Sex With Emily - SWE: Her Big "O"

Episode Date: July 7, 2012

Emily advises not going to a strip club on a first date like she did on Miss Advised. Emily gives sex advice to a 34-year-old virgin who wants to find love, to a 15-year-old girl who wants to learn how to have her first orgasm, and a 30-year-old female who has tried everything possible to orgasm to no avail.  Emily shares personal stories about her first ever orgasm and what it takes to get her there.She also shares the number one reason women have trouble reaching climax and what they can do to achieve an orgasm. Understand your body, claim your own orgasm, and never wait for a man to have the “right moves” in bed. Also, Emily is on a mission to change the world with lube and a certain sex toy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Hey Evelyn, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand, it's so nice The women know about shrinkage Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my God, I'm off here.

So, I'm gone. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between for more information you go to sexwithemily.com. When you can listen to all of our shows, we've got hundreds of podcasts you can listen to, we've got blogs, we've got questions, and we answer your. We've got hundreds of podcasts. You can listen to. We've got blogs. We've got questions.

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Happy Friday. Happy Saturday. Lot of you blogging sex this weekend. So I thought a good topic for the show today would be the female orgasm. We're going to break it down. We're going to dissect it. We're gonna dissect it. We're gonna give advice if you can't have one because we got several emails this week from women, one age 16, one age 30, you never had orgasm.

And I thought, you know what, that's a sign. We got to tell women, we got to tell men, we're gonna take break down the orgasm. And we're gonna be reading your emails from listeners and sex in the news. We're not menists. What's going on? What's going on with you this weekend? Oh my God. I'm going to Michigan for the 4th of July. Really?

Yes. Going to Michigan to see the fan. Get a return as the superstar Bravo talent that you are. I guess so. And you're going to be mod by all the people of Michigan. I don't think so. I know. I did. We'll see. We'll see. We'll see. I'm doing actually a special screening of the Michigan

episode. If people haven't heard, I'm on the show called Miss Advised, at 10 o'clock on Bravo Television. I'm Monday nights. And this week's episode on Monday Night is the scene where we go back to Michigan is the episode we filmed in Michigan. So we're doing a big screening of the show of that episode in Michigan at a movie theater

Really, yeah, that's how you know, oh, you'll know cuz you're yeah, this is Friday, right? So you can still come Monday Man, I wish I was out there. I could see it. Oh my god. They would love it when you come I Can't I know it's Monday. It's hard. So it's fourth of July though. I mean coming up So I think I always go home every evening coming up So I always go home for fourth of July so it's like my Michigan thing to do which I love it cuz it's sunnyth of July though. I mean, coming up, so I always go home every, I mean, it's coming up. So I always go home for 4th of July. So it's like my Michigan thing to do, which I love it because it's sunny and happy and warm and my brother's going to be there. We're going to miss you. We'll call you. I miss you brother.

Love that guy. I know you do. So then, yeah, how have you been? What are you doing this weekend? I'm good. This weekend, as random, my friends are begging me to fly out to To St. Louis, Missouri Why and you're not coming to Michigan, but you're gonna go to St. Louis. What the fuck? I know no no, I'm not gonna go, but my friends are bringing me to go that so I'm probably just gonna go to Michigan

San Jose, California. Okay, my favorite. You love San Jose love San Jose. Yeah, I just can't take any work off man. I wish I could but You know, I do I radio, money through Friday. I know, I know it's tough. When you're not at work, people write notice that you're not at work. People are not there, that's why, yeah, I have to be the boss, but it's, you know, we know the boss, people, whatever. But okay, and hello to our serious XM listeners.

We're on extreme talk, XM 165. Tweed S if you're listening. Tweed S if you're listening, it's sex with Emily, and white menace. Not together, separately.. It's sex with Emily and white menace. Not together, separately. That would be sex with Emily and white menace. So yeah, what else? So the show this week, Ms. Advise was very interesting.

If you missed it, they're replaying it on Bravo all week until Monday's episode. And my date is a friend of menace's and he took me to a strip club. Yeah, and it ended up in the Huffington Post. It was in the Huffington Post that I went to. They recaptured your game. Exactly, they recapt my day, but it was funny to watch. You liked it.

Oh, I loved it. It's not that I'm not down with strip clubs. It's just that I... You didn't seem like you were like, I gotta be in the mood, I gotta be in the mood. You gotta be like, you know what I mean? You don't just go out to dinner like, let's grab some sushi and go to a strip club.

You know, you need to like, know that you're going to strip club. Yeah. And I didn't know I was going to strip club, not a good first day of material, but it was really fun. Love Ray love. He's awesome. And people and people loved it. They loved it.

They loved it. I mean, they were joking around like really going to strip club on your first date. Like they just thought that was funny, but overall the people that I read on Twitter because the hashtag for the show is misadvised. So you're on Twitter. Just click misadvised and you can just join in on the conversation about the show. And people who loved your date. I know it was hilarious. And then this week is even different. I was going to say even better, but you'll be the judge of that. that. You can also check out my book, which we talked a lot about on the first episode, Hot Sex Over 200 Things You Could Try Tonight.

You can find all of this on my website. You should buy my book, because it'll help spice up your sex life. I know. It's like selling like crazy now. It's selling like crazy. I love it. That's my dream. I'm very happy that it is selling like crazy.

We've got some sex in the news. Is there anything else? What else? You're being quiet today. It's weird. Being quiet? No, no, no, no, I just, man, I'm tired. I'm tired.

I did. It's kind of just, you know, I slow down. All the concerts that I'm involved in are all, like, all done now. And this is kind of like my resting time until August where the concerts pick back up and then I'll go to Chicago, to Lollapalooza, and then we have outside lands here in San Francisco. I love outside land, it's that would be fun. I know, you love going, because they have so much wine. I just like the VIP section with the wine.

Exactly. How do you know you know me so well? I don't know what to caramelize again, which was really beautiful. Wow. I know, because we haven't talked in a while. Tell me about Carmel. Carmel is lovely. Carmel by the sea is the actual name of the town.

Do you know this? It's not Carmel. It's Carmel by the sea, because you're by the sea. How long did it take you to get to Carmel? Two and a half hours. It's really beautiful. I hadn't been there in years. And we like, why were you down there?

Just for the friend. OK. Hang it out, a little getaway. All right. Walk on the beach with a friend, in quotes. Do you know that they actually shoot at e-reality show in Carmel? I know. I know. Have you been watching it? I sell the previews to it. Is it good? Is Wood in company? Yeah. Oh, yeah. I love it. It's hilarious. Is it your new favorite show? It is because. Oh my God. Dina Eastwood

is from the same area that I'm from. Oh. She's from Fremont, California. I'm from New York, but I did live in Fremont, California for a while too. And it's cool because she has the same attitude as me when it comes to, you know, fame and money and stuff like that. So I relate to her a lot. Right. Because, you know, there you are.

