Sex With Emily - SWE: How to Have Sex Again

Episode Date: June 11, 2013

It might have happened once, but how do you have sex again? Emily asnwers the question: Why isn't she having sex with you anymore? Is it the teddy bear collection? Or is the sex just boring? Find out on today’s show. Emily also talks about how to keep the fire alive while living together and how to fight the urge to cheat. If you want to change your love life and are interested in how to have sex again, check out my sponsors: Crazy Girl, Masque, and Good Vibrations. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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We're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information about sex with Emily, go to sexwithemily.com where there's so many things happening there that are going to blow your mind. That you should really go there right now. So what's up? Happy Thursday. How you doing? What's going on? What's up?

I'm kind of like having mixed feelings about it being September first. Why? Because the summer's over, although in San Francisco, we uniquely get our summer in September. We never get a summer. We get summer. Yeah. For like three weeks, we're going to get hot weather, but it's been like freezing cold, 58 degrees every day. Yeah. And I just feel like the summer's over and we and you did a lot of things over the summer places. Where do you have my Clitoris massage? What else? You traveled. Where'd I go? Michigan? You want to Michigan? You want to go to LA and all this stuff. I just feel like I need something bigger. I thought you were going to go away. I had all these places this weekend. I'm going to a cabin. It's going to be super fun to cabin the cabin. We're going to be in a lake. I'm going to be on a motorized raft. You've done the cabin. So I don't knock.

I'm not knocking it. I'm not knocking it. I'm just saying whatever. So yeah, how are you doing? I'm good. I am working as usual, but I got some concerts to go to this weekend. Get a see, little Wayne, little Weezy,

and then I'm going to a festival called Identity Festival. Yeah, everyone keeps talking about that. Yeah, it's a like electronic dance festival. Oh festival oh god shoot myself in the head before I go what it's not like oh oh oh oh no I'm just gonna be a lot of ecstasy and I'll be like perfect no there's a lot of people they just you know they're hands-y they're in love they love each other because they're on stuff yeah you know you would totally love it I would love it if I was not taking drugs I don don't love house music. It's something I think. It's electronic, not house. Like, electronic, what's a fucking diff? There's a couple of different. I know. I know there's differences.

I shouldn't just totally because sometimes I do find myself enjoying that kind of music. So yeah, I thought Wilcoe, which is, you know, highly and lightly. I love Wilcoe. It calms me down, which is very much needed sometimes. But yeah party like this would be. It's a party. People would go crazy. Saturday, I believe. I'm going to beat the cabin. I would love to let out. Love to go. So, um, okay, you can call in right now if you'd like. Our number is 4159927392. We're going to be talking lots about sex today because that's what we do. Yeah, why your woman is or is not having sex with you. We're going to talk about why people have sex and why they suddenly men and women stop having sex. There's reasons. You know

you're in a relationship and you're like, why doesn't she want to sleep with me? Why doesn't you want to sleep with me? We're going to talk about those reasons behind why the motivate someone to sleep with you and why people don't sleep with me. We're going to talk about those reasons behind why the motivates someone to sleep with you and why people will don't sleep with you. And we also tomorrow is free Friday and we've got an awesome show tomorrow. So everyone to tune in tomorrow free Friday. As you all know, I went on orgasmic meditation retreat last weekend and I got my clitoris massage by several several gentlemen and one of the gentlemen is going to be on the show and another one where he's going to call in. Okay, so it's going to be Superfunday. And then I want to tell you that if you want to

or set up a contest going, if you want three months free of sex with Emily, all you have to do is like the sex with Emily Facebook page. Every day one person is randomly selected, we'll let you know. And if you've already liked it, you're good to go. And just the more active you are on the Facebook page, and we're like, we will be to select you. Good. Good. How's everything else going? Everything is good.

I'm good. I'm totally excited for the weekend. And, um, is there any developments with the website? Wouldn't you get to talk to some people today? We're going to have a conference call later. Oh, I haven't I haven't had the call No, this is our family. We can talk We tell no one. Yeah, just their stuff going on with the website

We're gonna put some more new stuff more new stuff makes stuff happen. Yeah, some changes just so so for you guys Soon, I enjoy more content every day. There's new things on the website Right, you've done new videos up today two two new videos, my amazing new intern Dexter, shot them, they're awesome. You should. Yeah, you should be at sexathomely.com every day. Every day go there and it's super fun. You're at worketsemelymores.com. Exactly. This is what we have to do in the office.

It was always sexathomely.com, but some offices block sexathomely. So it's Emily Morse, MORSC. Yeah, there's not like any porn on there. So it still works. It still works safe, but it's just Morse, MORSE. Let's go. There's not like any porn on there. So it still works. It still works safe, but it's just the whole sex thing. Oh my God. It says sex.

It's so easy. No one ever does that. I know. Seriously, that's all anyone's thinking about anyway. And what about all those computers? How the work they find porn on, you know, whatever. It's sex with them. It's been nine compared to that.

So yeah, tomorrow's free Friday. And then we've got a new poll up, which I'm going to announce again, which is which one of these constitutes cheating? Which one of these do you think makes you feel like, this person cheated? All of it. Thinking sexually about someone else, sexting someone else, receiving a lap dance confiding on a person at an intimate level or watching porn which one which one do you think? You don't pick any patterns.

Yeah, these are testy ones. I know they're good. Can I tell you what I feel? What do you feel about us? I want to know what you feel about us. Okay, the runner run down them real quick again and then all. Thinking sexual okay, what is cheating? Thinking sexually about someone else? Sex things. Oh, about someone else sex. I'll respond each one number one I don't I don't think you can help it there's

no way you can. You can't help it. Yeah right so that's not cheating. Like totally think about the guy you know wherever you think about who remember walking down the street can't help it okay thinking sexually about someone else okay sex thing someone else someone else. Yes. Cheating. Okay. Even though I don't believe in the whole emotional cheating thing. You don't. There is a whole movement about like emotional cheating. But I think that, you know, sexting with somebody I believe will just lead to. Right. But sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes you just have sexting partners. I've got a friend who is like five of them and she just like gets off on the sexting but doesn't ever see that. But I don't want my girlfriend sexting.

She's cheating. It's cheating. Okay. In your book, receiving a lap down. No. Okay. Confiding on someone intimate level, like emotionally. See, chicks think that she, I don't think so.

