Sex With Emily - SWE: Freak in the Sheets

Episode Date: September 14, 2013

Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets. I'm helping out a small-town girl find her inner freak in the bedroom. She's also looking for some sexy companions to practice with *wink wink*. Getting freaky is all about pushing the boundaries and letting down your inhibitions with someone you trust. If you want your sex life to get a little freakier, tell your partner you're ready to try some bondage, or bring a sex toy into the bedroom. I'm sure you can find some way to convince them to get freaky with you. Tie them up, dish out the commands, or maybe practice your deep throating skills. In this show, I give pointers on how to deep throat. Deep throating can be a sexy alternative to a more traditional blow job. FYI Don't stress too much if you're having a hard time deep throating; you don't have to swallow his penis to give satisfying oral sex. I'm giving you tips for giving a blow job without having to try so hard. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Betruma eyes they call them a lie gone Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, but only what do you mean like laundry? It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so dumb.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. Listen to our podcast, subscribe on iTunes, check me out on YouTube, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, sex with Emily, because I've got lots of interesting things to tell you and to share with you. I'm coming at you live, well, when you have this one with you live, but I'm live in San

Francisco right now with Menace. I'm so happy to be here. We're face to face. We are face to face, and it feels so good. Yeah, this is the second show that we're doing here in San Francisco. We recorded another one. So if you didn't hear that one, go to sexandem doing here in San Francisco. We recorded another one. So if you didn't hear that one, go to sexamely.com's the show right before this one.

Right. Exactly. Or maybe you have a show in between. I don't know. I don't know what you're doing all these days. You're all over the place. You were on the Chris Jenner show. I was on the Chris Jenner show. My favorite, the Kardashians, you know that.

I know. And it was funny real quick. I know we got a bunch of stuff to get to. What do you think about this? I Chris Jenner was actually it was part of a plot on their the Kardashian show one time that She was thinking of maybe switching her name back to Kardashian Oh, while she's still married to Why why would she she's known as Chris Jenner? I know, but she's not Kardashian would open more doors. I mean, without. No, she she said there was too many people getting confused

and calling her Kardashian. So she's like, oh, my as well, this be Kardashian. Oh, yeah, and insult your husband. I feel like it's penis is like a negative two inches long. I know, but I yeah, yeah. But of course, I think they're just they're just teasing around the idea I think she's totally serious about that. Maybe you never know. She would do anything maybe to be successful I'm for fame and no no kidding. She really wouldn't do that That would be offensive. That's like I would do to a guy I'd be like I'm sorry. I'm taking that I would never take it right now But if I did I'd probably be like sorry dude I'm taking it

You probably would I probably have done that now I've never married but She told me to divorce by now married have done that now. I've never married, but she told me to be divorced by now. Married and divorced by now. It hasn't happened. Chris Jenner, that is funny. And I was, yeah, recently on her show, I launched my new product line, Emily and Tony.com, which has rock in the world.

Check out my products, which I will get into more info later, but I just brought men to some Rob Kardashian socks that I got out of the show. Very exciting. Because she's promoting all of her kids stuff. So it's cool. Dude, I wish I was one of her kids or she was the least my manager. I know she is a Managing machine she makes it happen. She connects all the people together, you know, right? That's the guy do and then

They're very successful people can talk all they want about them But you know what they're they're pretty well off. Yeah, they're doing fine. So for Chloe, you got some issues right now. Oh, Chloe, right, because... Because her husband, the Moir is on drugs. They're saying that he's on crack, which is pretty bad. But there's been rumors that his, I don't know if this true, that his dad had a crack problem, so that's why it trickled down to him.

And that's why he has drugs. So, I think he's genetic, yes. So hopefully, he can get some help. Did you know, like, did anyone know he was a drug addict? Like, did you ever think that before? I never thought that before, but I used to watch his reality show with Chloe. They used to have their own reality show, right? But now a lot of stuff makes sense. What was happening on the show, like how he was acting, but he also used to have a best friend that was on the show too, and his best friend used to be really weird,

and like, would sleep for a couple of days, you know, that's signs of people. Oh. That might have been done drugs. Right, but in your mind, you'd be like, why is he sleeping so much? Yeah, just like, oh, you know, he's just, they're saying he was depressed

and all this stuff, but that might have been effected for drugs. True, that's so true, interesting. I've known people that, you know, they get really high, and then they have to that might have been effected for drugs. I'm so true. Interesting. I've known people that, you know, they get really high and then they have to sleep for like three days, you know what I'm saying? So a lot of stuff, yeah, a lot of stuff might have made sense now than you just didn't see before.