What's your attitude? Oh, she's very like humble and just conscious of like, how much things cost and, you know, much things cost and how hard people have to work and stuff like that. She's not just like, oh, I hit the jackpot because I married Clint Eastwood. And now I'm just a crazy millionaire. She's very conscious of everything that she's doing. Yeah, well, once you struggle and you always do, I guess, even if you make a lot of money,

you're always like conscious. Yeah, but some people just like forget about Everything that they came from I can never forget about where I came from. Yeah, I know you're saying about her Like I saw clips of it. It looked interesting. Yeah, so I really like her. She's like crazy and funny So I like her a lot. Okay, that's good to know I watch I mean they have a boy band. That's part of the show I'm not really into that part too much, but but the are cute her daughters and some yeah, daughters are good looking. They're very they're on a page. Well, no, one of the daughters is actually Her stepdaughter whose her mom is like a famous actress. Oh, I'll say something fish or I think I don't know I don't know either. I'm sure that that daughter the stepdaughter was the one that was all over the news. Did you hear about that? That daughter, the stepdaughter was the one that was all over the news. Did you hear about that?

Well her boyfriend is his famous photographer who actually used to be a famous X-games skateboarding guy. Okay, and now he does this like really abstract Photography and he decided oh, I want you to Take a chainsaw to this $100,000 airme miss bag and set it on fire. So they did it. They did on the show. Oh my God. The photos got out and like people were just upset about it. I'm upset about it.

I want that bag. I know you want that bag. Not that the bag can, you know, probably build three hospitals in Africa or something like that. Oh my God. No, just because you want the bag to wear it. Yeah. People are upset that it's so much money that's just going to waste.

Yeah, person's are expensive, but in their best bag, you took a thing, couldn't I just wear it one night out? No, no, no, no. Well, the stepdaughter, who's with this guy, is like, can I please just wear it around? So he let her wear it around town for like one day. And then I think I did hear something about that. But hey, do you know what? If you have the money to do it and you want to do it,

then you know what it is. Well, she's got that much money that she can just, no, she didn't buy it. It was the boyfriend that bought it and destroyed it. You make a statement. Yeah, to make a statement. It's a bad statement. Whatever.

Save the bag. You know what, again, people can have their comments, but if he has the money to buy it, and that's what he wants to do with it, it's America. It's art. I don't think it's art. It's doing art. Well, it's why he bought it. It's already a bit of a photographer. So what everyone's a photographer, you got a camera on your phone. I know. Yeah. But I try my best. Yeah, that's interesting. Okay, we've got our own sex in here. Which would be so pissed if that was your boyfriend. Dude, that was my ARMS bag and he was like, come over to the chain. So I take the chain, so I'll turn on him.

I'd be like, that's my freaking ARMS bag. I mean, I'd be pissed. I mean, I, they're like $10,000 bags. This is one 100,000. $100,000. It was like gold and crust it or something. It was crazy. Yeah. That's crazy. Okay. So today's show, like I said, we're going to be talking about orgasms. We always answer your emails that you send to feedback at EmilyMorse.com. That's the best way to email us, EmilyMorseMRSE.com. And we're going to get some of those questions later. But first, we got a little bit of sex in the news for you.

Okay, a man threatens neighbor with gun for flatulence. Daniel Collins, a 72-year-old of my new jersey has been charged with threatening to shoot his neighbor for farting in his home colons claims that his neighbor cut the cheese so loudly that he heard all the way in his home next door he was charged with aggregate aggravated assault and making terrorist threats well not sure that's just acts but i thought it was going to funny story

could you imagine that loud and he's gonna wear the, threatening him with a gun and New Jersey figure. That's really good. New Jersey, if everything happens in New Jersey. Oh, same bad things about Jersey, eh? Yeah, I love New Jersey. New Jersey figures. New Jersey figures.

Yeah, New Jersey are all the weird stories. It's true. Florida, New Jersey. That's where we should go. Florida more than anything. I don't know what's going on with people in Florida. Is there like nuclear reactors? There must be something going on.

And people in Florida don't get defensive. Just read the news in your town. Exactly. Tell us. Exactly. If you're in Florida, we love you, but you live in a strange state. There's like websites just dedicated to Florida news. And it's not like, you know, really? Cause it's all bizarre. Yeah. Maybe it's just sunny. The sun gets to their head. I don't know. Check out farc.com, F-A-R-K. Okay. .com and they just have a button that says Florida and all you do is click on Florida and it'll tell you all the wacky stories. Right. We're not just we're not making this up. No. Okay. A waitress sues L.A. bar over short skirt dress code. A woman claims she was fired

from O'Hara's bar from complaining about a new dress code for women that required wait staff to wear short plaid schoolgirl skirts and placed fans around the restaurant to blow their skirts up. This woman wrote a letter to her boss registering the complaint and it was quickly laid off. I don't know. I mean, they can do that in a restaurant, right? Like, hooters, you got to wear those shorts on the tank top.

I mean, if you work at a restaurant. Yeah, that's required. I mean, the fans are a little bit excessive. That's a bit much. What's not a strip club, is it? I mean, doesn't say strip club. Oh, Harrow's bar sounds like it. I mean, the fans are a little bit excessive. That's a bit much. What's not a strip club, is it? I mean, doesn't say strip club. Oh, Harrow's bar sounds like it, it might be, but that is like every man's fantasy,

is like a little girl, a woman in this plaid school. I think she should have stayed, she would have gotten good tips, but I know I wouldn't want fans blowing up. I'd do your job if you're trying to deliver someone a hamburger in your skirt to find out for your belly button. Yeah, again, businesses, man, you gotta work that stuff out. You can't fire a woman after they complain about something

because you are gonna pay severely, you know? Well, it's already in the news, yeah, exactly. Okay, sex toy company to donate high tech deal those to military wives. So I actually know this guy, you started a real touch. It's called real touch toys are trying to donate a thousand of their high sex toys, high tech sex toys to military families, which is kind of like the sex toy that we talked

about. The real touch is basically an electronic vagina that you hook up to a computer, then you download the software, pop an appornile, and the real touch electronic vagina. Syncresizes in motion to the actions on the screen. Real touch can sync their electric vagina to an electric deal, though. So basically what the man does to the e-vage, the stuff that I've been talking about, for the women's side and vice versa. Real touch feels that separate

and military families will benefit from their products. I don't get the whole watching a porno thing. They're rather just my envision is like, you've been talking about this for years and you should have done it. It's just like a Skype. You know, it's just like you Skype. You got the vagina on your side and then they got the dildo on the other side, right? And you know, you could be having sex with somebody in New York, right in your in California. It's amazing. I know. Hey, no, what dude? You know how many boyfriends and girlfriends you could have all over the country? Oh, you can have sex all over. That's true. That's a good point. Yeah.

You're like, okay, well, I feel like, you're being my cyber girlfriend and Texas today. Right. I bet you people are going to start doing that. They're not doing it already. Exactly. It's good to have them all spread out too, so they don't all know each other. What I've learned. Okay.

Man claims his genitals were burned by urinal and Arbise. A man in a Royal Indiana claims his penis was badly burned while using the urinal inside an Arbis restaurant. He claims that while utilizing the urinal in the men's room, a jet of stream shot for a shoot from the urinal and burned his penis. Shots. The urinal. Apparently it was a plumbing issue you caused with the chicken when the kitchen sink was in use. People are always hurting their genitalia at fast food diet restaurants. Like the guy who's building a McDonald's coffee,

he is, what is that about? They're trying to like zoom on, and they're just trying to like get money from the fast food chains or something. Oh yeah, of course. But I mean, if you're really injured severely by something, yes, then you should get paid. Yeah, yeah.

