Sex With Emily - SWE: Flirting for Dummies

Episode Date: March 19, 2012

Emily and Menace both have sex in the same weekend, but with different people of course. Menace has sex in the shower and the girl didn’t faint this time. A recipe for “panty droppers” a drink that might be true to it’s name,  flirting techniques and the sacred duties of the wingman. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. gotta understand. It's so much. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, all right? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so dumb.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexcellamy.com where you should become a friends with benefits and members. So you get all of our shows all week long. Your emails go right to the top. We answer your sex questions and we love you.

We love all of our listeners. So thanks for listening to the show. Today's show we're gonna talk about how to approach the opposite sex and flirting tips. Plus we'll have sex in the news and we're answering your emails. And I'm here with the white menace. What's going on?

Oh my God, it's so good to see you. We had a little break last week. And now I miss you. I miss you too dearly. I saw you like called me once, but I didn't call you because I was having like a total... Naltone? No. No, I was not having a meltdown.

I was having an inspirational thought and I wanted to share it with you, but now I can't remember what it was. Oh, it must have been important. Thanks for calling me back though. You are welcome. I thought that that's the way to leave you a message because you don't listen to your messages just to call, missed call, you call me back. Yeah, but I thought it would be like something, I don't know. You wanted me to have a picture of VCR or some crap.

I was like, already a bad drink in Moette's all. Well, no, it was something really positive, but I don't remember what it was anymore. So thanks for not calling me back. Thank you for calling. I so appreciate it. I mean, that's a huge thing. My weekend was awesome.

I went to St. Patrick's Day with Saturday, and I went to a friend has a winery down in Redwood City of all places. That's where I was born. Really? In Redwood City, you should come next time. It's called La Honda Winery. It's kind of a random location for Winery, but it's really good wine.

So, we drank all day, a bunch of my friends. Yeah, I grew up in River City and tell us 13 years old. I don't know that. I'm trying to figure out what area would even have a Winery over that? Apparently not the nice area. It's not the nicest area. Someone's calling me from... Okay. So then, we drank drank all day and then my friend

Had us over for steak to continue the drinking. We had steaks and we had really good salad and more wine for the winery So it was all day I guess in Patrick's day, but it was not green wine or anything And it was all day extravaganza and then Sunday I worked a little bit and recovered and went to the gym and it was that was it. That's cool Yeah, it was fun. It was good times. It's really good times. Yeah. What about you? I Had like a Ferris Bueller like weekend That's what people were describing it because I was like oversharing you more than usual on my social networks Right and this is what I did in the weekend I met one of my social networks. Right. And this is what I did.

In the weekend, I met one of my favorite singers, Christina Perry. Okay. I went to Facebook. I traveled all around the Bay Area to multiple cities. Met up with the Girl Scouts because I promised Girl Scouts I would go buy them cookies and they lived like an hour away. Right.

I went to the Walt Disney Museum. I went around the Presidio. I went to industrial light and magic. I went to a secret Yaya Yaya's shot at Fort Mason. Oh my God, I'm exhausted listening. Oh my God, I'm exhausted listening. Oh my God, I'm exhausted listening. For Mason.

Yeah. And then to end of night, it was actually, it was a really awesome memorial for one of my friends. She, they had a memorial for her at the Fillmore. Like they, the Fillmore is like a legendary venue here like shut down for her and like they had all these great speakers talking about all the times I had with her and stuff and check this out.

Her, she's like, she was like the biggest Lenny Kravitz fan. The biggest, right? Night before the memorial, Lenny Kravitz was doing a show in Australia. Since, you know, I work in radio, we know a lot of people. Made some calls, not me, but made some calls. And he dedicated a song tour they had on tape and they played it after the memorial. No way!

It was crazy. That's crazy. That's so fun. So who are you bopping around with, any girls? I was hanging out with some ladies. One ladies plural or one lady. Some ladies around the weekend. It was a good time.

Yeah. Yes, I did have sex. You had sexual relations in, yeah, in a shower in the shower. Yeah. Like her place. It's like my favorite place. That's awesome. Was that the only place you had sex this weekend?

Or did you have sex? Yeah, just only in the shower. Oh, because you were roommate, is that why? No. You were just hot in the shower. Yeah, I was just, you know, she didn't faint like the last going to shower. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no he's going to town for a week. Oh, what are you gonna do now? Well, you gotta find something else sleep with. No, you gotta toys or us, sex toys at your house. Exactly, I'm like, I'll be just fine.