Because I think and you don't go there anyway. Intimally. Do you? What do you mean that I talked to with the other people? No, you have to confide with other people other than Your partner to like figure out the situation so you know how to talk to them right? So that's not cheating. Okay watching porn Not cheating not cheating. I agree. Yeah, so there's lots of people who think that it or who are Threatened by by man who watch porn a Well, women are in relationships that they think, I'm not good enough, my boyfriend, husband, who watches porn all the time, does he want me to have double-debrests

and fake blonde hair and whatever. Those are the crazy high maintenance chicks. No, they're not crazy high maintenance chicks. They're chicks that are not as informed about why men actually need to watch porn and why it's good for, why it's actually can be good for them. Not in a like addictive crazy level but in the just like every once in a while like it's good for guys have a lot of stuff to release and it's getting and sometimes when they're having amazing sexes when they even want to watch porn more, but it doesn't mean that they choose porn over their girlfriends.

And I've said this before to you, you've heard this, you've heard every single story I have in my entire repertoire probably, but no, when I was in my 20s and I was dating this guy, I was like probably like 24, I was really, really confused by the fact that he watched porn, because I was like, we have amazing sex. I knew that he was so into me, thought I was hot, telling me all the time, so attractive. It was a total disconnect. Like, I didn't get that, that it's a separate thing that men do and that they like needed and it actually can help them, sexually, help them grow and not grow. I'm like, help them grow and learn and change.

But it can help them sexually too if they're like releasing in that way as well. It's a separate thing for men. Men need a lot of different places to release. And so it's fine. I don't have any issue with anymore. Now I told again, Now I encourage it. Now I invite guys over to watch my porn. Because I have my fire TV porn box. FYRETV. I know where you can see double penetration. Double penetration. Crazy stuff. It's awesome. So everyone go to sexademy.com see if you feel the same way. Yeah, go to that poll and vote on that poll. ASAP ASAP.

Get on that poll. Get on that poll. And then we have some emails today that we'll be reading. People want to hear more about my orgasmic meditation. Primal sexual energy and not cheating. Those are some emails. And we'd love to hear from you feedback at sexualtme.com or there's an easy Q&A section on the website

that you can just send us your emails and we will answer them. And then like I said, we're going to be talking about why she does or does not want to have sex with you. Five reasons she stopped having sex with you. Do you ever wonder if you're someone and she was like, hmm, not into anymore? Yes. And it kind of sucks, right? You're like, what are you? What's going on? I thought we had something. We had something. Why would she just be here? Where'd she on? I thought we had something. We had something. Why would she just be here? Where'd she go? Right.

We're going to talk about that. I mean, usually it's because they want to get in relationship. That's why they kind of just like, they cut it off. Yeah, they cut it off. They're like, uh-uh. They ain't getting no more unless we're together. But I definitely had one where I go, what the hell happened? But it was like, you know, I wasn't saying, let's commit,

but she wasn't saying the same thing either. What somebody else just came along was just like ready to commit. And that's kind of like where I lost her. But I didn't figure that out till way later on. Right. So like, oh yeah, so the guy wanted to give it to me. Right, but at the time you're like,

why are you sucking my penis? Yeah, because I really like that and I want you to continue doing it. Exactly. I understand. It's a bummer. Just be straight up to say I found some other guy. Yeah, exactly. Come on, people.

And then we're going to talk about how to get your partner girlfriend to have more sex with you. And then we're going to talk about why men don't want sex, which I've always known why men don't want to have sex. You've always known. Yeah, it's like obvious. When you're dating a guy, you need to go in through a hard time. He doesn't want to have sex. You've always known? Yeah, it's like obvious. When you're dating a guy, he's going through a hard time.

He doesn't want to have sex. When men are emotionally distraught about something and usually it's their work, they don't want to have sex. And I believe it goes back to evolutionary psychology, like the whole hunter, gather caretaker that when men feel like they can't take care of a woman, even if they're not even in a relationship, but if they don't have a job or they're looking that they have a hard time with their penis

I don't want to go out on dates in that during that. I know cuz you feel like right. I feel like a loser Yeah, I'm like okay, we all go through those I'm like if it goes further like I'm just gonna be a loser. How am I gonna? We all go through those periods of I know I know I know, but that's one of the reasons. So we're going to get into all that, which is so exciting. And that's all. Yeah. And then we've got some sex in the news. What month of this? This is September 1st, which is kind of crazy. I don't even know how that happened. October, November, right? That's when the ball is and that's when you eat the banana on

camera. Oh, I'm going to need a banana maybe or you're going to masturbate with a tanga amazing masturbation sleeve. Alright, let's recap real quick. Let's recap. So there was this whole what is it? The ball? No, no, no, no, okay, there's the the the the marines or something. Corbal. The marine corbal. Marine corbal Marine Corbal and when the Marines Got on YouTube and asked being a Bila Kunis if she would go to this ball with him and I said of course she's going and you said no way she's not gonna do it She's gonna have some have to be in sight in Africa or something. Oh, I know she's not gonna turn down some War soldier not go to the ball with him. There's no way that is not happening.

And you said, no, no, no, it's not going to happen. So I said, if she goes, then you have to eat a very large banana on camera at sexwithoutme.com. And you said, fine. And it's already been all over the news that she's going. So I think that you should just do it now No, and not wait and torture the listeners and when I should eat a banana so when you eat the banana It's up to the listeners The decide if in their mind if you're eating a banana or

Whenever they're not eating a bit take your mind there We're ever want to go and then man is when you say was anything sexual No, it's gonna be hard to talk and eat at the same time. Okay, but we'll talk no No, no, we want to hear you you want me to talk with mouth full. Yeah Yeah, I can really it a banana. I can I could do that hot But it's not gonna happen because menace is going to have to use a masturbation sleeve if I lose and she doesn't go exactly when you lose There's in like some crazy Japanese one that you found. It's an awesome like $180 masturbation thing that you should be psyched.

You should be psyched that I want you to masturbate with this thing. Okay. I think it'll change your life. You know, there's all these sex toys that we talk about for women, but there are sex toys for men too. They can, I don't know why guys are like, I got my hand, I need nothing else. Why not try a sex toy? The hand has been around for a long time.

I know, but I've got my hand too, but I just like to wear it on my second. Oh, that reminds me. I'm getting a new bed today, okay? Finally, I've been talking about this forever, not a new mattress, but like a new bed frame. And I've got like, oh, I don't know, a gazillion sex toys under my bed.

Uh-huh. So I've got to get home before the bed people come so I can move all the sex. I mean, they're in boxes and containers, but some of them might not, I don't know. I've got a lot of sex toys. This chick is a freak. She's a freak. Why do you let me in the freak's house?

But I've got to like contain my sex toys. I got to get home. Yeah, I got to do that. So glad I remembered that. Yeah, but I'm excited for the new bed. I'm going to talk about it for months. Took me forever. What sex toy do you think that would scare them the most that you have?

