Sex With Emily - SWE: Have Sex

Episode Date: May 25, 2012

Emily is trying to bring back the Hand Job and Menace is trying to bring back a taco. If Emily can get Taco Bell to bring back the Double Decker Taco from 1997 then Menace will give up his stance on the “The Great Hand Job” debate. Menace believes a man can give himself a better HJ than a woman can ever give him. Emily disagrees.Another woman attacks a cop with a sex toy. There’s a sex toy drive through now as well as a vibrator bike delivery system. Next, a helicopter service that airdrops your sex toys on your porch.Why he or she isn’t sleeping with you and how to have sex more often, or at least once. If your partner does not want to have sex, you should genuinely ask them what’s wrong. Emily and Menace act out healthy communication as a pretend couple and end up breaking up. Oh well. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mark our secret institutions Betrubized they call them a lie-gone Hey, Evelyn you got a boyfriend because my man E here He just got his heart broken he thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my!

The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common? What do you mean like laundry? It's drinks? You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sex with Emily dot com We can get all your sex information that you need to improve your sex life and have better sex and have a lot of fun there too Happy Friday everyone. How are you doing? I'm doing great. Yeah, right Easy week. What do you mean right? We're fighting right before the show. I was telling you to tweet more I tweet now telling you how to tweet. You don't want to hear me I'm just like I'm just waiting for a show. I'm like I whatever But we'll do it later or do it later and you always tell me to do later and then you don't want to hear me. You have to say, God, you're like, I'm just tweet for a show. You're like, I'm whatever. We'll do it later, we'll do it later.

And you always tell me to do it later and then you won't do it later. Oh, man, I'm so busy right now. It's crazy. Oh my God. Today's show, thanks everyone. We're happy to be here on Extreme Talk XM165. We're an honor to be here and we love our free Friday show.

Tweet us if you're listening at Sex with Emily. At Sex with Emily, Tweet us, Tweet us. We've got some big news. But first of all, let me tell you what today's show. We going to talk about why he or she isn't having sex with you right now And what you can do to get them to have sex with you as well as sex in the news and we got tons of questions and a few funny Articles that are going to be interesting about sexting and why we sexed and we're just chock full today But we've got some exciting news if you haven't heard yet. There is a new reality show called Misadvised

and it's premiering on June 18th at 10 o'clock at night, 10 o'clock Pacific and Eastern, and I'm on it. It's about three single dating experts. Do we practice what we preach? And it's four eight episodes, menace is on two, it's hilarious, and you should all check it out. And the promo is are playing this week on Bravo,

so that's a big deal. Yeah, they already been playing. I saw some, I had a record the television with my iPhone, just so I could capture, it didn't show to you. Because I couldn't, I was watching Bravo Trump, because it's exciting. You don't even know how to turn on the TV. Okay, that's true.

My TV, every time I try to turn it on, it's like... I know what happens. You explain it. Well, what happens is you try to hit all on, right? But then your cable box shuts off and your TV turns on. And then you try to hit it again and then your TV shuts off and then your cable box turns on. So what do I do?

You turn, you click TV and then power and then cable and then power. I'm writing this down. TV power. Why is it set up wrong? No, it just happens to everybody. It takes a while. TV power, the cable and power. I seriously text and met.

Okay, I can't believe we're talking about this in a sex shot. Why? Because people look through this. People look through this. I think that other people are having this issue turning on their television too. So now you know what's happening to me. Why does it all on work though? Why does it all on button work?

Am I remote control? I know because well this is what happens. You hit off on your TV, but you don't hit off on your cable box. And then so when you go to hit all on again, you're actually shutting off for cable box and turning back your TV. I just want my TV to turn friggin on.

I know. You want to watch your porn on. I know you want to watch your porn I understand I want to watch my part. You just got to listen for five seconds and I'll tell you how to fix it I just wrote it down, but I hope that I remember Jesus. It's Christ. So anyway, but you're gonna be on misadvised on Bravo television June 18th, 10th Monday night. Yeah, and if you guys want to participate in tweeting about it, hashtag misadvised one word. Yes. So join in the conversation, say you're excited. We want to see your tweet. Yes, I'm excited. Just tweet us at Sex Family or At White Menace

and hashtag misadvised. Misadvised one word. Because it's going to be a great show. You guys are going to laugh your ass off and learn a lot. It's going to be funny. It's going to be cray, as I say on the street. It's going to be cray. Cray.

Yeah, short for crazy. Thanks, man. That is cray. Anything else you'd like to teach me today? No, I'm trying, but for crazy. Thanks, Matt. I think I'll see you like to teach me today. No, I'm trying, but you're just so flustered. I can't do anything. I just have a lot going on. So tell me about you.

What are you doing this weekend? This weekend. It's a moral day. I know. I forget. Like, where the hell did the moral day just sneak up on us? I know, it's crazy. This weekend, I am.

What am I doing? Oh, okay. I have to go to the DMV because I lost my ID somehow on the way back from Vegas. Imagine that. And then I Saturday I have an appearance at a pick and pull. Do you know what a pick and pull is? No. Pick and pull is where there's a bunch of junk junkyard cars and people come to the junkyard to get parts for the cars. So it's called pick and pull. Okay. I have to be there for two hours. Fun. And then Sunday, I am going to go to a party. Oh, I'm going to go to a barbecue party in San Jose, California. Oh, fun. You love San Jose. Why did I say Friday, one today's Friday?

I totally forgot. Yeah, that sounds fun. I am, I'm going to, I know it's a long weekend, but I've got work to do and friends, I got a friend's birthday, I got an ex-boyfriend's birthday party on Saturday night. And so that'll be fun. And I am going to just hang out in the city. Chill, man. I love long weekends because everyone leaves and I can just get parking spots. Just drink some aloe.

You feel me? Drink some more lives and present me. No. I already did that all in Sonoma last weekend with my mom. She's got very drunk. No, you were, what's the pink one? You want to drink the pink one? House of Health and?

No. Rose. No, not Rose. What's the, Ziffin Dale? You want a nice Ziffin Dale? No, Ziffin Dale. No, Ziffin Dale for me. Oh, excuse me.

I like Pinot Grigio. Pinot Grigio, the $2, $ $2 two-dollar two-buck check from Trader Joe's no, but I still have some of that on the house for you Left over for my last party that I had that you totally come to my next one We're gonna have another one and it's gonna be really fun. I can't wait to do a taste test on you It's gonna be hilarious. I know he thinks that I won't be able to tell the two-buck check. Let's do that Let's film it. I would love to a video of me drinking expensive wine and cheap wine and me being able to tell the difference that it's $2 wine and $20. Okay, $40 wine. Oh, I can't I can't wait done. Come on. Wait. We're gonna have an intern party and all that stuff. So it'll be fun. Oh,

Are you gonna do it on a Friday? So I can actually go. Come Because listen people she always plans parties on days that I can't go well You can't go any day, but Friday or Saturday and that's annoying That's when people usually go out. No, I'm heavy. They don't go They don't go hard and go party on the weekday because they have to do work to actually Yeah, okay, whatever I'll do it. So I saw really believe it out because I don't see as many movies you do I saw a really good movie the other night. I, somebody posted on my Instagram said they saw you. Who? You said you look more beautiful in person than on the internet.

