Sex With Emily - SWE: Fellatio Show

Episode Date: August 10, 2012

Emily and Menace discuss the last episode of Miss Advised and what really happened with her crush David in Napa. Emily gives the CEO of Masque: Sexual Flavors a phone call and solicits his oral expertise to pick the best fellatio tips from listeners. Be enthusiastic, pay attention to the tip, make eye contact, and use your hands. Oh and don't actually blow. Emily also answers listener emails about meeting people at bars, devirginizing men, and how to be more confident. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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We are here to make your sex life and your relationships better. That's our purpose on the planet. That's why, right, man? Yeah, you almost missed your cue, so I was like, what was going on? I know, I was just talking to you, Kelsey, for a second. Okay, I'm here though and it's Friday,

so happy Friday everybody. You hear and you're stressed. I'm a little anxious just because. You have to catch a flight. I have to get you flight going to LA recording the doctor's TV show. Not sure when it's gonna air off to let everyone know. But I'm going on the doctor's to talk about 50 shades of gray.

That's awesome. Yeah, so that'll be fun. And I'm gonna see my agents and my LA peeps and it's 90 degrees there. And I'm very happy about it. I'm excited. What are you going to do? What is going on in your life?

Oh my God, it's been crazy since we had the Miss Advise finale on Monday night. Yeah. Miss Advise is the show I've been on Bravo television. And that has been exciting instead, kind of better sweet. I know, it was. So that's over. Yeah.

But I think we're gonna get a season to the ratings were great. Yeah. Well, I mean, you don't wanna knock on wood. Knock on wood, what else? Whatever, something happens, it happens. Yeah. But feel free to tweet Bravo if you guys are listening

and say that you wanna season two of Miss Advocate. Yes, at Bravo TV and at Bravo Andy and say, we love Emily. We want a season two That's what you do and you can also treat me at sex with Emily and menace is that white menace Yeah, a lot of a lot of sex family listeners hit me up on the Twitter. What do they say? They just joke they just like quote me up on a bunch of things that I say you know I say a bunch of ridiculous things on the shelf Right like always that's what I count on you for. The ridiculousness of it all.

So you finally watched the finale episode. Yeah, it was just a day later. Right. And I watched it and it was awkward. It was weird. Yeah, it kind of took a turn, huh? It was, it threw me for a loop. Yeah, it was confusing, right?

Can we explain what happened? So the episode before that, it was you hit in the guy that you were going out with to this, we're all at this bar and we're talking, and then this guy brings up, he wants to take you to Napa. So that's where the last episode picks up. Exactly. You would Napa with this.

Go into Napa. And then you have this dinner and you go on this wine tour and you're all lovey-dovey, but then the conversation is just starting getting weirder and weirder. And then the next day you wake up because you went to bed supposedly, did not have sex, fully clothed, wake up the next day, and then you're at this very obscure, like brunch, in the most odd conversation happens.

Can you bring it down for me? I'm gonna break it down for you. Yeah, okay, so we're sitting there, and so what happened was we drank a lot. We were drinking a nap, of course, so that's what you do, and we woke up in the morning and we were having breakfast. And he started to talk to me about the fact that we're not so do monogamous. And then he said something about, yeah, you know, strange pus. Like that's what everyone's after is a strange pus. Yeah. And then he said

something to the effect of, uh, I can't even remember now, but just like, let's not talk about this anymore. I don't want to really, I don't remember what it was, and then it just turned bad, and then he's like, well, let's just talk about sports. And I'm like, I hate sports, and it just turned awkward because he was like, if I'd, oh, here was the kicker. If we had slept together, I probably wouldn't be sitting here

right now, meaning that if we had slept together, he would already have left, Or, and he said, don't most guys want to just leave after they have sex? And I said to him, no, most guys want to have sex again, which has been my experience. I haven't had any guys leave my bed. Let's just say that. All right.

And then, yeah, but do you think that was a fair representation of that conversation? You know, I think it was that it was a longer conversation. Obviously it's it's a sure it was it was edited. Obviously, it was an hour long breakfast. That was for five minutes.

But I and I like David. I think he's a really good guy. I just think some of the comments weren't great, but I think that I, you know, kind of doubted a bullet. I'm not going to start. Who am I to get along this relationship right now? Anyway, it's not my guy. And I thought to start, who am I to get into a long distance relationship right now anyway? It's not my guy. And I feel good about it.

I feel like I'm going to get into a relationship. I don't, I'm not loving relationships. I can't, I just so much, so much takes so much time and I'm so busy. They want to hang out with me all the time. I know. I know. They always want to hang out every day. Who said that rule?

Like who, who made that the thing that if you're dating someone you should try to spend as much time together? I think that's a kill for a relationship. You want to hang out on the time. No, you don't. You do for the first six months and then it becomes a habit and then you're together every day and then you stop having sex. I think you need little breaks.

You shouldn't see each other every single day, like I don't know. I mean, maybe you're living together. I get if you're married, but at the beginning, whatever. So that's just my thing lately with relationships. But today's show, I'm going gonna tell you what we're talking about. We've got phalacio tips to the people from the people. We had a contest sponsored by mask, M-A-S-Q-E, your mask, we're gonna be talking to Michael

who invented mask. They're basically like these list-dreene strips that mask the taste of semen, so we're gonna get into that more later. But anyway, we asked people, what is your best oral sex tips for Felatio? We did last week, we did Conalingus tips. So these are some tips from the people.

And then we're also gonna talk about facts, 10 facts about orgasms that you did not know. And I found them to be quite fascinating. And then we're gonna read the emails from the people, good little sex in the news, we've got time. And just have some good old time. But first I gotta give a shout out out to our sponsor Adam and Eve. Adam,

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Emily okay so we can uh what else what are you doing this weekend? I am going to the outside lands music festival. It's this weekend? San Francisco, yes. Outside lands is this weekend. Yeah. Oh, you usually go all VIP on that. Yeah, wait a minute. It's this weekend. It's this weekend.

I'm going to be in LA. I get back Saturday. When does it start? Stars Friday. Friday, Saturday, Saturday, Saturday. Today, okay. How did I miss how did I miss this like usually? I'm who's the big headline. It's a great concert. We have in our park. Yeah, it's basically like Lala Paloza Are you going oh, yeah? I gotta work in it. Yeah, I'm working. I gotta do interviews. I can't get you in Sunday. Sorry. I can't get you in. They have like a whole I know the deal. I've gotten in for free a year Okay, good luck this year. They change up a whole I know the deal. I've gotten in for freer year. Okay. Good luck this year

They changed up the whole wristbands after the wristband. Yeah, okay. Do you know who I am? I am Emily. I am on Bravo television Let me in Yeah, let me in let me in. What is the problem? I love that show, but they have this year they have Stevie Wonder the food fighters Jack white back But they have, this year they have Stevie Wonder, the Food Fighters, Jack White, Beck, Justice, they have, it's just like a ridiculous line up. They have the black keys, I think too, we'll be there. Yeah, I'll be there, I have to do some interviews on Friday. That sounds like a good time, menace.

