Sex With Emily - SWE: Foreplay Tips

Episode Date: July 18, 2013

A show on foreplay tips and getting married. Because nothing says commitment more than waiting a whole half hour before trying to take their clothes off. Emily interviews Alex Wellen, the author of LoveSick. Alex addresses the question, why don’t men want to tie the knot? Is it the daunting divorce rates or are they just scared of commitment? Emily and Alex discuss whether monogamy is even compatible with human nature. Do we really just want to get it on with everyone? People call into the show and ask Emily and Alex questions about marriage and sex. When are you really ready to settle down? What is up with America’s obsession with getting married and then getting divorced? How do you know if you’re single or in a relationship for the right reasons? Is your relationship doomed if you do it on the first date? Emily gives foreplay tips to improve your sex life. Even if you want to get right to the sex, women need foreplay. Your chances of sleeping with her again will increase dramatically if you play by our rules. Emily talks about how to pleasure every inch of his or her body, from their ankles to their earlobes. Also, is anyone up for naked twister? Emily talks about fun sex games you can play to spice up your love life. Maybe they’ll finally play Monopoly with you if you promise them oral sex afterwards. Special Offer for Sex with Emily: Foreplay Tips Listeners If you want to change your love life, check out my good friends: Crazy Girl, Max4Men, Masque, Good Vibrations, and Adam and Eve. Use coupon code Emily for 50% off anything at Adam and Eve + free shipping + 3 free DVDs + a free sexy gift. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl and Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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And you can check us out at sexwithemily.com if you're just joining us. It's almost 11 o'clock here on Sunday night in San Francisco and we are live. And you can check us out at sexwithemily.com. If you're just joining us, you can also check me out on Facebook, which is Emily Hope Morris. Facebook slash Emily Hope Morris are on Twitter, which is also Emily Morris. How about that? MRSE. And my guest in the studio is Alex Wellen.

Hi Alex. Hi. He's the author of Love Stick, AintNdavil. This is your first novel that his barman was memoir at. I never know you all year writers, I'm like is it a book, is it a novel, is it a memoir, what's the diff? I know and I was going to write this originally as nonfiction, that was a plan and the publisher didn't want to do it as nonfiction. But they like this theme about men, about this window, about getting married,

but I was able to kind of up the stakes and conflict and kind of complicate things more with fiction. So that worked out great. That's great. Sure, and you like to do that. I like to challenge yourself. Elm's a pretty, Alex is a pretty, you're like me, but we think a lot,

and I can tell that we're getting into it, and we challenge ourselves to do things and keep raising the bar. Yeah, also something you've been working on so many, like cool projects, I'm glad this is one of the big ones though. This is a fun one. I love sex with family, it's fun. And I love talking to you about your book because you did okay, so you did all this research, you talked to a lot, what are you about men and marriage?

And just marriage in general, what are the challenges? I want to get into sex and marriage because it's sex with Emily we're going to talk about that in a minute don't run away and I want to know okay so what would you say if we're talking to all these men were the common like a common theme that you kept hearing over and over again for example like maybe it was their biggest fears or just were there any patterns? They um they didn't talk to their friends that much. That was interesting. They talked to their parents. There were a lot of different kind of... They don't talk to each other about this.

I know. I know they just it takes a lot to get to that place and I don don't know, it's not a place that they go with men and women a lot of times that I found. So it's tough, men don't make it very easy. We don't make it very easy. We don't wanna talk about it with the woman. We don't wanna talk about it with our friends. And how do you figure it out? Is she right like in your head?

You're just tossing it around? I think two things. One is internally, it's kind of pinballing around in our heads a lot of times. And then we talk to our parents a lot. And a lot of them, and I talk to their mother, and then they didn't talk to their father, but they talked to their father. Like there was kind of more of an understanding.

They could kind of skip to it. Like in that piece I wrote for CNN.com, the man in the lead paragraph of the story, it said, you know, his dad kind of just said very subtly, so what do you think after he had met his girlfriend? And that was enough for the man to say to him, so I know exactly what my father's asking me and you know what, this is it. You're absolutely right. That was his father's way of saying. So there are all these moments where men just know that's what you're saying.

Yeah, I think so. Or sometimes you need to hear the same thing from a different person, right? No, women, that's all we do is talk about it. Like we literally, like in a round, in fact sometimes it's like groundhog day. My friends yell at me because sometimes I I talk about my relationship to over and over again and I say the same thing in their little tired of hearing of it but women do it a little too much been moving out enough let's talk to Jay he's got a comment about marriage hi Jay thanks for calling

hey what's going on yeah I'm I'm active duty military okay so the whole marriage thing for me is something that I think I would want, but I know would be 10 times harder to maintain. Because it's really hard to get a relationship going because you transfer every three years. I personally don't know how to bring that subject up. If I'm in a relationship with a girl and I think I might last long. Did you write in, Jay?

Did you write me a letter a few weeks ago? Yeah, I did. Okay, we actually read it because I told him I did not hear that. No, it's okay, that's cool. I'm glad you're calling because I would just say that we don't know what's going to happen. I mean, right now you're getting transferred every three years, but that's just kind of future tripping. I'm going to leave a few years, I'm not going to be able to settle down with anyone right now. I mean, I just think that you have to just meet women and work on your relationships

and if you leave, maybe they'll come with you, but I don't think it should be such a deterrent. He's in the military and it's tough because you feel like you can't really have any roots because you have to pick up and go. But there's plenty of men in the military before you end a women who have made relationships work. So if you like there's something else going on. But I feel like there's something else going on. Like maybe you're also in a way using it as an as I mean with lack for better word like an excuse to not have to find a relationship because I think that you, I mean three years is a long time.

I've gone through many relationships in the three years time and you could do a lot of damage and a lot of good stuff in the three years. You know? I really do. All my friends that are my age, they have the family, the family thing and they're making the work together in the military and I'm asking advice from all of them. I can't seem to get anything. I want it personally.