I've actually spent a lot of time organizing my sex toys and dedicating a drawer to it instead of my nightstand, which was overflowing, so now I've got a drawer of them all laid out. When I get obsessed at home and I organize, I organize my sex toys and make sure they're all charged and ready to go. Yeah. So it'll be a good week for me. And if you are interested in buying any sex toys,

today's show is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Use coupon code Emily for 50% off most items, free shipping, a free mystery gift, and the Kim Kardashian sex DVD. Adamaneeve.com, coupon code Emily and go buy some sex toys ASAP. They'll change your life. It's cool. It is cool. So you got a head sex, but it wasn't like, it was good sex, yeah. Yeah. But nothing like to write home about right now. I've decided also that I went to another bar on Saturday too. I have decided that I don't want to go out on any holidays in San Francisco anymore.

Cause they in Patricstay, right? Yeah, it is just like a bro fest. I know. Drunk. I hate it. I hate it. That's why the winery was nice, because it wasn't crazy.

But I hate St. Patrick's Day party's green beer, like shoot me and I had. People are just insane. Like I saw people throwing water ball, water balloons at cars, and like this people going crazy. I know, I saw my friend on Facebook. I don't know what the hell happened to him,

but he cut his leg open and it was like almost down to the bone. Oh my God, because he was drinking so much. Yeah, drinking green beer. Yeah. Gross, don't drink green beer. But there was like random people like hooking up and making out that I saw on. Really?

Where were you? What part of town? That was in downtown San Francisco. Okay, yeah, downtown. That's where it all happens. When I'm first moved here, I used to go to those parties downtown. I really didn't want to go to. And I didn't have fun then.

Yeah. And I'm not having fun now, so I totally miss all those parties. And I'm, I mean, I miss, I don't miss them. I miss them well that were happening and I feel good about that. I really didn't want to go out, but I'm been trying to keep a lot more promises on, if I say I'm going to go somewhere. Social promises, that's good. Yeah, because I actually, in the past like two years, I think I've gotten really bad at

it where I say I'll go somewhere and then I just won't go. And I hate flakes. Hate them. Right. So, if I'm not going to go, I'm just not going to go. And I've found it also to be like a big argument too. Like, I have friends at Red Bull and they throw events like, I'm going gonna go. I'm just not gonna go and I've found it also to be like a big argument to like I have friends at Red Bull and they throw events like all the time But it's like in the middle of the week and I get up super early

Right super early. It's hard for you I don't understand that. Yeah, it's just like amazing parties like I'm sure anybody would want to go to like open bar All this crazy stuff, right? But it's a Thursday night, I can't go. You gotta get a burly, right? I can't go. It's never when I've parties in my house. But I get it, no, I get it, you can't go.

So you just tell them you can't go. Yeah, and then people get upset. But it's because you're the life of the party. Yeah, but at least now I say, I'm just not gonna go. Right. Instead of, oh yeah, yeah, I'll be there and then I'll be there.

You gotta learn to say no. Learning to say no is really hard because it's so much easier to say yes. And that's something that you have to learn in life. Like I feel like I used to be that flake too that would say yes to everything. And now learn to say no. Learning to say no is really hard because it's so much easier to say yes. And that's something that you have to learn in life. Like, I feel like I used to be that flake too that would say yes to everything. And now I just say no. And then you can always say yes later, but I just assume no. Because I get invited to a lot of things too.

And I can't do them all. I get to do it everywhere. And mostly I just want to work because work is so fun because I get to talk about sex for living. So here's our new poll. What? Okay, here's the poll that we just had. And this is the results and then we got

a new poll. What's the first thing you notice about a person? Okay, 5% said stomach, 10% said mouth, 16% said butt, 20% said chest and 49% said eyes, eyes with a window to the soul. So that's the first thing you notice about the ones that are eyes. What about you? I noticed their, what? I guess they're eyes too. Or maybe they're butt if they turn around. No, I'm mouth, that's their whole face. Like I'm so attracted to the face.

I kind of look at the mouth teeth area. Usually. Make sure they're clean and stuff. Make sure it's all good. Make sure they've been to the dentist lately. It's legit. It's a legit mouth. So, okay, we got a new poll.

What's your best flirting technique? A, eye contact, B, playful teasing, C, smiling, D, using my body language. What do you think yours is? Mine is eye contact, I think, and playful teasing. I would say I playfully tease. I playfully tease. I playfully tease.

That's how I flirt. We're gonna talk about some good flirting techniques and how to approach the opposite sex. What techniques? Flirting. Oh, I thought you said floating. Flirting, or floating, but flirting techniques on today's show.

