to do about it. So we're going to answer them in one felt swoop here. Okay. Okay. What do you think is one of the most embarrassing questions people get asked? I want to see if you anything comes to your mind. The number one embarrassing sex questions. Not even the number one. Just one of them. I've got a bunch of them here. The people ask you? Yeah. I would say it's my penis big enough. Yep.

Number two. Number two. Hold on. Can I guess number one? Yeah. How long shall it last? Yep. Number one.

How do I prevent? How do you know? You're good men as you've learned a thing or two. How do I prevent premature ejaculation is the first one? Mm-hmm. Number two does penis size really matter? Okay, can I get a little? Uh, yeah, go.

Uh, Virgin like age. Uh, what do you mean age? I'm a virgin. I'm a virgin. I'm a virgin. Yes. You're really good, men. I should be on a game show right now. The sex of end of the show. I know I do want to win something Like copy of book or something or you already have that now. I want I want to do you have a copy of my book

Cuz I don't I refuse I refuse for you to give me one for free. I said I'll buy it But I want to buy it in the store. I can't spend $14 on a book that's gonna change your life I am I am but I wanted to buy it in a store, but I haven't seen it in the story yet. Because it sold out. I know. Barnes and Noble. But they're really good. Because I wanted to book stores yet, buy an Amazon.

All right, I'll just buy it on my website. Because then I get profits. God knows I'm making money. I really just want to take, I really wanted to take a picture of it in the store. That's what I wanted to do. Yeah, me too. Go to good vibrations in San Francisco.

They have to do. Okay. I drive by Jimmy Jane all the time now and think about you Oh, you do yeah, cuz I see the little Jimmy Jane sign Oh my god, I love it so incognito people don't even know I know that behind this door is a bunch of sex toys I know that was an awesome video you did there. I did they pretty stop. I did a good video You did a good you put it together. Is it on the website? Don like months months ago. Oh really? Sexonemy.com, see my camera work. It's amazing.

So you're your curtailted. I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I'll give you that.

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I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I'll give bedroom too. Oh, that's right. Oh, I that's something that that was on the episode last week I said that you make sex tapes I'm like man. It's just as blackout sex to make sex tapes and doesn't remember any of them any of it And then when did you say this last week's episode? Are you serious? Yeah, I know you got to see it. It's hilarious What I say you blackout everybody, I know you got to see it. It's hilarious. What? I say you black ass.

Tell everybody I have sex tapes now. Yep. You do though. Natural television though. Yeah, your mom's going to know. Oh, my mom doesn't even know I do it. I'm on the TV show. But your sister tweeted me.

It was so cute. God. I was like, oh my god, that's really minus sister. She's cute. You guys are nothing like me. You really busted me out like that. I remember you saying that. Yeah. Yeah. You got to pay attention. I'll show it to you again. I have it here. Where did you read that up that during when we're doing the radio show? During the show when I was here with my guy and who came to visit me, it was the scene where we're in the studio. And I was like, you were asking, you asked my date

who I had not yet slept with. Uh-huh. If he's good and bad. Yeah. And then he's asked, you have you are good and bad. And I was like, no, minus is black out sex and make sex tapes. Sometimes something. You'll see it.

I don't know. And then... Oh, you threw me out of the bus every friggin moment of my life. Wow. That's why you exist. I think it's a throw me into the bus. Okay. Embarrassing sex situations. How do I prevent premature ejaculation? Okay, so a lot of time, premature ejaculation early

on in a relationship is usually caused by anxiety and stimulation. So when a man has premature ejaculation, you can also as a woman take it as a compliment, whether as an unsatisfactory situation, the man is crazy by you, so crazy that he can't hold it. Now there are prevention for this problem. So try relaxing when you find yourself getting overstimulated. Think about non-sexual activities. They'll help premature ejaculation occur less frequently. Premature ejaculation is also, I mean,

a lot of it is in the mind they say. However, if you are experiencing it, you can go see your doctor, you can take different pills for it if you want. You can also do your cagol exercises. I've got an app called cagol camp. You can buy it in iTunes stores only for the iPhone right now,

but it is a reminder function that reminds you to do your cagol exercises. Yes, they are for men and women now, but it is a reminder function that reminds you to do your Kegel exercises. Yes, they are for men and women, and yes, it will help you with premature ejaculation. The best part about it is the app, like, you know, doctors tell men and women to do them for women. You've stronger orgasms for men. It helps you stay harder longer.