I want something that's decent and stable and believe me, I'm tired of going to clubs. I don't even get me started. But I'm one of those guys that's trying to slow it down. But you think you can't because you're always moving so therefore it just wipes out all women. Oh, it is not, but I can't, but it's just, you know, I have to go. There's no choice in the matter.

I have to say I believe. And, you know, I have, you know, and it's like she has to come with me if we want to make it work. But if you're really in love and you meet this woman, she might yell at you because she's telling me she might want to come with you if she's in love with you. That's what you do for love. Yeah, I was just going to say that I think it's hard. I think you're absolutely right.

And I think there's a lot of probably anxiety associated with all the kind of hurdles that you have that are unique over a lot of different other people. But at the end of the day, again, I kind of goes back to the thinking that you can't really conceptualize something that you don't have. I mean, it's funny what a relationship will do and impersonal do. And it's remarkable. I mean, at one point, what you guys will do to make it work. I mean, there is a threshold at some point, but ultimately, I would spend as much energy as you can and just enjoying yourself and meeting somebody and trying to, and then I think you'd be surprised at what you guys would be able to accomplish if it was meant to be. Yep. Well, I appreciate it. I really do.

I'm actually going to the sandbox later this year. So when I get back, I'll take off your advice and put it to good use. Yes, keep listening to the show, but you can find a podcast where we do talk about your letter, but I so appreciate you getting in touch with me and calling. It's great to hear from you. It's good to hear from you. Good luck to you. Bye, Jay.

Okay. Let's talk to Sarah. Hi, Sarah. Thanks for calling. I have a question about divorce rates. I almost feel like it's better to stay in a relationship that's open than to invest all of your emotions into this relationship, but it's probably likely to end up badly. Right, because 50% of marriages end in divorce. Right.

Yeah, so are you married right now? No, I'm not. You're not. Are you divorced? Neither. You're just like, I'm not even going to try it because I'm going to get divorced. So, you're not going to be. So Alex, okay, I have a question for you.

If Alex is well in here, he's the author of Love Sick. It's his new novel that came out novel. It's what we're calling it. I'm sorry. I'm not a writer. It always confused me the novel and the thing that came out about he's an expert on this stuff. Men, men, marriage, relationships, divorce must have come a lot. What do you think about the divorce rates? Right. And I and well, expert only to the extent that I've written about it and interviewed folks, but I'm more of a reporter in that way. But but I will say thank you. It's, but I'm more of a reporter in that way.

But I will say thank you. It's very flattering. I was just going to say that I was reading it. It was a great, interesting, a little depressing article in Time Magazine. If you look at Time Magazine cover from a few weeks back, it shows a cake and it shows a couple kind of falling through the cake and they talked about the erosion of marriage in the article talks about divorce rates being so high but it also talks about marriage rates continue to

be very high and americans like to marry they get like the divorce as well but they get married more than anyone else as well and so i mean that's kind of a positive is you know i think in the equation of love is that while people get divorced more many more people here get married and so there's really no pressure to get married at all but if but as you come across somebody you may very well find that you want something deeper whether that means you want to

do it in front of other people and have a legal document or not but you may want something deeper yeah we're like a marriage culture and more a divorce culture. I mean, we do both more with greater frequency than anywhere else in the Western world for sure. And so, but it is, you know, it's a certain, I think a lot of us don't, and we come from divorce parents, and we don't want to repeat that, so we're just slower about getting married and, you know, so it's, it's tricky to figure it out.

It is tricky, tricky, tricky. Yeah, I come from before. Sam, your parents married divorced? My parents are married. They're still married. That's good. I'm so happy for them. So I'm sure those things are somewhat influences too.

But there are a lot too many variables to name, that they kind of give you your disposition about marriage. I mean, just even friends and family, it doesn't necessarily have to be your parents. I mean, you're kind of sensitive institution too. And I actually took to a lot of men, a lot of men who were married two, three times. And they talked about why they liked, for example, this one man is not in the piece that I wrote about, but that I did in one of the interviews. He loved the fact that this woman just wasn't playing games. His

wife, well, she had been in an arranged marriage and he had been, you know, in just a failed marriage. And then two prior failed measures is third marriage and her second from an arranged marriage. And ultimately he felt it was working because she just wasn't going to play games. She was just kind of a straight shooter. There wasn't kind of this kind of useful kind of kind of underneath the skin type of positioning for power or for getting what she wanted. So I thought it was interesting that he that the more forthright, the more upfront that she was, whether I'm sure it was painful at times when you hear exactly the way it is, but that helped a lot. Right, and he was probably coming from a place where, yeah, he was all these other playing games, and here's the one person that was in, and it was different and stood out, and so.

Okay, let's have to Hannah. Hi, Hannah, thanks for calling. Hey, so, okay, you know, earlier in the show, you're like, hey, so... So, I think I'm the first date. If a guy, like, if you do have sex on the first date if a guy like if you do have sex on the first date the guy will probably not go after you when that like kind of dissolve if it's the right timing if it's the right timing and it's the right person I would say that yeah that shouldn't be a deterrent yeah yeah

I just wanted to make sure that I was like not contradictory and I'm like Because if it's the right place the right time wouldn't it just be like You know I want your body instead of like exactly. Yeah, well no, there was this woman This is guy who was saying yeah, yeah, I Sex this woman in the first day, but uh too bad we're never going out again because she Submit me on the first day and you're like oh, wait a minute. You say it's like you stop with there You try to see if there are now you don't want to go out there again just because she slept with me on the first day and you're like, oh wait a minute, you said. It's like, you slept with her, you tried to sleep with her and now you don't want to go out with her again just because she slept with you. It's like, if you're having great sex and you're together and it was, you had a good

time, why not go out again? I mean, it's good to wait. I think if you can wait at least one more to the second date, for example. So you got something to do on the second date that you didn't already do in the first date, but I mean, there's nothing wrong with sleeping together in the first day but some people do it think that you know they're like oh that means she puts out all the time she's up with me she's up with every other guy well when the like uh...