It should be a good time. It should be a good time. Maybe, or maybe I'll be working and not caring about that kind of stuff. But I think that people will come up to you and stuff, because you're so cute. I'm gonna be backstage. Okay, forget it then.

And then, yeah, well, I'm just gonna go to LA for a few days and then I'll come back and crash the, I'll throw your name around and see if I can get in to the show. Okay, so let's, we can start with little sex in the news and then we're gonna make our call to our special phone call about oral sex. So there is sex in news free vibrator alerts,

special hot dog carts hit Manhattan. So New Yorkers are constantly being given free food on the street, but what about free vibrators? Now there are hot dog carts stuck out with slogans like get your vibes here and relish the moment. Get it? Like relish, like hot dog. Trojan will be handing out 5,000 of its triforias, sex toys, a retail value of $40, and another 5,000 of its pulse toys.

It's the biggest vibrator handout in history. Okay, so that's the sex of the news story I got first. But the second one is that it was cock-blocked in the flat iron district. It went terribly wrong after they launched it today. And minutes after give the giveaway, a representative arm with a clipboard said the mayor's office is closing them down. Why are people so anti-vibrator? Half of all Americans have owned a vibrator. That's a study show. Vibrators are scary.

Oh, they're not. Have you really never been with one turned, like you've never been with a woman to use a vibrator? Not one we're having sex now It's a really fun edition. I brought in to the app for you for me for you It's good and it feels good to me. I have to spend some men like the vibration on their penis. I'm just saying But that's how I feel about that Okay You can't hand out unauthorized condoms in the Olympic village.

Really? Yeah, Olympic authorities are investigating a bucket of unapproved, non-sponsored condoms found in the village. Unapproved condoms, kangaroo condoms from the gland down under. Thousands of athletes from around the world live in the live. Have you been reading all this about all the sex happening? I have not. That's going down at the Olympics.

Yeah, without the people there at the Olympics. They're banging. They're banging. When you, it's kind of exciting. I haven't watched any of it, of course, of you. Yes, I've watched it a little bit. How do you've time to work and watch TV? I put a television on while I'm working.

Oh, in your office? In my office and at home. That's smart. Yeah. That's really, really smart. I'll keep it on the background so I know what's going on in my office and at home. That's smart. Yeah, that's really really smart I'll skip it on the background so I know what's going on in the world. Um, I start doing that. Yeah, I watch Michael Phelps swim and you know become the biggest gold He won all the gold medagels ever and all that kind of stuff. Wow. What's wrong with me today? It's tired because you got a new radio show if you guys are in San Francisco listen to the menace on live 105

Monday through Friday from what time to what time? Six a.m. to 10 a.m. It's a music show. Yeah, it's too bad I don't get up till 10, but I swear to God I would try to listen. Thank you. It's not about banging. It's not about sex. It's not about sex.

It's hard for you not to talk about orgasms on the radio. I don't think I get enough of that with you. I love that you got your new show. I'm very proud of you. So I want to want to listen to Lamentus show. And okay, let's call our guest. We should. Okay, this is Michael from your mask. Hello. He sounds like he's outside lands already this weekend. Hi, Michael. It's Emily and I'm from saxophony. I'm good. How are you? I am doing wonderfully sorry about that.

I just had to dash from a little dinner I was telling you about. Oh, I know. Well, thank you for stepping out to talk to us. We are so excited to talk to you today. I know. We're happy to talk to you because we, you know, we sponsored, you guys sponsored a contest we did with asking people for oral sex tips, phallacio tips and conlingus tips. Last week we did the conlingus. Now we're doing the phalacio.

We got hundreds of responses from people and we're gonna pick some of the winners. It's so great. And I was just, I'd be talking about mask all the time, but how did you come up with the idea of creating mask? Actually, I'll be honest with me. We were founder of Spunder who, who, the story is actually kind of two

three couples and their relatives is a 1019 and they are have had two drinks they start talking about sex the people are tend to do and one of the mentors was like this how come you don't perform or reflect on the anymore and she's better change terrible. They get into this conversation and he leaves the gentleman who came up with the idea of this. You can make a taste like chocolate syrup. I'm back in the game. And so we spent the last two and a half years trying to make a taste like chocolate syrup. Right.

I love it. I always say, it's like oral sucks to the meal. It's like taste like a milkshake or something is what I say. Yeah. Exactly. It's chocolate chocolate it's strawberry mango watermelon chocolate so what's the response been like I'm sure you've probably heard from people were like oh my god my wife didn't ever would perform all sex and now she won't stop because I taste like a milkshake or whatever hey we love that you know a lot of people look at it and think it's just a bunch of guys that have created this product and they think you know more of what what we love to hear is we get a lot of emails from those

sides of the couple who are you'll say oh my gosh it's the greatest thing in the world she's doing is everything but then she'll tell us you know a week later oh my gosh he's back in the game he's been me flowers for the first five and five years. What? You know and she says I can't say it's all math, but I have a feeling it's a lot about that. Right, exactly. That's what I think.

I think that they're awesome. I think it's a great idea because I mean, okay, what do you think about this? Do you hear this, Michael, that women? I don't know if this is like an urban legend, but I kind of think there's some truth through it that once you get married, women stop performing oral sex. What do they say when the ring goes on, they're done. Yeah. Yeah, we have talked to, you know, we've obviously

walked down a thousand of the people. The record for a married couple is that I've personally spoken to is 14 years. 14 years a day. Since she's done it, that'll. Oh my God. But I talked to hundreds of couples where it's mostly a birthday slash anniversary type thing.

And most of it, again, the goal of this, some people look at math and they think, oh, it's both out swallowing. Of course, it's not. The biggest problem that they have is kind of during the act, his act of lubrication is semimorally during the act is where the bad flavor comes out. So it's not all about the end result.

It's about just making it better for both parties, of course. Right. Exactly. I think that's cool that you've heard from all these people. I mean, I think I think it's a great product. So we've got, we are trying to pick out the winners here. And I thought maybe you could help. I love to. Okay. So here's some of the ones that we've got so many here. So, okay, I'll read you a few and you can pick which one you like. So, and Menace always says he's sitting here.