Conversation, but if you, you know, you barely get hurt of some freak accident, you shouldn't be paid out millions of dollars. No, I've been way. I'm sorry. Just have whatever medical fees that you have in cover and I got the pain in suffering and psychological damage and all that stuff. But that's when my brother's a personal injury attorney. So, okay, that's how he makes a living. Juanie Collin. Collin. Okay, elderly man calls fire department to cut off stuck scock ring. Uh-oh. A 70 year old man in England spends 36 hours stuck in a cock ring last week. He arrived at a manchester hospital unable to remove the

sex toy from his genitals. The hospital staff had to call the local fire department to cut the ring off in the same method they do for rescue situations. He and his cock survived with a ring died. Um, this is interesting story because I actually on the first episode of Miss Advise show on Bravo that I'm doing. Um, I actually have a conversation about a cock ring with my brother.

And someone said to me, that was the first time it's been on national television. Someone talked about a cock ring. Now, I don't know if that's true or false. What? Um, you would know because you watch more TV than anyone. Well, do you know what? I've never, I never really, I can't think of any time that I heard somebody talk about concrete. Exactly.

And the reason why I talk about is because the kind of rings that I talk about are not the ones that would get stuck in your penis because they're stretchy. They're stretchy and they fit all penises and there's no way it can get stuck on you. But this is like the metal ones, like it's like a metal, the ones that people use, whatever, there's like the metal ones. But I like the ones that vibrate and they feel really good for the man, they can help you stay harder longer. And for the woman, it's got a little vibrator on the end. And it hits her clitoris in the right space. And I think everyone in the world should have a cock ring. And you should buy one from good vibrations. The Neo vibrating cockating Coviding from Good Vibes,

you can find it on our product page on our website, sexwithmly.com. And if you use coupon code GVMly15, you get 15% off, and you should buy a Coviding. It's a little, yeah, what? So they have the vibrating ones, right? That's a vibrating ring. It is a Vy, it's awesome.

It's the Neo Vibrating Ring. So it stretches, it vibrates, you won't be like this man in a hospital trying to get it off because you can easily get it off. There's no problem there. Okay, we've got some emails from the peeps. Good, did they say where they're from and how they're listening? No, some people do, some people don't, and in fact, we've got a whole bunch of new listeners now because we're doing, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's,

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And we also want you to be brief, Ish. Raise brief as you can with your issues. I don't need that much backstory, but yeah, those are the only rules. And we try to get to every email. And if we do answer your email during the show, we will let you know. We'll send you a note.

How about that? Good. Okay, dear Emily. Oh, I didn't listen a lot on Stitcher too. Oh yeah, let's talk about Stitcher. Okay, real quick. This is where we record the show every day is Stitcher and it's an app where you can download it for your phone. The app is free and then all you got to do is search Sex with Emily. You can take sex with Emily on the go anywhere you want to go. Yes, Stitcher is amazing. This is for your iPhone and your Android and for your iPad and your tablet, whatever. Right. It's a great way to listen to podcasts. It was so funny because I was walking with a friend the other day and she's like, I

just want to listen to your show, but I wish there was a way that I could listen to it on my phone, but I don't get it. I'm like, Stitcher, like how did she not know? And she was like, oh my God, this is the best thing ever. I've always wanted this. Like, it's just amazing. And she was like, oh my god, oh my god, this is the best thing ever. I've always wanted this like it It's just amazing if you like podcasts Citrus

thousands hundreds of thousands. Yeah, oh Paisies free app download it listen to our show and we've got like a hundred just this is why I'm annoyed by your friends They don't know stuff like that and They don't know not to call you during the times that we're doing the show. I know you hate my friends, but no one's called yet today. Yeah, because you're being at a different time. That's right. I know my friends don't know. My friends don't even listen to the show, but no, they do. They listen to the show. Whatever your friends don't listen to the show, do they? Yeah, they do. They like quote the show and stuff like

that. No way. Where? Oh my God. My friends support me and I support my friends. That's how it goes. Well, my friends are busy. Yeah. Yeah. It's getting. Okay. So we got your emails here and thanks for your emails.

We love it. Go to sexthelme.com for more information. Okay. Dear Emily, hi. I just want to say that I'm a male 33 and straight. I think your new show on Bravo is awesome. And I think you're unbelievably hot. I wish I lived in San Fran and I can't believe that guy you and I with took you to a nasty strip club. Anyway, it wasn't nasty. It was a classy one.

It was a classy strip club. You got a private room. Yeah, I looked nice to me compared to the last strip clubs I've come to. I know. And they made it. Honestly, I have nothing against her clubs. I just would not suggest taking your date to a strip club on the first date. Maybe the second one. Right. But thanks, dude. I don't even know how that's from because he didn't sign his name. So don't we sign your name? You don't, you can fake your name, but just tell us where you're from. We don't care. Call yourself whatever you want. But it's interesting because I just got interviewed for my book publisher. I have a book called Hot Sex, and you can buy it on Amazon. And it's, they were interviewing me for a video they're doing

and they were like, what's your best first date tips? Because people always ask that. And I was like, you know, I was like, what's the great first date to you? And honestly, for me, it's not about like, oh, we picked me up in a limo and we had roses in champagne and then he took me to this fine restaurant. I think it's all about the connection with someone.

And then if you have great conversation, you can be like walking in the park. Like, I really don't care if you spend a dime on me. I just want to connect and have conversation and see if I like you or not. So does you don't have to plan anything, all fancy, super, whatever, just be good conversationalists and learn to listen and learn to talk? Because girls like to talk. Yeah, they love to talk. That's the number one thing.

And just ask questions. And try to have a conversation where you don't say, I that much. I, you know, I know you wanna relate to something that they're talking about. Yeah, when you bring it back. And you bring it back, it's like, oh, you're talking about Michigan.

Oh, I went to Michigan. What's missing? Yeah, I went to the all the places in blah blah blah. Those are called non-listening people and annoying people who always make it about themselves. Yeah, I've been accused of that. But I don't think I do that. I think I've been very conscious of it in my life to not do this much early. Yeah, I have to catch myself sometimes because I don't want to do it to talk about myself, but I just want to do it to try to keep the conversation going. Right. But that's not a good way to do it. That's not a good way

to do it. Oh, you went there. I loved going. Right. But that's not a good way to keep it. That's not a good way to do it. Oh, you and there, I loved it. Right, so don't do that. And check out the website for other tips, because we have lots of good tips there. Okay, dear Emily, I just bought my wife, the Form 2, which she really likes, the Form 2 by Jimmy J. We used a water-based lube, wet original,

but after a while, the lube gets all gummy on her hands and the toy. What lube would you recommend to use with the Form 2 that won't get sticky? Thanks Tom. Okay, first of all, he's talking about the Form 2, which is my favorite sex toy from Jimmy Jane. Just go to my website, you can check out jibbj.com and there's a coupon code, you can get toys there.