You should be a master of that. You flirt with everybody. I do. I'm kind of a natural flirt. I have to admit that that is in my bones, too. It looks so annoying to somebody that you're with. Yeah, the people like date are like, were you just flirting? I don't even realize that I'm doing it, but I know that I'm a natural flirt and I think I've gotten better

At it, but I I think I primarily like from the womb. I'm a flirt I'm gonna do about it, you know, okay, we got some sex in the news for you. All right, okay Dutch priest launches sex shop for Christians Okay. Dutch priest launches sex shop for Christians. So the second news story we've had about sex stuff for Christians. Congratulations, Dutch churchgoers. Thanks to former pastor and current sex therapist, Mark Angenant. You can now shop online for your sex storage

that having a look at pornographic images or redirty, heathenous words. Hoping to make sexual pleasure, a sanctioned topic in the Christian community. He created a site, the Love Garden, to focus only on sex without the smut. This isn't the first Christian sex toy site. There's several. There's my beloved's garden, Covenant's Bice and Christian Nymphos. Those sound pretty sexy to me. Christian Nymphos.

Yeah, so if you're feeling like you want to buy some sex toys and it's against your religion, you should feel good about this place. Okay, Coney 2012 founder arrested for naked. Oh my god, have you watched the video? I haven't, yeah, but tell me about it because I know that Jason Russell, the director of the viral Coney 2012 video, watched 90 million times and co-founder of the charity Invisible Children, is being held in the psychiatric ward after reportedly masturbating and running naked through the streets of San Diego. His wife, Danica, has blamed his breakdown on the tension and personal

criticism of YouTube film is generated. Okay, so break it down for me. I keep hearing about it. So I, yeah, bro, it broke over the weekend. You know the Coney video, right? No, but why is this so popular? Read how many views that got? 90 million. Yes. I was not one of those. OK, so 90 million and one, I'll watch after the show. But tell me what it was.

He was, it's for a politician, right? No, no, there's this guy who's free, much kid-napsed children and makes an army. And you've gone to. Right. That makes sense. And so the guy's name's Coney. So they made a whole film about this guy

because they wanna like capture this guy and stop him. So they wanted to release this video so everyone knows what he looks like who he is. So when they encounter this guy, they can stop him. Anyways, so there's a couple of people that produced a film and this is one of them, one of the guys. And it's funny because he was just like on the today show just recently doing all the circuit, talking all the stuff.

But then there was criticism about the film saying, oh this Kony Guy already got ran out of town a long time ago. He's not really that powerful. All this stuff. So he was getting a lot of criticism. So over the weekend, out of nowhere, you just start seeing all these tweets and like, oh my god, the Kony guy got the producer of the Kony film got arrested in San Diego who was masturbating

and naked in public. Why do people get drunk and want to masturbate? In real life. In public. Oh no, you got to watch the video. This guy is not drunk. This guy. He's not drunk.

I assumed he was wasted or fucked up or something. He's on something. He's on something. He's on something or he really did have a total meltdown. We should post it on our site, the video. Yeah, I'll show it to you right here. It's crazy. I just did deep sigh, I don't know why. Why?

There's a deep breath, but it came out like a sigh, but I have nothing to sigh about. Here. Here's the video. It looks like he's maybe on mushrooms. I wanna know, I never done mushrooms, but I'm assuming to say about. Okay. Here's the video. Like, it looks like he's like maybe on mushrooms. I want to know I never done mushrooms, but I'm assuming this is what it is going to start playing. Oh my God. He's naked and he's in front of a bunch of bushes.

Yeah. It's crazy. So, you know, people, this go to TMZ, you can watch a bunch of videos of it. They have like three different angles. Oh my God. It's the middle of the day. Yeah. Oh my God. He's naked, walk around in a bunch of bushes. In beautiful sand, the egg downtown, sand, the eggo. Yeah. Now he's a psychiatric ward. That makes sense. We'll post it on our website. Yeah. Okay, but I kept hearing about it and I knew you'd know more. Okay, Bruce Jenner storms out on Kardashian mom. I heard about this this morning.

In a sudden burst of anger, Bruce Jenner stormed out on his wife, Chris, after a blazing fight over fears she's turning their youngest daughters into Kardashian robots. The couple married over 20 years has been arguing over Chris arranging for the teenage daughters to be in a photoshoot for America's next hot model. Bruce caught a fly out of LA in Wintel, Chris, where he was, although he returned several days later, the two are apparently still not talking. I can see that, man. The like,

It's their daughters too, like the least like him and Courtney and Chloe were not his real daughters. These are like the daughters they gave birth to together, the younger ones. Yeah, and it's, I don't know, man, if you watch a show, you kind of feel bad for Bruce. Because he's just kind of thrown to the wayside and not really listen to stuff like that.