uh... i'm just wondering if that that would still apply to a guy who previously would have thought like oh she's up with me on the first date it was a right person will keep through throw that away with abandon hopefully not hopefully he'd be able to see that this is someone that has potential and he went through it away i know um...

what is Alex they have a what do you say Alex well i think that uh... that you know

it's definitely not a deal breaker, but it dissects on the first date and that's going to, oh, and we know plenty of relationships that that happens. But, you know, I think there's a lot of good arguments that there's no rush either. I mean, if this is the thing, it's going to be, if you feel something very strong, it feels unique in that relationship, that there's probably some advantages to holding off that Emily talked about earlier as well. So I think that it's one of these things that, again,

here's let me put it a different way. There are just, sometimes what happens is, though, you don't know immediately. I'm not sure it's always utterly clear immediately that this is going to be that special relationship. I think that you need a little time to get to know somebody and figure out if this is going to be something big. And if that's the case, that's a good argument, not to have sex on the first date because you should have a little more information even though you

suspect it's a big thing. Then you have too many drinks and it happens, you know, that happens. No, but really I do typically think it's a good thing to wait. Like there's nothing to lose, but I'm not saying you should not date someone because they slept with you in the first date. This is so funny for years in between the show and this topic, it's so many calls because apparently a lot of people are confused about it. Sleeping around, knocking calls, sleeping around.

But then we had someone who called in, and said they were married 13 years, and he stepped with his wife in the first date. Yeah, that was a good call. So there you have it. Okay, let's talk to Ricky. What's up, Ricky? Hi Emily.

I actually just spent my first date with my first girlfriend for a year, and I just wanted to talk about the idea of America has come up to me many times but I haven't ever really talked to her about it. Okay. But I just wanted to get some input because I think that a lot of people are right in that the previous colors are right in that you shouldn't like try to predict anything. I'm just like go with the flow. Right.

That makes sense. And women, politicians, like try to formulate anything, like try to set some kind of age, like if they don't get married by age 27, they're just like, they're something they're losers, you know, these kind of things. If you try to plan it out, it will really always almost go like wrong. Right. I think that's right. I think you just got to, if you have all these expectations, and someone's got to meet all these things, this whole entire checklist, and I thought my life was going to be this one way you're doomed.

Because life is never what we thought it was going to be. That's why I just don't think about it personally. But, Ricky, why does this? Is this something going on with you right now? What's happening with your girlfriend? You said she's... Talk about you. Talk about you. Talk about you. I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year.

Okay. We just had dinner and we're like extremely happy, but it's... For us, it's kind of slow because we're in school. I'm 21. I'm turning 22 next month and I'm still in school, going to grad school in the fall. But we're just like taking things extremely slow because of financial things like you're making much money as a grad student and she's looking for a job, you know, things like that. And you're young. Yeah especially like I don't want to be of that 50% you know of the divorce rate. I want to just make sure she is right you know even though she's

my first girlfriend. Right. You should. Is she pressuring you? No no no she's really having talked about it very much like we'll talk about it briefly. But we never like sit down, have a serious conversation about it. OK. Good. I think you should take your time. Talk about it, but take your time. It's good to talk. But you're young.

You're still in school. You've got to make me get stuff going on. But I'm happy you found someone that you're happy with right now. Thank you. Yes. Thanks, Ricky. Thanks for coming.

Have a great night. That's something we were going to talk about. Yes. Thanks, Ricky. Thanks for coming. Have a great night. That's something we were going to talk about. I was thinking about earlier is like, what is this age? Is all these things that you should never marry past the age of younger than 30? You should only marry like if you're 30 or older. If you get married at 25, it's a mistake. Your marriage is going to end.

What do you think about all those rules around age, Alex Wellen? So, let's see. Timing. So this gets back to timing a little bit. Ah, timing. I want to get to the bottom of it tonight before we get out of here. Can we solve the timing thing? We can solve it. I'd like to say.

Definitely there are times in your life that are harder to be in a position to meet that person, right? When you're in school and the throws of school, if you're just moving, if your job is in the military, and you're, I mean your job is in the military and you're I mean those things are realistic things that are going to make it more difficult that are kind of going rooting against you to at least have the ability to find that

person see that person straight ahead. So to that extent yeah timing is an element there's no question about it but ultimately if you can somewhat see clearly, I think I think you can, you're ready to meet them. You might just be ready. You might be in a bulk. Early 20s onward. I mean, I think that. I shouldn't put any hard fast rules on it. Right. I mean, I will say that the people that I know that have met earlier in their earlier,

like 20s, that it's always ideal to have more time in the relationship before you're going to ultimately get married. So, like for example, the guy who wanted to have the salary and have enough money to be able to have this kind of relationship, they met when they were 17, 18, but they were together for seven years. Now, that's a long time seven years, but 17 is really young. And they got married at 24. So, I mean, that, for them, that equation worked just fine. But those are things that probably consider there's no rush either. I mean ultimately if there's a commitment there there's a commitment there and ultimately you see that more and more. Okay let's talk to you on Dustin. Hey Dustin what's up? Thanks for

calling. How's it going tonight? Good. How is it going with you tonight? Oh, I'm doing all right. I'm actually driving back from Sacramento and Rick Soundfaller. Yay! We should have a noise for that sound for that too for Soundfaller. Dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang dang I heard you guys mention having a fear of commitment. Yes. My favorite topic.

My parents are having a thing. I don't know if they are still together or not. Needless to say, I'm a cop that's kind of a nut. Okay, yes. The way my parents treated each other, I had a fear of turning out like my father in that respect. Right. Okay. Okay.