He always says that I give a lot of oral sex tips on the show. And he always says a woman shouldn't be giving oral sex tip because guys know better their own penis, blah, blah, blah. But I still think I know how to do it pretty well. Yeah, guys should be teaching people on how to give oral sex. That's a menace thing, it's blah, blah, blah, but I still think I know how to do it pretty well. Yeah, you guys should be teaching people on how to give oral sex. That's a minus things, the gay man. But these are what the people said. Okay, here's one.

Make sure there's lots of lubrication. Don't just bob it in and out of your mouth, mine the teeth, and use a little tongue swirling around the tip, a little bit of licking down the shaft. Suck out of the licking, it's the best damn lollipop you ever had. Use hand movements up and down the shaft. Don't forget to lick his and even suck a little bit. Fondle them. Fondle the balls gently in your hand.

That's one we have as a possible winner. That kind of covered a lot. Okay. So then we got a while performing oral sex. You can add chocolate, body paint, squirty cream or ice cream, then spend time licking and sucking it off or try flavored lubricant. And I was thinking here, insert, try flavored mask strip. Yes, there you go.

I was going to say that the ice cream name hurt the mask all that. But yeah, no, I like that more a lot as well. I think I still go with the first one just because it was so proper. And that's it. OK, well, here's another one. Here's the third one that I'm just, these are the three that we thought. OK I still go with the first one just because it was so properly answered. Okay, well here's a better, here's another one, here's a third one. I'm just at these are the three that we thought. Okay, always play with the tip with your mouth and tongue. That's where they're most sensitive. Well one hand

one one hand plays with him and the other hand is playing with his balls at the wet of the better and South Kisenlake every part of him not missing anything I've never had a complaint. That's pretty darn good too. I've got an idea. Okay. We think all three winners and we'll send some more stuff out to the other two that's awesome. That is awesome. That is awesome.

They're all winners then. Everyone's a winner. We're going to read more of them. Everyone's a winner. That's good. We love all of our masks stuff. We wear our mask t-shirts and the pens and the thing our whole office is like masks stuff all over it I know we will put together some great swag bags with a lot of product for them and

Then a bunch of samples so they can share with their friends as well. That is great. I think it's a great thing to share We've actually eaten them during the show and we tried them during the show menace. Yes Delicious and you loved every moment of it. So anything else that we need to know, Michael, anything else about me, anything else new products coming out are exciting, exciting things happening. Well, for your global customers, we are about to sign a deal for European distribution. And then tomorrow, I leave for a few days in Los Angeles, and then I'm headed to Hong Kong to start negotiating for Asian distribution. Oh, that's great. I love it. We have a lot of international listeners actually so everyone can get it. I know, I know, it's exciting. It will be an Australian New Zealand and in some areas of Asia, I have opened within about 60 days.

Okay, I think you'll do well in Australia. We hear from a lot of Australians. They love the sex. Oh, yeah, we actually get a lot of people that will pay to order it to be shipped from the U to Australia. So that is really cool. Okay, well thank you so much Michael. I'm going to let you get back to your party. We love your mask. It's sexualflavors.com. Thank you Emily so much. We love our relationship with you.

I know it's been really fun. Have a great dinner party. Talk to you soon. Okay. You too. Bye Michael. There you go. Now we can get to some more of the oral sex tips

We already picked some winners, but I think and these are from the people men So you can't say that they're for me and I'm not giving you good. Okay. Okay. Go ahead. Okay, so Oh, here's one first one as a gay man. I can say a little tongue swirl around the head gets them going So you you respect that tip because it's from a gay man. Yeah, a guy knows what it feels like. Okay. You can't neglect the balls. Oh, this is another one.

You can't neglect the balls. Always use a little hand motion and keep it wet from the base up and show them, show them love to the tip. What do you think about the tip? Uh, I think you should just get the job done. What do you mean? Give me your best tip.

No, the job, I mean don't play around with it. Talk to it like it's a microphone or something like that. Just don't do any of that kind of stuff. When you're trying to be sexy and go super slow. Do you laugh at women in their face when they do stuff like that? I hold it in, I hold it in because I want them to. But aren't you just happy they're like sucking on your penis? Yeah, I am, but you know what? I'm not impressed by you trying to act super sexy.

Not. I think it's ridiculous. I don't know what you're talking about, but I think a lot of guys I've heard that my best oral sex tips for women is to be enthusiastic. So you want to look, you want to be into it. You want to look like you are eating a lollipop, sucking on a lollipop. You want to be enthusiastic. And it is a little bit about technique

because you want it to keep it wet, you want to keep it your mouth going. But you also have to learn every guy likes it a little differently, different. So it's passion. It's enthusiasm, technique, and how, and another guy told me this, he said, how she looks when she's doing it. That's another tip, he said, how she looks when she's doing it.

That's another tip, that she's got to look good when she's doing it. Yeah. Because you're visual and you're watching. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Are your eyes closed? You're not watching. No, no, no.

Yeah, no, she has to look good when she's doing it. Yeah, that's good. But not, you know, again, just trying to take your time within all this stuff. Guys just want you to complete the job, you know? Right. Okay. Fine. Alright.

Here's some more tips from the people. Alright. I've always found when giving a BJ on a guy, stick with what they like. No guy wants you to surprise him. At least the guys I've known be consistent with the stuff they like and they'll enjoy it more. Alright. So be consistent with they like, like and they'll enjoy it more. All right. So be consistent with it.

Like, how do you find out what they like? Do you ever verbally tell a woman like, you know what? Slow down, go faster, go slower. I think it's in the guys duty to, it's a guy's man's duty to tell a woman, and struct if it's not going well. Like if it blow jobs going south, yeah, yeah, yeah, you got to stop it. You got to stop it and say, no, go faster, go slower. Slow down.

I've had guys say that very rarely, but I get to get feedback. Okay, this one tip just says swallow. How do you feel about that? I totally agree with that. What if they don't swallow? I mean, it's not gonna hurt my feelings. No, you won't be offended.

No, okay. But I mean, if you really love me, then you will swallow. Ah, that's not true. Some women don't like it, but if they had a mask strip on their tongue, they may not care because it masks the taste of semen. Get it?

Okay. A lot of tongue work and a little nibbling always works. You probably wouldn't like the nibbling. You always say nibbling, no? No. Okay. Guys call it grazing. I think some guys like nibbling.