It's an amazing cute, it's amazing toy. I would try Slickwood Organic Silk Loob. It's a half water-based and half silicone-based loob. And so it's a hybrid. So it has a naturally silk and creamy texture, and you can get that at GoodVibes.com. And that's a great place to buy it. It's my favorite right now. I have so many loobes, but it is my favorite.

It's long-lasting and perfect for people with sensitivity, since it also is glycerin and paraben-free. That's slick-wid. Sliquid. You're not a loob fan, are you? No. I want to loob on every night, and you really don't use loob ever?

No, no, no. If I gave you someone to use it. Maybe. I mean, you know. You just don't like any extra. No, I'm just saying that I have in. I am not. Yeah, yeah, I'm not really dating chicks that require a loob. It's not about okay. I'm glad you said that. Loob is not a requirement. Sometimes it is. Okay, listen, loob has a bad rap. Everyone says that loob is because I was dry or like there's a problem.

So let's bring in the loob. Not about that. Loob actually helps enhances your sex life. And for women, it can just feel really good to have loob rubbed all around on your clitoris and all that stuff. So I think that loob is great to use every time you have sex, and it's fun with the sex story too. And my mission in life is to have loob on every night stand in America, in the world.

First America, then I'll take over the world with loob. All right. Okay. Dear Emily, then I'll take over the world with Lou. Okay. Dear Emily, you're my absolute favorite. I miss advice. You are darling and it's been fun watching the show. I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years and was feeling kind of bummed.

Your show has shed some fun light for me from Lauren. Don't know where she's from. To miss advice, got so much love on second episode. Oh my God. Oh, you mean on Twitter? On Twitter, yeah. It was probably 80% positive. That's good.

Yeah, it wasn't negative. That's good. Yeah, the first episode, I mean, a lot of people are just tuning in because, you know, everyone loves to hate whatever. Yeah, so it was like, it was kind of like almost 50, 50 on people liking it, but this second episode when I went and checked it on Twitter,

it was like 80% positive. That's awesome. And you West Coast people need a really watch too. Oh, it's more East Coast. A lot of East Coast people watching. West Coast, come on. Come on West Coast, support us. West Coast people, Monday, 10 o'clock on Bravo.

Yeah. Miss advised, because we love it. We love when you listen. OK, we love when you watch us. Dear Emily, background, 34-year-old guy, virgin, never had a relationship. This is due to my practically lifelong struggle with major clinical depression. However, with the cracked medication, the issues are largely resolved finally and I feel great. So as you can imagine, I'm now out there trying to meet the right girl.

Positive qualities, I'm handsome, I make $80,000 a year. I'm a graduate degree of University of Michigan Where I went to school. He this is from this person's actually from Michigan. Wow Good personality responsible good credit. That's good. We only live in debt and he's fit negative qualities Can't think of any. What is that? Wow, pretty confident. I don't know why you have a problem, 10. Any ideas on the best way to address, talk about the issue with lack of relationship at my age, medication, et cetera. I don't have an issue with getting match.com first dates, but getting to date number two seems to be an

issue. Maybe it's just a lack of chemistry, but I'm guessing that there are some areas I can improve upon, thoughts, thanks B. So this actually came in today. There was an article in the Detroit News, which is my hometown paper about misadvised in the show and all that stuff. So he wrote me this morning.

And I just thought it was a really interesting thing like he's 34 year old virgin. And I would just say that, wow, this is a heavy one because I'm sure there's some areas you can improve on. First of all, I would just, I mean, it sounds like you're a really comforting guy. And I'm glad that you, I would say that, you don't need to spill it all on the first date.

So I'm not sure if you're feeling the need to tell these women on the first date that like you've been depressed or that you're a virgin. Like I wouldn't even bring that up. I would just like like we were just saying, ask a lot of questions, talk about yourself, talk about what you love, talk about what you're passionate about, and I know that maybe that you have the inclination that you feel like she needs to know that you're a virgin or that she needs to know that you haven't been dating, but like women don't want to hear that, guys don't want to hear that, like just go and being yourself, keep a positive, talk about

all the things you like, and then I think that that's a good way to start. As far as things you can prove upon, I mean, I would just say, I mean, the sex thing could be tricky, he hasn't had sex yet, it's 34. Yeah, that's a little tough. Hopefully, it's just masturbating a lot. I hope they're masturbating and fantasizing. By the time he has sex, he won't take two seconds. Right.

Masterbate a lot. Also, the most important thing is, if you do one of these dates, you get the second date, the third date, and you have sex, don't trip on it. Women ask her what she wants. Like, please her, like, figure out how to please her, ask her what feels good, and I think you will be fine. But I'm proud of you that you, I you for writing and I'm glad you got medication

and everything, you sound like a great guy. And as email, he sounds pretty powerful. You sound awesome. Sound confident and that's what, when you want to. Wait, confidence is, it should be, if you are not a confident male or female listening to the show,

that should be your life mission is to cultivate confidence. You should learn, if you're not confident, fake it till you make it, I don't care what you have to do, but that is the number one thing that people find sexy is confidence in people. And if you don't have it, you're not going to find anyone. I would say also, there are some books and some things that you could read that would help you. The courses you can take on dating, on relationships, I could suggest them to you and I will send you an e-mail. Okay, thanks.

Next email. How you doing, Madness? I'm good. You're okay. I was freaking out because there was some garbage by me. You made garbage? And I just didn't like the garbage, so I had to go through the garbage. Would you like obsessive compulsive?

Maybe, I just kept on looking at it. I was like, I was making you tense. I don't want you to be tense. I want you to be fully relaxed. That's my iPhone app. You have an iPhone app, it's called Cakele Camp and oh is there so many, so many of you are messing with that. They're like oh I'm going to watch Mrs. Vi, Miss Advise as I'm doing my Kegels.

So if you don't know Emily has this app again Kegel Camp. Kegel Camp it's amazing. And how does it go again? It goes tense. It's guiding you through it. I guide you through your Kegel exercises sizes, which are for men and women. And I'm telling you, I've had more, first of all, everyone assumes that the keglet's are just for women.

But I've gotten more emails from men who say they see dramatic improvements in their stamina, their ability to stay hard longer, and for women longer strong orgasms. And all it is is that it's very simple. I walk you through it, and it's a reminder every day. If you want to set a daily reminder or twice a weekly reminder, I don't care what you do, but it pops up, it says time for kegel camp and then you do it for five minutes

and your sex life will improve. So download it now in the iTunes store. All right. All right. Hi, Emily, I'm 15 years old and I have a big problem. All of my friends masturbate frequently and get orgasms almost all the time. I have never gotten orgasm or ever felt any difference from masturbating and stroke

at your arm, aka nothing at all. This is very disturbing for me and it would mean the world to me if you could help me out with this issue. Lots of love, Julia. Okay, Julia. Allison. Not Julia Allison. She's the other over on the show. Okay, you're 15 years old and you're big problem. This is not a big problem, sweetie. I'm so glad that you wrote because I'm curious. First of all, you have got to work.