Now you go back and watch it. But it's crazy that you have a national television show. You are seeing everywhere, every single move that you make is photographed and people don't even know. Exactly. It's going on. It's crazy. Exactly.

They don't even know. That's crazy. You think if you were hair when I said you would know. Yeah. I just, you would know when your family looked at other people. I don't know how you hide that. It just seems like it's such an extreme addiction. For what I've been reading online, none of this stuff could be true at all,

but he's kind of resisting going to rehab and getting help, which sucks because, I mean, I've been around people that have drug problems and I just, I'm sorry, I just can't stand them when they don't want to get help. Exactly. Because you can't, you can't tell them anything at all. They, they don't want to listen and it's everyone else's fault, but they're

own. They do not, they can't make someone go to rehab. You really can't, they have to make the, I mean, you can give the suggestion, but if they are not ready to embrace the fact that they have a problem and addiction, they're not, they don't see it yet. Yeah. And it's like the first step of AA is, you know, that you, you are, um, you know, the first step is that you are powerless over whatever that substance is. You say, I'm, step one is like, I'm powerless over alcohol or I'm powerless over drugs.

Like you admit that you've problem. That's like the first tenet of all this stuff. And if you can't admit it, like just because a hundred people intervene and tell you that you do, you, you tell you believe it. It sucks because you want to save them from hitting rock bottom. Right. And then sometimes they have to hit rock bottom. You have to hit rock bottom right to get back up.

I have lots of friends who've gone through that. They've been sober for a long time. I think it's amazing. And it's tough for people that are going through. I like to be a glass of wine every once in a while. Yeah. But, you know. So now it's crazy because this is something in a,

let's just back away. And I know there's celebrities and everything. But just look at a relationship point. When you're in a relationship with somebody and you care about them a lot, and they're going through this, what do you do? They don't want to face that they have a problem. Do you stick around or you just cut them off?

And it looks like from what I'm reading that she's just cutting them off. Well, in many ways, that's what they say that you have to do. Like being on Love Line, I'm on Love Line, the radio show with Dr. Drew, Thursey Nights. And you can listen to it, lovelineshow.com. Anyway, he has had a call over the other day

and she was like, he's like, what do I do? I feel like now I'm becoming co-dependent with my partner, she should get treatment. And he's like, just leave her, let her hit. You have to let sometimes the people you love, you have to let them hit the rock bottom. He's like, every time she's drunk at the bar, she's crazy and I have to carry her home.

And it's like, don't carry her home one night. But it's kind of hard, tough love. It's like, whoa, let them fall, let them hit the rock bottom. He's like, every time she's drunk at the bar, she's crazy and I have to carry her home. And it's like, don't carry her home one night. Yeah. But it's kind of hard, tough love. It's like, whoa, like let them fall. Let them, they have to hit the rock bottom to get back up. So anyway, that's interesting. So today's show. Uplifting.

Uplifting. Sorry, a little depression with Emily. No, sex addicts with Emily. Or sex addiction. What am I talking about? Sex addicts. Sex and crack with Emily. Sex and crack.

Good times here on the Sex with Emily's show. The first thing I have to say is today's show, we're gonna be reading your emails that you send to feedback at sexwithmley.com, love, love, love hearing from all of you. And since we're getting so many emails today, we're gonna devote to the topics that you want to talk about, those are women who wrote in that she's kind of a freak. And she would like to find another freak to get down with her And she's having a hard time finding guy who will go freaky with her and then another guy He says his girlfriend doesn't communicate with him

Imagine a lot of times the women saying his girlfriend. He says she shuts down. She's lend a man. Some what's no sex thing is cheating and Then also we're gonna talk about deep- deep throating because oral sex is my favorite topic. And I would think that you'd have something to say about deep throating as well and tips for women and men and how they feel about deep throating. Do you would prefer a woman to when she's performing oral sex and you would you like her mouth to go deeper onto your penis? Yes or no? All right. Would you? Well, wait. Oh, okay, fine. But one thing, no, answer

now. One thing about oral sex is just have to give the share that I think the oral sex is great and people men All right. Would you? Well, wait. Oh, okay, fine. But one thing, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, So I personally do not think that oral sex is a job, but there's a lot of women who do not perform oral sex on their partners because they don't like the taste

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There's funny, there's a, she's a very beautiful female rapper that's out now. And she has a line in one of her really popular songs. Her name is Iggy Azalea. She's from Australia. And in a line of her song, she goes, girls giving head for Luba Tons. Right. What do you call that? Head over heels. Yeah. I would do that for Luba Tons. Right. What do you call that?