Okay. Here's another one. Eye contact. I think some guys like nibbling. Okay, here's another one. I contact when you're sucking and make sure those eyes are filled with emotions, lust, hunger or play coy if you're role-playing. Guys like I contact? Yeah, they do. Okay, and then there's the next one. I contact.

Also use hand simultaneously and don't actually blow. I think women might think that you're really supposed to blow. Yeah, yeah. Don't. Didn't you have that happen to you once? Was that you? That me. The funniest thing I've ever heard with one of my buddies is a girl threw up on his on his wings. Oh, that's fun because I brought that up. And some other guy and a group of friends was like, oh, I had that happen to me too. Right. We're not drinking too much. We're drinking too much.

And then they gag and throw up. Oh my God. Oh my God. That is awful. But I'm sure that happens all the time, especially in college campuses. Oh, yeah. Yeah, I've never thrown up from drinking. So I can guarantee you I've never thrown up on a man's penis.

You've never thrown up from drinking. Now, once in my entire life, I've never gotten, I've never, no, I've gotten drunk, but I've never, I have something. I'm a fear of throwing up from drinking. Not once in my entire life. And you never, I've never gotten, I've never, no, I've gotten drunk, but I've never, I have something, I'm a fear of fear of throwing up. You should drink this drink called Cisco. It definitely would be a drink that would make you throw up.

I don't want to drink it, but you know what I like? I was, it's what? It's wine. Oh, really? Yeah. I don't want to throw up.

I mean, I've gone this far, but without throwing up, but you know what, maybe reminiscent, reminiscent when we were watching the Miss Advice episode, last episode or two episodes ago, when we were having our panty dropper drinks together at the Dubliner and to bar in San Francisco. And we never go out for drinks anymore.

And I liked, I was drunk that night. No, he's out of town. You're such a sore now. I had two panty droppers that night. What's in them again? It is. I kind of want to order when I go out. Lemon.

It really is a panty dropper because I'm a really bad drinker. Like, I can't, not that my panty is dropped for you that night or anything. Holy did. But I think that it was something that, very rarely do I find a drink that I can actually drink. Yeah. I don't like to taste the most alcohol. I had two of them, no problem. So I think that's a tried and two thing

and we should bottle it. All right. Okay. So, all right, give it, okay, here's some more oral sex tips. Okay. Give it all attention from tip to balls and don't just go for the big O,

but save the time down there and make it last for him. Okay, next one. Don't be afraid to explore. Stroke, lick, and suck on his balls, thighs, tummy, ass. Use your fingers at the same time using your mouth. Make it messy sometimes, he'll appreciate that you're more concerned with his pleasure than the drool.

People are really graphic here. Use your hand, find a rhythm, the weather, the better. Use hands with a good grip. Twist as you approach the head and don't forget the wetter, the better, nice and sloppy. Everyone says that it should be really wet. I believe so. You want to dry. Like sandpaper, tongue going up and down. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Um, lick front to back and suck the area between aggressively as you stroke the shaft and insert a finger

Into the anus into the anus. That's what I'm these are from the people. Are people are pretty freaky. Um, no, they're not. Our people are pretty mainstream, I think. Okay, don't get boring, get dirty and enjoy it. lick and suck the balls and make eye contact. Eye contact. I've always heard that. You gotta make eye contact. And sometimes I forget, you need to do that. Okay, suck like you're sucking on a straw, creates just enough suction. What about that, tip?

Okay, those are all the tips we're gonna read. You're not even engaging with me. What I'm engaging. I'm listening. I'm listening. I'm listening. I'm listening. I'm listening.

I'm listening. I'm listening. I'm listening. I'm listening. I'm listening. I'm listening. I'm just taking in all the tips that they're saying. I know I love hearing someone. And we even knew, what did you say? They're not my own tips. So what do you mean? Well, give me a tip. Give me a tip for women listening since you think that men are the experts on their own penises. What is your best oral sex tip?

And then we'll move on to another topic. Don't do the stupid teasing thing that you women think is so sexy. That's what I've been trying to say. Just get to the point. Some men like teasing. And then you'll move on to another topic. Go to the stupid teasing thing that you women think is so sexy. That's what I've been trying to say. Just get to the point.

Some men like teasing. Some men, yes, because they're going to email and say, oh yeah, I like to be teased. No, it's not that they like to be teased. They like women touching their penis. So of course, they're going to go through this process to get a woman to suck their penis. I'm sorry.

That is the truth of it. That is not the truth. It is the truth. Men like to some men like to be teased. We've talked about this. We've had colors. We've had people say that. So I'm just not even gonna get that. You're just happy that someone's touching their penis. I'm sorry. You just need to have more playful sex. Seriously. Some men like teasing. I don't think you should, you menist does not like teasing. There are men who like a little like she goes down in you a little bit, she sucks a little

bit, then she goes back up and does other stuff and then she goes back down again and leaves the room. I'm just kidding. But you know, prolong it. Yeah. And then random, okay, and then random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random,, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, random, and then random, random acts of blow jobs. Yeah. Random acts of blow jobs are amazing. Right. Like when you walk in the house and she whips down your pants. Yeah. Why can't I can't, why can't women do that more often? What the hell? I don't know. I mean, we pay for everything. No, you don't.

So, all right. In some relationships, I love to have a woman that just paid for everything. Me too. I'd love to have a guy that's everything going down I'll go down all the time if you had a woman who was bankrolling you you would go down on her all the time to show my appreciation Some men go down on women because they actually enjoy it Maybe I would enjoy it, but I'm just saying either way even if I didn't if there was dollar signs in your eyes You didn't know but I'm even if I didn't enjoy it and that is something in your ads, you'd enjoy it. No, no, no, no, but even if I didn't enjoy it, and that is something that she wanted,

and that would be a way that I can show my appreciation on how she takes care of me. Why can't a woman give Philecio, even though she doesn't like it, and a man is taking care of her, why can't she just do it? I don't know. You know?

I think that what Lama can do. The world is at a place, Emily. You know? This should be more blood jumps for around. I think it and I I'm not trying to take I'm not trying to be sexist. I'm saying this goes both ways. Yeah. Show your appreciation. Show your appreciation for your lover and go downtown tonight. If that's what they want. If that's what they want, a lot of a lot of people want that. What am I saying? Okay, let's get into some emails. All right.