You've got to figure out your own body. So I'm glad that you're doing this now. And maybe you're not touching yourself in ways that make you feel good. So you need to really experiment and not be all cut up with having the orgasm and sitting there in the moment and thinking, I'm not having orgasm. Because if you're in your mind about it, it's not going to happen. So really just a matter of taking the time to explore your own body and what feels good to you.

A lot of women can easily have orgasms. I'm not one of those women. I was not one of those women who was like writing a horse when I was eight in hand orgasm or was you know in the bathtub. Like there's a lot of women who just like had orgasm and I found those women annoying. It's just like Julia because it's like why can't that happen to me. I would also say if you know I would say commit do my friends test commit to 30 days of every night you're going to masturbate and you're going to do it for half hour and you're going to try to figure out what makes you feel good. You can also, if that none of that works and you touch yourself in all these different

ways, buy a sex toy. Vibrators can help you have orgasms. Yeah. I saw the sex toy called the anal ripper. First sex toy I ever seen in my life when I walked in the sex shop. That was the first one you ever saw? Yeah, it was the anal ripper. I'm sorry to hear that. I wonder if that's still around. You gonna look it up? Yeah. I should never ever let anybody look at my phone after looking this

up. So I know. So Julie, I would say that it sounds like you said that that it says since you feel the same as soaking arm, I totally get that. I've had that. Like I was that, that it says since you feel the same as talking or I totally get that I've had that like I was like why don't I feel anything during sex? What and I really had to work on understanding my body like maybe you're nipple like you need to like touch yourself all over your body like take a bath, spend a night alone and just like keep working on it, keep going for it. And then again, you could also try sex right, but it is not lost. You will have an orgasm.

I promise you we'll keep working on it. Let us know how it goes. No, my God. I was trying to find the anal ripper online. Still exists on the planet. There's so many different sex toy websites that can't even tell. If you want to buy a sex toy, you should just go to my website, the product page. Sexwithamily.com.

What's on the products page? We've got amazing products actually. We've got two. Did you just re-adventure site. I haven't spent much time on that yet. You haven't gone to the products page. It's amazing. All of our, we have stuff from good vibes. Good vibes.com sells amazing toys. And we've got a coupon code there that you can use. And I actually have a page on their website.

It's an amazing store in San Francisco. But they also have a great website. And I think a good beginner vibrator. I mean, we give a bunch of toys that we feature. I've my own page thing. But I think the pocket also have a great website. And I think a good beginner vibrator, I mean, we give a bunch of toys that we feature. I've my own page thing, but I think the Pocket Rocket is a great first time vibrator, it's small.

There's also ones that are discrete and quiet, like Julia's a 15 year old girl, she might not want her mom to hear her, I don't know, but you can sort by like discrete vibrators or I wanna insertion vibrator. A lot of women need clitoral stimulation, most women need clitoral stimuli. We're going to get into orgasms later.

This is all about orgasms. But then I've got the Hitachi Magic wand, of course, on my website. I've got a cock ring because I think those are important. I'm going to change the world of cock rings and lube. And I've got a lube, and I've got a bunch of stuff. Check it out. Okay, we've got a lube and I've got a bunch of stuff to check it out. Okay, we've got another one from a woman who is not experienced in orgasm either and that will get us into our orgasm show. Hi Emily, what are you laughing at? I'm just our orgasm show. Do you have a bummer? Like men are just like you have orgasms like when

the wind blows and women can't have orgasms, women have a heart attack. No, this is how and women can't have orgasms, women of a hard time. No, this is how... Just nature sucks, man. Seriously. I know, it's so unfair. It's just like, why... Why did they make it that way? Make it so hard for you guys to do that. I don't know, it sucks.

That's my life purpose, though, is to help people. And because it's so hard. Nature is excess. Seriously. Like, men of a penis, like, you guys can just... Like, you never, like, oh, what if I won't, don't have an orgasm. You didn't worry about that. I had to give to you, because you know, you guys gotta have kids,

gotta go have, you know, having your periods and stuff like that. You gotta go through a lot of crap. Yeah, have some compassion. So maybe that's what makes you so effing crazy. It's like, well, the hormones, when you, seriously, when we're menstruating as women, our hormones literally...

It's insane. You are going to say, like, no, like, one day I'm fine, happy picking roses, next day I want to chop everyone I know into small pieces, including you. It's like, but how do you not notice that? You do, you switch your brain switches and you're like, I'm not a serial killer and I can't do anything about it. Yeah, yeah, but how do you not notice that? You do, you switch your brain switches and you're like, I'm not a serial killer and I can't do anything about it.

Yeah, yeah, but how do you not notice that? Okay, I am just being a crazy person right now. We do notice it, but we can't help it. You can't help it. You just get crazy. And yeah, it's not fair. I'm not saying that women are crazy. Who does say you do administration island?

There has to be like an island. There is, there are places in different cultures that they send women when they have their peer like the red tent. Really? Yeah, that all the women get together and like Palli sit around eat chocolate chip cookies and eat a chip hole. They just chip hole. And like just bitch about the ones. Yeah, where do I go? I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. It's tough. Okay. Hi, Emily. I wrote you yesterday on Twitter about never experiencing orgasm on my own. I'm a comedian. I've many jokes about this issue, but really, but the reality is it's true.

I'm 30 years old and have never had an orgasm. Sex and masturbation feels fine. Just not great. It doesn't hurt and I'm able to get very turn on, but there's never a release and I have faked it every time I've ever had sex. I've tried many different vibrators and collateral stimulation. I've tried muscle relaxers and alcohol because close friends have told me I need to relax. Nothing seems to work. I've never experienced

any kind of sexual abuse in my past and I'm comfortable with my body and far from approved. I'm worried that my vagina is maybe broken and that getting to that experienced orgasm is completely hopeless. I thought maybe if I had a partner who knew what he was doing and got to know my body that it would happen, but I've been with the same guy for eight months and it never happens and he is a very giving lover as far as foreplay and oral is concerned. I have faked it every time with him and don't know how to tell him that I simply can't get there.

I've grown to resent him for having to fake it even though it's my fault for not being honest with him. I just feel like it's too late and would ruin his ego. I also feel like telling him it would be pointless since I feel like it's a physical problem with me and not his lack of skill. Please help any advice you give would be extremely helpful since serally Trisha. Yeah, she was DMing me or I aming me wherever on Twitter. She was DMing me or I am me whatever on Twitter. She was DMing me. I was like send in an email like it was like all this up Okay, first of all you are not broken Tricia. I think your vagina is totally fine And I'm curious how much time you actually spend masturbating and it says you do you do you've masturbated a little bit?