Head over heels. Yeah, I would do that for Luba Tons. I would do it. That's funny. Head over heels. Head over heels. Yeah. I would give a man a blowjob if I didn't want to.

If he was going to buy me a really nice version. We're talking about Christian Luba Tons, fellas. Oh, do you know what that is? Those are fancy, fancy, cheesy, and I love. So how do you put the red bottoms? Exactly. So I want to know, is there anything sexually in your life or relationship wise, or anything that comes with your friends

that you would like to that you need to share a thing? Yeah, I, with, with my friends, I, I'm finding out more and more of my friends are getting divorced. Really? The ones I got married earlier. How early? They got married in their 20s. Okay. They're all divorced, but they have kids too, which is terrible. I'm like, ah, you can't just have a clean break. No. You know, I have a buddy that's getting

divorced, has two kids like, now that's just that's something that you got to deal with for the rest of your life. It would be okay. You got married in your 20s and then it didn't work out. You broke up. That's cool. Then you can just move on with your life and you don't really have to really be involved in that other person's life forever. Right. Forever.

You probably think about them. You're like, oh, you had wonderful experiences and you know, you'll think about them like an ex-girlfriend and stuff like that. But now you have kids. Man, you gotta see that person. Yeah. Every two weeks. I think it's so fun. I think it's so funny you're saying this

because the exact issue, I have two friends who share a young child with their ex and they're a man and a woman. And so it goes both ways. She's like, I broke up with them for a reason and now for the rest of my life, I have to see him and deal with the shit that why I broke up with them. Like those issues that personally be in you know, how you can't deal with them for a reason and now for the rest of my life, I have to see them and deal with the shit that why I broke up with them.

Like those issues that personally mean and you know how you can't deal with them and it keeps coming up. You're right because usually your acts as you're like, whatever. Like I think about that fun time I went to Mexico or he was at a jerk, but that's it. But now you have to see them every week and you hand off the kids and deal with them in holidays. Yeah, and I know we're saying it's kind of a downer and there's really nothing you can do about it.

But I mean, I guess you try, like try being civil. Like, hey, look, I don't have to be with that person ever. I know I have to deal with them every two weeks, but like there's no reason for you to be a dickhead. I'm talking about fellas. Or ladies, you don't have to, you know, be a bejaj just because you're significant. One significant other is off dating new people.

I know there's like a jealousy thing. Like I see this all the time, but with a really young people on T-MOM all the stuff. That they... I love T-MOM on MTV. And it's, you know what, the main issue always is? What? The biggest drama maker on each show,

every single season with Sarsha drama is the baby mama, right? She broke up with her man. They're not dating anymore, but she gets pissed when her baby daddy is dating somebody new and the kid is around the new person. It always cause, it doesn't matter which chick it is on the show. There's always, they are like, I don't want her around my kid. Right.

But when you really just don't want him out dating somebody else, it's not really about your kid. Come on. I mean, some of it is, I'm sorry, but. Because you don't want to be using new, every woman you date to your little kid. Yeah, yeah. Or you die you date to a new kid. You got to be careful drawing lines. every woman you date to your little kid. Yeah, you date to a new kid You got to be careful drawing lines. I can see that right kind of get over that man It's just gonna happen. You're not with that person anymore. Don't get married before you're 30

Just that's all I got to say is Guys and girls listening to the show I you know you think you're in love now with your partner And you might be but let's see if you're still together when with your 30 because what's the rush? Like what? Like just I think you're 20s or time for exploring and figuring out yourself and it shouldn't be like I found the guy. And I mean, if you do that happen sometimes, but I just think we changed so much, you could avoid all the divorce. They show statistically, statistically that people who marry after the age of 30 have more successful marriages. Yeah. Now here's something. Everyone's gonna pass. If you're happy in 25 of married,

I'm so happy for you, but email me in five years. Go ahead. Here's another thing that happened with one of my friends. Another friend of mine, just, she recently just got married. And she, like you, has never lived with somebody. Oh, okay.

And she, this likes her own space. She doesn't, you know, I know. She doesn't know what she's gonna do. And now she's getting me. I'm like, I go, dude, you should be living with somebody first before you get married with them. I'm sorry, that's like, you're very... Well, yeah, I think so.