Probably the head tattoo magic wand because guys look at that because it plugs into the wall and it's huge. People think it's like for insertion. Like it looks it's phallic, but it's really it's a missot. It's also doubles as a missos or you can use it on your back, whatever. And it's very, very powerful and it's really good for your clitorial stimulation. And it like can give you like crazy orgasms. Like one of stasurer you can use on your back whatever and it's very, very powerful and it's really good for your clitorial stimulation and it can give you crazy orgasms. One of my interns got one when we were doing the intern sex toy review with Adam and Eve and she couldn't speak about it, it changed her life the Hattachi Magic One. So everyone should go buy one right now on adamaniv.com and you get 50% off most items and three free adult DVDs free gift free shipping use coupon code Emily at checkout. Sweet. Sweet. I think that would

freak them out and then I think I don't think I have anything free gave a lot of loob sitting around like I got a pump loob and loob and stuff and condoms and see yeah but no I think I think it's I've been pretty good. I'm just glad we had this chat. Okay, sex in the news Kim Kardashian mystery buyer wants sex tape off the market someone is looking to buy the rights of the Kim Cardation sex tape from vivid entertainment claiming the willing to play big bucks to completely remove it from the market TMZ has learned the mystery buyer's hydro-learned technology, fired off a letter to Vivit Hancho.

I was approached by private parties to ask about looking the possibility of quiet. Why doesn't Kim Kardashian just buy it and get it off the market? Well, she doesn't want. It's probably somebody that connected to her camera. Yeah. Yeah.

So. But I, what I was reading was the guy from Vivid's like unless you got 30 mill. Yeah, 30 million. Yeah, don't even come to the table. It's worth why are people still buying it and stuff all? Yeah, they they during her wedding time it was they had millions of people hitting the website. So there is one website where you can go and you can buy it. It's called KimK superstar.com. Oh, okay. And it's like, I've never seen it.

It's like 30 bucks. Wow. Just to watch it. They had millions of people hit it up. It cost $30. Does she get, she gets a percentage of that now, right? In her deal. Oh, yeah.

She's kind of psych probably should buy over it But is it hot? Have you seen it? I Seen parts of it. Yeah hot Yeah, it's pretty hot. The only problem is Ray Jay's on there the entire time He's always in the camera right and you're like dude dude. I want to see the chick exactly So yeah, she gets kind of dirty in it and apparently before they bought it like because it leaked first Like on the internet, but then Vivid like bought it off somebody and then so Kim Kardashian sued them

To take them off the market, but they couldn't They couldn't take it off the market. So they sued it so they made a deal where she gets a percentage of it and In the original tape, he pees on her. But I guess like now the version that's online, like they cut that out. Did you see that one? That's the part that they cut out. No, I haven't seen that one. He pees on her. He pees on her.

She was so young. You think she wouldn't be into that kind of thing. Yeah. But no, no, I knew a new young chicks. I've never done it, but they were into that. Really? Yeah. Oh, interesting.

No, what's up with the golden showers, but yeah, some chicks are into it. Totally. Okay. Mark Anthony speaks. I never cheated on J. Low. Shock. Mark Anthony says, he'll always love Jennifer Lopez.

I want everyone to know he never, ever cheated on her with any flight attendance. Just flight attendance. Yeah Just flight attendants? Yeah, what's that? The singer opened up his divorce from Jennifer Lopez for the first time on Good Morning America today saying nothing since the holistic happened to tear the two part and there was no infidelity. He said it was just a realization on both our parts, these things happen.

He says only as good things to say and he'll always love her. Blah, frog and blah, someone cheated. Someone's probably cheated. I don't know. You think they just fell out of love having two twins and her career, singing off again. Yeah. That's what happens. Remember I was just saying this a month ago once that chick's career starts taking off, she's gonna end her show and her relationship. No, I don't think so. I can give you a list of people. I think as a guy becomes the right to win big and itchy and cludgy like, oh, you're taking

off. I'm not taking off. I feel insecure. My penis just shrunk three inches. Oh my god. I can't believe you're successful. And I'm not. And she's like, you're becoming a leech and I'm over you. It's not that at all. Yeah, it is. No, I don't know. That's what it is. They always think that they're bigger than they are. And then they, think they're men of a hard time with powerful women. No I would love to have a powerful woman. Hell yeah. I would encourage it. Yeah okay. Do your own thing man. I know. That's great. Case and bill is cool. You paid the bills. Yeah. Okay America's best dance crew judge is in child sex case. I know. You heard about this too? Can't believe this, yeah.

Former America's best dance crew judge, Shane Spark allegedly sexually abused at least 60 young girls. In addition to the woman who claimed Spark's rape term when she was 12 years old. The documents were just made public. He re and they're very disturbing. With the victim telling police, Spark's forciertive sex to them after driving her home from a dance class

He had taught in 94 when she was only 12 years old man. That's gonna mess you up for life He started to make out with her and then rolled on top of her and pinned her beneath them. This is upsetting six other victims Why why why people know I know terrible and as bad as this is It's terrible and as bad as it says None of the other people from From America's best dance crew did any press at the

The VMAs because they knew that would that would oh Because they're always that all of them. Is that a big show? Yeah, it's it's a big show. Oh, I'm getting cable this week No, I am I've been hearing that in terms of on it. They're helping me because I physically pull the trigger under it. So I needed their help to like bridge the gap between my ability to pull the trigger. Yeah, it's going to be super fun. I'm going to come in here and be like, so I'm Jersey Shore last night. Seriously, I'm going to be coming at it. I'm going to become a total TV addict. You're going to know pop culture. Yeah, I'm very excited. You're going to love it. I'm going to tell you stuff that you don't know. There's so much stuff that we could talk about. I know. That's actually related. Just to wait. Okay. Porn filmmaking should have to perform or test HIV positive would not want to be a porn star on that shoot. And adult

performers test HIV positive, prompt during attempt to temporary shutdown Monday of adult film productions across LA until further testing can confirm the results. Until we know for sure, we've asked the industry to have a more torium on production. That, uh, yeah. So they found somebody at HIV. Can you imagine like how freaking out how they're all freaking out? Oh yeah. And stars. Yeah. That would suck because they shoot a lot and like a week, you know, they what? They shoot a lot of porn. I know, it's really scary. And every day. And every day.