Okay, and then we'll get into our topic later. We have another topic besides oral sex tips. We're gonna be talking about facts about orgasms. And it's really interesting, and it's gonna teach you a lot about the female orgasm. Okay, dear Emily, or actually says, okay Emily, like grabbing conversation. I met a guy at the bar the other night

We really hit it off which isn't the case for me usually at the bar. I'm very picky Had to sleep over at his place. No sex. It was a great time He told me that night that he was leaving two days later to film across the country for two weeks and that Ann Arbor is his home base, but that he's gone frequently to film which is a total bummer The next day he texted me to I went back and forth all day, and into the next day when he left. Do I try to keep this thing going while he's gone and hopes that when he is home,

we can try out the dating thing or is it just a lost cause, given his career and his lifestyle? Thanks, Amanda. Well, I'm not sure how far, okay, so in our browser, okay, so you're probably from Ann Arbor, where I went to college.

Yeah. It's my college town. Okay, so I mean,, okay, so you're probably from Ann Arbor where I went to college. Yeah, it's my college town. Okay, so I mean there's nothing wrong with keeping a okay It sounds to me like he people show you who they are. He told you upfront. He travels a lot He's not that available when he comes town I'm sure he wouldn't mind taking you to downtown as menacez do you believe I have now saying that? But I don't think this is a guy that you're going to turn into a relationship man. At least not yet, if he's telling you he's traveling a lot, and I think that women need to pay attention to what men are telling them, especially early on.

He's saying he's traveling when he comes down. I mean, so yeah, keep it going if you guys are going to be texting for the next whatever until he comes back, but I don't think that you should try to have a relationship with him. He's traveling travels and he's telling us he's like a cinematographer, he shoots and something. Right? Not a good sign, like traveling in and out. I personally, me, I like long distance relationships. So I'd be like, cool, let's bang when you come to town and you come back in three weeks and we'll bang again. But Amanda, if you're looking for a relationship, I don't think you should try out the dating

thing. I think he maybe he's a booty call and we put him in that category. Yeah. That's what it sounds like to me. I don't think you're try out the deity thing. I think he maybe he's a booty call. And we put him in that category. Yeah. That's what it sounds like to me. I don't think you're gonna convert this one. Because you're just gonna be wondering what he's doing when he's not in town. Right, exactly.

And then you're gonna get attached. So I wouldn't even recommend if you can handle the booty call aspect of it. I know you didn't have sex with them yet, but there's nothing wrong with these guys that I've had men like that that come in town and you do whatever, but if you can't handle it, some women are not good, they get too much attached.

So just pay attention to what your needs are, Amanda. Yeah. Okay. Hi, Emily. So I started by watching your new TV show and think you are absolutely wonderful with the advice you give. I have an issue. I've asked girlfriends about, but still not sure.

It's really not, it's really not a big deal but I met this guy he's a little younger than me but dropped dead gorgeous athletic and just a good man. Well I found out he was a virgin. I don't have any issue with it but I have never slept with a virgin. The time I'm becoming and I do not know how to handle it please please please right back and help me thank you Jillian. Okay, Jillian, so I'm wondering how old you are, not that it really matters, but I'm assuming that you've had sex before and he never has. And I would say, don't make a big deal out of the fact that he's very, he's a virgin. I mean, he told you he was a virgin. And I would just take it slow and do lots of foreplay and just let it happen naturally. I think that if you spend too

much time thinking, I mean, he's just going to be psyched. I mean, he's going to be psyched, right? Even the first time is never like, right? Amazing. I'm amazing. I just, it's not going to be his best sex ever, Jillian, and that's not because of you. But I think that you, there's nothing you can do. You get on top of them and you move around. I mean, I think anything you do actually, you ask me, you don't know what to do. Just do it. Like have sex with them, move around, do what makes you feel good. He's gonna freak out and leave his mind. You're probably a hot little thing. Get on top of him. But there's like, right? Yeah, he's probably gonna know any better.

He's not gonna know any better. I would say that you don't, like, you can't hurt it. Like with women, it's a little trickier because, you know, the orgasms and insertion of a penis for the first time, there could be blood. I think with guys, it's just like the Holy Grail. They're just happy. Yeah, I think that you should just... I don't think you need to play like, you know, teacher, student.

I think that the first time can just be, again, I'm assuming that you've already been intimate and you've already fooled around a little bit. And I would just take it out of your mind that it's first time and just go into it and have a good time. And I think he will be psyched and you will not, I think first being someone's first is kind of a good thing. He has nothing to compare you to. Not that might compare, some might compare. I'm not a con guy's if you want to know how a woman is not a virgin. Oh God, what? This is how you know, when you're younger, she knows how to grab it and put it inside of her.

Virgins don't know how to do that. What are you talking about? That that a woman knows how to guide your penis into her with her hand, then she is not a virgin. Okay. Uh, instant giveaway. But it's not just obvious that you just got a bit of penis. Not if you're a virgin. So she might, Jillian might have to do the guiding though, because he might not really

know how it works. Yeah, yeah. Okay. So that's just a little tip, little inside info guys. Well, she wouldn't know the guy to penis into a vagina. Like, that's where it goes. No, no, no, but I'm just saying to guys, that's just a little inside tip when we're talking about

virgins here. Do you know that I've received? It's funny because when I was younger, when I was in, in, you know, my teens and stuff like that, that was just like a dead giveaway that a chick was at a virgin, you know? But nowadays, you know, when you're older, it doesn't even matter.

I don't even think about that. But it's good to know because we need to do, we're going to do a Virgin show coming up because I've received hundreds of emails, you know, we always receive hundreds of emails, but even in the last few weeks, just from Virgins and I think the show misadvies expose a lot of new listeners. So we've got to take care of the Virgins and tell them what to do. Hell yeah. Hell yeah, it's important. Okay, dear Emily, I am 33 year old single mom.

I currently just ended a four year relationship with someone who I've known since I was 15 years old. He's also a single dad and I love his daughter and treated her like she was my own. My ex boyfriend basically became very distant and didn't seem to care about our relationship. He has depression and stopped getting help for it. Since then, he just does things to make himself feel better and it pushed me and my daughter

out of the picture. I'm having a hard time getting over this because I wanted him to just be honest and tell me that he can't be that guy. I want. I honestly feel cursed or something when it comes to relationships. I need to know the best way to stop thinking about why he changed and just get over this. Please help Christina. Okay, Christina, here's the deal.