Yeah, that is old school. You have to see if you can cohabitate. Right, I think that's a really good right exactly I think that is such a good point because it's so funny this came up on my girls weekend I had a nap a last weekend We were all saying I'm talking like I said all different ages earlier. I was home at this last week all different ages and all different women and and they were saying you know people are married some are divorced some are never Married and the women are married are like what you know she asked me what's the new trends

I said actually people with money who are building homes right now, there's a trend that they are, a lot of them are building homes with two bedrooms. Because I think that couple, not that you sleep apart every night, but a lot of couples just need their space. I've always said separate homes would be nice. If you can afford that, or just, it's couples

who take the time away. But it's always weird. The ones that are always bringing up this issue of I need my own space is always women. I don't see any guys, guys that I know of, that I heard of or like, oh yeah. It's true, I need my own space and that's why I never wanted to live with anyone.

I'm like, why? I mean, I've never met anyone that I felt that I could share a space and have my own space. But why women, why do you think women are the ones that are feeling this way, mostly? It's just one of them just to sleep her alone. I don't know. I don't know.

I don't know what it is. I just think humans were not meant to be with, like, living, I mean, they said, person should be your everything. We're going to live together to share everything. I just think it's good to take, not every couple can do that. Obviously, you live together. But I'm saying, just take some space

or make sure you spend time with your friends or maybe you go away overnight and go to a treat or go with a girlfriend away for the weekend or a guy friend and just okay like spend some time apart. Couples just need space and I think that space will make your intimacy even stronger when you come back together. Now I don't know if I talked about this on a previous podcast or I just talked to you about this on the phone but I'm just gonna bring it up one more time. So also I have another buddy that's in the middle of trying not to get divorced. And so he's going through therapy with her,

like couples therapy, and then he's also just doing his own therapy. So he goes to his own therapy and he's talked to a therapist and he says, you know, I'm good. I'm fine. Whatever she wants to do, let's just do it and make it work, right? And so obviously something's going on that she's not happy with to continue the marriage. But then he tells me he goes, he goes, you know,

people have only been getting married for love for the past 200 years. That's true. Before that it was property. Yeah. I was traded off like property. Yeah. You got a cow, you got a cow, you got a cow,

long going to bring money. He goes, only my daughter. He goes, only for 200 years, have we been getting married for love? And when they get married, they say, until, until that do us part. He goes, look up the average lifespan of a person 200 years ago. They weren't living till they were 80 years old.

They're like 49. They're like 40. Yeah, 40 something. So it was pretty easy to, to be together, tell death to you. Park. Yeah. I mean, that's a part like I'm about to die. Like, whatever. We're like 60, 70 years old. True. Yeah.

You know, it's much harder to stay together because get on each other's nerves. I was reading online one of those like Uber facts are oh my god facts things where there was this, well is it it was this 90 year old couple they're like 92 and 93 and she finally told him that in the like 1940s that she had an affair any divorced her. He got in his 90s. Are you serious? Yes.

Cause she had the cheer the affair 50 years ago. Yeah. Oh my God. Maybe he was just ready to break up. Oh, yeah. Finally. Oh my God. Never tell if you have it.

I don't, okay. I don't understand. If you had a one time affair, you were on vacay, or something happened, you cheated with someone. I don't, and you, but otherwise, you're relationship scraper, you have this guilt, and you need to tell them, I'm telling you, I've since gone down, it's never a good idea.

You could be 90, and the guy's gonna divorce you, or the woman's gonna leave you. I think that you should learn from that, how it's making you feel, and don't do it again. Like, don't cheat unless you, you know, you want to break up with someone and then you can have sex with other people, but don't tell your partner.

I'm just saying it. People always might know, should I tell them? It's because you want to make yourself feel better, but you're going to make them feel worse. Oh, it's going to be awful. So just, you know. All right, speaking about cheating,

let's, can you jump forward to that email about is sexting cheating? Yes. Because you would have thought you were going to say when you were talking about teen mom earlier and you said the issue that comes up all the time is that, well, I don't want my baby daddy to have a new girl and my kids to be around the thing. What I thought you were going to say is the biggest issue

that comes up on teen mom is like a sexting thing or like she got hold of his phone. And she's checked his messages and saw that he was Facebooking for someone else. Yeah, well, that seems to be a really common thing. You're sexting people cheating by sexting someone else. Yeah, most of the cast, which kind of sucks, most of the cast are usually not together. Like, right.