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smallness of his penis and seeking carnal knowledge he visits the conniving prince Ming and the scholar eventually wins a mitten's ladder and then he sets him up as a sex healer and then he has an operation to replace his penis and he gets that of a donkey. He gets a donkey penis It's been all over the press. It's it's animation or live action It live action really yeah He's a small penis and he gets a donkey penis. Which one would you rather have small penis or a donkey penis? What's a donkey penis look like oh

They're always like hung like a donkey. Yeah, Yeah, I've never actually seen one, but I can't do that. A donkey. I'm scared of a donkey penis, personally. What I like to do every time I visit Los Angeles is look for the worst, worst movies on Netflix. It's like a tradition with me and my friends. So we'll just, you know, get wasted and watch these movies. So if you want to find one that has a lot of sex in it, the one that we watched this weekend

was called Wicked Lake. Wicked Lake. So you look for the movies on Netflix for the most sex? That no, no, no, they have the worst reviews. Oh, and you can see through them. Yeah, but they have the worst reviews. But usually the ones that have the worst reviews will have a bunch of nudity in them Oh, did know this man is yeah, he learned something new every day. So

This one we could Lake was all about these vampire chicks that are like New the entire movie Uh-huh, and then like they're the movie was basically just stop and then they will start all making out for no reason school but Talking about operations of penis not to give anything away movie was basically to stop and then they will start all making out for no reason. Doesn't sound like a bad movie. School. But talking about operations of penis, not to give anything away, but one of the chicks bites off some dudes penis and then spits out on some other dudes face. Seriously? Yeah. Oh my God.

So check it out. Wicked Lake, if you can sit through it. It's pretty awful, but funny at the same time. Okay. Good to know. Okay. Well, that's all I have for sex in the news unless you had anything to add to sex in the news stage. Did you read anything? Did I hear anything in the news? No, I haven't. Sorry, I usually have something but today was kind of slow. Slow news day. Yeah. Okay. I think everyone's getting ready for the big weekend. Yeah. They're not like releasing their sex tapes maybe till after Labor Day or whatever. Yeah, because everyone's gonna be gone. They're not gonna be by computer computer exactly. Okay, so we can get into some emails. Okay, what do you got?

It's what I got Hamley your episode on Oming okay, this is the thing I want to read because He said his episode on Oming is only seven minutes long and stitcher and then a promptly ends He listens on his iPhone and you can't directly get it through website and he's a premium member So I'm helping him out if you're a it through website. And he's a premium member. So I'm helping him out. If you're a premium member, if you're not a premium member, you're only going to get seven to ten minutes of the show.

But when you're a friend with benefits member, which we hope you'll all join and become a friend with benefits member for 15 cents a day, $4.95 a month, like what is that? Like nothing for the best extra information of your life. So he was having a problem with that, but he wanted to listen more to the Oming show. So just contact me if you are a member and you have some issue with it. If you're not a member, you're going to get seven minutes. If you want it all, you get you can get an hour if you become a friend's benefit member. That was a good show. PS, you're funny, informative, entertaining, and oh, yes, hot. Thanks for the show.

You're a healthy bill. Bill is a premium member from Howell, Michigan, which is near where I grew up. What? What? Michigan, yo. Love Michigan. OK, so I do, but I left. OK, hi, Emily. So I have a question for you that I'm not sure you can answer with a textbook definition, but most likely from your own experience and through the experience of your friends.

My question is this, how does a man learn to give off primal, sexual energy to a woman? And I know that confidence is appealing and a prerequisite, but there are lots of men who are confident in their approach, but you as a woman on a primitive level don't feel that pull, that tug, that mix of a desire and attraction for the lack of better terms gets you moist. Wait, that mix of desire and attraction

for the lack of a term gets you moist. But I'm talking purely on a sexual level. How do I, as a man, find that appeal inside myself and learn to turn it out when needed. I'm tired of the friend nice guy zone. Thanks Frank from Portland. He's a friends with benefits member. He says PSY no Android apps on my list. I've got two iPhone apps. And I don't have it. I just need a developer to do it. And you have a droid phone.

I've got a droid. If someone would like to develop my apps into a droid, email me, feedback at techsethelmy.com. Done and done. OK, so this question he's asking me is, how does he turn it on? And I do think it has to do with confidence and being in touch with your own. Like in your mind, if you visualize when you feel that when you felt the most sexually connected

to a woman or had the most amazing sex, like, what were you feeling at that time? I don't, this is kind of unclear to me, but how does he find that appeal inside himself and learn to turn around? I would say masturbation, like fantasy, like visualizing scenarios when you're masturbating, like really things that like about a particular woman, if you're about to have sex with someone,

you're having a date with someone, you're dating someone, sexually visualize how you want that scenario to play through and then kind of manifest it, I think. Yeah, it's a, members, it's just do or die. Well, you're not gonna die. Right. But do you feel like you ever aren't able

to turn it on, the energy? Like do you feel like you're lost of sexuality when you're with someone? Do I? I don't know. Do I have a loss? After a while, yeah. Sometimes we do. I mean, love times is chemistry too. If you've while, yeah, sometimes we do.

I mean, love times just chemistry too. Yeah. If you've chemistry with someone, it's amazing. And um, find the appeal inside myself and turn it on when needed. I mean, I think you just got to practice like being in touch with your own sexual energy and it comes through like, yeah, visualization, meditation, masturbation, learning your own body.

Yeah. A lot of time with you in Fire TV. Fire TV. and it comes through like, yeah, visualization, meditation, masturbation, learning your own body. Yeah, a lot of time with you in Fire TV. Fire TV, check it out. You get 30 minutes free, your friends benefit's member, 30 minutes free of Fire TV. Awesome. Emily, hi, I have a question about cheating or better said, not cheating.

Since two years, I've had a female friend who might got to know on a business trip. Sometimes we meet on trips, stay in the same hotel and share a free time with each other, dining and shopping. We also have a very pleasant and funny email relationship. Most of all about sex issues, so far so good. Her problem is she's in love with me. And even worse, she really wants to have sex with me.

My problem is I don't want to have sex with her. What? Or let's say, my body wants to do what my soul doesn't. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I can't cheat on my girlfriend. Oh, you got to go for it. Who I've been in love with for 25 years now. I only have to think about how I would be heard as she cheated at me.

What do you think of the solution? Can you give me advice? Do you know a solution? H from A, it says, whatever that means. Yeah, good for you, don't cheat. I think that your body wants it. Your soul doesn't that'll pass. Your body's always gonna want it.

Your body's always gonna want to be with that woman. It feels really good. Our ego feels good. This woman wants it. She says she's in love with you. But you sound like a stand up guy. He's not down with cheating. And you've traveled a lot together. and it sounds like you haven't.