The reason why the app, I think, is so cool is because it pops up on your phone as a reminder, time for keglet camp, and then you spend five minutes or three minutes, and I walk you through the exercises. You can do more over the how you are, and it's easy to do. So I would recommend that, and I would also recommend doing something about your anxiety, because a lot of it has to do with anxiety and it's in your mind. I would also see a doctor if it continues. That's what I got to say about that.

Number two, does penis size really matter? Does it Emily? Does it? It doesn't matter. I have to say after seven years of talking about sex and relationships. Did you get that email? What email? We're going to talk to the guy with the biggest penis on record. Remember, we have his phone number. Should we call him now? Just randomly. Hi, I know you don't know us, but you have a 13 inch penis. Remember? Yes, I want to do that.

This guy would get stopped. I like to start with him. We talked about this a couple of times on the show already, but if you didn't catch it, a guy got stopped at TSA trying to get on airplane because they thought they had something in his pants. Well, he really did he had a 13-inch meat sword. Oh my god Freaking he kept kept on getting stopped, but we got his phone number I don't remember that now. You don't remember that you remember this guy got stopped

I've been in a whirlwind of You don't remember that you remember this guy got stopped. I've been in a whirlwind of activity. Anyways, well, we had the phone number of the man with the largest penis on record. I don't think we can call him off the, I don't think we should call him live on the air because that's kind of rude. We want to prepare him first, but I definitely want to. Yeah, but apparently he likes talking about it. So it's fun. Dude, I would like talking about it. If I had a 13-inch meat sword, that's the best thing you've ever heard. That's the funniest thing you've ever said. Okay, it's not about the size. It's about pleasing your partner in many ways. Figure out what turns her on,

like her favorite position or her fetishes. But when women complain about a man's penis size, it's not really the size, it's just the fact that she probably didn't have an orgasm or wasn't turned on. So I mean, I get really good at oral sex if you have a small penis get really good at pleasing her. It's not just about the size.

It's about the size of the ship. It's about the motion of the ocean. Now a lot of women do like large penises. That's true. There are size queens. So I'm not going to say that some women aren't going to be bad, but I can tell you that in all I've received thousands of questions over the years. And I don't even think I mean, I don't even think I've gotten any from women

that saying that like, he had a small penis and I dumped him or something was wrong. Really, like I'm being totally honest and I just think that guys get too tripped up on it. I mean, you probably don't have to worry about it, man. It's a big problem. A couple of things. But just become a really great lover.

Become a great lover. Your penis can do many things and a lot of women don't even need size. Like they don't even need that to have an orgasm. I seen porno's where a guy had a small penis and a beautiful woman was sucking on it. I don't even know if she was doing it for money. I'm just saying. Yeah, it's easy.

She might have just given me a small penis. I can suck on that all day. It's easy. Yeah. And you can do other things You could have other things in your mouth, too. I don't know what I'm saying But really small penises don't trip on it guys don't worry about it. What are you gonna do about it? Really like seriously? You know it's crazy

Don't trip on it because what the hell are you gonna do about you can't get a boob job You like boob like women can get boob jobs guys can get penis extensions, but they're I don't work I'm telling you this right now. This is what's the insane part Emily that I'm telling you this right now, this is what's the insane part Emily that Guys watch porno and they think that they have a small penis But what guys don't guys don't realize if you see these porn actors in real life They're like midges. They're like not knocking on midges. They're like little people They're like there's these guys are like super small and tiny, but they a regular size penis, but on camera it looks like they have giant It's like they're all short guys big penises

No, they have normal size penises, but since the guys are really so small since there's they're physically small right They're physically small. I get it. They their penis looks huge. It's crazy like go next time we go to like a porn convention porn convention stuff like that Check out the guys. They're not like Matt these massive bodybuilder guys or anything like that They look big on camera like you've met Trying to think you anybody that you would remember like me the the Jersey Shore guys like Ronnie who's like he looked Humongous on camera.

This guy is shorter than you Emily. Have you met him? Yes, he's really short. Look for like photos of him hanging out in the crowd. He's like super small. Wow, shorter than me is short. Yeah, but this guy looks like, I know your saying.

