Sex With Emily - SWE: Friends with Benefits

Episode Date: February 19, 2014

People say that Friend’s With Benefits (FWB) never work, but that's simply not true. You might just be the perfect candidate for a Friends With Benefits situation if you're at the right place in your life to have unabashed, no strings attached sex. I'll tell if you can handle a Friends with Benefits and how to get one. Hint: It doesn't actually have to be someone you're good friends with. Sometimes it's better to turn a sexy acquaintance into your FWB.  It's important to realize Friends With Benefits don’t last forever and in some ways are too good to be true:  the perks of consistent sex in a relationship without the relationship drama. One person usually becomes more emotionally invested in the relationship than the other person. If you do want to have a Friends With Benefits relationship I'll tell you the rules you have to play by.I also cover the most awkward moments between the sheets and what to do when they happen. And speaking of awkward times and nocturnal emissions, is it okay to hook up with an old high school friend?Use coupon code EMILY for 15% off at Good Vibrations: http://bit.ly/19rLghs. Use coupon code EMILY25 for 25% off at crazygirlproducts.com and coupon code EMILY for 20% off your first purchase at Emilyandtony.com. Check out my new vibrator store: www.sexwithemilyovo.com/.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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For more information about sex with Emily, go to sexwithemily.com where you can do everything at sexandlead.com. You can listen to the show, watch the show live every day from 1 to 2. We're running a few minutes late today so I have about that. That's some technical stuff going on here. And every day, and it's also on demand. So we've got four shows a week that we're doing. And we've got free Friday coming up tomorrow. Every Friday we're giving away our show for free. Yay! So you can listen to the show just like you used to. And there are our long episodes and you're going to love them.

And I want to thank everyone who's become a friends with benefits member. Because our friends with benefits members are so we love them. They're so psyched. They get answers directly. They get their emails answered directly. So we get hundreds of emails from you. But when you're a friends with benefits member, it's like getting sex advice. Like when on demand.

You're like, oh, last night I had sex with this chick and this thing happened. And what do I do, Emily? I will answer you within a few days. You'll get your answers to all your questions. Plus, you get exclusive videos and you also get weekly sex toy and product giveaways. Just lots of fun things. So thanks, everyone, for becoming a friend with benefits member. It is 4.95 a month, which is like 15 cents a day, which is like nothing. It's like if you

saw me to bar and you were like, Hamlee, so I love your show. Can I go buy you a drink? I'd say yes. So this is the drink that you're going to buy me for listening to the show. And I appreciate it. So anyway, everyone, thanks for listening to the show. Menace is out of town for a few days. He's in Lala, Paloza, and Chicago. He's a very lucky man because he's supposed to be super, super fun and hopefully he'll get laid and then share and have those stories to share with us. He's got a he's got a he's got a he's got a something thing for women from the Midwest. So we'll see how that goes. So I a lot's been going on. Okay so last time we're doing this whole you know how my interns have been very active in the show.

They did their intern sex tour reviews. We watched porn together. Well now we're all going speed dating together. But they actually went last night and pre prior I'm going next week because we're in different age groups. But prior to that we went out for some drinks, which was really fun. And Kelsey, intern Kelsey is here. Hi Kelsey. Hey Emily. How's it going? Good. How are you? Came in a little late today. I know I'm sorry. What are you going to do with the free shots from the bartender? Yeah, but you mean me take your shot.

I know, I did. I'm not a big shot taker, so I was like, Kelsey, do my shot. And then she texts me at 7 a.m. that she's not coming in, so this is what happens, but it's fine, she's here now. It was up all night. Did you meet anyone? No. No.

Speed dating? Lang away. So give us just a quick, we're not gonna do a whole speed dating show because it really is a phenomenon now. If you think about it, everyone dates online. Most people are dating online or they're dating through like I'm fixing up through a friend. This is a way that you can really meet people like you meet

how many guys does you meet in an hour? 20? 20 in an hour. I feel like there is 15. I have no idea, I was a little drunk. She was a little drunk. Oops, my fault. So 20, so 20 guys an hour.

When do you ever meet 20 people in an hour face to face? And then you're done. Like an hour, you can be home for dinner. And I think speed dating is a great concept. It's been around for a long time. And so we thought we tried it out. And I did it once years ago. And I did me actually a couple cute guys.

And we're going to be going into it after I'm going on Wednesday. You guys just went, and then maybe next Friday, we'll talk all about it, or Thursday. So, but did you meet anything you want to impart about it? Like, would you recommend it? Would you, any funny highlight moments? Let's just say that.

We'll get into the whole, I don't want, I mean, there was this guy who gave me his card, and he said he was a reality warrior? What is that mean? I don't know and it's something about self-defense and I was like, if you're a warrior, why are you at speed dating? You know? Yeah, exactly.

If you're a warrior, just go pick up your chicken and the woods or something. That was interesting. I don't really get it. That's really interesting. I don't know. I kept on, I feel kind of bad about it though. I kept on being like, who does speed dating? You kept saying that's everyone.

Oh my God. That's like everyone who dates online dating? You kept saying that's everyone. Oh my god, that's like everyone who dates online and starts their profile with, I never do this, but, you know. Yeah, I'm doing this as a joke, blah, blah, blah. Did you tell them that you were doing it for the show? I did, because they asked me what I did, and then I became obvious. Oh, okay.

Oh, I work at this podcast. You tell them the new thing. I think I told a couple of them. OK, God, it's actually them. And they're like, you're on my list. And then there was a form we had to sign, and we could have videos. And it was like sitting on my table. Oh, everybody knew.

OK, God, it was great. We had fun drinking. It was one of our entrance birthdays, and we did some war. We had some shots. I didn't do my shot. And we had watermelon beer, and it was super fun. And then yesterday, that guy that I was talking about,

that I was hanging out with for a few days, He was in town for a few days and we just hung out. We had some nice time together And he actually sent me the most beautiful flowers. They were really gorgeous. They're like epically beautiful flowers I'm so I'm so blown away. When was the time that guys sent me flowers? I cannot remember and it's been way too long And I went and I actually texted him to think him and I'm like, you know what? If a guy sends you flowers It's time to call him. You pick up the phone and you call him think I think I think maybe I'm old school Maybe I'm old school. I'm like so I called him and I was like, they're so beautiful

He's like where they hydrangeas and I guess they were they're all purpley and beautiful And I just thought that was such a night and I'm like, I never buy flowers, but I love flowers He's like women shouldn't buy themselves flowers and I thought that was sweet And I remember I'm gonna take I love flowers. He's like, women should buy themselves flowers. And I thought that was sweet. And I remember, man, I love flowers. Do you love flowers? I love flowers. Yes. And it's true. I always wanted to buy flowers. I'm like, oh, they're expensive and do I want to buy them myself? I'm going home for the story again with my own flowers and my own, you know, TV dinner. That's my life. No, but so I I thought it was very nice of him. I thought there was like an old school nice like

Guy sent you flowers. So I like him. He's cool him. I thought there was like an old school nice like guys send you flowers So I like them. He's cool. Yeah, yeah, whatever. Okay, and then also I have to tell you so okay We had a show a few weeks ago with a woman named Susan Bratton and Tim Bratton on the show and they were talking about expanded orgasm practice where the man learns to Oh, did they call it home to yeah, they call it home where you're like're like, oh, mean, where you, the clitoris, if you didn't know, is broken into all these quadrants. So not only is it like this little thing you got to find, but there's like parts of the clitoris.