That's so nice. Which I don't know how. That's not possible. You're like without airbrushing? No. Yes, the movie hysteria. I think it's not in theaters yet. It was a Jimmy Jane sponsored premiere in the city.

And it's so, I thought it was great with Maggie Gillinhal. Was that how you say? No, Gillinhal. Fuck, you told me that already. Gillinhal, whatever name is. And it takes place like the 1880s when when women they always diagnosed women with hysteria, which is in 1952 they took it off the DSM3R. You couldn't diagnose women with hysteria, but when you did, every woman was big,

every middle-aged woman was diagnosed with hysteria. Whenever she was like, you know, moody, or something was wrong, like she's hysteria. So they'd go visit these doctors, this one doctor, who would manually basically masturbate them to the point of orgasm, and to treat them, which was like a total forest, because at the end of the day,

it's like these women were just sexually frustrated because their husbands weren't pleasing them they didn't know what they were doing and then the guy's hand gets hurt he invents the first vibrator and it's about the invention of the first vibrator to treat women with hysteria that's why I was treated so it's so all these like middle age women having orgasms from their doctor's office lined up around the corner. It's really funny and interesting and Maggie's like this Maggie plays like this, like, leftist, you know, socialist who's like all anti-everything and things that the reason we're in hysteria isn't real, diagnosis and that women just, women's husbands don't know how to sleep with them. And it's true, they didn't know about,

like, pleasing a woman until like the 1900s until like, Kinsey. Men had it better than, they didn't have to like learn how to go down on a woman. Yeah, they had a way better back Then I'm gonna stick this in and then the woman was Yeah, and then there was a hot meal on the table and clean clothes and not every chick out there I was trying to be like Paris Hilton right you think every chick is trying to make Paris Hilton right now I think every chick though that's halfway decent looking wants to be a model. If you just look at the internet right now, it's just an epidemic.

Really? Everyone, well, the whole internet now is just look at me, look at me, what I'm doing, you know? And any halfway decent looking chick, just things. Oh, let me do some modeling photos. Like, can I tell you how many self portraits I see of halfway decent? I know you hate that. Oh my God. You started a campaign, like, can I tell you how many self-portraits I see of half the way these are? I know you hate that.

Oh my God. You start a campaign, like, stop taking picnics. No, what I do, I'm really rude, and I don't care if they stop following me or whatever. I go, oh, thanks for posting that picture because I totally forgot what you look like. That's funny. That's me. It is true. I actually have an article here that I'm going to get into later about sexting and that

why men and women send nude photos, there's different reasons for it. Women want to sum it up, but I will get into it more. Women want attention. Of course. That's what they do it. They want the man's attention. They're like, I want you to want me. I want to feel desired.

I want compliments. Men do it because they just want to show off. And it's further ego. They're like, look at my penis. They said one out of every chat roulette, one out of four shots is a penis. Oh yeah, it's ridiculous. Because men just want to show off.

They're like, here's a penis. But women don't necessarily want to see that. So it's for them. They ruin chat roulette. I know. Well, it was never, it never really took off, did it? Oh no, it took off for a while, but then it just, every other shot was a penis, like, why?

Because men have an urge to show their junk. And women, honestly, we don't want to see your penises. No, penis is not attractive. We want to see them person, we want to see them person, but we don't really want to see it in chat or in an email. I know it's not attractive. So.

So, you don't want to attractive is people you need to go, you didn't post it on Instagram though, this photo? Oh, I did post it, no, not on Instagram. On your Facebook. On your Facebook. Go to sex with Emily's Facebook. Okay. So we brought up the television show earlier, right?

Right. And for some reason, some of the photos from the TV show got leaked out on the internet and I found them. Right. And there's this one of you just doing a ridiculous yoga pose with some guy in your legs or just spread eagle and your upside down. Like people go to facebook.com slash.

Sex and Emily right now, you post it on that page, right? Check out this photo and tell me you're not going to be excited for misadvised. Well, I went on a date for exactly pastime. Hashtag misadvised. I went on a date, I tell the story. Yeah, go for it. I mean, don't give it all away. I don't have to give it all away, but I did go on a date.

So the show was about my dating life and my work life, and do I practice what I preach. The verdict is still out. But I went on a date with a guy. I got fixed up. It was a beautiful day in San Francisco Bay area. We went to Tiboram, which is right over the bridge, and he packed a picnic, and he was, don't really realize. It was sweet, because I didn't bring anything. But I brought my big purse, my sunglasses,

my five-inch heels, but he had a picnic. Yeah, and I brought an avatar, and then he was like, oh, you went to yoga. I'm like, yeah, I love yoga. He's like, oh, I do this special kind of partner yoga. He's like, do you mind if I show you a move? And then he started throwing me up in the air, and my legs are a skill on

the internet right now. You look like you could be in Circus O'lay. Oh, that's how crazy it is. It is crazy, huh? Yeah. Facebook.com slash text to Emily. Also go to the misadvised Facebook. Facebook.com slash misadvised.

Like the page. Right. It takes you two seconds. How hard is that people? You're going to love the show. I'm telling you right now because I was there. It takes you two seconds. How hard is that, people? You're going to love the show. I'm telling you right now because I was there. It's going to be your new favorite show. I was there.

I saw the madness. Yeah, it was mad. It was fun though, being on a reality show. I'll believe it or not. So that's what we got for you. We're going to get into some sex news. All right. Okay.

What do you got? No, it's weird. Oh my god. This is so funny. Okay. Well, whatever. All right. It's just, I don't want people to, I don't want to be like, oh, watch me, because everyone's like, oh, I'm telling you it's an amazing show. Watch it.

There's some clips already on online. Watch the clips. Watch the clips and see what you think. You're going to like it. Three hot chicks trying to date. Okay. Sex in the news. Another woman was accused of attacking a cop with a dildo.

Last week, you reported that there was another woman that did the same thing. Yeah. I don't understand they must have knives around or something or but they're attacking with dildos. So this woman uh... Caroli was found by a police officer lying in the grass from a Joe's crab shack in Illinois. Yes, classy. She told the officer that she didn't the restaurant but it forgot her wallet at home. The police went over home. Caroli went inside to get her wallet in her sock drawer instead of pulling out her wallet she put a dildo and threatened the cop with it she claims the cop startled her she's been charged aggravated assault that makes it aggravated

assault so this is the second woman in two weeks that are attacking with by writers I don't understand that's like the first thing you pull looks deadly I don't know I don't know what the hell is up with that. But you know, she's out of her mind if she's at a Joe's crab shack. They had these things called the fish bowl. She was lying in the grass. The story is very complete.