Thanks a lot. Thankfully, I've gotten over that, but I could see where, where you know that could be a factor as to somebody not wanting to be in a relationship because of where you came from but what is the man think what is the man think out what do you think you're the opposite your answer all these questions yeah i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i i Dr. Love. He's not Dr. Love, but he just talked a lot of men who were deciding to get married and what they decided. And so what about these commitment folks? So, but is it is a question more about? Yeah, it is a question.

More about the influence that your father has on your on the way you approach relationships today and obviously and we lost the call, but I will say that, you know, I think it goes without saying that the that the role models that you have in your life and obviously your father is going to be one of the biggest and men that I talk to, many men that I talk to, actually when I asked, here's something interesting, right Emily? So I said to them, are you a romantic? And they bristled at that question. They hated being called a romantic, but yet all of them told me stories that were clearly by any woman's standard romantic, right? So being a romantic versus being romantic,

and it sounds like a subtlety, but there's a distinction there. Men didn't want to be branded with this. For some reason it was a masculinity or a weak name to be called a romantic, but to do things that a romantic was macho enough or was masculine enough. And so to that end, it's the way we kind of communicate

about the way men are. And they talked a lot about their fathers. And they said, I remember my dad bought my mother, for me personally, I remember my dad bought my mother, that song Lady by was it by Willie Nelson? Lady? No, not really Kenny Rogers. Okay, Rogers. Yeah, it's so good. Like, are other men talked about when their father brought balloons or flowers or them? Remember those things. Those things made immense impressions. And I'm sure there

are negative impressions out there as well. Those things make immense impressions on what a man kind of perceives as being romantic. And so what would some of the romantic things that you heard, anything good, any good stories? Oh, they're great. All the men really were anxious. So here's the thing about men. So this is going to, I don't mean to stereotype it all, but it's not. No, we like that. Well, moving to right, women are classically associated with wedding planning and the weddings and the fancy with the wedding.

And so men are classically associated with popping the question as I learned. The men think a lot about how am I going to, once they decide, how am I going to really pop the question in an interesting, surprising, shocking way? Never been done before. Right. This is men obsessed about how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look and how I look men obsessed about they do how I love to have men obsessed about that. So the and they had come up with great stories. One man was at the top of Had a photographer ready at the top of the Empire State Building to catch a picture of him getting down on one knee Another man made a DVD video game where the last answer who question was about whether

I love it. I could whether she would marry him. What else? They were, how are some of the other, I'm trying to think they're really the blimp. They're the blimp. You got to do a blimp right. And the propeller planes, and then there was another man who ran the marathon at the 26 mile only, point three away from the

finish line. He got down on his knee and his girlfriend was right there And there were signs and everything ready to go so these are clearly romantic things There's nothing there's no getting around them would all of them have said they are quoted romantic probably not Right, so this is what the man said. How did you do it? I don't know, but they think about it a lot How did you do it? I don't know, but they think about it a lot. How did you do it? And I wrote it in Love Stick. It's almost great.

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Okay, go ahead. Well, so... So how did you do it? Oh, so how did I do it? How did you propose to your love in life? So in the book I do it, the character is actually framed by frame of how we did it. And I did it. I carried seven letters, I've scraped all letters around all day, and then when we were back at the Abed and Breakfast,

which I knew Chris would like, I caused a distraction to switch out my letters on my rack, and then when I saw an opportunity to play the letters, marry me, I did. And then I actually played them as Rammer Me, and then I started tallying at my score, and she was annoyed because she was like, that's not a word. And then I said, it's a word,

and then she's like, I said, do you want a challenge? And she was like, that's not a word. And then I said, it's a word. And then she's like, I said, do you want a challenge? And she's like, it's not a word. And then ultimately I rearrange the letters on the board. And that's so nice. That's all. Thank you. Are you a romantic? I'm, oh, I'm not a romantic.

I'm so, so, so. Oh my god, Alex, we gotta go. Okay. We gotta break. Thank you so much for being here. Yeah, my pleasure. I appreciate it was great to see you. Yeah, definitely great to see you. And good luck with your book Love Sick. Thank you so much. I've got a break. Thank you so much for being here. Yeah, my pleasure. I appreciate it was great to see you. Yeah, definitely great to see you. Good luck with your book Love Sick. Thank you so much. I'll see you again. Yeah, for sure. And I'll be listening. Yeah,

congratulations. Tell your friends. I will. I'll be listening. Tell your friends to see you now. He's a big wiggit. CNN too. So on the side of your Facebook's and he's a big deal. He's kind of a big deal. Thanks for being here, Alex. When we come back, we've got some sect four play tips. From the best four play tips you've not yet heard and 4 things you should never tease a guy about. It's SEC with Emily and Annie, if you want to hold on, we'll get to when we come back. Hey everyone, thanks for listening to SEC's With Emily. I need to tell you about one of the great companies that's keeping my show free. Who doesn't want to

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We were talking about marriage and men and relationships. And now we're going to get into some four-play tips. But first, these are like, I read these four-play tips. And like, these are really good tips for four-play. I know men are going, oh my God, four-play. But you know what? You got to do it, and you're going to like it. You're going to like what I tell you.

But I'm taking your calls, 800, 400, FM 97. Let's talk to Annie. Hey, Annie, thanks for holding. Hi, Emily. Well, I was on the marriage track, but now you're talking about for a play. So I think it's going to be a change when I can, my, my, my train of thought.

No, no, no. We're always talking about everything. You know what I'm saying? It's fluid. It's fluid. Tell me about the marriage. It's very fluid. No, no, no.