So I would just say keep, keep on keep it on and don't do it. But I also might try to distance yourself from her because you know, you never know. You have a few cocktails and you make attempted one night. I think it sounds like this uneven situation and you really enjoy your company and she went to getting the wrong messages. And even though you're saying you don't want to sleep with her and she's telling you, I love it there. And then you guys were having these intimate

times when you're on vacation, when you're on work trips and hotel room and the lobby and you're having cocktails, I just think it could be sending the wrong message so maybe you need to distance yourself from her a little. Yeah, and delete your emails, man. Please, imagine if the girl of 25 years who you love found all that stuff. It's so hard though. There's only how do you even, how do you even got laid from this chick? How much would that?

I know. Do you haven't done anything physical with her? I know. And then that could totally blow up in her face. You don't want to do it. Burn all the evidence and cut it off, man. Yeah, I agree. I agree.

You got to cut it off and it doesn't sound healthy because also you need to release her. She's in love with you. It's not going to go anywhere. You already stayed. You want to be with her. So I would just say you got a distance yourself on the friendship because it's not fair to her either. You know?

Yeah. Okay. Hi, Emily Menis. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. We moved in together about one year ago. And before we moved in together, we had sex three to 10 times a week. Wow, you go. But after we moved in together,

we have sex maximum two times a week. Why is this? I think I've tried the most to get our sex life up and running again, but nothing works. She's still tired. She's so tired all the time. Love the show. Greetings, boy, 21 from Norway,

and I agree with menace on the hand job. Thank you. I'm tron. Thank you. Thank you. Why does this happen because couples that live together stop having sex after while? No, we can, well, there's the before you have the excitement of seeing the newness of a relationship. No, not the newness. Just the excitement of seeing each other. Right. And when you live together, you're like, brush your teeth together, doing laundry together, doing dinner together. The truth is, cohabitation is not conducive to hot sex because the deal is with hot sex and all that 10 times a week sex comes from, yeah, the the the the

spontaneity and the unknown and a little bit of mystery and not knowing when you're gonna see each other again and like missing each other. Well, when you live with someone, you don't have that. So this whole notion in our culture that we should like live together and become one is simply not conducive to hot sex because hot sex needs these other elements of unpredictability of excitement, of newness, of all those things I just said. So that's why it's happening. And I would say that you should try to infuse some of that back into your relationship, whether you whisk her away for a weekend to a hotel room, you go, you know, take a trip somewhere,

surprise her when I do something special that would make her feel good, give her a massage, like have a night where you set up something. It's all about her pleasure Get her get our juices flowing again women need to get their juices flowing again. No, it sucks Give her a massage. I know it does suck. Yeah, what is the truth? We need it We get to get complacent and guys get complacent too guys get annoyed Enoyed by things like what when they're living with someone. Yeah I never live with anyone in my entire life. I and my ex-guy that I was dating he told me that that was not he's like I can't believe you never live with anyone

like you should have lived with someone by now but I just feel like I never wanted to because I knew that I would stop having sex what happens if you live with somebody one day what do you think it's gonna happen I personally think it's my life mission that I will never stop having sex with that person. Because I have all the answers. Oh, do you? No, I don't. I'm infallible just like everyone else,

but I'm really nervous to live with someone. I just be like, hey, what's up in my sweats? Like, gonna watch Jersey Shore? You're gonna join me? Like, get the popcorn and the pop tarts and meet me on the couch. Like, nightmare. Like, that's not when I ever wanted.

And I just never had it with anyone where I was like, let's live in, let's move in together. It hasn't been there, that's weird because you've dated people for a couple of years. I've done the few years thing. They always wanted, they not the all of them, but a lot of them suggested that we move in together. And I suggest that we don't.

And that's when you freaked out and ran away. True or not, true? True. We were not on the same page. But I feel like I, you know, one day, I mean, I'm already living with a dog and that's hard. Oh, no, lies, lies. The dog is taking a vacation right now. The dog is having a little vacation. The dog already got got 86 and I'm spending the weekend with the dog We get with dog kids. There's gonna be other people watching the dog. Oh, we care. Yeah, it's nice But I'm gonna be watching the dog in On the weekend. It's like a perfect weekend for let's look along this relationship

Because isn't your ex boyfriend gonna be there. Yeah, he's the guy that owns the dog now No, he doesn't own him her. He's gonna be taking care of the dog. It's just like it's just like He wants dogs. He has no job. He's I mean he doesn't work anymore really Whatever did what? You try to spin things I can see right through it. You can't see it. Yeah, yeah I know what you're talking about. Okay. Hey, Emily, I'm ready to present a thought. Present it. Present it. There is so much written and spoken about making sure a woman reaches orgasm during sex are more specifically vaginal intercourse. Usually, much or most of the responsibility is placed on the shoulders of the man. Yeah. Yes,

you mentioned he should slow down and there should be more foreplay, but in the end, if he comes before she is ready, it is his fault in most people's minds. The goal that is often so mentioned is simultaneous orgasms. Why don't women take the initiative? See what it's like to be the one responsible for the timing of the orgasms. If women had to get a guy hard, then climb on top and ride a guy to pleasure themselves to the point of orgasm and all the time paying attention to his level of excitement so that he did not come too soon or too late,

they would see what is expected of the man. Give it a try sometime, all the best at TN. I do not think that the responsibility is placed on the shoulders of the man. I say there are things that men can do through foreplay, whatever, but ultimately the responsibility of female orgasm is the woman. It is. It is, but it may get up and answer'm making up an anchor though. You guys overthink it. And that's why I do. I do. I know that I that's why I need alcohol to this, you know, chill. Or maybe you guys can smoke a little mocha. Like that's they should just make they should

just legalize marijuana for women. So you guys can chill the fuck out. That's what we should do. I don't know if I should even say this out loud, but I'm going to because my mother, so I had not had an orgasm when I was in college and I was like, mom and bum, like I have an orgasm, she bought me this book and she was like, maybe you should try smoking some marijuana. What? I know. My mom told me that and I was like, really? Okay. what i know my mom told me that i was like really okay

and i did and didn't really work but you know other things worked but uh... that was a month that was a month that's a tax advice to me that your mom is awesome i know i would never have that conversation with my mother and i've been here i have i have so many conversations with my mother that most of the world and i have a ridiculous yet she's like, oh, maybe you should try. Did you ever smoke marijuana?

Oh, I'm like, yeah. Okay, so the president, but so he's saying, yeah, I get it. I get that it's a lot of work for men and a lot of pressure on the simultaneous orgasm thing. I think that's all BS. I think the simultaneous orgasm thing, like when it happens, like, like, wants in a blue moon. Amazing, but yeah, wants in a blue moon. Amazing. But yeah, there is a lot of pressure.