And there's this practice that they practice that it's called expended orgasm or some people call it oaming, where they massage the clitoris. And it's very like you, and you take women to another place of orgasm and you really the man's, their energy is shared and it just, you have like longer, stronger, intense orgasms. Would you say that's what you got from that? So anyway, her husband, I know this is going to send kind of freaky, but he's really good at it.

He's really good at omings and she's like, they have some kind of arrangement and she's like, he wants to om you, he would om you. Like, he would go down. Like, it's not sexual. We don't make out, we don't do anything. Like, I think I'm probably naked or my pants are down. And then he's massaging my clitoris, but it's literally for this practice that I've been hearing about for years, that I kind of feel like I should do. But he emailed me again, he's like, do you want to do it?

And I'm still in love with it. Well, here's another thing, so then another guy today called me about it. So another guy I met when we went to the oh oh oh Big guest on the show tomorrow who wrote a book about all about this Nicole They don't she wrote a book called slow sex. She's gonna be on the show tomorrow. I'm so excited for her to be on the show She wrote a book about it and so I was at her book launch and I'm it was he's one of the dudes I met there and he was like I'm just learning Oming like guys, like, guys, take this practice. And I know what you're thinking.

You're like, dudes, of course, that's enough for a class where I get to massage a woman, whatever. But it's really, we're gonna get into it tomorrow because I don't want to butcher with the whole philosophy and what it's about, but I think it's more than just dudes wanting to get touch a woman's clitoris. I think it's fair to say that it's a much more like spiritual, emotional, like evolving your whole sexuality type of practice.

So this other guy called me on the phone today because he's emailed me twice and I've ignored him. But let me just preface it by saying I met him at the party and he was cute. I mean he was not cute and he was nice and he was like I just signed up for Oming and I need a partner. Would you want to be my partner? And I was like sure call me. Yeah, because at the moment I'm thinking I should do this. Like, for sex with them, I just feel like there's a lot of things that

I still want to and need to experience for myself and for my listeners because I like to experience things and share them with you. So I said, yes. But then he's been calling and emailing and I've been avoiding them. You know, you do that, but things that you like don't really want to deal with, you just totally avoid. So I was completely avoiding it and he's like, I know this is like my third email to you and you probably don't want to do it anymore, but I'm trying again. And I was like, okay, here's my number. And then he called me.

So we talked on the phone today and he's like, do you want to just get together to do it or do you want to talk about it first? I'm like, I think we should talk first because I don't really know you. So he's actually coming in the office on Friday and we're going to go for coffee. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. It's a minute I figured I'm not committing to anything. And this is just again, this orgasmic practice for you, massage the woman. And I know it sounds freaky and weird, whatever,

but I want to learn. I want to have a coffee and see if I would drive with him. And while we're having our lattes, I can see if I could picture him touching my clitoris and then I can know if I want him to do it or not and move forward with that. So you will keep you posted that. Oming partner. How do I acquire one? Honey, I think I've got a coming out of I got Oming partner. I took it out of the wardrobe. Oming partner. Totally. Do you want to? I've got another one. I got two guys that emailed me about Oming and then the third is her husband. Yeah. I think you should be ummed. I got two guys that emailed me about Owing and then the third is her husband.

I think you should be omed. I think all of our interns should be omed. We're going to figure out, but tomorrow's show is going to be epic and it's a free show Friday so everyone can listen to it tomorrow. Which is going to be awesome. Okay, today's show, I love the topic today's show because I think we can all relate. Do you have any of those moments during sex where you just go awkward? That was awkward. That was weird the way he stuck his finger in this orifice or that was weird

the way he made that noise. Did he just have an orgasm or die? I can't tell. Just awkward moments, weird things that happened during sex. We're going to get into those awkward moments and how you deal with them. Plus we're going to be reading the emails. Anyone can email me through my website. So easy, you go to Ask Emily, or you can email me at feedback at sexwithemlee.com. And some of the topics include cheating via text, having sex with an old high school fling, and dating someone who has been abused.

And we're gonna get into that minute, but first we're gonna do some sex in the news. What's in the news? What's in the news? Okay. Lots of cond some sex in the news. What's in the news? What's in the news? Okay. Lots of condoms stories in the news. Justin Bieber receives a shipment of condoms from Nouveau. Justin Bieber has reportedly received a shiptive of comments

from Nouveau brand condoms. The company said to send the safe sex prophylathics to the baby singer due to his recent steamy pdf with girlfriend salina gomas they give away over two hundred thousand condoms of the year to prevent teen pregnancy and they are probably looking for publicity but also may be brancy but seem like salina gomas is best interest at heart uh... because the company wants them to for they want them for campaign for

safe sex and and for abstinence uh... so i don't know if just to be bris of rizzi saying he's a virgin do you know i don't know i mean don't think he's a very like all these teen star saying their virgin so they want them to do a campaign i think that we need a condom company and will do a campaign for you we're not going to have since we're going to be like safe sex get laid and and uh... these are the good condoms bad coms we're going to hold condom review eventually and we're gonna give out sexual and the condoms to people

but anyway I think that we need a condom sponsor so just call us that's on our that's our list right Kelsey okay so that's Justin Bieber he got shipments of condoms that's awesome uh I hope that he uses them doesn't get her pregnant although it'd be a good story if he did but I don't want that for these underage youth aren't they underage? How old are they? 18, 16, 17. How old is Justin Bieber? He's like a baby. Should you even be 17 or something? He looks like 13. I think he's probably 16. And he's not attractive. My nieces are so dry. It's a baby. If I was like a junior high, if I was in junior high, I would be in that.

