Sex With Emily - SWE: Female Sex Lives

Episode Date: November 30, 2012

Get turned on in this “quickie” episode as Emily interviews a female guest, “Hope” about her sexual exploits. Hope reveals her crazy first time sex experience, thoughts on younger versus older men, and the best position to orgasm. The women also discuss sex toys, fetishes, and a secret oral sex “chin trick.” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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check out everything going on there. So as you know, we're doing more shows now and this is one of the shows where I interview women about their sex lives or what they like, what they don't like, what their favorite moves are, what tricks work for them, and today I'm talking to Hope. Hi, Hope. Hi, how are you doing? Thanks for being here. Thank you. It's really good to have you. Okay, so tell me how did you?

When do you first remember having your first sexual experience? I like to say 16 but it was on the test the 16. What happened to you? Um, boyfriend, parents leaving town, Thanksgiving day, and a whole house to ourselves even confirmed that my parents were out of town, but I still had sex in the shed. In the first time? In the first time? Was it good? No, but I cried, cried and cried because I was an aversion anymore, so I cried and then

he was feeling terrible and told me some story that how he was dying of cancer. So it was okay and then I figured since I wasn't a virgin anymore and he was feeling terrible and told me some story that how he was dying of cancer. So it was okay. And then I figured since it wasn't a virgin anymore, he was dying of cancer, which of course it was a lie. We would just start doing it. And you were just or something? And you were just in Texas and we were just. So you're from Texas?

From Texas. Okay, so you grew up where? Exactly. Dallas, Texas. Okay, so when do you remember having your first like sexual feeling, is do you remember masturbating when you were younger? How do you remember having your first sexual feeling? Is do you remember masturbating when you were younger? Do you learn about your body?

I remember one time being on a, like, taking a nap at the mom being on a day bed. And she was asleep and I remember, like, having my fist, like, just kind of sitting on my fist and she was like, what are you doing? And then I literally don't remember masturbating again. Oh, because she said, what are you doing? She was like, oh, honey, that's just like what are you doing? And then I literally don't remember masturbating again. Oh, because she said what are you doing? She wasn't like, oh honey, that's just like what are you doing? She knew it. It was like kind of, you know, so I had a fever. Do you say? I was probably in fourth grade, I don't know, you're like 10, the web, man. So I think I like 10 or a while. No, that's fifth grade. So I think I was probably 9 or 10.

Okay. And then I don't remember doing it again until I was 20, but I've never unfortunately been very successful about it. Is it masturbation? Is it hard to? But can you still, is like, I can't concentrate long enough, and now without porn, there's no way. Like, it's just fast.

And then it's, so if you watch, see, watch porn. I do watch porn. What kind of porn? PornHub.com. PornHub.com. Okay, these should be one of our advertisers. So what's on porn. What kind of porn? pornhab.com. pornhab.com? Okay, this should be one of our advertisers. Yeah. So what's on porn?

What kind of porn are you attracted to? I was always just, I mean, unfortunately, terribly straight, but I was always just attracted to girl and girl, but lately, I think because there's, you know, a lack of male energy in my life, I've been more attracted to heterosexual effects Okay, but I'm a little freaked out about it because I want to know I'm trying to watch the ones that only have like the names If people right I want to know that they're not a sex slave in Eastern Europe or whatever So I'm trying to like figure out who's good you've more Trying to make money off so you can so then once you watch porn, then you're,

you're, you're, you're, you're, you're sex toys or do you? I use a vibrator, right? It's designed. Very basic. I went and I went, actually, like a fucker rocket. No, I can't, but it's on, I went and I was, I went and did buy it recently at good vibrations and it was really funny. Like the woman was talking to me about, I was

asking her, you know, vibrator questions and everything she asked me was, um, I was, when I'm looking for the rabbit basically, and she instructed me that, like, I'd probably want external versus internal, which was true. Right. But it's the whole... The Troll Simulation. Yeah, that's just all I care about, I don't care about. Which is that was what most people wanted.

Absolutely. 81% of women need the Troll Simulation. Yeah, okay, so that's definitely what I need. The two was right, that the way she was talking to me made me laugh, which was probably 20 years ago, but I'm not a merchant, like I felt like I was a merchant. Right. So, anyway, you were a virgin vibrator buyer. Yes, as you speak, you know, so you so unique to also like most of you

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But when I was 13, my mother, I was going to a parochial school. And it was in Texas, and I was asking questions about, you know, Jesus Christ, personal Savior and all of that, like asking if my brother and sister were going to get a heaven, and my mother got really freaked out by me. When the question took me at the Prochial School and into Put Me into a Pratt School, thank goodness. But anyway, meanwhile, I had gone to this Bible camp, but she was also a little bit freaked out about. But later I realized when I had an orgasm having sex, that when I was saved, it was an orgasm. And I am not being... If you don't think I'm being like...