Like after the kids born, they have a falling out and then they're single. Like, there's a very few that are still together. I remember the one that was only the only couple that were normal that were still kind of together are the ones that gave up the kid for adoption. Oh, right, because the kids are too young to have a kid. They're not together. So then you have to deal with all the drama, but I don't know why it sucks you in,

but anyway, I've never seen it. So you left, let me know. Your buddy, Dr. Drew, like talks them all the time. He does all the meetings, shows, and all that kind of stuff. Because he loves it too. It's great. I mean, it's great. I think it's great for young people to see this whole team mom thing because

it's going to show like it's not easy to have a kid. No, it's not. So hopefully kids aren't really like, oh, I'm famous. I'm going to get a baby, have a baby and be on television. That's my fear. It's a lot of young, but they glamorize it away. Because they think they're famous

because they're on the couple of people magazine. And life is great So I should have a baby. No, I think the television show really shows that it's it's rough. Yeah Okay, um is sexting cheating dear Emily my husband works out of the country We only see each other about every two months for two weeks He has been having text sex and sending and receiving personal photos with two other women and I text, sex, and sending and receiving personal photos with two other women. And I have asked him why he never considered sexing with me. I also asked him about his fantasies.

Initially, I was so furious about it. We've only spoken on the phone and I will be going to see him in two weeks. Should I be overly concerned? We both still love each other. He was very upset that I found out. Should I really consider this as cheating? Signed Shelley. We're how often do you see this guy?

It's her husband, but she sees him every two months for two weeks, so you see him. Oh, this guy probably has a double life. Yeah, I don't, you know, I'm not. Shelly, this is a bad sign. I'm not making up such, I'm tired, sorry. I have long ago, okay, so. But I'm, okay, I'm not coming to conclusions

that he's having a double life or anything like that, but he could easily have a double life. Yeah. And he could be more than sexting and stuff like that. But I mean, it's up to you. And you guys say, well, do you are a Shelley like he's your husband, how you've been together? Like have you always known that he was going to wait for two months for two weeks? But I think you're not together that often. I mean, this is, do you really want him to be your, your, your husband and, and he says he feels he's, you're very concerned. I think you should be. You found several, it wasn't just one off tax. You found several of them. He probably is deleting them now before he comes home because you know, you're going to look at his phone.

And um, should you consider cheating? I don't, I mean, it's not cheating per se. It's, you know, it's, it's he didn't have his penis and someone else. We don't think, but or I would think or he didn't kiss anyone else, but I would be overly concerned. I'd be overly concerned about the entire well-being of your relationship because he's gone so often. You're not together and you're checking his phone and you're trying to figure it out. And I just want to know, and I feel like you're young.

I'm not sure, but I'm not sure if this is the right relationship for you, did you sign up to be with someone that you're only with two weeks every two months? So, is that really what you sign up for all around? Like, I think you have bigger problems than that, but I do think I'd be concerned about the sexting. I don't think it's cool if you're in a relationship to sex someone else. Or she can, I mean, start sexing her at home. Yeah, I mean, she can say that. Start sexing somebody else. Yeah, see how it feels. I mean, seriously, that maybe I should open up your relationship.

She should totally just open up a relationship. Yeah, you certainly see both other people. If he's okay with it, he won't be. I'll tell you that. But, yeah, definitely if you start saying, hey, you know what? I'll only see you for two weeks every two months. This is cool. I love you.

Let's, you know, let's continue doing this. But while you're gone, let's do like, don't ask on tell policy. Yeah, exactly. Just see how it feels about that. It's been, no, let's continue doing this. But while you're gone, let's do, like, don't ask on tell policy. Yeah, exactly. Just see how he feels about that. It's been, no, I'm cool. It's cool with it. I mean, I know you love him, Shelley,

and all this stuff, but I just feel like he's not been cool. He's not respecting you by doing that with the women. Yeah, and if he is not cool with it, then he will probably stop detesting. And if he really wants to, like, be with you and say, you know what, hey, that's not cool. I don't want that to go down. Then he's probably gonna quit doing the other stuff.

Exactly. Or maybe he wants to and you guys should just open up and he's like, yeah, you know what, I have an issue with it and not an issue, but this is something I want. And you can be like, I'm cool. Like just go into it, open-minded, Chelly, because if you can't handle it, then you should get out of it. But maybe you want to open up as well.

So you need to talk to him, communication people. Talk to your partner. You email me these long things everyone. It's like, but maybe you want to open up as well. So you need to talk to them communication people. Talk to your partner. You email me these long things everyone. It's like, but just I'm going to tell you, talk to your partner about it, talk to them. So that's the other part of it. One thing I got to talk about before we get into the next email is that, okay, so you know that a lot of men suffer

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All right, the next thing, I know the emails you wanted to talk about at a time, the prep of the free who wants to find a freak. All right, let's see how freaky they are. How freaky is she? I don't know if she got into enough, let's see. She tells, this is from Abby, Emily, I feel like I cannot find a freak like me.