My nieces obsessed. Yeah. The hair, you know. Okay, ad campaign promises sex with a condo. An upstage brokerage firm launched a new ad campaign pulling a raunchy twist on apartment hunting. The new firm is marketing their pads to young professionals who are raking in the dough and are looking for something extra on the side. The spicy tagline for these new developments are, I don't remember his name, but his apartment. It's followed by one of four raci graphics, including one with the outline of a woman's legs and feet and heels lying on top of a man's lower half. The company's

website is asking readers to write where they hooked up by emailing in their stories. One woman wrote how she ended up in a beautiful penthouse apartment. I would have killed for that kitchen. So it's just a new, sexy cue. Everyone's using sex to sell something right now. It seems, sex sells, but for a condo campaign. Okay, children's, Trojan vibrations truck provokes candid discussion about sex. So this is about the Trojan truck that we talked about.

A few weeks ago, it's giving out condoms as commuters made their way home from work along Avenue A in the East Village, New York on Friday night. A small group of women and purple mini skirts climbed out of a purple white truck that read Trojan vibrations on its hood The good vibrations trucks as it's called it was promoting the new vibrator the Trojan Twister. I love that they're all coming out of the vibrators on something like what is the Trojan twister? I don't know It doesn't even say what it is Sounds like something we should review. I think we got to review it.

Oh, oh, here it is. The video you have to go to their Facebook page and if you like it, you get a free four-speed vibrating penis ring, a four-speed ring. Okay. If you want a vibrating ring, let me just tell you that vibrating rings I think are the best invention because the sea ring has been around for really, really long time. And there are lots of times they're really for men to help them with premature ejaculation, to help them stay hard or longer. But in recent years, there's been this influx of vibrating rings. And now

you can buy them at Walrins, like disposable. You can buy like higher end ones. If you go to JimmyJayne.com, we went with yesterday, they've got a great one that I love. And also, adamanee.com has a ton of them. And you can get 50% off one of them. If you go to adamanee.com and you skip on code Emily, at checkout, you also get three free gifts and a free adult DVD and free shipping.

So anyway, these sea rings are awesome because, but now the new ones have a little vibrator on the end of it. So it vibrates on the woman's clitoris, well it also vibrates on his penis. And a lot of men think that a lot of men love the vibration. Like vibrations, not just for women anymore. You know, it's like men like the vibration

of the on their penis as well as the woman because it hits when they're having intercourse hits the woman on her clitoris. So they're awesome. Everyone's making them now and Trojan's got a four speed one. Have you used a one neck, Kelsey? I have not, but I have one sitting in my nightstand. Honey, gotta whip it out. No, I know.

No pressure. Yes, but actually, I was just looking at it. Maybe this weekend. It's almost the weekend. Tomorrow's Friday. I love them. Okay, this is kind of depressing but I'm gonna read it anyway. But what a way to firt to happen. A woman's hand severed during yacht sex. I don't feel bad for she was on the yacht. She's on the yacht. She's fine. I feel bad but no, but I mean I don't feel bad. She was on a yacht but that kind of sucks like you're on a yacht and you're having sex and what could

be better and oh my god and then she severes her hand. It appears they were engaged in a passion to act in the bedroom where at some stage, the sink broke. So she was doing the whole leaning on the sink on the boat thing and the sink broke and severed her hands. I wonder how long it'll take her to have sex again after that. I don't know. After six hour operation, it was her second time. 10 years of therapy.

Exactly. Like therapy, like, oh my god, don't have sex with the bathroom. And that would just suck if you were having sex on a yacht. Your whole day ruined. What if it was a really sunny, beautiful day and they were about to go for a ride? and then her hand fell off. That sucks. Socks. Sorry about that. Okay. J.Lo speaks. I loved myself too much to say. Apparently that means she was not in a good place in a good relationship. To quote sex in the city,

the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love you, the you, you love, well, that's just fabulous. Meaning, if we all love ourselves, you have to love yourself before someone else can love you. I always say that, that's really true. If you don't love yourself and you're like, I'm fat, I'm lazy, I'm this, I'm not good at this, I'm not good at that, that's what you're going to be projecting onto the world. But if you're like, I love myself for all my goodness and all my flaws, just I really, truly, truly love myself. It takes a long time to get there, to a place where you love yourself.

Because there's a lot of times you go through self-blowening and hating yourself, I don't know if you go through that. But a lot of people do. But if you just love yourself, that's when you get, that's when you can find, I think, a partner when you're in a good place. So Jay-Low anyway, is saying, she's all about that now. She opened up to Vanity Fair about her split with Mark Anthony and explains how she wasn't going

to settle for anything less than she knew that she deserved. It's not that I don't love myself before. Sometimes we don't realize that we are compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you or that the person is not treating you in the right way or that he is not doing the right thing for himself, if I stay that I'm not doing the right thing for himself, if I stay that I'm not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now. Sometimes it doesn't work, and that's sad. But I remain internal optimist about love I believe in love.

So he was treating her badly, is what she's trying to say. Mark Ethony obviously was not treating her very well. Right? That's what we think. I haven't heard, I don't know. I hear that he's, I, I, you've heard every both side of the story, but at least she's going back to love and probably having lots of sex right now. If you were JLo, newly single, like hot career, on American Idol or whatever she's doing, she looks good. She's like, she does look good. She's like

out there like doing stuff. Get them. You've got to get some. I'm sure she has no problem, but they got the kids now and all that stuff to deal with, so whatever, she'll be fine. Okay, let's get in some emails. Oh, first the poll. Ooh, new poll. Well, I have the new poll, but I have the results for the last poll that was up. This is what we asked. We asked, what is the sexiest city in America?

The answer, the choices were Las Vegas, San Francisco, New York, and Miami. Sexiest city. What do you think? This is surprising. The one that came in the lowest, the one that came in last, for sexiest, Las Vegas, 13%. Really? Because you kind of associate Las Vegas with sexiness, but it's also kind of cheesiness. So it's also kind of like crazy, crazy, you're running around, you're getting drunk, you're

whatever, I don't know if it's like sexy. But 13% of people said Las Vegas. 13% of people said San Francisco. It's kind of like... We're not sexy, yeah. We're not that sexy. 20% said New York City and a whopping 47% said Miami. Yeah, that's right.

I got to agree,. It's really hot. It's like always it's like white sandy beaches There's models everywhere. It's always warm There's every restaurant You can send the beach to watch models like walk by and like couples and happy people and it's scantily clad and like then there's like Tecno music and like bars playing like all day long like on long, like on the beach, like South Beach is pretty sexy. So I'm down, and that's what our listeners say, 547%. Do we even new poll up there?

We don't, do we? Okay, well, we're gonna have one up, and you're gonna check it out, cause it's gonna be up soon. All right, let's get into the emails. We got for today. Okay, Emily, you have convinced me. I drove from Happy Valley State College in Pennsylvania

to my home in Southwestern Pennsylvania. And for the three hours of being on the road, I listened to all the podcasts that were snippets of each of the shows. To answer your question, hell, yeah, it was great for me. Finally, got into your website and became friends with benefits member because I love your show. And my personal sexuality has been reawakened.