And you can tell, like he wants to keep the kids normal. But the mom, Chris, who I love, which I would love to have her as my manager. Oh, shit, I need a manager. You know, she's looking for opportunity, and there's a lot of opportunity right now to make money and things like that. So how does she explain to the young ones? They want to model. I think she's exploiting them, but she's definitely like their manager and People want them to do photo shoots, you know, so then she's she's putting them out there. Right. He's like upset. Okay. I get that. I get that I'm not ageing. Yeah, they're like 14 15

Crazy Kardashian robots. I love it. But Kris Jenner if you're listening. I would love for you to be my manager Right me too. Please sign me to your agency. If you have one, I'd like to do it too I'll be on the Kardashian agency. That'd be awesome. Okay. Megan McCain does daddy proud and new playboy interview conservative blogger Megan McCain and almost first daughter is taking her father's straight tuck express in a new direction for the latest edition of Playboy. Denying rumors, she's a lesbian by stating,

I love sex and I love men. I'm strictly dickly. She also jumped about nearly overdosing on Zana because before the 2008 election. Well. How is he gonna feel about that? Yeah, that's not so great, but that's pretty funny.

I'm strictly dickly. I'm strictly dickly. That's what I'm gonna say from now on. So many things going on with campaigns. It's so crazy. I watched a movie, I forget what channel was on, but it was all about the Sarah Palin. Like that, a ton of stars in it., Woody Harrelson, all these people,

reenacting that whole campaign and all dealing with her and how she didn't know all this information and they're trying to teacher and I want to see that you mean the movie that just came out? Yeah. Yeah. It's like on HBO or something. Yeah. Yeah. And Julianne Moore plays Sarah Palin and she looks just like her. Yeah, it's crazy. I wanna see it. But like all this behind the stuff, things that people try to cover up because they wanna look bad in public.

Right. Did you watch it? Yeah. Oh, you watched the movie. I watched the whole thing. Yeah. Okay, it was good, huh? Yeah, it was really good.

I really wanna see it. There's lots of press about that right now. Sarah Palin, but she looks like a total idiot, right? Um, no, it's just, she comes off, extreme sheltered, like not really caring about world views. Right. She's all about Alaska.

That's her hometown. That's her hometown. She's governor of Alaska. That's what she really cares about. The people of Alaska and, you know, she didn't really care to like look too much further into anything else. Right. And then they just, yeah, she got thrown into it because she was a woman and they wanted, you know.

Right. But then, I mean, women are going to get harder. They're going to get criticized more. And that she just wasn't... She wasn't prepared. She wasn't prepared, but like, who would have been prepared? Like, they didn't, you know, it was the last minute thing and she's governor of Alaska, it's not like she's involved in a lot of national stuff, just in Alaska.

No. Okay, I want to see it, definitely. Okay. First, virtual adult convention merges sex with world of warcraft. Like I said, smart. That's super smart. From February 24th to 26th, so we're 8,000 people attended an adult entertainment

expo, no news there, but this convention took place solely online with those in attendance interacting through 3D avatars. The convention, similar to the online game Second Life, allowed stars and products to promote themselves in a virtual environment. The final day of the convention featured an award ceremony that gave up virtual trophies to the year's best porn studios,

actors, films, viral clips and sex toys. What? It's a first free adult convention. I'm going to a adult convention in Vegas next week, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. I'm excited about that. I'm glad it's not virtual. I want to meet time people and look at that.

And that don't want some avatar. But anyway, that's something that's a big deal, that convention. I'm excited for Vegas. We just booked it all. It's all happening, which we're coming in. So don't need to get you guys on some guest list. First, please do that.

We do that. We do that. Yeah. Monday, Tuesday though. Is it kind of like, anyone else going to be in Vegas? It's next week. You can email your friend right now? Yeah, I'll just tweet him, say a hook my ass up. Yeah.

Okay, I love it. Okay, we've got some emails. Wait, Tuesday Wednesday you said? Tuesday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Wednesday. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, okay, got it. You're gonna hook my ass up. Well, pay attention to your Twitter if you want to get into my Twitter.

I'll pay attention to my Twitter. Well, you can find me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram, sex with Emily, and you can find menace of white menace. Yes. Okay, man, this is a question we're going to go into emails now. Okay. Emails from the people. So thanks for emailing us at feedback at sexwithemely.com.

You can also email us straight from the website, which is so easy, sexwithemely.com. Okay, this is the panty dropper. What was that recipe for the panty dropper drink? Listen to you at work as much as I can. Thanks, Dan, from Montgomery, Alabama. The panty dropper drink is a drink that menace, assumes or insists will drop panties.