The question is, and it's not even a question. It's just kind of a general principle. And I want to talk to you about this. And to people out there in general, it's like, you know, I've been very happily married for 15 plus years, somewhere between 15 and 20. And I look forward to be happily married till, you know, I hope to die by my husband's side. But in the meantime, and I love him dearly, ofly of course i mean is one allowed to have a passionate elicit attraction to a hot something somewhere and of course once allowed but you know what you do with that and is it is it not okay to pursue it just once for the memory i mean

what the i know we have a become from puritan society but we know what's what you take on it might take on this is that we are not i mean okay gosh i mean i think that it can you know wreak havoc on the relationship right me do you do a secret meeting your husband would know kind of thing uh... is that we're talking about it to be like i think it's hard when but if you know i don't know if your husband agrees but i do think that we are not naturally meant to be with one person for the rest of our lives.

I mean, it is scientific and biologists like, you know, Helen Fisher, I don't know if you know Helen Fisher is, she's done a lot of writing on this and about, you know, sex and biology. And I actually have a quote here, she suggests that it's, she says that she's long argued that falling in love and falling out of love is part of our evolution biology and the humans are program not for lifelong monogamy but for serial monogamy and stretches of four years to be exact perhaps me the time it takes to get one kid safely through infancy and it's true so by saying married to one person being monogamous is a struggle it is against our DNA it is not who we're supposed to be and so I, I think that, you know, for me to be a really, really great happy wife is to really pursue my own fantasy world on my own time.

And it's nothing to do with my spouse because we have great marriage. And it's not just business, you know what I mean? Right. That's like it's my, it's sort of like me liking to shop. Exactly. Exactly. A girl likes to shop for shoes and a man doesn't really care about shoes. Exactly.

You know, and so she can have her own thing going on. Well anyway, I love your show. If I just wanted to give you a call. Thank you so much for calling. Thanks for listening. Have a great night. You too. Bye.

Bye. I think it's like men and women, we missed that attraction. We missed that initial attraction. We had to some more. And I don't, I really, I think that it's tough. I think when you marry and you stay with someone 15 years or 20 years or five years, that you just kind of, we miss that newness

and then we spark. The spark. And I know that you make the decision that you're not going to do that, especially if you have kids. You make you have kids. I don't know how you're all sleeping around with other people and you're coming home to dinner every night.

It's tough, but do I think it's natural? No, it is not natural to be with one person for the rest of your life, because that's kind of what she was. I think that's pretty good. She also wanted to know about this, like could she go just go off and do it? She was saying she kind of wanted to go off and have a little trust.

And I don't know what to say about that. I don't think I wouldn't, I wouldn't, I can't say yes or no. I don't know what's going on here. There's a duration, but there's a lot of times that couples do things like this, and they have arrangements where they can, you know, once every, but there's, you hear everything. People think that marriage is all the same.

Like you look at, you know, 100 marriages, you're gonna get a hundred different stories. And there are couples who say, you know what? Once a year, we're each gonna hook up with someone else, or, you know, we're gonna have emotional emotional affairs or I'm going to be with someone But I'm not going to have sex with them. We're just going to kiss. We're just going to make out. I know couples who are allowed to make out with other people But they're not allowed to have sex with someone else and we're actually having I'm so excited I think it's next week. We're having um

Leana Silver on the show and she is a alternative relationship specialist. She talks about polyamory and non-monogamy basically and I'm really excited because we get so many questions about this like how do alternative relationships work so she's gonna be on the show next week next Sunday night, night to midnight. Very, very excited about that. So how you doing doing, Marcellina? I'm doing great. I'm doing great. I'm doing great.

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I'm doing great. I'm doing great. I'm doing great. I'm doing great. I'm doing great. I'm doing great. I'm doing great. Right, and you happen that. And I think that a lot of couples make it up, make them up together. Like they kind of decide when it's third together, this is what's going to work for us. That's the best way. That's the best way to do it. Exactly. Exactly. Just put it all together.

Okay, so this is the time of the night. And I do have some more letters to read. But I'm going to finish reading them next week. So thank you to everyone who emailed me to feedback at sexbeleaming.com. I tried to read all your letters. And thank you for listening to that and thank you for emailing me. But we got to get into some some secondity grade of sex right now. From Juicy Park.

We got to get into sex. I found this, and this is for play for men and women, and yes, men for play is good for you too. This is from mypleasure.com. I found it on the website. I love mypleasure.com. You can get a lot of great toys and information at my pleasure. But here's just some little tips. And I love to give tips that are doable. I'm not going to say like go do this comic sutra, you know, the 18th pose and wrap your leg around your neck. I'm not going to say that. But here's just a few little four-play things that I found particularly interesting and new and doable. I want doable. We're also busy like I'm not going to make you go out and buy a million different things.

Okay. Here is. Or waterfall. Or waterfall. Do have the waterfall line around. I know. Earlier we read that Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are having like not only do they have rock and sex but they like have it in their backyard and their waterfall. I'd have to go to a hotel for that. Vegas.

Vegas or something in the waterfall, not Brad Pitt, Angelina Drilley. Okay, here's four-play sex tips. Getting a leg up, tip one. So many times people rush to give attention to the obvious or rodgenous zones without first heightening passion in other ways. The next time you're with your partner, we suggest you give some special attention to their to the obvious or rodent zone without first heightening passion in other ways. The next time you're with your partner, we suggest you give some special attention to their legs.

Work from the bottom to the top, lingering at each location. Kiss the backs of their ankles. Tickle their calves. Blow on the back of the knees, then stroke a massage that inner and outer thighs using a mix of light and heavy strokes. This last part of your journey will not only create exquisite sexual tension between you, it will also physically prep your partner for an amazing orgasm by bringing extra blood flow to their genitals.