He's like gigantic on the thing. And that messes with guys heads. It does mess with guys porn messes with guys heads. Absolutely. Oh my God, I must have the the Micro penis of an aunt and it's like no dude these guys are just not right large guys Optical illusion it is that is crazy. Okay, that's good to know I think you just saved so many men from their worries and contemplations

I'm Tony. I've met a lot of porn stars and you'd be unbelievable the people that you would think would be Humongous in real life or just really short and not knocking on short guys, but it's just an optical illusion. Like you said, it's crazy. Okay, well, here's something though. If you are truly, truly tiny, if you're penis is small, you can try having the woman on top because that's, she can control it

and she can get more of you inside of her. Place her legs on your shoulders during missionary position. You can also have her on all fours and when she is on top put a pillow under your butt to raise up your pelvis. Those are some things you can do if you're really small and it bothers you. You can also try pressing instead of thrusting in the missionary position. Those are some tips if you have a small penis.

But don't worry about it guys, it's all I want to tell you. We're not tripping on it, so why should you? Okay, next, embarrassing sex question. And the question is, why am I unable to get an erection? There are many, many answers to this question. Problems with erections, they can stem from medications, chronic illnesses, poor blood flow to the penis, drinking too much alcohol or being tired. Menaceous experience, you don't experience the alcohol thing, right?

Alcohol does it affect me? I think it's an enhancer for some reason. I don't know why, but being tired definitely affects me. Right. That's like everything tired medication, chronic illness, it could be stress. I would just go see your doctor. If I, again, I'm not, I'm not a medical doctor yet. I'm working on it.

Not going to be a medical doctor or a meeting of my doctorate, but the point is I would say, check out with your doctor, but if you are, it could stem from any of those things. So I would get checked out because there's something you can do about it. Okay. Next it. Okay. Next question. Yes. The like I asked, I have a strange fetish. Do I embrace it or try to hide it?

So, you've got a strange foot fetish and you don't want to do it. Do I tell my partner? Okay. Well, here's the thing. Don't bring it up on the first date. Second date. I wouldn't bring it up right away because you have a sex yet and I always recommend that people

don't talk about sex on the first date. Unless you're me, comes up on every date because that's why I do more living. Having a fetish keeps your sex life with your partner and you can keep it stimulating. Some fetishes are just too far off though. So talking and discussing your fetish with your partner might boost your sex life

but it also give you an insight into what turns around when you eventually do share it. I do think that eventually it's good to share your part. If this is a fetish, like you got a foot fetish, let's say, and you cannot have sex without a foot involved. Then when it comes time to have sex with the person, you can say, you know what, let me give you a foot massage. There are ways to incorporate it in fetishes are what make most people have their orgasm so you might want to try out your fetishes but first communicate with your partner first. So again, don't feel like, oh my god, I have to let this person run away. But when you're having, when you start having sex, you would say, you know what,

it would really turn me on if you would wear those fancy high heels. I had a friend who was dating a guy, this is a true story and he had a foot fetish and he sat to her and she's kind of a little uptight And he said to her would you put on your Jimmy Choose? Believe it or not. She's Jimmy Choose that are like in a thousand dollar beautiful shoes And he's like he's like when we're having sex that can you wear them and she got all freaked out Okay, she did not want to have sex with them anymore and she dumped her not because of that because of other things now if it would me I was like oh, yeah Hell yeah put on my Jimmy Chuse.

If you buy him for me, I would wear, or anything. Like, there's a lot of women who would not be freaked out or men, and this is also women that fetishes too, but it's mostly men who would be willing to accommodate. So I would own your fetish, but again, I wouldn't need with your fetish on the first date. But I, again, my friend didn't, her, his fetish didn't work for her.

For me, I think it's hot having sex with shoes on. Heels on, I think it's super sexy. So I would do it. Don't have any problem with that. So, um, you know, talk about it. Communication is a lubrication. Yes. Okay. And send shoes to send shoes to me. I'm telling you, you got to put the Amazon wish list up on you remind me you got You can't tell me things on the air because I won't remember why it's recorded you can listen to it I don't listen to the show. Oh, nice. I don't have time. I listen everybody. I appreciate you listening I listen to the show too on stichre download the app. It's totally free for your smartphone That's STITCHER

You really listen. Yeah, download week after the show. Yeah, download the app. It's easy. That's STITCHER. Are you really listening? Yeah. Download. Every week after the show. Yeah, download the app. It's easy. It's free. And then all you do, once you download the app, you search sex with Emily or you can just search sex. We come up first. And the show will pop up and then it's free and easy. And you don't actually have to download the MP3 to hit play and it plays right there. It's so smart because you know back in the day when we started podcasting you had to doubt you doubt all those files on your computer.