And truthfully, I wouldn't even consider myself a freak, but I just feel like any guy sleep with is a bore. Just for some background, I'm a 20 year old female living in a small town in upstate New York. So basically, I don't meet a variety of men. I sleep with most guys my age, never go younger. Is it just age in a small town that's hard to find someone who wants to get down and explore?

Or am I asking too much? I'm down to do just about anything. As of right now, I myself can only get me to that point. And frankly, I'm tired of me, myself and I, just for you to ask me for your thoughts and thanks in advance, Abby. Okay, Abby, here's a deal, you're 20. And a lot of men, if you're sleeping your age,

I'm not saying you should sleep with different ages, but a lot of men in their 20s, I talk to a lot of my friends last night who are in their 30s about this. Men just don't know how to please women in their 20s. They don't even know about exploring. Maybe they're learning how to have sex through porn. And I feel not that men don't you guys allow my male listeners in your 20s. You hopefully listen to all my podcasts, but you're on iTunes and you know how to treat a woman. But I feel like it doesn't occur to me until little older. Maybe they're late 20s, even where they're like, Oh, it's not just about my sticking my penis in and out of her vagina and orgasming and hoping she, you know, makes a few sounds

and sounds like she'd like they want to know how to turn a woman out of it. It makes her feel good. So it could just be that the guys you're with aren't that experienced. And you have to listen to my show for five minutes. And yeah, also younger guys are it's funny because when you talk about the story I automatically go to the story that I heard last week on Howard Stern with the porn star who played Sarah Palin where she when I put out those porn's called nailing Palin and she said like with the really young age that she

was like super freaky like she wanted to with the really young age that she was like super freaky like she wanted to put together her own gang bangs and stuff like that. So she tried to put it together when she was younger in her early 20s. And like she found out most of the guys were just talk like they couldn't even they couldn't even perform when she finally put it together like they're so freaked out. Yeah, they're so freaked out when trying to do something When she finally put it together like it's so freaked out. Yeah, they're so freaked out when trying to do something crazy like that So yeah, a lot of guys can't even they can even do it because they're so afraid at that age Yeah, it's true mentors happy to be having sex if it happens

They're not really thinking about how does it all work and what what is female pleasure about and And I know you're trying to get in freaky, but I think a lot of it is a guy is just more self-aware and understands that there's like The brain is a largest sex organ especiallyaky, but I think a lot of it is a guy who's just more self-aware and understands that there's like the brain is a largest sex organ, especially for women. And we need a lot more simulation mentally and in other ways. It sounds like she does need an environment change. Yeah, why you live in a small town?

Or just take off or we can find somewhere you want to go. Exactly, go to New York. New York, go spend the weekend in New York. Do you have a friend there? Just come here to San Francisco. San Francisco, you will be pulled into as many gang bangs as you want. San Francisco everyone's walking around naked. No, but so be open though.

Also, guys are freaky than you think. You can ask a guy if he wants to explore with you. I mean, you know, I don't know. A 20-year-old guy might not know. I mean, I don't recommend this, but if you don't think there's freaks out there, just go and craigs this and read. Just read. Just read? Yeah, go to Craigslist, but I don't know if I just study their data online.

I don't know. I mean, it is tough, but I would just, I think it's great that you put that out there and see what happens. But you could also, if you're having problems having orgasm during sex with these guys because you're bored, I would say to buy an orgasm at goodvibes.com, use coupon code Emily and you get 15% off at good vibrations. Any sex tool you want, a great one to use during orgasms during intercourse is the J.J. Mimi, M.I.M.I.

I love the Fifi now, it's my new best friend, the Fifi, Fifi. And they're all both by J.J. but anything, go to goodvibrations.com or click on it for my website, go to my page, you can see all my favorite toys. And you get 15% off, keep on going Emily, that's what should happen. So I think bringing in a sex toy for a woman, if she's not getting what she needs, is a great

next step. You know how many guys are just horny, like a freak girl that's stuck in a small town. Right. I'm going to get a million emails. I think that I'm going to be your I think that I'm going to be your new Abby. I'm going to be your new, you know, middleman. I'm here. There's going to be guys flying you out to wherever. They're like, why doesn't this happen in my town? Exactly. Okay. It's extin-cheating. So okay, I want to be pursued by men. Hi, I'm Lea Menis. I started listening

to your podcast a year ago and I absolutely love it. I'm almost 21 and for the last couple of years, often I'm between relationships. I've been hugging up. I've had a few Facebook relationships and they didn't turn into anything more than the butt than the butt. The butt. The butt. Then now I'm totally open dating someone.