She was lying in the grass. She sounds like she's drunk. You can find her wallet and then went home and thought it'd be a good idea to attack an officer at the Dildo. Yeah, she probably drank the fish bowl. Fish bowl is, it comes in like a fish bowl that you would have on your desk. Oh, you know Joe's crab shack. Yeah, she probably drank the fish bowl. Fish bowl is, it comes in like a fish bowl that you would have on your desk. Oh, you know Joe's crab jack. Yeah, we have

one here in the surface. We do. You're such a chain whore. I know. Right on, uh, right by pier 39. I don't go to chain stores. Chain restaurants. So obviously I don't know what you're talking about. I don't go to chain stores. I go to chain stores, not chains restaurants. Chain restaurants. Like our like our I would but I don't often Excuse me. I'm sorry Should lower yourself sometime I'm glad that you know about the fishball though. Okay First ever sex toy drive through is in Huntsville, Alabama. Yes, I Support this is a good idea sex toy drive through because it's can be embarrassing for people not everybody has like a good vibration store

Like we have in San and Sam and Sam. Just get me in and out. Exactly. The owner decided to open a new location for her pleasure chain in an old bank building and embrace the opportunity to use the Teller windows for a drive-through. The response has been outstanding. Customers have enjoyed the convenience of the sex toy drive-through. Okay, why not? I think that's a great idea because a lot of people want sex toys, desire them, but they don't want to go to the store. Another thing you can do is go to Adamineve.com, which is awesome.

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And you support our sponsors if you've never had a sex toy before, it's time. Because more than half of all women in the world have owned a sex toy. And especially after watching this movie, you realize that like... The vibrator, it's not ever going to replace a man, but it really packs a punch. And a lot of women have a hard time achieving orgasm only 30% can have orgasms during intercourse use a friggin vibrator do it you can search and get a click to roll one that's really strong I'm just saying try it without sometimes I do try it without but I love my vibrator here's another story

about a sex toy sex toy bike messenger delivery service. Oh, great. Oh my god, they're going to sell sex toys at McDonald's soon. When are you going to start your delivery service? It's not a bad idea. So Baybland, one of New York's most famous sex toy shops, has proudly rolled out a bike messenger delivery service

for phone orders. Customers calling their lusty orders have a bike messenger deliver their packages just greatly to their homes. Bayblends another great store in New York. And I think it's also in LA. So that's interesting to you, bike messenger service. Or a drive-through. Or a school on the way.

Yeah, I think whatever ways you can do it, there's this new, I don't think it's even real, but they're trying to do a taco delivery service with a helicopter. So what about if they just put like, you know, like remote control helicopters? they're trying to do a taco delivery service with a helicopter. So what about if they just put like, like remote control helicopters? Google it, yeah, people, it's ridiculous. But what about if they just, you know, take out the tacos, put in some sex toys

and the little helicopter comes to your house, drops it off and takes off. That's so cool. You don't have to make eye contact with anybody. I know. Remote control helicopters. Yeah. That's the funniest thing I've ever written. They're delivering tacos, isn't that kind of messy? I don't make eye contact with anybody. I know. Remote control helicopters. Yeah. That's the funniest thing I've ever

in the delivering tacos, isn't that kind of messy? I don't know. I don't get it. Do it now. I'm hungry. Get one of those helicopters in here. Dude, if they were doing Taco Bell tacos, I would love it. You know me.

Yeah, I was just thinking about you. I'm just obsessed with tacos. Taco Bell, not just dissentable tacos. I know, your plus Taco Bell. He's heat. Menis incestantly writes letters to the head of Taco Bell, telling him to bring back some taco from like 10 years ago. It's a taco that got discontinued in 1997.

That's right. It's called the double-decker for alarm taco, and I want it back. And I mean, while they're at it, they can bring back the Rancho steak burrito. Just saying, just saying, I want it back in my life. And the CEO, he never writes me back. What do you think?

He started Twitter campaign with Taco Bell. I tried. I tried doing that with Crystal Pepsi. Do you remember Crystal Pepsi? No. It was clear Pepsi. It came out in the mid 90s for a little while. And it just went away.

And you want to bet. Crystal Pepsi was huge for a while. I it just went away and you want to pencil Pepsi was huge for a while I don't remember I remember coke I don't remember but I hope you get back what you need I just want a four alarm double deck or taco make it isn't all the same it is the same I bet you could buy all the ingredients are you I don't want to I bet you could get two items a taco bell combine them and make the four or a dozen double alarm the reason for Dagger triple Bell the reason I go to talk about because somebody else makes it

for me I don't want to make it myself and let me tell you something I'm going to put a challenge to you if you can get them to bring back the four alarm double Dagger Taco I'll let you win the hand job debate. How about that? I'll bring it back just to win it. I will, I will. I will. Oh my god, done and done. Menace and I have a long standing debate

that many people who are might knew to the show. We've been doing the show for seven years. And if you haven't listened to the show before, we did have an ongoing debate. It was raging for about two years, like a bad case of herpes. It was, I think that hand jobs, I personally have greater movements. Menace is trying to bring back a taco.

I'm trying to bring back the hand job because I feel that women stopped giving hand jobs and that hand jobs can be really delightful for a man. You can use two hands, you can use lots of lube. And that hand job is a great thing a great addition to the other things that women might be doing to your penis and men is somehow twisted the whole debate to be say that i to say that i was saying give hand job and said a blowjob no that's not it you don't see me

what i was trying to say is a man can give himself a better hand job than any woman can give him give a hand job. That's all I was trying to say. A man is not going to turn down a hand job. Of course they're going to take a hand job, but I'm just saying a man can give it better to himself than a woman could give it to him. I think it's different.

I think a woman can give one that's equal but different. And I know a million guys are just going to email, like, oh man, I love a hand job. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying. Feedback at sexwithemlee.com. Email me. Have you ever gotten a better hand job from a woman than you gave yourself? Yeah, that's pretty much it.

That's the whole thing. That's the hand job debate. That's not going to happen again. I'm starting to itch. The guy knows his body. It's not that we don't. It's the penis. He touched it many, many, many times.

I'm trying to help guys out here and if women are listening When was the time you get your partner a hand job like seventh grade like do it again like we did him in seventh grade brother. How flasiel You know you could have both Look but sometimes you can do it at the same time flasiel and the hand job that's that's good There's also a lot of women who don't like performing phlegia. Well, the women, they might find an island and put them there.

You know what else they can do? They could try mask strips. I know this sounds really funny. M-A-S-Q-E. They're like a listarine strip that masks the taste of semen. So if you are a woman who doesn't like performing oral sex because you don't like the taste of semen. They're like literally listerine strips

that taste like chocolate strawberry, minger, watermelon, and it stays on your tongue for 15 minutes. Hopefully he'll come by then. And when his semen is ejected, you will not taste it. It will taste like chocolate or strawberry. So it's called mass. You can go to their website, which is,

part, what is it? Sexualflavors.com. Sexual flavors. It masks the sexual flavors of people. Are they local from here around here? I don't think they're local, no. They're not, but they're cool. We just got like a whole bunch of them if you want to give it to girls.