And I get there's a lot of pressure on men. And I hope I don't make it seem like it's the guy's ultimate responsibility. I'm just trying to give you, give guys solutions that they do need to slow down and that they do need to incorporate for like, his women are not warmed up yet. And we need slower sex. Yeah. I need this need to smoke a lot of weed and drink alcohol. And you guys will be fine. What the?

Sorry, it's almost, it's almost a really big weekend for us here. So you got to, you know, you guys should follow me on Twitter, white menace on Twitter and you'll probably see, you'll notice when I'm drunk because I'll start tweeting a lot more. You know, it would just be like random dish jokes within 15 minutes of each other. That's what you know. Yeah, we always know. And sometimes you just say, I'm drunk. Okay.

You would play lots of K's and then you know. And there's nothing wrong with drinking if you do it in moderation. Right. What should I do? What you don't. I do. I don't do it during the week.

Honey, that's not the same thing. What does it mean? Moderation means like moderation throughout. You get plastered on the weekend every weekend. What's I mean? You go drink it during the week. Honey, that's not the same thing. What does it mean? Moderation means like moderation throughout. You get plastered on the weekend every weekend. It was, I mean, you don't do it every week. It's not moderation. That's not moderation. I'm trying to catch up for the whole week

that I get in the right day. I know, honey, it's not good. You shouldn't, you don't have to get plastered every weekend. Can't you just have a few cocktails? No. Why do you get outside? Why do you get hammered outside your mind? And then have sex with random checks.

Here's another idea idea alcohol tastes like shit All right, so you shouldn't just drink it just you know Owns gonna have a couple cocktails you drink it because you want to feel good But you feel like crap the next day. This is the other thing you got to figure out moderation When you figure moderation, you don't feel like crap. I think you should try that Sweet, then I wouldn't I can't even drink and eat together. What do you mean you don't eat when you drink? No, because it I soaks at the alcohol.

Yeah, I don't I don't like it. It's like I've spoken like a true alcoholic. Not alcoholic. Right. Moderation. Okay. This one's for menace. Can't wait to hear him complain about it on SWE.

All right. What is it? California wants to ban styrofoam now. They sent an article. Mother Effors. Are you serious? Uh-huh. Oh, California.

Why so uptight about everything? And this is from a Friends with Benefits member. This is from Carlos in Florida. All of Styrofoam everywhere? Yeah. They want to ban Styrofoam, and that's the latest targeted at. The bill by Senator Ellen Lowenthal would prohibit restaurants, grocery stores, and other vendors from dispensing food and expanded polyestering containers commonly known

to styrofoam. We'd begin in 2016. Think of all those Chinese takeouts. Oh yeah, they won't they won't conform. I bet you don't need ban plastic bags. Yeah, but they don't conform now like in Chinatown here. In Chinatown they don't. Yeah, fuck. The time that time does still give the plastic bag. Yeah, they don't care. I like hold on. I like hoard my plastic bags. Yeah, I like hoard them because I frit and freight them will not get anymore. They're recyclable. I don't think Styrofoam Styrofoam is not recyclable. But do we cut down on Styrofoam so much? We have cut down a lot. There's none. I remember San Francisco though. I remember I get nice. Yeah, but they're trying to do it all through

California, which I go to like Los Angeles. I can't find very much styrofoam. No, I never paid attention People stop doing like they have just stop remember when I was a young kid. I go to McDonald's and you know I get my six-piece chicken wing nugget and the young kid, I go to McDonald's and you know I get my six piece chicken wing nugget and I'll get it a little styrofoam box it was good and it's still warm all that stuff now I get it as like a soggy paper. Oh right it's cardboard I love chicken McNuggets. Delicious you can get 50 chicken McNuggets now for like 10 bucks. Dude don't ever do that don't ever get 50 chicken McNuggets unless you're sharing. You don't think it's sexy what about a guy ate 50 chicken McNuggets in the store. If you don't think it's sexy, what about a guy ate

50 chicken McNuggets in front of you just approve of a point Would you not find it sexy at all sex with the matter? No, I would not ill you would taste like a McNugget You just said you love McNuggets. I do I don't want a guy to eat 50 of anything In front of me like a McNugget. No Why do you really eat all 15 nuggets when you got them? I would attempt if I could. I'll probably stop it like 45. They shouldn't even sell 50. That's what's wrong in the world. They shouldn't even sell that many to people because it's not healthy. what kind of eating habits would turn you off from a guy?

Oh, I don't know. Do you think it's sexy? You don't even think it's sexy if you took you a fast food place. Like for dinner, he's like, hey babe, we're going on a date and he pulls up a jack in the box. Yeah, it was for the cat. Do they have those here? Yes, they have jack in the box. And it's effing delicious. The ultimate cheeseburger. Oh, it's an awful. The ultimate cheeseburger? I've never had it on a cat. I want to stick my penis into it. It's that good. Speaking of penis, sticking penis is like they're making American pie again. One of my interns so many days. Oh yeah, they're doing the reunion. And then uh,

Chera Reed, who is a bitch by the way, and I'll talk shit about her because I've met her before. I've met her with myself. Crazy, whacked out person that just, you know, just done too much partying in your life. See, that's a moderate, that's a person that's not doing things in moderation. They, they're having trouble like making her look good on the set because she's so worn out. Really? That's her side. Yeah. She doesn't look as hard as she did that. Yeah. But I never thought she was hot though. You never thought. I think that she looked good in her earlier films.

That she was it. I mean, I'm not really into. Right. Yeah, but people were hot. She's just all weathered down because of the party. Right. Don't kids don't party. Don't listen to menace. Don't drink. Don't drink and drive and don don't drink drive and eat chicken McNuggets either. Okay. Let's move into our sex time. You know what I say every Friday on my other radio show? No, what do you say? I, when I sign off and I got this from one of my idols who I used to work with in television, when he would sign off, he'd surpassed away.

He would sign off, he goes, don't drink and drive. That stuff will kill you. So that's what I do every time I get off work on my Friday. That's nice. Yeah. Because you really don't drink and drive. I don't. I will never drink and drive. I had a family member killed by a drunk driver. So even though I drink so heavily, when I can, in moderation, I always make sure I have a ride home. I'll never drink and drive. It's not worth it. No, I don't mean there. I mean, I don not drinking that much, but I need to drink more, but I don't.