I just don't have a lot of confidence or self-esteem. My question is, what can I do to make my self-esteem, my self-esteem more approachable? I see guys checking me out but they just don't approach me. I'm shy when it comes to guys and like any woman, I would like to be approached in an episode. Thanks for the awesome tips and information. I love that listeners get an opinion from a girls and a guy's point of view.

Keep up the work and keep sending tips my way since Sierra LeSandra from Indiana. You love the Midwestern chicks like me. Sandra, okay. How do you make yourself seem more approachable? First of all, you first notice you hit the nail on the hat when you said you don't have a lot of confidence or self-esteem.

So the first thing you have to do is work on your confidence and your self-esteem. I tell you to match. I tell you to win a minute. You think that's what it is? I win a minute, so you could also do that. You could dress like I love culture. I tell it to women. I think that's what it is. I would say you could also do that. You could dress like a prostitute. I do it all the time.

It totally works. I get hit on all the time. But I think that work on that, like the fact that you almost identify that you're 21 years old, and I think you sound like a smart woman, you identify the fact that you don't have confidence or self-esteem. What is that about?

You need this validation from men. You're also saying you want to be approached and pursued. We all do, but I also think you should also go with it. Nothing wrong with you finding men that you find interested and start talking to them. So it sounds like you need to just start having the confidence to practice talking to men and being open. So when you say you're open, I picture you walking around on your cell phone and not making eye contact maybe because you're insecure, you want the guy to approach you, but I would say it just starts from being open to meeting people. So when you say they don't approach you, I always think, well, what, yeah, did you have

your headphones in? Are you, are you looking distracted? So just say, you know what, when I'm walking through the city right now or I'm on the bottom, wherever you're going, I'm driving, I'm in a, the mall, I'm going to make eye contact with you. I'm going to smile and say hello to men and to women. The guy who gives me a coffee in the morning, I'm gonna talk to him, I'm gonna start practicing, so men aren't scary, men aren't the other thing, and you just feel comfortable talking to them. And I would also, I don't know where your challenges lie

with your confidence and self-esteem, but I mean, work on yourself, go to therapy, talk to front, figure it out. You're more confident. Well, yeah, no, I like what you're saying about, just, you know, just talk with people more. Right. And it does it.

Because then you get your positive feedback. They like you. You make new friends. Yeah, it just even matter if you're at the grocery store and you're talking with a checkout person, you know, that's where you can practice talking to people. It's pretty easy because people trip out when I'm like at the grocery store

and I just start talking to the checkout person just like joking, making jokes and just laughing with them because they're so used to people not even talking to them at all. Like, oh, you're just going to be like, can I get a paper, plastic, whatever? Yeah, you know, and that's it. But that's like a perfect place.

It is perfect place. It is like those muscles that you don't use because you think over thinking it, but if you just become more natural to you, if you just start doing it. So that's what I would say if you stand or start there and work on yourself, your beautiful smart young woman and self-esteem is a big killer for women's sex drive and ability to date

and just do whatever you can to know that you are all beautiful being on this planet. And you have wonderful things about you moving into deep throat. So I Was trying to make a transition there and then you'll be deep-threading people Sandra in no time Okay, so menace When women are performing all sex and you're like are you conscious like God? I wish you would take my penis in her mouth deeper. Do you think about that? I? and just like, God, I wish she would take my penis in her mouth deeper.

Do you think about that? I kind of hate it when you ask me questions and I say, no, when I, I'm not into it. Some guys are some of this. Well, the thing is, guys, I think they're really into that gagging sound. I don't know.

I kind of feel like I'm, gagging, I'm like, injuring that person, you know? So I'm not to intuit, but there's famous films called Deep Throat and stuff like that. Totally. Okay, spick. Enjoying that person, you know? So I'm not too into it, but, you know, there's famous films called Deep Throat and stuff like that. Totally. One of the most famous poems of all time.

Yeah, and people are super into it. I personally am not, you know, it's all about, it's the suction, suction and friction, you know, probably when receiving a blowjob, because if you're just too light and it's just basically just blow. It's just in your mouth, you know, then whatever. That's you got to suck and sure you got to make friction and you got to make sure it's wet. Yeah, and no teeth, man. No teeth. No teeth. Well, there's also women that have like dental implants. Oh, behind their teeth to keep them straight. Okay. Oh, you know that right the braces kind of yeah kind of like just some braces

But it's permanent right yeah that hurts like a mother effort To like a common thing that a lot of women have women had those And guys have it probably but we wouldn't yeah, they're all sucks. That's crazy. Yeah, yeah So what you do? What do you do? Oh, well? Yes, you know fight through it if you But it feels like my penis is a much razor is you know, that's horrible. Yeah, that's it Would you just got to break up with someone then? Yeah, calm me six months and you get really dental implants It should be like a hallmark hard for that. Yeah, we broke up because of her dental implants

But then we got back together when she got her and we had her teeth are really straight. It was awesome. Yeah. Okay, here's the email that I'm going to give you some deep throat tips for the women or for the guys. Like, who ever is like an penis? Okay, do you hate Emily? I love your show.