We're getting that... We felt saved. But I was like, you know, it was kind of a revival, literally like, you know, come down and accept your discretion, or if you believe in Jesus. I remember that you fought it and that feeling. And then later on, if 15 when I was having sex, a sexual orgasm, I knew it was exactly the same feeling. I thought you fought it and that orgasm. Wow, that's so easy to make that connection.

To me, I'm not being like, I'm not. Are you a religious person now at all? No. Okay. So, so you had this revelation about orgasms. So you are easily able to orgasm and then during the interport when you're having sex with the man. Yes, but unfortunately I'm really very present and usually fantasizing. Really?

So you're fantasizing about what you fantasize about. So what you fantasize about? So what you fantasize? I'm saying it was actually present, pretty much. It's just a lot of balance. So you really can, you go there. So in your mind, you're having sex with someone and you're fantasizing about,

you fantasizing about like pouring you watch or someone you know or a Situation that like you never want to happen, but you just like to fantasize about it. I'm usually I'm thinking fairly dominant in life So I'm usually fairly Sensitive and so it's usually someone during sex or some is it? No, no, not during sex. I mean, I'm not sick and missive my friends. I'm in my fantasy In your fantasies or your simsum. I mean I'm not sick of this is my I'm in my fantasy in your fantasy your I'm like I mean they're getting paid or

So you're not even thinking about the person you're with but you're thinking about the scenario like maybe they paid you and you were I think Unfortunately, I think when I start like when I when I start dating someone Your present. I'm present. And then I'm. For how long? How many months?

I always say six months. To a year. If you're lucky. If I'm lucky. If you're lucky. Maybe two or three months. And then, and I feel like the last person was having said, because I was pretty present.

At him, but I really do think anatomically, it worked better for me. So it's not to go out. What do you mean anatomically, it worked better? I just think that it was like a better... Do you think it fit? And I feel like I think I was more present sexually with him. I don't think I had a great...

I wasn't... unfortunately I was totally available. And it always that way. But I do feel like physically I didn't have to go into a fantasy as my story as I am. Oh wow. So do you think it was because anatomically you fit together? I think there's probably some intimacy there too. Yeah, I probably should have explored intimacy more of it. But I'm bright. But you weren't able to go there. That's okay. So where are you at now? I've been with the last time. What was the best sex you ever had? If I said to you,

Amanda, sorry, I'll cut that. If I said to you, hope. Let me tell you something. If I said to you, hope, what's the best sex you've ever had? Like, what comes to your mind? What happened? I think I probably think about... I think, fortunately, I think I think about several different experiences, but I think I've had a lot of good sex, which I'm happy about, with people I've been connected with, and so I can think of some really fun experience. Okay, I can get it. Give it a different, yeah. Just one.

Just one. Just one. One was someone I was on a trip with in Thailand Thailand and we were really at each other's threats and what was raining all day long and we were just like had sex all over this room lots of like crazy break and like destroyed the room and it was just sexy and fun right ridiculous and that was fun and there's been other I don't know I had a lot of good break up sex I guess really oh good I get after you break up or when you're breaking up I like like. I tend to make these big statements.

It's so hard. And then that's the best sex. That's the best sex. Do you do that repeatedly in relationships? It's so hard. Let's have sex. No, unfortunately, it's more. No, really is over. It's really good. And then it's unfortunate and that creates the regret cycle. Oh, that was so good. Do you think that we're meant men to be synonymous with one person for the rest of our life? No.

I mean, it's getting more comfortable as I get older. The idea of that, obviously, but, oh, I don't think it's natural. So, have you been married before? I have. You have. And how was that? What happened? I was really immature and I got married because I just felt I'd fresh off the boat from Texas

and I felt like that's what I was supposed to do. And I married a really nice man. I don't think it was terribly pleasant. And I'm definitely scared of, I feel like I should get married again, but it definitely is something that's nerve-wracking to me. Okay. and I feel societal-ish. Right but you don't mean you might not want to. I do I would like to work through my equipment issues and if I can then I would like to but if I can't

I think O.B. Why is this your way of doing it? Okay. What is the what is your biggest turn-on sexually? Like if you just think, what could a guy do, that would be your biggest turn on. If he blank, even it could be like a sex move, like, I love when a guy holds my hand behind my head or I love when a guy kisses my neck, or is there anything that a guy does every time? You're like, oh, that is the move.

I think I think I like, no, I think I think I might quit somebody else. I'd be like the last person I was having since when he just like, it's the same, he's like, like, pick up. I can't say. My body, you know, it was like so sexy to me the way he like grabbed me. He grabbed me a mask. Yeah. I love him guys. I never had anyone else. I may have had other people do other things I loved, but I've never had anybody do. So I'd be a type of like naturalness naturalness and authenticity, and I don't like laughing during sex, but I only like to have sex with people who I find numerous. You know, but I'm not taking that into the context. Right.