Yeah, that's good. Okay, so we're going to move into our sex topic now. All right. Why is she does? Okay, five reasons why she stopped having sex with you. Because she's high maintenance, be out. She only wants Louis for a ton bags. And if she doesn't get her Louis, then she's not going to have sex sex with you Number one, she's angry yo. Yes, and it's not because of the Louis Vuitton bag Most women cannot be into it with the man they're angry with Unfortunately, many women bottle up their resentments your woman might be stark raving mad at you Yet you haven't had the slightest clue you've done anything wrong. You ever had that experience? Yeah, she gets really mad and you don't know why yeah because she's like

You go is there anything wrong? No, I'm fine. Yeah, you got I'm fine and then eventually you stop asking and then And then they start going off on you. Yeah, what the F is that? Why are all women the same like that? Why do they do that? Um, where did they learn that from? It's just, I think it's hard to get in touch. I think communication is really, really hard. We're not taught, like in school, we're not taught that, like how to communicate in a relationship, like you've to learn it. And so you just like, it's hard. You think, Oh my God, he's going to react. And sometimes women don't even know what they're feeling or what they're angry at. And they do bottle a lot because they think like, I don't want to come across like this girl.

So I'm going to keep it or maybe they'll get better and then they just get angry, angry, angry. So the solution is to talk to her calmly, ask if you've done anything that upsets her lately. So you just instead of asking what's wrong to say, have I done anything lately that subsets you? If she quickly says no, change a subject, ask her again and encourage her to be honest. It's possible that once she gets what is bothering her for a test that you can have mind-blowing sex again. But a lot of women and men be whole things in. A lot of you are not in touch with that. And I'm telling you, communication is a lubrication. I've said that, I've said that, a nauseam, and I mean it. The better the couples communicate,

the better sex they're going to have. So communicate, communicate, communicate, don't hold things in. Whatever you're holding in right now, the thing that you think that you can't tell your partner, because he's going to freak out or whatever, and you're upset about something, just talk about it. Because what happens is these things build up over time. Women, men, we hold resentments, and they just build up. And you can't even remember why you were mad there's so so many things So just nip it in the bud. You got an issue with your guy You did something that pissed you off this morning. Tell him at night dinner Deal with it right away And then be able to drop it though drop it if you just discuss it. That's another thing too

Like you beat a dead horse Yeah, that's the problems. I've had in my relation They keep coming back like you talk about and they want to talk about it again and again. Yeah, I'm like, oh, we discussed every avenue of this conversation and then they come back. Right. And they go, why did you do that? And I go, did I already explain it? Five, effing time.

Like, I say, I stay calm. Maybe they want to be connected. You didn't get the answer they wanted. I stay calm. I don't, I'm not into arguing. I came from a family of divorce. Yeah. Arguing.

I do not like it. I just want to resolve an issue right away. Right. This is what's going on. Bob law. And then if you bring it up a couple of times, that's what I'm just like, all right, I'm done. Right.

Right. Get the hell out. She keeps coming back. Coming back. She can't drop it. I guess if you just feeling really bad, like cheated on or whatever, but you don't do things like that.

No. Yeah. So, okay. I mean, it's not that easy, but if you ask her, call me like, have I done anything? Whatever. Okay, number two,

why she doesn't want to sex do? She's overwhelmed. Maybe she's not interested in sex because she's just overwhelmed with obligations. Her work, workouts, night classes, family dinners, drink with friends, cleaning the apartment, children, whatever, it's a miracle her head hasn't spun off. So when she gets home, this is the solution, help her, help her be less overwhelmed, help

her with dinner, give her a massage, do something like that, that will calm her down. Tell her she isn't allowed to do anything, we have a sip of wine and relax. It's so nice of you to dress out and go to see your boyfriend or guy and he's like, it's okay babe, I got it, I'll just have a sip of wine and relax. Do you know how nice it is when you're stressed out and you go to see your boyfriend or guy and he's like, it's okay, babe, I got it, I'll just have a glass of wine, have a seat. Okay, and then make sure, you know, you don't give him crap that week for someone. You don't give him crap?

What do you mean? Because he was nice too for five minutes. Because he was nice to you. Yeah, well, it's sweet when like someone's really overwhelmed. I think that's true, like I even really wound up like this guy that I've been dating, like I got to his house, you know, I've been kind of wound up lately. And I was totally stressed out and I got there and I was like, like tense. And he's like, and he did that. And he was like, do you know that's wine? Do you want to have a seat? It's all

good. We don't have to talk about it. Whatever. And I just felt good to have someone there. It'll be like, help me on wine. And the It was helpful. I will give you that. Another reason she doesn't want to have sex with you, this is huge, huge, huge one. She feels unsexy. You know women, they gain three pounds. They're bloated, they have their period. She just feels unsexy.

She's exhausted, maybe someone insulted her. She's comparing herself to her friends. She doesn't feel. She doesn't feel hot. So encourage her to take some time to make a pamper herself and to treat her afternoon as far as something like that. Sometimes no matter how many times you tell her she's hot or she looks great, women aren't gonna believe it

because they're just feeling fat and it's a bummer. So sometimes just paying her a genuine compliment will help remind her how attractive you think she is. So then we just need to hear that from her eye. Even if we dismiss it, we're like, you're wrong. My ass does look fat in these jeans or whatever. When a woman is feeling like, I have a lot of friends like this, like who feel, I have

a very close friend who goes up and down 10 pounds. And it's common for women, 10 pounds,, like five 10 pounds, she's tall, so it's like 10 pounds is like my five pounds, whatever 10 pounds. And she feels like she can't date, she doesn't want to go out, like she shuts down, she's not feel sexual and and and she to me like she's saying whatever, but when a woman feels in sexy, like she's not going to want to sex. Yeah. So make her feel sexy. Another reason she might not want to have sex with you is that she thinks the sex is boring. No. Perhaps she's just dull routine and has become like too dull for her liking. So if you catch her yawning around, if you yawning amid sex, have sex in different location

for a solution such as in this secluded outdoor spot and corporate afford easy act such as chocolate and strawberries into your love making fire a naughty negige or a toy do something that spices it up she gets bored women get bored strawberries and chocolate that's hot is it I love strawberries and chocolate that would be so sweet if you were like here on the ice and strawberries and chocolate you never do it but I think it'd be awesome. The cheesiness factor. It's not cheesy it's delicious we love chocolate okay about just chocolate. Bar of chocolate. Yeah here you go snicker. I know dudes I've got friends who keep like bars of chocolate in their freezer so they always have it for like when a woman comes over because we like create a lot of women crave chocolate and it just feels good

to eat chocolate but guys don't usually have it. It's still a bar at you. Guys aren't usually chocolate obsessed. And then the fifth one is that she's just no longer a track of two. Despite what she may say to your face, she may never be in the mood for the simple reason she's no longer a track of two. Your touch may have sensed chivers through her body. Heartless bitches. And and sometimes it took the greatest risk. This is this is this is the sands me right now to read this because because you think about when it dies in a relationship,

your touch is then shivers through your body and it took the greatest amount of restraint to which you get got home from the party to have sex. You're in your first day and someone you like, can't keep your hands off each other and you like, can't wait to get home and have sex and all that and then it's like, God, you're like, whatever, I don't want to have sex.