Here. What? No, I'm trying to think of the approach that when I would give it to a girl, just randomly like, you'd be like, Hey, you know when you're going down on a penis, and you just don't like taste, here you go.

That's what I should say, like that. I'm like that, like that. Yeah, something like that. No, what about if I just wanna give it to other girls that don't give me flashoes? That's fine too. I think it's nice gift. It's a great gift for that.

How should I approach it though? I think that you should say, these are fun, cool thing. Like the packaging is really cool. It looks like listering strips and be like, you know when you're guzzling jizm? Right. Yeah. Here, check this out. It's going to be minty flavored now.

Yeah, mint jiz. That's exactly what you should do, Matt. And it's a great gift for all your female friends. I'll bring you in a bunch of packs. I know what to get them for Christmas now. Exactly. Well, do you know when that goes back to another debate that we had? And I don't think it was a debate between you, but it was a debate on the show.

And I'd love to hear from you about this. After you got married, if you're married or after you've been in a relationship for while, did your partner stop performing oral sex on you? Did it go away? Yeah, this is good part. And this is specifically geared towards women. Did women stop? Did your partner stop performing oral sex on you. Did it go away? And this is a good part. And this is specifically geared towards women. Did women stop, did your partner,

stop performing oral sex on you when you got, when you became committed or you were together for longer than a year? Because there is that notion out there, that myth or whatever trend that women stop performing oral sex. When they're married. Is it true?

Feedbackatsextony.com. I hope it's not true. Or you know it's tweet too. Tweet us, sex lonely. Some people don't like to tweet that kind of information Now, but if you're open to it do it, but I think that's a travesty like I think that women and men should continue to perform oral sex Throughout your relationship. It's very important Yes speaking of oral sex

This is not really related, but I just wanted to transition here. Jury clears doctors in lost penis case, so they lost a penis, okay? A Jury and Tuesday found that an anesthesiologist who cleared a man for penile implant surgery was not responsible for a flesh eating bacteria that consumed the man's penis. So this dude in Rique, underwent surgery to correct his erectile dysfunction, which is a very common thing for men to have erectile dysfunction. Nine days after the surgery, his penis was filled with a flesh-eating bacteria that forced him to have his entire penis amputated. That sucks. So you go there to get your penis enlarged and then you have no penis.

To get it fixed for a reptile dysfunction. Yeah. And then you got no penis. Well, you know, he was trying to, you know, get a little bit better. Maybe as long as you're in there. Could you pump it up, doctor? But this doctor's, I guess, not responsible,

but can you imagine he had his penis amputated? Dude. That would be a nightmare. That is one appended you don't want to lose.. Yeah, you know, what do you do after that? I don't know you mean you probably get a you go down a lot you probably get a Sergit penis what's it called like a um you know, you're like a fake arm like an uh I can, uh, um, uh, uh, a limb prostate, prostate, not prostate, prostate, a prosthetic, a prosthetic piece.

Sorry. Well, we are out of it right now. That's Friday people. I'm sorry. It's fine. Okay. So this has happened to me, but I didn't get a Russian bomb squad called in. Russian bomb squad called into diffuse vibrator.

The incident occurred in the northwest part of Russia as police officers responded to a call from a postal worker who had identified a suspicious parcel which was emitting a ticking-like sound. The building was sworn by security forces and people were evacuated from the area after opening the package, the bomb squad found a vibrator that had been turned on by accident. That's why you should ship your vibrators without batteries in them or travel without batteries in them. I've done that so many times where my vibrator turns on at the airport. Why are you bringing a vibrator on the airport?

I always do. I travel with them. Sometimes the last minute I throw it in my bag. No, I would just get a new one in the city. Why would you travel with? Because I've got hundreds of vibrators in my house. Can't you just like ship it ahead of time? So when it's there?

No, I don't know time. I'm not thinking that far ahead. Ugh. Okay. What? I'm sorry, it's true. How many times have you been caught with it, you think? I've been caught with vibrators at the airport

about three or four times. Jesus Christ, your phone. It's you tweeting. It's me tweeting. Okay. So I am, I would you just ask me? My vibrator. I would say, how many times have you got?

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And then I did get pulled over for vibrator once and Michigan Really? Yeah, and he was like okay., I see, yeah, it's fine. And it's having a bunch. I don't care. Wow. Wow. But I like to call it a vibrator. I'm a classic chick.

But now they make all these vibrators that look like candy from the real housewives of Atlanta. Yeah, that looks like makeup. It looks like makeup. So you can go to candy. What is it like candy, whatever website is? But she sells these vibrators that... Yeah, look at this.

The bedroom candy is the name of the line. I don't know if it's bedroomcandy.com. I'm sure it would be. It's a great gift, too. Okay, we can get into some emails from the people. I love hearing from the people. What's going on? Thanks everyone for emailing us at feedback at sexwithemily.com.

We love hearing from you. Hey Emily, love the show. I've been listening for over a year on my iPhone. I have a safe word suggestion in response to a combo you and men has had the other day. Oh, yeah, huh. It is called the stop light. Red equals stop.

Yellow equals, I don't want to stop. Just let's turn it down a notch or switch positions. Green equals more. I love having a middle option because often I still want to continue but need to communicate that whatever we are currently doing needs stop. I also have a question.

Oh, first of all, so that's like when you're doing bondage or something with your partner, we always recommend that you have a safe word and I could not come up with a good safe word. I don't remember what I tweeted. I tweeted some stupid, like, cheese steak or something. I couldn't come up with a good one. But that is very, very common that people use red yellow green. That is a great, like, red bean style. It's like, we all know what that means. And so if you are practicing with your partner or your time, it's a great thing to do

this weekend. Tie your partner up for the first time, but make sure you have a safe word. We were trying to find funny safe words for you. How about this? You make me a promise. Next time you need a safe word, you're going to use two buck chuck. How about that? Two buck chuck. Two buck chuck. Two buck chuck.

No, it's not going to work. Why not? I'm going to come for the better one. But I like Redy-Legre, and that's good. Okay, but she's a question. This is from Mandy. Okay, Mandy. I'm moving you with my boyfriend of about 1.5 years.

One and a half years. Soon, we're both 28, and I've never lived with my boyfriend of about 1.5 years, one and a half years. Soon, we're both 28 and I've never lived with someone before. I was wondering if you were a man that said any tips to make it work. I want to stay sexy without becoming too familiar. I'm excited but a little bit nervous. Thanks guys and I can't wait for Miss advised. Mandy on the East Coast, she's from Massachusetts

and thanks Mandy for writing. So living with someone, I think it's so great that you brought this up because that is a number one killer of relationships is when people become so familiar with each other when they move in together and it can kill the relationship. You're asking me. Don't listen to her. It's true. You never live with a guy.