Well tell tell her the story about your three day right three day in Arizona. Right. Right. You've heard this. But when I was in college, my best friend had never had an orgasm and I hadn't had one either. But this is before I knew her. Anyway, she was like 19 and she went away to Colorado for the summer. She had an internship doing something and she decided that she was going to spend every single night for 30 minutes or an hour or whatever until she had an orgasm

and she touched herself here and there and everywhere. And finally by like the third week, like she literally didn't feel anything, she had an orgasm. And so this day she's now like has three orgasms every time she has sex. Now let me tell you something. It's it's it's about understanding your own body. So that notion that we think that a man is going to all of a sudden have skills. I've actually decided that it's not, I mean, sure, man can have mad skills with their tongue or their hands or whatever, but it's the responsibility of the woman to claim her own orgasm and to show a guy what feels good and to move in a way that makes it feel good for you. And so since you haven't ever had an orgasm, you don't know what to

do during a sex and you keep thinking, oh, he's going to do something right this time, he's going to do, he's going to move to the left or the right, but you haven't made it happen for you yet. And I guarantee you the first time it happens, it's probably not going to be with a guy. So you say you've tried a vibrator, I'm wondering if you try it once. You know what it is, you say like, oh yeah, I tried that, I went to therapy, I went once, like whenever people say that, like that doesn't count. Like trying a vibrator once, twice doesn't work. I mean, you need to therapy, I went once, like whenever people say that, like that doesn't count. Like trying to vibrate or once, twice doesn't work. I mean, you need to make this your life mission.

You should go to your doctor of course and get a check up. I don't know if you're on any medication, you didn't say you were. But if you are on your, if you're taking antidepressants, that could absolutely have an impact on your ability to have an orgasm. But your vagina is not broken, your friends are right that you need to relax and you need to masturbate, you need to dry yourself a bath. You need to get out of the bath and just like touch your body and figure out, it makes you feel good. But I would also for sure get checked up by your doctor, talk to your doctor, talk to your physician

and tell them the problem. Yeah, I mean, I always say the key love, but she said that she's already tried alcohol. She tried alcohol. Which is awful to me. It's baffling. Menace always has an orgasm when he drinks, but no, I would just say that yeah yeah, well, we're gonna move into the orgasm show right now. So this is gonna help all these women who can't have orgasms, which is really frustrating. Can you imagine menace if you like, if 30 years old and you never released? Yeah, that would be, definitely.

Like, you'd be like, yeah, I feel sad. I'm sad for her, but I'm gonna help her right now because we are gonna get into orgasms. All right. But what were you gonna say, tell me what? Tell me about your first orgasm. You can remember. It was in college. It was amazing.

It's okay. It's so discreet. I was on top and he was on the bottom. And I don't know what happened, but it was like lightly like rubbing against him. I was and Alva's son I felt it felt it felt it felt it and it came and it was it was it was amazing but it didn't happen like very frequently after that and I have to really like I am not an easily orgasmic woman shock but I'm not and so I just I you know a lot of women need to use like sex toys during orgasm They need clitoral stimulation, but that my first one was in college with a boyfriend and I was like thank God But it didn't happen a lot with I think it only happened once with him

Was there anybody that he had it a lot with? Yes, oh man Haven't all the time. Yeah, there was. Why do you think that was? He was hot. He was, this was a long time ago. Oh, it's all about this. That he was hot. That was stupid things.

I feel like, like, I can just strike that for the record of that, so he was hot. He was hot because nobody was hot because he was so, he was so sexual and he's so opened up my eyes. This was like in my like early 20s, he was just really experimental. And I love that.

And I learned a lot about sex through him. Like he did things like, you know, we watched porn together. And I had never done that before. He bought me a vibrator. I had never had a vibrator before. And he was like very patient. And he was very into sex.

And I and very like found me very attractive. It was very into sex and I and very like found me very attractive. He was very affirmative towards me. Me feel very sexy. And so with him, I could frequently but not every time. These women who have said orgasms every single time, I think it's amazing, you know. So that's what it was. Yeah, I think it was a guy.

But I want to say one more thing about this last email that I didn't because it was a long one. And I just wanted to say that you don't need to tell him she's feeling guilty now and resenting him. And I just want to say you don't need to tell him you can still work this out on your own. He doesn't need to know that you've been faking it because would you want to know that a woman has been faking it for eight months?

Oh, hell no. Right. Okay. So the female orgasm, let's break it down. Okay, if you can. I can. Okay. So what are some of the obstacles to achieving orgasm? It can be a number of things that prevent people from experiencing them. And the first thing, number one thing, what do you think it is? Money. No. Money, they don't have enough money for an orgasm. I broke. I can't get myself an orgasm. No, I can't, you know, give money for an orgasm. I broke. I can't get myself an orgasm.

No, I can't, you know, give a woman an orgasm because I can't give a $100,000 air man's bag. Please tell me that you would have an orgasm if somebody bought you a $100,000 air man's bag. I might have one right now if it walked in the door. Yeah. But the first actually the first problem, obstacle, obstacle to choosing, to achieving orgasm is the mind. Our mind can actually trick us. The mind is the brain is the largest sex organ. And so our mind can actually trick us out of orgasmic bliss, meaning the way you think

and feel about yourself and your body can hinder your ability to orgasm. So if you're in your mind and you're tripping out and you're like, oh, my ass looks fat in these pants, whatever it is, or you're worried about your life, or you're worried thinking about your to-do list, you are not gonna have an orgasm. It's in your mind. So you have to get to a relaxed state

where you're just focusing on your breath or your body, or wherever it feels good, but don't be thinking, don't be thinking, am I gonna have an orgasm in my business or that? That is the number one hindrance. And I want to say that these are not an orgasmic women. We'd like to say pre-organic, because maybe they

haven't had orgasms yet. So it's still helpful. The next most popular thing that prevents you from having orgasms is medication. So antidepressants, like huge. And I think it's like, I even know where the numbers are now, like one out of every whatever with five women or whatever people are taking antidepressant. So five women or whatever people are taking an antidepressant.

So it sucks because you've taken an antidepressant because you're depressed and you need it and then all of a sudden you're feeling better and then you can't have an orgasm. It's like, hi, here you go. We'll make it happy, but we're going to take away the best thing in the whole world from you. Or you can just go forever, but then not orgasm. Right. It's a bummer.

So I would say that, talk to your doctor. If you experience sexual side effects, you can often, often times, offset the problem with another medication or specific exercises. Like keglexercises, they can help you have intense orgasms. That's women. Five minutes a day. Keglet camp. Download it now.

The other one of the top reasons why people can't achieve orgasm is sex beliefs. Many people's beliefs around sex are influenced by their family, their friends, and religious institutions. A lot of people are raised that sex is shameful, that they'll go blind or whatever it is. They're embarrassed about that and that these beliefs can also hinder their sexual satisfaction. So, like, I know that I was a dating guy a long time ago who family was like super, super religious and he grew up literally like terrified to masturbate, never masturbate. It was a big win, you know, went to his religious institution every single day and was just told like sex is wrong, it's bad.

And as an older guy, you know, he was like, it was still in his 20s, wreaking havoc on him because of the messages that he got from his family and his religious institution. And you had some of that, right? No, no, no, no. It was not religious, but you were afraid from you and messages from your family.

That if I had sex, then I would get a girlfriend man. Right, right. And so that's why I held off until I was like 18. Right. Which was good anyways, I don't care. You don't care, because now you don't worry about it. Yeah. It was funny I was watching clerks too the other day.

I love it. Love clerks too. Love clerks wine, but I don't know too much. Yeah, two is pretty funny, because in two, there's a guy that they work with that's super religious. And they're like, oh, co-workers asking, so have you had sex with your girlfriend yet? And he's like, no, I can't.