I think that a lot of women, there's sort of like cycles of breaking up with someone and a lot of women get into a relationship with the guy hoping that they're gonna change them and nobody's gonna change unless they want to change. So I think that you're beating yourself up right now because you're like, why did he change and what did I do? It would, and how you get over it

is you just have to change your thinking. You need to stop obsessing over this relationship and move on, he's depressed, he's not getting help for it. Depression is a serious disease. And if he's not getting any help for it, he can't be available to you because actually depression is a very self-involved disease that when you're a depressed person,

you can't fully, even if you said you wanted to commit to, you probably can't fully be there for you, if he is seriously depressed, and I worry about your daughter. And I think that you just have to stop, you just have to move on, talk to your friends about it, we're keep a journal, and keep switching those positive thoughts in your head,

like, you know what, was it right for me, and move on? Like you just have to literally, when those thoughts in your head, like, you know what, was it right for me? And move on, like you just have to literally when those thoughts are coming up, can I get them back? Can I change them? We changed, he showed you who he was and the depression that's all worries me. And I would just say you've got to do your best, too. You're not cursed and you will find another guy.

I promise you. And all I can say is you want to know the best way to stop thinking about is why you change is stop thinking about it because there's nothing to do with you. That's not a thing. You're probably blaming yourself that you had something to do with this situation. And I think that you had nothing to do with it.

The guy's depressed. He's got a disease. And he became distant. He wasn't there for you. Like it should be so obvious. Like read, read what you wrote me. And that if you would you tell your friend to date someone like that? No, you don't deserve it. And you shouldn't keep obsessing over the sky.

You just got to move on and it is about changing your thoughts like literally. I know I say this all the time and it's almost like meditation, but it's called it's cognitive psychology is that how you change your thoughts is literally when you have that thought and you have to replace it with a positive thought or a mantra. I am lovable. I am worthy. I am whatever you can laugh at me, minus, but seriously every time if you trigger in your brain when you have that negative thought about him and you replace it with, I am lovable. I will find love or whatever makes you feel good, you can train your brain to send positive message to yourself and it will change everything. Yeah, it reminds me when you're saying that about that life coach or whatever it was that was with Julia Allison on the misadvice show and Bravo.

Who was he? He was like a happiness coach. Happiness coach. What did he say? He was just, you know, just giving out positive vibes and, you know, looking at Julia's life and what's good about it and all this stuff. And I was like, man, I want to talk to that guy. Yeah, you like him.

Good. Yeah, they brought him back to us on the show. Yeah, he was really cool. I like him. It is true that it's all in your mind and that we are all responsible for our own emotions and how we live our life. And it's literally 99% of suffering comes from our brain, comes from our own minds. We create the suffering in our life. Yes, there's bad things.

There's death and disease. And I know people are sick and things happen. But most of the time, it's our own thoughts that we're getting in our own way. And you would just have to learn to get out of your own way. And it's because your thoughts, and if you don't learn to control your thoughts, you're not going to be able to control your life. That is true. Damn it. Alright, dear Emily, I loved watching you. I misadvised.

You are just beautiful and seem so confident. You are a woman that is firm in knowing what she wants and I love that. I also love your unique sense of style that you wear so confidently. So I was wondering, what gives you confidence? And what things do to keep that confidence? What do you do to keep that confidence? Do you ever feel self-conscious during sex? What tips can you give your female listeners

that would help them to make a zoo the confidence that you have, especially in the bedroom from Cali? That's from a woman. Okay, how did I become a confident female? Well, I have insecurities just like everyone else, but I think that I have done a lot of work on myself, meaning therapy, emotionally, like soul searching. Soul searching. And I think you just have to start celebrating all the good things in your life, make a gratitude list every night when you go to bed,

if you're in a depressed place, just be like, think about all the things things in your life make a gratitude list every night when you go to bed if you're in a depressed place Just be like think about all the things that you're grateful for I think you have to just be Honest around yourself with positive people good people people that love you be a loving person be a good friend I don't know. I don't know why I'm I haven't always been this. I don't know. It's just like growing like just Life is too short not to be confident. Oh, it's just like growing, like just, life is too short not to be confident. Oh, so it's just a rounding too. I found with me that I just made my circles smaller and smaller and smaller.

Yeah. And this, I was only around people that wanted to go do things and do things bigger, you know? Not the people that were depressed because nothing happened for me. Right. And I kind of got rid of all those people in my life that just bringing you down. Yeah, I just like, I can't hang around these people that won't take the extra step to better their lives. I can't do it. Right. You have to

make it your life work to be healthy emotionally, mentally. Like you really, I don't know. I think I just have spent a lot of time. You literally, there's nothing more important. People are trying to get in relationships when they're half a person, and they think someone's going to complete them. And they haven't totally done their work on themselves. And then you're attracting someone who's attracted to like, and you're going to try to make a hole

when you're not whole yet. And you need to fill up that emptiness in you. I mean, everyone has it, and everyone has to work on it, but you just have to know that you deserve all the best things in life and just believe it. And tell yourself how amazing you are. Because you are too, Kelly. I don't know how I got that way, but I don't know.

Just me. I may need to hang out with free loving. Free loving, positive. I don't have negative people in my life. I did the same thing, menace, weeded out, friends. I don't I don't have negative people my life I did the same thing menace weeded out friends. I think you changed though like you do change and if there's friends that aren't serving you anymore Or people in your life that are holding you back I don't know that's not a lot of times you feel like there's an allegiance like oh this person who been friends since we were 10 or whatever But people change and if they if they have negative energy and they're not positive influences that you're they make you feel bad about yourself

You shouldn't spend time with them also Also, your priorities change too, when you get older. When I was young, I was like, ah, you know, I want a nice car, I want a nice place to live. And then I did all that. And then, and then all that went away. And I was like, I'm happy without that kind of thing. Exactly, exactly. I've had money, I've lost money, I've had no money.

The whole thing. It's not about the things in life that you think are going to make you happy, don't make you happy. You have to work at like feeling good about yourself. Because a lot of people think they need the boyfriends, they have the boyfriend or the girlfriend or the house or the car. That they're going to, that everything's going to be perfect. And to live your life thinking that there's some kind of something

over the horizon that's going to make everything better is a total fallacy. You just gotta love yourself every day. Oh my God. Okay, let's do a minute or so. Anyway, you can email me feedback at sexualbelmy.com. You can also just go right to sexualbelmy.com and send me your questions, because I do try to answer all of them.

All right, here's some facts about orgasm that we actually got from Jimmy Jane. We love Jimmy Jane immensely. They make the most amazing vibrators, massage candles, and pleasure kits that blend sex, art, and design. So I am in love with their products. You use coupon code summer for $25 off purchases of $100 or more, and you can visit my Emily's picks page and see my favorite products.