I don't want to stop having sex. But here's a thing. Here's what I'm going to tell you, sex. But here's a thing. Crucially. Here's what I'm gonna tell you, Mandy. Is that there aren't, I think that you asked your great question. How do you still keep it sexy? And I think that some of the things that you do is, don't go to the bathroom in front of each other.

Don't always walk around naked in the house. Still care about your appearance and as should he. So every time you come from work, if you can't focus on your change into your baggy t-shirt and sweats, sometimes that's fine. but still dress up for each other. Again, shut the door when you're going to the bathroom and just keep mystery alive. However you can do that, however you can surprise each other when you walk in the house, sometimes give a blowjob.

Perform World Sex on them, right? It's a good, yeah. Menace loves that. There was a couple good suggestions in there that I gave. There you gave it. I think so too. And here's the thing. There's a book that was written by an author that it is, it's called, um, mating and captivity. It's a great book.

And what it's by Esther Perrell and what it says is it's, it basically addresses this issue is that we are told in to say society that we should all become one. We move it with your partner, get married, get committed and we become one. We share everything. We have no secrets. I go to the bathroom in front of my post-face mask on. I shave my vagina hair in front of my whatever, my bikini, that this notion that that's healthy, but the problem is what we find hot and attractive in someone, like when we first few months

are dating someone, you can't rate to rip each other's clothes off, is that mystery? Is that excitement? When you move in with someone and you become one, which is a false notion, you lose all that. So try to think of whatever you can to keep that mystery alive, that whatever was there at the beginning, like whatever you can do to still keep things separate. They don't need to see everything. You don't need to share everything.

That is a fallacy. And I'm just trying to keep it exciting. Man, do you have any? My input is that living with somebody is, I find it a really fun experience. Again, do not, like Emily said, do not go to the bathroom in front of them. Try to keep some of those things private. I'm going to let you know when you move in with the guy, the farting increases.

This is gonna be... So if you're a dude, don't fart in front of her. I've dated guys who don't fart. They brought that up in the, in what was a Bridesmaid's, I believe it was a movie Bridesmaid's, but you know, guys just, they just let it rip when you start living with them.

So just gonna throw that out there. It's a choice though. Yeah. Men don't have to let it rip. And women don't either. My stuff with me, it didn't work out with me because I have such a crazy work schedule. By the time I get home, I'm extremely exhausted. I don't want to go do anything. The only time I go out is a Friday, Saturday night,

and I can't go out during the week. I go to bed super early. If you want me to give you some attention, you're gonna have to wait till Friday or Saturday. So that's the only reason that my stuff didn't work out. Okay, we can't talk about what the expectations are. And don't- They thought they were gonna get a bunch of attention

since we're living together. No, it's not gonna change, you, you know. So I mean your issue. It's a hard-hearted worker. Yeah, and issues that you had outside of living with each other is not going to change when you start living with each other either, you know. Right. If you're just going to need more communication and still do all the things that you've been doing far, this far, thus far along in your relationship to keep it hot. Don't get lazy. Don't get lazy.

People get lazy and they take their partner for granted. That's what you should not do. So good luck to Mandy and thanks for writing. Okay. Duremly, have you ever used solid coconut oil as a lube? How did it work? Is it? Yes.

This is from Keith from Minneapolis, Minnesota. I use Chrisco. So don't use anything like that. Coconut oil can actually be bad for you and irritate your skin. Try something with aloe instead or other ingredients that are known to work in lube. So that's what you should do. So don't use anything like that. There are so many like scented lubes you can buy and healthy lubs you can buy at stores.

I would not use coconut oil. Studies say that it is bad for you. Okay, dear Emily, love your show. I just want to know Menace is for you, so pay attention. I'm listening. I just want to know. Menace says he does not date white girls. Does he date black girls?

That is totally untrue. It's from Robin. I date all girls. I'm just saying white girls are just not on the top of my list. That's it. Why? Um, just not what you're attracted to. Not that I'm not attracted to white girls. I find a lot of white girls, gorgeous, but the only thing is I just don't find them as interesting.

You know, not as strange like, you know, you know, Becky, I know you're going to probably just want to go to the wine country and drink some wine. And you know, and your family wants to go play tennis. You know, I just don't, it's just not my thing. That's not a joke of white people, but that's not all white girls. That's not all, but it's just, and the white girls, man, have you ever been around white

girls when they get a lot of alcohol inside them? Man, like when I was in Vegas the past two weekends, there should be a law that just white people in general shouldn't allow to drink after 10 pm because they become extremely effing annoying. And I can imagine, or they're dancing their dance. And I'm white. I'm white. But the only thing is the area that I grew up in, I was the only white kid in my neighborhood. I didn't hang out with any white people in Tallah.

I was probably 14 years old. Right. So it was not what I was used to. All the girls in my neighborhood. Can we form our attraction? Who would attract a two-foot-a-young age? Yeah, yeah. And the girls in my neighborhood. I was really good for my attraction. Who would attract a two for at a young age. Yeah, yeah. And the girls that are attracted to were like land girls, black girls, even tongue girls.

I wasn't a browned white girl, you know. Right. Well, I think Robin wants to do you. Robin, bring it on. Okay. Let's do it. Say, thanks for that answer, minus we just want to know more about you. Okay.

Thank you. Hello, Emily. I'm a 23-year-old college student. I recently came out of a one-year relationship in February after which I waited a month and a half before I engaged with anyone new. Just to get over the person, I have then been with three people since the first two people. I was able to perform, I was able to perform without any issues. Then the new person, I had some issues keeping it up. At first, now I can't seem to get it up at all. Can it be a mental issue or a physical issue? Patrick from Washington, DC.

So he's having some erectile dysfunction issues. He can't keep it hot, hard or hot. So erectile dysfunction results from both physical and psychological issues. So I can't answer that it's either way and I don't know. It can happen after a night with a lot of alcohol or drugs. A lot of times that can impact your ability to get hard. The next time the incident happens, it can be psychological because

you start to worry so much in your head that it's going to happen again, it's going to happen again, oh my god, it's going to happen again, and then it happens again. So that part can be psychological. It takes attention away from like you being able to focus in the moment. So you have to learn how to get out of your head when you're having sex, this is for women too. And just focus on the sensations that you're feeling. Like I'm feeling good, this is feeling good,

this is feeling bad, but I think that if it didn't happen to you before, and it's just starting now, I wouldn't worry about it. I would just again, when you're with someone, focus, be in the moment. I know that sounds very like, oh, like meditation, whatever, but you have to learn to focus on the sensations that your penis is feeling in the moment

and get out of your head that's telling you you're gonna have an argument that you're not gonna get hard. And, you know, not to pinp out on your sponsors, hot rocks, but I just, the reason that, you reason that people, they want to try pills, they want to try magic things like that. The only thing that I actually, the reason that I'm down with hot rocks is because it's completely natural. You know, like other pills out there, who knows what chemicals are going to be in it, but the hot rocks is purely natural. What does it hurt to try something like that?