I have a little problem that's been bothering me for years. I can't deep throat whenever I'm giving my boyfriend a blowjob. I love going down on him because he likes it and turns me on too. However, every time he tries to push his penis too far down my mouth, I instinctively stop and close my throat because I have a bad gag reflex. Know it's probably not a big deal, but I hate that I've never been able to do it.

I have a bad gag reflex and can't relax my throat enough to let his penis pass any further than a couple of inches. He's got a big one, thankfully, and explanation, why an explanation point. And I want to be able to take the whole penis down. Is there anything you would recommend, positions or any exercises to help me with this? I'd really appreciate it. Thanks and keep up the great work sincerely. Emily are.

I really want to add just ask guys that listen to this podcast. Is it really necessary for a woman to put it all the way down? I think that's a great question. Is it, I mean, does it really, does it really make a difference for you? Like you cannot get off unless she puts it all the way down her throw. I know it's cool and you can tell her, but he's like, oh yeah, she put it all the way in. You know, she really went in there, but I mean, does it really make a difference

on the feeling of Receiving a blowjob. I don't I don't really believe that it does or not You know, I mean I think that for a lot of men just like anything. It's like the one time she you know What did she do the one time that she gave you a blow job? I don't even know what I'm saying My brain just I'd encourage weekend no, but it's like it like, I think that for a lot of guys, it's like every once in a while, he might like it.

Or it's not like the one thing he needs every time to get him off, but he's like, it would be really cool if every once in a while she just made that gaggy noise. Yeah, most cars. And she can never do it. But I don't think that there's a guy who, I don't think it's a deal breaker. Like he's gonna break up with the woman,

like you with a dental surgery. If a woman is a dental thing in plants, you might break up with her. But if she doesn't take you in, I don't think it's a deal breaker, but I think every once a while, a guy would like, just like a woman would like a guy to mix up oral sex every once a while, do something different. And I'd use your fingers and I'd don't. Whatever.

Sometimes go deep throat, sometimes down. Just tell them that you're really into facials now. Oh, God. And then he'll be happy. That could be nice alternative, Emily. It's her name, Emily as well. But here's my, here's where I got to tell you, Emily. Here's some tips for you. Relax your throat and only go down as far as you feel comfortable. So like relax your throat. Take deep breaths

you can you can just kind of like practice All the muscles you know need to like doing a meditation and like relax your throat relax your tongue put your tongue at the bottom of your mouth Do like a breathing exercise. You can breathe through your nose and lick while his penis slips down your throat. It also helps if he leans over you instead of him lying down. So if you're lying flat on the bed and he can like pull himself up,

it's like he's having sex with your mouth, that can also be easier than you try to go all the way down. But there's not, you can't really keep it up for that long. So speed and suction are as important as depth If not more you can master these skills using your hand and sync with your hand So when you move your hand up the shaft lift your head away from his penis catch a full breath for half a second and they go down another stroke So you can just practice each time going a little further And again, it's a breath and you gotta just suction. That's a high school.

In high school, my buddy's girlfriend threw up on him because she went too far. But was she drunk? She might have had some alcohol, but she threw up on his lap and then had to throw up outside his window. Oh, God, that's horrible. I'm sure that's happened to plan it.

Because she was gagging. So I just say, Emily, don't trip on it. I get that you're asking me and I don't think you should push yourself far than you can go. If you know this, you're thinking, but again, a position would be him on top, but make sure he doesn't go.

Just shove his penis down because he's on top. If he's, you know, you're lying down and he's putting your mouth. But, you know, practice it. Just say I'm just going to go a little bit. Don't try to go for, let's take everything in life. You don't, the marathon starts with one step. So just take like another centimeter

and each time and see how you go. Okay, that's what we got time for today on this wonderful day here with menace and San Francisco. No, I promise you somehow, some way, I'll find some time to go to Los Angeles and record some shows. We should do this just more often. It's just amazing to see you. It's nice. And I, it's just better in life. I, I couldn't agree more. And I miss terribly.

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