It will. And what's in it again? All right. It's really good, and I actually am not a good big drinker, and I was able to pound like three of them. Well, you take, I mean, it's probably a different, how do I explain it? Afford all this tell it to you because people, I'm going to tell you the recipe and people are like, oh, that's a duh, duh, duh, that's a duh, that's a duh, that's a duh. Yeah, forget it. This is our panaceifer. You don't care what people think. All right, this is what you got. Dvaka. Yep. All right, put a little extra in there.

Maybe double shot of vodka. Then you take some Canadian dry ginger ale, Okay. Pour it in there. And then you take a quarter lime, you squeeze in in there, and then take one little tiny drop, tiny drop, because people put in too much,

tiny drop of grenadine, and that's it, you're good. Okay. They're awesome. They're like amazing, amazing drinks. Oh, I know what it was going to be. It's like a different variation of the Moscow Mule. Right.

Okay. That's what it is. And it's so good that I love it. I can drink many of them, and they will drop panties. Although, my panties, I don't think drop that night, but whatever. Okay. Hey, Emily, love your show. You and Menace make a great team.

I'd love to download your Kaggle Camp app. Will it be available for Android phones? We need to make it for the Android phone. We just haven't done it yet. It's Anna. She's her San Francisco premium member. Anna. We're in the process of developing a droid version of Kaggle Camp.

It will be at least a few more months, but it will be well worth the wait. That's what I gotta say to you. We just gotta do it, because it's Kaggle Camp is my app in the iTunes store and it's selling really well and we just gotta do a droid thing. On the sunny people, people with iPhones get laid more. That's all I'm saying.

I love my iPhone. It's science, it was proven. It was proven in some study by the iPhone people. Yeah. But whatever. Okay, how to get back out there? That's the topic people. Yeah. But whatever. Okay. How to get back out there. That's the topic of this email.

Dear Emily, I was dating this girl who was younger than me. I'm 32. She's 22. We were dating for four years, but we did have our problems. The sex was great. She's a bigger girl. I guess I'm turned on by them, LOL. But New Year's Eve, we had a party to friends.

I went down the road to hang out with other people for a few hours. And when I got back and found my girlfriend in bed with this other guy passed out, I got a text later that day from her telling me we are not working out. She will not talk to me. I was so mad at her, I went to a pub crawl with this girl I got to talking to you on a dating website. We hooked up, had a few drinks, went back to the hotel and had the best sex I ever had. But after driving home myself, I just broke down and could not quit crying. Maybe if I could get the air cleared and find out what really happened from my ex. Emily, I'm super shy guy. I never go up and talk to girls.

Do you have any tips? Because now I'm single. I want to get back out there and start dating again. I love the show. I get to download the Free Friday one. Keep up the good work and yes, women can give the best hand jobs ever. Thank you, Jimmy, from Lebanon, Missouri. Oh, Jimmy, I'm sorry

about this girl and you're crying and I feel so bad, but she's young. She's 10 years younger than you. She got messed up and she slept with a guy and I'm glad that you're not asking me how to get back together with her because it sounds like it's not the healthiest relationship, but you're asking me that you're telling me that you're shy and you want to know how to talk to girls. So that's actually our topic of the show today. Flirting techniques, it had approach women, so we can just get into that. But don't be yourself up.

I understand that you went out and hooked up with someone after, that's kind of a natural reaction, but we're gonna give you some good tips how to start dating again. Yeah, actually, small part of what you're talking about is in the movie, I forgot I saw a movie or the weekend. Oh my God, you had the creases weekend.

Yeah, I saw a 21 jump street. It was really good. It was really funny. Oh. Yeah, but it goes through some relationships of like people being shy and things like that. It was really good. I don't suggest- Are you talking about the songs that it stops vibrating in the room?

I don't suggest you watch it. Why? Because you probably won't like it because it's funny and hilarious. Oh, stop it. It's probably sitting in a dump. No, it's not. It's really good. Okay.

I think it's like 80% on movie film or something. Okay. I'll watch it in my case for a time. I've been watching the Rare House Wars of Beverly Hills for a season. Yeah. I love those ladies. Pretty. Who do you like the best? I don't. You

don't like any of them? Not that much. I like them all, but I don't, there's not one that stands out. I like Adar. Adar. Maloof. Maloof. I love Maloof. I just watched the one when she took them to Vegas. Yeah, she's a real deal because she really got some money. She's not putting it on the front, you know. Right. She's really got the money and planes and stuff to take them to Vegas. It was fun. Television. Okay, so here's some best ways to approach and flirt. Okay. Flirting advice for men will start with.