Did you know that? I can't say that. I'm the last. You know that. See, this is the problem. Is that it says here, we rush to the obvious erogenous zones. We know where we're going to go. We know where our hands are going to end up. We know we're going to end up at end of the night. We're going to touch this spot. That spot. That's about four different

spots, right? Two on the woman. Two on the man. Really two on the woman and one on the man. That's the sure thing that you're going to go to. And it just says that there are ways to like to slow it down and like pay attention to the legs, the ankles. I like that too. I like the attention to the whole body the ankles. I like that too. I like that too. You're paying attention to the whole body. You're saying hello. You're saying hello to the body. Pay attention to the legs.

Just focus on the legs. Stay away from my breast ferment. Don't go right for my breast. It's like they're teasing you. I know. Tease me. Tease me. This is such a big thing.

Tease me. Okay. Here's the next four-place sex tip. A smooth touch. If you want to add more sensuality to your love play and to your daily life, have your partner rub you down with your favorite lotion after your morning shower or at the end of the day before going to bed. In the five or ten minutes it will take to cover you from head to foot.

You'll both benefit from the touch of one another's skin, the feeling, smell of the lotion, and the whole experience of being close. The next time you can do the honors, this allows your lover to feel the warmth of your touch and you have explored every inch of their body, not just tried and true, erogenous zones. In the short time it takes to complete the central ritual, you'll not only take care of your bodies and ease daily tension, but most importantly, you'll enjoy reconnecting as a couple. So it's all about like slowing down.

We should, for having sex, I mean, and we've been together a while, I mean, it's really important to just to explore, we don't pay attention to like each other's shoulders or backs of necks or backs of the knees or your fingertips. I mean, there's just so many parts of the body that our arro origin is beyond the obvious candidates. You know what I like about this one? What? It lasts this all day. If you wake up with your partner and like it's been summer so every day I'm putting on sunscreen. He puts my sunscreen on. Yes. Say I rub myself, bump myself, walk in and I feel soft. I know that's like something he did for me. Exactly. I'm like, yeah, whatever we just start your day. And I know you're all rushing, like, who's got time? My alarm's going off six times.

I had a bed, do it in the evening then. And there's also flavored lotion. One of my favorite flavored lotions, which one? There's this, I can't think of the brand, but it's strawberry flavored. And it so great you can lick it off the Teller Wow, there's there is there is that we actually have 5th of seven at my pleasure dot com. They do have it in my pleasure. They actually in here they have 31 flavors it says there are many Electable flavors of lubricant and edible body products now available. Why so for one? Subnight when you want to give your lover a special treat

Why so though for one? Some night when you want to give your lover a special treat, dab different flavors of lubricant strategically over your different arrogent zones and have your sweetie taste your skin to discover them one by one. It'll be delicious as venture for both of you. So yeah, flavored, and dry. Okay, how about game night? And I know, okay, I always be like yeah we're really gonna simply game we're really gonna do this but seriously what else are you doing you're having sex

you're going straight for her breasts and then you're going straight down her pants and then she's grabbing for you and you're grabbing for her and you're having sex since the same exact thing every day of your life every time you're sex exactly the same and I'm just giving you a few examples here of things that you can do to change your sex life feel like I'm yelling I'm really getting excited about this because I that you can do to change your sex. I feel like I'm yelling. I'm really getting excited about this because I know you're probably going to be a passionate. I'm so, so emphatically passionate about this.

Alexander's wife were playing games and we got to turn out for them. That was so good to hear from him. I was to her with the Scrabble game. He's so romantic. You could tell that he is. He is. He's a sweetheart. He's one of the skies who says he isn't but he is. He's a sweetheart. He's one of the skies. He says he isn't, but he is.

He's a sweetheart as you are. Okay. Game night. Here's one. We're talking about four play things. These are little things you can do at home. I'm not making you go out and buy a whole new massage table and do a whole thing and like a sex swing. I'm not telling you to do that. I'm just saying these are things that you already have in your home that you could use. It's like on those cooking shows where they're like, this is something you can make with just ingredients you have in your house. This is four play you to do that. I'm just saying these are things that you already have in your home that you could use. It's like on those cooking shows where they're like, this is something you can make with just ingredients you have in your house. This is for play you can do with everything you have at home. Game night. If your house is like most you've gots. Game stacked in a closet somewhere that rarely get used. It might be an old board game, a word game, or a trivia game. Whatever you have around, take it out some night when you're lovers with you and challenge them

to the game. They might not be very excited until you tell about the sexy stakes. Maybe play a game where spelling out naughty words is encouraged. And the winner gets to have the loser as their love slave for a night. A match might require you to shed a piece of clothing for each missed answer. The rules you choose can be your own. What's important is that you make the night playful and passionate using what you've already got around. Any one up for naked twister? I'll say yes.

I have twister. That's so funny. There you go. Have you played naked twister? I have not played naked twister, but I've played like strip poker. That's always fun. I don't play football in that stuff. You know my poker? Why? You lose your shirt? I always don't make it. I'm not

person. Yeah. Marcia, you know the naked poker player. I love doing games like that. I think that that's a great thing. Yeah, you play your monopoly and you're like every time I pass go. We go. I like this one too. Okay, this is for sports fanatics. I've dated guys, I've dated guys who are really into sports. I'm dating guys not into sports. And I appreciate that men love sports, but sometimes it is a little bit annoying. I have to say, because I'm not a big sports fanatic.

But here's another one here. This is a four-play tip, ready? Let the games begin. It's long been known, at least among so-called sports widows and the occasional sports widower, that your significant other sports season of choice can put a damper-iner sex life. Baby, just let me watch the game. Sound familiar? If so, the next time your lover's team comes on TV, make a medial. You'll watch the game together, each picking a team and betting for sexual favors.

For basketball fans, the next two points your team scores might get you a kiss on the neck. A three-point shot could earn you a sensual massage during the commercial break. For you football fans, your team's touchdown might be good for oral favors. Whatever rules you make up together by the games end and I doubt you'll be end of watching television. Okay, I like that, but men are so into sports that I could see them being like, I'm not playing your game. I just want the game and I don't want you here next to me kissing my dad when there's a two point. I agree.