My second half of my 50s could be so good for me. Signed Rob. I love Rob! He's a new friends with benefits member. Thank you Rob. That is just the kind of thing. That's why I get up every day and that's why I wake up in the morning. Right there Kelsey. I wake up in the morning because he, his sexuality has been awakened by sex with Emily. And I don't want to like go off on a rant here, but I might. This show has been listened to by millions of people. We've received hundreds of thousands of emails. We've 100,000 listers and emails and people who've said the same thing.

That by listening to this show, your sex life is actually improved. And because we give you tips every day that you can use, not just like weird, tantric movements that you can't really do, but like real practical skills for moving forward. I give a lot of advice. And so anyway, the fact that he became a friend's benefits member, I love that. And he re-awakened himself in his 50s. Nice.

So perfect. Never too late to be learning about sex. Never, never, never. People were in their 50s, like 50s, like the new 80s. Swear to God. You think? Yeah. 80s and 50s, how does it go? No, but really swear to God, people think? Yeah. 80s and 50.

How does it go? No, but really swear to God, people of 50, 60, 70s, people are having sex. I mean, they're even saying sexually transmitted diseases have gone up for people over 50. Yeah. Because they're not used to the whole like thing, the kind of thing. The whole, yeah, birth control. I hope we can talk about them to like whatever, what disease? What's this little, like they crab crawling on my pupa care?

I don't know. Um, but maybe if they got crabs, I hope they didn't. But they're getting other kinds of diseases. So just everyone to use condoms. Okay. Hi Emily, thanks for your show. I download every one of your podcasts and listen to them at work. They have a lot to do with how I get through my days and help soon with my relationship. I need advice on how to do with my boyfriend. We have been together for over two years and we're both very in love with each other. He's a DJ and Knight which involves him being around a lot of, let's say, flusy girls. I've recently been sneaking around and looking at his phone messages and

he flirts very heavily with these random girls. I know he makes a lot of new connections to promote his nightclubs but he does things like ask them to send him pictures. He's where she's been with him for two years, okay. I've tried to bring this up without mentioning that I've spied on his phone and he doesn't admit too much of it and always reserves me that the girls from the clubs means nothing to him, which I know they don't,

but it obviously bothers me that he sends these girls sexual energy so easily. And then it doesn't have sex with me back home. Do I tell them that look at his phone and just confront him about it? Thanks for what you do, Addy from Canada. Okay, Addy, this is not good. Listen, he's flirting, he's cheating on you, he's a DJ.

I don't know if he's cheating on you, but he's a DJ. I, I, from personal experience, not personally, but I have many friends of dated DJs, and this is just what you know about DJs. It's like dating someone like first year at a law school and they got a job at a law for, because I'm not going to, I'm year at a law school And they got a job at a law for cuz I'm not gonna I'm not gonna just stereotype and they got a job at a law school You know like first year law lawyers have to work like you know a hundred hour weeks and it's crazy DJs have to flirt with women and stay out to a foreign the morning and that's part of the whole thing and the whole ego of getting more People to listen to their music and they flirt and they love it and they love the nightlife

He's a nightlife guy. He's a DJ He's into the nightlife. He wants to be out to 4 a. they love it and they love the nightlife. He's a nightlife guy. He's a DJ. He's into the nightlife. He wants to be out to 4 a.m. every night and he loves the attention that he's getting from being a DJ and it fills his ego. So I don't even know that he's cheating on you, but I have a feeling that he's used to if you found multiple texts and he's texting with girls, that's just inappropriate because you've been together for over two years. So I would just say, yeah, I mean, I guess honestly these days everyone looks at everyone's

phone. I'm not saying you should looks at everyone's phone I'm not saying you should look at the phone I'm saying you should talk to them first but he lied to you so you could say you know what happens to your phone and I'm not down with this you're texting these women what's going on and he's gonna have a million dollars you just a friend you my friends good friend school for library da da da da da da da da da da da da da da but I I have several friends who have dated several men like this and Seriously DJs not your best bet for They're into the night life and now and women and fluze it fluze it you call them fluze you women They kind of are and I'm not sitting down with DJ music. It's when it gets past 2 a.m And then they're out to four and they're all out partying and it's just I

Don't know. What do you think about DJs Kelsey? I love DJs Oh, you're younger. OK. I'm social manager at my house. I always talk to DJs. But aren't the DJs like Flirty and couldn't you feel like you could get with them at any time? Yeah. Because they're the DJ. No, they're boy fun.

And these women feel, you feel like you could sleep with them. I have. Well, they do this thing where they're like, oh, I need to store my equipment in your room, you know. Oh, I'm so in my classroom. I'm so in the room. See know, I'm sorry, I'm like, last week. Oh, see what I mean? They're great guys, okay, let me, let me preface this by saying, DJ at a party would love him to be the one sitting next to me at a dinner party.

Love the DJ, he's super fun. I'm just saying he's not your settle down with guy. Well, these are DJs. DJ, what? Does menist you some DJ? Yeah, he does. Point, exactly.

Menist, Sunny, DJ. I'm just, and I'm not saying all that that but I just think if you're catching flirty tax And he's your guy no matter who what memories of DJ or not But it's not a good thing. Yeah, there's sending photos Like why is he asking another woman for a photo? You should never be asking another woman for a photo. There is no no excuse for that if he's your boyfriend of two years So I think you got to talk to him and you got to just cop to the fact that you looked at his phone because that's what how else are you going to do it? And he's probably going to get a million excuses, but again, I don't think it's healthy.

And I know the whole DJ thing and I know the late night thing and you love the DJ because the DJs are love. It's like the bartender loves my boyfriend now, so not a problem. But like the bartenders are similar. I'm not again, I have very good friends or bartenders and DJs. Love them to pieces They have the great personalities. They're out there, but they're also run by their ego They love the tips the flirting the the whatever the people love my music So therefore they love me and it's an illegal thing But we did have a hot little you are

We went out for drinks last night to get them off psyched for speed dating I meant to get you some drunk and the bart psyched. Little too psyched. And the bartender, because she was Michelle's birthday, bought us drinks. Yeah. She bought her a drink, and then he bought us a whole round of shops. So nice. Anything.

What shop? What shop do we get? And it's like a lemon drop. So kind of lemon shop-dried thing. I made you do mine. I know. I had to go to the market. I also finished everyone's beer.

I know. It's so good. So we're going to get all into speed dating. If you've ever been curious about speed dating, I think next week we're going to get all into speed dating. If you've ever been curious about speed dating, I think next week we're going to be doing the speed dating show on Thursday or Friday. So we are doing daily shows now except for Wednesday. So hopefully we'll check back.