And he's like, why? Because she has a troll down there. I'm like, he's like, what? He's like, yeah, there's a there's a troll in a vagina and if I If I have sex with her, it's gonna eat my penis It's gonna eat my penis and so I have to wait until she's 18 and then the troll dies And I was like and then they're like well, we make out with her. He's like, oh, I can't make out her and they go Is there a mouth troll and he's like, yeah, I can't make out there. And they go, is there a mouth troll?

And he's like, yeah, there's a mouth troll. Oh my God, that's hilarious. That is funny. I'd watch it now. Yeah, it's pretty funny. But it is true that people have these beliefs. Like crazy, crazy, crazy beliefs. So get rid of all those stuff.

If you gotta go to therapy and you believe sex is wrong or bad or evil or you're gonna go blind or get some private debt, let's go work on that. There's like people that eat tiger penis because they think it's gonna help them perform better sexually. And it's just like there's so many crazy things out there. I know. Crazy.

I know, crazy, crazy things. But we're here to tell you that it is not beyond your reach to have amazing sex. Okay. So this is my advice for women like these are the two women who just wrote and you can't have an orgasm. I don't believe that a woman can truly say she can't have an orgasm unless you put an ample time figuring out your body. So like my friend who spent 30 days doing it, you might have to spend 60. You might take you a week, but it's just like everything. It's like

going to the gym, like you have to exercise those muscles, you have to figure out it makes yourself feel good. And you just have to try it like you have to exercise those muscles, you have to figure out what makes yourself feel good. And you just have to try it. No guy is going to come in like that whole theory that someday my prince will come and so will I, you know, some guy is going to ride in and you're going to not going to happen. You need to spend time alone. So how do you experience a more fulfilling orgasm? One of the most important things about having a more fulfilling orgasm is breathing. Do you know that a lot of people hold their breath during

sex? And it's actually the breath that helps you have a filling orgasm so you can like breathe in and breathe. I feel like I do that too sometimes like during sexualization. I'm not breathing. Yeah, when even if you're in the gym, you gotta breathe. Yeah, you gotta breathe in your other gym. You gotta breathe when you're having sex. Breath plays a huge role in orgasm, but many women and men automatically hold their breath without knowing it. Sexual energy travels through your breath,

and it's through the breath that we feel. So make sure that it's like meditation, it's like anything. Also, another thing you can do, prolong foreplay, have any of them brought up foreplay yet? It's been like a while in the show and I haven't even brought up for play. I know, you used to promote it so much. You have to make out for at least three hours

before you pen and true. Touch her left nipple for six and a half hours before you move on to the right, just kidding. Yeah, and then you wait eight and a half hours till you can even pull your penis out. That's how you talk. No, I don't. I think that I just said 40 minutes of world stocks is nice what

and no one agreed with you i know twenty minutes okay prolonged for a play can enhance orgasm because you are building up like for women like it's like that build up the build up the build up so you know go down your growth on your partner your whoever for a while you know ten fifteen minutes by it just might even get a warmed up but women can't go from zero to six like men can, we can't get as turned on and you need to have touch other erogenous zones and get her turned on. Vibrators can also enhance the orgasm.

If you've never had one like I said, the pocket rocket or the small bullet vibrator for collateral stimulation is great. And if you've never had one and you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you've got to get the Hitachi Magic Wand. Which you have just been promoting since I've known you. It's kind of an amazing vibrator. You plug it into the wall. It is the MAC truck of all vibrators. It's not even a vibrator though, right?

It's like a misajor, a body misajor. That's what they sell it. You get it, it does actually help your back. It will feel good if you rub it on your back, if you have tight, or your arms, or legs, you can use it everywhere. And it is made by the same company, Hattachi, which makes my television. Yeah.

Which is crazy. Yeah, it's crazy. I wonder if you can simply. Because they don't promote it as sex way, like we just said. Right, they don't. They really don't because it actually can be used like that way, but my other favorite. What you're supposed to be for. Right, exactly.

But there's also other like great orgasms that you could use for, there's great vibrators that you can use during intercourse that you that are like are kind of, they're discrete and you can just hold them on your clitoris because that's how most women eat it and they can just like you just hold it there and you'll have an organ. You know candy from the real housewives. Yes she has bedroom candy and she has that one clitorial thing it looks like a lipstick now. Not lipstick the one that looks like you know you powder your face. Oh yeah yeah yeah, fake compact. A compact. Those are awesome. You can buy. If you want to keep, if you watch Candy Burriss on RealHouse

Wave at Lanna, you can go to my page goodvibes.com, go to my website and you can search for candy stuff and they sell all her products there and they all look like makeup. Yeah. They look like compacts, they look like lipstick. They're selling like crazy. They are selling like crazy because people are like, oh cool, it's lipstick. No one will know that by vibrator with me that they're actually lipstick one is a really good one to use during sex Yeah, cuz you wouldn't know I felt bad. I was actually watching Annie Cohen did like top 20

reunion moments okay and I forgot but her her fiance passed away all of a sudden like a couple years back We're during the first No way yeah, then she was like really emotional on there about it talking about it. I didn't know that she's immediately like Yeah, she was saying how she was on she just saw him and then she said like within an hour she got like a call saying There was like an accident or something Oh, yeah, she was on the show while back. Yeah, that's so sad. It was very sad.

Aw, did you watch that whole countdown 20 thing? Yeah, I did. I thought I didn't watch it. Oh, you don't watch it. I need to watch it. You don't even watch your own show. I do watch my own show. Oh, you do.

I watched it this week. Everyone turned into Bravo, tune into Bravo, 10 o'clock, but I didn't. And if you're international because we have a lot of international listeners You can download it from my tunes you can download it from my tunes search misadvised and a pop Misadvised the first episode is free. Yeah, I had friends from How the country downloaded really what they say they tell you were hilarious of course now They really liked it. That's good. Just coming up. They should like it They should like it because it's a great Just coming up. They should like it.

They should like it because it's a great friggin' show and you should all watch it. Misadvised. Okay. So here's some advice for men to better understand the female orgasm. Okay. Because I know it's confusing to you. It's not confusing. It just, it just got to put the extra effort to make it happen.

Okay. So men number one, you need to learn to be patient with the female orgasms. One of the biggest obstacles for women is concern that they're taking too long to get there. We're worried about it too. I know that you're annoyed guys are like, oh my god, how long is this going to take? Believe me, we are 10 times more conscious of that. So if a man is stressed that she's not getting there and that there's a lot of worrying about orgasms, that will thwart the entire orgasm plan. He's worrying, she's worrying. The number one thing to do is to relax.