They're going to be like, get out of the way. I just missed a touchdown. You hit a home run. They're like sex and sports. I want them both. I don't want them together. The woman should take that time when he's watching the game to go do her own thing.

Exactly. She'll shop for shoes. Whatever her thing is. Yeah. Okay. So here's another sexy for a play tip. Dream on. Don't forget to exercise the most important neurotic muscle

you have. Your mind. Letting yourself fantasize throughout the day about sexy scenes and sensual acts build your anticipation and creativity. This is sure far away to make sex that much more satisfying when you finally get to indulge whether you have a love-making session with a partner or a solo session with a star of your fantasies. So basically it's saying how you build up this fantasy is to use your mind throughout the day, think of sexy things.

That works. That totally works. That up to think. I think so, day dreaming, you're sitting there in a lunch break, you're thinking about what you're going to do later tonight. Right. I'm going to go home in. Maybe not.

I guess I'm just saying that throughout the day, you can just be thinking of sexy things. I always, whenever I have really good sex, someone, I always think about it the next day or the next few days. And you get that feeling in your stomach and the middle of the day when you remember it, those are called butterflies. Butterflies?

Do I get butterflies? Oh my God, I guess I do. OK, let's have to cap thee. Hey, cap thee, thanks for calling. Okay. I mean, I don't even know like how old you guys are, but it's good time to be playing board games. You could play cards. Do you ever play gin, Rummy? Okay, I don't have time to do my dishes, let alone put around and play hard. Okay, but how is your sex life?

I don't have a sex life, I'm worried. Okay, right, but do you dating anyone? No. Okay, so what I'm saying is, a lot of couples complain there's no time for forklift, they don't have sex, and when they do have sex, they exactly the same. So what I'm saying is, what can you do that's already in the house to spice it up? Now your situation is a bit different. We might talk about just finding someone and not working as much so you can have sex.

Can you know what I'm saying? Can I ask a question? Do you work one job full time? Oh, yes. Okay. It's a little more than full time. I own my own business. I know. I hear you so do I. So do you, are you missing having sex right now? Oh, yes. Okay. It's a little more than full time. I own my own business.

I know. I hear you. So do you, are you missing having sex right now? Am I what? Do you miss having, are you looking for a partner? No. So you're not looking for a partner, you're not looking for sex. You're just working. Right.

Right. So you don't have time to even brush your teeth. So. Poor games are not for you. Are you having sex? Yeah. I manage the teeth, I manage the shower, I manage, you know, clean clothes, and the rest of it is I'm working. Are you interested in having sex again at any time of your life? No, I'm not. You're not? Okay, thanks Kathy, thanks for calling. I don't know what to do about that, I just don't want everyone to sex again. I concerned about people who don't want to ever have sex again.

Me too. One of my friends, I have to say, she's changed her mind now, but she's been married for 15 years and she's had to meet me. You know what Emily? I feel like I've had enough really good sex and I'm done. How are you done? You can't be done with sex. I mean, she can't. You can't say it, but like Kathy's working so hard. She's a workaholic can't be done with sex. I mean, she can't. You can say it. But like Kathy's working so hard. She's a workaholic and she's done with sex. I just can't believe that she's done with sex. But that happens, right?

I guess so. I don't know. I don't know. I thought of no sex later in life. It's kind of scary. And then also, she brought our ages. There's a wide range of ages. Yeah, we've 20s, we got 30s, we got everyone here. Right. What's our age? We're playing board games. We're not playing Candyland, Kathy. Right.

And also my friends and I, we play Uno. I just got back from Cammy Sheriff. Play strip Uno. Strip Uno. I'm going to bring that up. Maybe not with my friends who have couples because my best girlfriend, I don't think she wants me to see her boyfriend make it, but that will, I will make that game up and report that. Okay, more for play tips, what do you think? Undressed and okay, this one is so good. I really like this one. Undressed and impressed. Try a new twist on an old favorite. Perform a unique, stripped-tease dance-fear lover.

That's not the part that I like. First, impose a strict look, but don't touch rule. So using soft, wrist restraints on your partner will help. Then as you just row, but radically remove articles of clothing from them as well. Do you think that you're both naked and ready for more action? You may or may not want to remove the restraints. So they're saying you tie his hands back, you should tie your hands back.

What I liked about this was the look but not touch. It's so hot for you both to undress and not touch each other and just look at each other and not, or like one person does it at aress and not touch each other. And just look at each other and not, or like one person does it at a time and not touch, you get, it's such, think about it. You always touch when you're together, you touch, but when you don't, it is this heightened sense of a rousal that I can't even explain.

It's like you want it so much more when you don't allow yourself to have it right away. So either by restraining your partner and doing a little, and again, party feels so cliche here. I'm sorry, I feel good. Do a sexy dance, play a game, but I really mean it. Like I really mean these are little things

that you probably never done that you should do. Have you done that? I've done the strict, I've done the not touching role. I've done the like we can only look at each other and we both are gonna undress and we can't touch and it is so hot. It is hot. No touching is definitely key. I know. It's that build up.

Okay, let's do one more of these. And then we really have to read four things you should never tease the guy about because I keep bringing that up. Ready? Oh, this one's been known, but chillin' out. Run an ice cube over your lover's body while it melts before sex. Look at the chills and then you can warm them up. Do you ever do the ice cube thing?

Once, but I am the girl in the office who's always cold. Right, so you can't see her. I'm a space reader. Yeah, so put the space here on. Put the space reader on. Does anyone else have any good four play tips? Call us 800 400 FM 97. We're on for a few more minutes here. I'm gonna read some more of these another time But that was some good sex tips. Here's four things you should never tease a guy about ready

I bet you can guess what some of them are the first one is hair Why is this just for sure spot for men? but some of them are. The first one is hair. Why is this just a sore spot for men? Well, believe it or not, besides, it says, if there's anything men or more sensitive about, besides old movies about dogs, it's our hair. Every guy I know worries about losing his locks one day because he truly believes it with his hair gone. So is his ability to attract women.