So what would be a turn off? What would a guy do that you were like, oh my god, did you really just get in bed with your socks on? Or something like that? Someone who was really tied to one position, not tied. I dated one guy and he was really good looking. And then after their time I realized, a couple people I dated, including my ex-husband, actually, I think that late and late, they felt sex was dirty. And that's a turn off to me.

Like, when you can tell that person, there's something that's... What do you mean he felt that you was dirty? He didn't have to remember, we were dating. There was some association with him, and I think his, I think his dad was, was secretly gay, and so he had, like, some issues around, again, I was doing, don't mean that, but for some reason, for him for him, he had some experiences and he basically dragged out on after years and he'd been walked in on the side. I still don't know that somehow, before we were really to him, he felt like it was a clean

foe, but just didn't feel like it felt very different. And then I did another guy who I never, I wasn't I wasn't with him long enough but I knew it was something I wasn't interested in because he was so uniform about it and he tell he also felt something was dirty so really they feel like it's dirty about they feel like they're not sexually so maybe you're looking for someone who's more sexually open yes but not like but I'm actually pretty I'm certainly not it I don't like I have no like fetishes right now I don't either but I always wish I did I always wish I had a finish and I think it's a fun day like, I have no fetishes or anything like that. Right. Now I don't need the brain. I always wish I did. I always wish I had a fetish. I'm like, it's a fun

devil like a fetish. I never had one. I'm like, I want one so bad. Okay, so what about oral sex? Do you like first let's talk about, do you like receiving oral sex? Yes, but I find it much more intimate in her course. So I like receiving an adjunct. I'm comfortable with somebody. Okay, so it's not like first day, or second day, third day, but it's like before you get sexed. I didn't report it to someone before. You didn't intercourse with oral sex. I would give a blowjob before I had sex with somebody.

Right, so I would have sexed someone before they went down. Do you, okay, and so when they do go down on you, is there a certain technique or anything that you like, like how would you describe what you like? Unfortunately, this is way of straight. Like I can still not imagine going out and said what? So I think I'm always astonished that someone is not bothered by it. But what are they doing? They're not bothered by it, but it doesn't turn you on.

I guess I like, I sense that that goes back to the literal simulation. Right, if they're good at like getting it, we're worried that they're tongue like if they fast or slow or like feathery or what is there like a little pressure. Pressure, you like pressure little pressure. Oh my god, do you know that I had an interview a few weeks ago with a woman named Charisma, she did a similar show and she actually has had sex with men and women, a lot of men and women and she's saying she has a special chintrek so if you're interested in that show it's Charisma. It was like 15 episodes ago, in guard, 10 episodes ago and it was really funny and And she was like, women go crazy for my chin trick. And I like, it was an oral sex chin trick.

That's good. Yeah, it's funny that you mentioned the chin, because I had not heard that before. I think that's the best trick. I think that was the last person I was with who had to do that. That's grabbing. It was all the same. As grabbing a hot makeup Ask grabbing is hot. Right. Yeah. Oh my god. Yeah, the younger men. Do you think younger men typically? When I was younger, I did older men.

I have been dating younger men. How many years younger than you? And I age now. How many years younger? Um, when I was giving to like, I would say the last, feel like my last serious relationship, last two serious relationships, they were, I guess last three, were 10 years younger, two of them,

and then accidentally, I did it, someone who was pushing 20 years younger, and I wasn't comfortable with that. 20 years younger, but I wasn't comfortable with that. I really wasn't. But was it what was the sex like with him? Was it different than being with older men? Like he was 20 years younger?

Ironically for me it was, it was great. Like he was, he's fantastic, but it was, I think he was much more capable of being committed to the relationships in the I. I was. And so in mind, we have, I felt panic about it. Like, so it was so touching, as well. It was great. Right. He's amazing, but I was scared to get my heart broken based on my heart. Right, right. Okay, so you've never, have you ever been with a woman? No, no, I've been with, I guess I've been with a woman in a may, but we haven't really been together since then. Okay.

And what is your, is there like, what's the worst move a guy can make? A head push? Like, it's shocking. Right, that push. Like, it's shocking. Right, that's it. That's what you were talking about that. Like when a guy is like, you're pulling around with a guy and he like, boom, put your head down there. You're like, I know you're hard.

I know I can do this. That it's an option to give you a blow job right now. But please don't push my head down there. It's shocking. I don't even like it when they put their hand on your, on your, you know, hope. Why do you think Oral sex is power? Performing Oral sex. Why do you think it's power?