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And they have a 30-day money back guarantee, which, if you don't like it, you just send it back. Yeah, just try it out. Try it out. That's a great suggestion. Why not? But again, um, Patrick, a lot of stuff is mental too. You know, you gotta really think, think about, you know, what really turns you on too? Yeah.

What really turns you on, Emily? What do you mean? Like, when I'm having sex? Yeah, other than, you know, the guy's throwing $100 bills at your naked body and Louis Vuitton bags, like what really makes you worry? A lot of things. Other than Christian, Louis Vuitton shoes with the rest of the pants at the house.

I saw a pair of Louis yesterday in sex. I was downtown doing something and I ducked in because I knew they had him and I just looked at them and then I laughed Yeah, I love this shoe so much and you know guys that don't like going to chain restaurants like other than that What really gets you warning right exactly you should think about that But sometimes yeah when he's having sex you means we can say yeah No way if you're a fantasize if it's not about the girl that you're with yeah totally fine That's all fine. We have no problem with that

It's not about the girl that you're with. Yeah, totally fine. That's all fine. We have no problem with that. Okay, we can move into our topic. And the topic is... Well, we've got a lot of top. We've got a lot to discuss today. Okay.

But first, I want to be okay. Can we talk about the guys that you made out with on the television show, Miss Advise, coming out June 18th at 10pm? Yes, we can. Oh my God. If you watch the trailer right now, I am making out with two guys.

You're the only one. I'm the only girl out of the three women that's making out with dude. And you're talking about three sums and stuff like that. I know. Again, if you missed us talking about it, you have to go to Facebook.com slash sex with Emily and see the yoga photo that Emily has up there. That's something I kiss though. I know, but it's totally ridiculous. The guys you kiss, I don't even want, uh. You know one of them. Are you know both of them? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

You actually know both of them. Yeah, okay, one, I guess I can prove a, but the other one, man. That was brutal. I just, it was, it was, you have to watch the show. It was circumstantial. I had no choice. I had to kiss him.

I swear to God, I had no choice. And I got myself into a very sticky situation where I had to make out with him twice. Yeah. Yeah. Go. And then also go to the bravo. BravoTV.com and go like Emily's profile. Like my profile on there. Emily, search for misadvised and not. I know we're asking you to do a lot, but come on. We need your support in your love. We do our best to entertain you. We are trying to entertain you. Aren't we entertaining? This is the thing before we get into our topic about why she doesn't want to have sex with you.

Okay. Women, this is an article that I thought about you so I just had to bring it in and I got it right. Everyone. Well, everyone. Women, this is a study that came out. This is scientific, okay? This is not just some BS.

It's science Women sexed for attention while men sex to show off according to science So this is why we were talking about earlier why like every other pain every other Photo on chat relata whatever is all winners. So have you ever wondered why people so often feel compelled to send each other photos of their naked bodies? So according to Wired's magazine, we can't help it. The urge to sex is primal. Connected to the design of our sexual brains rather than celebrity culture or digital connectivity.

But it turns out that men and women don't feel compelled to sex for the same primal reasons. So it all boils down to this. Ready? The reason why we sexed. Men want to show off their penises and women want to feel desired. I don't know. Yeah. Because when I, okay, I admit it, I would sex with people.

But I never ever wanted to talk about myself. I just wanted to talk to them about what they wanted to do to me or what they just wanted to do in general. Right. I never say, oh, you know, do you want to check out my, my, uh, body. You're not the guy who sends around pictures of your winners. Oh hell no. Yeah.

Well, it says that they, um, it says that half of women sexual fantasies reflect the desire to be sexually irresistible. So in one study, 47% of women say they fantasize up being strippers and harem girls, whatever, or any other performance. Half said they imagine delighting many men. And this is why women enter wet t-shirt contest, they're saying. But men, so they're saying that women want to feel desired. Like how you always say that I want attention and I want compliments, I want to feel desired.

So how many naked photos are you sending out? I've never sent out a naked photo myself ever. I've never done it, because I just, I want to feel desired in other ways. I've just never done it. I don't want it to end up on the internet somewhere. But, Ben just want to emulate monkeys and whip out their dicks to display their sexual interest. So they're trying to show women that they're interested

and that's why they're doing it. And I don't understand the creepy guys that just flash people and like whip out their dicks. Like here in the San Francisco Bay area, we have this thing called Bart, which is Bay Area Rapid Transit. And it's our subway system. And I can't even tell you how many women that I know

that told me that guys just like whip in other dicks and showing them on the bar train. Just having public. So why? Women do that. My mom and I were just talking about that. We were in New York and two men did it. Well, we do that. My mom and I were just talking about that. We were in New York and two men did it.

Well, we were there. It was a long time ago. But I think I've told you. What does it get at that? I don't know. They get, they get, they're showing off. They're showing off. They're showing off.

They're showing off. They're showing off. Yeah. I think those guys might be a little sick in the head. They think that they're going to get a taker. If I showed 200 people on bark, then someone would say, oh my God. They're going to get down to knees and suck my penis. It's not going to happen.

You're insane and it's illegal. Okay, we can move into one of our topics. Why she does or doesn't want to have sex with you. Okay. There's lots of complaints that people have that women don't want to have sex. And men, so we're gonna get into why men don't want to have sex either.

It's different than why women don't want to have sex. Why do you think that women stop? Why do you think, give me one reason why you think she doesn't want to sex with you? Five reasons why she stopped having sex with you. Five reasons. They won. Number one. She's exhausted. She doesn't like her body. She doesn't feel like she's in shape. That's totally one of that is so she feels unsexy. Yeah. That's a big one. Boom.

Got one. Thank you. I knew you would. I knew you would. So a big thing for women and for sex and for sexual issues that women have is with the they have body image issues that they don't feel like. The men have that too. Men have it too.

If a woman feels unsexyxy she won't want to have sex she might have put out a few pounds she's exhausted or someone insulted her so that is huge factor for women what is the solution encourage her to take some time to pamper herself or treat her to an afternoon at the spa show me a tiz

sometimes something is simple okay ready men is the solution for this one yeah sometimes Sometimes something is simple, okay, ready men is the solution for this one. Yeah. Sometimes something is simple as paying her genuine compliment. We'll remind her how attractive you think she is and get her ready to go. This all goes back to why we're sexting. We want attention, we want compliments,

and we still feel fat that our ass looks fat in these jeans, but we don't want to think that you think our ass looks fat in their jeans, so make us look sexy. That's one reason why she's not having sex. She doesn't feel good about herself. So it is true. And men, and this is for men, a lot of men don't feel good about themselves too.