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No one that you've ever been with, but okay, of those women, 79% of those women use vibrators with their partner. That's a lot. That's a high number. So half of the people use them in the end? And then 80% of those people with vibrators bring it into the bedroom. Wow. Because women need a lot of women, knee clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. And so there no matter how great you are in bed, how big your penis is or thick or whatever

or small, I don't even care, it's not going to do it. Like you could have all the tools in the world and your penis and it won't work. They need a vibrator. So don't be upset about it. It doesn't mean that they don't love you and your penis. The tip of the clitoris contains approximately 8,000 nerve endings almost twice as much as the penis. I've always loved this fact. Did you know that as 8,000 nerve endings just in the clitoris? Well, I always know that you guys are more complicated than...

It's complicated. We've got 8,000 nerve endings like like like the double of the penis Like people think the penis is a mighty powerful God the Clitoris is where it's at 8 friggin thousand Okay, it takes the average woman Four minutes to orgasm through master V8 masturbation Jesus versus 10 to 20 minutes through intercourse Don't you wish it was four minutes? Yeah, Yeah, it's 10 to 20 minutes through intercourse And sometimes it's even 30 minutes I've heard

It is true though or during masturbation. It's just easy. I Wish you could just bring in sex takes long time For some women and nothing about that right you've already got to be you're having sex enjoy it Okay 33 to 50 percent of women experience orgasm infrequently and are dissatisfied with how often they reach it. So 33 to 50% don't orgasm. That's a lot of non orgasm in women. That's a lot of non orgasmic females. His, off women. Bring a vibrator in the bedroom.

You know, it's a great one for partner sex, since these are tips from Jimmy Jane. The form two vibrator is like fits and it looks like a tongue and it fits in the palm of your hand and you can just put it on your clitoris. What we're having sex, it's in your hand and it's vibrating and it's amazing. I'm just telling you, I've done that, I'll admit it

and I love it. Okay, 48% of American women say they faked an orgasm versus 11% of American men. Half of women. So that is the good chance that you say no one is ever faked with you. I'm sure they have. No, I never said that. You haven't. No. I thought you have. I assumed that something you would say. That to me is an assumption That would be a menacism a menacism a menacist we need a good yeah, no, that would be that be an ignorant You know, now I can't even say it ignorant ignorant that would be an ignorant statement

Um, I'm sure not many have faked it. I faked it, but I will not fake it ever again Oh, do you know what? We have a mentioned word on XM radio right now. We're on Series XM 165. 165. Hello. XM 165. Yeah.

Because when I really stumble on my words, when we're outside of our podcast, I get upset. When I know that we're on XM radio. Oh, well, we are so happy to be on XM. If you're listening, tweet us, email us, sex with Emily. Every Friday., sex with Emily every Friday at sex with Emily every Friday and we just We have hundreds of podcasts that you can easily download from iTunes uh, from the RSS feed on our website and you can listen to us every day a lot of people do it and you have new content up

New content on our website. We've got we've got blogs. We've got information. We've got videos. We've got a lot going on There's a new video show on sex.com where it's a video version of what we're doing. Right. T-Radio V on Tuesdays at two o'clock. We've got so many different ways that you can leave and listen, you can watch, you can masturbate, whatever you want to do. Okay, up to 75% of women who have orgasms require clitoral stimulation to do so. So 75% of women who have orgasms require clitoral stimulation to do so. So 75% of women who have orgasms need their clitoris rubbed in a way that sometimes the penis can't, which is why you might need a vibrator. But sometimes the penis can, I'm not saying that, but 75%

like they need that, like if you're not touching our clitoris, she's not gonna get there. So I need a rock box. Oh my god, I still haven't used it. It's the most powerful vibrator on the planet and I was given one at a show I god, I still haven't used it. It's the most powerful vibrator on the planet. And I was given one at a show I went to. And I haven't tried it yet. And I'm afraid of it because you should see the electrical cord. It's like a power drill.

No, thank you. I'm going to show it to you. I'm going to have a party student in my house. We're going to have an intern party. And you should come and we'll do it on a Friday. And I'll show you the rock box. You always do parties during the show. We're not going to do it. No, no, wait, just decided.

We're going to do it on the week that you have to be there. Because when you're not there, people get upset. All right. Okay. 70% of men and 34% of women so they think about sex every day. Okay. So this is a, they always say men think about sex like a hundred to 300 times a day. Are you that guy? Do you think about sex all the time? No, which is unfortunate. It's usually in the morning and in the evening, I know time during the day, you don't, it doesn't even pop in your head, not even when you see me.

Not even when I see you. Um, that's interesting. Okay. Uh, they think about sex every day. I don't think that why I mean, I think about sex all the time. Of course, it's more for work, but I'm not thinking about, you have has the word sex but I know every single one. But yeah, it's true that's double though the amount of men that are sticking about sex all the time. Okay, a woman is 30% more likely to orgasm if her feet are warm. So keep her feet warm under the covers. Oh, should I do?

Should I put her in a hot tub? I don't know. Yeah, put her in a hot tub. Is that work? No, sex and water is actually not a hot tub. I don't know, yeah, put her in a hot tub. I don't know, yeah, put her in a hot tub. I don't know, yeah, put her in a hot tub. I don't know, yeah, put her in a hot tub. I don't know, yeah, put her in a hot tub. I don't know, yeah, put her in a hot tub. I don't know, yeah, put her in a hot tub. I don't know, yeah, put her in a hot tub. I don't know, yeah, put her in a hot tub.

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No, don't do that. I think I've had sex. I can't remember. Okay, in a hot tub, but are like a pool. But I remember it always being like a let down because it just feels different with the water and all that. But if you've had amazing aquatic, aquatic sex, let me know. Feedback at sexwithletme.com.

Okay, we've got some more talk about orgasms here. If you're not menacing, you're taking good notes here. Okay, here's a couple of different kinds of orgasms. Kind of orgasms. There's different kinds. This is new. This is new. This is new information you're telling me that there's different kinds.

No, you know this. Internal versus external. Most women require external or cultural stimulation to achieve an orgasm. With thousands of nerve endings, the clitoris is said by many sex birds and sexologists to be the female pleasure center. However, there is a minority out there, less than a quarter of all women who can climax through internal stimulation alone. That is, through intercourse or other types of penetration. So that's what they're

saying is like the G-spot orgasm, the internal one, and the external one. Some women, and I hate these bitches, experience simultaneous internal and external orgasms. Oh, I know these people. I am not that person. I would like to be that person in my next life. How can you train? You just can't train yourself to do that. I can. I got to work on it. This is called a combination or a blended orgasm, and it requires clitoral and vaginal or g-spot stimulation at the same time. So you can, you could buy a vibrator for if you want to do it on your practice on your own, you can buy a g-spot vibrator that just targets your g-spot and then put another one on your clitoris. You don't have to do it during an, of course, you could do this on your own

through masturbation and then see what happens. See if you can do it that way. That's I've done. It's a lot of tools going on. We took the tour of the Jimmy Jane. HQ. Yeah. And they had like so many different kinds and shapes.