OK, hey, Emily and Menace. My name is Manny from London, UK. I love this show and yours guys' hips are helpful indeed. Menace mentioned he started a dubstep program called Wabble Wednesday, much kudos. As living in the birthplace of dubstuffs, it's truly insane to see it spread around the world. So dubstep is just, uh, just music. You know dubstep music? Yeah. Menace is really interesting. Okay, he is a quick question though. Is it ever weird to have sex with a high school friend after years of barely talking? Okay,

this is from Manny from the UK. Is it weird? I don't think it's weird. I would not. You have weird, I could tell you weird sex stuff I've heard. Having sex with an old flame or someone you knew in high school, not weird. Happens all the time.

Happens at the reunion. Happens when you're all home for Thanksgiving break, when you're home for summer break, and you're home and you sleep with them. I don't think that that is particularly weird at all. Do you? No. No, you see them one night, you're all meeting up again,

you haven't seen each other since high school. I mean, again, I don't think you should have sex right away and rush into it, but to hang out with a friend from high school that you had a connection with in high school and you never had sex maybe, now you want to. What about your high school boyfriend? Is that a little weird? No, but my high school boyfriend, I do.

Yeah, he's the best of you. I actually would have sex with him. No, I my high school boyfriend, I do. Yeah, he's the master of it. He's the master of it. I actually would have sex with him. No, I hope he doesn't let this show. But it was because he was my first. Yeah. Would that be weird to go back and have sex with your first again? I would never want to do that.

Right. He's my first guy. They lost my virginity too. Wrote me a message on Facebook yesterday random. So anyway, but I don't think it's weird to have sex with a high school friend. It happens all the time. If people hook up all the time from high school because you like, or there's like the unrequited flame that you never could get in high school and then you,

I have so many friends of stories that the people have written in that you, like you seem again five years later and you're both single and it's like finally your time because she was dating the captain of the football team when you were in high school but now she's free or whatever so it's just awesome. I don't think it's weird. I'm not gonna label you weird man-y as much as you want me to Not gonna say go for it go for the high school fling Okay, hey, Emily. I've been listening to your show for about a month now and I find it very entertaining and informative Keep up the good work

I'm 25 and for the last four years or so. I've been somewhat of a man-hor Mostly because it's hard to find a girl who can keep my attention I finally found a woman who I'm very interested in, but we have still haven't had sex in the last couple months we've been dating. The farthest we've gotten is make-out sessions, fully clothed, even though she has slept in my place many times. It turns out she was in a long distance relationship

to a long relationship two years ago with a man who abused her both mentally and physically. When she didn't want to have sex with her, he would force it on her ununderstandably. She remains pretty heavily traumatized by that situation. During a conversation about it, I asked someone, I asked if she'd ever been turned out by me and she said, no. Ooh, a lot of my gratification comes when I was someone

comes from knowing that I am pleasing them. Should I continue being patient? Should I hook up and not tell her? Should I have the same conversation with the risk of losing interest? Help! Thanks in advance, Nick from Dallas, Texas. Well, Nick, here's the deal.

OK, you've been a man, or you finally find a woman you're interested in, and how long have you got? How long have you say he's been together? She's been a relationship blah, blah, blah. I think you got to have a talk with her. It sounds like she's got issues. She sleeps at your house. You make I'm sure there's heavy petting involved

as my mom always said. Do you remember I say that? Have you ever heard that? I have heard that. Were you heavy petting in the car, Emily? Like if I was with a boy. I'm like, yes mommy was touching my boobies. So anyway, so you've been like,

probably just going through the motions. She's been sleeping over. She just told you that she didn't find you attract or didn't, wasn't turned down by you. And it sounds like she was in a pretty abusive relationship. So I wouldn't set you to hook up and not tell her because I would further abuse her more. That would be dishonest. But I think you should tell her that if she doesn't start to open up sexually that you're

going to need, that it might not be the right match or maybe if she needs issues or she needs some therapy. But I really think that you should talk to her about it rather than just going out and sleeping with someone else because what is the point of being with someone if you're gonna sleep with someone else? You're saying, you finally found a woman who you're interested in, but we haven't had sex yet.

So I also find that interesting. Here's a woman you're totally interested in, but you have not had sex. Kudos to you for waiting for a while. I think it's great when people wait and don't rush into sex, but you have to know the whole picture. Like, if the sex is going to be good, I know someone who recently waited three months,

steps sex with someone, they had sex, wasn't so good, repeatedly they had sex a few times, for a few weeks, the relationship's over. So, you know, the sex there was like all these issues. So I'm just saying, sounds like there's a lot going on here, you've convinced yourself that she's the one and yet you're already thinking of cheating on her and you've never had sex with her. So I'd say you have a talk with her. Have a hard, hard talk with her've convinced yourself that she's the one and yet you're already thinking of cheating on her and you've never had sex with her. So I'd say you have a talk with her. Have a hard, hard talk with her, where you're real

and you're honest and you come from, you're a place of what you need. And you're like, I'm not blaming her, not saying you did this and you did that, but just, you know, I'm feeling like, maybe there's some stuff going on for you. Sexually, it really makes me feel good to turn you on and I feel like I'm not doing that.

And you could also just ask her point blank, what turned you on? What makes you hot? What can I do to make me feel good to turn you on and I feel like I'm not doing that and you could also just ask her point blank what turned you on? What makes you hot? What can I do to make you feel good? You know, and open up the dialogue there because a lot of times you don't know. You know, men learn from their last girlfriends and unfortunately that's a really bad place to learn because every single woman is different. So that's what I got to say to that. Anything else you got to say to the guy at that house? Yeah, no. Have you seen Dexter? The show Dexter? No, you know me.

No television. There's actually a character in this show that's sexually abused. She can't even go near having sex. Yeah. Like, it's a huge problem. It's a huge problem. I mean, it says that he forced her to have sex. That's basically could be seen as rape.

And I would say that she needs therapy asap. That's a really good point, Kelsey. I don't know if I said that enough, but I always say people need therapy. Sometimes I think I say too much, but this woman really truly needs therapy or maybe there's a school counselor or someone she could talk to about what happened to her

because these kind of things that happen to women early on in life, you know, she's in her 20s. Sounds like you're 25, she's in her 20s. They don't go away. People think that time heals wounds and it's really not time, she's in her 20s, sounds like you're 25, she's in her 20s. They don't go away. People think that time heals wounds and it's really not time, it's work. It's getting into the wounds. What happened? How did it make me feel?

How did I go down, reliving it? It's sometimes really painful, but that's how you release it. And otherwise, you'll just be carrying around these issues around and she's probably developed all these issues around her sexuality and feeling comfortable, which is, so I wouldn't let your ego get burned either. You're saying that you feel bad because you're not pleasing or I'd say she shut down sexually right now and she's unable to be turned on. So that's what I think.