We got some advice for women too. Eye contact is one of the best ways in trying to catch the attention of someone you are interested in. Now this cuts back to what we talked about at the beginning of the show. Our poll, eyes are the first thing that someone mentions. 49% people said that eyes are the first thing they mentioned, so you better make eye contact. Waving hello, saying hello,

or simply smiling to that person is another friendly way to flirt. See, we're not gonna give you any complicated pickup lines or anything, we're just telling you, smile, be confident, and it's a friendly way to flirt. Wave, say hello. Hi. Hi.

Hi. If conversation has already started started then give the person some compliments as this is a sure way to let someone know you're interested in them. We love compliments women. So if you're like, oh that's a cool shirt or do you always wear the earrings? Why are you laughing at me? No, no, I'm not laughing at you. Right before I got to the show today, I saw one of my co-workers and I go, oh what do you do to your hair? Like almost in a bad way. And I go, no, no, I mean, I like it.

I like it. It looks good. Yeah, that could be a bad for common mind. She's like, oh, you changed your hair and then you don't say, if it looks good or bad. But compliment something, be like, that's a cool whatever watch or I don't know. Whatever it is, we like compliment.

That's a nice R-Mez bag. R-Mez bag, right. When flirting become physical, it is important to not go overboard. So start by touching the person's hair or gently rub on the top of the hand. Now this is something you have to do when you already establish that you guys are connected, but it's good to like do a little touchy thing, right? Right away, like rub their hand or touch the person's hair. You've got to be careful that she's not going to make her creepy. If

you already have established conversation, but touching is a big indicator, she doesn't punch you in the face that you're pretty good at. Now if a girl touches by arm or my hair, does she wanna bone me? They, there are studies that say, if a woman playfully touches you somewhere, she's interested, not that she's gonna bone you then, but she's in, she's sewing that she's interested. She's down to Pound Town.

She's down to go to Pound Town. I like that. Do you like that I I like that. Do you share that outside the radio show? You don't with your friends? I forget. I'm sure your friends would love it. Down to pound town. I'm about to take them to pound town. I'm about to take them to pound town. I'm going to use that today at some point in my in my senses. Okay, so that's for men and I'm telling you where I'm not giving you me I'm gonna get in some more stuff later, but it's like, just say hi, be confident, smile, you know, and just be playful and teasy and funny and be your confident self that you are with your friends. Just channel that guy that's comfortable. Like whoever you're the most comfortable with, think about what you feel in your body,

like close before you go to the bar, close your eyes, feel it, like, oh, I'm hanging out with men, it's my best friend. And then you can bring that level of comfort into meeting someone. Okay, flirting advice for women. If this person is someone that you don't know, you should start flirting by making eye contact. So both people should make eye contact for men and women. It's usually a common signal without using words telling someone that you're interested in them.

Smiling at that person is also a great signal when trying to communicate. If you know this person, then in the case of what's the same thing, playful teasing is a fun way to flirt with. So same advice for men and women. Playfully tease, smile, make eye contact. These are the basics. And then also just remember stuff. Just remember things. Oh my God.

You're like, oh wait, so you're from Ohio. Where did you, yeah, what was that like? What was the freezing? They do love that. Women love when you remember things. I'm not, I'm not saying that Christina Perry was into me. Christina Perry is a beautiful Italian woman, an amazing singer, right? But I follow on Instagram and she's a huge Instagram fan.

And she happened to be doing a private show for my work. And it was really like really, really close to the Instagram offices. So I called up my friends at Instagram and I said, hey, I'm about to go meet Christina Perry right now. They know that she's a fan. So they gave me a bunch of stuff to give to her. And then when I met her, I was like, oh, yeah, I know you really into Instagram.

That's so cool. You did that. Yeah. And she was like super hyped off it. And then I talked about all these times that I saw at different places in different areas and stuff like that and just like described her performances. So did you guys go to Pound Town after that? No, but like I left the room and one of like the bosses

is saying like she was going on and on about you. Like she was like really into you. I'm not joking because of all these things that I remember. Right, right, you know? That's cool. That's so true. We want to know, like, I'm telling you my ex, use car salesman from LA.

He's not really his car salesman, but my missing. Why is that thought in there to see? Because he's not a use car salesman. But he was so good at being like, oh, yeah, like the time you were six years old. Like, I would tell him a story and he would always be like, well, you were like that when you were six because he remembered some story I told him about when I was younger. There was a lot to be said to bringing up, you know, I know guys want to talk about themselves or women, you know, but a lot of men like tell their stories.