I'm not saying it's only women. Okay. Another reason why she might have stuff having sex with you is that she's angry at you. Yeah. You don't have any money in the bank. Women cannot get intimate with men if they feel if they're angry. So if I'm busy for something, I'm not'm not gonna wanna come home and rip your clothes off. So, but the problem is a lot of women might

bottle up their resentment. She might be so mad at you, but you don't have the slightest clue that anything's gone wrong. Has that ever happened to you, men? You're with a girl. She's mad at you, she doesn't tell you. Yeah. Right.

Sad or treatment. And then see, this is just a domino effect of how that happened. Because then a guy will say, what's wrong? Nothing. Obviously, there's something wrong. But then the guy will just ask, it's turned around times. And then he will be like, okay, I'm not going to ask anymore. Then then the woman gets pissed.

Then she blows up. Then she blows up then she blows up Well, what you got to do is just just answer the F in question. What are you mad about? Sometimes you buy I want to play these games If she quickly says no when you ask her if something's wrong and tries to subject ask her again and encourage her to be honest with you It's possible that after she gets out with what's bothering you off her chest that you can have mind-blowing makeup sex. So be kind, don't be like, what's wrong? Come on, newslething's wrong. You can quietly and calmly say, babe, what's up? It seems like

something's wrong. I'm really curious I want to know. It's all about tone. You know, men really go wrong a lot in society with women because they use the wrong tone. And if you're like, what's wrong? Why are you being up? She's not gonna open up. Be like, babe, I want to know, tell me. Like, seriously, looks like something's wrong. What's upsetting you?

What's wrong? Can you do that, Madison? Can you do that, tell me? Because guys get mad that you're mad. That's what happens a lot. They're like, why is that? Why is she so pissed at me? Why are you so angry? So if you approach her and with anger,

she's gonna still say, what about a fun nice and she still doesn't tell me? She will tell you eventually. But if you're nice, see you probably weren't nice. You probably annoyed that she was annoyed. No, I'm always saying, honey. She should tell you by that point.

Honey, what's wrong? Tell me. Oh, see if that makes you a problem. I really would like to know what's wrong. I'm really, okay, I'll tell you. You really want to know. I'm really okay, I'll tell you. You really want to know? I'm really glad you asked. Okay.

I feel like I always perform oral sex on you and that you never perform oral sex on me. And I want to know what, why? Do you not like the vagina? No, it's just, you just don't have the most beautiful vagina out there. That is so mean Then this is never seen my vagina for the record That's just you know

And it takes a really special goal for me wanting to go down there. Okay good. You just ended the relationship Good because you're already giving me drama bitch. You won't tell me what's wrong You're not going down on me enough. Jesus see that's how you do it or not relationship ended Related to end it there another relationship ended it's not gonna work with us Um, okay another reason she might not be having sex because a lot of guys are curious that we're together We're having sex and then she stopped she might be overwhelmed and again these could of course can apply to men Overwhelmed over what she might be overwhelmed with her obligations between her work

Workouts family drinks friends cleaning the apartment cooking you dinner if she's that type of woman It's a miracle her head hasn't spun off So when she gets home tonight offered help ease her body by ease her load by cooking dinner and doing the dishes Tell her that she isn't allowed to do anything but a sip of wine and relax. I guarantee you that she'll feel so loved and appreciate it she'll want to do anything to please you in return. All right.

So if a woman is stressed out and this goes from end to that stress and anxiety can wreak havoc on your desire, your wanting, your ability, your sexual desire to want to have sex. So, give her a glass of wine to her sit down. All right. Okay, she thinks the sex is boring. Ah.

Poor. She might not want to have sex with you, menace, because you are so goddamn boring. If you catch her yawning, admit sex, you might, uh, that might be a sign. Pound harder. So what you can do is do not pound harder. That's the worst advice. I love that menace gives just the worst advice so then I can just counter it with dough pound hounder.

This is what you can do. Have sex in different location. Incorporate affordiciacs. Binary naughty negligent or toy. Do something different people. Just buy or something in general. It's just bored and you've been together for a while and you haven't done anything different.

Buy or sex toy. Watch porn. Have sex on the kitchen table. I don't care what you do, but do something different. We all get into these sex ruts. We all get into routines, but she's not going to want to sex with you

if she's bored. All right. So. Fine. Fine, is that okay? So do something interesting. Okay, that's cool. I'm trying to think about the most interesting thing that a guy's done lately.

I got a foot massage. Foot massage. That was awesome. I'll get bored with doing that within like five minutes. You wouldn't do it. I mean, I would do it, but I just want to do it for a long time. Like, okay, so much work.

I know, it's awesome now. Okay, so then I've got here, why men don't wanna have sex? So if you're a dude and you're like, this is why it could be medication, antidepressants that you're taking, or blood pressure, lack of sleep, that could be a reason you don't wanna have sex.

Would I listen to Dr. Drew on Loveline? Yeah. That's his number one question, always. What? Are you on any drugs and your friends? Oh, we've got to check in same- That's the number one question. Do you know that that is the biggest libido killer

and sex drive killer as drugs? Is it, and so many people are on antidepressants? And I know I have a guy friend who just went on antidepressant, he's been going through a hard time. And he told me that he had to switch brands because he was having, he couldn't get it up. Yeah. And then it's weird because some of the brands... Or you couldn't orgasm.

Yeah. Some of the brands, brands, you couldn't either can't get it up or you just like last forever, you can't. Right. You just stay a breath. And I know it's a bummer because you're like, oh, I'm so depressed, I'm so depressed. Oh wow, I'm finally feeling really great. Everything's great. This pill really works. It's a miracle pill. And then opes, the one thing, the op then oops the one thing the oops the one sides effect is sex and that sucks because sex is so important It's so

here that what Pills do you know this is like why can't it give you a sexual side effect like your left arm twitches or Yeah, you know you take this pill you know take this pill you get an erection, but you will go blind like you know What is going on exactly, it's so bad. Why can't the side effects be like good things? Like, you're not hungry anymore. Like, you're not hungry for sweets. We spend millions and millions of dollars

on this kind of stuff. I know. And why can't they just get it down? Because it's all connected in your body. Your desire, your serotonin levels, all that stuff. Okay, so. You can fix everything with tequila. The song's saying. Yeah, tequila. Okay, so you can fix everything with the Kila the Psalm saying.

Yeah, that okay, so some other reasons why he might not want to have sex to Kila, Venice, loves to Kila is identity issues. When men feel uncertain about the role in the world, their desire for sex can dwindle. Depression might be linked to this, but isn't always, and this is what I've said, you've heard me say this. Identity issues for men can crop up when he is out of work. So if a guy doesn't have a job, or is looking for work, or is not happy, he doesn't want to, he doesn't want to sex. I feel that men tie sex so much to their self worth

and when they're insecure about their ability to provide, it's very primal. They don't want to have sex because they're like, I'm less a man because I don't have a job or I'd not make enough money. So this can really impact men's ability. So you gotta get just skin and touch with that and get over it, get a job.