That's my story. Okay. Dear Emily, I'm in, okay, I'll do this one. Okay. Hi, you very beautiful lady. Do you have a duty shows on the topic because of exhibitionism and do you take calls during your show? Thanks Marcus

Marcus, we do take calls. I meant to give out the phone number I always forget you could call in right now for one five nine nine two seven three nine two. We just started taking calls Okay, do we show a type of exhibition? Yeah, we do we do we do a fantasy so a fantasy show All about fantasies. And do you know the top fantasies for men and women within their top 10 was exhibition. It was having sex, outdoors, having people watch. And we also did a show last Friday,

which was fetish Friday talking about that and a fantasy show. So I would say, check out our shows, but exhibitionism is very common for men and women to want. So it's a top fantasy, right? Didn't we find that? Yeah, we should do a whole show on it and talk about like voyeurism. voyeurism. We should. Let's write that down.

voyeurism show. Thanks, so maybe we'll do one just for you Marcus. I think we wrote it a sin. We appreciate it so much. Thank you. Okay. Hey, Emily, what is the best way to find a friend with benefits? I am a middle age and find the supposedly free dating sites to be frustrating. I am married but separated.

We live in the same house. Ooh, for financial reasons, for the time being also for the kid's sake, I know that eventually it will have to end some time. My wife hasn't touched me in seven years. sometime my wife hasn't touched me in seven years. Ah, that I want her any longer. Any suggestions? We appreciate it. Ken from Palabato, California. Okay, Ken, you're living with your ex, you're sharing a room. I hope you're not sharing a room anymore. But how do you find a friend with benefits? I'd say they're organic. I mean, I would not recommend going on Craigslist like misconnections or not misconnections. What's it called Craigslist? Casual Encounters. You know, you could go on Craigslist Casual Encounters, but it's always a risk. You could find people who want sex right now and in the moment. But friends benefits really have to evolve. You really have to find someone that you like and that your friends with,

you become friends, you become acquaintances, and then you become friends. And both of you really don't want to commit them right now. And you're both okay with not having like a no strings attached Relationship it really is a mutually beneficial relationship if it works for both parties It doesn't always work for both parties because a lot of times one person wants more than the next Or you start out thinking you're like, oh no, we're cool. We're just friends benefits That's cool. You can have sex the review on not sex the vibe on hopefully we'll have sex together at the same time Want to and it'll all work out. Doesn't always work out that way. Someone else falls in love. Someone wants more. Someone finds someone else outside

the relationship. But I would say how you find it. Just however you're dating right now. I would recommend dating online. And maybe you'll find someone that way that maybe you're sexually compatible with. But you don't see as a long-term partner. Maybe she'll feel the same way. And that could become your friends with benefits. I mean, everyone is meeting online. We decided to pull about this too, right? Wasn't it the top way people were meeting was online, I think? Yeah.

So, or through mutual friends, but I think at the more honest you are, you know, it looks like you can only do a friend's with benefits relationship right now because you're going through a divorce and separation and you're living with your wife. So, I would just be honest with people and just say when you go out with them and just be like, you know, I'm looking for something casual now. Or, you know, maybe I for something casual now or you know maybe I think my my experience with friends with benefits relationships are they just sort of evolve into that you can't really start out and be like we're going to be friends with benefits but a lot of times they just evolve from sleeping together and you both have different agendas or you know you're not into each other you don't want a long term thing and you both want to just have sex.

Yeah the sex is great but the sex is amazing but you don't want to you want them just Yeah, the sex is great, but the sex is amazing, but you don't want to, you want them just to shut the hell up when it's over. So good luck to you. I would say date online. I mean, seriously, it is how I go to match.com, I go to OKCupid. I guess I go to what other sites are people using today. I guess that's those are the big ones, right? Plenty of fish.

I'm, Palo, I'll tell you there's so many people I know, single people down there. And so I, a lot of divorcees too So I would think that a divorce day with kids as well who's really busy and maybe she's going through something and you guys are both kind of in the same place She's got her kids in her life. You've got your kids in your life and um Maybe fuck it up that way How about that? Let's get in some awkward moments. Yay. Yeah, awkward moments during sex. Okay today's topic is amazing I'm so excited to talk about it because this is the stuff that happens. There are awkward moments during sex.

It just happens. Like, weird shit happens and you have to like, you have to get through it. So we're just going to talk about some of the common awkward moments and some suggestions about how to handle them. And here we go. Okay, awkward moment number one. Poor timing. I think we're referring to premature ejaculation.

Oh, yeah. When this happens, he's more embarrassed than you are. Instead of berating him or acting hurt, ask for rain check. You may also remind of about women sometimes, though climax a lot, despite the heat of the moment. Bottom line, acknowledge the awkward moment and move on. This is no time for shame or blame the last thing you want to do when a man Adjaculates sooner than you'd like him to is to make him feel bad about it

It's awkward. It's weird. He is blamed. He believed me He feels he is making himself feel worse than you could even make him feel like the two of you It would be he's already berating himself and feels like less of a man You want to do the best part to be the honey? It's okay, it happens all of us, sometimes like women don't orgasm, sometimes men orgasm too quickly and it just happens. And I think you just got to brush it off and be like, no don't care, it was awesome, felt really good. Done, move on. If you make a big deal out of it, then it becomes a big deal and then I think it actually helps perpetuate men who are premature ejaculators, I think premature ejaculators, a lot of it is psychological. I mean, there's physical aspects to it, and there's a lot of stuff

we've talked to Ed Nazim on the show about what you could do to stop that. But there are just times when you just do it and you're premature ejaculate. And the more you make them feel bad about it or he makes them self-feel bad about it, it's a lot of it is mental. And he'll start to, every time getting nervous, like, oh my god, I'm going to be a regi-gulated god I'm going to be ejaculated. I'm going to be ejaculated. Oh there I am. I pre ejaculated. So what should he do to make it better then? Well there always like oh my god. I'm so sick. I think you can solve. I think you can solve.

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ejaculation. Okay. Okay. How's that? Upward moment number two, someone passes gas. This happened out in Sex and the City. We were that demon in that episode when Carrie, she she was with Mr. Big and she had she farted and she even she just like all the sun didn't hair for One for three days and she was like oh my god. I farted. It's over Yeah, I feel it wasn't too bad though like I feel like it wasn't too bad big job Well, why did she freak out? I just think it happens and you laugh it off You just it's not a big deal and after you're like

Do or a woman who is is gonna be like grossed out because everybody farts and everybody poops. Isn't there a book everybody poops for like two-year-olds? It teaches about poop. There's a book called Everybody Doves. They do. You're saying you don't and your girlfriend says she doesn't. She does.