Studies have shown that relaxation is a single most important factor to bring a woman to orgasm. So give her a little back massage, rub her down, use a massage candle, whatever it is. It's like before we're in our mind and we're having sex right away like after work, you're stressed, you're having a... It's like if you're not relaxed, especially as a having sex right away like after work you're stressed you have a it's like You if you're not relaxed, especially as a woman you are not going to have an orgasm And I think that's what I didn't have an orgasm for so many years because I was a late bloomer orgasm

I was because I'm a stress case like I was in college It's like I am now like I'm always obsessing about work and in college I'm obsessing about my work I was obsessed then too about like oh my god I have so many papers for right like I think I didn't know how to relax and If you don't know how to relax, you should take a meditation class by a meditation CD, like learn how to relax and employ those methods during sex. So another advice, piece of advice for men

to understand the female orgasm is to, women who are worried about the way they look and especially down there are less likely to orgasm during sex. So guys, she might feel embarrassed or shamed about her body. You feel with a woman like that is like leave lights off, at least she leaves her shirt on. Yeah. So you got to flatter her. You got to tell her how hot she looks. I'm sorry, but women need to hear that menace. You don't get you everywhere in this thing. You used to say that I had a compliment

a woman 20 times a day 10 times a day But still that's way too much five. No, I don't know any woman would be like no, that's too much Yeah, but I was recounting that I was recounting it's not healthy It is healthy. No, it's not listen to me. I was recounting relationship one sided It does I'll compliment you back. I like your classes. That's great Listen Women get insecure about these things men do too and so if we are not feeling like a door Like you asked me why was a sex so go with that guy in my what that I dated like years ago

It's because he was he made me feel sexy like I didn't know my own sexual energy and power like I felt You know I was attractive whatever. But he made me feel like sexy He was like I knew that I turned him on and he let me know that and he told me that and showed me that in different ways And that gave me a lot of confidence. What happened with that relationship? He wanted to move in together Really yeah, and then what happened and then we broke up wanted to move in together. Really? Yeah. And then what happened? And then we broke up. People Emily has never lived with somebody. I know. Is that hard? How many crazy is that? Well, how many girls have you lived with and what happened

in those relationships? I lived with like three girls. That's a lot. Yeah. What happened? Well, they wanted the cuddle. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Uh, well, they wanted the cuddle. One of them wanted to cuddle. I would feel like a team. You feel like a team and you can be a team. Yeah, because someone takes out the trash. Well, you can things done together, you know? But you, I don't know what's so scary about that to you. I just wasn't ready.

I was not ready. Okay, you're talking about when, how old were you? I was like 25. Wow. I just wasn't ready, but he were you? I was like 25. Wow. I just wasn't ready, but he was adorable, and we're still kind of friends. But yeah, okay. It's terrible.

What? You should have did it. I should have did it, and then so I could, just only so I could be splitting up book collection or something. Like, I think it's good that I haven't. I've lived with head roommates, but never a man. Okay, the next thing for guys to understand about the female orgasm is to pay close attention.

If you finally hit a spot on a woman and it's working for her, don't change up positions. This is like one of the biggest mistakes that guys make when you notice that she's like getting there, you go faster. Guys go faster and faster and faster. They're like, oh my god, she's going to get there. No, do exactly what you were doing. Keep doing that. Not faster, not slower. Keep doing that. You have to vary the technique. Of course, the beginning, but stick with it till she gets there. When you change the move at the wrong time, you put the whole kai Bosch on the orgasm. She's like close and then you

like went too fast, too slow, whatever you like did something, you got so excited that she was excited and then you the whole orgasm, it's like the lost orgasm, it's very sad. So don't do that, why do you guys do that? I don't know. You don't know? No. Okay, so that's just about paying attention, so pay attention like to where she is and where she's getting. And if she's getting there or not, because don't just switch it up the wrong time. Don't change horses in the middle of the stream. You have another app, not to plug things,

but it doesn't seem like you give it a lot of other things. I know, I don't give my other app. It's called 101 sex tips from sex with Emily. And it's a really good app. And I don't know why I forget to plug it a lot. Yeah, because you have a book that has a similar type of name. That's why maybe it's a really good app A hundred more sex tips from sex to the Emily download it now and then also buy my book kegokamp buy my other app kegokamp And my book hot sex hot sex a hundred things you can over 200 things you could try tonight. Okay

Is it for the candle yet? No, they're not doing it. We just have this talk because over 200 things you could try tonight. Okay. Is it for the Kindle yet? No. They're not doing it. We just have this talk because there's all these rules about like, because it's so graphic, the book, like there's really beautiful illustrations in the book

and there's like a problem getting it through iTunes or something. Well iTunes, that's never gonna happen because they don't let content like that. But yeah, I don't know why they don't do it on the Kindle. Yeah, they have Kindle Fire, which is color your your book is very colorful. It's that beautiful Yeah, let's break it down again You you actually took photographs of people having sets. Yeah, not like porn. No, not porn

And then they illustrate them in such a such a way I I'm trying to see if there's like a movie that I can explain how they yeah, yeah, it's like a movie. Yeah Kind of kind of sort of if anyone saw Sin City, a little bit like that. Okay. That's the style of the imagery. But I think, you know, the Android, they're down with the porn.

You know, you would think it would be down, it would work on a tablet and then Kindle Fire, which is color. I should talk to that. We just talked about it in your seats. Forget Apple, Apple is color. I should talk to that. We just talked about the interesting. I don't forget Apple. Apple is my number one product, but I know them very well, and they're not gonna push something like this.

I know, but I don't know why he was so, because yeah, I guess the Kindle, but what do you release it through them? Like what's it called? There's like the publisher, Kindle Ryan, whatever. But you could buy the book. It's a beautiful book. It's a beautiful book.

It's so much money on books now through just digital. Really? What kind of books? What are their books about? They wrote a book? Yeah, they wrote the book. My buddies are making so much money on books now through just digital. Really? What kind of books? What are their books about? They wrote a book? Yeah, they wrote a book. Like an e-book? Yeah, but no, they have hard copies too.

Right, I know. I know. I would just like to- We gotta figure this out. If anybody knows any suggestions because the only thing is the- What? The photo graphs.

Yeah, it's beautiful though. It's a beautiful book. It doesn't make you offend it. Like it's literally, oh, did I tell you that my friend said to me that she's like, oh, my God, my husband and I, they've been together eight years. They thought she's like, we used your book last night. And it was amazing. I was like, what? How they do it? I was like, what did you do? Like, there's two and a public. I'm dying to know, like, what position? She's like, we gave each other foot massages and she's like it was the most intimate

Thing that we had done because we hadn't been intimate like there's a difference in having sex and being intimate But like brought them closer together because they were like touching each other's feet and like massaging and like they got into the whole massage And she's like we had amazing sex and she goes and I feel so much closer to him Yeah, good that makes it feel that's why I'm on the planet. Yeah, well talking about marriages I was just showing you a movie trailer before the show started looks good people got to watch it. It's with Meryl Streep and it's It's called Hope Springs and it's about a couple that's been married forever and they just kind of lost lost the spark Right, okay, check it out. Hope Springs. Okay, everyone. Well have a great weekend

be sure to check out Miss advice on Bravo TV 10 o'clock morning night and Okay. Check it out. Hope spring. Okay everyone. Well, have a great weekend. Be sure to check out Miss Advise on Bravo TV 10 o'clock Monday night. And thanks for listening to the show. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at EmilyMorse.com. Thanks for listening. Hey guys, can I see a question? How are your balls feeling right now?

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