I think it's, I just enjoy the, I do like it. I like it more. I have to admit I like it more in the beginning than I do as relationships to twins. Right. That's what they say. If you look at Mary or they commit and they stop performing Oral sex.

Yeah, I was dating someone once who we were, he was kind of the end of another relationship and we were mad love and he literally said to me in his naive day, which was interesting because he wasn't that young saying, he's like, I'm gonna blow up every day. I'm like, really? He said he wanted one every day. And he's like, I can't believe I'd

get a blow up every day. And you're like, that's not gonna happen. I mean, I was bare enough to say that it's not gonna happen, which probably wasn't very, you know. What do you, how do you feel about the testicles? Do you know how to operate them into your blowjob makeup? Yes, I do, although I've had,

I have to say I've found them pretty all, you know, fairly normal, but I remember two people, one, they had just like these crazy, baguetesticles, like in one, like, real way bigger than the other, which was very, very strange. And then there was another guy, he was in fantastic shape, and he was really, he was, he was fairly young, and he was a little bit repressed, but really cute, but a bit repressed.

And it was strange when he just spalled with just, he had a really nice, he just spalled for like rock, hard, and tight. It was weird. It's like, did you play with them? Do you lick them? Do you? What do you do with them? I would say gentle with them for sure.

You have to be gentle, right? Yeah. I agree. OK, so what's your favorite position for sex? Where are you more likely to orgasm? On top. On top? Is it more of a literal grinding back and forth? Or not really with no orgasm so much on the

bottom? I don't. I like what you say. What percent of times you orgasm during sex? During intercourse? 70% of all of them. That's good. But if you don't, are you bombed or no? It depends. With the last stretch to present we're having so much sex that I do feel like I'm a one. I'm a, I never have been a believer in the most orgasm. Maybe it's just envy, but I don't even get it. Right.

So I'm a one orgasm person, and then my mind checks out. And immediately, and I'm like, what's on TV? Then yeah, I mean, yeah, pretty much. I mean, pretty much, I would rather either orgasm simultaneously or have the guy orgasm for us because one side orgasm. Right, right, right. So what's your experience with sex toys? You said that you have one, only one?

Yeah, one, only one. I don't care about sex toys when I'm in a relationship. No, it's only when you're alone. So you never used it with a partner. The craziest sexual experiences knew it's acts where. I think it's the most, I must say, it's the craziest, I guess, but it's the most dangerous. It's the dangerous, isn't it?

In the communist China, crawling over above for a fit. But you didn't get shot at, aren't you? We did not, no place, but there were later, we did see people with machine guns patrolling the area, so it was not smart. Do you ever play props or dress up when you were someone? Yeah. Do you really dress up like lingerie or...

Yeah, I like that. Maybe like... Long-dressed. Long-dressed. Yeah, definitely again when we talk about nothing. Unfortunately, like you were saying, unfortunately, fetishy. But... Do you wear lingerie special things for your body?

Yeah, just like, you know, you know, you always set up. Do you feel like I appreciate lingerie because I have a thing that like some of you guys just don't even notice. Like you go shopping and you're like my brown panties match today And they're like iron iron legs run up exactly I think that they say they like there's few I think people who appreciate it in theory But I think very I actually don't like the guy that really appreciates it. You know what I mean? Like it's why I like the guy who appreciates in theory because I think think they're the same guy that really appreciates that you're well dressed or have a great dress on. But anybody, especially fancy thing or something, is somebody really, really cared about the

guard or belt or something? That would make me crazy. I want him to find me sexy as a package, not sexy as a product. So how does it make you feel sexy? I do feel a bit emotional to the day because I guess I say I don't really, I don't like like false flattery or something, but I do like sort of uncontrolled, I just just exit. You're so sexy, you're so nice.

I hear so, I was like, I was like, I can never say, a guy can never tell me how hard I am like too many times. Yeah, it's weird a friend of mine said when I was spoiled at the day because I was laughing saying I didn't want to sex them like he didn't even like, he didn't, he didn't tell me it was sexier thing, but I hate people who would I hate people who are too it is like complimentary so like so that's to be the right mix it has to be genuine it has to be authentic it has to be like like you can tell when the guys authentically really into you yeah no like you're like oh my god you're so that's the whole like where you it's just chemistry where

you feel like you're telling it's chemistry yeah it's a hard to find chemistry yeah so when you find it you know it right yeah and well um thank you so much for this this interview hope I really appreciate you sharing your sexual activities yeah okay thanks everyone for listening to Sector Family was it good for you email me feedback except with Emily.com so you know I'm obsessed with candles right have you ever heard of misogyny candles okay so get this I always like candles what I'm obsessed with candles, right? Have you ever heard of misogyny candles? Okay, so get this. I always like candles when I'm enjoying glass of wine with friends, and recently they

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