So according to expert, the average person passes gas about 15 to 25 times per day and the friction of sexual intercourse can sometimes increase the gas. Next time it occurs, just don't let it kill the mood. Instead, shrug your shoulders, apologize for any smell and change the subject. Or just laugh it off. Yeah, I have a sense of humor about it. Don't make a big deal and don't judge, we all do it! Has that ever happened to you?

Um, I actually had a guy who farted during sex one. Happens, what happened? Did you be like, don't with him or no? Um, it was a dumb 10. I no Um, I don't have to be bad Okay, I don't know it was It didn't say that it's not a big deal and she's dumping guys for farting. It didn't happen It didn't know it was it was like a he was just not good. I mean come on, let's be honest. We're down there. We're doing stuff. It gets all wet and gooey and you're going to just...

How about a cleafing? A cleafing, we've got cleafing on here, actually. We're going to get to that in a minute, right? Awkward moment, cleafing. Let's just get into it. Almost everyone was experienced in from a trapped air sensation in her vagina, which can lead to noises that sound a lot like gas. If so, it's common and when it happens to you, just own up to your air in your vagina which can lead to noises that sound a lot like gas. If so, it's common and when it happens to you just own up to your air in your vagina and giggle about it. In the grand scheme of things, it's not that big of a deal and a loving, accepting relationship can weather it all.

Dude, it's not a big deal. It happens to us because we're wet and there's air trapped in there and we're wet because you turned us on and your penis is inside of us or your fingers and the movie inside and out and it makes traps air bubbles and we make a noise. Big deal, you should be psyched. You should be psyched, we're red, we're dead, we're dead, we make a queen of big deal. I don't wanna hear about it anymore.

Tired of it. Tired of who cares? I'm tired of who cares, who should care about that? Okay, awkward number three, he suggests something you're uncomfortable with. Just because you love each other doesn't mean you'll always have the same idea about what you want and bet. When he suggests something that you're comfortable with, it can be a real buzzkill. When you're something that you're uncomfortable with, it can be a buzzkill.

Instead of shutting them down, try for common ground. So here's the thing. He says, I want you to dress up like Lil' Mermaid. You're not done with little mermaid That doesn't turn you on. You don't like the webbed feed or whatever if possible see if you can negotiate the fantasy So it includes elements that turn you on too Perhaps you've always had a fantasy. You're like, you know what? I kind of like the schoolgirl thing. I've got this great little plaid skirt and I've got these boots and that turns me on

So could we maybe do that? You know, maybe he's into something else. You need to negotiate the fantasies or whatever reason to. I'm talking about costumes. Maybe he's got a fantasy of sex outside and usage could suggest how we do sex start with sex on our back porch in your fence, dinner area or whatever. Like you can start doesn't have to mean that it doesn't mean that's a deal breaker doesn't mean that like oh his fantasy is not like my fantasy and oh my god, we're gonna fall apart. Negotiate. Right?

Not done with that but I might be done with this. All relationships are negotiation. If his fantasy is going to areas that make you uncomfortable you may need to nibble his ear and say you know how and you got a great imagination could we use it to find something that turns me on too. That way you're passing it you're praising him as well as encouraging him instead of shutting him down because so many times men just feel completely shut down during sex. And it's really hard to build them back up. I mean men are fragile creatures and they always, they

really do many of them and women of course, but they want to please, they want to do the right things and they really want to talk to you about what your fantasies are and they really have fantasies that they want to act out of you. And so they finally got up the courage to talk to you about it and even if it's something you're not done with, you don't want to bust his balls. Unless that's his fantasy, maybe you do. But no, you don't want to make him feel bad and insecure about it. So just like, let you know, you can just say,

honey, let's try to find something together. I think that's a great solution. Rather than making me be like, you're so disgusting, you're so dirty. I'd never want to do that. Oh my God, what's wrong with you? Like, that's his biggest nightmare. And that's going to wreak havoc on him

yeah what happens when they just go for it though you know what i think it's go for it i think that's inappropriate i always say that every time every sexual act that you want to try with your partner like no matter what it is you should always start slow so let's say you want to spank your partner yeah start with a light tap see how she reacts or he reacts

don't just wham, wham, wham, wham. Or if you want to like play with their nipples, like start with like a nice little pinch rather than like getting out the clothes pins and pinch, you know, I mean, you should just really start slow and that's what you should do. And I just would say you've got to gauge your reaction. You've got women are supremely good at reading people.

Men have a, men are, men could do it too, but men it's more of a learn skill. So you're really doing sex, one of the most important things you have to do during any kind of sex you're having is you have to pay attention to her body movement. So to her movements, how did she react when you did that thing? Like if she was like, I said, ouch, you know, my back off. But don't just force something on her. Say answer your question?

Yes. Awkward moment number four, accidental injury. Okay, think about it. Accidental biting, scratching, a jagged toenail that cuts a skin, a pulled muscle, a leg cramp. Have you ever had any of these? Yeah, actually. Like what?

Well that or when they're like on top of you and they're like crushing something or like your arm or like you're like trying to pull it out and you can't and stuff like that. It's always so weird, you're like, I would, like, you're in the middle of this hot moment. You're like, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. My leg will cramp up. Right, so you just laugh, right?

You don't make a big deal out of it. It's not like, unless it's hard, and then you gotta get up and take care of it. Yeah. If you really hurt and those blood, like get up and take care of it. But, you know, not a big deal. What about, I just passed her this one,

but what about, did you have a guy suggest something that you want to come to her with? They usually just go for it. That's why you ask the question. That's why. Okay. Yeah, no. I wouldn't say that guy should just go for it.

I'd say, like, okay, let's say you're interested in anal even, like start with your pinky, like start just kissing that area, or touching that area. Don't try to stick your, yeah, that is, don't just stick your penis there. If you want to try anal, that is a great point. You don't. You start slowly. You start with your hand. See if she's turned on by that area. She might not be. That's a, is an area where men go for it, isn't it? Yeah. Don't go for it with the anus right away. I'm telling you don't

do that. Okay. Number five, awkward moment. number five. These are the awkward moments during sex Okay, someone utters the wrong name Never happened the brain is an amazing organ especially during sex You're less apt to think before speaking if it happens to you his or your feelings are bound to be heard But remind him of how much you love him just be like sorry sorry babe, sorry I don't know where the name Keith came from. He was my guy at the gym this month. I don't know what you say. Who is Keith? I don't even know. I just see who's Keith. I just made up Keith. But I think that, um, yeah, people do out of the wrong name.

So he's like, I have people, my mom and my step-dad have been together 30 years and sometimes she'll call him by her ex-ex wife of 30 years ago. Like, names just slip out and be like, Doris and she's like, I'm not Doris. I can't be like, you're like, play it off like, oh, it's like a name name. I've done it. Yeah, it's a pet name.