It's crazy. You're gonna find one that's gonna work for you, you know? Right. Didn't they have one set where it had all of a minute? Like that, the at home set or something like that? Yeah, probably. They did. They had like one thing that had like a bunch of them

in one bundle. I swear. Oh yeah, they had the classics. What do they call them? The pleasure sets. The pleasure sets, maybe. But it was just like a ton of different things. Or the iconic collection of like the rabbit

and they have like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it was all white. Yeah, yes They sell okay, so they sell these best selling vibrators So like you know how like the rabbit and the pocket rocket and a cock ring they sell like they're called the I want to say they're the classics the iconic the what? The usual suspects they're called the usual suspects and Jimmy Jane. And they look really great. And they have the rabbit and they have the my first vibrator, the pocket rocket. And they're all amazing. And also the form too, like I said, is good for click tutorial stimulation during intercourse. And if you want to, yeah, I'll keep going.

Okay. All right. Alternatively, you can make your man or a vibrator design for internal stimulation twice is nice by adding it. Oh, this is about the iconic ring for clitoral stimulation. So if you're someone you can have an internal orgasm, but you still need clitoral stimulation, you can buy the iconic ring from Jimmy Jane. Just go to my website and click on the Jimmy Jane banner. It's really easy.

And I gave one to Andy Cohn from Bravo when I was on a show. And it stretches, so it fits any penis. And then it has a vibrator on it that hits the clitoris. So it works like that. Okay, single versus multiple. Single orgasms can last anywhere from a few seconds to a minute. Uh huh.

Mine are not a minute long. But there are like corset, that you can take that you can learn to have like like hour long orgasms. I know these people. I should take those courses. You should. Summile list. Okay. Unlike most men who require a refractory period anywhere between for minutes to hours to recover between orgasms. Some women can have multiple orgasms or little or no pause in between. I can do that. Do you care? I'm proud. How many do you think you've hidden? Multiple orgasms come in two forms. I'm going to give you, oh, how many have I had in my life?

What are the most amount? Yeah, like in one session. Like nine. Nine in one session. Well, how long have a time period in between? Like how long was this session? Well, like once you have one, it's easy for me to have more so I would say 10 minutes

Nine and ten minutes Yeah, cuz it's just keep firing really. Yeah, I'll break it down for you Wow, I hope you got that on video No, I do not videotape myself or gas or doing anything else, except for, well, that's not true, I guess I do. Okay, here's the deal. Sequential, okay, so multiple orgasms come into form sequential and serial. Sequential orgasms are orgasms that occur one after another within a few minutes in between

additional stimulation is often required to get from one to the next, but there is no limit to how many you might have during one counter. Serial orgasms are one orgasm experience immediately after the next and the next and the next. This is a wild ride for those who can actually achieve it, which is not many. I did not have cereal. I had sequential. So I did not have like boom, boom, boom. I had like, you got to do it again And again and again, but if you just keep firing that's got to be freaking amazing Can you imagine?

Okay, so I've got to just and then we've got real versus fake Studies indicate that 80% of women have faked orgasm. There's many reasons from wanting to boost our partner self-esteem to feeling bad about being Unable to cheap orgasm or just being too tired of wanting to boost our partner's self esteem to feeling bad about being unable to cheap orgasm or just being too tired And wanting to call it a night, which is all the reasons why I've cheated why I've cheated. Oh really? I'm not cheated why I've cheated my orgasm Well, that's probably how to before gone to rose to occasion because I'm so exhausted I don't know. Yeah, I know honey. You got to get more rest You've probably heard before but but it's worth repeating,

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No, I had sex ed. I tried to explain to you the, and you, you totally got upset. The moment I said it. Oh, well, you're going to say it again. Piss me off. What is it? That the moment I said it. Oh, well, you're going to say it again. Kiss me off. What is it? That the cost of having sex. What do you talk about? Because what I think of sex, I think of sex and having and being in a relationship,

not just like random hookers. Right. So the whole the whole process of getting to the point of having sex is, you know, you have to court somebody and you don't have to do all that stuff. Eventually, if you want to be in a relationship, yeah, you do. But it doesn't have to cause money. Go to the park. Go to museum. Eventually one day, when your relationship, it will. You're going to have to do a lot more things, didn't order to have sex. I'm sorry, that's just how the world is. Okay, for men, maybe some men.

For men, maybe. Yeah. That's expensive because you mean you have to buy dinners and shoes and stuff. Yeah, the buying dinners and take them out. And then eventually when you do end up living with somebody, then you gotta take care of a bunch of stuff in the house. You know, you can have an argument over something.

And then you're not gonna be able to have some stuff. You, you got to do a lot of work for it to happen. I'm not saying that women are not doing any work to make it happen either, you know, but I'm just saying men have to go through a lot of process to be a nice person, right, in order to have sex. I'm saying, they can make some better people. Yeah, but I'm just saying you kid, I mean, you can have random sex here and there. It doesn't matter. Right, but you're saying in a relationship expensive. It's like saving up for kids college education.

You got to save up for your relationship. Totally. You must be saving a lot of money right now because you've been at a girlfriend in years. I know. You must have a really hefty bank account. Just like, I don't know, because if you, yeah, if you are broke, it causes riffs in your relationship. I'm sorry, it does. Everything comes down to money. You've said this before. It was one of the biggest problems in relationships. It's money. Money and sex.

Yeah. Because of the way we have to actually have to wrap up, but it's the way people, No, I have a little more time. We do? Yeah. It's the way people deal with money. They don't talk about it, whether you have too much or too little, couples spend money in different ways.

So that's where it becomes a problem. Yeah. So when couples don't talk about money, and they like a woman has an expectation that he's going to pay, he thinks that she spends too much, whatever it is, couples have to talk about money and sex.

And if you don't talk about money and sex, your relationship's going to be over. Yeah, and I think that should be a part of the sex head. Oh, money. Interacting. And sex, talking about, I think communication. Yeah, it's like this part of communication. You can take, also, you can take the money factor out. Yeah. And just being like, cohabitating with people and, you know, dealing with somebody else's personality.

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