I know so many women who find like bald men very attractive. I have never heard that as a deal breaker. Me neither. So we don't need to talk about it because it's four things that we shouldn't tease you about. We're not teasing you that you're bald. We think it's hot. But if you have like a little bit of hair left and you should be bald, just shave it all off. Right. No, I'm gonna come over stuff. Right. Don't come over anything. You know, a bald head is just a solar panel for a sex machine.

I like it. It's a solar panel for a sex machine. Okay, the next thing you should never tease a guy about is their height. And I've been so guilty of that. Not teasing, but I've been like how tall are you oh? That's good. Oh, yeah, or I know I know when guys are lying about their height They're like five ten and like you're five a lot you know you're five eight like I can tell right away Yeah, it says men can't do anything about their height my dad and both my brother is an article

I wrote they I read my dad and both my brothers are six feet tall on five eight inches a few months ago my friend Jodie Teased your brothers got the height. What did you get? Ooh, although there have been many, yet powerful types like Napoleon and Napoleon said he's sure that Teller and Men are taking more seriously than guys like me. There's a common, there's a common held belief

and this is so true that the Teller guy is the proportionally bigger he is elsewhere. And that is not true Mm-hmm. I'm telling you there is not a correlation between how tall a guy is and how tall He is elsewhere how big is elsewhere. I'm telling you I can tell you this from experience So and from other experience. I wonder if this guy this short guy He felt like the girl making a comment about his height didn't like short guys.

That's maybe, but she said, oh, your parents, your dad got the height and what you get. Even the problem is, they're saying never tease guys about this because definitely. First of all, the thing that we're saying here is the awkward word of his is tease. We're not saying we're making funny view in a sense of like, we think it's bad's a tease, but they're saying you know it you know the first cut is the deepest like this stuff is cutting you Because it runs so deep in men So if you tease them about their height or their hair the next one is they're mocking their manhood so It's basically teasing about his member if you will right never make never comment on a man's penis because he does not get over that.

Never, never, ever. Just consider the relationship, your chance spec I've done, if you comment about his penis. I mean, you can say that it was the biggest, that's a positive thing. Positive things. Always be positive. Okay, did I get, okay, and then the other, the fourth thing is their salary. You should never, ever joke about their salary. They believe that their financial worth reflects their inner worth.

So teasing us about our salaries is another way of making fun of our manhood. And I think that's true. Like a men feel kind of castrated, I think, when they don't have a job or they're not working and you make a joke about it, not good thing. Okay, so that was the fourth thing you should never tease a man about hair, stature, salary and penis size. Yeah. We should take a quick call. We've got about a that was the four things you should never tease a man about hair, stature, salary, and penis size. Yeah. We should take a quick call.

We've got about a minute. All right. Let's talk to Rick. Hey Rick. Hello. How are you? Good. Rick, how are you?

I'm doing all right. Great to hear from you. I was just calling and I'm listening to your show and I'm not, I'm actually getting ready to propose to my girlfriend. Congratulations. Thank you. We've been together almost two years. I'm trying to, I've got a couple ideas, but I'm always up for new ideas of a really good,

romantic idea as far as... Oh my God. I need to know more about you guys, like what you do together, do you hike, do you bike, do you go to the movies? Well, we do a little better than that. We actually go riding horses on the beach. We've done that quite a few times, which is very enjoyable for both of us. That sounds fun. We like to go camping. And as far as doing things together, we do pretty much everything. I mean, like, Voltaic, I look close to the day and I guess so we'll go down and just put a drive

like last we drove down to the San Francisco and had dinner and then we went up and sat on top of the up above the Golden Gate Bridge there and just kind of sat there and talked to it. So nice, do you guys do a lot of outdoorsy stuff? Very much so yeah. So just be careful and don't drop it. I read somewhere that a man was proposing to a woman on the New York, from the bridge in New York, and she dropped the ring. Just be careful. That's not a good one.

Honey, I don't know. This is tough for me. I'm the kind of thing I need to sit and talk to you for 25 minutes about this. But I just think something outdoor, I mean something where you're actually just expected when you're, you you know I was just picturing you camping and making us some more and putting it in the like in the marshmallow or something. I don't know. Something like that. Fortune cookie. Get a friend to help you. I can't I need more information. Email me and I'll

think about it. Okay what you're not. And back. It's sex with Emily.com. Oh you an idea? BJ's a guy an idea our call screener BJ. Yeah, all right. So you say you like to go horseback riding on the beach, right? Yeah, why do what about at the very end of your of your horseback riding on the beach? In rocks will you marry me? Or something like or you know, it's something on the beach where as you finish your horseback riding, you have something prepared for where you're ready to propose. Maybe like a sign, rock, something around along this line written in the sand, as long as there's nobody there. I thought about doing the riding in the sand or something to that effect is go somewhere,

do something, and then later on that afternoon or evening and take her. But the problem with the sand is it gets washed away, and that idea kind of gets washed away with it. I mean, the idea of the proposal doesn't but the writing and the fan does and the wind and stuff like that and because we live an hour away from the ocean I would. That was my first idea but because they wind in the washing away I don't know that that's not the only word. I like the idea of doing like a romantic treasure hunt. Like all the different places that you like to go and like writing letters leading up to different There's like making her an album of all these different things that you've done

Memories pictures and at the end you have like the ring or something Or you just you build up your whole relationship of just memorable moments you've had together I strongly suggest getting a friend to help with maybe Someone who knows you guys really well. Thanks for all wash away. Rocks won't. But a friend could watch the rocks and make sure they stay there.

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