It's my ex boyfriend. It would be a great pet name for you. My ex wife is named. But these are just some funny things that do happen during sex. So yeah, I've called, used to call my dad got married so many times that I used to call his third wife by the second wife's name that pissed her off. But that wasn't during sex. But you do it sometimes because you're used

to someone in a certain situation. So you're used to having sex with this last person. And so in your mind, the way it's weird, you're like, oh, I'm sorry, Bobby. Oh, you're not bad. I don't think I ever really say anybody's name during sex. Really? I'm never shouting their name.

That's good. That's good. Mm. So this is better not to. Or just say, honey and baby. Really? Just say baby and honey. Listen, just use pet names.

And then you don't have to worry about calling somebody wrong name. She's not babe. Right. I don't like babe. I like baby. If a guy calls me babe, I'm kind of like, the baby is hot. That's not why. But some people love babe. I'm baby if a guy calls me babe. I'm kind of like But baby is hot. That's why but some people love babe. I'm not saying

Some people are baby people. Okay Upward in moment number six your kids walk in It's the moment every parent's dreads you thought your five-year-old was sound asleep But then she comes and asking for a drink of water and catches you in the act Sometimes children find sex confusing and think couples are fighting or hurting each other If you find yourself in this precarious situation, it's best to address your child's concerns immediately. You can say sometimes mommy and daddy are very affectionate with each other. And that is what she saw is what normal very people do. Then, invest in a lock on your door. Show it like your teenage children. Oh my god.

When a teenage child walks in, that's really embarrassing. Hopefully they know better at this teenager's. Why did you walk in on your parents when you were a teenager? No, I didn't. I had friends who did. Oh my god. God, teenagers should know that they're not just parenting on the road. But I guess why it's hard for parents to lock the door with the babies because like they want their kids to come in the room. So just knock. I walked into my mom having sex once with her, my stepdad, her second husband, and it was so awkward. He answered the door naked. It was weird. But there's a lot of people of stories about remembering seeing their parents having sex. It's like scarred them or not even scarred them, but just

even just like that was the first time they had any they had seen sex. Yeah. That's how it happens sometimes. Okay. Awkward moment number nine when you get your period happens to all of us happens to all women once a month for a week, a week or less, we're gonna have our period and so we did a show on this. I think we did a show on this but menstruation can be uncomfortable topic for a lot of people so it's important to talk to your partner in case he or she is not comfortable having sex during your mental cycle, which I found lots, lots, some guys are and some guys aren't. So guys are like, I don't care what's a little blood. We'll get in the shower

after put a towel down. You should always put a towel down. Women actually, some women are a lot more turned on during when they have their period. So they actually want to have sex. And some are just out of anything in there. I've got cramps and hurts and some guys don't want or uncomfortable with a side of blood. They just are. And I know that there are both men out, both kinds of men out there who are like, bring it, messy sex is hot sex. I mean, seriously, there are guys who are like, I don't care. But it's all down. We'll get bloody. And there's some guys who are like, oh my god, if I have blood on my penis, I'm going to throw up. So it's really, that's true. There are some things

you can do. If you still want to get it on, but you're worried about the mess, you can try these soft cups. They're similar to menstrual cups, but shaped like a diaphragm, so it sits further up in your vagina over the cervix to collect flow while still allowing for penetration. The only downside is it sometimes can be felt during sex and women find them uncomfortable and messy to use. So there are some other things you could do. You could also try having sex in the shower or the bathtub.

But what's been your experience with men? Have you found that they've been okay with period sex or not? Or don't you think it's a mix? What do you think? Yeah, I think that guys are pretty cool about it now. I don't know. I used to never tell guys when I was on my period. I just like, would like, avoid the subject.

You know, I feel like everyone's pretty cool about that. Yeah, you're like, oh, by the way, it's at time of month. Yeah. It's never fun. It's never like, oh, I'm so alike. Yeah, guess what, in my period? And you can always want to go up and then you're like, oh, I've got my period.

Yeah, and they're like kind of going for the pants. And you're like, oh, it's kind of annoying. Oh, that. I know. OK, so I think there's the period that you've got to have the talk and just see if you're, you might be down with it. He might not be. You've got to just discuss it. Discuss it, discuss it, I know. Okay, so I think there's the period thing you gotta have the talk and just see if you're, you might be down with it. He might not be, you gotta just discuss it.

Discuss it, discuss it, discuss it. Okay, weird noises, awkward moment, number 10. Weird noises. What's the weirdest noise you've ever heard? Okay, so my answer to me is today about someone she knows who, she was with someone and he made a noise. I think when you orgasm like a baby seal. How does a baby seal sound?

What? I don't know. But that would suck. That would kind of be a buzzkill. Yeah. A baby seal or maybe a whale? I don't know what they sounded like. So whatever it is sound,

but just ignore it and don't make himself conscious because the thing about sex is so maybe he sounded like a baby seal. But if the sex was good and it might have made you feel awkward, people make, I think it shows that they're letting themselves go and they're losing their inhibitions and they're letting go and maybe they sound like a baby seal. So if you can hang with that and not judge and that's fine, you might freak you out and

make you unattractive to him, but hopefully you can just let it go with that's his noise. Have you had weird noises? Um, I've just had weird things being said. Like what? I think I was telling him before in my online dating man, the continuous like babe. Oh, he prematurely bathed you. Yeah, he just said it like 50 times. Yeah. Up for, babe.

And then there was like one big long babe. Really? Really many times. Babe! Oh, I'm just gonna use that one. Oh my god, that's hilarious. I had a guy, or what about if their guy makes no noise? I had a guy that I did not know if you or guys were not because this is what he did.

So we'd be having sex. I'm like, you know, you can tell when a guy's about to work as a man or the other. Everything is quicker. Turn faster, turns. And he was like, he was like, oh. Like, as soon as I was like, like, did you just, like, could you be here? Like, a poof. It's terrible when they make noise.

Why, I make noise. I think that that's the more repressed male and female. I don't know. I don't want to judge again, but sex is about letting go. If you want to have the best sex of your life, you have to be able to let go to have those amazing orgasms. You have to be able to let lose yourself in sex and not be so self-conscious. But also, I think, to men's credit, a lot of men learn to orgasm in their bedroom when

they're 14 years old and they're afraid of their parents walking in so they don't want to make a loud noise. Yeah, I'm excited. So, they're kind of quiet, but I think the older you get and you're having sex, it just feels really good to breathe into, like, express yourself and let yourself go. Even if you sound like a baby seal. Okay, that's all we've got time for today, everyone. We've got some more of these,

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