And now you can just like stream it. Easy. Stitcher. Do it now. Okay. This one's kind of embarrassing for women. This is a woman one. Bersing sex question. Ready? My vagina smells. Nope. Damn, I thought I almost had it.

Iqueaf during sex. Oh, that happens. What should I do about it? Aqueaf is the sound and action of air being emitted from your vagina. And sometimes it sounds like a fart. Yeah, I have a friend that can do that on command. Oh, God. Sounds she sounds like we had her do it on the radio. Are you serious? Yeah. When was this on your morning show? Yeah, this is like 10 years ago, but I still know her. We should have her. Why isn't she come on here and cleave about?

We were gonna have her do it. We were gonna have her do it in front of 22,000 people out of concert venue. Oh my God, that goes for life. Her boyfriend wanted it. She was down, but her boyfriend wanted to do it. And then we said, what about if she wears a mask, like a luchador mask, like wrestling one?

And she was still down and he still wanna let her do it. There's still together today though, so. Really? I'm glad she didn't do it. That's embarrassing, then you're the queen girl. But she was down to being the queen girl. Do you think it's something? Do you think she, that would have been amazing if she'd squeezed in front of the USA?

She would be in front of the USA. Yeah, in front of 22,,000 people that would be amazing. I wonder how you learn that you can do that. I guess you just learn things. You can do it. But it's considered to be a fart from your vagina. There are no intestinal gases being expelled, so there is no odor. They happen when the air is pushed into the vagina and then it's expelled.

You can't predict a cleaf, but they can happen when fingers or penis move in and out of your vagina, trapping air inside of you, what goes in must come out. She was a softball player. Maybe softball girls know how to do it. We should ask somebody. Maybe somebody listening right now can do it on command. Can who can quave on demand? What can I do?

What should you do? Like on television. On demand, quaves channel 162. If you can do it, email us. Feedback at sexathamely.com. We want to do it. And then we want to call you and have you do it, email us. Feedback at sexathomely.com. We want to do it, and then we want to call you, and have you do it live. We want you to quif live. Let's change the name of the show.

Coming to you. Quifing with Emily. This is your listening to sexathomely, by the way. If you didn't know what you were listening to. Okay, sexathomely.com. Okay, what should I do if I quif? What do you think a woman should do what should she do

it's well i don't know let me ask you should she acknowledge it i mean i've just let it all i've got a big deal it's a guy's what is keep on going they won't care i don't care do you like who we've all i don't want to do that but it will make i don't even know that it's you know it's a natural thing it happens well i i think it's natural natural thing. It happens right well I I think it's natural some girls. They just laughed off. Yeah, but the thing is funny And also you want to know how can you avoid it? You can't really avoid it

So what are you worried about? You guys know each other's bodies. You're exchanging bodily fluid You're having sex with someone creeping as part of the equation. Just let it go What about a guy? What do you guys think of it though? What do you think of a guy ripping one though? During sex. Yeah, that's fine things happen But what about if he just does it every time no like every time yeah, he can't help it What about if the the queepers they do it every time what about a guy? He can't help a farting every time. What do you think about that? Why is there a double standard? I don't know

If you can't help it is is it easy doing it on purpose? And am I giving him oral sax when he does it? You can't help it. What if I'm going down and I'm not happy with that moment? Really, but it's just natural. Everyone does it. Well, yeah, don't worry about it. If you're having sax with someone,

hopefully it's someone that you're comfortable with that respects you, that trust, that you trust. And we need more sound effects on the show. I can get some. You need the sound effect machine. Are you going to pay for it? It's three grand. No, I don't know that many. I don't have it on me right now.

But again, this is why it's a good idea to have sex with someone you love or someone you trust and feel super comfortable with. So you can quifal you want, fart or you want. I don't even like saying those words. Okay. That's what we got time for today. And I'm a cleaf. What? I'm done with the cleaf.

We're going to cleaf this up. Well, I could know we should have. Rapples just a wee. Um. Creep you, thank you, Mary. What did you say? I'm just replacing everything with a cleaf. Here's what I have to tell you about sex, then, like, thank you so much for listening

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