If you can bring it back to her and something you remember, that's a huge one. I just shows that you're a listener and women want mentalists and it's important. Okay. Now, these are some questionable ones. Should you buy her a drink? Menace always says no. You know, unless she didn't. Unless she came with you to the club,

fell as do not buy her a drink. Don't use the offer as your icebreaker. Instead, make the offer once she's shown some interest. What do you think about that? If she shows interest, you're touching, she touches your wrist, then you can buy her a drink. No, because the bitch is doing that because she wants a free drink. Well, I would wait until you're talking

for at least a half hour to buy a drink. No. Did you just burp? No. That was a sound effect. I just. Okay. Boldly ask her to buy you a drink in a joking manner.

This is unexpected and funny, which makes an ice drink breaker. What if he you ask her for a drink? This is just a suggestion. You're like, hey, why do I need a drink? Some girls that are like really cool, they'll do that. They'll buy for a drink, this is just a suggestion. You're like, hey, why don't you buy me a drink? Some girls that are really cool, they'll do that. They'll buy you a drink. And then, if they buy you a drink, then yeah, you should buy them drinks for the rest of the night, because that shows that she's really cool.

Right. And then that should be something they should talk to. Right, that's true, but I wouldn't want a guy to be like, buy me a drink. But that's the end. Because that's you, you don't want anybody, you don't want to buy anybody. No, I don't buy anything. Okay, ask to borrow a chair, or if any empty seats are taken at her table, if it's at a crowd of bar.

Asking Debarra chair, it's an on-sexcused to ask at least one question and start a conversation. When she says that nobody uses the chair, thinking you're going to whisk it away to another table, sit down and it and start chatting her up. Warning, this can backfire. Yes, again. When you sit down next to her immediately, you mention that this must be your lucky day because not only did you find a seat, but it happened to be right next to her as in smell.

Okay, so this might really bum me out, but I do that. I think that's creepy. I would just take the chair and borrow it. These are some suggestions we got, but I don't think that that's a good one. I think that you have, when a man just invades you, I mean, never invade her space and be like, hey, how are you?

If she's talking to a friend, like, there's so many time that I'm at a bar with a friend and a guy tries to hit on us and it's just annoying. So you might not have an in at that moment, but maybe if the friend goes up and goes to the bathroom, you can be like, hey, how's your night? Can I borrow this chair? But don't sit down and just start talking.

So that's bad advice. Ask for her name, a genuine smile to accompany the delivery of this question is crucial. Once you know her name, repeat it. Not only so you don't forget it because it means that you're focused on her, it makes a more personal. So that's what we're saying about remembering things, you're like, so Emily, like, oh, I'm always surprised because I always forget people's names like the first three times.

But if I remember it and they're like, oh, you're Emily, that means a lot. Good. I forget people's names all the time. So that's why it's terrible. I'm just like, oh, nice to see you. And I don't say their names because it's terrible. OK, compliment her. You can compliment an article of clothing,

the way she's put together outfit, her hair, et cetera. Make sure your compliment is unique. So don't be like, you look hot. Point out something specific. Yeah. OK, ask her a question. Use open-ended questions, which usually

have been with words, what, how, and why, what, why, and how. Have at least one other open-ended question ready or preferably more than one. So, you know, so what, you know, not like a yes or no question, but like, so why do you like coming to this bar? Or how do you, I mean, like this bar is terrible. Why do you like being here?

Don't do that. You should leave. Okay. You and I together. Now, yeah, get in my car. Yeah, you can do that. What's the best thing that works for you, Menace? I guess nothing really works for you. Nothing really works for me. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. We're talking about it. Totally kidding.

Uh, just uh, what's situation? Is a bar situation or Yeah. The bar situation. Uh, I know it sounds really weird. Just be in the area of the person that you want to talk to. This is the approach I take. Everyone has their different approach. Just be in the area because if it's an attractive woman that you're trying to fire on, a bunch of guys are going to come up right and be dickheads. And then you're just gonna be the guy that slides right in and be like, oh man, those guys are bunch of tigs, right? And then you just start your conversation from there. That's what I do.

I usually take my time and just don't fire on them right away. Yeah, exactly, just take your time. I have a different approach. We have some things here about how to be a good wing woman, wing man. I'll get into a little bit of that. A good wing man will give you confidence when approaching groups of women.

He'll run interference with necessary and stop other men and the occasional jealous friend from running your pickup. He'll laugh at your jokes. He can be a contrast to show that you're a good guy so he can be the dick. A morally questionable technique where a guy intentionally acts like an asshole

so his friend can impress the girl by being disapproving. A wingman often takes one for the team. So what do you think about a wingman? Are you used to a man? You're an age. I'm usually the wingman. Right. I never have.

I'm a wingman. Yeah, I don't really ever have my friends being my wingman. Yeah, you don't need it. No, I'm good. Right. Yeah, I'm usually the wingman. And I build up my friend's confidence. That's what you gotta do.