But no, but it is true that it affects women more than men. I just know so many men who've gone through depressions or gone through sexual disfunctions when they're not working. So just don't be too hard or something. Get a job. All right.

Some men are turned off by aspects of sex. They turn away from sex rather than have sex. It's not fulfilling for them. They could feel criticized or treated unfairly. They might feel like sex is too much work. He might have sexual fantasies and he doesn't want to share. So that could be a reason. And then the number one thing for men is stress. Stress comes in many forms. It could be financial, like we said, personal family members, illness, challenges at work. And yeah, or fear of intimacy.

That's another one. Some men fear intimacy and they don't want to have sex. It's weird. I mean, they don't want to have sex. It's weird. I mean, you don't fear interest in intimacy. No, it is, I'm exhausted. Sometimes I don't want to have sex. Do you know what's funny? Talk to me. A little off topic, talking about not wanting to have sex

kind of, there's this Twitter account that I follow. They have, oh my God, facts, but there's also what the F facts. Okay. And here in our area, Silicon Valley, there's a man who's like this tech guy, who's 40 years old, has 14 children, but he's never had sex.

Okay. He's just like a donor. Oh, right. We did talk to him. We did? I think so. Keep going. No, no, no.

But yeah, he's 40 years old. He works in tech world. Um, I apparently he doesn't just doesn't want to have sex, but he donates his, uh, his sperm and has all these children. Well, there's some people are asexual and they literally don't have any sexual desire. So maybe that's him. Maybe some of the people I think though that claim to be asexual. I don't know. No, it's real. It's a real I mean, there's like asexuality conference asexuality Do you know who claims to be asexual is Morrissey? Really? Yeah, didn't know that Google it people really there's there it's no I know I know people who are asexual and they're part of the asexual movement and there's asexual there's like the society of asexual people, like whatever it's called.

There's like an acronym for it. It's real, like they just don't feel the desire and they want, they have a whole coalition. Now, do you think that they're into themselves, like they're... Into pleasure themselves, some are some aren't, so I don't even want that. It's weird. I know it is weird. So weird. Okay.

So, I mean, I mean, not saying it's bad, whatever. I'm not trying to have sex with you. But, you know, I mean, people, it just feels like a natural thing to wanna do, you know? To have sex with you. No, I know, because we want animals, you know? We're animals, you know? We're born just not wanting it and desiring it.

Whatever. But you gotta find out if that's you, if that's you, you're asexual and you cannot look it up online. I don't think this shows for you. Go to the Google, this shows up for you. Okay, so how do you get your person? We just talk about why you don't want to sex, but how do you get them your partner,

guy or girl, to have more sex with you? What do you think? Well, as a man, you just have to do a lot of things. You have to pay attention. You have to take him out places. You have to make him feel special. You have to do all these things. That's true.

And the other way around, you just say, hey, you want to have sex? I know. Women are so much easier, but here's the thing. The first thing is, you're not gonna like this, menace. You have to snuggle. No! Don't grope. So if you're a dude and you're in the mood

and you reach out and grab us, a woman, and you grab our breasts or our butt or our genitals, this move does not turn us on. Really? Nope, we're not ready, we're not turning on. How about I take my boob right now? Literally, it would be like, you, I'd be like thinking about like, what's for lunch? Like it wouldn't not ready, we're not turn on. How about I take it? If you touch my boob right now, literally, it would be like, I'd be like thinking about what's for lunch, like it wouldn't not do anything to me.

And I'd try, you could touch my boob if you want. I don't care. But women want to feel connected to our partners in ways that don't involve sex. So you naturally as a man think, oh, I'm gonna grab a breath and let her know, we're not turned on yet. Our brains are our largest sex organs.

Do something to turn us on, make me feel connected. So if you snuggle with me, without grabbing my genitals, that's gonna get me turned on yet. Our brains are our largest sex organs. Do something to turn us on, make me feel connected. So if you snuggle with me without grabbing my genitals, that's going to get me turned on. Oh, damn it. Yep. And do you know what also turns them on? You have to put it in the mood. Is when you take, take their head and you push it down into your crotch. Oh, that is.

Women love that. Never ever do the head push. Never push a woman's head into your crotch because she would bite your penis. They love it. It's the worst thing you can do. Or if you just take their hand and then put it on your crotch. Men have got work to do. Men have got to turn us on. They have to put us in the mood. You have to make a sexy sexy and want to be sexual. Let me tell you a little problem though. What's the problem? When I'm horny and I have an erection. We're not ready yet. You're not ready yet at all. I'm not even thinking about that. And then my erection goes down and then we make out,

we make out my erection goes up a little bit more and then you don't want to go to pound town right away so then my erection kind of goes down again. And then by the time we've done all that stuff, I'm so excited, I'm not gonna last that long. So I'm just saying, get to pound town right away. It might not, it doesn't work because we're not trying to. You know, you know, another thing that I wanted to,

I wanted people to experiment with is actually, you know what, have sex before the date. Just have sex get out of the way. Just get it out of the way. No, not the first date, but try it, just try it out. Maybe it's something that you've been dating for a while, but you still in that frisky mood of like, oh, you know, am I gonna get it out of there?

But you're not drunk enough yet before the date, man, is? I know. For me, this is probably not a good idea, but for other people, I want you to try it. Have sex before the date and see how comfortable you are in the date afterwards. Probably more comfortable.

Yeah. Like, um, but sometimes you're not ready to have sex yet. See, this is the thing. See, this thing, you guys are really, we're paying to the ass, I agree, but here's a tip. Studies show that if you hug your partner for 30 seconds only, it raises their oxytocin level. Oxytocin is a hormone that makes us feel loving and connected and helps us put

it in the mood. So start with a hug. Don't start with grabbing my breast. Don't start with grabbing my ass. We are not there yet. We are not turned on. You've got work to do. Okay.

Here's another thing that you can do. Do one to others. You want hot sex. You have to provide us with the kind of sex we want to have. Simply put, you've got to give us, you've got to give it as good as you get. Do anything to spell it out for you. If you want us to use our mouths, you have to use yours too. And you do it first. So if you want us to perform oral sex and you perform it on us first, you want something? Do it to me first and we'll do it with what comes around and goes around. Here's another thing, Manus. You're not going to like much, but I know a lot of guys are like this, but I don't date them. Is you need to talk, spend 20 minutes connecting with your partner and listening to her talk and

help her feel appreciated, helps her stress level go down, and then she's going to want to have sex with you. So that's what we got for you. That's great. Man, it's going to help. It's going to help you in life. Alright. Okay, that's what we got time for. Thank you for listening. Thanks for listening. Thank you. Thank you for your excellent. And all of our free Friday listeners and got a lot more shows coming for you. Please check us out at Sex with Emily on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and check out Miss Advise on June 18th on Bravo TV.

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