So the solution is, it might have to do something else. I mean, it might not have to do with you, but it could have to do that. Maybe she's seeing someone else. I don't know. So, so, uh, got to ask her and talk about it or maybe there is something that you're doing wrong. I don't know. But it might be, it might be over.

It might be over. It might be over. It's over. It's a bummer. I've actually dated someone. I was dating someone last year where I physically got grossed out by him. I dated him for two months. What? And I looked at him one more and he got off and I was like, I am so unattracted to you.

I was like repulsed. I don't know what happened. Women are weird. The switch went off and I was like, I could not get dressed and get out of their fast enough. And I ended it. Wow. Yeah, there were things leading up to it. And he wasn't that much kind.

I don't think he'd get a great heart. I didn't think he said some things to me the night before that kind of turn me off and set off some alarms. And then I was just repulsed. Happened. You're out there. Yep. Okay.

So here's some reasons why she does have sex with you. You want to know? Yeah. Okay. You're a good kisser. Oh, I'm a wonderful kisser. Are you? At least I think they.

Yeah. Did the jazz woman tell you that? Yes. But I don't know. You're saying that're the same. I'm the same. Okay You're never too old for a Stevie make-out session in fact a well-executed kiss would be your golden ticket to a mean event According to a recent study in the journal of evolutionary psychology women are far less likely than men to have sex with the bad kisser So she thinks you're bad kisser. You're not gonna get the goods. So improve your kissing So she thinks you're bad kisser. You're not going to get the goods. So improve your kissing.

Here's what turns around though. A partner that makes the first move smells fresh and caresses her while kissing. So true. caress my neck, my ears, my breasts, my arms. caress me. Don't just kiss me. Like use your hands up and down my body. Hold the face. Oh, I love the face holding. Men don't do that enough. They only do that in the movies. I swear to God, they do like one sound. Like hold that. That is such a hot move when a guy holds your face. It's really sexy. I just want to think about it for a moment.

Do it. Okay. Another reason why she has such a view, it seems like it's the next natural step in a relationship. So maybe you wind, you've dined or you've done all these things. And missing link is commitment. It's the key to sexual motivation in women. So it's not like you have to give her a ring or anything, but sometimes to help a woman have sex with you, or want to feel a sex, she needs to feel connected to you.

And by commitment, it could be like you're sharing intimate details of your life with her, you're talking about your day, you're emotionally in it, you know, and then she might be ready to drop her drawers. I like when they do that. I like when they do that. I like when they do the drop drawers. We feel connected. Okay, another reason she's gonna have sex with you

is you make her feel sexy. That's huge, huge, huge. I don't know why that menace, your whole theory that like, if I come up in a woman too much, she's not, she's gonna think she's got me and then I'm not They take advantage. No, it is not bullshit. It is such bullshit

I can't tell you if you are confident man and I am a confident man, but I'm just saying I don't Want to be taken advantage of it That's like old you gotta like release that like you are Every it's not my own experience. It's it's every guy that I know you're like an evolved Okay, you're a man. I don't know if you're evolved But you're a man. I just think that telling a woman that she's sexy and listen to listen to this I'm saying that never I'm not I see you're twisting it. I never said never compliment a woman, but I'm not, I see, you're twisting it. I never said never compliment a woman,

but excessively compliment them. They're just gonna... Just 10 times a day. It's not gonna be as special if you, if you do it once in a while. That's what I'm saying. You need to do it more than once in a while. There's 10 times a day, which I think is great,

or once in a while. Listen to the thing she says about herself. Watch the way she says about herself. Watch the way she reacts when you touch her. Certain areas. This clues you into the body parts that she's insecure about and lets you know where to tread lightly. You may give her a compliment, but she can turn around to her negative. If she self-conscious about her butt, for example, and you say, you have a great round butt, she hears fat, not great. You know what I mean? You're like, my ass is round. It's fat.

So when it comes to her sensitive spots, sick to universal compliments, your butt looks great in those jeans. Yeah. Make her feel sexy. Tell her she turns you on. Tell her that you love the little like you notice her eyes, how her eyes sparkle. Really? What, what pair of jeans does your butt look best in? I don't know, I'm having that issue lately. Really? Yeah, it's funny, you should ask. Because I have many, many, many pairs of jeans and I have no friggin' idea. And I kind of want a guy friend to come over

and have him tell me which jeans I should get rid of and which ones I should. Because I don't know. Okay. Okay, just telling you. All right. Because yeah, all right. Another reason we have sex

is she's in a romantic setting. Whisk you're off to an exotic location and you're sure to score. It's less about the destination and more about the shared intimacy of otherness or being outsiders of being outsiders is at the move. Why can I be wick wicks. Sorry. Long day, everybody. Why can I be taking off to a new can be whisked away, you can. With these strong independent women that you love? I'd love them.

When will I be whisked? Wist? You should be whisked away. You gotta stay the right women, that the whiskey way. I'm not sure what kind of, you're not dating now, but you should, dating woman who'd wear. I'd love to whisk. I'd love to be like the breadwinner and the whisker.

The whisker. The whisker awayer. I would. I can't wait till I'm at that point. I don't want to rely on a man to do that. It's nice when he does it, but I want to do it myself. Yeah. Yeah, I think it's, I think it's good.

Okay, how are we doing here? We are done. We're done. We're done. Okay, awesome. Tomorrow's going to be a great show. Tomorrow's going to be awesome. We have some Herbert saw by.

They're not perverts because they massage my clitoris, Menis. It's gonna be perverts that touch a clitoris that I get to talk to you and it's gonna be awesome. Menis, please be nice. And they're part of a cold. Tread lightly. Seriously, they're good guys. They can take you on. They're amazing. They're amazing. You'll love it.

Good to take me on. I went on it real quickly. I went in our Gadsick Meditation retreat. I got my clitoris massage stroked by random men. By random men that I never met and they're going to be on the show tomorrow. So tune in and it's free Friday. Another thing we're at the Stitcher Studios, you can listen to the Sex of Only show on your smartphone, your droid, your iPhone, any smartphone that is able to download an app, you stream the show, you just download it right there, it will tell you one that new show is available.

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