Just go talk. Just go use him. Sometimes some guys, so I was going to talk to our call, our listener who's Jimmy, who wants to get back out there, bring when your body's long, keep, kill, body, keep conversation flowing and it'll build you up. So never the, as the wingman, you never do anything that portrays your friend in negative light and you know your body's accomplishments and positive traits that separate him from the other guys including yourself.

I used to do this for my friend. She was really nervous to date after her divorce, and she literally became a mute around men. She was a mute, she couldn't talk. So I would go out with her and date some people like, oh my God, did you know that someone, did you know that she used to do this, this, and this, and I would help her because she couldn't get the words out.

No one, it's time to isolate. If things are going well, I might be time to give them some extra space. Women often go out and groups and don't like leaving their girlfriend's hanging. Keep her friends occupied so she doesn't feel obligated to leave your friend and go back to isolate. If things are going well, I might be time to give them some extra space. Women often go out and groups and don't like leaving their girlfriend's hanging. Keep her friends occupied so she doesn't feel obligated to leave your friend and go back to her. Yeah, I got to talk to those holes all night. Exactly. But if you're a wingman, you're going to talk to the girls and keep them occupied. Okay, never fight over a girl with your friends. The worst possible two things guy can do is spend

the entire night fighting over the same girl. This makes both of you look foolish and neither one of you impress her. So if your friend begins talking to a woman unless he decides he's not interested, you do not attempt to steal her from him. This is just like the brow move, right? Yeah. This is just like, it's always before hose.

Sky code, man. It is total guy code. So one of the most important rules of the wingman is to be there for his buddy when he gets turned down. So you gotta give support. So that's what we got for you on wingman and dating and approaching and all that stuff. Do you have anything else you want to add or no? I'm trying to think.

I'm trying to think of what do you think men? It's like I think and being a big, a good wing woman is the same exact thing. I do the same thing for my friends. I build her up. I know that my sole purpose is to help her find someone and there's a lot of people who are shy. And I think if you're a shy guy or a shy woman listening to this issue, next time you go out, bring a friend who's maybe occupied or is attached and have that friend help you start the conversation. And it really, sometimes you just bad guys break up.

Sometimes you get nervous and you stop yourself. So bring a friend along. It's not a stupid idea. It's actually a really good idea. And look at some jokes. People like jokes. People like funny. What kind of jokes? Knock knock jokes. People like jokes. People like funny.

People kind of joke. Like knock knock jokes. No, no, just like funny. Disturdy? Just funny things. Don't tell racist jokes. Don't tell sexist jokes. No, yeah.

Yeah, but like like some commentary that you might have heard from, you know, the Colbert report or something. Yeah. Like current events. Current events. Current events are really good things. A funny spin on current events or something funny. Women love funny, correct?

Right, women like funny. Yeah, but you gotta know if you're funny or not because some people are like, maybe your friends funny and then they can make you seem funny or if you're bringing a way around. But yeah, you gotta be funny or you gotta just be interesting. Like throw things out of left field that she doesn't expect to hear.

Like I mean, that she doesn't hear all the time. Like don't be like, where are you from? What are you doing? But like come up with like, oh my God, I saw the coolest thing last night. I mean, you can doesn't hear all the time. Like, don't be like, where are you from? What are you doing? But like, come up with like, oh my god, I saw the coolest thing last night. I mean, you can tell a story about what you did, but then ask bring it back to her. This is a big mistake that men make

is they just make it all about them and they're like, she's gonna be really impressed by the fact that I did this thing last night, but she's not, for like a second she is, but then you gotta bring it back to her. So would you do last night? Yeah. So you can tell your story,

but always bring it back to her, especially at the beginning and sad that it's always going to be about her, but at the beginning, make it about her, right? Yeah. And then also, you know, I memorized a lot of random facts about the city or the area that I'm in. I go, oh, yeah, did you know on this street that they had a earthquake? Earthquake. No, no, you know, just things like that. Do you know this street they invented the saw machine? Did you know they invented the saw machine in the

San Francisco? No. On the street that I work on. I didn't know that illegal to have a saw machine. Oh my God. That ironic. That is ironic. That's very ironical. And they invented the electric invention invented the electric television on my street too. Really? Yeah. That's a big deal. I work in the building where they have the oldest running broadcasting radio station in the world. Wow, Minus. That's...

Are you impressed? Now do you want to see... Now I want to bone you. I want to bone you. We got to go, because I'm going to bone Minus. No, but things like that are interesting. Okay, everyone, thanks so much for listening to the show. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. Okay everyone, thanks so much for listening to the show.

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